#002 How do I make the right decisions?

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Life is full of decisions.  How do I make the right decisions? 

Some are easy, while others are more difficult.

The results of these decisions vary greatly in their effect on our lives and on the lives of others. Some decisions will be life changing.  
  So how do we know how to make the right decision? How do we know if we're making the right decision?

And what if there isn't a wrong outcome to our decision? 

Episode Transcript

Todd (00:01):
Hi, this is Todd Castle To the surrendered soul podcast
where Zach Funk and I discussreal life issues and how to find
the ever elusive key to reallife and total freedom.
Life is full of decisions.
You might even say that life isa series of decisions.
Some are easy, while others aremore difficult.
The results of these decisionsvary greatly in their effect on

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our lives and on the lives ofothers.
Some decisions will be lifechanging.
And even as we will see anddiscuss.
Determine the destination of oursoul.
So how do we know how to makethe right decision?
How do we know if we're makingthe right decision?
And what if there isn't a wrongoutcome to our decision?
thank you for making thedecision to join us on this

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podcast.
And please stay tuned as Zachand I discuss the whys, the
hows, and the solutions to whatto do when I have a decision to
make and yet fears and doubts.
Come and stand in my way.
If you have questions about thisor any of our podcast content,
please feel free to reach out tous and shoot us an email at the
surrendered soul, 24 at gmail.

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com.
That email address again is thesurrendered soul, 24 at gmail.
com.

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So today's topic, I have toadmit, I am excited

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about this.

Todd (01:41):
And with some trepidation, this

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (01:44):
hitting pretty close

Todd (01:45):
home on some of this stuff.
I've had to

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learn

Todd (01:47):
the hard way and God's been it my heart

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (01:50):
anyway.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:51):
And,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (01:51):
but I think, We're kind of looking
at what three different topicstoday.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:55):
the practice, practicing rigorous

todd-castle_1_05- (01:58):
authenticity, surrendering to the outcome and
also that of, doinguncomfortable work.
But in our Pre recording chat,we kind of understood that

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (02:08):
there's going to be a lot of overlap in
this conversation.
So, as we think about thepractice of rigorous
authenticity

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (02:14):
what does that

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what are we, what are we thinking
about when we talk about thatconcept of being authentic,
being real?
Before we get into that, yeah, Ithink, These three concepts kind
of bundle into decision makingand what we,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (02:29):
what we filter

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through.
And I think, yeah, I've been on

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (02:34):
a little longer of

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journey through these.
I, maybe,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (02:37):
I introduced them to you,

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yeah,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (02:40):
when you start working here, but I
think

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they, yeah, are

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (02:44):
kind of the platform of making a lot
of

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in life.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (02:48):
So, yeah, as far as the rigorous

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authenticity,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (02:53):
it's just the fact of going

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the extra mile

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of making sure that the individual

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that you're communicating

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (03:02):
with, working with,

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is actually understanding the
content and motive and themeaning behind what you're
talking about.

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (03:10):
There's so many times in our society
where we're, we're

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conditioned and used to white lies.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (03:15):
we We, hear a lie and we just
filter it and accept it

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and

todd-castle_1_05-21-2 (03:22):
interpret what

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (03:23):
it means.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (03:24):
We don't even think about it when
people are,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (03:27):
yeah,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (03:27):
lying to us in ways.
and I think that's something

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that

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (03:32):
people are not even used to you Not
using

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lies.

Todd (03:37):
And I would even maybe argue that they would expect To
a certain degree because we'reconditioned in our society
culture today to tell me what Iwant

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hear.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (03:48):
Rather than just what is real.

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And so,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (03:51):
and, and, and on the other side of
that, when you do find somebodythat is real, real is

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is very transparent, there would be

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (03:58):
another way to put

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this.
It's refreshing,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (04:01):
but yet we still

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have that inner thing to want to hear
the good news.
We want to hear what we want tohear, and, as we think about it
from a

todd-castle_1_05-21- (04:12):
Scriptural point of view.

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scripture talks a ton about walking in the
light, a ton about being,

todd-castle_1_05-21-20 (04:19):
searched and known at a very core level.
And I, and I, this kind of goesback to our previous podcast on
the whole thought of thesubconscious and

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conscious alignment

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (04:31):
being authentic and real all the way
through.
So, to walk in that, to walk inthe light, would, it would be an
indication of

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Even if

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it's to my own detriment, if even if
it

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is going to make me

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (04:43):
look bad, put me in a bad light,

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my reputation, I'm still willing to
walk into that, because that iswhat is real.
That is who we are asChristians.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (04:53):
That is who we are as,

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as Christians.
followers of Jesus.
And, yeah.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (04:58):
what's your thoughts

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that?

Zach (05:00):
Well, yeah, it's human nature

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to filter

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responses.
We

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (05:07):
try to look ahead at the, the
consequences of the responsebefore we just.
Tell the truth.
well, how's this going to sound?
How are they going to receiveit?
How are they going to thinkabout me after they

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it?

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instead of just telling

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truth.
And typically we

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (05:25):
are pretty good at telling the
truth.
But it's slanted to make it notsound as bad.
or, or one way or another.

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one

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (05:34):
me, one of the areas just in
everyday life

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is in

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sales.
When people ask me if I can, if

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can do any better on the price.
Can we sell it any cheaper?
and

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I'll just

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them, I can give you

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the product or whatever for free

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if I want to, but I'm not willing to
do it.
And it

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typically totally takes him off guard

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because fact of the matter is, for me
saying no, I can't go any lower,well that's a lie.
I mean, I can go to whatever Iwant to.
You

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can pay them to.
take it.
Yeah,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (06:05):
yeah, so, so, so it's those white lies
that we've conditioned to where,well, it's what you're meaning
when you say that is, well,that's not what you're saying.
So, and then I think it affectsin a lot of areas from just
working with brothers in thechurch, how we slant when
someone asks us about asituation or asks us how we're

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doing or something that happened

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in our life, we're, we're pretty
good at.

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Slanting

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it one way or another to.
make it sound

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in some situations or better in
other situations.
For, for whatever motive,

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (06:42):
whether it's to save our reputation or
to slam the, the, the situationin somebody

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favor.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (06:50):
We're we're pretty good at that rather

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just

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actually laying it out exactly how it
was.
Making sure that everybody

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on the same page and knows whatever
we're talking about.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (07:00):
Yeah, and I think that, that is very
true.
We, we, we very much conditionedourselves and those around us to

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being fine.
How are you doing?
Fine.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (07:12):
And that may not necessarily be the
truth.
What does that mean?
What does that, how does thatlook?
And obviously not always whensomebody asks

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they have the inclination

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (07:20):
or desire to hear all of my dirty
laundry.
But maybe I'm not doing fine.
Maybe it

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have not being real in that in that
answer.
And

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (07:28):
um, maybe I am struggling in an area
and I think it's okay.
Just No, I've had a rough week.
Um,

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Thanks for your prayers.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (07:35):
and that you can leave it at that,
but the being real and thinkingthrough that rather than

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rather than trying to put

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up that self preservation,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (07:43):
self mask, if you would essentially
hypocrisy.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (07:47):
So what are

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (07:48):
some thoughts?
I want to discuss a little

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bit on what does it

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look like to live without fear for
that in that requiredvulnerability?
Because it really to live thatauthentic, to live that real, to
live that raw, we're looking atA lot of vulnerability.
And this

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gets

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the whole aspect, I think, about
how, how surrendered am I thatyou are, that I can allow you to
hurt me

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or be hurt

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by you or anyone.
It's, it's,

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so that's a whole, that's almost a
topic in and of

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itself.
the the thought of offenses andbeing able to be hurt, but there
is a sense of vulnerability.
There is an openness there.
So I want

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (08:29):
discuss a little bit

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on what, what that looks like.
What does it actually take?
to be able to open up to thatvulnerability and, and, And live
without fear in that.
Because I think that that wouldbe one obstacle that could come
up in our lives.
It's it's scary, to be real, tobe honest, to be raw.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (08:47):
well, I think that

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connects

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right in with the second one, the
surrendering the outcome.
because that that's

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Until we surrender the outcome

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of whatever we say or whatever is
going on,

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we will never be able to be
authentic and

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (09:05):
just lay it out with, for whatever
we're

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with.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (09:08):
We're going to

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always be trying to manipulate the
outcome of whatever it is.

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But once we surrender the

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that life is going to be

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as God wants it, as long as I'm,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (09:23):
yeah.
Honest,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2 (09:24):
authentic with others and him.
I, think that's, yeah, a wholenother thing is

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to

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manipulate God

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goofy as it sounds, we do, we do try
it.
And

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (09:36):
so I, I think that that's the,
probably the biggest hurdle isjust constantly trying to
control

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how

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (09:43):
others see us and think about us and
perceive us.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (09:47):
and

todd-castle_1_05-21- (09:47):
manipulate

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situations.
Yeah, I would

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (09:51):
agree that that is probably the
biggest hurdle and that bringsthe fear factor into it.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (09:56):
I think one of the solutions to
that would be

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believing

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in God, the purposeful surrendering
of

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our security of our identity of who
I am

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as a child, a son of God,

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a daughter of God

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leaning hard into that.
because we are have to transfer

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (10:18):
that security

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in what you think of me or somebody
thinks of me and which isessentially what you're doing

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or what we're doing

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we are, when that fear comes into
us

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (10:29):
as self preservation is

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fear of man and so transferring that
to fear of God.
To even beyond, I think, almosta fear of God is a resting in
God that He is faithful.
He is my father and He is good,

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and nothing can happen

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me

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that He doesn't allow in my life.

