SEASON 4- EPISODE 5- SIS IS YOU COO? DON'T POUR FROM AN EMPTY CUP!

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Speaker 1 (00:27):
Hey world, Welcome to The Spell Podcast. Your favorite podcast.
Feature in your favorite podcast, host me, your girls, Missus Wilson.

Speaker 2 (00:38):
Peem pim pim pim pim.

Speaker 1 (00:40):
Hey spillers, Welcome to episode five of season four The
Spell Podcast.

Speaker 2 (00:50):
Listen what they do that ass? This is your cool.

Speaker 1 (00:54):
Don't pour from an empty cup. We got all type
of titles in this episode. But I'm super duper excited
about this episode, as I am every single one of
my episodes. But y'all already know that, spillers. Okay, first,
we want to shout out to Jesus. It's Holy Week. Callelujah.
You know we got pum. We did Palm Sunday. I
hope y'all had a good worship experience. I know we
did at the first twenty fifteen Main Street Holy Monday,

(01:18):
absolutely awesome when Jesus went, you know, flipping tables, letting
them have it. Now we got Holy Tuesday, he talking
and preaching to the cheering, and then we have the
rest of this amazing Holy Week. I hope you guys
are experiencing it. You're intentional about experiencing it. I hope
you are enjoying it. I am this is one of
my most favorite, if not my favorite week week. Y'all know,

(01:41):
I got favorite everything, but I love Holy Week. My
husband can tell you, my daughter can tell you. I'm
about Listen. We're gonna put on some Jesus Christ movies,
some passions of the this learning about Jesus, who Jesus
really was, learning about those sciples. Listen, I'm all into
all the things when it comes to Holy Week. I
hope you guys are having an amazing Holy Week. If

(02:03):
you cannot tell already, I'm by myself today, y'all know.
That's how I started off the spiel podcast, a black
girl platform that I can use to kind of inspire, encourage, motivate,
and help us to kind of grow, you know, together.
So this is one of those episodes where I'm by myself.
I hope that something is said that it's going to

(02:24):
bless you and help you to be better. Okay, So
with that being said, let's go ahead and get into it.

Speaker 2 (02:29):
Spillers. It is our spill mental check in. Tom.

Speaker 1 (02:33):
This is the time of the episode where we do
our self love, self awareness mental check in. So Spillers,
make sure this time you are being intentional about your
mental self love, self awareness, mental check in, So stop
what you're.

Speaker 2 (02:49):
Doing, pause for the cause, and handle that.

Speaker 1 (02:52):
Connect with your emotions, Identify with exactly how you are
feeling in this moment, projected it, talk about it, express
it however way you see fit, so that you can
make sure that you are doing the work and checking
in and making sure that you are well, okay, all

(03:13):
is well with the me spillers. Remember I'm gonna tell
y'all this every episode for season four twenty twenty five.
One of my goals was to be very intentional about
letting go and letting God. And when I say that,
that means things that are beyond my control, out of
my control that I can't do nothing about, instead of
worrying about it, allowing it to cause illnesses that I
don't want to grow in my body, especially my new

(03:36):
things that you know, you know, girl, let that go.

Speaker 2 (03:38):
You can't control, get over it.

Speaker 1 (03:41):
But I've been more intentional about giving those things to God.
And I had to explain this to somebody recently. They
were like, well, don't you feel like you're dumping it
on him? And it's like, I don't feel like I'm
dumping it on him because I take him at his word,
and I'm not trying to go like just Bible. I
don't want you to think I'm just the I'm spiritual,

(04:02):
you know, and I'm and I'm in my word. So
I use that as my day today walk. But he's
told me, and he's giving me the right to cast
my cares on him. He told me that he was
a burden bearer, so I don't have to carry the
burdens because He's gonna carry them for me. And so
that's what I do. I'm growing stronger daily with doing that.

Speaker 2 (04:23):
I love it. It's more peaceful here. Listen.

Speaker 1 (04:27):
I don't worry about dealing with folk or things that
I ain't got no control of. I'm just like, okay, lord,
I'm just gonna gon hand it to you, because I
really ain't at the time the energy, the patience, the strength,
the mental capacity to deal with this.

Speaker 2 (04:41):
Or that or them.

Speaker 1 (04:43):
So I'm just gonna hand it to you because you
told me that I can. Okay, So be intentional about
the things that you are dealing with, things that you
are allowing to consume your everyday life. You know what
I'm saying, Spiritual spillers, you know, So yeah, be intentional
about that and that's gonna to me or that's gonna
show like your faith or your strength when it comes

(05:04):
to being able to let go of things that you
can't control. And with that being said, this intentionality, Spillers
has saved your girl a lot of energy hallelu, a
lot of money hallelu, a lot of time, and a
lot of spaces baby, because your girl don't move around
like I used to. They say, I'm put up now
where I've been put up because I'm married, But I'm
put up, put up, happy, put up though, Okay, anyway,

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I pray all is well with you, Spillers. If all
is not well, please say something so that we can
do something. Remember health is wealth, and in order to
be wealthy, you must first be healthy. All right, we
are moving on. It is our social media shout out time.
This is the time of the episode where we shout
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This is the time of the episode. Baby, it's the
spill trend topic time where we talk about everything that

(08:33):
is trending in the culture and listen so much going
on in the in the culture, so much to talk
about it. I had to take a sip because I
was reminded of my topic time today and baby, m
it's a lot. I'm like, my daughter is over it's
overly stimulating. She told me that last week, y'all. She

(08:55):
told me I was supposed to get her about some
important things I think, and she told me that I
was being low vibrational and she said, and my request
requests were overly stimulating. And I had to really look
at that, and I was like, ooh, girl, Like I
can relate to that a lot, as a wife, as
a mother, as an educator, as a server in the community,

(09:16):
a servant in the community.

Speaker 2 (09:17):
Like yeah, I get it. Sis.

Speaker 1 (09:19):
Anyway, y'all, So first we're gonna talk about the sister
in Pennsylvania. And I said, sister, let me take a
sip of my community. My uh my juice.

Speaker 2 (09:37):
Listen, y'all.

Speaker 1 (09:39):
A judge Sonya Micknight, African American judge in Pennsylvania in February,
I think the tenth was found guilty of attempted murder
and aggravated assault.

