June 15, 2024 • 60 mins
Is it possible to truly live rather than just exist? This episode of The S.H.I.T.T.S Podcast , hosted by Monsoon Staraw and B Karrington, unpacks the daily grind and the quest for purpose. We break down the balancing act between quitting unfulfilling jobs and the responsibilities that tether us, especially when kids are in the equation. Hear us get raw about how others perceive us versus how we actually feel, the struggle to pursue passions while paying the bills, and how mental and physical states affect intimacy.
Can intimacy survive when you're broke, hungry, or even homeless? We don't shy away from the gritty questions and candidly share our experiences about how financial stability—or the lack thereof—can impact one's desire for connection. Through laughter and serious reflection, we dig into the role of self-control and how different circumstances can shape your sexual behavior. We also spotlight the unique dynamics in lesbian relationships and discuss how women, more often than not, understand each other's desires better, diving into the roles of masculine and feminine energies.
Finally, why do modern relationships often fall apart, and how can we build them better? We challenge traditional gender roles, advocating for equitable partnerships and a fair division of labor within households. Our conversation touches on the importance of trust, honest communication, and the pitfalls of overly emotional reactions in today’s society. To wrap things up, we share an exciting announcement about our upcoming collaboration with Deka Dearse, Marc Gee, ILL Gordon, Vell Da General, and Andreas Haley. This episode is a blend of humor, insight, and real talk that you won't want to miss!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, hey, hey, hey, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,yeah.
We are now back at the ShizPodcast, as the words say.
We're just shooting shit, justtalking to each other and shit.
We're either shooting the shit,starting some shit, or picking
up what you left off.
(00:21):
I'm your boy, I'm your host.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Marsha Wintour, the coolest cat you heard, that's
fire and this, your girl bkaren's, and the lady that comes
to y'all with all the tea andother bullshit b is back, b is
back, b is back, yeah, yeah,y'all not tuned in to this
podcast, y'all, hey.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
So look, you know people.
You know people be asking methey be like man, what's your
podcast about?
Nigga everything.
It's like nigga everythingunder the sun.
So today man, me and B I'msorry, b and I have been sitting
here just talking about lifeand so much shit that we
shooting the shit tonight forreal, for real shooting the shit
(01:04):
.
So how you been.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Man, I been good, you know, just shit Living.
I guess you know what I'msaying.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Don't say I guess no, you living.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
I'm existing.
Oh no, you living.
No, I'm existing, you living,I'm existing living, I'm
existing.
Speaker 4 (01:25):
What's the?
Speaker 2 (01:25):
difference because I haven't really found my purpose
yet.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
Until I find my purpose, until I figure it out,
I feel like I'm just existingreally yeah, I don't feel like
I'm actually living yet you knowthe funny thing about that
somebody else may see you and beinspired and feel like they
disagree with you.
They may feel like you livinglike a motherfucker.
You know, I'm saying why yousitting there figuring like, why
(01:52):
you sitting there figuring thatyou still just trying to figure
shit out.
Somebody may be looking at youand feel like, damn, she got it
all figured out.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
You know possibly that could be, but I, I try to
say I, I just I'll be honestwith people like I haven't found
my purpose.
Um, I I tell anybody like it'shard to sometimes.
I ain't gonna lie when I'm atwork.
I think I had just said thislike I'd be wanting to just be
like, hey man, fuck this, I quit.
(02:24):
You know what I'm saying.
But it's the same time likedamn, if I quit, you know I got
a child.
So I'm like I ain't gonna lie,if I didn't have a child I would
quit.
I don't mind struggling, youknow what I'm saying, but I just
can't have my child strugglingthat makes sense, that yeah.
I don't mind struggling, I quit.
I go get me a job at the FamilyDollar and then go full-fledged
(02:48):
content creating.
Speaker 3 (02:50):
You know what I'm saying Full-fledged stealing, no
Full-fledged content creating.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
You get what I'm saying.
My life will be built aroundthat and building that you know.
Yeah, but I can't do that,because if I do that then my
child gonna be right, who'sgonna take?
Yeah, sheen say I wanted a mom.
That's gonna be a contentcreation to figure that out
before you gave birth.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
Yeah, you don't say you got pregnant, you know that
made me think about this book Iread and it's it's called um.
I don't even know who wrotethat, but the name of it was do
it, do what you love and themoney will follow.
So so it sounds simple as fuck,right?
Right.
But I don't really think it is,but then sometimes I do think
(03:33):
it is.
It's like if you focus on damn,like you can focus on the shit
that you love, but realistically, like you still got to pay
bills.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
And you still need a place to stay.
You see what I'm saying.
So I mean, unless you just lovefucking, the money can't follow
.
You know what I'm saying.
I mean it can't follow.
I mean, cause shitmotherfuckers been selling sex
for eons, that shit.
They never went out of business.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Being a hoe gonna forever go Shit.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
It never.
Yeah, nah, being a hoe.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Prices just went up, yeah, it went up but being you
gonna forever find have that'sone profession that'll never go
nowhere being a hoe, Like youknow what I'm saying.
You think AI can fuck with that.
Man nine ain't nothing less thana nigga sitting at home just
jacking off.
You know what I'm saying.
Like I don't know too many mento get off this subject we was
talking about.
(04:32):
But just let me just say this Idon't know too many men that
want to just sit there in frontof a you know phone or a TV and
just sit up there and jack off,like I think that they would
want to touch a booty cheek orsomething.
Speaker 5 (04:48):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Yeah like they would want something Like after a
while, this shit get boring.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
But wait, but if that's the case, but if that's
the case, any sex can get boring.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Yeah, I mean any sex, I think well, well, and it's
all mental.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
I mean all right.
Well, some people may disagree.
That's what I, that's what Ithink.
I think it's sex is 85 mental,15 physical.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
You said no I think, so I'm gonna say 85 mental but I
do think it's a 50 50.
You know I'm saying because Idon't, I don't know, I think I
feel like physical, you have tobe attracted to them right
mentally.
You just got to be in a rightstate of mind at the time.
(05:45):
You know I'm saying if somebodygoing through something
mentally or they depressed orsomething, no, I don't feel like
fucking you, get away from meyou know I'm saying um if I'm
broke, I don't want to fuck likewhat me fucking you gonna make
me get.
I don't have five dollars Idon't have five dollars in my
pocket.
I don't want to bust no nut.
I want to bust somebody overthe head like what is you
talking about?
(06:05):
You know, I'm saying like Idon't want to do nothing like
don't touch me you know, I meanthat's how I am.
I just never understood howpeople could be broke and broke
like I've seen people who arehomeless and they, you know I'm
saying they'll be living withsomebody and they fucking on
there in their living room likeit.
I just never understood that,like I'd be like man, I can't do
(06:25):
it right.
Like bruh, we are in somebody'sliving room on a urbex, we not
on vacation right this is our.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
This is where we staying right now right and you
want to fuck man if you don'tget the fuck up see, okay,
because, yeah, because yeah Iguess I don't know if that's
fucked up or not, because Idisagree with that.
I feel like I could definitelyfuck if I was broke.
Really, yes, I could definitelyfuck if I was broke.
(06:58):
Like that wouldn't.
I mean, like I said, I don'tknow if that's a bad thing, but
I feel like that wouldn't botherme to feel like, no, I don't.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
So after you bust the nut right, Then your reality
kick back in.
My reality can kick in whileI'm fucking.
That's crazy.
Your dick going to get soft.
No.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
It's all about that mental.
You just said, if I think I canbe thinking about the reality,
that's what I said and I mean,if I'm in it, you know what I'm
saying I mean I don't, I'm not,it wouldn't really, it wouldn't
really bother.
That's why I think it may soundfucked up to people, but it
wouldn't really bother me likethat.
Like if I was sick, you knowwhat I'm saying.
(07:42):
If I was sick I think it's thisone If I was sick, then I would
say yeah, I wouldn't feel likeit.
Depressed Maybe, yeah,depressed Probably not.
(08:04):
If I'm depressed, probably not.
But broke cause I found out Iwas worth this money.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
I thought I busted how, like before you that's
probably gonna get me the moneyno, it's not.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
It's not.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
You just took your 30 minutes 30 you about to have me
busting myself out?
Speaker 2 (08:28):
You took 30 minutes to do that.
You took 30 minutes to do thatand nah, I'm sorry, it's just
like when girls, when peopleused to fuck on an empty stomach
Like I, just feel like Hold onyou can't fuck on an empty
stomach.
Like nah, that's what.
Nah, that's what I say when youbroke.
Like if you're broke.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Can't fuck hungry or broke.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
No, I'm hungry, I'm poor, I have nothing Like.
What part of that is sexy?
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Alright, I mean.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
When I finish fucking you.
I'm going to be sitting on theedge of the airbed talking about
some what we're going to eattonight.
Right.
Man, what we going to do, man?
What we going to do, man, wegot to figure out a way.
Man call somebody, man, can youborrow us, oh, and then you're
(09:33):
have you're, you have arelationship and you don't have
no money on well, that's a wholesee, but that's a whole nother
story.
Reason why I'm saying that isbecause when y'all fucking, it's
two of y'all.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
But that ain't always a relationship.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
I'm just saying, well , okay, let's say it is a
relationship.
Okay.
Y'all are together and y'allare screwing, y'all fucking and
nobody got no money on.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Well, we're going to answer that when we come back.
Hey, yo, we're going to take abreak real quick.
Shout out to all themotherfuckers out there man,
that's a fucking and ain'thungry and broke, and you know,
after they fuck they still behungry and broke and and and
drained.
Damn, it's just podcast, it'sthe shit, hey everybody.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
It's comedian Stephanie Robertson with the
shits.
Come check it out.
You can follow me on Instagramat Stephanie underscore
underscore Robertson.
I will see you there.
Make sure to follow.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
We are now back at the shitspodcast.
We are the shoot the shit,start the shit or pick no shit
left off, and we had asked thequestion earlier Could you fuck
if you was broke?
Or could you fuck if you washungry?
Could you fuck if you washomeless?
Could you fuck if you was noteven thirsty?
(10:52):
Because, I don't know, thepeople definition of thirsty is
different.
But could you fuck if youdidn't have anything?
If you didn't have a pot topiss in?
Could you fuck?
B said no.
I'm saying yes, not if I washomeless, though, Like I said,
if I was homeless, then I'm notgoing to be thinking about
fucking.
If I'm broke, I woulddefinitely fuck.
(11:14):
Okay, see, your definition ofbroke and my definition is two
different things.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Well, your definition of broke is you done paid all
your bills, so you know you gotno money.
Well, your definition of brokeis you done paid all your bills,
so you know you got no money.
That's not my definition ofbroke, that's you.
You just was responsible.
You know what I'm saying, right?
My definition of broke is youhave nothing.
You know what I'm saying?
You have absolutely nothing,right.
(11:38):
So it's like what makes youwant to date what?
What makes you want to date?
What makes you want to?
Have sex.
What make you say?
oh, I'm horny, I'm horny.
No, you're not.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Well, you could be.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Go do some resumes.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
That's going to get you horny doing resumes and shit
, but you could be horny and itdon't have to be because of the
person that you with youprobably thought of some shit
and got horny.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
You could be horny and they don't have to be
because of the person that youwith you.
Just you probably thought ofsome shit and got horny.
If I have nothing, I'm notthinking about anything, but
having something that makessense that makes sense.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
I feel you on that.
I feel you on that.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
That's a good ass point like okay, like I could
care less.
Right, you know that.
But that's always been me,though.
I've always said that I've hadenough pussy to last me a
lifetime.
You know, I'm saying like it's,I don't care, you know, if I,
if I, because I did used to messwith women too you know, I'm
(12:42):
saying so in my eyes I used tofeel like why niggas don't think
like me?
you know I'm saying I be feelinglike I didn't have no cat to
last me a lifetime.
So really, though, yeah, I justfeel that way.
You know, I'm saying like itdoesn't matter to me.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
I don't know, I don't know like, I don't know like,
like, I just Self-control.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
Y'all niggas have no self-control.
I don't even think.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
But I don't even think it's about not having
self-control.
I just think it's about theperson.
I just think it's about theperson you, I don't know, I
guess.
I guess that would make methink about connections with
people, because that's the shitthat would make me want to fuck
A connection.
A connection.
You know what I'm saying.
Like you know what I'm saying,you may connect on a.
(13:32):
It's going to sound like a damnlove story shit.
But you may connect on a deeperlevel and be like man shit you
want to fuck or thismotherfucker just say or they
just just their personality issexy, you know what I'm saying.
Or they do shit, that's justsexy.
You be like oh yeah, I want tofuck.
You know what I'm saying.
(13:53):
So like.
That's why I don't know if Icould really understand that
whole.
I've had enough pussy to lastme a lifetime Because you be in
different states, you be in adifferent state of mind than you
was last month or the monthbefore.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
I didn't have the skinny coochie, I didn't have
the BBW coochie.
Speaker 4 (14:11):
I'm a BBW.
We love the BBWs.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
I didn't have the really, really short coochie,
you know what I'm saying.
Like the 411 coochie you know,what I mean, the what?
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Hy, the, what Hype?
Oh, I was about to say becauseI knew the 2-11 drink.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
Nah, you know what I'm saying.
You know the yeah like peelpopper pussy.
You know what I'm saying.
I didn't have that, so I justfeel like.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
What's the difference ?
Speaker 2 (14:37):
It's nothing.
That's why I didn't.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
It's the same thing.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
To me, like I don't know, it has to be it's always
the person I be wanna know fromme, like why y'all niggas have
no self-control, like what no?
Speaker 5 (14:51):
we got self-control.
No y'all, don't niggas, don'thave.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
No y'all don't no, y'all don't niggas, don't have
self-control yes, they well man.
Niggas don't have self-control.
That's why niggas get caught upall the time.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
Niggas get caught up because they don't care.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
Niggas get caught up because there's no self-control.
They see a fat ass and thenthey don't care.