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And He, not only

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is willing

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protect

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me in my raw vulnerability,

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but he

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is desiring for that for me because
It exposes weaknesses.
It exposes,

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it

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (11:01):
gets rid of self

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and lets him do the work he's
wanting to do

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (11:05):
in this given situation in my
heart.
Maybe

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the person's

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (11:08):
other

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (11:08):
heart, all of it just ties together.
That's just how he operates.
But, but

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (11:14):
yeah, resting in the identity

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (11:15):
of the righteousness that is
imputed to us is a huge, hugething.
I think that can't be overstated

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (11:22):
because that is

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the removal of fear that does give
us the peace.
And then it doesn't matter atthat point.
But

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (11:28):
and then, then there's a couple
other things in that as well.
The, The, the assurance that mysalvation Is solid, that I am

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (11:36):
his and that he is mine, I think is

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (11:39):
a very sobering, but exciting.

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And

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (11:42):
that's what gives us

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piece.
that That we need to

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be vulnerable

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (11:47):
and to be open.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (11:48):
Yeah.
I'm glad you brought that up.
The whole idea of our identity,

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because that that is the only if we're,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (11:57):
if we're

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we're trying to be a Christian

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (12:00):
as

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on our own or

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (12:02):
or we are trying to be a Christian,

DJI_20240521174752_003 (12:05):
there's, it'll

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (12:07):
never work.
We've already lost the battle.
Yeah.
Exactly.
Yeah, it, it won't work.
We

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have to have our identity in him and
take on his righteousness is.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (12:17):
the

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the only

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (12:19):
way any of this, any of these three
steps will, will truly work andfor, for long term Amen.
Amen.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (12:27):
is

todd-castle_1_05-21-20 (12:27):
actually realizing that in and of
ourselves,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (12:31):
we

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (12:31):
are nothing.
We can't prove anything.
We can't be good enough.
We can't act good enough.
or

DJI_20240521174752_00 (12:37):
Anything.
I

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (12:38):
mean, we is all we

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (12:39):
to do is rely on

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (12:42):
the Holy Spirit's guidance

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (12:44):
and act on that without trying

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (12:48):
to filter it.
But just being,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (12:50):
yeah, like I

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (12:52):
said earlier, the idea of

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (12:53):
real to people,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (12:54):
But we also have

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to be authentic with God.
And when, yeah, the

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (12:58):
Holy Spirit prompts, when

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (12:59):
we have to be

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (13:00):
Willing to act.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (13:01):
Yeah,

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (13:02):
willing to act on it and and live, live,
yeah, with our, our identity inhim

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (13:08):
not what we have,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (13:10):
what we have done or created.
Yeah.
They're this concept of coursehas been rolling around in my
head some, and the thought that

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (13:17):
because

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (13:18):
God knows us, we do not need for
others to know us.

DJI_20240521174752_003 (13:22):
sobering is so counterculture.
I mean,

todd-castle_1_05-21- (13:26):
everything around us screams for

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (13:28):
screams for look at me, you know,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (13:31):
make a name, and whatever that
entails and whatever that

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (13:35):
bring the money, the fame, the

todd-castle_1_05-21- (13:37):
notoriety.
the good reputation, all thesedifferent idols that

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (13:41):
we justify in our minds

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (13:44):
because that is the culture we live in.
And that's not what God calls usto.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (13:48):
and, and,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (13:48):
and being surrendered to if God
knows

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (13:50):
me, and I know him

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (13:52):
then no one else

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (13:54):
to It's good enough.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (13:55):
God is good enough.
I did a little reading DickBrogdon had a point in here that
I thought was really relevant

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (14:01):
to this point.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (14:02):
I might put it in here, but

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (14:04):
he

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (14:04):
said a couple of different things.
When we understand that Jesusknows us intimately and loves us
deeply, despite what he knowsabout us, this

DJI_20240521174752_0 (14:12):
alleviates any need to be known and exalted
by others.
And because God knows us we keepno secrets.
And

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (14:20):
I think that is so powerful.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (14:22):
And

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (14:23):
to say that

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (14:23):
keep no secrets is not

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (14:24):
to encourage this

DJI_20240521174752_003 (14:25):
constant self revelation that we see in
all these all the

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (14:30):
things.
But it simply means that inrelationships with God

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (14:33):
and others, we have nothing to hide.
We have no skeletons, in thecloset.
We have no lies to lie about.
we have nothing false orshameful to conceal.
to be secretless is to be atpeace

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (14:45):
always, Thank you.
Never fearful that someone willdiscover something negative
about us.
And this

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (14:49):
the message.
This is a

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (14:50):
hard point to get to,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (14:52):
but

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (14:53):
God knows it all and we have brought
everything into his light sothat we are impervious to scorn

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (14:58):
blame.
This is a great freedom

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (15:01):
and the secret to a powerful life
according to Dick Brogdon.
So it's a, it's a very, I thinkthis is a very

DJI_20240521174752_00 (15:07):
pertinent to allowing

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (15:10):
the Holy Spirit

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (15:11):
do his work to

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (15:13):
have full reign

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (15:14):
and to just give up, surrender that
to him.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (15:17):
Yeah.
And I think that's

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (15:18):
of a catch 22 though,

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (15:20):
because if you're,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (15:21):
if you're known by God and the, you

todd-castle_1_05-21-2 (15:27):
surrender the idea of what people

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (15:29):
of you and making

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (15:31):
your own facade, those around you are
going to actually know youbetter.
You will actually be known bythem, of them, better than

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (15:40):
Then you

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (15:41):
would have before.
That just isn't your intent orgoal anymore.
Exactly.
It's not your focus.
Yeah, yeah.
But, but I think naturally, I

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (15:50):
in

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (15:50):
any relationship, somebody that's
trying to

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (15:54):
put on

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (15:54):
a facade, the individuals around
them are going to be like, uh,we kind of know him.
we think we do.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (16:00):
And then there's some

todd-castle_1_05-21- (16:01):
situations we aren't sure.
Mm hmm.
Whereas.

DJI_20240521174752_003 (16:04):
somebody that's just authentic.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (16:08):
and doesn't have anything to prove,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (16:10):
people are going to

todd-castle_1_05-21-20 (16:12):
actually know them.
Their close friends around themwill know them

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (16:17):
in a, yeah, in a better way.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (16:19):
And that, the authenticity of that
is refreshing because as wespoke about in our last podcast,
the, the concept of

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (16:29):
being

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (16:30):
real ,at core

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (16:32):
comes out.
If we're not,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (16:34):
if that, if there's a, if there is
something in

DJI_20240521174752 (16:38):
inauthentic, something false in us, it comes
out under pressure.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (16:41):
So when we're put into

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (16:42):
hard situation or an instant response
situation,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (16:46):
we all of

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (16:46):
of a sudden,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (16:47):
our real

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (16:48):
us comes out.
And, and

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (16:51):
and so

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (16:51):
if, if, if

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (16:52):
this is the real us, if we are

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (16:54):
real and wrong, All the time.
Then, when

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (16:57):
the real

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (16:58):
out, you can predict how I will
respond.
You can be like, no, I know him,and that is not him.
If something

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (17:05):
is being allegations come against
or whatever, I know

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (17:09):
him.
He will not, he would notrespond to that Or

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (17:12):
given in this situation, this

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (17:13):
how he would respond.
'cause this is how he has alwaysresponded.
'cause it's always real.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (17:17):
A person who is not

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (17:19):
in that

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (17:20):
real, not authentic, I don't know how
he's gonna respond.
He'll probably fly off thehandle or he'll

DJI_20240521174752_003 (17:25):
whatever response is real in him, will
come out at that point.
And, or whatever

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (17:31):
trials and heartaches life throws at
us, we

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (17:34):
out of

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (17:34):
the realness of our heart versus,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (17:37):
and so

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (17:38):
to make our daily life,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (17:40):
that realness, is important.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (17:42):
As

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (17:42):
we think about and you

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (17:43):
touched on this a little bit, the
thought of communication becausea lot

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (17:47):
times communication is where the
authentic

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (17:51):
comes out, but it's also this area
that we

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (17:53):
get the most

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (17:54):
thick, the thickest mask.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (17:56):
Where we can

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (17:58):
say one thing to one group of people
and say and

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (18:01):
be

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (18:01):
another thing to another group

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (18:02):
people.
That's not being authentic.
That's

