September 3, 2024 • 14 mins
Ever wonder why self-discipline seems like an uphill battle?
Join me as I reveal the personal journey behind building self-discipline and how you can transform it from a daily struggle into a powerful habit. I'm laying it all on the table: from my own battles with procrastination to the determination that fuels my goals. Equipped with insights from Forbes, Calm, and Score, we're turning self-discipline into an approachable and achievable part of your life.
Get ready to uncover practical steps to harness your strengths and address your weaknesses. We'll explore how setting clear, attainable goals can make a world of difference in your journey to self-discipline. This episode is packed with relatable stories and invaluable advice designed to inspire you to take control and become the disciplined individual you aspire to be. Buckle up, passengers, because the Self-Growth Train is on its way to making self-discipline not just a necessity, but a daily triumph!
Resources used today:
8 Powerful Ways to Cultivate Extreme Self-Discipline
How to Become More Disciplined
7 Simple Ways to Develop Daily Discipline Success
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Until the next stop dear passengers – Safe Travels!
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Frances Marie Rivera Pach (00:07):
Hello , my dear passengers, and
welcome aboard the Self-GrowthTrain, a podcast that combines
personal stories, opinions andresearch in order to better
guide you through yourself-growth journey.
My name is Frances Marie RiveraPacheco and I am your tour guide
.
First, I want to say thank youfor tuning back in into the
(00:28):
podcast.
I am so excited.
It's been a month since therelaunch and you guys have been
so supportive and just presentand so nice and I just I really,
really, really appreciate allthe kind words that I've
received over the last couple ofweeks and also guys.
I'm just so excited because Ifeel it in my bones that there's
(00:49):
so many more cool things comingmy way and I'm just so ready
for the blessings and sograteful for them and I just
can't wait until you guys seeeverything that is coming.
Well, my dear passengers, thetime has come for you to buckle
up your seatbelts as we headinto the first stop of the day.
That is the topic of the day,and today's topic is
self-discipline.
(01:09):
Self-discipline is defined bythe Merriam-Webster dictionary
as the regulation or correctionof oneself for the sake of
improvement.
Now, I don't know about you, mydear passenger, but let me tell
you I have struggled withself-discipline every single day
of my life.
Why?
Because it means that you haveto constantly be correcting
yourself.
And who wants to do that?
Actually?
(01:30):
Who has time to do that?
Nobody.
And yet we all have to do it.
But is there a way that it canbe easier on us?
Absolutely, and that is exactlywhat this episode is going to
be covering today.
For today's episode, I will beusing three articles that I
found online to be super helpfulwhen it came to developing my
self-discipline.
The first article is by Forbes,and it's titled 8 Powerful Ways
(01:53):
to Cultivate ExtremeSelf-Discipline.
The second article is from Calm.
com, and it's called How toBecome More Disciplined.
And the last article is fromScore, and this one is titled 7
Simple Ways to Develop DailyDiscipline Success.
As a reminder, I don't coverall three articles through and
through, but I do put them onthe episode's description, so
(02:13):
that way, if you want to go andread them, you have the
opportunity to go ahead andcheck them out.
For the podcast episode, thething that I usually do is that
I read the articles and Isummarize them and combine them
in a way that makes it easierfor you and I to focus on the
topic of the day.
Let's get down to the first step.
The first step is actuallyquite easy, in a way.
I mean, it depends on how wellyou know yourself.
(02:35):
But the first step isdetermining what are your
strengths and what are yourweaknesses.
Now, my dear passenger, for me,I can tell you my biggest
strength and I can tell you mybiggest weakness.
My biggest strength is that Iam a very determined individual.
When I set my mind on a goal, Iput my everything I'm talking
my time, my resources, my energy, my focus, everything.
(02:57):
Why?
Because once I set my eyes on agoal, I want it and I'm going
to do everything to get it.
Now, what is my biggestweakness?
I leave everything for the end.
Yes, that is right, I am a hugeprocrastinator and even with
this podcast episode, thisspecific one, I waited until the
(03:20):
end to do it, even though Icould have done it weeks ago.
But you know what?
