July 29, 2025 • 63 mins
What happens when relationships break down? What makes them thrive? DJ Monsoon welcomes Brandon Caldwell and Alicia Balark for a raw, unfiltered conversation about modern connection that goes far deeper than typical relationship talk.
The trio dives into what truly constitutes a healthy relationship, with both guests identifying respect and clear boundaries as foundational elements. Brandon eloquently explains how "mutual respect" creates the necessary framework, while Alicia adds nuanced perspective about meeting each other "where we are that day and loving each other through that." Their insights highlight how successful partnerships require both structure and flexibility.
The conversation takes fascinating turns through discussions of generational differences in relationships. Brandon observes that our grandparents didn't have the "accessibility" modern couples do—when problems arose, they couldn't simply swipe to the next option. This prompts a compelling exploration of how technology has fundamentally altered our approach to commitment, creating what Brandon calls a "7-Eleven" dating culture where people discard relationships at the first sign of challenge.
Perhaps the most thought-provoking segment examines masculinity in urban culture, with Brandon delivering an unflinching assessment: "You don't see James Evans Sr. as a man anymore." The guests dissect how limited representations of Black manhood leave younger generations without nuanced role models, creating cycles that affect everything from dating dynamics to parenting approaches. Alicia's perspective as a strong woman navigating these expectations adds valuable dimension to the conversation.
The episode closes with powerful reflections on healing, communication, and finding harmony despite our differences. As Brandon poetically notes, sometimes the simplest gesture—a genuine smile—can "light up the back ends of heaven."
Ready for relationship insights that go beyond surface-level advice? Listen now and join the conversation. Have thoughts or want to be featured on a future episode? Email djmonsoonstaraw@gmail.com to connect.
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Speaker 1 (00:15):
Yo yo yo, what up, what up, what up, what up.
Y'all this, your boy, dj Monson.
What's the rock Coolest catcherheard this far?
You're now tuned in to theShits Podcast.
We're either shooting the shit,starting some shit, or picking
up what shit left off.
So really, in this situation weare definitely picking up what
shit left off because I ain'tbeen here in a minute.
Y'all Long-ass story.
We'll get into it later.
(00:35):
I probably ain't going to telly'all, probably will, I don't
fucking know.
Anyway, we back and this week Igot two very special guests to
the podcast.
Like I always tell y'all,anybody that come on to the
podcast is very special, notlike radio special like
Troubadour and Junior, specialshit like that, but special
because they got shit to say,they got knowledge and I love
(01:00):
having conversations with them.
So this week I got my brother,my brother from another mother.
I've been knowing this dude forlike 10 plus years.
Very wise dude, country cat,you know what I'm saying.
Down to earth.
Put y'all on game.
So, without further ado, y'allgive it up for my man, the one
and only Brandon Caldwell.
Yeah, brandon Caldwell, y'all.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Oh, how you feel, bro , I'm good man.
Thanks for the warm intro.
I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
No problem.
And next up, very special guest.
She's very dear to me, sisterto me.
Very smart, very spiritual,down to earth man love talking
to me.
Very smart, very spiritual,down to earth man love talking
to her.
I've been going through someshit at times and she's been
right there, so I definitelyappreciate it.
(01:53):
Y'all give it up for the one,the only, Alicia Baylard aka
Miss B.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
Hi, I'm Alicia.
How y'all feeling I'm good,cool, cool'm Alicia.
How y'all feeling hey y'all,I'm good, cool, cool cool, all
right.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
So can y'all hear me Very good, yep, all right.
So I always like to do acheck-in with the guests and so
this week I want to check inwith y'all and I want to ask
y'all what are y'all?
And I want to ask y'all, whatare y'all working on?
So what I mean by what arey'all working on me like, not
like cars and shit like that,but like what are you working on
(02:33):
emotionally and mentally?
Speaker 3 (02:39):
okay, who's going first?
Speaker 2 (02:41):
I'm a go first.
I'm a Southern boy, ladiesfirst.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
Okay, thank you, I appreciate that.
I guess I'm just working onjust being self-aware, holding
myself accountable, making sureto check in with myself and see
how I'm feeling throughout myday, at the end of my day, for
sure, and just making sure thatI'm good mentally, so I can keep
(03:07):
going okay yeah, what about youb?
Speaker 2 (03:10):
you know, dealing with uncertainty, you know, um,
and our line of work, you know,is like a box of chocolates you
just don't know what flavoryou're gonna come up on.
So just being able to adapt andbe able to adjust the
situations as they come in realtime, you know, that's what I'm
working on.
Because you know this part ofthe year is just yeah, you know
(03:32):
what I mean Because this part ofthe year is just really, really
, really, really hard for me.
You know what I'm saying.
So just really focusing in onwhat I can control and what I
can't control, and just tryingto be a better person these days
.
The Lord gave me a day to live.
You know what I mean?
I love that.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
I love that.
I love that.
So B, where you from.
I know it, but the audiencedon't know it, so I got to ask
the question when you from B.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Originally Chicago, Illinois.
Oh, are you asking him or me?
Well, that's for, that's forBrian Go ahead, go ahead.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
You start it, go ahead.
We're adapting to Justin.
He calls me B2.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Go ahead, you go ahead.
Well, I'm from the great stateof Texas, but we're a third ward
which is in Houston and throughand through, like your boy
Elliot say Texas in every way.
But I've been up here now forover 20 years and this is home
way.
But I've been up here now forover 20 years and this is home.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Okay, what about you, miss B?
Speaker 3 (04:32):
Originally from Chicago, illinois.
I've traveled some ofeverywhere.
I've lived in Indianapolis,I've lived in Michigan.
Now I stay in Indiana.
I'm an.
Indianimal now Well, I want tosay congratulations, okay, thank
(04:55):
you.
It's not Texas, right?
Okay, no, it's not Texas, allright.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
So, ms B, how would you describe yourself?
Speaker 3 (05:11):
How would I describe myself?
Assertive, I don't want to sayaggressive.
I can be very, very assertive.
That's something that I'veactually been working on.
Also I think I talked to youabout this.
I've been trying to be more howdid I say it Like in my
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feminine energy, as opposed tobeing Sometimes Okay.
So I'm a female, I work withmen, so I sometimes feel like I
have to almost wear this suit ofarmor when I'm at work Because
of the way I look, people goingto try you.
They either going to try you orthey going to think that they
can talk to you or you're asuper sucker deluxe and I'm none
of those things.
So I definitely feel like Ihave to let that be known and
(05:53):
that might look like me beingaggressive, but really I'm just
being assertive and kind ofsetting a boundary and requiring
everybody to meet me there.
Does that make sense?
That makes sense.
That makes sense.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
I mean so it definitely makes sense to make
it.
I'm glad, and I'm glad youbroke it down like that too.
Um, brandon, how would youdescribe yourself?
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Well, I'm, I'm.
I'm tall, dark and lovely, anduh, but it's context to that
statement though.
I'm tall, dark and lovely.
But it's context to thatstatement, though, because when
you're tall, dark and lovely,you know you're often reminded
you don't live in such a lovelyworld.
So people have perceptions ofyou and you have to really work
on how you present yourself, howyou express yourself verbally
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as as non-verbally, because youknow I'm over six feet, I'm over
250 pounds.
So when you walk into a room,whether you want it, all eyes
are on you, whether you wantthem to be or not.
So you have to pay attention tohow you present yourself and
how you move at all times,because you can find yourself in
precarious situations that younever planned for.
So that's just something that Iwork on every day, you know,
(07:07):
because if you're watching me,you know it's a daily goal of
mine to give you something tolook at and what you see.
You know you may not be wantingto see it, because it's going
to be something that's just wayout there.
So that's just what I do.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
So when you gave the description of how tall you are
on your weight, I believe if MsB would have saw you, she would
describe you as big fella, yeah,big fella, yeah, you sound like
a big fella, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, you know I mean, yeah, you know I'm
a big fella, I'm from Texas,things big.
So I got to represent yeah, allright, but yeah, you know, like
I say, but in doing that, youknow what I'm saying.
When you're a highly melanatedman, you know we live in a world
where perception is 90 to 100%,reality is 90 to 100 reality
(08:07):
and you know you find yourselfin situations where people, all
people, really is like oh, thisguy, you know, is gonna do
something.
I remember when I was a kid, mydad used to be like pop, they
scared of you, they gonna killyou, and I was like 13, 14 years
old and I just didn'tunderstand what he was talking
about until I became older.
So I really, throughout my life,I've just really, really
(08:27):
focused in on how I am in everysituation.
And well, the one thing thatI'm always is and John, you can
attest to this, when we workedtogether, I was always
respectful and always cool.
Cool because because if you letyour emotions dictate, a
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situation and a person isperceiving you in a negative way
and they scared, you maytrigger them to do something
that nobody wants to deal with.
So self-discipline is somethingthat I always practice, even
when I'm, you know even sleephygiene, you, you practice
discipline in that too, becauseyou have to maintain it in every
situation because of whatpeople's perception of you which
(09:10):
is out of your control.
You know what I mean.
That's just something I work on, it is, it is.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
So, speaking of people's perception, let me ask
you this.
Questions for both of you.
What's your perception of ahealthy relationship?
Speaker 3 (09:29):
I'll let you go ahead and take that one big fella I
mean.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
My perception of a happy relationship is is mutual
respect and I think you saidhealthy, not happy, happy.
Healthy, happy healthy.
To me it falls along thoselines Mutual respect, because I
feel like as individuals we haveto have boundaries and I think
that sometimes in unhealthyrelationships they're not clear,
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defined boundaries.
So I think in a healthyrelationship boundaries is
something that's defined, it'sdiscussed and it's honed, you
know, because nobody's perfectand it's a journey between the
two people and they work witheach other to make harmony,
because it's just going to bedays where things are not going
to be so harmonious.
So I think if the boundariesare there and boundary can be,
(10:23):
uh, uh, used, um, another word Imean can be used for boundaries
.
So as long as I think thatfoundation is there, I think
that that's the catalyst to ahealthy relationship.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
My opinion I like that, I like, I like the way you
broke that down.
What about you, miss b?
Speaker 3 (10:40):
um, for me I guess it's just to kind of piggyback
off what he said.
I think for me and I've been inmy relationship this time for
about 10 years Um, I'm engaged,I'm not married, but it's um,
it's like you said, it's therespect thing because, again,
I'm I'm not going to be ahundred percent every day, he
not going to be a hundredpercent every day, sometimes he
(11:01):
going to have to be 80 and I'mbe, hey, I'm only got 20 to give
baby.
So it's just us.
For me, it's us respecting eachother, seeing where we are,
meeting each other where we arethat day and loving each other
through that, whatever thatlooks like so yeah I I would say
respect is definitely gotta bethe number one thing in my
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relationship.
That keeps it somewhat healthy.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
I guess that makes sense.
That makes sense.
I like the fact that both ofy'all said respect.
And I like that Brandon said,the harmonious element of it.
Because I think my personalopinion, in this day and age
that's kind of hard to defineand in this day and age that's
kind of hard to define.
And when it's hard to defineit's definitely hard to
(11:47):
recognize Like what is harmony?
Like what does harmony looklike for you?
Speaker 3 (11:53):
Right because that's like subjective.
Right Because it's going tolook different for everybody.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Right.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
And harmony for me is just, you know, being
considerate.
You know I mean I'm a littlethings guy.
I'm not really a big things guy.
I mean if I'm with a partnerand she looks at me and she
smiles at me or she say thankyou or she say I appreciate you,
that means a lot more to methan taking me out to a nice
restaurant and spending or buyme a pair of $700 shoes.
(12:24):
You know what I mean.
That just don't mean nothing tome, but the fact that you
consider it, you know of myfeelings like yo do you want
this?
You know, if you're out at thestore and you'd be like yo B,
you want this, you know littlestuff like that, that means that
carries a lot more weight thanme, than the upfront material
stuff, the considerate stuff.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
That's a needle mover for me.
Okay, so, speaking ofharmonious, like harmony and
respect, like I think aboutrelationships now, compared to
like our grandparents andgreat-grandparents, what would
y'all think if you could to putyourself in their shoes?