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (18:05):
not

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (18:05):
real.
but

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (18:07):
yeah, I'd like maybe discuss a little
bit more on how we, how we getthat,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (18:10):
mask

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (18:10):
removed or how we can

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (18:13):
help someone get through that.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (18:15):
If that is an issue

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (18:16):
in our lives.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (18:17):
Yeah.
I don't know.
There would be, I, like I said,I think it

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (18:21):
is the

todd-castle_1_05-21-20 (18:22):
probably the one of the biggest ways
because we have been soconditioned to

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (18:27):
I mean, we've, yeah, been used to,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (18:31):
I

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (18:31):
know,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (18:31):
half communicating for, for so long.
So I don't know what you ask,how to, how you work through it
or how, I think it's baby steps.
I mean, I mean, you start with,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (18:43):
start

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (18:44):
with some of the, the harmless white
lies And just start refusing togive into them.
Like I'm not going to use thatlanguage

DJI_20240521174752_003 (18:52):
anymore.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (18:53):
I mean, I I don't know exactly how
long it's been since I foundthese three things.
probably five or six years.
And at least for me, that'swhere it was.
I mean, it was just, yeah,starting on the simple things.
That seemingly are totallyharmless.
And it really doesn't matter.
But just removing those out ofmy life,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (19:13):
I'm not going to.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (19:15):
start using language that's not

DJI_20240521174752_0 (19:19):
authentic.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (19:20):
That's

DJI_20240521174752_003 (19:21):
slanting it.

todd-castle_1_05-21- (19:22):
Basically, if there's a better way to say
it that's more clear, use it.
If you can come up with any wayto be more clear about
something, it.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (19:30):
And then, at least for

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (19:32):
myself, as soon as I started down that

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (19:34):
it was,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (19:36):
you start picking it up on everybody

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (19:38):
you.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (19:38):
you.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (19:39):
It's ah, that was kind of a white
lie, they're kidding us.
that's not

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (19:42):
not what they meant at all.
That's what they said.
But,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (19:45):
and you can

todd-castle_1_05-21-2 (19:46):
translate cause you kind of know what they
meant, but, and then it getsdeeper and deeper.
and if you're serious about it,yeah,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (19:54):
you end up in situations that

todd-castle_1_05-21-20 (19:57):
Suddenly it's,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (19:58):
you

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (19:59):
find yourself, yeah, I guess it gets
harder and harder

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (20:02):
and deeper to Do

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (20:05):
not let

DJI_20240521174752_003 (20:05):
yourself

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (20:07):
slant

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (20:07):
things to,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (20:09):
for

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (20:10):
your benefit or in any situation,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (20:13):
I mean, whether it's with your
children or your wife orwhatever,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (20:17):
just

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (20:18):
the, the situations get bigger and
bigger

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (20:20):
where it seems like things would be.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (20:23):
Where the,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (20:24):
you can tell the truth, but it's

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (20:26):
not necessarily in the,

DJI_20240521174752_003 (20:27):
context.
And, and stuff

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (20:29):
like that.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (20:30):
And,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (20:31):
you can keep working at it and
remove all that stuff.
There's, there's freedom thereand

DJI_20240521174752_003 (20:38):
there's.

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (20:39):
There's situations that get resolved, Or
situations that don't

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (20:43):
come up.
Just

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (20:44):
because there's a trust there.
Like, when you're dealing withan individual,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (20:51):
and

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (20:52):
it's all out on the table, and they
know that it's all out on thetable, there's a trust there,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (20:58):
that

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (20:58):
that's the only way

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (20:59):
get it, is

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (21:00):
by

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (21:01):
being

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (21:01):
totally authentic.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (21:02):
And people can tell.
And they can, yeah, they

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (21:07):
whether they realize it or not, they
make decisions and treat youdifferently if they know that
you're being totally

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (21:13):
with them and you're just

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (21:16):
laying it

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (21:17):
for them to make a decision.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (21:19):
on.
I think that's important.
I think the concept of the babysteps is important.
I know for me, it's been ajourney.
It's almost like muscle memorybecause our muscle memory, our
mind being the muscle is slantedtowards telling the

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (21:35):
lies.
And and sometimes they're morewhite.
Sometimes they're not so white,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (21:40):
but they're still lies.
And so

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (21:42):
at first, that first

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (21:43):
that first

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (21:44):
you

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (21:45):
feel really vulnerable.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (21:46):
And I think that there is also

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (21:48):
the desire

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (21:49):
to be authentic needs to be deep.
Because

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (21:54):
there's going to be times when you have
to go backwards.
There's been times that I've hadto go back

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (21:57):
say, you know what?
I said this, but this isactually how it was.
And you repent for that.
And you have to

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (22:03):
course correct

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (22:04):
that.
And I think each time you coursecorrect in that

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (22:08):
and bring it back to center, bring
it back to It is a

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (22:12):
it, it helps our minds

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (22:14):
and our hearts.

DJI_20240521174752_00 (22:15):
Actually,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (22:16):
our hearts are

DJI_20240521174752_00 (22:17):
corrected at that point

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (22:18):
because I think there's a direct
correlation there.
and so, so to go back to

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (22:24):
a

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (22:24):
brother or a customer or someone on the

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (22:28):
and say, you know what?
I said this and I can justify itin my own mind of why I said
that I can minimize it.
Okay.
and so, and I can even do thatto them, but to say I was not
fully walking in the light withthis situation, I would,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (22:43):
I said this leading you to this

DJI_20240521174752_0 (22:46):
conclusion when actually the conclusion is
over here, that is humbling, andthat,

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (22:51):
because pride I think is

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (22:52):
is a

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (22:53):
a real Reason we don't do a lot

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (22:56):
these things

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (22:57):
that's why we do

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (22:58):
slip, walk In

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (23:00):
self

DJI_2024052117475 (23:01):
preservation, and then,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (23:03):
yeah, and try to control things.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (23:05):
So and,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (23:06):
and,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (23:07):
and that then is the whole concept
that it doesn't matter what yousay.
It matters what they hear.
So putting it into context,putting it into clarity, making

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (23:18):
sure that what I say is what they
hear.
and what they hear

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (23:21):
what I said is so important.
even if it's just in thepassing.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (23:25):
rather than throwing shade one
direction or the other.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (23:29):
So

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (23:30):
as we think about moving into
surrendering the outcome and theoverlap of that, then the
authenticity that comes withthat is essentially allowing the
Holy Spirit to have fullcontrol, surrendering the
outcome.
The conversation, surrenderingthe outcome of a meeting,
surrendering even the reason forthe meeting,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (23:50):
the

todd-castle_1_05-21-20 (23:50):
meeting, you might have a meeting to
discuss X, Y, and Z.
When actually the Holy Spirithad a whole nother reason for
the U2 or U5 or U10 or U50 orU150 people to come together

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (24:02):
and have this meeting, and

todd-castle_1_05-2 (24:04):
surrendering that.
We talked a little bit about itat another point, but that the
concept, even in our churchmeetings and getting together to
worship, we have

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (24:13):
often

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (24:13):
a reason for

DJI_20240521174752_00 (24:16):
together.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (24:17):
And usually that reason is self
serving.
But I think that a lot of timesthat Holy Spirit has a whole
nother reason

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (24:22):
it.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (24:23):
Maybe it's an encouragement for a
brother or sister, or maybe it'sto be fed or is to feed.
There's a lot of different waysthat

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (24:30):
he

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (24:30):
may or may not have us coming
together, for whatever reason,but allowing that my thoughts on
what's going

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (24:37):
happen or how that is

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (24:38):
that outcome is going to be satisfied
is out of my control, and I wantit

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (24:43):
be out of my control

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (24:44):
because I've tried to control.
For years and decades sometimes.
And look at the mess has gotten

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (24:49):
into.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (24:50):
So being able to walk into any
given

DJI_20240521174752_0 (24:53):
situation,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (24:54):
just yielded is tremendous.
It's, it's contrary to ourflesh.
It's contrary to our nature.
It's contrary to our culture.
And some people will thinkyou're just a little bit nuts.
but at the end of the day, it'sfreedom, it's peace, it's, it's,
life giving Because,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (25:10):
if I can't

todd-castle_1_05-21- (25:11):
surrender,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (25:13):
To the thoughts, the intentions and
the

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (25:15):
desires of the creator of the universe.
What else

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (25:18):
I trust?
I trust my own thoughts.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (25:20):
How, how corrupt and wicked is that?
Yeah, no, I,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (25:24):
you mentioned something there a
little

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (25:26):
bit ago that

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (25:27):
you have to be serious about it.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (25:29):
And I think that's, well, like we
talked about earlier, I mean,our, our identity has to be in
Christ.
We, we have to.
We have to get rid of theconcept that it's just a white
line.
It really doesn't make

DJI_20240521174752_ (25:41):
difference.
Like

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (25:42):
it is, as long as it doesn't matter
to them, or it doesn't matter ina situation.
then

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (25:49):
Then,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (25:50):
yeah, it's not that big of a deal when
fact, fact of the matter is mostof the time,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (25:57):
not even

