October 2, 2025 • 44 mins
What if the fastest way to move forward isn’t a grand reinvention, but one small promise kept today? That’s the heartbeat of this conversation with possibility coach and author Victoria Rader, PhD—a practical, grace-filled path from survival to significance that starts with a better question and a tiny step.
We start with Victoria’s unlikely origin story: a joyful family trip that quietly became debt, a Google search for flexible income, and a shy newcomer who stumbled into real estate during a recession—and still rose to the top 1% through simple daily actions. From there, we unpack the knowing–doing gap and the inner commitment we make each day: scared or sacred. You’ll learn how to shift “Why is this happening?” to “How can I use this?” so your subconscious starts working for you, not against you. Victoria’s electricity metaphor reframes resistance as a former protector, not an enemy, and shows how lowering internal resistance lets more light—and abundance—through.
We dig into her four S’s framework—Survival, Stability, Success, Significance—and how to climb it with the right next step: install one non-negotiable habit, then upgrade your mindset, then widen your heart to serve. Victoria demystifies “quantum leaps,” grounding them in physics: steady, boring movement meets a spark of light that carries you higher. We also talk courage and discouragement, why overthinking is a sign the heart’s offline, and how “forgive me” repairs relationships without shame. Parents and leaders alike will find tools to model emotional regulation, resilience, and self-trust—plus a fresh language that kids can use to turn anxiety into action.
If you’re ready to close the gap between what you know and what you do, this is your map: ask better questions, honor tiny wins, expose yourself to light, and keep moving. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs calm and courage, and leave a review to help more families find these tools. Then tell us: what’s your one non-negotiable habit this week?
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Lindsay Miller is a distinguished kids mindfulness coach, mindfulness educator and host of The Stress Nanny Podcast. She is known for her suitcase tricks and playful laugh. When she's not cheering on her daughter or rollerblading on local trails with her husband, you can find her using her 20+ years of child development study and mindfulness certification to dream up new ways to get kids excited about deep breathing. Having been featured on numerous podcasts, platforms and publications, Lindsay’s words of wisdom are high impact and leave a lasting impression wherever she goes.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:20):
Welcome to the Stress Nanny, the podcast where
we take the overwhelm out ofparenting and help kids and
parents build calm, confidence,and connection.
I'm your host, Lindsay Miller,Kids Mindfulness Coach and
Cheerleader for busy familieseverywhere.
Each week we'll explore simpletools, uplifting stories, and
practical strategies to helpyour child learn emotional
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regulation, resilience, andself-confidence, while giving
you a little more peace of mindtoo.
I'm so glad you're here.
My guest today is VictoriaRader, PhD.
She's the possibility coach andfounder of U2 Shine.
Victoria is a globallyrecognized transformational
speaker featured in Forbes andseen on CNN, Fox, ABC, and NBC.
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A pioneer of quantum personaldevelopment, Victoria created
innovative tools likemygiftoffer.com, ME Journals,
Empower Me, and Master Me apps.
A multiple times best-sellingaward-winning author, she's also
featured in the Zero Limitsmovie.
Her work frees individualstoward fulfillment and
prosperity.
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Her teachings have reached eventhe moon through the Lunar
Legacy Project.
Victoria's mission is to helpothers to quantum leap their
life by remembering and shiningtheir light through love.
And she represents that withlife originating vibrant
emotion.
An avid reader, traveler, tennisplayer, and a dog lover,
Victoria's greatest joy in lifeis her family.
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Above all, Victoria is clearthat all that has been
accomplished by her has simplybeen accomplished through her
via God's infinite divine grace.
Victoria, thank you so much forjoining me today.
SPEAKER_01 (01:56):
Thank you so much, Lindsay.
I'm looking forward to ourconversation.
SPEAKER_00 (02:00):
I am too.
So I first just want to hearfrom your perspective how you
got into this work.
I mean, what you've built andthe way that you help people,
it's really incredible.
And I know we kind of can startout with aspirations, but we
build them a little at a time.
So help us understand how yougot to where you are now.
SPEAKER_01 (02:19):
You know, I think with this as with everything,
there's so many starting points.
I'm a big believer that when wecross this mortal veil, we will
look back and we'll say, oh, itall makes sense.
And it all started the moment Iwas born.
You know, I think we will allhave that crisp clarity because
all of a sudden you go like, ohyeah, oh yeah, oh yeah.
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And so I just wanted to share acouple, oh yes, you know, that
makes sense.
One of them was I was born inUkraine, and when I came to the
United States, I came with avery different financial
mindset.
Back home, we did not have acredit card.
You spent only the money youhad, and you had a debit card
attached to your account.
And so when I came first to theUS, got married, had my two
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children, I decided it was agreat idea to take them to
Greece to start homeschoolingthem and to show them the
antique world.
So when we went to Greece, wehad amazing three weeks.
I came home and my husband setme down and he said, now, honey,
just so that you know, thelittle plastic you were swiping,
there's nothing attached to it.
You put us into debt.
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And I was like, What?
There's no money, you canactually buy stuff with no
money.
I mean, you know, the idea.
I know it sounds stupid, right?
But I'm just saying it's like,you mean you can actually buy
stuff with?
I mean, I just had this catch22, you know, like, okay, okay,
we're not rich.
You know, I now know we're notrich.
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Okay, this is good to know.
This is 2006-07.
So when the real estate in theUnited States is the homes are
flying off shelves likecupcakes, predatory lending,
which I didn't know what it was,didn't know anything about it.
But I go online and I put inwhat's the fastest way to make
money in America while stayinghome with children.
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I actually put that into Google.
Um the all-loving,all-known-knowing Google says
real estate.
And without two thingshappening, without thinking, I
know that I won't sacrifice whatI've seen that it did for my
kids.
I now know what adventure tasteslike.
So I have a why that ispalpable.
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And I said, I'm gonna dowhatever it takes to provide my
kids with that because it's nota theory, it's a real life
experience.
I get into real estate, I'mnaturally a very shy person.
So the first year I just sob.
I sob every night, you know,complete discomfort of talking
to people, sales.
But I remember while I'm crying,right?
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Long story short, within a yearand a half, the recession hits
within the first year realestate.
And within a year and a half,just by doing consistent, very
simple, very small steps everyday, I become top 1% of the
agents in the country.
And all of a sudden, everybodywants to know my secret.
And it's a very boring secret,which is do these five things
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every day, and nobody wants tohear it.
But then I ask the nextquestion, I said, wait a minute,
why is it that I do them?
And people who are more capablethan me have more experience
than me, some of them muchsmarter than me, some of them
much more service-oriented thanme, people that have better
qualifications in differentareas of my life are not doing
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these things.
And asking that question got meon the journey of what Bob
Proctor called knowing, doinggap.
It's how do you close the gapbetween knowing what you've got
to be doing and actually doingit so you can see the results?
That threw me into understandingthe subconscious mind.
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I got the PhD in metaphysics,and this is where gotcha,
something makes sense, came in.
I realized that as a kid, I wasa very psychic kid.
I could feel people's energy, Icould tune into people's energy,
and now I realized, oh my gosh,I've had this unfair advantage
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of tuning into the outcome priorto the outcome, pursuing things
that will work, letting gothings that don't work, and
there isn't a practical way toteach it without expanding your
spiritual capacity.
So that's the practical responseas to how U2 Shine was born as a
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company where we teach you howto know who you are spiritually,
how to shift your energy andyour subconscious mind so that
you can take practical steps andhave more peace, purpose,
passion, and prosperity.
My favorite piece.
SPEAKER_00 (06:57):
Yes.
And we're gonna get into those,which I love, because I think
one of the things that isstriking to me about your story
is that it was kind of atreasure hunt, it sounds like.
I mean, you didn't start outwith all those pieces, right?
You knew you had that meaning,like you said, the why.
You're like, I want to give mykids adventure.
I want them to have a broadperspective of the world and
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understand the global mindset.
And I got to figure out how toget there.
And then as you were going, youpicked up, you know, like you
said, the awareness and you wereable to tune into your gifts in
a different way.
And then that adding on a pieceat a time was how you came to
where you are today.
I love that.
SPEAKER_01 (07:40):
I love the definition treasure hunt because
I think that's what this lifeis, right?
And I think we put all of ourefforts either burying our
treasure or digging it out.
I think that's the twoprocesses.
So I loved how you define it.
SPEAKER_00 (07:56):
Talk to me more about that.
What do you see?
How do you see people buryingit?
SPEAKER_01 (08:02):
I think the greatest fear that we carry, it comes
from the Course of Miracles.
You know, I actually did a 52video program on a Course of
Miracles after I read MarianWilliamson's take on it.
And she was the one that tookthe Course of Miracles and the
phrase in it that said, it isnot our darkness that we fear,
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it is our light.
And I was just like, wait aminute, wait a minute.
It is so true.
Because if I discover the lightthat I am, I'll have to do
something about it.
And isn't it so much safer tostay within the wound that I am?
And is it so much safer to godown the self-pity path?
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Because that's the only way I'veknown how to receive attention.
And so every day I believe we'resitting, like making two
choices.
