January 14, 2025 • 17 mins
How can embracing the transformative journey of self-discovery in your 30s lead to more meaningful relationships and a deeper understanding of who you are?
Turning 30 marks a significant milestone in life, and with it comes a journey of self-discovery, calmness, and deeper connections. As I share my personal stories, I reflect on how understanding our identity — our values, goals, and boundaries — lays the foundation for our growth. Join me as I explore the pivotal realization of needing further healing before pursuing romantic relationships and the unexpected joy of building stronger friendships. This episode of the Self-Growth Train podcast invites you to consider who you are and what truly matters as we navigate the complexities of crafting a meaningful identity in our 30s.
Embrace the transformative journey of personal growth by identifying the traits and obstacles that shape who we are. I delve into the importance of inner and outer work, acknowledging past protective mechanisms like pettiness and resentment as I strive to become more loving. Together, we uncover strategies to consistently challenge ourselves, align our behaviors with our ideals, and unlock our potential. Self-growth is a continuous journey, and you don't have to go it alone. Join me as we unveil the steps towards achieving the person we aspire to be, with dedication, practice, and patience guiding our path.
Resources Used Today:
Building Your Identity
‘Who Am I?’ How to Find Your Sense of Self
How To Reinvent Your Self-Identity And Live Your Best Life
My Friends Are My Lovers
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Until the next stop dear passengers – Safe Travels!
-FMRP
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Frances Marie Rivera Pach (00:07):
Hello , my dear passengers, and
welcome aboard the Self-GrowthTrain, a podcast that combines
personal stories, opinions andresearch in order to better
guide you through yourself-growth journey.
My name is Frances Marie RiveraPacheco and I am your tour
guide.
First, I want to say thank youfor tuning back into the podcast
.
My dear passengers, I haveofficially turned 30 and I'm
(00:33):
feeling very flirty, verythriving and very hurting in
muscles and bones that I did noteven know I had.
And now, with my older age, I'mfeeling all around, but it
doesn't matter, because I feelblessed, I feel thankful and I
feel very excited for this newera in my life.
(00:54):
And I know what you guys arethinking.
Which era are you stepping to,Frances?
Cause you've already had yourhealing era, you've already had
your Badgirl era.
So where exactly are you?
Well, let me tell you, I am inmy calm, peaceful, loving era.
Okay, this is the era where Ilearn how to work and focus
(01:19):
mainly on my self-worth, myself-love, my self-compassion,
my self-attention and myself-care.
Why?
Because there's no better daythan today to get started, and I
think you should join me onthis era as well.
Well, my dear passengers, thetime has come for us to buckle
up our seatbelts and head on tothe first stop of the day.
(01:41):
That is the topic of the day,and today's topic is identity.
I do like the lower note.
I did there.
Identity, identity.
All right, you guys get it.
That's the topic of the day.
Identity is defined by theMerriam-Webster dictionary as a
(02:04):
distinguishing character orpersonality trait of an
individual.
My dear passengers, let me tellyou about this episode.
I have been wanting to do thisepisode for years.
Okay, and it just never feltright.
And like, I've always been verycognizant of the fact that,
when it comes to this podcast, Ihave to follow my gut and I
(02:29):
have to follow what I feel.
And I was like it's not timeyet, it's not time yet.
And then yesterday I turned 30and I was like you know, I
really need to keep going withthe podcast because I started it
again.
Let's just, let's just keep onthis momentum, let's keep up
this domino effect and just keepreleasing episodes.
And I was like, well, what am Igoing to talk about?
And I was like, wait, identity.
You've been wanting to talk toabout identity for so long and
(02:53):
now it's the perfect chance todo it.
For today's episode, I will beusing a couple of resources that
I found online and, obviously,my personal stories.
The first resource that I willbe using.
It's an article by MorningCoach called Building your
Identity.
The second resource is anarticle titled Who Am I?
How to Find your Sense of Self,and this is from Healthline.
(03:14):
com.
And the last one is the articletitled How to Reinvent your
Self-Identity and Live your BestLife by Forbes.
And just so you guys know, I amnot going to be reading the
articles.
I'm literally just going to betaking nuggets of wisdom from
each one of the articles or likeskills and techniques that they
(03:37):
teach, and implementing theminto the episode.
But, just so you know, I alwaysput the resources down below
because that way, if you want togo back and read them when you
have time and you want to reallypractice what each one of these
articles say, you know where tofind them.
First things first, do you knowwho you are, I'm talking about?