Speaker 2 (09:56):
Y'all.

Speaker 1 (09:56):
This lady then tried to unlive her boyfriend. Y'all, don't
hear me, baby jewish this And she was beautiful. I'm
talking about a beautiful little stout carmel, thing like, come on, sis,
what is we doing? Anyway, Apparently he had been trying
to break up with her for months. I guess she
felt like what the old saying is, if I can't
have you, can't nobody have your baby. She said, I
can show you better than I can tell you. And

(10:17):
he didneft around and found out, Yeah, she done tried
to underlive this man. Y'all. Apparently they were in the
house together, so I had to do a little reading
in it because I thought that she like entered the house.

Speaker 2 (10:30):
And did it.

Speaker 1 (10:31):
Boy happened was obviously they were having the conversation before
he went to sleep, before they were to go to sleep,
and he was just kind of telling her, you know,
this is pretty much over with. I'm just I just
it took me a while to really understand it, because
how you gonna go to sleep? You can't read the room, brother,
You couldn't feel no energy. You can see why she
still spending the night if you've been trying to break

(10:53):
up with her full long, like, it's just so many
red flags, like I'm just not confused.

Speaker 2 (10:58):
But anyway, the man was sleep, she was in the
man was sleep.

Speaker 1 (11:03):
She shot him in a face. I'm assuming she tried
to shoot him in the head, but the bullet missed. Baby,
Nobody but the Lord, that's all. Like I said, well,
nobody but the Holy Spirit that changed the trajectory of
that bullet because it went past his face, y'all. However,
it did leave him blind in one eye. So you know,

(11:23):
this whole situation is just baffling to me. I'm sad
for both parties. However, according to the evidence and the investigation,
he had been trying to move on, so it wouldn't
I mean, it ain't really no excuse. You know, he
was just trying to get away, break up with her,
and she just wasn't having it. And so instead of
her gracefully bound out as a lady moving on, she said,

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I give it. She showed him better than she could
tell him. That's all I can say. And it makes
me extremely sad for her and for both of them. Really,
I'm not biased in this situation because I'm.

Speaker 2 (11:56):
Sad that.

Speaker 1 (11:59):
He's dealing with this to this just goes to shows
that men deals with domestic violence as well. But for her,
because she was beautiful, like literally look her up, y'all,
beautiful judge in Pennsylvania again. Her name was Sonya McKnight.

Speaker 2 (12:15):
She was a judge.

Speaker 1 (12:16):
That indicates her success, you know, successful black woman was.
I don't know if I was in this intentional health
and wellness class or if it was something that I
read that said the more successful black women are, the
more stressful we are, or they are because I feel
like I'm extremely successful, but baby, now I'll get somebody

(12:38):
else to do the stress thing. But that just kind
of made me sad for her because I'm just imagining.
I can't imagine the things that she's dealing with. Mentally,
being a judge, you know, having to oversee different situations
with different people, and then the personal life one to
be happy with a certain person, but this person not
one to be happy for her. I just kind of wonder, like, what, what, like,

(13:03):
are you really do you really think you that smart
of a judge that you can do this and get
away with it? You know what I'm saying, and then
it makes me extremely sad for him because now he's
going to be a man scorned. You know, we don't
know how this Trump is going to cause him to
respond or react. Hell, even with this future relationships, we
don't know what this is gonna do.

Speaker 2 (13:22):
You know.

Speaker 1 (13:23):
I do know that heartache is a hell of a pain.
It's something that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.
Thank the Lord for deliverance. Been there, done that. I
ain't going through that ever. Again, you understand what I'm saying.
I've witnessed those storms, so I understand how it feel. However,
I feel like in order for you to completely like heal,

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like you have to be okay with that not being
what you want it to be or what you desire
for it to be, and just kind of moving on,
like you gotta be okay with it. I feel like, listen,
crashing out now. If it's self defense, do what you
gotta do by any means necessary, because what we're not

(14:07):
gonna do is have nobody getting on us. Pat We're
not going through none of that. So I totally understand
if it's self defense, however, doing it because you you
mad because they don't want you or baby, Well, my
tyler parents had baby.

Speaker 2 (14:24):
When people walk out there, I want to walk at
your life.

Speaker 1 (14:26):
Let them go, well, Madia said it, But y'all know
them get into let them go baby. If they don't
want to be a part, we have to learn to
let them go. And it doesn't matter what it is,
a relationship, a situationship, a marriage, a friendship, a family ship.
We have to learn to gracefully bout out and move on.

(14:48):
You know, people are seasonal as well. People are seasonal
as well.

Speaker 2 (14:54):
So know that I learned. I was reminded of that
in Sunday School too.

Speaker 1 (14:58):
Sometimes you do all that you can do where people
or they've done all that they could do for you,
and when that time is up, that season is up,
let it go.

Speaker 2 (15:05):
And a lot of times we stay longer than we should.

Speaker 1 (15:08):
We linger around thinking things are gonna get better, people
are gonna get better.

Speaker 2 (15:11):
Nah.

Speaker 1 (15:12):
When God starts showing you those signs, those signals that
it's time for you to move on, that your time
here is up, do it and then be so self
aware that you can kind of discern when other people
feel like their time is up with you as well.
Quit holding on to stuff and folking thing that you

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ain't supposed to hold on to longer than what you're
supposed to hold on to. Okay, so let that so,
let's gracefully bead sisters. Next, I do want to shout
out my state, Central Arkansas. We're praying there's been some
sad violence with some sad young people in my city. Parents,
we have to do a better job at parenting our kids.

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If we don't do a better job at parenting our kids,
the world on parenting baby, and that ain't problems that
you want. If you love your kids, if you truly
love your kids. And when I say you truly love
your kids, you're not sparing the rod. Okay, you're okay
if somebody else have to redirect them. I understand you
not want everybody to discipline your child, but redirecting them

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or giving them, you know, sound advice, or correcting them
when they say something or do something wrong, you have
to be okay with that. Okay, So shout out to
Central Arkansas, special shout out to Conway. I have really
good friends that live in the Conway area, and I
know this is a rude awakening and a wake up
call for y'all. Shout out to those colleges there. It's

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just scary. I just feel like we're living in a
day and time where it's hard to do anything. It's
hard to you know, freely go out and just live life,
you know what I'm saying, and enjoy life, and I
have to worry about undisciplined people or you know.