I call them the choice betweenscared and sacred.
Every day, every one of us hasthese two voices in our mind.
One voice says, Don't do it,don't rock the boat, survive.
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And the other voice says, Go forit.
And every moment of every day,we're either choosing the scared
part or the sacred part.
You know, and the language camefrom a client of mine came to me
and said, I cannot commit.
She goes, I cannot commit.
I either overcommit orundercommit.
And I went to start telling her,these are the ways to be
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committed, you know, because I'ma persistent junkie.
I'm like, oh, rhino, you know,I'm a rhino.
And all of a sudden the spiritis like, no, no, no, everybody's
incredibly committed.
You're like, what?
Yeah, everybody's incrediblycommitted.
We're either committed to ourscared self and we'll sacrifice
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everything because we're socommitted, or we're committed to
our sacred self.
So it's the life of shifting thecommitment.
And I love the treasure hunt.
It's going like, am I burying oram I digging?
Am I burying or am I digging?
And I believe, in a practicalsense, because I love the
practicality of it, it's thequestions that we ask
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internally.
Once you start listening to thequestions you ask internally,
you immediately know whetheryou're burying the light that
you are, so that nobody can hurtit, want anything from it, or
whether you're pursuing it.
SPEAKER_00 (10:33):
Oh my gosh.
I love that.
I love the idea of monitoringyour internal questions with an
eye toward the sacred.
That seems so poignant andbeautiful because I agree that
in the moments when life invitesus, as you shared earlier, like
the invitation you got, okay,you can say, Well, there's
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nothing I can do about this.
I guess my kids won't see what Iknow that is possible for them.
I'll just give up on that.
Or like instead, your dialogue,your dialogue wasn't like, why
me?
Why did this happen to me?
Why couldn't I have more access,you know, to travel for them?
Your act, your dialogue was howcan I make this happen?
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I know it's important.
SPEAKER_01 (11:18):
Yeah, yeah, you know, and uh here's a secret
preview.
You know, I'm preparing a TEDtalk, and in that TED talk, I
actually give the power shiftsof questions, and you've just
summarized it so succinctly.
So when you hear yourself say,Why, right?
Why not?
Why can't I just shift it to howto?
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That really is the first shiftbecause it's so easy to hear it.
When you say, Oh my gosh, that'sso unfair.
How could it happen?
Not that how, you know, why wasit so unfair?
When you hear that, justunderstand you're committing to
the scared, and yoursubconscious will answer that
and you'll bury it deeper.
So say, okay, I felt that wasunfair.
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How was it unfair in a way thatis advantageous to me?
It is huge.
How was this situation that Ibelieve is harming?
How was it to teach me?
How was it to benefit me?
Because a part of it truly was,and it's a very vulnerable
conversation.
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But if you would like to havethe life of fulfillment, it's a
conversation to be had.
SPEAKER_00 (12:29):
Well put.
Yeah, well, and I love with yourcompany the you to shine and you
know, light me up.
It's the idea being at eachjuncture, right?
We're trying to make the choiceto uncover that light a little
bit more, to let that lightshine, to let the light that we
are as individuals grow brighterin this world.
SPEAKER_01 (12:51):
You know, I had what comes to mind because I channel
so much information, the story Ishare often, but in different
contexts, and that is I wasabout five and I was at home
with my grandpa.
My grandpa in Ukraine waswatching me, my dad's dad, and I
was a very creative child.
And so I wanted to create ahanger for my doll's dress.
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I took the doll's dress off andI was going to hang it
somewhere, and I looked aroundand saw the electrical socket.
So I pulled the metal pin out ofmy hair.
I opened it nicely and I pluggedit in because it would have made
a perfect hanger, right?
SPEAKER_00 (13:30):
It was resourceful for sure.
SPEAKER_01 (13:32):
It was resourceful, right?
Oh, oh girl, you're so intuitivebecause resourceful is
reconnecting to the source.
We're gonna stay with that wordof resourceful right there,
right there.
So I plug in into the source ofpower.
Gratefully, I don't getelectrocuted because the fuses
blow.
The fuses blow and theresistance saves me.
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That is such a powerful lessonbecause resistance inside us is
there to save us.
It has saved us before.
So when you have electricitycoming to the house, all of the
devices have the same input.
Your refrigerator, your lightbulbs, all the devices have the
same input.
But the output, the amount oflight that they're letting out
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is defined by resistance insidethe device.
So a little 15-watt light bulbis so dim inside the fridge, but
a 100-watt light bulb is sobright in your living room.
So you go, okay, you and I areconnected to the source.
We're literally resourced by thesource of light, and the
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resistance we put to that flowwill define how much light we're
putting out, and as a result,how much abundance, true,
genuine abundance of love,relationships, but also
financial abundance to supportlove and relationships we
receive.
So then you say, What is theresistance in me?
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And that's where the geneticdrama, trauma, unworthiness,
subconscious beliefs, all ofthat is that block that brings
the power down.
SPEAKER_00 (15:12):
Oh my gosh.
Metaphor, you're speaking mylanguage because on this podcast
I love metaphors.
So I'm gonna be sitting withthat one for a while.
It's a beautiful, it's sobeautiful.
SPEAKER_01 (15:24):
Yeah, so resource, resource, resource.
We all have the same source, wedefine it differently.
I say God, create a worlddesigner.
You know, however you define thesource of all love, all light,
and you we are resourced throughit.
SPEAKER_00 (15:38):
Yeah.
Okay, and then uh the idea ofresistance being in service.
I love that on so many levelsbecause, like you said, so often
when we do have a sense ofresistance around something, it
was a protective thought orinstinct or pattern at one time.
And so it was in our service,like your story where you stuck
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the bobby pin into the outlet,like it served, you know?
And so when it serves, we tendto keep those things around
because we might need them againlater.
But recognizing it as such,like, is this making me
brighter?
Is this making me shine?
Was this something that'sactually allowing more light to
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flow through me, or is itsomething that's dimming my
light?
And then using that as kind ofyour benchmark for making a
choice forward.
SPEAKER_01 (16:28):
Yeah, it's beautiful, you know, and also
there is a continual, continual,continual improvement of the
current paradigms and problems.
I have this example that is socool.
So every year we've gone todifferent beach homes.
I've since manifested our ownbeach home.
It's just life is good.
The stuff works, okay.
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Life is good.
But two years ago, we are at thebeach house for a week with my
family, and within that oneweek, we make three emergency
room visits.
First, my son, then my daughter,then my husband.
Three different conditions, butevery other day I'm taking
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somebody to emergency room.
Now, as I'm observing this, hereceives excellent service, we
barely wait for anything, andthe problem is resolved
beautifully.
So when there is a consistentrepetition, you want to pause
and say, which program in mylife is replaying itself?
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It's a great question.
So I'm like, oh, wait a minute.
I have a subconscious program.
I'm so grateful for greatmedical service.
Now I know where that program isborn.
A year prior to that, my dad hada very invasive open heart
surgery.
And during that surgery, we'vereceived the most magnificent
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medical care and medicalservice.
Now, is it better to have aprogram doctors of phenomenal
versus doctors of crooks thatare looking to take advantage of
me?
Both are true, by the way.
Both are true.
That pharmaceuticals saves lifeand pharmaceuticals kills life.
Both are true.
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Your truth will be the oneyou're choosing to believe.
So if you are choosing there'sgreat medical service, you will
start receiving great medicalservice.
But but that frequency ofgratitude became so dominant in
my energy that I've startedcreating patterns of delivery of
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great medical service.
Once again, is it better thanthe program, all doctors suck,
and seeing that replay in yourlife?
Yes, it is.
But I had to be like, oh mygosh, I'm the common
denominator.
And I've told everybody youwon't believe the amazing
medical service we got.
You won't like over and over andover again.
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So I sit there and I say, okay,here's a million-dollar
question.
What is a better paradigm to beat a frequency of?
And a better paradigm is I'm sograteful for my regenerating
restorative health, for myimmune system that is rebooting
itself into complete wholenessand in the well-being.
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I'm so amazed that with everyyear I age chronologically, I'm
stronger, more beautiful, morevibrant, biological, without
need of excellent medicalservice.
Okay, download, right?
I'm gonna bring that as adownload for everybody who wants
it, who is into energy work.
We're just gonna make this asacred space of a download.
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Wow.
So the point is right now,that's the highest frequency I'm
at.
I'm witnessing it, I'm amazed,and I'm sure that in a year or
two there will be a betterfrequency and a better and a
better and a better one, andcontinue improving and increase.
And what's important, this iscoming very strongly for us.
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What's important is to know eacharea of your life where you are
and go to the next level.
So, areas of your life, yourhealth, your intimate
relationships, your family, yourfriends, your career, your
business, they're not one andthe same.
Your passion, your calling, yourservice, your money, all areas
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of your life.
You look at each area and yousay, which one of these four
levels of well-being am I at?
Am I at survival?
Am I at acceptability?
Am I at success?
Am I at significance?
