September 29, 2025 • 53 mins
We are back with another edition of Truth After Dark! Paul & Azar give their perspectives on some of the hottest current events such as Cardi B & Stefon Diggs having a baby, Michael Porter Jr. paying his ex’s rent, and LeBron’s keys to a long-term relationship. After that, they dive into black men/women not being appreciated, and much more!! Turn off the lights, light up a candle, and tune in!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Why are you trying to match a girl's energy.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
I'm trying to match your pettiness. Do you understand what
I'm saying? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (00:05):
Why because you think make it right?
Speaker 2 (00:09):
When we go overseas we exotic.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
You love saying that.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
We think about all the places I go because look,
I go to China, I go to Australia, they looking like,
oh oh point really tall. You know what I'm saying,
We look like we dinosaurs before people look at us
walking down the street like look.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Being fetishized and being appreciated are two different things. People
fetishize Black men ooh you're tall, your skin like you're
you're being fetishized. That's the whole thing that white people
are different.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
No, it's not.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Black women are the most frowned upon by all the races.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
Have your preference, but don't bring us down while you're
doing it. If you want to be with a woman
that's not American or not white, do that, but stop
referencing it to a black woman.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Who are our popular top women? And what do they
talk about? Black women wan't to be treated a certain way,
but act a certain way.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
You can't generalize a whole group of women.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
I'm trying to think what race you think least contributes
to society.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
I don't think.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
This is the taking over the game. All right, everybody,
welcome to Truth after Dark.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Do you think that men or women are more toxic?
Speaker 3 (02:04):
Hello, beautiful people, welcome to another episode of the Truth after.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
I can't wait a minute. What I'm okay?
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Yeah, that's bad. Go ahead, what's show? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm sorry. This is crazy. You have
to scare me, They say, you scare me?
Speaker 2 (02:37):
That's crazy? Okay, Hello, what's Hatten and Hatten and Hattening?
Y'all welcome to Truth after Dark with another episode. Yeah,
I am your boy, the Truth Paul Peasy and this
is the Lovely bizare faaraday. We're gonna jump right into
it another week. More topics to cover what you got
(02:59):
on the menu today. You're looking nice, thank you?
Speaker 1 (03:01):
So are you? Okay? So let's get into it.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
We're gonna go over some current events topics. So number
one is Cardi B is pregnant. You know she's pregnant.
She just dropped her album. She's in the streets shaking
that ass. But there's a lot of people who have
things to say because they feel like, oh boy, Stefan
album with platinum album is cracking. I heard I haven't
got a chance to let's do, but I heard the
(03:27):
album is cracking. A lot of people who feel like
Stefan is trifling because he got like all these baby mamas.
I guess he has two babies simultaneously on the way
right now, not including Cardi B. So they're like, this
man just does anything out in the streets. So they
feel like she's dumb. She why she having a baby
(03:49):
by this man? They only been together X amount of time.
She just got she was married or she was we
offset she has already these kids.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Whatever the case may be, everyone has their opinion.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Man card could do whatever she wants, living her best life.
She said, I didn't have the rapper. Let me give
me some NFL your dig and then you know, if
that don't work out, we move on to the NBA.
After that. You just never know, never know.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
I will say he has a type because his baby
mama's they all look that same look like Cardi B.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
Yeah, they look like you know, Kyle Cardy.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
Looks like like superstars, like uh, the same type of
look like Latina, like the body done like they all
have that they're beautiful.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
I think they're all be for first of all, I
love Cardi B. No one can tell me nothing about
Cardi B.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Because she's authentic to herself and she always keeps it
a stack and I love her.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
This is the thing, Cardi B knew who Offset was
before getting it off set right, he did what he did.
She know who Stefan Diggs is before getting with him
and how he moved So what that say about her?
You know what I'm saying though, So don't don't look
at her and say why she moving on? She she
(05:07):
in the streets too, just like the head of the
streets too, and her and just because some of it's public,
but I bet it's a lot of stuff that ain't public.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
So but I will say that with Offset, he didn't
have like a whole lot of shit going on, Like
he don't have no whole bunch of baby moms and
like crazy situations. And I feel like, you know, sometimes
you can have a perception of somebody and they can
show you a different side of them, and you can
believe that and you could fall for that, and you
could be in love with that, and it could break
your heart when you find out that it's really not
(05:37):
what it is.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
So that's just my opinion.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Look next up, I'm done.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
So Kresha wrote a letter for Diddy and everyone is like, oh,
young Miami, Oh okay, you know they be a relationship.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Yeah I know, but you's calling her by her government.
I didn't know that.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Yeah yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
So she's like goes by that time, Like her podcast
is called Karesha Please Okay. So she wrote a like
a judgment what is it called a character reference for Diddy?
Speaker 1 (06:11):
And she's like he's a good man.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
She's just pumping them up, and people feel away because
it's like, how can you say this is a good
man when you saw him dragging Cassie across the floor
on a video, you know.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
What I mean?
Speaker 3 (06:24):
And so people have their opinions and they're like she's
so fucked up, Like how could she really give a
character reference?
Speaker 1 (06:30):
Like do you have no heart?
Speaker 3 (06:32):
Like you're just gonna watch this man do all of
this to the Cassie and this woman and you see
it on video.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
What's she supposed to say?
Speaker 1 (06:40):
I'm just you Maybe she doesn't have to write a letter.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Yeah I get it, but like damn, like every human being,
regardless of their discretions or what they've done evil or
not evil. Like everybody has some type of support and
people got to get over that. If she wanted to
defend him and show love through his time of need,
(07:04):
that's on her, you know what I'm saying, Like it's
ex murderers, serial killers that got a support system work.
Some people that's just like man, you know that go
out for him? So like, man, leave that alone. Man,
all this this society that we live in. They're too
sensitive and cancel culture. And because somebody do one thing,
(07:26):
you ain't supposed to say nothing to them or say
nothing positive about them them. I'm off that bullshit.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
But where does the line that you draw when it
comes to that that.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
Was her x man. So but this ain't like she
ain't no fan, No, this is her x man. She
could go defend him.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
I'm not arguing you about this.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
I'm asking a question which you ask, and I'm saying,
where do you draw the line though when you say, okay,
you can say positive things about a person even though
they had indiscretions, But what point is it like those
indiscretions are because like if you're a pedophile, you're done,
Like it might have been if you raping little children,
(08:06):
it's out for you. Like you have to have a
moral compass and you, like people have to have something
that they stand on, like that's why there's the Bible
or if people believe in God or people have this.
You have to have some type of moral guiding that
will tell you what you mess with and what you
don't because it's too much going on in the world.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
A pedophile and I am your boy or your brother,
my support for you is gonna be like here, listen, man,
I'm gonna go to religion, Like here, I got this Bible. Man,
you really that ain't it? That? Ain't it? Like that's
like a whole other level. Now when you talk about
(08:47):
things like that and rape and all that. That's like, man,
I gotta I gotta bring a religion into the game now,
like hey, we gotta pray, man, you and I gotta
do it in silent. I'm not letting the world know
that I'm doing this. You know what I'm saying. People
can support, but then it's silent.
Speaker 3 (09:04):
Well that's what people are saying about the Koreashia thing. Yeah,
because he was claimed to be a rapist and to
do a lot of these things.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Well, I feel like something is she don't have to
let the world know.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Yeah, And I think I get that. You can support
people in private, but because you're publicly supporting him and
also helping, Like if I know rapist, a pedophile or anything,
Am I going to help them.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Get out of jail necessarily?
Speaker 3 (09:27):
No, maybe I'll support them while they're in jail and
like send them books and help them with certain stuff.
But I mean, I think that, and I'm just being honest.
We live in a world where celebrities they're idolized too
much and they can get away with a lot more so. Anyways,
the next thing is Devin Haney. Is that how you
(09:50):
say his name?
Speaker 1 (09:50):
Yeah, he's suing his ex for three hundred and fifty k.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
Run that back, run that jewelry and then watches and
all that car. Back run that. Yeah. Yeah, get over there.
I'm gonna be petty. That's so because she probably was petty,
So now I'm gonna be petty. Run that back. I
need that.
Speaker 3 (10:07):
Well. She was also the one that was pill talking
to young thug while he was in jail, talking about crying.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
I wish I could be with you instead.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Run them, run them that was a long.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
Time ago, and he decided to stay with her. So
that's his bad.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
Run that back, petty? There, let's go. I'm with you, dad,
run that.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
I think that's really petty though, But what Yeah, but I.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
Just do it all the time, so I ain't trip.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
What are girls asking to run back?
Speaker 2 (10:37):
No, I'm saying they petty. It ain't about the run back.
It's about the petty.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
But why are you trying to be like a girl?
Speaker 2 (10:43):
Everybody's petty? It ain't the one.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
Girls do it all the time. So why.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
I never said it was? You said girls do it
all the time. So I said, why are you trying
to match a girl's energy?
Speaker 2 (10:55):
I'm trying to match your pettiness. Do you understand what
I'm saying?
Speaker 1 (10:58):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (10:58):
Why because you think make it right? This is just
what it is right now?
Speaker 1 (11:04):
Like, why can't.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
We you embarrassing me? So now I'm embarrassing you on
some petty sit.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
I feel like we need to live in a generation
where you say.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
I do that. I'm just saying I ain't mad at it.
