October 27, 2024 • 26 mins
This episode takes you through my journey on buying my beach apartment, a milestone I once thought would never be attainable. Discover how I overcame financial hurdles and shifting my mindset to manifest this dream into reality. Through releasing control, taking one step at a time, and trusting in the process, I reveal the steps from finding the right broker to embracing opportunities and breaking through limiting beliefs about what homeownership meant for my lifestyle.
I have done a lot of work in the past year and I compiled everything I did into my new work book - "From Stuck to Sparkling" - available now. It's a toolkit of affirmations, journaling prompts, and meditative exercises aimed at helping women level up and find their authentic sparkle.
It's magical 7 steps that you can take at your own pace. They are the exact steps that have allowed me to manifest a huge career shift, lose 12 kgs, buy an apartment and manifest so much more abundance into my life.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello and welcome to season 4 of the Soul Star
channel.
It's Tiffany here, your sparklysoul sister, and this podcast
is all about giving youpractical and magical tools to
manifest and live your bestfrickin life.
It's time to gain more energy,more confidence and have
strategies to flow throughlife's ups and downs, because we
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all know that it's not allrainbows and unicorns.
Let's unlock your own power toshow up with unwavering
authenticity, radiant magnetismand a little bit of magic.
Thank you for pushing play.
Let's go.
Hello, I am back.
I have definitely taken alittle break, but I hope that
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this episode will shine a littlelight on why.
But I am so excited to be backand while I was taking my break,
I am so happy to say that Ireached 5,000 downloads and for
this very small, non-advertisedpodcast, I am so happy that you
have decided to push play andyou come along this crazy little
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journey of me manifestingthings in my life.
So thank you so much forlistening.
And what?
Yeah, it was such a beautifulthing to open up my podcast
hosting website and see that theother day it was just so, so
beautiful.
But a lot of things havechanged in the last couple
months since I posted I think itwas August 4th but, to be
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honest, the last year of my lifeoh, getting a little teary has
been so transformative.
I just think back of Novemberlast year it's October November.
Last year I was like so deeplyunhappy in so many different
areas of my life in myrelationship, in my career, and
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I had just really lost myfricking sparkle and I had just
taken so many steps and havedone the work to move through it
and I feel so much better rightnow, like in the last 12 months
.
I have left my government jobof 15 years and got my dream job
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at like a charity, like I stillwas a high school teacher, but
it's just so much more rewardingand I finally what I've
manifested is like working lessand earning more.
Thank you so much.
So I've completely changed myjobs.
I've lost about 12 kilos andfeeling so amazing and I shared
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about my fitness journey alittle bit on that last episode.
So if you want to have a lookat that but I'll do a little
update soon because I'm justfeeling so fricking good and
done good and I have manifestedmy beautiful little beach
apartment and this is what thisepisode is going to be all about
, and I have manifested otherthings in this last year, but
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again, who I was and what I wasdoing a year ago is completely
different.
And you know I'm just about toturn 40, in about a week.
Oh my God, big gulp.
It's okay, pull my big girlpanties up, that's fine.
Um, and I just didn't want togo into 40 and like life is over
.
Then I think I'm now like pure,like evidence that you can like
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legit change and do anythingthat you want as long as you
have that kind of belief inyourself.
But this is what I've done,because I've gone through such a
big, transformative year Likeit's look.
I'm coming on here like saying,like all these things that I've
done, it has also been one ofthe hardest fricking years of my
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life.
There have been many days whereI have not even gotten out of
bed.
Many days where I have not evengotten out of bed.
I have cried so much.
I have done so much innerhealing, like it's not even
funny.
I have just committed, though,of me going into this cocoon,
going into all this self-care,doing the work, and I feel like
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it's really starting to pay off.
So, even though all thesethings that I manifested like
like you'd be like, wow, yeah,10, 12 kilos and like a new job.
But it was really hard work aswell as in like like there were
just some days that were hard.
It wasn't all rainbows andunicorns and I really felt super
stuck.
Uh, this time last year and attimes throughout this this year
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as well, and what I've done,cause I just went through like
my process on how I got unstuckbecause it was really getting to
me and I was like, am I evergoing to feel good again?
Am I ever going to feel like mytruest self again?
Am I ever going to feel sparklyagain?
And I went through this reallydark night of the soul, I guess
you can call it, and I sat downand I did all these like
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journaling activities.
I kind of allocated like I'mnot even joking like four to
five hours and I went throughlike all these steps and I did
all of these steps.
I completed them all Like it'saffirmations, a whole bunch of
like journaling prompts, allthese things, meditation.
And I completed those steps onSaturday, the Sunday after, like
one day, after 24 hours after Idid this like deep, freaking
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healing steps.
That's when that job popped upas like an advertisement so I
could apply for it and I got.
I had the job interview on theMonday and or on the Tuesday and
then I got it on the Friday.
So I really do think that thesesteps help me feel unstuck.
But I have put them and likepackaged them into this little
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workbook and I called it fromstuck to sparkling, cause that's
legit how I felt before I didthese steps and then I actually
feel so fricking sparkling rightnow.
It's not even funny.
So one night I just did allthese, all these things and I
wrote it all down and I was likeanother woman needs to do this.
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Another woman is sitting in herbed crying her eyes out, either
heartbroken or stuck or feelinglike shit, and she needs this.
So I packed it all up, put anebook called From Stuck to
Sparkling and it's available now.
I'll put the link in the shownotes, but I am so freaking
proud of it.
It is such a beautiful piece ofwork.
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Now I did it all in one nightbecause I'm crazy and I really
needed to take some action.
But you don't have to do it allin one night.
You could do it over, like it'sseven steps, so you could do
like one step a day or one stepa week or one step every couple
days, or you can be like me andjust do it all in one afternoon
or something like that.
It's really up to you.
