March 24, 2025 • 10 mins
A disturbing account of digital abuse and financial exploitation within a relationship reveals how revenge porn was used as a weapon during a toxic breakup. What seemed like a supportive partnership masked a pattern of manipulation that led to severe financial hardship and public humiliation on social media platforms.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
and he did this.
There's a power thing.
He's new to meeting her,they're new to dating.
There's a lot there, there's,but, um, there was a toxic
energy there that it's like hewas not standing up brother to
brother in that moment to sit ona live, while she's
misgendering you, saying all ofthe stuff she said about you
while even previously, beforethis happened, um, from my
(00:21):
understanding, didn't you haveyour nudes leaked and things
like that by her and shethreatened to leak them because
you weren't acting the way shelike.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Explain what happened with the nudes thing because
revenge porn, revenge porn isnever okay and I think it's
illegal in states and stuffright, I sent you.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
I'm not sure if you saw it, but in one of the live
clips that I sent you, liketowards the end, she does it in
there, um, but she, she and Iwas actively working, so she,
she did it actually a total ofthree times.
So the first time she did itwas on her tiktok live almost 2
000 people looking.
The second time she did it, um,she hacked my tiktok, my backup
(01:00):
tiktok account.
She went in there, she stolemoney she about $150 from me and
then she distributed thepicture to all of our mutuals
and then put it on our story inthe middle of me literally
working my nine to five.
And then she hacked one of myvery old Instagram accounts that
I don't even know the passwordto, and then I sent you that
receipt too.
She posted it all on there andthen was in the comments arguing
(01:23):
with me back and forth likebroke character, um, and then
pretty much gave herself up.
She was trying to act like mewait, wait.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Did I hear this correctly?
You're nine to five.
Can you repeat that?
Speaker 3 (01:34):
yeah, I was working at my nine to five and she was
doing all of this to me.
So, like I'm working and I geta text and I work from home at
the time, okay, like just I didyou just post that, and I'm like
, post what?
And I went to my thing and like, literally, my hand was like
this, like I couldn't even likeget into the phone, like my hand
(01:54):
was like literally shaking, butI was really humiliated by that
.
Now the way that she even gotthat photo is she tries to push
online that I was sending it towomen and all this.
If you listen to her, she goesfrom me saying she's going, goes
from saying I think it's awoman to men, to the whole world
.
No, the reality of thesituation is I did send that
picture to one man, one man, andthe reason I needed to send
(02:16):
that picture to him was becausewe had an eviction, an eviction
letter on our door.
She was getting payments thatwere invisible.
I didn't get paid for anothertwo weeks.
He was in my.
You know that people being ourDMs is offering strange things
for a little bit of change,right?
Usually, typically I ignore it,but I needed the money, like I
couldn't wait two more weeks forall those fees to go on.
(02:38):
It's like paying damn near halfanother month of rent and then
having to pay, turn around andpay my again.
So I bit great and I got paid.
I got paid $500.
I paid my the rent that Ineeded.
But where I messed up is I didnot tell her and I will take
accountability for that.
I did not loop her into it onlybecause I was human as a man, I
was embarrassed One.
I'm a trans man.
(02:58):
I'm showing another man thatI'm not.
I'm not even sexually attractedto men.
So for me to have to like openthat door I was just humiliated
and then to bring it to her.
I didn't want her to feel likedown about herself because she
was the one that lacked thepayments that I was relying on.
And then she I didn't also wanther to feel like she needed to
(03:19):
go show hers.
So I was just trying to takereally one for the team and also
I was embarrassed.
So because I didn't tell her.
She concocted, after goingthrough my phone, a story in her
brain and then, once weseparated, I didn't even know
she had the picture she that'swhen she started going crazy, um
, but she also used it, utilizedthem to have people questioning
(03:44):
my sexuality, like it was justa lot.
It was a lot.
It was a lot um.
Did she have a?
job ever at the time at all, no,she worked at universal for
like one second um, but shewasn't she was not working at
all, like she lived with me andlived in the home and it's funny
that how you touched on it,just from being like a spectator
(04:05):
on the outside, how you feltlike maybe she could have been,
like exploiting me allegedly forher, her platform, one of our
major arguments would be thatshe wasn't doing anything.
While living in my house I wasshowing up for her 110%, taking
care of her child, you know,providing a roof, working
outrageous numbers, trying topay for my top surgery on top of
(04:25):
that, and then, um, her son,like there was that's a lot of
finances um to take care of um.
