SEASON 4 EPISODE 7- THE EMPTY NESTERS ARE BAAACKK!

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:26):
Everywhere. Hey world, welcome back to the spill Podcast, your
favorite podcast, feature in your favorite podcast. Host me, your girl,
Missus Wilson, peom pim pim pim Hi Speelers, Welcome back
to episode seven. This is the last few episodes of

(00:49):
season four before we go into season five. I have
been off, I have been out. I have been booked, busy, tired, resting, rejuvenating.
But I'm back and I'm so excited to be back. Listen.
Normally I would come back when schools start back, but
I took a bit of an extended podcast break and

(01:12):
I'm kind of glad that I did. But anyway, I'm
excited to be back. Listen. We have the man in
the building, the legend, my husband, my man, my man,
my man, mister Wilson in the building. Hey, mister Wilsons.

(01:35):
Yeah see how didn't even have to ask get but
you said it before I can get it out this time.
Good job. Well, we're happy to have you back. Are
you excited about being back? Yeah, you're pretty excited. Are
you trying to be funny? Okay, Well I'm excited that

(01:55):
you're back. Spillers. We're excited that you are here. Before
we move on, spillers, you know what time it is.
This is the time of the episode where we do
our self love, self awareness, mental check in time. Life
has been lifing for so many people. Life has been
lifing for us, but we are yet holding on. Life

(02:17):
has just been lifing. And then it's been eight months
with forty seven, so I know life is life in
with a lot more other people. However, I want to
check on my people as I always do. So Spillers,
stop pause for the cause and do a mental check in.
Really check in with your emotions. Be intentional about checking

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in with yourself to make sure that you are okay. So, Spillers,
how are you doing? Mister Wilson? You know how I do.
When the guests come in the building, we have to
ask them first. You are not a guest. You are
a residential host, and I'm from don't talking about what
is what? You for?

Speaker 2 (03:00):
Not a guess? You know how do the guess?

Speaker 1 (03:02):
Well, I'm just saying I like to extend I'm the
I'm the host host and you're the residential host. I'm
the host, you're the co host, So that makes sense,
so you gotta do your mental check in. How are
you doing?

Speaker 2 (03:15):
Mister Wilson, I'm doing well.

Speaker 1 (03:21):
I'm gonna spit this line out. Can you go into details.

Speaker 2 (03:27):
Oh, I'm doing well. You know it's like every mental
chick in we done done, you know it's it's really
the same. Ain't nothing? Okay, still strong?

Speaker 1 (03:38):
What you're trying to save me? Grow talking about still strong? Anyways?
Feelings If you don't know, we recently dropped one of
our daughters off to college across the country. So we
have girls, but one is in the home with us,
and we dropped her off quite a distance. So that

(04:03):
has been my struggle for the most part. I'm okay.
I feel like all is well with me. I feel
like I'm holding up pretty good. Yeah, I think I am. Hey,
you think I've been doing mister Wilson, you think I'm
doing good? Good? I love to hear it. I think
I'm doing good whatever, because I ain't no telling what

(04:26):
you're thinking. But we don't even want to know your
thoughts right now at this moment about this. Yeah, Yeah,
I think I am. Yeah, she's she's. She's definitely told
me to pipe down with the phone calls and with
the text messages, and I feel like I've backed up
a little bit, but I'm still that's my baby, so
I'm gonna do my calling and my checking. But other

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than that, I think all is well with me. I
think I'm holding up well with this situation is because
I'm so sincerely, genuinely happy for her. I'm happy for
the experience that she's getting ready to experience her that
she's experiencing, and prayer for it to get a little
better for well, it's good for her now, but she

(05:07):
hadn't really gotten comfortable enough to get out get out.
She's still like a bookworm, which I love it, but
I wanted to just go, you know, do like college things,
different things. And it's funny because she actually said to me, Mama,
I really don't see how people be going out all
the time and getting out. And I was like, oh,
why you say that? Pool She was like, man, as
much work as work as I gotta do, Like do

(05:29):
they not be having work? And I was like, well,
so she hadn't really She's gotten out in the city
and she loves the city, but she hadn't really dived
into it yet. Of course, she's a freshman and she
has a lot of work and a lot of things
to do. But anyway, she's well, so that makes me well.
Back at work, trying to get acclimated to working every

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single day after being off to full months, like nine
weeks really, and I've been at work for a month
now and I still like, oh, I gotta get up
and go to work in the morning. But I love
my job and I love my kids. Other than that,
all is well with the meat spillers. I pray all
is well with you. If all is not well, please
say something so that we can do something. Remember, health

(06:13):
is wealth, and in order to be healthy, spillers, you
gotta be I'm sorry, in order to be wealthy spillers,
you gotta be healthy. Mister Wilson, would you like to
add anything to that?

Speaker 2 (06:27):
Just about everything.

Speaker 1 (06:37):
It's supposed it's supposed to be serious moment. I need
you to focus, Okay, all right, moving on. This is
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(07:00):
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mister Wilson. Do you have a social Nah, you know,
we gonna move on whatever, all right, So, spillers, we
are moving to these spill trend topics. This is a
part of the episode where we talk about things that

(08:03):
are trending in the culture. Remember this is not at session, however,
we are creating dialogue about things that can potentially have
an effect on our culture, whether it's negative or positive.
So this right here first though, this is an unpaid advertisement,
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(08:26):
California Governor, please follow him, baby, because he is lighting
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When I say tickle reminds me of the black like
he's like a white President Obama to me, Missus Wilson,
have you heard of Gavin Newsom, the governor of California. Oh,
he out here when I say, can't stand nothing about

(08:48):
Donald Trump, and it's very vocal about it. And then
he got a team that Oh it's a mess, but
it's so hilarious. It's so entertaining. Now he's taught. He
says some true things, but it's entertaining by far. So
follow Gavin if you're not following him. Okay, now to
our spill trends. So it's a lot trending. But first,
I do want to have a conversation and I'm just

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gonna make it quick because I kind of spoken to
Misu Wilson about it for a second. We really didn't
go into detail. But I do want to kind of
talk about thug us, all young thugs, just for a second.
So recently young thugs frison calls have been leaked. Someone
is saying that they're not being leaked. I feel like

(09:31):
they're being leaked. If they're not being leaked, I would
want them to be leaked. With the conversations that he's
been having with people, this recently conversation that he's had
with his girlfriend talking about my girl Glowrealer. And I
don't know if I'm just biased because I like Low Realer,
but I liked Like Thug too prior to this conversation,

(09:53):
Like I was an advocate for him. I'm an advocate
for all black men though, but I was like, really,
because well, yeah, that just really kind of turned me off.
So for the speelings that don't know, Young Thug has
recently been released from prison. He's been out for some
months now. However, a lot of his phone calls are
being leaked, and a recent leaked phone call was him

(10:16):
talking to his girlfriend about the rapper Glorilla and he
just when I say he talked about her, like y'all
have to listen to the phone call. Just google it
you can, It's everywhere. But he talked about her little beaty,
her skinny a you know, her big head, her big mouth,
her bushy weaving glooriala lace fronts be late, so I

(10:40):
couldn't find the boushy ones. Maybe before when she was
working at the restaurant and she was wild, he was
looking at stuff like that and felt like it was boushye.
But oh, he talked about her, talked about how she
was ugly and if a Negro deal with her, he
only dealing with her with cloud like it ain't he
don't like her for oh, it was bad. And so
what threw me off was, first of all, the girlfriend

(11:01):
was just letting him say it. I don't know if
it made her feel better about herself, that's what I took.
But she allowed him to continue to talk about the woman.
And then the girlfriend was even trying to be funny
and was like they say she looked like Rihanna, you know,
and he really went in. You know. That just threw
me off. So like again, I know that's something you

(11:21):
don't really care about, but I do want to know,
like your opinion, how do you feel like when it
comes to me and conversing about other women the way
that that conversation went, because I know you didn't hear
the entire conversation, but I just gave you the logistics
of the conversation, Like, is that something you feel like
you'll be comfortable doing?