Go ahead, Yeah, man, people, these females be trying to
embarrass us all on social media all the time, and
now this is this lick back. This is a good
way to look back without being actually, you know, being
on some domestic Okay, cool, I'd rather God do that
to a girl than be on some realized domestic you
(11:34):
know what I'm saying. We get it back in other ways.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
I would say this.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
I feel like men have to be smarter because you
had a girl that was publicly talking to young thug
in jail years ago or whenever that was. It wasn't
this year, and you literally stayed with this woman, married
this woman women, and you continue to take the disrespect
and then you continue to buy her three hundred and
(12:01):
fifty K and gifts, and now you're so hurt and
down bad that you gotta go to court and sue
a woman for those things.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
My name is, my name is on that. I didn't
put it in your name. Run that.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
Yep, his name is on what on the jury and.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
All that whatever. Let's go run that back to original,
back to the original place of setting. Oh what we got?
What we got? Oh man, the cops is coming after
that one.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
I'm over it. Next thing, okay, boom.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
So there's an NBA player and he went on justin
La Boy's podcast and he was talking he just had
a two hundred million dollar deal and he said that
he goes fifty to fifty.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
With his girlfriend for rant, for everything.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
And Justin was like, what this is ridiculous, Like why
would you do that?
Speaker 1 (12:57):
D da da da?
Speaker 3 (12:58):
And he was like, you know, I just feel like,
what if we don't stay together? And I'm like, I
don't know if you're gonna be my wife and I'm
doing all of this, but this is my girl. And
he was like, and you know, we did end up
breaking up five months later, and he's like, so I
didn't feel like this was someone that I was going
to spend the rest of my life.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
I didn't know or not.
Speaker 3 (13:18):
So I felt like, yeah, I'm worth two hundred million.
And Justin was like, damn, and you know, she probably
doesn't make a lot of money.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
She's trying to do this. She's trying to do that.
And he was like, yeah, so I don't care.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Damn. Where was y'all living at? Was you living with her? Then?
Speaker 4 (13:32):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (13:33):
He said that they got a spot.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
If you got two hundred million, then you probably gonna
get something rent that's gonna be about like ten fifteen thousand.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Look what he said.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
He asked her what she could afford, and he's like,
I'll pay the other half of that.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
So he moved in with her.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
He moved I don't know moment, I'm.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
Just saying two hundred million. You not living over there
on Crenshaw like in Sloughson. That's what she can afford. Yeah,
he can't afford over here in Beverly Hills and and
Calabasas and all that, but he can. So like, where's
the fifty fifty coming in? Are you talking about like
with the like like the walking the dog or or
(14:14):
or the housekeeper them type of bills, But because we're
talking about like rent and the real bills, then nah.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
No, Yeah. Everyone.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
A lot of people were outraged in the comments and
justin the interviewer was like, this is crazy.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
Why wasn't.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
Who was it Darnell? Oh gosh, what's his name? Michael
Porter Jr.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
Yeah, I think it's cap.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
You think he's lying.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
I think that's okay.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
Well, yeah, he said that the bills were Uh.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
He said that he was with her for five months
and then they broke up, and he's trying to debate,
like she wants him to still pay her rent for
the rest of the year because he made that promise.
He was like, Okay, if we break up, I'll put
you and pay your rent and help you for the
rest of the year. He made the promise, but he's
saying to Justin, he don't know if he want to continue.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
It just costs money to be with a girl. Just
this is cost Like, man, it just costs, Like you
just be like, damn, pay for the rest of my
year and were not together. What if I get with
another girl. I'm with her but she found out I'm
paying another girl, Like how that's gonna work?
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Oh right, right right?
Speaker 3 (15:20):
If you have another girl and then they're finding out.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
You don't need to be doing all that like you, Yeah, exactly,
that is tricky. That is true, like.
Speaker 3 (15:31):
Losing it like you a whole other woman's ranks, Like yeah,
that's wild. So that goes into there was this text
that some guy sent to his girl and everyone was
like analyzing it on the internet and he was basically like, hey, babe,
I know that we're supposed to do like a Valentine's
Day dinner, but unfortunately I had to pay my baby
(15:54):
mama's car note, so I can't do nothing for you tonight.
But why don't you grab some wine and some groceries
and come over.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
And we could just chill.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
Right, that's cool.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
I think that's cool.
Speaker 3 (16:05):
But people have the issue with like, why are you
paying your baby mama's cardo, Like that's not pertaining to
the kids technically, So why are you paying that?
Speaker 1 (16:13):
So I can see it from both sides.
Speaker 3 (16:15):
Because like, how is my kids getting around if she
can't pay the car?
Speaker 4 (16:18):
No, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (16:19):
She obviously needs a car and she helps take the
kids to school or whatever the case is. But women
were in the comments and they were like, that would
never have been a problem if he didn't say he's
paying his baby mama's cardinal.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
If it was just like.
Speaker 3 (16:31):
Bills are piled up, this is going on. I can't
you know, like I can't do it.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
Come over.
Speaker 3 (16:36):
That's different. But women are like, so how long have
you been paying this card? Why are you paying her car?
Speaker 2 (16:41):
Not? Yeah? Yeah, this is the thing. You can't I
get it to show. It's the mother of your child
and she asking it. That means she's being irresponsible with
the child support because the most important bills is taking
care of the rent in the car. Yeah, you know,
what I'm saying, like say the car, no, probably like
(17:01):
between what two fifty, say five hundred, like what's going on,
Like it's probably somewhere around there and she can't take
care of that. Like but I don't know, you know
what the child's sporty paying either. Maybe he only giving
her like five hundred a month that had to go
towards the rent. She didn't have no money for the car.
So I ain't really bad at that. You know, it
(17:24):
is the mother's kid, and you don't want her to
not get in the work or not be undertake the kid.
I get it to school. So you know, I've never
I don't think i've I ain't never been in that
situation where it's like a bill like that. No, but
you know it's understandable though I ain't mad at that.
Speaker 3 (17:42):
I can understand that from the point of like you
need somewhere, you need to get your kids to A
and B, and this is the mother of my child
and she helps.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
Yeah, you could just be like I got a car,
she could she or he could live with me. I
could take her to school.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
Yeah you could do that too. Yeah, I mean okay, So.
Speaker 3 (18:05):
Moving on, Lebron James he came out and he said
the three keys to a long relationship because obviously Savannah
and hadn't been together for a long time.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
And he said that this shit is not easy. It's
a lot of work.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
And he said the three strongest points are communication, honesty,
and being okay with being uncomfortable. Yes, which we're interesting
for those to be the top three.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
See listen, like, if you want to know about being
in a long term, I'm gonna listen to guys like Lebron.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
I'm gonna listen to guys like because like when you
look at them, they look like from the Afar. It's
picture perfect, you know. And I'm gonna listen to guys
like Magic Johnson who's been with his wife for like forever.
I'm gonna listen to people like that's like kind of
like and that's famous too, because it's harder, you know.
I'm gonna listen to like what jay Z and Beyonce
(18:58):
say about how they, you know, been able to stick
it out and what they've been through. So you know,
like if he's saying you gotta you gotta listen to
it because they've been together, they were still and you
gotta understand the pressures from her, the pressures from him.
He over here, he gone a lot. He on the road,
he played twenty years traveling out the country for Nike,
for this and that, and it's just like, man, we're
(19:19):
still strong, We're still together after all that, and you
ain't never really heard of, like no real real public
turmoil between them.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
So that's right, Yeah, that's real.
Speaker 2 (19:27):
That's you know, so like if you're gonna have a
blueprint on how to do it as far as like
a guy that's in like the famous notoriety, just like
somebody like that. But it's it's harder now because he's
in the spotlight. Yeah, you know, so like everybody see
where he go, what he doing, So it's harder to
(19:50):
like make mistakes.
Speaker 3 (19:55):
M you can go both ways, yeah, because it could
be easier because men that are famous and have money
get women thrown out them all the time, you know,
for the wrong reasons obviously, because.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
You know it like when you got the social media
and you got the cameras and yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
People you got videotape, you.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
Get caught up, Like you can get caught up easy.
Speaker 3 (20:19):
You almost have to be at a private location, n
DA and it's a lot of work at that third.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
Parties involved making calls and Texas money bag gotta be
right for the like. Come on, it's a lot that
go on. That's that's too much other work at this stage.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
So what do you interpret him saying being okay with
being uncomfortable to me?
Speaker 2 (20:40):
Well, he says, you gotta be uncomfortable.
Speaker 1 (20:43):
You gotta be okay with me, You.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
Gotta be okay with being uncomfortable. Well, it's gonna be
some things that you ain't gonna like about your spouse
and about you know that you gotta and it's gonna
probably be a little uncomfortable or they're gonna do some
things and it's just like, well all these other things
is great, you know, watch the well on that, you know,
because it do become a time when you around each
(21:05):
other so long that it's gonna be some things that
you ain't really feeling and it's gonna make you a
little like Dan, she coming home at four in the morning,
but you're like, damn, I just came home at for more.
Like it's like, damn, it's gonna be things that happen.
She went on a trip with her girls and said
she'd be back in three days, come back in seven days.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
Well these are wild disrespectful things.
Speaker 2 (21:23):
No, no, no, just like we just added on to it.
It's just like, well, it's gonna be some stuff that
makes you uncomfortable.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
Right, Yeah, I can understand that, I know, but it
ain't consistent.
