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Are you giving enough attention to your marriage? Ty and Stacy Kinzle invite you to explore the importance of date nights in maintaining a happy and strong marriage. We'll reveal five lesser-known but powerful reasons why these nights are crucial for your happiness and the bond you share with your spouse. With kids and limited time, it might seem challenging to prioritize your partner, but we promise it's worth the effort.

In the second part of our discussion, we'll offer insights on managing date nights when you have young kids. We'll provide creative solutions, such as collaborating with neighbors or turning your living room into a romantic setting. We'll even share a personal story of how we made our child's surgery day a unique date. Join us as we discuss creating lasting memories, engaging in meaningful conversations, and regularly connecting with your partner. We'll also offer practical tips for planning your date nights effectively. This isn't just another podcast episode; it's a genuine conversation meant to inspire and rekindle passion in your marriage. We hope you'll listen and join us on this journey.

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Speaker 1 (00:13):
Welcome to the Salty Marriage Podcast.
Dive deep into the sea of love,laughter and the occasional
tidal wave of marital challenges.
We are your hosts, ty and StacyKinsley, and we've weathered
the storms and still sprinkle adash of salt on everything.

Speaker 2 (00:31):
Hey, it's Stacy.
Buckle up, because we're aboutto serve you a cocktail of love
stories, spicy debates and allthe saltiness that comes with
married life.

Speaker 1 (00:41):
So whether you're newly hitched, celebrating
decades together, or you're justcurious about the highs and
lows of marriage, you're in theright place.
Let's get salty.
Welcome back to the SaltyMarriage Podcast.
I'm your host, ty Kinsley, andI'm joined by my beautiful bride

(01:04):
, stacy, and this episode of theSalty Marriage is about date
night.
Dating nights where you date,or days whatever Date days.
Sometimes those are good too.

Speaker 2 (01:22):
They are.

Speaker 1 (01:24):
So if you are just joining us, we've spent the last
months couple months, I don'tknow since pretty much since we
started.
I guess it was nine or tenweeks, or episodes at least of
discussing a book called ForWomen Only that we both enjoy

(01:45):
quite a bit and have learned alot from.
So take some time, check thatout, go back and listen to past
episodes.
As usual, it's always reallyhelpful for us.
If you hit the subscribe button, Leave a five star review for
the podcast on whatever platformyou're listening.
That's good for us.
We like that and it supports usa little bit.
So we're kind of venturing intoa new era, a whole new topic, if

(02:13):
you will.

Speaker 2 (02:15):
Yeah, and we don't have like one topic that we're
sticking with for 10 weeks, likewe did over this book.

Speaker 1 (02:21):
We're going to do a 10 week podcast on dating?
No, that'd be ridiculous.

Speaker 2 (02:27):
I don't know if there will be that much to talk about
.

Speaker 1 (02:31):
I don't know if is there a whole.
Is there a whole episode?
Oh we can talk a whole.

Speaker 2 (02:36):
Okay, I think so.

Speaker 1 (02:39):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (02:40):
Okay, so when you think of dating and marriage, I
think one topic I guess justkind of like what are the
benefits of dating each other?
Like you've already dated,You've won your wife over
meaning yeah, okay, like postmarriage, post marriage like
you're married, why should youcontinue to date?

Speaker 1 (03:01):
Is that a question?
Are you going to give me theanswer?

Speaker 2 (03:05):
I can give you the answer.

Speaker 1 (03:07):
Oh, there's an answer .

Speaker 2 (03:08):
There actually is answers.

Speaker 1 (03:10):
Where does come?

Speaker 2 (03:11):
from.
This is from a website calledthe couples center.

Speaker 1 (03:16):
Oh sounds Buddhist.

Speaker 2 (03:21):
But these are five less known reasons why date
night is important.

Speaker 1 (03:25):
Oh, okay, give me one .

Speaker 2 (03:28):
All right, you'll each be happier.
Does that sound obvious?

