SEASON 3 EPISODE 4- OK OK RELAX....LET'S TALK ABOUT BOUNDARIES DOE.....

Hey Spillers, I know it's bee a minute...but TAP IN. FUN AND BOUNDARIES! -MRS. WILSON

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:29):
Hi, hey world, Welcome to The spill Podcast, your favorite
podcast featuring your favorite podcast. Toast me your girl, Missus Wilson,
Hi Spillers, welcome to episode four of season three. I know,
don't y'all just pipe down? Okay, okay, calm down, Calm

(00:52):
down like my girls on TikTok. Pipe down. I know
it's been a little minute. It's been a lone minutes,
you know, an unscheduled mini break. I guess I could
say we've had a lot going on. I mean, there's
really no excuse for it, for real, but there is
an excuse. My podcast room was my storage room because

(01:14):
we did a little bit of renovating at the front
half of our house. We still got the back half
to do, but yeah, and I cleaned it up just
enough so that we can record tonight. So I'm back,
high spillers. I have missed you all. I know so
many of you all have missed me because I've gotten
text messages. I've gotten dms on Instagram, TikTok. I was like,

(01:36):
oh wait, TikTok, and of course Facebook, where have I
been and what I'm way on? So you know, life
been life, and but we goold. We back. I'm excited
to be back. I'm super duper excited about this episode
and every episode we is me and my residential hosts

(01:57):
that I have in the building tonight, Pimp PI pim
pim pim. Mister Wilson is in the building, the man,
the myth, the legend, the King, my black Golddiver, my husband.
So you just gonna cut me off like that in

(02:18):
front of the people.

Speaker 2 (02:19):
I had to remind you. You said, we're glad to
be back.

Speaker 1 (02:25):
But you didn't give me a chance to get it
out like I was. I wasn't gonna forget baby, my
residential host is finally here with me. It's been a
long time coming.

Speaker 2 (02:36):
I'm looking at you and you smiling and looking at
the camera like, ain't nobody in here but you.

Speaker 1 (02:41):
Well, I was getting there. I was getting to you. Hey,
mister Wilson, it's been a long time. Are you excited
to be back?

Speaker 2 (02:50):
Yeah? You know, I'm always exciting. I don't get I
don't get to get on here.

Speaker 1 (02:53):
Okay, So let's move school teacher. Okay, So let me
go ahead and add my disclaimer right now before we
go any further. I am not responsible for anything that
he says that comes out of his mouth for real,
for real, charge it to his heart and his head,
because whatever come out, I promise you he means every

(03:15):
bit of it. Okay, but I just want you all
to know I'm not responsible you.

Speaker 2 (03:21):
Call.

Speaker 1 (03:22):
You're the residential host.

Speaker 2 (03:24):
Nah, you made a point, called me and me, so
you get me on here. So if I say something, I'm.

Speaker 1 (03:29):
Not responsible for anything that you say. I will never
take responsibility for that ever in life. I just won't
because at any I don't know what you're gonna say.
I just don't know absolutely, because I know what I'm
gonna say, and you can probably bet on me saying
something normal you baby. Anyway, it is our spill mental

(03:54):
check in time, spillers, you know what time it is.
It's our mental health check in time to time of
the episode where we do our self love, self awareness,
mental check. Connect with your emotions, spillers, and identify with
exactly how you are feeling at this moment. So if
you need to stop pauls for the cause to do so,

(04:15):
do so. Okay, how are you doing? How are you feeling?
Those are the intentions that we want to identify, dissect
and be able to verbalize. Okay, So, mister Wilson, residential host,
you know what it is. Every time we have a podcast,
I have to do a mental check, point blank period

(04:36):
because I need to make sure my people are good,
make sure my people are well. So, mister Wilson, how
are you, Paul? That's what I said.

Speaker 2 (04:47):
Yeah, stop, Paul. Think I'm doing well?

Speaker 1 (04:53):
Okay, Well, I'm doing.

Speaker 2 (04:55):
Matter of fact, I do better and better each day,
Praise the Lord. Yeah, I don't go back. So y'all
know it's been a long time been since I've been
off here. But yeah, I didn't got it. I didn't
get even better.

Speaker 1 (05:07):
So you feel like you're better.

Speaker 2 (05:10):
I know better. I don't feel like.

Speaker 1 (05:11):
Okay, get me together okay, Okay. Mental things so despite
of any obstacles, are things that you've been dealing with,
you feel like you deal with them.

Speaker 2 (05:21):
Better made me strong, and it's making me strong.

Speaker 1 (05:24):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (05:25):
Yeah, well not it but the Lord.

Speaker 1 (05:28):
But I know that's sorry. You better give it to him.
Give credit where credit is to due. Well, I'm glad
to hear that all is well with you, mister Wilson.
That makes me feel good. Even though I tried to
do a mental check with you daily by asking you
how was your day? Things like that.

Speaker 2 (05:43):
Yeah, but you can't you know, the when you got
a real sensitive I can almost say a week woman,
you can't. You can't put I can't tell you everything
you watch TV, instart crying tell you. I'll tell you
how I really, I mean, get a little bit of

(06:05):
But you couldn't. You couldn't. You would be stressed thinking
about what you can do. To hell, yeah, it ain't.

Speaker 1 (06:13):
Well, well long as you know that your wife is
here to help in any capacity that I can. But
I know I am. Hey, listen, listen, I got listen.
You ain't saying listen. He talking about what he's talking about.

Speaker 2 (06:28):
I said, I'm I get strong with each day. Like
I say, both of us have stuff going on east
side of the family, but I take it different than
you will take it. Yeah, so I can't beat both
of us. Can't be like this? Then?

Speaker 1 (06:43):
Yeah, the Bible talk just messed up. And the Bible
talks about that too. When one is weak, the other one,
you know, is there to pick him up and make
them strong. So I thank God for you. I thank
God for you being that strength, because baby, this is
this is that season for me to where I feel
like coming up on the holidays, be it Thanksgiving. Around Thanksgiving,

(07:07):
the last Thanksgiving that my father was alive, we had
went to I took him to E lunch with Mackenzie.
She was like in probably first kindergarten. First she was little,
and I took her to took him to E lunch
with her. He was almost like he needed my help
to do everything, get out of the car, walk, all
of that good stuff. And then a couple of weeks

(07:29):
after that, he died. So this is coming up twelve years,
and you know, people always say you get over death
with time blah blah blah, or time heals all wounds.
I'm just not a believer of that because it's been
almost twelve years, and probably because my father was so
young when he died, but I think that had something
to do with it too, But I'm dealing with that.

(07:50):
And then within the last couple of weeks, y'all, it's
been so many people, like so many people have literally
transitioned and gotten there wing some young, a lot of
the ones that I've known personally have been older. And
it has on top of me burying like my favorite
cousin within one of my favorite cousins this year. Uncle

(08:13):
just you know, it has just been a lot. An
uncle died a couple of weeks ago. One of my
closest friends, my international mom, transition unexpectedly. She was eighty three,
thank god, or eighty two would have been eighty three,
but thank god she lived all her scores, but it
was unexpectedly she was still healthy. And then the College
of Education Queen mssus Collins, and then doctor Lewis, and

(08:36):
then a couple other Philanderans. It's just been a lot
going on, and not only just for me, but for
so many other people. On top of people just having
to deal with grief from a loved one that has
passed and then having to you know, go into these
this holiday season without them.

Speaker 2 (08:55):
Better.

Speaker 1 (08:56):
Yeah, it makes you want to do better just in general. Okay,
it makes you want to do better and be better
in general. But yeah, that's it's been real heavy. It's
on top of the grief and the unexpected deaths that's
been coming up, just other mental issues and family things

(09:17):
that I've been having to deal with. And I felt like, well,
we've been having to deal with thank you husband, but
and yeah, it's not but I feel like I've just
kind of been a little isolated, and then maybe it's
just the season that God is taking me through again
when it comes to people and exposing and unveiling and.

