October 7, 2025 • 54 mins
LIFE IS LIFING...BUT GOD IS GODDING! IS YOU COO? TAP IN! DOPE EPISODE! -MRS. WILSON
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Speaker 1 (00:27):
Hey world, Welcome back to The spill Podcast, your favorite podcast,
featuring your favorite podcast host, Me your.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Girl, Missus Wilson.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Hey Spillers, welcome to season four episode aid Life.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Is you cool? Like?
Speaker 1 (00:45):
What is What's going on? That is our topic for
this episode. Spillers, listen my YouTuber sorry first, but to
my iHeartRadio and my Apple podcast and my Google podcasts
and my Spotify today you just get me your Girl,
And I'm excited about that because I love connecting one
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on one with my spillers. Plus, y'all know this is
my baby, so of course you're gonna get episodes where
it's just me, and then I'm in the process of
creating a space for different guests to record with, so
y'all bear with me while I get that done. I
have a couple of my old peers coming in the
next few episodes, but I want new people to come
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and for the Spillers that don't know, I actually record
inside my home, so I am. I've just kind of
changed the trajectory with inviting different entities and energies and
spirits in my home. Not saying that it's anything wrong
with people, energy and spirit you know, I just this
is my home, my space, my piece, and even after
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my podcast, I still have to dwell here. So I'm
just being very cognizant about the things and the people
that I bring into this space. Again, it's nothing per personal.
It's just something that I'm doing. And plus in the
city that I'm in, Little Rock, shout out to y'all.
I've just been made prevy that we have different spaces
that will allow us to do podcasts recording. So I
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would rather do that anyway to make my guests more comfortable,
especially the ones that has never been in my podcast space.
But in the meantime, in between time, you got your girl,
and I'm gonna come with this good content, this good
conversation because here on the Spill podcast, our mission and
our goal is to cultivate black boldness, one real conversation
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at a time, and it starts with me the host. Okay, anyway,
so it's me today. I love y'all, and let's go
ahead and get into Spill. As y'all know what time
it is. It is the Spill mental check in time.
This is the time of the episode where we do
our self love and self awareness mental check. Now, remember
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last episode, I reminded you, y'all that life has been
life and for so many people. In fact, life is
still life if we're so many people. There were people
rising above storms that they were currently in. There are
people I know personally include myself, in storms now that
we are just sitting through, going through the motions, the
spiritual lessons that God is trying to teach us, the
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emotions that we're learning to deal, you know, going through
it right now. So even though we're all going through it,
it's still my duty to do my mental check in
to make sure that yeah, life may be lifing for us,
but I have to hold us accountable and make sure
that we are allowing God to continue to God. Okay,
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so listen, spillers, stop pause for the cause, take a
moment to yourself and do a self mental check.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Okay, do your self mental check. Sorry about that.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Alarm, h y'all, y'all know I got alarms for everything. Anyway,
do your self mental check. Make sure that you're good
while you're checking. I always like to encourage my spillers
to make sure that you are being real with yourself.
You're not sweeping your feelings or your emotions under the rug.
You're not denying them, you're not running for them. Be
intentional about identifying how you're feeling emotionally so that we
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can get better. Okay, So connect with your emotions, Identify
those feelings, acknowledge those feelings, admit those feelings, speak those feelings,
and we can determine the next steps from there.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
So, Spillers, how are you doing, How are you feeling?
How are you coping? Be good, bad, happy, or sad?
Make sure you're being honest with yourself because in order
for us to help, or in order for something to happen,
we have to acknowledge and admit it and then work
towards making it better.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
As for me in my house, Nah, listen, I always
say all is well, spillers, because all is well.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
I'm a fine.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Believer in Jesus Christ, as you all know. I'm a
believer that in seasons, there will be good seasons, there
will be bad seasons, there'll be trials, there'll be tribulations,
but as long as you trust that He's with you,
you will get through them. And that's the space that
I'm in right now. My family has been dealing with
some things. I've been dealing with some things. I have
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a daughter that's in college, that's maneuvering life in a
huge city across the country without her parents, without you know,
the guidance, the helicoptering. I'm doing better, though I'm not
as helicopter ish, but you know, I still I still
zu zoom, just not as much. But we're all dealing
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with a lot, especially emotionally, and I feel like this
is a time where we really need to identify with
those emotions and work on bettering them.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
And I'm doing so as well. Okay, instead of.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Stressing about the things that I'm dealing with or worrying
about them, I do cry. I feel like crying is
like a cleansing. I believe that God counts our tears
and he knows our tears, and with that he heals
us and makes things better. So if I'm feeling sad
at that moment, for whatever the case may be, I
will cry at the drop of a dime. My husband
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could tell your baby, he calls me a cry baby.
He doesn't hold it back. But I will cry. If
I'm happy or if I'm grateful, I'll cry. And I've
been those the mixed emotions I've been going through y'all,
like I've been having the crying and the grateful tears,
the shout and emotional tears, and I've also been having
the shout and the crime. God helped me tears, Okay,
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But I trust him with it. I trust him with
everything that I'm dealing with, everything that my family is
dealing with, because I know that this too shall pass.
If it's something I know, I don't have any control
over speelings. I like, I've literally made up in my
mind in my grown years and I'm just now getting here,
to be honest, but I've made up in my mind
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that I'm no longer going to stress.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
About it, worry about it. I have to give it
to God. For one. Stressing and worrying does nothing but
makes you more sick.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
You can't rest, You're building up diseases in your bodies.
That's unwarranted. Like listen, and I tell them, like God,
that's too heavy for me. You know. I made a
little real a few weeks ago when Cat Williams did
one of his comedy shows. He said, Lord, what you've
given your servant is just a little bit too heavy.
I'm That's my prayer. If it's heavy for me, I say, God,
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it's heavy for me. But I know you gave it
to me because you feel like I can carry it.
And since you feel like I can carry it, you
told me to take my yoke, give my yolk. I'm
giving it out to you. Other words, you said your
yoke is easy and your burdens are light. I'm getting Listen,
it's yours. I can't do nothing with it. It's just
too much, and I just trust him to help me.
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Everybody is not there, though, but if you're not there,
the goal is for us to work towards getting there, okay,
so that we can be better. So if you are
going through, if you are in a season that you
feel like you're worrying or stressing over things that are
beyond your control, I just recommend that you turn it
over to God and trust him with it. Okay, sit
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in it, of course.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
Whatever it is, Cry, pray, cry some more, pray some more,
but don't stay down. Don't be down too long.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Be it finances, health, grief, relationships, marriage, friendships, children, your job.
Turn it over to God and trust that he's going
to work it out for you, because He's already worked
it out. I was listening to Original Past Original Sharp
from Fellowship Chicago yesterday. He said, God goes before us,
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meaning he's in our future. He's going to handle whatever
it is that we got to get to or whatever
it is we need him to handle it. Says, He
goes He's already been behind us, meaning that he's handled
everything in the past, that's why we are where we
are today. And then he's beside us, meaning that he's
handling everything that we're going through right now. So Spillings,
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whatever it is, turn it up to the.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Love healer it out.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Oh yeah, my daughter, she's eighteen, y'all. She tells me
all the time. I'm churchy because I don't care if
she say, Mama, I got a B or a C
on this exam. Baby, I'm gonna give her some Bible
scriptures behind it in some songs because that's all I
know right now. Spillers, I'm just gonna be honest like God,
his word Jesus has been sustaining your girl. You understand,
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because these grown adult years, baby, either you gonna get
them or they gonna get you. And I'm like my pastor, baby,
what's got me didn't get me? And I ain't gonna
let it. So I pray all is well with these spillings.
If not all, if all is not well, please say
something so that we can do something. As a witness.
I promise you.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
I can tell you God will take care of you
if you let him so.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Let him remember you, your health is wealth, and in
order to be wealthy, you must first be healthy. Okay, spillers,
So turn it over to the Lord. Okay, and let
him do what he gonna do, how he gonna do what,
how he gonna do it. And Webby Voice y'all remember
Weby's on the other.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
Whatever he was on.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
He said, I let him do what to do, how
he gonna do it. When they do it, want to
do it, y'all? Yeah, do what Webby said do but
let God do it.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Okay, Okay.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
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Speaker 1 (13:26):
We are now moving on spillers to our spill trend topic.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
Time Well, child.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
Listen, let me take a sip of this water that
Jesus turned into wine at the wedding.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Yeah, he did.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
He turned that water into wine. He said, keep the
party started, so he let them drink wine and help
them celebrate and turn.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Up over two thousand years ago.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
I know he bothered the back his his daughter sipping
a little wine. In twenty twenty five, all right, spell
trend topic time, Spillers. This is the time of an
episode where we talk about everything that's trending or what
I feel like talking about that's trending in the culture.
Remember this is not a t session, Spillers. We are
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just creating dialogue about things that can potentially have an
effect on our culture, whether it is positive or negative.
We gonna talk about some of the things that I
feel like need to be discussed.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
Now.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Listen, it's so much going on in this world, Spillers,
so much going on with us individually collectively, and it's
so much going on in this world in this government
that we cannot help. So I am going to talk
about this government shut down just for five seconds. I'm
not gonna spend too much time on this, because yet
a government must be might be shut down. But baby,
the King of Gory is never shut down. And we
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know who the king of king is. So at the
end of the day that they got an end, and
whoever shutting the government down got an insul for their
part and shutting the government down. Now, listen, I'm not
a politician. I never inspired to be one. I don't
care to be one. I was taught a long time ago.
They religion, politics, and the money. Some things you just
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don't discuss with everybody because they probably gonna turn into
an argument in your opinion, won't matter to them and
there's won't matter to you. So I don't really talk
about it that much. However, I do watch the news.
I'm a news advocate. Every my husband can tell you
every morning when I wake up. Now I do my
devotion in the separate room, but we wake up and
watch the news. I come on, I watch David murrahun
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I'm gonna watch the local news. I'm a newsperson. I'm
a person that google's the news, what's going on in
the news from Yeah, I think they're true networks.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
But anyway, I know a little bit, a little bit,
a little bit.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
And being a citizen of this here country. I definitely
like to stay privy about what's going on in twenty
five with forty seven and forty seven forty seven, and listen,
that's my opinion and I'm sticking to it now. I'm
just saying, if you love forty seven, ain't nothing with him.
I love him like the love of God. I pray
for him out it. But some stuff he do it
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makes me scratch my head. And I'm just gonna talk
about it for five seconds now. This is our first
government shut down since twenty eighteen. I don't recall having
one since twenty eighteen.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
Something told me.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
Just look, you know, do some googling, little research, and
from what I found, we hadn't had one.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
Since twenty eighteen.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
So people saying government shut down out of time, Yeah,
shut down out of time when forty seven was forty five.
