EPISODE 29- LET ME FIND OUT.....

SPILLERS! WE MISSED YALL! TAP IN AS WE SPEAK ON "OUR MARRIAGE", CAUSE THE PEOPLE BEEN TALKING...SO WE JUST WANT TO CLEAR A FEW THINGS UP! -THE WILSON'S 

Episode Transcript

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Sh it's recorded. Hey world,Welcome to the spill Podcast, your favorite
porecast feature, your favorite firecast hostand residential Mister Wilson, Mister and missus

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Wilson High Spillers, Welcome back toepisode twenty nine. I know it's been
a while. It's been a while. It's but life been life in life
really ain't like being lifing like itain't be. No. I just feel
like I've kind of been tired ofsomething because I have been planning to do

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a new episode and then y'all know, my summer break is coming up,
so y'all know, I'm like readyto push these old episode so I can
prepare myself mentally, emotionally in allof the leaves for season three. But
I've just been tired the last month, so I haven't done anything. And
then and then my residential hosts hadn'treally been like, okay, babe,
you really what we doing? Wilsonpodcast? See Willson, It says mister

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Wilson, the residential host who isthe host. If the host don't come
to work with yes, he hasthe time to lie down because he is
hot. Oh it's bright, Okay, you can turn down all right?

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Well, I am back, andI am excited to be back. I'm
excited at this episode. That's good, baby, Yeah, it's cool.
All of this melanin that's for theYouTube birds, But I'm excited about this
episode. I'm super excited to beback. It's been a while. Y'all
have been on my heart. Shoutout to my super duper duper dope spillers

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who've been patient and who've been actuallylistening to old episodes just to keep this
fuel podcasts in rotation, because Ihave been a little lot laxed. But
I'm here and I'm excited. Somuch has gone on the four weeks that
we've been gone. We've had theexperience and the blessing to experience the totality

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of the eclipse that happened on Aprilthe eighth. So that is a day
that I'll never forget. I gotto experience it with my daughter and my
mother and my cousins, and myhusband was at work with his coworkers,
but we were facetiming and chatting theentire time, so we got to experience
that. Mister Wilson, you wantto say, I'm about to clips something

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like that? Was it exciting foryou. I mean, so I'm just
saying, like, was it ahumbling moment like I feel? And the
reason I say that, yeah,like in the presence of God, Like
to experience something that God does andyou know that it was God that did
it. Men had no say soon like science, you know, was

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able to help the trajectory of thetiming and all of that stuff, but
as far as it happening like itwas all God's hand. So being able
to experience that, yeah, thatwas pretty exciting. It was dope.
But I wasn't, you know,too much exciting because everybody around me was
scared. I was you want togo to well, that's them. Well

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I wasn't. Well, I wasn'tscared. It was just me and me
being prepared because of the attention thatour city and our state brought. There's
a difference. I just wanted tomake sure that we were good as far
as our food and groceries and beingable to wipe our tail because we had
over a million people in our city, and our city is a city of

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a little bit over two hundred thousandresidents, so for us to have an
additional you know, half a millionfolks to come to watch this. It
was the cheapest city. You knowwhat I'm saying. You can see the
perfection of the totality of the eclipse. So I just knew it was gonna
be real traffic and all of that. So it wasn't a fear. I

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was excited in that matter, LikeI just wanted to make sure we were
good and we didn't have to getout of the house for nothing. But
it was an amazing and moments andspill is. I hope that you guys
got to experience and enjoy that dopemoment, But we don't want to get
too far in it. You guysto know what time it is. It
is the mental check in time.This is the time of the episode where

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we do a mental check in withourselves. You are intentional about tapping into
your emotions, your mental emotions,to identify with how you feel mentally.
And when we identify with how wefeel mentally, it's best to use an
emotional word, a word that kindof identifies or expresses your feelings, your

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internal feelings. You know, so, mister Wilson, you are the first
to go how are you mentally?How are you emotionally? I don't know
if I've asked you that in awhile, but how are you ask run
on your podcast? But any way, but every day that I'm a buve

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ground, I'm always gonna be wellgood when I'm going different, Lord,
way me up, up, I'llbe good. He woke me up.
Yeah, because when you're gone,you want babies to identify and we won't
be able to tell how you are. But I'm sure you'll be happy.
And I don't ask you how youare mentally, but everything every single day

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I asked you how you're doing this? Bro? Now? Yeah, my
face was toe up because don't dothat, you will say. I said,
hey, mister Wilson, how areyou? How is your day?
I don't say how are you?Mentally? What do you mean? How
did I introduce this? Did youintroduce? Get ready to do that?
I mean the mental check in?Yeah? So you don't come and be
like that. You don't come likebaby. Yeah, but the way you

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responded, the way that you responded, made it seem like that I could
I don't check in with you periodlike like that you had. Now you
can ask a hard question now,okay, but but do I ask you
how are you? How was yourname Okay, thank you, you just
won't know how we're doing that work. Thank you for responding, spillers.

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I well, all is well withmissus Wilson. Thank God, y'all know
how she's because tell her so,y'all know how the first couple of months
of the year two and a half, three little grats, first two and
a half three months of the year. You know, It's just I had

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a little mental struggle and emotionally Iwas going through a lot. I feel
like I told y'all a long timeago that God had been dealing with me
with people. I have been muchbetter. Hallelujah. Thank God for Jesus,
thank God for prayer, thank Godfor my husband, thank God for
my therapist. All has been well, and I'm just super excited about a

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lot of the tools that I've beenlearning the last couple of months, and
I'm super excited about applying them sothat i can get stronger and much better.
Okay, so spillery, stop,pause for the cause to whatever you
have to do, to do amental chicken, to check in with yourselves.
Remember, mental health is wealth.In order to be wealthy, you
have to be okay mentally. Sopray, all is well, if all

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is and our will say something sothat we can do something, I'm just
the DM away, even if it'sjust the center, prayer for me whatever,
privately, or find somebody that youcan confide in and talk to,
or seek a therapist and Jesus andprayer, but get the help that you
need if you are not okay,okay, all right, Miss Wilson.