So one of our biggest argumentswere I didn't feel like she
wasn't doing anything like inreturn and I'm not talking about
financially there was nothingreally there, mentally,
emotionally, she wasn't reallycleaning the house, things like
that um, where that was a redflag, but I ignored it because I
(04:48):
felt as though like, maybe,like I'm being dramatic, maybe
I'm I'm the one doing too much,but there was, she was not.
I was.
A lot of the time I felt like Iwas getting more and she was
just taking, and when we brokeup I told her I said my, my cup.
Even in one of the emails I hadtold her my cup is literally
empty.
I have nothing else to give toyou for my cup.
(05:10):
I started to lose everythingaround me.
My car had got a repo.
I was getting eviction letterson my door.
I wasn't even getting that whenI was single, paying for my cup
surgery by myself.
Before I got with her, I hadalready started paying for my
top surgery and I wasn't late onmy rent.
I wasn't late on my car.
I didn't have any issues.
So when the narrative that getspushed like Josiah doesn't have
(05:33):
anything, josiah doesn't know,I don't have anything because
one I almost lost it all for her.
Then I turned around and gaveit all up for her to try to make
things, in hopes to makeeverything work, and then when I
realized and got the boss toleave, of course I didn't have
anything because she took it alland I almost feel as though she
moved me over to Texas and likeas like some type of like evil,
(05:57):
weird plot, like it was justweird because she even came out
later on and said that she'sbeen talking to the dude.
So this is like I don't get it,like I don't you know.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
So do we have video of the of this new man or?
Yeah she got.
I want to see this I want tosee this.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
No, and this video is interesting because he's even
calling her out about, like howshe kind of misled him.
Uh, if we could play that, what?
Speaker 4 (06:19):
yeah, yeah she.
That's the last time she cameout here to visit her family.
Her child came because her childcame to visit his grandmother
and whatever other family shehas out this way.
That's why her child is withher.
I hit her up, said what youdoing?
(06:41):
I see you in my city.
She said well, while I'm outhere, I do want to have fun.
I'm meeting up with otherpeople.
Of course, you know othercontent creators and shit like
that.
But she's like but meanwhile Ido want to go to the beach in
hollywood and shit like that.
All right, come on, let's go, Igo.
(07:04):
Of course her son wants to dothis stuff too.
Her son wants to get on theferris wheel, her son want to
get on the roller coaster.
That's why her son was with me.
We were literally going to go.
What is that?
Santa Monica?
Literally going to Santa Monicato get on the beach and all the
(07:26):
rides and shit.
That's literally why she wantedto go to Santa Monica.
They both wanted to go there toget on the roller coaster.
I don't know why.
Shit is bullshit if we know.
And the Ferris Wheel bullshit.
Santa Monica Roller coastersdon't even go upside down, but
it's something if we know.
And the Ferris wheel bullshit,ronicosa don't even go upside
down, but it's something theywould start struck about doing.
That's why the child is around,was around me Other than you
(07:48):
know, eating and all of thatstuff and me playing with them,
with the wrestlers and stuff,only reason.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
So it's so funny that he says that they're both such
horrible liars.
Because it's so funny that hesays that they're both such
horrible liars?
Because I love that you justcall it straight out.
No because no, I saw the live.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
I watched him sit there and giggle and to me it
was that whole thing of likeI've got bottom surgery, so I'm
more of a man than you are, sohe's a post-op he's a post-op
man, so he's a trans man thatlikes to look down on other
trans men who are pre-op Becausethey don't have pre-, pathetic,
like a transmedicalistsituation and like the stuff
that came out of her mouth andkind of the way that even they
(08:29):
navigated with their content.
I mean I saw him activelyposting her and it was just
really toxic.
And I had one more questionbefore we wrap up on, uh, on the
finance.
So, in terms of like financesand stuff, like, were you guys
like equally sharing the billsor was she covering your bills
because, like I know, she hasher tiktok following you said
(08:49):
she doesn't have a job, so howis she able to cover the cost
for, like, her kid and stufflike that?
Because the narrative that likewas put on the internet is like
, oh, you're living off of herand and from what it kind of
sounds like, is that sounds kindof the opposite in a way.
I mean, it sounds like you hadthe nine to five and you were
providing, yeah, a space for her.
(09:10):
Um, let me know if I've missedanything or something's off no,
yeah, no, you're absolutelycorrect.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
what a lot of the internet doesn't even understand
is the way that she ended upliving with me is because her
mother kicked her and her sonout.
Also, people have this like youknow perception when they see
people with a large following,that automatically means money.
Yeah, no, she was not.
She wasn't even making moremoney than my nine to five at
that point in time.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
When she started blowing up again on TikTok is
when she accused me of falseallegations of being so it
created her following to go up,which I think is what really
created her addiction in TikTok,because I've seen so many
TikTok creators do that and kindof exploit themselves, not to
say that we don't, you know, dothings.
and he did this.
