Can My Abuser Change?

The question of whether our abuser can change is a question that we wrestle with, often, as we navigate the storms of abuse. We believe in a God of miracles, and of the impossible, so it's difficult to accept that we might be hanging on to a lost cause. 

It is important to understand that the abilities of God are not what is really in question.  God is always able. We know this to be true. However, we must not forget that God is a God of free will, and He never imposes His will upon mankind. He will never override a person's will to remain in sin.  Our abuser must be broken and repentant before God, for their sin nature. They must be willing to be held accountable and to turn from their sin. 

Why is it that they most often do not?

Many factors come into play rendering the abuser stuck in their dysfunction and sin. This dilemma is between them and God. Sometimes, we must step away for our own safety and well-being, and let God work. YOU matter, apart from the results in the abuser's life. Sometimes, it is best in light of everything, to let go and begin to heal.