Speaker 2 (16:52):
It's just sad. So praying for y'all.

Speaker 1 (16:55):
All right, last, but not least on a brighter note,
we want to shout out all Ephanse. She is a Mississippian.
Shout out to Maddie, y'all. Maddie is Mississippi's first African
American Miss Mississippi teen us A. But listen to the
best part about this, y'all. Maddie has been running for

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this title for three years, not one year and gave up,
not two years and gave up.

Speaker 2 (17:22):
But the third time was a charm for Maddie. Baby.

Speaker 1 (17:24):
The third time running for Miss teen Miss Mississippi teen USA,
which is her last time running at nineteen, she won
the title. Not only does she make history, y'all, she
made history. Okay, I tell yeah, she made history. So
not only did she win her third time running, but

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she also made history as the first African American Miss
Teen USA in Mississippi. Y'all's twenty twenty five. Y'all know
a lot of not a black girls. Aren has this
the first? But anyway, we're shouting out to Maddie. We
are so proud of you, baby.

Speaker 2 (18:08):
Listen. Your community is rooting for you.

Speaker 1 (18:10):
She's been all over social media, on the news. I
feel like she is an example and an amazing lesson
for our little black girls and here a lot black
women too, cause we see what the judge doing. Anyway,
no matter what you keep going, what God has for
you is for you. That is something that I teach
my baby girl. Often we are living in the time

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spillers where kids see things and they think that those
things are easily accessible. And I know, we feel like
social media has a lot to do with this. Social
media does have a lot to do with it, but
it's also what we're modeling as parents, as guardians to them,
right listen, we have to teach them and explain to
them and show them.

Speaker 2 (18:51):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (18:51):
If y'all not trying to get it, if it's something
that you really want, you have to put the effort
in and you have to be intentional about trying to
get that thing. Okay, So listen, let's focus on something positive.
Teach our kids to focus on something positive, inspiring.

Speaker 2 (19:08):
Make sure it's obtainable.

Speaker 1 (19:10):
You know, it ain't nothing that they may be able
to get tomorrow and think they live in their best life.

Speaker 2 (19:15):
Make sure it's obtainable and it's something.

Speaker 1 (19:17):
Whatever it is that will require them to pour back
into someone else or something else their community.

Speaker 2 (19:23):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (19:24):
That's our job, y'all, is to try to teach and
guide our kids to of course live their best life,
but we also want them to live an intentional life
to where they're able to identify their purpose and they're
able to walk in that to practice that. Okay, because listen,
trying to get stuff hastily, it's for the birds. It's

(19:47):
for the birds. The quicker you get some baby, the quicker,
you'll lose it, and you'll lose it. The loss will
hurt more than it did trying to get it.

Speaker 2 (19:56):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (19:57):
If you are struggling trying to find out your purpose,
tapping to your gifts, pray about what you think your
gift is, ask God for revelation and trust and believe that.

Speaker 2 (20:07):
He will give it to you.

Speaker 1 (20:08):
Okay, so let's have that black girl joy. Let's have
that Maddie Olephant joy. You know, if at first you
don't succeed, what you gonna do, y'all, let's.

Speaker 2 (20:18):
Yourself fuf and try again. You can touch it off
and try again, try again.

Speaker 1 (20:25):
We are now moving on to our spills topic time.
All right, I hope you all enjoyed those amazing jazz

(20:46):
tunes for my boys, the Trap Jazz Giants Quincy q
Note Watson and Philly Mouton. We are moving on to
our spill uh topic time spillers where they do that
from an empty cup?

Speaker 2 (21:01):
This is you cool. We're gonna get into all of that,
y'all know.

Speaker 1 (21:05):
Every now and then, I like to real it in
and have real conversations about things that we're dealing with
and things personally that I've experienced, especially within the timeframe
that I'm recording or putting these episodes out. Okay, So anyway,
I wanted to do an episode with mister Wilson this week,

(21:25):
and I was like, uh, I wanted to do an
episode with my friend Rob, who is the owner and
CEO of the Teacher's Lounge, and I was like, Ah,
I really need to talk about something that's been tugging
on my heart. So I said itself, and myself said, huh,
this is something that I should have talked about for
Women's History Month, y'all, which is March, which is one

(21:46):
of my favorite months. But since I didn't make it,
I was like, you know what, I can go ahead
and do this episode. Since Mother's Days coming up, it's
holy weak time for us to do a lot of
reflection gon and talk about it, get it over with,
and just get to it. So I'm gonna go ahead
and get to it. Spillers, it is important that we
realize that self love requires self care and listen, thank

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you Lord.

Speaker 2 (22:09):
This is how I knew I.

Speaker 1 (22:12):
Was on the right path when I decided to do
this episode and talk about this stuff. I went to
an intentional Happiness class. It was a professional development, but
it's from a self care code.

Speaker 2 (22:25):
She's all types of stuff.

Speaker 1 (22:26):
She's so calm and just, and she's a black woman,
so shout out to Miss Crystal Green brass Well. Anyway,
and when I went to the class, y'all, this was
one of the topics self love, self care, and she
just kind of went into details about all of that.
So I'm excited that I decided to have this conversation.

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So anyway, when we realize that self love requires self care,
when I say self care, spillers, we are talking from
the inside out.

Speaker 2 (23:00):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (23:00):
In the class, she gave us a definition of self.

Speaker 2 (23:06):
Care and it was just so crazy. I was like,
oh my god.