It's like a self-paced workbookwith heaps of journaling
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prompts, heaps of likeactivities.
There's a visualizationmeditation that comes with it,
like it's really freakingcomprehensive.
My only thing is like if youdon't even know what an
affirmation is or you don't evenknow what manifesting is, I
wouldn't get it.
It's not for like an absolutebeginner, but if you have kind
of dabbled in a couple of things, like you know you've done a
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couple of workshops or you'veyou've done a couple of
meditations, or if you alreadyknow all this stuff but you're
like I just need to up-level andtake it to like the next thing.
This is for you, because it wasabsolutely transformed my life
and, to be honest, out of the 12kilos that I lost, most of it
happened after I did this.
The job happened, and now whatI'm talking about in my episode
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here is about the apartment.
Again, if you're interested inthe little ebook, the link is in
my bio Let me talk to you abouthow I manifested my awesome
little beach apartment in theGold Coast, and even me saying
that is like it still doesn'tsound real to me.
Cause let me just back up just alittle bit I never, ever, ever,
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thought that I would own my ownplace.
I thought that one day that Iwould be like a homeowner, but
maybe it's like um through, likea partner, or like we merged,
like something, um, like I kindof knew, cause it's like
something that you kind of do inyour life is like you get a
place.
But I never thought that Iwould actually like have my own
place and, to be honest, I'vedone this like all by myself.
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I don't have a partner, I don'thave parents that have given me
money, I don't have aninheritance, I don't have, like,
yeah, any any of that.
So all of this has come from myown, my own like life, and it
makes me feel really, reallyproud and like brave and
courageous in order to do this.
And again, like I never thoughtthat I courageous in order to do
this, and again, like I neverthought that I would be able to
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own my own place, it just wasn'tsomething that I I don't know
like finances and everything.
They've always kind of been astruggle for me, like most of my
life.
So I've done a lot of money,mindset work in the last couple
of years, but, you know, andI've manifested great monetary
things, but an apartment is likewhoa, that is so crazy.
And I also had this belief thata mortgage meant that I won't
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be able to have any fun.
And I still kind of think that.
Like, I still kind of have thatbelief, but I'm just trying to
like work through it instead ofallowing it to take over my life
.
Anywho, and I also, I don't knowlike maybe the beginning of the
year I had this like dream.
It can't not a dream, but likemaybe the beginning of the year
I had this like dream.
It kind of not a dream, butlike when I was doing a
meditation, I kind of visualizedthis thing out of nowhere, that
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I would get the keys to my newplace on my birthday, which is
November 4th, and I was like, ohmy God, that is too soon, I
don't know what I'm going to bedoing.
Like that is not going tohappen and I will be getting the
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keys on November 8th.
Uh, yay, okay, right now I'mjust living in a granny flat at
the back of someone's houseright now in Broad Beach,
because when I um left mypartner at the beginning of the
year, I was living in this houseand obviously had to find
another place.
So I am yeah, it was um Iabsolutely like I manifested
this place.
There's another episode aboutthat if you want to go and have
a listen to it.
But I obviously had this kind ofdrive to find a place this year
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, though Like I didn't reallywant to rent again because like
it's so hard to get a rental,and I was like, okay, now I'm
like almost 40.
I kind of need to get my lifetogether and I can't live in
someone's granny flat until I'mlike 60 years old.
So I kind of put things inmotion.
So just I think it was in likeFebruary when I like moved into
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this granny flat.
I was like so grateful for it.
But I was like how the fuck am Igoing to get a place?
How am I going to manifest anapartment that I'm going to pay
for?
Like I haven't even, like Idon't even know if I can afford
it.
I don't have, I have zerosavings.
Like how am I going to get this?
And then I had this huge likeepiphany of like three kind of
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things, and these three things,um, what I'm going to talk about
today.
Hopefully you can use them inyour life as well.
But these three things are thetheme through my whole process
in manifesting this apartment,and the first one is take away
the how, and I'll explain allthese more in a second.
But take away the how, take onestep at a time and just trust
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the process.
So I didn't know how I wasgoing to do this.
Like it seemed like it wasgoing to take a miracle, like a
Christmas miracle, for me to beable to get this apartment, and
I was like one day I was likeTiffany, just take, take that
away.
Take away the how.
It doesn't really matter how Iget it, it's more about like
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just sending, setting thatintention and just taking one
step at a time, because I wouldthink, okay, well, then I could
get another job and I could likesave up money this way.
And I was like trying to thinkof all these things and it was
like so overwhelming that I waslike I'm just not going to worry
about the how it will happen.
Once I did that, I felt a lotbetter and a lot more calm, and
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then I went on to my next kindof step is like just taking one
step at a time.
I was like, what's the nextthing?
The next thing is not me justgoing to go look at places.
That's insane.
The next thing for me was tofind a broker, and this is like
finance Again, to me.
It's not my thing.
I don't really like maths, Idon't like talking about money
like to people and all that kindof stuff.
So the next thing I need to dois find a broker.
But you go online and everyonelooks super fake and you hear
all these stories of these likedouchebag brokers and they're
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just out you for your money andI was like, ok, again, I don't
know how, but I'm going tomanifest a broker.
I'm out with breakfast with myfriend and one of her friends
just pops by and she says likehey, how are you going?
And she is a broker and she'ssuper nice.
She's kind of like my age andshe just was so caring and nice
that I actually contacted her acouple weeks later and asked if,
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if we could have like a chatand she was like, absolutely,
and I just love that likeorganic, like way that I found
her.
Like it felt deeply, like heldand such a beautiful thing, and
I was like, okay, thank you, Ibeautiful thing.
And I was like, okay, thank you.
I didn't know how I was goingto do it.
If I, if I tried to control thehow there and I looked up
online and all that kind ofstuff I probably would have
found someone.
But I felt I feel better doingthe how, just like naturally
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going with it and trusting theprocess.
