Kristine Homann has been through a lot. Stuck in a toxic marriage, she tried hard to find a way out. Eventually, she was able to free herself and her girls from the situation. But the scars it left were hard to heal. She found ways to help herself and her children, and now she shares what she learned as a health and wellness coach.
Kristine Homann is an RN and Mindset coach who specializes in helping men and women recover from life’s toughest moments so they can break free from survival mode and thrive in a life they truly love. With a passion for helping others rediscover their strength, Kristine shares strategies rooted in personal experience and certifications to empower people to believe in themselves and their abilities.
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Music, hello and welcome to the storied human My
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guest today is Kristine Homann.
She's a registered nurse and acertified health and life coach.
Her journey began long beforethat, though, breaking free from
a toxic marriage left herfeeling lost, but it also
sparked an incredibly powerfultransformation through self,
love, resilience and a lot ofmindset work, she reclaimed her
story and built a life she'sproud of today, she now helps
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others do the same, guiding themto rewrite their narratives and
thrive after life's challenges.
And we can't wait to hear moreabout that. Welcome, Kristine,
it's so good to have you onThank you. I'm really excited to
be here,so why don't we start with
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how you changed? I mean, it'salways so amazing to me, how
people get the courage to makesuch big changes in their life.
Well, it was definitely, it wasdefinitely a process. Um, when
I, when I was finally able tobreak free for good from from my
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marriage. It took. It tookseveral years of trying to make
it work and just doing what wecould to make it work, and it
just wasn't happening. It took.
It took me the fourth time ofactually leaving and staying out
to finally break free from fromthe unfortunate toxicity that
(02:05):
that relationship had for bothof us. So finally, after being
able to break free that fourthtime I I thought the easy part
was over, but that was long.
That was definitely not theissue. The the easy part,
(02:26):
honestly, is, is being able tobreak free. The hard part was
learning how to love myselfagain. That that was a struggle
that I struggled with forseveral years, actually, and it,
I hate to say it, but it reallyaffected my daughter's lives as
well. I have, I had teenagegirls, pre teen girls, when,
(02:47):
when our divorce was final. Ihad, I had three teenage girls,
and just me not knowing exactlyhow to love myself was affecting
them as well, because they, notonly they, not only were
affected by the divorce in ourfamily breaking up, but they,
they were struggling with withtheir own things at the time,
(03:09):
and and seeing mom not knowinglike how to, how to navigate
life after, after being in amarriage and in a Family setting
like that was was reallydifficult. You know, I was
actually, I'm actually alsoworking on getting certified as
a divorce coach, and I I readlast night in in my textbook
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that divorce is the second mostit's the second most devastating
event that people can go throughfirst being the loss of a of a
significant other due to death.
So healing after divorce is issomething that takes a lot of
(03:52):
time. And I found, I found thatfinding finding a workout
program for me, I was always anactive person, so I I enjoyed
like being out in nature andjust being active in general,
but finding actual workoutprograms and an exercise routine
that worked for me is the firstthing that actually helped me
(04:16):
build that strength and thatresilience, that mindset that I
needed to be able to pursueother things that I had been
thinking about, and that that iswhat really helped me start the
process of loving myself again,because as I as I finish certain
workout programs, it would helpbuild my confidence and help
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tell me, hey, I can do this. IfI can do this, there's other
things that I can do so thatthat's what really helped,
helped me get on the path thatI'm on now. And I There are so
many things that I I'm findingthat other people don't realize
that. Are available to them tohelp them heal in whatever it is
(05:01):
they're dealing with. And I havea lot of those available to help
people with and I want to justreach as many people as
possible, because I know, I knowfirsthand what it felt like for
me to learn how to love myselfagain, and now that I'm through
all of that, and on the otherside of it, I just I, I have
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such a passion and want to helpother people do the same. That's
sucha great way to use what happened
to you that is like so healingand amazing. I love when I hear
that. I love when people dothat, because to me, that gives
meaning and purpose to your newlife with your new self. And I'm
really impressed that you didthe workouts. I don't think we
talk about that enough that weneed the physical stuff too,
(05:44):
that that really helps witheverything else. And I know I
should be working out more. Ihave a feeling my listeners
should be working out more. Soit's a great reminder that
that's part of it, that thatmakes you feel better, and that
brings you to a place where youfeel a sense of accomplishment.
