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Hey world, Welcome to the SpellPodcast, your favorite podcast featuring your favorite
podcast host, Me, your girl, missus will'sson. Hey spillers, Welcome
to episode thirty of The Spiel Podcast, Season two. Hey, I know
we a little early. I know, y'all like, now, what's going
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on? Miss Wilson got a podcastcoming out on a Friday. What are
we doing? You know, wenormally do Spot Up Spill podcast Tuesdays,
but this week we're gonna do aSpell by Gas Friday. So it's just
for today. This is something thatI won't do often, but I wanted
to do it because what's coming upSunday Mother's Day? And so I wanted
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to do a Mother's Day episode.Remember last year for Mother's Day, we
did an episode with my girls,sei Era and Tanisha. My one of
my favorite cousins, Dionne, hiswife and his baby mother. We did
an episode with them. If youguys have not checked that Day episode,
go back and listen to it.It's dope, it's amazing and it's something
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that you can really learn from.But this is a new year, and
I kind of wanted to do somethingnot different, but just a little different.
I felt like I had something tosay, and it was literally on
my spirit, y'all. And whenstuff is on my spirit, I try
to be obedient and just do it. You know what I'm saying. Like,
I'm not the type of person thatlike God. I feel like God
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tells me to do something, ormy speared or my intuition, my heart
tells me to do something. I'mnot the type of person to shy from
it or run from it. Ido it. And so it was literally
on my heart. It was onmy heart so that I have started my
Mother's Day weekend off amazing with myfamily, with my cousins, with my
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friends in the city, Downtown LittleRock Diddie Jones the YouTubers heard her prior
to the iHeart and Spotify and Applepodcast people. If y'all subscribe and check
in to our YouTube channel, you'llsee it and hear it all. But
d D Jones just kilt it DowntownLittle Rock, and so I'm super duper
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excited from that, and I'm justexcited to be here right And then not
to mention, I'm wrapping up seasontwo. Summer break is coming, y'all
know. I am an educator bytrade. That is what I do.
That is one of my purposes thatI feel like God has called me to
do. That's something that I doby trade by day. We're coming to
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an end with that, and whenwe come to an end with what I
do with my career, because mypop cast is something that I love and
I feel like it's a part ofmy purpose as well, I try to
kind of chill a little bit,you know. I feel like everybody needs
their time to refresh, to rejuvenate, relaxed, restore, and I look
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forward to my honey. I'm justsaying, as an educator, baby,
when the summertime come. Ms Wilsonis really on that. Some mus some
must summer time. Like I'm tryingto chill, you know what I'm saying.
So yeah, I appreciate, appreciateall of my spillers, my supporters
for supporting me and for standing behindme. I appreciate y'all. So with
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that being said, y'all know thebreak coming up. I need y'all to
do what y'all been doing, pickingepisode or two or three or four a
week because I have about eighty episodesout, Like literally, I've been doing
this for two years. So Ihave a few episodes out randomly, pick
an episode, listen to it forthe support and for the help, because
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I feel like all of my episodesare truly blessings and they can help you
and your girl. Gonna be goneinto September, June, July, me
August. I ain't coming back.I'm chilling, I'm relaxing, I'm restoring,
I'm rejuvenating, I'm refreshing. I'mnot podcasting, I'm not working.
I'm doing me and trying to getmyself together so it can be a good
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meet for you. So make sureyou all tune in, tap in support,
Listen to an old episode, sharean old episode, whether it's on
Iheart's Apple podcast, Spotify YouTube,listen to it, share it and support
your girl. Okay, well,spillers, you know what time it is.
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It is mental check in time,the time of the episode where we
are intentional about doing a self mentalcheck. Matter of fact, May is
Mental Health Awareness Month. One ofmy favorite months because this is a month
where I'm able to advocate. Thisis a time that I'm able to publicly
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and proudly advocate for something that isso dear to me, that it is
so important to me, and thatis mental health awareness, Spillers, it
is my duty and responsibility to checkon my people, make sure y'all are
well mentally, make sure y'all aregood emotionally. So stop, pause for
the cause. Do whatever it isnecessary to get in positions so that you
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can do yourself mental check. Okay, how you doing, spillers, how
you feeling? What's going on?Like they say in Jamaica and the West,
these walk one where we do it. Okay, spillers, all is
well with Missus Wilson. I'm actuallyin one of my favorite spaces, one
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of my favorite seasons. Y'all know, my most favorite season is autumn.
It's fall. I absolutely love everythingfall. But when it comes to late
spring, summer, early summer,because late summer be hot as hell,
but I still like the heat.I'm a fireside, I'm a leo,
so I can't help it. Butwhen it comes to this time, Spillers,
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I am super excited. I feellike, I don't know, I
just love the sun, so Iget to bond with the sun. I'm
learning now that yeah you're you're aboutto be forty, Missus Wilson, and
yeah you love the sun, andyeah you have that good melon in but
you gotta protect that melon is melaninas well. So y'all don't judge me,
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but I'm I'm literally that black girlthat goes and basking the sun.
Was sitting in my backyard, halfnaked, laid in the grass, just
basking in the sun, no sunscreenon nothing. I'm learning. I'm learning.
Don't judge me judging men, don'tjudge me. I'm learning. I
know now that I gotta use sometype of sunscreen or some type of protection
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on my melanin. But this isone of my favorite seasons where I get
to bask in the sun, whereI get to appreciate God's creation, something
that God did for us, andI'm super excited about it. I love
the sunshine. I love everything aboutit as chocolate as I am. Baby,
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I go in the sun, chocolate, I come out chocolate, tea,
chocolate. Like my husband say,dark chocolate. Baby, you go
out there, chocolate, you comein the super dark chocolate. That's what
he say. But I'm okay withthat because I love that sunshine does exactly
what they're supposed to do for memental and spiritually and emotionally. Whenever I'm
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in the sun, I just feela huge difference. I feel a difference
in my peace, I feel adifference in my joy. I just feel
an amazing difference after my sunshine visit. So because I like that feeling,
Spillers, that's something that I chasedaily. Okay, but all is well.
I've been getting my sunshine, myVitamin D, I've been drinking my
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water. I've been walking a lot. I've even added a little bit of
weightlifting to my workout Regimond, like, not a lot of weightlifting, but
just a little bit just to kindof get my muscles, like pumping a
little bit, you know what I'msaying, a couple of times a week,
but doing so just to make surethat I'm doing some self love work.
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My good friend Missy said, it'simportant to do a self love check.
So a part of our mental healthcheck in Spillers, it has to
be a self love check in donewell. My Angeens said, Baby,
if the devil ain't trying you andeverything in your life is perfect, then
you really need to figure out whatis wrong with you, what's going on?
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Because we know the enemy, weknow it's how he works, and
we know that he tries to influenceeverything around him in the most negative way,
right, and he does that daily. Right. So if it's good,
that all is well. But ifyou're not being tested or tried and
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everything is just perfect, scratch theback of your ear a little bit and
trying to get intuned and aligned spiritually. Right, Other than that, chin
up, trust God, Let gogive it to him. Let him fix
it whatever it is. Let amendall of your broken and bruised places and
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he will. Other than that,all is well. Have my mo moments
to where I've cried. I'm alady that does devotions every single morning.
That's the first thing that I dobefore I hit social media, before I
check my bank account because y'all spilling? Am I the only one that like
check my bank account every like Iknow exactly what's going on with my friends
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every day all day. But Ipromise you every morning, like once that
devotion, once I'm done with thatBible app, when I'm done with the
Google Bible, once I'm done withthe Holy Bible, I'm gonna go to
the credit Union to see what's goingon with those queens? Like, Am
I the only one that does that? If I'm not the only one that
does that, Let me know,Spillers, because I just need to know
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that I'm not the only one thatit does it. But anyway, I
have been being very intentional about findingmy joy even in my seasons of distressed,
Spillers, when I say hell couldbe in broke loose literally hell in
real life, but I personally andI can testify that God will show up
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when I say it will show up, and he'll allow something to happen or
happen like something that had already happenedin the past. That'll give me so
much joy and it'll bring me somuch joy into me Speelings. That's a
reminder from God that yes, youmight be going through, Yes everything may
be all good from the outside lookingin, right, but for you,
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my child, I'm in the midst. I'm still in the blessing business.
I got you, I'm here foryou, and I'm here with you.
So, Spillers, with all ofthat being said, and that was a
lot, y'all know, I justsaid a lot with the last three fold
minutes. I pray all is well. If all is and I will say
something so that we can do something. Y'all know how I feel mental health
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is important in order to be wealthy. You have to be healthy mentally.
If you are not okay, ifyou are not healthy or wealthy or where
you want to be mentally, saysomething Spillery so that we can do something.
Okay, All right, now weare moving on. This is our
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A rite Fillers, take a sipof your water, coffee, wine,
juice, punch pop. You know, black folk, we say pop
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in the South where I'm from Littleark Arkansas, some people say soda.
I don't know, carbonated. Idon't know what you say, but take
a sip of it real quick,just to take a sip. And I'm
gonna take a sip of my redwine. It might be morning to you,
it might be early afternoon where youare, but it's happy hour somewhere.
So I'm a toast real quick andtake a sip of my wine.
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You y'all heard that, do y'all? We are now moving on to our
spill trend topic town Now, listen, it's been a lie going on in
the culture. Spillers a lot.When I say it's been a lie going
on. Listen, listen, it'sbeen a lot going on. We at
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the Kendrick and Drake rap beef.I just really hope. I mean it's
been really really good. Y'all knowme. I appreciated Kendrick and Drake.
But if you know Missus Wilson,if you know Toya, you know Kendrick
has been one of my big stepof us. I mean, it's just
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we're gonna be all right. It'sjust a bunch of I've been a Kendrick
fan for a long time. Iliterally see myself walking up and down the
hills at Booker Arts Elementary School inLittle Arc, Arkansas, listening to Kendrick
Lamar Butterfly record like I've just been. I've always walked with Kendrick. I've
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rocked with Drake too, like I'velistened to his records traveling. I think
we were on our way to whichof Tie, Kansas to visit one of
my favorite one of my favorite unclethat's out of town. We were on
our way to visit him, andwe listened to one a couple of Drake
albums, So I ain't mad itneither one of them. Kendrick been killing
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up anyway. That didn't hit upthere the topic the spiel Tree, and
topic baby Kendrick and Lamar. Ipray that if it's if they made at
each other for real, that theyfind some type of difference baby, because
this ain't what it is anyway.The cat Williams, y'all know, he
just came out with a Netflix special. I did get to watch it live
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with my husband. I'm not gonnalie. I did those off and fall
asleep, and I missed some partsthat probably was important, But the parts
that I saw, they were goodand funny. I did put on my
schedule for this weekend to watch it, so I'm going to watch it again
this weekend so that I can makesure I didn't miss anything. Right.