Okay, so I had a broker, we hada couple of conversations and
she's like you have to kind ofget your ducks in order, yeah,
just things that I needed to do.
Like she gave me a little listof things and so I took a couple
months and I just startedtaking off those things, just
taking one step at a time andjust kind of going with it.
But one of those things isgetting like a deposit and at
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that time I had like no money,yeah, right, but nothing like
enough for a deposit and and I'msure that you know this is very
hard to save for a deposit,especially when you want to live
your best life and go to Sydneyand do all these like fun
things as well.
So, again, trusting the processand I was talking to a friend
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and he was like, when you workfor the government, you make
voluntary or personalcontributions to your super.
So the government pays and thenyou pay into your super.
And I was like, oh, I don'tthink I've been doing that.
And I looked it up and I had.
For the last 14 years I had beenmaking these voluntary payments
into my super.
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I had no idea.
And if you're a first homebuyer, you can use that money
like your voluntary thing, tolike take it out and use it for
a deposit.
Oh my God, it's actuallyworking out.
So I had $31,000 while by doingthis and now, like in hindsight
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, my deposit was exactly $31,000.
Isn't that crazy?
Like I was happy to pay acouple extra grand out of my
savings or whatever, but likeit's just so crazy how it all
works out.
So, look, that was a little bitof a Christmas miracle.
But this past, uh, like Tiffany,who obviously ticked a box to
voluntarily put supercontributions in, like thank you
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, that was a little bit of amiracle.
But again, I didn't know how Iwas going to do it, but I just
trusted the process.
So I found out I could do that.
Oh, I don't know, maybe in,let's just say, may, and I
calculated it and they're likeyou can have the $31,000.
And you know what I was likenah, I can't do that.
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And for some reason it feltalmost too good to be true and I
actually talked myself out ofit.
Um, it wasn't only tillrecently, until September, where
I was like, okay, yeah, I'mfinally ready to take that money
out.
And it was a huge thing of me,like, well, I didn't really work
for that.
And my, my friends were like,yes, you did, this has come out
of your paycheck and stuff andinto this account.
So it was actually a really bigthing for me to be able to
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accept that money and when itcame in it just felt so unreal.
But there was the next step Ihad to worry about was getting
my deposit, and I did that.
Then I had to go through thepre-approval process, which,
again, I don't like filling outforms, I don't like going to get
things like signed by a GP, butI just like what's my next step
?
My next step is just go to thelibrary, scan this document, go
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get it signed, go bring it backand, like you know, I just took
one step at a time because itdid feel very overwhelming to me
and, yeah, there were timeswhere I just wanted to kind of
give up.
So I got pre-approval and thenI was like, okay, well, now I'm
going to start looking forplaces now again, this took over
like like eight months itwasn't just like me and this one
weekend like that's insanity Imade a list of what I was going
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to look for and I wrote downlike a one or two bedroom
apartment, like at least a 15minute walk from the beach, with
a car park, a pool, oh, I can'tremember all the other things
that I wrote down, but I justwrote down everything that was
really important to me and atthe bottom I said this or
something better, to just makesure in case I wasn't thinking
of something.
Uh, I only actually looked attwo places in all of this search
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and one of the places I went on, uh, the Friday and it was in
my price range and it was suchgarbage and I almost started to
get really emotional, cause Iwas like this is what I can
afford and if this is what theplace that I could get, like I'm
just really scared.
Like the building was reallydodgy and like like there was
dogs and stuff, like it was justreally, really scary.
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So I was like, okay, the nextplace was a Saturday morning and
it was like torrential rain andI went to it.
I walked in with my friendbecause, again, I have no idea
what I'm doing.
So again, one of the next stepswas like who's going to come
with me to this open house?
And I walked in.
I was like, oh my God, this isit.
And I just got so excited aboutit.
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It's in Bud's Beach Beach,which is like it's like a one
minute walk from the beach, likelegit, out my door, down the
street, cross the little crossthing, and then I get there and
it was like it's such a like aopen, just a beach vibe, like
it's so nice and it's likemostly remodeled, so it's like a
brand new kitchen, brand newbathroom, which is I need,
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because I'm not like a renovator, I'm not to like paint, walls
and stuff.
I just want to move in.
Then I made an offer and heaccepted it right away, without
any like back and forth, likethat was super easy.
And also like one of the thingswas like furniture.
I don't own any furniture, likeI have a chair and some like
Ikea bookshelves, like that's it, so bookshelves, like that's it
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.
So I was like, oh, I have toget all new furniture a washing
machine, a fridge, a TV, likeall these things.
I don't have any of it.
Like that really does add up.
And the guy, the seller, justmessages the real estate and
says, does she want all myfurniture as well, and maybe
give me like a couple hundredbucks.
And I was like, oh my gosh,it's so crazy.
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Again I didn't know how I wasgoing to get furniture.
And I was like, oh my god, it'sso crazy.
Again I didn't know how I wasgonna get furniture.
I was like just gonna go to JBHi-Fi or whatever or go on
marketplace.
But then when I just relaxedinto like I don't know how I'm
gonna do this, but it's gonnawork out, like it it really just
did.
And then you know when they'relike here you can have like the
pre-approval was like you canhave a mortgage for this amount.
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Then I started doing mycalculations of like how much I
earn and all this stuff and howmuch it would be with the body
corporate and the rates and thewater and all that stuff, and I
started to feel reallyoverwhelmed because I was like,
can I afford this and still havefun?
Again?
That's one of the stories thatI have about you know these like
having a mortgage and I wasjust really worried that I
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wouldn't be able to get stillget massages and get my nails
done and all that kind of stuff.
And I said I was like I don'tknow how I'm going to do this,
but I need about $400 more perpaycheck just to have that fun.