That's no self-control.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
It's the difference between having no self-control
and not caring you.
Not having self-control is yousaying I just can't help myself,
oh my God.
No, having self-control is yousaying I just can't help myself?
Oh my God, oh man, no, no, thisis a motherfucker saying hey
bro, I don't give a fuck.
Like for real, like okay, it'snot like, or how can y'all put
(15:40):
it.
This may be something that Ifeel like I'll take that chance
on real shit.
Just just telling you from adude's point of view.
They may feel like I'm gonnatake my chance on this shit, but
it just ain't dudes that dothat shit it's.
You just can't say it's a manthing Because it's a both sexes
(16:04):
thing.
And even now like when youthink about, because times have
changed, so you do have womenthat fuck with women, and it'd
be crazy because they'd be doingthe same shit that niggas do.
You know what I'm saying?
No, we don't.
Nah, they still fuck around on,they chick.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
No, we don't.
I'ma tell you something, theonly reason why we would cheat.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
On your girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (16:23):
Yeah, the only reason why I'm not a cheater I told
you before that I'm a violent.
I used to be a violent person.
Cheating wasn't my thing, but Iused to look at people who did
cheat and their whole thing.
It wasn't for the sexualgratification, it was because
their girlfriend at home was abitch you know what I'm saying.
(16:45):
So they was going to talk tosomebody else, you know, and
they just so happened to.
It started off as aconversation on the phone and
then it went further than that.
Exactly you know.
So it wasn't the gratification.
Then you got to think about ittoo.
It's the same way with womentoo.
(17:07):
In our line of business lesbianbusiness.
You know, when I was missing inour line of business, you got a
lot of women out here.
That's tricks.
So you got a lot of women outhere, that you can have a
conversation with them, becausewe know what women want, right,
so we'll run their pockets.
So it's a dip.
You know, I'm saying we gotit's.
(17:27):
It's, it's kind of we, we knowwhat they want, we know what
they want to hear, we know howthey want to hear you know what
they want.
We know how they want to betreated we know everything to
say and then next thing, youknow it's like shit, all right,
well you got what you want yeah,you get what y'all worse than
us, I mean pretty, pretty much.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
so this is what I'm getting from what you're saying.
Y'all just figure out.
First of all, you, being awoman, like you said, you know
what a woman want and you know awoman want to be heard.
Yeah, a woman want to belistened to.
A woman want to feel like sheexists.
A woman want to feel likesomebody knows that she's there.
But the crazy shit about thatdudes want the same shit.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Nah, because y'all niggas some of y'all niggas
ain't got no game.
You know, I'm saying I didn'thurt, I didn't see niggas talk
to women and it's like damn dog,you ain't got no game like you.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
You don't know how to talk to her and I and that
ain't even game.
But I'm saying that's not evengame.
What I'm saying to you is thatniggas want the same shit and I
think that and this is thatdudes want to feel like
motherfucker I exist too oh well, yeah, we want, they want.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
But what I'm saying is is that it's like, yeah,
y'all want to be heard and shitlike that look at the way you
say it like you like you don'teven believe this shit.
Speaker 4 (18:54):
you're like, yeah, yeah, nigga, y'all want to be
heard, like you don't evenbelieve it yourself.
I mean, y'all want to be heard.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
However, when we it's like y'all want to be alpha
males too, which I wish, thereis no such thing.
That's another topic, Okay,okay, I'll let you.
You have to go.
It was a white man that came upwith the term and it was due to
(19:21):
.
He came up with the term afterevaluating animals.
Okay.
You know, in a jungle.
Right.
So it's like being an alpha,it's like you're an animal, you
alpha, it's like you're ananimal.
You know, I'm saying so thatthe alpha male as an animal.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
Okay, you know he exuded, you know this dominance
and this stuff.
So that's where that came fromso does it apply to alpha
females as well?
Speaker 2 (19:43):
no, I, I don't believe in it.
I don't.
That's not, that's not a realthing to me.
Okay, I just feel likeeverybody has masculine and
everybody has feminine energy inthem.
I agree with you on that, youknow what I mean, and a lot of
women black women per se have tobe more masculine Not all of
them, but some of them have tobe more masculine, because a lot
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of black men were taken awaydue to incarceration.
You know what I'm saying.
So if you raising kids, youcan't just be the South feminine
.
You got to be the man that wassupposed to be in that household
.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
Even if the man is there, well, no, no, not if he's
there, and then let's clarifyOkay, okay, we going to take a
break.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Real quick.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
Ayo, shout out to all the dudes out there that's
controlling shit and gettingthat pussy.
It's just why I catch y'allit's the Shits Podcast.
Y'all it's the.
Speaker 4 (20:38):
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What up y'all?
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Speaker 1 (20:59):
We are now back at the Shit's Podcast and we and
this motherfucker just talkingabout tricks, alpha males, alpha
females, not fucking when youbroke.
There's all types of shit, andnow B gonna explain to us why
she don't believe in the wholeconcept of alpha males and alpha
(21:20):
females.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
Okay.
So before we went to break, yousaid you asked, you know, even
if it's a man in the house.
Let me say this because I heara lot of men say this they don't
have a father in the home, orif a father in the home or if a
father was in the home.
Understand that some men just abody, baby, they just holding
up space.
Speaker 5 (21:42):
They don't educate.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
They don't discipline , they don't do nothing, they
don't hold jobs, they're just abody to say that they're there.
Okay, when we talk about a manin the house, we talking about a
man in the house.
We talking about a man in thehouse like, hey, I paid.
It ain't even about paying, no,just no bills.
But I, I have a career, I havea.
You know, I'm in heredisciplining my kids I have a
(22:06):
presence, like I'm going togames.
I'm doing you know doing whatfathers do?
I'm not just seeing you go outto work every day, sitting at
home right drinking doingabsolutely nothing right, just
to say daddy was, daddy was thatmy mom and daddy was.
You know, I was raising atwo-parent household.
He's actually raising aone-parent household, a single
(22:27):
parent damn because your daddywasn't shit.
He was there, but he wasn'tshit, right?
So that's what I'm saying a lotof women have to be masculine
in order to, you know, getthrough this world.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
Black women per se yeah take, take some yeah, I
feel you on that.
I feel, and I think the problemcomes in when women don't
understand, when women can'trecognize what they have, when
women don't understand, whenwomen can't recognize what they
have, when women think that whenwomen mistake the man, that's
actually doing something forjust a body you know what I'm
(23:03):
saying or they mistake the dude,that's just a body for a
motherfucker that's actuallydoing something.
And then I think that all fallson the whole concept of respect
how you respect that man butthen also how that man respects
that woman.
Because I think that's what wekind of, that's what our society
is kind of fucked up with rightnow is like the roles what role
do you play, what role do Iplay and do we respect each
(23:26):
other's role?
You know what I'm saying and Ithink a lot of times that's what
you end up having, that youknow, that's what you end up
having that woman don't respectthat man's role, that man don't
respect that woman's role.
And now you got a lot ofarguing Toxicity, if I said that
word correctly In the household.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Okay, so have you ever heard of this thing a
single married woman.
Have you ever heard of that?
Speaker 1 (23:50):
No, not to just know.
Explain elaborate.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
Okay, a single married woman is a woman who is
actually married.
However, she works a full-timejob.
She gets off work, she cooks.
Okay, yeah, she gets off work,she cleans.
Okay.
Okay, or she cleans on a weekendor whatever.
Once she got work, she has totake care of the kids.
They got gotta get bathed.
(24:16):
They gotta have a homework done, so she have one homework.
When a man come home, all hedoing is eating and taking a
shower so everything else isdone.
So technically she is a singlemarried woman, because that man
don't help with nothing and hedoes pay his portion of the
bills.
Right, because she paying halfof the bills.
(24:36):
Get the fuck out of here shepaying half of the bills, but he
paying his portion, she payingher half.
But guess what?
She get off work at 5 o'clock.
She got to pick the kids upfrom the daycare or wherever she
got to pick them up from.
She got to go home feed thekids.
She got to go home and playwith the kids or help them with
(24:57):
their work.
Speaker 1 (24:57):
You know what I mean.
Or take them to basketballgames.
Or take them to basketballgames, or take them to
cheerleading.
Speaker 2 (25:01):
Yeah, okay, that's all she got to do Right after
she get off her eight-hour shift.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
Or pick them up from basketball, or pick them up from
cheerleading Okay, after hereight-hour shift at, she don't
get to go or her 10 hour or 10hour.
Yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (25:13):
And she get home.
She, you know, after she do allthat, she ain't got no time for
herself.
The man come home, he got a hotmeal, he get to sit on the
couch, take a shower for aminute.
Speaker 5 (25:26):
The kid sleep Because they say he get off later.
The kid sleep.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
So he ain't got nothing to do.
Kiss him on the cheek and guesswhat?
What is he doing?
Wow, but oh, maybe take the.
He probably got to take thegarbage out, but what has he
done?
So could that apply to men too?
that can so it can be a singlefather single single married
father yeah, wow, single marriedman I've never heard that
(25:54):
before, until you just said thatyeah, because it's.
It would never be if y'all havekids and the woman or the man
works and y'all have to splitbills and most of the work is on
either or parent yeah thatnever will be.
You know what you say split orwhatever, it would never.
(26:17):
You know what I'm saying?
It would never be Equal.
Equal.
That y'all don't share the load.
Y'all ain't sharing the load.
Speaker 1 (26:28):
Damn.
I mean, I never heard that termbefore, so you know what's
crazy is that damn.
Wow, wow.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
Yeah, you just blew my mind with that one b straight
up yeah, y'all don't share theload, and that's the.
That's the thing.
Like people talk about rolesand they talk about old,
traditional, they have tounderstand that back in the day,
most of our grandparentgrandmamas was not working right
so they had time.
They had time to cook breakfast,they had time to clean up, they
had time for they sell, theyhad time to get the kids ready,
(27:01):
take them a bath, do all thatand they still was happy because
guess what they were?
They didn't have to go clock inthey didn't have to play, pay,
uh, pay half of the bills.
That's why they was able to rubtheir feet, fuck him when he
want to.
Uh, uh, do you know?
Speaker 1 (27:15):
do whatever you know he needed because guess what
they like they weren't workingeight hours plus taking care of
the kids and so if you got amotherfucker that's waking up
early in the morning to take akid to school and then coming
back and taking another kid toschool, then getting himself
(27:37):
ready for work, and then goingto work and working for 10 hours
and then coming back andgetting up and doing the same
motherfucking thing, damn that'sa lot thank you and then on the
motherfuckers off day he isgoing to.
He's dropping motherfuckers offat basketball practice.
He's dropping motherfuckers offday he is going to.
He's dropping motherfuckers offat basketball practice.
(27:57):
He's dropping motherfuckers offat basketball games.
He's dropping motherfuckers offat cheerleading.
He's taking motherfuckers todoctors and dentist appointments
damn feeding them helping withhomework being a counselor?
Speaker 5 (28:11):
nobody ain't nobody and guess what.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
You in the same household with somebody else.
What the fuck are you doingbesides holy shit?
And you know what a person willtell you.
Speaker 5 (28:26):
You know what a person will tell you.
Speaker 2 (28:27):
I pay.
I pay my portion of the bills.
Well, you know what I go.
Give me, look, I'll take careof the kids myself and go get a
little side hustle and you canmove bitch.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
Wow, wow.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
That is fucking nuts I'm going to buy myself anyway.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
You are fucking phenomenal, you are.
I'm so fucking glad that itcame from a woman.
I'm glad that just came from awoman's mouth.
Speaker 2 (28:51):
Yeah, I mean, it's true, I see people, men and
women I see them go through thisall the time, you know.
I mean I see men go through thisand I see women go through this
and I'll be like you're marriedbut you're single wow damn
anytime, I anytime like you,seeing yourself not even getting
a full eight hours of sleep,and not because you don't want
(29:13):
to, but because you can't, whenyou feel like you're exhausted,
when your mind, your mentalcan't even, you can't even
regroup, because every dayyou're doing, you're doing the
same routine.
You're working 10 hours, eightto 10 hours.
You're doing for the kids,you're doing this, you're doing
that, and your partner is nottrying to lighten that load.
(29:34):
When you are married, y'all area partnership, so therefore
somebody y'all supposed to cometogether to lighten each other's
load.
If you're not lightening myload, then you need to go the
fuck on damn, because you'reprobably not aligned we're not
aligned, like you're not sayingyou know what?
(29:54):
you just got out of work.
I pick the kids up.
You know, I'm saying I go, Itake them to the basketball game
.
I do this, you know.
I mean, I got the kids, I takethem a bath.
You just stand there like, ohwell, I'm hungry, you know, uh,
you cook.
Speaker 1 (30:09):
Wow, that's how, yeah wow, hey, that was damn b
that's.
Hey, we'll take a break.
Uh, hey, man, shout out to no,I ain't gonna even say it.
Hey, it's just podcast shot.
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Speaker 1 (31:13):
We either shooting the shit or starting some shit.
And, man, I got to givemarriage props to my girl, b
Carrington, for breaking thatshit down because I mean, like I
said, I'm so glad it came froma woman.
You know what I'm saying.
But you talked aboutcompanionship and what people
should be doing for each otherand I thought about that, like
(31:36):
the ideal companion should bethat motherfucker that you can
talk to, should really be thatmotherfucker that you can feel
like I can do anything with you.
That's how it should be.
You know, I'm saying I can doanything with you because we
have that connection.
You know, I'm saying, and Ithink that those are truly the
(31:59):
relationships that motherfuckersshould, that motherfuckers
should appreciate and invest in.
Do you think, do you think thatthis society nowadays, that we
have those type of relationships?
Speaker 2 (32:14):
no, we have a pimp and hoe relationships.
That's what we have.
We have a and I'm not, I takeit back not a trick and a hoe
relate.
We have those typerelationships now okay, you know
I'm saying because it goes froma woman.
