Episode 120 - Single, Married, or Searching: God's Perfect Plan for You

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What if your life circumstances—whether married or single, with children or without—are exactly what they're meant to be? 

The Trust Factor podcast explores a profound spiritual paradox: while human relationships form the cornerstone of our experience, they are inherently temporary. Every connection we forge will eventually transform through natural separation, disagreements, or ultimately, death. The only relationship guaranteed from birth until death is our connection with our Creator.

When two souls unite in marriage, Kabbalistic tradition suggests they're actually reuniting from previous lifetimes. These divinely orchestrated unions require deep investment and shared trust. But not everyone is meant to find this union in their current lifetime, despite sincere efforts and genuine desires.

For those who remain single after valiant attempts at partnership, there's a liberating perspective to embrace. Rather than viewing singleness as lacking, it can be understood as a divine arrangement with unique purposes. Without family obligations, your resources—financial, emotional, and temporal—remain yours to direct toward spiritual growth and community support in ways married individuals cannot.

Many seek to escape their circumstances through withdrawal or detachment, similar to those who retreat to monasteries. But true spirituality comes not from escaping the world God placed you in, but by engaging with it purposefully—elevating everyday experiences through divine connection.

Our perspective is severely limited—"like looking through a keyhole"—while God sees the complete picture across past, present, and future. When we align with divine will and stop fighting our circumstances, we position ourselves exactly where we need to be for success.

Ready to transform your understanding of trust and divine purpose? Listen now and discover how accepting your unique path—whatever it may be—can lead to extraordinary outcomes.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
Morning everybody.
Welcome to the Trust Factor,the podcast that's going to
guarantee your success when youimplement its divine angel
teachings.
Last night I was at a beautifulwedding, the wedding of Adam
and Sarah.
Good friends of ours had theirchildren married off last night
to start a new relationship.
Now, coincidence, we're talkingabout relationships.
How does this young couple, orany couple for that matter, who

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are married, use trust in god intheir relationships?
Up until now, we've said thatwe have to recognize that our
relationships are temporary andwe have to recognize that we can
only rely on people so muchbecause eventually they will
either go away of their ownaccord or some falling out, or

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they'll be taken from this worldand you will be left without
them.
So you cannot build arelationship where you trust
entirely on these individualsbecause ultimately you or they
will be left alone at one pointwithout that relationship.
Now, does that imply inmarriages?
Certainly it does, but itapplies in all of our

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relationships parents, childrenwith parents.
Whatever the relationship maybe, there is no guarantee of its
continuity.
There is no guarantee that thatrelationship will be there
tomorrow.
Eventually, many of them moveon.
So that individual, we said,needs to recognize that there is
only one who they can rely onon a daily basis, 24 hours a day

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, seven days a week, from theday you're born until the day
you die, and that is yourrelationship with your creator.
Here we have a beautiful newyoung couple.
This couple was broughttogether, and they were brought
together for a purpose, but noteverybody merits to be able to
get married.
There are so many people inthis world who live a life where

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they are single right, orthey're married for a short
period of time, and thatmarriage comes to an end and
they live out the rest of theirday single or remarried to
another individual.
Every situation is different,so what he's about to explain to
us over here is that where youfind yourself is where you need
to be.
In other words, this beautifulyoung couple, adam and Sarah,

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got married.
They made a decision, they werebrought together, they fell in
love and they made a decision tomake a commitment to each other
to become one.
And that's what happens whenyou get married, by the way, on
a Kabbalistic level and on areal level.
And that's what happens whenyou get married, by the way, on
a Kabbalistic level and on areal level.
When you get married to thatindividual, your neshamahs, your
souls, unite, you become one.
They actually reunite because,kabbalistically, you were

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already united in a previouslife.
You were brought down to thisworld united, and so you're
reuniting these two beautifulsouls.
So God says look, you made aneffort.
I gave you the outcome of thateffort, which is a mate, a
spouse or a child or whatever itis.
I gave you that relationship.
So clearly, you need to havethat relationship, you need to

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invest in it and you need tounderstand that your time and
your resources, your emotionsand your focus now needs to be
split.
You need to share your lifewith that individual.
You need to rely on each other.
So that means you need to havefaith in each other and that
means you need to have trust ineach other.
Arguably.
I mean, when you're young andyou're under your parents' wings

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, you trust and have faith inyour parents.
But when you've left the nestand you've found your mate, that
trust and faith now shifts toyour life partner.
So god puts you in thatsituation and he says okay, now
you have to understand that yourresources need to be split.
But what happens if you're notmarried?
What happens if you don't meritto find your soulmate and

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you've searched and you've givena valiant effort and it doesn
doesn't work out.
Well, what he says over here isthat once you've understood
these ideas, he says you need tobe relieved of the heavy burden
of maintaining a family andfulfilling the usual obligations
towards them and meeting theirneeds.
In other words, if God kept yousingle, if God didn't give you

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children and you've tried and ithas been made abundantly clear
through your efforts that youcannot then it is time for you
to stop trying and startembracing and moving forward.
Those resources that this andall couples will have to share
now stay with you.
That means what you make stayswith you.
You now decide on your ownwhich associations, which

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individuals you will support,which communities you will
support, and communities youwill support and how you will
support them with your resources.
Your time now can be betterspent focusing on yourself, your
emotional and your spiritualgrowth and helping other people.
You now have so much more time.
When you're not married, myfriends, when you have no

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children, you have an abundanceof time.
If you choose to take that timeand put it in your office and
spend 16, 18 hours a day, six toseven days a week, then you're
making foolish choices becausethat's not what you were brought
here for.
We've discussed that up untilnow.
But now you have all thisexcess time much more than an

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individual who's married withchildren and all those
obligations this excess time,much more than an individual
who's married with children andall those obligations.
So what you do with your time,now you've got so much more of
it, becomes that much moreimportant.
But focus on the good.
You've been given that time.
You've been given thoseresources that don't need to be
taken by a wife and children, soyou can do so many other things
to help so many other peoplewith those resources.