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Did you want to add anything tothat? Sir? All right, great,
thank you. This is our mentalcheck in time. I'm sorry,
our social media check in tomes listeningto you. You're doing so good,
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you from there. Okay, misterWilson, you don't have a social media
shot, a put page, ornothing that you want to s shout out,

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so so we just gonna move onand get this party started. We're
moving on to our spilled trend topictime Spillers, y'all know, during this
time of the episode, I talkabout everything black of tea, black black,
Thank God I'm black. Hey,I won't take it back. Shout

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out to miss Charlene from Little Rock, Arkansas for that amazing song. But
anyway, we're just gonna go overa few spilled trends that's been going on
in our black culture recently. Thefirst shout out I want to give to
coach Dawn Staley, the University ofSouth Carolina's women's basketball coach. Y'all know,

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Spiller. She just took home herthird NCAA Women's championship. She went
undefeated this entire season. She's thefirst African American college coach to win three
NCAA championships and the black the secondblack female coach to win it. And
I wanted to make sure I putemphasis on that because a lot of people

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think that she was the first femaleblack coach, but she wasn't. She
was the second. I can't thinkof the lady's name, but the lady
is actually her mentor, and thelady actually gave her like a piece of
a net a while ago, likesome years years before she even won her
first championship as a token for herand she has been literally passing that forward

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and that's been her hope and faithfor her testimony. So shout out to
coach Daley were room for you,girl, I'm room for everything black.
And to see those black girls ofwhat they do, it did something to
me. Shout out to all ofthe black girls black girl magic that also
entered the w EBA. You knowwhat I'm saying. It's been a lot

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of talk because of their pay,just real talk. As an educator,
I'm getting paid more than a few. Oh none at all, baby,
I'm talking about I think the firstcouple of years for Caitlyn Clark and Angel
Rees was like seventy some thousand,like literally, yeah, but you know

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they get their big checks from allof their like the Nike contracts and different
things like that. The first oneKaitlyn Clark, what you mean, because
they gave her twenty eight million justa week of they counseling. Well that's
allegedly, but a couple of weeksago it was money. Well you know

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that's you know, politics with blackwomen anyway, that's neither here nor there.
But just a few a couple ofweeks ago, there was rumors that
she did have like twenty eight millionor something signed with Nike, had it.
But these are allegedly. I don'tknow, but you know I was.
I was looking for Anger's names coinsand the young lady that's from Arkansas.

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I can't think of what is thetown in Arkansas that she's from.
Shout out to her. She wasthe number eleven w NBA draft pick.
But yeah, I'm looking for themto get to get big money. So
shout out to them, to thelady game Hawks and them do you know
what a game hawk is? Yeah, I just I was trying to figure

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out what a game hawk was andI couldn't, so I googled a game
howks feelers, and for y'all thatare like me, they did not know
what a game hawk was, butwanted to know. A game hawk,
y'all is a chicken, right,it is a chicken, a domestic chicken
that is trained for fighting. Isaid, what kind of foolishness, But

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hey, don't matter. Game Icannot keep getting that money stately and keep
recruiting the dopest black girls in theworld because from what I've read and the
testimonial is that those girls have hadto say about you, you are the
ultimate coach and the ultimate human beingthat anybody would want to play for.
Black girl Magic, keep showing upand showing out. Okay, all right?

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Next, I wanted to shout outmy girl again, Queen Bee Queante
her country album start Up. Hercountry album Cowboy Quota was number one on
the country music billboards. And soyou know that that's brought a lot of
heat because the people ain't checking.For a matter of fact, I was

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just showing you a video A couplegirl days ago of that young Caucasian lady
in Iowa who posted that video talkingabout the black folk and saying black folks
don't belong in country and that wemight have been raised or born in the
country picking cotton, but we wasn'tgetting paid allegedly anyway. Shout out to

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Queen Bee for just overcoming the oddsand just showing the people what it is.
But I can I always say itevery time. I'm a person that
believe in giving people their flowers.Kay Michelle was one of the first in
our generation to actually come out andproclaim her love for country music and her
desire to do a country album.And she already had and has a country

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album. Is because of her contractualagreements with her record labels, she hadn't
been able to put it out.So shout out to her. Matter of
fact, Beyonce actually sent her someflowers and told her I see you,
So I appreciate that and that mademe really happy. So shout out to
Queen Bee and Kamasill. All right, but spil tree in topic, mister
Wilson, I wanted to get youropinion on this because this is something that

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was really interesting A young African Americanmale posted on Facebook that he only had
a handful of very close friends,and of those handful of close friends,
he had four of them. Hedeleted, he blocked, and he never
wanted to talk to again because hehad back surgery a month ago, and

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his entire month after the back surgery, he said, nobody called to check
on him, to come see him, to come help him, to come
do nothing. And he said,they show him a lot about them and
their character and how they are aspeople. You know, so when they
out and kicking it the cloud,all that stuff is good, but when
he was actually down and out andneeded help, it was only one of

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those homeboys that came through. Doyou feel do you? And that's what
I said, up to see alot of people are on social media.
He's acting like a female. That'show females act and blah blah blah.

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But I just feel like it hedidn't do anything wrong. And I said
that because when you're down and out, you know what I'm saying, that's
when people really show you who theyare, or you see who people really
are, especially when you need themwhen you are sick surgery, any of
them, I don't feel like youshould have to call anybody for help.
Period. If you've verbally dictated topeople close to you, I'm having surgery,

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I'm having baby, I've been havinga baby, I've been sick,
I've been in a hospital, orI've been going through whatever whatever I feel
like. Those close to you,if you've said something to them, they
should be willing and ready to comethrough for you. Period. You don't
have to call, text nothing.Once you send that text, hey I
just got the hospital. Hey I'mfinna go in the hospital. I'll bet

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to off, like what you need? What we doing? We we door
dashing you food, We coming tosee about you. So that's all you
want to add, mister Wison,we'd done it. You did the same
thing. I'd have called them acustom. I have said something doing though

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before you did it, and Imean, yeah, why I was about
to do it. I've been callingherving you up. He probably ain't did
none of that. Yeah, talkcrazy. And then if they didn't come
up, if they got a goodreason at that time, I wouldn't have
gone them back later on like Idid. JT. He had to put

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his name out God, Yeah,you know he may just call. He
may one day you get on.Well, if you have a friend or
a family member or a person,especially if you're close to them, that

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goes through anything and they dictate thatto you, that means that they said
to you, They tell you,they explain to you, this is what's
going on, and this is what'scoming up, or this is what's been
happening. Extend help, like offerjust say hey, what can I do?
Or hey, plan it? Youknow, because you may have some

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people that don't want help or don'twant assistance, but let them know,
Hey, I'm doing that. Sheused some food tomorrow for breakfast. So
if anybody else is at least tellthem, push them back to lunch,
or just do what you gotta do. Just make sure that you are some
type of support. Okay. Andthen like I say, I mean,
I don't I don't see why heposted it or whatever. You know,