Because spiritually, you mightbe at significance, financially,
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you might be at survival, andbecause you're financially at
survival and spiritually atsignificance, you're insisting
on trying to be in significancein your finances, and you're
stuck, and you don't know whyyou're stuck, and you're stuck
because just like thermometer,temperature needs to go in order
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after survival comes stability.
So you go into each, every areaof your life, and you say, Wow,
let's see which questions I'masking here, and what is the
next level accessible questionto me?
If I'm single and I want asoulmate, I'm probably
subconsciously asking, Why am Isingle?
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Why is my partner foundsomebody?
Why can't I find the rightperson?
What has happened to all thegood people?
Why are all the good peopletaken?
That's a pre-survival question.
So we're gonna shift it to whatis the one quality that I have
that is going to bring mysoulmate into my life?
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Wow, what is the one qualitythat I have that is bringing the
ideal soulmate in my life?
That's stability, right?
So hopefully that I feel I knowit, that that will help somebody
to get really unstuck today.
SPEAKER_00 (22:12):
Yeah, I feel like that helped me get unstuck
today.
I love that.
Well, and just the there were somany things that you said that
were so powerful, but I loveespecially that idea of balance
because I think that sometimeswe can get frustrated, right?
Because we can look at one facetof our life and say, I've got
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something figured out in thisfacet of my life, but perhaps
having a hard time translatingit into other areas.
And so, again, that idea ofnoticing your questions.
And then I love whenever I'mteaching mindfulness to kids,
we're always working in what'scalled the zone of proximal
development, right?
Like that next baby step thatthey can achieve with some help.
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And so the idea of the nextquestion makes so much sense to
me.
And I love it because I think ifyou can tether it to that system
you've created where it's likestability or uh say the S's
again.
SPEAKER_01 (23:11):
Survival, stability, success, significance.
And I've learned it from threecombining it from three
different resources, which isJim Rowan, Brian Bathini, and
John Maxwell.
They are bits of their inputthat all of a sudden made
perfect sense for me.
SPEAKER_00 (23:29):
Yeah, but I love the idea of using that as a
framework for the question.
Like if you're at one stage andyou're just looking to go the
next one instead of jumping allthe way up to significance or
instead of asking somethingthat's on par with where we are
now, looking to the next one andbeing able to access a different
reality based on asking thatquestion pertaining to the area
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we want to go.
SPEAKER_01 (23:54):
Sorry, I almost interrupted you, forgive me.
And so, what is as a bridge tobe clear about that?
Because I think somebody wouldbe asking, okay, how, you know,
how do I know where I am?
So from survival to stability isa change of habit.
So the question will be whataction can I take today to get
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me out of survival to stability?
If my goal is to have fit andvibrant body, never to lose
weight, because what we lose, wemust find.
None of us are ever gonna loseweight again because it's not
ours, we're not losing it,right?
We're gonna be in our vibrant,radiant body.
We're just so excited to berestoring our vibrant, radiant
body.
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That's our goal.
And so, if my goal is to restorea vibrant body, and I say, right
now, that vibrant body is 300pounds and happier than it
should be.
Okay, we're gonna go to theextreme.
I'm going to say I'm definitelyin survival.
So, what is the one habit?
What is my one non-negotiablehabit?
And you do one little habit andyou say, I'm gonna have seven
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glasses of water no matter what,just one.
I'm gonna do seven glasses ofwater no matter what this week.
That's from survival tostability.
You do water first, and onceyou're doing water, you're gonna
do next week.
And now I'm going to do 500steps no matter what.
You cannot go at 300, 500 poundsand no water to 10,000 steps.
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You have no capacity yet withinyou to prove to yourself that
it's possible for you.
You want to have a small win soyou can prove to yourself that a
big win is possible.
So you're gonna say sevenglasses of water, and then the
next habit, 500 steps, and thennext habit, a thousand steps.
So once you've gotten thosehabits, you go from survival,
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from stability to success, whichis I think I'm doing it.
I think I am doing it is amindset shift.
So from survival to stability,change of habits, from stability
to success, change of mindset.
There's so much talk of changeof mindset right now, and it's
important.
I actually teach on six factorsof mindset that have to be
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changed.
But if you don't have a habit totune in to Lindsay's podcast
weekly and listen to it, youwill not shift the mindset that
her podcast gives you, right?
So we don't think about it, butfrom survival to stability, it's
a habit.
So if you're in survival, ifyou're going through devastating
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divorce and you're barelysurviving, you've got to ask
yourself, what is the one actionI can do that gets me to
stability through this?
And that action will be I'mgonna shower and put makeup on
every day, no matter what.
Right?
So habit.
And then mindset is fromstability to success.
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And once you shift the into thesuccess, and success is my
finances support my dreams.
That's definition of success.
And we all have differentdreams, and so for us, for some
of us, finances very minimallycan make us very happy.
We shouldn't be looking atsomebody who makes 40 million
and spends 39 and a half, right?
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My finances support my dreams.
I'm successful, and you knowyour dreams, you know, your
finances, and then significanceis a change of heart.
And a change of heart is how doI serve relentlessly?
And I gotta tell you, if you'redevastated, it is virtually
impossible to have that changeof heart.
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So habits, mindset, heart-that'sthe scale for every area of your
life.
SPEAKER_00 (27:41):
That was so beautiful.
I could just listen to you talkabout that all day long.
I love the recognition that alittle bit goes a long way.
Because I think sometimes whenwe have conversations like this,
if a listener is looking at youor they're looking at someone
who's really made a strongcontainer for their light, you
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know what I mean?
Allowed it so fully.
And they're like, that feelslike such a far distance.
Again, like reframing in thoseways, but recognizing that at
each juncture, a little more ofyour light is radiating, right?
And we're we're uncovering thelight with every one of those
tiny steps, whether it is aliteral step to get 500 steps a
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day, or whether it is the glassof water, a little more of you
is coming alive and lighting upwith every single one of those
actions or thoughts or patternsthat you're resetting.
SPEAKER_01 (28:37):
Absolutely.
You know, it's actually a law.
My most recent book is calledProsper Me, this 35 universal
laws to make money work for you.
And that is a law, it's a KaizenWei law.
It's a Japanese system of KaizenWei, that the most prominent and
permanent way to make a lastingchange is with teeny tiny
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increments.
And you know, in the chapter Iwrite, which comes, it's very
aligned, I think, with theenergy.
You have an amazing energy ofyou listeners, by the way.
As I'm tuning in, it's very highfrequency.
People that have come to changethe world, that I mean, really,
truly, just you've created suchsacred space as I'm feeling that
energy, and it's a privilege tobe here, it really is.
So, you know, so for thataudience, you know, for the
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spiritual junkie who will lovethis next comment is people talk
about quantum leap.
And what I found is that veryfew understand what it is.
I mean, what's like with quantumleap?
It's like you go to bed, afailure, you wake up, guru.
Nope, that's not quantum leap,that's delusion.
Okay, that is delusion.
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So let's look at what a quantumleap is on quantum physics,
right?
Because metaphysics, my degreeis quantum physics and
spirituality being married.
So when you look at quantumleap, it comes from the concept
of quantum physics of quantumjump.
So in our atom, we have aproton.
Know there's a nucleus which isa proton and neutron, and the
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electrons are flying around.
We've all seen from chemistrythat picture of a little
electron flying around theproton, it flies around, okay?
We now know it goes in a wavearound, whatever.
So it keeps moving around andaround and around consistently,
over and over and over and overagain, until there's a moment in
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time when a spark of light, aphoton, hits that system.
And because the electron is inthe movement, the light hits it
on the movement and carries itto the next level almost
instantaneously.
So two things are mandatory toexperience the quantum leap,
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that quote unquote overnightsuccess, steady, boring,
predictable movement of makingthe same steps over and over and
over again while exposingyourself to higher and higher
frequencies of light until thereis a right enlighted thought,
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idea, a moment that hits yourmovement and propels you to a
brand new level.
So, whatever it is you'recurrently doing, you've got to
keep doing it while seeking ahigher frequency of light.
It's very important.
SPEAKER_00 (31:26):
That's so beautiful.
I think I've said that everytime you stop talking.
I mean, that's reality.
You're not describing ametaphor, you're describing
life, right?
And that's the building block oflife.
And then translating that upinto experience is such a
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powerful way to consider it,like maintaining action while
exposing yourself to greater andgreater amounts of light.
SPEAKER_01 (31:54):
That's it.
That's the recipe for quantumleap.
And you don't control when andhow it happens, you only control
the effort you put in to bothcontinue with actions and
opening yourself to light.
And then when that momenthappens and they continue
happening in a mostunpredictable way, that is the
definition of a miracle.
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That is the definition of amiraculous life.
You trust the process of miracleby putting your effort and yet
trusting the divine.
SPEAKER_00 (32:26):
Yes.
Yeah.
And I really can appreciate howyou know, in the process of
seeking the light and seekingthe action, that it can feel a
little bit tiring oroverwhelming, or you have to be
a little patient sometimes,right?
(32:46):
But I think that when you haveenough experiences where the
light lands while you're takingthe action, you start to trust,
right?
In a different way.
And you're like, I know it'llcome if I continue.
