Episode 119 -When Everyone Leaves: The One Relationship That Never Fails

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What happened to real connection? Remember those carefree days when finding your friends meant spotting a pile of bicycles on someone's lawn? The Trust Factor takes you on a journey contrasting the relationship-rich experiences of the 1980s with today's screen-dominated isolation.

Technology promises convenience but delivers dependency. When it works, we barely notice; when it fails, we're thrust back into "the stone ages." This reality mirrors a deeper truth about human connection in the digital age. While children of previous generations built friendships through shared physical experiences—riding bikes, playing sports, walking through parks—today's youth hide behind screens, trading authentic connection for artificial engagement.

This shift extends beyond social interactions into everything we value. We've embraced "artificial" intelligence, synthetic fabrics, and digital relationships without questioning what we've sacrificed. The spiritual cost is significant: we've lost sight of the one relationship that transcends all earthly connections. As Rabbeinu Bachya teaches, when you feel alone, take comfort in God's company. This world is merely a hallway connecting us to eternity—a temporary space where human relationships, however valuable, remain impermanent.

When friends disappear, family members pass away, or circumstances leave you isolated, remember that divine companionship never wavers. Even in moments when God seems distant, He remains the force sustaining your heartbeat, filling your lungs with oxygen, and providing opportunities in your life. Take a step toward this relationship today. Look to the heavens, speak from your heart, and discover the one connection that will transform your existence in this increasingly disconnected world.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Good morning everybody.
Welcome to the Trust Factor.
This is the podcast thatguarantees your success when you
implement its divine teachings.
Yesterday we missed our podcastFirst time ever, and the reason
was technology, the wonderful,wonderful world of technology.
When it works, it works great.
When it doesn't, good luck.
It'll set you back into thestone ages, and that's what it

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did for me yesterday.
Back into the stone ages, andthat's what it did for me
yesterday.
So, apologies, I could not postyesterday.
We're getting back into it today, my friends.
We were talking aboutrelationships.
We're talking about we'veswitched gears, we've moved out
of finances for now.
I'm sure we may jump back intoit at some point, as it affects
all of our lives, in all of ourrelationships, but for now we're

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talking about how is it that anindividual who has trust in God
conducts himself when it comesto all of our relationships, all
of them bar none?
And the general rule that wesee here is one that shouldn't
surprise you.
But before we get into that, Iwant to tell you about an
interesting video that I postedon my X-Feed a couple of days
ago.
It was really brilliant andsome of you may have seen it,

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but it was.
It touches, it hits home.
It's a video about a bunch ofpeople doing things that we did
in the eighties, inviting usback into the eighties and
realizing that 2025 is adifficult time to be alive
compared to the eighties, andit's just a beautiful video
showing people what they did inthe 80s and you know riding

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their bikes and being withfriends and sitting in a park,
in a forest, on the grass andjust contemplating the purpose
of life and spending timetogether and doing all these
wonderful things that did notinvolve sitting behind a screen
and isolating yourself fromhumanity, which is what the
generation does today.
Our kids will never know whatit is that they've lost out on

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All the amazing things that wehad in the 80s, which were all
based around relationships.
You know, for the guys, how didwe know where our friends were?
It was very easy you rode yourbike around the neighborhood and
then you found six or sevenbikes thrown on a lawn and you
knew that that was the friend'shouse where everybody was
hanging out.
So you dropped your bike andyou went into the house.

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It was all about relationships.
Yeah, we had video games, butwe didn't sit there day and
night with video games.
We played a little bit of videogames and then we went out and
we played sports and we rodebikes and and we walked in parks
and we just did amazing thingswhich we just don't do today.
Today we're all hiding behindscreens.

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My friends, this wholediscussion is around
relationships and really the 80sI think was the was defined by
our relationships and I thinkwhat's taken away?
We've lost all of that in thisnew generation, this age of
technology.
In fact, it's not just an ageof technology, it's an age of
artificial intelligence.

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Artificial is a synonym forfake, it's a synonym for unreal,
for wrong, for lies, foreverything that is not real and
true and good.
And yet today we've acceptedthat as the standard, we've
accepted that as the holy grail.
Today, every fabric is made out.
Every garment you buy is madeout of polyester.