But anyway, a government shut down, for those who don't know,
is when the government's legislative branch. Y'all know that all
the branches legislator, you know, the branches what is it,
legislative branch, executive branch, and the.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
Oh my goodness, I just literally went had a part
the three.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
Branches of government, legislative, executive and judicial. I had to
get thank you Lord for bringing that to me, because
I it was gonna be a blood moment anyway. It's
when the legislative branch fillers of the part of the
government who makes the laws. They don't pass key bills
that funds are authorized, the operations of the executive branch.
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Executive branch is a part of the government that enforces. Now,
some argue that it's the Democrats fault that the government
is shut.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
Down because they want vote or agree on what.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Forty seven and then want to do because you know,
whatever forty seven says goes. Matter of fact, forty seven
said he's not even willing to have a meeting until
the lefties, the wrong Ese, the Dems, as he caused them,
does what it is that he wants them to do,
which is what the legislative branch does make the laws
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and what the executive executive branch does enforce the laws.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
So, from my.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
Understanding, the lefties the Dems have no control of the House,
the Senate to any of that. So my interpretation and
my comprehension is that we are not the ones who
are complete responsible for the government shut down. Exactly. I
feel the exact same way. So with that being said,
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what are we doing? I know one plus one in Katoon.
They helped me comprehend a little bit, you know, know
that the song and the concepts of math. But with
this politics stuff that's obvious too, you know. On a
serious note, I think this shutdown was very strategic because
I feel like that forty seven has his hands and
a whole lot of things that he stated prior to
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this election, this past election I'm sorry November twenty twenty four,
has his hands and a lot of things that he
denied that his hands were in.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
And in order to make a lot of the.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
Things that his hands he said his hands weren't in
come to pass, he has to do certain things and
this government shut down is one of those things.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
Right. I feel like a.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
Lot of his supporters, you know, feel like if he
says jump off of a bridge, they're so devoted to
him and what he says, they're gonna ask him, well,
which breed you want us to.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Jump off of?
Speaker 1 (19:05):
And they're going to be willing to jump, regardless of
power and make others fills, regardless of the situations that
it puts others in. The negative effect that it has
people are actually doing these things to stay on his
good side.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
They're negating their morals and values.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
They're even again protecting the true democracy of this country
so that they can look good in his sight. Okay,
at this point, Spillers, I feel like all we can
do as humans with hearts a zest for or a
love for this country and a zsess to do what's right,
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pray and exercise all right, to vote every single chance
we get. Okay, you know, being negative, hating him, I
told you so. I just if you're not going to
the polls doing nothing, then what you're telling me so far,
if you're not praying about the situation, what you're telling
me so for? And I know it's eas here said
than none. I had a conversation with somebody recently because
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I was saying that I pray for my president. I
pray for my president daily, I pray for my government daily.
I don't like him just as much as a lot
of people don't like him, but that's not gonna stop
me from saying, God bless him, his family, his administration
and staff, and let your will be done.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
And that's my true heart prayer that's.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
Coming from my heart, Like I really want God to
do that, because I don't wish ill or bad on anyone,
regardless if I agree with them or not. And this
is the country that I'm living in, I'm residing in.
I'm raising a productive, amazing citizen who's going to do
a lot for this country. Like that's the least I
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can do is pray for whoever runs it and do
my part as far as voting and making sure that
I'm being a good, productive citizen. So listen, let's stop
wasting our time and energy being negative. You know, he
here we saying a lot of us anyway, and just pray.
You know what I'm saying, spend a lot of time praying.
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I done went all enough. You know, I'm sure y'all
know what to do, But let's learn to Let's put
our government in this country in God's hend.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
Remember, God sees all, and he knows how all.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
Be scared for the ones that are doing stuff out
of evil intent, racism, bigotree because they reach we poor.
Y'all better be careful because they reach stay poor. Because baby,
I'm rich. My father's reach and has the land. Baby,
he holds the world upon me his hand. I'm rich too,
because I'm a part of his world kingdom. Be careful
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what you say, too, but be mindful of those who
actually look at rich people poor people and make decisions
based on that.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
Okay. So if we are not praying, you should be
like Esther.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
Did you know when she was in the palace with
the king that was letting the people try to destroy
her people?
Speaker 2 (21:56):
You should be.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
Praying for such a time as this, Okay, So make
sure y'all are praying.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
That's all I got to say about that.
Speaker 1 (22:03):
Don't come all my comments, don't message me telling me
nothing about but that's what I.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
Feel, how I feel. It is what t is.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Okay, thank you, love you the love of God. Now
listen spill as y'all know the spill trend topic. I
always got to talk about something positive, Okay.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
So I want to.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
Shout out my cousin from another cut Daddy Brother Cousin
something Weekend though Pirty be Honey. Her album I Am
I the Drama Baby, It's Everything all twenty three songs,
Bill Clice my Lenas Almanza better known It's gotta be
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Buddy Baby.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
She ate damn y'all hear me. She ate down with
this CD. Just listen to it.
Speaker 1 (22:49):
This is one of the c I wouldn't expect. The
twenty three songs, it took me a couple of days.
Ain't Gonna lie Spills. It took me a couple of
days to actually listen listen to it because it was.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
So many songs. I was like, Okay, Cardy.
Speaker 1 (23:01):
But the best thing that I could have did them
a couple of days was listening to that song. That
song came out in September with twenty sixteen seventeen. Here
it is October the seven, and I listened to I've
been listening to. That's the only CD I've been playing.
Like my husband probably looking like, girl, what is you
trying to say? Why did you study playing all of
them bangers? And I cannot.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (23:24):
I can't relate to what she's going through or what
she's been through. I do pray for it because I
love her so much and I wish the best for her,
and I feel like she deserves all of this amazing
love and stuff that she's going through. So the songs,
I can't say, ooh, I relate blah blah blah, because
that's not my life right now. But baby, they hits
and when I say she went in, the stories are
beautiful in every single song. So even if you don't
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like Harty, I feel like just as a culture and
she's not all the way black, but you know, she
in a black culture, so she's one of our cousins.
Listen to the stories and the messages in her songs
and let it inspire you, let him motivate you, you know,
and let it wish the best for every woman that's
going through, that's been through and that is overcome because
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our cousin has been through it, but she's overcome coming
as well. So she's definitely a testimony and that. So
make sure y'all check out Cardi. And that's a free advertisement.
So cousin Carty, when you hear this, I need something,
send me do send me a signed shirt something. I'm
waiting on the the the tour. You know, I don't
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know if I'm gonna do Atlanta, North Carolina, Houston, but
I'm doing one of them.
Speaker 2 (24:39):
But I'm waiting on a tour.
Speaker 1 (24:41):
But send your girl something in the meantime and in
between time. Okay, Spiller's that is our skill trend time.
We are now moving, going and getting ready for our
topic time.
Speaker 2 (25:05):
I'm back, spillers.
Speaker 1 (25:07):
I hope you enjoyed those beautiful jazz tunes from the
Trap Jazz Giant out of the Great City of Little Rock, Arkansas,
Philly Moo and Quincy Q. Know what's on all right, spillers,
we are onto our spill trends topic. I'm sorry, our
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spill topic time life Is you cool? That's the topic, y'all.
So I cannot be the only one who feel like
life has been lifing. You know, y'all know when we
deal with stuff, be a family drama, financial issues, health, grief, children, jobs.
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You know, we don't really like to publicize all of
the negative stuff that's going on. And that is okay
because people don't be wanting people in there, especially people
that's not gonna help them or pray for them, right,
And then a lot of things that we deal with,
those things that I just name especially could come off
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as embarrassing, especially with your age, because it's almost like, now, wait,
I'm too old to be going through that. Because some
stuff I've been dealing with here lately, I honestly do
feel like I'm too old and people around me too
old to be putting us through that, putting me through that,
you know what I'm saying, or putting themselves through that.
So we all want everybody to know, and that is
absolutely okay. But I honestly feel like people are dealing
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with life and have been dealing with it more publicly
than ever, whether it's intentional or unintentional. So with that
being said, spillers, let's talk about some ways to cope
with life publicly and or privately. Okay, let's see where
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to start, y'all. And I'm just gonna try to have
a transparent, transparent, transparent moment. I'm always real transparent, but
I talk to people about things that I'm going with
my therapist, people that are extremely close to me, just
so that I can get it out, feel a lot better,
pray about it, get some redirecting, some things that I
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can do. So yeah, for me, I'm learning that things
in life that happens are inevitable, like there's absolutely nothing
you can do right, And I feel like I feel
like I'm mature enough in my faith to accept that
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I cannot control those things right, Because of course, if
we could control things that happened in our life, babe,
we wouldn't go through nothing. We wouldn't experience an ount
of pain and outs of fear and outs of doubt
and ounces of worry, like we would never experience none
of those things.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
Right. I was talking to one of my big sisters.
Speaker 1 (28:02):
She she shout out to she she hates Sheila. I
call her she she? She said, I got any right
of calling her she she now? But anyway, I was
talking to her the other day and we literally agreed
in the midst of me telling her some things that
I'm going through, but we both agreed that like if
we can say, Lord, we know we gotta have trials,
but can we control them? You know what I'm saying,
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Like we were literally as humans try to control the
trials and tribulations that God gives us.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
And that is not good. You know, that's not good.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
Like, what's the purpose of having trials and tribulations if
you're gonna control them? Because if we control them, y'all know,
we ain't gonna feel not a thing. We're not going
to feel any of that, right, I feel like if
I mean, it's just no other way around it. I'm
not even gonna try to add nothing to it. I'm
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just saying, if God allowed us to control everything that
we went through or we go through, we wouldn't go
through and we wouldn't have a test or a testimony
that'll be pointless because a part of him blessing us
with trials and tribulations because they are a blessing because
he promises to chastise those he loves, and then we
know if he brings us to it, he'll bring us
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through it. We know that this too shall pass. We
know that there's a lesson. I'm sorry, there's a blessing
and the blessing. So it's a blessing when we go through.
Speaker 2 (29:24):
We are HEARDing. We go through all those.
Speaker 1 (29:26):
Emotions, but there's a blessing in it because there's a
purpose and a lesson behind it. If we controlled it,
we would not get to experience that spillers, meaning we
wouldn't be able to use that to help our brothers
and sisters that are out who's going through the same thing. Okay,
So whatever we go through, that's our opportunity to help
lift somebody else up that has gone through it, that's
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going through it, or that's in the process of going
through what we've been through.