This is the good thing aboutdoing a podcast episode where
I'm able to not only createcontent for you to feel related
to, but also create content formyself, to inspire myself to do
better, because, at the end ofthe day, that is the purpose of
(03:42):
this podcast.
Like, I want to help myself andI want to help you guys become
better individuals.
The second step is also easy-ish.
It depends.
It depends on how you are, butit's to set clear, achievable
goals.
Okay, let me repeat thatbecause this is very important
Set clear and achievable goals.
(04:07):
Now, why did I have to repeatthat?
Because I don't know about you,my dear passenger, but I have
the tendency of setting goalsthat are ridiculous, not because
I could never reach them, butsometimes I expect my goals to
happen within a very small timeframe, or I don't know, like I
(04:27):
think that I am a superwoman andI'm going to be able to
accomplish every single thing,and it's like that's not
realistic.
I think that right now, ourfocus should be on becoming more
realistic with ourselves, whichis why it was important to know
our strengths and ourweaknesses, because by knowing
our strengths and our weaknesses, we're better able to
understand what we canrealistically achieve right.
(04:49):
So for me, for example, some ofthe goals that I have is I want
to write daily, I want toexercise daily, I want to
meditate daily, I want to workdaily and I also want to work on
my creative projects daily.
Is this realistic?
Absolutely not.
I think that, of all the thingsthat I just mentioned, there's
(05:13):
two things that I can dorealistically every single day,
and that is meditate and write.
Those two.
I'm pretty sure I can do themevery single day, but when it
comes to exercise, it's not likein the summer.
In the summer, I had all thisfree time and I could go to the
gym every single day.
Now I don't have that happening.
So it's kind of hard to adjustmyself to this new reality in
(05:37):
terms of, like, wow, thingschange, but it doesn't mean that
just because it changed, Ican't make it work for me.
I just have to fix those goalsto make them achievable.
So now it's not going to looklike I go to the gym every
single day.
Now it just looks like I dosomething active every single
day, and it might be walking, itmight be swimming which, as you
(05:59):
can tell, I'm wearing myswimsuit and I'm going to be
swimming soon or it might besomething as easy as jumping
rope, which, by the way,apparently jumping rope is like
super fun and also helps with,like, building your muscles.
So give it a shot.
I haven't tried it yet, but Iam going to.
(06:20):
The third step is to develop astructured routine.
Now.
If you listened to last week'sepisode, you should have this
down already.
If you haven't listened to lastweek's episode, this is my time
to invite you to go ahead andlisten to last week's episode,
just because it goes a littlebit more in depth than what I'm
going to be doing right now Butessentially, when you develop a
structured routine, you want tolook at what your current
routine looks like and in whatareas you're able to adapt or
(06:45):
change in order to accommodate,being able to seek those
achievable goals that you havenow set for yourself.
So, for example again I'm usingmyself.
I wake up every day around 5.30am, and it used to be that
during the summer, that time Iwould go to the gym and then I
(07:08):
would come back and I wouldmeditate and I would write.
Now, however, because I have tobe at work before 7 am, it
doesn't look the same way.
So I'm not able to wake up at5.30, go to the gym and do all
of these things.
Now.
For me, in a structured routine, it looks like waking up,
getting ready for work, going towork and then, once I get back
(07:30):
from work, taking that time togo to the gym or do something
active and writing andmeditating or whatever else I
want to do.
But you see how your reality isgoing to keep shifting as the
time goes by.
But if you keep realistic goals, you will be able to adapt your
(07:50):
routines to accommodate forthem.
Step four, my absolute favoriteand the one that I do the worst
in avoiding temptation.
Oh my gosh, like I mentioned inone of the other episodes, when
it comes to FOMO and YOLO, Ihave it.
I'm constantly have this fearof missing out and I also have
(08:14):
this mentality of you only liveonce.
So I want to do everything andanything and all that once, just
like that movie, you know, andI just I love it.
I love the fact that I'm sospontaneous and that I'm able to
shift my mind from one thing tothe other.
But, realistically speakingright going back to
(08:35):
realistically speaking I do needto start avoiding my
temptations, and it's because, alot of times, what I don't
realize is that when I amendorsing those temptations, I'm
taking away time from focusingon the things that I really need
to focus on.