And I shit you not like thatweek because I work for a
charity, you can salarysacrifice quite a bit of things
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and then it brings down yourtaxable income and then you take
home more in your net.
I know it doesn't.
If that doesn't make sense toyou, don't worry, it didn't make
sense to me.
But basically I got $374 moreper paycheck by doing that and I
was like, oh my God, like Ijust felt so deeply held in that
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moment, cause it's.
I just was very specific.
I just asked the universe and Iwas like I don't know how we're
going to do it, but if youcould do that, that would be
great.
I thought I would just have todo some more work for, like my
side hustle, which I do like um,marketing stuff for like a
dance studio, but it was so mucheasier to do it this way.
So it's like funny how you,when you stop controlling things
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, how everything does kind ofwork out for you.
But let me tell you about thefinance, because everything else
up to now seemed to go verysmoothly, very demure, very
mindful, but the finance part ofit was absolutely soul crushing
to me.
So the bank that I gotpre-approval from basically
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ghosted me.
I don't know how else toexplain it.
They're definitely going to geta review after all of this is
done and I had to go to adifferent bank.
But then I had to extend myfinance and then in doing so
they put it back up on themarket just in case, and then
the real estate startedharassing me.
Then it just took the bank forages, mostly because I'm a first
home buyer.
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So that was a totally separateapplication to get that grant
and it was just totally threeand a half weeks of utter
exhaustion for myself and I,honestly, there was one day, on
the Thursday.
I found it on the Friday that Igot it On the Thursday.
It really freaking, broke mecompletely, like I didn't.
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Oh, it was just so sad becauseall these other things had just
worked out so well and I waslike I don't care if it's not
the place for me, but not havinga decision, like they just
wouldn't tell me either way, andit was just really really
daunting my soul.
And there was one day at schoolin the morning they asked for
one more thing and I was likeare you kidding me?
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Like you know another documentto send through, and I was
pretty good during the day withthe kids.
But then I just got to the endof the day and I just cried all
the way home, got some gingerbeer which, if you know me, I
haven't really been drinkinglately got some ginger beer,
drank three ginger beer andwatched love is blind and
basically cried all night andwas like why is this so hard?
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Like what is the life lesson?
And the the days before this,because this went on for about
four weeks, this finance dilemmaand I was like what is the
lesson in this?
Like, and I would journal ormeditate or like go for a walk,
but I just got to the pointwhere, like nothing was like
working, so I just got drunk andlove is blind, and the next day
I got the approval.
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So I'm not saying just to getdrunk and watch trash TV and
that's how you're going to reachyour goals, but sometimes it's
just like kind of releasing andnot trying to like sometimes you
don't have to like meditate,sometimes you just got to like
take care of your own soul inorder for it to work.
So I finally got my financeapproved.
I get the keys on November 8thand I am so excited with the
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mortgage now that I can likeafford and still have fun in
this, the cutest little beachapartment, and especially when I
like move on and, you know,meet the love of my life and he
already has a place.
I can use this as an investmentbecause it's in such it's on
the tram line, it's right on thebeach, like all of these things
.
And I'm really deeply so proudof myself Again.
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When I compare myself to thistime last year, I was so broken
and sad and really hopeless Iguess would be another good word
to explain it and I'm just sohappy that like doing the work
and like going through thisprocess really allowed things to
come true.
And this is this I shareexactly what I did in the last
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couple of months in this ebookor this like workbook Again, you
can look in the show notes ofthe steps that I went through,
the journaling activities, theaffirmations that I've given
myself and everything to reallymake this like really huge
changes.
And it's happened in so manyareas of my life.
It just really really freakingamazing and I really do believe
that people can do it forthemselves as well.
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Like there was a lot of hardlessons.
I really did need to let go ofthat relationship in order for
all of these beautiful things tocome in.
And was that really hard?
Like absolutely.
It was like, yeah, one of thehardest things I've ever had to
do in my life.
But I look back at this yearand, oh, it's just been so
transformative and, yeah, again,really proud of myself.
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So I'll just kind of summarizeagain the steps that I did to
manifest something huge Likethis isn't just me manifesting a
hundred bucks so I can go get apedicure.
This is like me manifesting afreaking apartment, a house, a
mortgage, like everything.
So the first one was just takeaway the how.
Take away the.
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You controlling how everythingis going to be done.
That only just interferes withthings.
You trying to figure out things, trying to manipulate things,
trying to control things.
That sometimes just doesn'twork, especially with the big
things.
Just take away the how and like, let it transpire, and normally
that kind of like helps easeyour mindset as well.
It's super overwhelming.
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It is like to go from living ina granny flat to an apartment
like that I own, like that.
That's a massive shift and thatdoesn't happen overnight.
So just take the next mostintelligent step, take the next
like big step.
At that time that is super keyand it just allowed me to feel
like what I can be in control of.
I'm in control of just goingand getting the pre-approval.
I'm in control of, like, justdownloading this thing or going
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and looking at a place orgetting in the car to go do
something.
Like I can take those smallsteps and it actually makes me
feel like I'm in control alittle bit.
And the last one is just totrust the process and that to
know that the universe isguiding you in your right
direction.
And this is the hardest.
One and again, three gingerbeer in.
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I was not trusting the process.
You know, like I was like fuckthe process, but um, like there
was this deepness in me thatcould.
But sometimes we just have torealize that, yeah, it's, the
life isn't trying to conspireagainst us and when we do have
setbacks, when we do have thingsthat are actually there like
for a reason and I'm sure youcan look back in your life and
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see the evidence of thisactually like happening but,
yeah, so I hope that maybe, ifyou're manifesting something,
maybe you can just kind of takethose three tips and hopefully
they'll help you.
And if you want something moretangible, again, that workbook
is there for you.
Yeah, I'm so excited for peopleto start manifesting big and
beautiful things from doingthose steps.
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And it's again, it's completelylike self-guided.