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (25:57):
most of the time, all, all the time,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (26:00):
it comes

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (26:00):
down

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (26:00):
to

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (26:01):
to us

DJI_20240521174752_003 (26:01):
slanting something because

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (26:05):
We're afraid of the way something's

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (26:09):
gonna turn out.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (26:09):
So unless we are serious

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (26:11):
it, and can soothe it.
If we just surrender whatevercomes and whatever happens, then
we will find ourselves at

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (26:20):
the crossroads of oh my word, is
this like actually worth it toactually lay it out the way it,
happened, when I can still tellthe truth, just not

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (26:31):
they all the truth, maybe

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (26:33):
all the truth, or it may

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (26:35):
even be all the truth, but in a
little different context wherethey aren't going to actually
understand what happened.
And, and we yeah, I mean, I, Ithink we can find ourselves

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (26:45):
in that.
And unless we're

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (26:46):
totally committed to, as you mentioned,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2 (26:49):
surrender the outcome and whatever it

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (26:51):
is, then

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (26:53):
I think we, we will find
ourselves,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (26:56):
yeah, falling prey to the,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (26:57):
to the,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (26:58):
yeah, bottom line, it's pride of, you
know, trying to control theoutcome and prop ourselves up
through this.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (27:06):
I had to think in, in considering
this, why, why would I, what,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (27:10):
why,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (27:11):
why would I go through the exercise?
Why would I go through thehumbling?
Why would I go through the,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (27:17):
the, the whole.

todd-castle_1_05-21- (27:19):
Concerning myself with surrendering the
outcome or walking authenticallyOr doing the uncomfortable work
And and one of the reasons thatcame to my mind was the whole
concept that why,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (27:32):
why am I here?
What is the purpose of my life?
And is

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (27:35):
it not to give glory to God?
Is it not to

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (27:38):
allow him to receive glory from my
life?
The

todd-castle_1_05-21 (27:42):
alternative is to I receive glory for
myself.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (27:44):
And that is.
wrong at so many

todd-castle_1_05-21-2 (27:46):
different levels.
so, so if the goal is for theHoly Spirit to lead me into a
life of glorifying God

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (27:53):
and being an honor to God.
Surrendering the outcome ofevery situation does just that
because now he's in

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (28:01):
control of my

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (28:03):
He's in

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (28:03):
control of the

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (28:04):
He's in control

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (28:06):
of the situation

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (28:07):
and he will see that God is the
Lord.
Even if it looks and makes melook extremely foolish, and
that's

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (28:15):
got to be okay with me.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (28:17):
I got to surrender that, Control.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (28:19):
Well, I'd go a step further to even
say that the someone that's not

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (28:23):
willing

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (28:24):
To use these the Holy Spirit at
best is

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (28:28):
to have a serious challenge to use
them, using it

todd-castle_1_05-21-20 (28:33):
Because, because fact of the matter is,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (28:35):
we aren't,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (28:36):
like you said, we, we aren't out.
to get the glory.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (28:41):
And yet,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (28:42):
so to allow the Holy Spirit to

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (28:44):
use us in

todd-castle_1_05-21- (28:46):
situations

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (28:47):
we can't even Understand the
purpose of the meaning

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (28:51):
of the situation.
The only way that's going towork, that we're going

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (28:54):
humanly

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (28:55):
be able to walk into those
situations.
Not even understanding what theyare is to be surrendered

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (29:02):
and

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (29:02):
to be okay

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (29:04):
with what we thought the outcome was
gonna be to look like a

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (29:09):
total failure.
And yet be okay

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (29:13):
with what we label as a failure.
Which, that's kind of

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (29:17):
a whole nother topic of, yeah,
labeling

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (29:19):
but I think, yeah, we have to,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (29:23):
the,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (29:25):
the,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (29:26):
the reasons we would go through this
is because it's the only way hecan use

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (29:33):
us.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (29:33):
That, that, that's the, the core of
it.
Now, there, there's freedom andpeace like we can experience no
other way.
and In my experience there's, I,I don't know if it's a I think
people can pick up on it wayfaster than

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (29:51):
you think.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (29:52):
Like people pick up

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (29:54):
it

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (29:54):
and there, there is a almost an
automatic trust

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (29:59):
that

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (29:59):
would take us

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (30:01):
10 interactions

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (30:02):
with an individual to build.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (30:04):
on our own.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (30:05):
When, when we meet with somebody,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (30:08):
I think they

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (30:08):
can just feel if there's

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (30:11):
at

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (30:11):
least it, it sure seems

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (30:13):
it, because

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (30:14):
there, yeah, there, there's individuals
that yeah, that I've dealt withand stuff,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (30:19):
that,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (30:19):
that there seems to be a trust there
that's not naughty, not earnedor deserved,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (30:25):
but

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (30:26):
it's there for some reason.
And I don't, and I, I don'tknow, I, I think it's some of
the idea of being

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (30:33):
just authentic and just surrender

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (30:37):
to that.
I don't have a motive in

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (30:40):
this.
I'm not

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (30:41):
coming into this relationship to get
you to do this or to convinceyou

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (30:45):
of this.
It's

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (30:48):
yeah, whatever the Holy Spirit has,
whatever the outcome is, that'swhat, yeah, what I

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (30:55):
to be and

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (30:55):
that's where we knew him to be
positioned.
Yeah.
And I think the other part ofthat too then is to realize and
understand that if we are

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (31:02):
trying to

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (31:03):
uh, to your point earlier if, if
we're not willing to surrender

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (31:07):
this point if we're not surrender
willing to submit

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (31:10):
to the Holy Spirit to this level

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (31:13):
We're actually walking in sin because

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (31:15):
now we've, we've,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (31:16):
We've,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (31:17):
We've actually allowed, we're, we're
allowing that something else

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (31:22):
in the

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (31:22):
throne of our heart.
Something else is more importantand we don't, we're trusting
ourselves.
we're trusting our situation.
We're

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (31:30):
our own

todd-castle_1_05-21- (31:30):
mentality, our own thinking, our own common
sense, whatever

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (31:33):
tag we want to

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (31:36):
put

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (31:36):
it, we're trusting that more than
we're trusting him.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (31:38):
And so I think repentance is a very
important

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (31:42):
of this

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (31:42):
whole thing.
It's

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (31:43):
no actually that is sin.
That

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (31:45):
is wrong.
That is a lack

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (31:47):
of communion with

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (31:48):
Jesus.
That is a lack of communion withthe Holy Spirit

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (31:50):
and we're not allowing him to have
that control because if hedoesn't have that control
somebody else does and

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (31:56):
If it's not him, it's not right

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (31:57):
So I

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (31:58):
think that this is very important that
we have to realize that noactually if I pick it up, I need
to lay it back

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (32:05):
and that's

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (32:05):
a couple of

DJI_20240521174752_003 (32:05):
thoughts on, uh, like, how do I walk this
out?
How do I,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (32:09):
how do I

DJI_20240521174752_00 (32:10):
surrender to that?
How, so I see pride in my life.
I see that I have notsurrendered the outcome.
I'm not walking in this.
So

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (32:17):
some, some

DJI_20240521174752_003 (32:18):
thoughts on,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (32:19):
I don't, I hate to say steps that
we can take, but there are somethings that we can, that, that

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (32:25):
actions that can be taken on our part
that would.
facilitate the yielding of ourpride, the

todd-castle_1_05-21-20 (32:32):
yielding of our

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (32:33):
lives to this,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (32:34):
to this level.
Hold that.
Yeah, we can get to that in alittle bit, but I think the idea
of it

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (32:39):
being sin I think

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (32:41):
is important, Especially in the
fact that we

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (32:44):
can,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (32:45):
we can be on the fence, so to
speak, and want the HolySpirit's power and want His
guidance under our conditions.
And to fulfill our righteousmotives.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (32:58):
And I, I think that's, yeah,
something that is

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (33:01):
very prevalent

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (33:02):
around us.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (33:03):
And

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (33:03):
think that is something, yeah, that we
have to, Repent of

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (33:08):
and, but first recognize.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (33:10):
mean, if, yeah,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (33:11):
that we, we have to recognize that
there is.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (33:14):
there is,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (33:15):
There is a place that we can find
ourselves in inviting the HolySpirit to work in our lives and
yet want to govern it andcontrol

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (33:22):
it.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (33:23):
And I think that's, that is

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (33:25):
sin and yet I think it's prevalent

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (33:27):
that

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (33:27):
have to, yeah, be, be careful for it.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (33:32):
I think you

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (33:32):
that a

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (33:33):
a lot

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (33:33):
our prayers.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (33:34):
We will pray for him to heal.
We will pray for him

DJI_20240521174752_003 (33:38):
protect.
We will

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (33:39):
pray for him to do certain things.

