26- SAY WHEEETTTTT....PEOPLE...

WHEW CHILE....THE PEOPLE PEOPLING....& WE GOTTA LEARN TO DEAL WITH IT....CAUSE WHEEETTTT!!!! -MRS. WILSON

Episode Transcript

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Hey world, Welcome to the SpillPodcast. Your favorite podcast feature, your
favorite podcast host, me, yourGirl, Missus Willson pee on peel peem
pim pem. Hey Spillers, Welcomeback to the Spill Podcast. This is
episode twenty six of season two.We are wrapping up season two. We're

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getting closer to summer break. Butin the meantime and in between time,
your Girl has made a pledge tobe more intentional about producing content and episodes
the end of this season. Soy'all know, I love my breaks.
I'm an educator, so I'm usedto them breaks, baby, and when

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we get those breaks, I appreciatethem. I take advantage of them spiritually,
mentally, emotionally, physically. Ilove breaks, right, But I
did not want to take unnecessary breaksfrom the podcast until break season starts,
which for me would be spring break, summer break, fall break, went

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to break, but we hadn't gottenthe spring break yet. So I said
all that to say today I waskind of like up in the air on
should I record, should I notrecord, Should I say something? Should
I not say something? I don'thave guests, but I did ask the
Lord for this podcast in this platform. He blessed me with it. He

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didn't bless me and guess with it. He blessed missus Wilson with it.
So I was like, Okay,so since you bless me with the Lord,
just bless me with words to say, some encouraging words, motivating words
you know that will bless my spillersand help them going forward. And Baby,
when I say he been showing allthe way out like he been showing

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l and I said that in McKenzie'svoice, because when I say he has
been showing out for your girl,he has been showing out. So I'm
super duper excited about this episode becausethis is an episode spillers that I know
for me is something that God puton my heart to share and in the
nick of time, not only didHe put it on my heart to share

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it, but he gave me theright words to say in sharing it.
Okay, So I'm gonna convey themessage from the messenger the best way that
I can. Right, So justbear with me, Okay. Anyway,
I'm excited to be back. Ipray that you all are excited to be
back, Spillers. This is ourmental check in time, Spillers. You
know what time it is. Thisis the time of the episode where we

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stop, we pause for cause,and we are intentional about checking in with
our mental health. This is thetime where before you go to therapy,
if you need to go to therapy, before you check yourself in a mental
hospital, if you need to dothat, you actually sit down and evaluate
where you are mentally? How areyou mentally? How are you emotionally?

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How are you spiritually? How areyou physically? How are you? All
of the Lee's spillers, so dowhat you gotta do to do a mental
check in. Okay, I praythat all is well with you, spillers.
If all is not well, saysomething so that we can do something.
Mental health is wealth. It's importantthat we take care of our mental

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health. Just as much as wetake care of our physical health, our
outside looking health, our financial health, our emotional health. We have to
take care of our mental health.Okay, So with that being said,
I am prayer. That is theword that I have been using for about

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the last three two three weeks,pressing, and I feel like, in
the midst of me acknowledging that I'mactually pressing, I feel like God just
keep throwing stuff on me. I'mlike, holl up, Lord, Like
I'm not asking him why me orwhy because I know there's a purpose with

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whatever it is he gives me,and he throws my way. I'm trusting
the process, though, and inthe midst of me trusting this process spillers.
I am pressing my way, andfor me, pressing my way just
means more prayer. Like like Itell my husband and my mother all the
time, i'd be like, oh, lood, I know I'm getting on

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a little nurse Jesus. But pressingfor me is more prayer. It's more
physical work, meaning me doing somedifferent things physically that can help me mentally,
whether it's working out, sitting outsidein the sunshine, actually sitting still

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wherever I am, whatever place Iam, just sitting still and just being
intentional about whatever is going on inthat moment, trying to identify with it.
Right it's weird, Pecuia. It'sa lot for me right now.
But I'm pressing, trusting the process. I'm trusting that whatever season this is
that God has me in, andit's a season where he I'm dealing with

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people just gonna be wanted. I'mdealing with people. It's not pretty.
I'm not excited about it. Idon't look forward toward to it. It's
something that I wake up every day, thanking God for a new day,
thanking God for a great night's rest, thanking God for keeping me in my
right mind, and thanking God forallowing me to continue to press through this
journey. So I'm just pressing,spillers, I am pressing, I am

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praying, I am trusting, andI'm looking forward to whatever it is on
the other side of this baby.Because this man he gave me climbing right
now, maybe I'm not the strongesi behive. So other than that,
I pray all is well with thesespillers. I'm pressing. I'm okay because

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I'm trusting the process and I noMy heavenly Father got me, and I
pray the same for you. Okay, say something so we can do something.
Reach out to somebody, a trustedsource. It's we living in a
different day in time. I understandeven people you feel like this around you
or in your circle. You maynot be able to trust. But pray
and ask God to give you thedirection and the guidance you need, and

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I promise you he will. Okay, all right, So we are moving
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time spill, trans spill. Asy'all know, this is where we highlight

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everything black. Thank God we're black. Hey, we won't take it back.
Hey, we're proud to v black. Hey. Shout out to missus
Charlene the Christy Show, Little rocksOn for that amazing anthem. But I
love to highlight everything black. I'mthe spill trend and we have a couple

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of topics six weeks this week.The very first topic I want to talk
about is my past past past lifehusband. Oh my husband, okay with
this because I didn't talk to himabout this. Say first, y'all,
But husband, you know what thisanyway? The Robert Nessa Marlee Bob Marley.