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what I'm saying made it to everybodycan read it. But it's always too
sad to a store. Now hisstore is his part sound good, but
it's always too sad. I mean, you just can't count out. Yeah
you he said a month? Amonth he said once? Ye, No,
he said a month. Not toowell, that's long today. Yeah,

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but that's normally how long it takes, like for a back surgery.
You know what I'm saying. Backsurgeries to me are pretty He didn't call
them and they didn't call him.He did not he did not indicate all
of that. I'm just gonna readyou his post verbatim, and I get
that. It's I always two sidesto the story, but I kind of

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get where he coming from. Hesaid, I just blocked and deleted friendships
with four of my quote unquote homeboys. I had back surgery literally a whole
month ago, and I one ofthese Negroes checked on your boy boy.
I ain't say nothing. I justblocked and let it be. It is
what it is. Negroes really wasn'tmy friend. So we don't know if

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what the relationship or what the conversationwas prior to the back surgery, but
apparently there was some type of expectationswhen it comes to the friendship. Now,
if he posted that, I wouldhope that if those friends ever needed
him in any shape form of fashion, he was the friend that he expected

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them to be when he was down. And now I would hope that that's
the type of person I would beI wouldn't post anything like that personally.
However, when you down and you'regoing through some stuff, it do kind
of make you look at people poolin questioning people in your circle, especially
you know what I'm saying. Whenpeople ain't checking for you, coming through
for it for you, why broadcastYeah, if you ain't talking to them,

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he said they ain't call him,and he didn't reach out to them,
Why tell everybody em every then thathe didn't want the friendship. Well,
what I'm saying, Michael microphone,it's too sade to a story.
Yeah, that's all I'm saying.He might now if it was, if
they was real close, like hegot it all up in there, and

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I can't see them going thirty dayswithout calling them. Yeah, and then
why would he go thirty days withoutcalling them? You the one laid up
in the house ain't doing nothing.They probably working. Call him? What's
up? Man? What you doing? He ain't doing none of that.
Yeah, I don't feel sorry fornow one of them. They probably don't
need each other no way. Wellthat's how I'm gonna look at it.
Y'all don't need to show anyway,but I am going to question, you

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know, I'm not. I'm onhis side when it comes. They went
through it. Have any of yourfriend did you like that? I mean,
I don't been down in that.Don't ask friends and a lot at
the hospital like he's talking about,and not thirty days. I ain't talking
about thirty days a week. Haveyou been laid down a week and ain't
none of your friends called you orchecked on you, or you ain't call
them or you ain't text them.Nah, you ain't got to think about

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nothing? Well, you know,praying for the young man people that goes
through something like that. That thatI just can't imagine being in that situation
though. But Untie my said itbest when people show you who they are,
believe it. He probably showed themhow he was and why he was

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down man sad. Well, youknow they could be too. Like you
said, two sides to a story. Anything else you want to ask everything?
Listen, I'm just I'm just sayingwhat I'm saying. It ain't just
with nothing, It just is whatit is. All right, Feelings are

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movie on, All right, spillers, we are back. This is our

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topic time now. Mister Wilson,I need you to I can't ask you
to be careful with your words.But I don't know what to say.
You got to do it. Soanyway, we have had some people to

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kind of meet you some things,some things were subliminal, and somebody actually
said it to us one time,just questions about our marriage. I'm not
gonna say the validity of it.I guess the authenticity authentic, you know,
if it's authentic or not. SoI just kind of wanted to talk

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about that just for a little bit. We're not gonna spend a lot of
time. We're just gonna wham bam, thank you, ma'am, look in
space. We're not to be aboutto be No, we're not. We're
not gonna do that because we justgot to get straight to the point.
We got spielers that we want toknow what it is, like, what's
going on, what's the topic,what it is. So anyway, I've

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heard some really positive things, mainlyfor the most part positive and nice.
But i've heard I've heard, nownot out of the person's mouth directly,
but indirectly, I've been told somenegative things, and like I guess some
parts of our marriage being superficial andall of that stuff. So I just
kind of wanted to just talk aboutit a little bit. Now, I'm

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not I fin to just sit hereand just air out my marriage and blah
blah blah. I'm gonna tell youwhat works for us, what doesn't work
maybe, and then we'll just gofrom there. Okay, So just a
little background. The Wilsons have beenmarried almost four years y'all. This year,
my fortieth birthday, whoop, willbe our fourth year marriage anniversary.
However, we've been together a totalof five years. This year is five

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years together, four years marriage.We were engaged our entire first year of
our relationship, married the very nextyear, and just been going doing what
we've been doing since rather right,So I do want to say any amount
of time married, whether it's fivedays, five years, forty years,
seventy five years, I feel likeit's super dope, it's super amazing and

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it is a blessing. And Isay that because, as we all know,
especial as Christians, God honors anyreligion period. You know how God
is with marriage. He honors marriage, and he loved marriage very very much.
So what they're being said said,I feel like in our marriage because

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of that, that's one of themain reasons why we try to be intentional
about being our best selves. Belittle. I struggle. Sometimes you do
too. He ain't gonna to admitit. But anyway, being your best
selves in your marriage and being thebest spouse that you can be. And
that's very important, y'all because theenemy, when I say the devil,

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hates the main thing that God broughttogether. Like he that's like a point
that he tries to prove every time, like, yeah, you brought that
together God. But you know whatI'm saying, I'm strong enough I can
get through that thing. But notwith the Wilsons, not with us,
and not with ninety percent of Godor Dame marriages. Right. So,
if you are marriage married, congratulations, God bless you, God bless you.

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Celebrate your marriage, appreciate your marriage, be girth for your marriage,
and do everything that you can toprotect, save and honor your marriage.
Okay, now did we get thatat the way legging down to the nitty
gurriaded mister Wilson, I was listeningto Nonah Jones. I love Nonana Jones.
Shout out to her, y'all haveto google her. She's not like

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this super dup or popular person.But she's super amazing and dope, but
she is amazing. Her and herhusband have been married for about twenty years.
They're fairly young as well. Butshe said that people what people see
is perceived, but they really don'tsee the work that you put into marriage.