DJI_20240521174752_00 (33:41):
Channeled by our own selfish desires even
scripture talks about you askBut you ask of this that you
might consume it upon your ownDesires your own lust your own
flesh And so

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (33:51):
even in our prayers I think jesus

DJI_20240521174752_003 (33:53):
pointing out that you're actually being
very selfish

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (33:56):
You're being very self focused and

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (33:57):
you're not surrendering this to me.
You're not

todd-castle_1_05-21-20 (33:59):
allowing me to see that

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (34:01):
I just

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (34:01):
think that that's one area that

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (34:03):
the It One area that shows

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (34:07):
the selfishness is in our hearts

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (34:09):
In trying to

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (34:09):
control the outcome of the Holy Spirit
Yeah, that is, but that I

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (34:14):
I think we do need to be careful
there because

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (34:15):
I don't I mean, I, there is there
is scripture that also says thatyou don't receive because you
don't ask So I, I think thereis,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (34:24):
Mean

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (34:24):
asking for healing, asking for some of
those things I'm not sure ifthat's the problem or is it the
surrendering the actual outcome.
That's the problem.
Asking, I'm not sure if askingfor things is a problem as much
as how we Process it

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (34:44):
when the prayer

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (34:46):
is answered or not answered exactly
in the way we ask.
I, I think we can ask forthings, well, it's kind of like
we put amen on the end of ourprayers.
And if you look into the meaningof that.

DJI_20240521174752_0 (34:59):
Basically, we're

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (35:00):
putting a capstone on the whole prayer
saying

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (35:02):
that

todd-castle_1_05-21- (35:03):
everything I ask for, yeah, do what you
want to do, God, not what I

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (35:07):
ask.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (35:08):
So, so I don't know, just,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (35:10):
yeah.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (35:11):
And even in the Lord's prayer, Jesus
did ask

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (35:14):
for things,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (35:15):
but then he, his heart was not my
will, but your will

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (35:18):
done.
And I think that that would be

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (35:21):
where

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (35:21):
the surrender heart would be that

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (35:24):
this is, and, and, and even in the
authenticity of that is to admitthat this

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (35:28):
my will.
This is how I see it.
What I think looks like bread,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (35:33):
and you're saying it's

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (35:34):
stone, or, but if

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (35:36):
you say it's a stone, Lord, it's

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (35:37):
stone.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (35:38):
We surrender that.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (35:39):
And, and I

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (35:40):
think you're right.
It's not so much the asking asmuch as maybe it is

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (35:45):
how the heart behind it admitting to

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (35:48):
God and be real

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (35:49):
God and be raw with God.
It's like

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (35:51):
From my point of view, this is what
it looks like would be the bestscenario.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (35:55):
But you are the father, you

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (35:56):
are the God, you are

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (35:57):
creator

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (35:58):
and you know these things.
Okay.
So on the, yeah.
What, what was your questionthere before I backtracked

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (36:03):
this?

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (36:04):
I think it was, we were just
discussing about,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (36:06):
I was just asking thoughts on, on how
we can.
So some motion that can be

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (36:12):
taken to

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (36:14):
help move into the direction of
surrendering.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (36:17):
I see pride.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (36:18):
see I see these

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (36:19):
things in my heart.
What are some steps that I

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (36:22):
take or

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (36:24):
yeah.

DJI_20240521174752_003 (36:24):
there's, that's not the right
terminology,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (36:26):
but the right

DJI_20240521174752_003 (36:27):
concept.
To

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (36:29):
help me move away from self and

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (36:30):
into him and

todd-castle_1_05- (36:32):
surrendering.
We talked about the baby stepsof surrendering in being come

DJI_20240521174752_0 (36:36):
authentic, surrendering the outcome, I
think would But I

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (36:40):
think

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (36:41):
asking,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (36:41):
being real

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (36:42):
in that that Lord, I have tried to
control for this long, for, forhowever many years, it's not
working and I just want to giveyou, and, and maybe it's an
individual time and individual

todd-castle_1_05-21-20 (36:52):
decision by decision, by decision.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (36:55):
that I yield.
And

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (36:57):
the, in Galatians five, the fruit of
the spirit, one of them I mean,we've got love, joy, peace, long
suffering, gentleness, goodness,faith,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (37:05):
and

todd-castle_1_05-21-20 (37:05):
meekness and temperance.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (37:07):
but

todd-castle_1_05-21-2 (37:07):
meekness, I think praying for meekness
meekness is being defined assurrendering my will

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (37:13):
to the will of another,

todd-castle_1_05-2 (37:14):
particularly if

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (37:15):
in a position to

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (37:17):
assert my will.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (37:18):
It's, it's easier to submit

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (37:19):
your will when you don't have an
option, but when you do have anoption and you willingly submit
that like Jesus did, hewillingly submitted.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (37:27):
His will to

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (37:28):
the, to the soldiers, to,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (37:30):
the, the, the world, the system

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (37:32):
and, and that's meekness.
That

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (37:34):
is the epitome of meekness and

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (37:36):
praying for that, I think in our lives
is very important because thatbrings us down

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (37:41):
that brings us under.
When faced with the situation

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (37:45):
faced with a decision,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (37:46):
it's you know, actually I can
surrender that I

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (37:49):
don't have to be right.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (37:50):
I don't have to be

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (37:51):
heard.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (37:52):
I don't have to be seen.
I

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (37:53):
don't have to be anything.
My name means nothing.
I mean nothing.
And, and only in that the Holyspirit can use me if he's
willing to desires to, and justsubmitting and in meekness.
So, yeah, no, I, yeah, I agreewith that.
And I think And I kind of soundlike a broken record.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (38:11):
record

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (38:13):
And the idea of, I think we have to
stop labeling the wholesurrender thing.
We have to stop labeling thingsright and wrong.
In good and bad as far as, Ishouldn't say right and wrong,
good and bad, as they come intoour life.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (38:29):
I

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (38:29):
mean, it, it is

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (38:30):
so, so natural to

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (38:34):
say,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (38:35):
yeah, I, I, I

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (38:36):
can't believe that happened, or, I
don't know why that had tohappen,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (38:41):
or why me,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (38:43):
Yeah, why me and all that stuff, and
removing that out of ourvocabulary, And no matter what
happens, it's

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (38:52):
for a purpose, and

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (38:54):
we're gonna I'm going to learn from
it,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (38:57):
and I'm

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (38:57):
going to move forward regardless

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (39:00):
what it is,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (39:01):
I mean, and and not I don't hit,
hit changes at least for myself.
and for me, it was hard

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (39:09):
because I'm

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (39:11):
a little

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (39:11):
black and white,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (39:12):
And I mean, something's yeah, either
good or bad, or it could be donebetter or.
And

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (39:20):
And

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (39:20):
the fact of not

DJI_20240521174752_ (39:22):
immediately forming an opinion on everything

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (39:26):
was, was hard, but it's,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (39:29):
it'll

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (39:29):
totally open up a new lens

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (39:32):
on

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (39:32):
how we look at

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (39:33):
when something that

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (39:35):
quote bad happens

DJI_20240521174752_003 (39:38):
suddenly

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (39:38):
is just another route, another
learning curve, whatever thatcan come out of it.
It totally

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (39:48):
our perspective on life and

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (39:50):
our perspective of who we are

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (39:52):
because suddenly we aren't

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (39:54):
blaming ourselves

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (39:57):
Because we

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (39:57):
if enough things start going wrong,
eventually we start looking atourselves and blaming ourselves

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (40:02):
and

todd-castle_1_05-21-20 (40:03):
suddenly we aren't blaming ourselves, and
yet, on the flip side, if thingsare going good, We aren't
getting puffed up

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (40:11):
and we're not getting Pride doeth

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (40:13):
before it falls, so, yeah, we aren't
riding the wave either, pattingourselves

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (40:17):
the back.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (40:18):
It's just, life

DJI_20240521174752_003 (40:20):
happens,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (40:22):
and we can, I don't know, I think we
can be way more flexible, we canbe way more just surrendered
when we aren't always, I don'tknow, I mean, I don't want to
sound unpersonal, but we aren'tpersonalizing everything.
Oh, this horrible thing happened

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (40:35):
me.
I don't

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (40:37):
No, it might not be horrible, it
just happened.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (40:40):
And

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (40:40):
it doesn't, it's,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (40:41):
yeah,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (40:42):
Even though, and I don't want to
minimize some massive things in

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (40:46):
life, but

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (40:48):
if we're authentic, life's going to
go sideways.
People are going to die.
I mean, there's

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (40:54):
and it's

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (40:54):
going to happen.
So we shouldn't

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (40:56):
act

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (40:57):
totally

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (40:58):
totally shocked and oh my word this
should never happen to me whenit

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (41:02):
it happens.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (41:03):
I mean, the phrase, when a young

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (41:04):
person passes away,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (41:06):
do we say?