(13:10):
What would y'all think ourgrandparents and
great-grandparents consideredhealthy relationships?
Speaker 3 (13:17):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
Go ahead, Ms B.
Speaker 3 (13:31):
For me, okay, well, go ahead, miss b?
Um.
For for me, uh, my grandparentsand my great-grandparents, uh,
neither one of my grandmotherswere married, so they had their
children and did what they didand raised them as strong black
women.
So I don't really have thatpoint of reference to even you
know what I mean.
So.
So I've always just I've comefrom a lineage of just strong
women that just did what theyhad to do and push through.
So for me, being in this spacethat I'm in now, like I'm, I'm
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having to learn.
You know what I mean Like, likewhat it means to just, like I
was saying in the beginning how,like, sometimes I'm perceived
as aggressive or assertive.
That's because I've come from alineage of women who raised men
like right, so it's for me.
(14:15):
And then my fiance he's this isgonna sound toxic, but he's an
alpha male.
So I sometimes have to pullback myself and be like whoa,
whoa, like chill, you don'tgotta be.
So you know what I mean.
So, honestly, yeah, I wouldn't.
I have no point of reference onthat one.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
What you got?
Big fella.
My grandparents, my dad'sparents, were married for like
almost 60 years and but therewas a 20 year age.
There was a 20 year age gap too.
Like, my grandfather was muchmore older than my grandmother
and I think the differencebetween our generations and
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their generations isaccessibility.
We have more accessibility toluxury, whereas you know, we
were more agrarian uh, we weremore of an agrarian culture back
then.
So you couldn't have if it gotbad at your house.
You couldn't just go to yourcousin's house down the street,
because down the street was likefive miles.
(15:17):
You know what I'm saying.
Or you couldn't just go to theclub.
You know they only did the jukejoints on Friday and Saturday
night.
So if this is a Tuesday, y'alljust got to work that shit out.
You know what I'm saying.
And in doing that, you learnpatience and you learn to grow,
and it may be things about aperson and a lot of
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relationships during that time.
They got to know each otherover time because they courted
each other, they dated eachother.
You know what I'm saying.
Well, if I want something, Ican just go on social media.
It's right there.
It's like 7-Eleven, you knowwhat I'm saying, and then, if I
don't like it, I can getsomething else.
Speaker 3 (16:01):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
It's different.
You know, you can't you know,cause like there are a lot of
men raising other men's children, but it was done in secret and
everything is like it's out inthe open now.
You see what I'm saying, andthat loyalty and that bond was
there, even if your grandfatherstepped out and had a kid with
another woman.
It's like yo, I built this lifewith this person.
(16:25):
I've got to know this person.
I grew up with this person.
In a way, this person kind ofraised me into adulthood, just
like I raised them intoadulthood.
And it's different for usbecause we have so much
accessibility and variety andshe is, you know, in my opinion.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
I'm glad you said that, man, because it made me
think about the concept oftechnology, the increase in
technology, how it's right thereat our hand and it's on our
phone.
You know what I'm saying.
So do you think that thecurrent generation's access to
technology has tainted the ideaof relationships, kind of like
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bastardized it?
You know what I'm saying.
It's like it's not a big thinganymore.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
I agree.
Yeah, I mean like dude, like Idon't mean to take this to a
perverted place, but when wewere kids and we found smut or
porn, it was like we won thelottery.
You know what I'm saying, youain't laughing, you ain't
laughing.
If you find your daddy or youruncle in a penthouse or Playboy
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magazine, it was like oh man.
Or if you're picking up cansand you find it, oh shit, you
invite the whole neighborhood.
Now I can just go to fuckingReddit.
I can go to goddamn OnlyFans.
I can just have Google.
It's right there.
You know what I'm saying.
It ain't no big deal.
(18:00):
You know what I'm saying.
You got to realize we came intoall of this technology, these
younger kids, this is all theyknow.
Speaker 5 (18:08):
You know what I mean, so they are more immune to
these types.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
So, like man, seeing a girl with all her cheeks out
don't mean I mean hell.
You go to school with girlswith their cheeks out.
You know what I'm saying?
It's nothing, so you know.
There's no taboo to this shit,no more.
It's out there now.
It's just a whole differentanimal.
He's still going, go ahead.
Speaker 3 (18:32):
I was just saying I agree with you, because I have a
17-year-old son and he has nointerest in dating all this
other stuff.
He's just like yeah, thesegirls is trash, people record
these girls doing all kindsother stuff like.
He's just like, yeah, thesegirls is trash.
Like people record these girlsdoing all kind of stuff they all
on the internet that can thatruins lives.
(18:52):
It's just like, yeah, I kind of, yeah, this, this uh generation
is kind of fucked as far asrelationships go.
I feel like damn I mean, I meandon't know, that's just what I
think me personally, and I don'teven mean this generation, I
mean like just the dating poolat all anymore.
(19:13):
I feel like I don't know how itis in Texas big fella, but up
here it's trash.
Bro, I live up here with you, Ilive in.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
Wisconsin, I'm with your neighbor.
Speaker 3 (19:22):
I'm sorry, I thought you were saying Texas.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
No, that's where the seed was shot.
That's where big cops shot theseed at.
Speaker 3 (19:32):
I'm in the Midwest, I feel like the dating pool is
trash.
I feel like all the marriedpeople don't want to be married
but they don't really know whatthey want.
They kind of sort of knowPeople want to play games.
I also feel like a lot of menoh my God, a lot of men like I
liked that you from the South,big fella, because I feel like
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you know how to court a woman,as you said earlier.
A lot of these men now I feellike they want you to chase them
.
They want you to chase themdown and date them.
And I'm sorry, sir, Do you wearpanties too, man?
Speaker 2 (20:10):
it's trash, it's just trash, it's interesting that
you bring that up, b.
It's interesting that you bringthat up, ms B, because it's
like we in a culture now sinceyou brought that up about men
let's talk about masculinity inour urban culture now.
When you since you brought thatup about men let's talk about
masculinity in our urban culturenow.
Because you don't see.
(20:30):
You don't see James Evans Sr asa man anymore.
You see a motherfucker likelittle YSL Woody and Shamar, or
a bloviated loudmouth likeCharleston White.
You know what I'm saying, butyou don't see.
And those are the threeextremes of masculinity in our
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urban culture right now.
You're either a gangster, oryou're gay, or you're just a
bloviating loudmouth.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
Goddamn.
You know what?
Speaker 2 (21:03):
I mean yeah, you know so you and this extrapolates
from Charleston White himselfyou either.
You know we are raising twotypes of men.
We're either raising thegangster or we're raising the
gay guy, because we have such alow, we have such a low scale
(21:24):
when it comes to excellence inurban culture.
If a kid wants to go to school,the gangster's gonna beat the
shit out of him.
Speaker 3 (21:32):
You're right.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
And then the gangster who beat the shit out of him go
to prison and come out likeShamal.
Speaker 1 (21:40):
Oh shit.
Speaker 3 (21:41):
It's a vicious cycle.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
Goddamn yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
Because I was standing.
Like you know, we lovelow-hanging fruit.
In our culture Nobody jumps forfruit anymore.
It's low-hanging, just grabthem.
You pick it up off the ground.
Now you know what I mean?
Damn Right.
And it's just like you justdon't see no more James Evans Jr
anymore or Mr Jefferson fromthe Jeffersons.
You don't see no more JamesEvans Jr anymore or Mr Jefferson
from the Jeffersons.
You don't see in theneighborhood.
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You just don't see men Like.
My dad was a working man.
He was a manly man but hedressed, fly, kept his hair cut,
shaved, he smelled good.
You just don't see thoseexamples of masculinity anymore.
You see motherfuckers withtheir drawers out, you know.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
You see YNs and you see, shamar, even the older
generation you think too Like,so not so much the teenagers,
but like the 30 or the 40 plus.
Speaker 2 (22:34):
We can go into that too, because you know we live in
a culture now where nobodywants to be old.
You know you got women in their40s and 50s and 60s.
That ain't the new 20.
I don't know what you'retalking about.
You know you got women in their40s and 50s and 60s.
They post just.
They post just as many thirsttraps as the young girls do now
that's a damn good point what hesay go ahead, say it again B.
(22:57):
I say they post just as manythirst traps on social media as
the young girls do.
You know they wear the same.
When we were growing up, yourbig mama looked like your big
mama.
Your mama looked like your mamaBecause after she had her last
child, she started spreadinglike yeast bread.
Now everybody got flat stomachsand BBLs and shit.
You know what I'm saying.
You know you got a20-something-year-old daughter.
(23:18):
Hell, some of these womencompeting with their
20-something-year-old daughter,they, like sisters, like you,
can't tell a difference.
Speaker 3 (23:25):
You right.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
So when you can't differentiate between
generations and nobody wants tobe old, what you left with what
we got?
Damn Trashcom.
Look at the young kid.
I don't know if y'all watchedthis.
This shit went viral becausethis young kid was talking about
Nas and Jim Jones.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
The kid was so disrespectful to Nas, right,
really, he's like man Nas.
He ain't popping Jim Jones likebro.
You don't even know the historyor the context of this man's
contribution to the culture.
No respect, and I feel thatcomes from you not having
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figures in your culture to whereyou can differentiate.
Like he really couldn'tdifferentiate between Nas and
Jim Jones.
But me and you and Miss B candifferentiate between Michael
Jackson and Jim Jones.
But me and you and Miss B candifferentiate between Michael
Jackson and James Brown.
That is true, we candifferentiate that, right, we
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can differentiate between themand Shaka Khan and Denise
Williams and Beyonce.
We can differentiate that.
You see what I'm saying.
But these young people, becausethey don't have that.
So our culture, man, I think inthe last 40 years we've done
such a horrible job of adultingas it relates to protecting our
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children, because when you don'tprotect your children, they
start to protect themselves andthey have no boundaries when it
comes to respect and we can'treally get mad at them because
there ain't really much outthere showing you how to respect
motherfucking raisingthemselves.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
So let me ask y'all this what do y'all think is the
most undervalued element inrelationships these days,
meaning, what's the element thatpeople don't give a shit about
in a relationship?
Speaker 3 (25:33):
I'm happy.
Speaker 2 (25:36):
No, I want to hear this from you, Miss B, first.
I'm glad you asked thatquestion, Doc.
Yeah, please.
Speaker 3 (25:42):
Repeat the question again.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
What do you think is the most undervalued element in
a relationship?
What is that element thatpeople feel like, oh, I don't
give a fuck about that, likethat's not important to me,
that's not important in myrelationship?
Speaker 3 (25:58):
Oh, shit low-key, shit, shit Low key.
It's all important to me, itall go hand in hand.
The most undervalued Is itloyalty?
(26:19):
Not for me, no, I'm not sayingI'm yours I'm saying from the
outside, looking in, like justwhat you mean in general.
Yeah, oh, you mean like amongstthis did I even say this
(26:39):
generation?
Speaker 1 (26:40):
yeah, not this generation, but just what's out
there yeah, this day and age,what's the most undervalued
element?
Speaker 3 (26:48):
I'm yeah.
If that's what we're talkingabout, then yeah, I would have
to say loyalty, because I mean,from my point of view, I get hit
on by more married men than Ido anything else okay so for me
yeah, that's what I'm sayingmarried men than I do anything
else.
For me yeah, that's what I'msaying.
You got motherfuckers in theserelationships and in these
marriages and stuff that don'teven seem like they happy.
(27:10):
It's like did you just do someshit because you got this lady
pregnant and this is what yourparents told you to do?
It's not given what it'ssupposed to be given.
You know what I'm saying now,like I said, I don't.
Like I said, I've been with myfiance for 10 years.
I'm not really pushing theinstitution of marriage because
I feel like that's a businessanyway.
(27:30):
I don't need a piece of paperto tell me that I love you and
you love me and we going to dothis.
If anything is for financialreasons and for medical reasons,
that's the only reason I wouldreally do it.
I feel like people are loyal towhatever it is that drives them
.
I will say that.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
Good point, very good point.
Speaker 3 (27:50):
Whatever it is that drives them, not so much their
union, okay.
Speaker 1 (27:56):
What about you?
Speaker 2 (27:58):
I think, value.