Do you know what values youhold dear, what goals and
(04:00):
aspirations you have for yourlife and also what things you're
willing to tolerate and whatthings you're simply going to
say, uh-uh, get out of here.
I don't need that, because ifyou don't, that is literally the
first step to crafting youridentity.
You need to know exactly whoyou are right now, because if
(04:22):
you don't know who you are rightnow, how are you going to know
where you're at on the path tothe person you're becoming?
Once you know who you are,you've got to think about what
is the most important thing youwant for yourself and my dear
passengers.
I'm going to be very honest.
As you guys know, I went througha breakup over the last year.
(04:44):
Well, technically, it happenedin 2023, but 2024 was not an
easy year, and one of the thingsthat I noticed that I want
right now is love.
I realized that there are partsof me that have healed, yes,
but they're still hurt.
There's still resentment,there's still unforgiveness, and
(05:08):
I know me and I know my heartand I know that eventually, all
that will come to pass, butright now, I'm not ready.
I'm just not ready and I'm notgoing to keep trying to force
myself to be ready for somethingthat I'm really genuinely not.
So, for this reason, I'verealized that a romantic
(05:30):
relationship probably is notgoing to happen with me for a
very long time, because there'sjust a lot of healing that I
need to do.
However, I crave love, I wantlove, I love love, and I saw
this video on Instagram, whichI'm going to put the link down
here below.
It was a video that reallyimpacted me because it was this
(05:53):
individual talking about howtheir friends are their lovers
and basically it's this idea ofI take my friends on dates, I
make trips with my friends and Imake future plans with my
friends.
No, it's not the romantic typeof love that a lot of us crave
(06:16):
and a lot of us deserve, but itsa love that goes above the
platonic, because you areactually putting in the time,
effort and the resources to makeit continue to grow and to show
up for somebody else and say,hey, I love you, like, I love
(06:41):
spending time with you, I wantto invest my time with you, and
I think that there's such a bigemphasis on romantic love and,
again, let's give romantic lovethe credit that is due.
Romantic love is amazing whenit's great.
It's not the best when it's notthat great.
But platonic love or friendshiplove is so genuine and it's so
beautiful, and I think it'ssomething that we need to as a
(07:02):
society.
We need to start celebratingmore, and I think that there has
been a shift recently of, atleast on my social media, but
also NSA is watching, so maybethey're just sending me the
things that I like, but I'veseen this shift of treating your
friends as your lovers, ortreating your friends as more
than not with a romanticconnotation, but with the
(07:25):
connotation of they belong inyour life and they have a very
special place in your life thatdeserves to be celebrated,
honored and taken the time for.
Once you know what's importantto you I guess you have to
figure out how to express it.
So, again, for me, the mostimportant thing right now in my
(07:45):
life is love, primarily platoniclove, but also self-love, and
in order for me to showcase thatthrough this new identity that
I am forming, or thispersonality, I have to showcase
it.
So it means going out of my wayto make people feel welcome,
(08:05):
going out of my way to makepeople want to smile, make
people feel like that they'recared for right, and it doesn't
mean that I'm perfect.
I will never claim that I'mperfect.
Listen, I am a very resentfulperson, especially with my loved
ones, if they hurt me, which isagain getting back to the topic
of forgiveness and my heart andlike all of that.
(08:26):
But at the end of the day, thereality is, I believe, that each
one of us has the ability andthe possibility of changing for
the better, which means that theresentment that I feel is
towards that old version ofyourself, and sometimes it just
(08:48):
takes time for me to like healfrom that.
But I also know in my headpeople change.
So I want to start showing loveto people, to kind of express my
identity, which is one that isfull of love, and again, I need
(09:10):
to work on my resentment becauseI know that I need to.
But for the most part, I am avery loving person.
So I think that this year,thanks to all the healing that I
did, I'm able to go back tobeing a more loving person than
I have been this past year andI'm very excited to see that
shift, because that's definitelya part of my identity that I
(09:32):
miss.
I want to be more loving and Iwant to be more welcoming and I
want to be more excited and Iwant to be more everything Like
it's just.
It makes me so excited to thinkabout the fact that I am going
to be focusing on love andmaking it a part of my identity.
Like I want people to literallywalk around me and be like, wow
(09:53):
, this person just met me, butlike she radiates love towards
me.
I don't know who I'm talking tobecause I'm looking around in
the room, but listen, I want tobe like sunshine and I want
people to literally walk likethey're feeling all the love in
the world, and that's a big goal, but I'm determined.
(10:16):
So where are we now?