(32:34):
Women out here now are sayingif a nigga got money, I don't
care if he cheat on me.
Right.
That shit is bonkers to me.
You know what I'm saying.
So it's like I'd rather havethe nigga with the money.
No, he cheating.
But shit, I'm taking care ofyou get what?
I'm saying Right.
Versus the man who is loyal.
(32:55):
He may make sixty thousanddollars a year but you know he
going, he trying to get hismoney up so he can make more.
You know I mean hiscertificates.
Whatever he trying to do, theydon't want him.
He ain't got no motion, heain't got this.
He can't buy the designer, hecan't do that wow so really, you
a hoe you looking for a treat?
Speaker 1 (33:11):
you dropping gems today?
Speaker 2 (33:13):
that, but that's the society we live in.
You got me, and ain't nothingwrong with women who women, or
women who want men who make acertain amount of money, but are
you that type of material?
And what I'm saying is is thatyou can't say you want a man
that you can, that you can dealwith no, you don't want.
(33:35):
You say you want, I want anigga, that's, you know, a
million dollar nigga.
Let's just say that for example,they say that I want a million
dollar nigga.
But you work at the mcdonald's,so it's something what what
makes you think that you need athat a million dollar niggas for
it?
You know, I'm saying you need amillion dollar nigga.
You should get with peoplethat's in your realm right you
(33:57):
know, I mean, don't get me wrong, you can shoot for the stars,
but if you're gonna shoot forthe stars, shoot for the stars
for yourself first, yeah, andthen go try to search for that
me, like you know.
I mean, like that's how I feel,like if I was a, if you're in
college, you know I'm sayingthat.
You say you know I want asuccessful guy.
Okay, cool, I can get that.
You're in college yeah but ifyou're the person who is a slut,
(34:23):
or you a hoe you know what I'msaying then how could you say
that you want this type of life?
You want these type of you know?
I mean, you're not in thatrealm, right, you should date
niggas in your ring.
You should get you a drug dealerright you know I'm saying or um
, a gangbanger or a card cracker, yeah, a card cracker or
something, because that's yourrealm, you know.
(34:44):
I mean, if you're the girl thatdon't have any aspirations and
you're working at the mcdonald'sand you just keep having babies
, and that's, that's your lifelife.
And you having kids bydifferent niggas.
You shouldn't want why you keeptrying to shoot for the stars
to get the million dollar nigga.
You should just get the niggathat's the manager of the
McDonald's.
Speaker 1 (35:04):
Or what about the one that has no kind of
conversation, that has no kindof you know what I'm saying?
Like no kind of interest, nokind of passions.
You know what?
Speaker 2 (35:15):
I'm saying I think a lot of some people just don't
have passion, you know, likecareers, or like they have no
passion for anything.
You know, some people like,okay, let me go.
I'm going to say, back in theday, some women aspiration was
to just be a wife, right, andthere's some people ask, back in
(35:37):
the day, some women aspirationwas to just be a wife, right,
and that's some people ask for.
That was some women aspiration,like they was like I'm gonna be
a wife, you know, I'm sayingI'm gonna give me a, a good
husband, I'm gonna have somekids.
That's what I want to do.
I don't want to do nothing else.
Right, that's some peopleaspiration.
Right, and it's when you know.
So that's how, that's how Ifeel like everybody got an
aspiration.
But what is the aspiration?
(35:58):
yeah you know I'm saying you gotsomeone that say I want to be a
.
You got someone who literallysay I want to be a stripper and
I want to you know I'm saying bea prostitute.
Speaker 5 (36:07):
That's their aspiration you got people that
say that well, you know, you got, you got people that say that
wow, you know, you got, you knowyou got people that say that
you know what I'm saying it justso that's their aspiration.
Speaker 2 (36:25):
I think everybody got separate.
You just gotta figure out ifyou're dating that person, what,
what is it?
Speaker 1 (36:32):
that they want.
What are their true like?
What are their it that theywant?
What is it that they want what,what, what are what are their
true like?
What are their true goals?
Speaker 2 (36:39):
yeah, I'm saying like and I feel like people be lying
, like I feel like people shouldtell people what they want.
And I say back in the daybecause remember how rich niggas
were back in the day likethey'll tell you, I want a
trophy wife right people don'tdo that no more.
And a trophy wife will say well,I want a rich nigga, right, a
rich man.
Don't stop saying a rich man.
(36:59):
I want a rich man, okay, and Iwant a trophy wife.
You stay fine, you have my kids, I'm gonna do what I want to do
, but you're gonna be welldraped up and take care of and
she cool with it, but they theydiscussed that.
She know that now peoplegetting into these situations
and they thinking it's love andthat's not what it really was
right that's not what it is.
(37:21):
You were just a trophy wife, atrophy wife or he was a rich man
you was a rich man right damnpeople.
Speaker 1 (37:29):
Just be honest now that part right there, really be
like I think that's a difficultpart for some people is really
being transparent, like this iswhat I want.
You know I'm saying like I know, at this phase of my life, this
is what I want.
Can you provide that?
If you can't, I ain't mad atyou, but I don't want to waste
(37:50):
my time and I don't want towaste your time, you know, know
what I'm saying.
So if and that's why I said thewhole thing about finding that
person that you feel like youcan be your genuine self, you
can be your genuine self, andthen it's even better when both
of y'all can be yourselvestogether you know what I'm
saying Because I feel like inthat kind of situation, you know
, you can kind of do whateverbecause y'all, y'all cool, y'all
(38:15):
discussed that.
You see what I'm saying.
It don't matter what everybody,what everybody else is doing,
this is what we doing.
You get what I'm saying.
This is what we doing and wecool with it.
You know what I'm saying.
Not only are we cool with it,this works for us.
You know, like this, this iswhat really, really drives us.
But when you're not honestabout that, then on one end
(38:38):
somebody feel like yeah, itdrives me.
But the other person is like Idon't really dig this shit.
You know what I'm saying but yougot to be honest about it and I
think that's the problem thatpeople come into the
communication piece, how it's sohard for people to really
communicate and, in a sense,really be vulnerable about what
(38:59):
it is you're feeling.
And Gordo said it.
I think Gordo said it best.
He was like in a relationshipwe'd be trying to control shit.
But a relationship needs theopposite.
It needs trust.
Trust is the opposite ofcontrol.
If you have trust, you don'thave control, and if you have
control, you.
It needs trust.
Trust is the opposite ofcontrol.
If you have trust you don'thave control.
And if you have control, youdon't have trust.
(39:20):
I thought that shit was deep asfuck, and I mean that.
Speaker 2 (39:23):
That is true.
You know what I'm saying,that's true.
I that is a true saying.
I just feel like, when it comesdown to communication and stuff
like that, I feel and stufflike that, I feel like a lot of
times, um, people are soft, youknow.
(39:44):
I mean like like okay, so youcan like me, I'm not a I'm not a
real a soft person.
You know I'm soft, but I'm notsoft, so you can tell me pretty
much anything you know I meanI'm gonna accept it right, or at
least listen.
Well, yeah, at least listen.
And when I say accept it, Imean like shit gonna accept that
right, or at least listen.
Well, yeah, at least listen.
And when I say accept it, Imean like shit, you tell me it
is what it is.
It ain't nothing I can do aboutit.
Let's stay or go right all right, but nowadays people are so
(40:06):
soft that you can tell them youknow this not working out.
You know, I mean I think weshould.
You know, I don't want to hurtyou, I just want to think we
should part ways you know, Imean they will kill you.
You know I mean I think weshould.
You know, I don't want to hurtyou, I just want to think we
should part ways.
You know what I mean.
They will kill you, you know.
I mean they'll harm you atleast.
So fuck up your crib, your car.
You know I mean it's likepeople nowadays, it's they're
(40:27):
too emotional and not logical.
People are very emotional.
It's like I don't know how toexplain it, but it's just a very
, yes, no balance, it's likeit's not.
This is a very emotional, softsociety yeah you can't really
just be open and honest withpeople because they take things
(40:49):
to the heart.
You know I'm saying they thinkpeople are not good with
rejection.
People are not good withrejection, people are not good
with like back in the day youcould tell somebody, a man could
tell a woman, I'm not ready forno relationship.
But you know we can do ourthing.
You know we can kick it, youknow do whatever, and a woman
would be.
some women, not all.
Some women be like all right,cool, and they won't get
(41:10):
attached to that.
But now a man could tell awoman that and the next thing
you know she's telling the worldon social media that you didn't
lie to her play with herfeelings.
You didn't do it out there, youlike but I told, you, but I
told you.
So what are you talking about?
Right I mean you, you kind of.
I mean in so many words.
Speaker 1 (41:32):
No, I directly told you directly told you yeah, you
led me on, yeah, you led me on.
Speaker 2 (41:35):
I didn't lead you on.
It's not even the case.
Speaker 1 (41:37):
I told you exactly in the door what it was Right yeah
.
Speaker 2 (41:41):
So it's kind of like to me.
It's like this society is justa little soft you know, what I'm
saying.
It's a little too emotional.
It's just too emotional.
They get attached with whoeverthey I guess you know the sleep
with.
I guess you could say you knowwhat I mean.
Speaker 1 (42:01):
Right, see, don't fuck broke, that's what we're
talking about.
Don't fuck broke and hungry,that's the motto for tonight.
Hey, y'all, we'll take a breakreal quick and we'll come right
back.
Yo y'all shout out to B-Country, b-country, be dropping gems on
y'all motherfuckers and besounding cold as hell with that
Memphis AS attitude.
It's just podcast y'all.
It's the shit.
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Speaker 1 (42:30):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, we are not back, it's just
podcast.
And yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, weare not back.
This is just podcast.
And hey, y'all I got to saytonight we even dropped some
gems, real shit.
I think you should be amotherfucking counselor, a
relationship counselor.
Speaker 2 (42:52):
No, no, I tell people , man, follow your, your heart,
I don't have anything to do withit.
Um, I, because I feel like Ican't counsel nobody
relationship.
You know I'm saying, I know myrelationship ain't perfect.
You know I'm saying so, I knowI just can't counsel nobody, in
that I cannot tell, I can't, Ijust feel.
I just feel that way like Icannot tell you what to do with
(43:14):
your relationship.
Or I can't even counsel youbecause in my, in my eyes, some
of the stuff that people bebeefing over in their
relationships is trivial and Ithink it's stupid and I mess
around.
Tell somebody like this isstupid yeah, so uh, hmm yeah, I
(43:44):
think it's about what peoplechoose to accept.
Speaker 1 (43:48):
You know what I'm saying.
Like some people they might, Iain't accepting that shit.
You know what I'm saying.
Like I'm, I'm just not.
I just can't do it.
But other people may feel likethat don't bother me.
Like when you said the wholething about cheating.
It's some motherfuckers thatcheating is like the ultimate
no-no, I'm out after that.
(44:10):
But then I know somemotherfuckers will be like all
right, you know what I'm saying.
Mistakes happen.
But if it's, it may be someshit about the finances and that
may be.
I can't do this.
You know, what I'm saying.
That's what I can't take.
You know what I'm saying?
That's the part I can't take.
Oh, I don't give a fuck, Idon't give a fuck.
Speaker 5 (44:35):
But I can't do it.
Speaker 1 (44:36):
You know I'm saying but I think it's just about,
it's just about that person.
You know I'm saying, but that'swhy I said the whole concept of
finding that person.
That's you.
You can't.
You gotta.
You got somewhat of a goodunderstanding of them.
You know I what I'm saying.
So then you don't get shitmisunderstood.
(44:58):
Like the communication is there, you get it, and not only can
you say can y'all talk aboutanything, it's easier to digest.
You know what I'm saying.
So a person can say somethingto you and you don't take it so
personal, you know, because youfeel like.
I know this is not coming froma place of spite.
(45:20):
I know this is not coming froma place of malice.
This is you saying, this isjust a concern for me and I'm
saying this to you because Iwant things to be better, you
know.
Speaker 2 (45:32):
So yeah, that's true, and I think that sometimes in
relationships, I think thatpeople um, they don't tell their
partners the truth, um, abouthow they feel and about how they
feel, they kind of tiptoearound it.
You know, um, they kind of actlike passive, aggressive about
(45:56):
it.
You know, um, and I'm like Ifeel, like I don't give a damn.
I'm gonna tell you how I feeland you can ask.
You can ask, don, I'm gonnatell you how I feel, regardless,
right?
You know how you take it, howyou feel.
That has nothing to do with meright um, because I'm the type
of person that if I don't sayhow I feel, I'm never going.
(46:16):
It's not going to rest.
I'm not going to rest, right,so I have to talk to you.
But on the other hand, he thetype of person that he will
tiptoe, tiptoe, tiptoe, tiptoe.
Yeah.
You know what I'm saying hedon't Not me Fuck that.
Because I feel like we've grown.
Speaker 1 (46:34):
Fuck your feelings.
Speaker 2 (46:35):
Yeah, it's like we've grown.
Right.
If it's something that we needto talk, I'm going to talk to
you about your feelings meanshit to me when I have something
on my mind.
Now I'm not going to say it acertain way if I know that
you'll take it a certain way,but I'm going to figure out a
way to tell you.
But I'm going to figure out away to tell you, but I am going
to tell you.
You know what I'm saying.
(46:55):
Whether I got to pull you tothe side, I don't care if we at
your mama house we going to goto the backyard I have.
I'm that type of person Like wecould be at a restaurant, we
could be wherever, If it's.
I have to talk to you aboutsomething because you just did
some.
You did something to to me.
I'm going to pull you to theside and I'm going to talk to
you about it.
Speaker 1 (47:14):
Right then and there.
Right then and there, as youshould, as you should.
I feel like the only I thinkthe only challenge with that is
finding those words in themoment.
You know what I'm saying,Because sometimes people may
feel like it's best for you tolike chill for a minute until
you can think of the right wordsto say to somebody.
