Episode 125 - Gratitude Opens the Gates of Abundance

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Ever wondered why some households thrive while others barely survive despite similar resources? The answer might surprise you. In this deeply insightful episode of The Trust Factor, we uncover the transformative power of truly understanding your role as a provider.

We begin by exploring the profound difference between merely surviving and genuinely thriving. While everyone needs basic necessities, those who depend on you—your spouse, your children—deserve more than bare minimums. When you extend yourself to fulfill their reasonable desires, something magical happens: abundance flows more easily into your life. It's a spiritual principle at work—by easing another's burden, you simultaneously lighten your own.

Gratitude emerges as the central theme and secret to success in this episode. Think of it like being a dinner guest who receives seconds simply by expressing genuine appreciation for the first serving. The universe works similarly. We explore two essential ways to demonstrate gratitude: through verbal expression in daily prayers and through actions that honor the source of our blessings. Using your home to host others, your vehicles for good deeds, your resources to elevate the world—these actions speak louder than words and naturally attract more abundance.

Perhaps most striking is our examination of dysfunctional family dynamics where providers view dependents as competition rather than sacred responsibilities. The defining trait of exceptional providers isn't financial acumen but selflessness—recognizing you're a channel, not the source. True providers emulate divine attributes: offering emotional stability, direction, and rock-solid consistency. Though challenging, this path transforms ordinary days into experiences filled with joy, purpose, and growth for everyone involved. Ready to reimagine your role as a provider and witness the transformation that follows?

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Good morning everybody and welcome to the
Trust Factor.
This is the podcast that'sgoing to guarantee your success
when you implement its divine,age-old teachings.
Yesterday, we discussed aconcept that had to do with
providing our families,specifically our wives and our
children, with the meansnecessary to give them peace of

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mind.
In this world, we are all afterthe things that we need.
Those include our basicnecessities food, clothing,
shelter.
We all need them.
We have to go after them.
We really have no choice if youwant to survive, but if you
want to thrive, then you have toset goals for the things that
you desire.
If somebody relies on you asthe breadwinner and their role

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in the family limits them fromproviding an income, then you
have to provide them with notjust their bare necessities but
also their desires, that whichyou can obviously afford, and
even sometimes that which youcannot afford.
You need to extend yourself,and we've said yesterday that
when you extend yourself,everybody benefits.

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You benefit because youcontinue to earn an income, you
continue to get showered withmoney.
In fact, what you get showeredwith will come to you that much
easier, because you are makingyour wife's life that much
better, you are easing herburden, you are reversing her
curse and therefore yours, yourcurse, which was, by the sweat

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of your brow, you shall eatbread, meaning it's going to be
difficult for us now to generatean income.
That gets reversed measure formeasure.
Now, if you want something fromyour creator, my friends,
what's the best way to get it?
There are many ways to getthings from your creator.
The obvious way is the way thatwe all know, which is to pick

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up a prayer book and to followthe structure set out for us by
our sages of how to access thecreator in the most efficient
and effective way possible.
There are many ways to do it.
You can use your own words.
We've said before this conceptof Hid Bodhidut, where you
meditate on your own and you useyour own words and your own

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thoughts to be able to expressyour wants and desires.
Very important, but equally andprobably more important, is to
use the structure that comesfrom our sages.
Why, if I want to get to theCEO of a Fortune 500 company,
you don't just pick up the phoneand get to them?
That's not how it works.

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They have gatekeepers,sometimes multiple gatekeepers.
These people generally don'tspeak to the public, but if you
want to get access to them.
There is a way to do it.
You have to follow protocol.
You need to know how to getthrough the gatekeepers.
Some gatekeepers are harderthan others.
Therefore, in a similar vein,our sages, in all their wisdom,
understood what that protocolneeds to be.

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Not that God God forbid is aFortune 500 CEO or anything even
remotely similar, but a similarprinciple applies in that if
you want to know how to get tohim in the most effective way
possible, then you follow theirstructure.
They put a structure togetherthat, through his teachings,
allows us to be able to accesshim.

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So that's one way.
Another way to do it there'susing your own words, through
Hidboda, through meditation andself-reflection, and speaking in
your own words.
Then there's following hisprescribed outline of how to
access him.
There are many other ways ofdoing it.
My friends, the best way, in myopinion, is through gratitude.

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We've said that word many timesin this podcast and I'm going
to continue to say it.
That is the secret for successin this life.
The more grateful we are inthis world, the more the world
will open up to us.
What do I mean?
How does gratitude get you thethings that you want?
Think about it through ananalogy You're invited over to a
friend's house for a meal andthey prepared a delicious,

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delicious meal.
Let's say the wife prepared itand you're sitting by the table
and you've just had your firstserving and it was really
spectacular.
It was really the best thingyou've tasted in a very long
time and you would love more.
You would love seconds, butthere are other people at the
table.
Maybe there are limited peopleportions and you don't want to
seem out of place, so you don'twant to ask for it.