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The Governor and the Bronx, youknow, she said that the black Cheerren
didn't know what a computer was orhow to say computer. Allegedly, whatever
she said, it won't right,listen. I hate that she singled out
the black children and the black racewith this comment because truthfully, and I
don't feel any of these gen z, none of these children really know what
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a computer is for a for real, Like I remember in nineteen ninety nine,
two thousand and twenty sixth the Broadway, my mother with my grandmother literally
getting us a computer for the firsttime and us having to try to get
on the internet and use dial up. That means we had to make sure
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that if anybody called, they weren'tgonna go through because we got to use
the phone line to connect to thedial up, and we had a whole
big old computer, screen box whatever, and to keep paying that was separate.
It wasn't like the laptops or noneof that. Anyway, I don't
think no children really know what acomputer is for her, So for her
to just say the black children didn't, that bothered me on a whole different
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level. I'm not even gonna gothere, you know what I'm saying,
because I ain't. None of thesecheerren had to unplug the house phone and
get the dial up start it period. As far as I'm concerned, all
they've known are tablets, iPads,laptops, and now their cell phones does
everything that they need to be done. And I thank God for technology and
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I'm happy. I'm not hating onit the mad period. But I just
feel like that governor. I'm noteven gonna say her name because she she
missed. She vicxed my spirit.She bothered me so bad. I feel
like she was like, yeah,why you say black Cheerren, She'd have
said it all up period anyway.And then my girlfriend Tasia, her husband
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covered her in prayer, which ismy absolutely favorite trend. So with that
being said, that's the one I'mgonna spend a little time on the rest
of them. Y'all already know whaty'all can do. Go look them up,
do what y'all got to do tofigure out what was going on was
going on. But anyway, I'mabout to talk about a Asia and Kindle,
and it's spent a couple of secondson Kindle hugging his wife publicly.
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People really don't know what's going on. They just think it's a hug and
sin Taja raises that right hand orleft hand, whichever hend she raised,
just letting us know that the babyher husband is covering her and prayer,
he's publicly praying for her. Iget chills thinking about it for real.
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A couple of weeks ago, somebodytook a picture of Fantasia and Kindle.
They were hugging, and they werein a hugging posture like they were hugging.
Y'all know how the hugging posture is, especially if her husband and wife.
It's just a little bit closer andmore intimate and more sensual than a
regular side hug. Because I'm aside hug type person. Unless it's my
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husband, my daughter, I'm hugginghuggie, but regular people, no hate,
no nothing, It's just I'm sideHuggy's right anyway. And in the
midst of them hugging, Fantasia raisedone of her hands. I really couldn't
tell if it was her left orright hand, but she raised it in
her hand was big as hell.Y'all see that big old hand up in
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the air. Yeah, praising God, thank God. Whatever she y'all know,
we know what Fantasia baby. Weknow she's a child of the King.
Baby. She had that hand up, letting us know that. Yeah,
this is what we're doing with thathand being raised. In the black
culture, spillers, that is anindication of someone speaking something into you or
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praying to you, and you're actuallyreceiving it. And that's what it looks
like to be in that image.Fantasia husband was praying for her, he
was covering her baby, and shehad that hand up, receiving it.
But I don't even know what tosay. And looking at the image,
I don't think that it was somethingthat the husband was trying to do to
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make it public. I don't thinkit was something that he was doing so
that the people can look and noticeor catch on. But Baby, it
was so powerful that his wife,she couldn't do none of us but raise
her head. Look y'all see meyoutubeer. She couldn't do nothing but throw
the hand up, throw it up. I receive it. I receive it.
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Everything that you're speaking to me intomy situation, I receive it.
And it was so amazing because somebodyjust randomly captured that moment, baby,
that put every black woman. Baby, Baby, you talking about proud spill
us, that put the black women, the sisters in a proud up war.
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Do you hear me? We all? And when I say we,
I'm talking about we black women.The culture one a man that can provide
for us and protect us. Butit's nothing, baby, hit me out.
Is nothing like a black man thatknows God and knows how to cover
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his queen in prayer. I canreally, I really want to scream and
say that, but you know,my podcast from my house is only so
big, so I can only getso loud. A back you talking about
sex. Shit. I don't carehow attractive we are to you. I
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don't care how much we love you. I don't care how much how beautiful
we think you are. When youcover us in prayer, my God,
that does something different to the woman'ssoul. But we'll give you something you
ain't never have unlessen, we'll makeyou feel something you ain't never felt.
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Y'all, listen, cover your blackqueen and prayer and let it be sincere,
and let it be. I'm almostready to end this podcast. I
can go in that master bedroom,but do it, do it. I'm
just saying that makes you even morefine to us, more sexier to us,
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more attractive to us. Because weare living in an era and an
age that women, we can prettymuch do it the hospitalings, y'all know,
I N D E P E ND E n T. Do you
know what that means? Listen,we can pretty much do it all.
We can do it at all.There is nothing that we can't do,
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but the independence is really limited.Like I personally don't like twenty twenty four.
I don't feel like it's broad enough. Okay, May ten, twenty
twenty four. It being independent isnot broad enough, right, because we
already do it all. We canalready do it, like we know we
ain't gotta settle, We know thatwe ain't gotta put up with whatever and
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anything just to say that we havea man, We know that, right,
But we want a man. Butwe need a man who has a
relationship with the God first, areal relationship with God. Like it ain't
for play play, it ain't fake. It ain't nothing he doing just to
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get us in, just to rillus in and make us feel like,
yeah, sis, you're the strongblack woman, you this and that,
but you got your strong black sampsonnahga like negro yea allegedly or however you're
supposed to see it on this hereairway. We don't need all it.
We need somebody that's real about thething, that's sincere about the thing,
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and that can receive whatever it isthat we'll bring in to it, right,
A real relationship with God. Right, So if he is not covering
you, if your man, yourhusband, your partner, your spouse,
whatever it is that you want tolabel him as, if he is not
covering you in prayer. He's noteffectively leading you or leading your house,
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and that's problematic, that's problematics.Feelers. I'm just saying, who wants
somebody that is not leading them theirhouse, their children? Like, no,
we're not doing it, We're notdoing it. No more, ladies.
We ain't even got into the topthe topic. But that's gonna be
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a part of the topic. Butif we ain't got a man And I
don't know what Kindle and Fantasia reallyhas going on, but what I see,
what they project, I'm loving it. And let's be clear, it's
feelers because oftentimes I feel like personally, we get so caught up and what
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we see a lot of times wejudge what we see, whether it's negatively
or positively. We judge what wesee and we run with it. You
really don't know what you're seeing,right. We think that the grass is
green on the other side or onthat side, and the grass is really
brown, it's dead, it's weeded, it is horrible, or the opposite,
the grass is really really green.That's not your job to judge it,
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Like, who are we to judgejudging? You will be judged so
we ain't doing no judging. Butwhatever they project, whatever they put out
there, if it's something that youadmire, that you appreciate, it's okay
to agree with that. It's okayto say I love what they got going
on, right, that's fine todo. That's fine to do. So
with that being said, don't assume, don't guess, and because I'll be
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having to catch myself because I lovelove, y'all, I love love.
I love black love. Oh blacklove is my absolutely favorite. I love
it. But I really don't knowwhat's going on. But whatever they're projecting,
I'm all for it. Okay,So whatever people projects, be good
with that, Like, be onboard with that, because if they projecting
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it, then that's probably believe whatit is. Every relationship goes through their
trials, had struggles, had hardtimes. But y'all, let's just be
real. People look at your relationshipand be like, oh my god,
they're just so amazing, they're thebest coup oh blah blah blah. But
behind closed doors, you know it'swork. You know, you really having
to put that work in. Beokay with that? Hey, what people
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seeing what it is and if theyask you, God is good. You
know, give God his glory.Don't try to say, girl, we
work hard will knowledge. Just sayGod is good, and yes, it's
a relationship worth working for because it'sone worth having. And I say that
because spiritual warfare is real. Spillers, it's real. If your husband is
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not protecting you in prayer, ifyou're not protecting him in prayer, you're
in trouble. Period. The devilwants to steal. My auntie just did
a devotion a couple of days ago. The steal is real. I think
it was James ten and ten orJohn ten and ten where the devil comes
to steal, killing, destroyed baby. She did that. He wants to
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steal and deprive you of as muchas he can so he can get into
your mind, you speach your heartand destroy everything that you've worked extremely hard
for, including your relationships. Andyou're married and maybe y'all y'all know the
marriages. Oh, he really beon the marriages because he hates what God
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loves. And everybody knows that anythingthat God loves and adore, the devil
tries to destroy, and marriage isone of God's favorite things relationships, so
he's super intentional about trying to destroyit. And I say, I say
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it all the time, but I'msaying now, protect your marriage, protect
your relationship at all costs, asif you would protect your wife your life.
You gotta do it. You haveto do it. You gotta be
strong, you gotta be step fast, you gotta be on that thing.
You gotta do it, feelings,because if you don't do it, baby
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say, I'm gonna try to doit. And when he get in it
and get his hands on it,the struggle gonna be real. And it's
coming from a witness. The struggle. Struggle is going to be real.
But you have to be able tobe so aligned and so in tune spiritually,
mentally, emotionally that you can realizeand identify that yeah, it's satan.
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Let me go ahead and do whatI know how to do best.
Pray, plead the blood of Jesus. That is, declare, decrease or
decree I said, decrease the realwine anyway, and just do your part.
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Just do your part. Spells right. So say, out of time,
protect your marriage like you would yourlife, Protect it like you would
your life. The image of Fantasiaand Kindle is it's timeless. Like it's
it's absolutely beautiful. Like I don'tknow to say, I don't know what
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else the ad. I mean,it's just it's beautiful. It's something that
I would want for my marriage,and my husband does that for us.
You know what I'm saying, he'snot I don't think Kendall was even being
public in that moment, So Ican't even say that he's not public like
that because he will hug me andyou know what I'm saying it, Yeah,
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I don't know, but to seethat was absolutely beautiful and it's something
that I feel like should be done. I feel like it's something that's necessary.
And cover your wives, cover yourhusband's. It's hard out here,
Like people think marriage is just soeasy, and it's so and it is.