You know what I'm saying,Because if you are already
(47:35):
pissed or how they say, in thepsychological realm, in crisis
mode, it's hard.
Like, what are you really goingto hear?
You know what I'm saying.
Like if you're alreadyoverwhelmed, you're already
thinking the motherfucker out toget you, you feel like you've
got to defend yourself and allthis other type of shit, what
(47:57):
are you really going to hearfrom that other person?
You know so sometimes somepeople may say it might be best
to not say it in a momentbecause it's not going to be
they're not going to bereceptive of what you just said.
Speaker 2 (48:11):
And I'm the type I don't care if you're receptive,
that's for you to figure out.
I just want to get up off mychest, you.
I'm saying I'm not, I'm notasking you for the.
I'm not asking you to bereceptive.
I'm just saying, if you'regoing to, I'm just going to tell
you how I feel.
Whether you accept, whether youwere accepted, that's on you,
but I told you whether I got totext it to you.
(48:33):
I didn't sit there and text himwhile we was in church.
You, know what I'm saying so.
It's like whether I got to textit to you.
You know what I'm saying.
Write it down to you.
Whether you accept it orreceptive, that is solely on you
, right.
But I'm not going to walkaround with it on my shoulders.
Speaker 1 (48:52):
I don't want to hold it on me.
I feel the same way gonna walkaround with.
Speaker 2 (48:55):
I don't want to hold it on me.
Speaker 1 (48:55):
I feel the same way.
Yeah, I'm not gonna walk aroundwith it, I don't want to keep
that shit on me.
And sometimes some people mayfeel like but that might be kind
of selfish.
You know, saying that you feellike I just don't want to keep
this shit on me.
You know saying like so if youfeel it, if you agree with it,
that's cool, if you don't, I'mgonna say it anyway.
But you also also got to thinkabout how effective is it If
(49:17):
that person's not going to bereceptive to it, then how
effective is?
I won't say how effective is itfor you to say it, but you just
say it.
Your whole thing is I'm justtrying to get this shit off me.
I don't want to keep walkingaround with this shit on me and
feeling this way and feelinglike I got to hold this shit in.
So that's why I'm fuckingsaying something.
(49:38):
Hopefully you can respond to itand be like okay, I agree or
disagree, but if you don't, okaysee, and that is something that
I am.
Speaker 2 (49:50):
I'm gonna say this I am trying to on you know, caring
more about how people feel.
I'm trying to work on it.
You know what I mean, becausein our reality I don't, and so
I'm trying.
I'm trying to work on it, andI'm saying that because I know
(50:13):
that it does affect.
I know it affects my husband, Iknow it affects my child,
because my whole aspect of lifeis I'm like my mom.
I'm gonna keep it real with youbecause I feel like the world
ain't and I feel like you're notgoing to.
You keep walking around doingthe same thing, or you didn't
piss me off because you didn'tdid it.
I'm gonna have to talk.
(50:34):
I just going to tell you whatit is.
Right.
The world may not tell you whatit is I done lost plenty of
friends Like I don't give a damnif you never talk to me again.
Right.
Just know that that last memorywas me telling you how the fuck
I felt.
Speaker 1 (50:48):
That's dope.
Speaker 2 (50:49):
You know what I'm saying.
Whether we talk again or not,that has nothing to do with me.
Baby, right, because I died, Icame here to by myself.
I'm gonna leave by myself.
That's a good point.
Nobody's leaving with me, so Ihave to.
I.
I've always been like that, youknow.
I'm saying that, that's youknow.
And I'm gonna say this becauseBecause even at work I have to
(51:14):
figure out was called into ameeting with HR Because I did.
I talked to my supervisor and Idid tell him I feel like he was
racist.
See, some people ain't going totell their supervisor that.
But I told him I feel like hewas racist.
I said you keep talking aboutmy tone, my voice, whatever you
(51:34):
want to talk.
I said I feel like you'reracist.
I said'm from the country.
I said and I just I'm a blackgirl, you know, I'm saying, and
I feel like I was racist.
It felt like you're racist.
He told hr and hr asked me.
Well, he said that you feltlike he was racist.
I said I did.
What can y'all do about this?
Right, maybe his feelings hurt,maybe he not racist, I don't
(51:56):
know.
But that's how I felt and Ipulled him to the side to talk
to him about it.
Speaker 1 (52:01):
Right, it ain't like you called him a crack ass
cracker.
Speaker 2 (52:03):
Yeah, I just said we was in a meet.
I pulled him to the side and Isaid you know, I just kind of
feel like you, you you, you'reracist, Damn.
Speaker 1 (52:17):
Hey, we're going to take a break, y'all.
Hey, yo shout out to all themotherfuckers out there that be
telling their supervisors howthey feel and then they get
pulled into HR because somebodysaid you slashed their
motherfucking tires and youdidn't even get a chance to
check their motherfuckingcameras.
Anyway, it's just podcast y'all.
It's the shit.
Speaker 5 (52:30):
This comedian, Marnie P, checking in from the Shits
Podcast.
Speaker 1 (52:35):
Hey, yeah, we are now back at the Shits Podcast and,
yeah, we just can't call themotherfucker con.
Speaker 2 (52:43):
It's conery, it was conery.
Speaker 1 (52:45):
You can't, I mean, you just can't.
Speaker 2 (52:46):
I told him he was shucking in job that man.
He was my DM district manager.
Oh, you can't do that with me.
He wanted to cuss me out.
So bad, but you know, if hewould have cussed he would lost
his job right, but I'm like I'mtalking to him and I'm saying
it's giving conery, you'reshucking and jiving that's what
you're doing.
Speaker 1 (53:02):
It was the way you said it, like you said it
professionally.
Speaker 2 (53:05):
You called him a professional coon no, I just
said he was, his name was marcus, fuck him.
He from chicago too.
So he was like shucking andjiving for the white people.
So I was like oh, I, I, me andhim got into we was talking and
I said I just feel like you, youknow it's full of coonery, you
know I'm saying I said you fullof coonery and you like to shuck
(53:26):
and jive for the white folkswhen it come to black people.
I said nigga, you was fromenglewood, you was from the hood
, you know I'm saying so, comingup here trying to be a coon and
smacking these white people'sface and do all that, but then
you treating us a certain way.
I said shit, it ain't what itis.
And then, of course, hr, hr andI told her exactly what I said,
(53:49):
and she said you know, youcan't really say it.
Speaker 1 (53:52):
Girl, you're so fat ass, Told you, you can't really
say get your fat ass up, yougotta find a different way.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (53:58):
I called her fat and I got fired.
Speaker 1 (54:01):
I did get fired at least you learned something from
it.
I didn't.
I'll do it again.
Hey y'all listen.
I want to tell y'all this.
This platform hey y'all listen.
(54:21):
I want to tell y'all this thisplatform has always been
therapeutic for me because I getthe opportunity to talk my shit
.
Tonight B got the opportunityto really talk her shit and
really show y'all what shereally bring to this podcast.
She ain't been on like the lasttwo episodes and she came back
with a vengeance.
She came back with fire in thismotherfucker.
(54:42):
Hey y'all listen.
Search for real-ass people.
Search for real-assrelationships.
Be honest with motherfuckers.
Be as honest as possible.
Be as honest as possible.
Be as honest as possible.
Communicate with people.
Put that shit out there.
If people don't like it, guesswhat?
That ain't on you no more.
(55:02):
You see what I'm saying.
But if you just keep holding itin and faking it, you know I'm
saying eventually that shit gotto come out and I think that's
what a lot of motherfuckers, uh,experience.
You know I'm saying like youleft theuckers experience.
You know what I'm saying.
Like you, let the facade go onfor too long.
You know what I'm saying.
I get it when you first meetsomebody.
It's the new, you, you knowwhat.
(55:23):
I'm saying but at some point yougot to ease in.
Nigga, I do this.
You know what I'm saying.
I dig in my nose when I'mdriving, whatever the fuck it is
.
You know what I'm saying.
I get tissue.
But you know what I'm saying.
Whatever it is, but you got tolet the real you come out, and I
think that'd be the problemmotherfuckers be experiencing.
So I learned a lot tonight.
I'm definitely going toreevaluate if I'm a fuck when
(55:49):
I'm broke.
Hopefully I don't be broke.
Definitely going to reevaluatethat.
The whole single parent, fathersingle parent single married
single, single married father,single married mother concept,
which is fucking dope.
I think a lot of people need tothink about that.
(56:09):
And yeah, I mean I just reallyappreciate what you did tonight,
Like you really dropped someshit.
Speaker 2 (56:15):
And before we get ready to get out of here, I do
want to um, get on some.
I do want to say this.
It's a very serious note y'allquit popping these pills.
People are losing their lives.
They are lacing these pillswith fentanyl.
Okay, people are dying at 17 18.
You know I'm saying theirhearts are stopping.
(56:37):
Stop popping these pills.
And if y'all are around people,that goes to the point of
having people around you I youshouldn't want a yes man around
you.
If somebody see you nodding offbecause you taking pills or you
taking any type of drugs, andthey still want to be your
friend, they still yes, okay,that's cool, stop kicking it
(56:57):
with them.
But also they can't tell a grownmotherfucker what to do.
You know what I'm saying.
However, y'all, it's really bad.
A young lady by the name ofEnchanting.
She was signed to 1017.
She wasn't signing them at thistime, but she lost her life
(57:18):
from perks, a bad pill.
She was only 26 years old.
My, you know somebody that Iknow back from memphis, two
people that I grew up with.
They lost their lives frompills, from a pill, not even
pills, it's one a pill, but theywere pill poppers anyway you
get.
I'm saying so it's bad pillsgoing around.
Stay away from them, stop doingthem.
Speaker 1 (57:41):
You know, I'm saying like seriously it's they've been
, they cut within now hey, uh,be careful, be careful what you
put in your body real shit.
Um, yeah, I I'll be scared ofthis shit.
Like I don't pop no pills, I,it's just certain shit that I
just can't do, I don't want todo.
But like I'm not gonna saycan't because I hate I hate
(58:03):
using the word can't, it's justshit that I won't do.
I just feel like it's not, it'snot safe, um, so, yeah, y'all
watching pills real shit.
I know y'all want to get high,I know y'all.
You know y'all want to takey'all problems away for a little
while.
But guess what, when your asscome down off them pills, the
problem still be right therewaiting for your ass straight up
(58:25):
.
Instead, try to get somefucking therapy.
Yeah, that shit to get your asshigh.
Yeah, for real.
Um, read a book.
Yeah, straight up, read a bookexercise exercise.
Speaker 2 (58:35):
I'll up Read a book Exercise, exercise.
I was going to just say thatExercise, exercise.
Speaker 1 (58:38):
Straight up.
That shit will get your assfeeling high as hell Rejuvenated
.
You know what I'm saying andbust a nut Shit Unless you broke
.
But then shit, you can always.
You can masturbate if you broke.
You know what I'm saying.
(58:58):
Some people might feel likethey don't want to do that if
they broke.
Homeless motherfuckers don'tmasturbate.
Anyway, y'all know where tofind us.
Y'all can find us on Spotify,apple Podcasts anywhere you get
your podcasts at, let them knowwhere to find you and on social
media B.
Speaker 2 (59:09):
You can find me on Instagram at BCarrington
underscore, and you can find meon TikTok at bcarrington
underscore, and you can find meon TikTok at b will be
Carrington on TikTok.
Speaker 1 (59:19):
Y'all know y'all can find me at monsoons to raw.
That's S-T-A-R-A-W.
On Facebook and on Instagram,not on TikTok, because this is
just the shits podcastS-H-I-T-T-S shit.
You can also find me in thestreets.
No, don't look at me in thestreets, you back outside, oh my
(59:41):
.
God, long story, b Long story.
But yeah, hey, we appreciateanybody that check in with the
Shits Podcast, anybody that tunein, anybody that tell anybody
else to tune in.
We definitely appreciate it.
Shout-out to my man, deca Durs.
Shout out to my man, Don.
Shout out to my man, mark G.
Yo, and let me tell y'allsomething Shit about to get hot.
(01:00:03):
That's all I'm saying.
It's about to get hot.
We got Deca Durs, we got Mark G, we got Il Gordon, we got Vail
DeGeneral, we got Vail theGeneral, we got Andreas Haley.
It's about to be nasty, y'all.
But, anyway, I ain't going tospeak too much on that.
Y'all, make sure y'all tune in.
Make fans, not followers.
Followers will get you clout,fans will get you work.
(01:00:24):
Respect the process.
Understand that the only thingthat happens overnight is
dreaming, slobbing and thembabies, and we up out here,
y'all.
Hey, hey, hey, hey, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,yeah.
We are now back at the ShizPodcast, as the words say.
We're just shooting shit, justtalking to each other and shit.
We're either shooting the shit,starting some shit, or picking
up what you left off.
(00:21):
I'm your boy, I'm your host.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Marsha Wintour, the coolest cat you heard, that's
fire and this, your girl bkaren's, and the lady that comes
to y'all with all the tea andother bullshit b is back, b is
back, b is back, yeah, yeah,y'all not tuned in to this
podcast, y'all, hey.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
So look, you know people.
You know people be asking methey be like man, what's your
podcast about?
Nigga everything.
It's like nigga everythingunder the sun.
So today man, me and B I'msorry, b and I have been sitting
here just talking about lifeand so much shit that we
shooting the shit tonight forreal, for real shooting the shit
(01:04):
.
So how you been.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Man, I been good, you know, just shit Living.
I guess you know what I'msaying.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Don't say I guess no, you living.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
I'm existing.
Oh no, you living.
No, I'm existing, you living,I'm existing living, I'm
existing.
Speaker 4 (01:25):
What's the?
Speaker 2 (01:25):
difference because I haven't really found my purpose
yet.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
Until I find my purpose, until I figure it out,
I feel like I'm just existingreally yeah, I don't feel like
I'm actually living yet you knowthe funny thing about that
somebody else may see you and beinspired and feel like they
disagree with you.