Speaker 1 (03:34):
No, I mean yeah, kind of, but like there's probably,
I imagine there's people thatdon't think that, or maybe it's
not that they think it wouldn'tmake you happier, but don't
think, oh, that would be fun, wecould be, we could be happier,
I don't know, yeah, cause it'sprobably not as obvious as you
think maybe spending timetogether each week with your

(03:58):
spouse.

Speaker 2 (03:58):
Let's them know that you matter to them.

Speaker 1 (04:03):
And I think outside of like normal right.

Speaker 2 (04:07):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (04:07):
Like, we spend a lot of time together.

Speaker 2 (04:10):
Sure.

Speaker 1 (04:10):
Throughout the week or whatever.
Spending time on a date likejust you right, just the two of
us, or just the two of you, isway different than just spending
time doing the normal stuff.

Speaker 2 (04:24):
Yeah, so, if you like , asked me when I hey I want to
take you out for dinner orwhatever or to Michaels or to
Michaels.
We want to date to Michaelslast night.
But if I no-transcript Like,say sure, I'll go with you, you
know, then I'm accepting yourinvitation.
You know that I'm prioritizingyou and time with you, so that

(04:44):
makes everyone happier.

Speaker 1 (04:46):
So you're supposed to say, yes, I want to go to
Michaels.

Speaker 2 (04:49):
Absolutely.
I'd love to go to Michaels.

Speaker 1 (04:51):
I don't know we should go to Home Depot.
Michaels turned out to be abust.

Speaker 2 (04:57):
Not really, but no, I forgot part of my order.

Speaker 1 (04:59):
I Think that or I'm losing my mind and it's sitting
right in front of me somewhere.
No, I think that's that's theobvious, like first thing.
But I don't think it'snecessarily Obvious.
I think it's easy to forgetthat it's important.
And I don't know where do thedaily thing like you, just going

(05:22):
through time, oh yeah and Iknow a lot of couples who have
said like I feel like we're justroommates.

Speaker 2 (05:27):
Now I don't know.

Speaker 1 (05:28):
Yeah, I've, we've said that, we've had time, we
had moments.
Well not like extended amount oftime days at a time, weeks or
maybe even months of just kindof like blue, not like
anything's bad, but just no,it's so, especially the older
you get.
We're old, if you don't know,stacy's 63 and 42 the older you

(05:50):
get and your kids are busy, andthe kids you know, I think
Probably the more, the more kidsyou have and then the older
they get things.
I mean it is wild.
It is wild how quickly Time canjust fly by.
Oh, yeah.
So I think that sometimes thosemoments can be way longer than
and that's half the problem likeyou're like, holy crap, we

(06:12):
haven't we, you and I haven'thung out or been on a date or
whatever in weeks.
Yeah and it doesn't feel likethat because you just haven't I
don't know, you just haven'tthought about it and tell you
have that thought of like hey,rumi, impassing you going to the
, to taking the kids to danceschool, I'm going to work, or

(06:32):
whatever you know.
Yeah you have to be intentional.

Speaker 2 (06:35):
You do, and I think sometimes we don't even realize.
I don't know like how long it'sbeen or how much you need it,
like you and I.
Just we just went to Coloradofor a weekend, mm-hmm, without
the kids, and it was like nochildren.
Yeah, and I think when we werecoming back, like man I didn't
realize how much we needed thatas a couple, just to have that

(06:57):
alone time without the kids.
Yeah seven, eight hours in thecar together.

Speaker 1 (07:01):
Oh.

Speaker 2 (07:02):
Lots of conversation time.
We didn't talk for seven hours.
Lots of conversation time.

Speaker 1 (07:10):
Well, it's a staring at a laptop and driving.
Not, it's not, I was driving,you were working.
Yes, quite a bit, but I wasstudying, you were driving, but
we also did have lots of goodconversation by the way, if you
have not Driven from Omaha,nebraska, to Colorado and back,
you are not missing out at all.