Speaker 2 (11:42):
I mean about it?

Speaker 1 (11:44):
Do we sit and talk about girls like that?

Speaker 2 (11:46):
Talk about When I say talk about it, I'm talking
about I talk about when we're looking at someone with seeing.

Speaker 1 (11:54):
Well, you won't but you won't go in like the
did you You will point something out?

Speaker 2 (12:00):
You know nobody personally, but you know what I'm saying.
I don't know dude did what he did? You know?
But right now, with all this stuff coming out, I
feel like it's something that can make him jeopardize his.

Speaker 1 (12:13):
Freedom, jeopardize his freedom, jeopardize his fan base and his girl.

Speaker 2 (12:18):
You know, fucker fan base freedom. It's on a jeopardized
freedom cause all this talking. Hey, everybody t about like
I've seen what a game called him a rat?

Speaker 1 (12:29):
Yeah, they do have the little and.

Speaker 2 (12:32):
I don't know the man personally.

Speaker 1 (12:34):
But what is it called though, Once you are like
acquitted or something for something, what is that law or
something called to where they nothing else that happens after
this can be used against you.

Speaker 2 (12:45):
Nah? But you know, he on a I mean like
they I thought they had band of from Atlanta and
stuff like.

Speaker 1 (12:52):
That, like the metro areas just for a certain amount
of time, though I thought, I didn't know.

Speaker 2 (12:56):
He can't get in trouble for a certain amount of
time either.

Speaker 1 (13:00):
You think that phone call would get him and drove.

Speaker 2 (13:03):
Yeah, well she did because she posted a picture of him.

Speaker 1 (13:11):
That picture him and forth he apologized to her, though,
so I will say there's a lot.

Speaker 2 (13:15):
Of people that he that he had conversations about.

Speaker 1 (13:19):
Yeah he did, you know what I'm saying, and they
all coming out.

Speaker 2 (13:23):
If he said, you know, they got ai. I don't know.

Speaker 1 (13:25):
Yeah, well I he apologized to her, and I don't
I never saw anything where Glow really said she accepted
the apologies. She did clap bath though she said that
he was the same dude hitting her up, trying to
ask for her eye color. And then she posted that
picture of him, which was hilarious because now the we
that's not we're not gonna talk about nobody the mouth,

(13:46):
he had nothing with the pictures that you have prior
to fame. And then the internet beyond safe Internet, what
they call it is clown and the girlfriend because there's
a picture of her Gloriala and so Gloriala like you
know what I'm saying. I thought it was cool, you know,
like you would literally just sit and let your man

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talk about another woman like that to me.

Speaker 2 (14:11):
Personally about what brought it about.

Speaker 1 (14:15):
He said that he didn't have a reason to. He
said life was just hard for him at that moment
and he was just talking. So but I just felt
like you had y'all had several other things y'all could
be talking about, you know what I'm saying, as a
couple that's trying to beat these cases and get out
like the.

Speaker 2 (14:32):
Last, Yeah, they talk about other things and other people
too crazy to see.

Speaker 1 (14:38):
And and I'm gonna clarify with mister Wilson say he
talk about everybody. We don't sit around and gossip or
talk about how people look our opinions on. We don't
do like. I'm not gonna. I'm not gonna let nobody
just talk about another woman to me the way that
he did, Like I would never let, especially my husband.

(15:00):
I can't. But you don't. You ain't gonna talk about
nobody like that to me.

Speaker 2 (15:03):
You mean I ain't saying like he did. You asked
me what I talk.

Speaker 1 (15:07):
About, Well, I was talking about that case.

Speaker 2 (15:09):
Though I ain't even talking about nobody exactly. That's what
I'm talking about. When we when we sitting around, I said,
we out somewhere and I see something.

Speaker 1 (15:17):
Yeah, like today you said you saw a lady and
you said she must be Ethiopien. I wonder if she
understands what we're saying. She looked like Ethiopien. And and
and when you said it, I mean she she have features.
We know Ethiopians and we love Africans. They have distinct features,
and you know that's the type.

Speaker 2 (15:38):
But you're not sitting down.

Speaker 1 (15:40):
Got a look wig like, no, we're not doing that.

Speaker 2 (15:46):
We not be literally know everything recorded.

Speaker 1 (15:50):
Yeah, and that's and that's what they were saying that
as soon as you get on the college, say this
college being this college is going to be recorded. So
why would he do that? Because eventually and then you're you,
you're a young thug, you're already you're famous. People probably
paying mellions of dollars to get a hold of these
calls so that they can pay to get him out.
You know what I'm saying, Like, I just feel like

(16:12):
you have to be smarter. And then I feel like
and don't be sitting around talking about nobody. And then
as a woman. That shouldn't even make you feel good,
Like it's not gonna make me feel like I'm fine
or I look better than somebody because you talking about
how ugly they are or how no, it makes me
look at you a little different.

Speaker 2 (16:28):
But that's just me too, like a little open relationship.
But he was like, I never push up on them.
I never like, he'll get the girl both of them
and have fun with them.

Speaker 1 (16:38):
Okay, Well I didn't look at it like that. I
did listen to the whole thing I heard. I heard him,
but I took I interpreted that as him saying like
if I was single, or if I was out there,
I would never try to you know what I'm saying.
I didn't look at it like, okay, moving on, because

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he he go to a whole other situation, and see,
I ain't got time for that, all right, So listen,
that's that women. We're not gonna be talking about nobody. Okay.
We not gonna let our We're not no, we don't
not all women. We're not gonna let our men talk
about another woman. We're not gonna pillow talking. Pillow talking

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is when we're just discussing situations and things that happened.
We're not talking about people. Know, it's a difference. We're
not using adjectives to describe how we feel about a person.
We're talking about situations.

Speaker 2 (17:33):
When an talk with a girl, Damn he telling her
so much. Yeah, he telling her exactly what dudes just
told that girl and he was locked up. Dudes be
laying over with them girls, They be telling them the
same thing that will get them girls a look, that's
how she That's how stuff gets started.

Speaker 1 (17:55):
Okay, like say anything else to that. Okay, that's definitely
pillow talk going on. It was pilla talking recorded pillar talking.
Now it's public. That's certainly how a lot of beef
get started. So yeah, listen, I do that, y'all. We
we're not doing that no more, all right, So spill
as you know how I am with my skill trean
topic time. I gotta add some positivity and some celebrations.

