25- ISSA CELEBRATE...BUT MEN IS THIS HOW YALL REALLY FEEL?...

WHEW CHILE...MR. WILSON TOLD US HOW HE REALLY FEELS! ONE OF THE BEST EPISODES....& DEFLIE IN MY TOP 5! COME CELEBRATE WITH US OUR 40TH EPISODE & THESE JEWELS MR. WILSON LEAVES US WITH! -MRS. WILSON

Episode Transcript

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The you supersat Oh really, Heyworld, Welcome back to the Spelled podcast.
Your favorite podcast feature, your favoritepodcast host, me, your girl,
Missus Wilson, Bell, b Onbe On Bond PIOM Welcome spillers to
episode twenty five. Superuper excited aboutthis EPISO. So every episode, as

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I mentioned, I'm super duper excitedabout, but I'm super duper excited about
this one, and I'll tell youwhy shortly before we go any further.
We have our residential hosts in theboots in Pim Pim, the Man,
the myth, the legend, myhusband, my man, I mean,

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my mean. Mister Wilson is inthe building. Hey, mister Wilson,
how are you? You sound good? But you you what's going on?
Thank you. That's much better.I've been fussing at him about speaking a
little louder. He speaks in themicrophone, but the volume does not project.
That's because he has like a softvoice and I really need him to
use a neighborhood voice. During thepodcast report recording, you went back to

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Okay, then whatever, Hey,mister Wilson, thank you for joining us.
Our residential host is in the building, so I'm super excited about that.
I'm super super excited about that becausey'all know, spill Is, this
is my most one of This ismy first most favorite month of the year,

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and that is Black History, mybaby, Happy Black History Month,
Spillers Black. Thank God I'm black. Hey, I won't take it back.
Hey, I'm proud to be black? Ey black fig Yeah around black,

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missus Wilson, are you proud tobe black? I can't hear you.
And Okay, mister Wilson's trying tobe funny anyway, But I am
super exciting because this is Black HistoryMonth. So Happy Black History Month.
This is the first episode for BlackHistory Month Spellers, and the Spellers guess

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what, even though this is episodeI'm sorry, see, this is our
fortieth episode being recorded Peon Pillow.This was you're supposed to add the peals
with me anyway. This is thefortieth episode from the spell poecast. Oh.

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So I'm super duper excited about that, y'all. So I celebrate everything.
Any and everybody that knows me knowsthat I'm gonna celebrate everything. My
husband is the first prime witness andhe can tell you, baby, I'm
gonna celebrate of hair growing. I'mjust celebrating. I love. I'm just

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a celebratorial person. Okay, solisten being a celebratory person. This is
my fortieth year year forty for MissusWilson. I have a few months ago,
but I've decided that I'm celebrating everythingforty. So everything forty I'm celebrating
now. Listen. I like tocelebrate things, but I also like for

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there to be meanings behind the celebrations. So with me liking the meanings behind
celebrations, I like to choose meaningsthat are really really dear to my heart.
Right, So we're gonna toast,But before we do our official toast,
I'm going to talk about the numberforty and choose a couple of forty

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things that I love and that Ilike. Right, So, mister Wis,
why are you looking at me likethat? Listen? Listen. Anyway,
So the first thing I did spellis was I did a biblical research
on the number forty. Right,So I got a little Bible stuff behind
it, and I'm just gonna go. I chose the Book of Songs,

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which is my most favorite Bible book. And it's my most favorite Bible book
because I feel like I relate alot to David. You know, David
was one of the people that hewas up and down in his faith,
not in his faith literally, butjust up and down in his faith walk.
Maybe I should say that, becauseone minute he'll be like, who,
I know where my help comes from? And the next minute he'll be

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like, oh, Lord, well, what we got going on? What
are you doing? That? Gotthe all is going on? And I
relate today but a lot because I'mlike that, like I know where my
health comes from, and I havethis massive amount of faith, But I
do have times I'll be like,Okay, now what we're doing Jesus,
Like, what got going on?Anyway? So I chose my favorite book,
Psalms and the fortieth chapter, y'all, and guess what the first verse

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is the bomb I waited patiently forthe Lord, and he inclined unto me
and heard my cry when I wasreminded that at verse. Researching the number
forty biblically and then choosing my favoritebooks, of course, in my favorite
a chapter from my favorite book,it took me out, y'all, because

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I feel like, right now Iam in this crying and praying and waiting
season of my life. For whateverGod has going on, whatever it is
that he's doing in my life.I'm not complaining about it. I just
know it's a season and in thatseason, I need these type of verses.
I need to be reminded that,Yeah, you need to wait on

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God, and why you waiting?You need to continue to praise Him,
call him. And every time youpraise Him and column he hears you and
he gets closer to you. Sothat is a witness to me because I
know he's hearing me, and Iknow he's getting closer to me, right,
So I love that. And thenI'm also grateful because Biblically, the
number represents a period of testing,trials, and probation, but also new

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life, new growth, change,transformation, a change from one great task
to another great task. And I'mhere for it. Being my fortieth year,
i feel like I'm going through alot of these transformations and transitions right
now. But to know that thereis a light at the end of the
tunnel, I'm here for it,right. And then the last one was

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I was reminded that forty years toGod is only one hour. So while
i feel like I'm here for solong or i've been here for so long,
or I'm aging, and all ofthat stuff like this, the way
that God loves me and he's readyto receive me in his kingdom. It's
only one hour to him. Forus, it's a lot, but it's

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only one hour to him. SoI'm grateful for all of that. The
fortieth, the forty numbers, thefortieth number of songs in the forty years,
and the one hour for the Lord. But I asked, Lord,
just give me a couple of morehours, a couple of more hours.
So anyway, we are going todo a toast. Spillers, I have

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some champagne in the building. Bimbim bim bem bim, so stop.
Go ahead and get your water,get your tea, your coffee, your
pop, your juice, champagne,wine, cocktail, whatever liquid you have,
so that you can propose or enjoythis toast with us. Mister Wilson

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was sound okay, Well, soI'm gonna let you do the owners.
Honey. I did bring a towel, you know, no, it's not.
You just gotta pop it, baby, you just gotta pop it.
So I'm gonna let mister Wilson dothe owners. I have a towel,
because when I pop champagne, y'all, I normally spill it. This time,
I took it out of the frigeratorrefrigerator a little while sooner so that

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the bubbles can settle and we won'thave a lot of champagne sugs everywhere in
the podcast room, so spillers.I hope y'all get y'all stuff, Reddy.
I hope y'all got y'all stuff,Freddy. Because we have our champagne,
we have our glasses. We're gonnapole up, not pour up,
but we're gonna pull up, baby, and we're gonna do a toast.

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Mister Willson, Oh, let metake the mic off so we can hear
them. I'm about you ready,honey. Okay, here we go beyond
because I normally like shake it.I just do something extra tilted to the

(09:22):
side. When you pour it,you know what to do, Okay.
I'm just I'm sorry, honey.You ain't a waiter, but you're not
a poor to champagne. Okay,spellit. He is pouring up the champagne.
I'm super excited. I feel superduper blessed. Yeah, because it's
like my most to kind of likeit's about Champagne by it stelf. We
feel like the Champagne by itself,so we kind of mixed it all right,

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thank you sir. And it's socute look at it. It's like
an umbrae. So we are gettingready to toast spillers. I hope you
all have your toast liquid ready.Doesn't matter what it is, you can
get the lid off because I'm apoor a little bit more doing the episode.

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We're not Yeah, we're not.Dan ain't paying us, so we're
not around. So, mister Wilson, I want to lead a toast.
I'm going to toast to enduring,enjoying and celebrating my fortieth year. So
I have a few more months ago, but this is year forty for me.
The first celebration is this fortieth episodeof the Spiell podcast PM PM PO.