Speaker 2 (21:32):
It ain't a consistent of comfort. It's like once every
blue moon.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
I think I would interpret it as having uncomfortable conversations
because that's where the growth lies. And I feel like
a lot of times in relationships, whether it's your family,
your friends, or your lover, your partner, I feel like
we brush a lot of things under the rug because
some conversations are too uncomfortable to have, so we allow
it to fester. And that's where we end up having
(21:57):
resentment and gripes towards our partner because we don't want
to address the uncomfortable conversations. We don't want to come
to you and be like, hey, look this is that
and actually work through it and really work together to
come to a solution, you know, because those are uncomfortable.
When you have to have those conversations that nobody wants
(22:18):
to bring up, nobody wants to talk about it, I'd
rather just put a band aid on it and deal
with it later, sweep it under the rug, and then
you build all of this resentment towards each other. And
I feel like being uncomfortable is about having those conversations.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
Well uncomfortable if you want to keep it one hundred.
The most uncomfortable conversation you're going to have in a
relationship is going to be something about revolving either the
kids or some cheating.
Speaker 1 (22:49):
I would disagree.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
The most uncomfortable conversations, I feel like everything else, Like,
what's more uncomfortable than that.
Speaker 3 (23:00):
There's a lot of things that are uncomfortable, Like you know,
there's things that you have to address with people that
are not going to make them happy, that are going
to feel weird, and you feel awkward about having to
say it, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
For instance, we can give an.
Speaker 3 (23:13):
Example, Babe, Sexually, I don't feel satisfied. That's uncomfortable as hell. Sexually,
it's not doing it for me. That's super uncomfortable because
either parties are going to feel inadequate and secure. Do
you want someone else? That's a hard conversation. So do
you continue to have sex with this person and not
say anything and not be satisfied, or do you communicate
(23:34):
it because a lot of people will continue having the
sex and they won't say what they really need because
it's uncomfortable or same thing, babe.
Speaker 1 (23:44):
You know, I think that's uncomfortable for you for a
lot of people.
Speaker 3 (23:47):
It is, though, that would be uncomfortable for me to
come to somebody and be like, hey, this is that
I will one hundred percent do it at this state
in my life. But have I been in that situation
And it's scary to address someone because I don't want
them to.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
Feel I've been liking it this long right now.
Speaker 1 (24:02):
Right, it's crazy. Now, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (24:05):
You let things build up and it's crazy now. Yeah,
it's like a bunch of uncomfortable things though, like, hey,
you're gaining weight and it's looking crazy for you. No,
it's uncomfortable as a woman. If your man is telling
you that those uncomfortable it could be the real uncomfortable,
hard truths you need to hear and you need those conversations.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
You need to have those conversations.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
But there's a lot of stuff like that, Like, it's
a lot of stuff when it has to do appearance, sex,
the way that.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
You're you know, romanticized with each other all of that.
Speaker 2 (24:39):
Yeah, I get it. Yeah, you're right.
Speaker 3 (24:41):
So for you, that's his top three keys to a
long relationship.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
What would you say, are yours keys to a top
to three keys to a long relasting relationship? Those were his?
Speaker 2 (24:54):
Uh? I think the three keys and I don't really
we had no order. I think I think I said
this to you before. I think you have to be
comfortable with being bored with each other. Yeah, but to
you it's not really on the outside looking in, it
may sound boring, but like like you could just be
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sitting there watching the movie, but that could be the
world to you and to everybody else, they're gonna look
at like, y'all born, y'all I'll do to sit on
the couch and watch TV. Well, to us, that's that's everything.
So it has to be a point where you be
comfortable and being bored with each other. I think keys
is communication obviously, That's like number one. I think communication
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is everything.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
And then the third one ish like I'm proud of
your faith. I mean damn, because like if we kind
of share the same faith and we go through something
and we can pray about it together. Yeah, maybe that
can help us get through some things. You know what
I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
I can see that. I can see that.
Speaker 3 (25:59):
Okay, I will probably say instead of communication, for me,
it would be understanding because you can communicate all day,
but if the person doesn't understand what you mean, it
will go nowhere.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
I can continue.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
You could talk to me and I just don't get it,
you know, but I feel like understanding and coming to
a place of understanding is more important in my opinion,
because you could be telling me something that I don't.
I don't get it at all because maybe you're a
man or maybe this, But if you help me understand it,
then I can be like, oh, that makes all of sense.
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So I would say understanding for sure, But you can't
have the understanding without the communication. So communication, and I
think that the last thing.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
Would be well if you said you can't have the
understand what the communication is that all in one?
Speaker 1 (26:48):
No, too, that's two different things.
Speaker 3 (26:49):
So like understanding, okay, you have to communicate obviously, And
I think honesty too, I would I would take that
from Leron. I would definitely say being real and honest
and not trying to sugarcoat things. To make people just comfortable,
like being able to express your needs or why that
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bothered you, or why you need this here or that there,
because sometimes you genuinely don't know and you could be
doing something to piss up what off early and they
don't know that, so they're just walking around and you're
annoyed as hell, but you don't tell them, and they're like,
this is regular for me. Like I had that in
one of my relationships where I would do something and
it just random low and it was like, damn, I
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never knew that until he told me after being so
mad about it for like months.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
The only way I won't say nothing is if I
told you a couple of times and you continue to
do it and it's just like yeah, yeah, I can't
just keep.
Speaker 1 (27:46):
Telling yeah for sure, I understand that.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
Yeah, and I've been in those type of situations. Yeah,
I keep telling you the same thing. You don't get it. Yeah,
it's just like what I'm go ahead.
Speaker 1 (28:01):
Yeah, you know what I'm saying exactly, Like you're beating
a dead horse. You don't want to keep it. I
can't just keep like exactly.
Speaker 2 (28:07):
A thinking of that when I'm putting down.
Speaker 1 (28:09):
Yeah, I get that too.
Speaker 3 (28:11):
At what point do you decide, like is that worth
ending the relationship and you feel like you've addressed issues
multiple times that are not changing.
Speaker 2 (28:21):
It depends on the level of it. Yeah, you know,
it could be a level three level three out of
like five is not like once it gets to level
four level five. As far as severity of like the
the communication and the things that y'all talk about that
ain't really like, uh, how do I want to put it?
(28:42):
The things that y'all go through that's like high level
at that's like severe like a like a you know
how these category five hurricanes, it's like it's got to
be level three. We still we ain't breaking up over
level three stuff. When they started being more level four
things and more than one or two or three or
four level four, that mean level five is gonna be
(29:05):
next and that's coming. It's gonna happen.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
Yeah, I get that. Okay, So.
Speaker 3 (29:16):
Before we move on, I just want to say thank
you when I said uncomfortable conversations and like saying, like someone, babe,
you're gaining weight. I appreciate you for not talking about
me being to eighty because that was a perfect place
for you to say that you didn't and you're growing
and I'm proud of you for that.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
Genuinely.
Speaker 5 (29:36):
Wait, wait, you all, anytime I bring up weight, you're
gonna say something about to eighty and I brought it
up and you didn't do it, and I'm just really
just want to say thank you and I'm proud of you.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
Everybody already though I didn't have to bring that up, you.
Speaker 1 (29:56):
Brought it up any other time.
Speaker 4 (30:00):
They knew it for the time.
Speaker 2 (30:03):
It was or eighty three.
Speaker 1 (30:05):
I was two seventy nine. Actually that was the biggest
I ever. I didn't make it. I was to seventy nine.
Suck you. We're not going down this path, Okay, So
I have a question.
Speaker 2 (30:20):
So got a question.
Speaker 3 (30:22):
Do you feel And I already know the answer to this,
but we're gonna dig deep on how you feel like
this could change. And I don't want you to be
like hesitant to say anything. It's not gonna happen. But
do you feel that black men are appreciated and do
you feel like black men have always been like they
never have been appreciated. Do you think it was like
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better back in the day. Do you think it's getting
worse progressively? Like what do you feel about that.
Speaker 2 (30:48):
I mean it's such a like broad yeah yeah, but.
Speaker 3 (30:51):
It is like black men by race, not by race,
by women. Yeah, by women, and they're kids like their children,
and women think.
Speaker 2 (31:03):
Were the most appreciated race on the planet by women.
Speaker 1 (31:08):
All right, you think you men are appreciated.
Speaker 2 (31:10):
I think you said, I think us, as black man,
we have the most appreciated on planet Earth, on planet
Earth by women. Really, yeah, even if it's not by
our own by all the other races they mess with us.
Speaker 3 (31:23):
Well, you know that statistically, black women are the most
loyal to their own race.
Speaker 1 (31:30):
Did you know that? So you're talking about it.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
Just makes it just makes sense because black women. People
don't like Black women. Other races don't like black Women's true.
Speaker 1 (31:42):
These black these white men.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
Are then because a lot of them, a lot of them,
I'm not saying that they were beautiful, but a lot
of them they prejudice. Like you know, you go to Europe,
they're looking at black them like they're looking at you
go over there, what you're doing over here? Like you
know what I'm saying, They looking at black women. They
just do.
Speaker 3 (32:06):
I think that there's a lot of men who want
black women. I think separately secretly, yes, but now more publicly,
now that things are shifting in the society, I feel
like a lot of like every race of man has
wanted me.
Speaker 2 (32:20):
Black women are the most frowned upon by all the races.
Speaker 1 (32:23):
I could see that.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
You know what I'm saying, it's not but it's just
it's just they are.
Speaker 3 (32:28):
But you're saying that black You just said that other
races don't want Black women, and that's a lie.
Speaker 2 (32:34):
They they do, but they just culturally sometimes it just
don't look good on the outside, like publicly, but on
it they do low key, like low key. I have
seen it.
Speaker 1 (32:46):
I don't even think it's low key. They high key because.