I don't know when or how, but Iknow it'll come somehow.
SPEAKER_01 (33:05):
Yeah.
You know, the word that yousaid, discouragement, is just
huge.
Actually, you didn't say that Iheard it.
That's pretty cool.
What you've described was theprocess of discouragement,
right?
And it's fascinating because Iliterally just did uh a small
live on Instagram I felt sostrongly.
Because when you look at theword courage, it comes from
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Latin word core, which iscorazon, which is heart.
And so when you have courage,you're tuned in to what's in
your heart or what your sacredself is.
And when you're discouraged,it's because you've lost the
connection with your heart andyou're now stuck in your brain.
And how do you know you're beingdiscouraged is when you're
overthinking.
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When you catch yourself in thepattern of overthinking, you are
discouraging yourself becauseyou disconnected yourself from
your heart.
I would much rather everyone,and I've lived it, go and make a
mistake and recalculate versusbeing terrified of making a
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mistake and overthinking andgrinding yourself into
discouragement.
You know, the creator cannot,the divine cannot move, cannot
re redirect your path if you'renot moving your feet.
So it's much better to startwalking in the wrong direction,
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hit a wall and turn around andstart heading back, than it is
sitting being terrified thatyou're gonna hit a wall.
Because that is thediscouragement, because you go,
Oh my gosh, what if I do thisand I'm wrong?
So you'll find out you're wrongand you'll recalculate and
you're gonna go the right way,right?
(34:51):
So that paralyzing fear ofoverthinking is what prevents us
from becoming courageous andblundering forward.
You know, you've got to laugh atthose blunders.
When my son was about, I don'tknow, nine months, somewhere
there, he would eat spaghettiwith his hands, maybe 10 months.
(35:12):
You know, he just started hardfood and probably older,
probably doesn't matter.
You know, before you report meto child protective services,
whatever the age for eatingspaghetti is legit because it's
been a while.
He just turned 22 and graduatedhis college.
So whatever the spaghettiapproved age is, but anyway, he
(35:32):
would eat it with his handsbecause he didn't know how to
eat it with his pork yet, and hewould put it on his head and
then he would fall asleep, andhe would, and I would just have
these videos where he is coveredwith spaghetti and he's asleep.
I just thought it was the cutestthing as a parent.
I would just laugh.
Well, I think it's important forus to realize that that's how we
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look like to the divine sourcefrom which we've come.
We cover ourselves withspaghetti all day long, and
there is no harsh judgment.
There is like, aren't you cute?
Let me clean you up, let me justclean you up and let me show you
a better way.
Once we accept that we are thataccepted by our creator, we can
(36:21):
start learning to loveourselves, laugh at our
spaghetti, and move forward.
Because there's not a day that Igo, don't go like, oh girl, you
outdid yourself.
That one is really the winner,right?
So yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (36:36):
Yeah, that's such a powerful thought.
And I agree wholeheartedly thatlike grace is what we're met
with no matter what.
Just that gentle grace.
And that when we recognize itand then can start to offer it
to ourselves, everything changesbecause in those moments when we
would, like you said, createthat disconnect.
(36:56):
How could I have done that?
That was so dumb.
I can't believe like thathappened.
I don't know what I wasthinking.
I mean, all those thoughts,right?
That is that disconnect fromheart that you're describing.
And that's such a powerful wayto think of that word.
I have never thought of it likethat before, but it's true that
when we get stuck in our heads,we lose that connection with our
heart.
And then as a result, we losetouch with the level of grace
(37:19):
that we could be carried with,should we just allow ourselves
to be.
SPEAKER_01 (37:25):
Yeah, I think asking for anybody who's a parent who's
listening, you know, I'vehomeschooled my kids, and I can
tell you the greatest advicethat I have is the sooner you
tell your kids forgive me, thefaster you will heal you and any
relationship that needs to behealed.
(37:45):
Because I've got secret, theyalready know you're not perfect,
so you don't have to beupholding the image that they
know you don't have.
And so I just remember veryvividly, you know, my kids are
25 and 22 right now, incrediblehuman beings.
But my daughter was about six orseven, and I was losing it, I
(38:08):
was shrieking on top of my lungsover nothing at her.
And all of a sudden I go, Whatam I doing?
And I looked at her and I said,Please forgive me.
This should not be happening.
Mommy needs to put herself in atimeout.
And I walked out of the room, Iclosed the door, and I'm like,
dude, what in the world are youdoing?
(38:30):
You know?
And then she came in and shesaid, Mommy, you're gonna be
okay.
And we just cry, right?
You're gonna be okay, and sojust whatever relationship
you're in, just saying, not I'msorry, because I'm sorry robs
you of your light.
There's nothing sorry about you.
(38:51):
There's stuff you've done thatdid not deserve you, and that
you will do that does notdeserve you for the rest of your
life.
There's nothing sorry about you,but saying forgive me, you're
saying give me another chance toremember the light that I am.
Give me forgive me, and so whois it that person in your life
right now?
(39:12):
Just call them and say, Forgiveme.
I'm remembering who I am, I wantto be that person.
So, yeah, it's huge.
SPEAKER_00 (39:20):
Yeah, yeah, there's so much to that, and again,
expectations sometimes that weset on ourselves to be that
person, whether it's with ourkids or whether it's in our work
or in relationship, and how ifwe can acknowledge, like you
just said, there are going to bethose moments as humans where
our potential doesn't match ouraction, and so we can just own
(39:44):
that, like you've done multipletimes in the last couple of
minutes, and sometimes it's abig deal, you know.
Sometimes it's it's in a reallybig way, no matter who we are or
where we are.
But if we can just know from theoutset, like as humans, those
are gonna be your experiences.
And then I love that translationof forgive me, like give me
another opportunity to approachthis like in a fuller light.
SPEAKER_01 (40:08):
Yeah, over and over and over and over again.
You know, when I say me, one ofour sub brands, Little Am Big E,
as a formula of who I am, whoeach one of us is.
And so when I say I am me, inour app, empower-me, the
empowerment of me is little amis my mortal matter that
(40:29):
manifests materially.
I'm sorry, I have to poop everyday.
Flashlight, I am so sorry.
There's good, it is just gonnahappen, okay?
That's this mortal matter that'sgonna happen, but I'm also
eternal energy, the essence thatexpands.
And so the journey of this lifethat's cared M and sacred E.
(40:54):
So I surrender my mortal to myeternal, my matter to my energy,
my manifesting to my expansive,and my material to my essential
over and over and over a milliontimes a day.
And the only way I can do it isby accepting both and not
denying myself.
You know, we have heard, Ithink, one too many times that
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I'm not this physical body, andI say, Oh, yes, you are.
Your higher self has chosen toslow the energy down so that it
manifests as matter, so you canlearn to love all the faults and
frailties and shortcomingsbecause that is the only way to
master love.
(41:36):
It's easy to love perfection.
How much harder it is to lovemistaken matter.
That's what we've all chosen,and then we say we're not it.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (41:50):
The amount of love and power flying around this
podcast, I can hardly evenhandle it.
I'm just so grateful.
I'm so grateful for thisconversation that I just feel
like you blew the roof off somany of these ideas.
And I love the impact thatyou've brought today and what
that will ripple out into ourlisteners.
I mean, into my life for sure,but into our listeners and into
(42:12):
the spaces where light willshine better and more fully and
with more clarity as a result ofyour visit today.
SPEAKER_01 (42:20):
Thank you.
It's been an honor and great joyfor me.
SPEAKER_00 (42:24):
Thank you.
Before we go, will you sharemore about your books, more
about how people can connectwith you, your app, your work?
How can they learn more withyou?
SPEAKER_01 (42:34):
The fastest way to get in touch is going to our
website, which is yu number twoshine.com, u2 shine.com.
A fun, fun, fun thing we'vecreated is a moneyquiz.me.
When you go to moneyquiz.me,it's going to tell you driving
emotion and which laws ofabundance that driving emotion
(42:58):
is being blocked by.
So if you take the quiz, it's afunky, fun way to discover.
Oh wow, I'm value-driven or I'mcompassion driven, or I'm
simplicity driven.
So enjoy the quiz, moneyquiz.me.
And the greatest gift, Ibelieve, we have so many
programs, services, but thegreatest gift I'm called to
(43:19):
share is our empower-me app.
I believe it is the mostprofound way to be empowered
daily.
We're continually adding thedepth to that.
I would invite anybody to leaninto it fully.
SPEAKER_00 (43:36):
Thank you.
Thank you again for being heretoday.
It was such a gift to talk withyou, Victoria.
SPEAKER_01 (43:43):
You have created such sacred space.
Oh my gosh, Lindsay.
Seriously, seriously.
Thank you, thank you, thank you,thank you.
I don't think this is a goodbye.
I'm pretty sure our paths willcross again.
I hope so.
SPEAKER_00 (43:56):
Thanks for listening to The Stress Nanny.
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For more tools and support, headover to www.thestressnanny.com.
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Remember, you don't have to dostress alone.
Together, we can raise kids whoknow how to navigate life with
confidence and ease.
Until next time, take a deepbreath and give yourselves some
grace.