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I am praying and trusting God forforty times forty times, forty times
forty more encouraging, motivating, hilarious, sincere, prosperous and fun episodes on
the spill Podcast. Mister Wilson,would you like to second that motion or
you want to add something to it? I have a question, lord,

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a questions. Yes, This isthe fortieth for both season seasons one and
season two. This is the twentyfifth episode for season too, but the
fortieth total episode. And you've beenon about fifteen giving you the wine toast
anything else? Okay, we're toasting, spillers, clinkling toooed EPI forty episodes.

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You're trying to come up the microphonelike you whisper whatever, So tell
us thank you, thank you spellersfor toasting and celebrating that with us.
Now, before we go any further, spellers, you know what time it
is. It is our mental checkin time. This is the time of
the episode where we are intentional aboutdoing our self mental check in. So

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stop pause for the cause. Checkin with your sales, spillers, to
see how you are feeling mentally,emotionally, physically, all of the leads.
Okay, before where we go anyfurther, y'all know how we do.
We start within the podcast room.So, mister Wilson, how are

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you doing? I am well,Yes, I'm blessed. I'm good.
Mentally physically a couple of your workin progress, but mentally physically, spiritually,

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I'm doing good. Like I wokeup this morning, I was feeling
good. I started to send youa loan take I said, no,
go there, We'll be tixing allday, spelling that all emotions. Yeah,
I started to send you a longwhile. Yeah, I'm blessed good
and strong. Thank God for that, Spillerers. And I'm glad you're well,

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mister Wilson. And yeah, thankgod, I'm glad you aught it.
Yepru Been, That's why you probablysaid. Anyway, my struggle has
been been real. Like I saidearlier, I feel like God has me
in this season where I feel likeHe is teaching me to totally depend on

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Him in all things. And thestruggle has been real emotionally to the point
to where I feel like I've kindof been sleep tympervised, like I haven't
been able to get the amount ofsleep that I have. But I did
listen. He just front y'all,he knows this out of there, and
I wake up and I was justpraying, like, oh, I'd say

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something like oh, I wish Iwould sleep like him. But anyway,
it's getting better. I didn't geta full nice rest last night, thank
God, and I'm looking forward toanother full nice rest going forward. But
I just know this is it's I'mjust going through something, and in this
season, I have to really trustand depend on God, y'all. And
when I say, just trying toget out of my own own head has

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been a struggle, trying to meetpeople where they are and accept people for
who they are. I think it'sjust disappointing when people really show you who
they are, certain people, youknow what I'm saying. And the Lord
has just really been showing me andexposing. He just been doing stuff and
I'm like, really, Lord,and you really want me to deal with
that, to work with that.And I know it's because of the dimension

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that he the trajectory. I guessI could say that he's taking me in
it and he's preparing me for whateverhe's preparing me for. So the struggle
has been real, INSNYA has beenreal. But I rebet that in the
name of Jesus, I'm going tobe okay. I'm just sitting in these
emotions and doing what I gotta do, getting over here and telling you.

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I always tell him how I relate. I'm glad you get on hand to
do that. You don't get ourhand and make it seem like you just
okay. Oh yeah, I wouldnever do that. That was that was
important for me when I first startedthis podcast two years ago. It was
important for me to do this.And it's crazy because before my girl Mia

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Cheryl Williams from Destiny's Child came outwith her podcast The Mental check In,
I was already doing a mental checkin spot on my podcast and her podcast
came out like a year after mine. But that was important to me because
I know how important mental health isas a person that is a mental health

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advocate who has a therapist, whocan't wait to go sit in a chair
next week, who you know,look forward to those therapeutic clubs. Yes,
he definitely has one, But thatwas important to me, and I
would never get on and just actlike things are you know, happy?
Go look you when I know mystruggle is real and then I feel like

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my struggle and my testimony could bea blessing for somebody else to know that
it's okay if you're in that seasonor you're going through that sitting those emotions,
deal with those emotions, Prayer aboutit, get therapy, get the
help necessary if you need it,and trust God to bring you out of
it, because this too shall pass, isn't it. And husbands, if

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you got a wife like that,don't try to change. Don't try to
change. Just you got to bestrong though, but don't try to change.
If you try to change, it'sgonna make it worse. We just
gotta let the Lord take him towhatever she's going through it. Don't try
to change. You. Just sitback and chill. Whatever vices you got,

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as long as those vices don't affectyour house, as long as don't
infect your household, whatever advices yougot, you gonna chill. I'm about
to get your your mind right tonext and then pray with your little music
that you have. Yeah, yeah, he's talking about my meditation. But
listen, I normally do a blackmeditation. But baby, I've been putting
on Andre through thousand new Blue MoanBaby, and that's been give That's what

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you was listening to the other night. Well, I was listening to that's
what you heard the other night.But yeah, that's true. I appreciate
that, mister Wilson. And thenpray to you know what I'm saying because
my husband does pray for me andhe prays with me. And I try
to tell you that as often aspossible. But when you pray, like

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when you lead our prayer, yousaid, come on, baby, let's
pray that. Like really, ifeel like it give me superwoman powers.
And I've told I've mentioned it onlike I made a Facebook post about it
a little while back. I waslike, my husband got up and led
us in prayer for the day,like I just feel like superwoman, like
I really do so, and I'msure a lot of wives and you know
people would want that. So Iappreciate you for that, mister Wilson Feelers.

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Mental health is wealth. If youare not okay, say something so
that we can do something. Okay, all right? And then I did
want to go ahead and add onit is women's heart health a month.
February second is a national where redDay. Of course we're past that day,
but I'm sure a lot of myskillers have done. So I wore

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my red, I posted it onFacebook and to everywhere, and then,
of course, my sorority, wedo our own thing with a Heart Health
month. Heart disease is the numberone killer in women. It even beats
cancer, ladies. So let's beintentional about taking care of ourselves. Thirty

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consistent minutes of physical exercise four tofive times a week, eating a good
diet, drinking water, and nowmy new focus resting getting the proper amount
of sleep. Missus Wilson, wasyou got to say? You said how
much time? Thirty consistent minutes,four to five times a week. But

(18:45):
if you work out forty five minutes, then you can do that three times
a week. But if not,at least thirty minutes. I heard the
best exercise it's six. Okay.Do you feel like you're get to work
out when you're having said? Well, y'all, oh yeah, I mean
I don't know about the woman,but the man. So you don't feel
like do your heart be found hard? Yes? Doing that when I be

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doing stuff? Do it like?Do you think my heart is beating fast?
Man? I guess yeah, whenyou got the work, I guess
were doing the work at the time. Okay, So yeah, yeah,
that's what I'm saying. That's agood exercide though, so for both sides.
Okay, so for for Mary,we we condone. We don't condone
any sexual relations outside of marriage.We're not judging because we've been there,

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done that, you know what I'msaying. But if you're married Hey,
you feel like you don't really wantto go walking or do no aerobics or
no cardio, don't get on topof that thing, a thing on top
of that thing and no jomb Yeah, get your thirty minutes of your thirty
minutes six and get your exercise zone. Lord, my mama listens to this

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episode. She's shaking her head.Lord, she like the cheering her mind
am very much. So. Whowants to hear what the food spirits?
Wants to hear that about their children? Us cut sometime when it come out,
it does slip. Lord, forgiveus hippos, but they understand.