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Right, So, and what whenshe says that, I say stuff
like, you know, people thinkthe grass be green on the other side,
but they really don't know what ittakes to keep the grass green.
What do you think, mister Wilson, when it comes to putting in the
necessary work for your marriage? Doyou feel like that it's hard? Do

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you feel like it's worth it?Do you feel obligated? Like how important
do you feel it is to putin work in You're man, it's very
important. I mean it's a questionI'm asking for the people. It's gracious,

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it's very important. But oh,marriage ain't for everybody, though,
Do you really think that? Yeah, okay it said in the battle,
Yeah, because it does. Yeah, I don't see it because because you
don't say it, because you don'tbelieve it, but you believe it for
other people. I don't believe it. I mean I know it. For

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me, I wouldn't be married,right, and it ain't hard to me,
but it can be a tug ofwar if your spouse. Yeah,
I can't handle or deal with certainthings different than you. You know,
it can be a but No.All I do I do is just have
to real sure, really sure?What? Yeah about what that? We

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could? You got to reassure methat. I mean, like, let's
say we get into it. Well, we ain't been into it to the
point, well, well we gotto leave each other. But if it
got to if if we got intoit, we'll come to that. Yeah,
I'm gonna do some real shirt.I still reassure you every day by
being faithful. I mean, youjust real you got a reassured person every

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day. I want to be reassuredevery day. I don't want you.
You got to do a thing Isent you're earlier, the good video,
which one it was about about thehusband, the cheating with the hands sticking
handy, we're talking about that.Yeah, you have to you gotta work

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on it. I mean, evenwhen you got your guard down, you're
working. When things good, you'restill working on it. You really see
it when it's bad, though,but when it's good, you're still working
on it. You still got theSo it's a it's every day process,
it's a life process, and that'sa part of the reassurance. So you're
not reassuring because of security or anything. It's just the work that you're putting

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in so that you can let aperson know the respect. I mean all
that is like if you if youwas coming to getting disrespected, that's anybody
because the last said, that's allthe boil down to his respect, no
matter what it is, is respect. So yeah, if I was coming
in and walking back you and onekissing you, oh yeah, that's so

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I reassure you. It's definitely reassurance. Something like saying words to keep telling
you I ain't going over, I'mhere now. Yeah I don't need to
hear that because I know the ringperiod. But and another thing with reassurance
reassurance to me personally, I feellike it also solidifies that you are present

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in the marriage. And I thinksometimes and like you said, reassurance don't
always have to be words. Andit's not for insecurities, it's not for
none of that. It's so thatyour spouse can let So you can let
your spouse know that you are presentin the marriage. And that's every single
day. Like that's the everyday thing. Because love and action, I mean
love and respect. It is toaction word to action words. Somebody told

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me that. My auntie told methat. When I call her, I
was like, I love you,I miss you. My ain't Lena schat
at her and she's like, loveis an action word. I said,
ooh lord, let me go andget on get on over there to check
on my gear. But that's true. Those are action words. So when
you are putting in the necessary work, you have to put the work in.

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Not only do you have to beintentional about putting the work in,
but you have to put the workin like you have to be excited about
it. You have to be happyto do it. It ain't nothing that
you're just doing just because you gottado it. You know what I'm saying.
You gotta do it, and yougotta do it like with the excitement.
I feel like if you just doingit's got to be every day.

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You know, I say, likea Bible, you gotta line read,
got a study, you got tokeep it for a lifetime. Mm hmm.
That's how you will know. Yougotta keep studying. I know you
missed something missed it. Damn keepreading, keep studying. I need That's

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what I been thinking at the time. Girl, We've been long and now
you're going okay, okay, okay. Well you know that's a part of
putting the work in learning. Andwhen you're putting the work in and learning,
since you brought that up, youcan't let one thing that like missed
your mind up or shocked you.You can't let that to tear you from

(32:51):
the goal. You know what I'msaying. I feel like the goal is
to always grow loving, keep fallingin love with each other every day,
keep loving each other every day,keep learning something about each other, to
love each other more and more.But when stuff happens that throw you off
of that you've never seen or thatyou don't understand, why are you like,
dang all these years later and thisis what we you can't let that

(33:13):
tear you. You still gotta takethat for what it is. And who
said but give me a look?Well I would never say who said it,
but but I've had something I saidWho I didn't mean to say.

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Okay, yeah, somebody said that, they wasn't it just seems superficial,
Like it just seemed too good tobe true. And I think the part
is because I'm a social media person. I tell y'all that all the times
feelings i've had social media, andI'm not bragging or being mean or none
of that or condescending, none ofthat. Literally, I've had social media

(33:57):
since you could only get Facebook becauseit wasn't nothing else. I had Black
Planet, I had a MySpace,but those weren't popping like Facebook. When
Facebook came, you could only getFacebook if you had a college email because
they sent the verification through their emailand it had you have to be active
in order to activate your college email. So what I post I post freely

(34:22):
all the time, and I dopost my family, my husband. I
do that often. At the beginningI married five years ago. Oh you
was getting posted every week, youknow what I'm saying. Now it's other
week, maybe once a month.You know. I don't do it period
because you don't have see what I'msaying. Anyway, I post a lot

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and the thing, and I posteddifferent things, whether we were on vacation,
quick trips out of town, outto eat, date nights, movies,
church, Bible study, like I'vejust posted random seasons and parts of
our lives and somebody just said itwas superficial. It's just like they was
like, it's too good to betrue. Well I didn't ever respond that's

(35:07):
what somebody told me that somebody said. I just said, it is what
it is. They can think whatthey want. But remember we did have
a guest on a podcast a whileago, and I'll let you think about
it. He was really engaged orwhatever. And remember he said he was
like, man, I used towonder if y'all was like vibing for real,
like in real life. I waswondering if y'all was like happy for

(35:30):
real and just being around y'all giveme hope, cause y'all like really best
friends, like y'all love each other, like just watching all y'all talk and
laugh and remember that conversation. SoI'm not saying I see why people can
see it just from Facebook or fromwhatever they see me post. But to
hear him, a grown man actuallysay that, then that kind of let

(35:52):
me know, like, yeah,people really be looking and trying to figure
out do they know you or theyjust the person that told me that it
was it came to them. Andwhen she told me, I don't feel
like she was telling me in alike a messy way that makes sense.
I don't feel like she was beingmessy, but I feel like she was
just like, yeah, because suchand such as like their relationship, it

(36:15):
seemed superficial and I just had tolet them know, you know, I've
been around them. Yeah, sayyou know you can't bite every bone because
it might have been the person thattold you, but I didn't. And
that's the thing I didn't feed intoit. You know what I'm saying When
she said, you know, Ijust let him know I've been around them.
They're solid. Yeah, And Ijust felt like that. I feel
like, Okay, if that's whatyou said, and you know what I'm

(36:37):
saying, you wasn't scratching your yearor being messy. I ain't no faking
about me my two pay boy youand he don't have a too pay just
saying I'll be knowing what he gonnasay anyway. So next to miss to
Wilson, let's move on. Butit's it's I don't feel like that you
have to prove to people what typeof relationship you have. But it's a

(37:00):
blessing when they are people that actuallyspeaks good of your name. When you're
not in the room, so thatain't the blessing. The blessing is the
bond. Are the ones that they'retalking about because that person that's speaking good
and like I said, we neverknow. So it's the bond I mean.
And all people gotta do is bondwith a spouse or they significant other

(37:21):
them, talk to them, sitaround and you know, I know you
like the back of my hand.Wise I thought I did to the other
day. And don't be impatient youtalk about something so stupid. That's what,
oh lord, when you're getting whenyou're bonding with your person, be
patient, give grace like that's apart of Nobody is going to have every

(37:44):
single thing about them that you justlike, adore, love and just want
all day every day. It's justnot going to be that, you know
what I'm saying. But once youwhen you're patient and you're actually intentional about
getting to know that person bonding allof that good stuff, I promise you
the extra it'll I mean, everythingelse it'll come along. I know.

