August 6, 2024 • 12 mins
What if you could hit the reset button on any aspect of your life and start afresh with a newfound sense of purpose and authenticity?
On the relaunch episode of the Self-Growth Train Podcast, I, Frances Marie Rivera Pacheco, share my bold decision to remove all previous episodes and embark on a new journey. Tune in to hear my personal story of rediscovering the raw and honest essence of my voice, and learn how restarting from scratch can be a more powerful and empowering strategy than simply adding new methods to a struggling endeavor. Drawing insights from psychologist Samantha Stein, we explore the profound impact of a complete restart on overcoming failure and reassessing life strategies.
Join me as your dedicated tour guide on this continuous journey of self-improvement. Together, we'll explore the importance of not journeying alone and the value of staying connected through our vibrant community on social media. I also introduce our new website, TheSelfGrowthTrainPodcast.com, packed with resources to support your growth. This episode is your invitation to embrace the beauty of new beginnings and stay true to yourself.
Resources used today:
Starting Over In Midlife
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Until the next stop dear passengers – Safe Travels!
-FMRP
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Frances Marie Rivera Pach (00:08):
Hello , my dear passengers, and
welcome aboard The Self-GrowthTrain, a podcast that combines
personal stories, opinions andresearch in order to better
guide you through yourself-growth journey.
My name is Frances Marie RiveraPacheco and I am your tour
guide.
First, I just want to say thankyou for tuning back in to the
podcast.
If you are a new passenger,welcome, welcome, welcome! If
(00:30):
you're a previous passenger, forover the last three years, also
welcome, welcome, welcome! Youmight have noticed that all of
the episodes suddenlydisappeared and you're probably
wondering (00:40):
Frances, what is going on?
Well, my dear passengers, letme tell you.
I realized that when I firstwanted to make this podcast, I
wanted to be 100% honest, 100%blunt and 100% raw, but then,
somewhere along the way, Iforgot about what I wanted and I
started to focus more on beingmore professional quote, unquote
(01:02):
, and, yeah, the podcast justdidn't feel like myself anymore.
And when the opportunity aroseprimarily because I was really
broke and I wasn't able to payfor Buzzsprout, so that way the
podcast could continue to haveall the previous episodes I
realized that I had a greatopportunity in my hands.
I had the ability and theopportunity to restart or
(01:26):
relaunch the podcast and startall over again.
And you know, a lot of myfriends and family were very
confused and they were also veryworried.
I mean, it would mean that Iwould lose all of my stats, it
would mean that I would lose allof the 46 episodes that I had
already recorded over the lastthree years.
But I knew that I had to do it.
I just felt it in me that itwas time for me to let go of all
(01:50):
of those episodes and of all ofthat lessons that I learned in
the past and start somethingcompletely from scratch.
The great news is that withrelaunching the podcast, I'm
able to re-visualize andreimagine how I want everything
to go, which is why I finallyget the chance to release blog
posts with the podcast episodes,and it's something that I have
(02:12):
been wanting to do for a while.
So if you're curious, just knowthat with every release from
now on, you're going to begetting a blog post.
All you got to do is follow mywebsite at TheSelfGrowthTrain.
com - again, the website isTheSelfGrowthTrainPodcast.
com.
Well, my dear passengers, thetime has come to put on your
seat belts as we dive into ourfirst stop, that That is the
(02:35):
topic of the day, and today'stopic is restarting.
Restarting is defined by theMerriam-Webster dictionary as
resuming after interruption.
I think that's a greatdefinition to have, just because
whenever I spoke aboutrestarting the podcast,
everybody was telling me"Oh ohmy !, you're starting from zero.
(02:55):
You're starting from scratchand in a way, I kind of am.
But what is very empowering isthat I am starting from a simple
interruption.
It means that I get to keepall of the lessons and all of
the knowledge that I haveacquired over the last three
years and just simply make itinto something completely new
(03:16):
and upgraded.
hat today's episode, my mainresource is an article that I
found on Psychology Today by oneof their psychologists,
Samantha Stein.
Now, the title of the articlecan be a little misleading,
because they're talking about"starting over in midlife, and
today I'm talking aboutrestarting in whatever point of
your life you're at.
But don't worry, because thelessons that she talks about can
(03:37):
also be applied to you andwherever you are in your life.