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Mister Wilson, did you want toadd anything? Okay, so we are

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moving right along. We are goingto now get into our spill tree in
time. Y'all know the Spiel Treeand timespillers. We discuss everything black.
Hey, thank God, I'm black. I'm not gonna go into it long
enough because y'all know this one songshout out to miss us Shirlen aka the
Christie Show from Little Rock, Arkansas. But I think she lives in like

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Georgia right now and the Ruby livesin Texas. Anyway, that's my theme
song forever ever. But I'm reallyputting emphasis on it for Black History Month.
So I have two spill trend topics. The first one we're gonna get
into real quick. We're gonna talkabout this travel band people about Jamaica and

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just traveling period. So it's myyear forty, my fortieth birthday, family
and friends and I are celebrating mein Jamaica, my most favorite island ever.
I've been to Mexico. I hadn'tbeen to Africa, that's a goal
of mine. But I absolutely loveJamaica. I've loved that culture forever,

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but my first time visiting in twothousand and nine, I really fell in
love with the culture, with thepeople, just Jamaic, all things Jamaica.
So I've literally been eight times.This year is gonna be my ninth
time, which is my fortieth yearcelebration. And I do want to just
clarify and put emphasis that there arealways travel bands on countries with high crime
rates. Okay, travel bands normallyrate from from one to four, with

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four being the highest. Americaly isa level to travel band. Jamaican and
Mexico are level three, so it'sjust a point difference to me. However,
the countries that are level four weknow to stay completely away from.
Level three is a level where youneed to just be cautious. Just make
sure you're safe, make sure youknow where you're going, make sure you

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know where you're staying. Just becareful. The most important things, feelers,
is to make sure you are registeredwith the Smart Traveler enrollment, and
you also have that country's and theUS embass's phone number in your phone whenever
you're outside of the country. Letpeople know. You don't have to boast
to brag about it, but letpeople know important to you have the embassy's
information just in case you caught up. Caught up a two way, but

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it won't be a love affair tobe a country affair. So just to
make sure you caught up. AndI brought it up because I feel like
sometimes we get so caught up infear, whether it's conscious or subconscious,
that it prevents us from wanting totravel, wanting to live our life.
And I feel like God gave uslike a beautiful world, a beautiful creation

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to where we can do these things. We know that right now we're probably
not gonna go to you know,certain countries. I'm not gonna say any
names, but we know we're notgonna go to certain countries because of the
wars and all of that good stuff. But if it's not like a war,
or it's not at a level four, I would say, as long
as you're safe, as long asyou're making good choices while you're there.

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It's always just safe to travel whereveryou want to go. Mister Wilson,
you want to add anything to that, of course, if there was a
level one, Okay, you're supposedto always be You're supposed to always know
you're surrounding. Now when you goto little places like that, you already
know it's it's they poor. Theylike a third word country. Yeah,

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money when we come. Yeah.But when I feel like when they post
that little alert, all they're tellingus is you can go at your own
risk, but we ain't coming toget you. That's what I'm telling you.
I feel like, if you ain'tno government official, you're just gonna

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be You're gonna be stuck. You'regonna you know what I'm saying. So,
no matter even here you're supposed todo, you're supposed to do the
same thing here you're gonna do inJamaica. You don't go to Jamaica and
just let your guards. Damn.Just guys, it's beautiful, right because
on the other side of the gate, if if you up had and you
look over, you see what's andthat's everywhere, And I totally agree with

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you. If you're not a governmentofficial, they are letting you know,
not that you're on your own.Your rescue is not gonna be as as
serious or as severe as it wouldbe if if you were a governmental government
official. But right now they're noteven approving government officials to go there.
And that's anywhere. It's like thatevery single year. We were just going

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through this with with Mexico, Likeit's like that often. But if it's
not a level four to me personally, if you are researching wherever you're staying,
and you're being cautious about the thingsthat you're doing, the places that
you're going while you're on that visit, I think you should you would be

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okay. But like you said,you just got to keep your guards up,
keep your your eyes open, yourthird eye, your fourth eye.
And then if you go, youknow, when you go places like that,
now, it ain't good for youto explore the town. And it's
just y'a exactly. You need tohave a group and and with with you
some people not being able to uh, not being able to really travel with

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the guns for real, f real, you know, if you stand on
a resort, you know they gota little some prickety precs. You know,
just do what you have to doto protect protect yourself. But like
mister Wilson said, if it's nota group, if it's only two of
y'all, y'all might just want tostay on the resort and enjoy life.
But if you decide that you wantto go one of the town to maybe

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a nice tourist spot where you knowit's going to be secure and you trust
the people that are taking you toand fro, still be careful and may
have your little protect little some something, but you know, just be safe.
The little band I read it.They don't They don't say don't go.
They just saying they advise you andthen they're giving you the steps of

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how to be cautious. Yeah,so it ain't saying don't go. It's
telling it's telling a person that's awarethat's around. It's telling us nothing.
Yeah, but carefree people that justwant to go over there and just let
their hair down. Yeah. Andhoney, look, me and my husband
went last year. He was superduper cautious and he's just like the inny

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and everywhere we go like, yeah, it doesn't matter where we go,
so just be careful, but don'tlet it to tear you from one to
enjoy life and have a break,because those type of vacations are sometimes the
mental break that you need because ifsome just say, oh something bad was
to happen, oh, they're thesame thing can happen here, So it

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don't matter, you know what I'msaying. It's just like my homeboy comedian
pound Cake from Memphis City, Tennesseeshut out to pair Cake Betting posted on
Facebook when the band first came out. He said, Okay, Jamaica,
Yeah, come to Memphis with that. We on exactly what y'all are.
When I say I holler, Iholler because it's certain cities like Jamaica in

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America, you know, and Jamaicaprobably feel the same way about us.
They probably feel like if I goto la if I go to Little Rock
or Memphis right now, their crimerate is high, and it's true,
it is. It's high. Soyou just have to be extremely careful.
So be careful with that. Oursecond and final spil treeans Spillers the sixty

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six Grammy Awards. They came onlast night. Now I want to say,
mister Wilson and I did not watchthe Grammy Awards. I have decided
to boycott the Grammy Awards a fewyears ago. So for my own reasons,
I don't watch the Grammys anymore.I do watch major highlights that I
see on social media, and thenext day I always go to YouTube,

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baby, and I google the goodGrammy moments that I need to see.
So this year for the sixty sixGrammys, I did see fantagious performance.
She did a tribute to the lateTina Turner and it was really really amazing.
I saw that, and then philanthropistsand the voice to me for the
Black culture. Killer Monke from Atlanta, Georgia. He was nominated for three

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Grammys and he swept. He wonall three categories, went to jail five
minutes later. Acting the food.He said, y'all gonna put some respect
on his black bab but killing Mikewon his. And then my girl,
I put that on my own mama, on my hood, I look fly,
I look good. You can't touchthem. Say hey, hey,

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Victoria my name. She won theBest New Artist. So I was super
duper happy to see that, andthen there were a lot of more people
that want I watched one of ourlocal news stations here in our city,
Little Rock, Arkansas. I willsay. I was a lot very disappointed
because they did a highlight of theGrammys and they showed no black folk,
no African American, no nothing.All of the highlights were white folk.

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And it's nothing wrong with who youhighlight, but if you're gonna highlight for
me, just be a little fair, be a little diverse, Sure,
a little diversity. And the newstation that I watched this morning did not.
So maybe we're gonna have to geta new Attenta or something, because
I was real disappointed. That's whatwe're to get. That's where we're about
to get. What the Grammys?What do you mean you thought it was?