So, for example, again like Imentioned earlier, this podcast
(08:56):
episode, I left for the end.
Up to this point, I hadpre-recorded my episodes like
weeks ahead of time, and nowit's like I'm doing this the day
before and I know it's stillgoing to be a good podcast
episode.
But the reality is, if I hadavoided temptation temptation
and if I had stuck to myschedule, then none of this
(09:18):
would have happened and I couldstill endorse my desire to spend
time with people and do funthings and cool things around
town that I don't normally getto do or maybe I do normally get
to do, but I want to do more of.
So I think it's important for usto sit down and really analyze
what is tempting for me, likewhat is it that I cannot say no
(09:42):
to?
I mean, you can, but youstruggle to say no to.
What is it that gives you a lotof instant gratification and
might take you away from workingon these goals that you also
want to achieve?
But they might take a littlebit longer, and once you're able
to have that list of things,you're better prepared to say no
(10:05):
to them.
Now I'm not saying that you'regoing to be able to say no to
them all the time and that it'sgoing to be perfect.
Because, again, look at thisepisode as a beautiful example
of how I let temptation get me,but there will be times where
you'll be able to kind ofrecenter yourself and say no,
(10:26):
you know what?
I do want to go to that dragshow and I do want to spend time
with my friends, but I knowdeep down that if I go to this
event tonight, I'm not going toget some work done for my
podcast, and that is also veryimportant to me and that is what
I need to start doing more of,and I will be doing it more of.
(10:47):
Why?
Because step number fiveseeking accountability from
others and I know this is kindof questionable in a way because
we want to be able to, like,determine for ourselves hey, I'm
doing the things that I'msupposed to be doing, but that
doesn't mean that we have to doit alone.
You can have friends and youcan have family that help you
along the way by doing thingsthat will help you stay on track
(11:11):
, like, for example, with me.
Ellen is one of my closestfriends and when it comes to the
podcast, she'll ask me orshe'll text me or she'll call me
.
She has all these differentways to reach out to me, right,
and she'll be like, hey, when'sthe new episode?
Or are you excited about thenew episode?
Or hey, I've heard the newepisode and I loved it.
(11:32):
So that helps me stay groundedand it also helps keep me
motivated to keep doing morestuff.
But, for example, when it comesto filmmaking, I have my friends
Rebecca and Lily, and theyliterally will sometimes offer
their help because I justprocrastinate a lot when it
comes to filmmaking.
And they'll be like hey, do youneed help with the script, do
(11:54):
you need help with thestoryboard, do you need help
with this?
And just having that type ofsupport is so important, because
sometimes I don't know aboutyou, my dear passenger, but
sometimes I want to give up.
It's just human nature.
Sometimes it feels veryoverwhelming and feels very
unachievable, but really what'shappening is that when I have
(12:17):
these friends check up on me andkind of push me forward, it
allows me to give myself graceand also give myself that
motivation and thatdetermination to keep moving,
because it's like it's not justme that is watching.
I have my friends and my familyright behind me pushing me
forward, telling me hey, keepgoing.
(12:38):
No, no, don't even take a stepback, girl.
Don't even Just keep going,keep moving.
You got this Well, my dearpassenger, the time has come for
the last stop of the day.
That is recap time.
Today's episodes discussself-discipline, which is the
regulation of oneself for thesake of improvement.
We now know that, in order toboost your self-discipline, you
(13:00):
need to recognize and understandyour strengths and your
weaknesses.
Why?
Because, once you do, you'reable to set clear and realistic
expectations that will allow youto develop a structured routine
that will then hopefully helpyou avoid temptations.
And hey, if that doesn't work,having the accountability from
(13:23):
your friends and family canalways help you stay on track.
Remember, self-growth is anendless journey towards
self-improvement.
However, you don't ever have todo it alone.
As your tour guide, my goal isto guide you with the best
intentions and the best researchavailable.
Make sure to follow me onInstagram, facebook and TikTok
at the Self-Growth Train Podcast, and to also follow my new
(13:43):
website,theselfgrowthtrainpodcast.
com.