Speaker 2 (29:52):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
I know people always say pray about it, Just pray
about it, just give it to God, you know, turn
it over to Jesus. And sometimes that can seem easier
said than done. You know, I was having a conversation
with my daughter recently. I told y'all earlier that she's
been maneuvering college life in a big city. She loves it,
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She's grateful for the opportunities. She gets overwhelmed at time
because she feels like that they may come to her
so quick. And you know, when she caused me for advice,
I'm gonna give her all of my advice. The first
advice I'm gonna say, have you prayed about it? Have
you talked to God about it? Like you calling me
about it? So you done thought about it? But have
you said something to the Lord about it? Because yeah,
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you're eighteen, but you're old enough and you're mature enough
to be able to consult him about things to make
sure you're going in the right direction, you know. And
she will respond however she respond, but I promise you,
at the end of the conversation, she'll have a clear understanding,
because in the midst of that conversation she didnet said
Lord help me.
Speaker 2 (30:51):
If she didne say it's something and the.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
Lord has explained to her or showed her or told
her what it is that he wants her to do
in that moment. Okay, So when we are when we're
giving these trials and tribulation tribulations in these tasks, let's
practice not only mastering, trying to control our response and
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our reactions. That means, let's be proactive instead of reactive. Okay,
we're quick to hear something or see something that happens
against what we want to happen, and we will act
real quick. That really doesn't get us anywhere. Okay, we
have to learn to be proactive. That means take a moment,
think about the situation, let it sink in for a
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few seconds, a few minutes, whatever the case may be.
And like when I say, I'm literally I just became
this year old, I'm forty something.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
But I just became this year old.
Speaker 1 (31:47):
When I'm when I've confidently said when things happen instead
of me reacting because my reaction can be negatively or positively.
But now I'm conscious and I'm cognizant about stopping and
thinking before I react because I don't want to say
the wrong thing, do the wrong thing react the wrong way,
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like I don't want that, you know what I'm saying,
because I believe in the power of a tongue.
Speaker 2 (32:11):
My God, said Alicia.
Speaker 1 (32:13):
Remind me a few weeks ago, I said my daughter
was a you know, my little broke Bessie.
Speaker 2 (32:18):
I am my rich Bessie.
Speaker 1 (32:20):
You know, like You'll never got to worry about me
saying she my broke bestie no more. I'm supporting her now,
that's good, But she's still my reach Bessie.
Speaker 2 (32:27):
Because if I'm rich, she's rich. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (32:30):
So let's try to control how we react and how
we respond when things happen and try to be proactive.
And one way I feel like we can be better
off proactively is when we say, Okay, God help me.
He don't even know big long dissertations as prayers. When
we're seeking Him for guidance or help, Lord help me,
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it's good enough, especially if it's coming from a humble place.
You know, he knows your heart. Man knows the outside.
He knows your heart. But if it's coming from a
humble place, it's okay for you to be like, Okay, Lord,
I need you to help me with this like, what
we're doing, what we got going on? That's how I
talk to him. Baby, my best friend, he's my best friend.
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I wake up, good morning, Father, thank you for another day.
What we're doing today? Do I need to put on?
Which armor? Do I need to focus on? You know?
Am I putting on a breastplate of righteousness? Do I
need the sword of the spirit? Do I need to
choose a piece? Like?
Speaker 2 (33:26):
What are we on today? Father?
Speaker 1 (33:28):
Like, it's okay to consult him before you react or respond,
And that's always the best thing to do. You'll feel
better about it and then you'll be the trajectory in
which you need to go. He'll make sure that you're
you're taking the right path.
Speaker 2 (33:46):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (33:47):
I feel like we are super quick to pray to
get out of the situations that we miss the blessing
in the situations. That's another thing my big grown self
learning to deal with now. When stuff come a way,
I'm like, oh Lord, I just I don't want to
deal with it today, But I know it's a lesson
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in it. So whatever it is that you've got for
me in this moment, in this situation, can you gone
just give it to me that that's how I talk
to him and he know me. No horn you know,
I know I gotta sit through this. I know this
something you put you doing what you do. I ain't
questioning what you do. But God, don't get me through
it and why you're getting me through it? Tell me
what you need me to tell me, and tell me
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in my face. I don't you know, I'm not a
don't do subliminals to me. And he knows, he knows me.
That's my father. He knows me some stuff. You just
gotta sit directly in my face and say, here, bam,
this is what it is.
Speaker 2 (34:43):
This is what I need you to work on. Do
get it done.
Speaker 1 (34:47):
You know I believe in asking him for signs. I
believe in asking him for clear signs.
Speaker 2 (34:51):
You know I'm not. I can't search and.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
Look for stuff because my ADHD beating kicked in or
my eighty eight undiagnosed adult ad D beating kicked and
I'll be forgot where to start the middle beginning finish in.
Uh give me, give me to a Lord, what we're doing,
what we got going on? Okay, So don't pray.
Speaker 2 (35:10):
The situation away. Ask God he's with you anyway.
Speaker 1 (35:14):
Just ask him for that assurance that he's with you
so that you can get the lesson in that blessing.
My grandma used to always say, you know, like if
somebody say, for example, you praying and you turn it
over to Jesus and somebody say I've done that, you know,
what should a person's response be. And she would always say,
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if you've done all of that, now listen to what
God saying, what God is saying to do?
Speaker 2 (35:40):
Okay, So they mean you done, did all that? You did?
You don't pray all? You pray even faster and about it? Okay,
Well what you get out of and nothing? Okay?
Speaker 1 (35:47):
Well, now you need to pray and fast and mode
and listen to what God is.
Speaker 2 (35:51):
Saying to you. Okay.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
So while you're praying that God helps you through the situation,
ask him for enduring during this situation because He's gonna
sustain you, and make sure that while he's sustaining you
and giving you that endurance, that you're also asking him
to reveal the lesson he wants you to learn in
that situation.
Speaker 2 (36:13):
Okay, Because look, I.
Speaker 1 (36:15):
Told y'all earlier now and I'm finally matured enough and
got to the point where I'm like, Okay, Lord, what
were doing? You know that I can't do nothing about this,
this out of my control. You the only one that's
gonna be able to fix it. So what I need
to do? You know a lot of times he say
be still, tell me to be stealing, know, and I
be still, and then he'll start showing me in the mist.
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He'll start showing me in the mist. Okay, and then
I'm another person too. I learned in therapy some about
six years ago. Yeah, I think about six years ago.
Doctor Bradshaw told me to start sitting in my emotions
and not running from them. And so I'm kind of
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strong when it comes to that now. You know, even
now I'm not. It's not fun or exciting for me.
But it's fun and exciting because I know it's going
to pass Hallelujah.
Speaker 2 (37:10):
And I know it's gonna make me better.
Speaker 1 (37:11):
I know it's gonna make me stronger, and it's gonna
bless others around me. You know what I'm saying. So
all minds, all minds sitting down crying and praying and
crying out to God. Listen when I say, if I
just had a conversation with just a inch of what
the miss Wilson been dealing with for the last three
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four weeks.
Speaker 2 (37:34):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (37:36):
But I'm good because I know God got me, and
I know that there's a lesson in the midst of this.
So I'm good with praying and crying out and being
intentional about finding my joy because can't nobody else give
us joy. You can't just go pick it up at
the store of nothing. You gotta find your own joy.
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And joy is it's INTI it's something, it comes from
the inside out. So I like to find my own joy.
When I say I find hm, baby, listen, I can
tell you so much I find I find my joy
in just a good little praise and worship, a good
little scripture read. And I'm not saying I'm perfect, baby,
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I'm jacked up, a baby all the way jacked up.
That's one reason why I stay in the scripture, in
debotions and reading inspirational things and praise and worshiping stuff
because maybe I know I'm jected, maybe because a miss
a high miss, but out of his eyes because he
gonna present me forollless hallelujah. Anyway, So yeah, be intentional
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about when you're dealing with your thing with life. Make
sure you know that life is going to life, God
is going to God. Sitting those emotions, identify with what
those emotions are. Be okay with crying, be okay with praying,
be okay with cleansing, and understand that there's going to
be a blessing in that lesson. But you got to
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go through it in order.
Speaker 2 (39:05):
To get it.
Speaker 1 (39:06):
Okay, go through it, because when you rise above those storms,
maybe you ain't gonna want to go through that no more.
But but you gotta be careful too, because listen, he'd
be giving us these storms that he want us to
rise above.
Speaker 2 (39:19):
As soon as we rise above them, y'all.
Speaker 1 (39:21):
He gonna give us something just a little bit. Let
me test the gainst a little bit more. Let me
see if they really about that faith life. Let me
see if they really about it. And now you're gonna
have to find.
Speaker 2 (39:33):
Some stress somewhere else.
Speaker 1 (39:35):
That is just what I be dealing with when it
comes to my father. And I'm okay because I'm like, Lord,
I know you got me because you put me in
all this stuff you got to you got I know
you got this because you.
Speaker 2 (39:48):
You know your girl, your girl, ain't you know your girl,
your girl.
Speaker 1 (39:53):
Okay, So anyway, try to learn your lesson, your lesson
in those storms the first time, so that you won't
have to keep going through them, because he'll make you
go through the same thing, different scenarios, different everything. But
if you learn your lesson, then you'll graduate to bigger storms.
And the bigger storms that you graduate to and overcome
the bigger your blessings. Be baby, and listen. Try me,
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Oh God, and you take me slow, dough, don't you know?
I still need you? But I'm like David, you trust
me with it. I know you're gonna bring me through it.
But in the meantime, be okay with me begging and
plead and get past this?
Speaker 2 (40:29):
Okay? And why are we here? Listen? I said it earlier.
Speaker 1 (40:32):
Everybody does not like to talk about what they are
going through, Okay.
Speaker 2 (40:36):
People are either private.
Speaker 1 (40:38):
May be embarrassed, may just want to solicit your prayers.
Be okay with fat. I'm preaching to the choir, baby,
because I'm quick to Colin, be.
Speaker 2 (40:47):
Like, what happened? What's wrong? Did you?
Speaker 1 (40:50):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (40:50):
The Lord is working on me right now.
Speaker 1 (40:52):
You know I'm not gonna go around spreading people's business,
but I do be wanting to be nosing, be knowing,
But I promise you I'm gonna pray. I'm I'm gonna
minch your name and prayer. I don't care if it's Oh.
Speaker 2 (41:03):
I said it like I was from St. Louis. Lord,
I said, Carl, shout.
Speaker 1 (41:07):
Up to my cc Besty Erica, Lady Polk say on Carl,
that's Saint Louis. But I don't care if I just say, Lord,
help them or have mercy out their family or God,
you know what it is, keep them, bless them. I
promise you I listen. I'm gonna pray. I pray all
the time. I used to say out the time I
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get on the Lord's nerve. Now, Baby, he loves to
hear from him. He loves to hear from me, and
I love to talk to him. So I'm the Lord
is working on me with my nosiness because I do
be wanting to know.
Speaker 2 (41:41):
I do. I ain't gonna lie. I be want to know.
Especially when people say, can you pray for me?