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (41:07):
Oh, they died way before their time.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (41:09):
Based on, I mean, the only

todd-castle_1_05-21-2 (41:10):
scripture I know,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (41:11):
it mentions a man's supposed to
live to, what, three score andten years or something,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (41:17):
is the only one, but we aren't
guaranteed those years,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (41:20):
But, but subconsciously there again,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (41:22):
we like to program

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (41:24):
things and

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (41:25):
when anytime it's outside of that
band,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (41:27):
we view it as yeah, not good or
something we have to

todd-castle_1_05-21-2 (41:33):
persevere through and whereas if it, if
it's just life that we're gonna,yeah, that we're dealing with
for a purpose, To make usstronger, to make us trust in
him more, to make us.
More agile, more flexible, more

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (41:51):
meek,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (41:52):
able to, yeah, work with those around
us better, whatever, there,there's lessons in everything,
and

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (41:58):
in every situation in life.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (42:00):
Yeah, I would, I would agree

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (42:02):
that.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (42:02):
I would almost say though that

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (42:04):
even a

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (42:04):
deeper level

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (42:05):
that.
It's

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (42:06):
not, it's more than just light.
because we're talking about.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (42:09):
As a

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (42:10):
child of God,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (42:11):
he is just allowing this into my life
for a reason.
I don't think it's justhappenstance.
It's not just that thingshappen.
We do live in a fallen world,and we do live in a situation
where things do happen.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (42:25):
But I think as his children, we have
another level

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (42:28):
of protection.
We

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (42:29):
have another level of

DJI_20240521174752_ (42:31):
protection.
area that we can just,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (42:33):
and, and and there's another caveat

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (42:35):
I want to throw into this too, is
the whole concept of, well, hejust, God can make work, make
something good out of somethingbad.
Well, so we have a flat tire andwe think that's a bad thing.
Well, it's not him makingsomething good out, he allowed
that flat tire to happen to meat this exact time for an exact
reason.

(42:55):
I don't know what that reason, Imay never know what that reason
is.
But he had a purpose in it.
So my job is to respond inyieldedness.

todd-castle_1_05-2 (43:03):
yieldedness.
So

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (43:04):
in meekness.
Respond in, I don't know whythis happened.
but to do, respond in the otherway is for me to try to control
and

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (43:12):
try

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (43:12):
to figure out and try to, reason a
reason for the, for thesituation.
Or we get ourselves

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (43:20):
into where we're like,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (43:21):
Hoping that God, you know, well,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (43:24):
he will use this,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (43:25):
use, make something good come out of
this bad

todd-castle_1_05-21-2 (43:28):
situation Well, once again, we're like you
said we're tagging it as a badsituation We're in his

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (43:34):
view, he's looking

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (43:35):
at

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (43:35):
from a whole other angle.
Whole big picture.
He's you're my child and I needyou to be

todd-castle_1_05-21-2 (43:41):
conformed in this way.
And this is what will help gothat, direction.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (43:44):
And we can choose to

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (43:46):
go the opposite against his will.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (43:47):
But,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (43:48):
I think that, yeah, it's a whole
nother level.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (43:50):
It's not just responding

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (43:52):
to life as it hits us, but it's
actually life

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (43:55):
coming at us with a purpose on purpose

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (43:59):
for his

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (44:00):
purpose and being surrendered to that
rather than fighting it ratherthan trying to reason it out,
trying to

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (44:05):
wrestle with it.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (44:06):
think surrendering it to yeah, rather
than

todd-castle_1_05-21 (44:09):
responding, we're surrendering,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (44:11):
I guess, is

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (44:12):
is be another way of

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (44:13):
it.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (44:13):
So many times in

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (44:14):
life we respond

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (44:16):
To life we react and it's it hits
us.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (44:19):
We respond.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (44:20):
It hits us.
We respond.
rather than just

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (44:23):
relax, let it flow.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (44:25):
Let him work in our lives and
manipulate and and move and, andshift us and, course, correct us
and humble us

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (44:33):
and, and use us and lift us up.
He

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (44:36):
said he'll do that

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (44:38):
if we surrender to him and seek him
first.
Our

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (44:42):
real only goal is to seek him and
surrender

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (44:44):
him.
He can do all the rest.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (44:47):
A co couple things there.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (44:49):
Yeah.
You mentioned

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (44:49):
that it's deeper than life,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (44:51):
I think

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (44:52):
I, I don't wanna separate the idea
that there's like life

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (44:55):
and then the

todd-castle_1_05-21- (44:56):
spiritual.
though.
Oh, I agree with that.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (44:58):
That,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (44:59):
that, that, that it's all

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (45:00):
same.
And I think sometimes we can,the tendency may be to say that
it's more than life and it'slike God working.
And now suddenly we, we try

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (45:09):
to figure out how God's working or
what he's doing.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (45:13):
When, when I agree, it's to say that
it's.
More than life.
I mean,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (45:20):
life is God at work.
I mean, that's what life is.
And

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (45:25):
I think that

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (45:26):
trying to,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (45:27):
for us to

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (45:28):
try to figure out why God would do
this

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (45:32):
or

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (45:33):
if it's a

DJI_20240521174752_0 (45:34):
temptation or a test from the devil,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (45:37):
did he allow it to happen or did

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (45:39):
do it?
And

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (45:39):
all that stuff.
there again, maybe I'm too blackand white, but it, it doesn't,
it doesn't matter.
I mean, as long as we're, yeah,surrendered and, and another
thing, the whole idea of beingsurrendered.
I do want to separate the idea

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (45:55):
of disconnected

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (45:57):
or laziness with the whole idea of
surrendered,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (46:00):
like

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (46:00):
all, all because the situation.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (46:03):
comes

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (46:03):
into our lives and it's I'm going

DJI_20240521174752_0 (46:05):
surrender.
so I'm just going to just

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (46:07):
let it play out

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (46:08):
and do nothing.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (46:09):
Well, that that's, that's not
surrendered.
We be being lazy.
Yeah.
that's being

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (46:15):
Being surrendered is being available
for any action we would becalled to.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (46:21):
No matter what the

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (46:22):
is.
Even if it seems like it's thewrong action

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (46:25):
for that situation.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (46:27):
In

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (46:27):
our human minds,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (46:29):
oh man, fix this, we need

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (46:30):
to do this or

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (46:31):
or whatever.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (46:32):
We, we need to be willing to step
out

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (46:36):
and

todd-castle_1_05-21-2 (46:37):
surrender the outcome of the outcome.
If we're called to.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (46:43):
step

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (46:43):
into a situation

DJI_20240521174752_003 (46:44):
confront

todd-castle_1_05-21-20 (46:44):
somebody or whatever it might be.
It might look like it's makingthe situation worse,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (46:49):
but if

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (46:51):
that's, if that's the next right thing
to do, I know that's kind of,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (46:55):
maybe something that's overused, but

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (46:57):
I think it can be a baby step

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (46:59):
to

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (46:59):
use in this, in the whole
surrendering the

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (47:02):
thing

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (47:03):
is what's the next right

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (47:04):
to do.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (47:05):
Don't, don't look at three steps down
the road

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (47:08):
how this is going to

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (47:09):
fit.
what what if is all I can see isthis,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (47:13):
what is the next right thing to do in
this situation?
And then just.
Do it that yeah,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (47:20):
do the uncomfortable work.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (47:21):
Just do it, do it immediately or

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (47:24):
when he prompts

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (47:25):
you To,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (47:26):
To, to get it done and not try to
control

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (47:30):
it and or

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (47:31):
figure out if it's God's doing it or if
he, or why, why he's doing it

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (47:37):
or or what's going on.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (47:38):
on.
And the, the other part of thatI'm seeing now we've

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (47:42):
focused a lot on how this affects my
life

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (47:44):
me being surrendered.
And what that walks out,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (47:48):
maybe in a very real

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (47:49):
way,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (47:50):
but there's also a beauty of

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (47:52):
when

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (47:52):
think about the body of Christ

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (47:54):
as fellow believers, you get two

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (47:58):
plus People

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (48:00):
who are surrendered

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (48:01):
working together, walking together,
talking together, livingtogether.
Now all of a sudden you've got awhole nother level of, it's,
it's not one plus one equalstwo.
It's One plus one equals 50because now say 50 X in the
surrendering because now all ofa sudden I'm watching your life

(48:22):
and you're surrendered.
You're doing something thatdoesn't make any sense to me.
It, it looks like from myperspective, but instead as a
surrender person, now I am.
Surrendering that it's like I ithumanly it makes no sense what
he's doing.
I don't know why but We don'tknow what god's doing in his

(48:43):
heart We don't know what god'sdoing in his life and he's
walking surrendered And i'mwalking surrendered now all of a
sudden we've got a SeriouslyBeautiful picture because
everyone has surrendered.
There's no judgment going on.
There's no there's no trying tofigure out Peter fell into that
trap.