(07:32):
There's nothing so boring.
There's a museum in Carney.
What is that called?
The archway the archway museumI think right or the archway
experience.
It's the archway it's in CarneyNebraska, in the middle of
absolutely nowhere.
It is awesome we yet we stoppedin it years ago.

(07:53):
We should do it again.
It was actually really cool.
So I guess there's one thing,but other than that there's
nothing.

Speaker 2 (08:00):
You are not missing out much.

Speaker 1 (08:02):
It's a lot like driving from Kansas City to
Denver.
It's just the worst drive ever.
Anyway, I digress yeah.

Speaker 2 (08:11):
So another reason date nights are important is
because you'll be investing inyour divorce.

Speaker 1 (08:16):
You'll be in You'll be investing in your divorce.
That's what I thought you weregonna say you'll be.

Speaker 2 (08:24):
You'll be investing in Divorce proofing ah, Hi hi
marriage.

Speaker 1 (08:31):
There we go, divorce proofing divorce proofing the
reason you should date is you'llbe enforcing or or investing in
your divorce Proofing.
You got to get that in therequickly, divorce proofing.
So okay.
So dating it's going to helpenforce the marriage and the

(08:51):
commitment and Divorce proofyour marriage.

Speaker 2 (08:56):
Yep.
This says couples who don'thave at least one Mutually
meaningful conversation a weekare at greater risk of divorce.

Speaker 1 (09:06):
Oh gosh, every week.

Speaker 2 (09:09):
But that doesn't mean a date every week meaningful
conversation every week goodconversation every week.

Speaker 1 (09:15):
Hey, that's why we have a podcast.

Speaker 2 (09:16):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (09:18):
Forces us to talk once a week.

Speaker 2 (09:21):
I like number three.

Speaker 1 (09:23):
That was way too quick.
I didn't read it oh oh Well,let's stick to number two, or do
you think we're good there?

Speaker 2 (09:32):
I don't know if there was a whole lot more to say
that yeah, I was just gonnacomment on number two.

Speaker 1 (09:38):
I do think that kind of with what we've been saying,
when you're just stuck in thelike boo, like time just goes by
and you're not doing it, youhaven't Dated, you haven't been
romantic, whatever, that's whenI think it gets, especially if
you don't have some level ofcommitment, like I think we're
committed regardless, even ifthat was it and we didn't do

(10:00):
anything different, that doesn'tmean we're getting a divorce.
But I think if you don't havethat level of commitment, that's
when it gets so much easier tobe like this is boring.
We're just roommates, businesspartners, whatever, like.
What if I could find somethingmore fun?

Speaker 2 (10:16):
Right, and that's where I do think fairs happen
sometimes.

Speaker 1 (10:19):
Well, I'm saying which obviously is not gonna
help you with your divorce.
Proofing of the marriage yeah,yeah.

Speaker 2 (10:29):
Going on dates also makes your sex life better.

Speaker 1 (10:34):
Because you have of the six.
That why?

Speaker 2 (10:38):
well and you're just spending more time together.
You feel closer, and when youfeel closer, you find your
spouse more attractive.
There's like emotionalconnection that happens with
With parents and attraction.

Speaker 1 (10:52):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (10:54):
And so all of that common combination goes into
great sex.

Speaker 1 (10:58):
Yeah, that makes sense, so that adds up.

Speaker 2 (11:04):
Women particularly have increased satisfaction.

Speaker 1 (11:12):
Satisfaction.

Speaker 2 (11:15):
Satisfaction, satisfaction in their marriage
you had a satisfaction Colorado.

Speaker 1 (11:26):
Now I don't even know you're so women in particular
have more satisfaction in theirmarriage when they're dating.
Yes, because you are needy.

Speaker 2 (11:36):
Because we're more socially needy.
We need that social connectionemotional connection.

Speaker 1 (11:42):
We do too, we just don't say it Well, or maybe even
realize it, but some of youremotional connection is sex, so
yeah, true, I'll give you that,so is yours.