Speaker 3 (32:50):
A lot of the women now who are not black
are creating black features to look like black women, getting bbls,
getting their lips done, getting all the stuff dressing. Again,
black people culturally create the vibe. So at the end
of the day, all the culture is from black people,
period point blake. So you are emulating a black woman,
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You're just in a different syndern.
Speaker 2 (33:13):
The black woman is the most underappreciated.
Speaker 1 (33:16):
Yeah, on the planet Earth, and you see more than
black men.
Speaker 2 (33:21):
I think we're the most appreciated, really, Yeah, because you
gotta understand when we go like we we bigger, were stronger,
we more athletic than all the races. Right our DNA
is the strongest out of all the races. You know.
We put you mix black with anything, it's gonna turn
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you know. And then so like when we go overseas,
we exotic.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
You love saying that.
Speaker 2 (33:50):
We think about all the places I go because look,
I go to China, I go to Australia. They looking like,
oh oh point they tall, like they just you know
what I'm saying, We look like we dinosaurs be people
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look at us walking down the street like look, you know,
it's crazy. You know, you go to Greece, you go
to you go to Italy, you go to Australia, you
go to China, you go to these different places and
you're the only one you in the club and you're
the only one in there, like yeah.
Speaker 3 (34:24):
But being fetishized and being appreciated are two different things.
People fetishize Black men ooh, you're tall, you're skin like,
you're you're being fetishized. That's a whole thing that white
people are different.
Speaker 2 (34:36):
No, it's not the same thing.
Speaker 1 (34:38):
It's definitely not. It's nowhere to hear the same thing.
Speaker 3 (34:41):
They don't appreciate you, and they don't give a damn
about if you live or die. They fetishize the fact
that you're tall, you're black, you look a certain way,
and it's exciting to them. It's like they're at a museum.
That's what they used to do in slavery days. They
used to make black people fight each other and they
can watch it.
Speaker 1 (34:57):
That's what they bring.
Speaker 3 (34:58):
No, no, no, because the point is is are fetishized.
That's being fetishized we're talking about. But you said, but this.
Speaker 2 (35:04):
Is what's blowing me.
Speaker 3 (35:06):
Okay, you told me earlier that black men are not
appreciated by their by nobody. You literally said that, So
now I'm confused at what the switches. So now you
guys are the most appreciated man in the world because.
Speaker 2 (35:19):
You have said that the world is a big place.
Speaker 1 (35:22):
I said by women, I said by the people. Are
black men? Do they feel appreciated? Do they feel like?
Speaker 2 (35:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (35:29):
Because you've said on this podcast a million times that
black men are not appreciated, that women don't make men
feel good, appreciated for things they do for you, you never
said that. You can check that this is Please Darnell,
You're gonna have to please say that and put it
in this clip.
Speaker 1 (35:49):
Please.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
You said that, Uh it has something to do like
why Like I never said we are unappreciated by everybody,
appreciated by certain groups.
Speaker 1 (36:02):
And one of those groups.
Speaker 2 (36:08):
Cops. Uh all right, you know politicians m hm. And
but when we talk about when we just start digging
into like the city and and the people everything, you know,
it's just it's levels to this. We appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (36:27):
Okay, I cannot so you changed your mind.
Speaker 2 (36:30):
Maybe, like all right, so look, I just want to
make sure I'm saying on an overall bigger scale, but.
Speaker 1 (36:36):
Getting it off of the bigger scale.
Speaker 2 (36:37):
And we appreciated like around the world.
Speaker 3 (36:40):
But I'm not asking about that, which about from just women?
Are we talk about relationships? I'm not talking about the world.
I'm saying, do black men feel appreciated in their relationships
with women and feel like they can you know, get
that power from a woman like I feel good about
doing this, I feel great, Like this man is suing
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the girl for all these gifts and all of this stuff.
Like did you feel unappreciated? What what is the reason?
And I hear a lot of men say that they're
not appreciated, they're not cared for, they're not asked.
Speaker 1 (37:14):
Are you doing okay? How are you feeling? What's going on?
Speaker 3 (37:17):
I appreciate you, I love you, and You've said this
a lot of times, so now I'm just confused about
what the switch up.
Speaker 1 (37:24):
And that's good.
Speaker 2 (37:26):
Now I'm switching it up because I've traveled a lot
and I've seen it.
Speaker 1 (37:31):
It's just traveled a lot since like a month ago.
He said.
Speaker 2 (37:35):
It's just not local appreciation. It's just like appreciation around
the world.
Speaker 1 (37:39):
So you're saying, for since a couple of months, you've
been able to travel the.
Speaker 3 (37:42):
World, and now you feel like, see what do you
appreciation post?
Speaker 1 (37:49):
Appreciation? Like what do you see on Instagram?
Speaker 2 (37:51):
Just appreciation post?
Speaker 1 (37:53):
And what is that?
Speaker 2 (37:53):
I'm just people around the world.
Speaker 1 (37:55):
It's just like black man, we love you.
Speaker 2 (37:57):
You don't have to say that. I mean, I'm obviously
that's what I am. We don't have to say.
Speaker 1 (38:02):
But I'm saying, what do you see? Like I'm asking
so I can.
Speaker 2 (38:06):
Know pure creature of God, you are just we love
your skin.
Speaker 3 (38:15):
You're me mass Like I'm trying to have a serious conversation,
but you're not getting serious. So anyways, you you had
a whole nother viewpoint, and I'm just I really want
to have this clipped in because you had a whole
nother viewpoint multiple times. So I'm just really shocked that
now you're saying black men are the most appreciated by women.
Speaker 2 (38:38):
Women because you made a specific by women.
Speaker 3 (38:41):
Know you've said specifically by women is who black men
are not appreciated.
Speaker 2 (38:45):
I never said that, okay, man, Like you said, it's
like the lady gets so juiced to what he's doing
all the time. It turned into entitlement. Damn that part,
and they get unappreciated it. And it's just like like
like women, y'all, like every now and then could just
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be like, damn, I appreciate you once a month. You
know how much of a man that just as a
man as us as a man who provide and as
a leader, who do who do who? Just like I
want to make sure your life is happy. Just to
hear those words, you ain't got to cut clean. If
you just said, damn man, you know when I'm proud
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of you out that right there, That'll make a nigga
feel like he's ten ft tall. Puld that clip up.
Speaker 1 (39:35):
I check that, Okay, I will all right. I cannot
wait for that. So now, what what happens when you're wrong?
Speaker 2 (39:43):
Well, we'll talk about it.
Speaker 5 (39:46):
Right.
Speaker 1 (39:47):
That sounds good because I got to.
Speaker 2 (39:48):
See what kind of context I put it in. You know,
a man said something, you know, I must have been slipping.
Are black women appreciated by men?
Speaker 1 (40:01):
Our black women appreciated by man?
Speaker 4 (40:06):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (40:06):
I mean I don't know.
Speaker 3 (40:08):
I feel like nowadays, I think that other races, like
how you do a lot, are more put on a pedestal.
And I see that a lot, especially from you, And
so I feel like, you know, black women do kind
of feel disrespected and they feel underappreciated a lot of
the time. Yes, because all I see on the internet
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is black men downing black women every day.
Speaker 1 (40:34):
In our comments, it's way more men.
Speaker 3 (40:37):
I would assume when I started this journey that it
would be women hating on women. Every bad negative comment
about me is mainly from a man.
Speaker 1 (40:46):
I rarely see a woman comment negative.
Speaker 3 (40:48):
And I didn't know men were so catty like that
and so quick to want to put a black woman
down like she's trash, she's this's that she's like the
most horrible things you can think of.
Speaker 1 (40:59):
And I'm like, who raised y'all?
Speaker 3 (41:01):
Because I come from a generation and my dad and
how I was taught, Like, I never see my dad
talk down on a woman like that. Even if he
can't outstand this motherfucker, he's not gonna sit in my
face and pillow talk about another woman or bring her down.
He probably did it behind in his own room, like
this bitch, you know, but it.
Speaker 1 (41:18):
Was never that.
Speaker 3 (41:19):
And I feel like black women, all I see on
the internet is how white women are better, American non
American women are better, this and that are better, better
or better, And it's like, have your preference, but don't
bring us down while you're doing it. If you want
to be with a woman that's not American or not white,
do that, but stop referencing it to a black woman.
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Because when black women get with white men, they're not
talking about black men are trash. They're just loving and
living their life with this white man, period. And it's like,
you don't have to sit here and down the other
race because you don't want.
Speaker 1 (41:57):
To fuck with them. You don't have to do that.
At the end of the day.
Speaker 3 (42:00):
If you want to mess with a white woman and
an Asian woman, and this woman go.
Speaker 1 (42:04):
Do that and leave us out of the conversation, period,
point blank.
Speaker 3 (42:08):
And I think that that's what the women are frustrated about.
And if we have an opinion on this, we're aggressive.
See she has too much of an opinion.
Speaker 1 (42:16):
That's why they don't like it. That's because you talk. Okay, Well,
this is.
Speaker 2 (42:20):
The thing too. And the reason why black women get
so much hate is because how we on our TV
shows across these platforms, how people look at us. So
when you start looking, they look at us like an
ignorant group of people. And especially like when you look
across the platforms and you start looking at the real
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housewives of whatever, and we glorify the shaking that ass,
We glorify the fighting, we glorify the talking about each other.
I'm talking about like black women, we like we we
we glorify.
Speaker 1 (42:59):
You know that white women.
Speaker 2 (43:01):
Are off the chain to you know that white.