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His movie One Love came out lastweek y'all, February fourteenth, on
Valentine's Day. It is an amazingmovie. I love everything about it.
Look, my family and husband,everybody laughed at me so hard because they're
like, why are you going tosee that movie? You know absolutely everything.
And when you appreciate somebody's story andsomebody's like what they have given to

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the world, their contribution to theworld, whether it's something that they did
intentionally or unintentionally, when you appreciateit, you're gonna support it regardless,
right, So that was me withthe Bob Marley One Love story. That
story definitely deserved two thumbs up.Go see it. If you are not
familiar with Robert Neessa Marley, Ido recommend that you do a little research

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on him. He's just make u'sbiggest start. Jamaica is really, like,
really really known because of Bob Marley. However, there are other people,
amazing other people who we got MarcusGarvey, Sam Sharp, the Nanny
Hussein Boat, you know, theamazing Jamaican track stars that have been ladies,

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whether that have been highlighted with thelast couple of years in the Olympics,
but we know that Jamaica is reallyon the map because of Bob Marley.
So if you have not checked outOne Love, this is an no
promo, I promise you they're notgiving me twenty five cent because of this.
But because of his story and hiscontribution to the culture, I feel
like everybody should go see it,and either after you go see it that

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before, I rather recommend before reallydig into some knowledge about Bob Marley.
One of his documentaries is called Marley. I know it's on a couple of
free websites or free TV at networkswhatever, Marley, but it's called Marley,
Looked Forward, Look for Who Shotthe Sheriff, And it's a few

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other documentaries about Bob Marlin, theWhalers, Look for That. I would
say watch it before watching those,before you go see the movie, and
then you'll really be able to understandand you'll really have an appreciation for the
music and Bob Marlin his story.If not, just go see it.
If you've never really been interested inlearning about his story, watching the movie

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One Love will actually you know.I feel like it'll make you a little
bit more interested. So shout outto one love amazing movie. My husband,
he went to see it. Idid have him to watch the Marley
documentary and he actually said that thedocumentary he felt like was better than the

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movie. He liked the movie.He said the movie was good, but
he said the documentary was like thetruth. So just go see it,
go support it and get to andlearn about by Marley and his love for
humanity and uniting the world black,white, red, purple, indifferent.
That was something that he stood for, So check that out. Okay,
Next, I wanted to talk aboutmy girl Beyonce. Y'all. She she

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she on this country music thing,and I'm just gonna speak quick of this
because who am I. I hadto take me a little sip of fermented
juice. But Beyonce is coming outwith a country album, so her first
couple songs have already been out HoldThem Texas, hold Them, I think,
and then sixteen Carriages beautiful songs.I'm super excited about what she's about

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to do in the country music.But I do want to tap just check
in with the with the people fromthe culture just for a quick second.
Now, y'all know. I'm apart of the beehive. Y'all see,
I get the fan in the room, I've been to the concert. I'm
just a part I love. I'mteen Queen Beyonce, period, point blank
right. But I'm also team culture. I've always been big on the black

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culture, especially when it's time forus to kind of break barriers or do
things that we aren't quote unquote knownto do. So money Long has said,
she quoted something on Instagram Queen bsaid, we singing country country it
is, and she came out withthis super duper dope country song. But
I don't want y'all to forget aboutQueen k Michelle. I've always loved Cay

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Michelle. She's been to my city, Little Rock, Arkansas twice. I've
gone to see her at the Robinsonand the Metroplex when the Metroplex is booming,
booming. But ky Michelle has alwayshad a love for country. Matter
of fact, was the first blackwoman that I publicly heard or known to
yodel. Of course, if yougoogle some you're here some from back in

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art before our time. But KyMichelle has always been a country singer at
heart. She's always loved it.Before it was popular for black people to
go into country music genre, shedid that. Okay, So while we're
rooting for Beyonce and we want Beyonceto hold this title, let's not forget
about those who were doing it beforeher, right excuse me? And Kyme

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Mischelle was one of those. AndI say that because I was looking and
thinking about a lot of things thatour culture experienced. You know, when
it comes to support and when itcomes to us being put on platforms that
other races or cultures may be puton, but us not getting the light