(49:04):
He's Jesus, follow me.
And he's well, what about him?
And Jesus is well, if that's youyou follow me.
And Peter had to learn thatlesson pretty publicly and
pretty blatantly

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (49:14):
from the Lord himself.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (49:16):
But that's the same lesson for every
one of us follow Jesus.
If you're following Jesus, I'mfollowing Jesus.
He's following Jesus.
We're all following Jesus.
It may not look Vertically orhorizontally.
It may not make any sense.
But.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (49:29):
As long as vertically

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (49:30):
where we're at.
and yet I say that with sometrepidation because there is
also this whole thing of goingoff on your own tangent that all
I've got to do is follow Jesusor not.
And what you think of me doesn'tmatter.
There is a brotherhood.
There is a body that

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (49:46):
that

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (49:46):
is spoken of very strongly in
scripture.
Jesus talks about he's comingback for his body, for his
bride.
And I think that,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (49:53):
if if everyone is truly

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (49:57):
to the Holy Spirit, so

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (49:58):
we got, now we got one spirit, we
got one mind, the

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (50:01):
of Christ, we got one purpose, to

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (50:04):
glorify Him, we will walk

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (50:06):
in unison.
We will walk in real unity.
It may look different, theuniformity may not be there, but
the unity will be solid, it willbe rooted in Him.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (50:16):
So I think,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (50:17):
yeah.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (50:17):
And, and, and the whole thing is
contrary

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (50:20):
our nature.
The whole thing is not, so ithas to be,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (50:25):
the only way we

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (50:25):
do it is to fully allow the Holy
Spirit to do His work and let,yeah, let Him have His way.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (50:32):
I

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (50:32):
in,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (50:32):
in a group setting like that, there
are gonna be times, like yousaid,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (50:36):
it might,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (50:37):
what an individual's doing might look
a little off or whatever.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (50:41):
But

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (50:43):
if the, if the trust is there.
the, the overarching vision and,and time,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (50:53):
things

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (50:53):
will,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (50:55):
things will make

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (50:56):
sense.
Like you said, it'll, it'll beof one spirit moving in one
direction.
I mean, we,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (51:01):
We

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (51:01):
we may be looking at the, the back
of the,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (51:04):
the

todd-castle_1_05-21-2 (51:05):
tapestry, and it may look weird.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (51:07):
But I think

todd-castle_1_05-21-20 (51:08):
through, as we work with individuals, As
there'll be

DJI_20240521174752_00 (51:12):
instances happen, it'll give us glimpses
of the front,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (51:16):
that we can see enough of what's
going on, that,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (51:20):
we can see that there's,

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (51:22):
there's beauty happening

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (51:24):
and yet oftentimes, yeah, it might
not

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (51:29):
look like we

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (51:29):
it should

todd-castle_1_05-21-2 (51:30):
whatever, and a situation with the group,
that through the years and and,and walking

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (51:38):
through this, has changed the

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (51:40):
simple fact of

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (51:42):
what

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (51:42):
goes through your mind when you see a
couple individuals

DJI_20240521174752_003 (51:48):
standing in

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (51:49):
in a corner

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (51:50):
and

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (51:54):
the, maybe,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (51:55):
I

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (51:55):
don't know, having a, an in depth
conversation and glancing yourway or something.
It's usually self preservationand curiosity and a lot of
things rear up.
Yeah, there's so many situationsor it's Oh my word.
Like what, what's going on?

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (52:09):
what?
Yeah.
And

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (52:11):
and of course it's 90

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (52:13):
of the

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (52:13):
time it goes through our head.
It's

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (52:15):
like something.
negative of some type.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (52:19):
And it's like, why not give them the
benefit of the doubt

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (52:23):
that, yeah,

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (52:25):
they're

DJI_20240521174752_00 (52:26):
wrestling

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (52:27):
with something.
They're,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (52:29):
yeah, growing

todd-castle_1_05-21-2 (52:31):
Together, they're like, like it

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (52:33):
it's nothing mischievous at all.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (52:35):
Like it's, it's just,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (52:37):
I don't know.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (52:38):
there, There's so many situations

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (52:40):
things that happen.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (52:42):
that if there was, if there was a, a
trust and, surrender,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (52:48):
and

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (52:49):
that they wouldn't, they wouldn't
have the same effect,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (52:52):
but

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (52:53):
it takes time,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (52:54):
takes time to

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (52:55):
takes time to build on it, I guess, is
the fact like, the wholeauthentic thing and surrendering
the outcome.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (53:01):
It

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (53:02):
doesn't

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (53:02):
work

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (53:04):
80 percent of the time.
You, You, can't do it 80 percentof the

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (53:07):
and then in

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (53:09):
certain situations,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (53:10):
this seemed fit

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (53:13):
to tell a white lie

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (53:14):
there was so much at stake

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (53:16):
that that doesn't cut it,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (53:18):
it destroys

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (53:19):
the rest of the 80%.
You might as well not

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (53:21):
try it.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (53:21):
it

DJI_20240521174752_003 (53:22):
Because, and, and that, that's been a
huge challenge is there, thereis, Well, you mentioned earlier,
you have to be serious about it.
There is no top.
There is no situation that it'slike, Oh, the stakes are so high
that, fill in the blank.
There is none of that.
And there can't be any of it to

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (53:43):
build

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (53:45):
the oneness of spirit

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (53:46):
and the the momentum with a group to
actually walk in the spirit,live in the spirit.
If in the back of our minds,we're going to hold out that If
things get crazy enough.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (53:58):
we may

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (53:58):
have to take different

DJI_20240521174752_00 (53:59):
measures.
That is

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (54:02):
just not surrender.
Yeah.
Yeah.
That's not trust.
That's

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (54:04):
That's not faith.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (54:05):
And,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (54:05):
And, and, and then, and I think
there's in the surrender to theHoly Spirit, we need to allow
that the Holy Spirit will workin other one's lives in a group
situation as well.
So the two guys in the corner inyour scenario, I have to
surrender that I have tosurrender them.
I have to surrender.
It doesn't matter what they'resaying.
It doesn't matter.
Okay.
But beyond that, if these twogentlemen are in your scenario

(54:27):
are surrendered, then there areonly wanting my good.
Even if they are talking aboutme, even if

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (54:32):
it is about

DJI_20240521174752_00 (54:33):
something failure in my life, whatever it
is, it doesn't matter.
But they only wanted my goodanyway, because we're one body,
one unity.
One spirit, one, one goal.
And if they are seeking my ill,maybe it is the worst case
scenario.
That's still okay because God isgoing to allow that or not, or

(54:54):
I'll shut him down.
He is in control, allowing thatit really doesn't matter.
And I think one thing that'shelped me a lot in this whole
thing of being vulnerable isthat no matter what happens to
me, and I've had people pushback on this thing, but no
matter what happens to me, It'stremendously less than I
deserve.

(55:15):
It's when we think that wedeserve better, that it becomes
an issue in us because that'swhat I want to rear out because

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (55:21):
I'm trying

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (55:21):
defend my rights.
I got to defend myself for somereason, even if it's a

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (55:27):
a, a subconscious thing,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (55:29):
I think

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (55:29):
I deserve better than what I'm
receiving or about

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (55:32):
receive or whatever I'm surmising that I
should be receiving.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (55:35):
And the reality is no reality is

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (55:38):
that no, you can't do anything to me.
That is beyond

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (55:43):
what I deserve.
Worse

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (55:44):
I deserve.
And

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (55:46):
so it's,

DJI_20240521174752_003 (55:47):
thinking that I deserve more.
That

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (55:50):
creates

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (55:50):
this pushback against surrender.
And

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (55:53):
it's,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (55:54):
it's a tough, tough.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (55:56):
and it's tough, but

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (55:58):
I don't even like using the

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (55:59):
word hard or tough because

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (56:00):
not really.
It's It's hard, but it's, it'sso simple.
To surrender, just give it up.
It's no, it's actually doesn'tmatter.
It really doesn't matter.

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (56:10):
Because he is still in control.
I want to talk a little bitabout

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (56:14):
this thought of

todd-castle_1_05- (56:15):
uncomfortable work and I, and this is going to
overlap a

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (56:17):
amount but some of the uncomfortable
work that we're called to

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (56:20):
do

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (56:21):
and, and, and I would define maybe
this as being the, the thingsthat just aren't fun or easy

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (56:28):
to do.
And, and maybe that's

DJI_20240521174752_ (56:30):
confronting a person.
on some sin in their lives.
And I want to back up

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (56:34):
just a little bit

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (56:35):
that whole concept as well.
Because what you were talkingabout in the concept of of, of

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (56:40):
the group setting

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (56:41):
at some levels, we are not going to
be fully, I

todd-castle_1_05-21-2 (56:45):
shouldn't even say

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (56:45):
at some level, we are not always
going to be 100 percentsurrender.
And we may think

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (56:50):
we're surrendered and be a blind spot

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (56:52):
our

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (56:52):
my life.
I should use it

DJI_20240521174752_ (56:54):
personally.
But

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (56:56):
I may think that I'm walking
surrender.
I may think that I surrenderedthe outcome to a situation.
But I haven't.
And so you see that in my life,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (57:04):
You see that.
You're like, no, actually

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (57:05):
Todd, that is not surrendered.
I surrendered

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (57:09):
would be this.
And then of course, correct.
And, and I

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (57:12):
think that that's what a body, that's
one of the great

DJI_20240521174752_00 (57:16):
functions of a body is

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (57:18):
people helping people.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (57:21):
Course correct, helping people see the
blind spots because there's not

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (57:25):
going to be, as we walk on this earth,
a hundred percent, fullysurrendered.