But how do we determine whenit's time to hit that restart
button?
Well, it's quite simple -whenwe're facing failure.
I know you sometimes want tokeep trying and trying and
trying and trying, but then whenyou do, it just keeps getting
worse.
If that's the case for you, asit has been for me in the past,
(03:59):
then maybe it's time to hit thatrestart button and it's not
going to be something bad.
In fact, I'm able to use thispodcast as a perfect example.
Over the last three years, Ihave faced numerous successes.
Part of it has been due to thefact that people want to grow
and they are looking forpodcasts or resources that will
allow them to do that.
But if I sit down and I reallythink about it as a podcaster, I
(04:22):
have failed tremendously in thebasics.
I'm talking aboutself-discipline, consistency and
also overall content,especially because, according to
what I want to do, I want tomake sure that my podcast
episodes have personal stories,opinions and research, and the
reality is that most of myepisodes did not follow through
(04:42):
with this and that was drivingme nuts.
So now that I'm able to sitdown and see how I was failing,
with self-compassion and withself-awareness, I'm able to say
"you know what?
I kept trying to do things overand over again.
But really what I needed to dowas just stop and restart, not
(05:05):
add new ways to try to do thething, because by adding new
ways to something that wasalready failing, I was just
continuing the pattern andsometimes it would work and
sometimes it wouldn't work right.
So that's why it's important toknow the difference between
adding and restarting.
There's some instances when youjust have to add new ways to try
(05:27):
things, which I guess for thefirst year that was the way that
I should have done things forthe podcast.
But then there's times, likenow, three years after, where I
realize no, I can't keep addingbecause I'm not having success,
so why am I going to keep tryingto add it when I can just
(05:47):
restart and reset myself forsuccess?
Because I'm motivated, I knownow the things that didn't work,
so I can focus on things that Ihaven't tried before, but I can
also create somethingcompletely new along the process
and I'm not being held back byprevious episodes.
I'm not being held back by theprevious ways that I did things
(06:07):
and I'm also not being held backby the previous expectations
that I had of myself that I wasnot being successful at, and you
know all of this is covered onher article.
But the thing that really struckme was when she talked about
the importance of defining whatsuccess is to you today.
Not what it was three years ago, not what it's going to mean to
(06:30):
you five years from now, butwhat it means to you today.
And I think that's soempowering because I know from
my personal experience with thepodcast again, I'm going to keep
using the podcast as theexample for this episode.
I know the goals that I hadwith the podcast back in the day
and I know that goals that Ihave with the podcast now and
(06:52):
they are a thousand timesdifferent.
Why?
Because I'm no longer focusedon the outside validation, I'm
no longer focused on thestatistics.
I'm no longer focused on howmany views, and how many
downloads.
Don't get me wrong, those areimportant, especially as a
podcaster, because it gives youvisibility.
But for me, what I want to makesure of, and this is my simple
(07:14):
goal - I want to make sure thatyou don't feel alone.
I want to make sure thatwhoever listens to the podcast
can say "wow, today I felt heard.
Today I felt validated.
Today I felt seen, and that hasnothing to do with statistics
and that has nothing to do withdata.
That has all to do with whatI'm able to provide to you, and
(07:37):
part of that also has to do withmy personality, because I want
to make sure that I have awelcoming demeanor where people
are able to talk to me and say,"ey, Frances, like that episode
really helped me.
So that is what success lookslike for me.
It looks like people findingcomfort in my podcast.
(07:57):
It looks like people sharing mypodcast because they want
somebody else to feel thatcomfort, and it took me three
years to realize that that'swhat I wanted.
So if you're at a place in yourlife when you're like I don't
know what success looks like forme today, figure it out.
Take the time to sit down,write it down whatever works for
you and figure it out, becauseif not, you're just going to
(08:20):
keep striving over whateversociety or whatever perceptions
you think you need to beachieving, and this might not
necessarily be true.
The last thing that I want totalk about is a point that she
makes of determining what youwant to spend your time on.
Again, with the example of thepodcast, I used to be like.
(08:40):
I'm so passionate about thepodcast, I'm so motivated by the
podcast.
I love the podcast.
Well, did I spend time on it?
Absolutely not.
I use to put it back in theback burner.
Why?
I don't know.