You don't have to do things ata certain time, and I give tips
on how to be accountable throughthe whole process, because you
don't want to just buy it andlike just let it like sit in
your inbox for ages, um, but yes, let me know if you have any
questions about that.
Yeah, I hope you enjoyed thisepisode.
I am back making episodes andagain, thank you so much for
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joining me on this journey and Ihope you have a beautiful,
sparkly day.
Hello and welcome to season 4 of the Soul Star
channel.
It's Tiffany here, your sparklysoul sister, and this podcast
is all about giving youpractical and magical tools to
manifest and live your bestfrickin life.
It's time to gain more energy,more confidence and have
strategies to flow throughlife's ups and downs, because we
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all know that it's not allrainbows and unicorns.
Let's unlock your own power toshow up with unwavering
authenticity, radiant magnetismand a little bit of magic.
Thank you for pushing play.
Let's go.
Hello, I am back.
I have definitely taken alittle break, but I hope that
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this episode will shine a littlelight on why.
But I am so excited to be backand while I was taking my break,
I am so happy to say that Ireached 5,000 downloads and for
this very small, non-advertisedpodcast, I am so happy that you
have decided to push play andyou come along this crazy little
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journey of me manifestingthings in my life.
So thank you so much forlistening.
And what?
Yeah, it was such a beautifulthing to open up my podcast
hosting website and see that theother day it was just so, so
beautiful.
But a lot of things havechanged in the last couple
months since I posted I think itwas August 4th but, to be
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honest, the last year of my lifeoh, getting a little teary has
been so transformative.
I just think back of Novemberlast year it's October November.
Last year I was like so deeplyunhappy in so many different
areas of my life in myrelationship, in my career, and
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I had just really lost myfricking sparkle and I had just
taken so many steps and havedone the work to move through it
and I feel so much better rightnow, like in the last 12 months
.
I have left my government jobof 15 years and got my dream job
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at like a charity, like I stillwas a high school teacher, but
it's just so much more rewardingand I finally what I've
manifested is like working lessand earning more.
Thank you so much.
So I've completely changed myjobs.
I've lost about 12 kilos andfeeling so amazing and I shared
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about my fitness journey alittle bit on that last episode.
So if you want to have a lookat that but I'll do a little
update soon because I'm justfeeling so fricking good and
done good and I have manifestedmy beautiful little beach
apartment and this is what thisepisode is going to be all about
, and I have manifested otherthings in this last year, but
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again, who I was and what I wasdoing a year ago is completely
different.
And you know I'm just about toturn 40, in about a week.
Oh my God, big gulp.
It's okay, pull my big girlpanties up, that's fine.
Um, and I just didn't want togo into 40 and like life is over
.
Then I think I'm now like pure,like evidence that you can like
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legit change and do anythingthat you want as long as you
have that kind of belief inyourself.
But this is what I've done,because I've gone through such a
big, transformative year Likeit's look.
I'm coming on here like saying,like all these things that I've
done, it has also been one ofthe hardest fricking years of my
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life.
There have been many days whereI have not even gotten out of
bed.
Many days where I have not evengotten out of bed.
I have cried so much.
I have done so much innerhealing, like it's not even
funny.
I have just committed, though,of me going into this cocoon,
going into all this self-care,doing the work, and I feel like
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it's really starting to pay off.
So, even though all thesethings that I manifested like
like you'd be like, wow, yeah,10, 12 kilos and like a new job.
But it was really hard work aswell as in like like there were
just some days that were hard.
It wasn't all rainbows andunicorns and I really felt super
stuck.
Uh, this time last year and attimes throughout this this year
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as well, and what I've done,cause I just went through like
my process on how I got unstuckbecause it was really getting to
me and I was like, am I evergoing to feel good again?
Am I ever going to feel like mytruest self again?
Am I ever going to feel sparklyagain?
And I went through this reallydark night of the soul, I guess
you can call it, and I sat downand I did all these like
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journaling activities.
I kind of allocated like I'mnot even joking like four to
five hours and I went throughlike all these steps and I did
all of these steps.
I completed them all Like it'saffirmations, a whole bunch of
like journaling prompts, allthese things, meditation.
And I completed those steps onSaturday, the Sunday after, like
one day, after 24 hours after Idid this like deep, freaking
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healing steps.
That's when that job popped upas like an advertisement so I
could apply for it and I got.
I had the job interview on theMonday and or on the Tuesday and
then I got it on the Friday.
So I really do think that thesesteps help me feel unstuck.
But I have put them and likepackaged them into this little
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workbook and I called it fromstuck to sparkling, cause that's
legit how I felt before I didthese steps and then I actually
feel so fricking sparkling rightnow.
It's not even funny.
So one night I just did allthese, all these things and I
wrote it all down and I was likeanother woman needs to do this.
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Another woman is sitting in herbed crying her eyes out, either
heartbroken or stuck or feelinglike shit, and she needs this.
So I packed it all up, put anebook called From Stuck to
Sparkling and it's available now.
I'll put the link in the shownotes, but I am so freaking
proud of it.
It is such a beautiful piece ofwork.
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Now I did it all in one nightbecause I'm crazy and I really
needed to take some action.
But you don't have to do it allin one night.
You could do it over, like it'sseven steps, so you could do
like one step a day or one stepa week or one step every couple
days, or you can be like me andjust do it all in one afternoon
or something like that.
It's really up to you.
It's like a self-paced workbookwith heaps of journaling
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prompts, heaps of likeactivities.
There's a visualizationmeditation that comes with it,
like it's really freakingcomprehensive.
My only thing is like if youdon't even know what an
affirmation is or you don't evenknow what manifesting is, I
wouldn't get it.
It's not for like an absolutebeginner, but if you have kind
of dabbled in a couple of things, like you know you've done a
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couple of workshops or you'veyou've done a couple of
meditations, or if you alreadyknow all this stuff but you're
like I just need to up-level andtake it to like the next thing.