They may feel like you livinglike a motherfucker.
You know, I'm saying why yousitting there figuring like, why
(01:52):
you sitting there figuring thatyou still just trying to figure
shit out.
Somebody may be looking at youand feel like, damn, she got it
all figured out.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
You know possibly that could be, but I, I try to
say I, I just I'll be honestwith people like I haven't found
my purpose.
Um, I I tell anybody like it'shard to sometimes.
I ain't gonna lie when I'm atwork.
I think I had just said thislike I'd be wanting to just be
like, hey man, fuck this, I quit.
(02:24):
You know what I'm saying.
But it's the same time likedamn, if I quit, you know I got
a child.
So I'm like I ain't gonna lie,if I didn't have a child I would
quit.
I don't mind struggling, youknow what I'm saying, but I just
can't have my child strugglingthat makes sense, that yeah.
I don't mind struggling, I quit.
I go get me a job at the FamilyDollar and then go full-fledged
(02:48):
content creating.
Speaker 3 (02:50):
You know what I'm saying Full-fledged stealing, no
Full-fledged content creating.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
You get what I'm saying.
My life will be built aroundthat and building that you know.
Yeah, but I can't do that,because if I do that then my
child gonna be right, who'sgonna take?
Yeah, sheen say I wanted a mom.
That's gonna be a contentcreation to figure that out
before you gave birth.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
Yeah, you don't say you got pregnant, you know that
made me think about this book Iread and it's it's called um.
I don't even know who wrotethat, but the name of it was do
it, do what you love and themoney will follow.
So so it sounds simple as fuck,right?
Right.
But I don't really think it is,but then sometimes I do think
(03:33):
it is.
It's like if you focus on damn,like you can focus on the shit
that you love, but realistically, like you still got to pay
bills.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
And you still need a place to stay.
You see what I'm saying.
So I mean, unless you just lovefucking, the money can't follow
.
You know what I'm saying.
I mean it can't follow.
I mean, cause shitmotherfuckers been selling sex
for eons, that shit.
They never went out of business.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Being a hoe gonna forever go Shit.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
It never.
Yeah, nah, being a hoe.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Prices just went up, yeah, it went up but being you
gonna forever find have that'sone profession that'll never go
nowhere being a hoe, Like youknow what I'm saying.
You think AI can fuck with that.
Man nine ain't nothing less thana nigga sitting at home just
jacking off.
You know what I'm saying.
Like I don't know too many mento get off this subject we was
talking about.
(04:32):
But just let me just say this Idon't know too many men that
want to just sit there in frontof a you know phone or a TV and
just sit up there and jack off,like I think that they would
want to touch a booty cheek orsomething.
Speaker 5 (04:48):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Yeah like they would want something Like after a
while, this shit get boring.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
But wait, but if that's the case, but if that's
the case, any sex can get boring.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Yeah, I mean any sex, I think well, well, and it's
all mental.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
I mean all right.
Well, some people may disagree.
That's what I, that's what Ithink.
I think it's sex is 85 mental,15 physical.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
You said no I think, so I'm gonna say 85 mental but I
do think it's a 50 50.
You know I'm saying because Idon't, I don't know, I think I
feel like physical, you have tobe attracted to them right
mentally.
You just got to be in a rightstate of mind at the time.
(05:45):
You know I'm saying if somebodygoing through something
mentally or they depressed orsomething, no, I don't feel like
fucking you, get away from meyou know I'm saying um if I'm
broke, I don't want to fuck likewhat me fucking you gonna make
me get.
I don't have five dollars Idon't have five dollars in my
pocket.
I don't want to bust no nut.
I want to bust somebody overthe head like what is you
talking about?
(06:05):
You know, I'm saying like Idon't want to do nothing like
don't touch me you know, I meanthat's how I am.
I just never understood howpeople could be broke and broke
like I've seen people who arehomeless and they, you know I'm
saying they'll be living withsomebody and they fucking on
there in their living room likeit.
I just never understood that,like I'd be like man, I can't do
(06:25):
it right.
Like bruh, we are in somebody'sliving room on a urbex, we not
on vacation right this is our.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
This is where we staying right now right and you
want to fuck man if you don'tget the fuck up see, okay,
because, yeah, because yeah Iguess I don't know if that's
fucked up or not, because Idisagree with that.
I feel like I could definitelyfuck if I was broke.
Really, yes, I could definitelyfuck if I was broke.
(06:58):
Like that wouldn't.
I mean, like I said, I don'tknow if that's a bad thing, but
I feel like that wouldn't botherme to feel like, no, I don't.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
So after you bust the nut right, Then your reality
kick back in.
My reality can kick in whileI'm fucking.
That's crazy.
Your dick going to get soft.
No.
Speaker 1 (07:17):
It's all about that mental.
You just said, if I think I canbe thinking about the reality,
that's what I said and I mean,if I'm in it, you know what I'm
saying I mean I don't, I'm not,it wouldn't really, it wouldn't
really bother.
That's why I think it may soundfucked up to people, but it
wouldn't really bother me likethat.
Like if I was sick, you knowwhat I'm saying.
(07:42):
If I was sick I think it's thisone If I was sick, then I would
say yeah, I wouldn't feel likeit.
Depressed Maybe, yeah,depressed Probably not.
(08:04):
If I'm depressed, probably not.
But broke cause I found out Iwas worth this money.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
I thought I busted how, like before you that's
probably gonna get me the moneyno, it's not.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
It's not.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
You just took your 30 minutes 30 you about to have me
busting myself out?
Speaker 2 (08:28):
You took 30 minutes to do that.
You took 30 minutes to do thatand nah, I'm sorry, it's just
like when girls, when peopleused to fuck on an empty stomach
Like I, just feel like Hold onyou can't fuck on an empty
stomach.
Like nah, that's what.
Nah, that's what I say when youbroke.
Like if you're broke.
Speaker 1 (08:49):
Can't fuck hungry or broke.
Speaker 2 (08:51):
No, I'm hungry, I'm poor, I have nothing Like.
What part of that is sexy?
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Alright, I mean.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
When I finish fucking you.
I'm going to be sitting on theedge of the airbed talking about
some what we're going to eattonight.
Right.
Man, what we going to do, man?
What we going to do, man, wegot to figure out a way.
Man call somebody, man, can youborrow us, oh, and then you're
(09:33):
have you're, you have arelationship and you don't have
no money on well, that's a wholesee, but that's a whole nother
story.
Reason why I'm saying that isbecause when y'all fucking, it's
two of y'all.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
But that ain't always a relationship.
Speaker 2 (09:46):
I'm just saying, well , okay, let's say it is a
relationship.
Okay.
Y'all are together and y'allare screwing, y'all fucking and
nobody got no money on.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
Well, we're going to answer that when we come back.
Hey, yo, we're going to take abreak real quick.
Shout out to all themotherfuckers out there man,
that's a fucking and ain'thungry and broke, and you know,
after they fuck they still behungry and broke and and and
drained.
Damn, it's just podcast, it'sthe shit, hey everybody.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
It's comedian Stephanie Robertson with the
shits.
Come check it out.
You can follow me on Instagramat Stephanie underscore
underscore Robertson.
I will see you there.
Make sure to follow.
Speaker 1 (10:32):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
We are now back at the shitspodcast.
We are the shoot the shit,start the shit or pick no shit
left off, and we had asked thequestion earlier Could you fuck
if you was broke?
Or could you fuck if you washungry?
Could you fuck if you washomeless?
Could you fuck if you was noteven thirsty?
(10:52):
Because, I don't know, thepeople definition of thirsty is
different.
But could you fuck if youdidn't have anything?
If you didn't have a pot topiss in?
Could you fuck?
B said no.
I'm saying yes, not if I washomeless, though, Like I said,
if I was homeless, then I'm notgoing to be thinking about
fucking.
If I'm broke, I woulddefinitely fuck.
(11:14):
Okay, see, your definition ofbroke and my definition is two
different things.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Well, your definition of broke is you done paid all
your bills, so you know you gotno money.
Well, your definition of brokeis you done paid all your bills,
so you know you got no money.
That's not my definition ofbroke, that's you.
You just was responsible.
You know what I'm saying, right?
My definition of broke is youhave nothing.
You know what I'm saying?
You have absolutely nothing,right.
(11:38):
So it's like what makes youwant to date what?
What makes you want to date?
What makes you want to?
Have sex.
What make you say?
oh, I'm horny, I'm horny.
No, you're not.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Well, you could be.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Go do some resumes.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
That's going to get you horny doing resumes and shit
, but you could be horny and itdon't have to be because of the
person that you with youprobably thought of some shit
and got horny.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
You could be horny and they don't have to be
because of the person that youwith you.
Just you probably thought ofsome shit and got horny.
If I have nothing, I'm notthinking about anything, but
having something that makessense that makes sense.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
I feel you on that.
I feel you on that.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
That's a good ass point like okay, like I could
care less.
Right, you know that.
But that's always been me,though.
I've always said that I've hadenough pussy to last me a
lifetime.
You know, I'm saying like it's,I don't care, you know, if I,
if I, because I did used to messwith women too you know, I'm
(12:42):
saying so in my eyes I used tofeel like why niggas don't think
like me?
you know I'm saying I be feelinglike I didn't have no cat to
last me a lifetime.
So really, though, yeah, I justfeel that way.
You know, I'm saying like itdoesn't matter to me.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
I don't know, I don't know like, I don't know like,
like, I just Self-control.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
Y'all niggas have no self-control.
I don't even think.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
But I don't even think it's about not having
self-control.
I just think it's about theperson.
I just think it's about theperson you, I don't know, I
guess.
I guess that would make methink about connections with
people, because that's the shitthat would make me want to fuck
A connection.
A connection.
You know what I'm saying.
Like you know what I'm saying,you may connect on a.
(13:32):
It's going to sound like a damnlove story shit.
But you may connect on a deeperlevel and be like man shit you
want to fuck or thismotherfucker just say or they
just just their personality issexy, you know what I'm saying.
Or they do shit, that's justsexy.
You be like oh yeah, I want tofuck.
You know what I'm saying.
(13:53):
So like.
That's why I don't know if Icould really understand that
whole.
I've had enough pussy to lastme a lifetime Because you be in
different states, you be in adifferent state of mind than you
was last month or the monthbefore.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
I didn't have the skinny coochie, I didn't have
the BBW coochie.
Speaker 4 (14:11):
I'm a BBW.
We love the BBWs.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
I didn't have the really, really short coochie,
you know what I'm saying.
Like the 411 coochie you know,what I mean, the what?
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Hy, the, what Hype?
Oh, I was about to say becauseI knew the 2-11 drink.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
Nah, you know what I'm saying.
You know the yeah like peelpopper pussy.
You know what I'm saying.
I didn't have that, so I justfeel like.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
What's the difference ?
Speaker 2 (14:37):
It's nothing.
That's why I didn't.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
It's the same thing.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
To me, like I don't know, it has to be it's always
the person I be wanna know fromme, like why y'all niggas have
no self-control, like what no?
Speaker 5 (14:51):
we got self-control.
No y'all, don't niggas, don'thave.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
No y'all don't no, y'all don't niggas, don't have
self-control yes, they well man.
Niggas don't have self-control.
That's why niggas get caught upall the time.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
Niggas get caught up because they don't care.
Speaker 2 (15:05):
Niggas get caught up because there's no self-control.
They see a fat ass and thenthey don't care.
That's no self-control.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
It's the difference between having no self-control
and not caring you.
Not having self-control is yousaying I just can't help myself,
oh my God.
No, having self-control is yousaying I just can't help myself?
Oh my God, oh man, no, no, thisis a motherfucker saying hey
bro, I don't give a fuck.
Like for real, like okay, it'snot like, or how can y'all put
(15:40):
it.
This may be something that Ifeel like I'll take that chance
on real shit.
Just just telling you from adude's point of view.
They may feel like I'm gonnatake my chance on this shit, but
it just ain't dudes that dothat shit it's.
You just can't say it's a manthing Because it's a both sexes
(16:04):
thing.
And even now like when youthink about, because times have
changed, so you do have womenthat fuck with women, and it'd
be crazy because they'd be doingthe same shit that niggas do.
You know what I'm saying?
No, we don't.
Nah, they still fuck around on,they chick.
Speaker 2 (16:17):
No, we don't.
I'ma tell you something, theonly reason why we would cheat.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
On your girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (16:23):
Yeah, the only reason why I'm not a cheater I told
you before that I'm a violent.
I used to be a violent person.
Cheating wasn't my thing, but Iused to look at people who did
cheat and their whole thing.
It wasn't for the sexualgratification, it was because
their girlfriend at home was abitch you know what I'm saying.
(16:45):
So they was going to talk tosomebody else, you know, and
they just so happened to.
It started off as aconversation on the phone and
then it went further than that.
Exactly you know.
So it wasn't the gratification.
Then you got to think about ittoo.
It's the same way with womentoo.
(17:07):
In our line of business lesbianbusiness.
You know, when I was missing inour line of business, you got a
lot of women out here.
That's tricks.
So you got a lot of women outhere, that you can have a
conversation with them, becausewe know what women want, right,
so we'll run their pockets.
So it's a dip.
You know, I'm saying we gotit's.
(17:27):
It's, it's kind of we, we knowwhat they want, we know what
they want to hear, we know howthey want to hear you know what
they want.
We know how they want to betreated we know everything to
say and then next thing, youknow it's like shit, all right,
well you got what you want yeah,you get what y'all worse than
us, I mean pretty, pretty much.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
so this is what I'm getting from what you're saying.
Y'all just figure out.
First of all, you, being awoman, like you said, you know
what a woman want and you know awoman want to be heard.
Yeah, a woman want to belistened to.
A woman want to feel like sheexists.
A woman want to feel likesomebody knows that she's there.
But the crazy shit about thatdudes want the same shit.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Nah, because y'all niggas some of y'all niggas
ain't got no game.