All right, so now it's a timewhere you have clarity on your
vision.
What does your identity looklike in my 30s?
(10:38):
I love to dance, sing, I ammulti-passionate, have big heart
I don't know, I feel like I'mdoing a rap about myself, but
like sometimes you have to talkabout yourself that way.
Anyways, going back to thevision, create that clear vision
of how you want people toidentify you, and so, by
(11:01):
creating that clear vision,you're able to see what's
missing in the gap, right?
So for me, for example, I talkedabout being a loving person.
I am a loving person.
Legit, I'm a loving person.
I love people, but when my bodysays be resentful, I be
resentful.
When I want to be petty, I bepetty.
(11:23):
Is this the mature response?
No, but that's why I'm growingin my loving identity.
All right, so this brings us tothe next step, which is
uncovering the gap.
Very simple what is stoppingyou today from becoming the
identity that you desire?
Very simple, in my case.
(11:46):
Again, we've been talking aboutbeing more loving.
What's preventing me is mypettiness and also my
resentfulness, and here's thething I wish I could be super
mature and be like let it go,let it go.
(12:09):
However, I'm not there and I'mgoing to tell you why.
The reason that I'm not thereis because my pettiness and my
resentfulness has helped me inthe past.
It has become a bandage thathas helped cover the burns and
covering the hurt and made iteasier for me to continue living
another day.
Okay, so this is not just goingto like one day disappear.
(12:31):
Okay, it's going to take timeand I'm aware of it.
I'm less resentful and lesspetty than I was last year, so
that's a win, but that alsomeans that I still have a long
way to go.
So I think that, again, this isme talking for my example.
That is the gap that I need tobreach, like.
(12:53):
I just need to let go of thepettiness and let go of the
resentfulness so that way I canfocus on just being loving and
being forgiving and being superwelcoming and just being like,
hey, we all make mistakes,everybody has those days.
Everybody knows what I'mtalking about.
Everybody has that way.
Oh my gosh, I don't want to getcopyrighted.
Anyway, any who, any how.
(13:15):
Now that you have uncovered agap of where you are stuck from
becoming the person that youwant to become, right Comes the
work, and I'm talking about theinner work and the outer work.
We have so much work.
I'm talking 24, 7, 365 or 366,depending if it's a leap year.
(13:38):
All the work that you have todo.
First of all, it's totallynormal.
Second of all, it's tiresome.
Third of all, it's worth it.
It is so worth it.
You got to do what you got todo in order to become the person
that you're trying to become,because there's nothing wrong
with the person that you are.
(13:59):
However, you cannot staystagnant.
You have to learn, you have togrow, you have to heal, you have
to experience life in all ofits capacity, and so that means
that this journey is a long one,but it's not an alone one,
listen.
The last step is to take actionconsistently and intentionally,
(14:24):
which means that in my casebecause again I've been using
myself as the example of thenight In my case I want to be
more loving.
That's the aspect of myidentity that I'm working on.
That means that I need to putmyself out there and I need to
be open to experiences where mypettiness or my resentfulness
(14:48):
might come out.
But I get to tell myself, no,no, Frances Marie, we're not
doing this.
No more, we are becoming moreloving.
And I need to have thoseexperiences in order to grow.
And the same thing with you, mydear passenger, whatever aspect
of your personality, slash,identity you're working on
(15:09):
improving, or like working toget to, you have to be
intentional and you have to beconsistent with it.
And, trust me, it's going totake a lot of practice and it's
going to take a lot of time, butin the end, you are going to
achieve the goal.
Like, I know that the more thatI practice on being loving, the
more loving I'm going to become.
(15:30):
And by becoming the more lovingperson that I am today, I will
eventually reach that lovingentity, persona, aura, that I'm
striving for, like I just knowit, like I know it with the
certainty in my heart, and Iwish the same thing for you.
Whatever you're working for inyour identity, whatever you're
(15:53):
trying to craft into yourpersonality, I genuinely hope
that you find it within yourselfto pay attention and really
work on it, consistently andintentionally, because you
deserve it.
Well, my dear passenger, thetime has come for the last step
of the day, that is, recap time.
(16:15):
Today's episode discussedidentity, which is a
distinguishing character orpersonality trait of an
individual.
We now know that crafting ouridentity is not as hard as it
seems.
It just takes a lot of work.
So the first thing is to knowexactly who you currently are
and who you're striving to be.
Once you know this, you're ableto ask yourself what is
(16:38):
stopping me from becoming thisperson?
Is it me?