I think the reason why you knowdivorce rate is at 80 percent
is because I don't think there'snot much emphasis on valuing
the other person.
Like if a person expressesthemselves to another person,
especially if it's somethingthat they don't like about their
(28:20):
partner, a lot of times thepartner takes it as an insult
and becomes defensive.
Don't look at that.
And then you have to go intothat real slippery area of
interpretation.
You're insulting me and I thinkthat if a person over a period
(28:43):
of time, gets to the point wherethey don't feel valued, they're
going to go somewhere wherethey are valued, and that goes
for men and women.
That goes for men and women.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (28:53):
Yeah, but I mean, I feel like that's when couples
therapy should come into play.
I've done couples before.
I'm speaking for myself, likeI've been to that point that
you're talking about and it'slike, okay, I'm saying something
, you saying something.
We clearly not hearing eachother, because I'm saying what
I'm saying but you hearingsomething else and I'm hearing
something outside of your mouth.
So at that point I feel like ifthis is something you really
(29:16):
want to do and this is somethingthat you're loyal to, you know,
I'm saying that's when I wouldtry to bring in a mediator, a
non-biased party, to kind ofhelp us navigate that area of
whatever we're disagreeing about.
But not everybody does that,especially black people, because
you know, black people, there'sa lot of stigma on therapy, on
(29:37):
mental health and all of that.
Speaker 2 (29:39):
So and I also think you spoke up on something.
You spoke up on somethingearlier about, you know, um,
being being strong, you know.
You know being strong and beingresilient in, in my opinion,
(30:03):
are two different words andsometimes circumstances compel
us to be more resilient than wereally have the capacity to be.
Okay, you know, because we comefrom cultures where there are a
lot of white elephants in theroom.
We come from cultures wherethere are a lot of white
elephants in the room, you knowthere's promiscuity, there's
(30:24):
child molestation, there'sincestual rape, there's rape.
You know, there are a lot ofthings that physical, emotional
abuse.
All of these white elephantsare in the room.
And we, you know, throughculture, you know, we, we, we
applied this.
You know through culture, youknow we applied this.
You know this popular label ofbeing strong.
(30:44):
But when you have all of thisunresolved trauma and then you
bring it in, you're producinggenerations.
I mean that's almost like ablueprint for disaster.
I'm like how can you do anybetter when you don't know what
you're doing, because you don'teven know how you got where you
are?
You know what I mean Absolutely, and it's a generational thing.
(31:05):
It's like two, three, fourgenerations and then coaches,
subliminally, are built aroundthat and you know that's what we
got today.
You know, and to your point andto B's point, go ahead.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
It's interesting that you say that, because I read a
quote that said if it stillhurts, you're not healed.
You see?
Speaker 4 (31:32):
what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (31:34):
So it's kind of like you know we'll say things like
we got over it.
You know that was years ago orwhatever.
But when somebody bring it upit still makes you feel a
certain type of way.
So it's kind of like if youthink about it then you're
really not fucking healed.
You see what I'm saying?
Speaker 3 (31:51):
But I mean, I feel like healing it looks different
for everybody, right?
So like I was literally justtalking to my aunt about
something that I'm trying toheal from, and it's like, when
this issue comes up again, Istill I and this is something
that I have talked to and triedto work through in therapy but
(32:14):
when this issue does come up, mybody still, that that fight or
flight is still there, like likeit's happening.
You know, does that make sense?
So, but does that mean I'm nothealed, but does that mean that
I'm not healed?
Speaker 1 (32:31):
Unfortunately, I would say no.
I would say no Because, like, Idon't know, like, okay, it's
kind of like if you get a cut onyour arm, right If it's healed
up, if a motherfucker, touch it,it ain't going to hurt, no more
.
You know what I'm saying.
(32:52):
It ain't going to hurt, no more.
But it's kind of like if youget a cut and you think that
motherfucker is healed up, butif somebody put a finger, on
that motherfucker then thatmeans that motherfucker
Speaker 5 (33:04):
is healed.
Speaker 2 (33:05):
You see what I'm saying?
Yeah, but you also got to lookat the phenomenon, too, of
gender.
Right, we are men, soeverything is up front, direct,
boom, boom, boom.
My mother told me somethingthat really still to this day,
fuck my head up.
My mom been gone almost twoyears.
(33:27):
She told me something when Iwas a little boy that really
fuck my head up.
She said I remember givingbirth to all three of y'all and
I remember all of the pain thatI went through having y'all and
I remember all of the pain thatI went through having y'all, but
when I heard you scream and Iheard you cry and your feet kick
out, I forgot about all of thatpain.
(33:51):
So I saw the deliverance of lifevideo in health class in high
school and I seen that womanvagina expand to 10 centimeters.
Bro, because I saw my assexpanding to 10 centimeters and
I couldn't deal with that typeof excruciating pain.
And that was over 30 some yearsago, bro.
(34:13):
So you have to look at that,that phenomenon, a person who
can go through something that islife-threatening and as painful
as conceiving life.
They can turn it off with thelight switch.
So how Ms B deals with pain isgoing to be night and day,
different than how me and youdeal with pain, because she can
compartmentalize that way betterthan me and you.
(34:35):
And I think that's a lot wherewe're clashing.
But that's where we butt handsat, because when you all inflict
pain on us, we're giving thatfeedback to you in real time, to
where, as you look at it, likewell, shit, you've done
something to me, I can just getover it.
Yeah, that's because you canexpand to 10 centimeters and
squeeze a whole human life outof you and experience that type
(34:58):
of motherfucking pain and turnit off and be like shit.
We on to the next one, weanatomically and emotionally.
Why is this?
You know that shit hurt like amotherfucker.
I'm like I'm hurting.
I ain't never gave birth and itstill hurt me, so it's like you
know.
So when you go back to thebasic tenets of how life is
(35:24):
created, you have to start thereand then work your way into
into real life routines and thenyou get an understanding why
this person don't understand howsomething is affecting you and
vice versa, because we, whyyou're different.
You know what I mean, right.
Vice versa, because we wireddifferent.
You know what I mean and Ithink that's the catalyst to why
a lot of relationships failbecause people, because of that,
(35:46):
the way we are anatomicallywired, Because of that
disconnect, like that disconnect.
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (35:54):
I'm telling you something, but you're hearing
something completely differentfrom what I'm telling you about
this, and you heard broccoli ina microwave, exactly and vice
versa in a microwave, exactly,and vice versa, and vice versa.
Speaker 2 (36:04):
You're like motherfucker, get over it.
Speaker 3 (36:07):
You're like get over it.
Speaker 2 (36:08):
Goddamn, it ain't that big deal.
In your mind it's not a bigdeal, but to that person it's a
big deal, and vice versa, and itshould just go left.
You'd be way in the bushes.
You'd be so far away from theconcrete you'd never find your
way back.
You in the forest, you in LakeMichigan, goddamn so do you
(36:29):
think so.
Speaker 1 (36:29):
Do y'all think that it's a lack of empathy?
Am I saying the word correctly?
You know what I'm saying that'spart of the problem.
Like I hear you.
Like you said, ms B.
Like like I hear you.
Like you said, like you saidmiss b.
Like I hear you, but like youain't like you listening, but
you ain't really fucking hearingme you get what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (36:45):
You're not actively listening.
You're listening to respond,not listening to really digest
and hear what I'm saying.
You listening already on thedefense, because you you already
assuming I'm about to bebitching about something, so you
already like oh, I've beenthere before.
Speaker 1 (37:00):
I've been there before and I have to hold myself
accountable, I've been therebefore.
Speaker 3 (37:05):
I mean, I think we've all been there before, yeah.
Speaker 2 (37:09):
It becomes a competition.
Yeah, oh man, it becomes acompetition.
My feelings more important thanyours, fuck you.
Mine more important than yours.
Now, fuck you thatmotherfucking mama.
Shit, god damn it.
Hell, kiss my ass.
You know what I mean.
But everybody hurt.
Speaker 3 (37:26):
Yeah, yeah, you right , everybody hurt, everybody
going through something.
For me, I think it helps toothat if you have a partner that
can communicate or canarticulate things, you know what
I mean.
Yeah, because for me I'm an overcommunicator to where my fiance
.
He an Aquarius.
He is stoic, you'd never knownothing was wrong with him.
(37:49):
Like a couple weeks ago,somebody passed away and I'm
like he was like, oh, I got togo to this funeral.
And I'm like, what funeral?
And he like telling me about it.
I'm like when the fuck did theydie?
He's like two weeks ago.
Oh, okay, so you knew.
You just ain't said nothing fortwo weeks.
This man been dead.
Speaker 1 (38:05):
And he like I mean.
Speaker 4 (38:06):
That's just how they handle shit.
Speaker 3 (38:08):
And it's just like okay, well, but I feel like I
share.
So like when you come home Iask you how your day was and I
tell you how my day was, and atno point, and he'd just be like
I, just, but it's like I feellike that's where the disconnect
comes to.
Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (38:27):
Yeah, and I think yeah, it makes a lot of sense.
That also makes me think aboutthe whole concept of emotional
intelligence.
Speaker 5 (38:36):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (38:38):
Everybody is not as emotionally intelligent as the
next person, and it makes youthink more about empathy, like
can you have the empathy for aperson who's not emotionally
intelligent, and how long can it?
Speaker 3 (38:52):
last.
How long?
That's the question right thereis.
How long is that empathy goingto last before you get that last
nerve?
And it's like you know what,Don't worry about it last before
you get that last nerve.
Speaker 1 (39:01):
And it's like you know what.
Don't worry about it.
It's kind of like, Brandon, youwere saying earlier about
understanding what somebody else, what both of y'all were saying
, understanding what somebodyelse is coming from, but the
question is, how long am Isupposed to understand this shit
?
Though?
You see what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (39:19):
Right?
That's a good question.
Yeah, how you feel on Right?
That's a good question.
How do you feel on that beat?
That's a good question.
Speaker 2 (39:24):
John.
You know, it's almost likeleading back to the point about
your partner when you had afuneral to go to.
It's like you becomedesensitized and then you just
shut down to it.
You know what I mean.
Me and John talked about this acouple of months ago, like we
started experiencing pure deathat 14.
(39:45):
So by the time you get your 30sor 40s and somebody dies, it's
just like well, yeah, okay.
Speaker 3 (39:54):
That's just a Tuesday .
Speaker 2 (39:56):
You see what I'm saying?
Yeah, you know, what I mean.
So and it's like that in arelationship.
It's just like yo man, you say,yo, you know what, I don't like
mayonnaise on my sandwich.
And after about six months ofyou fixing the sandwich and you
put mayonnaise on every last oneof the motherfuckers, you just
gonna shut down.
You know what I mean?
You be like fuck it.
(40:16):
Hey man, whatever, you don'twant this sandwich.
Nah, I ain't hungry, no more,you just go get you some shit on
the way home.
You know what I'm saying?
Like then the person who fixingthe sandwich getting mad like
damn, I just I'm going out myway to make you, but you ain't
making it the way I like it.
So, but then, motherfucker, youshould eat it anyway and lie.
I said you'd rather, you'drather me lie than tell the
(40:38):
truth.
Damn, you respect a lot morethan you appreciate the truth.
Speaker 3 (40:48):
Damn Goddamn.
Well, no, I always want thetruth.
That don't mean necessarilythat I'm going to change
overnight, but I at least wantto know how you feel.
Speaker 2 (41:05):
Right yeah, but the flip side of that is, as men I
don't eat no fucking mayonnaise.
Speaker 3 (41:11):
Why you keep putting mayonnaise on the sandwich?
We?
Speaker 2 (41:13):
don't want to deal with the fallout of telling the
truth, because shit getweaponized when you tell
somebody that is like oh shit,you don't want no mayonnaise,
that it's like oh shit, youdon't want to weaponize me, you
don't want no man night, yeah.
I mean yeah Because it's likeit's like.
It's like it's like now, ifyou're watching TV or something
(41:35):
you know, you feel that bumpnext to you and shit, and you
just told the truth you may notget no bump, that motherfucking
night.
So now it's like fuck it.
She'll be like I'm alivebecause I want some bump.