Speaker 2 (09:36):
Just doing with you again.

Speaker 1 (09:38):
Yeah, I feel like I feel like I've kind of learned,
but I feel like He really wants me to know.
You know what I'm saying. It's like, I now I
showed you and I taught you, but now I need
to learn you because you act like you're just not
getting it.

Speaker 2 (09:52):
That's what I see.

Speaker 1 (09:54):
Okay, Well, I'm saying I'm saying that maybe this is
the season that He's really having to break it down
for real, for real and show me, and he is
he It's been a couple of seasons, but this this
season right here, been.

Speaker 2 (10:10):
A couple of Well, it's like.

Speaker 1 (10:15):
What I feel like, this has been more challenging because
I feel my anxiety is like heightened a lot, and
so I've been doing things to try to keep that
under control. I like to talk about it. It's therapeutic
for me. That's why I wool said, That's why I've
been listening to my Yeah, I do it when I

(10:37):
get mad and when my anxieties and then when I
get mad, you do.

Speaker 2 (10:40):
That because I ain't never seen you on the phone
and get mad and do it you do with sitting
in the room.

Speaker 1 (10:47):
For when I'm breathing, you just exhaling just anxiety, just
you know, those feelings and trying to you know, grow
past them and get past them in the moments, smarty.
And then when I listen to my meditation, my shabaka
what do you call it? You go listen to that
old crazy yeah. My husband he means well, but he

(11:12):
ain't used to it. But when I listen to my
meditation music to try to keep me calm. And then
I've actually been reading a lot more to try to
keep my mind stimulated.

Speaker 2 (11:22):
But for a person whose mind never stop, why you
don't try silence?

Speaker 1 (11:31):
I do try silence. That's why I read because I can't.
I have a d D, so I could never just well,
when I listen to my meditation, yeah, that helps me
to like, it gives me one sound. I can focus
on one son. That's what I do. That's what I'm saying.

(11:52):
I hear everything that's going on with me, but in
order to attain it and control it, because everything that
baby will go what goes on this brain. I need
something to keep it don't be right out of time,
So well, I try.

Speaker 2 (12:05):
I try to look simple stuff like sweeping if when
you catch me out there in the garage or something,
you ain't got the it's a lot of All you
need is silence. That's probably a little movement so you
can think. You can't think with a lot of distraction, right,
because you'll get to sing, well some you'll get to think.

(12:26):
That'll make you think about something else. Yeah, sound good though, Yeah.

Speaker 1 (12:31):
It's really good. But it definitely depends on the person.

Speaker 2 (12:34):
I mean, it's just sometimes. I mean I ain't saying
you're supposed to do it all the time. Yeah, I
just seen you try a lot of stuff except for silence,
is what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (12:40):
Oh like just nothing like no book, no noise.

Speaker 2 (12:43):
Just sitting there at the TV. You can't even sleep.
You got to have some kind of noise, you said.

Speaker 1 (12:50):
But add but you know, sometimes the TV ilay to
go off and I don't turn it on and nothing.
Now I found myself doing that lately. Yeah, because that
little amazon to leave it runs away. But even when
I can find it, I promise you I have found
myself being intentional about if the TV goes off, don't
turn it back on, just go back to sleep. And

(13:12):
if I'm up in that moment, I promise you I'll
like say a prayer talk to God until I go
to sleep, and I don't care if it's srambling whatever conversation.
I'm just gonna be like, Okay, God, I'm conversing with
you now. So everything that comes at it between is
what's coming at I'm talking to you until. But sometimes
for well, yeah, different all.

Speaker 2 (13:33):
The time just saying I'll watch you, and every time
all day you got some kind of noah and yous
at it like well just sit in some savage sometimes.
But I don't right for me different because I mean
you always have you got the music. I wouldn't mind
some sadness when it comes to their music, them little

(13:56):
bail thing.

Speaker 1 (14:00):
Us.

Speaker 2 (14:00):
I can wake me up, take music.

Speaker 1 (14:06):
Listen. I can hear one sound from that, whether it
is the sounding like a waterfall or just sounding like
a bell that's echoing. Yeah, I can hear that, and
I can like focus and literally like remember when Tennyson
and saying I'm yik I can hear one of those
sounds and I literally can just relax and calm down

(14:29):
from one of those no, And that's how I.

Speaker 2 (14:32):
Know I don't come when I get to hear that
up you pay out that y'all know.

Speaker 1 (14:44):
I don't think, but yeah, that that stuff does. It
calms me my that music does. When I read, I'm
able to focus on different conversations and lessons and whatever
it is I'm trying to learn from. You know, whatever
I'm reading to help me stop.

Speaker 2 (15:07):
You're supposed to never stop thinking.

Speaker 1 (15:08):
Yeah, you know my mind when I.

Speaker 2 (15:10):
Say, but what is relaxation? Though? When you relax, what
do you think about? You think about something else that
worries you about something.

Speaker 1 (15:19):
I don't try to when I'm like when I take
my hot baths, I try to utilize that time A
lot of times when you come in. If I'm in
the tub, I'm either listening to a podcast or gospel music.
But I do try to utilize my hot bath time
like that when I'm relaxing, to listen to something that's
helping me spiritually, or I can like get my praise

(15:40):
and worship off. He played too much, you know his
wife you talk about.

Speaker 2 (15:46):
The saddest I think about.

Speaker 1 (15:50):
Lawn is that it's right there. You don't like savage,
it's different.

Speaker 2 (15:57):
Cut the grass.

Speaker 1 (16:01):
I love the sunshine, but I ain't gonna be doing
no grass, and I'll sit down and with a chair
in the middle of the driveway. Well, everybody has their
own way of checking in with themselves mentally and doing

(16:22):
whatever they have to do necessary to make sure that
they're okay mentally. And for me, I have quite a
few things to do because, like he said, in my
mind is always going and I feel like that's the
artistic and creative side of me. But it's also aside
of me that that causes anxiety to because I'm an
overthinker and you and McKenzie tell me all the time.
I try to think for other people and so I

(16:44):
need to stop that. But anyway, I've gotten better. Other
than that, Spillers, I am doing necessary work to make
sure I'm okay mentally, to make sure no no, I
know nothing about it. Hope and pray all is well

(17:04):
with you all, Spillers, if not say something so that
we can do something. Mental health is wealth, and in
order for you to be healthy, you have to be
healthy mentally. Okay, Ms Wilson, did you want to add
something to that other than your jokes. No, ma'am, all right, good,
all right. It is our social media shout out time, Spillers,

(17:26):
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(17:47):
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(18:12):
an episode is played and aired. Mister Wilson, do you
have a business you want to shout out or social media?
You want to shut up? Why are you looking at
me like that? I wish? Yeah, you're looking at me?
You good? I guess you're good. So if you all

(18:32):
want to you know, advertise your businesses, hit me up.
Or if you know somebody that is trying to boost
their business, tell them to heat me up. I'm not
like on the breakfast club level yet. I'm almost there.
But when I get there, y'all gonna wish y'a would
have hit me.

Speaker 2 (18:47):
Up out program?

Speaker 1 (18:50):
What is the black Negro program?

Speaker 2 (18:52):
I need jacket?

Speaker 1 (18:57):
And who are these going to? Lord? Forget?

Speaker 2 (19:02):
Can't even get it out the young negros.

Speaker 1 (19:09):
We donate to them all day every day. Anyway, Is
there anything you want to say add mister Wilson before
we get our spill tree topic time now?

Speaker 2 (19:18):
But I wish you could have told me a little
something about what we're talking about.

