Episode 124 - Breaking the Garden's Curse: How Making Your Wife Happy Leads to Financial Ease

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Ever wonder why some people seem to earn money with remarkable ease while others struggle endlessly? The answer might be found in one of the oldest stories ever told.

Drawing from ancient Jewish wisdom, this episode of The Trust Factor explores a powerful spiritual principle that connects how we treat our spouses—particularly wives—with our financial prosperity. At its heart lies the concept of "measure for measure" (midah k'neged midah), which suggests that reversing someone else's burden can lead to easing your own.

We journey back to the Garden of Eden to understand the distinct "curses" that befell Adam and Eve. While men were condemned to earn bread "by the sweat of their brow," women received a different but equally challenging fate—constant emotional and mental burden. Women typically lack what men know as the "empty box"—that mental space where nothing exists. Instead, they remain perpetually engaged with the needs of family, relationships, and community.

This understanding reveals a profound opportunity: when husbands relieve their wives' financial anxieties through generosity and emotional support, they're effectively working to reverse the ancient curse. In response, a spiritual principle activates, and their own burden—difficult labor—becomes lighter. Money begins to flow with greater ease, not necessarily in greater abundance, but with remarkably less struggle.

What makes this wisdom so valuable is its dual benefit. By focusing on your spouse's happiness, you create both a more harmonious home and potentially transform your relationship with money. It's a perfect example of how ancient wisdom can provide surprisingly practical solutions to modern challenges.

Ready to experience more financial ease? Start by putting a smile on your spouse's face today. Your wallet might thank you tomorrow.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 0 (00:00):
Good morning everybody and welcome to the
Trust Factor.
This is the podcast that'sgoing to guarantee success when
you implement its teachings.
My friends, we are into adiscussion about relationships
and money and our relationshipswith money, and yesterday I gave
you a little insight into aTorah concept that I like to
share.
It's a little word that I liketo give out at weddings or at

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Shabbat Brachog, which are theevents that take place after the
weddings, or at engagementparties, because it really
applies to our relationship withour spouses and making them
happy.
And one of the ways that wetalked about yesterday with
regards to making our wiveshappy specifically our wives by
the men, making their wiveshappy is by providing for them

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in a way that is not limited,it's not restricted, it is not
burdensome.
We give to them and we overgiveto them.
We don't make theirrelationship with money a
difficult one, because that hasthe power to destroy our
relationships.
I talked to you about theexample yesterday that had to do
with the punishment that thesnake received for what happened

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in the Garden of Eden and, as Imentioned earlier, there's a
Torah thought that I'd like togive over and I'm going to share
it with you guys now in thecontext of what we're talking
about over here when it comes tomaking our wives happy.
And here's how it goes.
You all know the story of whathappened with Adam and Eve in
the Garden of Eden.
I've discussed it in previousepisodes and in different
contexts.

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Here we're discussing it in thecontext of money and how an
individual who is a breadwinnerhas to provide for his family
and, specifically, to make hiswife happy.
Now we have in Judaism manyomens, and those omens dictate
for us that if you want toincrease your odds at success in

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a certain area of your life,then you should do x or you
should do y, depending on whatthe area is in your life that
you're trying to improve or toget extra help from the heavens
with.
You've tried all the basicthings, you've put forward a
valiant effort and you're stillnot seeing the results that you
want.
There are sometimes omens thatwe go by that if you try and

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implement them, they willincrease your odds of success.
Some of them you may know.
I'll just give you an example.
One of them is when it comes toeating bread.
We need to wash our handsbefore we eat bread.
That is an omen for wealth.
If you're looking foradditional wealth, then be
careful, when it comes time toeat bread, that you should wash

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your hands properly before youeat bread.
That is an omen for successwhen it comes to financial
wealth.
Now you can try and make aconnection there and say, well,
why is it?
And it might beself-explanatory.
You might say, well, bread isthe basic source of life and we
have to appreciate it and wehave to honor it.
Otherwise it would be that muchmore difficult for us to

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achieve or to gain access to it,and so, by washing our hands,
we apply to it a certain senseof honor and respect, and
therefore, in respecting andhonoring it, god will give us
more of it, and that reallyequates to wealth, because it's
wealth that buys you the food inorder to survive and succeed.
The other example that appliestoday is if you want your money

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to come easy, then you shouldmake your wives happy.
You should put a smile on yourwife's face, and that will, in
turn, be an omen for you to beable to generate wealth in an
easy fashion.
Not to say necessarily thatyou're going to have an
abundance of wealth, but thatthe money that you're going to
earn is going to come to youwith very little effort.

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Why is that?
That's a difficult one toexplain, certainly much more
difficult to explain when itcomes to bread and washing our
hands.
Here's the answer, my friends,stay with me on this.
We've said, and as a premise toall of this, I want to remind
you that there's a principlecalled measure for measure.
Midah, k'neged midah.
What goes around comes around.