Speaker 1 (23:10):
The self care definition. Self care is considered a now
and it's two different definitions. One of them is the
practice of taking an active role and protecting one's own
well being and happiness, and the other one is the
active process of making your body and mind a pleasant
place to inhabit by feeling your own cup first. This

(23:35):
ensures you have enough to give other spills back. Listen
that right there, that second definition took me in cause
I was like, oh my god, and it's exactly what
I have in my notes for this episode. Self care
I'm talking about, ladies, is taking care of yourself, your

(23:58):
mental well being, the capacity of your physical and mental
well being. Okay, So with that being said, we're gonna
talk about pouring from an empty cup and how does
that look? So overwhelmingly doing and going above and beyond
for others when you do that, spillers, that's when you

(24:18):
have to stop reflect and know I'm doing absolutely, absolutely
too much. And that is an example of porn from
an empty cup. So there are several different ways that
we can pour from an empty cup, and we can
become so used to it because it can become a
part of our rituals and routines, something that we do
on a daily something that's just habitual or natural. But

(24:39):
we gonna try to pipe down so that we can
do more self care and we can become more self
aware and take care of ourselves better. So let's start
with the house, yaut Let's start at home, the cheering
and the husbands and the partners and the relationships and
the situationships. And now they listen, Linda, listen, I'm a wife, right,

(25:00):
So this is an example for me. Last year, it's
been a little bit over year, we bought my daughter
a car, and I'm so grateful.

Speaker 2 (25:08):
That's one of the things that.

Speaker 1 (25:09):
I am extremely grateful that God granted us the finances
to be able to do that humbly. And I'm not
saying it's trying to be funny. I'm saying it's because
before that it was a lot. It was me pouring
from an empty cup. And I know that may sound like, girl,

(25:29):
what do you mean listen? Ripping and running to all
of her different events? And when I say ripping and running,
drive and having to go pick up, drop off, pick up,
take here, go back and pick this up, take their
dance activities, practice competitions. One point we was traveling out
of town for dance competitions, extracurriculum, school clubs, and activities

(25:50):
that she's a part of, inductions PTA PTA mom. Having
to go to meetings, making sure homework is done, reading
school projects are done, having to go pick up things
for the school projects and make sure that they get
done and make sure that they're done right. Oh and
since had a life too, her birthday parties, things that
her friends wanted to do, that she was invited to, gatherings.

Speaker 2 (26:12):
Yeah, all that.

Speaker 1 (26:16):
Pouring from an empty cup. And when I say pouring
from an empty cup, Although those were things that I
knew that I had to do as a mom, because
I knew that was my job, that was my duty,
it was overwhelming. It was overwhelming because I have this
routine of in between me having to do all of
that for her get up go to work, work duties

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whatever those duties may tell of, or the's PDS, staff meetings,
extracurricular activities that I'm a part of that I signed
up for that I'm actively supposed to be doing at work.

Speaker 2 (26:53):
Then community things, things.

Speaker 1 (26:55):
That I have to do for church or the sorority
or the school, her school, things that I'm involved in
that I have to do. So we're talking about all
of that on top of me having to make sure
that she gets everything done that she needs to get done,
and then having to come home. And I'm a domestic
wife in twenty twenty five. Yeah, I'm one of those.
I still like to cook. We rather much cook weekly.

(27:18):
We'll cook all day before we go out. If we
know something on a menia that we want, we gonna say, well,
let's go get the recipe and let's just the ingredients
and let's just try to do it at home because
it's anyway. Yeah, on top of all of that, being tired,
still having to make sure that dinner is ready, to
make sure that the house is clean, to make sure
that lungder is done, to make sure that husband is satisfied,

(27:39):
an inn in every way for y'all, partners, whoever it
else it may be. Oh, and let's not forget about
the ones that are taking care of parents or siblings
or family members or nieces and nephews or extra kids
and extra family members that you are responsible for physically
and financially. Do y'all get one saying baby, that's soap,
that's too much? Sometimes we so often we get caught

(28:03):
up in doing all of those things that when it's
time to actually sit with ourselves and do something for ourselves,
we're so overwhelmed. The only thing we really have energy
for is to wash our tails and go to bed,
you know, and not to think. Not I mean, I
don't even want to talk about the ones with multiple children,

(28:28):
because we're talking about sometimes three different activities, three different
sports events, three different schools or two different schools. You know,
like how that is pouring from an empty cup. Okay, now,
thank God for my husband. A lot of those things

(28:51):
I don't have to deal with by myself anymore because
I have a helpmate. For one, A lot of those
things I don't have to worry about anymore is because
that was one of the reasons why we purchased Mackenzie
a car, and that has been a huge blessing because
now I can kind of do some things that I
need to do and have time a lot more time

(29:12):
for me.

Speaker 2 (29:13):
But prior to the car, the struggle was real.

Speaker 1 (29:16):
I'm talking about some days getting home at eleven and
twelve o'clock at night when she have out of town games,
having to stay up until twelve o'clock at night until
they get here, and having to go to the school
and pick her up like that is tiresome, okay, And
it can be overwhelming, what they say, It can overly
stimulate you. It can be stressful if you do not

(29:36):
manage it. Okay, if you do not manage it, A
lot of times it have to be done. We can't complain.
There's nothing we can do but just get up and
do it. And that is okay because sometimes those are
the cars that we're deal A lot of times those
are the cars that we've asked to be dealt. Many
of those are the cars that we pray for. Right however,

(29:57):
you have to make it work, okay, So you get
it done. You make it work, and then when it's
time for you to rejuvenate, relax, release, whatever the situation
may do be, you have to make sure that you
do that, you have to put in time for that.
So as wives, mothers, daughters, you know, siblings, whatever the

(30:19):
case you may be, whomever you're responsible for, we have
to learn not to get so overwhelmed that we don't
make time for ourselves. It's killing us slowly, it really is.
It's killing us slowly. And we're gonna talk about that
in a second. Okay, we're gonna talk about that in
a second. But it's killing us slowly.

Speaker 2 (30:40):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (30:41):
So pouring from an empty cup when it comes to
our spouse, our children, our domestic duties.

Speaker 2 (30:48):
Something that I do.

Speaker 1 (30:50):
I've done for some time now, and it may help
alleviate some things because I'm just gonna go and tell y'all,
I do not believe that the weekends are for cleaning.
I don't think the weekends are for us to be
sitting in the lunchs and nail shops and all of
that good stuff. I just don't believe in it. I'm sorry,

(31:11):
you pamper yourself, how you do what you do when
you want to do it.

Speaker 2 (31:15):
But I believe that Friday nights all.

Speaker 1 (31:19):
Day Saturday Sunday after worship is literally rejuvenation relaxing, resting,
do what you want to do for you time. Okay,
I really believe that I'm intentional about that. Anybody can
tell you my weekends, I'm doing what I want to do,
how I want to do, when I want to do it. Lately,
it ain't been none. But in the house, I don't

(31:41):
even go to the stores on the weekend.