Speaker 3 (43:03):
Women do that too, though not us Jersey Shore, the
housewives of like Pontiac or the other housewives of Beverly
Hills as white women.
Speaker 1 (43:12):
It's not Black women on that at all.
Speaker 3 (43:15):
So I'm letting you know there's a lot of housewives
that are not the one you know is basketball wives.
Speaker 1 (43:21):
I'm talking about the real Housewives of Beverly Hills.
Speaker 3 (43:25):
Is all white women throwing drinks at each other, cursing
each other out. But guess what, it is not as
bad because they're white, right. It's not as aggressive, it's
not as ghetto, it is not as raunchy because they're
white women doing it. Black women are always held to
a way higher standard. We always have to prove why
we deserve to have a seat at the table. We
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always have to prove that we deserve to be here,
no matter. We always have to be way more classier
than you. A white girl can come in here half naked,
and I can come in here with a little titty showing,
and guess what, I'm a whore. Like it's always going
to be this compared, and I think that Black women
are tired of being compared. Do I agree with you
that culturally black people are doing too much shaking ass
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and this and that.
Speaker 1 (44:08):
Yes, I don't think you're wrong.
Speaker 3 (44:09):
Like Zeus Network and Jocelyn's Cabernet and all of that
stuff is out of line.
Speaker 2 (44:14):
It's the thing where you're American culture. Yeah, you're being
more watched than anybody. Like when you think about culture
in America, who sets the trends, who sets the tone
for how we dress, how we look, how we act,
how we run, how we play sports. It's us.
Speaker 1 (44:35):
Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 2 (44:36):
So we're already up here as far as eyeballs watching us.
So then people around the world are going to assume,
just like from watching us on every microscope and every
camera and every national platform, that's how we are. But
we don't do us no favors by by having putting
more shows out there like the Cosby's or or just
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like a classy Housewives of this show. No, we want
the drama and we feed off the drama because that's
where the money is. Now. It's about clout, It's about
who can make the most noise, who who could get
the most attention, And we become attention worse for the money.
It's just but if that's the only way that black
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women can make money, and I'm not saying that that
is the only way, but like when they're throwing dollars
at black women being ignorant to one another, it feeds
into it. Yeah, and that's what people see. I agree
with that, and now that's our perception of one another,
and that's why we're looked at as a race, and
that's how Black wom are looked at for that perception
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of being ignorant and men not wanting them from other
races because of that. But it's entertaining.
Speaker 1 (45:49):
But I will say.
Speaker 3 (45:50):
That I see a lot of women with these other
races now, and I've seen a lot of it recently,
and I'm like, Okay, these other races are messing with
these women and these Black women and Black women are
going to these other races and they're feeling like appreciated
or whatever the case may be. Is what I have
seen from a lot of people these days. So I
do see that there's a shift. And I was actually
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just thinking about it the other day. I'm like, look,
if you're happy somewhere else and you want to be
with a different race, do that. I don't think there's
any problem with that. I'm a biracial product of a
biracial parents, so I can't even hate on that at
the end of the day. But I think the bigger
problem is with this platform, we have to make sure
that we're creating unity more than separation. Like, what are
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the things how can we problem solve this? What are
the things that we can do to close the gap
between black men and black women? How can we be
more united at the end of the day, you know,
And I think that that's really really important, and I
think that's something that we should focus on more because
every day on the Internet, all you see is why
this person is, why women don't love? What are the
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solutions we see?
Speaker 1 (46:56):
Everyone is very problem based out of all of our.
Speaker 2 (47:00):
Our role models, our top women, Like yeah, in this generation, yeah,
Like who are our popular top women? And what do
they talk about?
Speaker 1 (47:11):
Michelle Obama? She has a podcast?
Speaker 2 (47:13):
No, no, this generation don't relate to her. She's older.
They're not. They're not following Michelle Obama. Maybe an older
generation is. They're following sexy red Cardi B. They're following
uh are what are Golorilla? They're following Meggan the Stallion.
(47:34):
What do they talk about? Shaking a ass, popping that pea?
Dressing like this and our kids are watching this?
Speaker 1 (47:42):
Yeah, I agree with you, Like who.
Speaker 2 (47:45):
Is who is the face? Who is the face for
this generation? Those are the faces that the kids look
up to they turn on the TV. This is what
they think. They don't have to turn on the TV
no more. We're going to our phone and now this
is what we got on twenty four hours a day
to look at this. Oh damn that was We just
saw Cardi right there, We just saw Megan, We just
saw sexy Oh she said this. We can't be hypocrites
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to this dog. We can't be because this is what's
being prec this is what's getting fed to us.
Speaker 1 (48:11):
But where's the hypocrisy coming in?
Speaker 2 (48:13):
Like the hypocrisy is coming into.
Speaker 3 (48:16):
Like because those are not my role models. So where
is the hypocrisy.
Speaker 2 (48:21):
The hypocrisy is Black women want to be treated a
certain way, but act a certain way.
Speaker 3 (48:28):
You can't generalize a whole group of women. Those are influences, yeah,
but you can't generalize a whole group of women, not
all women, not all.
Speaker 1 (48:39):
Yeah, exactly. So there is a group.
Speaker 2 (48:41):
Where do I go to see that group? Where's that
group at?
Speaker 1 (48:45):
Where are you at? Because change where you're at and
you'll see that.
Speaker 2 (48:48):
Group that group. Where can I get a group of
black women in one place? Uh? That's like not being
on some like crazy shit like on some like sexy
Red Megan Stallion, Like I.
Speaker 3 (49:04):
Don't go out and just see groups of women looking
like making the stallion and that.
Speaker 2 (49:08):
Yeah, that's what I see. Is you go to any
high school, any public school.
Speaker 1 (49:11):
So high schools now, I don't know that, go to.
Speaker 2 (49:13):
The public schools, you go there, you go to the
because I go to high.
Speaker 1 (49:17):
School games, right, I don't know about saying.
Speaker 2 (49:19):
So I'm seeing the youth. Yeah, I'm seeing what they own.
Speaker 1 (49:21):
Yeah, I can't say it.
Speaker 2 (49:22):
And I'm like, damn, ain't nobody dressing regular no more?
Speaker 1 (49:26):
Yeah, I can see it.
Speaker 3 (49:27):
Damn I can't speak to the youth because I really
am not involved or englfed in that.
Speaker 2 (49:32):
So, I mean, you know, that's what I see. Yeah,
that's unfortunate that it is, but that's culture we live in.
Speaker 3 (49:40):
Yeah, I get it. At the end of the day.
I mean, listen, you can't change the world. You can
only change what you do and what you surround yourself
with and what kind of role model you decide you
want to be for these kids and what you decide
to listen to every day, you know what I mean.
So I think those things are really important and I think,
like I said, you know, if you could just be
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better for yourself and it can help some other people,
That's all you.
Speaker 1 (50:08):
Could do, because it is bad right now.
Speaker 3 (50:10):
We're in a crazy space, and I think that both
black women and black men have contributed to that.
Speaker 2 (50:18):
I'm trying to think, what race you think least contributes
to society.
Speaker 4 (50:25):
I don't think I want to.
Speaker 1 (50:29):
I'm not going to answer that. I'm scared.
Speaker 2 (50:34):
Race least contributes to society.
Speaker 1 (50:39):
Or what race is? Just like ducked off? Is that's
a better way to put it.
Speaker 2 (50:44):
Like not all that you just never hear about, hardy,
that just be like somewhere in like middle of Europe
somewhere that you just don't even know about.
Speaker 3 (50:54):
They gotta they just like Polish people from Poland certain
races thing.
Speaker 1 (51:03):
No, but let me just say this.
Speaker 3 (51:04):
I was in Switzerland, right and I was at a
dinner for the chef or whatever, and we had like
a chef dinner and there was this guy. He was
from Switzerland and he had like an accent and he
didn't speak a lot of English. This man, he was
a white like whatever whatever races in Switzerland.
Speaker 1 (51:25):
He's that and he has like blonde hair and he
is over there quoting black culture like videos. He's like
bang bang bang, so yeah, bitch, like and it was
blowing me. I was like, I'll never forget this because I'm.
Speaker 2 (51:39):
Like, you got a way you just said he was
quoting black culture bang bang bang.
Speaker 3 (51:45):
Yeah no, because it's a video where it's like it's
this guy he's like, bang bang bang, I'm in the hood,
I'm in the ghetto.
Speaker 1 (51:52):
Yeah No. It was just a viral video that was
on the internet and he was just like bang bang
bang and stuff that and he was quoting that and
then he was like, bitch, please, like just say it
all this like black slang.
Speaker 3 (52:04):
And it was crazy because I'm like, why do you
know this? And I'll never forget that. No, But that's
the point it made me realize I'm in Switzerland. I
was either in Germany or yeah, one of those places,
because I went to like five places in a week.
Speaker 1 (52:23):
But that was crazy to me and I couldn't believe it.
Speaker 3 (52:26):
So, yeah, I do understand how much influence that black
culture does have. And I think right now, we're just
lost and we're just all over the place. And I
feel bad for young girls that feel like they have
to live up to that and have these bodies and
have this and be perfect and all.
Speaker 1 (52:42):
Of that stuff. But yeah, so anyways, thank you guys
for tuning in.
Speaker 2 (52:49):
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Speaker 1 (53:42):
Do you think that men or women are more toxic
Why are you trying to match a girl's energy.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
I'm trying to match your pettiness. Do you understand what
I'm saying? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (00:05):
Why because you think make it right?