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It's easy, it's beautiful, it'sall that, it's everything that y'all
think it is, But it's workthat comes behind it. And the work
that comes behind it is because theenemy wants to destroy it. It doesn't
matter how happy you are, howgrateful you are, the enemy wants to
destroy it. And if you lethim get in just a little bit,
baby gonna get in, babe.Pray over your marriage. Pray over your
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spouse individually and collectively. Listen.I told my husband a long time ago,
baby, when you pray over me, you pray for me. Baby.
I'm mad here, like missus kenClark, like I feel like I'm
a superwoman. Get wake me upin the morning and say, come on,
let me pray real quick before Igo to work. I ain't no
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good. I ain't no good.When I say I ain't no good,
I ain't no good. I ain'tno good. Spillers, right, So
make sure that you when you're writingyour list out, make sure you add
a prey am in to your list. Make sure you and somebody that's going
to cover your soul. Right,make sure you add somebody that you can
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cover. But I just for me, I just feel like it's just even
more important when they can cover you. Okay, all rights fillers, we
are moving on. I hope youall enjoyed those jazz tunes from Trap Jazz,
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Title, y'all. I know Igotta get it together, this meg book
Pro and this Apple form. Igot to get with Apple Music, but
I joined Title. I'm going totell y'all when Beyonce's Lemonade CD came out,
y'all know when they came out,like twenty sixteen, fifteen sixteen,
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maybe seventeen. Whenever a Lemonade cameout, jay Z had just took some
type of ownership with Title, andTitle was the only platform that had the
Lemonade album. So I downloaded Lemonade, then downloaded Title then so that I
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can have Lemonade, and I justmissed the And it's good anyway. You
the shit, says you the shethat's our spill topic time tonight. Y'all
know, it's Mother's Day week,ind and my spirit said Missus Wilson.
Missus Woolson said, huh. Andinstead of coming out with a new episode,
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y'all know how I'll do every otherTuesday. My spirit literally said,
come out with something before Mother's Dayso that you can give the ladies a
push to celebrate them selves. Sowith that being said spill is what y'all
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doing. How y'all doing. Ireally hope that you all realize that you
really are the shit. I'm notgonna say it all the way, but
y'all know what I mean, right. I hope you know women, lady,
these sisters, friends, that y'allreally are important. I hope you
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are reminded every single day that youwake up that you are responsible for human
existence. Baby. If it wasn'tfor you, we wouldn't be here like
what we're doing, we wouldn't behere. So I really hope you realize
that no matter what you're dealing with, no matter what you're going through,
no matter what you are facing,the strength of a woman it's unmatched.
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We thank God for Adam, Thankyou Lord, right, hally lujah,
even more for Eve baby, becauseif it wasn't for even if they wouldn't
exist, you wouldn't exist, wewouldn't exist. So let's go ahead and
get into it. I'm gonna startoff with my single mamas. Be ah
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b why m A m A.This goes out to ah, my baby
Mama's I got for my baby mammas. Y'all y'all no Fantasyeah, yeah,
y'all know how I feel about Fantasia, So make sure you gonna listen to
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baby Mama about Fantasia. That isone of my anthem songs, feelers.
I've been married almost four years,a couple months short of four years,
but prior to my husband's existence,Baby, I played it the hell out
of the song and still play thehell out of it. And that's one
of my mother's day anthems, likeI plays it right anyway to my single
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mother's listen. I know exactly whatit feels like to be a single mama.
Single mama, the world is onyour shoulders. I mean, it's
only you, right, that's whatyou feel like. That's what we feel
like, it's only us. Alot of times we really don't ask to
be an these situations, like wedon't want to be no single mama for
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you know, the situation just kindof happen. Had a situation happens,
but it is what it is.When we are identified, when we are
chosen to be the custodial parent forour child, because God chose. That's
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why when I say when we're chosen, I say that God makes that happen
for us, right, He makesus the custodial parents. He makes us,
the parents the child's guidance. Becauseof that, we ain't got none
to do, y'all, but putour big girls y'alls on, like period.
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I mean, it's just something thatwe are dealt with. So because
we are dealt with that, that'sthe cards that we're dealt with. Square
up, period, Like, wejust gotta square up. It is what
it is. We take it forwhat it is. We're not complaining,
you know what I'm saying, Likeit could be a lot worse, but
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God chose us for this season,for this situation. So let's square up.
Let's put our big girl draws on. Matter of fact, I like
my big girl draws laced period.I'm just saying, put them on,
and let's stand against business with ourparenting for our children by enemies necessary when
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it comes to raising successful, compassionate, strong, independent, loving, loyal,
and beautiful law abiding citizens, ladies, we have to square up.
We gotta square up because anything thedevil tries to throw your weight, and
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he's going to try to throw ityour way, period. Because you are
a mama and you are single mama, you gotta be able to handle it.
You gotta do everything that you canall the time and at the best
that you can all the time,and be absolutely okay with it. That's
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the part that truths me out,like dang, I ain't sign up for
this, this what we're doing,Like, oh, okay, yeah,
gotta be okay with it. Youhave to be okay with it. You
have to do everything that you can, ladies, all the time, every
time, and be the best.When it comes to being a parent,
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whether it's a single parent or aparent with another parent, you gotta do
your part. You have to doyour part right, and you gotta do
it with fidelity. I don't thinkpeople always say, you know, I'm
a single mom or I'm a singledad, and I'm not taking any things
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from the father's period, because thisis a lady's you just she episode,
So this is for the ladies.But I feel like as a single parent,
sometimes people take that and wear thatas a badge of honor. Right,
I'm a single parent, I'm single, I'm raising this child all by
myself. As if you're not supposedto, who the hell else gonna do
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it? Like being a single parent, I feel like it's a badge of
honor. But I feel like it'slike who else gonna do it? Like,
if you don't do it, whoelse gonna do it? You have
to do it, and when youdo it, you gotta do it with
joy, You gotta do it withpride, and you gotta put one hundred
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percent effort into doing it and makingsure that you're doing it with fidelity.
But I don't feel like it's abadge of honor And I don't feel like
it's a bad because I feel likebeing a parent is a blessing period,
Like that's a blessing. That's somethingthat God rewards us with. It's really
a gift, you know what I'msaying. It's something that He rewards us
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with. And because God's God givesus that gift, Yeah, wear it
as a badge of honor, buthumbly, if I can say that,
humbly, I feel like we getso consumed in the thoughts of if I
don't do it, who else gonnado it? Then nobody else can do
it. But when we take thelimits of God, we will really see
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and know maybe who else gonna doit. But bed like he got a
plethora, he got a whole seaof options that he can choose to do
what you do. So let's wearour badge of honor as being a parent
or a single parent. But let'swear it humbly. Okay, let's not
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get so consumed. It's okay tomake sure that our kids have everything.
Let me make that clear. It'sokay to make sure that our kids have
everything. We do any and everythingto make sure that our kids are good.
Make sure that they're happy, makesure that they're at peace, make
sure that they straight period. Butlet's not get so contuned in that spill
is that we forget about ourselves.Take some time for you, ladies,
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Take some time for you. Goon a walk, a good walk on
a trail or in your neighborhood.Go on a good walk to the park,
take yourself to brunch, a moviedate, a dinner date. Get
you some good vitamin D. It'sso free. Oh it's beautiful, it's
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free. I love it. Listen, I love it. But we ain't
gonna get into that real quick.Take a solo date, a solo trip.
Make sure you do not forget aboutyourself, spillers, that's important for
your mental health. Right. Sometimesbeing a single parent, the negative effect
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can be that we don't we forgetabout ourselves. We so consumed with our
children, our child and what theyhave going on, the things that we
need to make sure that they adhereto or go to or participate in or
be a part of, that,we forget about ourselves. And that is
not good. That's a not okay, that's not being wealthy mentally, and
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y'all know, I am. Inorder to be healthy, you gotta be
mentally and I'm sorry, in orderto be wealthy, you gotta be mentally
healthy. So let's not get soconsumed in our children, their lives and
what they get going on that weforget about ourselves. Okay, it's important,
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and I feel like if you don't, I don't know how to say
that in a good way. Butif you don't kind of put yourself first
and not even necessarily put yourself first, forget to heal, because hell you
can't. You can't even really dowhat you can do for your child if
you're not showing up the way thatyou're supposed to show up. So make
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sure that you're good. Make surethat you're good first. Okay. Single
parenting is not all that bad,but if we don't do what we're supposed
to do for ourselves. Then wemake it bad. Okay, we make
it bad. Listen, It's ourjob to make sure that we are good
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and make sure that our children aregood. One of my favorite Baba verses
that I read or I live offof scriptures is training up a child in
the way that when it get old, they won't depart. That's something that
I live off of because I wasa single mother for a long time before
the Lord blessed me with my boyass like I was, it was just
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me, her dad. Her familywas in a whole another state, and
yeah, she visited for summers andspring breaks and Christmas all that, and
I made sure because I wanted tomake sure that I did my part in
making sure that the relationship that shehad with them was good. But at
the end of the day, I'mher custodial parent. I'm who she's with
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all the time, and I wantedto make sure my baby was good.
But during that I also spillers hadto make sure that I was good because
I didn't want to be so caughtup in making sure I got her here,
there, everywhere. And in themidst of getting her here, there,
everywhere, I'm here, there,everywhere. Now, hell no,
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I need to be here present atall times. So make sure single mama's
mamas of new babies, bonus mamas, as single mamas, make sure that
you are present. Okay, ifyou're a present and your prison for their
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child children, you good, You'regood, You're good, right. And
I do want to say this becauseI feel like a lot of people feel
like they're with it being the twoparent household that children. Oh they're good.
You know they got that. Myman dad or my man stepmom or
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stepdad, they're good. Bonus parentsdo make a two parent household, and
we thank God for that. I'mone of those bonus parents that's thankful for
my bonus parents and my household.How we'll burn with the smack of the
lips. Some married women or womenwith bonus children or men with bonus children
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are single parents as well. We'retalking about situations where the husband or the
wife has to work a lot,can't miss work. So with them not
being able to miss work, they'renot able to make all of the events
right. They don't get home intime enough to take the babies in.
Say a prayer with Now, letme danna see they're not. They ain't
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they home? Do that they candrop off or pick up the babies from
school. And let's be honest,they can be very overwhelming for the at
hand or the parent that's present,whether it's the mama or dad, the
single parent, they can be veryoverwhelming. If you are in that situation,
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it takes some time for you toIt's like, bro, like what
we're doing, take some time foryou. If the husband is home,
or when the husband is home orthe wife is at home, and you've
been doing what you're doing with thecheering, going back and forth, dropping
off, picking up, stopping by, going in, signing paper, was
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dropping off, picking up cash orders, money orders. I'm a waitness.