As always, all the resourcesused today have been added to
the episode's description.
Well, until the next stop, dearpassengers, safe travels.
Bye!
Hello , my dear passengers, and
welcome aboard the Self-GrowthTrain, a podcast that combines
personal stories, opinions andresearch in order to better
guide you through yourself-growth journey.
My name is Frances Marie RiveraPacheco and I am your tour guide
.
First, I want to say thank youfor tuning back in into the
(00:28):
podcast.
I am so excited.
It's been a month since therelaunch and you guys have been
so supportive and just presentand so nice and I just I really,
really, really appreciate allthe kind words that I've
received over the last couple ofweeks and also guys.
I'm just so excited because Ifeel it in my bones that there's
(00:49):
so many more cool things comingmy way and I'm just so ready
for the blessings and sograteful for them and I just
can't wait until you guys seeeverything that is coming.
Well, my dear passengers, thetime has come for you to buckle
up your seatbelts as we headinto the first stop of the day.
That is the topic of the day,and today's topic is
self-discipline.
(01:09):
Self-discipline is defined bythe Merriam-Webster dictionary
as the regulation or correctionof oneself for the sake of
improvement.
Now, I don't know about you, mydear passenger, but let me tell
you I have struggled withself-discipline every single day
of my life.
Why?
Because it means that you haveto constantly be correcting
yourself.
And who wants to do that?
Actually?
(01:30):
Who has time to do that?
Nobody.
And yet we all have to do it.
But is there a way that it canbe easier on us?
Absolutely, and that is exactlywhat this episode is going to
be covering today.
For today's episode, I will beusing three articles that I
found online to be super helpfulwhen it came to developing my
self-discipline.
The first article is by Forbes,and it's titled 8 Powerful Ways
(01:53):
to Cultivate ExtremeSelf-Discipline.
The second article is from Calm.
com, and it's called How toBecome More Disciplined.
And the last article is fromScore, and this one is titled 7
Simple Ways to Develop DailyDiscipline Success.
As a reminder, I don't coverall three articles through and
through, but I do put them onthe episode's description, so
(02:13):
that way, if you want to go andread them, you have the
opportunity to go ahead andcheck them out.
For the podcast episode, thething that I usually do is that
I read the articles and Isummarize them and combine them
in a way that makes it easierfor you and I to focus on the
topic of the day.
Let's get down to the first step.
The first step is actuallyquite easy, in a way.
I mean, it depends on how wellyou know yourself.
(02:35):
But the first step isdetermining what are your
strengths and what are yourweaknesses.
Now, my dear passenger, for me,I can tell you my biggest
strength and I can tell you mybiggest weakness.
My biggest strength is that Iam a very determined individual.
When I set my mind on a goal, Iput my everything I'm talking
my time, my resources, my energy, my focus, everything.
(02:57):
Why?
Because once I set my eyes on agoal, I want it and I'm going
to do everything to get it.
Now, what is my biggestweakness?
I leave everything for the end.
Yes, that is right, I am a hugeprocrastinator and even with
this podcast episode, thisspecific one, I waited until the
(03:20):
end to do it, even though Icould have done it weeks ago.
But you know what?
This is the good thing aboutdoing a podcast episode where
I'm able to not only createcontent for you to feel related
to, but also create content formyself, to inspire myself to do
better, because, at the end ofthe day, that is the purpose of
(03:42):
this podcast.
Like, I want to help myself andI want to help you guys become
better individuals.
The second step is also easy-ish.
It depends.
It depends on how you are, butit's to set clear, achievable
goals.
Okay, let me repeat thatbecause this is very important
Set clear and achievable goals.
(04:07):
Now, why did I have to repeatthat?
Because I don't know about you,my dear passenger, but I have
the tendency of setting goalsthat are ridiculous, not because
I could never reach them, butsometimes I expect my goals to
happen within a very small timeframe, or I don't know, like I
(04:27):
think that I am a superwoman andI'm going to be able to
accomplish every single thing,and it's like that's not
realistic.