Speaker 1 (41:45):
I'm like, what what you want me to ask him
to do for you? Because it's people out here that's
really telling me stuff that I really need him to
go ahead and handle. You ain't telling me nothing, so y'all,
that situation may be a little important. You know, I'm
just one of those y'all. You know, y'all judging, oh, okay,
because I thought somebody was. I thought the spiller was judged. Nah,
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But I am one of those who I like to
know what's going on before I pray.
Speaker 2 (42:10):
But I'm learning, and this be grown forty one year.
Speaker 1 (42:15):
You know since I been here that it's okay for
me not to know what the situation is. But if
someone's solicit your prayers to just pray for them, okay,
that's how we can do. You know, if someone asks
you to pray for them, just pray for them. You
ain't gotta know. Don't be mad because you don't know.
I'm learning that too. I told you I'm preaching to
the choir. Don't be mad. I'm not saying if somebody
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was to say, well, yeah, this is what happened, I'm
not gonna listen. I'm not going to tell them what
I heard or what I know. I'm not gonna do
all the missing this with it. I am going to pray.
But we have to be okay with not knowing everything
all the time. And just praying. You know, the prayers
of the righteous avail its much. You know what I'm saying, Like,
just pray, that's all I can say. Just pray, okay.
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And the last thing I want to discuss regarding this,
and we're just talking about life, how life is lifing
and how to kind of deal with a lot of
the things that we deal with during this lifing process
while we're trusting God to God.
Speaker 2 (43:15):
But let's make sure our hearts are pere. Okay. Man
knows the outside, God knows the heart, y'all.
Speaker 1 (43:25):
I mean that's just that, Like you can fake it
till you make it, Like my best say, you can
front and stunt all you want to, but God knows
the hearts. You can say all day how you don't
do this, how you don't do that, how you say
don't save this, or how you don't say that. You
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can even act like to certain people you don't want
to say certain things because you don't want them to
judge you or you don't want them to know that
you feel this way. And that's fine too, But God
knows how you really feel.
Speaker 2 (43:58):
He really does.
Speaker 1 (43:59):
He really knows how you feel because He knows the
totality of your heart. And you can play with people
all you want to, but at the end of the day,
you playing with God.
Speaker 2 (44:09):
So work on that.
Speaker 1 (44:10):
Let's work on that. And that's something that I'm working
on now. You know, I'm not I don't have any spirits.
I don't feel like that God possesses in us negative spirits,
Like I don't have a jealous bone, or envious bone,
or malicious bone, a vindicta bone. I don't have none
of those bones in my bodies, you know what I'm saying. However,
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the Lord is working on me, because when stuff happens
to certain situations or people, I'll be like, well, God
showed on like ugly, I'm quick to say that he's
working on me. To not say that, because every time
I say that, y'all, he remind me he'sper under pretty
even stuff.
Speaker 2 (44:49):
Be laughing and I'd be like.
Speaker 1 (44:50):
Oh lot, oh me Jesus, Yeah, I shouldn't have said that.
But if we're saying those things and we're feeling those things,
it's not of him and it's not of him. So
we're gonna have to deal with the repercussions of the
ramifications are the consequences of it, you know, being happy
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for somebody else's pain, downfall, something that they're going through,
something that they're struggling with. That. I mean, that's a
that's not a spirit to have, that's not a good
energy to have. That's one of those Like I just said,
God knows your heart. You feeling like that towards other others.
I'm sorry, He knows. And the fact that he knows,
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you're gonna have to answer to that, he gonna hold
us accountable for that period.
Speaker 2 (45:41):
There's no escape to it. So let's pray for a
pure heart. You know.
Speaker 1 (45:46):
One of my daily prayers daily every morning is Heavenly Father,
peer from my heart, and please create in me a
clean heart and renew the right spirit within me, because
I want to. I'll never be like Jesus. I know
I'll never be perfect like him. I'll never have a
heart like him, but I do want to press towards
some mark. I do want to focus on having a
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better heart and pursing being pursed of spirits and feelings
that are not like him, so that I can be
empathetic with others when they're going through, so that I
can be compassionate, be it I like them or not
be it they did me wrong or not, or they
did the same thing to me, or I feel like
it's karma. I don't need to be able to judge
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or say that's their karma. That ain't my place, That
ain't your place. That ain't our place.
Speaker 2 (46:33):
Let God do what he do.
Speaker 1 (46:35):
The Bible save beings is mine. Let him do whatever
karma he gonna do, not us. Now, if it just
happens to play out in our faces, we still need
to shut up. I'm looking in the mirror, starting with
the man in the mirror. You know, like, it's not
our place to say you had your math on me,
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or you was doing this, or you was doing it.
Is just ain't our place. It ain't our place. Because
just as quick as we say well because you remember
you was doing that to me, blah blah blah, gotta
flip that switch, turns something around and make something else happen.
It may be a lesson, y'all, We got to be
got to be careful. There may be another lesson. So
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we can play all we want to, but remember he
knows the heart, and the heart is what matters. Don't
open book or space or room for him to flip
that switch and make you eat your words.
Speaker 2 (47:35):
Okay. It's something I'm working on every single day. Practice
and shutting up.
Speaker 1 (47:40):
I cannot afford to curse my family of the blessings.
Speaker 2 (47:44):
Be it good peace, be it good health, be it.
Speaker 1 (47:48):
Continued blessings in my marriage, marriages, in my family, our finances, my.
Speaker 2 (47:53):
Child, our children.
Speaker 1 (47:54):
Like a uh. I ain't trying to bless nobody so
as much as I can control it, doing my part
and practicing self control and talking when I need to talk,
and shutting up and trying well, trying to trying to
shut up and listen when it's time for me to
shut up and listen. Okay, so we just go. We
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gotta learn to do that. Pray for people, whether it's
visibly or publicly that they're going through. We gotta We
can't talk, really talk.
Speaker 2 (48:25):
We can't.
Speaker 1 (48:25):
I ain't even gonna say really, we just can't be
talking about them. I'm working on it, y'all. I'm working
on it because I don't be talking about people. I
promise I don't, but I do be wanting to know
what's going on, and I will say, well, I don't.
Speaker 2 (48:37):
Want to be like that.
Speaker 1 (48:39):
So I'm working on being better and we all have
to work on being better. I'm confessing my sins to
one another like the Bible.
Speaker 2 (48:46):
Teap me to do it. Listen, Lord hent me Jesus.
Speaker 1 (48:48):
Work in progress. I am a work in progress. But
I do catch myself when I'm slipping and when I'm tripping,
and I acknowledge it, I ask for forgiveness, and I
ask the Lord to keep working on me. Okay, and
you too can do the same thing. We just got
to start now, we got to start today's spillers. Okay,
gather you a trusted group of friends, believers, people that
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you love, that you trust and have those conversations with
if you feel like.
Speaker 2 (49:16):
You've wronged or you've done wrong.
Speaker 1 (49:18):
Or you're not in a space to where you can
move with intention so that you can be better. Okay,
it's all about us being better in doing baptap Okay.
Speaker 2 (49:33):
So at the end of the day, Life gone, Life.
But guess what, God gone. God, And as long as.
Speaker 1 (49:41):
We have him ahead of us in front of us,
he's already been behind us.
Speaker 2 (49:47):
We'd have made it this far, and.
Speaker 1 (49:49):
He's beside us while we're going, You're gonna be good.
Speaker 2 (49:54):
So if you ask life, life is you cool, Like,
what is we doing?
Speaker 1 (50:00):
Then you turn around and say, yeah, life, you gonna
be cool because God is gonna God. It ain't nothing
you can do besides that, because there's nothing higher, no
one higher, no one better.
Speaker 2 (50:12):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (50:13):
And if you don't know him, get to know him. Spillers, Ooh,
you're missing out. I'm talking about you missing that. You're
talking about some grace, some mercy, some blessings, some fable,
some love, some forgiveness, and.
Speaker 2 (50:24):
Then e turn of life etern of life.
Speaker 1 (50:30):
Talking about death is enough. That's a whole other subject.
But don't go through this earthly life life not knowing him.
Speaker 2 (50:38):
Don't do it.
Speaker 1 (50:40):
Okay, all right, spillers, Well we are wrapping it up.
This is now our spill encouragement time. Remember we talked
about life. It's life and it's our podcast topic. Now
our encouragement time. I want to come from the scripture
the Bible James five and sixteen, and this is the
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King James Virgin that I got this out of this verse.
But it says, confess your faults to one another and
pray for another that you.
Speaker 2 (51:12):
May be healed.
Speaker 1 (51:13):
The effectual, fervent prayers of a righteous man. A veil
it much. This verse feelings encourages us to be open
and vulnerable about all of our struggles that we have
with ourselves or even fellow believers. After we have confessed
our struggles to fellow believers, to ourselves, we can then
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pray for one another with one another and for one
another in Christ, and then pray that homemever you praying
with will stand in the gap for you and us
and pray for one another as well. That's called intercessor prayer. Finally,
because you've confessed and prayed, you will then start the
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process of internally, emotionally and spiritual healing spillers. It's very
important that we practice this. If we truly want to
live a life of peace, we.
Speaker 2 (52:08):
Gotta do it. And y'all, baby, don't let nobody rob
you of your peace. Baby.
Speaker 1 (52:13):
Peace it's hard to get, and when you get it,
you gonna be smart enough to where you ain't gonna
let nobody take it away from you. And that is
the space that I'm in, and I'm so grateful that
I'm in it, okay, Because if you're not in a
space of peace or trying to live a life of peace,
you will continue to find yourself sinking in bitterness and
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hate and pettiness, projecting, I said, projecting that mean you
putting out there a mean spirit all because you have
not confessed, you have not forgiven, and you have not
healed or worked on healing. God wants this for all
of our spillers, spillers, and if you want, if we
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want to see him, we have to want this for
ourselves because the Bible tells us only the peer and
heart shall see God. So even if you have to
start now, spillers, gather you a group of people that
you can confess your sins with. If you don't feel
comfortable and you need to take babysteps, confess them to
the Lord, Confess them to God, repent, pray, forgive yourself
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and forgive others. Life is so freeing when you have
a pure heart. Okay, your heart won't be like Jesus.
You know you can work towards his heart. But you know,
maybe we ain't gonna never be there. We're gonna always
be a work in progress. However, just know that if
you fall, he will pick you up.
Speaker 2 (53:38):
So that you can try again.
Speaker 1 (53:40):
Don't stay there once you're backup, Spillers, Thank God for
his emerited grace and mercy and keep on keeping all
okay spillings.
Speaker 2 (53:50):
I love y'all so much. Thank y'all for rocking.
Speaker 1 (53:52):
With your girl today, one on one connection vibing. I
pray that you all have an amazing day and amazing week.
Share this podcast with your peers. This is your girl,
Missus Wilson, and until next time, I am signing Old
Hey world, Welcome back to The spill Podcast, your favorite podcast,
featuring your favorite podcast host, Me your.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Girl, Missus Wilson.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Hey Spillers, welcome to season four episode aid Life.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Is you cool? Like?