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That was the last night And that'swhere I'm going next, Spillers.
It was very monumental to me personally, but everybody know wove I mean to
ask into one of them? Askhove a k A jay z a kah
v Shun. Carter won the DoctorDre's Global Impact Award. His speech was

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super duper amazing. I loved everythingabout his speech. But he he went
in a little bit, you know, he he kind of just put the
Grammys out there, look like,look y'all been playing with us for a
long time. It's time y'all hasput some respect on our name. He
spoke that his wife has the mostGrammys. Ever, however, she has
never won Album of the Year.Just to put it out there, spillers,

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you all know that Taylor Whift haswon Album of the Year a lot.
In fact, she's wanted at leastfour times, I think the last
two or three times in a row, but she's one of the lot.
Then at the Grammy she announced thatshe has a new album coming out in
April, so we know next yearshe's probably gonna win what again, Album
of the Year. Anyway, thisis my sense on the in mister Wilson,

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I want you to let me knowhow you feel. In two thousand
and nine, Taylor Swift won theBest Female Artist award on the MTV Music
Video Awards. Right best Female Artist, Beyonce had the number, She had
all of the metrics and everything towin it, but Taylor won it.
So Kanye West. I don't knowif you remember hearing about this, but

(32:44):
Kanye West interrupted Taylor Swift during herspeech and voiced, I'm sorry, Taylor,
but this award should have gone tobe on sack right and as much
as missus Wilson loves the Carters becauseI do. I'm Team Sean and team
Bonsack. I'm a princess, proudprincess of the behavior. Right when Kanye

(33:07):
West interrupted Taylor, the Carters wereembarrassed. They were embarrassed so that they
kind of spoke out and made surethat they made aware that they was not
aware of Kanye West doing what hedid, and they didn't agree with what
he did. However, fast forwardfourteen years later, Queen be still getting

(33:29):
snubbed from awards. The Carters aretired. They're tired. So jay Z
stated that the Grammys need to getit together, for lack of better words,
because the metrics ain't metricing and themath ain't mathing. He said that
the Grammys have given his wife.He said he didn't want to embarrass a

(33:51):
young lady, but they have givenmy wife. She's won the most awards
ever in Grammy sixty six history,but has never won Our of the Year.
I've never really been a fan ofthe Grammys spillers, because I've heard
a lot of racist things. Goesback to when DJ jay Z, Jeff
and Fresh Prince Will Smith won theirfirst award in eighty nine, They didn't

(34:15):
publicize it, didn't show it nowhere, and they boycotted it. So it's
just been a lot when it comesto culture, and like jac said in
one of his rap albums, ablack culture influenced pop culture. You know
what I'm saying. So what y'allgonna do? We go anyway? I
don't watch it really, I've watchedthe clips of it. But when Ja

(34:35):
jay Z said that, that meantto lie to me. But I felt
like Kanye was telling y'all that fifteenyears ago, and y'all was med that
he's saying. And now y'all seewhat he was saying. Now y'all want
to talk about it. How doyou feel about that, mister Wilson?
Do you feel like, I'm notgonna say they should have jumped on Kanye
West's bandwagon? What I say ispressure buss a pike. They felt like

(35:00):
that then, But I don't know. You know, they say Kanye was
crazy. He just outspoken. Hejust said. See how he said,
and Phil, how you feel?I mean, you can't change him,
can't get mad at him. Butthey heard him. They know the truth,
the truth now, jay Z.But he did it. He did

(35:22):
it, politely in a classy way. Yeah, Kanye, just Kanye s
to micaphon part from side of Chicago. He did like he was from.
Kanye grabbed him. Excuse me,Taylor, he had so he did it
politely, you know, but hedid it politely. Indeed, he did

(35:44):
throw in there when I get nervous, I speak the trick. But just
hearing him talk, I feel wherehe was coming from. So the people
didn't know what's going on. Theythey feel exactly, and that was one
of the reasons why they had stopgoing to the Grammy so much beyond saying
jay Z because of the way thatthe Grammy operates. But there's this it's

(36:07):
a big it's a big thing aroundthe board and the people that are actually
on the board, the people thatcan actually vote for these Albums of the
Year and all of this good stuff. And then there was a controversial topic
on a podcast I was listening toearlier that was asking do the people that
vote actually listen to all of thesealbums? You know what I'm saying,

(36:29):
Because at the end of the day, yeah, you got your numbers,
yeah you got all of this,but you actually have your critics who are
actually listening to these albums and who'sresponding or giving their opinion and thoughts about
these albums, which also matters.So I don't know. I appreciate jay
Z for standing out and finally speakingthat. I feel like again when he

(36:51):
said that today, I just droppedmy head because I'm like, dude,
Kanye West was just saying this fifteenyears ago, you know what I'm saying.
But like you said, he wasdeemed is being crazy when he's really
outspoken. And now jay Z,he's tired, like Pak saying, we
are tired. They tired, andso they had to get it off their

(37:12):
chest someway. But anyway, maybethe next album Queen B does. She
was a't gonna be there, wasthey said, Well, when I seen
the clip, they said it wasa prime surprise, Yeah, for surprise
visitors. Yeah, she she wasnot. There was a lot of saying
that she wasn't going to be there, but of course her husband got the
global impact. That's like one ofthe super big awards for the hip hop

(37:35):
culture, for black culture, fora black music period, so it was
only right for her to be thereto surprise. Party said, though I
just can't remember exactly what it wasbut he was like, keep showing up,
keep showing up, keep some key. He kept saying, keep showing
up. You uh saying they tellyou, they tell you you the greatest

(37:57):
or your genius until you get thename. The end said the greatest.
Okay, Yeah. Did he saysomething like you feel me? He may
have said that, didn't Yeah,the greatest, you feel me? Yeah?
And then it was those too becausehe drank some busse out of the
Grammy too, so they showed aclip for him, one of the duce
in the little cut part of theGrammy and taking a drink from that.

(38:21):
So I felt like that was dope, and I did love that keep showing
up. I was actually exercising todaylistening to that for the third time,
and all I kept hearing was keepshowing up, keep showing up. And
I said, keep showing up,Wilson, keep showing up. Girl,
you can do it. So shoutout to Hole for that amazing speech.
Give Queen be her flowers. I'mgonna say this now, it's a lot

(38:43):
of people don't walk with Queen Bee. I love her. I love everything
about her. I feel like sheis one of the greatest entertainers alive.
I really do, and her workspeaks for that. I wish, however,
the culture that really loves her ifwe just stood in it and supported
her like the Swifties do. MaybeI have six graders, twelve year olds

(39:06):
who've been loving Taylor Swifts since theywere four and five. You know what
I'm saying, Like literally does goesto everything travels. My coworker took her
daughter. They left and went tothe concert she had in Kansas, like
I wish I had. I wishif the Beehive was like that, because
she got the beat, she gotthe culture like we're there. But when
it comes to putting the money outto give her the actual numbers, that's

(39:30):
the only comparison. So shout outto all of the culture. Take it
how you gonna take it at thesixty six Grammys last night. I'm looking
forward to seeing other clips. Andyeah, shout out to killing Mike too.
Killing Mike was so little. He'sdone sent hisself to jail right back

(39:51):
out. He wasn't in their log, mister Wilson, did you want to
add something to that? Spield trimall right, hat we are moving on,
all right, spillers. I hopeyou enjoyed that good little jazz clip

(40:13):
from Philly Moo and Quincy Quo Watson. Shout out to Philly Move. This
is Phillip's fortieth year and he's havinghis fortieth birthday celebration this Friday, February
ninth, so check him out andlittle Rock if you all can, if
you cannot look him up, supportOkay, all right, now this is

(40:36):
our skill topic time. First,it's to celebrate toast. This this my
toast, but me and is thisreally how y'all feel? That is our
topic time? So we are gettinginto our topic time, So spillers.
My husband sends me about twenty videosa day. I guess I'm gonna say