Like sometimes it was becauseof YOLO, sometimes it was
because of FOMO, and sometimesit was because of another four
letter word.
I don't know what else to sayLike I just I wanted to do
(09:04):
things that were not the podcast, not because I didn't care
about the podcast, but because Ihad this fear that I was
missing out, that I was notliving life and all of this
stuff.
But now I'm able to centralizemyself and say what do I want to
spend time on?
And if my goal is that I wantto provide comfort for people, I
need to spend time on research.
(09:24):
I need to spend time reading, Ineed to spend time reaching out
to people, hearing theirstories, validating what they
have to say, and I also need tospend time with myself and take
care of myself, because that'ssomething that I haven't been
doing over the last three yearsand it has really affected
everything, especially with thepodcast being about self growth.
(09:47):
So I don't know.
I think that this particulartopic of restarting is something
that I'm quite passionate about.
You know we go again with thatword, but I am passionate about
it and I think that, whereveryou are in your life whether it
be a relationship that is notworking, whether it be a job
that you're just like man, likeI cannot wait to get out of here
(10:10):
- think about it.
It might be time to hit thatrestart button and remember yes,
you're failing, but no, you'renot going to restart from
scratch per se.
You're going to have all theknowledge and all the
experiences and all theopportunities that you got to
live and make somethingcompletely new if you choose to
(10:33):
do it.
And the reality is we only haveone life.
So why do we keep waiting untilthe moment passes?
Let's not, let's do better forourselves.
Let's take the moment to sayyou know what?
I want better now.
Not tomorrow - I want it now.
(10:53):
Well, my dear passengers, thetime has come for the last stop
of the day - recap time.
Today's episode discussesrestarting, which is just to
resume after interruption.
Now we know that the way torestart is when we're facing
failure.
We do need to know thedifference between adding and
restarting.
(11:13):
We add when there is somesuccess happening.
We don't add when you keepfailing.
Instead, we hit that restartbutton so that way we can
motivate ourselves to do betterand to create something
completely new.
But part of that is determiningwhat success is to us right now
.
Not what it looked likeyesterday or what it might look
(11:34):
like in the future, but what itlooks like right this second,
because by doing so, you're ableto choose what to spend your
time on.
Remember, self-growth is anendless journey towards
self-improvement.
However, you don't ever have todo it alone.
My goal as your tour guide isto guide you with the best
intentions and the best researchavailable.
Make sure to follow me onFacebook, Instagram and TikTok
(11:58):
at the Self-Growth Train Podcast, and to also follow the new
website,TheSelfGrowthTrainPodcast.
com.
As always, all the resourcesused today have been added to
the episode's description.
Well, until the next stop, dearpassengers, safe travels.
Bye!
Hello , my dear passengers, and
welcome aboard The Self-GrowthTrain, a podcast that combines
personal stories, opinions andresearch in order to better
guide you through yourself-growth journey.
My name is Frances Marie RiveraPacheco and I am your tour
guide.
First, I just want to say thankyou for tuning back in to the
podcast.
If you are a new passenger,welcome, welcome, welcome! If
(00:30):
you're a previous passenger, forover the last three years, also
welcome, welcome, welcome! Youmight have noticed that all of
the episodes suddenlydisappeared and you're probably
wondering (00:40):
Frances, what is going on?
Well, my dear passengers, letme tell you.
I realized that when I firstwanted to make this podcast, I
wanted to be 100% honest, 100%blunt and 100% raw, but then,
somewhere along the way, Iforgot about what I wanted and I
started to focus more on beingmore professional quote, unquote
(01:02):
, and, yeah, the podcast justdidn't feel like myself anymore.
And when the opportunity aroseprimarily because I was really
broke and I wasn't able to payfor Buzzsprout, so that way the
podcast could continue to haveall the previous episodes I
realized that I had a greatopportunity in my hands.
I had the ability and theopportunity to restart or
(01:26):
relaunch the podcast and startall over again.
And you know, a lot of myfriends and family were very
confused and they were also veryworried.
I mean, it would mean that Iwould lose all of my stats, it
would mean that I would lose allof the 46 episodes that I had
already recorded over the lastthree years.
But I knew that I had to do it.
I just felt it in me that itwas time for me to let go of all
(01:50):
of those episodes and of all ofthat lessons that I learned in
the past and start somethingcompletely from scratch.