Speaker 1 (19:22):
I never tell you now now if I before I
actually start the podcast. Y'all he always said, I don't
tell me nothing. I don't want to anything. Just go
with it.

Speaker 2 (19:32):
But now you're saying you you don't know, m but
you you talk, you know, I listen. Okay, you're told
you you'd be like, we're gonna do a podcast, but
I'll be hearing you talk about sir stuff. I know
you're gonna put it in there. I'll be knowing about it,
but I hear what you have. You've been talking about
a lot and did no show in a minute. So
I don't know why I said I wish.

Speaker 1 (19:52):
You was well tonight it's gonna be a therapy session.
You're gonna be the therapist, and myself and the spillers
are going to be why you look like that? You
getting paid? Thank you anyway? Shut up? Okay, now we

(20:14):
are moving going to our spill trend topic time. This
is the time of the episode spills where we talk
about everything trending in the culture. We don't talk tea,
We don't spill tea, we don't spill gossip. We do, however,
create dialects and conversation from different things that are trending
in the culture. Now we know since the last time
we've been on here, what was that like September into

(20:36):
September October, it's been a lot. Done happened. P Diddy
done got locked up with a bunch of stuff and
got a bunch of people named domn my boy. Kodak
then had a little weird moment on kay Kants or Senens.
I'm not sure how you say his name, but I
like him. He's a dope young black boy, his mafia

(20:56):
of thun whatever it is that he does on TikTok.
But that's where Kodak blackcat a weird moment of doing
weird things. Anyway, Uncle Mike then put on those chaps,
had his but cheeks out, took that L and got
beat by their young Caucasian mail which you know that

(21:17):
was twenty million dollars. Would you have gotten beat up
for twenty mil? Would you have letting somebody beat you
up for twenty mel?

Speaker 2 (21:24):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (21:25):
Okay, then of course that then sadly, ooh my sorrower
might have Vice president then took that big L to
forty seven. Lord help us, God bless America. That's another thing.
Are we not gonna talk about it. I'm just talking
about all of the things that's been trending in happening
since the last time. Yeah, don't do it, yeah, because yeah,

(21:48):
you can get it anyway. So that's one thing that
did happen though President Biden today or yeah, yesterday he
announced it, but today he actually parting his son, Hunter Biden.
So I'm super excited. Well it's not a shocking to me.
But prior to Might and Vice President Kamala Harris losing

(22:13):
this election, he had said that he was going he
was not going to part in his son because he
wanted to be fair and wanted to go through the
justice system fairly. However, once the charges and things came up,
he was advised that a lot of those charges and
the things that they were charging his son for, even
after his son paid those back taxis back plus some

(22:34):
and you know, did a little time, they were saying
that they were charging him more harshly than they would
have charged the regular American only because he was president
biting son.

Speaker 2 (22:44):
So you telling me that your young black president can
tell you the truth and you think it's a lie,
but your old white president can tell you're a lie,
you think it's a true.

Speaker 1 (22:58):
I never said nothing about that. I just said he
said he was going to do it. That's what That's
what his original response was. However, he I ain't mad
at him because forty seven to get in there and
parton himself of all his fifty nine. I'm just saying, well,
he's been a lot of the cases or charges have

(23:19):
been dismissed because they can't. But there's still some ongoing
charges and pending charges that he hadn't been according all
of that stuff for it. But once of course he
takes office, Lord, we already know those charges gonna disappear.
And ain't no telling who else and what else he
gonna partner. But I said that to say, I'm happy

(23:40):
President Biden did that for his son and still ten
toes down and wish somebody would say some of y'all
voted for this convicted feeling. I'm happy he did that.

Speaker 2 (23:50):
And whichever convicted feeling thing he can't do nothing. He
better look at Trump.

Speaker 1 (23:54):
I'm telling you, listen a whole lot. But those type
of convicted villains can do a lot of regular ones can't.
The convicted villains in the neighborhood can't know compars, ain't
no depending nothing. They can't. They can't. But anyway, I'm
happy President Biden did that. Hopefully he partoned these student loans.

(24:16):
Pardon them, touch and agree with me, spillers that he
partned these student loans Cuz I don't need he done
partner a lot of other people's, but I need him
to just partner all of them, just get rid of
all of them, because I I'm tired of going back
and forth with them. Anyway, So that was that. But
this is what mister Wilson, I really wanted to hear

(24:37):
your thoughts on my guy, cam Newton. Have you heard
him lately trending anything about Cam Newton you had when
you listened to look at your news breaks and stuff
like that, you hadn't seen nothing about Cam Newton. Okay, Well,
just to make it sure for those who don't know,
Cam Newton is retired football player. He played for the
South Carolina Panthers. I don't think he ever got in

(24:58):
a ring, but don't quote me on that. He has
a podcast and I do listen to his podcast. Sometimes
I like it depending on the guests. But recently he
had doctor Cheyenne Brian to come on this podcast. She's
a well known therapist and has recently appeared on a
few reality shows. Well, he insinuated that she come on
his show because prior to him inviting her to his show,

(25:20):
she was on a podcast trying to you know, giving
Nick Nick Cannon therapy and helping him with some things
that he had learned and identified and dissected within himself
and he wanted help trying to move past those things. Well,
he called her on there, of course to help. Well,
Cam hurt the podcast and apparently he was like, yeah,
Nick Cannon, he was you know what I'm saying, he

(25:41):
was too easy on you. Come on a real g
podcast allegedly, and let me give you some heat. I'm
not gonna be easy on you. This when Lee Cannon
got the same kind of lifestyle and the same kind
of whatever. So I need you to come on my
podcast and I'm gonna let you have it. Well anyway,
doctor Brown was like, oh that's how you feel what
we doing? You know, I want to come and we
can have this conversation. So anyway, she ended up going

(26:04):
on his conversation baby and when I say read him
his rights to the fifth baby, she read him his rights.
For the lack of better words, she told cam Newton
that he was a broken man and the reason he's
carrying on the way he's carrying on because he's broken
and the women that he's dealing with allows it because
a real woman was not tolerated. That came shortly after

(26:25):
he allegedly doing a podcast conversation, admitted that he hasn't
been faithful to his current girlfriend and the newest mother
of his child. Now, cam Newton allegedly has three baby
Mama's eight children. The first two has the first the
most children never married him. The first one thought that
they were going to be married. I think she had

(26:46):
like three or four bymens. She just knew that was
her husband, but he showed her otherwise when he got
with the second girl and then got with the third one, Jasmine,
which is the one that he admitted on a podcast
without her knowing that since they've been together and she's
had their baby who's not year old, he has not
been faithful to her.

Speaker 2 (27:02):
Well.

Speaker 1 (27:03):
She end up coming out later and saying, y'all act like,
I don't know what might end be doing, my negro
be doing. He out here doing his thing, and if
y'all really want to know, I got a side two,
which to me, I feel like cap since you just
did that because you was embarrassing, your feelings was hurt.
But that may be true, you know anyway, my question,

(27:23):
well I was killed. Came out and said after that,
Kim has to get to a point to where he
wants nobody to have his woman. When he gets a
woman that he don't want nobody to want and she's
he is, then he wouldn't be caring on the way
he's caring on Because I love my woman. I've been
with my woman thirty two years, she Mine. I don't

(27:43):
want nobody to have a. That's why I'm faithful. That's
why I choose to be the way that I choose
to be as a hard working regular diglas megla black men.
Mister Wilson, can you tell me your perspective on this?
And to me it sounds like that they may have
an open relationship, Like what's your sense on open relationships?

Speaker 2 (28:03):
No, I ain't never had now.

Speaker 1 (28:05):
I ain't gonna have one.