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (57:30):
Person,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (57:31):
but through the Holy Spirit and the
guidance of the Holy Spirit, hewill use individuals into our
lives to help us

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (57:36):
correct

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (57:37):
into seeing those unsurrendered
areas.
Or maybe it's just a spot, onedecision that we've made.
no, if you truly would havesurrendered it,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (57:44):
this

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (57:44):
is your attitude would

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (57:46):
been.
And so I think,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (57:47):
I think that is something that is
good to

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (57:51):
keep in mind.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (57:52):
The idea of the, the do
uncomfortable work, I think,like you mentioned, it kind of
ties it, the.
Maybe the action to all of thistogether.
I mean, if, if, if we'reauthentic

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (58:07):
and

todd-castle_1_05-2 (58:07):
surrendering the outcome, there will be, it's
going to put us in situationsthat are outside of our comfort
zone.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (58:15):
It's

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (58:15):
going to put us in situations

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (58:17):
that

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (58:17):
we, we need to, you mentioned follow
up with somebody or yeah,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (58:23):
go

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (58:23):
back to something that we said and
take it back.
It's gonna.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (58:27):
going

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (58:27):
to, be going to, we're going to have
to do things that there's no wayto know the outcome of

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (58:35):
of.

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (58:36):
There's no way to know exactly how that
person is going

DJI_20240521174752_003 (58:39):
respond.
There's

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (58:39):
no way to know what the, yeah, what

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (58:43):
the,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (58:44):
the backlash of the situation could
be, but we just have to

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (58:49):
do

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (58:49):
do it.
Walk, walk into it.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (58:51):
and, and

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (58:52):
I think some of them too can be.
We've kind of been going throughsteps through each one of these.
Some of them can be simple, asfar as, I mean, it shouldn't be
hard to send a text message to

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (59:07):
right?

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (59:07):
But a lot of times it is.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (59:09):
we

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (59:09):
may be prompted to send somebody an
encouraging text message

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (59:12):
or something.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (59:13):
And, and, and we put it

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (59:15):
It shouldn't, it

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (59:16):
seems like it shouldn't fall under
uncomfortable work.
Right.
But, but,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (59:20):
as active a matter as it does.
So, so, I think it's

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (59:23):
the same way there.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (59:24):
It's the small things, and I think
it's going to vary withdifferent individuals.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1745 (59:29):
I mean, I, I

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (59:30):
I mean some people, for whatever
reason, the idea of picking upthe phone and calling somebody
is terrifying,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (59:37):
and they'll put it off.

DJI_20240521174752_003 (59:38):
They'll, yeah, that's, yeah.
So I, I think they can,

todd-castle_1_05-21-20 (59:45):
whatever

DJI_2024052117475 (59:46):
uncomfortable work is for you,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (59:48):
just lean into it

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (59:49):
and as soon as it comes up, just do
it.
start, start with the smallthings.
and just get it done

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (59:57):
And you'll

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (59:58):
out at least in my own life 90
percent of the time the, if youdo a worst case scenario, best
case scenario, 90 percent of thetime it turns out better than

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (01:00:11):
the better

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:00:11):
best case scenario.
It's like the, the mountain thatwe made it,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (01:00:16):
it wasn't anywhere

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:00:17):
close to that.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (01:00:19):
It was

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (01:00:19):
better than what we expected.
So, yeah, I think that's.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (01:00:23):
Yeah, then we, yeah, we could get into
some of the

DJI_20240521174752_003 (01:00:28):
heavier, do uncomfortable

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (01:00:30):
work things

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:00:30):
well.

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (01:00:31):
And I don't know, yeah, if we want

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:00:32):
do some practical scenarios

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (01:00:36):
of this at all.
I think that would be a goodthing.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:00:39):
So, but

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (01:00:40):
but yeah, I don't

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:00:41):
yeah, if you

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (01:00:41):
got anything

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:00:42):
on the, the

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uncomfortable.
well, there are, there arethings

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:00:46):
that I

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024 (01:00:47):
think, I think.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:00:49):
One of the

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (01:00:50):
the things about doing uncomfortable
work,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:00:53):
I think the

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (01:00:53):
Holy Spirit will actually

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:00:55):
us.
You hear a lot of times whensomeone's calling in life was
not something they would, maybe

todd-castle_1_05-21-202 (01:01:00):
they're called to

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (01:01:01):
preach and they've

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_ (01:01:02):
more.
Always been

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:01:03):
an introvert or, called to

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (01:01:05):
do whatever.
The

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (01:01:07):
Spirit will often lead us into
uncomfortable work.
Because of a lot of differentreasons, but one of them I think
is,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (01:01:13):
it, it does make us vulnerable and

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:01:16):
the Holy Spirit loves for us to be
vulnerable because it, it,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (01:01:19):
it

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:01:20):
us to his strength.
It shows, allows him to bestrong when, when he leans into
our strengths, we have atendency to take that back on
ourselves.
And so he,

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_174 (01:01:31):
he allows us

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:01:32):
to or he, he leads us

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_1 (01:01:34):
into

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:01:35):
our weaknesses.
He leads us into

todd-castle_1_05-21-2024_17 (01:01:38):
our vulnerabilities.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:01:39):
Like the Holy Spirit, I think, works
much the same way he has putinto our lives to work.
And so he's like a person, andso he as he builds

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_1 (01:01:47):
this relationship.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:01:48):
he's going to give us these little
things, like you mentioned, canI trust him with this?
can I trust Todd?
I'm going to ask him to do a cupof cold water to go to

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_1903 (01:01:56):
a

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:01:56):
side.

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_190 (01:01:57):
Is

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:01:57):
Can I trust him to do that?
And so as we as we exercisethat.
Then he says, you know whatmaybe I can trust him in this
area.

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_ (01:02:05):
Let's

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:02:06):
And then he's like, you know what if
he would, so he of coursecorrects us through
circumstances in life, but he,the trust has to go both
directions.
We learn to trust him, but Ithink he learns to trust Um, not
that he is omniscient

todd-castle_2_05-21- (01:02:19):
Omniscient and

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:02:19):
he, knows everything, but he, he
needs to, I Abraham's test.
Can I trust you to give up yourson?
Um, and

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_1903 (01:02:27):
I think that the same way with us,
Jesus gave a

DJI_20240521174752_0030 (01:02:30):
parable that what did we do with that
talent?
And then he who was faithfulwith his talents, he gave more
talents.
and I think the same way withgod.
he allows us Test us in an areaand if we're trustworthy, if we,
if we can come through on thislittle steps, then he could
trust more and more and more andI think that's where

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_190 (01:02:48):
he wants us.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (01:02:49):
That's his glory.
Um,

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_19 (01:02:51):
if, he gives us a

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:02:53):
task and

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_190 (01:02:53):
we received the glory

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:02:55):
of ourselves, we have failed the
task.
But

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_190 (01:02:57):
if we can give him the

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:02:59):
glory allow him to be shining through,
then we, wants it for us.

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_ (01:03:02):
Yeah,

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:03:03):
I think, I think,

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_1 (01:03:04):
that whole trust thing goes well,
kinda like

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:03:07):
both.

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_1 (01:03:07):
It's he and us, and us and him.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:03:10):
and I think it's kind of the same.
He, he

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_190 (01:03:12):
us those

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (01:03:13):
things so us.
and yet kind

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_190 (01:03:17):
of like

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:03:18):
you said,

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_1903 (01:03:18):
I mean, he already knows

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:03:20):
So a

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_19 (01:03:21):
lot of it is he gives us

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:03:22):
the small things because I think the
trust factor may be moretrusting him because fact of the
matter is the reason.
We don't act on a lot of thesituations isn't

todd-castle_2_05-21-202 (01:03:37):
because

DJI_20240521174752_0030_D (01:03:37):
we don't know how, or we don't
maybe not even that We, don'tnecessarily want to.
We, we want

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_19 (01:03:43):
the good outcome, don't honestly
trust him that it's going towork out.

DJI_20240521174752_0030_ (01:03:47):
Right.
Because we can't see it.
Yeah.
We can't see it.
And we haven't, yeah,

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_ (01:03:52):
built that trust that it'll

DJI_20240521174752_003 (01:03:53):
actually work out.
with what they

todd-castle_2_05-21-2024_ (01:03:55):
want.
Actually is in

DJI_20240521174752_003 (01:03:56):
control.

Todd (01:03:57):
Thank you for listening to this edition of the surrendered
soul podcast.
We hope you have found hope,healing, and freedom from the
topic of learning how to makegreat decisions as you practice
rigorous authenticity,surrendering the outcome of
those decisions and doing theuncomfortable work of putting
the outcome of those decisionsinto action.
If you have any questions abouttoday's topic or have a topic or

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question that you'd like us todiscuss, please feel free to
email us at the surrendered soul24.
At gmail.
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com Zach.
And I pray that this podcast hasbeen a blessing to you as you
learn to fully surrender yoursoul to God, his son, Jesus, and
the Holy spirit.