The great news is that withrelaunching the podcast, I'm
able to re-visualize andreimagine how I want everything
to go, which is why I finallyget the chance to release blog
posts with the podcast episodes,and it's something that I have
(02:12):
been wanting to do for a while.
So if you're curious, just knowthat with every release from
now on, you're going to begetting a blog post.
All you got to do is follow mywebsite at TheSelfGrowthTrain.
com - again, the website isTheSelfGrowthTrainPodcast.
com.
Well, my dear passengers, thetime has come to put on your
seat belts as we dive into ourfirst stop, that That is the
(02:35):
topic of the day, and today'stopic is restarting.
Restarting is defined by theMerriam-Webster dictionary as
resuming after interruption.
I think that's a greatdefinition to have, just because
whenever I spoke aboutrestarting the podcast,
everybody was telling me"Oh ohmy !, you're starting from zero.
(02:55):
You're starting from scratchand in a way, I kind of am.
But what is very empowering isthat I am starting from a simple
interruption.
It means that I get to keepall of the lessons and all of
the knowledge that I haveacquired over the last three
years and just simply make itinto something completely new
(03:16):
and upgraded.
hat today's episode, my mainresource is an article that I
found on Psychology Today by oneof their psychologists,
Samantha Stein.
Now, the title of the articlecan be a little misleading,
because they're talking about"starting over in midlife, and
today I'm talking aboutrestarting in whatever point of
your life you're at.
But don't worry, because thelessons that she talks about can
(03:37):
also be applied to you andwherever you are in your life.
But how do we determine whenit's time to hit that restart
button?
Well, it's quite simple -whenwe're facing failure.
I know you sometimes want tokeep trying and trying and
trying and trying, but then whenyou do, it just keeps getting
worse.
If that's the case for you, asit has been for me in the past,
(03:59):
then maybe it's time to hit thatrestart button and it's not
going to be something bad.
In fact, I'm able to use thispodcast as a perfect example.
Over the last three years, Ihave faced numerous successes.
Part of it has been due to thefact that people want to grow
and they are looking forpodcasts or resources that will
allow them to do that.
But if I sit down and I reallythink about it as a podcaster, I
(04:22):
have failed tremendously in thebasics.
I'm talking aboutself-discipline, consistency and
also overall content,especially because, according to
what I want to do, I want tomake sure that my podcast
episodes have personal stories,opinions and research, and the
reality is that most of myepisodes did not follow through
(04:42):
with this and that was drivingme nuts.
So now that I'm able to sitdown and see how I was failing,
with self-compassion and withself-awareness, I'm able to say
"you know what?
I kept trying to do things overand over again.
But really what I needed to dowas just stop and restart, not
(05:05):
add new ways to try to do thething, because by adding new
ways to something that wasalready failing, I was just
continuing the pattern andsometimes it would work and
sometimes it wouldn't work right.
So that's why it's important toknow the difference between
adding and restarting.
There's some instances when youjust have to add new ways to try
(05:27):
things, which I guess for thefirst year that was the way that
I should have done things forthe podcast.
But then there's times, likenow, three years after, where I
realize no, I can't keep addingbecause I'm not having success,
so why am I going to keep tryingto add it when I can just
(05:47):
restart and reset myself forsuccess?
Because I'm motivated, I knownow the things that didn't work,
so I can focus on things that Ihaven't tried before, but I can
also create somethingcompletely new along the process
and I'm not being held back byprevious episodes.
I'm not being held back by theprevious ways that I did things
(06:07):
and I'm also not being held backby the previous expectations
that I had of myself that I wasnot being successful at, and you
know all of this is covered onher article.
But the thing that really struckme was when she talked about
the importance of defining whatsuccess is to you today.
Not what it was three years ago, not what it's going to mean to
(06:30):
you five years from now, butwhat it means to you today.
And I think that's soempowering because I know from
my personal experience with thepodcast again, I'm going to keep
using the podcast as theexample for this episode.
I know the goals that I hadwith the podcast back in the day
and I know that goals that Ihave with the podcast now and
(06:52):
they are a thousand timesdifferent.
Why?
Because I'm no longer focusedon the outside validation, I'm
no longer focused on thestatistics.