(41:05):
some of them are very thought provoking. Some are dumb as hell, literally
because how you growing and acting likethis? Like grow up? But majority
of them are super hilarious, soI'm like laughing extremely hard. But shout
out to the people who shares funnyvideos like me and my husband dude wherever
it is through his news break app. I get videos from Facebook, TikTok,

(41:30):
Instagram, send them. Shout outto the way girls I reach shah
Day and Wheedney. We send videosall day every day, Baby, we
stay hollering. My cousin Kat,a few of my friends. If you
got friends that send you videos thatyou think funny or they think funny,
that's real friendship. If y'all notsending each other videos, y'all wait,

(41:50):
no, I'm just w Anyway,this particular video he sent me was very
thought provoking and I was like,oh my god, that is that sends
for great dialogue. So I askedme to Wilson after he sent it to
me, can we do a podcaston it? And he was like,
yeah, so from a woman's anda man's perspective podcast. That's that's why

(42:12):
I wanted to do it, right. But anyway, Chad Ocho Senko Johnson,
one of my homeboys. Him andUncle Shannon Sharp y'all know, we
call Shannon sharpunk. Now, theydid a podcast. Their podcast is super
duper hilarious. It's like a latenight podcast. Y'all need to listen to
it. My promise, it's gonnabe some good stuff. It's gonna have
some stuff that's gonna make you scratchyour head, but you're gonna be laughing.

(42:32):
Hard to see for the most part. But anyway, Chad shared some
stuff that his grandmother shared with him, and I'm going to play it now,
spillers, so that you all canhear it. There may be a
little but I'm gonna share it thebest way that I can. Okay,
here we go. Grandma always toldme you're gonna meet women, and women

(42:54):
gonna come into your life and theywill always have somebody from their past that
will always have access to the oneperson. There will always be one person
that will always have access to herno matter what she says to you.
And another thing she said was everytime you date somebody, you always have
to remember you are really not theones she want to be with, the
ones she really won't probably just wouldn'tget his act together, damn. So

(43:20):
that was that if you need tostop and rewind it, do so realius.
I may play it again when weget into the conversation in a few
minutes. But I wanted to talkabout this because I feel like it had
it needs clarity. For one,Yeah, and that's coming from a man's
perspective. He didn't agree, andfrom a woman's perspective, I didn't agree

(43:45):
to a certain extent. Right,So I'm not going to speak for all
women's feelings. I'm just gonna dieright into it. But I'm going to
speak for myself for missus Wilson rightnow. Always having someone from your past
that will always have access to you. After really thinking about this, I
have to agree and disagree to acertain extent. Now I agree spellings because

(44:09):
while I was single and mingling andeven dating semi exclusively, and when I
say semi exclusively, I knew whatI wanted in a relationship and for my
future. The person that I wantedI saw that probably with that person,
but that person wasn't projecting those emotionsor that type of future for me,

(44:32):
so I knew that it probably wouldn'thappen with that person. So that's what
I mean when I say semi exclusive. I did have someone from my past,
however, that I feel like,prior to my marriage, let me
be clear, had complete access tome. And when I say complete access
to me, because when I wassingle, dating mingly or semi exclusive dating,

(44:57):
like I said, this person hadhad access to me. Whether they
can text, call, reach outwhenever, however, that's access. I
don't feel like that's any different thanwhat Chad old Sinko Chad O Cho Sinko
was saying. But however, Idid not realize the toxicity in that,
right, meaning like, after sixteenyears, we've never lost contact. We've

(45:21):
always had contact. Probably hadn't hadsexual contact or physical contact for real,
for real, but we've always hadcontact. And that's really really toxic,
right. I really didn't realize thatuntil my husband. And the reason why
I say that until my husband becauseonce I goten engaged. I think prior

(45:43):
to our engagement, my husband knewabout this friendship, but he never said
nothing, you know what I'm saying. He really didn't say nothing and put
emphasis on it. But when wegot engaged, in merrit is like Okay,
now wait, now, what thehell we got going on? What
we're doing here? You know whatI'm saying? And that really made me
sit back, like, yeah,what we're doing here? This yet it
is weird. I didn't think aboutthe weirdness of it prior to that,

(46:04):
but later on, when I learnedthe seriousness of my relationship, Yeah,
this is weird. S it's whatyou're doing, what you got going on
here? Right? So the disagreepart comes in when you meet your person
personally. That's when you realize yourworth right, because this person has complete
access to you. You probably don'thave complete access to them in that situation.

(46:24):
I really didn't. But you realizethat that you meant of those games
that you've played on your emotional healthall of that time, and when you
learn it, when it's brought toyour attention, Like my husband kind of
showed me, like, what's thepoint of this friendship? What is it
doing? What? Like where you'regoing, what we're doing. It was
easy for me to be like,yeah, that makes sense and do what

(46:47):
I had to do. Right,So I agree, because yeah, it
can be like that, but Idisagree that it's like that forever because until
you run into your person or meetyour person, then that won't be the
gist of that relationship or whatever thatis. So, mister Wilson, you
want to add something to that.You don't lost my left talk to the

(47:07):
question, what's the question? Rememberthe question? I mean, because you
said something about what he said.I'm trying to think about what he said.
But the question was about his grandma. Now, I ain't gonna say
his grandma told him no be is, but she either told him the type
of woman she was, the typeof woman the type of women that she
hung with. It's something for herto say that, because I'm like,

(47:32):
I look at it like little boost. You know. You know what he
said, his mama told you youtoo cute for just one. Ain't no,
ain't no more. They ain't gonnaI mean life. I mean that's
life. So for her to saythat she either went through something but that
tightened him though, So it wasn'tnobody I say it ain't. It ain't
good in no way because you've gotto figure out who you mess with.

(47:54):
Your grandma can't know about to tellyou nothing about somebody you don't even know.
I just got the d with her. But my I don't see my
grandma. She probably would have said, but would have seen it. She
wouldn't. She wouldn't have seen everygrill you messed with. You got somebody

(48:15):
that can come, you know whatI'm saying, still got a space in
them. She wouldn't have said that. She probably just said, well,
you know, women are the mostsneakies, conniving creatures that the Lord made.
She said something like that because areOkay, I'm not going to agree,

(48:36):
but but the question was, doyou feel like that there is always
that there is always a man thatwill forever have some type of access to
a woman. Yeah, you do, you do agree with that by enemies
like even if now, really it'sup to the woman. So I can't

(48:58):
say that because it's it's vice versame. You got some men like yeah,
the women still got that man I'mtalking about missed this whole man life
up and he was still he.So he done moved on and got married.
But when they see each other,and if you hold that that little
conversation, if y'all through, youthrough, you go your own way.

