The Offense Trap: Why We Get Stuck In It and How to Break Free with Alexandra Hoover

In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into a topic that most people have felt but few of us know how to actually navigate: offense. The kind that comes from unmet expectations, painful conversations, broken trust, or even wounds we thought we’d already healed from. My guest, Alexandra Hoover—author, pastor, and Bible teacher—joins us for a powerful conversation around her new book, You Can Let Go, and what it really looks like to release offense and step into freedom.

In this episode, we talk about: 

• What offense actually is and why it keeps us stuck
• How unaddressed offense shapes our identity and relationships and where rejection, insecurity, and people-pleasing come into play.
• The difference between healthy boundaries and building walls that keep us isolated
• Practical steps to let go of offense
• How offense can shape our identity and relationships if left unaddressed
• The importance of vulnerability and honest self-reflection in the healing process

Key Quotes:

• “We either get to be hurt people that hurt people, or healed people that heal people.”
• “You do not have to stay stuck in your hurt. Healing may take time, but you don’t have to wait for an apology to move forward.”

Resources Mentioned:

• Alexandra’s free devotional: 7 Heart-Healing Practices to Release Offense, Forgive Freely, and Finally Feel Free
• "You Can Let Go" by Alexandra Hoover (available on Amazon)
• Connect with Alexandra:
  • Instagram: @alexandravhoover
  • Website: alexandravhoover.com

Takeaway: Letting go of offense is a daily practice that leads to freedom, deeper relationships, and a more meaningful life. Tune in for encouragement, practical tools, and a reminder that you are not alone on the journey.

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