And I wanted to say that as hardas it might have been for your
daughters, they've also got tolearn how to heal from watching
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as hard as it was for them tosee you go through that they've
seen you do this, and that's soimportant. They've learned more
than you even know. And that'sso good that you you were able
to do this in front of them,because now they know you know,
you can get down, but you canget back up, and you can learn.
(06:25):
And it's, it's so it'sinteresting that you say that,
because I get, I get all warmand fuzzy inside when I now see
my daughters, like starting aworkout routine, or they, they
like, they, they're notconsistent at it yet, but
they're getting there. And Ijust like want to just hug them,
because they see and they absorbso much more than we realize.
(06:48):
And yes, what you just said isis spot on. They they really
watch you as a parent, and theybecause,
as hard as it was, you showedthem you can, you know, you can
make a new life. You can, youcan heal from this as hard as
life can be, and that's that'ssuch a great lesson for their
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future. Agree, tell me, tell memore about how you got to this
point. Like you're a nurse,right? I am and and you just,
how did you evolve into a healthand wellness certified health
and life coach.
So I've, I've been, yes, I've,I've been a nurse for almost 25
(07:31):
years now, and I feel that justhelping people in that aspect
and being us of service topeople in that aspect has just
always been rooted inside of meand with going through the
struggles that I went throughafter after my divorce was
(07:52):
final, I just I knew there wassomething else that was calling
me to, to want to be of serviceto other people for in and so I,
I honestly, I had pursued mylife coach certificate even
while I was still married. And Idon't remember exactly what
(08:12):
happened, but I didn't, I didn'tpursue it any further. So I
never got certified. So once,once, my divorce was final. I
actually was enrolled in in auniversity to get my nurse
practitioner license, and I wasI was in my second semester, and
(08:32):
this was about a year after mydivorce was final, an
unfortunate event happened thatcaused my daughters to need to
live with me full time, and wewere stuck in, oh, we were, I
was, I was needing to dedicate alot of my time to being in in
court and dealing with what wasgoing on with that particular
(08:56):
circumstance and with my girlsliving with me Full Time and
working full time as a nurse, Iknew that something had to give,
and I wasn't going to be able topursue my nurse practitioner
degree any further, and that waspart time, so I stopped doing
that, and within a few months,is when I I saw something, I
(09:19):
think, on the internet thattalked about getting your life
coaching and health coachingcertificate, and it was, it was
going to be an amount of timethat I felt I could dedicate,
even with having my girls fulltime. And I'm a I'm a firm
believer that if you are reallypaying attention to what's
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coming at you or coming intoyour life. The universe gives
you signs all the time. It'sjust if you're paying attention
to it or not, is going to helpdetermine the path that you take
in life. So this was theuniverse telling me that this
was my my calling, since I hadinitially wanted to do like.
(10:00):
Coaching. So I got my lifecoaching certificate, my health
and life coaching certificate,and the fire that I feel inside
when I'm when I'm helping peoplereach their goals. I just, I
it's, it's indescribable. Ijust, I can't hardly even
describe how it makes me feel tobe helping people reach their
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goals and feel better aboutthemselves, and motivate them
and inspire them to be better.
Because we, we all have theopportunity to be better every
single day, and it just lightsme up inside. So that's that's
how I ended up getting mycertification. And as life goes
on, I'm finding other things areattracting to me and pulling me
(10:44):
in the direction that I'm headednow. So,
long story short, that's, that'show
I love this. I love the wholething. I love the idea that
sometimes we have to give upsomething that we started, and
it, instead of feeling like afailure, you just said, Well,
what pulls me again? Like in afew months, something showed up
(11:06):
in your life, and you were like,Oh, I'm supposed to do this like
you. You really roll with thepunches. And most people who are
nurses and enjoy it and havedone it for as long as you have
what they call it, you know,they have a colony. They really
have that. So I love that thiscame sort of out of that, that
somebody gets all that goodnurse stuff and wellness and,
(11:27):
you know, health and and I keepsaying it wrong, health and life
coach. So it's really thatwonderful combo that I think you
offer. But I'm very impressedthat you say stuff shows up for
us, because sometimes I don'tpay attention, you know, and
I'll look back and say, Oh, Iprobably should have done
something about that. So how dowe know? Like, how do we know
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when something is calling us?