Speaker 2 (11:57):
Yeah.
You're gonna try to deny that.
But I need, I need socialconnection with you, to Like,
prioritize time with you andthen I feel more connected, I
feel supported, I feel safe, mmm.

Speaker 1 (12:18):
Dating.
I agree good.

Speaker 2 (12:23):
Dating also means that your children will have a
better childhood, oh I.

Speaker 1 (12:30):
Think that makes sense, but I'm interested to
hear more Is it about?
Are they saying in this articlethat, like your kids, seeing
you Go on dates and be romanticis Good for them?
Or is it more like happymarriage, happy kids or both?

(12:51):
Because I think you're having agood, loving, romantic
relationship is obviously a goodthing for your kids to see, to
see that you're both Connectedand that it's not just a
partnership.

Speaker 2 (13:04):
Mm-hmm.

Speaker 1 (13:04):
I think it's a good thing.

Speaker 2 (13:06):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (13:07):
I know it is.

Speaker 2 (13:08):
I think it's a little bit of everything.
So when you and your spouse arereaping the obvious benefits
spending time together, like youtend will also tend to argue
less.
When like when we're datingregularly.
I think because you're likecommunicating.

Speaker 1 (13:24):
Spending time together on a date.

Speaker 2 (13:28):
So we get it out on the date and we don't have to
argue in front of the kids wait,that's not healthy either.

Speaker 1 (13:32):
The kids need to see argue.

Speaker 2 (13:35):
But it keeps tension down in the household and it's
easier to establish warm,effective relationships with
your children.
Yeah, kids feel confident.
They have fewer academicproblems, fewer symptoms of

(13:56):
anxiety and depression, lessanger and aggression in their
peer relationships too.

Speaker 1 (14:02):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (14:02):
So it really trickles down.

Speaker 1 (14:04):
Yeah, that makes sense.
I mean, I wouldn't have thoughtof that on my own probably, but
I think it makes sense.

Speaker 2 (14:10):
Yeah, I know, when we had younger kids because I'm in
, ours are six, seven and 13 now, and now our 13 year old we
have like a live-in babysitter,so it's easier for us to go on
date nights now.

Speaker 1 (14:27):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (14:28):
But when we had younger kids, it like it was
hard, it was challenging becauseyou have littles at home and
then you have to pay for ababysitter.
Yeah, and then now you're notonly paying for your date night
out, but now you're paying for ababysitter on top of that Right
, and that makes it reallyfinancially challenging.

Speaker 1 (14:49):
You're also just for us anyway, like raising kids,
like you're exhausted and yeahyou're in the middle of it.
Sometimes you're, you're justlike I'm not in the mood to get
dressed up and shower.
I don't even want to shower, Ijust want to bed, you know, or
whatever, and but yeah you don'trealize how much it feels good
to do that either, until youjust make yourself.

(15:09):
But yeah.
So what are some ways?
What are some ways that peoplewith the babies can find time to
date for free?

Speaker 2 (15:20):
Well, I was gonna say , the thing we did was we
partnered up with our neighborswho also had kids.

Speaker 1 (15:30):
Yeah, about the same age.

Speaker 2 (15:31):
They were about the same age, so our kids were
friends.
That helped.
And then we picked a night.
I think we said Tuesday nights.

Speaker 1 (15:38):
Yeah, I think it was.

Speaker 2 (15:39):
So every Tuesday night we would trade off.
So first Tuesday we would sendour kids to their house.
They'd watch our kids.
We'd go out on a date.
The next Tuesday they wouldsend their kids to our house.
Yeah watch their kids whilethey went on the date.
So we each got a date everyother week.

Speaker 1 (16:00):
Yep, and so that meant it was free, and yeah, we
just traded off the babysitter,so no one was free we had to
work for it, but so did they,like we were.
It was a quid pro quo type ofdeal.

