240 | The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Rewriting Your Internal Dialogue

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Have you ever stopped to wonder how the stories we tell ourselves influence our daily lives? Join me on Tea with Tina as I share my personal journey navigating the male-dominated fitness industry and uncover the transformative power of storytelling. From my own experiences overcoming societal stereotypes and personal doubts, I aim to inspire you to seek wisdom beyond your usual circles and recognize the potential within you. By reflecting on my upbringing and the limiting beliefs I've shed along the way, I hope to encourage you to embrace your unique path toward self-improvement and growth.

Let's challenge the negative self-talk that holds us back and start flipping the script. Dive into a conversation about transforming those ingrained negative thoughts into positive affirmations that foster personal growth and change. Drawing on a client's experience, I'll show you how altering self-imposed barriers can lead to significant life changes. By consistently embracing positivity and reshaping our internal narratives, we can embark on a powerful journey of self-discovery and transformation. Listen in and discover how changing the stories you tell yourself can open up a world of possibilities.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Tea with Tina, your favorite podcast
, where we talk all thingshealth, fitness, lifestyle, and
maybe a little bit of tea getsspilled.
We chat all about this in asuper casual environment, so
grab your beverage of choice,sit back, relax and enjoy.

(00:22):
Relax and enjoy.
Hey friends, welcome back toanother episode of the Tea with
Tina podcast.
If the audio sounds a littlestrange, I'm actually driving in
my car.
Might sound slightly dangerous,but I promise you you know with
my phone and how I record audio, it's all good.
So I want to pop into chatabout something I'm always

(00:45):
absorbing podcasts, readingposts and just observing and
hearing and when I hear amessage that I feel like would
resonate with you all, I shareit.
You know, I always think abouthow things can integrate and I
challenge you guys, whereveryou're at you don't necessarily
have to be a business owner togreat.
And I challenge you guys,wherever you're at.

(01:06):
You don't necessarily have tobe a business owner, but anybody
who like, let's say, you're anurse, for instance, okay, maybe
you're really interested andyou follow a lot of nurse pages,
or you're an artist and youfollow art pages.
Whatever you do, I challengeyou to follow things that are
outside of your world, becauseyou would be amazed at how they
can relate to your current field, and sometimes much better.

(01:30):
I feel like sometimes we get soabsorbed in our current world,
our little bubble, that weforget about things outside of
it.
So the message that I heardthat I think is super important
was something along the lines ofthe story that we tell
ourselves matters, and this isimportant because I was somebody

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who lived this as someone thatI like to call myself a little
bit of an underdog, especiallyin the fitness realm.
I am a woman.
It's getting better but in amale-dominated industry there's
a lot of stereotypes surroundingwomen in fitness, thinking that
maybe they only want to besmaller and skinnier and they
shouldn't be lifting heavyweights and they need to eat a

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certain way.
They can't eat a lot of food.
They can't grunt in the gym.
You know there's a lot ofstereotypes around women.
I was diagnosed with Hashimoto's.
I had all these hormonalimbalances that made my journey
much harder.
As far as cravings go, as faras how body fat is stored, it
wasn't so cut and dry for me,and that's why I'm so passionate

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about helping other lifestylepeople still achieve their goals
with struggles similar to mine.
I didn't want to necessarilyhave a shredded physique.
I didn't want like.
I didn't come from an athleticbackground.
I was never in sports growingup and I feel like a lot of the

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professionals who've gotten intothe space it's getting more
diverse, which is great, but Ifeel like a lot of the
professionals were athletes andthey were kind of fit their
whole lives.
So it comes natural to them andme.
I grew up eating fast food.
You know Friday, saturday,sunday, my mom would make hot

(03:19):
dogs and mac and cheese andspaghetti.
You know really kind oftraditional family dinners that
were kind of processed and notsuper balanced.
I was, you know, eating poptarts for breakfast.
You know I wasn't raised superhealthy.
I think I was raised kind oflike how the average, maybe

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middle class American was raised.
I'm not sure, don't quote me onthat, but just in my experience
and yeah, it's not like I wasalways fit and I always knew how
to do things and I had a lot ofdoubt when I first started.
I mean, I think all of us do Istarted relatively young.
I think I really decided to gointo fitness between the age of

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17 and 18.
I really got my foot in thedoor with, like Advocare, the
MLM I was a part of.
If you are interested in thatstory by the way, it is episode
two of this podcast, so you canscroll all the way back I give
you the tea on that story butAdvocare really kind of helped
me like dive into the fitnessrealm, get around like minded

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people and everything.
But, like I said, there was justalways this element of doubt
and I see it in my clientssometimes and I think this is
common for a lot of us.
We have this doubt and women,men struggle too.
I'm not here to call out andsay like, oh, women struggle
more than men.