There's a power thing.
He's new to meeting her,they're new to dating.
There's a lot there, there's,but, um, there was a toxic
energy there that it's like hewas not standing up brother to
brother in that moment to sit ona live, while she's
misgendering you, saying all ofthe stuff she said about you
while even previously, beforethis happened, um, from my
(00:21):
understanding, didn't you haveyour nudes leaked and things
like that by her and shethreatened to leak them because
you weren't acting the way shelike.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Explain what happened with the nudes thing because
revenge porn, revenge porn isnever okay and I think it's
illegal in states and stuffright, I sent you.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
I'm not sure if you saw it, but in one of the live
clips that I sent you, liketowards the end, she does it in
there, um, but she, she and Iwas actively working, so she,
she did it actually a total ofthree times.
So the first time she did itwas on her tiktok live almost 2
000 people looking.
The second time she did it, um,she hacked my tiktok, my backup
(01:00):
tiktok account.
She went in there, she stolemoney she about $150 from me and
then she distributed thepicture to all of our mutuals
and then put it on our story inthe middle of me literally
working my nine to five.
And then she hacked one of myvery old Instagram accounts that
I don't even know the passwordto, and then I sent you that
receipt too.
She posted it all on there andthen was in the comments arguing
(01:23):
with me back and forth likebroke character, um, and then
pretty much gave herself up.
She was trying to act like mewait, wait.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Did I hear this correctly?
You're nine to five.
Can you repeat that?
Speaker 3 (01:34):
yeah, I was working at my nine to five and she was
doing all of this to me.
So, like I'm working and I geta text and I work from home at
the time, okay, like just I didyou just post that, and I'm like
, post what?
And I went to my thing and like, literally, my hand was like
this, like I couldn't even likeget into the phone, like my hand
(01:54):
was like literally shaking, butI was really humiliated by that
.
Now the way that she even gotthat photo is she tries to push
online that I was sending it towomen and all this.
If you listen to her, she goesfrom me saying she's going, goes
from saying I think it's awoman to men, to the whole world
.
No, the reality of thesituation is I did send that
picture to one man, one man, andthe reason I needed to send
(02:16):
that picture to him was becausewe had an eviction, an eviction
letter on our door.
She was getting payments thatwere invisible.
I didn't get paid for anothertwo weeks.
He was in my.
You know that people being ourDMs is offering strange things
for a little bit of change,right?
Usually, typically I ignore it,but I needed the money, like I
couldn't wait two more weeks forall those fees to go on.
(02:38):
It's like paying damn near halfanother month of rent and then
having to pay, turn around andpay my again.
So I bit great and I got paid.
I got paid $500.
I paid my the rent that Ineeded.
But where I messed up is I didnot tell her and I will take
accountability for that.
I did not loop her into it onlybecause I was human as a man, I
was embarrassed One.
I'm a trans man.
(02:58):
I'm showing another man thatI'm not.
I'm not even sexually attractedto men.
So for me to have to like openthat door I was just humiliated
and then to bring it to her.
I didn't want her to feel likedown about herself because she
was the one that lacked thepayments that I was relying on.
And then she I didn't also wanther to feel like she needed to
(03:19):
go show hers.
So I was just trying to takereally one for the team and also
I was embarrassed.
So because I didn't tell her.
She concocted, after goingthrough my phone, a story in her
brain and then, once weseparated, I didn't even know
she had the picture she that'swhen she started going crazy, um
, but she also used it, utilizedthem to have people questioning
(03:44):
my sexuality, like it was justa lot.
It was a lot.
It was a lot um.
Did she have a?
job ever at the time at all, no,she worked at universal for
like one second um, but shewasn't she was not working at
all, like she lived with me andlived in the home and it's funny
that how you touched on it,just from being like a spectator
(04:05):
on the outside, how you feltlike maybe she could have been,
like exploiting me allegedly forher, her platform, one of our
major arguments would be thatshe wasn't doing anything.
While living in my house I wasshowing up for her 110%, taking
care of her child, you know,providing a roof, working
outrageous numbers, trying topay for my top surgery on top of
(04:25):
that, and then, um, her son,like there was that's a lot of
finances um to take care of um.
So one of our biggest argumentswere I didn't feel like she
wasn't doing anything like inreturn and I'm not talking about
financially there was nothingreally there, mentally,
emotionally, she wasn't reallycleaning the house, things like
that um, where that was a redflag, but I ignored it because I
(04:48):
felt as though like, maybe,like I'm being dramatic, maybe
I'm I'm the one doing too much,but there was, she was not.