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In the 80s we never boughtpolyester.
We knew that it was garbage, weknew it was synthetic.
Today, not only do they buy it,but they pay big bucks for it.
We're living in a backwardsgeneration, my friends.
It's really not a good thingand our children are really the
only ones who are going tosuffer.
But really get back to the pointover here.
We're talking aboutrelationships.
We're talking about how the 80swas all about relationships, and

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today the last thing we focuson is relationships.
We're all stuck behind ourscreens.
Now, what does Rabbeinu Bachirtell us about relationships?
He shouldn't surprise you whathe's about to tell you, but what
he says is that if you're astranger, without family or
friends, when you feel lonesome,you should take comfort in
being in the company of God, andwhen he encounters difficulty

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as a foreigner, you should relyon him for help.
Also, he should bring to mindthat the soul is always a
foreigner in this world.
My friends, there is an idea inthe ethics of the Father that
teaches us that this world is ahallway.
It's a prosdor, which is ahallway.
A hallway is designed toconnect two rooms.

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This world is really just aconnection back to the next
world.
We're supposed to just be heretemporarily, to be able to amass
all of our merits, so that wecould achieve greatness in a
world of eternity.
Now we can also enjoy this life, and we're supposed to enjoy
this life, but the reality isyou have to view it as a

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temporary, purpose-drivenmission, and so it's not about
so much your relationships.
Yes, they are important, butoftentimes in this life you will
find yourself alone, whetheryou're traveling or whether
you've had the misfortune oflosing loved ones.
I told you the other day that agood friend of mine in our

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early university days lost hisfather, who he was very close
with at that age and his prayersincreased in quality and in
meaning and he now.
He told me that he now criedout to god to say god, you're no
longer just my spiritual father, you have to replace my
physical father.
And that relationshipflourished, and I've seen it for

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the last 30 years, and so somepeople thank god I haven't been
there.
One day I will.
Unfortunately, that's the waythe world works.
But if you've lost a parent, aperson who you've relied on for
so long, it's very difficult.
This is the person who broughtyou into this world and they've
provided for you and cared foryou and you know, when you were
children, you looked up to themas though they were superheroes,

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and suddenly they're gone.
It's a very difficult thing.
What do you do in thatsituation?
Somebody with trust looks up tothe heavens, as my friend did,
and says God, I've only got youand really that's all you have,
even when your parents are alive, even when people around you,
your friends, your family, arealive and well and can assist

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you.
People around you, your friends, your family, are alive and
well and can assist you.
All of their assistance, all oftheir energy, everything that
they do and give to you comesthrough him, and he is always
there, 24 hours a day, sevendays a week.
My friends, again, he didn'tdrop us off and say have at it
and let me know how it works outfor you and disappeared into

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some other realm.
On the contrary, the exactopposite is true.
He came into this world and hestayed here.
He is here.
We may try and get away fromhim from time to time because we
think we can do better, wethink we can do well on our own.
That's the only time he'llretreat, but that doesn't mean
he disappears.
He disappears, he retreats andhe pulls away a little bit and

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allows you to do what it is thatyou want, which is to take
control of your life.
Okay, and then, like we said,you have difficulties and you
come crawling back and he'sright there for you.
He's right there.
He doesn't leave you.
By the way, even when you thinkhe's left you, he hasn't.
He's still the one pumping yourheart.
He's still the one filling yourlungs with oxygen.
He's still the one giving youeyesight.

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He's still the one puttingmoney in your bank.
He's still the one giving youall these opportunities every
day and all these wonderfulexperiences that you go through
right.
So the reality is, as much asyou try and get away or you
think he's retreating, he'salways, always there.
He is always the one that youcan rely on.
My friends, humanity, humanbeings we've said they're frail.
We've said friends will comeand go.
People will come and go even ifthey choose not to go, but

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they're taken from us.
At the end of the day, myfriends, you cannot rely on your
relationships.
The only relationship you canrely on is that with your
creator.
Remember that we are in atemporary existence, we are
travelers.
It says over here we shouldthink of ourselves as a
sojourner, as a traveler thatanybody who has relatives will,

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in a short time, also become alone stranger when he departs
from this world, and at thatpoint neither relative nor child
will be able to help him, norwill he be accompanied by any of
them.
And, my friends, the only onethat will accompany you and
wants to accompany you and hasall the means necessary to be
able to give you all of thethings that you received from
anybody else in your lifetime,and more is your creator.

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He wants that relationship withyou.
It's there for the taking.
All you need to do is take astep in that direction.
Try it out.
You've got nothing to lose, myfriends.
Take a step in his direction,open up a conversation with him,
look up to the heavens, useyour own words and have a
conversation with your lovingcreator, and I guarantee you
life will never be the same foryou.

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Have an amazing day, my friends.