(18:18):
I don't just do the negative. You know what I'm saying.
It's always some good stuff. So, mister Wilson, I'm sure
you haven't heard or seen this beautiful lady because you
don't have social media, and I didn't want to show
you prior to this because it goes back to that
talking about stuff, cracking jokes. You probably beautiful and see
what I'm saying. Okay, spillers, Naomi Paulula, y'all know who

(18:43):
I'm talking about. The African lady from Zambia, a country
in Africa. She went viral over some pictures that she posted.
She always posts her pictures. Her pictures showed that she's
very confident. She doesn't let what people say or think
bother her. She even came out and said on one
of the captions of her posts. Look, I know I'm

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not ecstatically pleasing. I know this, but I love myself
and that's not gonna stop me from posting. Well anyway,
she has very distinctive features, she really does. She has
very distinctive features, but she's beautiful. Nonetheless, Unfortunately, the trolls
on this here Banan SI's Internet went in so they

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had so much to say about it. They talked about her,
made her go viral for the wrong reasons. However, it
backfired on the trolls. So listen, I'm always rooting for
the underdogs, you know what I'm saying, And I need
us to understand that there's always going to be more
people rooting for the underdogs and riding for the underdogs

(19:48):
than you think. Okay, So of course her posts saying
that she's not aesthetically pleasing to other people and she's
okay with that went viral, and it done got the
girl to coin. She's got the coin now she is.
She's been offered several endorsements from several brands. She was
just invited to model in the Paris Fashion Week, which

(20:10):
we know is the biggest fashion week ever. I don't
know if it's Paris Fashion Week, the Business or New York,
but they nick and that. But she done got invited
to model in it, and she's living her best life.
And to me, I feel like she is the example
that God was talking about in Psalms twenty three when
he said He'll prepare a table for you in a prison,
say your enemy, sonny, and her cup is running over.

(20:32):
She's living that life. I'm super happy for her. I
feel like this moment should show us that cyberbullying gets
us nowhere, trolling gets us nowhere. Because the same haters
that had so much to say about her it didn't
knock her. I'm so happy that it didn't. She already
made it known that I know how I look. Y'all

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ain't telling me new, nothing different, But I love myself
and look where it's gotten her. So we got to
learn to love ourselves. Mister Wilson, have you I.

Speaker 2 (21:03):
Feel how you gonna ask me a question about something
you and even show me the picture because I.

Speaker 1 (21:09):
Feel like I want to show you the picture, but
I don't feel like I should show you the picture,
so I'm probably not going to show you the picture.

Speaker 2 (21:15):
Well I can answer that something like that, I don't.

Speaker 1 (21:17):
I don't know, okay, So my question to you would
be just with trolls, like if we were supposed a
picture of you and people said that you weren't aesthetically pleasing,
like you're not You're you're not a sore, You're not
a sight.

Speaker 2 (21:31):
My mama always, I ain't worry about what nobody.

Speaker 1 (21:34):
What your mama tell you.

Speaker 2 (21:38):
About no other one you missed you up, they were
about I. Damn. She ain't worry about what no niggas say.
If a nigga say anything about me being anything but ugly,
it's a problem. Well, but you know, you know, girls
take it different, Yeah, take it.

Speaker 1 (21:52):
And she did, and I love this for her. It
just goes to shows that the confidence that she had
is I feel like it's confidence. I feel like God
had his hands on her, over her and the trolls
in the corners sucking their fingers right now because God
is elevating her. And and that's crazy because it's like

(22:13):
the more people you do that too, it's like the
more like I would be tired of dang everybody else
say something about it, do something to like they blow up,
they shining, like, just let it go. It's over it.
So anyway, I'll show you some pictures of her when
we're finished. I'm super excited to her. Congratulations to Naomi Palula.

(22:34):
She's from Zambia. Africa is the country in Africa, and
she's stunning to me, like she has distinctive features, you
know what I'm saying. But she keep herself together. She
take care of herself and she abo's a model in
Pairs Fashion Week and she got our type of endorsements
from clothing brands. She was just modeling in this African brand.

(22:57):
No ninety pounds, No, she the most model. Yeah she's
still though, but she wasn't. She's a she was just
a working black woman that used to post her pictures
on Facebook and it went viracles. People were saying that
she wasn't pretty. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (23:15):
You know, they find most diamonds that gems that don't
you know.

Speaker 1 (23:20):
In Africa, not just that Arkansas, the natural state in
diamond like our jewel or something. They hear those. It's
a lot of them here too. But anyway, stop hating
and stop trolling.

Speaker 2 (23:38):
Okay, that'll hap.

Speaker 1 (23:40):
Yeah, it'll never happened, but I mean it, it'll never
get you nowhere. So the more you do it, the
crazier you're gonna continue to look. All Right, we are
moving on to our last one. Mister Wilson, this one
I think you're pretty. You're like this one? Okay, well
yeah you may. Yeah. So last March twenty twenty one, y'all,

(24:03):
Brian Moore Junior said you gotta listen to the story.
Brian Moore Junior and Atlanta native, was on his way
to shoot a video in LA. He was walking through
the Jackson Hartsfield Airport in Atlanta, Mine and his business
and whooa, the DA pulled them to the side, Sir,

(24:27):
follow us because he looked suspicious racial profile anyway, so
they decided that they wanted to stop him, they wanted
to search him. In the midst of them searching him,
he had eight thousand dollars in cash on him, so
the deac illegally seized his money. Didn't have a reason

(24:48):
to didn't find drugs, you know how to keep the
dogs running through the airport all day every day. Anyway,
they just said he looked suspicious, suspicious, which is why
they pulled him over seized his money. He let him know, look,
I wor you know what I'm saying. This is the
money I've earned. I'm just taking it. It's in cash
so I can pay cash. You get this video done.
It ain't what y'all think. They was like, nah, bro,
we taking this money because you're probably doing something illegal

(25:11):
with it. Anyway, BJ was like, no, I'm gonna stand
on business. So BJ hired a lawyer. Told his lawyer, look,
I was on my way to handle some business in
a different city. They done took my money. What do
we need to do to get my money back? Because
I'm not illegal. I'm not doing nothing illegal. I ain't
doing nothing illegal. And guess what the judge ordered the
federal government, who is associated with the airport's dea to

(25:35):
pay BJ his eight thousand dollars back, to pay all
his lawyer fees, court costs, all that good stuff, and
to get him some money for paying and suffering, because
how you gonna racial profile me because I'm a black
man walking through the airport with a backpack and inside
my backpack is eight thousand dollars cash. So BJ stood

(25:58):
on business. What do you think about it that mister
Wilson call beja gobja?

Speaker 2 (26:05):
There wasn't nothing bad about it, really, h I mean
that happened to a lot of brothers. A lot of
them just don't go through like you say, BJ, like
BJ do.

Speaker 1 (26:14):
So you're you're a frequent flyer, So do you Yeah, Now,
do you ever feel like when you're going through the airport,
like even though you know you hadn't done nothing, you know,
you don't have nothing, you know, do you feel like
you would be racially profilt?

Speaker 2 (26:29):
Of course that it ain't just the airport everywhere. Yeah,
I can't jam a little. I ain't gonna. I wouldn't
even try to change. And then that halftime it ain't
you look, it's when they say your persona it's just demeanor.
It's the it's your look, yeah, whenever you get through

(26:50):
with it, the look.

Speaker 1 (26:52):
But I wonder if it's I wonder how comfortable you
have to be to see a person and say mmm,
like they look.