Speaker 2 (00:09):
When we go overseas we exotic.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
You love saying that.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
We think about all the places I go because look,
I go to China, I go to Australia, they looking like,
oh oh point really tall. You know what I'm saying,
We look like we dinosaurs before people look at us
walking down the street like look.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Being fetishized and being appreciated are two different things. People
fetishize Black men ooh you're tall, your skin like you're
you're being fetishized. That's the whole thing that white people
are different.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
No, it's not.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Black women are the most frowned upon by all the races.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
Have your preference, but don't bring us down while you're
doing it. If you want to be with a woman
that's not American or not white, do that, but stop
referencing it to a black woman.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Who are our popular top women? And what do they
talk about? Black women wan't to be treated a certain way,
but act a certain way.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
You can't generalize a whole group of women.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
I'm trying to think what race you think least contributes
to society.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
I don't think.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
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Speaker 1 (01:55):
Do you think that men or women are more toxic?
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Speaker 1 (02:11):
I can't wait a minute. What I'm okay?
Speaker 2 (02:18):
Yeah, that's bad. Go ahead, what's show? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm sorry. This is crazy. You have
to scare me, They say, you scare me?
Speaker 2 (02:37):
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Y'all welcome to Truth after Dark with another episode. Yeah,
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it another week. More topics to cover what you got
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on the menu today. You're looking nice, thank you?
Speaker 1 (03:01):
So are you? Okay? So let's get into it.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
We're gonna go over some current events topics. So number
one is Cardi B is pregnant. You know she's pregnant.
She just dropped her album. She's in the streets shaking
that ass. But there's a lot of people who have
things to say because they feel like, oh boy, Stefan
album with platinum album is cracking. I heard I haven't
got a chance to let's do, but I heard the
(03:27):
album is cracking. A lot of people who feel like
Stefan is trifling because he got like all these baby mamas.
I guess he has two babies simultaneously on the way
right now, not including Cardi B. So they're like, this
man just does anything out in the streets. So they
feel like she's dumb. She why she having a baby
(03:49):
by this man? They only been together X amount of time.
She just got she was married or she was we
offset she has already these kids.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Whatever the case may be, everyone has their opinion.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Man card could do whatever she wants, living her best life.
She said, I didn't have the rapper. Let me give
me some NFL your dig and then you know, if
that don't work out, we move on to the NBA.
After that. You just never know, never know.
Speaker 3 (04:16):
I will say he has a type because his baby
mama's they all look that same look like Cardi B.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
Yeah, they look like you know, Kyle Cardy.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
Looks like like superstars, like uh, the same type of
look like Latina, like the body done like they all
have that they're beautiful.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
I think they're all be for first of all, I
love Cardi B. No one can tell me nothing about
Cardi B.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Because she's authentic to herself and she always keeps it
a stack and I love her.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
This is the thing, Cardi B knew who Offset was
before getting it off set right, he did what he did.
She know who Stefan Diggs is before getting with him
and how he moved So what that say about her?
You know what I'm saying though, So don't don't look
at her and say why she moving on? She she
(05:07):
in the streets too, just like the head of the
streets too, and her and just because some of it's public,
but I bet it's a lot of stuff that ain't public.
Speaker 3 (05:16):
So but I will say that with Offset, he didn't
have like a whole lot of shit going on, Like
he don't have no whole bunch of baby moms and
like crazy situations. And I feel like, you know, sometimes
you can have a perception of somebody and they can
show you a different side of them, and you can
believe that and you could fall for that, and you
could be in love with that, and it could break
your heart when you find out that it's really not
(05:37):
what it is.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
So that's just my opinion.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Look next up, I'm done.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
So Kresha wrote a letter for Diddy and everyone is like, oh,
young Miami, Oh okay, you know they be a relationship.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Yeah I know, but you's calling her by her government.
I didn't know that.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Yeah yeah.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
So she's like goes by that time, Like her podcast
is called Karesha Please Okay. So she wrote a like
a judgment what is it called a character reference for Diddy?
Speaker 1 (06:11):
And she's like he's a good man.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
She's just pumping them up, and people feel away because
it's like, how can you say this is a good
man when you saw him dragging Cassie across the floor
on a video, you know.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
What I mean?
Speaker 3 (06:24):
And so people have their opinions and they're like she's
so fucked up, Like how could she really give a
character reference?
Speaker 1 (06:30):
Like do you have no heart?
Speaker 3 (06:32):
Like you're just gonna watch this man do all of
this to the Cassie and this woman and you see
it on video.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
What's she supposed to say?
Speaker 1 (06:40):
I'm just you Maybe she doesn't have to write a letter.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Yeah I get it, but like damn, like every human being,
regardless of their discretions or what they've done evil or
not evil. Like everybody has some type of support and
people got to get over that. If she wanted to
defend him and show love through his time of need,
(07:04):
that's on her, you know what I'm saying, Like it's
ex murderers, serial killers that got a support system work.
Some people that's just like man, you know that go
out for him? So like, man, leave that alone. Man,
all this this society that we live in. They're too
sensitive and cancel culture. And because somebody do one thing,
(07:26):
you ain't supposed to say nothing to them or say
nothing positive about them them. I'm off that bullshit.
Speaker 1 (07:32):
But where does the line that you draw when it
comes to that that.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
Was her x man. So but this ain't like she
ain't no fan, No, this is her x man. She
could go defend him.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
I'm not arguing you about this.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
I'm asking a question which you ask, and I'm saying,
where do you draw the line though when you say, okay,
you can say positive things about a person even though
they had indiscretions, But what point is it like those
indiscretions are because like if you're a pedophile, you're done,
Like it might have been if you raping little children,
(08:06):
it's out for you. Like you have to have a
moral compass and you, like people have to have something
that they stand on, like that's why there's the Bible
or if people believe in God or people have this.
You have to have some type of moral guiding that
will tell you what you mess with and what you
don't because it's too much going on in the world.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
A pedophile and I am your boy or your brother,
my support for you is gonna be like here, listen, man,
I'm gonna go to religion, Like here, I got this Bible. Man,
you really that ain't it? That? Ain't it? Like that's
like a whole other level. Now when you talk about
(08:47):
things like that and rape and all that. That's like, man,
I gotta I gotta bring a religion into the game now,
like hey, we gotta pray, man, you and I gotta
do it in silent. I'm not letting the world know
that I'm doing this. You know what I'm saying. People
can support, but then it's silent.
Speaker 3 (09:04):
Well that's what people are saying about the Koreashia thing. Yeah,
because he was claimed to be a rapist and to
do a lot of these things.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Well, I feel like something is she don't have to
let the world know.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Yeah, And I think I get that. You can support
people in private, but because you're publicly supporting him and
also helping, Like if I know rapist, a pedophile or anything,
Am I going to help them.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Get out of jail necessarily?
Speaker 3 (09:27):
No, maybe I'll support them while they're in jail and
like send them books and help them with certain stuff.
But I mean, I think that, and I'm just being honest.
We live in a world where celebrities they're idolized too
much and they can get away with a lot more so. Anyways,
the next thing is Devin Haney. Is that how you
(09:50):
say his name?
Speaker 1 (09:50):
Yeah, he's suing his ex for three hundred and fifty k.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
Run that back, run that jewelry and then watches and
all that car. Back run that. Yeah. Yeah, get over there.
I'm gonna be petty. That's so because she probably was petty,
So now I'm gonna be petty. Run that back. I
need that.
Speaker 3 (10:07):
Well. She was also the one that was pill talking
to young thug while he was in jail, talking about crying.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
I wish I could be with you instead.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Run them, run them that was a long.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
Time ago, and he decided to stay with her. So
that's his bad.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
Run that back, petty? There, let's go. I'm with you, dad,
run that.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
I think that's really petty though, But what Yeah, but I.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
Just do it all the time, so I ain't trip.
Speaker 1 (10:35):
What are girls asking to run back?
Speaker 2 (10:37):
No, I'm saying they petty. It ain't about the run back.
It's about the petty.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
But why are you trying to be like a girl?
Speaker 2 (10:43):
Everybody's petty? It ain't the one.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
Girls do it all the time. So why.
Speaker 3 (10:50):
I never said it was? You said girls do it
all the time. So I said, why are you trying
to match a girl's energy?
Speaker 2 (10:55):
I'm trying to match your pettiness. Do you understand what
I'm saying?
Speaker 1 (10:58):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (10:58):
Why because you think make it right? This is just
what it is right now?
Speaker 1 (11:04):
Like, why can't.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
We you embarrassing me? So now I'm embarrassing you on
some petty sit.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
I feel like we need to live in a generation
where you say.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
I do that. I'm just saying I ain't mad at it.
Go ahead, Yeah, man, people, these females be trying to
embarrass us all on social media all the time, and
now this is this lick back. This is a good
way to look back without being actually, you know, being
on some domestic Okay, cool, I'd rather God do that
to a girl than be on some realized domestic you
(11:34):
know what I'm saying. We get it back in other ways.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
I would say this.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
I feel like men have to be smarter because you
had a girl that was publicly talking to young thug
in jail years ago or whenever that was. It wasn't
this year, and you literally stayed with this woman, married
this woman women, and you continue to take the disrespect
and then you continue to buy her three hundred and
(12:01):
fifty K and gifts, and now you're so hurt and
down bad that you gotta go to court and sue
a woman for those things.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
My name is, my name is on that. I didn't
put it in your name. Run that.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
Yep, his name is on what on the jury and.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
All that whatever. Let's go run that back to original,
back to the original place of setting. Oh what we got?