You know, I'm saying I didn'thurt, I didn't see niggas talk
to women and it's like damn dog,you ain't got no game like you.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
You don't know how to talk to her and I and that
ain't even game.
But I'm saying that's not evengame.
What I'm saying to you is thatniggas want the same shit and I
think that and this is thatdudes want to feel like
motherfucker I exist too oh well, yeah, we want, they want.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
But what I'm saying is is that it's like, yeah,
y'all want to be heard and shitlike that look at the way you
say it like you like you don'teven believe this shit.
Speaker 4 (18:54):
you're like, yeah, yeah, nigga, y'all want to be
heard, like you don't evenbelieve it yourself.
I mean, y'all want to be heard.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
However, when we it's like y'all want to be alpha
males too, which I wish, thereis no such thing.
That's another topic, Okay,okay, I'll let you.
You have to go.
It was a white man that came upwith the term and it was due to
(19:21):
.
He came up with the term afterevaluating animals.
Okay.
You know, in a jungle.
Right.
So it's like being an alpha,it's like you're an animal, you
alpha, it's like you're ananimal.
You know, I'm saying so thatthe alpha male as an animal.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
Okay, you know he exuded, you know this dominance
and this stuff.
So that's where that came fromso does it apply to alpha
females as well?
Speaker 2 (19:43):
no, I, I don't believe in it.
I don't.
That's not, that's not a realthing to me.
Okay, I just feel likeeverybody has masculine and
everybody has feminine energy inthem.
I agree with you on that, youknow what I mean, and a lot of
women black women per se have tobe more masculine Not all of
them, but some of them have tobe more masculine, because a lot
(20:05):
of black men were taken awaydue to incarceration.
You know what I'm saying.
So if you raising kids, youcan't just be the South feminine
.
You got to be the man that wassupposed to be in that household
.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
Even if the man is there, well, no, no, not if he's
there, and then let's clarifyOkay, okay, we going to take a
break.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
Real quick.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
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Speaker 1 (20:59):
We are now back at the Shit's Podcast and we and
this motherfucker just talkingabout tricks, alpha males, alpha
females, not fucking when youbroke.
There's all types of shit, andnow B gonna explain to us why
she don't believe in the wholeconcept of alpha males and alpha
(21:20):
females.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
Okay.
So before we went to break, yousaid you asked, you know, even
if it's a man in the house.
Let me say this because I heara lot of men say this they don't
have a father in the home, orif a father in the home or if a
father was in the home.
Understand that some men just abody, baby, they just holding
up space.
Speaker 5 (21:42):
They don't educate.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
They don't discipline , they don't do nothing, they
don't hold jobs, they're just abody to say that they're there.
Okay, when we talk about a manin the house, we talking about a
man in the house.
We talking about a man in thehouse like, hey, I paid.
It ain't even about paying, no,just no bills.
But I, I have a career, I havea.
You know, I'm in heredisciplining my kids I have a
(22:06):
presence, like I'm going togames.
I'm doing you know doing whatfathers do?
I'm not just seeing you go outto work every day, sitting at
home right drinking doingabsolutely nothing right, just
to say daddy was, daddy was thatmy mom and daddy was.
You know, I was raising atwo-parent household.
He's actually raising aone-parent household, a single
(22:27):
parent damn because your daddywasn't shit.
He was there, but he wasn'tshit, right?
So that's what I'm saying a lotof women have to be masculine
in order to, you know, getthrough this world.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
Black women per se yeah take, take some yeah, I
feel you on that.
I feel, and I think the problemcomes in when women don't
understand, when women can'trecognize what they have, when
women don't understand, whenwomen can't recognize what they
have, when women think that whenwomen mistake the man, that's
actually doing something forjust a body you know what I'm
(23:03):
saying or they mistake the dude,that's just a body for a
motherfucker that's actuallydoing something.
And then I think that all fallson the whole concept of respect
how you respect that man butthen also how that man respects
that woman.
Because I think that's what wekind of, that's what our society
is kind of fucked up with rightnow is like the roles what role
do you play, what role do Iplay and do we respect each
(23:26):
other's role?
You know what I'm saying and Ithink a lot of times that's what
you end up having, that youknow, that's what you end up
having that woman don't respectthat man's role, that man don't
respect that woman's role.
And now you got a lot ofarguing Toxicity, if I said that
word correctly In the household.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Okay, so have you ever heard of this thing a
single married woman.
Have you ever heard of that?
Speaker 1 (23:50):
No, not to just know.
Explain elaborate.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
Okay, a single married woman is a woman who is
actually married.
However, she works a full-timejob.
She gets off work, she cooks.
Okay, yeah, she gets off work,she cleans.
Okay.
Okay, or she cleans on a weekendor whatever.
Once she got work, she has totake care of the kids.
They got gotta get bathed.
(24:16):
They gotta have a homework done, so she have one homework.
When a man come home, all hedoing is eating and taking a
shower so everything else isdone.
So technically she is a singlemarried woman, because that man
don't help with nothing and hedoes pay his portion of the
bills.
Right, because she paying halfof the bills.
(24:36):
Get the fuck out of here shepaying half of the bills, but he
paying his portion, she payingher half.
But guess what?
She get off work at 5 o'clock.
She got to pick the kids upfrom the daycare or wherever she
got to pick them up from.
She got to go home feed thekids.
She got to go home and playwith the kids or help them with
(24:57):
their work.
Speaker 1 (24:57):
You know what I mean.
Or take them to basketballgames.
Or take them to basketballgames, or take them to
cheerleading.
Speaker 2 (25:01):
Yeah, okay, that's all she got to do Right after
she get off her eight-hour shift.
Speaker 1 (25:05):
Or pick them up from basketball, or pick them up from
cheerleading Okay, after hereight-hour shift at, she don't
get to go or her 10 hour or 10hour.
Yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (25:13):
And she get home.
She, you know, after she do allthat, she ain't got no time for
herself.
The man come home, he got a hotmeal, he get to sit on the
couch, take a shower for aminute.
Speaker 5 (25:26):
The kid sleep Because they say he get off later.
The kid sleep.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
So he ain't got nothing to do.
Kiss him on the cheek and guesswhat?
What is he doing?
Wow, but oh, maybe take the.
He probably got to take thegarbage out, but what has he
done?
So could that apply to men too?
that can so it can be a singlefather single single married
father yeah, wow, single marriedman I've never heard that
(25:54):
before, until you just said thatyeah, because it's.
It would never be if y'all havekids and the woman or the man
works and y'all have to splitbills and most of the work is on
either or parent yeah thatnever will be.
You know what you say split orwhatever, it would never.
(26:17):
You know what I'm saying?
It would never be Equal.
Equal.
That y'all don't share the load.
Y'all ain't sharing the load.
Speaker 1 (26:28):
Damn.
I mean, I never heard that termbefore, so you know what's
crazy is that damn.
Wow, wow.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
Yeah, you just blew my mind with that one b straight
up yeah, y'all don't share theload, and that's the.
That's the thing.
Like people talk about rolesand they talk about old,
traditional, they have tounderstand that back in the day,
most of our grandparentgrandmamas was not working right
so they had time.
They had time to cook breakfast,they had time to clean up, they
had time for they sell, theyhad time to get the kids ready,
(27:01):
take them a bath, do all thatand they still was happy because
guess what they were?
They didn't have to go clock inthey didn't have to play, pay,
uh, pay half of the bills.
That's why they was able to rubtheir feet, fuck him when he
want to.
Uh, uh, do you know?
Speaker 1 (27:15):
do whatever you know he needed because guess what
they like they weren't workingeight hours plus taking care of
the kids and so if you got amotherfucker that's waking up
early in the morning to take akid to school and then coming
back and taking another kid toschool, then getting himself
(27:37):
ready for work, and then goingto work and working for 10 hours
and then coming back andgetting up and doing the same
motherfucking thing, damn that'sa lot thank you and then on the
motherfuckers off day he isgoing to.
He's dropping motherfuckers offat basketball practice.
He's dropping motherfuckers offday he is going to.
He's dropping motherfuckers offat basketball practice.
(27:57):
He's dropping motherfuckers offat basketball games.
He's dropping motherfuckers offat cheerleading.
He's taking motherfuckers todoctors and dentist appointments
damn feeding them helping withhomework being a counselor?
Speaker 5 (28:11):
nobody ain't nobody and guess what.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
You in the same household with somebody else.
What the fuck are you doingbesides holy shit?
And you know what a person willtell you.
Speaker 5 (28:26):
You know what a person will tell you.
Speaker 2 (28:27):
I pay.
I pay my portion of the bills.
Well, you know what I go.
Give me, look, I'll take careof the kids myself and go get a
little side hustle and you canmove bitch.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
Wow, wow.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
That is fucking nuts I'm going to buy myself anyway.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
You are fucking phenomenal, you are.
I'm so fucking glad that itcame from a woman.
I'm glad that just came from awoman's mouth.
Speaker 2 (28:51):
Yeah, I mean, it's true, I see people, men and
women I see them go through thisall the time, you know.
I mean I see men go through thisand I see women go through this
and I'll be like you're marriedbut you're single wow damn
anytime, I anytime like you,seeing yourself not even getting
a full eight hours of sleep,and not because you don't want
(29:13):
to, but because you can't, whenyou feel like you're exhausted,
when your mind, your mentalcan't even, you can't even
regroup, because every dayyou're doing, you're doing the
same routine.
You're working 10 hours, eightto 10 hours.
You're doing for the kids,you're doing this, you're doing
that, and your partner is nottrying to lighten that load.
(29:34):
When you are married, y'all area partnership, so therefore
somebody y'all supposed to cometogether to lighten each other's
load.
If you're not lightening myload, then you need to go the
fuck on damn, because you'reprobably not aligned we're not
aligned, like you're not sayingyou know what?
(29:54):
you just got out of work.
I pick the kids up.
You know, I'm saying I go, Itake them to the basketball game
.
I do this, you know.
I mean, I got the kids, I takethem a bath.
You just stand there like, ohwell, I'm hungry, you know, uh,
you cook.
Speaker 1 (30:09):
Wow, that's how, yeah wow, hey, that was damn b
that's.
Hey, we'll take a break.
Uh, hey, man, shout out to no,I ain't gonna even say it.
Hey, it's just podcast shot.
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Speaker 1 (31:13):
We either shooting the shit or starting some shit.
And, man, I got to givemarriage props to my girl, b
Carrington, for breaking thatshit down because I mean, like I
said, I'm so glad it came froma woman.
You know what I'm saying.
But you talked aboutcompanionship and what people
should be doing for each otherand I thought about that, like
(31:36):
the ideal companion should bethat motherfucker that you can
talk to, should really be thatmotherfucker that you can feel
like I can do anything with you.
That's how it should be.
You know, I'm saying I can doanything with you because we
have that connection.
You know, I'm saying, and Ithink that those are truly the
(31:59):
relationships that motherfuckersshould, that motherfuckers
should appreciate and invest in.
Do you think, do you think thatthis society nowadays, that we
have those type of relationships?
Speaker 2 (32:14):
no, we have a pimp and hoe relationships.
That's what we have.
We have a and I'm not, I takeit back not a trick and a hoe
relate.
We have those typerelationships now okay, you know
I'm saying because it goes froma woman.
(32:34):
Women out here now are sayingif a nigga got money, I don't
care if he cheat on me.
Right.
That shit is bonkers to me.
You know what I'm saying.
So it's like I'd rather havethe nigga with the money.
No, he cheating.
But shit, I'm taking care ofyou get what?
I'm saying Right.
Versus the man who is loyal.
(32:55):
He may make sixty thousanddollars a year but you know he
going, he trying to get hismoney up so he can make more.
You know I mean hiscertificates.
Whatever he trying to do, theydon't want him.
He ain't got no motion, heain't got this.
He can't buy the designer, hecan't do that wow so really, you
a hoe you looking for a treat?
Speaker 1 (33:11):
you dropping gems today?
Speaker 2 (33:13):
that, but that's the society we live in.
You got me, and ain't nothingwrong with women who women, or
women who want men who make acertain amount of money, but are
you that type of material?
And what I'm saying is is thatyou can't say you want a man
that you can, that you can dealwith no, you don't want.
(33:35):
You say you want, I want anigga, that's, you know, a
million dollar nigga.
Let's just say that for example,they say that I want a million
dollar nigga.
But you work at the mcdonald's,so it's something what what
makes you think that you need athat a million dollar niggas for
it?
You know, I'm saying you need amillion dollar nigga.
You should get with peoplethat's in your realm right you
(33:57):
know, I mean, don't get me wrong, you can shoot for the stars,
but if you're gonna shoot forthe stars, shoot for the stars
for yourself first, yeah, andthen go try to search for that
me, like you know.
I mean, like that's how I feel,like if I was a, if you're in
college, you know I'm sayingthat.
You say you know I want asuccessful guy.
Okay, cool, I can get that.
You're in college yeah but ifyou're the person who is a slut,
(34:23):
or you a hoe you know what I'msaying then how could you say
that you want this type of life?
You want these type of you know?
I mean, you're not in thatrealm, right, you should date
niggas in your ring.
You should get you a drug dealerright you know I'm saying or um
, a gangbanger or a card cracker, yeah, a card cracker or
something, because that's yourrealm, you know.
(34:44):
I mean, if you're the girl thatdon't have any aspirations and
you're working at the mcdonald'sand you just keep having babies
, and that's, that's your lifelife.
And you having kids bydifferent niggas.
You shouldn't want why you keeptrying to shoot for the stars
to get the million dollar nigga.
You should just get the niggathat's the manager of the
McDonald's.
Speaker 1 (35:04):
Or what about the one that has no kind of
conversation, that has no kindof you know what I'm saying?
Like no kind of interest, nokind of passions.
You know what?
Speaker 2 (35:15):
I'm saying I think a lot of some people just don't
have passion, you know, likecareers, or like they have no
passion for anything.
You know, some people like,okay, let me go.