Speaker 2 (31:42):
Y'all. My family can tell you. Now, my kend's got
a car.

Speaker 1 (31:46):
If I need something and it has to be like serious,
I'll say, send her.

Speaker 2 (31:51):
To do it.

Speaker 1 (31:51):
But because I don't do it, I try not to
even put her in a situation to where I need
her to go to the store and pick something up
for me.

Speaker 2 (31:57):
I try to get all of that done during the
week We laundry. Likely when I say, let me tell you,
I'm break out and break it down to you. All right.

Speaker 1 (32:05):
So every day I get off work at four o'clock,
I get home at about four twenty. It's three of us.
I'm still kind of doing lungry for everybody. I don't
do as much as for mackenzy anymore, but sometimes I
try to do hers to and when I say do it,
I just watch it dry, put it on her bed
a little, her fold it, but to try to, you know,
give she has a lot going on. But Monday, Tuesday,

(32:29):
and Wednesday, I'm knocking out towels, bedding, clothes. I'm knocking
all it out. So when i get off work at
four twenty, I'm gonna put a load in. I'm doing
something of that nature.

Speaker 2 (32:41):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (32:43):
Sometimes it takes me two days, sometimes it takes me
three days. But I'm gonna spend some time Monday, Tuesday,
and Wednesday knocking that laundry out. Okay, I'm gonna spend
a day cleaning the bathroom. You know, I have two
full ones cansy she on her own. I make sure
she get hers done weekly. But I'm gonna spend a
day cleaning the bathroom, mopping the kitchen, living room, hallway,
space floors. I'm gonna do that, spend a day and that.

(33:06):
Thank God, I have my husband now, so I don't
even have to do all of this by myself anymore.
But we make sure we get the vacuuming and the
cleaning done, tidy up on the bathrooms, the everything, dusting,
wiping down, sanitizing. Listen, I'm getting all that done during
the week. Monday through Thursday. I'm squeezing all of my

(33:26):
And this may not work for everybody else, it works
for me because it helps me to make sure that
I don't pour it from an empty cup. Because when
it's time for me to love on me, when it's
time to spend some time with me, relax, and I
do absolutely nothing. That's what my weekends are for. That's
what I need that time. Okay, I've had this routine

(33:48):
for a long time. I have it with my baby.
When I'm doing our laundry, I'll sometimes have, like now,
my clothes, I have two weeks worth of work clothes ready.
You know, y'all don't go to work like fancy bens.
Y'all have to dress like business professional. I'm an educator,
so I can dress. We can dress business casual as
long as it's appropriate and professional.

Speaker 2 (34:06):
But I have my outfits ready.

Speaker 1 (34:08):
I did that from the time at Kingsley started school
at three until she got in a sixth grade. Sixth grade,
she didn't have to wear uniforms anymore. But guess what
sixth grade and seventh grade I made her half her
stuff out of weekend events. Sure did, she can tell you.
Eighth grade was COVID year she stayed home, didn't worry
about it.

Speaker 2 (34:26):
Ninth grade. I kind of let her do a thing.

Speaker 1 (34:28):
Now she do what she do, but I've trained her
to have everything ready a weekend event. We're not gonna
be waking up early in the morning looking for stuff, y'all.
I'm so OCD when it comes to that. They can
tell you when I get off of mark a part
of my cleaning. I'm getting my lunch ready for it tomorrow,
prepping my coffee. I'm getting my meditation, my devotion station
ready so that I can get up like. Yeah, cause, listen,

(34:52):
when Friday come four o'clock, I'm not doing nothing. The
most I'm gonna do Saturday as cook breakfast, bunch breakfast,
and Sunday dinner Saturday night. But other than that, I'm
laying around. Yeah, that's my me time. That's how I rejuvenate,
That's how I relax, That's how I make sure I'm
filling my cup up. Okay, I did say some of

(35:14):
about the pampering and all that stuff, y'all. I have
mental days that I use for work, and sometimes my
mental days require me to be in a salon somewhere.
I'm just sorry. It's whether it's an El salon or
here salon.

Speaker 2 (35:26):
That's my mental days.

Speaker 1 (35:28):
Require me to be there because I'm not. Yeah, m hm,
use your time wisely, That's all I say. But utilize
your time wisely, uh, spillers, and when the weekend comes
or whatever your off days comes, you can have time
to whine and dine yourself, take a hot bath, you know,

(35:50):
get them cheering to the husband, to the man, get
these kids or the grandparents of the uncle's aunties. Use
your resources. I did that as well before I was married. Honey,
call my brothers in it both. They can tell you boo,
you want McKenzie book, you want Mackenzieyah, my mom pop,
I wasn't out of town. One of them boys had
her or one of my cousins, my girl cousins families. Yeah,

(36:14):
and that's okay. I feel like we all need that time.
And if you have that village that you can trust,
people that you love, people that support you, people that
you support.

Speaker 2 (36:24):
Rotate, use that village. Okay.

Speaker 1 (36:27):
You have to do what you have to do, spillage
to make you happy, and that refreshes you.

Speaker 2 (36:33):
Okay, So you.

Speaker 1 (36:34):
Can just keep being better and keep getting better when
I say I be feeling so oka, y'all, listen, I
ain't got nothing.

Speaker 2 (36:41):
Listen.

Speaker 1 (36:43):
I need my cup full all the time. I can't
be porn. I get somebody else to do it. I'm sorry,
get somebody else to do it. So we talked about
pouring from an empty cup when it comes to domestic living,
bid your relationships, marriage, children, home life, even John, I've
been there. We're gonna talk about these friendships real quick.

(37:03):
I ain't even gonna stay on this, songe because if
twenty twenty five you still letting people.

Speaker 2 (37:08):
Use you, abuse you, drain you, drain you.