Speaker 2 (27:02):
Like But then, you know, like you said, if he
were doing a video or something. Them folks, they they
work out for the internet, so they probably could have
seen him on the internet. He could have been flashing money.
He probably rapping about something.

Speaker 1 (27:15):
And they knew, they knew he had that money when
he came through TSA, because you have to be you
know what I'm saying. So TSA probably alerted you know
what I'm saying, the police, uh, the DA that are
on the airport premises. I'm sure TSA alerted them and
say hey, yeah, it's the guy with a bad pack
full of money.

Speaker 2 (27:33):
Then eight thousand that ain't nothing, you know, it's got
to be over ten.

Speaker 1 (27:36):
And that's what I was gonna say. Eight thousand dollars
not even a lot of money, especially in cash, like how.

Speaker 2 (27:41):
Much money they took from people?

Speaker 1 (27:42):
Yes, yes, And so I'm happy for BJ. Whenever you
feel like you are wronged or wrongfully you know, convicted
or charged, stand on business and God will bless you
with the right lord. You know what I'm saying. I
feel like God put him in, puts iss to have
the right lawyer. That was gonna be like, look, y'all

(28:03):
just can't be doing people like that because they got
a little.

Speaker 2 (28:05):
Cast business the right way. He didn't. Ain't no fool
get a rich.

Speaker 1 (28:11):
Yeah, and then I'm sure it probably was embarrassing for him. Stan, y'all,
did I just let it slide on? Said he stamp.
I'm definitely. I was definitely gonna like your tail as
soon as this podcast. So and screenshot the video, right,
you say, yeah, he stood on business. He stand on.

Speaker 2 (28:40):
So you didn't see what do wanted?

Speaker 1 (28:41):
Million dollars the black dude in the casino? Yeah he
said he still yeah, he said, were moving at the hood.
I love it for him, but I didn't like how
the other people. You know, you heard he said, we
moved like, don't mick him. Yeah. Yeah, it's the whole

(29:05):
It's a whole video. And you can see the joy
with him at that casino's table. So, y'all, just a
little context. It was a black, young black man at
a casino and on the what was at the crap table?
One of the tables he won one point three million.
Whichever table he can win one point three million. He
won it and the first person he called was his mama,
and he was on the phone jumping up down screaming.

(29:27):
He said, Mama, we moving at the hood. I'm moving
you at the hood. And it was I was just
super excited for it. But you know, I don't like
when other people be trying to to me. It looked
like they was mocking, because yeah, the man, the one
that was recording, was like, did you hear what he saying?
Did you he said? And Nothe was like, yeah, move

(29:47):
not the hood. Like, first of all, don't do that
because we ain't. But anyway, that needs to get there there.
I love to see black men win. I love to
see all people win, especially my people. I'm not racist, however,
I am biased when it comes to my culture, and
I'm standing behind my culture. Ten toes down, twenty toes
down like them. Sandy's sun Uh said to the us Sandlers,

(30:11):
have what you're standing on business? The Sander said ten
toes down. Charla said, bro, you didn't get yours. I
love to Santa's family shout out to them too. Anyway,
mister Wilson, did you want to add something to that?
Still treading? All right, Sphillis, We are now moving on
to our topic time. Oh if you, thank you Sphillis

(30:48):
for waiting with us. I hope you all enjoyed those
fine jazz sounds for my homeboys, the Trap Jazz Giants,
Philly Mood and Quincy Q. Note Watson, y'all get that
son coming to America, Randall wats Son. Look mister Wilson
for here anyway, So we're on to our topic time.
Our topic time, empty nesters. We are empty nesters, as

(31:12):
I said earlier, spillers. Our youngest girl and the only
one that was in the house with us. We've recently
dropped her off to college and have been part time
empty nester since August fifth. And I say part time
because of course all of her breaks, summer breaks and
all that stuff. She's going to be coming home. So yeah, anyway,

(31:32):
we made that sixteen and a half hour drive across
the country to and fro to get her there safe
and sound. She's living her best life. I feel like
we're living our best life. But people been asking me
questions and I was like, let me just get into
an episode the first episode back in answer those questions
for the people. So people were asking how do I feel?

(31:53):
That was the main thing they've been asking me. How
do you feel at being an empty answer? And yeah,
mayby beingn blah blah blah. Listen, I'm alright, I think,
mister Wilson, how do you feel about being an empty
nestir m h.

Speaker 2 (32:10):
I don't know. I ain't never thought about it like that.

Speaker 1 (32:14):
Do you have you noticed like a difference since baby
been gone? Like are you does it make you feel different?
Do you walk around like dang I missed her? Or
do you pick stuff up like dang?

Speaker 2 (32:23):
This is no.

Speaker 1 (32:28):
Oh I waiting to ooh? We kingsy oh girl quiet.

Speaker 2 (32:36):
I don't know. It's just peaceful, peaceful.

Speaker 1 (32:39):
Okay. So it wasn't peaceful when.

Speaker 2 (32:41):
She was here, yeah, because she stayed in her room,
so that it ain't no difference.

Speaker 1 (32:46):
And that's what I was gonna say for me. I've
experienced her being away from home since she was about seven, y'all.
I used to make her go to Tennessee to visit
her people for summers, Christmas, Thanksgiving, spring breaks. So I'm
kind I was kind of used to her being away
and used to that different, that distance. And then when

(33:07):
she got to high school her sophomore year, she became
incredibly busy because she became active. She was on Liberty Bells,
which is the school's dance team. She was active in
the dance program and other programs at the school, to
where she was kind of away from home a little
bit or a few hours more like I would get
off work and she wouldn't come home for a few hours.

(33:29):
And then when she got a car her junior year
of high school, she was away doing all of that
the school stuff. Then she had a job, and then
she would do stuff for her friends. So I've kind
of gotten used to like the little quietness, the peacefulness,
I guess for a little bit clean. Her room has

(33:50):
been clean. This is the longest has been clean, and
I checked up in a very long time. So I
can agree with that quietness. She's pretty. She was. She
wasn't noisy for real, for real, unless she was singing,
so or did yeah she So it wasn't like noise
every day all day. Yeah, she definitely was an apper.

(34:13):
So yeah, I I was already used to this, you know,
So I'm not sad or depressed or anything, because I
trust God. I know God has her. She's very smart.
Husband always says she's book smart, but he's trying to
instill that book sense into her. I think she's cognizant
of what goes around in the world, so I think

(34:34):
that makes her very cautious about the choices she make.
But yeah, I really haven't really been like stressed enough,
and I do want her to. She's a bookworm, but
I want her to also know, like, you're in entering
into the best years of your life, so.

Speaker 2 (34:48):
Don't I mean, but when you when you tell her that,
it's like live alife, so you don't have to I
heard you say, really you want her to just get out. Now,
you ain't got the wal her to get out because
she ain't that person to get out. When she get out,
it'll be the right time. But if she just be
getting out just to be getting out, anything happened, and

(35:12):
we know her.

Speaker 1 (35:12):
Like that, like enough to know she's not gonna do that.

Speaker 2 (35:16):
Yeah, she's gonna be She's gonna come around to herself.
I told her when she when she figured herself out,
that's what she's gonna be, uh or something else.