Go assside, go out, saidlike sep, go asside. Take some
time for you. You deserve it. You deserve the peace. And in
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order to make sure that you aregood and you are healthy mentally, you
got to do what's best for you. You gotta make sure that you are
doing things that are benefiting your mentalhealth and your spiritual health. I'm just
saying, listens, feelers, Mypeople know me, y'all. Let family,
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friends, foals, haters, people, that's just sitting and watching maybe
one thing they know about Missus Wilson. If I don't do nothing else,
I'm a glass side. I'm goingto go outside. I'm the type of
and that my way of debriefing ismaybe a lot different than any and everybody
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else's right, like, I'm justnot them. I'm going outside and my
family friends to know me. Y'allknow my husband is introvert. That's the
first thing. The second thing ishe's not really an outside person, but
he knows his wife. He'll tellyou maybe my wife likes to be outside
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as long as their location on.I know, listen, I know she's
good. If I feel if Iget worried, I can contact whoever to
make sure she's strung. I'm goingoutside, Missus Wilson's going outside. I'm
going outside. Listen. I needa mental debrief more than quite a few
people. So I'm going to getthat. And I just feel, like
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Phillis, it is important that yourealize or that you're able to realize and
identify that if you need to needa mental debrief, that you're able to
do that, whether you're single,whether you're married, do that, get
your go out, get your debriefed, and everybody going outside is different.
You're going outside might be twiddling yourtoes at the house on the Thursday in
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front of my I love that too. I love to be able to twiddle
my toes, watch my movies,chill, not be bothering the boy.
I say all the time. Mycousin Jerome Hunter, Baby, he'll work
by the nerves trying to get meto get out, do something, take
your video, shot something. Idon't be with that all the time.
A lot of times I be withit majority of the times, but sometimes
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I be on to Twitter my toesand sit still too. That is okay.
They might be your going outside.Do it. Whatever makes you happy,
whatever gives you a zen, asense of peace, do it.
It is important. It's important,topillis. It is important for the ladies
that desire to bear a child butcan't or haven't been able to yet.
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Keep the faith. I don't reallylike talking about that much, that subject
too much, because I feel likeit's super duper duper sensitive and my heart
just really aches for you. AllI can do is pray that all is
well. I can say, havefaith, keep praying, keep the faith,
seek God, trust God. Likethat's all I can say. God
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don't make mistakes like he doesn't.But while you're in this season, tap
into your purpose. Ask God forclarity on exactly what it is that you're
supposed to do or what it isthat he wants you to learn or understand
during this journey. Don't go far, you know what I'm saying, and
sweeping stuff under the rug and painsand stuff that you got going on that
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you relate. Fear out what's goingon with you. Fear out what was
going on with the situation, thecurrent situation. Do all that. Get
it together, go to therapy ifyou need to. But spillers, don't
dwell on what you cannot have.I personally feel like when you dwell on
that, it heightens depression and fromthere it's a down It's just a downward
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spiral. Like pretty much over it. You know what I'm saying. But
you don't deserve that. You donot deserve deserve that. Always find joy
in every single moment as often aspossible. Life is so short and it's
impossible that we do not waste itin a sad and depressive state. I
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feel like that, like that's onethat's something for real. Don't why are
you sad, depressed, ungrateful,as good as God is. I'm the
most celebratorily person ever. Baby,I'm gonna celebrate. Listen, Miss Wilson,
don't do nothing, She's gonna say, I'm find a reason to celebrate.
Asks my husband and my daughter.They quite sick of it, my
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mama, even like girl, I'mso sicky. They sick of it.
Baby, we can wake up andI'd be like, oh, y'all.
The Lord then gave us another dayat a ten thousand days. That's me,
and we're finna turn up. We'refinish celebrate because he has done it
for us. I find reasons dailyto say, I'm finna get up,
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baby, mamosis after work, Bay, let's prop some champagne. Let's go
Ahassidely, God is good. Wejust hear we living. Listen, blessing.
That's me. Mister Wilson can tellyou, baby, if I don't
do nothing, that's from buy someflowers. If he don't get none,
I'm gonna buy something. I'ma pickthem for my school guarden. Thank you
Lord, I've been blessed with theschool. They got a flower garden.
I'm gonna get some flowers, baby, I'm gonna put him in one of
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them good cute bases I got atthe house. I'm gonna come put them
in there, put them in frontof that bay window. Pop us a
little bottle and listen to and celebrate. Just celebrate life. It's important.
It is important. Pill us celebratelife. Single mother on the way,
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mother desire to be a mother,but the motherhood just thinking quite came in
there. It's quick. Celebrate.Celebrate. To the ladies whose mothers are
in heaven, I cannot relate toyou, but my heart goes out for
you. I pray for you oftenbecause I that's something that I can't imagine.
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I'm sure it's painful. I knowthat it is painful. But it's
your job to celebrate them. Sisters. You gotta celebrate them. I listen,
babe, they so happy, andI had to bush your bubble.
They wouldn't even want to come backif they could. That's how happy they
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are. That's how happy and amazingHeaven is. That they're not even worried
about what's going on down here onthis here earth. They ain't worried about
it. They ain't. They knowGod got you, so they know you
good. But the joy and thepeace and the happiness that they have in
heaven and their listen, speak theirnames. If they have a tombstone,
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go get some nice flowers, cleantheir two stone tombstones. Put some flowers
in front of their tombstones. Listento the type of music that they like.
You know, sometimes we get sadwhen we listen to music or movies
and stuff. I now, Iwouldn't suggest the movies. I just my
daddy gone and I ain't. Weain't Father's Day came yet. My grandmother
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just left me a couple of yearsago. I don't want to listen to
watching Matt Locke and Texas Ranger allthat, because it'll make me murdercy roll.
That'll make me a little sad becauseI think about my grandma. But
I'm going to listen to some musicthat I know my grandmother or my dad
would have loved. I'm gone.You know what I'm saying. Have a
michelobe because that's what my dad did. You know what I'm saying. Do
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whatever it is that you can doto celebrate them. Celebrate them. Think
about the things that they did thatmade you smile and made you happy,
and enjoy it. It may behard. You may have to cry,
and that is absolutely okay, butdon't cry, and don't be sad for
long. Make it a celebration,because that's what they would want. Feelers.
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My pastor told me a few yearsago, and I never forget.
I was kind of struggling because Ifeel like, you know, my dad
was so young when he died.He was fifty one fifty two when he
died. I done had a coupleof glasses of wine, so I can
give you the exact age, butit was twenty twelve. He was born
in fifty nine. Y'all do themath. But he was so young,
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and I was like, God like, he was just right at his you
know what I'm saying, Like hewas just getting started. And my dad
like, really was that she's inhis ZAYI in my little scurvy. Was
he really was? But I justcouldn't understand why. And I was sad
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and I was questioning. I'm like, okay, God like, what we
got going on? What we're doing? And my pastor said, celebrate him.
When your loved one transition celebrates.Think of some things that they love
to do, Think of some thingsthat they enjoyed, and incorporate that into
your celebration for them. You know, be sad for a minute, It's
okay. It's all right for youto be sad and cry because you miss
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them physically. But God's sadness onlylasts for a moment. The Bible tells
us that his sadness is only fora moment, but his favor is a
lifetime. Hum So if God isonly sad for a moment, with whatever
the situation may be, y'all,sadness need to be less than a moment,
you know what I'm saying. Likewe've been may and do for a
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night, but joy comes in themorning. Embrace that joy, know that
the joy is coming, look forwardto that joy and be good. Like
be good. And that's what Ido now, Like I try to be
good. I try to look forthat joy. And I celebrated, and
in the midst of celebrating it,I appreciate it. I get my praise
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on because I'm like God, Yeah, his time will short, but you
you allow me to experience a littlebit of that time. So for that,
I'm grateful. And look at thatin the moments to where you're missing
your mom, you're missing that motherfigure in your life. Your God,
they left me soon you you cameand got them a little early. But
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thank you for the time that yougave me with them, thank you for
the memories that they left. Likethat goes back to what I said earlier,
looking for the good and the bad. Easier said than done. But
it's but it's something that you gottado. If you are struggling, spillers
with a relationship with your mother.Your mother's not around bid incarceration streets,
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y'all know what it is. Showus some grace, put your pride aside,
and handle your business. You knowbetter. So because you know better,
do better, do better. Youonly get one mother. You're only
allowed to be a mother wants onearth, whether it's with one child or
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million children, it only happens onetime. So I said something earlier about
taking that badge of honor with beinga parent. But when you take that
badge of honor, you gotta takeit, and you gotta do right with
it and buy it because at theend of the day, God is watching
us. He watching, y'all knowhe watching, and y'all know how he
feel about cheering and parents. Baby, He want us to obey them.
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Parents. He told us to obeythem, parents, and he told them
parents to not to provoke us.I'm just saying, we all have a
responsibility and a role to take,and we must take it serious and we
must do right by it. Wegotta do right by it because at the
end of the day, God iswatching us. And yeah, sayey Red
did say, y'all not gonna asksome foolish this. At the end of
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the day, they gonna end.But when it ends forever, Spiller,
spoop, you gots to be theone that answer to the big man above
what they say, the big manupstairs, what you're doing with your with
your mam and daddy that I gaveyou on this earth, this earth,
not the heaven rim, but theearthly rim. I gave them to you.
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Hey, you treat them what youdo to them. So, yeah,
it may be hard. Yeah,you may be mad. Let go
and let God baby forgive everything elsethat ain't your beasiness sake. I'll handle
that. Let God do it right, cause he got it. That's all,
ladies. At the end of theday, the day gonna end.
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And I'm just saying, but forreal, Spillers, remember y'all the sheese
naives. We all are the sheep. Celebrate yourselves this weekend. Don't let
nothing or no one stop you fromenjoying. You spillers, let go and
let God do good and do right. So we're moving on to our spill
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encouragement time. Proverbs fourteen one saysa wise woman boots her house, while
a foolish woman tears her house downwith her own words. Spillers, get
out the way. Ooh, movearound, get out the way, and
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stay out of your own way.If you need you with some spillers,
see God. Ask God how tobe the wise woman that he designed you
to be. Matter of fact,go just open Proverbs one and just read
all of them outer chapters. Allthe versus the disc gona help you.
I'm just telling you, it's gonnahelp you. After you do that,
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make sure you are seeking God inyour praying. But still it's don't be
foolish. Okay, this is yourgirl. Missus Wilson. Thank you all
for tuning in with my quick Mother'sDay special. I love you all.