Speaker 1 (37:11):
And play in your face, then respectfully, you deserve those issues. Okay,
somebody said to me a couple of days ago, you're
so friendly. It's like everybody loves you. You attract everybody. You
have so many friends. Listen, I don't have a lot
of friends. I have quite a few associates. I'll be
the first to say that I don't use that friend

(37:32):
word lightly. Now I have a few friends that know
that they're my friends, and they are my friend friends,
which means I can get down to the nitty gritty
with them about myself. I can be my most vulnerable.
I can do that. I have you know how you
departmentalize groups. I have a community of friends, and I'm

(37:52):
so grateful for that. I have some that I'm super
duper close with at work. I have some I'm super
duper close with outside of work that I've met from work.
I have some that I'm close with in church. We
deal with each other outside of church. I have friends
from elementary that I'm still close with to this day.

Speaker 2 (38:10):
College.

Speaker 1 (38:11):
I got a community of friends everywhere, but my best
friend from church. You know, but I know how to
utilize my circle when I need my circle. I know
who are my friends. I know who I can say
are my real friends.

Speaker 2 (38:29):
I know I can.

Speaker 1 (38:30):
Say, Okay, that's my church sister, and I know I
can say that's my friend from church. I know I
can say, oh, that's my sorority sister. And I know
I can say, oh that's my friend. We're in the
same swordy double, we're friends.

Speaker 2 (38:44):
You get what I'm.

Speaker 1 (38:45):
Saying, Like, you have to know who's your friends, and
you have to know who's your associates, and you have
to differentiate the two, like you gotta put you gotta
set some boundaries and be able to differentiate those friends
from those of associates or those acquaintances. You have to
be able to okay because breaking our neck for people

(39:11):
because we want to be a part of their friend
group or their friends circle, or you want to be
accepted blah blah blah, which to me is just really diabolical.
Again in twenty twenty five, I feel like that's a problem.
I feel like that's a problem. Like everybody that I
consider a friend. If I call, I promise you. If
I call them and I say, hey, I need this,

(39:31):
can you pick me up?

Speaker 2 (39:32):
Can you bring me this? Can you do this? Can
you ro?

Speaker 1 (39:35):
They riding and they slide, no questions asked. Okay, it
ain't no foolishness, it ain't no iffness, it ain't no
funny actingist nah. If you notice that your friends celebrating
somebody and they ain't celebrating you. Side you get sick
and they don't do number to send you a text message,
They don't offer to try to help you or try

(39:56):
to be there for you. But when somebody else gets sick,
they are my friends, see me flowers and buy me dinner.

Speaker 2 (40:01):
Blah blah blah.

Speaker 1 (40:02):
Side on they hanging out with certain friends making time
for everybody else but not you, and you say that
they're your friend, and you can see the room a
friend's side on associate. Y'all get my point, Like, reevaluate
your friendships because you they may be your friend to you,
but you may not be their friend. And again, it's

(40:23):
twenty twenty five. If we still operating in those type
of situations and those one sided friendships where you're not
able to discern what's really.

Speaker 2 (40:31):
Going on, it's foolery.

Speaker 1 (40:33):
And at this point that's your fault, respectfully.

Speaker 2 (40:37):
And that's just what it is.

Speaker 1 (40:39):
You know, it could be mentally draining. It's just too much, Like, no,
we not begging nobody to be our friends or to
be a part of our life or to be in
our community, Like we're not doing that, especially when you
know the type of person you are and you know
who you are and who you are, like, no, you
know your value. Don't try to influence somebody else to

(41:02):
believe that, Like nah, if they don't see it, then
oh well move around.

Speaker 2 (41:08):
I watch so hard.

Speaker 1 (41:09):
Listen mm hm, baby, I need people that can pour
it back into me. I know I'm gonna pour into mine,
but I need to make sure I'm around people, are
people around me that's gonna pour back into me period.
You naw, you not finna play with me, baby, because
I moves and responds accordingly. And the thing is, I've
gotten to the point to where I'm not even gonna

(41:29):
say nothing. I'm not gonna reach out and say, hey,
I noticed that you didn Hey. I feel like, ah,
it is what it is, and I'm chunking to do
since God bless you, I hope it works out. I
pray that all is well with you and all stays
well with you, like that's just that, Like my level
of and my spirit of discerning is so heightened, like

(41:49):
I asked I, and it heightened because I mess myself
up sometimes cause I'd be asking the Lord to show
me folks and show stuff and give me the feelings
and just help me to justify the feelings when I
pray to him about it, and Baby, when he do,
I'd be like, oh nothing, okay, well, okay, moving right

(42:10):
along next, literally, because as soon as you show me
the friendship or the feeling is not mutual, it is
what it is.

Speaker 2 (42:18):
I'm not overly available for you.

Speaker 1 (42:20):
My response and my support is gonna be a lot
different and I'm gonna respond and react accordingly. And I
don't feel like nothing is wrong with that because I
feel like, just like we move on from relationships or
situationships with our partners and things that don't work, we
have to have that same energy when it comes to friendships.

(42:43):
Don't be bitter, don't be vindictive, don't be two faced.
That mean whatever it is that y'all share with each other,
to put it in the back of your head, like
Jesus did with us, thought like God deal with us.
Thought it to the see of forgiveness, thought into see
a forgiveness, and don't remember it. Don't be malicious, envious, jealous,
none of that. Just move on gracefully and respectfully. Right,

(43:03):
and move on gracefully and respectfully. And you know you've
done that because if there comes a time where you
have to interact with that person again, you can say, hey,
I hope all is will good to see you looking good,
compliment like that'll be that energy because you know it
is what it is.

Speaker 2 (43:18):
It just y'all.

Speaker 1 (43:19):
Season for that situationship, friendship or whatever it was is up.

Speaker 2 (43:24):
That's how Now I'm not saying that you.

Speaker 1 (43:28):
Gotta go into every space that they're in, just to
prove that you're okay and you're not bitter. No, because
if it's time, if it's mean for y'all to interact again,
God to make that happen. I've been in situations where people,
I promise you, where people that I've gracefully and respectfully
just bowed after and move around friendship circles that I

(43:50):
was in and the most awkward times restaurants. A couple
of times a grocery store it was just me and
them in the line and I'm like.

Speaker 2 (43:59):
Hey, hey, how are you will all fall as well
with you?