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I know a couple of dudes thatI work with being around they used to
be like a man, you andyour wife. Don't never boy, I
said, and she asked too manyquestions. I mean, but you can
your questions can start a look disagree, No, you just impatient, Like,

(38:30):
let's just keep it wondering my questionsdon't have That's that's the part of
the body I have learned, andafter after almost five years, feelers that
my husband is impatient. He don'tlike to be questioned. I can ask
him something like what time is it. I don't mind being questioned because I

(38:54):
get I mean, I have toanswer a lot of questions. But what
I'm saying is is what's understood andgotta be explained. Like if I get
up to walk to the door andI open the door, don't do that,
baby, is you going outside?Because he can be looking. Really,

(39:17):
he can be opening the garage doorto look outside to make sure the
garage. I'll always lay down beforehe locked the door. Are you stepping
into the garage? Are you justshaking? I'm saying, yeah, I'm
saying I little disagree. It don'teven be a disagreement, it's just be
He'll turn around and look at melike I'm cyd you talked. I'm looking

(39:39):
around you be like, and heasked you nothing, especially if you already
know, you know, and Idon't be going to answer. So as
long as I don't know the answerI'm asked, period, and I'm not
gonna be shamed. I'm not gonnastop. I'm gonna ask what the hell
I want to know? Don't ifyou got if you got a question,

(39:59):
spill it. And you want toask your partner, your spouse asks,
don't nobody care nothing bad what theirresponse gonna be. Who cares if they
get an answer, that's their problem. They gonna have to calm down.
They're gonna have to get their bloodpressure. Dell, not you, because
you just asked a little simple questions. They just needed a simple answer.
And chilence is golden. When sheasked that question, looking as long as

(40:22):
you give an answer, look backat her light. Bosh. You know
see, that's when my mom gonnabe fussing after she listened to these episodes,
because she be like, what theyhell be wrong with y'all? It
don't be me, y'all, Itbe him? It is him. No,
but it ain't nothing. I mean, you know, I don't even
I don't ever be around on talklike that. What the I won't never

(40:44):
hear nothing like that? What thefake. Uh they know they know better
let me hear. Yeah, Igot some words for you. You better
not let me know nothing about yourrelationship because I'm gonna go off because you
lied on me. So I'm gonnalie on you because I said it ain't
perfect. Ain't nothing perfect. Butwe worked. I mean yeah, it's
word like a puzzle. You knowwhat I'm saying. It just got We

(41:05):
ain't perfect, but we you know, like I say what I what I
like, like you bring what youwhat you leg I bring. You can't
get no better than that. We'repower couple after ny after status, Yeah,
we gotta go to work. Status. Yeah we got a little status
though, we got a little status, But our status come from the people

(41:29):
that that see the love. Youknow what I'm saying. That's that because
a lot of people, you knowwhat I'm saying, a lot of people
they I know, they see it. And then, like I said,
it's bad respect. Why would weargue in front of people if we was
gonna k that ain't respect? Andthen if we get to argue around folks,
uh, we have just say becausewhen I say argument, you get

(41:52):
your man, you know, youget messed. What I say spit it
got spit boxes not just really areSo if we get the spit boxing,
what is spit boxing? Well,we're talking back, I want to know.
I'm sure a lot of them knowyeah, And people around like it

(42:14):
can be anything, just saying wesomewhere and you up there talking and I
want my plate? Am ready formy plate? But you talking? I
know you talk, and you knowI'm home. You know you know my
plate? Okay, And I'm like, what's up the blade? And you
ours round my mouth. I'm gonnaleave it that there because I know you're

(42:34):
gonna make it. And if wewas at the house, I will talk
a little more. You know,I just can't pushing it. It's just
playing to push me. But likethat, it'll start something bigger. And
if they see us doing it,that's anybody. They'll try, either me
or you because they feel like,yeah, they are always in and before
you know it, you be intoit with everybody. And it's respect.

(42:55):
You're gonna respect me, You're gonnarespect me, you go because I'm gonna
respect it. And that's a queyou know what I'm saying. And that's
something that I love about us becauseI do talk a lot I'm very social.
It's shut up, especially when we'rearound people. Am in excited and
I'm excited. Don't let me behad of mamosa too. Oh, I'm

(43:16):
whatever the conversation is, I'm init. I'm having fun and so he
know. And I fix my husband'splate. It's like at home. I
fix it. At home, Ido not something. When he cooked,
I don't do he do all tofix him. But when I cook,
ninety five percent of the time,I'm fixing his plate and I'm bringing it
to him. That's just something thatI do. So when we're in public,

(43:38):
definitely gonna be done. So ifhe's waiting on his plate, and
my husband likes to eat, hehas an appetite and when he ready to
eat, he's ready to eat,period. So that social quba, what's
up on my plate? That'll letme know, shut up, fix your
husband's plate, and then you comeback and talk. And I appreciate that
because if he were to say itany different type of way, or to

(43:59):
add something to with on somebody likeit could get us to start down.
You let them talk like it couldbe. And then when that happened,
I ain't got nothing to say toyou with this. Yeah. So it's
the respect that when people say it'sfake, you know what I'm saying that,
that's cause they ain't got the respectthat that you give up that you
give or get. So you knowyou can't. You gotta let them words

(44:22):
because when the person say something likethat, then they watching you. You
know what I'm saying, They lookingfor any slip of and and and the
people be looking and listening, andit's in half of them. I don't
even know. I'll be ald astore and they you toll your wife,
I mean, you told your andI be looking because I don't a dude

(44:42):
asking me somebody like man, Idon't even know how to answer this,
man, I trust you. Iain't knowing nothing, but just for the
fact that this dude, yeah,I mean, I'm like, well,
man, I don't know how toanswer that, but you know what did
you get into? Ain't nothing likethat? Man. I'll be seeing you
on page all the damn it's neton a little social media. Well why

(45:05):
you having because I I don't knowwhat to say. If I say yeah,
you make it. If I sayno, I mean, I don't
know what what, But yeah,you know they are they watching stuff now.
Yeah, I'm learning that and thenI'm seeing that now. So what
that being said, mister Wilson,how do you feel about people saying that
they had married, that that theyadmire your marriage. Like, what reverberation

(45:27):
or response will you give to someonewho says, man, well, you
know what I'm saying, you mydog, you my homie. I just
I admire you and your wife's marriage. Man, I just I admired.
And I tell them you could haveif you married. I tell them you
can have the same thing. Theonly thing I don't do. I'm faithful
and I be at home every night. All I do is church work.