Like, do we develop ourintuition, or does it show up
more often than once? Or, how doyou think we know? I
think you know by really payingattention to how your body
feels. And honestly, this is,this is one of the things that I
teach in in my program, the feelgood formula is how to really
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cool tune into your intuition.
For me, it's, it's a gutfeeling, and I feel, I can feel
it in my gut, but it doesn't, itdoesn't happen in that place for
everybody. It, it's it'ssomewhere different in
everybody's body. So just payingattention to how it makes you
feel in your body when somethingcomes up, or just being
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observant of what's around youthat it's just amazing a It's
just amazing how the universegives you clues, and if it's up
to you, if you decide to take itor or let that one go and move
on to the next one.
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I've noticed that I get morewhen I cut out some of the noise
in my life, when I'm able to bestill. Do you teach those kinds
of practices, like, do youmeditate? Or do you teach people
to meditate?
Yes, those are all also part,part of it, parts of the
program.
That's so interesting to me,because none of us in the
western world were raised thatway, and yet that's really what
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we should be doing, is beingquiet, and that's so so much a
part of mindset and staying inthe present, you know, and then
you're going to get thosemessages. But I I fall into the
trap I would get all, like,involved in social media or, you
know, I scroll, I Doom scroll,and I'm like, have to catch
myself. So I think that'sanother thing that's important
to mention, is that we have tokeep trying. And I was talking
(13:39):
to a friend and and she said,Well, I am better about these
things, but it keeps happening.
And I said, Well, I think thatwhat I've noticed is the work
I've done on myself. I don'tparticipate in negative
behaviors as long like I catchthem sooner, they don't go away
completely. You know, it's likethey're grooves in your brain,
but I'm catching myself sooner,and that makes me happy. You
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know, it's funny. It's funny yousay that I'm actually working on
an ebook right now on breakingthe cycle of negative thoughts,
because being being in the typeof relationship that I was able
to break free from, it's it'snot uncommon for for during the
healing process to ruminate inoverthink things over and over
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and over again. So having havingtools available to stop you when
your thoughts try to run awaywith you is crucial to healing,
and meditation is one of thosetools that helps you focus your
mind and re rewire your thoughtprocesses. Actually, it helps
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you learn how to calm your mind,as you said, so and
I've, I've noticed change isnot, of course, nothing's
faster. Past, right? But I'venoticed when you take a moment
you say, well, that's, I'mdifferent now from last year.
You know, it's different. It Iremember a time when I would
have overreacted to that, andit's really just being aware,
(15:12):
like you said, really beingmindful. And that's just to me,
that's a constant struggletrying to keep myself from, you
know, reading too much orwatching too much. I mean, I
really am trying to work. That'sa New Year's resolution, by the
way. Well, good luck with that.
Yeah, read real books, right? Sotell me more about the book. I'd
love to hear about the article.
(15:33):
I'm pretty excited. You're kindof on fire.
I feel like I'm on fire. I'msurprised I'm not burning. It's
superexciting to hear. Yeah, it's
really great.
So the the ebook that I'mworking on, like I said, it,
it's, it's going to help givetips on on how to effectively
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stop those thought processeswhen, when, when you are able to
catch them, negative thoughtshave a way of running away with
our with our minds. And this isactually one of the things also
that I teach in my in my mindsetworkshop. And it it helps a lot
to hear a particular story. Sowhen I, when I was a teenager, I
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loved showing horses, and I wedidn't have an outside riding
arena. We didn't have an indoorriding arena. I had a pasture
that I rode my horse in, and Irode him so much that I wore a
path in the pasture, and beingpersistent and consistent with
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writing, wore that path, thatoval path in the pasture. And
that's a lot of what ourthoughts do in our mind is
especially when we'reoverthinking. They continuously
wear where a path in our in ourmind, if you will. So learning,
learning how to stop thosethought processes and move on to
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new ones, is is so crucial, andthat's part of what that ebook
talks about, is giving tips onbreaking free and like being
able to recognize that you'rehaving those negative thoughts
so that you can stop them intheir tracks and start having
positive thoughts. Because ifyou're constantly in negative
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thought, negativity land, I liketo call it, you are attracting
negative things into your life.