This is for you, because it wasabsolutely transformed my life
and, to be honest, out of the 12kilos that I lost, most of it
happened after I did this.
The job happened, and now whatI'm talking about in my episode
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here is about the apartment.
Again, if you're interested inthe little ebook, the link is in
my bio Let me talk to you abouthow I manifested my awesome
little beach apartment in theGold Coast, and even me saying
that is like it still doesn'tsound real to me.
Cause let me just back up just alittle bit I never, ever, ever,
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thought that I would own my ownplace.
I thought that one day that Iwould be like a homeowner, but
maybe it's like um through, likea partner, or like we merged,
like something, um, like I kindof knew, cause it's like
something that you kind of do inyour life is like you get a
place.
But I never thought that Iwould actually like have my own
place and, to be honest, I'vedone this like all by myself.
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I don't have a partner, I don'thave parents that have given me
money, I don't have aninheritance, I don't have, like,
yeah, any any of that.
So all of this has come from myown, my own like life, and it
makes me feel really, reallyproud and like brave and
courageous in order to do this.
And again, like I never thoughtthat I courageous in order to do
this, and again, like I neverthought that I would be able to
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own my own place, it just wasn'tsomething that I I don't know
like finances and everything.
They've always kind of been astruggle for me, like most of my
life.
So I've done a lot of money,mindset work in the last couple
of years, but, you know, andI've manifested great monetary
things, but an apartment is likewhoa, that is so crazy.
And I also had this belief thata mortgage meant that I won't
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be able to have any fun.
And I still kind of think that.
Like, I still kind of have thatbelief, but I'm just trying to
like work through it instead ofallowing it to take over my life
.
Anywho, and I also, I don't knowlike maybe the beginning of the
year I had this like dream.
It can't not a dream, but likemaybe the beginning of the year
I had this like dream.
It kind of not a dream, butlike when I was doing a
meditation, I kind of visualizedthis thing out of nowhere, that
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I would get the keys to my newplace on my birthday, which is
November 4th, and I was like, ohmy God, that is too soon, I
don't know what I'm going to bedoing.
Like that is not going tohappen and I will be getting the
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keys on November 8th.
Uh, yay, okay, right now I'mjust living in a granny flat at
the back of someone's houseright now in Broad Beach,
because when I um left mypartner at the beginning of the
year, I was living in this houseand obviously had to find
another place.
So I am yeah, it was um Iabsolutely like I manifested
this place.
There's another episode aboutthat if you want to go and have
a listen to it.
But I obviously had this kind ofdrive to find a place this year
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, though Like I didn't reallywant to rent again because like
it's so hard to get a rental,and I was like, okay, now I'm
like almost 40.
I kind of need to get my lifetogether and I can't live in
someone's granny flat until I'mlike 60 years old.
So I kind of put things inmotion.
So just I think it was in likeFebruary when I like moved into
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this granny flat.
I was like so grateful for it.
But I was like how the fuck am Igoing to get a place?
How am I going to manifest anapartment that I'm going to pay
for?
Like I haven't even, like Idon't even know if I can afford
it.
I don't have, I have zerosavings.
Like how am I going to get this?
And then I had this huge likeepiphany of like three kind of
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things, and these three things,um, what I'm going to talk about
today.
Hopefully you can use them inyour life as well.
But these three things are thetheme through my whole process
in manifesting this apartment,and the first one is take away
the how, and I'll explain allthese more in a second.
But take away the how, take onestep at a time and just trust
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the process.
So I didn't know how I wasgoing to do this.
Like it seemed like it wasgoing to take a miracle, like a
Christmas miracle, for me to beable to get this apartment, and
I was like one day I was likeTiffany, just take, take that
away.
Take away the how.
It doesn't really matter how Iget it, it's more about like
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just sending, setting thatintention and just taking one
step at a time, because I wouldthink, okay, well, then I could
get another job and I could likesave up money this way.
And I was like trying to thinkof all these things and it was
like so overwhelming that I waslike I'm just not going to worry
about the how it will happen.
Once I did that, I felt a lotbetter and a lot more calm, and
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then I went on to my next kindof step is like just taking one
step at a time.
I was like, what's the nextthing?
The next thing is not me justgoing to go look at places.
That's insane.
The next thing for me was tofind a broker, and this is like
finance Again, to me.
It's not my thing.
I don't really like maths, Idon't like talking about money
like to people and all that kindof stuff.
So the next thing I need to dois find a broker.
But you go online and everyonelooks super fake and you hear
all these stories of these likedouchebag brokers and they're
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just out you for your money andI was like, ok, again, I don't
know how, but I'm going tomanifest a broker.
I'm out with breakfast with myfriend and one of her friends
just pops by and she says likehey, how are you going?
And she is a broker and she'ssuper nice.
She's kind of like my age andshe just was so caring and nice
that I actually contacted her acouple weeks later and asked if,
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if we could have like a chatand she was like, absolutely,
and I just love that likeorganic, like way that I found
her.
Like it felt deeply, like heldand such a beautiful thing, and
I was like, okay, thank you, Ibeautiful thing.
And I was like, okay, thank you.
I didn't know how I was goingto do it.
If I, if I tried to control thehow there and I looked up
online and all that kind ofstuff I probably would have
found someone.
But I felt I feel better doingthe how, just like naturally
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going with it and trusting theprocess.
Okay, so I had a broker, we hada couple of conversations and
she's like you have to kind ofget your ducks in order, yeah,
just things that I needed to do.
Like she gave me a little listof things and so I took a couple
months and I just startedtaking off those things, just
taking one step at a time andjust kind of going with it.
But one of those things isgetting like a deposit and at
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that time I had like no money,yeah, right, but nothing like
enough for a deposit and and I'msure that you know this is very
hard to save for a deposit,especially when you want to live
your best life and go to Sydneyand do all these like fun
things as well.