So we play these, you know, wemake these decisions and we play
these games with ourselves tothe point where we wake up and
like damn, I'm still notfulfilled, because even after
(41:56):
you get the bump, you stilldidn't get satisfied, leading up
to the bump, and you feel emptybecause you gave a part of
yourself emotionally to somebodyyou care about and you don't
feel like they value what youwant.
So it just makes the situationmore complicated.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (42:16):
Okay, wow, damn, that's deep, that's deep hey,
real shit.
Okay.
Speaker 1 (42:26):
I feel like, first of all, all I appreciate y'all
time.
I tell people all the time timeis way more valuable than money
, because you can't get timeback.
You can get money back.
You got big enough goons youcan get your money back, can't
get time back.
So I definitely appreciatey'all time and I want to say
this to y'all, like I reallyappreciate the fact of who who
(42:51):
is on today because, brandon,I've been knowing you for years
and you know I think that forpeople who don't know you like
you said, like they see yourdemeanor Very big dude, you know
you said they see your demeanorVery big dude, you know, got
(43:11):
some size to him Can beintimidating.
It's like I wanted you to havean opportunity to speak because
I've always felt like you are avery knowledgeable and wise
person.
You know what I'm saying.
And then, with Ms B, like yousaid, you may come off as
assertive to people and you knowthat can be perceived a certain
way, but from the conversationsthat we've had, I've picked up
(43:32):
a lot from you.
You know what I'm saying.
It's like this is a very wisewoman, a very spiritual woman as
well.
So I really wanted to get ally'all well, both of y'all on the
podcast just to talk about it.
I mean, I feel like it's alonger conversation, but we're
kind of short on time and shitlike that.
So I definitely want to extendmy appreciation for y'all for
(43:52):
giving me y'all time.
No problem, no problem, noproblem.
Is there anything that y'allwant to leave the people with,
to let them know Any gems youwant to drop on them, or shit
like that?
Speaker 3 (44:04):
Yeah, what's that big fella?
Speaker 2 (44:08):
You know, the cheapest and the least
time-consuming thing a personcan do as it relates to other
people is to smile.
If you look somebody in the eyeand you smile at them, you have
no idea how much that willimpact their life, their day or
life for that matter.
(44:28):
And to me, the most preciousthing, that, because she didn't
do it often, but when she did,it was probably one of the most
beautiful spectacles I everwitnessed in my life and that
was to see my mother smile andto see melanated women smile,
because the way popular cultureportrays melanated women, they
(44:50):
angry, they mean, but when youall smile, you just.
You light up the back ends ofheaven and you see the angels
just rejoice.
Because it's something you alldon't do often and it's
something we as a culture don'tdo often.
And my challenge to peoplelistening and you know two
colleagues just smile more manman, that's the stuff.
Speaker 3 (45:12):
Okay, I like that.
Yeah, I think that's a goodnote to end on.
I like that that is.
Speaker 1 (45:21):
That is that what you're gonna.
You're gonna add on to that, oryou just go oh, I mean.
Speaker 3 (45:27):
Smile more, stay hydrated, you know, uh, use your
words, try to communicate, uh,try to articulate, articulate
yourself as much as you can anddon't, you know, just be going
off on people.
Speaker 1 (45:46):
Right.
Speaker 3 (45:47):
Um, I have to remind myself to do that most days too.
So, you know, it's a journey,and just be gentle with yourself
.
That's what I always, every day.
I pray and I tell myself.
I remind myself to be gentlewith myself because it is a
journey and today I'm going tobe better than I was yesterday,
but I still got to give myselfthat room to okay.
Well, if I slip up, you'restill good, you can still keep
(46:10):
going, it can still be a goodday.
Your day ain't shit now, justbecause you had a moment, girl,
keep it moving, like you said,smile and go on with your day.
That's what's up.
Speaker 1 (46:22):
I definitely appreciate y'all time, I
definitely appreciate theconversation and, man, y'all
have a very, very, very blessedday.
I'll be talking to y'all anyway, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (46:36):
We got to do this again, bro.
Speaker 3 (46:39):
We are oh, we do big fella, I like big fella.
Yeah, likewise, likewise.
Oh, we do big fella, I like bigfella, likewise, likewise.
I like this beat, I like the.
Yeah, we got to go out.
I got to pick your brain, youare interesting.
Speaker 2 (46:52):
Yeah, man Definitely Pick the place, and I'm there.
Speaker 1 (46:57):
That's a compliment coming from her, because she's
quick to say she don't likepeople.
Speaker 3 (47:03):
I do.
I don't.
She don't like people.
I do, I don't enjoy people.
Speaker 2 (47:07):
I will say this though and I'm saying this with
all the endearment in my heart Iwould hate to piss in your
Kool-Aid.
Speaker 3 (47:16):
You would hate to piss in my Kool-Aid.
Speaker 2 (47:19):
Yes, ma'am, because I would rather walk through a
lion's den.
I would rather walk through alion's den.
I'd rather walk through alion's den with three fried pork
chops tied to my ass than apiece of your Kool-Aid, charlie.
Yeah, you know what I?
Speaker 5 (47:34):
mean.
Speaker 3 (47:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (47:37):
I'll tell her, alright, thank y'all very much
and I'm going to have my toilet.
Alright, then, man, y'all bemuch and I'm going to be having
a tall letter.
Speaker 3 (47:45):
All right.
Speaker 2 (47:47):
Y'all be safe.
Speaker 3 (47:48):
You too.
Speaker 4 (47:50):
All right.
Speaker 1 (47:54):
Yo, check it out, y'all.
Yo, that was awesome.
That was awesome and I thinkthat was a great conversation
for us bringing the podcast backafter so long.
I think relationships areimportant and I think that we
need to pay attention to how weare navigating through these
(48:16):
relationships these days.
What's important to us, what'snot important to us?
Are we valuing that otherperson?
You know what I'm saying.
So, anyway, I also added thisto the podcast.
This is the DJ spotlight.
So you know, I want to add this.
(48:36):
I added this segment to thepodcast to give DJs a chance to
be showcased, also to showcasegood music, music that's not
necessarily beat into your brainon mainstream radio.
So, as for now, I want y'all toget in tune and check out the
(48:57):
DJ Spotlight right here on theShits Podcast.
Y'all, it's the Shits, y'all.
It's the Shits y'all.
Speaker 4 (49:08):
It's the Shits y'all.
It's the Shits y'all.
(49:30):
I know I got, I got attentionfor you.
Speaker 6 (49:36):
I know.
I know you need affection.
I got, I got.
I got a question for you.
If somebody told me, what doyou like to do, I'd take all the
stars and fall away.
What's that for you?
If I find out, what do you like?
(49:58):
Diamonds I got diamonds andethos and rubies and things Got
those for you.
I'm gonna trip to your heart.
I'm on a trip to your heart.
I'm on a trip to your heart.
I'm on a trip to your heart,heart.
(50:27):
Don't call it a comeback.
I've been here for years.
Speaker 2 (50:30):
I'm rockin' my peers Put songs in fear Makin' the
tears rain down like a monsoon.
Listen to the beast of comics.
Dj Monsoon's the rock.
The dopest DJ in Earth does pop.
I'm a foreign wreckage shop.
Speaker 5 (51:24):
When I drop these lyrics, that'll make you call
the cops.
Don't you dare stare this DJ.
He murdered us.
I'm going to knock you out.
Come on, I got enough that Icould chew a whole bag of rocks,
chew an avenue, chew anoff-street and off-block, then
turn around and do the same damnthing to a soloist, cause
(51:47):
Reggie Noble's pissed.
I crushed the whole brain frameCause you couldn't maintain the
funk.
Then have it rap style forlunch.
Y'all.
Cause 92, I take a whole crew,give them a punch on the funk,
not ballin' their go-to flutes.
I show you what type of stuffI'm on.
You can't puff or sniff itBecause I was born with it.
The bocadilla devil hit youwith the rap level of ten.
The one, two, three.
You're pinned.
I get action.
(52:08):
So everybody jump with yourrump Picking like the way the
sound pump, pump it in your backtrunk and let loose with the
juice.
When I do rock I'm too hot.
Some say I got more juice thanTupac Straight out of Jersey.
You heard me, my brother, I'mlaughing.
Black Time for some black, yeah.
Speaker 6 (52:43):
Y'all ready for this, yeah?
Speaker 1 (54:34):
Y'all ready for this Outro Music Going like a nut,
don't be a pup and I let it burncause dreads ain't funky enough
.
Watch the smooth lyrics thattake place.
I got my eyes on you.
Let's get it.
Thank you, We'll be right back.
(54:55):
Thank you.
This game on soon to rock.
Let's go this DJ.
You heard that part.
They some certified freaks andwe know they got good knees.
We be fucking your aunties, hey, we be fucking your aunties.
Hey, we be fucking your aunties.
Hey, she really want me to comeand be her boo thang, looking
(55:19):
thick as hell at them.
Aau games, hotter than a blueflame, ready to do things.
Said she wanted to fuck causeshe thought I was 2.
We'll be little drugs.
She take me to the room.
Then she come up out the scrub.
I treat her like a lady but Ifuck her like a thug.
Got a bald head, coochie.
(55:47):
It ain't looking like a rug.
You be in the booth and bedoing your rap shit.
I be smacking cheeks makingsure that she clap shit.
Your song's kind of whack so Iprobably won't clap kid.
Speaker 4 (56:36):
Your auntie is a freak, you know that's no cap,
we'll be right back.
Speaker 6 (56:39):
I'm a time fine jury dripping.
See you with pickings, with abunch of chickens.
How you clicking.
I kept shooting strong notes.
As we got close she rock broke.
Honey throat smelling likeimpulse.
Your whole shell baby's wickedlike Nimrod, caught me like a
freshwater straw or may I not beGod.
Attitude is very rude.
Boo Crabby like seafood.
It turns me on like Vines toyour long rule.
(56:59):
They call me Starkey Love.
Uncheck the strategy by anymeans, shirley Temple.
Course was done by Billie Jean'sBlack.
Mrs America, your name is Erica.
Right, true, lazy.
I boost Morphe's six shoeCarmel complexion.
Breath smelling like cinnamon.
Excuse me, honey, don't mean noharm.
Turn around again.
Goddamn, backyard's banginglike a Benz.
If I was Jiggy you'd be spottedlike Spock McKenzie I'm high
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put a D in a Howard to sleep.
You're boughtin' that bitchbeen on my mind all week.
But uh, back to you, maybellineQueen, let's make a team.
You can have anything in thisworld Except cream.
So what you wanna do, what youwanna do, let's go ahead and
walk these dogs and representmove.
Watch these rap niggas.
Speaker 4 (57:38):
Get all up in your guts, chris.
Vanilla Butter, pecan ChocolateDeluxe in your guts, crisp
vanilla butter, pecan chocolatedeluxe.
Even caramel sundaes is gettingtouched.
Let's go get my ice cream,chocolate and salad.
Let's go, dj Monsoers to rock.
(58:06):
First of his name.
Do best in the game.
I wanna hear you try the joke.
I do, I wanna be next to you.
(58:38):
I do, I wanna be next to you.
I do, I, I, I do, I.
I can't even lie.
You're the only one that's onmy mind and I can't wait to see
(59:06):
you after school.
Follow me and we gon' break therule.
I can't even fly.
You're the only one that getsme high.
Speaker 1 (59:27):
We go back like no one wants to be hey, and when
you see me, you know what it is.
It's a break and van.
Now I wanna stay.
What's with you, I do.
What's with you, I do, I do.
(59:50):
I just wanna talk with you,talk with you, whatever Talk
with you, I, I, I need next toyou.
I wanna be next to you.
(01:00:17):
I know, yo, what up, what up,what up y'all.
That was DJ Spotlight and thisweek it was your truly DJ
Monsters to Rock.
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Yo.
I'd like to give a very specialshout out to my man, brandon
Caldwell, and my girl, aliciaBaylark, for tuning in, for
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Everything happens for a reasonand the dots will always
connect.
Just remember that.
(01:01:47):
Try to find the positives inevery situation, because there
are positives in every situation.
I know sometimes it may seemlike it's not and it may be very
challenging to find them.
However, they are there and I'mgoing to leave you all with
this.