Speaker 1 (00:45):
What is What's going on? That is our topic for
this episode. Spillers, listen my YouTuber sorry first, but to
my iHeartRadio and my Apple podcast and my Google podcasts
and my Spotify today you just get me your Girl,
And I'm excited about that because I love connecting one
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on one with my spillers. Plus, y'all know this is
my baby, so of course you're gonna get episodes where
it's just me, and then I'm in the process of
creating a space for different guests to record with, so
y'all bear with me while I get that done. I
have a couple of my old peers coming in the
next few episodes, but I want new people to come
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and for the Spillers that don't know, I actually record
inside my home, so I am. I've just kind of
changed the trajectory with inviting different entities and energies and
spirits in my home. Not saying that it's anything wrong
with people, energy and spirit you know, I just this
is my home, my space, my piece, and even after
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my podcast, I still have to dwell here. So I'm
just being very cognizant about the things and the people
that I bring into this space. Again, it's nothing per personal.
It's just something that I'm doing. And plus in the
city that I'm in, Little Rock, shout out to y'all.
I've just been made prevy that we have different spaces
that will allow us to do podcasts recording. So I
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would rather do that anyway to make my guests more comfortable,
especially the ones that has never been in my podcast space.
But in the meantime, in between time, you got your girl,
and I'm gonna come with this good content, this good
conversation because here on the Spill podcast, our mission and
our goal is to cultivate black boldness, one real conversation
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at a time, and it starts with me the host. Okay, anyway,
so it's me today. I love y'all, and let's go
ahead and get into Spill. As y'all know what time
it is. It is the Spill mental check in time.
This is the time of the episode where we do
our self love and self awareness mental check. Now, remember
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last episode, I reminded you, y'all that life has been
life and for so many people. In fact, life is
still life if we're so many people. There were people
rising above storms that they were currently in. There are
people I know personally include myself, in storms now that
we are just sitting through, going through the motions, the
spiritual lessons that God is trying to teach us, the
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emotions that we're learning to deal, you know, going through
it right now. So even though we're all going through it,
it's still my duty to do my mental check in
to make sure that yeah, life may be lifing for us,
but I have to hold us accountable and make sure
that we are allowing God to continue to God. Okay,
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so listen, spillers, stop pause for the cause, take a
moment to yourself and do a self mental check.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Okay, do your self mental check. Sorry about that.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Alarm, h y'all, y'all know I got alarms for everything. Anyway,
do your self mental check. Make sure that you're good
while you're checking. I always like to encourage my spillers
to make sure that you are being real with yourself.
You're not sweeping your feelings or your emotions under the rug.
You're not denying them, you're not running for them. Be
intentional about identifying how you're feeling emotionally so that we
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can get better. Okay, So connect with your emotions, Identify
those feelings, acknowledge those feelings, admit those feelings, speak those feelings,
and we can determine the next steps from there.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
So, Spillers, how are you doing, How are you feeling?
How are you coping? Be good, bad, happy, or sad?
Make sure you're being honest with yourself because in order
for us to help, or in order for something to happen,
we have to acknowledge and admit it and then work
towards making it better.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
As for me in my house, Nah, listen, I always
say all is well, spillers, because all is well.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
I'm a fine.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Believer in Jesus Christ, as you all know. I'm a
believer that in seasons, there will be good seasons, there
will be bad seasons, there'll be trials, there'll be tribulations,
but as long as you trust that He's with you,
you will get through them. And that's the space that
I'm in right now. My family has been dealing with
some things. I've been dealing with some things. I have
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a daughter that's in college, that's maneuvering life in a
huge city across the country without her parents, without you know,
the guidance, the helicoptering. I'm doing better, though I'm not
as helicopter ish, but you know, I still I still
zu zoom, just not as much. But we're all dealing
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with a lot, especially emotionally, and I feel like this
is a time where we really need to identify with
those emotions and work on bettering them.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
And I'm doing so as well. Okay, instead of.
Speaker 1 (05:55):
Stressing about the things that I'm dealing with or worrying
about them, I do cry. I feel like crying is
like a cleansing. I believe that God counts our tears
and he knows our tears, and with that he heals
us and makes things better. So if I'm feeling sad
at that moment, for whatever the case may be, I
will cry at the drop of a dime. My husband
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could tell your baby, he calls me a cry baby.
He doesn't hold it back. But I will cry. If
I'm happy or if I'm grateful, I'll cry. And I've
been those the mixed emotions I've been going through y'all,
like I've been having the crying and the grateful tears,
the shout and emotional tears, and I've also been having
the shout and the crime. God helped me tears, Okay,
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But I trust him with it. I trust him with
everything that I'm dealing with, everything that my family is
dealing with, because I know that this too shall pass.
If it's something I know, I don't have any control
over speelings. I like, I've literally made up in my
mind in my grown years and I'm just now getting here,
to be honest, but I've made up in my mind
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that I'm no longer going to stress.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
About it, worry about it. I have to give it
to God. For one. Stressing and worrying does nothing but
makes you more sick.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
You can't rest, You're building up diseases in your bodies.
That's unwarranted. Like listen, and I tell them, like God,
that's too heavy for me. You know. I made a
little real a few weeks ago when Cat Williams did
one of his comedy shows. He said, Lord, what you've
given your servant is just a little bit too heavy.
I'm That's my prayer. If it's heavy for me, I say, God,
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it's heavy for me. But I know you gave it
to me because you feel like I can carry it.
And since you feel like I can carry it, you
told me to take my yoke, give my yolk. I'm
giving it out to you. Other words, you said your
yoke is easy and your burdens are light. I'm getting Listen,
it's yours. I can't do nothing with it. It's just
too much, and I just trust him to help me.
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Everybody is not there, though, but if you're not there,
the goal is for us to work towards getting there, okay,
so that we can be better. So if you are
going through, if you are in a season that you
feel like you're worrying or stressing over things that are
beyond your control, I just recommend that you turn it
over to God and trust him with it. Okay, sit
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in it, of course.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
Whatever it is, Cry, pray, cry some more, pray some more,
but don't stay down. Don't be down too long.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Be it finances, health, grief, relationships, marriage, friendships, children, your job.
Turn it over to God and trust that he's going
to work it out for you, because He's already worked
it out. I was listening to Original Past Original Sharp
from Fellowship Chicago yesterday. He said, God goes before us,
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meaning he's in our future. He's going to handle whatever
it is that we got to get to or whatever
it is we need him to handle it. Says, He
goes He's already been behind us, meaning that he's handled
everything in the past, that's why we are where we
are today. And then he's beside us, meaning that he's
handling everything that we're going through right now. So Spillings,
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whatever it is, turn it up to the.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
Love healer it out.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Oh yeah, my daughter, she's eighteen, y'all. She tells me
all the time. I'm churchy because I don't care if
she say, Mama, I got a B or a C
on this exam. Baby, I'm gonna give her some Bible
scriptures behind it in some songs because that's all I
know right now. Spillers, I'm just gonna be honest like God,
his word Jesus has been sustaining your girl. You understand,
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because these grown adult years, baby, either you gonna get
them or they gonna get you. And I'm like my pastor, baby,
what's got me didn't get me? And I ain't gonna
let it. So I pray all is well with these spillings.
If not all, if all is not well, please say
something so that we can do something. As a witness.
I promise you.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
I can tell you God will take care of you
if you let him so.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Let him remember you, your health is wealth, and in
order to be wealthy, you must first be healthy. Okay, spillers,
So turn it over to the Lord. Okay, and let
him do what he gonna do, how he gonna do what,
how he gonna do it. And Webby Voice y'all remember
Weby's on the other.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
Whatever he was on.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
He said, I let him do what to do, how
he gonna do it. When they do it, want to
do it, y'all? Yeah, do what Webby said do but
let God do it.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Okay, Okay.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
We are moving on to our social media shout out time.
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Wilson Okay.
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Speaker 1 (13:26):
We are now moving on spillers to our spill trend topic.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
Time Well, child.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
Listen, let me take a sip of this water that
Jesus turned into wine at the wedding.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Yeah, he did.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
He turned that water into wine. He said, keep the
party started, so he let them drink wine and help
them celebrate and turn.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Up over two thousand years ago.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
I know he bothered the back his his daughter sipping
a little wine. In twenty twenty five, all right, spell
trend topic time, Spillers. This is the time of an
episode where we talk about everything that's trending or what
I feel like talking about that's trending in the culture.
Remember this is not a t session, Spillers. We are
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just creating dialogue about things that can potentially have an
effect on our culture, whether it is positive or negative.
We gonna talk about some of the things that I
feel like need to be discussed.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
Now.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Listen, it's so much going on in this world, Spillers,
so much going on with us individually collectively, and it's
so much going on in this world in this government
that we cannot help. So I am going to talk
about this government shut down just for five seconds. I'm
not gonna spend too much time on this, because yet
a government must be might be shut down. But baby,
the King of Gory is never shut down. And we
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know who the king of king is. So at the
end of the day that they got an end, and
whoever shutting the government down got an insul for their
part and shutting the government down. Now, listen, I'm not
a politician. I never inspired to be one. I don't
care to be one. I was taught a long time ago.
They religion, politics, and the money. Some things you just
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don't discuss with everybody because they probably gonna turn into
an argument in your opinion, won't matter to them and
there's won't matter to you. So I don't really talk
about it that much. However, I do watch the news.
I'm a news advocate. Every my husband can tell you
every morning when I wake up. Now I do my
devotion in the separate room, but we wake up and
watch the news. I come on, I watch David murrahun
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I'm gonna watch the local news. I'm a newsperson. I'm
a person that google's the news, what's going on in
the news from Yeah, I think they're true networks.
Speaker 2 (15:39):
But anyway, I know a little bit, a little bit,
a little bit.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
And being a citizen of this here country. I definitely
like to stay privy about what's going on in twenty
five with forty seven and forty seven forty seven, and listen,
that's my opinion and I'm sticking to it now. I'm
just saying, if you love forty seven, ain't nothing with him.
I love him like the love of God. I pray
for him out it. But some stuff he do it
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makes me scratch my head. And I'm just gonna talk
about it for five seconds now. This is our first
government shut down since twenty eighteen. I don't recall having
one since twenty eighteen.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
Something told me.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
Just look, you know, do some googling, little research, and
from what I found, we hadn't had one.
Speaker 2 (16:22):
Since twenty eighteen.
Speaker 1 (16:23):
So people saying government shut down out of time, Yeah,
shut down out of time when forty seven was forty five.
But anyway, a government shut down, for those who don't know,
is when the government's legislative branch. Y'all know that all
the branches legislator, you know, the branches what is it,
legislative branch, executive branch, and the.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
Oh my goodness, I just literally went had a part
the three.
