In this episode, I share a variety of concrete, actionable tools from evidence-based psychology and other Eastern and Western healing traditions that can help you respond more effectively and holistically to self-criticism in different domains of your life. I cover a variety of strategies including mindfulness-based approaches (e.g., RAIN meditation, mindful self-compassion, cognitive defusion, visualization, metta, and connection to archetype and symbol), cognitive-behavioral techniques (e.g., dialectical thinking, challenging critical thoughts and beliefs, acting "as if," and empowerment lists), and more spiritual approaches (e.g., yoga philosophy, ahimsa, mantra, mudra, yoga asana, compassionate movement and touch, and music). This episode is intended to give you a menu of options to choose from that you can integrate into a busy lifestyle. I hope you continue to experiment with what most helps you soften your inner critics and get to a place where you feel less dominated by them.
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References & Additional Resources
Tara Brach's RAIN resources: https://www.tarabrach.com/rain/
Dr. Kristin Neff's resources on mindful self-compassion: https://self-compassion.org
Please note that the information provided in this episode does not constitute professional advice or therapy, mental health services, or health care services, & is not intended to serve as a substitute for professional advice or services. If you are struggling with a mental health crisis or need immediate assistance, please call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.
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