I think that right now, ourfocus should be on becoming more
realistic with ourselves, whichis why it was important to know
our strengths and ourweaknesses, because by knowing
our strengths and our weaknesses, we're better able to
understand what we canrealistically achieve right.
(04:49):
So for me, for example, some ofthe goals that I have is I want
to write daily, I want toexercise daily, I want to
meditate daily, I want to workdaily and I also want to work on
my creative projects daily.
Is this realistic?
Absolutely not.
I think that, of all the thingsthat I just mentioned, there's
(05:13):
two things that I can dorealistically every single day,
and that is meditate and write.
Those two.
I'm pretty sure I can do themevery single day, but when it
comes to exercise, it's not likein the summer.
In the summer, I had all thisfree time and I could go to the
gym every single day.
Now I don't have that happening.
So it's kind of hard to adjustmyself to this new reality in
(05:37):
terms of, like, wow, thingschange, but it doesn't mean that
just because it changed, Ican't make it work for me.
I just have to fix those goalsto make them achievable.
So now it's not going to looklike I go to the gym every
single day.
Now it just looks like I dosomething active every single
day, and it might be walking, itmight be swimming which, as you
(05:59):
can tell, I'm wearing myswimsuit and I'm going to be
swimming soon or it might besomething as easy as jumping
rope, which, by the way,apparently jumping rope is like
super fun and also helps with,like, building your muscles.
So give it a shot.
I haven't tried it yet, but Iam going to.
(06:20):
The third step is to develop astructured routine.
Now.
If you listened to last week'sepisode, you should have this
down already.
If you haven't listened to lastweek's episode, this is my time
to invite you to go ahead andlisten to last week's episode,
just because it goes a littlebit more in depth than what I'm
going to be doing right now Butessentially, when you develop a
structured routine, you want tolook at what your current
routine looks like and in whatareas you're able to adapt or
(06:45):
change in order to accommodate,being able to seek those
achievable goals that you havenow set for yourself.
So, for example again I'm usingmyself.
I wake up every day around 5.30am, and it used to be that
during the summer, that time Iwould go to the gym and then I
(07:08):
would come back and I wouldmeditate and I would write.
Now, however, because I have tobe at work before 7 am, it
doesn't look the same way.
So I'm not able to wake up at5.30, go to the gym and do all
of these things.
Now.
For me, in a structured routine, it looks like waking up,
getting ready for work, going towork and then, once I get back
(07:30):
from work, taking that time togo to the gym or do something
active and writing andmeditating or whatever else I
want to do.
But you see how your reality isgoing to keep shifting as the
time goes by.
But if you keep realistic goals, you will be able to adapt your
(07:50):
routines to accommodate forthem.
Step four, my absolute favoriteand the one that I do the worst
in avoiding temptation.
Oh my gosh, like I mentioned inone of the other episodes, when
it comes to FOMO and YOLO, Ihave it.
I'm constantly have this fearof missing out and I also have
(08:14):
this mentality of you only liveonce.
So I want to do everything andanything and all that once, just
like that movie, you know, andI just I love it.
I love the fact that I'm sospontaneous and that I'm able to
shift my mind from one thing tothe other.
But, realistically speakingright going back to
(08:35):
realistically speaking I do needto start avoiding my
temptations, and it's because, alot of times, what I don't
realize is that when I amendorsing those temptations, I'm
taking away time from focusingon the things that I really need
to focus on.
So, for example, again like Imentioned earlier, this podcast
(08:56):
episode, I left for the end.
Up to this point, I hadpre-recorded my episodes like
weeks ahead of time, and nowit's like I'm doing this the day
before and I know it's stillgoing to be a good podcast
episode.
But the reality is, if I hadavoided temptation temptation
and if I had stuck to myschedule, then none of this
(09:18):
would have happened and I couldstill endorse my desire to spend
time with people and do funthings and cool things around
town that I don't normally getto do or maybe I do normally get
to do, but I want to do more of.
So I think it's important for usto sit down and really analyze
what is tempting for me, likewhat is it that I cannot say no
(09:42):
to?
I mean, you can, but youstruggle to say no to.
What is it that gives you a lotof instant gratification and
might take you away from workingon these goals that you also
want to achieve?