(49:20):
But if y'all sit and talk,that mean y'all really ain't I mean,
y'all ain't gonna say y'all ain't through. But y'all want to catch up.
Y'all want to see why? Whohurt who? I mean, it's because
if I see somebody I used tomess with this, why you want to
go back? You had that before. You know what that is. I'm
talking about you already. You knoweverything about it, So you don't spend

(49:43):
the block. When I'm through,I'm through, Okay, I ain't even
got to talk to you. Wecan see each other. I ain't even
got to speak to you. Iain't got no hard feeling. But I
don't want to get to talking toyou. And you think that you can
get father and what you just justhide and by yeah, you feel like
it's appropriate if you are a marriedcouple or a couple in a serious relationship

(50:06):
to have a relationship with somebody thatyou was I'm not relationship, but maybe
a conversation, friendship or friendship.A friendship is a relationship, Yeah,
But do you think that's appropriate forsomeone that's married or relationship for somebody that's
colton mm hmm, engaged all thatbefore you get married. Now, if

(50:30):
you if you was messing with somebodyand you had six with this person,
now you with this new person,why would you want to be friends with
that person? I wouldn't understand it. I mean, if y'all ain't never
did, it's different. But ify'all been doing it, it ain't no
friendship. It ain't. I don't, man, you can't. So you

(50:52):
like Pomba and Timon in the lineand like and they said lead a past
behind y'all. Yeah, but ifyou go back to it, it's something.
I mean, you know, toeach his own. But and I
get strong people out here, thatonce they threw, they threw, it
ain't no second time, y'all,y'all. I mean, you may have

(51:14):
a second time with you're together,y'all break up, but once y'all through,
yeah, and you moved on,it ain't no. And I do
know people like that that are oncethey've moved on or married. And I
feel like I'm like that, likeI know, like you now, I
mean, but now, yeah,that's what I'm saying. Like now,

(51:34):
I'm like that. I probably hadn'talways been like that, but you weren't
like that when we first got together, cause you thought you thought dudes wanted
to be friends with you. Isee it like that. I don't know,
man, don't know men want tobe friends with no woman. That's
just my point of view. Icould be wrong because there's a lot of
women out here with some real malefriends, but not one of them.

(51:59):
But when you then, like Isaid, slept with somebody, how y'all
gonna sleep together and then be bestfriend? That ship? They don't work.
I mean, they don't work.I don't see. I wouldn't do
it. And I know I usedto be a doll. Yeah, but

(52:19):
if I didn't, if I didn'tplayed with this girl, and now I'm
with this girl. I'm not gonnain the block. It ain't no friends,
no money. She can't give menothing. I'm telling you because if
she give me some money, youknow that what I like. I don't
want that somebody sybody. Yeah,everybody may not be strong. So I'm

(52:45):
gonna play. I'm gonna play itone more time. And they were gonna
get into the second part of it. Grandma always told me, You're gonna
meet women, and women gonna comeinto your life, and they always have
somebody from there past that will alwayshave access to them, one person.
There will always be one person thatwill always have access to her no matter

(53:07):
what she says to you. Andanother thing she said was every time you
date somebody, you always have toremember you are really not the ones she
want to be with. The onesshe really want probably just wouldn't get his
act together. See that that manbeen hurt for real, that man been
hurt. He been hurt by somebody. If that the one try to marry
the girl that he would dance with, no, well, I don't know

(53:30):
dance with the stars. Yeah,he tried to marry that girl. See
dude, been hurt and he wonthem type of thing money and that for
SIK can get what you want.He ain't got that conversation. He ain't
got it. I can tell whenhe says said that. So that was
gonna be my next question. Thesecond part he said, the man the

(53:51):
woman is with is really not theone she wants to be with. The
one she really wants to be with, probably wouldn't get his act together.
It's some verdens. You could havegot your verse, you could have got
somebody. Ain't no why I saidhe can't? He because because I'm confused,
Like what woman sitting around anyway waitingon somebody to get that act together?

(54:14):
Like what do you expect? Imean, you can tell when when
it's like that anyway, you cantell them like that away because y'all,
y'all, y'all into it all thetime. It's ups and down. Somebody,
it's more than ups and down,it's cheating. Well, they's not
an open marriage, being an openrelationship. Open relationship, yes, but
I definitely didn't agree with that part. I do believe that women are supposed

(54:38):
to kiss the frogs until we findour prints, and sometimes, unfortunately we
we go through a lot. Someof it is self inflicting, some of
it is just the type of menthat we're dating that takes us a long,
gird time to actually find our printsand kiss our prints. As a
woman that has dated a lot ofmen, noticed I said dated and I

(54:59):
slept with because I ain't got alot of bodies, And you know,
I just think that for me andmy husband to know put, it ain't
a lot, and I've talked toI've had my fair share of guys.
For a minute, I thought Iwas a player, and I was a
happy player because I knew I wasdoing my thing. But couldn't nobody say
they was getting a business? Youknow what I'm saying? Him and I

(55:19):
stand on that. Anyway I've doneI've dated, I've done that. But
just because I've dated you, orI loved you, or I moved on
or got into a serious relationship ora new relationship even married, it does
not mean that I only married becausethe last person I dated or I was
with wouldn't act right. I wantedhim, he wouldn't act right, So

(55:44):
I moved on and married somebody else. Like to me, that just doesn't
make sense. I feel like ifwe wanted the dude that didn't act right.
We're gonna wait until he gets someact right to marry him. You
know what I'm saying. So Ithat part that he said I told different
disagree with because I don't see nowoman marrying no man because the last man

(56:05):
she wanted to be, well,he ain't gonna act right. So this
will want to be with me.I'm just gonna gonna marry him. That
that that I just can't y'all can'tspeak for other folks. You know you
got some you got Listen. Whenyou when you are a kind hearted person,
you surround yourself with kind harder people. You can't be no kind harder

(56:27):
person. And you you around aperson that don't cry, they're gonna they're
gonna abuse that. They gonna takeadvantage of that. So it don't be
the person that's getting used a kindharder not unless you just got a flat
foot slut. Come with you tryingto say it easiest two or three or

(56:51):
four? They make money, Yeah, okay, schluss. They just they
just lay on their back. Theyjust do it. They don't care,
they don't cary. So it's adifferent You think that people actually know when
they're being taken advantage of, becauseI feel like sometimes if you let her,
if you let a dude cheat onyou in front of you, how
you don't know. I mean,that's just if he tell you that he

(57:15):
doing it, how you don't know. So if he admits that, throw
it in your face. He ain'tgot he ain't trying to have him right?
How you don't know? So willwe be a fool if we take
him back the first first? Okay, so one time once the cheater always
cheated that it ain't no to me, It ain't no change because you didn't

(57:36):
got a you ain't got a tasteof that, that little pleasure because it
had to be some pleasure in theAnd then it was easy to get back
because the mere fact deal with Ican just get it and go I got
to live with it. Yeah,you can't once cheat always? Oh wow,
So even if you spend the blockon something that like we ain't talking

(58:01):
about back in the little rock we'retalking about because I do believe that people
can change, So they probably willchange, But but that don't mean you're
supposed to. They ain't gonna changewith you. If they're gonna change with
you. Why would y'all separate forthat long. Why y'all gotta go and
do with other people to find y'allselfto come back to each other, ain't

(58:24):
gonna change. That's just lust,POPU love y'all infatuated with each other,
not you. I'm just saying,whoever, guys, because I'm but I
am infatuated. That's not you.Yeah, I mean, but like I
said, people can't speak for everybody. Man. You can't. You can't
do that because you got some coldheart the people out here, and you

(58:45):
got some loving people out here.Shut out to the loving people. Keep
on loving and keep praying that part. I was once one of those tatas,
Oh, this is what we're doing, that's what term. That's what
turned most players and most holes inthe holes. You said that I didn't,

(59:12):
So I have a question because Chadhad everything that he had to say
about a woman, a woman wants, a man wants an with a woman.
When I was growing up, therewas always a saying that once a
guy gets a girl pregnant, thathe's gonna always and forever have access to
that baby mama now as a babymama, as a daughter. That we

(59:39):
don't have together in our marriage,but she's our daughter. Prior to our
marriage, I don't feel like Idon't. I don't feel like he always
had access to me or always hadthat. But them first two three years,
I guess while when I had toget over him or learn that this
wasn't my person and this wasn't gonnabe it. The first few years I