Speaker 1 (16:49):
Branches of government, legislative, executive and judicial. I had to
get thank you Lord for bringing that to me, because
I it was gonna be a blood moment anyway. It's
when the legislative branch fillers of the part of the
government who makes the laws. They don't pass key bills
that funds are authorized, the operations of the executive branch.
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Executive branch is a part of the government that enforces. Now,
some argue that it's the Democrats fault that the government
is shut.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
Down because they want vote or agree on what.
Speaker 1 (17:19):
Forty seven and then want to do because you know,
whatever forty seven says goes. Matter of fact, forty seven
said he's not even willing to have a meeting until
the lefties, the wrong Ese, the Dems, as he caused them,
does what it is that he wants them to do,
which is what the legislative branch does make the laws
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and what the executive executive branch does enforce the laws.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
So, from my.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
Understanding, the lefties the Dems have no control of the House,
the Senate to any of that. So my interpretation and
my comprehension is that we are not the ones who
are complete responsible for the government shut down. Exactly. I
feel the exact same way. So with that being said,
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what are we doing? I know one plus one in Katoon.
They helped me comprehend a little bit, you know, know
that the song and the concepts of math. But with
this politics stuff that's obvious too, you know. On a
serious note, I think this shutdown was very strategic because
I feel like that forty seven has his hands and
a whole lot of things that he stated prior to
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this election, this past election I'm sorry November twenty twenty four,
has his hands and a lot of things that he
denied that his hands were in.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
And in order to make a lot of the.
Speaker 1 (18:42):
Things that his hands he said his hands weren't in
come to pass, he has to do certain things and
this government shut down is one of those things.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
Right. I feel like a.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
Lot of his supporters, you know, feel like if he
says jump off of a bridge, they're so devoted to
him and what he says, they're gonna ask him, well,
which breed you want us to.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Jump off of?
Speaker 1 (19:05):
And they're going to be willing to jump, regardless of
power and make others fills, regardless of the situations that
it puts others in. The negative effect that it has
people are actually doing these things to stay on his
good side.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
They're negating their morals and values.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
They're even again protecting the true democracy of this country
so that they can look good in his sight. Okay,
at this point, Spillers, I feel like all we can
do as humans with hearts a zest for or a
love for this country and a zsess to do what's right,
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pray and exercise all right, to vote every single chance
we get. Okay, you know, being negative, hating him, I
told you so. I just if you're not going to
the polls doing nothing, then what you're telling me so far,
if you're not praying about the situation, what you're telling
me so for? And I know it's eas here said
than none. I had a conversation with somebody recently because
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I was saying that I pray for my president. I
pray for my president daily, I pray for my government daily.
I don't like him just as much as a lot
of people don't like him, but that's not gonna stop
me from saying, God bless him, his family, his administration
and staff, and let your will be done.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
And that's my true heart prayer that's.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
Coming from my heart, Like I really want God to
do that, because I don't wish ill or bad on anyone,
regardless if I agree with them or not. And this
is the country that I'm living in, I'm residing in.
I'm raising a productive, amazing citizen who's going to do
a lot for this country. Like that's the least I
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can do is pray for whoever runs it and do
my part as far as voting and making sure that
I'm being a good, productive citizen. So listen, let's stop
wasting our time and energy being negative. You know, he
here we saying a lot of us anyway, and just pray.
You know what I'm saying, spend a lot of time praying.
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I done went all enough. You know, I'm sure y'all
know what to do, But let's learn to Let's put
our government in this country in God's hend.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
Remember, God sees all, and he knows how all.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
Be scared for the ones that are doing stuff out
of evil intent, racism, bigotree because they reach we poor.
Y'all better be careful because they reach stay poor. Because baby,
I'm rich. My father's reach and has the land. Baby,
he holds the world upon me his hand. I'm rich too,
because I'm a part of his world kingdom. Be careful
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what you say, too, but be mindful of those who
actually look at rich people poor people and make decisions
based on that.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
Okay. So if we are not praying, you should be
like Esther.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
Did you know when she was in the palace with
the king that was letting the people try to destroy
her people?
Speaker 2 (21:56):
You should be.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
Praying for such a time as this, Okay, So make
sure y'all are praying.
Speaker 2 (22:02):
That's all I got to say about that.
Speaker 1 (22:03):
Don't come all my comments, don't message me telling me
nothing about but that's what I.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
Feel, how I feel. It is what t is.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Okay, thank you, love you the love of God. Now
listen spill as y'all know the spill trend topic. I
always got to talk about something positive, Okay.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
So I want to.
Speaker 1 (22:21):
Shout out my cousin from another cut Daddy Brother Cousin
something Weekend though Pirty be Honey. Her album I Am
I the Drama Baby, It's Everything all twenty three songs,
Bill Clice my Lenas Almanza better known It's gotta be
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Buddy Baby.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
She ate damn y'all hear me. She ate down with
this CD. Just listen to it.
Speaker 1 (22:49):
This is one of the c I wouldn't expect. The
twenty three songs, it took me a couple of days.
Ain't Gonna lie Spills. It took me a couple of
days to actually listen listen to it because it was.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
So many songs. I was like, Okay, Cardy.
Speaker 1 (23:01):
But the best thing that I could have did them
a couple of days was listening to that song. That
song came out in September with twenty sixteen seventeen. Here
it is October the seven, and I listened to I've
been listening to. That's the only CD I've been playing.
Like my husband probably looking like, girl, what is you
trying to say? Why did you study playing all of
them bangers? And I cannot.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (23:24):
I can't relate to what she's going through or what
she's been through. I do pray for it because I
love her so much and I wish the best for her,
and I feel like she deserves all of this amazing
love and stuff that she's going through. So the songs,
I can't say, ooh, I relate blah blah blah, because
that's not my life right now. But baby, they hits
and when I say she went in, the stories are
beautiful in every single song. So even if you don't
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like Harty, I feel like just as a culture and
she's not all the way black, but you know, she
in a black culture, so she's one of our cousins.
Listen to the stories and the messages in her songs
and let it inspire you, let him motivate you, you know,
and let it wish the best for every woman that's
going through, that's been through and that is overcome because
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our cousin has been through it, but she's overcome coming
as well. So she's definitely a testimony and that. So
make sure y'all check out Cardi. And that's a free advertisement.
So cousin Carty, when you hear this, I need something,
send me do send me a signed shirt something. I'm
waiting on the the the tour. You know, I don't
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know if I'm gonna do Atlanta, North Carolina, Houston, but
I'm doing one of them.
Speaker 2 (24:39):
But I'm waiting on a tour.
Speaker 1 (24:41):
But send your girl something in the meantime and in
between time. Okay, Spiller's that is our skill trend time.
We are now moving, going and getting ready for our
topic time.
Speaker 2 (25:05):
I'm back, spillers.
Speaker 1 (25:07):
I hope you enjoyed those beautiful jazz tunes from the
Trap Jazz Giant out of the Great City of Little Rock, Arkansas,
Philly Moo and Quincy Q. Know what's on all right, spillers,
we are onto our spill trends topic. I'm sorry, our
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spill topic time life Is you cool? That's the topic, y'all.
So I cannot be the only one who feel like
life has been lifing. You know, y'all know when we
deal with stuff, be a family drama, financial issues, health, grief, children, jobs.
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You know, we don't really like to publicize all of
the negative stuff that's going on. And that is okay
because people don't be wanting people in there, especially people
that's not gonna help them or pray for them, right,
And then a lot of things that we deal with,
those things that I just name especially could come off
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as embarrassing, especially with your age, because it's almost like, now, wait,
I'm too old to be going through that. Because some
stuff I've been dealing with here lately, I honestly do
feel like I'm too old and people around me too
old to be putting us through that, putting me through that,
you know what I'm saying, or putting themselves through that.
So we all want everybody to know, and that is
absolutely okay. But I honestly feel like people are dealing
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with life and have been dealing with it more publicly
than ever, whether it's intentional or unintentional. So with that
being said, spillers, let's talk about some ways to cope
with life publicly and or privately. Okay, let's see where
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to start, y'all. And I'm just gonna try to have
a transparent, transparent, transparent moment. I'm always real transparent, but
I talk to people about things that I'm going with
my therapist, people that are extremely close to me, just
so that I can get it out, feel a lot better,
pray about it, get some redirecting, some things that I
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can do. So yeah, for me, I'm learning that things
in life that happens are inevitable, like there's absolutely nothing
you can do right, And I feel like I feel
like I'm mature enough in my faith to accept that
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I cannot control those things right, Because of course, if
we could control things that happened in our life, babe,
we wouldn't go through nothing. We wouldn't experience an ount
of pain and outs of fear and outs of doubt
and ounces of worry, like we would never experience none
of those things.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
Right. I was talking to one of my big sisters.
Speaker 1 (28:02):
She she shout out to she she hates Sheila. I
call her she she? She said, I got any right
of calling her she she now? But anyway, I was
talking to her the other day and we literally agreed
in the midst of me telling her some things that
I'm going through, but we both agreed that like if
we can say, Lord, we know we gotta have trials,
but can we control them? You know what I'm saying,
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Like we were literally as humans try to control the
trials and tribulations that God gives us.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
And that is not good. You know, that's not good.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
Like, what's the purpose of having trials and tribulations if
you're gonna control them? Because if we control them, y'all know,
we ain't gonna feel not a thing. We're not going
to feel any of that, right, I feel like if
I mean, it's just no other way around it. I'm
not even gonna try to add nothing to it. I'm
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just saying, if God allowed us to control everything that
we went through or we go through, we wouldn't go
through and we wouldn't have a test or a testimony
that'll be pointless because a part of him blessing us
with trials and tribulations because they are a blessing because
he promises to chastise those he loves, and then we
know if he brings us to it, he'll bring us
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through it. We know that this too shall pass. We
know that there's a lesson. I'm sorry, there's a blessing
and the blessing. So it's a blessing when we go through.
Speaker 2 (29:24):
We are HEARDing. We go through all those.
Speaker 1 (29:26):
Emotions, but there's a blessing in it because there's a
purpose and a lesson behind it. If we controlled it,
we would not get to experience that spillers, meaning we
wouldn't be able to use that to help our brothers
and sisters that are out who's going through the same thing. Okay,
So whatever we go through, that's our opportunity to help
lift somebody else up that has gone through it, that's
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going through it, or that's in the process of going
through what we've been through.