Welcome to the Stress Nanny, the podcast where
we take the overwhelm out ofparenting and help kids and
parents build calm, confidence,and connection.
I'm your host, Lindsay Miller,Kids Mindfulness Coach and
Cheerleader for busy familieseverywhere.
Each week we'll explore simpletools, uplifting stories, and
practical strategies to helpyour child learn emotional
(00:42):
regulation, resilience, andself-confidence, while giving
you a little more peace of mindtoo.
I'm so glad you're here.
My guest today is VictoriaRader, PhD.
She's the possibility coach andfounder of U2 Shine.
Victoria is a globallyrecognized transformational
speaker featured in Forbes andseen on CNN, Fox, ABC, and NBC.
(01:04):
A pioneer of quantum personaldevelopment, Victoria created
innovative tools likemygiftoffer.com, ME Journals,
Empower Me, and Master Me apps.
A multiple times best-sellingaward-winning author, she's also
featured in the Zero Limitsmovie.
Her work frees individualstoward fulfillment and
prosperity.
(01:24):
Her teachings have reached eventhe moon through the Lunar
Legacy Project.
Victoria's mission is to helpothers to quantum leap their
life by remembering and shiningtheir light through love.
And she represents that withlife originating vibrant
emotion.
An avid reader, traveler, tennisplayer, and a dog lover,
Victoria's greatest joy in lifeis her family.
(01:45):
Above all, Victoria is clearthat all that has been
accomplished by her has simplybeen accomplished through her
via God's infinite divine grace.
Victoria, thank you so much forjoining me today.
SPEAKER_01 (01:56):
Thank you so much, Lindsay.
I'm looking forward to ourconversation.
SPEAKER_00 (02:00):
I am too.
So I first just want to hearfrom your perspective how you
got into this work.
I mean, what you've built andthe way that you help people,
it's really incredible.
And I know we kind of can startout with aspirations, but we
build them a little at a time.
So help us understand how yougot to where you are now.
SPEAKER_01 (02:19):
You know, I think with this as with everything,
there's so many starting points.
I'm a big believer that when wecross this mortal veil, we will
look back and we'll say, oh, itall makes sense.
And it all started the moment Iwas born.
You know, I think we will allhave that crisp clarity because
all of a sudden you go like, ohyeah, oh yeah, oh yeah.
(02:40):
And so I just wanted to share acouple, oh yes, you know, that
makes sense.
One of them was I was born inUkraine, and when I came to the
United States, I came with avery different financial
mindset.
Back home, we did not have acredit card.
You spent only the money youhad, and you had a debit card
attached to your account.
And so when I came first to theUS, got married, had my two
(03:02):
children, I decided it was agreat idea to take them to
Greece to start homeschoolingthem and to show them the
antique world.
So when we went to Greece, wehad amazing three weeks.
I came home and my husband setme down and he said, now, honey,
just so that you know, thelittle plastic you were swiping,
there's nothing attached to it.
You put us into debt.
(03:24):
And I was like, What?
There's no money, you canactually buy stuff with no
money.
I mean, you know, the idea.
I know it sounds stupid, right?
But I'm just saying it's like,you mean you can actually buy
stuff with?
I mean, I just had this catch22, you know, like, okay, okay,
we're not rich.
You know, I now know we're notrich.
(03:45):
Okay, this is good to know.
This is 2006-07.
So when the real estate in theUnited States is the homes are
flying off shelves likecupcakes, predatory lending,
which I didn't know what it was,didn't know anything about it.
But I go online and I put inwhat's the fastest way to make
money in America while stayinghome with children.
(04:07):
I actually put that into Google.
Um the all-loving,all-known-knowing Google says
real estate.
And without two thingshappening, without thinking, I
know that I won't sacrifice whatI've seen that it did for my
kids.
I now know what adventure tasteslike.
So I have a why that ispalpable.
(04:27):
And I said, I'm gonna dowhatever it takes to provide my
kids with that because it's nota theory, it's a real life
experience.
I get into real estate, I'mnaturally a very shy person.
So the first year I just sob.
I sob every night, you know,complete discomfort of talking
to people, sales.
But I remember while I'm crying,right?
(04:49):
Long story short, within a yearand a half, the recession hits
within the first year realestate.
And within a year and a half,just by doing consistent, very
simple, very small steps everyday, I become top 1% of the
agents in the country.
And all of a sudden, everybodywants to know my secret.
And it's a very boring secret,which is do these five things
(05:11):
every day, and nobody wants tohear it.
But then I ask the nextquestion, I said, wait a minute,
why is it that I do them?
And people who are more capablethan me have more experience
than me, some of them muchsmarter than me, some of them
much more service-oriented thanme, people that have better
qualifications in differentareas of my life are not doing
(05:35):
these things.
And asking that question got meon the journey of what Bob
Proctor called knowing, doinggap.
It's how do you close the gapbetween knowing what you've got
to be doing and actually doingit so you can see the results?
That threw me into understandingthe subconscious mind.
(05:56):
I got the PhD in metaphysics,and this is where gotcha,
something makes sense, came in.
I realized that as a kid, I wasa very psychic kid.
I could feel people's energy, Icould tune into people's energy,
and now I realized, oh my gosh,I've had this unfair advantage
(06:19):
of tuning into the outcome priorto the outcome, pursuing things
that will work, letting gothings that don't work, and
there isn't a practical way toteach it without expanding your
spiritual capacity.
So that's the practical responseas to how U2 Shine was born as a
(06:40):
company where we teach you howto know who you are spiritually,
how to shift your energy andyour subconscious mind so that
you can take practical steps andhave more peace, purpose,
passion, and prosperity.
My favorite piece.
SPEAKER_00 (06:57):
Yes.
And we're gonna get into those,which I love, because I think
one of the things that isstriking to me about your story
is that it was kind of atreasure hunt, it sounds like.
I mean, you didn't start outwith all those pieces, right?
You knew you had that meaning,like you said, the why.
You're like, I want to give mykids adventure.
I want them to have a broadperspective of the world and
(07:20):
understand the global mindset.
And I got to figure out how toget there.
And then as you were going, youpicked up, you know, like you
said, the awareness and you wereable to tune into your gifts in
a different way.
And then that adding on a pieceat a time was how you came to
where you are today.
I love that.
SPEAKER_01 (07:40):
I love the definition treasure hunt because
I think that's what this lifeis, right?
And I think we put all of ourefforts either burying our
treasure or digging it out.
I think that's the twoprocesses.
So I loved how you define it.
SPEAKER_00 (07:56):
Talk to me more about that.
What do you see?
How do you see people buryingit?
SPEAKER_01 (08:02):
I think the greatest fear that we carry, it comes
from the Course of Miracles.
You know, I actually did a 52video program on a Course of
Miracles after I read MarianWilliamson's take on it.
And she was the one that tookthe Course of Miracles and the
phrase in it that said, it isnot our darkness that we fear,
(08:23):
it is our light.
And I was just like, wait aminute, wait a minute.
It is so true.
Because if I discover the lightthat I am, I'll have to do
something about it.
And isn't it so much safer tostay within the wound that I am?
And is it so much safer to godown the self-pity path?
(08:48):
Because that's the only way I'veknown how to receive attention.
And so every day I believe we'resitting, like making two
choices.
I call them the choice betweenscared and sacred.
Every day, every one of us hasthese two voices in our mind.
One voice says, Don't do it,don't rock the boat, survive.
(09:11):
And the other voice says, Go forit.
And every moment of every day,we're either choosing the scared
part or the sacred part.
You know, and the language camefrom a client of mine came to me
and said, I cannot commit.
She goes, I cannot commit.
I either overcommit orundercommit.
And I went to start telling her,these are the ways to be
(09:32):
committed, you know, because I'ma persistent junkie.
I'm like, oh, rhino, you know,I'm a rhino.
And all of a sudden the spiritis like, no, no, no, everybody's
incredibly committed.
You're like, what?
Yeah, everybody's incrediblycommitted.
We're either committed to ourscared self and we'll sacrifice
(09:53):
everything because we're socommitted, or we're committed to
our sacred self.
So it's the life of shifting thecommitment.
And I love the treasure hunt.
It's going like, am I burying oram I digging?
Am I burying or am I digging?
And I believe, in a practicalsense, because I love the
practicality of it, it's thequestions that we ask
(10:16):
internally.
Once you start listening to thequestions you ask internally,
you immediately know whetheryou're burying the light that
you are, so that nobody can hurtit, want anything from it, or
whether you're pursuing it.
SPEAKER_00 (10:33):
Oh my gosh.
I love that.
I love the idea of monitoringyour internal questions with an
eye toward the sacred.
That seems so poignant andbeautiful because I agree that
in the moments when life invitesus, as you shared earlier, like
the invitation you got, okay,you can say, Well, there's
(10:56):
nothing I can do about this.
I guess my kids won't see what Iknow that is possible for them.
I'll just give up on that.
Or like instead, your dialogue,your dialogue wasn't like, why
me?
Why did this happen to me?
Why couldn't I have more access,you know, to travel for them?