Speaker 1 (35:26):
She gonna be all right anyway. So yeah, we're good.
We we trust God has her. We know her mode
is her intentions. She's very ambitious. She's up there handling business,
so we're happy for her. The next question, somebody said,
has anything changed with y'all? Like do y'all spend more
time together? Is mister Wilson walking around like Melvin? I said,

(35:55):
mister Wilson walking around like Melvin? Missus Wilson, have you
made me break? It's like Melvin because it is not
that cold in here, So no much for me. I
don't feel like much has really changed for us. For me,

(36:15):
I've been at home a lot more. I really don't
have the desire yourself by myself because I get home
before him, and then he's been having to work like
mandatory over time. So the days, the days that he's
at work and I'm off, I'm here. But I was
saying that we we've always been around each other a

(36:37):
lot like that. Ain't never stopped. Nothing changed, nothing, However,
since I hadn't been had the desire to go out
as much as I used to. Now do get out.
I still get out, but you know your girl used
to get out because my husband is a homebody, so
he's not I have the desire to get out with you. Yeah,

(37:00):
but let's be clear, the desire to get out was
my husband, to the date night, things like that. But
I'm saying exactly, but I'm saying, don'ts fault you get
me like the kids don't anyway. So I used to

(37:20):
go out like a lot, lot in the city, just
by with my cousins, just be out in the streets.
So in that aspect, yes, we're around each other a
lot more because you know, but that's what our relationship
is built on, because we built our relationship during COVID,
you know what I'm saying, when we couldn't get out,

(37:41):
and so we were around each other. And so I
like being around him. I like being under him. I
like annoying him. I like when he get up. I
like when I like me to get up and spend
a little time with marriage Mary jam And I'd be like,
are you going doing?

Speaker 2 (38:02):
But we have always been even when Mac was here.

Speaker 1 (38:06):
Yeah, you know, so yeah, we're that hadn't changed. We're
always around each other still. We like being around each other.
Do you like being around me though?

Speaker 2 (38:15):
Yeah? Because I understand y'all can deal with.

Speaker 1 (38:18):
First of all, I don't say you.

Speaker 2 (38:21):
If I don't understand you and understand how you just
flipped like a light switch. If I didn't understand that
type of stuff, yeah, I'd be like, man, I stay gone.
I'd rather be here. It's safer here, it's it's.

Speaker 1 (38:38):
Is it fun?

Speaker 2 (38:40):
I mean yeah, it ain't nothing to make it fun
if it ain't fun, because you always i'tain you an you.

Speaker 1 (38:49):
Got the music, Baby, I'm gonna turn it, put the
disco ball light on. I'm gonna turn it into a
whole dance floor.

Speaker 2 (38:55):
I mean, this is what I've been waiting on. Baby
gone be back in a couple of months. So get
we have to worry about locking the door behind.

Speaker 1 (39:08):
So yeah, I think we are good in that aspect.

Speaker 2 (39:14):
Get to lead a door open now, I ain't gotta
get up to close the door for when out. You
know what I'm talking about. When I be trying to do.

Speaker 1 (39:20):
What you be trying to do, the people don't know
what you're talking about.

Speaker 2 (39:25):
About.

Speaker 1 (39:27):
Oh you got a list? Okay, So we okay, we
was gonna talk about that too, because there was a
question too. But before we get to that, somebody asks,
do we have any new hobbies that we picked up.
I don't know. I don't have any new hobbies. You
have an I don't know, people like really be I'm

(39:52):
in a parent Howard Bison parent group, and a lot
of those parents are really like struggling and it makes
me so said. I literally had to like check in
with some people to make sure I wasn't tripping because
I was like, now, wait, y'all, now these people, they
better lose it? Am I tripping? Like? Does this mean

(40:13):
I don't love my baby? But you know, when a.

Speaker 2 (40:17):
Lot of parents try to run their kids' life and
them kids finally get away from it, that uh torment dang,
because that's what it be. You know, you're a lot
of kids say that their parents is too hard on
They might feel like the parents might be that they
might not be. But when you is having problems when

(40:41):
your child go away, something's wrong with you for real,
because I mean, you ain't have no life before they left,
they was your life. That mean, you were doing everything
and they probably was right about them saying you was
too you know, not too but the parent was too
hard on them because you don't be acting like that.
You still trying to go play. You still trying to
do things? What you trying to do? Go play pickleball?

Speaker 1 (41:05):
Talking about tennis, listen. I don't know, but I feel
like the only hobby that I've gotten is a lazy hobby.
Cause it's like when I say, I really be like
she to look and then the dishwasher, yes, like yeah,
I ain't watched dishes for so long. That's that's something

(41:27):
I do miss baby girl even though she used it
and she'll watch them sometimes when she had to, but
that dishwash was her best friends. I'm definitely getting acquainted
with her now. I gotta give her a name. But yeah,
I don't think we've had any new hobbies. Yeah, I
don't know.

Speaker 2 (41:46):
Yeah, we're gonna change.

Speaker 1 (41:48):
Yeah, talking about like because so that we won't be
depressed or something, because one of my friends had me scared,
Like one of my good girlfriends told me she was like,
when the kidsy leave, you are going to be depressed.
And I was like no, she was like yes, I'm
telling you, And I was like really nervous and like God, please,
because I'm so happy for her and I know that

(42:10):
she's going to do well, and I know she's doing well.
I didn't want to be sad or depressed, and I'm not.
When I say boy, I feel like I'm just ug
like I'm ready to give me a little lemon tree,
tomato a garden, cucumber garden, like the YouTuber's gonna see

(42:36):
our faces, baby, because I was looking at him the
whole time I was saying that to my apples and
I likes and Spotify is. I was looking at mister
Wilson the whole time I was saying that, baby, he
cut his eyes turned and looked at me so tall.
Let you think you yeah, Baby, We're gonna have to
give me a garden in the backyard so I can
be like baby boy, like Jody Mammy, I could be

(42:57):
sitting out there with that gun that sit in front
of my tomatoes tree. Now we're gonna move on because
he's been talk about my plants and I ain't got high,
I ain't got the time, Honey, don't piss me off
to Jack anyway. We gotta a couple more questions. Have

(43:20):
we learned anything different about each other? With it just
being come back.

Speaker 2 (43:28):
It's the same when that girl was up. If I'm
gonna cush you out, I gonna cush you.

Speaker 1 (43:32):
Out, but don't don't do that like everybody else.

Speaker 2 (43:34):
I was just saying, it ain't nothing, James, that the
girl live. It ain't ain't it ain't nothing came about it.
It ain't nothing, nothing less, nothing more.

Speaker 1 (43:42):
I agree, And I was gonna say that I we
know each other like it's been it's been six years,
so we know know each other. I know how he's
gonna react respond reply how I know him. When I
say I know him, I know him like the back
of my head.

Speaker 2 (44:00):
Know if you're around her strict cause your mama beer
every day, I am mama.

Speaker 1 (44:06):
I don't I feel like my mama because I feel
like she retired. She just being the house. She don't
be want to do stuff. She do what she has
to do. But for the most part, maybe if she
ain't gotta get out, she do not get up.

Speaker 2 (44:16):
It goes. I mean, that's just how it's gonna be.
Y'all like that. Yeah, and I'm not you ain't worry
about that, grantee. She I'll you when she cried some
damn homework.