Speaker 2 (16:12):
Right, but no one was paying babysitters, right, it
was just a trade off.
Yeah, that worked out reallywell and it was like you knew,
every Tuesday it was date night.

Speaker 1 (16:20):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (16:21):
Or you were watching the kids for date Right, it was
like scheduled, it was happening.

Speaker 1 (16:26):
Yeah, and that I was gonna say so it was free, but it
was also like a scheduled thing.
And it's funny because therewere times where we had kind of
forgot.
Like Tuesday comes around andor maybe Monday, and you're like
not even you're in it, soyou're just kind of like not
even thinking about date nightcoming up, or maybe it was that
day or whatever.
But they remember, yep, becausethey're either like we're gonna

(16:49):
get their kids tonight orthey're like, hey, it's our turn
.
And so I think usually when itwas our turn or their turn, that
was the person whose turn itwas was reminding the other
people like hey, we're droppingour kids off tonight.
Yeah, so you could totallyforget about date night.
But because it was almost likean accountability partner to,
yeah, and it could be one oftheir, their time, and so they

(17:12):
reminded you.

Speaker 2 (17:13):
Yeah, and it was as extravagant or as not as you
wanted, you know, like you hadthe kids out of your house so
you could just hang out at home.
Yeah, watch a movie together,cook dinner together or
something like you didn't haveto go out and spend any money.

Speaker 1 (17:29):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (17:29):
Or if you wanted to go out, you could go out and do
whatever like go for dinner, gowatch, go to a movie, go yeah
put putt or bowling or whatever.

Speaker 1 (17:40):
You could go to like the furniture mart, your local
furniture store, and walk around.

Speaker 2 (17:46):
Yep, open every refrigerator door.

Speaker 1 (17:49):
Yeah, sit on the massage chairs.
There's things to do, yeah, oryou could stay at home, like you
said, have day sex.
Well, I guess it wasn't day.
Have sex with the door openbefore the kids are in bed, I
don't know While you're watchinga movie?
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (18:03):
Yeah, you can get creative, oh boy.
But some of our like mostmemorable dates were our least
expensive ones.

Speaker 1 (18:12):
Oh yeah.

Speaker 2 (18:13):
Like going to our.
We have a store here calledNebraska.

Speaker 1 (18:16):
Oh, I stole your thunder.
What didn't you were going totell that story?

Speaker 2 (18:19):
But we went there and just walked around and, like,
sat on all the couches.

Speaker 1 (18:26):
Beats.

Speaker 2 (18:27):
We literally opened up every refrigerator door.

Speaker 1 (18:30):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (18:31):
It's kind of wild how different they are inside it is
.

Speaker 1 (18:35):
And then we were like I want a new fridge, I want
that 80,000 dollar fridge If youdidn't know, the furniture mart
and I think other big boxfurniture stores or whatever
probably doing this.
But they have a liquor licenseand so you can actually like get
a glass of wine or a beer orwhatever and walk around.

Speaker 2 (18:55):
Kind of cool and then go get your glass of wine or
whatever you're drinking and gosit in the massage chair, yeah,
so ended up a fun.
Oh my gosh, we were laughing sohard in those massage chairs.

Speaker 1 (19:07):
Yeah, people kept looking at us.

Speaker 2 (19:08):
Well, and I thought it was going to trap me.

Speaker 1 (19:10):
Yeah, they were a little scary I was concerned.
Yeah, quick, just PSA publicservice announcement.
There's a place here that youcan take the kiddos what's it
called where they can just runaround and bounce on trampolines
and all that stuff.

Speaker 2 (19:30):
Oh, like urban air urban air.

Speaker 1 (19:33):
They have massage chairs.
You can put like ten dollars inor whatever, and there's little
.
There's like three differentmassage chair stations, psa,
those things will rape you.
They are, they will do naughtythings to your but whole.
I'm not kidding.
I put like a dollar and one ofwomen was like I'll try this out

(19:57):
.
And it was like, oh, this isnice.
And then literally like veryslowly, there's just like a fist
sized thing right where your,your but hole is.
I do not understand how on earthlike if there were two where
your butt cheeks are I'd be like, okay, it's a butt massage,
that's one thing.
One in the middle of the butarea, not, it's not okay.