Your act, your dialogue was howcan I make this happen?
(11:16):
I know it's important.
SPEAKER_01 (11:18):
Yeah, yeah, you know, and uh here's a secret
preview.
You know, I'm preparing a TEDtalk, and in that TED talk, I
actually give the power shiftsof questions, and you've just
summarized it so succinctly.
So when you hear yourself say,Why, right?
Why not?
Why can't I just shift it to howto?
(11:40):
That really is the first shiftbecause it's so easy to hear it.
When you say, Oh my gosh, that'sso unfair.
How could it happen?
Not that how, you know, why wasit so unfair?
When you hear that, justunderstand you're committing to
the scared, and yoursubconscious will answer that
and you'll bury it deeper.
So say, okay, I felt that wasunfair.
(12:01):
How was it unfair in a way thatis advantageous to me?
It is huge.
How was this situation that Ibelieve is harming?
How was it to teach me?
How was it to benefit me?
Because a part of it truly was,and it's a very vulnerable
conversation.
(12:21):
But if you would like to havethe life of fulfillment, it's a
conversation to be had.
SPEAKER_00 (12:29):
Well put.
Yeah, well, and I love with yourcompany the you to shine and you
know, light me up.
It's the idea being at eachjuncture, right?
We're trying to make the choiceto uncover that light a little
bit more, to let that lightshine, to let the light that we
are as individuals grow brighterin this world.
SPEAKER_01 (12:51):
You know, I had what comes to mind because I channel
so much information, the story Ishare often, but in different
contexts, and that is I wasabout five and I was at home
with my grandpa.
My grandpa in Ukraine waswatching me, my dad's dad, and I
was a very creative child.
And so I wanted to create ahanger for my doll's dress.
(13:14):
I took the doll's dress off andI was going to hang it
somewhere, and I looked aroundand saw the electrical socket.
So I pulled the metal pin out ofmy hair.
I opened it nicely and I pluggedit in because it would have made
a perfect hanger, right?
SPEAKER_00 (13:30):
It was resourceful for sure.
SPEAKER_01 (13:32):
It was resourceful, right?
Oh, oh girl, you're so intuitivebecause resourceful is
reconnecting to the source.
We're gonna stay with that wordof resourceful right there,
right there.
So I plug in into the source ofpower.
Gratefully, I don't getelectrocuted because the fuses
blow.
The fuses blow and theresistance saves me.
(13:54):
That is such a powerful lessonbecause resistance inside us is
there to save us.
It has saved us before.
So when you have electricitycoming to the house, all of the
devices have the same input.
Your refrigerator, your lightbulbs, all the devices have the
same input.
But the output, the amount oflight that they're letting out
(14:18):
is defined by resistance insidethe device.
So a little 15-watt light bulbis so dim inside the fridge, but
a 100-watt light bulb is sobright in your living room.
So you go, okay, you and I areconnected to the source.
We're literally resourced by thesource of light, and the
(14:39):
resistance we put to that flowwill define how much light we're
putting out, and as a result,how much abundance, true,
genuine abundance of love,relationships, but also
financial abundance to supportlove and relationships we
receive.
So then you say, What is theresistance in me?
(15:01):
And that's where the geneticdrama, trauma, unworthiness,
subconscious beliefs, all ofthat is that block that brings
the power down.
SPEAKER_00 (15:12):
Oh my gosh.
Metaphor, you're speaking mylanguage because on this podcast
I love metaphors.
So I'm gonna be sitting withthat one for a while.
It's a beautiful, it's sobeautiful.
SPEAKER_01 (15:24):
Yeah, so resource, resource, resource.
We all have the same source, wedefine it differently.
I say God, create a worlddesigner.
You know, however you define thesource of all love, all light,
and you we are resourced throughit.
SPEAKER_00 (15:38):
Yeah.
Okay, and then uh the idea ofresistance being in service.
I love that on so many levelsbecause, like you said, so often
when we do have a sense ofresistance around something, it
was a protective thought orinstinct or pattern at one time.
And so it was in our service,like your story where you stuck
(15:59):
the bobby pin into the outlet,like it served, you know?
And so when it serves, we tendto keep those things around
because we might need them againlater.
But recognizing it as such,like, is this making me
brighter?
Is this making me shine?
Was this something that'sactually allowing more light to
(16:20):
flow through me, or is itsomething that's dimming my
light?
And then using that as kind ofyour benchmark for making a
choice forward.
SPEAKER_01 (16:28):
Yeah, it's beautiful, you know, and also
there is a continual, continual,continual improvement of the
current paradigms and problems.
I have this example that is socool.
So every year we've gone todifferent beach homes.
I've since manifested our ownbeach home.
It's just life is good.
The stuff works, okay.
(16:49):
Life is good.
But two years ago, we are at thebeach house for a week with my
family, and within that oneweek, we make three emergency
room visits.
First, my son, then my daughter,then my husband.
Three different conditions, butevery other day I'm taking
(17:09):
somebody to emergency room.
Now, as I'm observing this, hereceives excellent service, we
barely wait for anything, andthe problem is resolved
beautifully.
So when there is a consistentrepetition, you want to pause
and say, which program in mylife is replaying itself?
(17:32):
It's a great question.
So I'm like, oh, wait a minute.
I have a subconscious program.
I'm so grateful for greatmedical service.
Now I know where that program isborn.
A year prior to that, my dad hada very invasive open heart
surgery.
And during that surgery, we'vereceived the most magnificent
(17:55):
medical care and medicalservice.
Now, is it better to have aprogram doctors of phenomenal
versus doctors of crooks thatare looking to take advantage of
me?
Both are true, by the way.
Both are true.
That pharmaceuticals saves lifeand pharmaceuticals kills life.
Both are true.
(18:17):
Your truth will be the oneyou're choosing to believe.
So if you are choosing there'sgreat medical service, you will
start receiving great medicalservice.
But but that frequency ofgratitude became so dominant in
my energy that I've startedcreating patterns of delivery of
(18:42):
great medical service.
Once again, is it better thanthe program, all doctors suck,
and seeing that replay in yourlife?
Yes, it is.
But I had to be like, oh mygosh, I'm the common
denominator.
And I've told everybody youwon't believe the amazing
medical service we got.
You won't like over and over andover again.
(19:02):
So I sit there and I say, okay,here's a million-dollar
question.
What is a better paradigm to beat a frequency of?
And a better paradigm is I'm sograteful for my regenerating
restorative health, for myimmune system that is rebooting
itself into complete wholenessand in the well-being.
(19:25):
I'm so amazed that with everyyear I age chronologically, I'm
stronger, more beautiful, morevibrant, biological, without
need of excellent medicalservice.
Okay, download, right?
I'm gonna bring that as adownload for everybody who wants
it, who is into energy work.
We're just gonna make this asacred space of a download.
(19:47):
Wow.
So the point is right now,that's the highest frequency I'm
at.
I'm witnessing it, I'm amazed,and I'm sure that in a year or
two there will be a betterfrequency and a better and a
better and a better one, andcontinue improving and increase.
And what's important, this iscoming very strongly for us.
(20:09):
What's important is to know eacharea of your life where you are
and go to the next level.
So, areas of your life, yourhealth, your intimate
relationships, your family, yourfriends, your career, your
business, they're not one andthe same.
Your passion, your calling, yourservice, your money, all areas
(20:33):
of your life.
You look at each area and yousay, which one of these four
levels of well-being am I at?
Am I at survival?
Am I at acceptability?
Am I at success?
Am I at significance?
Because spiritually, you mightbe at significance, financially,
(20:54):
you might be at survival, andbecause you're financially at
survival and spiritually atsignificance, you're insisting
on trying to be in significancein your finances, and you're
stuck, and you don't know whyyou're stuck, and you're stuck
because just like thermometer,temperature needs to go in order
(21:15):
after survival comes stability.
So you go into each, every areaof your life, and you say, Wow,
let's see which questions I'masking here, and what is the
next level accessible questionto me?
If I'm single and I want asoulmate, I'm probably
subconsciously asking, Why am Isingle?
(21:36):
Why is my partner foundsomebody?
Why can't I find the rightperson?
What has happened to all thegood people?
Why are all the good peopletaken?
That's a pre-survival question.
So we're gonna shift it to whatis the one quality that I have
that is going to bring mysoulmate into my life?
(21:57):
Wow, what is the one qualitythat I have that is bringing the
ideal soulmate in my life?
That's stability, right?
So hopefully that I feel I knowit, that that will help somebody
to get really unstuck today.
SPEAKER_00 (22:12):
Yeah, I feel like that helped me get unstuck
today.
I love that.
Well, and just the there were somany things that you said that
were so powerful, but I loveespecially that idea of balance
because I think that sometimeswe can get frustrated, right?
Because we can look at one facetof our life and say, I've got
(22:35):
something figured out in thisfacet of my life, but perhaps
having a hard time translatingit into other areas.
And so, again, that idea ofnoticing your questions.
And then I love whenever I'mteaching mindfulness to kids,
we're always working in what'scalled the zone of proximal
development, right?
Like that next baby step thatthey can achieve with some help.