Make fans, not followers.
Followers will get you clout.
Fans will get you work.
Trust the process.
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What's the rock Coolest catcherheard this far?
You're now tuned in to theShits Podcast.
We're either shooting the shit,starting some shit, or picking
up what shit left off.
So really, in this situation weare definitely picking up what
shit left off because I ain'tbeen here in a minute.
Y'all Long-ass story.
We'll get into it later.
(00:35):
I probably ain't going to telly'all, probably will, I don't
fucking know.
Anyway, we back and this week Igot two very special guests to
the podcast.
Like I always tell y'all,anybody that come on to the
podcast is very special, notlike radio special like
Troubadour and Junior, specialshit like that, but special
because they got shit to say,they got knowledge and I love
(01:00):
having conversations with them.
So this week I got my brother,my brother from another mother.
I've been knowing this dude forlike 10 plus years.
Very wise dude, country cat,you know what I'm saying.
Down to earth.
Put y'all on game.
So, without further ado, y'allgive it up for my man, the one
and only Brandon Caldwell.
Yeah, brandon Caldwell, y'all.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Oh, how you feel, bro , I'm good man.
Thanks for the warm intro.
I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
No problem.
And next up, very special guest.
She's very dear to me, sisterto me.
Very smart, very spiritual,down to earth man love talking
to me.
Very smart, very spiritual,down to earth man love talking
to her.
I've been going through someshit at times and she's been
right there, so I definitelyappreciate it.
(01:53):
Y'all give it up for the one,the only, Alicia Baylard aka
Miss B.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
Hi, I'm Alicia.
How y'all feeling I'm good,cool, cool'm Alicia.
How y'all feeling hey y'all,I'm good, cool, cool cool, all
right.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
So can y'all hear me Very good, yep, all right.
So I always like to do acheck-in with the guests and so
this week I want to check inwith y'all and I want to ask
y'all what are y'all?
And I want to ask y'all, whatare y'all working on?
So what I mean by what arey'all working on me like, not
like cars and shit like that,but like what are you working on
(02:33):
emotionally and mentally?
Speaker 3 (02:39):
okay, who's going first?
Speaker 2 (02:41):
I'm a go first.
I'm a Southern boy, ladiesfirst.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
Okay, thank you, I appreciate that.
I guess I'm just working onjust being self-aware, holding
myself accountable, making sureto check in with myself and see
how I'm feeling throughout myday, at the end of my day, for
sure, and just making sure thatI'm good mentally, so I can keep
(03:07):
going okay yeah, what about youb?
Speaker 2 (03:10):
you know, dealing with uncertainty, you know, um,
and our line of work, you know,is like a box of chocolates you
just don't know what flavoryou're gonna come up on.
So just being able to adapt andbe able to adjust the
situations as they come in realtime, you know, that's what I'm
working on.
Because you know this part ofthe year is just yeah, you know
(03:32):
what I mean Because this part ofthe year is just really, really
, really, really hard for me.
You know what I'm saying.
So just really focusing in onwhat I can control and what I
can't control, and just tryingto be a better person these days
.
The Lord gave me a day to live.
You know what I mean?
I love that.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
I love that.
I love that.
So B, where you from.
I know it, but the audiencedon't know it, so I got to ask
the question when you from B.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Originally Chicago, Illinois.
Oh, are you asking him or me?
Well, that's for, that's forBrian Go ahead, go ahead.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
You start it, go ahead.
We're adapting to Justin.
He calls me B2.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Go ahead, you go ahead.
Well, I'm from the great stateof Texas, but we're a third ward
which is in Houston and throughand through, like your boy
Elliot say Texas in every way.
But I've been up here now forover 20 years and this is home
way.
But I've been up here now forover 20 years and this is home.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Okay, what about you, miss B?
Speaker 3 (04:32):
Originally from Chicago, illinois.
I've traveled some ofeverywhere.
I've lived in Indianapolis,I've lived in Michigan.
Now I stay in Indiana.
I'm an.
Indianimal now Well, I want tosay congratulations, okay, thank
(04:55):
you.
It's not Texas, right?
Okay, no, it's not Texas, allright.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
So, ms B, how would you describe yourself?
Speaker 3 (05:11):
How would I describe myself?
Assertive, I don't want to sayaggressive.
I can be very, very assertive.
That's something that I'veactually been working on.
Also I think I talked to youabout this.
I've been trying to be more howdid I say it Like in my
(05:31):
feminine energy, as opposed tobeing Sometimes Okay.
So I'm a female, I work withmen, so I sometimes feel like I
have to almost wear this suit ofarmor when I'm at work Because
of the way I look, people goingto try you.
They either going to try you orthey going to think that they
can talk to you or you're asuper sucker deluxe and I'm none
of those things.
So I definitely feel like Ihave to let that be known and
(05:53):
that might look like me beingaggressive, but really I'm just
being assertive and kind ofsetting a boundary and requiring
everybody to meet me there.
Does that make sense?
That makes sense.
That makes sense.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
I mean so it definitely makes sense to make
it.
I'm glad, and I'm glad youbroke it down like that too.
Um, brandon, how would youdescribe yourself?
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Well, I'm, I'm.
I'm tall, dark and lovely, anduh, but it's context to that
statement though.
I'm tall, dark and lovely.
But it's context to thatstatement, though, because when
you're tall, dark and lovely,you know you're often reminded
you don't live in such a lovelyworld.
So people have perceptions ofyou and you have to really work
on how you present yourself, howyou express yourself verbally
(06:42):
as as non-verbally, because youknow I'm over six feet, I'm over
250 pounds.
So when you walk into a room,whether you want it, all eyes
are on you, whether you wantthem to be or not.
So you have to pay attention tohow you present yourself and
how you move at all times,because you can find yourself in
precarious situations that younever planned for.
So that's just something that Iwork on every day, you know,
(07:07):
because if you're watching me,you know it's a daily goal of
mine to give you something tolook at and what you see.
You know you may not be wantingto see it, because it's going
to be something that's just wayout there.
So that's just what I do.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
So when you gave the description of how tall you are
on your weight, I believe if MsB would have saw you, she would
describe you as big fella, yeah,big fella, yeah, you sound like
a big fella, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, you know I mean, yeah, you know I'm
a big fella, I'm from Texas,things big.
So I got to represent yeah, allright, but yeah, you know, like
I say, but in doing that, youknow what I'm saying.
When you're a highly melanatedman, you know we live in a world
where perception is 90 to 100%,reality is 90 to 100 reality
(08:07):
and you know you find yourselfin situations where people, all
people, really is like oh, thisguy, you know, is gonna do
something.
I remember when I was a kid, mydad used to be like pop, they
scared of you, they gonna killyou, and I was like 13, 14 years
old and I just didn'tunderstand what he was talking
about until I became older.
So I really, throughout my life,I've just really, really
(08:27):
focused in on how I am in everysituation.
And well, the one thing thatI'm always is and John, you can
attest to this, when we workedtogether, I was always
respectful and always cool.
Cool because because if you letyour emotions dictate, a
(08:50):
situation and a person isperceiving you in a negative way
and they scared, you maytrigger them to do something
that nobody wants to deal with.
So self-discipline is somethingthat I always practice, even
when I'm, you know even sleephygiene, you, you practice
discipline in that too, becauseyou have to maintain it in every
situation because of whatpeople's perception of you which
(09:10):
is out of your control.
You know what I mean.
That's just something I work on, it is, it is.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
So, speaking of people's perception, let me ask
you this.
Questions for both of you.
What's your perception of ahealthy relationship?
Speaker 3 (09:29):
I'll let you go ahead and take that one big fella I
mean.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
My perception of a happy relationship is is mutual
respect and I think you saidhealthy, not happy, happy.
Healthy, happy healthy.
To me it falls along thoselines Mutual respect, because I
feel like as individuals we haveto have boundaries and I think
that sometimes in unhealthyrelationships they're not clear,
(10:00):
defined boundaries.
So I think in a healthyrelationship boundaries is
something that's defined, it'sdiscussed and it's honed, you
know, because nobody's perfectand it's a journey between the
two people and they work witheach other to make harmony,
because it's just going to bedays where things are not going
to be so harmonious.
So I think if the boundariesare there and boundary can be,
(10:23):
uh, uh, used, um, another word Imean can be used for boundaries
.
So as long as I think thatfoundation is there, I think
that that's the catalyst to ahealthy relationship.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
My opinion I like that, I like, I like the way you
broke that down.
What about you, miss b?
Speaker 3 (10:40):
um, for me I guess it's just to kind of piggyback
off what he said.
I think for me and I've been inmy relationship this time for
about 10 years Um, I'm engaged,I'm not married, but it's um,
it's like you said, it's therespect thing because, again,
I'm I'm not going to be ahundred percent every day, he
not going to be a hundredpercent every day, sometimes he
(11:01):
going to have to be 80 and I'mbe, hey, I'm only got 20 to give
baby.
So it's just us.
For me, it's us respecting eachother, seeing where we are,
meeting each other where we arethat day and loving each other
through that, whatever thatlooks like so yeah I I would say
respect is definitely gotta bethe number one thing in my
(11:23):
relationship.
That keeps it somewhat healthy.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
I guess that makes sense.
That makes sense.
I like the fact that both ofy'all said respect.
And I like that Brandon said,the harmonious element of it.
Because I think my personalopinion, in this day and age
that's kind of hard to defineand in this day and age that's
kind of hard to define.
And when it's hard to defineit's definitely hard to
(11:47):
recognize Like what is harmony?
Like what does harmony looklike for you?
Speaker 3 (11:53):
Right because that's like subjective.
Right Because it's going tolook different for everybody.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Right.
Speaker 2 (11:59):
And harmony for me is just, you know, being
considerate.
You know I mean I'm a littlethings guy.
I'm not really a big things guy.
I mean if I'm with a partnerand she looks at me and she
smiles at me or she say thankyou or she say I appreciate you,
that means a lot more to methan taking me out to a nice
restaurant and spending or buyme a pair of $700 shoes.
(12:24):
You know what I mean.
That just don't mean nothing tome, but the fact that you
consider it, you know of myfeelings like yo do you want
this?
You know, if you're out at thestore and you'd be like yo B,
you want this, you know littlestuff like that, that means that
carries a lot more weight thanme, than the upfront material
stuff, the considerate stuff.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
That's a needle mover for me.
Okay, so, speaking ofharmonious, like harmony and
respect, like I think aboutrelationships now, compared to
like our grandparents andgreat-grandparents, what would
y'all think if you could to putyourself in their shoes?
(13:10):
What would y'all think ourgrandparents and
great-grandparents consideredhealthy relationships?
Speaker 3 (13:17):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
Go ahead, Ms B.
Speaker 3 (13:31):
For me, okay, well, go ahead, miss b?
Um.
For for me, uh, my grandparentsand my great-grandparents, uh,
neither one of my grandmotherswere married, so they had their
children and did what they didand raised them as strong black
women.
So I don't really have thatpoint of reference to even you
know what I mean.
So.
So I've always just I've comefrom a lineage of just strong
women that just did what theyhad to do and push through.
So for me, being in this spacethat I'm in now, like I'm, I'm
(13:55):
having to learn.
You know what I mean Like, likewhat it means to just, like I
was saying in the beginning how,like, sometimes I'm perceived
as aggressive or assertive.
That's because I've come from alineage of women who raised men
like right, so it's for me.
(14:15):
And then my fiance he's this isgonna sound toxic, but he's an
alpha male.
So I sometimes have to pullback myself and be like whoa,
whoa, like chill, you don'tgotta be.
So you know what I mean.
So, honestly, yeah, I wouldn't.
I have no point of reference onthat one.
Speaker 2 (14:34):
What you got?
Big fella.
My grandparents, my dad'sparents, were married for like
almost 60 years and but therewas a 20 year age.
There was a 20 year age gap too.
Like, my grandfather was muchmore older than my grandmother
and I think the differencebetween our generations and
(14:56):
their generations isaccessibility.
We have more accessibility toluxury, whereas you know, we
were more agrarian uh, we weremore of an agrarian culture back
then.
So you couldn't have if it gotbad at your house.