I'm going to say, back in theday, some women aspiration was
to just be a wife, right, andthere's some people ask, back in
(35:37):
the day, some women aspirationwas to just be a wife, right,
and that's some people ask for.
That was some women aspiration,like they was like I'm gonna be
a wife, you know, I'm sayingI'm gonna give me a, a good
husband, I'm gonna have somekids.
That's what I want to do.
I don't want to do nothing else.
Right, that's some peopleaspiration.
Right, and it's when you know.
So that's how, that's how Ifeel like everybody got an
aspiration.
But what is the aspiration?
(35:58):
yeah you know I'm saying you gotsomeone that say I want to be a
.
You got someone who literallysay I want to be a stripper and
I want to you know I'm saying bea prostitute.
Speaker 5 (36:07):
That's their aspiration you got people that
say that well, you know, you got, you got people that say that
wow, you know, you got, you knowyou got people that say that
you know what I'm saying it justso that's their aspiration.
Speaker 2 (36:25):
I think everybody got separate.
You just gotta figure out ifyou're dating that person, what,
what is it?
Speaker 1 (36:32):
that they want.
What are their true like?
What are their it that theywant?
What is it that they want what,what, what are what are their
true like?
What are their true goals?
Speaker 2 (36:39):
yeah, I'm saying like and I feel like people be lying
, like I feel like people shouldtell people what they want.
And I say back in the daybecause remember how rich niggas
were back in the day likethey'll tell you, I want a
trophy wife right people don'tdo that no more.
And a trophy wife will say well,I want a rich nigga, right, a
rich man.
Don't stop saying a rich man.
(36:59):
I want a rich man, okay, and Iwant a trophy wife.
You stay fine, you have my kids, I'm gonna do what I want to do
, but you're gonna be welldraped up and take care of and
she cool with it, but they theydiscussed that.
She know that now peoplegetting into these situations
and they thinking it's love andthat's not what it really was
right that's not what it is.
(37:21):
You were just a trophy wife, atrophy wife or he was a rich man
you was a rich man right damnpeople.
Speaker 1 (37:29):
Just be honest now that part right there, really be
like I think that's a difficultpart for some people is really
being transparent, like this iswhat I want.
You know I'm saying like I know, at this phase of my life, this
is what I want.
Can you provide that?
If you can't, I ain't mad atyou, but I don't want to waste
(37:50):
my time and I don't want towaste your time, you know, know
what I'm saying.
So if and that's why I said thewhole thing about finding that
person that you feel like youcan be your genuine self, you
can be your genuine self, andthen it's even better when both
of y'all can be yourselvestogether you know what I'm
saying Because I feel like inthat kind of situation, you know
, you can kind of do whateverbecause y'all, y'all cool, y'all
(38:15):
discussed that.
You see what I'm saying.
It don't matter what everybody,what everybody else is doing,
this is what we doing.
You get what I'm saying.
This is what we doing and wecool with it.
You know what I'm saying.
Not only are we cool with it,this works for us.
You know, like this, this iswhat really, really drives us.
But when you're not honestabout that, then on one end
(38:38):
somebody feel like yeah, itdrives me.
But the other person is like Idon't really dig this shit.
You know what I'm saying but yougot to be honest about it and I
think that's the problem thatpeople come into the
communication piece, how it's sohard for people to really
communicate and, in a sense,really be vulnerable about what
(38:59):
it is you're feeling.
And Gordo said it.
I think Gordo said it best.
He was like in a relationshipwe'd be trying to control shit.
But a relationship needs theopposite.
It needs trust.
Trust is the opposite ofcontrol.
If you have trust, you don'thave control, and if you have
control, you.
It needs trust.
Trust is the opposite ofcontrol.
If you have trust you don'thave control.
And if you have control, youdon't have trust.
(39:20):
I thought that shit was deep asfuck, and I mean that.
Speaker 2 (39:23):
That is true.
You know what I'm saying,that's true.
I that is a true saying.
I just feel like, when it comesdown to communication and stuff
like that, I feel and stufflike that, I feel like a lot of
times, um, people are soft, youknow.
(39:44):
I mean like like okay, so youcan like me, I'm not a I'm not a
real a soft person.
You know I'm soft, but I'm notsoft, so you can tell me pretty
much anything you know I meanI'm gonna accept it right, or at
least listen.
Well, yeah, at least listen.
And when I say accept it, Imean like shit gonna accept that
right, or at least listen.
Well, yeah, at least listen.
And when I say accept it, Imean like shit, you tell me it
is what it is.
It ain't nothing I can do aboutit.
Let's stay or go right all right, but nowadays people are so
(40:06):
soft that you can tell them youknow this not working out.
You know, I mean I think weshould.
You know, I don't want to hurtyou, I just want to think we
should part ways you know, Imean they will kill you.
You know I mean I think weshould.
You know, I don't want to hurtyou, I just want to think we
should part ways.
You know what I mean.
They will kill you, you know.
I mean they'll harm you atleast.
So fuck up your crib, your car.
You know I mean it's likepeople nowadays, it's they're
(40:27):
too emotional and not logical.
People are very emotional.
It's like I don't know how toexplain it, but it's just a very
, yes, no balance, it's likeit's not.
This is a very emotional, softsociety yeah you can't really
just be open and honest withpeople because they take things
(40:49):
to the heart.
You know I'm saying they thinkpeople are not good with
rejection.
People are not good withrejection, people are not good
with like back in the day youcould tell somebody, a man could
tell a woman, I'm not ready forno relationship.
But you know we can do ourthing.
You know we can kick it, youknow do whatever, and a woman
would be.
some women, not all.
Some women be like all right,cool, and they won't get
(41:10):
attached to that.
But now a man could tell awoman that and the next thing
you know she's telling the worldon social media that you didn't
lie to her play with herfeelings.
You didn't do it out there, youlike but I told, you, but I
told you.
So what are you talking about?
Right I mean you, you kind of.
I mean in so many words.
Speaker 1 (41:32):
No, I directly told you directly told you yeah, you
led me on, yeah, you led me on.
Speaker 2 (41:35):
I didn't lead you on.
It's not even the case.
Speaker 1 (41:37):
I told you exactly in the door what it was Right yeah
.
Speaker 2 (41:41):
So it's kind of like to me.
It's like this society is justa little soft you know, what I'm
saying.
It's a little too emotional.
It's just too emotional.
They get attached with whoeverthey I guess you know the sleep
with.
I guess you could say you knowwhat I mean.
Speaker 1 (42:01):
Right, see, don't fuck broke, that's what we're
talking about.
Don't fuck broke and hungry,that's the motto for tonight.
Hey, y'all, we'll take a breakreal quick and we'll come right
back.
Yo y'all shout out to B-Country, b-country, be dropping gems on
y'all motherfuckers and besounding cold as hell with that
Memphis AS attitude.
It's just podcast y'all.
It's the shit.
Speaker 4 (42:21):
For all erotic needs and fantasy needs, please
contact coldpleasures, that'sC-O-L-P-L-E-S-H-E-R-S Dot com.
Speaker 1 (42:30):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, we are not back, it's just
podcast.
And yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, weare not back.
This is just podcast.
And hey, y'all I got to saytonight we even dropped some
gems, real shit.
I think you should be amotherfucking counselor, a
relationship counselor.
Speaker 2 (42:52):
No, no, I tell people , man, follow your, your heart,
I don't have anything to do withit.
Um, I, because I feel like Ican't counsel nobody
relationship.
You know I'm saying, I know myrelationship ain't perfect.
You know I'm saying so, I knowI just can't counsel nobody, in
that I cannot tell, I can't, Ijust feel.
I just feel that way like Icannot tell you what to do with
(43:14):
your relationship.
Or I can't even counsel youbecause in my, in my eyes, some
of the stuff that people bebeefing over in their
relationships is trivial and Ithink it's stupid and I mess
around.
Tell somebody like this isstupid yeah, so uh, hmm yeah, I
(43:44):
think it's about what peoplechoose to accept.
Speaker 1 (43:48):
You know what I'm saying.
Like some people they might, Iain't accepting that shit.
You know what I'm saying.
Like I'm, I'm just not.
I just can't do it.
But other people may feel likethat don't bother me.
Like when you said the wholething about cheating.
It's some motherfuckers thatcheating is like the ultimate
no-no, I'm out after that.
(44:10):
But then I know somemotherfuckers will be like all
right, you know what I'm saying.
Mistakes happen.
But if it's, it may be someshit about the finances and that
may be.
I can't do this.
You know, what I'm saying.
That's what I can't take.
You know what I'm saying?
That's the part I can't take.
Oh, I don't give a fuck, Idon't give a fuck.
Speaker 5 (44:35):
But I can't do it.
Speaker 1 (44:36):
You know I'm saying but I think it's just about,
it's just about that person.
You know I'm saying, but that'swhy I said the whole concept of
finding that person.
That's you.
You can't.
You gotta.
You got somewhat of a goodunderstanding of them.
You know I what I'm saying.
So then you don't get shitmisunderstood.
(44:58):
Like the communication is there, you get it, and not only can
you say can y'all talk aboutanything, it's easier to digest.
You know what I'm saying.
So a person can say somethingto you and you don't take it so
personal, you know, because youfeel like.
I know this is not coming froma place of spite.
(45:20):
I know this is not coming froma place of malice.
This is you saying, this isjust a concern for me and I'm
saying this to you because Iwant things to be better, you
know.
Speaker 2 (45:32):
So yeah, that's true, and I think that sometimes in
relationships, I think thatpeople um, they don't tell their
partners the truth, um, abouthow they feel and about how they
feel, they kind of tiptoearound it.
You know, um, they kind of actlike passive, aggressive about
(45:56):
it.
You know, um, and I'm like Ifeel, like I don't give a damn.
I'm gonna tell you how I feeland you can ask.
You can ask, don, I'm gonnatell you how I feel, regardless,
right?
You know how you take it, howyou feel.
That has nothing to do with meright um, because I'm the type
of person that if I don't sayhow I feel, I'm never going.
(46:16):
It's not going to rest.
I'm not going to rest, right,so I have to talk to you.
But on the other hand, he thetype of person that he will
tiptoe, tiptoe, tiptoe, tiptoe.
Yeah.
You know what I'm saying hedon't Not me Fuck that.
Because I feel like we've grown.
Speaker 1 (46:34):
Fuck your feelings.
Speaker 2 (46:35):
Yeah, it's like we've grown.
Right.
If it's something that we needto talk, I'm going to talk to
you about your feelings meanshit to me when I have something
on my mind.
Now I'm not going to say it acertain way if I know that
you'll take it a certain way,but I'm going to figure out a
way to tell you.
But I'm going to figure out away to tell you, but I am going
to tell you.
You know what I'm saying.
(46:55):
Whether I got to pull you tothe side, I don't care if we at
your mama house we going to goto the backyard I have.
I'm that type of person Like wecould be at a restaurant, we
could be wherever, If it's.
I have to talk to you aboutsomething because you just did
some.
You did something to to me.
I'm going to pull you to theside and I'm going to talk to
you about it.
Speaker 1 (47:14):
Right then and there.
Right then and there, as youshould, as you should.
I feel like the only I thinkthe only challenge with that is
finding those words in themoment.
You know what I'm saying,Because sometimes people may
feel like it's best for you tolike chill for a minute until
you can think of the right wordsto say to somebody.
You know what I'm saying,Because if you are already
(47:35):
pissed or how they say, in thepsychological realm, in crisis
mode, it's hard.
Like, what are you really goingto hear?
You know what I'm saying.
Like if you're alreadyoverwhelmed, you're already
thinking the motherfucker out toget you, you feel like you've
got to defend yourself and allthis other type of shit, what
(47:57):
are you really going to hearfrom that other person?
You know so sometimes somepeople may say it might be best
to not say it in a momentbecause it's not going to be
they're not going to bereceptive of what you just said.
Speaker 2 (48:11):
And I'm the type I don't care if you're receptive,
that's for you to figure out.
I just want to get up off mychest, you.
I'm saying I'm not, I'm notasking you for the.
I'm not asking you to bereceptive.
I'm just saying, if you'regoing to, I'm just going to tell
you how I feel.
Whether you accept, whether youwere accepted, that's on you,
but I told you whether I got totext it to you.
(48:33):
I didn't sit there and text himwhile we was in church.
You, know what I'm saying so.
It's like whether I got to textit to you.
You know what I'm saying.
Write it down to you.
Whether you accept it orreceptive, that is solely on you
, right.
But I'm not going to walkaround with it on my shoulders.
Speaker 1 (48:52):
I don't want to hold it on me.
I feel the same way gonna walkaround with.
Speaker 2 (48:55):
I don't want to hold it on me.
Speaker 1 (48:55):
I feel the same way.
Yeah, I'm not gonna walk aroundwith it, I don't want to keep
that shit on me.
And sometimes some people mayfeel like but that might be kind
of selfish.
You know, saying that you feellike I just don't want to keep
this shit on me.
You know saying like so if youfeel it, if you agree with it,
that's cool, if you don't, I'mgonna say it anyway.
But you also also got to thinkabout how effective is it If
(49:17):
that person's not going to bereceptive to it, then how
effective is?
I won't say how effective is itfor you to say it, but you just
say it.
Your whole thing is I'm justtrying to get this shit off me.
I don't want to keep walkingaround with this shit on me and
feeling this way and feelinglike I got to hold this shit in.
So that's why I'm fuckingsaying something.
(49:38):
Hopefully you can respond to itand be like okay, I agree or
disagree, but if you don't, okaysee, and that is something that
I am.
Speaker 2 (49:50):
I'm gonna say this I am trying to on you know, caring
more about how people feel.
I'm trying to work on it.
You know what I mean, becausein our reality I don't, and so
I'm trying.
I'm trying to work on it, andI'm saying that because I know
(50:13):
that it does affect.
I know it affects my husband, Iknow it affects my child,
because my whole aspect of lifeis I'm like my mom.