Hey world, Welcome to the SpellPodcast, your favorite podcast featuring your favorite
podcast host, Me, your girl, missus will'sson. Hey spillers, Welcome
to episode thirty of The Spiel Podcast, Season two. Hey, I know
we a little early. I know, y'all like, now, what's going
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on? Miss Wilson got a podcastcoming out on a Friday. What are
we doing? You know, wenormally do Spot Up Spill podcast Tuesdays,
but this week we're gonna do aSpell by Gas Friday. So it's just
for today. This is something thatI won't do often, but I wanted
to do it because what's coming upSunday Mother's Day? And so I wanted
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to do a Mother's Day episode.Remember last year for Mother's Day, we
did an episode with my girls,sei Era and Tanisha. My one of
my favorite cousins, Dionne, hiswife and his baby mother. We did
an episode with them. If youguys have not checked that Day episode,
go back and listen to it.It's dope, it's amazing and it's something
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that you can really learn from.But this is a new year, and
I kind of wanted to do somethingnot different, but just a little different.
I felt like I had something tosay, and it was literally on
my spirit, y'all. And whenstuff is on my spirit, I try
to be obedient and just do it. You know what I'm saying. Like,
I'm not the type of person thatlike God. I feel like God
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tells me to do something, ormy speared or my intuition, my heart
tells me to do something. I'mnot the type of person to shy from
it or run from it. Ido it. And so it was literally
on my heart. It was onmy heart so that I have started my
Mother's Day weekend off amazing with myfamily, with my cousins, with my
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friends in the city, Downtown LittleRock Diddie Jones the YouTubers heard her prior
to the iHeart and Spotify and Applepodcast people. If y'all subscribe and check
in to our YouTube channel, you'llsee it and hear it all. But
d D Jones just kilt it DowntownLittle Rock, and so I'm super duper
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excited from that, and I'm justexcited to be here right And then not
to mention, I'm wrapping up seasontwo. Summer break is coming, y'all
know. I am an educator bytrade. That is what I do.
That is one of my purposes thatI feel like God has called me to
do. That's something that I doby trade by day. We're coming to
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an end with that, and whenwe come to an end with what I
do with my career, because mypop cast is something that I love and
I feel like it's a part ofmy purpose as well, I try to
kind of chill a little bit,you know. I feel like everybody needs
their time to refresh, to rejuvenate, relaxed, restore, and I look
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forward to my honey. I'm justsaying, as an educator, baby,
when the summertime come. Ms Wilsonis really on that. Some mus some
must summer time. Like I'm tryingto chill, you know what I'm saying.
So yeah, I appreciate, appreciateall of my spillers, my supporters
for supporting me and for standing behindme. I appreciate y'all. So with
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that being said, y'all know thebreak coming up. I need y'all to
do what y'all been doing, pickingepisode or two or three or four a
week because I have about eighty episodesout, Like literally, I've been doing
this for two years. So Ihave a few episodes out randomly, pick
an episode, listen to it forthe support and for the help, because
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I feel like all of my episodesare truly blessings and they can help you
and your girl. Gonna be goneinto September, June, July, me
August. I ain't coming back.I'm chilling, I'm relaxing, I'm restoring,
I'm rejuvenating, I'm refreshing. I'mnot podcasting, I'm not working.
I'm doing me and trying to getmyself together so it can be a good
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meet for you. So make sureyou all tune in, tap in support,
Listen to an old episode, sharean old episode, whether it's on
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your girl. Okay, well,spillers, you know what time it is.
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It is mental check in time,the time of the episode where we
are intentional about doing a self mentalcheck. Matter of fact, May is
Mental Health Awareness Month. One ofmy favorite months because this is a month
where I'm able to advocate. Thisis a time that I'm able to publicly
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and proudly advocate for something that isso dear to me, that it is
so important to me, and thatis mental health awareness, Spillers, it
is my duty and responsibility to checkon my people, make sure y'all are
well mentally, make sure y'all aregood emotionally. So stop, pause for
the cause. Do whatever it isnecessary to get in positions so that you
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can do yourself mental check. Okay, how you doing, spillers, how
you feeling? What's going on?Like they say in Jamaica and the West,
these walk one where we do it. Okay, spillers, all is
well with Missus Wilson. I'm actuallyin one of my favorite spaces, one
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of my favorite seasons. Y'all know, my most favorite season is autumn.
It's fall. I absolutely love everythingfall. But when it comes to late
spring, summer, early summer,because late summer be hot as hell,
but I still like the heat.I'm a fireside, I'm a leo,
so I can't help it. Butwhen it comes to this time, Spillers,
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I am super excited. I feellike, I don't know, I
just love the sun, so Iget to bond with the sun. I'm
learning now that yeah you're you're aboutto be forty, Missus Wilson, and
yeah you love the sun, andyeah you have that good melon in but
you gotta protect that melon is melaninas well. So y'all don't judge me,
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but I'm I'm literally that black girlthat goes and basking the sun.
Was sitting in my backyard, halfnaked, laid in the grass, just
basking in the sun, no sunscreenon nothing. I'm learning. I'm learning.
Don't judge me judging men, don'tjudge me. I'm learning. I
know now that I gotta use sometype of sunscreen or some type of protection
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on my melanin. But this isone of my favorite seasons where I get
to bask in the sun, whereI get to appreciate God's creation, something
that God did for us, andI'm super excited about it. I love
the sunshine. I love everything aboutit as chocolate as I am. Baby,
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I go in the sun, chocolate, I come out chocolate, tea,
chocolate. Like my husband say,dark chocolate. Baby, you go
out there, chocolate, you comein the super dark chocolate. That's what
he say. But I'm okay withthat because I love that sunshine does exactly
what they're supposed to do for memental and spiritually and emotionally. Whenever I'm
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in the sun, I just feela huge difference. I feel a difference
in my peace, I feel adifference in my joy. I just feel
an amazing difference after my sunshine visit. So because I like that feeling,
Spillers, that's something that I chasedaily. Okay, but all is well.
I've been getting my sunshine, myVitamin D, I've been drinking my
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water. I've been walking a lot. I've even added a little bit of
weightlifting to my workout Regimond, like, not a lot of weightlifting, but
just a little bit just to kindof get my muscles, like pumping a
little bit, you know what I'msaying, a couple of times a week,
but doing so just to make surethat I'm doing some self love work.
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My good friend Missy said, it'simportant to do a self love check.
So a part of our mental healthcheck in Spillers, it has to
be a self love check in donewell. My Angeens said, Baby,
if the devil ain't trying you andeverything in your life is perfect, then
you really need to figure out whatis wrong with you, what's going on?
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Because we know the enemy, weknow it's how he works, and
we know that he tries to influenceeverything around him in the most negative way,
right, and he does that daily. Right. So if it's good,
that all is well. But ifyou're not being tested or tried and
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everything is just perfect, scratch theback of your ear a little bit and
trying to get intuned and aligned spiritually. Right, Other than that, chin
up, trust God, Let gogive it to him. Let him fix
it whatever it is. Let amendall of your broken and bruised places and
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he will. Other than that,all is well. Have my mo moments
to where I've cried. I'm alady that does devotions every single morning.
That's the first thing that I dobefore I hit social media, before I
check my bank account because y'all spilling? Am I the only one that like
check my bank account every like Iknow exactly what's going on with my friends
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every day all day. But Ipromise you every morning, like once that
devotion, once I'm done with thatBible app, when I'm done with the
Google Bible, once I'm done withthe Holy Bible, I'm gonna go to
the credit Union to see what's goingon with those queens? Like, Am
I the only one that does that? If I'm not the only one that
does that, Let me know,Spillers, because I just need to know
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that I'm not the only one thatit does it. But anyway, I
have been being very intentional about findingmy joy even in my seasons of distressed,
Spillers, when I say hell couldbe in broke loose literally hell in
real life, but I personally andI can testify that God will show up
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when I say it will show up, and he'll allow something to happen or
happen like something that had already happenedin the past. That'll give me so
much joy and it'll bring me somuch joy into me Speelings. That's a
reminder from God that yes, youmight be going through, Yes everything may
be all good from the outside lookingin, right, but for you,
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my child, I'm in the midst. I'm still in the blessing business.
I got you, I'm here foryou, and I'm here with you.
So, Spillers, with all ofthat being said, and that was a
lot, y'all know, I justsaid a lot with the last three fold
minutes. I pray all is well. If all is and I will say
something so that we can do something. Y'all know how I feel mental health
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is important in order to be wealthy. You have to be healthy mentally.
If you are not okay, ifyou are not healthy or wealthy or where
you want to be mentally, saysomething Spillery so that we can do something.
Okay, All right, now weare moving on. This is our
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A rite Fillers, take a sipof your water, coffee, wine,
juice, punch pop. You know, black folk, we say pop
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in the South where I'm from Littleark Arkansas, some people say soda.
I don't know, carbonated. Idon't know what you say, but take
a sip of it real quick,just to take a sip. And I'm
gonna take a sip of my redwine. It might be morning to you,
it might be early afternoon where youare, but it's happy hour somewhere.
So I'm a toast real quick andtake a sip of my wine.
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You y'all heard that, do y'all? We are now moving on to our
spill trend topic town Now, listen, it's been a lie going on in
the culture. Spillers a lot.When I say it's been a lie going
on. Listen, listen, it'sbeen a lot going on. We at
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the Kendrick and Drake rap beef.I just really hope. I mean it's
been really really good. Y'all knowme. I appreciated Kendrick and Drake.
But if you know Missus Wilson,if you know Toya, you know Kendrick
has been one of my big stepof us. I mean, it's just
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we're gonna be all right. It'sjust a bunch of I've been a Kendrick
fan for a long time. Iliterally see myself walking up and down the
hills at Booker Arts Elementary School inLittle Arc, Arkansas, listening to Kendrick
Lamar Butterfly record like I've just been. I've always walked with Kendrick. I've
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rocked with Drake too, like I'velistened to his records traveling. I think
we were on our way to whichof Tie, Kansas to visit one of
my favorite one of my favorite unclethat's out of town. We were on
our way to visit him, andwe listened to one a couple of Drake
albums, So I ain't mad itneither one of them. Kendrick been killing
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up anyway. That didn't hit upthere the topic the spiel Tree, and
topic baby Kendrick and Lamar. Ipray that if it's if they made at
each other for real, that theyfind some type of difference baby, because
this ain't what it is anyway.The cat Williams, y'all know, he
just came out with a Netflix special. I did get to watch it live
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with my husband. I'm not gonnalie. I did those off and fall
asleep, and I missed some partsthat probably was important, But the parts
that I saw, they were goodand funny. I did put on my
schedule for this weekend to watch it, so I'm going to watch it again
this weekend so that I can makesure I didn't miss anything. Right.