(01:00:01):
was a little stuck. I waslike, oh lord, they may be
right because I can't move emotionally.I didn't feel like I could at the
time, But as time moved on, I was like, yeah, that's
when you thought you was a player. After that, I told you,
every person got to be hurt becauseyou ain't never been hurt. You ain't
gonna try to hurt nobody that becausebut once you haven't been hurt, you

(01:00:24):
ain't trying to hurt the next person. You have been hurt. Now you're
looking at for you. So ifthat means you date all these people you
have, you just but you heard, yeah, and then when you try
to find a person, it's gonnacause more hurt because it's just a I
don't know, it's it's weird,you know what I'm saying. It's a

(01:00:46):
weird circle of life. So doyou think that that's true? Though?
Do you think that when when y'allhave baby Mama, do you feel like
you have complete accents? It's viceversa. It ain't just no, I'll
tell you because no, it's viceversa. It's vice verse. It's up
to that person. I mean,because if you had a just think if

(01:01:07):
you just because it's it's so manyways people get pregnant. Some of them
get pregnant on the first the firsttime, and it don't be nothing.
Two three homes, so they don'tthink they're pregnant, so they pregnantbody's dude,
they never had a relationship with them, So now you know it,
don't It don't work like that.That's your baby mama, But she's telling

(01:01:28):
it. We didn't even do that. I don't even know why. I
don't happen. So y'all, no, y'all ain't fitna. He ain't finna
be able to come back and getthere. She didn't want him from the
jump, didn't want that baby.So now it ain't it's up to the
people. It's how long. It'sthe relationship. It's the bun If y'all
ain't have no bun. Nah,it ain't gonna happen. But if you

(01:01:49):
had a bun, you know that'sthat's a hard thing to break. You
just can't stop loving no person toknow one day, two days, two
years. It's just something that youeventually get over. But some people try
to find another love to get overthat. Look right, right, it's
right. She can't speak for everybodythough. Everybody different. Everybody different.

(01:02:09):
Like some dudes will say, ain'tno good women out here, but they'll
say they mama a good woman.But you just said ain't no good women
out here. So what makes yourmama different than these other women out here?
That was raised by mama? Andyou got two three other brothers and
sisters. Two of y'all got thesame daddy, But you got a good

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mama though, you got some goodwomen out here that I thought my mama
was a good woman, but shehad three different baby daddy. So she
didn't down talk nobody. That's whyI learned a lot from that woman,
because even though she did what shedid in whatever cost she paid, she
had us she had to deal with, but she didn't go back to them,

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right, She didn't spend the block. She yes, she went on
four of them. So she wasa good woman and she wasn't that a
mistake. She just she wasn't.No, she wasn't right. That's how
to say. She wasn't just outhere. Those were the relationships that she
was in, and with those relationshipsshe produced children in the relationships, and

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she was made to kill it thatshe married contrary after after after everybody,
Yeah, he wasn't he was.He was our stepdad. Yeah, but
he was cool. Yeah yeah,Like I said, yeah, you got
when you listen to dude like them. She dude. Like I said,

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I don't know how long his folksmight have had money. It's it's it's
the circumstance. It's different situations.So if his folks had money and they
see him out here of flirting,the playing with girls, and they see
that he'll get him anything, Yeah, grandma tell him that. No.
But the thing is his folks did, but he had money. And I

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felt like I just saying this differentsituation for everybody. But I do I
do feel you on that because Ifeel like his grandmother was serious about having
that conversation with him because she knewhe was the bank. He was money.
You know what I'm saying he grewcourilosus. He caul free, not
curlous. Curl free about ten kidsfive like now curlous he's just yeah,
I got I can do, youknow, just care free and love women.

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And the grandma saw that, likeyou're having all these kids and all
these he wasn't he wasn't building themwith them women. She ain't see them
building nothing. He he ain't gettingany women in. They together and they
building this and he he ain't doingthat. He just jumping. He was
just jumping for one woman table whenhe I know you're talking about when he
got on that on that Dancing withthe Stars, he tried, he danced

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with the woman and therefore he askedold ring and he failed for girl quick.
So you know when you when youattended and what happened big fit.
Okay, So I have one morequestion, and it's just a little bit
off topic, mister Wilson. SoI did this Facebook poll on an appropriate

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time for a partner, husband,wife, spouse should come in the house.
Until I asked the people, whatdo you think is an appropriate time?
And the average person said no time, as long as their communication in
between time. And so I feltthat. I was like I had like

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forty something response the average average peoplewere saying, no time, as long
as we talk. Some people weresaying no time we grown, but mostly
everybody said no time. And thena few people said no time as long
as there's adequate communication in between thetime. How do you feel about that,
mister Wilson? Do you feel likethat there should be a time discussion

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when you are coming in late early, whatever the time is, and if
it's going to be extremely late,how do you how does that look?
I feel like I feel like stickyour best to tell you to do beat
your chest, that's after you doit. But nah, I feel like,

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you know, show each other thesame respect. You know what I'm
saying. It ain't no tip fortag. But if one is able to
do it without no appointment, gone, you just able to do it.

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If one able to do it,then the others I'll be able to do
it. But now, if y'allgot problems, you might not need to
do that. We ain't got noproblems. And you know this ain't something
that's normal. But you know wherethe person is in the person trip when
when the other person come home,they just wanted a trill. So do

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you think that you said if there'sno problems, if there are problems,
like should you put a time onit? Yeah? I mean if yeah,
if you got when I say problemsthat you trust issues, yes,
then yeah it's you know, y'allneed to sit down and talk about it.
But because it don't need to behe can come in at one now,

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he can come in at twelve,and you can come in at one.
Uh, you can come in atone, he come in at twelve
now. I mean, yeah,y'all got to sit down and talk.
Car if this man come in acouple of minutes later than you and you
acting the fool when you came inand until morning, Yeah, yeah,

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y'all need to sit down to talkbecause you need to show each other the
same respect. You know. That'sall just like you said communication, Yeah,
and I agree with that. Iagree. I feel like communication resonation
and I feel like, yeah,have a conversation because as long as you
trust each other. Now we ain'ttalk about my friend, my girl Alexis
are soap girl. She did saynow after three o'clock that Negro gonna be

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in the Canta jail and somebody housebecause to be coming in after three is
a problem. But I do feellike, yeah, you there should be
if there's been some issues of conversation, if there has not been any issues
in between times, just at leastcommunicate sener text message, Hey I'm still
here doing this. I'm good,you good, you're straight. Just that

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communication and communication rules the nation.But as long as you know who you
got, you don't have to reallyworry about now. I mean, long
as you know what your partner woulddo. Yeah, and you might not,
just you know, just no titfor tag you know across across the
team as you might not know,but you got to feel of your partner,

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right. You ain't got to worryabout a certain thing now you think
your partner slip, Yeah, youneed to worry. You need to a
b B. I don't look atbut if you know she ain't better do
now. You know, like Isaid, people shell he but you know
everybody get hit on when they gosomewhere. I don't care who you are.