I'm no longer focused on howmany views, and how many
downloads.
Don't get me wrong, those areimportant, especially as a
podcaster, because it gives youvisibility.
But for me, what I want to makesure of, and this is my simple
(07:14):
goal - I want to make sure thatyou don't feel alone.
I want to make sure thatwhoever listens to the podcast
can say "wow, today I felt heard.
Today I felt validated.
Today I felt seen, and that hasnothing to do with statistics
and that has nothing to do withdata.
That has all to do with whatI'm able to provide to you, and
(07:37):
part of that also has to do withmy personality, because I want
to make sure that I have awelcoming demeanor where people
are able to talk to me and say,"ey, Frances, like that episode
really helped me.
So that is what success lookslike for me.
It looks like people findingcomfort in my podcast.
(07:57):
It looks like people sharing mypodcast because they want
somebody else to feel thatcomfort, and it took me three
years to realize that that'swhat I wanted.
So if you're at a place in yourlife when you're like I don't
know what success looks like forme today, figure it out.
Take the time to sit down,write it down whatever works for
you and figure it out, becauseif not, you're just going to
(08:20):
keep striving over whateversociety or whatever perceptions
you think you need to beachieving, and this might not
necessarily be true.
The last thing that I want totalk about is a point that she
makes of determining what youwant to spend your time on.
Again, with the example of thepodcast, I used to be like.
(08:40):
I'm so passionate about thepodcast, I'm so motivated by the
podcast.
I love the podcast.
Well, did I spend time on it?
Absolutely not.
I use to put it back in theback burner.
Why?
I don't know.
Like sometimes it was becauseof YOLO, sometimes it was
because of FOMO, and sometimesit was because of another four
letter word.
I don't know what else to sayLike I just I wanted to do
(09:04):
things that were not the podcast, not because I didn't care
about the podcast, but because Ihad this fear that I was
missing out, that I was notliving life and all of this
stuff.
But now I'm able to centralizemyself and say what do I want to
spend time on?
And if my goal is that I wantto provide comfort for people, I
need to spend time on research.
(09:24):
I need to spend time reading, Ineed to spend time reaching out
to people, hearing theirstories, validating what they
have to say, and I also need tospend time with myself and take
care of myself, because that'ssomething that I haven't been
doing over the last three yearsand it has really affected
everything, especially with thepodcast being about self growth.
(09:47):
So I don't know.
I think that this particulartopic of restarting is something
that I'm quite passionate about.
You know we go again with thatword, but I am passionate about
it and I think that, whereveryou are in your life whether it
be a relationship that is notworking, whether it be a job
that you're just like man, likeI cannot wait to get out of here
(10:10):
- think about it.
It might be time to hit thatrestart button and remember yes,
you're failing, but no, you'renot going to restart from
scratch per se.
You're going to have all theknowledge and all the
experiences and all theopportunities that you got to
live and make somethingcompletely new if you choose to
(10:33):
do it.
And the reality is we only haveone life.
So why do we keep waiting untilthe moment passes?
Let's not, let's do better forourselves.
Let's take the moment to sayyou know what?
I want better now.
Not tomorrow - I want it now.
(10:53):
Well, my dear passengers, thetime has come for the last stop
of the day - recap time.
Today's episode discussesrestarting, which is just to
resume after interruption.
Now we know that the way torestart is when we're facing
failure.
We do need to know thedifference between adding and
restarting.
(11:13):
We add when there is somesuccess happening.
We don't add when you keepfailing.
Instead, we hit that restartbutton so that way we can
motivate ourselves to do betterand to create something
completely new.
But part of that is determiningwhat success is to us right now
.
Not what it looked likeyesterday or what it might look
(11:34):
like in the future, but what itlooks like right this second,
because by doing so, you're ableto choose what to spend your
time on.
Remember, self-growth is anendless journey towards
self-improvement.
However, you don't ever have todo it alone.
My goal as your tour guide isto guide you with the best
intentions and the best researchavailable.
Make sure to follow me onFacebook, Instagram and TikTok
(11:58):
at the Self-Growth Train Podcast, and to also follow the new
website,TheSelfGrowthTrainPodcast.
com.
As always, all the resourcesused today have been added to
the episode's description.
Well, until the next stop, dearpassengers, safe travels.
Bye!
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