But if you can be moreoptimistic, you're going to
start attracting more positivethings in your life, and in
things go better for you. Sothat great point, one of the one
of the tips that I that I willdescribe more in that book, is
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the 54321, second. I don't knowif you've if you are familiar
with Mel Robbins, but she has afive second rule. So it's very
similar to that five second ruleof counting down from 54321, and
then move. So that's that's oneof the tips that I'll be
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explaining more in that in thatbook, when it's when it's out.
This is so helpful. People needthis. And I, I've learned so
much about this in maybe thelast couple years, I have an
accountability group that I meetwith every week from the
podcast. And the podcast classthat I was in was a lot about
mindset. I learned a whole lotabout mindset. It wasn't just
(18:32):
about how to podcast. It wasKathy Heller. I always give her
a shout out because she's reallyamazing and she's super famous,
and we got, like, time with her.
I was like, kind of crazy when Ilook back on it, but what's
helped me so much is talking tothese women every week, and
they're both life coaches, andone of them is a journalist, and
one of them is a has a PhD inepidemiology, but she's moving
into the climate space. Butthey're so informative. And what
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I got about this, what I got outof all this, is like, you're
saying, it's not just that youcan help yourself be less
negative, but you'll attractdifferent things. I think that's
so important to say. You'll putyourself in another space,
you'll put yourself in anotheryou'll receive different
messages. You'll you'll otherpeople will come into your life.
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And that's been really true forme. And another thing I'm
thinking about when you'retalking is that, I just see that
a lot of us, when we wereyounger, I really went through
life kind of reacting, you know,something would happen. I would
react. Something happened. Iwould react. And I would get,
like, really offended by stuff.
That's one thing I've noticed. Iwas so offended, and a lot of my
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friends were always offended,and that's such an insecure
thing, and that's such a youknow, somebody who's not rooted
and not maybe grounded. And Ilook back and say, Wow, I could
have used this like back then,but I'm really grateful that
I've come to this place wherepeople are helping me and
sharing with me, and thatthrough my platform, I can share
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it. With other people, becausethis is timeless information.
This is really good foreverybody, no matter what age
you are or where you are in yourlife. These practices really
help you not be reactive, not gothrough life like banging into
things and then reacting.
Instead, you can be, I mean, youstill might bang into something,
but you'll calm yourself andyou'll decide how you're going
(20:20):
to react, correct, correct. Sothat's very powerful. What you
said was very powerful. So whenis this ebook coming out?
Well, I would love to have adate to give you. I don't have a
date to give you, but I I'msorry, ballpark. I would love to
(20:41):
have it come out within the nexttwo months. Oh, that's great.
Yes, good. And I noticed youhave a free
is it an article or a PDF thatpeople can get from your
website?
So I do. I have a it's mindsetmastery guide. It's a free guide
(21:01):
that anybody canlooking for. Okay, good. So and
what is your website? How canpeople get in touch with you?
They can get in touch with me bygoing to uquest dot live. And
it's y, o, u, Q, U, E, S, T,dot, l, i, v, e,
uquest dot live. Good. Andthat's where they can get the
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guide and read more about you.
Correct. And is, is thereanything else that you want to
share today? Well, youhad mentioned earlier. Also,
today is the very first day thatmy very first article got
published in tiny Buddha. Tellme. Tell me. So it's, it's
titled sometimes the bad timeslead you to the best time of
(21:43):
your life. And I, I just got theemail today saying that the link
was live. So if you go to tinyBuddha, you can see, I'm just
pulling it up here now, I shouldsay the title of the of the
article is four lessons Ilearned from leaving a toxic
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relationship, and I talk aboutone of the unfortunate events
that I went through after mymarriage had ended with dealing
with my two my two youngerdaughters struggled a lot with
mental health issues. And so Italk about one of the one of the
incidents that happened in thatarticle, but then I at the
(22:25):
bottom, I give those four tipsthat I learned from healing,
from from leaving thatrelationship. And the first, the
one of them is moving my bodywith exercise, like we talked
about at the beginning, at thebeginning of of the podcast
here. But yeah, if you want toread the article, it's on tiny
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Buddha, and it's called forlessons I learned from leaving a
toxic relationship.