(22:58):
And so the idea of the nextquestion makes so much sense to
me.
And I love it because I think ifyou can tether it to that system
you've created where it's likestability or uh say the S's
again.
SPEAKER_01 (23:11):
Survival, stability, success, significance.
And I've learned it from threecombining it from three
different resources, which isJim Rowan, Brian Bathini, and
John Maxwell.
They are bits of their inputthat all of a sudden made
perfect sense for me.
SPEAKER_00 (23:29):
Yeah, but I love the idea of using that as a
framework for the question.
Like if you're at one stage andyou're just looking to go the
next one instead of jumping allthe way up to significance or
instead of asking somethingthat's on par with where we are
now, looking to the next one andbeing able to access a different
reality based on asking thatquestion pertaining to the area
(23:52):
we want to go.
SPEAKER_01 (23:54):
Sorry, I almost interrupted you, forgive me.
And so, what is as a bridge tobe clear about that?
Because I think somebody wouldbe asking, okay, how, you know,
how do I know where I am?
So from survival to stability isa change of habit.
So the question will be whataction can I take today to get
(24:16):
me out of survival to stability?
If my goal is to have fit andvibrant body, never to lose
weight, because what we lose, wemust find.
None of us are ever gonna loseweight again because it's not
ours, we're not losing it,right?
We're gonna be in our vibrant,radiant body.
We're just so excited to berestoring our vibrant, radiant
body.
(24:36):
That's our goal.
And so, if my goal is to restorea vibrant body, and I say, right
now, that vibrant body is 300pounds and happier than it
should be.
Okay, we're gonna go to theextreme.
I'm going to say I'm definitelyin survival.
So, what is the one habit?
What is my one non-negotiablehabit?
And you do one little habit andyou say, I'm gonna have seven
(24:59):
glasses of water no matter what,just one.
I'm gonna do seven glasses ofwater no matter what this week.
That's from survival tostability.
You do water first, and onceyou're doing water, you're gonna
do next week.
And now I'm going to do 500steps no matter what.
You cannot go at 300, 500 poundsand no water to 10,000 steps.
(25:22):
You have no capacity yet withinyou to prove to yourself that
it's possible for you.
You want to have a small win soyou can prove to yourself that a
big win is possible.
So you're gonna say sevenglasses of water, and then the
next habit, 500 steps, and thennext habit, a thousand steps.
So once you've gotten thosehabits, you go from survival,
(25:45):
from stability to success, whichis I think I'm doing it.
I think I am doing it is amindset shift.
So from survival to stability,change of habits, from stability
to success, change of mindset.
There's so much talk of changeof mindset right now, and it's
important.
I actually teach on six factorsof mindset that have to be
(26:09):
changed.
But if you don't have a habit totune in to Lindsay's podcast
weekly and listen to it, youwill not shift the mindset that
her podcast gives you, right?
So we don't think about it, butfrom survival to stability, it's
a habit.
So if you're in survival, ifyou're going through devastating
(26:29):
divorce and you're barelysurviving, you've got to ask
yourself, what is the one actionI can do that gets me to
stability through this?
And that action will be I'mgonna shower and put makeup on
every day, no matter what.
Right?
So habit.
And then mindset is fromstability to success.
(26:50):
And once you shift the into thesuccess, and success is my
finances support my dreams.
That's definition of success.
And we all have differentdreams, and so for us, for some
of us, finances very minimallycan make us very happy.
We shouldn't be looking atsomebody who makes 40 million
and spends 39 and a half, right?
(27:12):
My finances support my dreams.
I'm successful, and you knowyour dreams, you know, your
finances, and then significanceis a change of heart.
And a change of heart is how doI serve relentlessly?
And I gotta tell you, if you'redevastated, it is virtually
impossible to have that changeof heart.
(27:34):
So habits, mindset, heart-that'sthe scale for every area of your
life.
SPEAKER_00 (27:41):
That was so beautiful.
I could just listen to you talkabout that all day long.
I love the recognition that alittle bit goes a long way.
Because I think sometimes whenwe have conversations like this,
if a listener is looking at youor they're looking at someone
who's really made a strongcontainer for their light, you
(28:03):
know what I mean?
Allowed it so fully.
And they're like, that feelslike such a far distance.
Again, like reframing in thoseways, but recognizing that at
each juncture, a little more ofyour light is radiating, right?
And we're we're uncovering thelight with every one of those
tiny steps, whether it is aliteral step to get 500 steps a
(28:26):
day, or whether it is the glassof water, a little more of you
is coming alive and lighting upwith every single one of those
actions or thoughts or patternsthat you're resetting.
SPEAKER_01 (28:37):
Absolutely.
You know, it's actually a law.
My most recent book is calledProsper Me, this 35 universal
laws to make money work for you.
And that is a law, it's a KaizenWei law.
It's a Japanese system of KaizenWei, that the most prominent and
permanent way to make a lastingchange is with teeny tiny
(28:57):
increments.
And you know, in the chapter Iwrite, which comes, it's very
aligned, I think, with theenergy.
You have an amazing energy ofyou listeners, by the way.
As I'm tuning in, it's very highfrequency.
People that have come to changethe world, that I mean, really,
truly, just you've created suchsacred space as I'm feeling that
energy, and it's a privilege tobe here, it really is.
So, you know, so for thataudience, you know, for the
(29:22):
spiritual junkie who will lovethis next comment is people talk
about quantum leap.
And what I found is that veryfew understand what it is.
I mean, what's like with quantumleap?
It's like you go to bed, afailure, you wake up, guru.
Nope, that's not quantum leap,that's delusion.
Okay, that is delusion.
(29:42):
So let's look at what a quantumleap is on quantum physics,
right?
Because metaphysics, my degreeis quantum physics and
spirituality being married.
So when you look at quantumleap, it comes from the concept
of quantum physics of quantumjump.
So in our atom, we have aproton.
Know there's a nucleus which isa proton and neutron, and the
(30:03):
electrons are flying around.
We've all seen from chemistrythat picture of a little
electron flying around theproton, it flies around, okay?
We now know it goes in a wavearound, whatever.
So it keeps moving around andaround and around consistently,
over and over and over and overagain, until there's a moment in
(30:26):
time when a spark of light, aphoton, hits that system.
And because the electron is inthe movement, the light hits it
on the movement and carries itto the next level almost
instantaneously.
So two things are mandatory toexperience the quantum leap,
(30:48):
that quote unquote overnightsuccess, steady, boring,
predictable movement of makingthe same steps over and over and
over again while exposingyourself to higher and higher
frequencies of light until thereis a right enlighted thought,
(31:08):
idea, a moment that hits yourmovement and propels you to a
brand new level.
So, whatever it is you'recurrently doing, you've got to
keep doing it while seeking ahigher frequency of light.
It's very important.
SPEAKER_00 (31:26):
That's so beautiful.
I think I've said that everytime you stop talking.
I mean, that's reality.
You're not describing ametaphor, you're describing
life, right?
And that's the building block oflife.
And then translating that upinto experience is such a
(31:46):
powerful way to consider it,like maintaining action while
exposing yourself to greater andgreater amounts of light.
SPEAKER_01 (31:54):
That's it.
That's the recipe for quantumleap.
And you don't control when andhow it happens, you only control
the effort you put in to bothcontinue with actions and
opening yourself to light.
And then when that momenthappens and they continue
happening in a mostunpredictable way, that is the
definition of a miracle.
(32:15):
That is the definition of amiraculous life.
You trust the process of miracleby putting your effort and yet
trusting the divine.
SPEAKER_00 (32:26):
Yes.
Yeah.
And I really can appreciate howyou know, in the process of
seeking the light and seekingthe action, that it can feel a
little bit tiring oroverwhelming, or you have to be
a little patient sometimes,right?
(32:46):
But I think that when you haveenough experiences where the
light lands while you're takingthe action, you start to trust,
right?
In a different way.
And you're like, I know it'llcome if I continue.
I don't know when or how, but Iknow it'll come somehow.
SPEAKER_01 (33:05):
Yeah.
You know, the word that yousaid, discouragement, is just
huge.
Actually, you didn't say that Iheard it.
That's pretty cool.
What you've described was theprocess of discouragement,
right?
And it's fascinating because Iliterally just did uh a small
live on Instagram I felt sostrongly.
Because when you look at theword courage, it comes from
(33:27):
Latin word core, which iscorazon, which is heart.
And so when you have courage,you're tuned in to what's in
your heart or what your sacredself is.
And when you're discouraged,it's because you've lost the
connection with your heart andyou're now stuck in your brain.
And how do you know you're beingdiscouraged is when you're
overthinking.
(33:48):
When you catch yourself in thepattern of overthinking, you are
discouraging yourself becauseyou disconnected yourself from
your heart.
I would much rather everyone,and I've lived it, go and make a
mistake and recalculate versusbeing terrified of making a
(34:09):
mistake and overthinking andgrinding yourself into
discouragement.
You know, the creator cannot,the divine cannot move, cannot
re redirect your path if you'renot moving your feet.