I was.
A lot of the time I felt like Iwas getting more and she was
just taking, and when we brokeup I told her I said my, my cup.
Even in one of the emails I hadtold her my cup is literally
empty.
I have nothing else to give toyou for my cup.
(05:10):
I started to lose everythingaround me.
My car had got a repo.
I was getting eviction letterson my door.
I wasn't even getting that whenI was single, paying for my cup
surgery by myself.
Before I got with her, I hadalready started paying for my
top surgery and I wasn't late onmy rent.
I wasn't late on my car.
I didn't have any issues.
So when the narrative that getspushed like Josiah doesn't have
(05:33):
anything, josiah doesn't know,I don't have anything because
one I almost lost it all for her.
Then I turned around and gaveit all up for her to try to make
things, in hopes to makeeverything work, and then when I
realized and got the boss toleave, of course I didn't have
anything because she took it alland I almost feel as though she
moved me over to Texas and likeas like some type of like evil,
(05:57):
weird plot, like it was justweird because she even came out
later on and said that she'sbeen talking to the dude.
So this is like I don't get it,like I don't you know.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
So do we have video of the of this new man or?
Yeah she got.
I want to see this I want tosee this.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
No, and this video is interesting because he's even
calling her out about, like howshe kind of misled him.
Uh, if we could play that, what?
Speaker 4 (06:19):
yeah, yeah she.
That's the last time she cameout here to visit her family.
Her child came because her childcame to visit his grandmother
and whatever other family shehas out this way.
That's why her child is withher.
I hit her up, said what youdoing?
(06:41):
I see you in my city.
She said well, while I'm outhere, I do want to have fun.
I'm meeting up with otherpeople.
Of course, you know othercontent creators and shit like
that.
But she's like but meanwhile Ido want to go to the beach in
hollywood and shit like that.
All right, come on, let's go, Igo.
(07:04):
Of course her son wants to dothis stuff too.
Her son wants to get on theferris wheel, her son want to
get on the roller coaster.
That's why her son was with me.
We were literally going to go.
What is that?
Santa Monica?
Literally going to Santa Monicato get on the beach and all the
(07:26):
rides and shit.
That's literally why she wantedto go to Santa Monica.
They both wanted to go there toget on the roller coaster.
I don't know why.
Shit is bullshit if we know.
And the Ferris Wheel bullshit.
Santa Monica Roller coastersdon't even go upside down, but
it's something if we know.
And the Ferris wheel bullshit,ronicosa don't even go upside
down, but it's something theywould start struck about doing.
That's why the child is around,was around me Other than you
(07:48):
know, eating and all of thatstuff and me playing with them,
with the wrestlers and stuff,only reason.
Speaker 3 (07:57):
So it's so funny that he says that they're both such
horrible liars.
Because it's so funny that hesays that they're both such
horrible liars?
Because I love that you justcall it straight out.
No because no, I saw the live.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
I watched him sit there and giggle and to me it
was that whole thing of likeI've got bottom surgery, so I'm
more of a man than you are, sohe's a post-op he's a post-op
man, so he's a trans man thatlikes to look down on other
trans men who are pre-op Becausethey don't have pre-, pathetic,
like a transmedicalistsituation and like the stuff
that came out of her mouth andkind of the way that even they
(08:29):
navigated with their content.
I mean I saw him activelyposting her and it was just
really toxic.
And I had one more questionbefore we wrap up on, uh, on the
finance.
So, in terms of like financesand stuff, like, were you guys
like equally sharing the billsor was she covering your bills
because, like I know, she hasher tiktok following you said
(08:49):
she doesn't have a job, so howis she able to cover the cost
for, like, her kid and stufflike that?
Because the narrative that likewas put on the internet is like
, oh, you're living off of herand and from what it kind of
sounds like, is that sounds kindof the opposite in a way.
I mean, it sounds like you hadthe nine to five and you were
providing, yeah, a space for her.
(09:10):
Um, let me know if I've missedanything or something's off no,
yeah, no, you're absolutelycorrect.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
what a lot of the internet doesn't even understand
is the way that she ended upliving with me is because her
mother kicked her and her sonout.
Also, people have this like youknow perception when they see
people with a large following,that automatically means money.
Yeah, no, she was not.
She wasn't even making moremoney than my nine to five at
that point in time.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
When she started blowing up again on TikTok is
when she accused me of falseallegations of being so it
created her following to go up,which I think is what really
created her addiction in TikTok,because I've seen so many
TikTok creators do that and kindof exploit themselves, not to
say that we don't, you know, dothings.
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