Speaker 2 (28:09):
Nah, that's all that that's on that part. Okay, with
the old relationships, yeah, I ain't never had them, So
I don't you know whoever likes good? But Q was
right just a little bit. But you can't you don't
want no, what do you say? What'd you say? He
want to get you a woman.

Speaker 1 (28:28):
That that is his, that he wants. He don't want
nobody else to have his woman. She's mine. I don't
want nobody to have my woman.

Speaker 2 (28:35):
Yeah, they take time. So how long he been with them?
Them girls he was with.

Speaker 1 (28:40):
I personally feel like since he's been in the lead,
he has been possibly you.

Speaker 2 (28:45):
Know, he's doing what he's doing. Ice been with his
girl thirty two years of course, but he.

Speaker 1 (28:50):
Was just but he was just as young as Cam
Newton is with the first baby. You know what I'm saying, Well,
I don't really.

Speaker 2 (28:57):
Know, but I'm just listening to what you said right there. Yeah,
but nah, you know it's the ages all Really, some
people marriage probably wouldn't last if they didn't have no
open relationship.

Speaker 1 (29:09):
But why would you want to get married in open relationship.

Speaker 2 (29:13):
To ask somebody to do it?

Speaker 1 (29:15):
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (29:16):
I ain't never wanted to share a girlfriend I have,
so I know. Yeah, I said, I don't know about that. Yeah,
I could anno answer that. I mean, but cam lady
having fun. That's all of them, all the sports players,
all the But I've heard him, I want to say,
because everybody different.

Speaker 1 (29:36):
Yeah, they different. But I've heard him on episode a
couple of podcasts where he's just said where he said
he doesn't feel like God hadn't told him it was
time for him to get married or settled down yet.
But my thing is, why do you keep having kids
by all of these different people? And that's what doctor
Brian was telling him. You're creating broken homes because you're

(29:59):
having moreultiple kids by multiple women, and there's no way
you can be in those homes.

Speaker 2 (30:04):
And then God ain't gonna if he keep waiting on
God to tell him to get married, he's gonna keep
doing what he's.

Speaker 1 (30:09):
Doing because God may have told him a long time ago.

Speaker 2 (30:13):
God get you choose, you know what to do. You
got the knowledge and the wisdom. But if you choose
not to, then you don't. He can't say he waiting
on God tell them.

Speaker 1 (30:23):
Okay, so do you think that he could possibly be broken?
But because he come from a two pair home and
his dad was a pastor. But if y'all, if y'all
ever listened, I know, and then if you ever listen
to his podcast like he is. He verbalized heavy on
how his dad was not there for him the way

(30:45):
that he felt like a dad should have been, even
though he was in the same house with him and
his dad was a pastor. He said that a lot
of things that he needed from his father he didn't get.

Speaker 2 (30:54):
Because I mean, and that was that's what hurt the
pastor song. That's why they be so bad when they
grow up. They some of them get piers and everywhere,
they just do all types of stuff because they couldn't
do nothing under that household. Because this man was a preacher,
he's a he's a man guy. He got to teach

(31:15):
his kid. So that's like being strict on them. Don't
do this, don't do that. That's a lot of rules
to a kid coming up and make them go to church,
you know, have them. That's a lot of rules. Can't
do this, can't do that. So, yeah, they have a
lot of resembment. He talking about what he wanted from
his dad. He probably wanted a friends one and couldn't

(31:38):
get that in So it ain't it ain't his upbringing,
it's him. It's it's something he wanted to do. He
wanted to get loose. He liked what he's doing. Yeah,
I asked, you said, he do get He got to
find his He got to find a point where he
got the set of that. But it might be when
of his tail is scraping the ground because you you know,
disclaim I can't say so when his te the ground,

(32:01):
that's when a lot of dudes really see, that's when
they really see.

Speaker 1 (32:06):
Yeah, and it's sad. I hate that and I and
I feel like for him to just the broken homes.
That really resonated with me because whenevers.

Speaker 2 (32:17):
But did his dad have a bunch of kids?

Speaker 1 (32:18):
Well, I think he is him, and I think he
got like one or two other siblings and his parents
been together.

Speaker 2 (32:25):
All his life.

Speaker 1 (32:27):
Yes, but he but he felt like when I.

Speaker 2 (32:30):
Say, I ain't talking about the man part what I'm saying.
So if he because he was, it sounds like he's
living like he's supposed to at the Yeah.

Speaker 1 (32:37):
But I don't think he wanted a real type of
love from his father versus the strictness. Like he feels
like now that in hindsight, his daddy was too strict.
He was too you know, he wanted him to be
Jesus like blah blah blah. All this he said he
didn't listen to. He said he didn't watch football until

(32:57):
he was like in eleventh or twelfth grade. He grew
up praying in church all that.

Speaker 2 (33:03):
He just didn't know how to take that little bit
blessings and he's been received.

Speaker 1 (33:07):
Yeah, And then I feel like too, when you, like
you said, God gives us autonomy to kind of do
whatever it is that we're supposed to do, Like you
know what to do, but I'm gonna give you the
autonomy to do what you're supposed to do.

Speaker 2 (33:18):
If a person waiting waiting on God to tell them
to get married. I don't know now the man him
being a preacher save then he I'm thinking he'll save, yeah,
to get saved. Before he tell him to get married, he.

Speaker 1 (33:37):
Proclaims his love for Christ and his belief. Oh, he
talks about it often, like he'll tell you quick. But
that's another thing that just had me scratching my head,
like you have this relationship with God. You know what
I'm saying. Maybe it's the type of women that you're
choosing that not.

Speaker 2 (33:53):
Go ahead, I'm just thinking of get it out. I forget.
I say, I know, dude, his daddy, his daddy was
a preacher. Now we get the I didn't know his dad.
I ain't know his daddy was a preacher. But since
I had seen him recently, that's why I said something
about the peers and stuff. He got periods right here,

(34:16):
here and here, he got purios as every well. So
when he got to talking one day, well he had
he had a bag pack and he had a Bible
in it. I said, what you walking around with a
babble for? Oh my daddy was a preacher man. He
opened it up all the right and then when Trump
begome to president, he was mad we sitting in there.

(34:37):
He said, yeah, I don't believe in the God. I
pray in his name. Ain't God. It's the heavenly Father.
I said, well, that's God. He said, no, God is
a title. I said, what do you think they have
in the Father there? That sounded like a title too.
But he was mad about how his daddy raised him.
He said, daddy was straight, made him go to church.

(34:59):
That's why he don't like church. Now he don't go
to church. He don't. He claim he don't believe in God. Well,
he said, believe in God, but he don't believe in Jesus.
But a while back we was talking. He was going
through his letters addy, and he took his other medicine.
He'd come to me crying. He gonna say. I said,
what made you need to start praying? Be praying all

(35:19):
the time? I said, so, do you believe in Jesus?
He said yeah. But when he gets around these other dudes,
he so, I don't even play when I say them
preacher's son. They got a lot on their chair, and.

Speaker 1 (35:31):
I feel like it's a lot of preacher kids. Probably
do you know what I'm saying? Or I'll say, like
the millennium people shut up a preacher, not all you,
I was fast whatever, But anyway, I do feel like,
I don't know, I just can't rock with him. I'm

(35:53):
I'm trying. I mean, you know, he well, he's weird
because when I say, he literally is in his freedom,
he's taking full avent advantage of being able to just
completely be you and do you. And I agree with
it one hundred to a certain extent, though, I think

(36:14):
some things you just gotta come on pipe down, Like
you have this.

Speaker 2 (36:18):
Strong relationshipople do stuff for likes and I.

Speaker 1 (36:21):
Don't know, but I feel like you have this strong.