So it's much better to startwalking in the wrong direction,
(34:30):
hit a wall and turn around andstart heading back, than it is
sitting being terrified thatyou're gonna hit a wall.
Because that is thediscouragement, because you go,
Oh my gosh, what if I do thisand I'm wrong?
So you'll find out you're wrongand you'll recalculate and
you're gonna go the right way,right?
(34:51):
So that paralyzing fear ofoverthinking is what prevents us
from becoming courageous andblundering forward.
You know, you've got to laugh atthose blunders.
When my son was about, I don'tknow, nine months, somewhere
there, he would eat spaghettiwith his hands, maybe 10 months.
(35:12):
You know, he just started hardfood and probably older,
probably doesn't matter.
You know, before you report meto child protective services,
whatever the age for eatingspaghetti is legit because it's
been a while.
He just turned 22 and graduatedhis college.
So whatever the spaghettiapproved age is, but anyway, he
(35:32):
would eat it with his handsbecause he didn't know how to
eat it with his pork yet, and hewould put it on his head and
then he would fall asleep, andhe would, and I would just have
these videos where he is coveredwith spaghetti and he's asleep.
I just thought it was the cutestthing as a parent.
I would just laugh.
Well, I think it's important forus to realize that that's how we
(35:56):
look like to the divine sourcefrom which we've come.
We cover ourselves withspaghetti all day long, and
there is no harsh judgment.
There is like, aren't you cute?
Let me clean you up, let me justclean you up and let me show you
a better way.
Once we accept that we are thataccepted by our creator, we can
(36:21):
start learning to loveourselves, laugh at our
spaghetti, and move forward.
Because there's not a day that Igo, don't go like, oh girl, you
outdid yourself.
That one is really the winner,right?
So yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (36:36):
Yeah, that's such a powerful thought.
And I agree wholeheartedly thatlike grace is what we're met
with no matter what.
Just that gentle grace.
And that when we recognize itand then can start to offer it
to ourselves, everything changesbecause in those moments when we
would, like you said, createthat disconnect.
(36:56):
How could I have done that?
That was so dumb.
I can't believe like thathappened.
I don't know what I wasthinking.
I mean, all those thoughts,right?
That is that disconnect fromheart that you're describing.
And that's such a powerful wayto think of that word.
I have never thought of it likethat before, but it's true that
when we get stuck in our heads,we lose that connection with our
heart.
And then as a result, we losetouch with the level of grace
(37:19):
that we could be carried with,should we just allow ourselves
to be.
SPEAKER_01 (37:25):
Yeah, I think asking for anybody who's a parent who's
listening, you know, I'vehomeschooled my kids, and I can
tell you the greatest advicethat I have is the sooner you
tell your kids forgive me, thefaster you will heal you and any
relationship that needs to behealed.
(37:45):
Because I've got secret, theyalready know you're not perfect,
so you don't have to beupholding the image that they
know you don't have.
And so I just remember veryvividly, you know, my kids are
25 and 22 right now, incrediblehuman beings.
But my daughter was about six orseven, and I was losing it, I
(38:08):
was shrieking on top of my lungsover nothing at her.
And all of a sudden I go, Whatam I doing?
And I looked at her and I said,Please forgive me.
This should not be happening.
Mommy needs to put herself in atimeout.
And I walked out of the room, Iclosed the door, and I'm like,
dude, what in the world are youdoing?
(38:30):
You know?
And then she came in and shesaid, Mommy, you're gonna be
okay.
And we just cry, right?
You're gonna be okay, and sojust whatever relationship
you're in, just saying, not I'msorry, because I'm sorry robs
you of your light.
There's nothing sorry about you.
(38:51):
There's stuff you've done thatdid not deserve you, and that
you will do that does notdeserve you for the rest of your
life.
There's nothing sorry about you,but saying forgive me, you're
saying give me another chance toremember the light that I am.
Give me forgive me, and so whois it that person in your life
right now?
(39:12):
Just call them and say, Forgiveme.
I'm remembering who I am, I wantto be that person.
So, yeah, it's huge.
SPEAKER_00 (39:20):
Yeah, yeah, there's so much to that, and again,
expectations sometimes that weset on ourselves to be that
person, whether it's with ourkids or whether it's in our work
or in relationship, and how ifwe can acknowledge, like you
just said, there are going to bethose moments as humans where
our potential doesn't match ouraction, and so we can just own
(39:44):
that, like you've done multipletimes in the last couple of
minutes, and sometimes it's abig deal, you know.
Sometimes it's it's in a reallybig way, no matter who we are or
where we are.
But if we can just know from theoutset, like as humans, those
are gonna be your experiences.
And then I love that translationof forgive me, like give me
another opportunity to approachthis like in a fuller light.
SPEAKER_01 (40:08):
Yeah, over and over and over and over again.
You know, when I say me, one ofour sub brands, Little Am Big E,
as a formula of who I am, whoeach one of us is.
And so when I say I am me, inour app, empower-me, the
empowerment of me is little amis my mortal matter that
(40:29):
manifests materially.
I'm sorry, I have to poop everyday.
Flashlight, I am so sorry.
There's good, it is just gonnahappen, okay?
That's this mortal matter that'sgonna happen, but I'm also
eternal energy, the essence thatexpands.
And so the journey of this lifethat's cared M and sacred E.
(40:54):
So I surrender my mortal to myeternal, my matter to my energy,
my manifesting to my expansive,and my material to my essential
over and over and over a milliontimes a day.
And the only way I can do it isby accepting both and not
denying myself.
You know, we have heard, Ithink, one too many times that
(41:16):
I'm not this physical body, andI say, Oh, yes, you are.
Your higher self has chosen toslow the energy down so that it
manifests as matter, so you canlearn to love all the faults and
frailties and shortcomingsbecause that is the only way to
master love.
(41:36):
It's easy to love perfection.
How much harder it is to lovemistaken matter.
That's what we've all chosen,and then we say we're not it.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (41:50):
The amount of love and power flying around this
podcast, I can hardly evenhandle it.
I'm just so grateful.
I'm so grateful for thisconversation that I just feel
like you blew the roof off somany of these ideas.
And I love the impact thatyou've brought today and what
that will ripple out into ourlisteners.
I mean, into my life for sure,but into our listeners and into
(42:12):
the spaces where light willshine better and more fully and
with more clarity as a result ofyour visit today.
SPEAKER_01 (42:20):
Thank you.
It's been an honor and great joyfor me.
SPEAKER_00 (42:24):
Thank you.
Before we go, will you sharemore about your books, more
about how people can connectwith you, your app, your work?
How can they learn more withyou?
SPEAKER_01 (42:34):
The fastest way to get in touch is going to our
website, which is yu number twoshine.com, u2 shine.com.
A fun, fun, fun thing we'vecreated is a moneyquiz.me.
When you go to moneyquiz.me,it's going to tell you driving
emotion and which laws ofabundance that driving emotion
(42:58):
is being blocked by.
So if you take the quiz, it's afunky, fun way to discover.
Oh wow, I'm value-driven or I'mcompassion driven, or I'm
simplicity driven.
So enjoy the quiz, moneyquiz.me.
And the greatest gift, Ibelieve, we have so many
programs, services, but thegreatest gift I'm called to
(43:19):
share is our empower-me app.
I believe it is the mostprofound way to be empowered
daily.
We're continually adding thedepth to that.
I would invite anybody to leaninto it fully.
SPEAKER_00 (43:36):
Thank you.
Thank you again for being heretoday.
It was such a gift to talk withyou, Victoria.
SPEAKER_01 (43:43):
You have created such sacred space.
Oh my gosh, Lindsay.
Seriously, seriously.
Thank you, thank you, thank you,thank you.
I don't think this is a goodbye.
I'm pretty sure our paths willcross again.
I hope so.
SPEAKER_00 (43:56):
Thanks for listening to The Stress Nanny.
If you found today's episodehelpful, be sure to share it
with a friend who could use alittle extra calm in their week.
And if you have a minute, I'dlove for you to leave a review.
It helps other parents find theshow and join us on this
journey.
For more tools and support, headover to www.thestressnanny.com.
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Remember, you don't have to dostress alone.
Together, we can raise kids whoknow how to navigate life with
confidence and ease.
Until next time, take a deepbreath and give yourselves some
grace.
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My Favorite Murder is a true crime comedy podcast hosted by Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark. Each week, Karen and Georgia share compelling true crimes and hometown stories from friends and listeners. Since MFM launched in January of 2016, Karen and Georgia have shared their lifelong interest in true crime and have covered stories of infamous serial killers like the Night Stalker, mysterious cold cases, captivating cults, incredible survivor stories and important events from history like the Tulsa race massacre of 1921. My Favorite Murder is part of the Exactly Right podcast network that provides a platform for bold, creative voices to bring to life provocative, entertaining and relatable stories for audiences everywhere. The Exactly Right roster of podcasts covers a variety of topics including historic true crime, comedic interviews and news, science, pop culture and more. Podcasts on the network include Buried Bones with Kate Winkler Dawson and Paul Holes, That's Messed Up: An SVU Podcast, This Podcast Will Kill You, Bananas and more.
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