(45:51):
I ain't got baby and pick upin school, almost saying so, I
mean they can see about the wayyou live your actions. I'm telling you
it ain't about words, because youcan tell a person anything. It's you
asked me. If they say whenthey tell me that it's God, they
see it. They don't see mein no streets, they don't and don't

(46:13):
know, so they know it.I don't have dudes around my woman.
I mean, I don't blame likethat that that's a I don't know.
They take a little sip of thejuice getting got hot. I was at
Sam's Spillers a couple of weeks ago, and it was so crazy and ironic.

(46:37):
I was. I had been fussingat my husband because I love,
absolutely love random flowers, and I'mgonna tell you how spells. I told
this negro he had been falling shortbecause he hadn't sent me no flowers or
brought me any flowers home in acouple of months now. Mainly normally he'll
just randomly bring me some flowers whenhe was in the doghouse. At the

(46:58):
doghouse, He's just a flower,this negro. I'm sitting in a tub
one day, y'all, and I'msuper excited I got you some flowers.
I'm like, oh, babe,this is like two weeks ago, y'all.
Were this man that brought me hometomato plants or a fou tomato plants?
If you don't get your at mybak, you want some roses that

(47:22):
you could drop in a jar andthen days later they did. You ain't
putting them a water since you hadthem tomato. I had anyway to what
I was saying, To what Iwas saying. I was in Sam's and
there was this black older man behindme, and then there was another black

(47:45):
man like behind him. The blackman behind him had a big old finger
flowers and they was so pretty.And so the black man that was directly
behind me said, man, youcan go ahead and go. You just
got one thing. He said,oh, brother, thank you so much.
Today is me and my wife's fora fourth anniversary. Oh, and
he was so proud. Spillis.I was like, oh, he said,

(48:07):
so I'm ready to go. Good. She don't know I'm doing this.
I'm ready to go home too.And I was like, oh my
god. And a black man thatwas directly behind me, they let him
go. He was like, that'sgood, brother, congratulations, make God
bless you. He got to tellhis story on how long him and his
wife was married, and I said, well, me and my husband,
I come up on four years thisAugust, y'all. When I say,

(48:29):
and I get crazy because I gotemotional. Those two black men were so
happy when I say, they werelike four years, Holly, look like
literally praising God. One of themsaid, Hallelujah, thank God to God
be the glory. Four years fourdays. Shut up some of my tears.

(48:49):
But he was so excited and hesaid, young lady, keep pushing,
keep going, keep God first,and everything else in y'all marriage a
go is gonna let and you gonnabe all right, y'all got forty more
years. You're gonna be shouting fortyfour years, just like me and my
wife. And he was so excited, and that made me so happy.
That gave me so much hope.I have hope in my marriage and my

(49:14):
relationship, but just in black loveperiod. And I said that today,
I feel like a lot of timespeople I'm not gonna say people shun black
love, but they like minimize it, like they don't put emphasis on how
dope black love is and how importantblack love is, especially for generations to
come. One of the reasons Isaid that because recently, we just had

(49:36):
this NFL draft and it's a wholethread. And I watched the NFL Draft.
I normally watch it every year andI cry like a baby all the
time. But this year, y'all, I was just so in my feelings
because I'm like, where is theblack love? Like I'm seeing a lot
of love with these black athletes that'sriches hell, but it ain't like black

(49:57):
love. I said, I wasseeing a lot the love, but the
visible relationships wasn't black love. Sodo you feel like in our culture today,
mister Wilson, that it's important tothat the kids and the generations to
come see that black love is goodand it's okay to actually be with somebody

(50:20):
from your No, I would,I wouldn't. Yeah, you already you
couldn't finish that question. If ifhe's seen I don't know. And then
one of the athletes, I'm gonnasay this spellings because I took I was
telling the African ones, somebody comein it. She probably can't even say

(50:44):
his dang name. I'm just saying. I just feel like like I'm grateful
for my relationship, and I'm gratefulfor all of the relationships that I get
to see in front of me.You know, I have so many people
in my family, my cousins,my parents of course, god parents,

(51:04):
pastor friends like I see so muchblack love around me. But I feel
like, unfortunately this generation under likethe gen Z and all of the new
ones, I feel like they justdon't really like dang get on your own
team now, don't see it whenthey have seen their mama dog, they
dad out or the daddy doll themama. Okay, I'm saying for the

(51:28):
ones that go get the Caucasian girl, and then for the ones that go
get the have it. I mean, but you know what I'm saying,
you got to you have to understandit's the best thing you have. You
don't know how people raised you canjust you just can't say stuff like that
because they probably was raised in ahousehold like that. Like if you ain't
got if a person raised you andtaught you love, how you're gonna teach

(51:51):
somebody some love? You don't knownothing about love? You know what they
taught you. So if he wasraised, they was raised in the terrible
of household and they mador like theopposite of race. Well, I'm rooting
for black love, and I'm rootingthat people will project black love. If
you are in love and you're black, I need you to show it,

(52:15):
be black and proud and and Iain't. This is nothing against anybody else,
any other race, any of that. This is just my This is
just my perspective. Couple, acouple, A couple, A couple watches

(52:36):
the draft. Baby, I watchedthe first two days. I don't think
I made it through the first twohours hours. Black women don't like when
the black men go get that becauseat the end of the day, when
when when it's time for stuff tobe done the way it needs to be
done. You started off this way, but how you gonna end. I'm
just saying, Johnathan Major allegedly,I'm just saying, like, you know

(52:58):
what it is, come on backhome, like quit quit acting crazy.
We the only difference between I feellike black women we are, we have
more mouth. We were just gonnakind of speak how we feel when we
feel more attitude. But I promiseyou that does not negate the love.
When I say our love runs deep, it's long, it's strong, they

(53:22):
want because getting love out of themdefinitely not that's they now listen and listen
to him. Listen to him.Okay, so we getting As we're wrapping
it up, I can just havea couple more questions for you, mister

(53:44):
Wilson when it comes to dating yourpartner, your spousewim pill if the shoe,
but that I feel like when you'rein a relationship, whether it's a
marriage, a partnership, a lifeship, whatever it is, I feel

(54:07):
like it's important that you date yourspouse. I feel like that period,
like, and the dates don't evenhave to be always be financial, you
know what I'm saying. The datescan be just something that y'all are doing
to spend quality time with each other, watching movies, watching movie. Well,
missus Wilson, I'll say that he'strying to be fun, baby,
because you know, I'm out ofthere. But I enjoy our other dates.