Speaker 2 (36:23):
And this is Saturday, the day they don't want no
Like Charles and White say, when he was coming in
them tazing them, both Ties and Shiite want to hear
that when he started acting just like them, then they
got rich. That's what they want to see. So I said,
a lot of this should be an act that they
get caught up in. Yeah, and once they caught up

(36:43):
in and they they like it. They like that that
attention and to it's the wrong attention.

Speaker 1 (36:49):
Well, I ain't gonna say I hope this is an act,
but come on, Cam, you know, before I heard you
know these episodes for myself and was listening. I was
Kim Newton all day and I'm still team cam. But
to a certain extent, I'm just not gonna go hard form.

Speaker 2 (37:09):
No, because I just when you don't agree with a
lot of because you agree with some of his views,
I do agree with you, but he ain't got to
touch every point. You ain't got to agree. If you
do this, some I'm.

Speaker 1 (37:21):
Wrong and I don't expect that, and you're right if
I do that, Some'm wrong, however, because I am learning
that you ain't gonna say at the same table as
everybody you agree with or disagree with anyway. However, when
there are some things that I know that you know
better in those areas, but you choosing not to do better,

(37:42):
then you know, I'm just gonna fall back just a
little bit. I'm not judging you, it's just it's just
not my cup of tea or I just don't rock
like that. So I'm gonna fall back in anyway, you know,
to each his own. You know, most women move off
of emotion anyway. I feel like that. So I feel
like that's why a lot of the women that deal
with men like that or him huh, he said, most

(38:05):
yeah for real. Yeah, but anyway, that'll never be an
option for me because the way my territorials is set up. Baby,
I'm not sharing what who I'm outside of course that, yeah,
but I'm just saying, if I were in this situation,
be it I was jazzing him anybody. I'm just too

(38:26):
territorial for any of that. So I don't know, I'm
just not. I guess there's something I'm learning at this
big age of forty, but nah, I get somebody else
to do it. I'm sorry. Did you want to add
anything to that, mister Willson? All right, don't know.

Speaker 2 (38:46):
That's all right?

Speaker 1 (38:54):
All right, spillers, I hope you all enjoyed those jazz
beats from the Trap Jazz Giants Philly Mouton and Quincy Q.
Note Watson, we are onto our spill tread topic time, Ma.
Today We're just gonna talk a little bit about boundaries.
Mister Wilson. I'm going to ask a series of questions,

(39:15):
and you are going to be the therapist. And I
chose you because I feel like you are super duple
wise and you know, you know everybody know I get therapy.
I pray you know, I get therapy form not only
my therapist, my physical therapist, but from God, from a
pastor when he's preaching and doing Bible studies, from different plans,

(39:35):
like I get all type of therapy, you know. But
I enjoy our therapy sessions even though sometimes I feel
like like you just be too hard, like I need
you to be a little sensitive for me or with
me for a moment, But anyway, we gonna get into it.
So y'all know spills. I try to be as transparent
as possible when it comes to my personal life. I

(39:55):
won't call names when situations or things arise. However, I
don't mind talking about things that I'm going through because
not only do I feel like it's very therapeutic for me,
but I feel like other people are probably going through
it or has possibly gone through it, and knowing how
I came out on the other side positively or in

(40:15):
a positive way, I feel like that could be a
blessing for others. So lately, I feel like God has
been removing the veil from my eyes, Blessed Lord, and
I'm seeing people for who they really are. And Babe,
when I say the Seinin has been seeing and I
just been wanting to close my eyes because I'm like,
uh uh Lord, not no Lord, not I them, uh

(40:37):
somebody else. Anyway, it's been the ones that I've least expected,
or just people in situations that I least expect, and
it's kind of sadden me quite a bit. And you know,
it hurts, you know, to say the least, but I've
learned to deal with it and I'm trying to deal

(40:57):
with it. So, mister Wilson, I have a question when
it comes so not only mean people, that deals with
a revelation of people situations, how do you think we
should respond when God reveals those things to us, especially
when we least expect it, Like it's stuff we don't.

Speaker 2 (41:22):
I didn't hear you appropriate to it. If it's to you,
you already know what to do. Like I say, you
don't really want to you have to. Really, it's like
you beating around the bush. And on that question, how I.

Speaker 1 (41:40):
Beat around the bush. I'm just saying, like, you know,
if God is revealing some people are something to us
that we least expect. You know, for example, people be like, God,
show me who's supposed to be in my life, And
it don't matter who it is show me and remove
me from the situation by blah blah blah.

Speaker 2 (41:55):
And then when that person say that God showed them,
shows us, and they still deal with that person and
the person turned out to be the same as what
you're saying.

Speaker 1 (42:08):
No, I'm just saying, how do we How do you
think that we're supposed to react?

Speaker 2 (42:11):
Because sometimes act people ain't gonna react. You're saying how
what I react? And I can tell you how I
react to it? Yeah, I can't tell you how y'all
should because a lot of people it ain't about being
sensitive or hard. But you have to you have to
be I mean, you have to be blind, but you
have to say what you're trying to say. A lot

(42:32):
of people don't. You can't take a person around the world.
Didn't get to the point you lose them, So just
tell them. Be straight up. That's the best way to be.
Just be straighted.

Speaker 1 (42:41):
So what if you're in a situation to where you're
really not comfortable with saying, Hey, God told me not
to talk to you anymore. God showed me you, so you.

Speaker 2 (42:54):
Just got on God. I mean, you ain't gonna tell
you ain't gotta tell the person Nobody told you nothing.
If you know how may I say, it's really about
understanding the person. It ain't even about that situation. It
ain't about to study happening. Once you understand that person,
you understand that person. Now, if you keep letting that
person get you to the point to where they get you,

(43:17):
it's your fault. I don't never be mad at the
person that's doing it, because can't nobody do nothing to
you that you don't let them. So now it's it's
it's it's the person. I don't care if you're getting played.
I don't care what it is a person study borrow
money from you, pay you a little big bag, don't
pay you nomb on you notice hag go and you
do it again and you get mad? What fun you

(43:39):
doing it to yourself? So now it's sometimes you have
to keep your distance.

Speaker 1 (43:44):
Yeah, and then sometimes before you're even in any situations
to where a person kind of shows you who they are.
I feel like God to put you in uncomfortable situations
to where you see them before they even just really
get time to prove it, prove it for real, real,
you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (44:01):
How many times you haven't been around these persons that
you will exactly. Yeah, if you now, have you been
around your majority of your life, a couple of days,
they don't take no more a couple of hours, a
couple of hours. You know, if a person on bullshit
or night it don't take it, don't take No, We're

(44:22):
gonna try again this night. We're gonna try ag in
this weekend. We gonna know, you know, Bush, if they
disrespect you to everything, Yeah, people always talking about Lord
to all that faults on the disrespect. If that person
disrespect you, yeah, we're gonna.

Speaker 1 (44:42):
Talk about that too. Now when it comes to compartmentalizing
these people, which is something that I do, Like I
feel like when I learned how people are or who
they are, I kind of put them in certain boxes,
you know what I'm saying. Like that shows me, yeah,
certain categories and that's easy for me, you know what
I'm saying, but real because it's like now I see you,

(45:03):
I know how you move. Now, I know how to
respond and accordingly that part literally that part in real
life and do and do right. So it teaches me
like I know, once I learned that I move accordingly right,
and I accordingly move Sometimes the shift in the way

(45:25):
that I move, respond, react is totally different than how
I did prior. Right, So what do you say when
you were questioned about that shift? And when I say shift,
remember I said I can partalize these people. You know
what I'm saying, compartmentalized. I guess soon put it up.
I put them in certain boxes.