Is it a character trait that Icurrently have?
Is it something outside of mycontrol?
It might be a combination ofdifferent factors.
But once you do figure out whatit is that is holding you back,
you're able to focus anddedicate consistency, and also
(16:58):
intentionality, into becomingthe person that you're striving
to be.
Remember, self-growth is anendless journey towards
self-improvement.
However, you don't ever have todo it alone.
As your tour guide, my goal isto guide you with the best
intentions and the best researchavailable.
Make sure to follow me onFacebook, Instagram and TikTok
at the Self-Growth Train Podcastand to visit my newest website,
(17:21):
theselfgrowthtrainpodcast.
com.
As always, all the resourcesused today have been added to
the episode's description.
Well, until the next stop, dearpassengers, safe travels, bye!
Hello , my dear passengers, and
welcome aboard the Self-GrowthTrain, a podcast that combines
personal stories, opinions andresearch in order to better
guide you through yourself-growth journey.
My name is Frances Marie RiveraPacheco and I am your tour
guide.
First, I want to say thank youfor tuning back into the podcast
.
My dear passengers, I haveofficially turned 30 and I'm
(00:33):
feeling very flirty, verythriving and very hurting in
muscles and bones that I did noteven know I had.
And now, with my older age, I'mfeeling all around, but it
doesn't matter, because I feelblessed, I feel thankful and I
feel very excited for this newera in my life.
(00:54):
And I know what you guys arethinking.
Which era are you stepping to,Frances?
Cause you've already had yourhealing era, you've already had
your Badgirl era.
So where exactly are you?
Well, let me tell you, I am inmy calm, peaceful, loving era.
Okay, this is the era where Ilearn how to work and focus
(01:19):
mainly on my self-worth, myself-love, my self-compassion,
my self-attention and myself-care.
Why?
Because there's no better daythan today to get started, and I
think you should join me onthis era as well.
Well, my dear passengers, thetime has come for us to buckle
up our seatbelts and head on tothe first stop of the day.
(01:41):
That is the topic of the day,and today's topic is identity.
I do like the lower note.
I did there.
Identity, identity.
All right, you guys get it.
That's the topic of the day.
Identity is defined by theMerriam-Webster dictionary as a
(02:04):
distinguishing character orpersonality trait of an
individual.
My dear passengers, let me tellyou about this episode.
I have been wanting to do thisepisode for years.
Okay, and it just never feltright.
And like, I've always been verycognizant of the fact that,
when it comes to this podcast, Ihave to follow my gut and I
(02:29):
have to follow what I feel.
And I was like it's not timeyet, it's not time yet.
And then yesterday I turned 30and I was like you know, I
really need to keep going withthe podcast because I started it
again.
Let's just, let's just keep onthis momentum, let's keep up
this domino effect and just keepreleasing episodes.
And I was like, well, what am Igoing to talk about?
And I was like, wait, identity.
You've been wanting to talk toabout identity for so long and
(02:53):
now it's the perfect chance todo it.
For today's episode, I will beusing a couple of resources that
I found online and, obviously,my personal stories.
The first resource that I willbe using.
It's an article by MorningCoach called Building your
Identity.
The second resource is anarticle titled Who Am I?
How to Find your Sense of Self,and this is from Healthline.
(03:14):
com.
And the last one is the articletitled How to Reinvent your
Self-Identity and Live your BestLife by Forbes.
And just so you guys know, I amnot going to be reading the
articles.
I'm literally just going to betaking nuggets of wisdom from
each one of the articles or likeskills and techniques that they
(03:37):
teach, and implementing theminto the episode.
But, just so you know, I alwaysput the resources down below
because that way, if you want togo back and read them when you
have time and you want to reallypractice what each one of these
articles say, you know where tofind them.
First things first, do you knowwho you are, I'm talking about?
Do you know what values youhold dear, what goals and
(04:00):
aspirations you have for yourlife and also what things you're
willing to tolerate and whatthings you're simply going to
say, uh-uh, get out of here.
I don't need that, because ifyou don't, that is literally the
first step to crafting youridentity.
You need to know exactly whoyou are right now, because if
(04:22):
you don't know who you are rightnow, how are you going to know
where you're at on the path tothe person you're becoming?
Once you know who you are,you've got to think about what
is the most important thing youwant for yourself and my dear
passengers.
I'm going to be very honest.
As you guys know, I went througha breakup over the last year.
(04:44):
Well, technically, it happenedin 2023, but 2024 was not an
easy year, and one of the thingsthat I noticed that I want
right now is love.
