The Secure Husband

You’ve done the work. You’ve healed. You’ve changed. Or have you?
But your marriage still feels cold, distant, or disconnected.

This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast is for the man who feels stuck. You’ve become more emotionally strong. You’ve stopped chasing or begging. You’ve worked on yourself. But your wife still shows no interest in closeness, sex, or rebuilding connection.

In this honest and clear episode, Bruc...

Waiting for someone to save you will only leave you stuck. In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce shows you how to stop waiting and start leading your own life.

If you feel lonely, unappreciated, or powerless in your marriage, this episode will help you take your power back — without blaming, begging, or giving up.

You’ll learn why your needs are your job, how to stop emotional outsourcing, and what it looks li...

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Many men wait for fear to go away before they take action. But waiting never works. Fear doesn’t leave. You just learn to lead with it.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce shows you how to face fear and still move forward. You’ll learn how fear hides in silence, people-pleasing, and avoidance — and how to break tha...

You don’t have to accept less than love.
You just need to believe you’re worth more.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

Go to SecureHusband.com and book a free 30-minute call.
We’ll talk about where you’ve been settling — and how to start leading with truth and strength.

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You’ve done the work. You’ve taken loving action. But now you’re left wondering… did anything actually change?

In this final step of the Secure Husband Process, we walk through how to evaluate your action with clarity, honesty, and strength. This step helps you stop guessing and start seeing what’s real — in your heart, in your wife’s response, and in your relationship.

This episode helps you slow down and ask simple but pow...

Most men want to change their marriage. But change only happens when you take action — not just think, journal, or pray — but act with love, courage, and truth. This episode will show you how to do that.

This is Step Five in the Secure Husband Process. You’ve done the inner work. You’ve seen your patterns. You’ve connected with your inner child. You’ve heard the truth from your Higher Power. Now it’s time to live it out.

Wha...

Many men feel stuck in shame, fear, and rejection. This episode helps you replace those painful beliefs with the truth that comes from your Higher Power — a voice of love, peace, and strength that never changes.

In Step 4 of the Secure Husband process, you’ll learn how to stop letting your mind run the show and start letting truth lead your healing. Whether you call it God, Spirit, or simply love — you’ll learn how to liste...

Many men feel lost in their marriage because they carry pain from the past they’ve never faced. This episode explains how to start healing that pain by connecting with the wounded inner child — the younger version of you who still feels hurt, unloved, or not good enough.

Bruce, certified coach and founder of SecureHusband.com, breaks it down in a clear, simple way. You’ll learn how childhood wounds can shape your reactions ...

Knowing the problem is not enough. If you want to grow, lead, and feel strong again — you must choose to act.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce explains how awareness without action keeps you stuck. He shows you how to take small, clear, honest steps that help you show up stronger — not as the boy seeking comfort, but as the man becoming secure.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ Why awareness alone d...

Most husbands feel lost when their wife pulls away, shuts down, or shows no affection. The first reaction is usually to fix it, explain it, or control it. But real change starts somewhere else.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, you’ll learn the first step to becoming a steady, calm, emotionally secure husband: choosing curiosity over control. This simple shift helps you stop reacting and start leading — not by ...

If your wife talks down to you, mocks you, or shuts you out — you may feel angry, helpless, or ready to explode. But reacting to disrespect with more disrespect does not fix anything. It only creates more distance.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, you’ll learn how to handle disrespect without losing control. You’ll stop overreacting. You’ll stop shutting down. And you’ll learn how to lead yourself with calm, c...

If you stay quiet, give her what she wants, and ignore your needs… will that make your marriage stronger? No. It makes you disappear.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why self-sacrifice is not the same as love. People-pleasing feels like you’re doing the right thing — but it’s actually hurting your marriage.

You’ll learn why trying to keep the peace often causes more distance. And you’ll discover how...

You can’t control your wife.
You can’t control her mood, her actions, or how she feels.
But you can control yourself. And that changes everything.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we talk about why men try to control what they can’t — and how it slowly destroys connection, peace, and love.

This is for the man who feels stuck.
For the man who keeps chasing love, affection, and attention — only to feel r...

You didn’t choose her because you were sure.
You chose her because she saw you.
And in that moment, it felt like everything you ever wanted.

This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast speaks to the man who just realized:
“I married the first woman who gave me attention.”

You are not alone.
You are not broken.
You were starved for love — and you settled for a crumb.
But now? You’re waking up. And that change...

You wanted closeness. She needed space.
You chased love. She pulled away.
Now you feel stuck — and you don’t know why.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why anxious (preoccupied) men and avoidant women are often drawn to each other. And why that spark you felt in the beginning now feels like pain.

What you'll learn:
✅ Why you were drawn to her emotional distance
✅ Why she felt safe choosin...

Your wife shuts down when you open up.
She pulls away when things get close.
You feel like you’re always chasing her attention.

And now you’re asking:
“Is this what love is supposed to feel like?”

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why emotionally secure men stop chasing women who are avoidant and unavailable — and what to do if you're stuck in that cycle.

You’ll learn:
✅ What avoidant attac...

You’ve stayed calm.
You’ve stopped chasing.
You’ve led your emotions instead of reacting.

But your wife still feels cold.
She still doesn’t respond.
And now you’re wondering…

“What if I’m doing all this work, and nothing ever changes?”

This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast answers that question.
It’s for the man who is growing, healing, and leading — but still feels alone.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
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You think your wife doesn’t want you anymore.
She never starts sex.
She’s not like she used to be.

So you feel rejected, confused, and hurt.

But what if there’s nothing wrong with her — or you?
What if she simply experiences desire differently?

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain the difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desire. Most men feel desire first. Most women feel desire a...

Have you ever said, “Maybe we should open the marriage,” hoping to make your wife feel guilty?

Or maybe you’ve said, “I guess I’ll just find someone else who wants me.”

If so, this video is for you.

These comments don’t build connection. They break trust.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, we explain why these threats always backfire — and what to do instead.

You’ll learn:
✅ Why most men don’t actually want an op...