The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & Law

Divorce doesn't have to be a battlefield where only the strongest survive. Yet many people approach it with exactly this mindset, fueled by persistent myths about what the family court system can and will do for them.

In this candid conversation, we three divorce experts cut through the misconceptions that lead so many people toward an unnecessarily destructive and expensive processes. We tackle the painful truth that...

Our exploration of fault versus no-fault divorce reveals surprising historical twists and powerful stakes for modern families. Did you know Ronald Reagan—yes, that Ronald Reagan—signed America's first no-fault divorce law? Before that watershed moment, couples resorted to hiring private detectives and staging hotel room encounters just to escape unhappy marriages.

Today, conservative voices like JD Vance advocate retu...

Divorce unfolds in two parallel universes: the cold, mechanical world of legal proceedings and the raw, messy landscape of human emotions. When these worlds collide, many discover that what matters most to them personally holds little to no relevance in court. This disconnect can leave people feeling unheard and unable to move forward.

We dive deep into the concept of "legally irrelevant" issues that carry enormo...

Curious about navigating the complexities of high-conflict divorce with more grace and empathy? Discover the transformative power of mediation and Collaborative Practice with our esteemed guest, Charmaine Panko, a seasoned lawyer, mediator and Collaborative practitioner from Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. Together, we unpack the challenges of navigating divorce with a high-conflict personality.

Journey with us as we explore the ...

In this Presidential Election season, polarization is tearing us apart, but could it also hold the key to understanding and strengthening personal relationships? As the Three Wisemen of Divorce guide us through the charged political landscape of 2024, we uncover how deeply entrenched views can unravel marriages and complicate co-parenting. Through real-life cases, we examine how disagreements over finances and medical care can igni...

Unlock the secrets to effective communication in divorce mediation and transform misunderstandings into mutual understanding. Have you ever wondered why a simple desire, like being a "50-50 dad," can spiral into conflict? We promise to equip you with the tools to navigate these emotional landmines, spotlighting the imperative role of clear intentions and assumptions that can escalate tensions. Our episode sheds light on h...

What if you could transform anger into a tool for growth and understanding? We bring you a thought-provoking conversation with Dr. James Walton, Ph.D., a licensed family therapist and Eureka Award recipient. Together, we explore the intricate dynamics of anger during divorce and offer practical strategies for managing these intense emotions. Learn how to separate feeling angry from outward expressions of anger and why making consci...

Ever wondered why untangling the knot of marriage can feel like braving a labyrinth? In a truth-telling session with financial divorce consultant Mark Hill, therapist Pete Roussos, and attorney Shawn Weber, we uncover the multifaceted journey through divorce. Starting with a chuckle, we quickly delve into the sobering realities couples face as they divide their lives, emphasizing the pivotal role of understanding both the tangible ...

Discover the transformative power of mental health support in the realm of divorce with the Three Wisemen of Divorce. This episode delves into the emotional complexities of separation and the pivotal role therapists play in steering individuals towards a collaborative divorce. We unpack the stark contrasts between marital therapy, coaching and mediation support, shining a light on how emotional intelligence and self-management can ...

Discover how to navigate the complexities of divorce with financial savvy and emotional intelligence as we chat with financial divorce consultant Mark Hill, CFP, CDFA, therapist Pete Roussos, MFT, and attorney Shawn Weber. This revealing conversation is packed with expert advice on the crucial role of financial specialists during divorce mediation. You'll gain an understanding of the emotional weight of assets, how to balance ...

Discover the surprising truth behind the role of attorneys in divorce mediation and why you should never underestimate their value in steering you toward fair outcomes. As we navigate the complexities of legal separation, we shatter the myth that mediators can, or should, replace the need for expert legal advice. Their seasoned insights reveal the nuances of choosing a lawyer who doesn't just understand the mediation process b...

Sometimes things are hard with the holidays- especially after a divorce.  In fact, the weather outside can be frightful.  In this episode, Mark, Shawn and Pete discuss the challenges families face when navigating co-parenting during the holidays.

The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F*, Family Law M...

There are more than one type of mediation.  Every mediator has his own mediation style.  In this episode, The Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss four different mediation styles: transformative, facilitative, informational and evaluative.  Each mediation style has its own pros and cons and it is important to consider what style will work best for your divorce case.  

The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, ...

On this episode of The Three Wisemen of Divorce, our experts tackle a difficult but important topic: divorce during a financial crisis. Drawing on their extensive experience working with clients during periods of economic upheaval, the Wisemen share valuable insights and practical tips for navigating divorce decisions when finances are at their most precarious. From the lessons learned from the failure of Silicon Bank to strategies...

This week The Three Wisemen of Divorce sit down with forensic psychologist and family consultant in complex family law cases, Robert A. Simon, Ph.D.  If you are involved in a divorce with kids, especially litigation, you may have to endure a forensic custody evaluation.  Dr. Simon provides his thoughts and insights about how to prepare for and navigate the forensic custody evaluation and how adversarial family law litigation often ...

With the New Year come new resolutions and plans for the upcoming year.  But what if your New Year's resolution is to get a divorce?  Believe it or not, January is known as "divorce season" in the family law business because so many people decide to call it quits after the holidays.

Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA, MFT, CST, psychotherapist; and Shaw...

The first holidays after a divorce can be tough.  We call it the "Year of Firsts."  It's the first Christmas, Passover, Birthday, Fourth of July, and even Super Bowl Sunday while separated.  Questions abound such as:

• How are the holidays split in a divorce?
• What will Christmas after divorce be like?
• Should divorced parents spend holidays together?

Surviving the holidays after divorce can be challenging.  Divorce...

Sometimes a divorce case gets stuck because the professionals or the clients have not taken the time to prepare the case to be ready to settle.  Impasse is sometimes nothing more than not having the facts or the emotions ready to find a solution.  Learn what it takes to achieve "settlement readiness".

The Three Wisemen of Divorce are divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA®, Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, MA...

 In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Peter Roussos, M.A., MFT, CST, Psychotherapist; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss why the first two weeks of any divorce is the most dangerous time.  Learn what kinds of situations can make this the most dangerous time and learn strategies for setting boundaries and minimizing conflict.

The Three Wisemen ...