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God created the world with thatprinciple as a foundation.
Now, what happened?
We go back to the story ofGarden of Eden.
We go back to the story wherethey ate from the tree of the
knowledge of good and bad.
God said don't, I'm putting youin this garden.
Everything is yours, everythingis at your disposal.
Eat from everything and enjoyit, but there's one tree you

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should stay away from.
That is the tree of knowledgeof good and bad.
Stay away from that tree.
We all know what happened.
The snake gets involved.
The snake convinces Eve thatGod wasn't really serious in
what he meant or that shemisunderstood it, and, as a
result, she eats from the tree.
And then she has knowledge andrealizes what she had just done

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and goes and makes her husbandeat from the very same tree.
That is the tree crime that wascommitted.
The important thing to focus onhere is the punishment or the
consequence of the crime.
Adams we said yesterday wasthat by the sweat of your brow
you will eat bread.
What does that mean?
That means, up until now,everything came easy.

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Up until now, you did not haveto work hard for your food.
But going forward, my friend,now you are going to have to
sweat in order to make a living,as we all do today.
That was Adam's punishment.
What was Eve's punishment?
Most people who know the storyknee-jerk response is pain in

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childbirth, and while that istrue that that was one of Eve's
punishments, it really says thatyou will have suffering period
and pains in childbirth.
What is that suffering?
What is that referring to inthe Torah when it says that Eve,
who represents woman, is goingto have suffering?

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And to understand that, we needto understand the women in our
lives and know that women haveuse of their brain much more
than men do.
Women are much more emotionalbeings than men are when it
comes to emotions.
Women use much more of theirbrain and on a more regular
basis.

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Women are always thinking,they're always contemplating,
they're considering everybody intheir lives their husbands,
their children, their parents,their in-laws, their friends,
their community.
Women are always on.
Women do not have what my wifelikes to call the empty box.
Men have an empty box that wecan retreat to and spend a lot

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of time there.
Women do not have that.
They lack the ability todisconnect from life and just
think about nothing.
Again, everything I'm talkingabout here is a generality.
There are always exceptions tothe rule, but the rule is that
women generally do not have anempty box.
They are always on, alwaysthinking, always perturbed, and

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therefore that equates to thesuffering that God refers to in
the Torah.
As a consequence of our action,the snake gets the worst
punishment we talked about that.
He gets disconnected from Godcompletely.
Everything he eats tastes goodto him.
He can be satiated byabsolutely anything.
God says I'm giving you all youneed in this world.

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I want nothing to do with you.
Easily.
The worst punishment of thethree.
What is the connection for usover providing for our wives to
be able to give them all of whatthey need and many of the
things that they want, to bevery free and very generous with
supporting our spouses and theability to make money easy?

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It doesn't really connect.
There's no connection, but hereit is.
We said, and I'll repeatmeasure for measure that's the
way God created this world whatyou do to others, he will do to
you.
So here we see that the man'spunishment, when it came to the
eating of the fruit of theGarden of Eden, was that he was

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going to have to work hard tomake a living by the sweat of
his brow.
And the woman's punishment,eve's punishment, was that she
was going to be in a constantstate of suffering.
So how do we fix this?
In order for you, as a man, tobe able to generate income for
yourself in an easy way and nothave to sweat to earn your

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living, all you need to do istake care of your wife and
reverse her curse.
Her curse was anxiety.
Her curse was constant thinkingand worry.
If we, as the husband, comealong and change that by
allowing her freedom when itcomes to access to funds, when

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giving her a kind word, tellingher a joke, allowing her to
offload her worries on you sothat she could release those
frustrations and anxiety ofthinking constantly about these
things, when you do these thingsto make your wife happy, then
what you are doing is, you'rereversing her curse, and what

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God does as a result of that is,measure for measure, he
reverses your curse.
You no longer have to earn aliving by the sweat of your brow
.
It will come easy, notnecessarily in abundance, but it
will come easy because that wasour curse.
Our curse was by the sweat ofyour brow.
So that is the connection, myfriends.
That's the omen.

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If you want to have money comingto you with ease, without
difficulties, then all you needto do is make sure that your
wives are happy, and that meansnot just financially is.
Make sure that your wives arehappy, and that means not just
financially.
Emotionally.
Take away some of that burdenfrom them, and a lot of that
burden has to do oftentimes withmoney.
So all you need to do is whatRabbeinu Bachi is telling you Be

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free when it comes tosupporting your wife and the
children, because they're reallya package deal.
The more she feels that she isnot burdened when it comes to
finances, the happier she isgoing to be.
You're going to relieve one ofthose very big burdens on her,
and the result will be thateverybody, including you, will

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be happier as a result of it.
Hopefully, you can implementthat in your life and see the
results of it immediately.
Have an amazing day, my friends.
We'll pick up tomorrow.