So, again, trusting the processand I was talking to a friend
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and he was like, when you workfor the government, you make
voluntary or personalcontributions to your super.
So the government pays and thenyou pay into your super.
And I was like, oh, I don'tthink I've been doing that.
And I looked it up and I had.
For the last 14 years I had beenmaking these voluntary payments
into my super.
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I had no idea.
And if you're a first homebuyer, you can use that money
like your voluntary thing, tolike take it out and use it for
a deposit.
Oh my God, it's actuallyworking out.
So I had $31,000 while by doingthis and now, like in hindsight
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, my deposit was exactly $31,000.
Isn't that crazy?
Like I was happy to pay acouple extra grand out of my
savings or whatever, but likeit's just so crazy how it all
works out.
So, look, that was a little bitof a Christmas miracle.
But this past, uh, like Tiffany,who obviously ticked a box to
voluntarily put supercontributions in, like thank you
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, that was a little bit of amiracle.
But again, I didn't know how Iwas going to do it, but I just
trusted the process.
So I found out I could do that.
Oh, I don't know, maybe in,let's just say, may, and I
calculated it and they're likeyou can have the $31,000.
And you know what I was likenah, I can't do that.
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And for some reason it feltalmost too good to be true and I
actually talked myself out ofit.
Um, it wasn't only tillrecently, until September, where
I was like, okay, yeah, I'mfinally ready to take that money
out.
And it was a huge thing of me,like, well, I didn't really work
for that.
And my, my friends were like,yes, you did, this has come out
of your paycheck and stuff andinto this account.
So it was actually a really bigthing for me to be able to
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accept that money and when itcame in it just felt so unreal.
But there was the next step Ihad to worry about was getting
my deposit, and I did that.
Then I had to go through thepre-approval process, which,
again, I don't like filling outforms, I don't like going to get
things like signed by a GP, butI just like what's my next step
?
My next step is just go to thelibrary, scan this document, go
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get it signed, go bring it backand, like you know, I just took
one step at a time because itdid feel very overwhelming to me
and, yeah, there were timeswhere I just wanted to kind of
give up.
So I got pre-approval and thenI was like, okay, well, now I'm
going to start looking forplaces now again, this took over
like like eight months itwasn't just like me and this one
weekend like that's insanity Imade a list of what I was going
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to look for and I wrote downlike a one or two bedroom
apartment, like at least a 15minute walk from the beach, with
a car park, a pool, oh, I can'tremember all the other things
that I wrote down, but I justwrote down everything that was
really important to me and atthe bottom I said this or
something better, to just makesure in case I wasn't thinking
of something.
Uh, I only actually looked attwo places in all of this search
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and one of the places I went on, uh, the Friday and it was in
my price range and it was suchgarbage and I almost started to
get really emotional, cause Iwas like this is what I can
afford and if this is what theplace that I could get, like I'm
just really scared.
Like the building was reallydodgy and like like there was
dogs and stuff, like it was justreally, really scary.
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So I was like, okay, the nextplace was a Saturday morning and
it was like torrential rain andI went to it.
I walked in with my friendbecause, again, I have no idea
what I'm doing.
So again, one of the next stepswas like who's going to come
with me to this open house?
And I walked in.
I was like, oh my God, this isit.
And I just got so excited aboutit.
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It's in Bud's Beach Beach,which is like it's like a one
minute walk from the beach, likelegit, out my door, down the
street, cross the little crossthing, and then I get there and
it was like it's such a like aopen, just a beach vibe, like
it's so nice and it's likemostly remodeled, so it's like a
brand new kitchen, brand newbathroom, which is I need,
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because I'm not like a renovator, I'm not to like paint, walls
and stuff.
I just want to move in.
Then I made an offer and heaccepted it right away, without
any like back and forth, likethat was super easy.
And also like one of the thingswas like furniture.
I don't own any furniture, likeI have a chair and some like
Ikea bookshelves, like that's it, so bookshelves, like that's it
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.
So I was like, oh, I have toget all new furniture a washing
machine, a fridge, a TV, likeall these things.
I don't have any of it.
Like that really does add up.
And the guy, the seller, justmessages the real estate and
says, does she want all myfurniture as well, and maybe
give me like a couple hundredbucks.
And I was like, oh my gosh,it's so crazy.
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Again I didn't know how I wasgoing to get furniture.
And I was like, oh my god, it'sso crazy.
Again I didn't know how I wasgonna get furniture.
I was like just gonna go to JBHi-Fi or whatever or go on
marketplace.
But then when I just relaxedinto like I don't know how I'm
gonna do this, but it's gonnawork out, like it it really just
did.
And then you know when they'relike here you can have like the
pre-approval was like you canhave a mortgage for this amount.
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Then I started doing mycalculations of like how much I
earn and all this stuff and howmuch it would be with the body
corporate and the rates and thewater and all that stuff, and I
started to feel reallyoverwhelmed because I was like,
can I afford this and still havefun?
Again?
That's one of the stories thatI have about you know these like
having a mortgage and I wasjust really worried that I
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wouldn't be able to get stillget massages and get my nails
done and all that kind of stuff.
And I said I was like I don'tknow how I'm going to do this,
but I need about $400 more perpaycheck just to have that fun.
And I shit you not like thatweek because I work for a
charity, you can salarysacrifice quite a bit of things
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and then it brings down yourtaxable income and then you take
home more in your net.
I know it doesn't.
If that doesn't make sense toyou, don't worry, it didn't make
sense to me.
But basically I got $374 moreper paycheck by doing that and I
was like, oh my God, like Ijust felt so deeply held in that
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moment, cause it's.
I just was very specific.
I just asked the universe and Iwas like I don't know how we're
going to do it, but if youcould do that, that would be
great.