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and the support that we should andwe deserve from that same exact platform.
We support who we want to support. That's true, right, But I
feel like in order for us tobreak the division between well she's black and
she has this, well she's whiteand she has this. As a culture,
we just got to show up,period. We just got to show

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up concert cells, you know whatI'm saying when they come to tickets and
stuff like that. Yeah, weare. The struggle is real for everybody.
But we do what we want todo. We support who we want
to support. That's that's that's anon fact. Right. So sometimes when
you really want to put on forthe culture, or when you when you
really want to be a part ofputting somebody, not on a pedal sal

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or platform, because I don't wantto sound like you're worshiping them or doing
any of that, but when you'resupporting them and you really want them to
see and to get what they deserve, get the flowers that they deserve,
sometimes you have to make just alittle bit of a sacrifice, you know
what I'm saying. So we can'twe gotta stop comparing the the Beyonce concert
in a Tailor Swift concert. I'mjust gonna put it out there. You

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know, we were looking at thenumbers. Beyonce have all of these numbers
like jay Z, the metrics,Ay metricing. You know what I'm saying.
Taylor gets this, Beyonce gets that. It's because beyon says, people
were not really coming through for Beyoncelike Taylor. People coming through for Taylor,
you know what I'm saying. Soif you know you not going to
be able to support her concert,or if the concert Beyonce' concert is too

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expensive, go pay eight dollars andgo to that movie says and watch ya
at the movies you know what I'msaying, download her album. You got
everything else on iTunes or title shoutout to titles, that's who I have.
Download Beyonce's album. Like, let'sdo what we have to do personally
as a culture. That's just myopinion, y'all. That's just lit Low

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Toya from the South end of LittleRock Baby, And what I say does
not matter. However, I feellike if we do things just a little
bit different, we'll see a lotof different results. And I said all
that to say, what we're givingBeyonce now, we didn't give it to
ky Michelle. And you can goback years I'm talking about. I've been
following this woman for years, atleast eight years ago on one of her

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social media it's either her Instagram ora Twitter, and you'll see ky Michelle
says something about a country song ortrying to give a country music artists we
know. Last year she performed atthe Country Music Awards with Jelly Roll and
eight. Like the kids say sheate it did she did? Jelly Roll
brought Jelly Roll brand new, likefor real, forriend the country singing,

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and he brought Cay Michelle out likewhat we eight Because this is something that
she's been wanted to do. Sowe supporting Queen Bee because we're part of
the Beehive and that's just we dowith Queen Bee. But let's and I
forget about ky Michelle. Baby.She been putting Memphis sentence on a map
when it comes to that. Okay, So that's all I wanted to say

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about that. I'm gonna move onbecause I know some of my spellers like,
what is she talking about? Whatis we doing support Queen Beyonce and
ky Michelle when it comes to countrymusic and moneylow anybody black hell that's doing
country music. I almost said somethingthat's about some black country music art,
but I'm not gonna say. Justsupport who you supposed to support. Okay,
So that is our spill tread time. Spillers, listen, that's it,

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Okay, that song, I meanit's see best all and we are
now moving on. All right,spillers, I hope you enjoyed that amazing
in a little jazz in a littlefrom Philly Mood and Quincy q Note Watson.

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Those are my guys. I lovejazz. Shout out to them,
Shout out to Philly Moo who justcelebrated his sporties. I hope you enjoyed,
Philly. This is the year fortyfor the eighty fours solve that it
was really really good for you.We are moving on to our spill topic
times, spillers, We're about totalk about the people for a minute,

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because the people are out here peopleing, So listen, spillers. God has
really been dealing with me and peopleand what I say, he been dealing
with your girl, y'all. Hebeen dealing with your girl on a level
where I'm like, okay, Lord, like what is we doing? What
we got going on? Like reallyme Like, Okay, you got me
in this situation. I know,I know you're going to bring me through

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it, but I just need youto talk to me real loud and out
loud and clear so that I canunderstand exactly what is going on. Right.
I mean, this season really hasme like knowing and seeing that He
is showing me, you know whatI'm saying, like different situations, friendships,

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relationships, family ships, situationships willnot situationships as in nothing that got
to do with a man or awoman, or woman or a woman,
none of that situationships. As faras relationships that I felt or feel our
relationships, friendships, family ships.That's what I mean when I say situationships,
feelings. Y'all don't have an amazinghusband a lot. Lord has blessed

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me with thank you Jesus, andwe ain't got no situationships, nothing going
on, so let me. Ijust wanted to be clear with that.
But anyway, I feel like Godis really sending me in a season with
people, and I'm just like,Lord, I just need you to show
me like what we're doing. Andthen one of my prayers for twenty twenty
four was for God to show mepeople. And I personally feel like that