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The Governor and the Bronx, youknow, she said that the black Cheerren
didn't know what a computer was orhow to say computer. Allegedly, whatever
she said, it won't right,listen. I hate that she singled out
the black children and the black racewith this comment because truthfully, and I
don't feel any of these gen z, none of these children really know what
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a computer is for a for real, Like I remember in nineteen ninety nine,
two thousand and twenty sixth the Broadway, my mother with my grandmother literally
getting us a computer for the firsttime and us having to try to get
on the internet and use dial up. That means we had to make sure
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that if anybody called, they weren'tgonna go through because we got to use
the phone line to connect to thedial up, and we had a whole
big old computer, screen box whatever, and to keep paying that was separate.
It wasn't like the laptops or noneof that. Anyway, I don't
think no children really know what acomputer is for her, So for her
to just say the black children didn't, that bothered me on a whole different
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level. I'm not even gonna gothere, you know what I'm saying,
because I ain't. None of thesecheerren had to unplug the house phone and
get the dial up start it period. As far as I'm concerned, all
they've known are tablets, iPads,laptops, and now their cell phones does
everything that they need to be done. And I thank God for technology and
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I'm happy. I'm not hating onit the mad period. But I just
feel like that governor. I'm noteven gonna say her name because she she
missed. She vicxed my spirit.She bothered me so bad. I feel
like she was like, yeah,why you say black Cheerren, She'd have
said it all up period anyway.And then my girlfriend Tasia, her husband
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covered her in prayer, which ismy absolutely favorite trend. So with that
being said, that's the one I'mgonna spend a little time on the rest
of them. Y'all already know whaty'all can do. Go look them up,
do what y'all got to do tofigure out what was going on was
going on. But anyway, I'mabout to talk about a Asia and Kindle,
and it's spent a couple of secondson Kindle hugging his wife publicly.
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People really don't know what's going on. They just think it's a hug and
sin Taja raises that right hand orleft hand, whichever hend she raised,
just letting us know that the babyher husband is covering her and prayer,
he's publicly praying for her. Iget chills thinking about it for real.
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A couple of weeks ago, somebodytook a picture of Fantasia and Kindle.
They were hugging, and they werein a hugging posture like they were hugging.
Y'all know how the hugging posture is, especially if her husband and wife.
It's just a little bit closer andmore intimate and more sensual than a
regular side hug. Because I'm aside hug type person. Unless it's my
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husband, my daughter, I'm hugginghuggie, but regular people, no hate,
no nothing, It's just I'm sideHuggy's right anyway. And in the
midst of them hugging, Fantasia raisedone of her hands. I really couldn't
tell if it was her left orright hand, but she raised it in
her hand was big as hell.Y'all see that big old hand up in
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the air. Yeah, praising God, thank God. Whatever she y'all know,
we know what Fantasia baby. Weknow she's a child of the King.
Baby. She had that hand up, letting us know that. Yeah,
this is what we're doing with thathand being raised. In the black
culture, spillers, that is anindication of someone speaking something into you or
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praying to you, and you're actuallyreceiving it. And that's what it looks
like to be in that image.Fantasia husband was praying for her, he
was covering her baby, and shehad that hand up, receiving it.
But I don't even know what tosay. And looking at the image,
I don't think that it was somethingthat the husband was trying to do to
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make it public. I don't thinkit was something that he was doing so
that the people can look and noticeor catch on. But Baby, it
was so powerful that his wife,she couldn't do none of us but raise
her head. Look y'all see meyoutubeer. She couldn't do nothing but throw
the hand up, throw it up. I receive it. I receive it.
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Everything that you're speaking to me intomy situation, I receive it.
And it was so amazing because somebodyjust randomly captured that moment, baby,
that put every black woman. Baby, Baby, you talking about proud spill
us, that put the black women, the sisters in a proud up war.
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Do you hear me? We all? And when I say we,
I'm talking about we black women.The culture one a man that can provide
for us and protect us. Butit's nothing, baby, hit me out.
Is nothing like a black man thatknows God and knows how to cover
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his queen in prayer. I canreally, I really want to scream and
say that, but you know,my podcast from my house is only so
big, so I can only getso loud. A back you talking about
sex. Shit. I don't carehow attractive we are to you. I
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don't care how much we love you. I don't care how much how beautiful
we think you are. When youcover us in prayer, my God,
that does something different to the woman'ssoul. But we'll give you something you
ain't never have unlessen, we'll makeyou feel something you ain't never felt.
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Y'all, listen, cover your blackqueen and prayer and let it be sincere,
and let it be. I'm almostready to end this podcast. I
can go in that master bedroom,but do it, do it. I'm
just saying that makes you even morefine to us, more sexier to us,
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more attractive to us. Because weare living in an era and an
age that women, we can prettymuch do it the hospitalings, y'all know,
I N D E P E ND E n T. Do you
know what that means? Listen,we can pretty much do it all.
We can do it at all.There is nothing that we can't do,
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but the independence is really limited.Like I personally don't like twenty twenty four.
I don't feel like it's broad enough. Okay, May ten, twenty
twenty four. It being independent isnot broad enough, right, because we
already do it all. We canalready do it, like we know we
ain't gotta settle, We know thatwe ain't gotta put up with whatever and
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anything just to say that we havea man, We know that, right,
But we want a man. Butwe need a man who has a
relationship with the God first, areal relationship with God. Like it ain't
for play play, it ain't fake. It ain't nothing he doing just to
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get us in, just to rillus in and make us feel like,
yeah, sis, you're the strongblack woman, you this and that,
but you got your strong black sampsonnahga like negro yea allegedly or however you're
supposed to see it on this hereairway. We don't need all it.
We need somebody that's real about thething, that's sincere about the thing,
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and that can receive whatever it isthat we'll bring in to it, right,
A real relationship with God. Right, So if he is not covering
you, if your man, yourhusband, your partner, your spouse,
whatever it is that you want tolabel him as, if he is not
covering you in prayer. He's noteffectively leading you or leading your house,
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and that's problematic, that's problematics.Feelers. I'm just saying, who wants
somebody that is not leading them theirhouse, their children? Like, no,
we're not doing it, We're notdoing it. No more, ladies.
We ain't even got into the topthe topic. But that's gonna be
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a part of the topic. Butif we ain't got a man And I
don't know what Kindle and Fantasia reallyhas going on, but what I see,
what they project, I'm loving it. And let's be clear, it's
feelers because oftentimes I feel like personally, we get so caught up and what
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we see a lot of times wejudge what we see, whether it's negatively
or positively. We judge what wesee and we run with it. You
really don't know what you're seeing,right. We think that the grass is
green on the other side or onthat side, and the grass is really
brown, it's dead, it's weeded, it is horrible, or the opposite,
the grass is really really green.That's not your job to judge it,
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Like, who are we to judgejudging? You will be judged so
we ain't doing no judging. Butwhatever they project, whatever they put out
there, if it's something that youadmire, that you appreciate, it's okay
to agree with that. It's okayto say I love what they got going
on, right, that's fine todo. That's fine to do. So
with that being said, don't assume, don't guess, and because I'll be
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having to catch myself because I lovelove, y'all, I love love.
I love black love. Oh blacklove is my absolutely favorite. I love
it. But I really don't knowwhat's going on. But whatever they're projecting,
I'm all for it. Okay,So whatever people projects, be good
with that, Like, be onboard with that, because if they projecting
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it, then that's probably believe whatit is. Every relationship goes through their
trials, had struggles, had hardtimes. But y'all, let's just be
real. People look at your relationshipand be like, oh my god,
they're just so amazing, they're thebest coup oh blah blah blah. But
behind closed doors, you know it'swork. You know, you really having
to put that work in. Beokay with that? Hey, what people
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seeing what it is and if theyask you, God is good. You
know, give God his glory.Don't try to say, girl, we
work hard will knowledge. Just sayGod is good, and yes, it's
a relationship worth working for because it'sone worth having. And I say that
because spiritual warfare is real. Spillers, it's real. If your husband is
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not protecting you in prayer, ifyou're not protecting him in prayer, you're
in trouble. Period. The devilwants to steal. My auntie just did
a devotion a couple of days ago. The steal is real. I think
it was James ten and ten orJohn ten and ten where the devil comes
to steal, killing, destroyed baby. She did that. He wants to
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steal and deprive you of as muchas he can so he can get into
your mind, you speach your heartand destroy everything that you've worked extremely hard
for, including your relationships. Andyou're married and maybe y'all y'all know the
marriages. Oh, he really beon the marriages because he hates what God
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loves. And everybody knows that anythingthat God loves and adore, the devil
tries to destroy, and marriage isone of God's favorite things relationships, so
he's super intentional about trying to destroyit. And I say, I say
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it all the time, but I'msaying now, protect your marriage, protect
your relationship at all costs, asif you would protect your wife your life.
You gotta do it. You haveto do it. You gotta be
strong, you gotta be step fast, you gotta be on that thing.
You gotta do it, feelings,because if you don't do it, baby
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say, I'm gonna try to doit. And when he get in it
and get his hands on it,the struggle gonna be real. And it's
coming from a witness. The struggle. Struggle is going to be real.
But you have to be able tobe so aligned and so in tune spiritually,
mentally, emotionally that you can realizeand identify that yeah, it's satan.
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Let me go ahead and do whatI know how to do best.
Pray, plead the blood of Jesus. That is, declare, decrease or
decree I said, decrease the realwine anyway, and just do your part.
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Just do your part. Spells right. So say, out of time,
protect your marriage like you would yourlife, Protect it like you would
your life. The image of Fantasiaand Kindle is it's timeless. Like it's
it's absolutely beautiful. Like I don'tknow to say, I don't know what
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else the ad. I mean,it's just it's beautiful. It's something that
I would want for my marriage,and my husband does that for us.
You know what I'm saying, he'snot I don't think Kendall was even being
public in that moment, So Ican't even say that he's not public like
that because he will hug me andyou know what I'm saying it, Yeah,
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I don't know, but to seethat was absolutely beautiful and it's something
that I feel like should be done. I feel like it's something that's necessary.
And cover your wives, cover yourhusband's. It's hard out here,
Like people think marriage is just soeasy, and it's so and it is.
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It's easy, it's beautiful, it'sall that, it's everything that y'all
think it is, But it's workthat comes behind it. And the work
that comes behind it is because theenemy wants to destroy it. It doesn't
matter how happy you are, howgrateful you are, the enemy wants to
destroy it. And if you lethim get in just a little bit,
baby gonna get in, babe.Pray over your marriage. Pray over your
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spouse individually and collectively. Listen.I told my husband a long time ago,
baby, when you pray over me, you pray for me. Baby.