Speaker 1 (44:29):
And the Lord is working on me with that, y'all.
Because the only time my daughter calls is if it's
something with academics, like other stuff that may happen like chatty,
She don't chat it, don't face her. But when it
comes to them books, if she can't get a book,
or she can't get a lesson, or she don't get
something turned in, or she get a beat, like she

(44:50):
got a be on her chemistry exam last week. It
was like an eighty six and she was so disturbed
in her spirit and y'all the Sphillis feelings that know me,
know me be eighty six. Baby, I would have went
and had a whole celebration. But that's not her. She's
not she does not settle for bees.

Speaker 2 (45:07):
Uh uh, like she gonna get it. She told me
she uh she had one little clad and a little
later on.

Speaker 1 (45:17):
She gave her next I said, modules.

Speaker 2 (45:20):
She said, he gave me.

Speaker 1 (45:22):
Up.

Speaker 2 (45:23):
What's you talking about? I said, he didn't messed up.

Speaker 1 (45:26):
He fel didn't because she said the modules go with
the more work that the more you know, the more
modules that they give you. And she said she was
working on the modules for like a week, and the
last two days she was working on for like two
or three hours at a time. She's like, I couldn't
even really get to my other stuff. I had to
stop finish the work from other classes and then get back.

(45:47):
She said it was just too much, and so I
told him, like, sir, I didn't finish that, like why
is it that much? And she said he explained it
to her and then extended it for her, which was
a blessing. But they stressed her out, you know what
I'm saying. And I'm saying all that to say the
only time I really get stressed this because it does
make me sad when she's stressed or sad about her academics.

(46:11):
I tell everybody that listen, listen, baby, listen. I I
would never lie. Listen when I say I'm smart. I
got a couple of degrees. But that thing right there,
I just ain't never seen nothing like it. Baby, Her
memory b b out of the hand. Baby listen, I Baby,

(46:39):
I climb mountains if I be on the chemistry.

Speaker 2 (46:43):
Can't get no money with no bee.

Speaker 1 (46:44):
And that's exactly how she feels. She's like a bee. Mom,
What do you mean? Calm down? Hell? At this one.
I don't even I just let her get it out,
like I've literally learned to this. I promise you all
these last three or four weeks. It's like the Lord
has been telling me, toy, just shut up and listen
to it. You don't have to say nothing. Just listen,
let her, let her say what she say. And all

(47:07):
I can say is, I mean, I'm praying for you,
you know, if you feel like you need to do
something different, if you feel like you need to I
don't know what else to say, because I know how
I would feel about it. D But I know that,
you know, her mindset is totally different, and I love
that about her.

Speaker 2 (47:24):
What you get what you can ain't that I can't
have it. It's just a lot of reading, a lot
of readad it ain't the it ain't the problem solve
And it's the reading, you know, just the reading and stuff.
She got it. Yeah, so don't.

Speaker 1 (47:45):
She kind of come back baby and breaks and stuff?

Speaker 2 (47:51):
Want she might come back on Thanksgiving that's the first
break game, and then Christmas and then she might not
come back on You don't know that if she if
she finds somebody friend and wise female or dude, that
she got to get cool like a room like.

Speaker 1 (48:11):
Yeah, saying, but we are happy for her. I don't
feel like I just.

Speaker 2 (48:22):
Don't want to be running up there every every month.

Speaker 1 (48:25):
Yeah, well we're going. We won a couple of days
and then we got down and well we dropped her
off last month. Now we gotta go just put eyes
on her and go have a little fun and then
we'll come back and we won't see it. We won't
go back until Yeah, we gonna do this one any anyway. Okay,

(48:51):
So yeah, that was that question. Our next question is
which was the raty question. Mister Wilson, Are you ready
for this one? Somebody the rated They said, have you
all tested out all of the rooms yet? Since McKenzie's
been gone. She wasn't like that, but that's what I
My answer was, the only room that we have not

(49:14):
been in in this house is McKenzie's room, and it's
because it's a respect thing like that's her bedroom, you
know what I'm saying, where she lived. You know, now
she now when McKenzie leaves for good in a few years,
when she you know, that's I'm getting to that it's

(49:37):
gonna be the mad Cave. When a few years and
we turned into the mad Cave, you know, then we'll
be able to say we've tested out every room in
the house. But yeah. Yeah, did you want to add
something to that to have my whole carrying well, yes,

(50:11):
that's why we're glad the first phone is gone.

Speaker 2 (50:16):
Who was asking you? Just the people without a man or?

Speaker 1 (50:19):
I had suggested questions for our first episode. Mhm and different.
It was some more. It was more vulgar questions and
weird stuff, and I was like, I'm not gonna ask.

Speaker 2 (50:33):
It wasn't weird. It was just sexual.

Speaker 1 (50:36):
It was It was sexual, definitely a lot of sexual.
And I don't mind the conversation, but it's like that
that's all y'all got.

Speaker 2 (50:45):
We could have gave her some metal tone then.

Speaker 1 (50:49):
But the thing is, even when she was here weak, yes,
she used to. It was it was a handful of
times she would get out work or something. That's when
she was working. Yeah, but when she yeah, you know,
my nerves attitude nothing never mind, girl. Shoot, I'm not

(51:23):
know anyway. That was hilarious. Okay, mister Wilson, this is
our last question. What advice will you give another empty
nester empty nester, I'm sorry, or a parent that has
dropped their kid off to college and it is very worried.
I'll let you go first.

Speaker 2 (51:43):
Mm hmm. Well, really nothing because of the word part.
If you just been like dropping them off. You know
when I drop baby word and she's she almost and
every other state that a child go through other than

(52:04):
the state they farm, it's gonna be worse than the
state they're from because because it's bigger than them. Nothing
about the state. But I still wouldn't wear it, because
you as long as you know your child and the Lord, well,
long as you know the Lord, you're gonna be good.
But long as you know your child. Though, if you
know your child, you know just about what they'll do.

(52:26):
You've been You ain't just now trying to figure out
what they're going through, but you've been in it. You
ain't gonna ain't gonna have nothing to worry about. Only
people wear is the people that that feel like they
are shut out their child life. You know, like child
probably gonna go through stuff and ain't gonna call them.

(52:46):
They're gonna try to like your homegirls said that her daughter,
she think her daughter will do it. She'll just try
to go through it. She wouldn't come to her for
no help because of the advice she didne gave her already.
You know what I'm saying so as long as you
know your child, you be all right. Then you got
the prayer and let go. That's what they call it.
They what they say, leaving the nest. You do all

(53:09):
that so they can go. You don't do all this
so you can wear yourself to death. But what are
they worried about? That's another thing. So I don't know.
I can't tell them nothing. They're gonna have to figure
They got to figure out because of the Just think
when that that when that bird lead, What if that

(53:32):
bird was the one that was keeping all the peace
in Now? What if one that what if wants that
bird lee and you got the emptyness, that emptiness turns
the straight hell. You know what I'm saying, I can't.
I don't know that was holding the list together. You know,
I don't. I don't know to each is all that?