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He's shown me people, but it'sbeen people that I've least expected. Woo.
Yeah, people that I've least expected. And He's like, yeah,
you said show you people, soI'm finna show you people. I did
it with my sacrificial land, whichis your late Lord and savior, Jesus
Christ. I showed him who peoplewere. I put him in situations where

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people were exposed to him. Heknew it, and he even told the
people what they were gonna do tohim and how they were and how they
would treat him and deny him andreject him and betray him. Yeah,
Jesus did out there. The Lordain't told me that though he ain't gave
me that, but he didn't beenshowing me. And so yeah, so
walk through this with me for minutes, and I feel like this is something

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that I knew I had to sharebecause one of my goals for twenty twenty
four was to be more intentional aboutpodcasting. Right, Like I told y'all
earlier, I was like, Okay, yeah, I'm gonna have to.
I can't really just depend on guests, even though God has blessed me with
a plethora of guests and people andall of that. But when I'm not

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trying to be around people in myspace and in my time, I still
want to be intentional with the podcast. So I asked God to just give
me what I need to give thepeople. And I always praise feelings that
God blessed me to say something that'sgoing to help somebody. Today was that
day, y'all. I actually said, Lord, I really don't know what

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to talk about because I have alot going on a lot in my mind,
a lot that I feel like you'redealing with me with. So I'm
going to turn on Andre three thousands, New Moon, Blue Moon, And
y'all know I'm a meditation type ofperson. Like whenever I'm trying to steal
my mind really pray or hear fromGod, I turn on some type of

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black meditation. And this has beenone of my go tos the last couple
of months. But I said,I promise you spill. As I said,
Lord, I'm gonna turn this home, and I need you to just
give me what you want me togive the people. And if I'm confused,
if my add adult attention deficit disorderedkick in for a second, if

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I go through any event, thenthat means I probably need to just sit
the week out and just put in, you know, an old episode.
But I promise y'all. I putandre'a on and it was like the
Lord was just giving me some stuff. So I'm not gonna give y'all everything,
but I'm going to give y'all justa little bit of what he shared
with me tonight. Okay. Ialso want to go ahead and say,
while it's on my mind right now, thank you Lord. Early Verse votevoting

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starts to day February the twentieth toMarch fourth in Little Rock, Arkansas,
Central Arkansas. This is the timewhere we vote for our judicial areas,
in our school election areas. It'svery important if you want to make sure
that you have somebody that's going tobe a good judge, not a Jesus
judge, but a judge that's goingto be able to get some type of

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enlightenment from the Lord to solidify theircases or make their choices. And then
for school elections, vote, vote, vote. Local elections are as important
as national elections. So if you'rein Central Arkansas, make sure you take
advantage of your early voting. Ifyou need to know who to vote for,
what their cause for running, whattheir reasons for running, go to

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Pulaski County dot clerk. Not good, I think one of those. Just
type in Pulaski County Voting. Typethat in and it'll leads you to it.
So make sure you vote. Anyway. Back to where I was going,
it comes to dealing with people.The Lord puts some stuff on my
heart, and I'm just gonna lety'all know a couple of different things.
The first thing is he advised meto change my expectations of people. Tooya,

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you gotta change your expectations of people. You put these people on a
pedal stalol or on a level thatthey never showed you that they were worthy
of or they deserved. And thatreminded me of a interview that one of
my favorite rappers l Bussi did afew months ago on the Breakfast Club.

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Charlemagne, the God who is intomental health awareness right now, just kind
of asks a little busy like whatare some things that you're doing to work
on your mental health? Like areyou going to therapy? In LABUSI proudly
said that he was going to therapy, and he said one thing that his
therapist told him was you're angry atpeople. He was in anger management,
and he said, you're angry atpeople, but it's your fault because you

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put these people on a pedalestal oron a level that they never showed you
that they were worthy of. AndI related to that on so many levels.
Right. We give people all ofthis prestige, you know, all
of this loyalty, all of thislove, all of this support, all
of this. These my people,I trust them, you know what I'm

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saying. They got my back,I got their back, and they've never
given us a reason to believe thatspillers. Never never, never. If
you are in a situationship, whetherit's family, friendship, to where you
have people up here like to thehighest and you don't know where you stand

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with them, your expectations of themare are way too high, and you
know their expectations of them are waytoo High's because when they disappoint you,
you're setting, You're burdened, youare distraught, you know what I'm saying,
like, and it's true if peoplehave never given you a reason to
believe that you are supposed to beloyal to them or they deserve your loyalty.