What we got? Oh man, the cops is coming after
that one.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
I'm over it. Next thing, okay, boom.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
So there's an NBA player and he went on justin
La Boy's podcast and he was talking he just had
a two hundred million dollar deal and he said that
he goes fifty to fifty.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
With his girlfriend for rant, for everything.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
And Justin was like, what this is ridiculous, Like why
would you do that?
Speaker 1 (12:57):
D da da da?
Speaker 3 (12:58):
And he was like, you know, I just feel like,
what if we don't stay together? And I'm like, I
don't know if you're gonna be my wife and I'm
doing all of this, but this is my girl. And
he was like, and you know, we did end up
breaking up five months later, and he's like, so I
didn't feel like this was someone that I was going
to spend the rest of my life.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
I didn't know or not.
Speaker 3 (13:18):
So I felt like, yeah, I'm worth two hundred million.
And Justin was like, damn, and you know, she probably
doesn't make a lot of money.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
She's trying to do this. She's trying to do that.
And he was like, yeah, so I don't care.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Damn. Where was y'all living at? Was you living with her? Then?
Speaker 4 (13:32):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (13:33):
He said that they got a spot.
Speaker 2 (13:35):
If you got two hundred million, then you probably gonna
get something rent that's gonna be about like ten fifteen thousand.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
Look what he said.
Speaker 3 (13:42):
He asked her what she could afford, and he's like,
I'll pay the other half of that.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
So he moved in with her.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
He moved I don't know moment, I'm.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
Just saying two hundred million. You not living over there
on Crenshaw like in Sloughson. That's what she can afford. Yeah,
he can't afford over here in Beverly Hills and and
Calabasas and all that, but he can. So like, where's
the fifty fifty coming in? Are you talking about like
with the like like the walking the dog or or
(14:14):
or the housekeeper them type of bills, But because we're
talking about like rent and the real bills, then nah.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
No, Yeah. Everyone.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
A lot of people were outraged in the comments and
justin the interviewer was like, this is crazy.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
Why wasn't.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
Who was it Darnell? Oh gosh, what's his name? Michael
Porter Jr.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
Yeah, I think it's cap.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
You think he's lying.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
I think that's okay.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
Well, yeah, he said that the bills were Uh.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
He said that he was with her for five months
and then they broke up, and he's trying to debate,
like she wants him to still pay her rent for
the rest of the year because he made that promise.
He was like, Okay, if we break up, I'll put
you and pay your rent and help you for the
rest of the year. He made the promise, but he's
saying to Justin, he don't know if he want to continue.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
It just costs money to be with a girl. Just
this is cost Like, man, it just costs, Like you
just be like, damn, pay for the rest of my
year and were not together. What if I get with
another girl. I'm with her but she found out I'm
paying another girl, Like how that's gonna work?
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Oh right, right right?
Speaker 3 (15:20):
If you have another girl and then they're finding out.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
You don't need to be doing all that like you, Yeah, exactly,
that is tricky. That is true, like.
Speaker 3 (15:31):
Losing it like you a whole other woman's ranks, Like yeah,
that's wild. So that goes into there was this text
that some guy sent to his girl and everyone was
like analyzing it on the internet and he was basically like, hey, babe,
I know that we're supposed to do like a Valentine's
Day dinner, but unfortunately I had to pay my baby
(15:54):
mama's car note, so I can't do nothing for you tonight.
But why don't you grab some wine and some groceries
and come over.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
And we could just chill.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
Right, that's cool.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
I think that's cool.
Speaker 3 (16:05):
But people have the issue with like, why are you
paying your baby mama's cardo, Like that's not pertaining to
the kids technically, So why are you paying that?
Speaker 1 (16:13):
So I can see it from both sides.
Speaker 3 (16:15):
Because like, how is my kids getting around if she
can't pay the car?
Speaker 4 (16:18):
No, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (16:19):
She obviously needs a car and she helps take the
kids to school or whatever the case is. But women
were in the comments and they were like, that would
never have been a problem if he didn't say he's
paying his baby mama's cardinal.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
If it was just like.
Speaker 3 (16:31):
Bills are piled up, this is going on. I can't
you know, like I can't do it.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
Come over.
Speaker 3 (16:36):
That's different. But women are like, so how long have
you been paying this card? Why are you paying her car?
Speaker 2 (16:41):
Not? Yeah? Yeah, this is the thing. You can't I
get it to show. It's the mother of your child
and she asking it. That means she's being irresponsible with
the child support because the most important bills is taking
care of the rent in the car. Yeah, you know,
what I'm saying, like say the car, no, probably like
(17:01):
between what two fifty, say five hundred, like what's going on,
Like it's probably somewhere around there and she can't take
care of that. Like but I don't know, you know
what the child's sporty paying either. Maybe he only giving
her like five hundred a month that had to go
towards the rent. She didn't have no money for the car.
So I ain't really bad at that. You know, it
(17:24):
is the mother's kid, and you don't want her to
not get in the work or not be undertake the kid.
I get it to school. So you know, I've never
I don't think i've I ain't never been in that
situation where it's like a bill like that. No, but
you know it's understandable though I ain't mad at that.
Speaker 3 (17:42):
I can understand that from the point of like you
need somewhere, you need to get your kids to A
and B, and this is the mother of my child
and she helps.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
Yeah, you could just be like I got a car,
she could she or he could live with me. I
could take her to school.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
Yeah you could do that too. Yeah, I mean okay, So.
Speaker 3 (18:05):
Moving on, Lebron James he came out and he said
the three keys to a long relationship because obviously Savannah
and hadn't been together for a long time.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
And he said that this shit is not easy. It's
a lot of work.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
And he said the three strongest points are communication, honesty,
and being okay with being uncomfortable. Yes, which we're interesting
for those to be the top three.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
See listen, like, if you want to know about being
in a long term, I'm gonna listen to guys like Lebron.
Speaker 1 (18:36):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2 (18:37):
I'm gonna listen to guys like because like when you
look at them, they look like from the Afar. It's
picture perfect, you know. And I'm gonna listen to guys
like Magic Johnson who's been with his wife for like forever.
I'm gonna listen to people like that's like kind of
like and that's famous too, because it's harder, you know.
I'm gonna listen to like what jay Z and Beyonce
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say about how they, you know, been able to stick
it out and what they've been through. So you know,
like if he's saying you gotta you gotta listen to
it because they've been together, they were still and you
gotta understand the pressures from her, the pressures from him.
He over here, he gone a lot. He on the road,
he played twenty years traveling out the country for Nike,
for this and that, and it's just like, man, we're
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still strong, We're still together after all that, and you
ain't never really heard of, like no real real public
turmoil between them.
Speaker 1 (19:26):
So that's right, Yeah, that's real.
Speaker 2 (19:27):
That's you know, so like if you're gonna have a
blueprint on how to do it as far as like
a guy that's in like the famous notoriety, just like
somebody like that. But it's it's harder now because he's
in the spotlight. Yeah, you know, so like everybody see
where he go, what he doing, So it's harder to
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like make mistakes.
Speaker 3 (19:55):
M you can go both ways, yeah, because it could
be easier because men that are famous and have money
get women thrown out them all the time, you know,
for the wrong reasons obviously, because.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
You know it like when you got the social media
and you got the cameras and yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
People you got videotape, you.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
Get caught up, Like you can get caught up easy.
Speaker 3 (20:19):
You almost have to be at a private location, n
DA and it's a lot of work at that third.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
Parties involved making calls and Texas money bag gotta be
right for the like. Come on, it's a lot that
go on. That's that's too much other work at this stage.
Speaker 3 (20:34):
So what do you interpret him saying being okay with
being uncomfortable to me?
Speaker 2 (20:40):
Well, he says, you gotta be uncomfortable.
Speaker 1 (20:43):
You gotta be okay with me, You.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
Gotta be okay with being uncomfortable. Well, it's gonna be
some things that you ain't gonna like about your spouse
and about you know that you gotta and it's gonna
probably be a little uncomfortable or they're gonna do some
things and it's just like, well all these other things
is great, you know, watch the well on that, you know,
because it do become a time when you around each
(21:05):
other so long that it's gonna be some things that
you ain't really feeling and it's gonna make you a
little like Dan, she coming home at four in the morning,
but you're like, damn, I just came home at for more.
Like it's like, damn, it's gonna be things that happen.
She went on a trip with her girls and said
she'd be back in three days, come back in seven days.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
Well these are wild disrespectful things.
Speaker 2 (21:23):
No, no, no, just like we just added on to it.
It's just like, well, it's gonna be some stuff that
makes you uncomfortable.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
Right, Yeah, I can understand that, I know, but it
ain't consistent.
Speaker 2 (21:32):
It ain't a consistent of comfort. It's like once every
blue moon.
Speaker 3 (21:35):
I think I would interpret it as having uncomfortable conversations
because that's where the growth lies. And I feel like
a lot of times in relationships, whether it's your family,
your friends, or your lover, your partner, I feel like
we brush a lot of things under the rug because
some conversations are too uncomfortable to have, so we allow
it to fester. And that's where we end up having
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resentment and gripes towards our partner because we don't want
to address the uncomfortable conversations. We don't want to come
to you and be like, hey, look this is that
and actually work through it and really work together to
come to a solution, you know, because those are uncomfortable.
When you have to have those conversations that nobody wants
(22:18):
to bring up, nobody wants to talk about it, I'd
rather just put a band aid on it and deal
with it later, sweep it under the rug, and then
you build all of this resentment towards each other. And
I feel like being uncomfortable is about having those conversations.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
Well uncomfortable if you want to keep it one hundred.