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Either way, whether you'remarried or whether you're single
, whether you have children orwhether you don't, you have to
understand just like we saidbefore when it comes to money,
that you have to understand thateverything comes from your
loving creator.
Only he knows what's good foryou.
You see your friends gettingmarried and you say I need to
get married.
You see your friends doingpost-secondary degrees.

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I need to do a post-secondarydegree.
You see your friends havingchildren.
I need to have children.
That's not the way it works.
You need to know what Godexpects of you, what he wants of
you, what kind of a life hewants you to live, then you need
to pursue that type of alifestyle.
If it does not work out afteryou've given a valiant effort
just like with the money you'vetried to make millions of

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dollars, but you're limited thisyear, you're limited next year.
You've been limited in the lastfive years.
You cannot sit there and beupset and cry about the fact
that it hasn't worked out foryou.
Instead, understand that youneed to focus your efforts
somewhere else.
That's it.
Your time may come.
You may have very good years inthe future.

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You don't know.
Nobody knows.
Only he knows he understandsyour accounting.
That accounting applies notjust financially, but also in
relationships, which is exactlywhat we're talking about over
here.
He says that there are peoplethat they call perushim.
Perushim means people who've um, what's the word?
Withdrawn.
They've withdrawn themselvesfrom society.

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These are people that, you see,go, fly to tibet and they join
some monastery and become monks.
Unfortunately, the jewishcommunity has had too many of
these people, because we areprogrammed to look for
spirituality, we're programmedto look for real answers and
we're not satisfied with theanswers that we get, because
that's how our souls areprogrammed and so oftentimes

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you'll see a barry goldberg whobecomes guru whatever his name
is right some hindu or buddhistguru sitting on the top of the
himalayan mountains trying tomeditate, taking a vow of
silence for the rest of theirlives, or whatever how that
works.
I'm not familiar with it, but Iknow, unfortunately, we've lost
too many people who are lookingfor god to these kind of

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nonsensical ideas where youdetach from the world that god
put you in.
Wait a second.
What are you detaching for?
He put you here.
He put you here for a reasonand now you're trying to undo
what he did in your pursuit ofhim and you trying to find him.
It runs counterintuitive, myfriend.
It makes no sense.
God put you in this world andthe entire Talmud, the entire

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Gemara, which is the cornerstone, is the foundation of Judaism.
That is our oral law.
There's an entire dissertation,it's an entire discussion about
this world.
We take literally everythingthat exists in this world and we
scrutinize it under the, underthe rules of torah, to
understand.
Is this what god wants from us?
Is this a tool that we need toutilize?

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How do we utilize this part ofthe world to the best of our
abilities to make it, to elevateit and make it godly.
That's what our life is.
It's not about detracting andgoing to the mountains.
But he's saying over here,people used to do that.
They used to leave their homesand they still do it today to go
and meditate on top of amountain, spend time away from
their family to clear their head.
Listen, I'm all for your ownpersonal time.

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I think it's very important.
Everybody needs to have time tobe able to stop and reflect and
assess your life and to thinkabout where you want to go with
your life and to think aboutyour relationship with God and
all of your relationships.
Very important, but when you'remarried and you have children,
that time becomes a very, verylimited resource.
When you're not married, you'vegot a lot of that and so you

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could utilize that.
That's what he's saying overhere is remember God knows
what's important for you.
Don't fight what is happening inyour life.
Make an effort, just like youdid when it comes to making
money.
You made an effort, you said.
You analyzed industries, yougot an education, you tried to
figure out where your skills arebest suited to be, and you've
made a decision in that lifeWonderful.

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That's where your career comesfrom.
You've done the homework,you've made an effort.
You go out and you try and earn.
The rest is out of your hands.
You give 100% and you move on.
It's the same thing withrelationships.
You tried to get married.

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You gave 100%.
You did all the things you'resupposed to do and it eluded you
your entire life.
It's not for you.
Move on.
Focus on other parts of yourlife that are equally and more
important than that.
Same thing with children.
You managed to get married.
You tried to have children.
It didn't work out.
You gave a valiant effort, youdid everything you could.
At one point or another, youwill have to make the decision
to move forward in a differentdirection.
It's not what you're supposedto be dealing with.

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It's not a part of your test.
We have to understand that Godknows what's required for us
much better than we do.
I'll remind you that there isanother realm in that infinite
realm.
God knows past, present andfuture.
We barely know the present andwe certainly don't know the
future, and we have no ideaabout previous existences.

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Our view is limited.
It's a keyhole, my friends.
It is like a towel thrown overa globe with a little hole taken
out of it.
All we can see is one littlepart of the world.
We have no idea about the rest.
We have no clue.
And so he does.
And, in his love for us, hesets you up for success.
He doesn't set you up forfailure.

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So, wherever you find yourselfand if you're living a godly
life, if you're contemplatingwhat he should want from you and
what you should be doing inorder to live a godly life, and
you're giving it a valianteffort, you, my friend, are put
in the exact perfect space to beable to achieve an amazing
outcome.
Have an amazing day, my friends.