I realized that there are partsof me that have healed, yes,
but they're still hurt.
There's still resentment,there's still unforgiveness, and
(05:08):
I know me and I know my heartand I know that eventually, all
that will come to pass, butright now, I'm not ready.
I'm just not ready and I'm notgoing to keep trying to force
myself to be ready for somethingthat I'm really genuinely not.
So, for this reason, I'verealized that a romantic
(05:30):
relationship probably is notgoing to happen with me for a
very long time, because there'sjust a lot of healing that I
need to do.
However, I crave love, I wantlove, I love love, and I saw
this video on Instagram, whichI'm going to put the link down
here below.
It was a video that reallyimpacted me because it was this
(05:53):
individual talking about howtheir friends are their lovers
and basically it's this idea ofI take my friends on dates, I
make trips with my friends and Imake future plans with my
friends.
No, it's not the romantic typeof love that a lot of us crave
(06:16):
and a lot of us deserve, but itsa love that goes above the
platonic, because you areactually putting in the time,
effort and the resources to makeit continue to grow and to show
up for somebody else and say,hey, I love you, like, I love
(06:41):
spending time with you, I wantto invest my time with you, and
I think that there's such a bigemphasis on romantic love and,
again, let's give romantic lovethe credit that is due.
Romantic love is amazing whenit's great.
It's not the best when it's notthat great.
But platonic love or friendshiplove is so genuine and it's so
beautiful, and I think it'ssomething that we need to as a
(07:02):
society.
We need to start celebratingmore, and I think that there has
been a shift recently of, atleast on my social media, but
also NSA is watching, so maybethey're just sending me the
things that I like, but I'veseen this shift of treating your
friends as your lovers, ortreating your friends as more
than not with a romanticconnotation, but with the
(07:25):
connotation of they belong inyour life and they have a very
special place in your life thatdeserves to be celebrated,
honored and taken the time for.
Once you know what's importantto you I guess you have to
figure out how to express it.
So, again, for me, the mostimportant thing right now in my
(07:45):
life is love, primarily platoniclove, but also self-love, and
in order for me to showcase thatthrough this new identity that
I am forming, or thispersonality, I have to showcase
it.
So it means going out of my wayto make people feel welcome,
(08:05):
going out of my way to makepeople want to smile, make
people feel like that they'recared for right, and it doesn't
mean that I'm perfect.
I will never claim that I'mperfect.
Listen, I am a very resentfulperson, especially with my loved
ones, if they hurt me, which isagain getting back to the topic
of forgiveness and my heart andlike all of that.
(08:26):
But at the end of the day, thereality is, I believe, that each
one of us has the ability andthe possibility of changing for
the better, which means that theresentment that I feel is
towards that old version ofyourself, and sometimes it just
(08:48):
takes time for me to like healfrom that.
But I also know in my headpeople change.
So I want to start showing loveto people, to kind of express my
identity, which is one that isfull of love, and again, I need
(09:10):
to work on my resentment becauseI know that I need to.
But for the most part, I am avery loving person.
So I think that this year,thanks to all the healing that I
did, I'm able to go back tobeing a more loving person than
I have been this past year andI'm very excited to see that
shift, because that's definitelya part of my identity that I
(09:32):
miss.
I want to be more loving and Iwant to be more welcoming and I
want to be more excited and Iwant to be more everything Like
it's just.
It makes me so excited to thinkabout the fact that I am going
to be focusing on love andmaking it a part of my identity.
Like I want people to literallywalk around me and be like, wow
(09:53):
, this person just met me, butlike she radiates love towards
me.
I don't know who I'm talking tobecause I'm looking around in
the room, but listen, I want tobe like sunshine and I want
people to literally walk likethey're feeling all the love in
the world, and that's a big goal, but I'm determined.
(10:16):
So where are we now?
All right, so now it's a timewhere you have clarity on your
vision.
What does your identity looklike in my 30s?
(10:38):
I love to dance, sing, I ammulti-passionate, have big heart
I don't know, I feel like I'mdoing a rap about myself, but
like sometimes you have to talkabout yourself that way.
Anyways, going back to thevision, create that clear vision
of how you want people toidentify you, and so, by
(11:01):
creating that clear vision,you're able to see what's
missing in the gap, right?
So for me, for example, I talkedabout being a loving person.
I am a loving person.
Legit, I'm a loving person.
I love people, but when my bodysays be resentful, I be
resentful.
When I want to be petty, I bepetty.
(11:23):
Is this the mature response?