Speaker 2 (29:52):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
I know people always say pray about it, Just pray
about it, just give it to God, you know, turn
it over to Jesus. And sometimes that can seem easier
said than done. You know, I was having a conversation
with my daughter recently. I told y'all earlier that she's
been maneuvering college life in a big city. She loves it,
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She's grateful for the opportunities. She gets overwhelmed at time
because she feels like that they may come to her
so quick. And you know, when she caused me for advice,
I'm gonna give her all of my advice. The first
advice I'm gonna say, have you prayed about it? Have
you talked to God about it? Like you calling me
about it? So you done thought about it? But have
you said something to the Lord about it? Because yeah,
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you're eighteen, but you're old enough and you're mature enough
to be able to consult him about things to make
sure you're going in the right direction, you know. And
she will respond however she respond, but I promise you,
at the end of the conversation, she'll have a clear understanding,
because in the midst of that conversation she didnet said
Lord help me.
Speaker 2 (30:51):
If she didne say it's something and the.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
Lord has explained to her or showed her or told
her what it is that he wants her to do
in that moment. Okay, So when we are when we're
giving these trials and tribulation tribulations in these tasks, let's
practice not only mastering, trying to control our response and
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our reactions. That means, let's be proactive instead of reactive. Okay,
we're quick to hear something or see something that happens
against what we want to happen, and we will act
real quick. That really doesn't get us anywhere. Okay, we
have to learn to be proactive. That means take a moment,
think about the situation, let it sink in for a
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few seconds, a few minutes, whatever the case may be.
And like when I say, I'm literally I just became
this year old, I'm forty something.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
But I just became this year old.
Speaker 1 (31:47):
When I'm when I've confidently said when things happen instead
of me reacting because my reaction can be negatively or positively.
But now I'm conscious and I'm cognizant about stopping and
thinking before I react because I don't want to say
the wrong thing, do the wrong thing react the wrong way,
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like I don't want that, you know what I'm saying,
because I believe in the power of a tongue.
Speaker 2 (32:11):
My God, said Alicia.
Speaker 1 (32:13):
Remind me a few weeks ago, I said my daughter
was a you know, my little broke Bessie.
Speaker 2 (32:18):
I am my rich Bessie.
Speaker 1 (32:20):
You know, like You'll never got to worry about me
saying she my broke bestie no more. I'm supporting her now,
that's good, But she's still my reach Bessie.
Speaker 2 (32:27):
Because if I'm rich, she's rich. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (32:30):
So let's try to control how we react and how
we respond when things happen and try to be proactive.
And one way I feel like we can be better
off proactively is when we say, Okay, God help me.
He don't even know big long dissertations as prayers. When
we're seeking Him for guidance or help, Lord help me,
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it's good enough, especially if it's coming from a humble place.
You know, he knows your heart. Man knows the outside.
He knows your heart. But if it's coming from a
humble place, it's okay for you to be like, Okay, Lord,
I need you to help me with this like, what
we're doing, what we got going on? That's how I
talk to him. Baby, my best friend, he's my best friend.
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I wake up, good morning, Father, thank you for another day.
What we're doing today? Do I need to put on?
Which armor? Do I need to focus on? You know?
Am I putting on a breastplate of righteousness? Do I
need the sword of the spirit? Do I need to
choose a piece? Like?
Speaker 2 (33:26):
What are we on today? Father?
Speaker 1 (33:28):
Like, it's okay to consult him before you react or respond,
And that's always the best thing to do. You'll feel
better about it and then you'll be the trajectory in
which you need to go. He'll make sure that you're
you're taking the right path.
Speaker 2 (33:46):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (33:47):
I feel like we are super quick to pray to
get out of the situations that we miss the blessing
in the situations. That's another thing my big grown self
learning to deal with now. When stuff come a way,
I'm like, oh Lord, I just I don't want to
deal with it today, But I know it's a lesson
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in it. So whatever it is that you've got for
me in this moment, in this situation, can you gone
just give it to me that that's how I talk
to him and he know me. No horn you know,
I know I gotta sit through this. I know this
something you put you doing what you do. I ain't
questioning what you do. But God, don't get me through
it and why you're getting me through it? Tell me
what you need me to tell me, and tell me
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in my face. I don't you know, I'm not a
don't do subliminals to me. And he knows, he knows me.
That's my father. He knows me some stuff. You just
gotta sit directly in my face and say, here, bam,
this is what it is.
Speaker 2 (34:43):
This is what I need you to work on. Do
get it done.
Speaker 1 (34:47):
You know I believe in asking him for signs. I
believe in asking him for clear signs.
Speaker 2 (34:51):
You know I'm not. I can't search and.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
Look for stuff because my ADHD beating kicked in or
my eighty eight undiagnosed adult ad D beating kicked and
I'll be forgot where to start the middle beginning finish in.
Uh give me, give me to a Lord, what we're doing,
what we got going on? Okay, So don't pray.
Speaker 2 (35:10):
The situation away. Ask God he's with you anyway.
Speaker 1 (35:14):
Just ask him for that assurance that he's with you
so that you can get the lesson in that blessing.
My grandma used to always say, you know, like if
somebody say, for example, you praying and you turn it
over to Jesus and somebody say I've done that, you know,
what should a person's response be. And she would always say,
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if you've done all of that, now listen to what
God saying, what God is saying to do?
Speaker 2 (35:40):
Okay, So they mean you done, did all that? You did?
You don't pray all? You pray even faster and about it? Okay,
Well what you get out of and nothing? Okay?
Speaker 1 (35:47):
Well, now you need to pray and fast and mode
and listen to what God is.
Speaker 2 (35:51):
Saying to you. Okay.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
So while you're praying that God helps you through the situation,
ask him for enduring during this situation because He's gonna
sustain you, and make sure that while he's sustaining you
and giving you that endurance, that you're also asking him
to reveal the lesson he wants you to learn in
that situation.
Speaker 2 (36:13):
Okay, Because look, I.
Speaker 1 (36:15):
Told y'all earlier now and I'm finally matured enough and
got to the point where I'm like, Okay, Lord, what
were doing? You know that I can't do nothing about this,
this out of my control. You the only one that's
gonna be able to fix it. So what I need
to do? You know a lot of times he say
be still, tell me to be stealing, know, and I
be still, and then he'll start showing me in the mist.
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He'll start showing me in the mist. Okay, and then
I'm another person too. I learned in therapy some about
six years ago. Yeah, I think about six years ago.
Doctor Bradshaw told me to start sitting in my emotions
and not running from them. And so I'm kind of
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strong when it comes to that now. You know, even
now I'm not. It's not fun or exciting for me.
But it's fun and exciting because I know it's going
to pass Hallelujah.
Speaker 2 (37:10):
And I know it's gonna make me better.
Speaker 1 (37:11):
I know it's gonna make me stronger, and it's gonna
bless others around me. You know what I'm saying. So
all minds, all minds sitting down crying and praying and
crying out to God. Listen when I say, if I
just had a conversation with just a inch of what
the miss Wilson been dealing with for the last three
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four weeks.
Speaker 2 (37:34):
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (37:36):
But I'm good because I know God got me, and
I know that there's a lesson in the midst of this.
So I'm good with praying and crying out and being
intentional about finding my joy because can't nobody else give
us joy. You can't just go pick it up at
the store of nothing. You gotta find your own joy.
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And joy is it's INTI it's something, it comes from
the inside out. So I like to find my own joy.
When I say I find hm, baby, listen, I can
tell you so much I find I find my joy
in just a good little praise and worship, a good
little scripture read. And I'm not saying I'm perfect, baby,
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I'm jacked up, a baby all the way jacked up.
That's one reason why I stay in the scripture, in
debotions and reading inspirational things and praise and worshiping stuff
because maybe I know I'm jected, maybe because a miss
a high miss, but out of his eyes because he
gonna present me forollless hallelujah. Anyway, So yeah, be intentional
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about when you're dealing with your thing with life. Make
sure you know that life is going to life, God
is going to God. Sitting those emotions, identify with what
those emotions are. Be okay with crying, be okay with praying,
be okay with cleansing, and understand that there's going to
be a blessing in that lesson. But you got to
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go through it in order.
Speaker 2 (39:05):
To get it.
Speaker 1 (39:06):
Okay, go through it, because when you rise above those storms,
maybe you ain't gonna want to go through that no more.
But but you gotta be careful too, because listen, he'd
be giving us these storms that he want us to
rise above.
Speaker 2 (39:19):
As soon as we rise above them, y'all.
Speaker 1 (39:21):
He gonna give us something just a little bit. Let
me test the gainst a little bit more. Let me
see if they really about that faith life. Let me
see if they really about it. And now you're gonna
have to find.
Speaker 2 (39:33):
Some stress somewhere else.
Speaker 1 (39:35):
That is just what I be dealing with when it
comes to my father. And I'm okay because I'm like, Lord,
I know you got me because you put me in
all this stuff you got to you got I know
you got this because you.
Speaker 2 (39:48):
You know your girl, your girl, ain't you know your girl,
your girl.
Speaker 1 (39:53):
Okay, So anyway, try to learn your lesson, your lesson
in those storms the first time, so that you won't
have to keep going through them, because he'll make you
go through the same thing, different scenarios, different everything. But
if you learn your lesson, then you'll graduate to bigger storms.
And the bigger storms that you graduate to and overcome
the bigger your blessings. Be baby, and listen. Try me,
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Oh God, and you take me slow, dough, don't you know?
I still need you? But I'm like David, you trust
me with it. I know you're gonna bring me through it.
But in the meantime, be okay with me begging and
plead and get past this?
Speaker 2 (40:29):
Okay? And why are we here? Listen? I said it earlier.
Speaker 1 (40:32):
Everybody does not like to talk about what they are
going through, Okay.
Speaker 2 (40:36):
People are either private.
Speaker 1 (40:38):
May be embarrassed, may just want to solicit your prayers.
Be okay with fat. I'm preaching to the choir, baby,
because I'm quick to Colin, be.
Speaker 2 (40:47):
Like, what happened? What's wrong? Did you?
Speaker 1 (40:50):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (40:50):
The Lord is working on me right now.
Speaker 1 (40:52):
You know I'm not gonna go around spreading people's business,
but I do be wanting to be nosing, be knowing,
But I promise you I'm gonna pray. I'm I'm gonna
minch your name and prayer. I don't care if it's Oh.
Speaker 2 (41:03):
I said it like I was from St. Louis. Lord,
I said, Carl, shout.
Speaker 1 (41:07):
Up to my cc Besty Erica, Lady Polk say on Carl,
that's Saint Louis. But I don't care if I just say, Lord,
help them or have mercy out their family or God,
you know what it is, keep them, bless them. I
promise you I listen. I'm gonna pray. I pray all
the time. I used to say out the time I
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get on the Lord's nerve. Now, Baby, he loves to
hear from him. He loves to hear from me, and
I love to talk to him. So I'm the Lord
is working on me with my nosiness because I do
be wanting to know.
Speaker 2 (41:41):
I do. I ain't gonna lie. I be want to know.
Especially when people say, can you pray for me?