You couldn't just go to yourcousin's house down the street,
because down the street was likefive miles.
(15:17):
You know what I'm saying.
Or you couldn't just go to theclub.
You know they only did the jukejoints on Friday and Saturday
night.
So if this is a Tuesday, y'alljust got to work that shit out.
You know what I'm saying.
And in doing that, you learnpatience and you learn to grow,
and it may be things about aperson and a lot of
(15:40):
relationships during that time.
They got to know each otherover time because they courted
each other, they dated eachother.
You know what I'm saying.
Well, if I want something, Ican just go on social media.
It's right there.
It's like 7-Eleven, you knowwhat I'm saying, and then, if I
don't like it, I can getsomething else.
Speaker 3 (16:01):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
It's different.
You know, you can't you know,cause like there are a lot of
men raising other men's children, but it was done in secret and
everything is like it's out inthe open now.
You see what I'm saying, andthat loyalty and that bond was
there, even if your grandfatherstepped out and had a kid with
another woman.
It's like yo, I built this lifewith this person.
(16:25):
I've got to know this person.
I grew up with this person.
In a way, this person kind ofraised me into adulthood, just
like I raised them intoadulthood.
And it's different for usbecause we have so much
accessibility and variety andshe is, you know, in my opinion.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
I'm glad you said that, man, because it made me
think about the concept oftechnology, the increase in
technology, how it's right thereat our hand and it's on our
phone.
You know what I'm saying.
So do you think that thecurrent generation's access to
technology has tainted the ideaof relationships, kind of like
(17:08):
bastardized it?
You know what I'm saying.
It's like it's not a big thinganymore.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
I agree.
Yeah, I mean like dude, like Idon't mean to take this to a
perverted place, but when wewere kids and we found smut or
porn, it was like we won thelottery.
You know what I'm saying, youain't laughing, you ain't
laughing.
If you find your daddy or youruncle in a penthouse or Playboy
(17:40):
magazine, it was like oh man.
Or if you're picking up cansand you find it, oh shit, you
invite the whole neighborhood.
Now I can just go to fuckingReddit.
I can go to goddamn OnlyFans.
I can just have Google.
It's right there.
You know what I'm saying.
It ain't no big deal.
(18:00):
You know what I'm saying.
You got to realize we came intoall of this technology, these
younger kids, this is all theyknow.
Speaker 5 (18:08):
You know what I mean, so they are more immune to
these types.
Speaker 2 (18:10):
So, like man, seeing a girl with all her cheeks out
don't mean I mean hell.
You go to school with girlswith their cheeks out.
You know what I'm saying?
It's nothing, so you know.
There's no taboo to this shit,no more.
It's out there now.
It's just a whole differentanimal.
He's still going, go ahead.
Speaker 3 (18:32):
I was just saying I agree with you, because I have a
17-year-old son and he has nointerest in dating all this
other stuff.
He's just like yeah, thesegirls is trash, people record
these girls doing all kindsother stuff like.
He's just like, yeah, thesegirls is trash.
Like people record these girlsdoing all kind of stuff they all
on the internet that can thatruins lives.
(18:52):
It's just like, yeah, I kind of, yeah, this, this uh generation
is kind of fucked as far asrelationships go.
I feel like damn I mean, I meandon't know, that's just what I
think me personally, and I don'teven mean this generation, I
mean like just the dating poolat all anymore.
(19:13):
I feel like I don't know how itis in Texas big fella, but up
here it's trash.
Bro, I live up here with you, Ilive in.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
Wisconsin, I'm with your neighbor.
Speaker 3 (19:22):
I'm sorry, I thought you were saying Texas.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
No, that's where the seed was shot.
That's where big cops shot theseed at.
Speaker 3 (19:32):
I'm in the Midwest, I feel like the dating pool is
trash.
I feel like all the marriedpeople don't want to be married
but they don't really know whatthey want.
They kind of sort of knowPeople want to play games.
I also feel like a lot of menoh my God, a lot of men like I
liked that you from the South,big fella, because I feel like
(19:52):
you know how to court a woman,as you said earlier.
A lot of these men now I feellike they want you to chase them
.
They want you to chase themdown and date them.
And I'm sorry, sir, Do you wearpanties too, man?
Speaker 2 (20:10):
it's trash, it's just trash, it's interesting that
you bring that up, b.
It's interesting that you bringthat up, ms B, because it's
like we in a culture now sinceyou brought that up about men
let's talk about masculinity inour urban culture now.
When you since you brought thatup about men let's talk about
masculinity in our urban culturenow.
Because you don't see.
(20:30):
You don't see James Evans Sr asa man anymore.
You see a motherfucker likelittle YSL Woody and Shamar, or
a bloviated loudmouth likeCharleston White.
You know what I'm saying, butyou don't see.
And those are the threeextremes of masculinity in our
(20:50):
urban culture right now.
You're either a gangster, oryou're gay, or you're just a
bloviating loudmouth.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
Goddamn.
You know what?
Speaker 2 (21:03):
I mean yeah, you know so you and this extrapolates
from Charleston White himselfyou either.
You know we are raising twotypes of men.
We're either raising thegangster or we're raising the
gay guy, because we have such alow, we have such a low scale
(21:24):
when it comes to excellence inurban culture.
If a kid wants to go to school,the gangster's gonna beat the
shit out of him.
Speaker 3 (21:32):
You're right.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
And then the gangster who beat the shit out of him go
to prison and come out likeShamal.
Speaker 1 (21:40):
Oh shit.
Speaker 3 (21:41):
It's a vicious cycle.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
Goddamn yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
Because I was standing.
Like you know, we lovelow-hanging fruit.
In our culture Nobody jumps forfruit anymore.
It's low-hanging, just grabthem.
You pick it up off the ground.
Now you know what I mean?
Damn Right.
And it's just like you justdon't see no more James Evans Jr
anymore or Mr Jefferson fromthe Jeffersons.
You don't see no more JamesEvans Jr anymore or Mr Jefferson
from the Jeffersons.
You don't see in theneighborhood.
(22:07):
You just don't see men Like.
My dad was a working man.
He was a manly man but hedressed, fly, kept his hair cut,
shaved, he smelled good.
You just don't see thoseexamples of masculinity anymore.
You see motherfuckers withtheir drawers out, you know.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
You see YNs and you see, shamar, even the older
generation you think too Like,so not so much the teenagers,
but like the 30 or the 40 plus.
Speaker 2 (22:34):
We can go into that too, because you know we live in
a culture now where nobodywants to be old.
You know you got women in their40s and 50s and 60s.
That ain't the new 20.
I don't know what you'retalking about.
You know you got women in their40s and 50s and 60s.
They post just.
They post just as many thirsttraps as the young girls do now
that's a damn good point what hesay go ahead, say it again B.
(22:57):
I say they post just as manythirst traps on social media as
the young girls do.
You know they wear the same.
When we were growing up, yourbig mama looked like your big
mama.
Your mama looked like your mamaBecause after she had her last
child, she started spreadinglike yeast bread.
Now everybody got flat stomachsand BBLs and shit.
You know what I'm saying.
You know you got a20-something-year-old daughter.
(23:18):
Hell, some of these womencompeting with their
20-something-year-old daughter,they, like sisters, like you,
can't tell a difference.
Speaker 3 (23:25):
You right.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
So when you can't differentiate between
generations and nobody wants tobe old, what you left with what
we got?
Damn Trashcom.
Look at the young kid.
I don't know if y'all watchedthis.
This shit went viral becausethis young kid was talking about
Nas and Jim Jones.
Speaker 1 (23:49):
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
The kid was so disrespectful to Nas, right,
really, he's like man Nas.
He ain't popping Jim Jones likebro.
You don't even know the historyor the context of this man's
contribution to the culture.
No respect, and I feel thatcomes from you not having
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figures in your culture to whereyou can differentiate.
Like he really couldn'tdifferentiate between Nas and
Jim Jones.
But me and you and Miss B candifferentiate between Michael
Jackson and Jim Jones.
But me and you and Miss B candifferentiate between Michael
Jackson and James Brown.
That is true, we candifferentiate that, right, we
(24:34):
can differentiate between themand Shaka Khan and Denise
Williams and Beyonce.
We can differentiate that.
You see what I'm saying.
But these young people, becausethey don't have that.
So our culture, man, I think inthe last 40 years we've done
such a horrible job of adultingas it relates to protecting our
(24:57):
children, because when you don'tprotect your children, they
start to protect themselves andthey have no boundaries when it
comes to respect and we can'treally get mad at them because
there ain't really much outthere showing you how to respect
motherfucking raisingthemselves.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
So let me ask y'all this what do y'all think is the
most undervalued element inrelationships these days,
meaning, what's the element thatpeople don't give a shit about
in a relationship?
Speaker 3 (25:33):
I'm happy.
Speaker 2 (25:36):
No, I want to hear this from you, Miss B, first.
I'm glad you asked thatquestion, Doc.
Yeah, please.
Speaker 3 (25:42):
Repeat the question again.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
What do you think is the most undervalued element in
a relationship?
What is that element thatpeople feel like, oh, I don't
give a fuck about that, likethat's not important to me,
that's not important in myrelationship?
Speaker 3 (25:58):
Oh, shit low-key, shit, shit Low key.
It's all important to me, itall go hand in hand.
The most undervalued Is itloyalty?
(26:19):
Not for me, no, I'm not sayingI'm yours I'm saying from the
outside, looking in, like justwhat you mean in general.
Yeah, oh, you mean like amongstthis did I even say this
(26:39):
generation?
Speaker 1 (26:40):
yeah, not this generation, but just what's out
there yeah, this day and age,what's the most undervalued
element?
Speaker 3 (26:48):
I'm yeah.
If that's what we're talkingabout, then yeah, I would have
to say loyalty, because I mean,from my point of view, I get hit
on by more married men than Ido anything else okay so for me
yeah, that's what I'm sayingmarried men than I do anything
else.
For me yeah, that's what I'msaying.
You got motherfuckers in theserelationships and in these
marriages and stuff that don'teven seem like they happy.
(27:10):
It's like did you just do someshit because you got this lady
pregnant and this is what yourparents told you to do?
It's not given what it'ssupposed to be given.
You know what I'm saying now,like I said, I don't.
Like I said, I've been with myfiance for 10 years.
I'm not really pushing theinstitution of marriage because
I feel like that's a businessanyway.
(27:30):
I don't need a piece of paperto tell me that I love you and
you love me and we going to dothis.
If anything is for financialreasons and for medical reasons,
that's the only reason I wouldreally do it.
I feel like people are loyal towhatever it is that drives them
.
I will say that.
Speaker 1 (27:48):
Good point, very good point.
Speaker 3 (27:50):
Whatever it is that drives them, not so much their
union, okay.
Speaker 1 (27:56):
What about you?
Speaker 2 (27:58):
I think, value.
I think the reason why you knowdivorce rate is at 80 percent
is because I don't think there'snot much emphasis on valuing
the other person.
Like if a person expressesthemselves to another person,
especially if it's somethingthat they don't like about their
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partner, a lot of times thepartner takes it as an insult
and becomes defensive.
Don't look at that.
And then you have to go intothat real slippery area of
interpretation.
You're insulting me and I thinkthat if a person over a period
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of time, gets to the point wherethey don't feel valued, they're
going to go somewhere wherethey are valued, and that goes
for men and women.
That goes for men and women.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (28:53):
Yeah, but I mean, I feel like that's when couples
therapy should come into play.
I've done couples before.
I'm speaking for myself, likeI've been to that point that
you're talking about and it'slike, okay, I'm saying something
, you saying something.
We clearly not hearing eachother, because I'm saying what
I'm saying but you hearingsomething else and I'm hearing
something outside of your mouth.
So at that point I feel like ifthis is something you really
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want to do and this is somethingthat you're loyal to, you know,
I'm saying that's when I wouldtry to bring in a mediator, a
non-biased party, to kind ofhelp us navigate that area of
whatever we're disagreeing about.
But not everybody does that,especially black people, because
you know, black people, there'sa lot of stigma on therapy, on
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mental health and all of that.
Speaker 2 (29:39):
So and I also think you spoke up on something.