(20:20):
And then I was like that's aweird chair, something's messed
up.
So I tried a different chairand same damn thing.
So, psa, urban air, unlessyou're into that, I would avoid
those massage chairs.

Speaker 2 (20:35):
So this is a total side conversation now, but yeah
well, the last time I went withone of our friends before they
had their baby to urban air togo get our nails done.
Oh, okay and got many petties.
You know they have massagechairs while you're here.
It did the same thing.

Speaker 1 (20:57):
It's an epidemic.

Speaker 2 (20:58):
We're like what is this?

Speaker 1 (21:00):
it's an epidemic.
What it's got to?
Probably be like the companythat makes those kinds of chairs
that you put a buck in, or likethe mall massage chairs.
It's got to be like there'ssome particular company that has
a butt raping massage chair orsomething and they're just
selling that all over town.
It's weird, makes no sense.
No one wants their, but wholemassaged not in public like that

(21:23):
especially well and not likethat.
Anyway, I apologize, but it's aP, it's a good PSA like avoid,
don't put the twenty dollars,then find a different one, the
free ones.

Speaker 2 (21:34):
at Nebraska, the free ones are much better.

Speaker 1 (21:36):
Well, you got to buy those if you want them in your
house.
But yeah, if you want to justget a chair massage, go over
there and use a ten thousanddollar chair for free.
What were we talking aboutbefore that?

Speaker 2 (21:48):
well, we were just talking about kind of planning
date nights.

Speaker 1 (21:51):
I was going to share one of our other weird dates.
We went on.
Any idea what I might talkabout if you don't know this
story or this about us.
Our middle child, nolan, hashad some major surgeries in her
life.
It clicked for Stacy and soactually one of her, one of her

(22:15):
biggest surgeries.
We took her in pretty early inthe morning, I think, I don't
know.
We got the seven o'clock or sixo'clock something, down to
children's, and I think it wasduring covid.
Yeah, it was during covid.
So there was like they wereletting a mom and a dad in there
for the surgery.
She was five at the time, sixor four, four or five.

(22:38):
She was going to be gettingsome some abdominal surgery done
.
So we go in, they check us inand I think they wheeled her off
and we asked the nurse like howlong would it be?
and she's like she's well.
First she had told us like hey,so we actually have this new
system, will text you from theor to let you know, kind of like

(23:00):
, where everything's at whenwe're wrapping up, so that you
know how everything's going,which is really cool, just text
your phone.
That was nice and she's likebecause of covid, you couldn't
walk around the hospital.
You either be in this littletiny room with no windows
waiting like it felt like acloset.
It was tiny and terrible.
It was the pre opera, so itwasn't like a nice, nice, you

(23:20):
know recovery room or whatever,and then you could go down to
the cafeteria and, I think, getfood to bring back to the room
or whatever.
So she ends up telling us she'slike yeah, this will be a seven
or eight hour surgery, I forgetsix or seven hours.

Speaker 2 (23:33):
It was a lot.
It was a lot longer than wethought it was going to be like
two to three hours or somethinglike that.

Speaker 1 (23:38):
It was at least six and it was going to be six or
more hours, and so we were like,whoa, that's a long time to sit
in a closet so we peaced outand ended up going on a day a
day date.
We did and we've joked that wehad the most expensive
babysitter, that you canpossibly have a surgeon and a
whole staff of medicalprofessionals at Children's

(24:01):
Hospital.
She was in good hands and weliterally like we took off and
hung out kind of down around thehospital there's some
restaurants and stuff and werented scooters and road
scooters around and we should dothat tonight got some dinner or
lunch and then at some therewas a few moments in that time
where we're like should we feelbad.