(04:44):
I think men's struggles are alittle bit different than women.
Women have this traditionally,this appearance to upkeep, and
we have to be soft enough andfeminine enough and not wear too
much makeup, but wear enough.
And men it's the same right,but they have to be masculine.
And the providers of the familyand, uh, you know they they're

(05:06):
not allowed to cry, but theycan't be too aggressive, so they
have things to live up to too.
But, um, I see it with myclients and it's because they,
they, they don't get reach theirresults, they don't reach their
goals because of the storiesthey tell themselves.
I have one particular client inmind Uh, I don't think this is

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going to reveal anybody.
I'm not going to, you know,share too many personal details.
But this client I just can tellby the way she shows up in
social media and the way shepresents herself and talks about
herself is in such a negativelight and it's not my role to

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change this person.
But you can just tell thatthere's a beautiful person under
there and you may know familymembers, friends like this,
maybe even catch yourself doingthis.
But you know when you can justsee the potential of the person
and for some reason, however,they were brought up, whatever
happened to them in life, maybeit beat them down and they just

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live.
They live this sort of lifethat you're like.
You're better than that.
I know you're better than thatand I can tell that she wants to
change because of her goals.
But it's like she doesn't evenrealize, because she's been
doing it for so long, how shetalks about herself, what she
posts, what she surroundsherself with, is caught.
It's holding her back and againthe stories we tell ourselves

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become our realities.
Now, this can be a bad thingand this can be a good thing,
you know, if you sit there andtell yourself that you can't.
I see this with lifting.
Okay, I can't tell you how manytimes I've loaded weight onto a
barbell and I just told myclients to lift it.
I didn't tell them how muchweight it was, I just told them
to lift it and they did it, noproblem.
My clients to lift it.
I didn't tell them how muchweight it was, I just told them

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to lift it and they did it, noproblem.
But if I told them the weightand in their brain the story
they told themselves was thisnumber is too heavy for me.
Your body will hesitate and youactually will not be able to
lift it.
But once you overcome thatstory and you say I am strong,
I'm able to lift this.
Now, obviously there's somephysical limitations here, right

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, but if it's more of a mentalthing, you most certainly can
overcome that.
And I believe that if we tellourselves you know, oh, I'm not
somebody who eats healthy, youknow, I just I'm a wine girl, I
like to binge eat at night.
If that's a story you tellyourself, that's the result
you're going to get.

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It starts with your thoughts.
Your change starts with yourthoughts.
I am a strong woman.
I am smart.
I do eat healthy.
I enjoy eating healthy.
When I want a treat, I enjoy atreat.
I'm someone who will go to thegym and work out.
I love going for walks.

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Start showing up in a positiveway.
Obviously, this can change andit can apply to anything.
It can apply anything into yourlife.
I am a patient mom.
I'm very patient.
I'm a patient mom.

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Um, I'm very patient.
You know, I'm a loving mom.
I love to take care of my body.
You know, whatever your story is, I think so often we get caught
up in doubt and maybe we don'teven realize we're doing it.
I think that's that's one ofthe problems, which, again, is
why I teach everybody to be moreself-aware, because there's so
much that goes under the radarwhen it comes to our thoughts
and our feelings and things.
Our bodies are telling us that,like there's just so much that

(08:38):
can somewhat be changedrelatively easily and we're just
not aware of it and we think,you know, if we buy this
supplement, if we buy Ozempic,if we buy this program, if I do
this, that's going to be thetime I change, when in reality
sometimes it's just a simple fix, like changing the story that

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we tell ourselves.
So that is kind of my littlethought.
I'm getting close to my housenow, but I wanted to get that
out of my brain and into yourbrain.
Um, so, think about that.
That is my what.
What stories do you tellyourself?
You know, are you always shy?
That was a big one for me.
I'm just shy, you know.

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I'm somebody.
Even with my Hashimoto's Icaught myself doing I have
Hashimoto's.
I can't do that.
I can't eat like that.
I'm not somebody who wakes upearly.
That's just not me.
Like.
Why?
Why the fuck not Excuse me, butwhy the fuck not Like, why
can't you be someone who wakesup early?
Why can't you be someone whodoes hard things?
That's a great one to do.

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I can do hard things.
Everybody needs to tellthemselves that story, because I
think we do live in a societywhere I love the convenience and
I love that there's a lot ofstruggles that are made easier
for us.
But I think sometimes ourprimal brains and bodies need to
be challenged with some things.
And challenge is good, it keepsus strong, it's it's like

(10:05):
training a muscle right, like ithurts and it makes us sore, but
we get stronger so you can dohard things.
Start telling yourself thatthere's so many stories.
Think about the ones you tellyourself.
Start switching them to thepositive.
Start challenging it.
If it is a negative story, againstart challenging it.

(10:25):
Like, if you're like I don't goto bed early, like, can you say
I do go to bed early, I'msomeone who relaxes before bed,
I'm somebody who takes time tomyself at the end of the evening
, I make time for myself.
You know, just think aboutdifferent ones.
There's endless options andwatch your life change.
It's not going to be anovernight thing, but again, you

(10:47):
know you were probably thinkingnegative stuff about yourself
for years and years.
So it's not going to undoovernight, but keep chugging
away.
Uh, the worst that can happenis you have some neg or you have
some positive thoughts aboutyourself.
Uh, and really, what is thedownside of that?
All right, so that is my, thatis my gift to you today.
Enjoy, ponder and have a greatrest of your day.

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Bye.