No, but that's why I'm growingin my loving identity.
All right, so this brings us tothe next step, which is
uncovering the gap.
Very simple what is stoppingyou today from becoming the
identity that you desire?
Very simple, in my case.
(11:46):
Again, we've been talking aboutbeing more loving.
What's preventing me is mypettiness and also my
resentfulness, and here's thething I wish I could be super
mature and be like let it go,let it go.
(12:09):
However, I'm not there and I'mgoing to tell you why.
The reason that I'm not thereis because my pettiness and my
resentfulness has helped me inthe past.
It has become a bandage thathas helped cover the burns and
covering the hurt and made iteasier for me to continue living
another day.
Okay, so this is not just goingto like one day disappear.
(12:31):
Okay, it's going to take timeand I'm aware of it.
I'm less resentful and lesspetty than I was last year, so
that's a win, but that alsomeans that I still have a long
way to go.
So I think that, again, this isme talking for my example.
That is the gap that I need tobreach, like.
(12:53):
I just need to let go of thepettiness and let go of the
resentfulness so that way I canfocus on just being loving and
being forgiving and being superwelcoming and just being like,
hey, we all make mistakes,everybody has those days.
Everybody knows what I'mtalking about.
Everybody has that way.
Oh my gosh, I don't want to getcopyrighted.
Anyway, any who, any how.
(13:15):
Now that you have uncovered agap of where you are stuck from
becoming the person that youwant to become, right Comes the
work, and I'm talking about theinner work and the outer work.
We have so much work.
I'm talking 24, 7, 365 or 366,depending if it's a leap year.
(13:38):
All the work that you have todo.
First of all, it's totallynormal.
Second of all, it's tiresome.
Third of all, it's worth it.
It is so worth it.
You got to do what you got todo in order to become the person
that you're trying to become,because there's nothing wrong
with the person that you are.
(13:59):
However, you cannot staystagnant.
You have to learn, you have togrow, you have to heal, you have
to experience life in all ofits capacity, and so that means
that this journey is a long one,but it's not an alone one,
listen.
The last step is to take actionconsistently and intentionally,
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which means that in my casebecause again I've been using
myself as the example of thenight In my case I want to be
more loving.
That's the aspect of myidentity that I'm working on.
That means that I need to putmyself out there and I need to
be open to experiences where mypettiness or my resentfulness
(14:48):
might come out.
But I get to tell myself, no,no, Frances Marie, we're not
doing this.
No more, we are becoming moreloving.
And I need to have thoseexperiences in order to grow.
And the same thing with you, mydear passenger, whatever aspect
of your personality, slash,identity you're working on
(15:09):
improving, or like working toget to, you have to be
intentional and you have to beconsistent with it.
And, trust me, it's going totake a lot of practice and it's
going to take a lot of time, butin the end, you are going to
achieve the goal.
Like, I know that the more thatI practice on being loving, the
more loving I'm going to become.
(15:30):
And by becoming the more lovingperson that I am today, I will
eventually reach that lovingentity, persona, aura, that I'm
striving for, like I just knowit, like I know it with the
certainty in my heart, and Iwish the same thing for you.
Whatever you're working for inyour identity, whatever you're
(15:53):
trying to craft into yourpersonality, I genuinely hope
that you find it within yourselfto pay attention and really
work on it, consistently andintentionally, because you
deserve it.
Well, my dear passenger, thetime has come for the last step
of the day, that is, recap time.
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Today's episode discussedidentity, which is a
distinguishing character orpersonality trait of an
individual.
We now know that crafting ouridentity is not as hard as it
seems.
It just takes a lot of work.
So the first thing is to knowexactly who you currently are
and who you're striving to be.
Once you know this, you're ableto ask yourself what is
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stopping me from becoming thisperson?
Is it me?
Is it a character trait that Icurrently have?
Is it something outside of mycontrol?
It might be a combination ofdifferent factors.
But once you do figure out whatit is that is holding you back,
you're able to focus anddedicate consistency, and also
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intentionality, into becomingthe person that you're striving
to be.
Remember, self-growth is anendless journey towards
self-improvement.
However, you don't ever have todo it alone.
As your tour guide, my goal isto guide you with the best
intentions and the best researchavailable.
Make sure to follow me onFacebook, Instagram and TikTok
at the Self-Growth Train Podcastand to visit my newest website,
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theselfgrowthtrainpodcast.
com.
As always, all the resourcesused today have been added to
the episode's description.
Well, until the next stop, dearpassengers, safe travels, bye!
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