I'm gonna keep it real with youbecause I feel like the world
ain't and I feel like you're notgoing to.
You keep walking around doingthe same thing, or you didn't
piss me off because you didn'tdid it.
I'm gonna have to talk.
(50:34):
I just going to tell you whatit is.
Right.
The world may not tell you whatit is I done lost plenty of
friends Like I don't give a damnif you never talk to me again.
Right.
Just know that that last memorywas me telling you how the fuck
I felt.
Speaker 1 (50:48):
That's dope.
Speaker 2 (50:49):
You know what I'm saying.
Whether we talk again or not,that has nothing to do with me.
Baby, right, because I died, Icame here to by myself.
I'm gonna leave by myself.
That's a good point.
Nobody's leaving with me, so Ihave to.
I.
I've always been like that, youknow.
I'm saying that, that's youknow.
And I'm gonna say this becauseBecause even at work I have to
(51:14):
figure out was called into ameeting with HR Because I did.
I talked to my supervisor and Idid tell him I feel like he was
racist.
See, some people ain't going totell their supervisor that.
But I told him I feel like hewas racist.
I said you keep talking aboutmy tone, my voice, whatever you
(51:34):
want to talk.
I said I feel like you'reracist.
I said'm from the country.
I said and I just I'm a blackgirl, you know, I'm saying, and
I feel like I was racist.
It felt like you're racist.
He told hr and hr asked me.
Well, he said that you feltlike he was racist.
I said I did.
What can y'all do about this?
Right, maybe his feelings hurt,maybe he not racist, I don't
(51:56):
know.
But that's how I felt and Ipulled him to the side to talk
to him about it.
Speaker 1 (52:01):
Right, it ain't like you called him a crack ass
cracker.
Speaker 2 (52:03):
Yeah, I just said we was in a meet.
I pulled him to the side and Isaid you know, I just kind of
feel like you, you you, you'reracist, Damn.
Speaker 1 (52:17):
Hey, we're going to take a break, y'all.
Hey, yo shout out to all themotherfuckers out there that be
telling their supervisors howthey feel and then they get
pulled into HR because somebodysaid you slashed their
motherfucking tires and youdidn't even get a chance to
check their motherfuckingcameras.
Anyway, it's just podcast y'all.
It's the shit.
Speaker 5 (52:30):
This comedian, Marnie P, checking in from the Shits
Podcast.
Speaker 1 (52:35):
Hey, yeah, we are now back at the Shits Podcast and,
yeah, we just can't call themotherfucker con.
Speaker 2 (52:43):
It's conery, it was conery.
Speaker 1 (52:45):
You can't, I mean, you just can't.
Speaker 2 (52:46):
I told him he was shucking in job that man.
He was my DM district manager.
Oh, you can't do that with me.
He wanted to cuss me out.
So bad, but you know, if hewould have cussed he would lost
his job right, but I'm like I'mtalking to him and I'm saying
it's giving conery, you'reshucking and jiving that's what
you're doing.
Speaker 1 (53:02):
It was the way you said it, like you said it
professionally.
Speaker 2 (53:05):
You called him a professional coon no, I just
said he was, his name was marcus, fuck him.
He from chicago too.
So he was like shucking andjiving for the white people.
So I was like oh, I, I, me andhim got into we was talking and
I said I just feel like you, youknow it's full of coonery, you
know I'm saying I said you fullof coonery and you like to shuck
(53:26):
and jive for the white folkswhen it come to black people.
I said nigga, you was fromenglewood, you was from the hood
, you know I'm saying so, comingup here trying to be a coon and
smacking these white people'sface and do all that, but then
you treating us a certain way.
I said shit, it ain't what itis.
And then, of course, hr, hr andI told her exactly what I said,
(53:49):
and she said you know, youcan't really say it.
Speaker 1 (53:52):
Girl, you're so fat ass, Told you, you can't really
say get your fat ass up, yougotta find a different way.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (53:58):
I called her fat and I got fired.
Speaker 1 (54:01):
I did get fired at least you learned something from
it.
I didn't.
I'll do it again.
Hey y'all listen.
I want to tell y'all this.
This platform hey y'all listen.
(54:21):
I want to tell y'all this thisplatform has always been
therapeutic for me because I getthe opportunity to talk my shit
.
Tonight B got the opportunityto really talk her shit and
really show y'all what shereally bring to this podcast.
She ain't been on like the lasttwo episodes and she came back
with a vengeance.
She came back with fire in thismotherfucker.
(54:42):
Hey y'all listen.
Search for real-ass people.
Search for real-assrelationships.
Be honest with motherfuckers.
Be as honest as possible.
Be as honest as possible.
Be as honest as possible.
Communicate with people.
Put that shit out there.
If people don't like it, guesswhat?
That ain't on you no more.
(55:02):
You see what I'm saying.
But if you just keep holding itin and faking it, you know I'm
saying eventually that shit gotto come out and I think that's
what a lot of motherfuckers, uh,experience.
You know I'm saying like youleft theuckers experience.
You know what I'm saying.
Like you, let the facade go onfor too long.
You know what I'm saying.
I get it when you first meetsomebody.
It's the new, you, you knowwhat.
(55:23):
I'm saying but at some point yougot to ease in.
Nigga, I do this.
You know what I'm saying.
I dig in my nose when I'mdriving, whatever the fuck it is
.
You know what I'm saying.
I get tissue.
But you know what I'm saying.
Whatever it is, but you got tolet the real you come out, and I
think that'd be the problemmotherfuckers be experiencing.
So I learned a lot tonight.
I'm definitely going toreevaluate if I'm a fuck when
(55:49):
I'm broke.
Hopefully I don't be broke.
Definitely going to reevaluatethat.
The whole single parent, fathersingle parent single married
single, single married father,single married mother concept,
which is fucking dope.
I think a lot of people need tothink about that.
(56:09):
And yeah, I mean I just reallyappreciate what you did tonight,
Like you really dropped someshit.
Speaker 2 (56:15):
And before we get ready to get out of here, I do
want to um, get on some.
I do want to say this.
It's a very serious note y'allquit popping these pills.
People are losing their lives.
They are lacing these pillswith fentanyl.
Okay, people are dying at 17 18.
You know I'm saying theirhearts are stopping.
(56:37):
Stop popping these pills.
And if y'all are around people,that goes to the point of
having people around you I youshouldn't want a yes man around
you.
If somebody see you nodding offbecause you taking pills or you
taking any type of drugs, andthey still want to be your
friend, they still yes, okay,that's cool, stop kicking it
(56:57):
with them.
But also they can't tell a grownmotherfucker what to do.
You know what I'm saying.
However, y'all, it's really bad.
A young lady by the name ofEnchanting.
She was signed to 1017.
She wasn't signing them at thistime, but she lost her life
(57:18):
from perks, a bad pill.
She was only 26 years old.
My, you know somebody that Iknow back from memphis, two
people that I grew up with.
They lost their lives frompills, from a pill, not even
pills, it's one a pill, but theywere pill poppers anyway you
get.
I'm saying so it's bad pillsgoing around.
Stay away from them, stop doingthem.
Speaker 1 (57:41):
You know, I'm saying like seriously it's they've been
, they cut within now hey, uh,be careful, be careful what you
put in your body real shit.
Um, yeah, I I'll be scared ofthis shit.
Like I don't pop no pills, I,it's just certain shit that I
just can't do, I don't want todo.
But like I'm not gonna saycan't because I hate I hate
(58:03):
using the word can't, it's justshit that I won't do.
I just feel like it's not, it'snot safe, um, so, yeah, y'all
watching pills real shit.
I know y'all want to get high,I know y'all.
You know y'all want to takey'all problems away for a little
while.
But guess what, when your asscome down off them pills, the
problem still be right therewaiting for your ass straight up
(58:25):
.
Instead, try to get somefucking therapy.
Yeah, that shit to get your asshigh.
Yeah, for real.
Um, read a book.
Yeah, straight up, read a bookexercise exercise.
Speaker 2 (58:35):
I'll up Read a book Exercise, exercise.
I was going to just say thatExercise, exercise.
Speaker 1 (58:38):
Straight up.
That shit will get your assfeeling high as hell Rejuvenated
.
You know what I'm saying andbust a nut Shit Unless you broke
.
But then shit, you can always.
You can masturbate if you broke.
You know what I'm saying.
(58:58):
Some people might feel likethey don't want to do that if
they broke.
Homeless motherfuckers don'tmasturbate.
Anyway, y'all know where tofind us.
Y'all can find us on Spotify,apple Podcasts anywhere you get
your podcasts at, let them knowwhere to find you and on social
media B.
Speaker 2 (59:09):
You can find me on Instagram at BCarrington
underscore, and you can find meon TikTok at bcarrington
underscore, and you can find meon TikTok at b will be
Carrington on TikTok.
Speaker 1 (59:19):
Y'all know y'all can find me at monsoons to raw.
That's S-T-A-R-A-W.
On Facebook and on Instagram,not on TikTok, because this is
just the shits podcastS-H-I-T-T-S shit.
You can also find me in thestreets.
No, don't look at me in thestreets, you back outside, oh my
(59:41):
.
God, long story, b Long story.
But yeah, hey, we appreciateanybody that check in with the
Shits Podcast, anybody that tunein, anybody that tell anybody
else to tune in.
We definitely appreciate it.
Shout-out to my man, deca Durs.
Shout out to my man, Don.
Shout out to my man, mark G.
Yo, and let me tell y'allsomething Shit about to get hot.
(01:00:03):
That's all I'm saying.
It's about to get hot.
We got Deca Durs, we got Mark G, we got Il Gordon, we got Vail
DeGeneral, we got Vail theGeneral, we got Andreas Haley.
It's about to be nasty, y'all.
But, anyway, I ain't going tospeak too much on that.
Y'all, make sure y'all tune in.
Make fans, not followers.
Followers will get you clout,fans will get you work.
(01:00:24):
Respect the process.
Understand that the only thingthat happens overnight is
dreaming, slobbing and thembabies, and we up out here,
y'all.
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The Burden is a documentary series that takes listeners into the hidden places where justice is done (and undone). It dives deep into the lives of heroes and villains. And it focuses a spotlight on those who triumph even when the odds are against them. Season 5 - The Burden: Death & Deceit in Alliance On April Fools Day 1999, 26-year-old Yvonne Layne was found murdered in her Alliance, Ohio home. David Thorne, her ex-boyfriend and father of one of her children, was instantly a suspect. Another young man admitted to the murder, and David breathed a sigh of relief, until the confessed murderer fingered David; “He paid me to do it.” David was sentenced to life without parole. Two decades later, Pulitzer winner and podcast host, Maggie Freleng (Bone Valley Season 3: Graves County, Wrongful Conviction, Suave) launched a “live” investigation into David's conviction alongside Jason Baldwin (himself wrongfully convicted as a member of the West Memphis Three). Maggie had come to believe that the entire investigation of David was botched by the tiny local police department, or worse, covered up the real killer. Was Maggie correct? Was David’s claim of innocence credible? In Death and Deceit in Alliance, Maggie recounts the case that launched her career, and ultimately, “broke” her.” The results will shock the listener and reduce Maggie to tears and self-doubt. This is not your typical wrongful conviction story. In fact, it turns the genre on its head. It asks the question: What if our champions are foolish? Season 4 - The Burden: Get the Money and Run “Trying to murder my father, this was the thing that put me on the path.” That’s Joe Loya and that path was bank robbery. Bank, bank, bank, bank, bank. In season 4 of The Burden: Get the Money and Run, we hear from Joe who was once the most prolific bank robber in Southern California, and beyond. He used disguises, body doubles, proxies. He leaped over counters, grabbed the money and ran. Even as the FBI was closing in. It was a showdown between a daring bank robber, and a patient FBI agent. Joe was no ordinary bank robber. He was bright, articulate, charismatic, and driven by a dark rage that he summoned up at will. In seven episodes, Joe tells all: the what, the how… and the why. Including why he tried to murder his father. Season 3 - The Burden: Avenger Miriam Lewin is one of Argentina’s leading journalists today. At 19 years old, she was kidnapped off the streets of Buenos Aires for her political activism and thrown into a concentration camp. Thousands of her fellow inmates were executed, tossed alive from a cargo plane into the ocean. Miriam, along with a handful of others, will survive the camp. Then as a journalist, she will wage a decades long campaign to bring her tormentors to justice. Avenger is about one woman’s triumphant battle against unbelievable odds to survive torture, claim justice for the crimes done against her and others like her, and change the future of her country. Season 2 - The Burden: Empire on Blood Empire on Blood is set in the Bronx, NY, in the early 90s, when two young drug dealers ruled an intersection known as “The Corner on Blood.” The boss, Calvin Buari, lived large. He and a protege swore they would build an empire on blood. Then the relationship frayed and the protege accused Calvin of a double homicide which he claimed he didn’t do. But did he? Award-winning journalist Steve Fishman spent seven years to answer that question. This is the story of one man’s last chance to overturn his life sentence. He may prevail, but someone’s gotta pay. The Burden: Empire on Blood is the director’s cut of the true crime classic which reached #1 on the charts when it was first released half a dozen years ago. Season 1 - The Burden In the 1990s, Detective Louis N. Scarcella was legendary. In a city overrun by violent crime, he cracked the toughest cases and put away the worst criminals. “The Hulk” was his nickname. Then the story changed. Scarcella ran into a group of convicted murderers who all say they are innocent. They turned themselves into jailhouse-lawyers and in prison founded a lway firm. When they realized Scarcella helped put many of them away, they set their sights on taking him down. And with the help of a NY Times reporter they have a chance. For years, Scarcella insisted he did nothing wrong. But that’s all he’d say. Until we tracked Scarcella to a sauna in a Russian bathhouse, where he started to talk..and talk and talk. “The guilty have gone free,” he whispered. And then agreed to take us into the belly of the beast. Welcome to The Burden.