But they might take a littlebit longer, and once you're able
to have that list of things,you're better prepared to say no
(10:05):
to them.
Now I'm not saying that you'regoing to be able to say no to
them all the time and that it'sgoing to be perfect.
Because, again, look at thisepisode as a beautiful example
of how I let temptation get me,but there will be times where
you'll be able to kind ofrecenter yourself and say no,
(10:26):
you know what?
I do want to go to that dragshow and I do want to spend time
with my friends, but I knowdeep down that if I go to this
event tonight, I'm not going toget some work done for my
podcast, and that is also veryimportant to me and that is what
I need to start doing more of,and I will be doing it more of.
(10:47):
Why?
Because step number fiveseeking accountability from
others and I know this is kindof questionable in a way because
we want to be able to, like,determine for ourselves hey, I'm
doing the things that I'msupposed to be doing, but that
doesn't mean that we have to doit alone.
You can have friends and youcan have family that help you
along the way by doing thingsthat will help you stay on track
(11:11):
, like, for example, with me.
Ellen is one of my closestfriends and when it comes to the
podcast, she'll ask me orshe'll text me or she'll call me
.
She has all these differentways to reach out to me, right,
and she'll be like, hey, when'sthe new episode?
Or are you excited about thenew episode?
Or hey, I've heard the newepisode and I loved it.
(11:32):
So that helps me stay groundedand it also helps keep me
motivated to keep doing morestuff.
But, for example, when it comesto filmmaking, I have my friends
Rebecca and Lily, and theyliterally will sometimes offer
their help because I justprocrastinate a lot when it
comes to filmmaking.
And they'll be like hey, do youneed help with the script, do
(11:54):
you need help with thestoryboard, do you need help
with this?
And just having that type ofsupport is so important, because
sometimes I don't know aboutyou, my dear passenger, but
sometimes I want to give up.
It's just human nature.
Sometimes it feels veryoverwhelming and feels very
unachievable, but really what'shappening is that when I have
(12:17):
these friends check up on me andkind of push me forward, it
allows me to give myself graceand also give myself that
motivation and thatdetermination to keep moving,
because it's like it's not justme that is watching.
I have my friends and my familyright behind me pushing me
forward, telling me hey, keepgoing.
(12:38):
No, no, don't even take a stepback, girl.
Don't even Just keep going,keep moving.
You got this Well, my dearpassenger, the time has come for
the last stop of the day.
That is recap time.
Today's episodes discussself-discipline, which is the
regulation of oneself for thesake of improvement.
We now know that, in order toboost your self-discipline, you
(13:00):
need to recognize and understandyour strengths and your
weaknesses.
Why?
Because, once you do, you'reable to set clear and realistic
expectations that will allow youto develop a structured routine
that will then hopefully helpyou avoid temptations.
And hey, if that doesn't work,having the accountability from
(13:23):
your friends and family canalways help you stay on track.
Remember, self-growth is anendless journey towards
self-improvement.
However, you don't ever have todo it alone.
As your tour guide, my goal isto guide you with the best
intentions and the best researchavailable.
Make sure to follow me onInstagram, facebook and TikTok
at the Self-Growth Train Podcast, and to also follow my new
(13:43):
website,theselfgrowthtrainpodcast.
com.
As always, all the resourcesused today have been added to
the episode's description.
Well, until the next stop, dearpassengers, safe travels.
Bye!
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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!
Dateline NBC
Current and classic episodes, featuring compelling true-crime mysteries, powerful documentaries and in-depth investigations. Follow now to get the latest episodes of Dateline NBC completely free, or subscribe to Dateline Premium for ad-free listening and exclusive bonus content: DatelinePremium.com
Cold Case Files: Miami
Joyce Sapp, 76; Bryan Herrera, 16; and Laurance Webb, 32—three Miami residents whose lives were stolen in brutal, unsolved homicides. Cold Case Files: Miami follows award‑winning radio host and City of Miami Police reserve officer Enrique Santos as he partners with the department’s Cold Case Homicide Unit, determined family members, and the advocates who spend their lives fighting for justice for the victims who can no longer fight for themselves.