Speaker 2 (24:22):
right, should I got our major surgery right now and
we're just hanging out.
We're sitting there at arestaurant.
I have in the time of our liveson the belt or like a patio,
like no, yeah, watching.

Speaker 1 (24:36):
It was a night, taking our time like we had
hours to kill, and so then weended up kind about the time we
were done.
I think it was after we wereriding scooters around.
Maybe we got a message that waslike, hey, we'll be done in
yeah, and a half an hour orwhatever, closing her up and so
we headed back and we're therejust in time and yeah.
So yeah, I don't know, justit's funny random date

(24:58):
experience that we've had thatis probably a little bit unique.

Speaker 2 (25:01):
It was definitely unique, but you know, you just
make the most of the time you'vegot and memorable.

Speaker 1 (25:08):
I mean, I don't think we'll ever forget that.
And I'm sure one day we'll tellEvelyn that story when she's
old enough to let it sink in alittle bit.
She'll be mad, and then she'llnever forget that story either.

Speaker 2 (25:17):
She'll be like you laugh at me.
Yeah so yeah, but we did talkabout like what's the worst
thing that can happen, like evenif she dies on the table, we're
not going to be able to go backthere.

Speaker 1 (25:30):
We were like well, what are we going to do so?

Speaker 2 (25:33):
I'm going to go back there and try to save her life
or something you know, and yeah.
Yeah.
So we're like let's go.
Yeah, there's nothing we can dohere.

Speaker 1 (25:42):
Bye, and we did, we did, and it was kind of a nice.

Speaker 2 (25:47):
It was much better than sitting in the closet for
six hours.

Speaker 1 (25:50):
And clinical closet, yeah, not fun.
So moral of that story is takeadvantage of the time you have,
I guess.

Speaker 2 (25:59):
Yeah For kids getting surgery instead of sitting in
the hospital.
Go, leave and go go.

Speaker 1 (26:03):
Yeah Well, or nowadays, I mean you can go down
to the cafeteria or whatever,like walk around the hospital
and but you could still takethat time to.
You know, sit and get a meal oror whatever, take a walk.
I mean these hospitals nowadaysare massive walk around.

Speaker 2 (26:21):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (26:22):
Yeah Well, I think the moral of all of these
stories is that doesn't matterhow long you're married, what
your kid situation is, even whatyour relationship status is
like as far as is it good, is itbad, is it has been rough, has

(26:43):
been tough, whatever that islike.
Go on a date.
I think a lot of times ifyou're feel like you're stuck in
a rut, go like ask your spouseout on a date, see what happens,
even if it ends up like justbeing the kind of thing where
you go to dinner and end upmaybe having some tough
conversations or whatever.
That's better than just lettingit go, I think, and and just

(27:03):
continuing down that road oflike yeah.

Speaker 2 (27:06):
For sure, and asking questions like you know, like
what's your goals, and just kindof figuring those things out,
because those change too as youage, and what not.
And if you need help, likefinding ideas.
They have so many.
There's like the adventurechallenge book yeah date night

(27:27):
edition.

Speaker 1 (27:29):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (27:29):
Which we have.
We have to start using it now.

Speaker 1 (27:31):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (27:32):
We have to follow up and let you know how it goes.
But you can like scratch off athing and it'll tell you what to
do for date night.

Speaker 1 (27:41):
Yeah, or I mean literally, like you can Google
it, like Google date ideas.
Yeah, find times, find ababysitter, find a kid, find
someone down the street, someoneat church, someone you love and
care for.
You know grandparents.

Speaker 2 (27:57):
Find a family you could trade with.

Speaker 1 (27:59):
Yeah, find some friends you can trade with to
have kids your kids age orwhatever and find ways to do it,
because it's important.
Thank you so much for hangingout with us on this episode of
the Salty Marriage.
Again, I'm your host, tyKinzley, joined by my beautiful
wife, stacey, and if you havebeen a listener, please hit the

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