I think it's so cool that youfound out today. You know
synchronicity, right? That'swonderful. Thank you so much for
sharing. I know people will feelinspired by your your story, and
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I know you know, hopefullythey'll learn from you and reach
out And and best of luck to you.
Thank you. Applause.
Music, hello and welcome to the storied human My
(00:38):
guest today is Kristine Homann.
She's a registered nurse and acertified health and life coach.
Her journey began long beforethat, though, breaking free from
a toxic marriage left herfeeling lost, but it also
sparked an incredibly powerfultransformation through self,
love, resilience and a lot ofmindset work, she reclaimed her
story and built a life she'sproud of today, she now helps
(01:00):
others do the same, guiding themto rewrite their narratives and
thrive after life's challenges.
And we can't wait to hear moreabout that. Welcome, Kristine,
it's so good to have you onThank you. I'm really excited to
be here,so why don't we start with
(01:21):
how you changed? I mean, it'salways so amazing to me, how
people get the courage to makesuch big changes in their life.
Well, it was definitely, it wasdefinitely a process. Um, when
I, when I was finally able tobreak free for good from from my
(01:43):
marriage. It took. It tookseveral years of trying to make
it work and just doing what wecould to make it work, and it
just wasn't happening. It took.
It took me the fourth time ofactually leaving and staying out
to finally break free from fromthe unfortunate toxicity that
(02:05):
that relationship had for bothof us. So finally, after being
able to break free that fourthtime I I thought the easy part
was over, but that was long.
That was definitely not theissue. The the easy part,
(02:26):
honestly, is, is being able tobreak free. The hard part was
learning how to love myselfagain. That that was a struggle
that I struggled with forseveral years, actually, and it,
I hate to say it, but it reallyaffected my daughter's lives as
well. I have, I had teenagegirls, pre teen girls, when,
(02:47):
when our divorce was final. Ihad, I had three teenage girls,
and just me not knowing exactlyhow to love myself was affecting
them as well, because they, notonly they, not only were
affected by the divorce in ourfamily breaking up, but they,
they were struggling with withtheir own things at the time,
(03:09):
and and seeing mom not knowinglike how to, how to navigate
life after, after being in amarriage and in a Family setting
like that was was reallydifficult. You know, I was
actually, I'm actually alsoworking on getting certified as
a divorce coach, and I I readlast night in in my textbook
(03:32):
that divorce is the second mostit's the second most devastating
event that people can go throughfirst being the loss of a of a
significant other due to death.
So healing after divorce is issomething that takes a lot of
(03:52):
time. And I found, I found thatfinding finding a workout
program for me, I was always anactive person, so I I enjoyed
like being out in nature andjust being active in general,
but finding actual workoutprograms and an exercise routine
that worked for me is the firstthing that actually helped me
(04:16):
build that strength and thatresilience, that mindset that I
needed to be able to pursueother things that I had been
thinking about, and that that iswhat really helped me start the
process of loving myself again,because as I as I finish certain
workout programs, it would helpbuild my confidence and help
(04:39):
tell me, hey, I can do this. IfI can do this, there's other
things that I can do so thatthat's what really helped,
helped me get on the path thatI'm on now. And I There are so
many things that I I'm findingthat other people don't realize
that. Are available to them tohelp them heal in whatever it is
(05:01):
they're dealing with. And I havea lot of those available to help
people with and I want to justreach as many people as
possible, because I know, I knowfirsthand what it felt like for
me to learn how to love myselfagain, and now that I'm through
all of that, and on the otherside of it, I just I, I have
(05:21):
such a passion and want to helpother people do the same. That's
sucha great way to use what happened
to you that is like so healingand amazing. I love when I hear
that. I love when people dothat, because to me, that gives
meaning and purpose to your newlife with your new self. And I'm
really impressed that you didthe workouts. I don't think we
talk about that enough that weneed the physical stuff too,
(05:44):
that that really helps witheverything else. And I know I
should be working out more. Ihave a feeling my listeners
should be working out more. Soit's a great reminder that
that's part of it, that thatmakes you feel better, and that
brings you to a place where youfeel a sense of accomplishment.