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What's the best way to be ableto ask for it without asking for
it?
Very simple you look at thehostess and you say to her that
was the most delicious thingI've tasted in a very long time.
Thank you very much.
And 99 of the hosts orhostesses that you will ever be
by, if they were taught thebasic ways of the world, which

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most people are, the next thingthat they will say to you is
thank you very much.
Would you like some more?
Is by being grateful for thethings that we already have.
How are you grateful for thethings that you already have?
Two ways.

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Number one you use your wordsevery day in your prayers.
You look up to the heavens andyou say thank you.
Thank you for the things thatyou've given me, thank you for
the material, thank you for thespiritual, thank you for
everything that you have givenme and my family in this
lifetime, in previous lifetimesand in future lifetimes.

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Thank you for absolutelyeverything.
The other way to thank God isin your actions.
In other words, when he givesyou the things that you are
looking for, utilize them in away that aligns with his
instructions, because he's theone who's giving you them.
Think about your relationshipwith your children.
If you gave your childrenresources and they went out and

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used those resources in a waythat conflicts with your way of
raising them, with your moralcompass that you've instilled in
them, if they go and do theexact opposite and knowing that
it irks you, knowing that itbothers you because you've
taught them well and they knowthe difference between right and
wrong and yet still they goagainst you they do the exact
opposite.
That is the way of not thankingGod for his money and not

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thanking God for all thewonderful things that he's given
you in this life the spouse andthe children, and the
opportunities and the house andthe cars you want to be able to
thank God for the house that hegave you.
Host people in your house,serve them meals.
Host the poor.
Even better, you want to saythank you to God for the cars
that he's given you.
Use them for a mitzvah, usethem to go to synagogue.

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Use them to do things, to dothe mitzvahs, to do the good
deeds that surround us.
There are ways to show God thatyou are grateful for the things
that he has given you withouteven using your words.
Sometimes you don't even haveto say thank you, you just have
to use them in the correct way.
You have to do them for good.
When he sees that you arebehaving properly, that you are

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using what he's given you for abetter purpose, to elevate this
world, then you better believethat, just like a loving parent,
he's going to come and give youthat much more to continue to
do the good things that you'redoing.
Let's continue reading, myfriends.
He says one should avoid causingyour family, the people who are
dependent on you that we'vebeen discussing up until now,

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the people who you are chargedwith supporting.
You should avoid causing themany harm.
It's amazing that he even hasto say this.
Physically or emotionally.
He should seek to bring aboutanything that will benefit them
and should be dependable in allof their affairs.
My friends, again, the factthat he has to say this shows

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you that there are so manypeople and you didn't even need
this to prove to you that thereare so many people in the world
who simply are not cut out to begood parents or parents at all.
What is the defining trait?
Or parents at all?
What is the defining trait?
Selflessness.
If you have an individual whois selfless because they
recognize that God is theprovider and not them, then you

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have a good parent, somebody whodedicates their lives to be
able to seeing their childrensucceed, to seeing their spouse
happy.
It is critically important.
There are so many people in thisworld who live and exist in a
life where they are at odds.
They see their spouse or theirchildren as competition.

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Understand how corrupt thatthought process is.
There are so many people whocompete with their children and
their spouses and yet theirchildren and spouses are
dependent on them.
So can you imagine thechallenges that exist in that
household?
Can you begin to imagine and tounderstand what these people,
the painful process that theyhave to go to just to be able to

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get the basic necessities fromtheir, from their parent or from
their spouse.
My friends, that is a world ofsuffering in this world.
That is the worst form ofsuffering being under the thumb
of an individual who does notknow where the money and the
resources are coming from andsomebody who believes that it is
them.
It is them and their wisdom andtheir strength and their

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brilliance that got them this.
So everybody in the housebetter line up and better
understand where this money iscoming from, where these
resources are coming from.
It is me and my brilliance.
Had it not been for me, youwouldn't be able to eat.
And there are so many whoconduct themselves this way, my
friends, and as a result of that, their relationships are fickle
.
Their relationships will fallapart, it seems, given the first

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opportunity of independence.
As soon as the individual,whether it's a spouse or a child
, finds another source, goodbye.
Everything comes to an end andeverything unravels.
What he's telling us over hereis recognize that your role as a
provider is not justfinancially, but it is an
emotional provider, is aprovider of support, it is a

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sounding board, it is givingdirection, it is being a rock
and being consistent, just likethe Creator.
All these things, all theseadjectives that I'm throwing out
, explain God.
That's who he is, that's how heconducts Himself, that's how
we're supposed to be, especiallyif you are the provider in the
family.
You have to emulate Him.
It's not an easy task, myfriends, but that is our

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ultimate goal, and when wesucceed and when we pass those
tests, then life becomesspectacular.
Every single day is filled withjoy and purpose, and everybody
benefits and grows from it.
That sums it up for today, myfriends.
Have an amazing day.
We'll continue tomorrow.