(54:32):
I enjoy us. I call itthe garage chronicles. When we sit
in the garage and we're intentional aboutit. We don't have our phones or
nothing. We're sitting in there,we listening to music, We're talking when
we're outside on in the backyard.You know what I'm saying. If you're
grilling, you know, and ifwe got some music, one got a
couple of drinks flowing. I lovethose type of moments. And now I

(54:53):
love getting dressed up, baby,I love dressing up. Lately, I've
just been getting dressing up for church. Ain't gonna complain, ain't tripping.
But I love dressing up and goingout with my man period. It don't
matter whether it's to church or adate. But I feel like dating is
imperative period in a marriage. Ifeel like that just keeps a lot of

(55:15):
the flowing flowing. So do youhow do you feel about that, mister
Wilson, Well, I don't thinkit keeps the flowing flowing. You know,
it's it's it's add to the flowingto you know, step out here
and now. But you know,sometimes do you know how to? I

(55:37):
wonder some people out? Yeah,use me, don't use me? So
you know how to dress up?You know how to get rid of you
know how to you love to dressup and go out? What about singing
at home? Dressing up at home? Nah, I was just sitting at
home. Oh I like doing that. That's that's the biggest date. That's

(55:58):
the longest date. But we dothat. You want to go out and
be seen, But I love that. It's not that I don't want want
to go out and be seen.I just have a different scenery. There's
a different to be seen. Front, backyard, garage, to damn it.
Take me downtown some we need Likeyou say when you say go out,

(56:22):
you know my going out is takingyou to get something to eat and
seat and chill. You like,like you said, you want to go
downtown where it's crowded and it's alot of people. I don't. I
don't know. We got we goto the out to eat places in the
crowded places, and we go outto places that's not so crowded. But

(56:43):
it's just putting emphasis on making sureyou're doing that. And I'm just saying,
should you do it? How oftenshould it be done? Feeler?
Is that something I need? Yeah? Yeah, because your answer is not
going to be right. I'm notsaying every week. Yeah, we're already
talking about That's why I asked younow, so scup if it was up
to me. Spellers, I feellike you should do something like that at

(57:04):
least twice a week. But that'sjust me. That's just the Missus Wilson.
That's the the Leo Lioness and methat wants to just you know,
get out and live it up.But that's me. For some people,
it can be once a week.For some people, it could be every
other week. For some people it'sonce a month. Spillers, I do
need y'all to let me know,and I know a few of y'all gonna

(57:25):
hit me back and tell me.But how often do you think, mister
Wilson? Oh? I mean,I don't know. I guess whenever the
woman want to go. So acouple of times a week for me and
you have let's just stay out.I'm a homebody, see you, like
you said, you leo, dowant to do this. So when you

(57:45):
want to do that, that's whatyou do. I ain't got to be
around people like that. I don'twant to be around people like this.
So well, when I do go, I go because you want to go.
But nah, I don't want tobe out there like that all the
time. This is my stomach ground. I ain't cool just going there.
Well, just because I have changedmy life. Other people ain't changed their
life. But I don't mind goingout. But many says you want to

(58:08):
go out, You ain't got togo out with me all the time you
go out. And that's one thingI love about our marriage. I will
say, I know how you wiels. I'm not gonna hold you down.
And because if I want to stayhome, you're not gonna make me go.
So if you say just you gohave your fun, and when we
catch eye date, we go.If they said and we said them,

(58:34):
then we go home. But justsitting around, oh, let's go ahead,
y'all. I should see his faceyet because My husband is a huge
introvert, and I've learned. I'veknown that from day one. But one
thing I can say, and I'mappreciative is when I want to get up

(58:58):
and get out, he does notme. He doesn't say where you're going,
what's time, who you're going with? He knows who I'm going with,
and the people that I'm going with. He has their direct phone numbers
and he can text them and saywhere is my wife? Good? What
y'all do you know? Like soI appreciate that that if I got to

(59:19):
text them, y'all gonna walk home, I'm a bust some tag them with
But I'm saying, you had becauseall the time. But I'm saying,
and he just talked. But hehas all of their phone numbers everybody pretty

(59:39):
much that I'm around outside of us. He knows how to get in contact
with them if he couldn't get incontact with me, and God forbid that
would ever be the case. Butthat's why it's important to know your person
and know your partner and know youin the relationship that you're in, because
there may be a time that you'reready to get leading. And I'm that
person, and like I'll be readyto get lit. I'd be wanting to

(01:00:02):
go out, listen to some livemusic, has some fun, kick it,
kick it, and come home andsleep in. And I'm able to
do that without my husband nagging meor whatever when he doesn't want to go
or be a part. And Ijust got like that. I had to
put my foot down to get likethat because you want to go, because
I was, and I was wantingto drag him. If you see your

(01:00:24):
like you said, you've been postingsince you had faith book, if you
if you look at it from thetown we got together to now, we
was going places all the time,oh God, all the time. And
now so we did what you wantto do for the for the first cook
and we got together and then hegonna shut down. Maybe I was going

(01:00:46):
to Texas, he was flying asister out, I was coming down down
on weekends. Maybe we was cackingthat baby I'm talking about living. But
then he do it a little rock. We kicked it a little bit and
he was like, Okay, nah, I mean I don't know nobody,
but down here people know me thatI don't know. Yeah, so when
they see what's up, I haveto fake with him. Get away from

(01:01:10):
him because I don't know him,and he said he knows me. So
I don't like that. Yeah,so I want to go leave. But
in Texas we went out all thetime. We got down here, we
went out all the time. Butsee when you first moved back, we
just recently slowed down because if Idon't stand for something, Okay, now

(01:01:35):
you're talking about we won't go tono more. No we do. We
do stuff that we want to do, but like you, you don't do
like the You're not the live musicin that type of scenery club type person.
So I appreciate that. I'm good. I'm good with going withst we
called live music. I'm good withgoing with Jay and Kat. But as