And I wanted to say that as hardas it might have been for your
daughters, they've also got tolearn how to heal from watching
(06:05):
as hard as it was for them tosee you go through that they've
seen you do this, and that's soimportant. They've learned more
than you even know. And that'sso good that you you were able
to do this in front of them,because now they know you know,
you can get down, but you canget back up, and you can learn.
(06:25):
And it's, it's so it'sinteresting that you say that,
because I get, I get all warmand fuzzy inside when I now see
my daughters, like starting aworkout routine, or they, they
like, they, they're notconsistent at it yet, but
they're getting there. And Ijust like want to just hug them,
because they see and they absorbso much more than we realize.
(06:48):
And yes, what you just said isis spot on. They they really
watch you as a parent, and theybecause,
as hard as it was, you showedthem you can, you know, you can
make a new life. You can, youcan heal from this as hard as
life can be, and that's that'ssuch a great lesson for their
(07:08):
future. Agree, tell me, tell memore about how you got to this
point. Like you're a nurse,right? I am and and you just,
how did you evolve into a healthand wellness certified health
and life coach.
So I've, I've been, yes, I've,I've been a nurse for almost 25
(07:31):
years now, and I feel that justhelping people in that aspect
and being us of service topeople in that aspect has just
always been rooted inside of meand with going through the
struggles that I went throughafter after my divorce was
(07:52):
final, I just I knew there wassomething else that was calling
me to, to want to be of serviceto other people for in and so I,
I honestly, I had pursued mylife coach certificate even
while I was still married. And Idon't remember exactly what
(08:12):
happened, but I didn't, I didn'tpursue it any further. So I
never got certified. So once,once, my divorce was final. I
actually was enrolled in in auniversity to get my nurse
practitioner license, and I wasI was in my second semester, and
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this was about a year after mydivorce was final, an
unfortunate event happened thatcaused my daughters to need to
live with me full time, and wewere stuck in, oh, we were, I
was, I was needing to dedicate alot of my time to being in in
court and dealing with what wasgoing on with that particular
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circumstance and with my girlsliving with me Full Time and
working full time as a nurse, Iknew that something had to give,
and I wasn't going to be able topursue my nurse practitioner
degree any further, and that waspart time, so I stopped doing
that, and within a few months,is when I I saw something, I
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think, on the internet thattalked about getting your life
coaching and health coachingcertificate, and it was, it was
going to be an amount of timethat I felt I could dedicate,
even with having my girls fulltime. And I'm a I'm a firm
believer that if you are reallypaying attention to what's
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coming at you or coming intoyour life. The universe gives
you signs all the time. It'sjust if you're paying attention
to it or not, is going to helpdetermine the path that you take
in life. So this was theuniverse telling me that this
was my my calling, since I hadinitially wanted to do like.
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Coaching. So I got my lifecoaching certificate, my health
and life coaching certificate,and the fire that I feel inside
when I'm when I'm helping peoplereach their goals. I just, I
it's, it's indescribable. Ijust, I can't hardly even
describe how it makes me feel tobe helping people reach their
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goals and feel better aboutthemselves, and motivate them
and inspire them to be better.
Because we, we all have theopportunity to be better every
single day, and it just lightsme up inside. So that's that's
how I ended up getting mycertification. And as life goes
on, I'm finding other things areattracting to me and pulling me
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in the direction that I'm headednow. So,
long story short, that's, that'show
I love this. I love the wholething. I love the idea that
sometimes we have to give upsomething that we started, and
it, instead of feeling like afailure, you just said, Well,
what pulls me again? Like in afew months, something showed up
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in your life, and you were like,Oh, I'm supposed to do this like
you. You really roll with thepunches. And most people who are
nurses and enjoy it and havedone it for as long as you have
what they call it, you know,they have a colony. They really
have that. So I love that thiscame sort of out of that, that
somebody gets all that goodnurse stuff and wellness and,
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you know, health and and I keepsaying it wrong, health and life
coach. So it's really thatwonderful combo that I think you
offer. But I'm very impressedthat you say stuff shows up for
us, because sometimes I don'tpay attention, you know, and
I'll look back and say, Oh, Iprobably should have done
something about that. So how dowe know? Like, how do we know
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when something is calling us?