I'm mad here, like missus kenClark, like I feel like I'm
a superwoman. Get wake me upin the morning and say, come on,
let me pray real quick before Igo to work. I ain't no
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good. I ain't no good.When I say I ain't no good,
I ain't no good. I ain'tno good. Spillers, right, So
make sure that you when you're writingyour list out, make sure you add
a prey am in to your list. Make sure you and somebody that's going
to cover your soul. Right,make sure you add somebody that you can
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cover. But I just for me, I just feel like it's just even
more important when they can cover you. Okay, all rights fillers, we
are moving on. I hope youall enjoyed those jazz tunes from Trap Jazz,
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My Boys, Philly Move, RandyWatson and I'm Just Playing and Quincy
Watson who you know Watson Trapp Jazz. They are super duper amazing. You
can find their tunes on all tuneplatforms. I got them on Title I'm
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sure they're on Apple Music, butI got them on Title. I have
Title, y'all. I know Igotta get it together, this meg book
Pro and this Apple form. Igot to get with Apple Music, but
I joined Title. I'm going totell y'all when Beyonce's Lemonade CD came out,
y'all know when they came out,like twenty sixteen, fifteen sixteen,
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maybe seventeen. Whenever a Lemonade cameout, jay Z had just took some
type of ownership with Title, andTitle was the only platform that had the
Lemonade album. So I downloaded Lemonade, then downloaded Title then so that I
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can have Lemonade, and I justmissed the And it's good anyway. You
the shit, says you the shethat's our spill topic time tonight. Y'all
know, it's Mother's Day week,ind and my spirit said Missus Wilson.
Missus Woolson said, huh. Andinstead of coming out with a new episode,
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y'all know how I'll do every otherTuesday. My spirit literally said,
come out with something before Mother's Dayso that you can give the ladies a
push to celebrate them selves. Sowith that being said spill is what y'all
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doing. How y'all doing. Ireally hope that you all realize that you
really are the shit. I'm notgonna say it all the way, but
y'all know what I mean, right. I hope you know women, lady,
these sisters, friends, that y'allreally are important. I hope you
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are reminded every single day that youwake up that you are responsible for human
existence. Baby. If it wasn'tfor you, we wouldn't be here like
what we're doing, we wouldn't behere. So I really hope you realize
that no matter what you're dealing with, no matter what you're going through,
no matter what you are facing,the strength of a woman it's unmatched.
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We thank God for Adam, Thankyou Lord, right, hally lujah,
even more for Eve baby, becauseif it wasn't for even if they wouldn't
exist, you wouldn't exist, wewouldn't exist. So let's go ahead and
get into it. I'm gonna startoff with my single mamas. Be ah
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b why m A m A.This goes out to ah, my baby
Mama's I got for my baby mammas. Y'all y'all no Fantasyeah, yeah,
y'all know how I feel about Fantasia, So make sure you gonna listen to
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baby Mama about Fantasia. That isone of my anthem songs, feelers.
I've been married almost four years,a couple months short of four years,
but prior to my husband's existence,Baby, I played it the hell out
of the song and still play thehell out of it. And that's one
of my mother's day anthems, likeI plays it right anyway to my single
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mother's listen. I know exactly whatit feels like to be a single mama.
Single mama, the world is onyour shoulders. I mean, it's
only you, right, that's whatyou feel like. That's what we feel
like, it's only us. Alot of times we really don't ask to
be an these situations, like wedon't want to be no single mama for
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you know, the situation just kindof happen. Had a situation happens,
but it is what it is.When we are identified, when we are
chosen to be the custodial parent forour child, because God chose. That's
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why when I say when we're chosen, I say that God makes that happen
for us, right, He makesus the custodial parents. He makes us,
the parents the child's guidance. Becauseof that, we ain't got none
to do, y'all, but putour big girls y'alls on, like period.
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I mean, it's just something thatwe are dealt with. So because
we are dealt with that, that'sthe cards that we're dealt with. Square
up, period, Like, wejust gotta square up. It is what
it is. We take it forwhat it is. We're not complaining,
you know what I'm saying, Likeit could be a lot worse, but
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God chose us for this season,for this situation. So let's square up.
Let's put our big girl draws on. Matter of fact, I like
my big girl draws laced period.I'm just saying, put them on,
and let's stand against business with ourparenting for our children by enemies necessary when
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it comes to raising successful, compassionate, strong, independent, loving, loyal,
and beautiful law abiding citizens, ladies, we have to square up.
We gotta square up because anything thedevil tries to throw your weight, and
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he's going to try to throw ityour way, period. Because you are
a mama and you are single mama, you gotta be able to handle it.
You gotta do everything that you canall the time and at the best
that you can all the time,and be absolutely okay with it. That's
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the part that truths me out,like dang, I ain't sign up for
this, this what we're doing,Like, oh, okay, yeah,
gotta be okay with it. Youhave to be okay with it. You
have to do everything that you can, ladies, all the time, every
time, and be the best.When it comes to being a parent,
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whether it's a single parent or aparent with another parent, you gotta do
your part. You have to doyour part right, and you gotta do
it with fidelity. I don't thinkpeople always say, you know, I'm
a single mom or I'm a singledad, and I'm not taking any things
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from the father's period, because thisis a lady's you just she episode,
So this is for the ladies.But I feel like as a single parent,
sometimes people take that and wear thatas a badge of honor. Right,
I'm a single parent, I'm single, I'm raising this child all by
myself. As if you're not supposedto, who the hell else gonna do
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it? Like being a single parent, I feel like it's a badge of
honor. But I feel like it'slike who else gonna do it? Like,
if you don't do it, whoelse gonna do it? You have
to do it, and when youdo it, you gotta do it with
joy, You gotta do it withpride, and you gotta put one hundred
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percent effort into doing it and makingsure that you're doing it with fidelity.
But I don't feel like it's abadge of honor And I don't feel like
it's a bad because I feel likebeing a parent is a blessing period,
Like that's a blessing. That's somethingthat God rewards us with. It's really
a gift, you know what I'msaying. It's something that He rewards us
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with. And because God's God givesus that gift, Yeah, wear it
as a badge of honor, buthumbly, if I can say that,
humbly, I feel like we getso consumed in the thoughts of if I
don't do it, who else gonnado it? Then nobody else can do
it. But when we take thelimits of God, we will really see
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and know maybe who else gonna doit. But bed like he got a
plethora, he got a whole seaof options that he can choose to do
what you do. So let's wearour badge of honor as being a parent
or a single parent. But let'swear it humbly. Okay, let's not
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get so consumed. It's okay tomake sure that our kids have everything.
Let me make that clear. It'sokay to make sure that our kids have
everything. We do any and everythingto make sure that our kids are good.
Make sure that they're happy, makesure that they're at peace, make
sure that they straight period. Butlet's not get so contuned in that spill
is that we forget about ourselves.Take some time for you, ladies,
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Take some time for you. Goon a walk, a good walk on
a trail or in your neighborhood.Go on a good walk to the park,
take yourself to brunch, a moviedate, a dinner date. Get
you some good vitamin D. It'sso free. Oh it's beautiful, it's
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free. I love it. Listen, I love it. But we ain't
gonna get into that real quick.Take a solo date, a solo trip.
Make sure you do not forget aboutyourself, spillers, that's important for
your mental health. Right. Sometimesbeing a single parent, the negative effect
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can be that we don't we forgetabout ourselves. We so consumed with our
children, our child and what theyhave going on, the things that we
need to make sure that they adhereto or go to or participate in or
be a part of, that,we forget about ourselves. And that is
not good. That's a not okay, that's not being wealthy mentally, and
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y'all know, I am. Inorder to be healthy, you gotta be
mentally and I'm sorry, in orderto be wealthy, you gotta be mentally
healthy. So let's not get soconsumed in our children, their lives and
what they get going on that weforget about ourselves. Okay, it's important,
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and I feel like if you don't, I don't know how to say
that in a good way. Butif you don't kind of put yourself first
and not even necessarily put yourself first, forget to heal, because hell you
can't. You can't even really dowhat you can do for your child if
you're not showing up the way thatyou're supposed to show up. So make
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sure that you're good. Make surethat you're good first. Okay. Single
parenting is not all that bad,but if we don't do what we're supposed
to do for ourselves. Then wemake it bad. Okay, we make
it bad. Listen, It's ourjob to make sure that we are good
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and make sure that our children aregood. One of my favorite Baba verses
that I read or I live offof scriptures is training up a child in
the way that when it get old, they won't depart. That's something that
I live off of because I wasa single mother for a long time before
the Lord blessed me with my boyass like I was, it was just
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me, her dad. Her familywas in a whole another state, and
yeah, she visited for summers andspring breaks and Christmas all that, and
I made sure because I wanted tomake sure that I did my part in
making sure that the relationship that shehad with them was good. But at
the end of the day, I'mher custodial parent. I'm who she's with
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all the time, and I wantedto make sure my baby was good.
But during that I also spillers hadto make sure that I was good because
I didn't want to be so caughtup in making sure I got her here,
there, everywhere. And in themidst of getting her here, there,
everywhere, I'm here, there,everywhere. Now, hell no,
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I need to be here present atall times. So make sure single mama's
mamas of new babies, bonus mamas, as single mamas, make sure that
you are present. Okay, ifyou're a present and your prison for their
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child children, you good, You'regood, You're good, right. And
I do want to say this becauseI feel like a lot of people feel
like they're with it being the twoparent household that children. Oh they're good.
You know they got that. Myman dad or my man stepmom or
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stepdad, they're good. Bonus parentsdo make a two parent household, and
we thank God for that. I'mone of those bonus parents that's thankful for
my bonus parents and my household.How we'll burn with the smack of the
lips. Some married women or womenwith bonus children or men with bonus children
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are single parents as well. We'retalking about situations where the husband or the
wife has to work a lot,can't miss work. So with them not
being able to miss work, they'renot able to make all of the events
right. They don't get home intime enough to take the babies in.
Say a prayer with Now, letme danna see they're not. They ain't
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they home? Do that they candrop off or pick up the babies from
school. And let's be honest,they can be very overwhelming for the at
hand or the parent that's present,whether it's the mama or dad, the
single parent, they can be veryoverwhelming. If you are in that situation,
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it takes some time for you toIt's like, bro, like what
we're doing, take some time foryou. If the husband is home,
or when the husband is home orthe wife is at home, and you've
been doing what you're doing with thecheering, going back and forth, dropping
off, picking up, stopping by, going in, signing paper, was
(49:00):
dropping off, picking up cash orders, money orders. I'm a waitness.