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What we doing? What are wedoing? And why are we doing
it right? Because at the endof the day, it's affecting you emotionally
and mentally because you have somebody's backone thousand percent and they don't have your

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back one thousand percent. Jesus andPeter we ain't even talking about Simon.
We knew Simon was gonna betray him, you know, Jesus knew Simon was
gonna portray him, and Peter wasgonna deny by give Lord for this.
But Peter didn't realize the magnitude ofwho Jesus was and how Jesus was able
to discern what he was gonna doto him. And that's because Jesus watched

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He watched them for a long timeand told him, Yeah, you act
like you're so loyal to me,and you act like you love me,
but you're gonna deny me. Bruh, Like you gonna do that. And
that's the type of discernment that wehave to have with people's spillers. That
don't mean you gotta be judgment to. That don't mean you gotta you know,
come off like you're condemning or youknow, just being rude and irrational

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and just you ain't gotta do allthat. But when you're in tuned with
yourself, with your spiritual being,with your your higher power for me is
Jesus. You know what I'm saying. When you're in tuned, you're able
to discern people's energy, their spirits, their motives right, and then you'll

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be able to tell who's gonna writefor you and who's not. And in
doing so, before you can dothat, you you just gotta determine what
level of loyalty are you holding thesepeople? Like why why are we putting
people all the way up here?You know what I'm saying, and like
we can't depend on them for anything, Like if you have to think twice

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about being able to call them forany type of support, whether it's prayer,
which is my first thing, Likethat's something that I've been analyzing lately.
Can I call this person and say, hey, can you pray and
fast with me? I'm really dealingwith this situation and I really need the
Lord to come through for me.But but mind is this combobulated and I
need can you do this? Thinkabout that if you think about a person

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or if a person come to mindand you know that that's a person that
you cannot call on for prayer orfor fasting move around period? Is this
people that we can call or youknow, when we need to vent or
get something off of our chest.That's really not therapy therapy, but it's
something that we're just feeling at themoment, and that's gonna stay within us.

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That conversation is gonna be with usif you think for one second to
dang, I just really need toget this off my chains. But I
can't call such and such. Asmuch as I love him, it ain't
my best friend. They probably gonnagonna tell everybody if you think that for
one second, move around period likeit may hurt, it may be disappointing,

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but we have to change our expectationsbecause without changing our expectations, we're
the one that's hurting. Like we'rethe one that's hurting. We're the one
that's distroyed. We're the one that'sburdened by this. And they're moving on
because they know that they're not thattype of person. You know that they're
not that type of person, butyou don't want to believe it. So

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let's change our expectations. And that'snot for everybody, because God will put
certain people in your life that youcan call and that'll be supportive, and
that's gonna stop and fast and praywith you. You know what I'm saying.
He's gonna he will do that,and I thank him because He's done
that in my life as we speak, like I have a group of people.

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I have friends that I can calland say, hey, let's you
know, they gonna give me thet I might get them a little tea,
Lord forgive us. T ain't theteach that you want to be spilled.
But I have people that I cango through that with. And I
have people that I can call andBayed, I need you all to go
out head shut that down. Justsell little prayer for me. I'm fast

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and then if you can do alittle fast whatever whatever you choose it to
be of your sort, just fastand go before the throne of grace for
me. I got people that Ican do that with. And if you
don't, or if you have peoplein your circle that you cannot do that
with, you need to analyze yourcircle for real. Analyze that circle.

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The second thing, Spiller, Sowe're changing our expectations because, like Boosy
said, we putting people on apedestal, or putting people up here that
don't even deserve to be up here, or that has shown us that they
deserve to be up here. Nowwe are going to change our reaction when
we learned that. Right, y'allheard what Auntie Maya said. Baby,
Auntie Maya said it. Untie Mayasaid, this ain't when missus Wilson,

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it's sad. This is what AuntieMaya said, When God shows you who
people are, or when people showyou, she said, when people show
you who they are. But I'msaying when God shows you because my prayer
is for God to expose people tome. When people show you who they
are, believe it the first time. Period. No, itf ends of

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us about it. And I wasreminded of this quote from my husband dealing
with people and dealing with things,and he's like, Hey, didn't this
happen last year or didn't they AndI'm just like, oh, my goodness,

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like y'all when I say, Icould believe it, But at the
moment, I was just like wow, like yeah, yep, this wasn't
the first time people were showing me, you know what I'm saying, And
then so many things that happened inbetween. I don't care if it's little
things. It's things that matters.When people show you who they are,

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believe them the first time. Insteadof being all bent out of shape about
it, sad, disturbed, don'tknow what to do, affecting our mental
move around, pray about it,give it to God, and move around.
Spillers pastor Mike mccour Junr, whichis somebody I love. I follow
him all the time. I wouldrecommend that you all do that as well.