Speaker 2 (45:41):
Like but say go back to them. When I said
about God and you talking about the title, it's all
the title, because you got a title on friends, close friends,
family members, close family, department. You know what I'm saying.
It's so no matter how you look at it, you
you already putting your people in the category. But what

(46:03):
I can't figure out, I know everything about it. That's
a lot of work to keep up with them different category.

Speaker 1 (46:11):
Well, not necessarily because it's not it's no, because.

Speaker 2 (46:14):
You know a lot of people. That's a lot of work.

Speaker 1 (46:17):
But for me, I do know a lot of people,
but people that are close to me, that are like
in my personal space for real, for real. You know
I'm talking about not even a podcast support or follower,
podcast friend, social media friend, close friend, real life friend,

(46:39):
church friend, work friend, family friend, family, Like I literally,
you know what I'm saying, like it seems like a lot,
But I know I do have my boxes for those people.

Speaker 2 (46:51):
I was just joking with you cause I have it too.

Speaker 1 (46:53):
I mean, you know, but co workers, Yeah, because you know,
like when you leave work.

Speaker 2 (47:00):
Up in my space, I don't care what exactly exactly.
So when you get through putting all these titles on them, yeah,
your damn're still gonna treat all them the same.

Speaker 1 (47:08):
Yeah, so yeah, you're gonna have your couple. But listen,
So my thing is for those maybe that you were
once close to, be it family or friends that you
were once close to and you considered a real or
true relationship and you kind of learned some things about
them or that situationship, friendship, family ship.

Speaker 2 (47:27):
I've been knowing about them, been knowing about them.

Speaker 1 (47:29):
But when you start, when you put them in those boxes,
and you start moving different, like your shift is different,
and they notice like that you on call theway used
to it, You don't come and hang away used to it,
You don't reach out and blah blah blah, Like how
do you respond to that? You get what I'm saying, like,
because for.

Speaker 2 (47:46):
Me, you don't. That's your problem. That's a lot.

Speaker 1 (47:49):
And I know that's a lot.

Speaker 2 (47:51):
Of people problem. They on the defensive art Sometimes you
don't have to even take up for yourself. A lot
of ship been saying you have to let it be said.
If you can, if you can stop and control everything
everybody said, then it wouldn't be no good world. So
you got to let people talk. But like I heard
this dude say, he said, if they not, if they

(48:12):
not romancing you, But he say advancing you, he ain't
a cover. He just ain't a cover thing, he said,
if they not doing none of that for you. You
gotta let people be people. Just let them talk, because
what they talking about ain't your being it. But once

(48:32):
you hear everybody, it still ain't your bedding it because
they probably ain't the one that told you. So you
listen to it and you take heed from it. You
don't say nothing to the person. You don't hop right
on the phone you said it is so you can.
You don't do none of that. You ain't gotta tell
the person that that it was told to you. Yeah,
you just take you just take it and you deal
with you. But you already know how this person is.

(48:56):
So once you hear it that, how to make that
out to help you because y'all say, God be talking
to you, talking to you in a bunch of ways
that you don't listen.

Speaker 1 (49:04):
He does, and we don't because there be me sometimes
I don't listen. Then later i'd be like.

Speaker 2 (49:13):
Children told me, I'm talking about.

Speaker 1 (49:15):
Prior to you going.

Speaker 2 (49:17):
Yeah, I'm talking about He told.

Speaker 1 (49:19):
You in different ways, your mama told.

Speaker 2 (49:21):
You, events, everything. When I sit back and think about it,
I have never just certain I ain't never road walking.
It was just certain little things that were happening that
I knew one supposed to happen, and I still went
back over there. Yeah, on vacation.

Speaker 1 (49:44):
For free. I didn't have to pay nothing but your time,
which is a lot freedom. Okay, Well, yeah, when I
know that ships and relationships, I'm normally not the type
to Colin say, hey, you ain't call you don't do
nothing like that, because I do. I am a firm
believer that sometimes when God elevates you or move you,

(50:05):
you can't take everybody with you. And I know I
might be that everybody. You know what I'm saying in
somebody else situation of life, And so I'm good and
a lot of times, like if I have situationships friendships
or anything that just kind of doing doos off like
easy and stuff like I know that be the Lord.
You know what I'm saying. I done had even recently
like situations and friendships that I just knew were friendship

(50:28):
friendships and something so minor just my nuke happened to
where it dismantled the whole friendship and I was not
affected mentally or emotionally, and I'm just like, okay, Lord,
thank you, like dang, be like that with all of them.

Speaker 2 (50:44):
Not see this is what it get it for me?
Like I say, most people let it go past that. Okay.
If I feel like you are friend to me, well,
were working on a friendship and I bring you to
my house, been over here, will just say you've been
on here one time. We get somewhere and we get

(51:07):
into an argument. Now we're friends, we're homeboy, but you
didn't know why I stayed here until I shoulder and
we get somewhere, we we child and whatever, and we
get to having words and the first thing you say
is I know where you stay at. I'm not fucking
with you no more. You can't. You better not show
up over it for nothing. You probably wasn't even call
me because I could sider that a threat. And when

(51:28):
I say most people act slow. But people tell you
how that they show you just like they tear you.
But I get a lot of people think people be
bush Why I try to be straight up all the time.
I don't. I'm trying to be serious. I try to
people be laughing when I we talking. They gotta be joking.
He how we talked? Shit, man, I'm telling you the
bucket truth is how I feel for real. Take it,

(51:50):
how you're gonna take you, how you're gonna take it.

Speaker 1 (51:53):
So I was recently asked and it was just a
conversation that we were conversing about random topics. But to me,
I felt like they were really good conversations and topics.
But do I ever feel like I'm by myself when
it comes to being honest to speak in my mind?
And I was like, oh my goodness, all the time
right now, I don't always speak my mind spillers, believe

(52:15):
it or not. I shut up sometimes now I shut up.
Sometimes I'm just saying to certain things and people in situations.
Now give me a little give me a little credit. Anyway,
I have learned to be quiet sometimes now I have
not mastered it, spillers, I ain't asking a chick, but
as much as I can, I've learned to be quiet.

(52:35):
And I actually was reading something the other day. I
think it was The Daughters of the King. It was
one of the Devotions to something I was reading where
they said that sometimes just because your opinion or your
response may be true, and it may be honest, and
there may be evidence behind it, doesn't mean that you
always have to say something. So that's something I'm working
on now. Just shout the held up. Sometimes it's all

(52:56):
right to just shut up because even your.

Speaker 2 (53:00):
Well you've been working on there for a while.

Speaker 1 (53:02):
Okay, I'm saying I'm a work in progress whip that
takes time anyway. So what do you say to people,
mister Wilson that feel like that they get the short
end of the stick from the consequences of speaking their mind.
And I say that because you just said people always

(53:24):
thinking you talk so much stuff you do, but you
really be speaking the truth. But sometimes people can't handle it,
and people be getting mad because i'd have been around you,
well you didn't say it's something that was like real,
real and true, and people done get mad as fight,
I'm talking about hot Okay, So what do you say
to other people? Feel like that they get the short
end of the stick from the consequences of speaking of

(53:45):
my mind, because I feel like when you say stuff
or how you feel, you can walk away cool. But like,
if I say something on how I feel and if
it's true, because I'm not a booble, I'm not a starter,
I'm not none of that. If I'm gonna say something,
people probably be mad, but I promise you it's probably
gonna be the truth, or it's gonna be how I feel.
They get facts behind it, but I end up feeling

(54:07):
some type of way. If other people get mad, I
get you know what.

Speaker 2 (54:10):
I'm saying, probably because you thought probably because they feel
like you throw a low blow. See the blow hurt.
You probably be hitting below the bell. Mm hmmm, I'm
just saying you probably do. I don't. I don't know,
but you probably be hearing below the bell. But come
on with the question about it. Everybody else thought that
was the.