You spoke up on somethingearlier about, you know, um,
being being strong, you know.
You know being strong and beingresilient in, in my opinion,
(30:03):
are two different words andsometimes circumstances compel
us to be more resilient than wereally have the capacity to be.
Okay, you know, because we comefrom cultures where there are a
lot of white elephants in theroom.
We come from cultures wherethere are a lot of white
elephants in the room, you knowthere's promiscuity, there's
(30:24):
child molestation, there'sincestual rape, there's rape.
You know, there are a lot ofthings that physical, emotional
abuse.
All of these white elephantsare in the room.
And we, you know, throughculture, you know, we, we, we
applied this.
You know through culture, youknow we applied this.
You know this popular label ofbeing strong.
(30:44):
But when you have all of thisunresolved trauma and then you
bring it in, you're producinggenerations.
I mean that's almost like ablueprint for disaster.
I'm like how can you do anybetter when you don't know what
you're doing, because you don'teven know how you got where you
are?
You know what I mean Absolutely, and it's a generational thing.
(31:05):
It's like two, three, fourgenerations and then coaches,
subliminally, are built aroundthat and you know that's what we
got today.
You know, and to your point andto B's point, go ahead.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
It's interesting that you say that, because I read a
quote that said if it stillhurts, you're not healed.
You see?
Speaker 4 (31:32):
what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (31:34):
So it's kind of like you know we'll say things like
we got over it.
You know that was years ago orwhatever.
But when somebody bring it upit still makes you feel a
certain type of way.
So it's kind of like if youthink about it then you're
really not fucking healed.
You see what I'm saying?
Speaker 3 (31:51):
But I mean, I feel like healing it looks different
for everybody, right?
So like I was literally justtalking to my aunt about
something that I'm trying toheal from, and it's like, when
this issue comes up again, Istill I and this is something
that I have talked to and triedto work through in therapy but
(32:14):
when this issue does come up, mybody still, that that fight or
flight is still there, like likeit's happening.
You know, does that make sense?
So, but does that mean I'm nothealed, but does that mean that
I'm not healed?
Speaker 1 (32:31):
Unfortunately, I would say no.
I would say no Because, like, Idon't know, like, okay, it's
kind of like if you get a cut onyour arm, right If it's healed
up, if a motherfucker, touch it,it ain't going to hurt, no more
.
You know what I'm saying.
(32:52):
It ain't going to hurt, no more.
But it's kind of like if youget a cut and you think that
motherfucker is healed up, butif somebody put a finger, on
that motherfucker then thatmeans that motherfucker
Speaker 5 (33:04):
is healed.
Speaker 2 (33:05):
You see what I'm saying?
Yeah, but you also got to lookat the phenomenon, too, of
gender.
Right, we are men, soeverything is up front, direct,
boom, boom, boom.
My mother told me somethingthat really still to this day,
fuck my head up.
My mom been gone almost twoyears.
(33:27):
She told me something when Iwas a little boy that really
fuck my head up.
She said I remember givingbirth to all three of y'all and
I remember all of the pain thatI went through having y'all and
I remember all of the pain thatI went through having y'all, but
when I heard you scream and Iheard you cry and your feet kick
out, I forgot about all of thatpain.
(33:51):
So I saw the deliverance of lifevideo in health class in high
school and I seen that womanvagina expand to 10 centimeters.
Bro, because I saw my assexpanding to 10 centimeters and
I couldn't deal with that typeof excruciating pain.
And that was over 30 some yearsago, bro.
(34:13):
So you have to look at that,that phenomenon, a person who
can go through something that islife-threatening and as painful
as conceiving life.
They can turn it off with thelight switch.
So how Ms B deals with pain isgoing to be night and day,
different than how me and youdeal with pain, because she can
compartmentalize that way betterthan me and you.
(34:35):
And I think that's a lot wherewe're clashing.
But that's where we butt handsat, because when you all inflict
pain on us, we're giving thatfeedback to you in real time, to
where, as you look at it, likewell, shit, you've done
something to me, I can just getover it.
Yeah, that's because you canexpand to 10 centimeters and
squeeze a whole human life outof you and experience that type
(34:58):
of motherfucking pain and turnit off and be like shit.
We on to the next one, weanatomically and emotionally.
Why is this?
You know that shit hurt like amotherfucker.
I'm like I'm hurting.
I ain't never gave birth and itstill hurt me, so it's like you
know.
So when you go back to thebasic tenets of how life is
(35:24):
created, you have to start thereand then work your way into
into real life routines and thenyou get an understanding why
this person don't understand howsomething is affecting you and
vice versa, because we, whyyou're different.
You know what I mean, right.
Vice versa, because we wireddifferent.
You know what I mean and Ithink that's the catalyst to why
a lot of relationships failbecause people, because of that,
(35:46):
the way we are anatomicallywired, Because of that
disconnect, like that disconnect.
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (35:54):
I'm telling you something, but you're hearing
something completely differentfrom what I'm telling you about
this, and you heard broccoli ina microwave, exactly and vice
versa in a microwave, exactly,and vice versa, and vice versa.
Speaker 2 (36:04):
You're like motherfucker, get over it.
Speaker 3 (36:07):
You're like get over it.
Speaker 2 (36:08):
Goddamn, it ain't that big deal.
In your mind it's not a bigdeal, but to that person it's a
big deal, and vice versa, and itshould just go left.
You'd be way in the bushes.
You'd be so far away from theconcrete you'd never find your
way back.
You in the forest, you in LakeMichigan, goddamn so do you
(36:29):
think so.
Speaker 1 (36:29):
Do y'all think that it's a lack of empathy?
Am I saying the word correctly?
You know what I'm saying that'spart of the problem.
Like I hear you.
Like you said, ms B.
Like like I hear you.
Like you said, like you saidmiss b.
Like I hear you, but like youain't like you listening, but
you ain't really fucking hearingme you get what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (36:45):
You're not actively listening.
You're listening to respond,not listening to really digest
and hear what I'm saying.
You listening already on thedefense, because you you already
assuming I'm about to bebitching about something, so you
already like oh, I've beenthere before.
Speaker 1 (37:00):
I've been there before and I have to hold myself
accountable, I've been therebefore.
Speaker 3 (37:05):
I mean, I think we've all been there before, yeah.
Speaker 2 (37:09):
It becomes a competition.
Yeah, oh man, it becomes acompetition.
My feelings more important thanyours, fuck you.
Mine more important than yours.
Now, fuck you thatmotherfucking mama.
Shit, god damn it.
Hell, kiss my ass.
You know what I mean.
But everybody hurt.
Speaker 3 (37:26):
Yeah, yeah, you right , everybody hurt, everybody
going through something.
For me, I think it helps toothat if you have a partner that
can communicate or canarticulate things, you know what
I mean.
Yeah, because for me I'm an overcommunicator to where my fiance
.
He an Aquarius.
He is stoic, you'd never knownothing was wrong with him.
(37:49):
Like a couple weeks ago,somebody passed away and I'm
like he was like, oh, I got togo to this funeral.
And I'm like, what funeral?
And he like telling me about it.
I'm like when the fuck did theydie?
He's like two weeks ago.
Oh, okay, so you knew.
You just ain't said nothing fortwo weeks.
This man been dead.
Speaker 1 (38:05):
And he like I mean.
Speaker 4 (38:06):
That's just how they handle shit.
Speaker 3 (38:08):
And it's just like okay, well, but I feel like I
share.
So like when you come home Iask you how your day was and I
tell you how my day was, and atno point, and he'd just be like
I, just, but it's like I feellike that's where the disconnect
comes to.
Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (38:27):
Yeah, and I think yeah, it makes a lot of sense.
That also makes me think aboutthe whole concept of emotional
intelligence.
Speaker 5 (38:36):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (38:38):
Everybody is not as emotionally intelligent as the
next person, and it makes youthink more about empathy, like
can you have the empathy for aperson who's not emotionally
intelligent, and how long can it?
Speaker 3 (38:52):
last.
How long?
That's the question right thereis.
How long is that empathy goingto last before you get that last
nerve?
And it's like you know what,Don't worry about it last before
you get that last nerve.
Speaker 1 (39:01):
And it's like you know what.
Don't worry about it.
It's kind of like, Brandon, youwere saying earlier about
understanding what somebody else, what both of y'all were saying
, understanding what somebodyelse is coming from, but the
question is, how long am Isupposed to understand this shit
?
Though?
You see what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (39:19):
Right?
That's a good question.
Yeah, how you feel on Right?
That's a good question.
How do you feel on that beat?
That's a good question.
Speaker 2 (39:24):
John.
You know, it's almost likeleading back to the point about
your partner when you had afuneral to go to.
It's like you becomedesensitized and then you just
shut down to it.
You know what I mean.
Me and John talked about this acouple of months ago, like we
started experiencing pure deathat 14.
(39:45):
So by the time you get your 30sor 40s and somebody dies, it's
just like well, yeah, okay.
Speaker 3 (39:54):
That's just a Tuesday .
Speaker 2 (39:56):
You see what I'm saying?
Yeah, you know, what I mean.
So and it's like that in arelationship.
It's just like yo man, you say,yo, you know what, I don't like
mayonnaise on my sandwich.
And after about six months ofyou fixing the sandwich and you
put mayonnaise on every last oneof the motherfuckers, you just
gonna shut down.
You know what I mean?
You be like fuck it.
(40:16):
Hey man, whatever, you don'twant this sandwich.
Nah, I ain't hungry, no more,you just go get you some shit on
the way home.
You know what I'm saying?
Like then the person who fixingthe sandwich getting mad like
damn, I just I'm going out myway to make you, but you ain't
making it the way I like it.
So, but then, motherfucker, youshould eat it anyway and lie.
I said you'd rather, you'drather me lie than tell the
(40:38):
truth.
Damn, you respect a lot morethan you appreciate the truth.
Speaker 3 (40:48):
Damn Goddamn.
Well, no, I always want thetruth.
That don't mean necessarilythat I'm going to change
overnight, but I at least wantto know how you feel.
Speaker 2 (41:05):
Right yeah, but the flip side of that is, as men I
don't eat no fucking mayonnaise.
Speaker 3 (41:11):
Why you keep putting mayonnaise on the sandwich?
We?
Speaker 2 (41:13):
don't want to deal with the fallout of telling the
truth, because shit getweaponized when you tell
somebody that is like oh shit,you don't want no mayonnaise,
that it's like oh shit, youdon't want to weaponize me, you
don't want no man night, yeah.
I mean yeah Because it's likeit's like.
It's like it's like now, ifyou're watching TV or something
(41:35):
you know, you feel that bumpnext to you and shit, and you
just told the truth you may notget no bump, that motherfucking
night.
So now it's like fuck it.
She'll be like I'm alivebecause I want some bump.
So we play these, you know, wemake these decisions and we play
these games with ourselves tothe point where we wake up and
like damn, I'm still notfulfilled, because even after
(41:56):
you get the bump, you stilldidn't get satisfied, leading up
to the bump, and you feel emptybecause you gave a part of
yourself emotionally to somebodyyou care about and you don't
feel like they value what youwant.
So it just makes the situationmore complicated.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (42:16):
Okay, wow, damn, that's deep, that's deep hey,
real shit.
Okay.
Speaker 1 (42:26):
I feel like, first of all, all I appreciate y'all
time.
I tell people all the time timeis way more valuable than money
, because you can't get timeback.
You can get money back.
You got big enough goons youcan get your money back, can't
get time back.
So I definitely appreciatey'all time and I want to say
this to y'all, like I reallyappreciate the fact of who who
(42:51):
is on today because, brandon,I've been knowing you for years
and you know I think that forpeople who don't know you like
you said, like they see yourdemeanor Very big dude, you know
you said they see your demeanorVery big dude, you know, got
(43:11):
some size to him Can beintimidating.
It's like I wanted you to havean opportunity to speak because
I've always felt like you are avery knowledgeable and wise
person.
You know what I'm saying.
And then, with Ms B, like yousaid, you may come off as
assertive to people and you knowthat can be perceived a certain
way, but from the conversationsthat we've had, I've picked up
(43:32):
a lot from you.
You know what I'm saying.
It's like this is a very wisewoman, a very spiritual woman as
well.