Like, do we develop ourintuition, or does it show up
more often than once? Or, how doyou think we know? I
think you know by really payingattention to how your body
feels. And honestly, this is,this is one of the things that I
teach in in my program, the feelgood formula is how to really
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cool tune into your intuition.
For me, it's, it's a gutfeeling, and I feel, I can feel
it in my gut, but it doesn't, itdoesn't happen in that place for
everybody. It, it's it'ssomewhere different in
everybody's body. So just payingattention to how it makes you
feel in your body when somethingcomes up, or just being
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observant of what's around youthat it's just amazing a It's
just amazing how the universegives you clues, and if it's up
to you, if you decide to take itor or let that one go and move
on to the next one.
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I've noticed that I get morewhen I cut out some of the noise
in my life, when I'm able to bestill. Do you teach those kinds
of practices, like, do youmeditate? Or do you teach people
to meditate?
Yes, those are all also part,part of it, parts of the
program.
That's so interesting to me,because none of us in the
western world were raised thatway, and yet that's really what
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we should be doing, is beingquiet, and that's so so much a
part of mindset and staying inthe present, you know, and then
you're going to get thosemessages. But I I fall into the
trap I would get all, like,involved in social media or, you
know, I scroll, I Doom scroll,and I'm like, have to catch
myself. So I think that'sanother thing that's important
to mention, is that we have tokeep trying. And I was talking
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to a friend and and she said,Well, I am better about these
things, but it keeps happening.
And I said, Well, I think thatwhat I've noticed is the work
I've done on myself. I don'tparticipate in negative
behaviors as long like I catchthem sooner, they don't go away
completely. You know, it's likethey're grooves in your brain,
but I'm catching myself sooner,and that makes me happy. You
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know, it's funny. It's funny yousay that I'm actually working on
an ebook right now on breakingthe cycle of negative thoughts,
because being being in the typeof relationship that I was able
to break free from, it's it'snot uncommon for for during the
healing process to ruminate inoverthink things over and over
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and over again. So having havingtools available to stop you when
your thoughts try to run awaywith you is crucial to healing,
and meditation is one of thosetools that helps you focus your
mind and re rewire your thoughtprocesses. Actually, it helps
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you learn how to calm your mind,as you said, so and
I've, I've noticed change isnot, of course, nothing's
faster. Past, right? But I'venoticed when you take a moment
you say, well, that's, I'mdifferent now from last year.
You know, it's different. It Iremember a time when I would
have overreacted to that, andit's really just being aware,
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like you said, really beingmindful. And that's just to me,
that's a constant struggletrying to keep myself from, you
know, reading too much orwatching too much. I mean, I
really am trying to work. That'sa New Year's resolution, by the
way. Well, good luck with that.
Yeah, read real books, right? Sotell me more about the book. I'd
love to hear about the article.
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I'm pretty excited. You're kindof on fire.
I feel like I'm on fire. I'msurprised I'm not burning. It's
superexciting to hear. Yeah, it's
really great.
So the the ebook that I'mworking on, like I said, it,
it's, it's going to help givetips on on how to effectively
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stop those thought processeswhen, when, when you are able to
catch them, negative thoughtshave a way of running away with
our with our minds. And this isactually one of the things also
that I teach in my in my mindsetworkshop. And it it helps a lot
to hear a particular story. Sowhen I, when I was a teenager, I
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loved showing horses, and I wedidn't have an outside riding
arena. We didn't have an indoorriding arena. I had a pasture
that I rode my horse in, and Irode him so much that I wore a
path in the pasture, and beingpersistent and consistent with
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writing, wore that path, thatoval path in the pasture. And
that's a lot of what ourthoughts do in our mind is
especially when we'reoverthinking. They continuously
wear where a path in our in ourmind, if you will. So learning,
learning how to stop thosethought processes and move on to
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new ones, is is so crucial, andthat's part of what that ebook
talks about, is giving tips onbreaking free and like being
able to recognize that you'rehaving those negative thoughts
so that you can stop them intheir tracks and start having
positive thoughts. Because ifyou're constantly in negative
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thought, negativity land, I liketo call it, you are attracting
negative things into your life.