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He said, be disappointed, butnot be discouraged. So now that
guy has shown you something, givingyou time to sit down and analyze and
dissect it for what it is.Really examine the relationships in your life.
Don't what you're disappointed for. Imean, I mean be disappointed, that's

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okay. But we're not gonna bediscouraged. Absolutely not. Nope, we
not. We're gonna analyze these relationships. Were gonna look for the relationships that
does not bear fruit. Yeah,if they don't bear fruit and it's not
benefiting you spiritually, emotionally, hilariously, because I always say, I've always

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prayed to God if every relationship,even in my marriage, I need to
be able to laugh. Laughter isgood for the soul, its joy.
I need to be able to projectthat. If it ain't in it,
I'm move around, move around,of away, let go let God,
let me, let go. Lorddo what you do. If it's not

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bearing fruit, you have to movearound, and then that'll give you the
opportunity to see those relationships that arefruitful. And once you see those relationships
that are fruitful, where you canpray with one another, support one another
emotionally, spiritually, financially. Yeah, I want to be in a situation
is I ain't gonna always be rich. Thank you Lord. I'm rich now

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speaking, but you know I'm rich. I ain't got no worries, you
know. But if I was toever be in a situation to where I
needed some financial assistance, yeah,God, I want to be able to
look around the people that's in mycircle and be like, yeah, let
me call them and be like,yeah, can you help a sister with
her mortgage? Can you help asister with her daughter's doctorate tuition because her

(36:35):
undergrad and master's is already paid forthat doctorate. You know, they may
say, we stick to you mckins. If it comes to that, can
I call on my friends to say, can you support me without you judging
me and talking about me or tellingeverybody my business? If you got a
situationship around you that's like that movearound that ain't bearing no fruit. Mm
hmmm. It does not matter whoit is, right when it is God

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ordained and not flesh ordained, youwill know. And I feel like,
sometimes fellers, we allow our fleshto keep us in places and situations that
no longer serves us. They don'tserve us, fellers, and we have
to be able to discern and identifythat everybody is not supposed to be connected

(37:23):
to us, Lord him, andI had to learn that the hard way
and I'm still learning that today.It don't matter who it is. Nobody
is exempt and no love lif itis what it is. We're just not
connected. We're in different seasons,different stages, different stages, right,

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And when we are intentional with hearingand seeing where God wants to be and
what He's trying to convey to us, we'll understand. We'll accept with respect.
Okay, Lord, Yeah, thisconnection may be a hindrance for me.
And because this connection situationship, family, friendship, whatever it is,
is a hinderance to me, Ihave to let it go. When you

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let it go, though, yougotta trust God in the process. Trust
that not saying that you're not missingthat on nothing, because as a flesh,
we gonna we're gonna miss that onthat little time up. We're gonna
miss that on that little tea sessionperiod. We're going to miss that on
it. But wherever whatever trajectory Godis taking you in in that moment,

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you're gonna have to be okay withmissing that on these fillers. And I'm
telling y'all what I'm learning I'm tellingy'all, I'm in the season where he
just like sending me down and I'mjust like, huh, literally, I've
had to. Earlier today, Isat in that sub baby, did my
little journal devotion, and after that, I didn't feel overwhelmed. I just

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feel like, Okay, God,yeah, you're doing Yeah, I see,
I feel I feel you keep doing, keep doing what you're doing with
me. I need to wine.I just said it, she said,
let me get a little glass ofwine. I just need to relax because
my mind just but I just knowthis is the season that he has me
in and I can't do nothing aboutit but sit in it. And that's

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what I want to do. Iappreciate that because I feel like when I
sit in these seasons, everything thathe wants to expose to me he is
going to and then at the endof the day, I'm going to make
him proud. I'm gonna make himproud, and I'm gonna pass the test.
That's my goal. Spellers, whenI say and the struggle is real,

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real, the tears, the crime, the praying, it's been real.
I've solicit in my husband and mywhole sixteen year almost almost seventeen year
old daughter, and she's so wise, Thank you God for her. She's
so wise. I have solicit tothem, and y'all know my attitude.

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Lord, help you bless him.Lord. But if I get to cuss
and fuss and it just don't beright, And that's how I know God
is working in me and he's doingsomething in me because I can act a
whole plumb nut and come back tothe two that's in my house that has
to live with me daily, thathas to sleep with me, my husband,

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you know, that has to coverme, pray for me, be
patient with me, still support me, still pay bills and give me money,
and do stuff that I'm probably notworthy of, but they do it.
I don't know what process they trustin, a praying for or whatever
it is, but I know it'swhatever it is, it's God or name

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like God is in the midst ofit. Right. So I said that
to say, not only do wechange our expectations, we have to change
our response. We have to beokay that knowing when we reconnect with when
we disconnect with somebody, the reconnectionmay not be the same as the original

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connection. There's no love loss,right, we really love you. I
still love you. I still gotyour back when I can hang you back.
You know what I'm saying. Istill support you when I can support
you. Right, We just indifferent seasons. And unfortunately, in this
season, I'm me you. I'mbeing intentional with hearing and seeing where God

(41:23):
wants me to go, what hewants me to know, And unfortunately I
no longer want any connections to bea hindrance. So with me avoiding connecting
whatever it is with Him or whateverit is He has for me, I
have to disconnect from whatever could bea hindrance. And that is okay,

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still is Be okay with it.Be okay with disconnecting from whatever could hinder
you from your relationship with God,from whatever it is he's trying to tell
you. We gotta be okay withit. Sometimes, you know, our
flesh wants us that that's my friend. Year. We been turning up up,
you know, we've been on socialmedia showing up people that this is
what we do. We friendship goals, we relationship goals, we situationship goals.