Speaker 1 (41:45):
I'm like, what what you want me to ask him
to do for you? Because it's people out here that's
really telling me stuff that I really need him to
go ahead and handle. You ain't telling me nothing, so y'all,
that situation may be a little important. You know, I'm
just one of those y'all. You know, y'all judging, oh, okay,
because I thought somebody was. I thought the spiller was judged. Nah,
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But I am one of those who I like to
know what's going on before I pray.
Speaker 2 (42:10):
But I'm learning, and this be grown forty one year.
Speaker 1 (42:15):
You know since I been here that it's okay for
me not to know what the situation is. But if
someone's solicit your prayers to just pray for them, okay,
that's how we can do. You know, if someone asks
you to pray for them, just pray for them. You
ain't gotta know. Don't be mad because you don't know.
I'm learning that too. I told you I'm preaching to
the choir. Don't be mad. I'm not saying if somebody
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was to say, well, yeah, this is what happened, I'm
not gonna listen. I'm not going to tell them what
I heard or what I know. I'm not gonna do
all the missing this with it. I am going to pray.
But we have to be okay with not knowing everything
all the time. And just praying. You know, the prayers
of the righteous avail its much. You know what I'm saying, Like,
just pray, that's all I can say. Just pray, okay.
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And the last thing I want to discuss regarding this,
and we're just talking about life, how life is lifing
and how to kind of deal with a lot of
the things that we deal with during this lifing process
while we're trusting God to God.
Speaker 2 (43:15):
But let's make sure our hearts are pere. Okay. Man
knows the outside, God knows the heart, y'all.
Speaker 1 (43:25):
I mean that's just that, Like you can fake it
till you make it, Like my best say, you can
front and stunt all you want to, but God knows
the hearts. You can say all day how you don't
do this, how you don't do that, how you say
don't save this, or how you don't say that. You
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can even act like to certain people you don't want
to say certain things because you don't want them to
judge you or you don't want them to know that
you feel this way. And that's fine too, But God
knows how you really feel.
Speaker 2 (43:58):
He really does.
Speaker 1 (43:59):
He really knows how you feel because He knows the
totality of your heart. And you can play with people
all you want to, but at the end of the day,
you playing with God.
Speaker 2 (44:09):
So work on that.
Speaker 1 (44:10):
Let's work on that. And that's something that I'm working
on now. You know, I'm not I don't have any spirits.
I don't feel like that God possesses in us negative spirits,
Like I don't have a jealous bone, or envious bone,
or malicious bone, a vindicta bone. I don't have none
of those bones in my bodies, you know what I'm saying. However,
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the Lord is working on me, because when stuff happens
to certain situations or people, I'll be like, well, God
showed on like ugly, I'm quick to say that he's
working on me. To not say that, because every time
I say that, y'all, he remind me he'sper under pretty
even stuff.
Speaker 2 (44:49):
Be laughing and I'd be like.
Speaker 1 (44:50):
Oh lot, oh me Jesus, Yeah, I shouldn't have said that.
But if we're saying those things and we're feeling those things,
it's not of him and it's not of him. So
we're gonna have to deal with the repercussions of the
ramifications are the consequences of it, you know, being happy
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for somebody else's pain, downfall, something that they're going through,
something that they're struggling with. That. I mean, that's a
that's not a spirit to have, that's not a good
energy to have. That's one of those Like I just said,
God knows your heart. You feeling like that towards other others.
I'm sorry, He knows. And the fact that he knows,
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you're gonna have to answer to that, he gonna hold
us accountable for that period.
Speaker 2 (45:41):
There's no escape to it. So let's pray for a
pure heart. You know.
Speaker 1 (45:46):
One of my daily prayers daily every morning is Heavenly Father,
peer from my heart, and please create in me a
clean heart and renew the right spirit within me, because
I want to. I'll never be like Jesus. I know
I'll never be perfect like him. I'll never have a
heart like him, but I do want to press towards
some mark. I do want to focus on having a
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better heart and pursing being pursed of spirits and feelings
that are not like him, so that I can be
empathetic with others when they're going through, so that I
can be compassionate, be it I like them or not
be it they did me wrong or not, or they
did the same thing to me, or I feel like
it's karma. I don't need to be able to judge
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or say that's their karma. That ain't my place, That
ain't your place. That ain't our place.
Speaker 2 (46:33):
Let God do what he do.
Speaker 1 (46:35):
The Bible save beings is mine. Let him do whatever
karma he gonna do, not us. Now, if it just
happens to play out in our faces, we still need
to shut up. I'm looking in the mirror, starting with
the man in the mirror. You know, like, it's not
our place to say you had your math on me,
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or you was doing this, or you was doing it.
Is just ain't our place. It ain't our place. Because
just as quick as we say well because you remember
you was doing that to me, blah blah blah, gotta
flip that switch, turns something around and make something else happen.
It may be a lesson, y'all, We got to be
got to be careful. There may be another lesson. So
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we can play all we want to, but remember he
knows the heart, and the heart is what matters. Don't
open book or space or room for him to flip
that switch and make you eat your words.
Speaker 2 (47:35):
Okay. It's something I'm working on every single day. Practice
and shutting up.
Speaker 1 (47:40):
I cannot afford to curse my family of the blessings.
Speaker 2 (47:44):
Be it good peace, be it good health, be it.
Speaker 1 (47:48):
Continued blessings in my marriage, marriages, in my family, our finances, my.
Speaker 2 (47:53):
Child, our children.
Speaker 1 (47:54):
Like a uh. I ain't trying to bless nobody so
as much as I can control it, doing my part
and practicing self control and talking when I need to talk,
and shutting up and trying well, trying to trying to
shut up and listen when it's time for me to
shut up and listen. Okay, so we just go. We
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gotta learn to do that. Pray for people, whether it's
visibly or publicly that they're going through. We gotta We
can't talk, really talk.
Speaker 2 (48:25):
We can't.
Speaker 1 (48:25):
I ain't even gonna say really, we just can't be
talking about them. I'm working on it, y'all. I'm working
on it because I don't be talking about people. I
promise I don't, but I do be wanting to know
what's going on, and I will say, well, I don't.
Speaker 2 (48:37):
Want to be like that.
Speaker 1 (48:39):
So I'm working on being better and we all have
to work on being better. I'm confessing my sins to
one another like the Bible.
Speaker 2 (48:46):
Teap me to do it. Listen, Lord hent me Jesus.
Speaker 1 (48:48):
Work in progress. I am a work in progress. But
I do catch myself when I'm slipping and when I'm tripping,
and I acknowledge it, I ask for forgiveness, and I
ask the Lord to keep working on me. Okay, and
you too can do the same thing. We just got
to start now, we got to start today's spillers. Okay,
gather you a trusted group of friends, believers, people that
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you love, that you trust and have those conversations with
if you feel like.
Speaker 2 (49:16):
You've wronged or you've done wrong.
Speaker 1 (49:18):
Or you're not in a space to where you can
move with intention so that you can be better. Okay,
it's all about us being better in doing baptap Okay.
Speaker 2 (49:33):
So at the end of the day, Life gone, Life.
But guess what, God gone. God, And as long as.
Speaker 1 (49:41):
We have him ahead of us in front of us,
he's already been behind us.
Speaker 2 (49:47):
We'd have made it this far, and.
Speaker 1 (49:49):
He's beside us while we're going, You're gonna be good.
Speaker 2 (49:54):
So if you ask life, life is you cool, Like,
what is we doing?
Speaker 1 (50:00):
Then you turn around and say, yeah, life, you gonna
be cool because God is gonna God. It ain't nothing
you can do besides that, because there's nothing higher, no
one higher, no one better.
Speaker 2 (50:12):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (50:13):
And if you don't know him, get to know him. Spillers, Ooh,
you're missing out. I'm talking about you missing that. You're
talking about some grace, some mercy, some blessings, some fable,
some love, some forgiveness, and.
Speaker 2 (50:24):
Then e turn of life etern of life.
Speaker 1 (50:30):
Talking about death is enough. That's a whole other subject.
But don't go through this earthly life life not knowing him.
Speaker 2 (50:38):
Don't do it.
Speaker 1 (50:40):
Okay, all right, spillers, Well we are wrapping it up.
This is now our spill encouragement time. Remember we talked
about life. It's life and it's our podcast topic. Now
our encouragement time. I want to come from the scripture
the Bible James five and sixteen, and this is the
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King James Virgin that I got this out of this verse.
But it says, confess your faults to one another and
pray for another that you.
Speaker 2 (51:12):
May be healed.
Speaker 1 (51:13):
The effectual, fervent prayers of a righteous man. A veil
it much. This verse feelings encourages us to be open
and vulnerable about all of our struggles that we have
with ourselves or even fellow believers. After we have confessed
our struggles to fellow believers, to ourselves, we can then
(51:34):
pray for one another with one another and for one
another in Christ, and then pray that homemever you praying
with will stand in the gap for you and us
and pray for one another as well. That's called intercessor prayer. Finally,
because you've confessed and prayed, you will then start the
(51:55):
process of internally, emotionally and spiritual healing spillers. It's very
important that we practice this. If we truly want to
live a life of peace, we.
Speaker 2 (52:08):
Gotta do it. And y'all, baby, don't let nobody rob
you of your peace. Baby.
Speaker 1 (52:13):
Peace it's hard to get, and when you get it,
you gonna be smart enough to where you ain't gonna
let nobody take it away from you. And that is
the space that I'm in, and I'm so grateful that
I'm in it, okay, Because if you're not in a
space of peace or trying to live a life of peace,
you will continue to find yourself sinking in bitterness and
(52:33):
hate and pettiness, projecting, I said, projecting that mean you
putting out there a mean spirit all because you have
not confessed, you have not forgiven, and you have not
healed or worked on healing. God wants this for all
of our spillers, spillers, and if you want, if we
(52:54):
want to see him, we have to want this for
ourselves because the Bible tells us only the peer and
heart shall see God. So even if you have to
start now, spillers, gather you a group of people that
you can confess your sins with. If you don't feel
comfortable and you need to take babysteps, confess them to
the Lord, Confess them to God, repent, pray, forgive yourself
(53:18):
and forgive others. Life is so freeing when you have
a pure heart. Okay, your heart won't be like Jesus.
You know you can work towards his heart. But you know,
maybe we ain't gonna never be there. We're gonna always
be a work in progress. However, just know that if
you fall, he will pick you up.
Speaker 2 (53:38):
So that you can try again.
Speaker 1 (53:40):
Don't stay there once you're backup, Spillers, Thank God for
his emerited grace and mercy and keep on keeping all
okay spillings.
Speaker 2 (53:50):
I love y'all so much. Thank y'all for rocking.
Speaker 1 (53:52):
With your girl today, one on one connection vibing. I
pray that you all have an amazing day and amazing week.
Share this podcast with your peers. This is your girl,
Missus Wilson, and until next time, I am signing Old
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