Speaker 1 (53:54):
And that That's something I can say too, because I
have seen to where even during COVID, how like kids leaving.
You know what I'm saying, the nest and it's changing
the trajectory of the relationship in the house. I feel
like it could be for the good or for the worst. However,
I agree with everything you said. I think that you

(54:16):
should know your child, and if you know your child,
then you're gonna drop them off accordingly. I feel like
you're gonna cover them in prayer period. You know what
I'm saying, Like we are praying parents. I know mister Wilson,
he's the type that he is. We both have faith.
But I tend to worry just a little bit, you

(54:39):
know what I'm saying. And I feel like he's really
strong at once. He pray about it and give it
to God, like he don't care about no more. He
don't want to think about it. He don't talk about
it like, man, I get it to God. I ain't
missed about that. Me on the other hand, and be like, okay, Lord,
I know I asked you, but what's your think. You
ain't saying nothing. You ain't showed me nothing you need
you know what I'm saying. So that's the best. It's

(55:00):
part of having him as a partner, a husband, a spouse,
a confidant, a friend that even when I feel like
I want to be worried because I ain't got no
reason to be worried because I know my child. You
know what I'm saying, But I guess her being there
far away and me just missing her. That's the little
stuff that get in my mind. But for the most part,
I see my baby versus of the day in prayers

(55:22):
every single morning. That's the first thing I do. I
talk to her daily. I used to. I used to
shove care I used to.

Speaker 2 (55:30):
Call her because I like. I like that cause she,
like I told her, once she gets the feeling herself,
she gonna give more. She's gonna get more self e
stinking all that. But what the way she when y'all
be talking now, when you know y'all had a little
and say nothing, she was like, but mom, yeah, but
she was like, Mom, you just calm down because you

(55:52):
were talking about the you know, the reaching out and
you know what I'm saying. And she was like, Mom,
I'm wanna do it. But don't I like that?

Speaker 1 (56:00):
Yeah? You like she goes back and forth for her Mama.

Speaker 2 (56:02):
No, I go back and forth. I like she able
to speak her mind. I tell her she can't be
no following her whole life. She got the leads some well.

Speaker 1 (56:12):
She got to lead somewhere and she's amazing.

Speaker 2 (56:15):
But she's just when when she was talking to you,
she just tickled me because she was like uh, and this,
y'all was trying to throw me in, I said her.
I said her this thing the day. Uh, it's something
about when you when you're calling your dad to get
your dad on your side because you know your mama
ain't something. It's something. I sent it straight to her
cause that's that's that's the type of that's what she

(56:36):
be doing. Call me, mis mama said, I said, well,
and then she called right back. I was like, hello,
and y'all on three ways.

Speaker 1 (56:45):
She like, but yeah, I feel like I don't call
her as much. However, I still call her that. I
call her just like one yes today maybe, and then
we do text throughout the day day. Now, let her
call me more. And this is for my parents. This

(57:07):
is what I do. So this is what this is.
I mean, I'm just telling y'all what I can do.
I do. I listen to her more, like I said,
because she is a pre young adult. So I do
want her to know that her thoughts and opinions and
her conversations matters to me and they are important to me.
Thank you for clapping, mister Wilson. I like to encourage her.

(57:29):
I like to inspire her again when she struggled with
her academ with the she's not struggling academically, let me
clarify that if she has something do or she gets
to be and she's down, I use that opportunity to
kind of encourage her, to motivate her, to let her know, Hey,
you know, even though to me, I still feel like
this that ain't good journey, but you know, got to

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make her feel good about it. I accompliment her. Remind
her or your child, how proud of them that you are,
how much you love them, how much that Jesus loves
them more because we feel like we love our kids. Baby,
our love ain't got nothing on what how Jesus feel.
And then I read this Bible app y'all, call God
is Able Faith for parents of college bound students. It's

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on the Holy Bible app, the Brown one, y'all. It
is so freaking good. I've read it three times, I
promise I have, and I'm gonna read it again as
soon as I finished with the app the plan that
I'm currently on. But it is so good. It's like
a reminder of how God is gonna bless your child
when it comes to finances, scholarships and all that stuff.
He's gonna bless them with good people to be around.
He's gonna bless them academically, he's gonna bless them with

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good professors. And when I say it is so good,
it gave me so much peace. I look. I sent
it to one of my friends whose child went to
school three hours away, and they're struggling exactly, And I
think I'm going to do that because I didn't think.
I'm glad you said that, baby, thank you, because I'm
gonna do that. But when I say, I sent it

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to my friend whose chad is just three hours away,
and they were struggling so bad, I was shaking her.
Oh it was just so bad. I was like, oh
my God, Like I know, our kids be spoiled, but lord,
the mama dropped off and two days later she drove
back down. It was a lot. You know what I'm saying, Well,
I don't know about that. I just feel like they

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struggle was real for real. But anyway, you've been.

Speaker 2 (59:22):
Trying to put them kids out when they were under fourteen,
that them kids can go.

Speaker 1 (59:30):
Leave this Listen. I with you.

Speaker 2 (59:34):
When you're right, get education without a career, they ain't
gonna get no bit.

Speaker 1 (59:39):
You're absolutely right. You're absolutely right. So yeah, I'm like
mister Wilson, like when it's the only advice we can
give is you know, you just gotta let go and
let God. You know what I'm saying. Let them if
they feel like it's the decision that they want to make,
support them. But the Lord to give you the spirit
of the discernment. You know your kid, If you know
your kid out here being foolish, acting foolish, just trying

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to jump up, and now.

Speaker 2 (01:00:03):
You know if your kid ain't smart enough, yeah at Harvard. Yeah,
I know your kid needs to be down there at Memphis, Mississippi.
So way, don't don't set them up there and be
wirried that that'll worry you right there were you're trying
to live out of your.

Speaker 1 (01:00:16):
Means too, that would that will definitely worry you too.

Speaker 2 (01:00:20):
Better send them down at a job for forty seven
took the fund from job courts because so can't nobody
go there?

Speaker 1 (01:00:28):
Will Lord bless? But yeah, I know your child, and
when you know your child, move accordingly. And that's how
he was. One of my good girlfriends said, she called
me childa dub When I say that she knows I'm
talking too, but it meant to lie. When she told me,
she said, childa dub, I'm glad you and will dub.

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She kind of card child up because my name is
Challa on Facebook, so she called me child dub and
call him whell dub. But she said, I'm glad that
y'all did not mess up their girl dreams and clip
her wings by not letting her go to her dream
college and doing what she do. She was like, that
girl gonna make y'all pray out and I can't wait.
And when she said that, I was like, oh my god,

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and it's crazy because we actually fasted, we prayed, we
did all of that, and the Lord just never changed
her heart or desire.

Speaker 2 (01:01:18):
For because she did all the work from the beginning
that I said, Lord been blessed her. She been. She's smart, man,
She's a book yeah worm. The girl is smart. That's
why when she gets she called me in and be
talking about school. She was like, why you ain't why
you ain't trying to bet me up? I said, for
what you smart?

Speaker 1 (01:01:36):
To tell you up? For that?

Speaker 2 (01:01:37):
I said, you need to sit back and you figure
out what's taking your time. I can't build you up now,
not when you on somewhere. You already at you smart? Now,
now what's taking your time? If you're sleeping too much?
What else is something? So stop whatever else you're doing
and do what you gotta do for her. I said,
you ain't it ain't like down here, you know, so

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you know you're good at the home work. Were wearing folk.
If we can't, we can't do a math problem.