So I really wanted to get ally'all well, both of y'all on the
podcast just to talk about it.
I mean, I feel like it's alonger conversation, but we're
kind of short on time and shitlike that.
So I definitely want to extendmy appreciation for y'all for
(43:52):
giving me y'all time.
No problem, no problem, noproblem.
Is there anything that y'allwant to leave the people with,
to let them know Any gems youwant to drop on them, or shit
like that?
Speaker 3 (44:04):
Yeah, what's that big fella?
Speaker 2 (44:08):
You know, the cheapest and the least
time-consuming thing a personcan do as it relates to other
people is to smile.
If you look somebody in the eyeand you smile at them, you have
no idea how much that willimpact their life, their day or
life for that matter.
(44:28):
And to me, the most preciousthing, that, because she didn't
do it often, but when she did,it was probably one of the most
beautiful spectacles I everwitnessed in my life and that
was to see my mother smile andto see melanated women smile,
because the way popular cultureportrays melanated women, they
(44:50):
angry, they mean, but when youall smile, you just.
You light up the back ends ofheaven and you see the angels
just rejoice.
Because it's something you alldon't do often and it's
something we as a culture don'tdo often.
And my challenge to peoplelistening and you know two
colleagues just smile more manman, that's the stuff.
Speaker 3 (45:12):
Okay, I like that.
Yeah, I think that's a goodnote to end on.
I like that that is.
Speaker 1 (45:21):
That is that what you're gonna.
You're gonna add on to that, oryou just go oh, I mean.
Speaker 3 (45:27):
Smile more, stay hydrated, you know, uh, use your
words, try to communicate, uh,try to articulate, articulate
yourself as much as you can anddon't, you know, just be going
off on people.
Speaker 1 (45:46):
Right.
Speaker 3 (45:47):
Um, I have to remind myself to do that most days too.
So, you know, it's a journey,and just be gentle with yourself
.
That's what I always, every day.
I pray and I tell myself.
I remind myself to be gentlewith myself because it is a
journey and today I'm going tobe better than I was yesterday,
but I still got to give myselfthat room to okay.
Well, if I slip up, you'restill good, you can still keep
(46:10):
going, it can still be a goodday.
Your day ain't shit now, justbecause you had a moment, girl,
keep it moving, like you said,smile and go on with your day.
That's what's up.
Speaker 1 (46:22):
I definitely appreciate y'all time, I
definitely appreciate theconversation and, man, y'all
have a very, very, very blessedday.
I'll be talking to y'all anyway, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (46:36):
We got to do this again, bro.
Speaker 3 (46:39):
We are oh, we do big fella, I like big fella.
Yeah, likewise, likewise.
Oh, we do big fella, I like bigfella, likewise, likewise.
I like this beat, I like the.
Yeah, we got to go out.
I got to pick your brain, youare interesting.
Speaker 2 (46:52):
Yeah, man Definitely Pick the place, and I'm there.
Speaker 1 (46:57):
That's a compliment coming from her, because she's
quick to say she don't likepeople.
Speaker 3 (47:03):
I do.
I don't.
She don't like people.
I do, I don't enjoy people.
Speaker 2 (47:07):
I will say this though and I'm saying this with
all the endearment in my heart Iwould hate to piss in your
Kool-Aid.
Speaker 3 (47:16):
You would hate to piss in my Kool-Aid.
Speaker 2 (47:19):
Yes, ma'am, because I would rather walk through a
lion's den.
I would rather walk through alion's den.
I'd rather walk through alion's den with three fried pork
chops tied to my ass than apiece of your Kool-Aid, charlie.
Yeah, you know what I?
Speaker 5 (47:34):
mean.
Speaker 3 (47:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (47:37):
I'll tell her, alright, thank y'all very much
and I'm going to have my toilet.
Alright, then, man, y'all bemuch and I'm going to be having
a tall letter.
Speaker 3 (47:45):
All right.
Speaker 2 (47:47):
Y'all be safe.
Speaker 3 (47:48):
You too.
Speaker 4 (47:50):
All right.
Speaker 1 (47:54):
Yo, check it out, y'all.
Yo, that was awesome.
That was awesome and I thinkthat was a great conversation
for us bringing the podcast backafter so long.
I think relationships areimportant and I think that we
need to pay attention to how weare navigating through these
(48:16):
relationships these days.
What's important to us, what'snot important to us?
Are we valuing that otherperson?
You know what I'm saying.
So, anyway, I also added thisto the podcast.
This is the DJ spotlight.
So you know, I want to add this.
(48:36):
I added this segment to thepodcast to give DJs a chance to
be showcased, also to showcasegood music, music that's not
necessarily beat into your brainon mainstream radio.
So, as for now, I want y'all toget in tune and check out the
(48:57):
DJ Spotlight right here on theShits Podcast.
Y'all, it's the Shits, y'all.
It's the Shits y'all.
Speaker 4 (49:08):
It's the Shits y'all.
It's the Shits y'all.
(49:30):
I know I got, I got attentionfor you.
Speaker 6 (49:36):
I know.
I know you need affection.
I got, I got.
I got a question for you.
If somebody told me, what doyou like to do, I'd take all the
stars and fall away.
What's that for you?
If I find out, what do you like?
(49:58):
Diamonds I got diamonds andethos and rubies and things Got
those for you.
I'm gonna trip to your heart.
I'm on a trip to your heart.
I'm on a trip to your heart.
I'm on a trip to your heart,heart.
(50:27):
Don't call it a comeback.
I've been here for years.
Speaker 2 (50:30):
I'm rockin' my peers Put songs in fear Makin' the
tears rain down like a monsoon.
Listen to the beast of comics.
Dj Monsoon's the rock.
The dopest DJ in Earth does pop.
I'm a foreign wreckage shop.
Speaker 5 (51:24):
When I drop these lyrics, that'll make you call
the cops.
Don't you dare stare this DJ.
He murdered us.
I'm going to knock you out.
Come on, I got enough that Icould chew a whole bag of rocks,
chew an avenue, chew anoff-street and off-block, then
turn around and do the same damnthing to a soloist, cause
(51:47):
Reggie Noble's pissed.
I crushed the whole brain frameCause you couldn't maintain the
funk.
Then have it rap style forlunch.
Y'all.
Cause 92, I take a whole crew,give them a punch on the funk,
not ballin' their go-to flutes.
I show you what type of stuffI'm on.
You can't puff or sniff itBecause I was born with it.
The bocadilla devil hit youwith the rap level of ten.
The one, two, three.
You're pinned.
I get action.
(52:08):
So everybody jump with yourrump Picking like the way the
sound pump, pump it in your backtrunk and let loose with the
juice.
When I do rock I'm too hot.
Some say I got more juice thanTupac Straight out of Jersey.
You heard me, my brother, I'mlaughing.
Black Time for some black, yeah.
Speaker 6 (52:43):
Y'all ready for this, yeah?
Speaker 1 (54:34):
Y'all ready for this Outro Music Going like a nut,
don't be a pup and I let it burncause dreads ain't funky enough
.
Watch the smooth lyrics thattake place.
I got my eyes on you.
Let's get it.
Thank you, We'll be right back.
(54:55):
Thank you.
This game on soon to rock.
Let's go this DJ.
You heard that part.
They some certified freaks andwe know they got good knees.
We be fucking your aunties, hey, we be fucking your aunties.
Hey, we be fucking your aunties.
Hey, she really want me to comeand be her boo thang, looking
(55:19):
thick as hell at them.
Aau games, hotter than a blueflame, ready to do things.
Said she wanted to fuck causeshe thought I was 2.
We'll be little drugs.
She take me to the room.
Then she come up out the scrub.
I treat her like a lady but Ifuck her like a thug.
Got a bald head, coochie.
(55:47):
It ain't looking like a rug.
You be in the booth and bedoing your rap shit.
I be smacking cheeks makingsure that she clap shit.
Your song's kind of whack so Iprobably won't clap kid.
Speaker 4 (56:36):
Your auntie is a freak, you know that's no cap,
we'll be right back.
Speaker 6 (56:39):
I'm a time fine jury dripping.
See you with pickings, with abunch of chickens.
How you clicking.
I kept shooting strong notes.
As we got close she rock broke.
Honey throat smelling likeimpulse.
Your whole shell baby's wickedlike Nimrod, caught me like a
freshwater straw or may I not beGod.
Attitude is very rude.
Boo Crabby like seafood.
It turns me on like Vines toyour long rule.
(56:59):
They call me Starkey Love.
Uncheck the strategy by anymeans, shirley Temple.
Course was done by Billie Jean'sBlack.
Mrs America, your name is Erica.
Right, true, lazy.
I boost Morphe's six shoeCarmel complexion.
Breath smelling like cinnamon.
Excuse me, honey, don't mean noharm.
Turn around again.
Goddamn, backyard's banginglike a Benz.
If I was Jiggy you'd be spottedlike Spock McKenzie I'm high
(57:22):
put a D in a Howard to sleep.
You're boughtin' that bitchbeen on my mind all week.
But uh, back to you, maybellineQueen, let's make a team.
You can have anything in thisworld Except cream.
So what you wanna do, what youwanna do, let's go ahead and
walk these dogs and representmove.
Watch these rap niggas.
Speaker 4 (57:38):
Get all up in your guts, chris.
Vanilla Butter, pecan ChocolateDeluxe in your guts, crisp
vanilla butter, pecan chocolatedeluxe.
Even caramel sundaes is gettingtouched.
Let's go get my ice cream,chocolate and salad.
Let's go, dj Monsoers to rock.
(58:06):
First of his name.
Do best in the game.
I wanna hear you try the joke.
I do, I wanna be next to you.
(58:38):
I do, I wanna be next to you.
I do, I, I, I do, I.
I can't even lie.
You're the only one that's onmy mind and I can't wait to see
(59:06):
you after school.
Follow me and we gon' break therule.
I can't even fly.
You're the only one that getsme high.
Speaker 1 (59:27):
We go back like no one wants to be hey, and when
you see me, you know what it is.
It's a break and van.
Now I wanna stay.
What's with you, I do.
What's with you, I do, I do.
(59:50):
I just wanna talk with you,talk with you, whatever Talk
with you, I, I, I need next toyou.
I wanna be next to you.
(01:00:17):
I know, yo, what up, what up,what up y'all.
That was DJ Spotlight and thisweek it was your truly DJ
Monsters to Rock.
Yo, djs out there, if you wantyour 10 to 12-minute mix feature
(01:00:40):
on the DJ Spotlight, on theShits Podcast DJ, you can email
DJ monsoons to raw at gmailcom.
Yo, make sure you got, makesure you put your name inside
your mix.
All that.
You know what I'm saying, sopeople know who you are.
Yo.
I'd like to give a very specialshout out to my man, brandon
Caldwell, and my girl, aliciaBaylark, for tuning in, for
(01:01:01):
being guests on the podcast.
They came through, dropped somegems on y'all.
Thanks to anybody that has beensupporting and downloading the
Shits podcast.
Like I said, we took a breakfor a minute, but now we're back
.
So every week we're going to bedropping a podcast for y'all.
If you want to get booked on apodcast, email DJMonsonSteraw at
(01:01:26):
gmailcom.
That's DJMonsonSterawS-T-A-R-A-W at gmailcom.
I want to leave y'all with this.
Everything happens for a reasonand the dots will always
connect.
Just remember that.
(01:01:47):
Try to find the positives inevery situation, because there
are positives in every situation.
I know sometimes it may seemlike it's not and it may be very
challenging to find them.
However, they are there and I'mgoing to leave you all with
this.
Make fans, not followers.
Followers will get you clout.
Fans will get you work.
Trust the process.
(01:02:08):
Realize that the only thingthat happens overnight Is
dreaming and slobbing, and tunein next week.
Find us on Apple Podcasts,spotify it's the Shits Podcast,
s-h-i-t-t-s Podcast and, forthose of you who don't know, the
(01:02:29):
Shits stand for some hipindividuals thinking, then
speaking, and on that note, I'mout.
I'm your boy, dj Monsoon Starah, the coolest cat you heard thus
far.
Tune in next week.
Y'all, I'm out peace.
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