Speaker 1 (44:03):
And that's that, Like literally, that's that, especially if you
knew there was a friendship and you knew there was
a bond. Part like nah, we get those spirits up
out of you, get those spirits up out of you.
You know that means we gotta practice forgiveness, purify in
our hearts, asking people to forgive us loving people, I

(44:27):
mean loving people like you know. I always try to
compare the way that I extend grace and mercy and
love to people to how Jesus does it to me,
how God does it for us, Like I never know
that I can never be as perfect and do it
as perfect as him. I'm gonna be scratching my head
for a little second, but I'm gonna get it done eventually, you.

Speaker 2 (44:46):
Know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (44:47):
But that is how I try to practice living, like
when I know, whether it's familyship's friendship situationships like I
forgive and I love anyway to the point to where.

Speaker 2 (44:58):
I'm like, okay, girl, who are you?

Speaker 1 (44:59):
And and then if the Lord was to call you
home today and sit in your face and say now,
why you ain't let that go or why you ain't
forget or why you know what I'm saying, I don't
want those problems.

Speaker 2 (45:09):
I don't want them.

Speaker 1 (45:11):
So I try to practice those things right now. Okay, spillers,
So that's how you stop pouring from an empty cup
when it comes to friendships. Okay, we've all experienced all
of this, and it's okay again. Stop chasing and trying
to prove what you want in something that sometimes those

(45:35):
seasons expired, those seasons are up, okay, cause then it'll
make it harder for you to let go and to
move on and to heal. And baby, that's a thorn
you do not want. I've been in this situation to
why I've had a thorn in my side, and I
was like, oh Jesus, it ain't gonna be nobody but
you to get it out. You know, even in the situation,
I promise you.

Speaker 2 (45:54):
I prayed.

Speaker 1 (45:55):
I cried for months, like oh Lord, help me, heal me,
the deliver me. And then I started saying, Lord, bless them,
keep them, bless them to forgive me, bless me to forget,
you know what I'm saying, so that I can completely
heal and move on from it. But just having to
go through it baby work my nerves. Okay, So we

(46:15):
done with that. We're not We're not pulling from no
empty cup when it comes to that. Friendships, the domestics, stuff,
none of that.

Speaker 2 (46:25):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (46:25):
If no one else feels our cups fillers, we have
to fill our own cups.

Speaker 2 (46:31):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (46:32):
Some things that self love and self care looks like
it could be an early morning wake up before everybody
in the house. It's to get some quiet time, spend
some time by yourself. Now I'm gonna shower my cousin out.
Charlotte Wilson Wilson one point, oh on p on p
on because her and her husband was married way before

(46:53):
my husband and I and we're Wilson. They're not king,
but you know I call them Wilson one point or
will Wilson.

Speaker 2 (46:58):
To one of them. But y'all, should I get up
every morning?

Speaker 1 (47:01):
Oh? Bless hard especially No, she got like seventeen hundred kids.

Speaker 2 (47:04):
But I love Autum.

Speaker 1 (47:06):
We all love Autum because they're so cute, smart and
just sweet. Anyway, she gets up every morning from my
understanding of like four fourth four about four, because I
think she's out of her house dropping a kid or
two often her husband. They do what they do, but
I think she's out of the house that like six

(47:28):
before seven. But she gets up every morning, and before
she starts her routine with fixed and she fixed her
kids breakfast y'all when I say smelly faced pancakes like
she does this Monday through Friday.

Speaker 2 (47:41):
God bless up for real, for real.

Speaker 1 (47:44):
But before she gets into doing all of that, she
has some me time, some quiet time for herself. And
I've absolutely loved and admired that from years. But I'm
I was like, mm hm, baby, not about finn to be
getting up in off for five o'clock in the morning. Uh,
And I don't got to be at work to eight
forty five. I ain't getting up to sell doing a
little devotion at selm be done it say like that

(48:04):
was my mind, you know. But I've noticed over the
last couple of years, well the last four years, since
I've been working middle school, getting up. The later I
get up, I feel like I kind of been rushing
through my devotion. So I've been saying, ooh God, I
just want to be one of those people to get
up early. Just please help me to just get up
early so I can spend a lot of time.

Speaker 2 (48:22):
With you, you know, drink.

Speaker 1 (48:23):
My coffee, watch a little news, get you know what
I'm saying, That's what the life that I wanted, Cause Sea,
I ain't been living this life for a long time,
and for three weeks feelings I've been actually getting up
at five o'clock in the morning, and I start my
devotion about five thirty, so I get up, fix my coffee,
do a little stretching. Last couple of days, I've been

(48:44):
trying to do some little crunches, little stuff like that,
make sure my work stuff is in the bathroom, my
station already set up. But I've been getting up at
five o'clock in the morning. I ain't gotta wake nobody
up but myself doing my devotion and sipping my coffee.
My worship has been different. It's been a little bit
more intense, baby because oh but I've learned that that

(49:09):
really is a part of self care for me, and
it's so amazing. It's so amazing that you may not
be the early person that want to get up early
in the morning, and I understand because it took me
a long time to get here. But that's just one
of the things that has helped me. Okay, going for

(49:29):
a walk. I love sunshine, all things outside vitamin D.
I don't often do brisk walks when I'm walking, but
I do walk a little put a little speed to it,
and I do I have a little hell at my
job and then there's a huge chill in my neighborhood.
Send my heel on my job. Before my lunch break,
I go and I do that. And then if it's
raining or the weather's bad, I do a workout in

(49:50):
my room. Honeybody by Jericha on YouTube. That has helped
me a lot physically and it's helped me mentally.

Speaker 2 (49:56):
Okay, eat better.

Speaker 1 (50:00):
Like in the morning, I drink some detox water, water,
do fruit to try to clean those toxins out of
my body. And then before I start eating the foolishness
because I am a foolish eater, I try to replenish
my body with nutrients that I know my body can take,
that I know it's good for my body. Where these
my herbal teas, things that I know it's really gonna

(50:21):
help me to be. I guess at my like perform
at my highest self. Like literally, y'all, the exercise and
the journal writing. When I'm up early in the morning.
I love that the vitamin D when I'm outside sleeping,

(50:43):
like if y'all knew being in their bed, twiddling my
toes around at the good shower or high bath. I'm
trying to get my time together because I be taking
a bath, so I be into like two three hours
and then don't end up getting bed to ten ten thirty.
But I love a high bath, but just hot bath,
hot baths, great meditation music. I introduce some people to

(51:06):
Shabacca to that they was like, oh, I listen to him.