(01:02:00):
long as we you know, okay, thank you for hearing me. That's
hotter, Okay, So we're gonnawrap it up, mister Wilson. This
is the last thing you know.I'm being on podcasts, especially since i've
had a podcast. Before I startedmy podcast. I loved podcasts. Once
I started my podcast, Baby that'sall I listened to, especially inspirational once
it's and he'd be so sick ofit, y'all, and get you,

(01:02:25):
get you, get you to answeranother question, too much. He come
home. Y'all I have is podcastblasting. I'm talking about the not the
podcast. Okay, good talking.It's never too much for what you behaving

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your times where you'll be talking alot times I don't talk a lot.
Is God good? And what theysay all the time. Okay, that's
what you do. You be talking. I don't have if I don't want
to listen, you don't be wantto listen, but you be asking questions,

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answering questions, and you'll be goingin while I'm talking. You don't
have a problem. I can't justtune you out. Ain't nobody for to
sit around me. And I justblocked my ears, like I don't help
you. Better move because I'm listening. But yeah, no, you won't
take you out too. I mighttake you out on thirty thirty m thirty

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thirties. And you know what I'mgonna say next. But this is our
last question, and were wrapping itup, spellers. He's so extrame.
So I was listening to a podcastrecently, and this is a serious question,
especially for the married people, andthe person on the podcast said,
when you marry a person, youstay married to that person, not for

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that person, but for God,because you made a promise to God.
You didn't make a promise to thatperson, made a promise to God.
So I was listening, I waslike, nah, huh, Listena,
Now I don't know that because Ijust and I said that. I said,

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because nowadays people get married just tosay they are married, but they
realize later the stress and the workthat comes into keeping their marriage and putting
it together, and they disregard thevow that they made to God and just
say to hell with the marriage.And I just don't feel like this,

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Okay, So I do agree whenshe said, you you know, you
know what I'm saying. But that'swhy it's important to know who you're marrying
and know who your person is becauseyou gotta you gotta be for real.
Spill. It's like, if younot this is somebody you you cannot imasure
your life without, then you're justgonna have to take some stuff like you're
gonna had to take it at thechin. What they say, the best

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time, The best time it wasto build a bun. And I don't
know if it's gonna come make thatagain. It was twenty twenty. How
long come? Yep? Twenty twenty, because you couldn't you couldn't run if
you was a gather and our you'regonna talk, you're gonna get into the
person gonna threaten to lead. Idon't go home. Shut up. It's

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bringing up our stuff. You're gonnapray, you gonna do everything. And
that is so true, and that'show I know. That was one of
the things, one of the reasonsthat I knew that you are my person
and you were my husband because COVIDhappened halfway through our engagement. Right I

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was in Little Rock. He wasin Texas, and I was visiting him
for a spring break. Mackenzie wasin Tennessee with her family, and I
was down there with you, andit was just like a weak thing.
Like I literally came like on aSunday or Monday or something, and I
was planning to come back to LittleRock like the next Sunday, and then
COVID happened, and I was offof work. My job said you know,

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you're gonna be at home another week, and so I was like,
Okay, well I'll stay another weekand I'll let m Keenziy stay another week.
And it kept going on, andwhen we realized that we was gonna
be out for the year. Iwas like, well, I'm gonna go
get my stuff and I'll come andjust stay with you. And that was
a test for us to see howwe will be living together around and I
promise it was like I literally waslike, oh my god, like I

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could literally live with him after it, but doing it during it, I
was I couldn't tell because you werethere and I was here when you was
up there during you Oh yeah,that was that was a moment, and
you took my engagement around and thenand you came big. We got to

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talk, and then something happened andsome had I had to go get the
stuff and bring it back. Hepicked my stuff from me. Still I
can't believe it, but I'm saying, all that little stuff it is,
it's either gonna make you a breareak. I agree, it'll make you a

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break. And it made it madeus cause did he look at us,
almost spoke he as married. Iused together, you ain't going nowhere,
pod. Then you know you're thetype of person I say every day that
I'm Finn stop cussing and then Iget then I get see, I get
around you. You know what I'msaying. I get around you and you
get to cuss. So yeah,you know what I'm saying, Lord,

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bless the children. He cussed becausehe wanted to cuss. It ain't got
nothing to do with me, gotnothing do with me. Well, mister
Wilson, thank you for checking inwith us. I appreciate you. But
look, I won't I do wantto say one thing because when you being
here with your guess you're talking tomind. Will you been here with your
guests? Yes, mister residential,y'all be in here for two and a

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half three hours I'm talking about begoing off. But that's because we take
a little break and our break andnormally be like thirty minutes. Y'all take
a break in here and still betalking. But when mister Willison get on
here, I see how you keeplooking at the time. You got a
certain time you want me to geton? Yeah, man, I want
you to. It's it's early.So what spillers, I'm gonna tell y'all
the next time I get on hereif I'm not hosting. Yeah, what

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you're saying? Okay, Yeah,I ain't gonna do all the excited talk
next time I'm I'm like, hey, spills going on this, mister willis
yeah, okay, good, thankyou. So in two weeks, ain't
nobody saying no? Two weeks?Okay here y'all heard she's been going a
long time now, will don't weshouting fact? Now? Miss the resident

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y'all, you got two weeks toget your topic together, get you your
questions and all your stuff, andyou can be in the host chair.
I'm gonna read what you come upwith. No, I want you to
come up with something residential hosts yougotta put labeled. Anyway, Well,
I appreciate you, and I'm surethe spill is appreciate you too. Do
you want to add anything before youdip out on this? Mm hm,

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cause we'll get to talk with itbe another few minutes, all right,
Well, well this will be continuedand we'll come back to this in a
couple of weeks. Spillers, thisis now our spill encouragement. Time to
wrap up this episode. Every marriageor relationship is not always perceived for what
you think it is, good,bad, happy, or sad. Any

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relationship that requires human beings requires work. If it's a relationship you cherish putting
in the work will be a priority, contented, safe and loving. Okay,
God did not create us to bealone. We will always need someone
to lean on or to help us. I don't care how independent you think

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you are or want to be,man or woman. The Bible tells us
that two are better than one,for when one falls, the other is
there to help him get up.Make sure you're choosing relationships that you aren't
alone in, spillers, going tothem with a pure heart, genuine motives

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and love, and make sure thatwhatever you give it's reciprocated. If y'all
aren't feeling each other's cut or fillingeach other up literally physically and figuratively making
each other smile, then you needto evaluate that shit. Thank you so
much for tuning in, Spillers.I love you all. This is your

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girl, Missus Wilson and until nexttime, I am signing out.