Speaker 1 (01:02:07):
She's talking about. The professor called me out because I
was the only one that put the strands down for
the answer. I said, well what was the strands? Tom?
I said, girl, good job, Like I like the I like.

Speaker 2 (01:02:21):
To hear from. Like when she called, like when she
went to get some groceries, Yeah that people try to
charge sixty two dollars. Yeah, could have got it out
of her. She was still down here and.

Speaker 1 (01:02:31):
Been yeah, but she's college money now.

Speaker 2 (01:02:34):
She wanted to get her her little computer and trying
to she ain't had to pay number fifty dollars a day.
I said, girl, now, now I'm proud of you. You
know what I'm saying, ain't nobody to beat you. I'm
proud of you because I know you're going to get
that homework. Because you. I know how you was about
about school. It's the that big world that yeah, you
know what I'm saying that that's why I don't try

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to tell her to go here and go there, and
you you will figure out what you You will figure
out what you like and what you don't like. I
ain't got to tell you to go. I'll tell you
to go ahead, and then they get there, you see
it gone and get skilled.

Speaker 1 (01:03:12):
And that's true because there's been stuff going around in
the city on the campus.

Speaker 2 (01:03:19):
Yes, yes, horrible, but you're still gonna reneuve arroundy. If
you're up there doing you're doing the right thing as
long as you get to When you get to slipping,
that's when stuff catch up with you.

Speaker 1 (01:03:30):
With you when you suicie. Well, that is it for
the empty nesters in a nutshell. I feel like we
are living our best life. We're about to go see
baby in a couple of weeks. We're gonna make it
some date nights while we're there.

Speaker 2 (01:03:47):
See now, that's now, that's.

Speaker 1 (01:03:52):
Why we're gonna ask some fun to.

Speaker 2 (01:03:59):
You wanna go out of all the time. Now, I
just we left her plenty of times. It ain't like
we ain't been going no, Well, she's been here all
the time. But you do want to go out a lot, and.

Speaker 1 (01:04:09):
You're gonna do better, that's all you gotta say.

Speaker 2 (01:04:11):
I'm gonna do better. But you got But the world
ain't you know what I'm saying. The world ain't gonna
get no better. We got the jail, like we're talking
about baby. We got to calculate every self strategic. We
got to be strategic with it. We can't just be okay,
we're gonna go like the when you're talking about going
on Saturday. I would sit at the chant and I

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seen on TV. I said it's gonna be one hundred
thousand people there. See, we can't go and play like that.

Speaker 1 (01:04:38):
It wasn't it was safe, though, was it? And it's
downtown little like it's not.

Speaker 2 (01:04:46):
You know how many people got shot down there?

Speaker 1 (01:04:47):
Yeah, but it's well, yeah, but this place, this.

Speaker 2 (01:04:50):
Part one time. You know people got shot at one time,
and how many different events we covered.

Speaker 1 (01:04:56):
They was too No, they wouldn't cool.

Speaker 2 (01:05:00):
They will when when uh a little two times down here,
you remember about twenty five people got shot and nobody
to die.

Speaker 1 (01:05:08):
Who said they prayed before they went in there?

Speaker 2 (01:05:10):
The mamas dead Grandma, come on, come on, come on,
come on, the world bad. We got to pick We
got to be around these people that you don't like.

Speaker 1 (01:05:20):
You know what, he's gonna do better. He's he's, he's
he's gonna do better with our date nights.

Speaker 2 (01:05:33):
Well, we have day nights. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (01:05:34):
We haven't.

Speaker 2 (01:05:35):
Now, she's just explaining to y'all. We be together all
the time, day night here night being hockey, and we
can go in there and we can have hot dolls
and chips, yes, and watch something she wants to watch.
That's because I don't want to watch.

Speaker 1 (01:05:48):
It is to me too. But sometimes I like dressing
up and going out. I don't want to just keep
dressing up going out on the.

Speaker 2 (01:06:00):
Know, do what you do when we be coming here
at the time, we be clean.

Speaker 1 (01:06:05):
Literally, you see what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (01:06:11):
From trouble, you got vake up all.

Speaker 1 (01:06:13):
Right, This is left over from earlier.

Speaker 2 (01:06:16):
This is a date. Everything we do is a date.

Speaker 1 (01:06:19):
It is.

Speaker 2 (01:06:20):
It ain't about us going out being saying by other
people to make it.

Speaker 1 (01:06:23):
They don't got to see me. I want to go
out for the ambiance for us. Well, yeah, it's another
it's a place in being that he's gonna plan.

Speaker 2 (01:06:31):
For us to go in a couple of weeks.

Speaker 1 (01:06:33):
Let you know that the place I was telling you
a battle while ago, that's a different plan.

Speaker 2 (01:06:40):
They cant fish play.

Speaker 1 (01:06:41):
See what I'm saying. Would you like to add anything?
Would you Is there anything else you wants to say
to the empty nester parents on wine?

Speaker 2 (01:06:52):
You empty nestas. You got to learn how to unwind.
That's all you got to do. You have to unwind
whatever your vice is. If it's talking like my wife,
being podcast, if it's watching movies like you do like
I do, if it's if it's smoking, if it's eating,
if it's just on wine and chill. Because while you
stress that other person that you worry about, it ain't

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they probably that sleep doing something you need to be doing.
You know what I'm saying, I'm wine, doing wine like
I just got all work.

Speaker 1 (01:07:22):
All right, Well this is so you can wait, because
it's I got one more meaning for the spill encouragement time,
and then you can go all right, spellers. I hope
you all enjoyed that episode about being an empty nester.
We'll probably do another one in the future, a check up.
Probably we may bring Kensy in for Thanksgiving. No, I

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wanted to bring her. She I wanted to. I wanted to.
Shall you and mc keensy make me nervous because I
don't know what the hell gonna come back to y'all,
math I don't know who. I know her like the
back of my hand. That's what I'm saying. I got.
I'm a bringer. I'm gonna bring They talk about mariat

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of scientist, I'm gonna bring mackensey to scientists.

Speaker 2 (01:08:06):
When you have a child, it's your better half. Do
you think she the better half for you? Or the
worst half?

Speaker 1 (01:08:12):
I think I definitely think she's a mixture of both
because I know how to hold stuffie in and then
she's just gonna She definitely speaks how she feels at
the moment.

Speaker 2 (01:08:23):
So she feels like she's twenty eight. Now you put
the microphone.

Speaker 1 (01:08:25):
Yes, she feels like she's younger. Do she like mama?
You gotta listen to me and respect how I feel like.
We're not gonna girl anyway. All right, We're moving on
to the end of the episode. Spillers. This is the
spill encouragement time. Matthew five and sixteen says, let your light.
Shine before men that they may see your good works

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and glorify your Father, which is in heaven. Spillers, Our
light comes from God and God alone. Man does not
give it to you, and man cannot take it away.
So instead of demming your light doing things that won't
glorify God or build your character, tap into your gifts,
master them, share them, and shine before men. Remember, your

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gift may not be the same or similar to others.
In fact, it may be totally different. That's okay, though,
because God gave that gift specifically to you, and that's
your opportunity to shine even brighter. So shine, Spillers, Shine, Shine, Mackenzie, Shine,

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mister Wilson, Shine, Shine, Shine until next time, Spillers,