But if you can be moreoptimistic, you're going to
start attracting more positivethings in your life, and in
things go better for you. Sothat great point, one of the one
of the tips that I that I willdescribe more in that book, is
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the 54321, second. I don't knowif you've if you are familiar
with Mel Robbins, but she has afive second rule. So it's very
similar to that five second ruleof counting down from 54321, and
then move. So that's that's oneof the tips that I'll be
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explaining more in that in thatbook, when it's when it's out.
This is so helpful. People needthis. And I, I've learned so
much about this in maybe thelast couple years, I have an
accountability group that I meetwith every week from the
podcast. And the podcast classthat I was in was a lot about
mindset. I learned a whole lotabout mindset. It wasn't just
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about how to podcast. It wasKathy Heller. I always give her
a shout out because she's reallyamazing and she's super famous,
and we got, like, time with her.
I was like, kind of crazy when Ilook back on it, but what's
helped me so much is talking tothese women every week, and
they're both life coaches, andone of them is a journalist, and
one of them is a has a PhD inepidemiology, but she's moving
into the climate space. Butthey're so informative. And what
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I got about this, what I got outof all this, is like, you're
saying, it's not just that youcan help yourself be less
negative, but you'll attractdifferent things. I think that's
so important to say. You'll putyourself in another space,
you'll put yourself in anotheryou'll receive different
messages. You'll you'll otherpeople will come into your life.
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And that's been really true forme. And another thing I'm
thinking about when you'retalking is that, I just see that
a lot of us, when we wereyounger, I really went through
life kind of reacting, you know,something would happen. I would
react. Something happened. Iwould react. And I would get,
like, really offended by stuff.
That's one thing I've noticed. Iwas so offended, and a lot of my
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friends were always offended,and that's such an insecure
thing, and that's such a youknow, somebody who's not rooted
and not maybe grounded. And Ilook back and say, Wow, I could
have used this like back then,but I'm really grateful that
I've come to this place wherepeople are helping me and
sharing with me, and thatthrough my platform, I can share
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it. With other people, becausethis is timeless information.
This is really good foreverybody, no matter what age
you are or where you are in yourlife. These practices really
help you not be reactive, not gothrough life like banging into
things and then reacting.
Instead, you can be, I mean, youstill might bang into something,
but you'll calm yourself andyou'll decide how you're going
(20:20):
to react, correct, correct. Sothat's very powerful. What you
said was very powerful. So whenis this ebook coming out?
Well, I would love to have adate to give you. I don't have a
date to give you, but I I'msorry, ballpark. I would love to
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have it come out within the nexttwo months. Oh, that's great.
Yes, good. And I noticed youhave a free
is it an article or a PDF thatpeople can get from your
website?
So I do. I have a it's mindsetmastery guide. It's a free guide
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that anybody canlooking for. Okay, good. So and
what is your website? How canpeople get in touch with you?
They can get in touch with me bygoing to uquest dot live. And
it's y, o, u, Q, U, E, S, T,dot, l, i, v, e,
uquest dot live. Good. Andthat's where they can get the
(21:22):
guide and read more about you.
Correct. And is, is thereanything else that you want to
share today? Well, youhad mentioned earlier. Also,
today is the very first day thatmy very first article got
published in tiny Buddha. Tellme. Tell me. So it's, it's
titled sometimes the bad timeslead you to the best time of
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your life. And I, I just got theemail today saying that the link
was live. So if you go to tinyBuddha, you can see, I'm just
pulling it up here now, I shouldsay the title of the of the
article is four lessons Ilearned from leaving a toxic
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relationship, and I talk aboutone of the unfortunate events
that I went through after mymarriage had ended with dealing
with my two my two youngerdaughters struggled a lot with
mental health issues. And so Italk about one of the one of the
incidents that happened in thatarticle, but then I at the
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bottom, I give those four tipsthat I learned from healing,
from from leaving thatrelationship. And the first, the
one of them is moving my bodywith exercise, like we talked
about at the beginning, at thebeginning of of the podcast
here. But yeah, if you want toread the article, it's on tiny
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Buddha, and it's called forlessons I learned from leaving a
toxic relationship.
I think it's so cool that youfound out today. You know
synchronicity, right? That'swonderful. Thank you so much for
sharing. I know people will feelinspired by your your story, and
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I know you know, hopefullythey'll learn from you and reach
out And and best of luck to you.
Thank you. Applause.
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