Speaker 2 (51:10):
Mindfulness. Oh y'all.

Speaker 1 (51:11):
When I say it's so peaceful over here, I'm just
in my peaceful era, they be saying soft girl, area
and stuff. Now I'm in my peaceful era. Listen, I
love it here. The rest is what you need seven
to nine hours, I promise you. I was reminded of that,
and am I being intentional about happiness. I'm reading a

(51:33):
Marsha Tate book, The Happiness in a classroom my educators.
I gonna have to put y'all onto that later. But
she has a principal talking about the importance of rest,
how it replenishes us, it refuse us. I've learned in
therapy years ago, the importance it is on our mental health.
I just knew I needed to get some sleep, and
I'm gonna go to sleep because I've never been the type.

Speaker 2 (51:53):
To struggle with sleep.

Speaker 1 (51:55):
But now I'm intentional about making sure I get at
least seven hours minimum sleep.

Speaker 2 (52:00):
You know what I'm saying, Like stuff like that spillers.

Speaker 1 (52:04):
I mean, it's necessary to make sure that you replenished,
make sure your cup is full and you're not pouring
from an empty cup. Those pampering yourselves. That's a good
part of self care too. It may it's may be
better for some people. For me, I like to work
on my physical my spiritual and my emotional. But I
like to get my hair done and my nails done

(52:25):
and my toe nails polished too, you know what I'm saying.
So if pampering yourself is a good way for you
to show self care and self.

Speaker 2 (52:33):
Love, do what you do sis do it.

Speaker 1 (52:37):
You know, I still take myself out on dates. A
couple of people that seeing me a couple of times
and somebody questioned me such and.

Speaker 2 (52:44):
Such that they saw you. You and your husband.

Speaker 1 (52:46):
Good because I was out at one of my favorite
restaurants having me a drink in the bell. My husband
don't really like. He don't like eating out at all.
You know what I'm saying. Period, he can tell you
rather his wife cook, so it sometimes I might want
to go somewhere and all for him, I'm knowing he's
gonna say no. But that's also time that I know
I can utilize to have me a drink and to
have me a little meal with myself, to date myself.

(53:07):
You know what I'm saying, Because I do still love myself,
so I can still date myself. Okay, treat yourself. Do
things that's gonna make you feel good, but a lasting
feel good, not a quick feel good for the moment,
putting a band aid on stuff. Now, m you gotta
do something that's gonna make you feel good for a while.

Speaker 2 (53:30):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (53:31):
Last, when we go to work, spillers, do your job
and go home. That's making sure you're not pulling from
an empty cup. Do not over extend yourself at work, Like,
if it ain't on your contract, if it's not a
part of your job d this, I don't understand why
you just feel like you gotta do it.

Speaker 2 (53:51):
I understand sometimes we want to help. I'm like that.

Speaker 1 (53:54):
I try to help as much as I can when
I have time, when I'm not overwhelmed, when I don't
have a lot going on with my job duties and
my job responsibilities, I will give my time and I
will do what I have to do. But it's okay
to not overextend yourself. It's okay to say no. Sometimes
it's okay to say, uh, I really don't have the
capacity to do that right now. Like it's okay because

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at the end of the day, when it's time for
that evaluation or they're raised evaluation, baby, they checking off
your job duties. And if you too busy making sure
everybody else's job, duties are done and yours are not.
That's a problem. Okay, your evaluation gonna be a little short.
You will not be exceeding expectations or meeting expectations, but

(54:35):
you will be progressing. And we don't want that. Okay,
And don't feel bad about saying no, spillers, don't feel bad.
Don't feel bad about choosing you.

Speaker 2 (54:45):
Life is short. Heart attacks are the highest costs of.

Speaker 1 (54:49):
Death for women. Then the cancers, then the strokes. And
guess why all this still come from y'all pouring from
an empty cup, not getting at qu enough risk, not
eating well, not taking care of yourselves mentally and physically. Okay,
that's where those disease come from. Stressing, worrying about things

(55:12):
we have absolutely no control over, over extending ourselves. We're
not doing it no more, okay, And I'm talking to
the men and the women. We are not doing that
anymore today. Moving forward, we are going to be intentional
about taking better care care of ourselves physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally.
We are going to create and set boundaries and we're

(55:34):
gonna stand on them. We're gonna accept people for who
they are with no ill feelings and we're gonna project
the best to people, and we're gonna emerge the best
from ourselves. Okay, because if we're gonna pour when we poor,
we're gonna make sure we have more than enough leftover

(55:55):
for ourselves.

Speaker 2 (55:55):
Okay. That don't mean you gotta be you're being selfish, Spillers.

Speaker 1 (55:59):
That just means you're being more intentional with making sure
you are good.

Speaker 2 (56:03):
Okay. I appreciate a quiet on this one, Spills, because, oh, Chad.

Speaker 1 (56:08):
The struggle being real, But this is something that I'm
just I'm excited about the growth and moving forward and
practicing these things for myself. So I hope that helped
you all so much, because I promise you it helped me.
We are now moving on to the final part of
our episode, the Spilled encouragement time. Speaking of pouring from

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an empty cup First Corinthian six point nineteen reminds us
Spillers that our bodies are temples that we receive from God.
With that being said, God is putting emphasis on the
importance of us taking care of our physical health and
maintaining our spiritual well being. So don't feel bad about

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not doing things that affects your spiritual health and peace.
Make sure you're intentional about balancing your spiritual health and
physical health, Spillers, and balance your life period. Always have
a balance. If you're gonna eat chicken wings, make sure
you eat a stef If you gonna drink a little
wine or juice of sodup, make sure you drink some water.

Speaker 2 (57:14):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (57:14):
If you're gonna dance and twork, make sure you dance.
For Jesus, I'm just saying, create a healthy balance.

Speaker 2 (57:22):
Okay, you know.

Speaker 1 (57:24):
Better now, Spillers, so let's do better. I love y'all
so much. I pray you enjoyed this episode and something
was said that inspired you, encouraged you, or blessed you
and motivated you to do better.

Speaker 2 (57:37):
I know I was.

Speaker 1 (57:38):
Until next time, Spillers, this is your girl, Missus Wilson,
and I am sign it's out.