Speaker 1 (54:29):
Question about like, So when people speak their mind, they
get the short end of the stick. Like they can
say they feeling this honest.

Speaker 2 (54:36):
And don't they don't get the short end of the stick.
They just got that porn across. You can tell they got.

Speaker 1 (54:42):
That porn across and it offended other people.

Speaker 2 (54:45):
If it don't offend them, they don't get it. You
see how you be mad get if it look for real,
If it don't offend them, that's that's what your child,
that's what anybody. If it don't offend them, they don't
get it. So when I say when I say you don't,

(55:11):
don't sugar coat that. Can you hear all that? And
the thing when I say don't sugar coat that, that don't
mean you just be. You ain't have to be. It's
people check people politening like yeah, yeah, so you be
trying to check me politely. Then I make you get
the cussing them out. You ain't being don't don't find

(55:32):
a cuss Well yeah, it's the way. It's a way
to it's a way to do it. But then you
got you got people that play too. That's what I'm saying.
If you play a lot, that's how people treat you.
Being serious don't mean you don't play. You just play
with a certain people, certain person you don't play. I

(55:55):
got kids, Yeah we can go play. Yeah, but I
ain't play with your wrong now to rastle with you
ain't gonna be no planing, gonna be no, it ain't
bound because one thing I don't do is get into
it and make up. You're not my woman and I'm
a boyfriend because I'm not. I'm straight.

Speaker 1 (56:16):
Nothing against them, Yeah you're not.

Speaker 2 (56:20):
It's it's nothing. So what you know what I'm saying,
it's nothing to so hold on to friends is friends?
Friends come and go to a real friends stick around.

Speaker 1 (56:31):
What what about their family though? What about their family member?

Speaker 2 (56:34):
A real friend is that they can be family and
they can be anything. Family is just blood tied. They
the worst them, the worst part of it is out
here in this world because they know you, especially if
y'all grew up, if you was a little close little
with a little tight knit family, then your family know you. Them.
The ones can push more buttons than anybody because they

(56:54):
know you. Them. The ones can start more rumors than
anybody in the rooms can spread. The family ain't ship's man,
it ain't. It's that's just blood. You might because I
guarantee you people with big family, they don't like half
of them. If half of them have a gather, they

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ain't going to it. That's why people don't have fun
in you no more. In a long time, ain't nothing.
Fat family caused more problems with each other. They talk
down on each other.

Speaker 1 (57:32):
People up again.

Speaker 2 (57:33):
Want one that talk good on the one that's doing good.
The other ones around them listening to him, and they
don't like it. They're like, this is good and he's
good and doing good. He's bragging on them. We need
to put bragging on it if we get a robbed,
So you really bragging, say it ain't no.

Speaker 1 (57:49):
Good setting them up. Well, I feel like I've learned
a long time ago that you know, I'm sometimes to
you're gonna be in the fire by yourself, not by myself,
you know, because I feel like Jesus is always with me.
But in a lot of situations, when you.

Speaker 2 (58:04):
Don't put yourself there, yeah yeah, you still Yeah, when
you don't put yourself in the fire and you still
have to speak up for yourself, you'll still call it.

Speaker 1 (58:21):
We ain't talking about talking about the question. You just
you stepping on some toes. Sit on my front door
step this ut. That's all. But what I was gonna
say about that is, you know, I do believe though,
when you're speaking your truth or standing up for what

(58:42):
you believe, people will sometimes agree with you silently. And
when I say agree with you silently, you know they're
pick and choose who they want to listen to them.
You know what I'm saying to say, Well, she was
right or he was right when this and has happened.
But when it comes to putting it out there in
front of everybody so everybody know, they'll never do that.
And I got a problem with that. I don't like that, Like,

(59:04):
don't I don't need you to tell me I'm right
in behind closed doors. You know what I'm saying, Tell
me I'm right in front of everybody, or agree with
me in front of everybody. But if you're not gonna
agree with me in front of everybody, just don't agree,
you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (59:16):
But sometimes I mean, well, you know, me being me
to be me in the way that I respond and
react to people, it gets me in trouble me too,
and it's gonna keep getting me in trouble because I'm
gonna keep That's the easy thing I know how to
do it be me. I've been being me my whole life.
Now for me to be somebody else. That's gonna be different. Now,

(59:39):
now it's gonna be a problem. Car. Now you you
want me to be somebody I ain't, and then you
want this ignorant body me to still you know you
don't want.

Speaker 1 (59:48):
I feel like as long as you are coming from
a real and a sincere place where you're not being
vindictive or malicious or any of that, you not starting nothing,
and you just speaking the truth or saying what it is,
is like walk away with you chewing up. Hell, Hi,
I ain't.

Speaker 2 (01:00:04):
Just jumping in nobody conversation. I can hear the whole
thing that a person talking about. I can't. Sheve my
ears off. So yeah, if I'm sitting back you old conversation,
I'm listening. But I guarantee you I'm not gonna say
nothing to you about what you're talking about because it's
not on my bed. But I'm gonna keep my ears off.
So I say, people talk. They talk all the time.

(01:00:25):
I hear people they be talking about me about what
somebody else said. Want me to say something. I was like, yeah, yeah,
I said that. Yeah, I see, I ain't said I'm
sitting there, so yeah, I said, I'm waiting on a
lie or I say something I'm taking long as you
tell the truth about me, I don't even care up

(01:00:48):
because I ain't. I ain't gonna do nothing that I'm
ashamed of. Nothing that I'm ashamed of. But if you
lie on me, if I walk by and hear that
lie of this person, come tell me and they I
got it now, I said, I got a lot of
work on I gotta do too, because I got it bad.
If a person come, say where this person said this
about you, I ain't feel to take no better. I

(01:01:10):
ain't on no social media. I'm thinking over do that,
and I'm feeling that, hey, you, so, what's the problem,
because I don't like that they're right there. When you
let certain things drag on, it gets worse.

Speaker 1 (01:01:23):
Yeah, yeah, I agree with you. Nip it in the bud.
That's important. I feel that. I also feel and believe
that God will reveal people and their intentions way better
than we can. I'm yep, And it took me a
long time to learn that. I'm still learning that it's
okay for me not to try to prove my truth
or get people to listen to me or understand what

(01:01:45):
I'm saying, or even believe what I'm saying. You know
what I'm saying at this point, it is what it is,
My my concern, not concern, but what I'm learning to
deal with and I'm working on dealing with is whenever
I ask to disconnect me from those type of people
or cowards, the silent witnesses, or people that don't protect

(01:02:06):
my name or intentions behind my back. I'm learning. I'm
trying to learn how to just walk away gracefully. You
know what I'm saying, Like bow out gracefully and just know, Okay,
God done showed you. What else do you want? You
know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (01:02:23):
I really can't say the part that I'm looking for now,
but I know it's saved. But come on.

Speaker 1 (01:02:29):
Bob uh.

Speaker 2 (01:02:33):
Get out, really come back.

Speaker 1 (01:02:37):
That's all just you know, people protect my name behind
my back. You know what I'm saying. Even if you're
not being vocal or agreeing with me at that moment
or publicly, or you know, saying yeah, she was right.
If the conversation come up when I'm not there, I
need you to say, yeah she was right. You know,

(01:02:57):
don't be on it in to where when God got
a step in because he gonna make you pay for
it too, because you wasn't vocal or you didn't do
the right thing when the opportunity presented itself. And child,
when I say, I done been in situations y'all to
where I have tried to beg people and explain to
people the type of situations that I've been in and

(01:03:20):
what a person has done to me or a group
has done to me. This is I'm telling y'all, this
is what happened. And it was like I heard you.
I heard you, but I promise you years later you
know what I'm saying. It was like the Lord reveal
and show people who people really are and who and
I used to pray back in the day, like Lord,
please open their eyes, open their eyes so that they
can really see the truth. So people can really see

(01:03:41):
the truth, so I won't be out here looking like
the weirdo or black sheep or so.