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Baby, Sometimes those social media goalsand the forefront that you're putting on
for social media is a reason foryou being really miserable behind closed doors,
and we got to stop being miserablein front of the world, right,

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that's just that you have to stopbeing miserable for the world. And my
husband taught me that when you're ona marriage, baby listen, I mean
you will learn it then, becausea marriage is continual work. If it's

(42:50):
a marriage that you want to bein, you're going to want to put
in that work, which is somethingthat we want, Thank you Lord.
We want to put in that work, right, But it ain't always going
to be how they how they goodday like. It's not always going to
be the smile smiles, you knowwhat I'm saying. And I said that

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to say people see the happiness inthe great stuff on social media, but
they don't see the work that youput in behind it. That's when you're
putting in work behind it. Soif you're in a situationship or a relationship
that you're just putting on for socialmedia and you're not putting in no work
behind the scenes, what you're doing, what are you doing? Move around?

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Lego, let god, because whatis what? What what is we
doing? Y'all don't have to geta little ebunny in and then yeah,
I have a master's in literacy Kthrough twelve reading and I know all of
the grammatical ways to say things.But I'm from the neighborhood. Sometimes I

(43:57):
like to just let my hair down. We're doing quit fronting's done, Like
my pastor will say, faking andshaking, and be real with you,
because at the end of the day, you have to deal with you and
baby dealing with you behind closed doorswhen the social media cameras are off,

(44:21):
when ain't nothing around you but afly in a while to look baby them
some serious dealings like them? Aresome serious dealings? And how are you
dealing? I'm just saying I knowhow I'm dealing. So we're changing our
expectations. We're changing our reaction andlast feelings. We are changing our response.

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Okay, understand that everybody ain't gonnabe happy with you moving away that
you move, especially those who arenot assigned to you. I talked about
this a few minutes ago. Feellike we forced relationships so much that when
we know a relationship has expired andwe have absolutely nothing in common, we

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ain't excited about being around each other. We just here because another social media
fake post. Uh whatever you wantto call it, but we don't want
to be around each other. Matterof fact, we donet get so used
to this beautiful picture on social media, the family ship's friendship, situationships,

(45:30):
whatever, the post whatever. Wedidn't got so used to it. It's
easy now for us to fake thephonk with it, right, but we
are absolutely miserable inside. Why whychange your response, because if you don't,
you are deming your light. Thepeople gonna talk anyway, That's something

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that I didn't have to learn child. I don't have to learn that my
almost forty years of life. Peoplegonna talk, baby, And since the
social the media of social sis comeout. That's why I always say,
I don't even know I'm bringing sufbut I always say social media to go
back to when you just had tohave a college anyway, don't get me
started, but people gonna talk.The people gonna talk to, people gonna

(46:13):
speculate. The people gonna try toread between the pictures. When I say,
they gonna look at your picture,babe and try to dissect everything.
I see horn such and such,but I don't see such as so oh
win, such a ohchish, sheain't posted, oh chiwh She posted that
she the people gonna people, thepeople go people, and it is extremely

(46:34):
sad, but it's going to happen, right and eventually the people people,
and it's gonna get to you mentallyand emotionally because you can't handle it.
You're not gonna be used to thoseresponses. You're not gonna be used to
less like hm, You're not gonnabe used to people actually reading between the
lines and seeing what's really going on. You're not gonna be used to it,

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right, And with you not beingused to it, it's going to
change the way that you think,the way that you behave, the way
that you project energy. And that'snot good because unfortunately, sometimes they could
come out negatively. They could comeout with you projecting negative energy on social
media or your your fan base,your people, your family, having something

(47:19):
to say, thinking about things thatpeople probably really ain't thinking about, but
you're thinking about because you're trying tokeep up this whole front of facide And
now you gotta justify why you're movingaway you moving or now you want to
think you got imagine imaginary haters andyeah, all that's gonna come to play.
All that's gonna and it's really gonnadetermine if you really posting or you
in your situationships or whatever it isfor likes on social media. You know

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if you're living for them likes.Cause people be living for these likes,
y'all. For real, people berelative living for these likes. And it's
super sad it is, And Ijust pray, Lord, please don't help
me get to a point to whereI live for likes. I always say,
I've said it from day one onthis Spill podcast if where I've always
had an appreciation for social media.For one, it allows me to reconnect

(48:07):
with people that I haven't connected with. But for one one, since I've
been on social media since it firstcame out when I was at Tennessee State
University two thousand and four or five. I remember being in my apartment and
people were like, get on Facebookand you had to do your college email,
and I was only friends with peoplefrom Tennessee State. But when I