Go assside, go out, saidlike sep, go asside. Take some
time for you. You deserve it. You deserve the peace. And in
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order to make sure that you aregood and you are healthy mentally, you
got to do what's best for you. You gotta make sure that you are
doing things that are benefiting your mentalhealth and your spiritual health. I'm just
saying, listens, feelers, Mypeople know me, y'all. Let family,
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friends, foals, haters, people, that's just sitting and watching maybe
one thing they know about Missus Wilson. If I don't do nothing else,
I'm a glass side. I'm goingto go outside. I'm the type of
and that my way of debriefing ismaybe a lot different than any and everybody
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else's right, like, I'm justnot them. I'm going outside and my
family friends to know me. Y'allknow my husband is introvert. That's the
first thing. The second thing ishe's not really an outside person, but
he knows his wife. He'll tellyou maybe my wife likes to be outside
(50:29):
as long as their location on.I know, listen, I know she's
good. If I feel if Iget worried, I can contact whoever to
make sure she's strung. I'm goingoutside, Missus Wilson's going outside. I'm
going outside. Listen. I needa mental debrief more than quite a few
people. So I'm going to getthat. And I just feel, like
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Phillis, it is important that yourealize or that you're able to realize and
identify that if you need to needa mental debrief, that you're able to
do that, whether you're single,whether you're married, do that, get
your go out, get your debriefed, and everybody going outside is different.
You're going outside might be twiddling yourtoes at the house on the Thursday in
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front of my I love that too. I love to be able to twiddle
my toes, watch my movies,chill, not be bothering the boy.
I say all the time. Mycousin Jerome Hunter, Baby, he'll work
by the nerves trying to get meto get out, do something, take
your video, shot something. Idon't be with that all the time.
A lot of times I be withit majority of the times, but sometimes
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I be on to Twitter my toesand sit still too. That is okay.
They might be your going outside.Do it. Whatever makes you happy,
whatever gives you a zen, asense of peace, do it.
It is important. It's important,topillis. It is important for the ladies
that desire to bear a child butcan't or haven't been able to yet.
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Keep the faith. I don't reallylike talking about that much, that subject
too much, because I feel likeit's super duper duper sensitive and my heart
just really aches for you. AllI can do is pray that all is
well. I can say, havefaith, keep praying, keep the faith,
seek God, trust God. Likethat's all I can say. God
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don't make mistakes like he doesn't.But while you're in this season, tap
into your purpose. Ask God forclarity on exactly what it is that you're
supposed to do or what it isthat he wants you to learn or understand
during this journey. Don't go far, you know what I'm saying, and
sweeping stuff under the rug and painsand stuff that you got going on that
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you relate. Fear out what's goingon with you. Fear out what was
going on with the situation, thecurrent situation. Do all that. Get
it together, go to therapy ifyou need to. But spillers, don't
dwell on what you cannot have.I personally feel like when you dwell on
that, it heightens depression and fromthere it's a down It's just a downward
(53:09):
spiral. Like pretty much over it. You know what I'm saying. But
you don't deserve that. You donot deserve deserve that. Always find joy
in every single moment as often aspossible. Life is so short and it's
impossible that we do not waste itin a sad and depressive state. I
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feel like that, like that's onethat's something for real. Don't why are
you sad, depressed, ungrateful,as good as God is. I'm the
most celebratorily person ever. Baby,I'm gonna celebrate. Listen, Miss Wilson,
don't do nothing, She's gonna say, I'm find a reason to celebrate.
Asks my husband and my daughter.They quite sick of it, my
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mama, even like girl, I'mso sicky. They sick of it.
Baby, we can wake up andI'd be like, oh, y'all.
The Lord then gave us another dayat a ten thousand days. That's me,
and we're finna turn up. We'refinish celebrate because he has done it
for us. I find reasons dailyto say, I'm finna get up,
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baby, mamosis after work, Bay, let's prop some champagne. Let's go
Ahassidely, God is good. Wejust hear we living. Listen, blessing.
That's me. Mister Wilson can tellyou, baby, if I don't
do nothing, that's from buy someflowers. If he don't get none,
I'm gonna buy something. I'ma pickthem for my school guarden. Thank you
Lord, I've been blessed with theschool. They got a flower garden.
I'm gonna get some flowers, baby, I'm gonna put him in one of
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them good cute bases I got atthe house. I'm gonna come put them
in there, put them in frontof that bay window. Pop us a
little bottle and listen to and celebrate. Just celebrate life. It's important.
It is important. Pill us celebratelife. Single mother on the way,
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mother desire to be a mother,but the motherhood just thinking quite came in
there. It's quick. Celebrate.Celebrate. To the ladies whose mothers are
in heaven, I cannot relate toyou, but my heart goes out for
you. I pray for you oftenbecause I that's something that I can't imagine.
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I'm sure it's painful. I knowthat it is painful. But it's
your job to celebrate them. Sisters. You gotta celebrate them. I listen,
babe, they so happy, andI had to bush your bubble.
They wouldn't even want to come backif they could. That's how happy they
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are. That's how happy and amazingHeaven is. That they're not even worried
about what's going on down here onthis here earth. They ain't worried about
it. They ain't. They knowGod got you, so they know you
good. But the joy and thepeace and the happiness that they have in
heaven and their listen, speak theirnames. If they have a tombstone,
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go get some nice flowers, cleantheir two stone tombstones. Put some flowers
in front of their tombstones. Listento the type of music that they like.
You know, sometimes we get sadwhen we listen to music or movies
and stuff. I now, Iwouldn't suggest the movies. I just my
daddy gone and I ain't. Weain't Father's Day came yet. My grandmother
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just left me a couple of yearsago. I don't want to listen to
watching Matt Locke and Texas Ranger allthat, because it'll make me murdercy roll.
That'll make me a little sad becauseI think about my grandma. But
I'm going to listen to some musicthat I know my grandmother or my dad
would have loved. I'm gone.You know what I'm saying. Have a
michelobe because that's what my dad did. You know what I'm saying. Do
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whatever it is that you can doto celebrate them. Celebrate them. Think
about the things that they did thatmade you smile and made you happy,
and enjoy it. It may behard. You may have to cry,
and that is absolutely okay, butdon't cry, and don't be sad for
long. Make it a celebration,because that's what they would want. Feelers.
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My pastor told me a few yearsago, and I never forget.
I was kind of struggling because Ifeel like, you know, my dad
was so young when he died.He was fifty one fifty two when he
died. I done had a coupleof glasses of wine, so I can
give you the exact age, butit was twenty twelve. He was born
in fifty nine. Y'all do themath. But he was so young,
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and I was like, God like, he was just right at his you
know what I'm saying, Like hewas just getting started. And my dad
like, really was that she's inhis ZAYI in my little scurvy. Was
he really was? But I justcouldn't understand why. And I was sad
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and I was questioning. I'm like, okay, God like, what we
got going on? What we're doing? And my pastor said, celebrate him.
When your loved one transition celebrates.Think of some things that they love
to do, Think of some thingsthat they enjoyed, and incorporate that into
your celebration for them. You know, be sad for a minute, It's
okay. It's all right for youto be sad and cry because you miss
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them physically. But God's sadness onlylasts for a moment. The Bible tells
us that his sadness is only fora moment, but his favor is a
lifetime. Hum So if God isonly sad for a moment, with whatever
the situation may be, y'all,sadness need to be less than a moment,
you know what I'm saying. Likewe've been may and do for a
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night, but joy comes in themorning. Embrace that joy, know that
the joy is coming, look forwardto that joy and be good. Like
be good. And that's what Ido now, Like I try to be
good. I try to look forthat joy. And I celebrated, and
in the midst of celebrating it,I appreciate it. I get my praise
(59:10):
on because I'm like God, Yeah, his time will short, but you
you allow me to experience a littlebit of that time. So for that,
I'm grateful. And look at thatin the moments to where you're missing
your mom, you're missing that motherfigure in your life. Your God,
they left me soon you you cameand got them a little early. But
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thank you for the time that yougave me with them, thank you for
the memories that they left. Likethat goes back to what I said earlier,
looking for the good and the bad. Easier said than done. But
it's but it's something that you gottado. If you are struggling, spillers
with a relationship with your mother.Your mother's not around bid incarceration streets,
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y'all know what it is. Showus some grace, put your pride aside,
and handle your business. You knowbetter. So because you know better,
do better, do better. Youonly get one mother. You're only
allowed to be a mother wants onearth, whether it's with one child or
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million children, it only happens onetime. So I said something earlier about
taking that badge of honor with beinga parent. But when you take that
badge of honor, you gotta takeit, and you gotta do right with
it and buy it because at theend of the day, God is watching
us. He watching, y'all knowhe watching, and y'all know how he
feel about cheering and parents. Baby, He want us to obey them.
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Parents. He told us to obeythem, parents, and he told them
parents to not to provoke us.I'm just saying, we all have a
responsibility and a role to take,and we must take it serious and we
must do right by it. Wegotta do right by it because at the
end of the day, God iswatching us. And yeah, sayey Red
did say, y'all not gonna asksome foolish this. At the end of
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the day, they gonna end.But when it ends forever, Spiller,
spoop, you gots to be theone that answer to the big man above
what they say, the big manupstairs, what you're doing with your with
your mam and daddy that I gaveyou on this earth, this earth,
not the heaven rim, but theearthly rim. I gave them to you.
(01:01:27):
Hey, you treat them what youdo to them. So, yeah,
it may be hard. Yeah,you may be mad. Let go
and let God baby forgive everything elsethat ain't your beasiness sake. I'll handle
that. Let God do it right, cause he got it. That's all,
ladies. At the end of theday, the day gonna end.
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And I'm just saying, but forreal, Spillers, remember y'all the sheese
naives. We all are the sheep. Celebrate yourselves this weekend. Don't let
nothing or no one stop you fromenjoying. You spillers, let go and
let God do good and do right. So we're moving on to our spill
(01:02:16):
encouragement time. Proverbs fourteen one saysa wise woman boots her house, while
a foolish woman tears her house downwith her own words. Spillers, get
out the way. Ooh, movearound, get out the way, and
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stay out of your own way.If you need you with some spillers,
see God. Ask God how tobe the wise woman that he designed you
to be. Matter of fact,go just open Proverbs one and just read
all of them outer chapters. Allthe versus the disc gona help you.
I'm just telling you, it's gonnahelp you. After you do that,
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make sure you are seeking God inyour praying. But still it's don't be
foolish. Okay, this is yourgirl. Missus Wilson. Thank you all
for tuning in with my quick Mother'sDay special. I love you all.
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