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You can be sixty three because yousay make the women come, even
and make them come because when theysee it, they they couldn't have and
they sneaking. I'm telling you girls, are worse than dudes. They looking
for They'll tell you anything to getyou. A dude to tell you anything
to get what he wants from me. A girl do the same thing.
That's why I say, you can't. It ain't no judging. You know,

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women think they do anyway. Youknow what I'm saying. What they
independent, they you know what I'msaying. They feel like they don't need
nobody. You can't. You needsomebody. Everybody, everybody, somebody made
better than one. But you gotto you got the The old man once

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told me, he said, uh, getting to know a woman, it's
like getting to know the babble yougot just got you read it once and
twice. That don't mean you know, a lifetime thing, because they do.
It's different stuff that come up.So yeah, it ain't. I
say, it's it's everybody different,you know what I'm saying. But women

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and men. You people can't lookat it like men do this the more
so women do this the more becauseit's the same. Whatever the woman do,
the man do, whatever the mando the woman do. I mean,
it's all the same, but it'sup to that person. So I
knew who I was getting. Ialready knew you was crazy. They know
I mean crazy. Uh they youknow I knew you had this a little

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dating. But see everything we talkedabout. That's why, that's why I
talk to you. Yeah, Iwant to know because I didn't know.
So when you don't know something bya person, you got to ask them,
especially if this is somebody that youwant to you're going to be with.
Like when you ask them that question, you remember the answer. So

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when you ask them again as everyyears, So if it's changed from what
it did last time, then we'regonna have to talk a little more because
this communication. Man, people gottathey got to talk to each other.
Now. They don't mind cussing eachother out, that's easy, but it's

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hard to open up let a personhow you feel. God, people they
don't want to be you. Butyou got to understand when you know this
is something that you see for along time or something that you really want,
you have to let your guards downand you gotta be vulnerable. I
did that. I'm telling you.Look when I when I I felt I
knew you was a good hearted person. I didn't want no girl that was

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nothing like me, had been anythinglike me, or even thought like me.
I don't want that. That meansshe's tough. I mean we have
to fights on the later because I'mI got the show. I'm the toughest
person in the house. So it'sgonna be some conflicts. So I want
I want a feminis. I'm talkingabout a real feminine one. Woman.
Just look at the news and cry. You ain't have to bring that on

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that. That's just I'm just sure. I'm just saying, your yo,
yo, your femininity. You knowit's you ain't no, Okay, I
want thank you, I appreciate it, but you ah talk about look at
you, you real sensitive. Iwant a sensitive one. I don't want
no, you don't want to missusnom like no, I don't socking you.

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I won't come back sock me.I don't know if I socked you.
I want you to go sit downbecause you socked me. You're getting
socked. But to saying you gotsense of the women I heard you know
you got some they ain't gonna toget to that one. Yeah, So
yeah, it's it's weird. It'svery weird. You got to yourself,

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You got to get to know theperson you with, and you don't you
ain't gonna never know that person you'rewith. It changed. I'm telling you
certain things, certain situations happen inlife that it brings about something else at
the person. But you got you, you got the right one. So
you got for real, you gotthe right one. I don't hold grudge.

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See, you got a lot ofdudes are like female and then yeah
they do the attack. They wholegrudges. They man, you got dudes
out here won't even mess with theirkids. Now that's the baby Marma get
them. You ain't gonna give me. No, I ain't doing that.
So you I'm telling you got yougot some weird people out here. It's

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it's the one person can have multiplecharacteristics. So just think if you're dealing
with multiple people. Yeah, it'scrazy. M That was good, mister
Wilson. I wish I wish Ihad what. I'm gonna get one of
those insertions where I can put itin in this club. You know,

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I'm going to get that horn though, I'm getting one of those being I'm
getting one from the club. Well, thank you so much, mister Wilson.
Fellas is how you feel. No, you're gonna have to listen to
the spell training. Then you cango. You got at least, like
you say, your fellows. Now, I ain't gonna tell the fellows nothing
wrong. They got to get toknow their woman. You can't just don't.

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This is your message to the men. Yeah, yeah, you have
to get to know your woman,man, because don't spell if you're planning
on mayor and a woman. Yeah, don't get this woman Mary, and
then you know you. I justfigured you out. I don't won't.
I'll figure out for you, getfor you. Ma? Yeah what what?
What? What would you say tothe women who? What could I

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say to them? Sneaky? Everyoneused to say are the ones that are
because like you got good women outhere. But women are degrade They sell
before a man will. So thenwhen that man degrade them, it's a
problem. So they got to learn. They got to learn the lord theyself
or they if you don't now,if you was raised in love, you

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know love. But if you don'tknow love, how you know what you're
looking for. That's why some womenthink being on them, when that man
get the beating on, he lovethem. They don't know love, but
they know as a person. Whenthe person beating them, they tell him
I love you. They try tomake up after that. Now you got
the woman got to love herself.She got tom because she's sensitive, she

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caring, She she she's nurturing.Yeah, they got that mother figure.
Just say, even though they ain'thad no babies, that's gonna come natural
to them because it's it's in y'all, it's in you. So if they
don't, if they don't know love, never been loved, that's where the
daddy come in. A daddy figure, a good daddy figure. So either

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way go. You know how theysay women make the world go around.
Yeah, but that man is theone to put that structure, and that's
the ability in your life. Soy'all could do something because women are south.
They saw for real, they sawmy mama. That's why I said

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why I say, I can't sayall women because all women I saw because
I just seen my mama, mygrandma. I see how your mama is.
I'm telling you got some strong Theyhad no other choice, you know
what I'm saying. They had nochoice. But they kids kids. I
don't know. You're so real good. I'm over here like preach you.

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You better teach the people, andthen you get to that park and then
you know how you say you don'thave people be saying this the last days
the world. But yeah, yeah, why you think you can go back
and fix the old relationship. Thenif the world ain't gonna never change,
how do you think this person you'respending a lot gonna change? Anybody?
Think the person that you think youmight have changed? Everybody they might have
changed in some way, some wayshe changed the other ways it made work.

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But I'm just saying people be theydon't. I don't know. It's
it's everybody think they got that kneelingshunty and I'm trying to spend that block
and get that nelly small. Youkeep saying they spend that block. When
I say spending block, that meansyou would inner rate relationship for a long
time prior and then years later yougo there like like kneeling. Yeah,

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we're gonna make a you time.I gotta say, King George and his
homeboy, Yeah yeah this Lord,you got to teach to the older generation
of new terms. Listen. Well, mister Wilson, that was wonderful.
You have been really wonderful this episode. You're wonderful every episode. But today

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I think I know the people.The people always come in and say stuff,
especially on our post and shout outto my cousin Rolanda, Heylanda.
She comments every episode, but thisone, this is this is good and
it did something for me. Didyou want to add anything before we wrap
it up? No more questions,So Spiller's you know what time it is.

(01:18:38):
It is our spill trend encouragement time. You know you can now you
gotta stay during the encouragement this time. Normally I let mister Wilson leave during
the encouragement, but I didn't say, Spillers, I want to talk about
the importance of extending grace. Whenthe Lord dropped me on drop this on
my heart, I was really ina moment where I felt like I should

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have been extended a little gre Iwas literally in a situation to where I
was just like, dang, giveme a little grace, So give me,
you know, a little bit.And I didn't feel like at that
moment that grace was extended to me. During that moment, Spills, I
promised. It was almost like theLord said to me, now you know
how it feels when you need moregrace and you're not intentional about extending grace

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Ephesians Twoina tells us, for bygrace, you have been saved through faith,
and this is not your own doing. It is a gift from God.
God gives us grace even when wedon't deserve it. Spillers. Grace
is God's undeserved favor that he givesto us. So if he gives it

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to us when we are undeserved undeserving, who are we to not extend it
or give it to our earthly brothersand sisters when they are deserving. So
let's be intentional about extending grace.Let's practice extending grace. Understand the importance
of extending grace, because you too, again will need grace. Okay,

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Spillers, Well that's it for episodetwenty five on season two, Episode forty
of The spill PODCASTILM film film.How I'm at a forty twenty but that's
in for our episode. Thank youall so much for tuning in extend grace.

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I hope this episode blesses you asit has done me. Thank God,
Holly Lujah, Thank you Jesus.Until next time, Spillers, this
is your girl, Missus Wilson andyour guy. I supposed to say Wis
and we are signing out