I thought I would just have todo some more work for, like my
side hustle, which I do like um,marketing stuff for like a
dance studio, but it was so mucheasier to do it this way.
So it's like funny how you,when you stop controlling things
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, how everything does kind ofwork out for you.
But let me tell you about thefinance, because everything else
up to now seemed to go verysmoothly, very demure, very
mindful, but the finance part ofit was absolutely soul crushing
to me.
So the bank that I gotpre-approval from basically
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ghosted me.
I don't know how else toexplain it.
They're definitely going to geta review after all of this is
done and I had to go to adifferent bank.
But then I had to extend myfinance and then in doing so
they put it back up on themarket just in case, and then
the real estate startedharassing me.
Then it just took the bank forages, mostly because I'm a first
home buyer.
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So that was a totally separateapplication to get that grant
and it was just totally threeand a half weeks of utter
exhaustion for myself and I,honestly, there was one day, on
the Thursday.
I found it on the Friday that Igot it On the Thursday.
It really freaking, broke mecompletely, like I didn't.
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Oh, it was just so sad becauseall these other things had just
worked out so well and I waslike I don't care if it's not
the place for me, but not havinga decision, like they just
wouldn't tell me either way, andit was just really really
daunting my soul.
And there was one day at schoolin the morning they asked for
one more thing and I was likeare you kidding me?
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Like you know another documentto send through, and I was
pretty good during the day withthe kids.
But then I just got to the endof the day and I just cried all
the way home, got some gingerbeer which, if you know me, I
haven't really been drinkinglately got some ginger beer,
drank three ginger beer andwatched love is blind and
basically cried all night andwas like why is this so hard?
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Like what is the life lesson?
And the the days before this,because this went on for about
four weeks, this finance dilemmaand I was like what is the
lesson in this?
Like, and I would journal ormeditate or like go for a walk,
but I just got to the pointwhere, like nothing was like
working, so I just got drunk andlove is blind, and the next day
I got the approval.
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So I'm not saying just to getdrunk and watch trash TV and
that's how you're going to reachyour goals, but sometimes it's
just like kind of releasing andnot trying to like sometimes you
don't have to like meditate,sometimes you just got to like
take care of your own soul inorder for it to work.
So I finally got my financeapproved.
I get the keys on November 8thand I am so excited with the
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mortgage now that I can likeafford and still have fun in
this, the cutest little beachapartment, and especially when I
like move on and, you know,meet the love of my life and he
already has a place.
I can use this as an investmentbecause it's in such it's on
the tram line, it's right on thebeach, like all of these things
.
And I'm really deeply so proudof myself Again.
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When I compare myself to thistime last year, I was so broken
and sad and really hopeless Iguess would be another good word
to explain it and I'm just sohappy that like doing the work
and like going through thisprocess really allowed things to
come true.
And this is this I shareexactly what I did in the last
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couple of months in this ebookor this like workbook Again, you
can look in the show notes ofthe steps that I went through,
the journaling activities, theaffirmations that I've given
myself and everything to reallymake this like really huge
changes.
And it's happened in so manyareas of my life.
It just really really freakingamazing and I really do believe
that people can do it forthemselves as well.
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Like there was a lot of hardlessons.
I really did need to let go ofthat relationship in order for
all of these beautiful things tocome in.
And was that really hard?
Like absolutely.
It was like, yeah, one of thehardest things I've ever had to
do in my life.
But I look back at this yearand, oh, it's just been so
transformative and, yeah, again,really proud of myself.
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So I'll just kind of summarizeagain the steps that I did to
manifest something huge Likethis isn't just me manifesting a
hundred bucks so I can go get apedicure.
This is like me manifesting afreaking apartment, a house, a
mortgage, like everything.
So the first one was just takeaway the how.
Take away the.
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You controlling how everythingis going to be done.
That only just interferes withthings.
You trying to figure out things, trying to manipulate things,
trying to control things.
That sometimes just doesn'twork, especially with the big
things.
Just take away the how and like, let it transpire, and normally
that kind of like helps easeyour mindset as well.
It's super overwhelming.
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It is like to go from living ina granny flat to an apartment
like that I own, like that.
That's a massive shift and thatdoesn't happen overnight.
So just take the next mostintelligent step, take the next
like big step.
At that time that is super keyand it just allowed me to feel
like what I can be in control of.
I'm in control of just goingand getting the pre-approval.
I'm in control of, like, justdownloading this thing or going
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and looking at a place orgetting in the car to go do
something.
Like I can take those smallsteps and it actually makes me
feel like I'm in control alittle bit.
And the last one is just totrust the process and that to
know that the universe isguiding you in your right
direction.
And this is the hardest.
One and again, three gingerbeer in.
(25:39):
I was not trusting the process.
You know, like I was like fuckthe process, but um, like there
was this deepness in me thatcould.
But sometimes we just have torealize that, yeah, it's, the
life isn't trying to conspireagainst us and when we do have
setbacks, when we do have thingsthat are actually there like
for a reason and I'm sure youcan look back in your life and
(26:01):
see the evidence of thisactually like happening but,
yeah, so I hope that maybe, ifyou're manifesting something,
maybe you can just kind of takethose three tips and hopefully
they'll help you.
And if you want something moretangible, again, that workbook
is there for you.
Yeah, I'm so excited for peopleto start manifesting big and
beautiful things from doingthose steps.
(26:22):
And it's again, it's completelylike self-guided.
You don't have to do things ata certain time, and I give tips
on how to be accountable throughthe whole process, because you
don't want to just buy it andlike just let it like sit in
your inbox for ages, um, but yes, let me know if you have any
questions about that.
Yeah, I hope you enjoyed thisepisode.
I am back making episodes andagain, thank you so much for
(26:45):
joining me on this journey and Ihope you have a beautiful,
sparkly day.
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