Speaker 2 (01:03:45):
So, So what be what be hurting you? Is it
about what was said or because it was said, or.

Speaker 1 (01:03:56):
No, it's not what was said or because it was said.
Because I feel like when I say things at the moment,
and I think that's my Daddy in me.

Speaker 2 (01:04:03):
But when I said trust, did you trust the person
the people.

Speaker 1 (01:04:13):
I have expected I don't know if I can say trust,
but I have expectations for people or certain people to
stand on what's right. And I feel like if something
is said, it doesn't matter the it doesn't matter what
situation it may be, doesn't matter what sectary may be in.
If something is said and it's truthful and it's right,

(01:04:35):
and you know it's truthful and you know it's right,
just be like, well, yeah, that's wrong.

Speaker 2 (01:04:44):
What I what I what I better said about it?
That's the problem that you want to be the only
that I'm follow us, the one in your head. But
when I said I better saved that, the Lord did
not want me to use that. When I say that, disappeared. Good,
thank you, it disappeared. But you got to be a leader.
You got to hang around leaders too. You don't want

(01:05:04):
to hang around followers or followers. A leader know how
to act, yeah, a follower know how to follow.

Speaker 1 (01:05:11):
And a lot of my leader friends and comrades have
kind of been like, okay, toys, Okay, sometimes you ain't
got to stay nothing all the time. Yeah you might
be right yet the situation right, yes, wrong, yes, whatever,
but just shut up. Just let it be what it's
gonna be. And I'm learning that because y'all I'll be like,

(01:05:31):
hell no, this is what it is. And but I
don't have to be like that all the time. And
I'm thankful for growths because the last week I think
I've done pretty well with holding my tongue on a
lot of situations.

Speaker 2 (01:05:44):
I told you leaders. Leaders don't down just they don't
know how to just lead. They don't know how to lead.
A leader be leading ahead of time, don't even.

Speaker 1 (01:05:51):
Know it, don't even realize you.

Speaker 2 (01:05:54):
They know how to act, that's all that's about. It is,
not know how to add. You can mess up. And
if you got a good friend, she ain't gonna act.
No food with you in front of nobody. I say,
in front of nobody, because social media is ad. Yeah,
and they'll come to you. They'll call a fraend. We
need to sit down because they know you like the sip.

(01:06:16):
We need to se that have they know you like,
they know you like to go out, and you can
go out and they'll do that. And if y'all cuss
each other out, then it's y'all too. If one of
y'all as whole record it was y'all to so you
will see who the week is. Absolutely so when y'all
get through that, that's how y'all was supposed to.

Speaker 1 (01:06:34):
And those really the type of conversations I really sincerely like,
contrary to some people believe, but I love if I
if we can do a good brunch, we ain't got
to do it. We can go to McDonald's and get
some chicken nuggets in I see, and just have a conversation.
And I'm good on the spirits up here.

Speaker 2 (01:06:50):
You know what. Tak them to McDonald they see it.

Speaker 1 (01:06:54):
Give put a little food out of our stomach. Baby,
we can hang chow it out anyway. Thank you so much,
mister Wilson for that. We will do a check in
or check up on this episode in a couple of weeks.
I'm gonna give you a little break, baby.

Speaker 2 (01:07:11):
We need knock this out. This you postponed me five times.

Speaker 1 (01:07:19):
I'm gonna give you a break because when you read it,
I supposed to be ready. The next episode, we're gonna
talk about just holidays and our children and expectations when
it comes to holidays, and.

Speaker 2 (01:07:36):
I ain't gonna get nothing about the holiday for them.
Kids ain't gonna get me not.

Speaker 1 (01:07:40):
We appreciate your therapy position. Your hands are definitely gonna
be out now I hear you on the airways. Well,
thank you so much, mister Wilson. Is there any any
advice that you want to give to the spillers before
you end?

Speaker 2 (01:07:58):
Better stop reading a lot of stops talking to theyself.
It ain't wrong. I'm talking to yourself. Yes, I wrong
yourself too, yourself because you might say something just as
stupid as the person. So you prepare yourself for this first.

Speaker 1 (01:08:14):
You're right, so you won't be able to get mad
or get mad. All right, Well, thank you, miss s Wilson.
Can you tell the spilly spye until next time, a.

Speaker 2 (01:08:25):
Lad, I don't know when it's gonna be see your name.

Speaker 1 (01:08:30):
Thank you so much, sir. Thank you, because it's spilled
encouragement time, and so I need to I need to
get this part together, Thank you, sir. I will all right, spillers,
this is now our spill encouragement time of the episode.
Create in me a clean heart, Psalm fifty one ten.

(01:08:51):
David's prayer for the Lord was to create in him
a clean heart and renew the right spirit within him.
Spillings This is a prayer I pray every single day.
When I say, I pray it when I wake up
in the morning. Sometimes if I'm thinking about it when
I go to sleep during the day. I know I
say it's especially when I'm in certain situations. I'd be like, Oh, Lord,
creating me a clean heart, mainly because I know that

(01:09:13):
my heart is jacked up towards some folk situations and
situations to come that I may not know about. And
I know the only way I will be able to
see my heavenly Father's face is if my heart is clean,
because he does tell us in the Bible, y'all, that
only the peer in heart shall see God. So that
is something that I'm working on. I have been working

(01:09:33):
on it for a long time. I'm working on it
every day all day. I'm gonna be working on it
until I see his face. I'm like that lady on
that her TikTok. Her daughter said, Mama's who the first
person you want to see when you get tell And
she said Jesus. And she said, when you see him,
what you're gonna say? She said, I'm gonna say Hoo.
I made it. I feel like her, y'all. I'm gonna

(01:09:54):
be like, hoo, I made it so I'm forever a
heart working case work in if I agress. This may
require isolation. Sometimes it may require you from disconnecting from
folk or situations that you don't want to. It may
require you taking a pass on trying to reassess relationships. Fellers,
listen when I say, I promise, y'all, the Lord woke

(01:10:16):
me up out of my sleep a couple of nights ago,
literally and just gave me that idiom like sweep around
your own front door before you try to sweep around
somebody else's. And I feel like he had given me
that because I had been dealing with some things in
some situations, thinking about fixing some things, maybe reassessing some
things relationships, and he was like, no, fix you first.

(01:10:38):
How you gonna fix something else when you're not fixed?
Make sure you're good. Make sure your relationship with me
is good. Make sure your marriage is good, the relationship
with your child is good, the relationship with your immediate
family is good. Than anything else that I want you
to work out and fix, I'll give you the opportunity
to do so.

Speaker 2 (01:10:57):
So.

Speaker 1 (01:10:57):
With that being said, make sure that you or your
best self at all times, and that you're taking advice
from anyone, that you're not taking advice from anyone that's
not their best self. Don't allow anybody to come to
you to try to mediate anything or try to fix
anything when they're fixings is wrong. And when I say

(01:11:17):
they're fixings, think about their relationships with their family, their
immediate family, their siblings, their children. And it's not that
you're judging, you're just taking it in and you're considering
if this is the person that I want to receive
some type of mediation or advice from. Okay, broken people
cannot fix broken people's fellers, So do a hard check.

(01:11:42):
Fix your heart. That's something that I'm working on it.
Y'all can join me with working on it. Okay, it's
not easy to do, but it's not hard to accomplish.
Thank you so much feelers for tuning in today. I
know it's been a minute. I'm gonna get it together.
I love you all so much, and until next time,
this is your girl, Missus Wilson and I am signing out.