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realized I could be friends from peoplethat I graduated from high school with,
I was super excited about it.I've appreciated it since I've been able to
get people to listen to the podcast, get people to catch up on me
and my family show people, Hey, God find the best mut fit.
Like, I don't see nothing wrongwith social media and people like me,

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I do feel like it's okay thatif you need to fast for a little
second because you love it so much, you just scrolling, loving, liking,
laughing that that's what I do withsocial media. Everybody don't do that.
People live for social media. Socialmedia, unfortunately, gives people life,
gives people I'm not even gonna sayprestige, but it makes them feel

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like there's somebody on that app though, because in that bedroom, it's totally
different, right, And so wehave to get to the point to where
when we change our response, we'renot worried about who like what we post
or whatever. On social media,you don't get the interaction from who you're
supposed to get the interaction from,period. But if you're content within yourself,

(49:37):
you're confident, and you know thatyou're not posting for social media likes
or this is not gonna determine yourhappiness or your mental stability, then you'll
be all right if you get twolikes of a thousand likes, Right,
So let's just change our response inthe way that whether people respond to us
on social media or in life period. Everybody ain't gonna rock with you,

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that's perfectly fine. Everybody then rockwith Jesus. Be okay with it,
Be okay with it, but becareful, right, Be careful with who
you're sharing whatever with, whether it'spersonal, whether you need advice, just
be careful, change your response,change your reaction, and be careful.

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Okay, Oh that was a lot. I feel like I talked a lot
about getting let My husband said,baby, oh, I ain't even Finn
pull him up because he'd be like, oh, baby, you be talking.
But tonight, I'm excited that Idid this episode for y'all today because
I promise. I was like,Lord, if I ain't got none to

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say, don't give me nothing.And he just gave me all of this,
and I know it's gonna help somebody, So I'm excited about it.
So I hope that something was saidor done to encourage and motivate you to
move on, spillers, to tothink past people, you know what I'm
saying. To know that to identifywhatever your purpose is, Like, find

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out your purpose, right, andlet's not make social media or people's thoughts
or feelings or opinions of you determinehow we respond or how we react in
any type of situation. Right,be a better you. That's what life
is about. Being a better you. That's something that I'm working towards every

(51:25):
single day. And I'm so proudin this season right now, y'all when
I say your girl is really working, Like I just want my heart to
be good and I'm just trying toget to Heaven at the end of the
day. I'm trying to live thebest life that I can right now and
I am thank you Lord. Andwhen this life is over, I just
need to hear well done, mygood and faithful servant. That's what I

(51:46):
want to hear. What you're tryingto hear spillits okay. So moving on
to our skill encouragement. Since we'vetalked about so much when it comes to
dealing with people, I do wantto put emphasis on trust. It's crazy
speelings because a couple of days ago, my baby girl, McKenzie Danyelle,

(52:06):
she said, we were talking aboutjust the situation and she said to me,
Mama, a friend to all isa friend to none. And I
was like, girl, you're sixteen, almost seventeen, Like what is we
doing? Excuse my ebonic, y'allknow how I get, but I was
appreciative for her having that much wisdom. Then after she said that, a
little bit later, the Bishop NeilEllis said, a faith that has not

(52:30):
been tested is a faith that cannotbe trusted. I was like, ohkay,
God, a friend to all isa friend to none. A taste
of faith that hadn't been tested,which means, don't nobody know? You
went through none, no, noneof that, and the Lord delived you
it can't be trusted, Like,what is you doing? And then after
that, y'all, my therapist,the doctor Bradshaw give mister Wilson College,

(52:55):
y'all. He he tickles me whenhe's talking about my therapist. But anyway,
my therapist says something to me inthe sort of LaToya, Now everybody
can give you exactly what you need. He said, it be okay with
not receiving what you really need frompeople, even those you thought were close
to you, be it family orfriends. You have to be okay with

(53:19):
that. I said, Lord,why is you okay? So you steaded
telling me okay, cool, tellme what you want me to know?
And he put on my spirit andreminded me of Proverbs three five and six.
Trust in the Lord with all thineheart, and lean not on your
own understanding, but in all yourways, Acknowledge him, and he will

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direct your path. Spillers, anyhuman formed relationship, it's gonna disappoint you,
and sometimes, unfortunately, they'll disappointyou to the point to where you
are broken in spirit and nobody.But Jesus can help men that brokenness.

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So instead of us depending on peopleto give us satisfaction, clarity, joy,
love, loyalty, depend on Jesus, Spillers. Okay, let's depend
on him, because first of all, if we depend on him, all
these other things will be added untous. Thank you so much for tuning

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in to the spill podcast. Ilove y'all so much. I appreciate your
support. Keep supporting, and untilnext time, this is your girl,
Missus Wilson and I am signing out.