The most uncomfortable conversation you're going to have in a
relationship is going to be something about revolving either the
kids or some cheating.
Speaker 1 (22:49):
I would disagree.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
The most uncomfortable conversations, I feel like everything else, Like,
what's more uncomfortable than that.
Speaker 3 (23:00):
There's a lot of things that are uncomfortable, Like you know,
there's things that you have to address with people that
are not going to make them happy, that are going
to feel weird, and you feel awkward about having to
say it, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (23:12):
For instance, we can give an.
Speaker 3 (23:13):
Example, Babe, Sexually, I don't feel satisfied. That's uncomfortable as hell. Sexually,
it's not doing it for me. That's super uncomfortable because
either parties are going to feel inadequate and secure. Do
you want someone else? That's a hard conversation. So do
you continue to have sex with this person and not
say anything and not be satisfied, or do you communicate
(23:34):
it because a lot of people will continue having the
sex and they won't say what they really need because
it's uncomfortable or same thing, babe.
Speaker 1 (23:44):
You know, I think that's uncomfortable for you for a
lot of people.
Speaker 3 (23:47):
It is, though, that would be uncomfortable for me to
come to somebody and be like, hey, this is that
I will one hundred percent do it at this state
in my life. But have I been in that situation
And it's scary to address someone because I don't want
them to.
Speaker 2 (23:59):
Feel I've been liking it this long right now.
Speaker 1 (24:02):
Right, it's crazy. Now, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (24:05):
You let things build up and it's crazy now. Yeah,
it's like a bunch of uncomfortable things though, like, hey,
you're gaining weight and it's looking crazy for you. No,
it's uncomfortable as a woman. If your man is telling
you that those uncomfortable it could be the real uncomfortable,
hard truths you need to hear and you need those conversations.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
You need to have those conversations.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
But there's a lot of stuff like that, Like, it's
a lot of stuff when it has to do appearance, sex,
the way that.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
You're you know, romanticized with each other all of that.
Speaker 2 (24:39):
Yeah, I get it. Yeah, you're right.
Speaker 3 (24:41):
So for you, that's his top three keys to a
long relationship.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
What would you say, are yours keys to a top
to three keys to a long relasting relationship? Those were his?
Speaker 2 (24:54):
Uh? I think the three keys and I don't really
we had no order. I think I think I said
this to you before. I think you have to be
comfortable with being bored with each other. Yeah, but to
you it's not really on the outside looking in, it
may sound boring, but like like you could just be
(25:15):
sitting there watching the movie, but that could be the
world to you and to everybody else, they're gonna look
at like, y'all born, y'all I'll do to sit on
the couch and watch TV. Well, to us, that's that's everything.
So it has to be a point where you be
comfortable and being bored with each other. I think keys
is communication obviously, That's like number one. I think communication
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is everything.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
And then the third one ish like I'm proud of
your faith. I mean damn, because like if we kind
of share the same faith and we go through something
and we can pray about it together. Yeah, maybe that
can help us get through some things. You know what
I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
I can see that. I can see that.
Speaker 3 (25:59):
Okay, I will probably say instead of communication, for me,
it would be understanding because you can communicate all day,
but if the person doesn't understand what you mean, it
will go nowhere.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
I can continue.
Speaker 3 (26:12):
You could talk to me and I just don't get it,
you know, but I feel like understanding and coming to
a place of understanding is more important in my opinion,
because you could be telling me something that I don't.
I don't get it at all because maybe you're a
man or maybe this, But if you help me understand it,
then I can be like, oh, that makes all of sense.
(26:32):
So I would say understanding for sure, But you can't
have the understanding without the communication. So communication, and I
think that the last thing.
Speaker 2 (26:42):
Would be well if you said you can't have the
understand what the communication is that all in one?
Speaker 1 (26:48):
No, too, that's two different things.
Speaker 3 (26:49):
So like understanding, okay, you have to communicate obviously, And
I think honesty too, I would I would take that
from Leron. I would definitely say being real and honest
and not trying to sugarcoat things. To make people just comfortable,
like being able to express your needs or why that
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bothered you, or why you need this here or that there,
because sometimes you genuinely don't know and you could be
doing something to piss up what off early and they
don't know that, so they're just walking around and you're
annoyed as hell, but you don't tell them, and they're like,
this is regular for me. Like I had that in
one of my relationships where I would do something and
it just random low and it was like, damn, I
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never knew that until he told me after being so
mad about it for like months.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
The only way I won't say nothing is if I
told you a couple of times and you continue to
do it and it's just like yeah, yeah, I can't
just keep.
Speaker 1 (27:46):
Telling yeah for sure, I understand that.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
Yeah, and I've been in those type of situations. Yeah,
I keep telling you the same thing. You don't get it. Yeah,
it's just like what I'm go ahead.
Speaker 1 (28:01):
Yeah, you know what I'm saying exactly, Like you're beating
a dead horse. You don't want to keep it. I
can't just keep like exactly.
Speaker 2 (28:07):
A thinking of that when I'm putting down.
Speaker 1 (28:09):
Yeah, I get that too.
Speaker 3 (28:11):
At what point do you decide, like is that worth
ending the relationship and you feel like you've addressed issues
multiple times that are not changing.
Speaker 2 (28:21):
It depends on the level of it. Yeah, you know,
it could be a level three level three out of
like five is not like once it gets to level
four level five. As far as severity of like the
the communication and the things that y'all talk about that
ain't really like, uh, how do I want to put it?
(28:42):
The things that y'all go through that's like high level
at that's like severe like a like a you know
how these category five hurricanes, it's like it's got to
be level three. We still we ain't breaking up over
level three stuff. When they started being more level four
things and more than one or two or three or
four level four, that mean level five is gonna be
(29:05):
next and that's coming. It's gonna happen.
Speaker 1 (29:09):
Yeah, I get that. Okay, So.
Speaker 3 (29:16):
Before we move on, I just want to say thank
you when I said uncomfortable conversations and like saying, like someone, babe,
you're gaining weight. I appreciate you for not talking about
me being to eighty because that was a perfect place
for you to say that you didn't and you're growing
and I'm proud of you for that.
Speaker 1 (29:34):
Genuinely.
Speaker 5 (29:36):
Wait, wait, you all, anytime I bring up weight, you're
gonna say something about to eighty and I brought it
up and you didn't do it, and I'm just really
just want to say thank you and I'm proud of you.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
Everybody already though I didn't have to bring that up, you.
Speaker 1 (29:56):
Brought it up any other time.
Speaker 4 (30:00):
They knew it for the time.
Speaker 2 (30:03):
It was or eighty three.
Speaker 1 (30:05):
I was two seventy nine. Actually that was the biggest
I ever. I didn't make it. I was to seventy nine.
Suck you. We're not going down this path, Okay, So
I have a question.
Speaker 2 (30:20):
So got a question.
Speaker 3 (30:22):
Do you feel And I already know the answer to this,
but we're gonna dig deep on how you feel like
this could change. And I don't want you to be
like hesitant to say anything. It's not gonna happen. But
do you feel that black men are appreciated and do
you feel like black men have always been like they
never have been appreciated. Do you think it was like
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better back in the day. Do you think it's getting
worse progressively? Like what do you feel about that.
Speaker 2 (30:48):
I mean it's such a like broad yeah yeah, but.
Speaker 3 (30:51):
It is like black men by race, not by race,
by women. Yeah, by women, and they're kids like their children,
and women think.
Speaker 2 (31:03):
Were the most appreciated race on the planet by women.
Speaker 1 (31:08):
All right, you think you men are appreciated.
Speaker 2 (31:10):
I think you said, I think us, as black man,
we have the most appreciated on planet Earth, on planet
Earth by women. Really, yeah, even if it's not by
our own by all the other races they mess with us.
Speaker 3 (31:23):
Well, you know that statistically, black women are the most
loyal to their own race.
Speaker 1 (31:30):
Did you know that? So you're talking about it.
Speaker 2 (31:34):
Just makes it just makes sense because black women. People
don't like Black women. Other races don't like black Women's true.
Speaker 1 (31:42):
These black these white men.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
Are then because a lot of them, a lot of them,
I'm not saying that they were beautiful, but a lot
of them they prejudice. Like you know, you go to Europe,
they're looking at black them like they're looking at you
go over there, what you're doing over here? Like you
know what I'm saying, They looking at black women. They
just do.
Speaker 3 (32:06):
I think that there's a lot of men who want
black women. I think separately secretly, yes, but now more publicly,
now that things are shifting in the society, I feel
like a lot of like every race of man has
wanted me.
Speaker 2 (32:20):
Black women are the most frowned upon by all the races.
Speaker 1 (32:23):
I could see that.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
You know what I'm saying, it's not but it's just
it's just they are.
Speaker 3 (32:28):
But you're saying that black You just said that other
races don't want Black women, and that's a lie.
Speaker 2 (32:34):
They they do, but they just culturally sometimes it just
don't look good on the outside, like publicly, but on
it they do low key, like low key. I have
seen it.
Speaker 1 (32:46):
I don't even think it's low key. They high key because.
Speaker 3 (32:50):
A lot of the women now who are not black
are creating black features to look like black women, getting bbls,
getting their lips done, getting all the stuff dressing. Again,
black people culturally create the vibe. So at the end
of the day, all the culture is from black people,
period point blake. So you are emulating a black woman,
(33:11):
You're just in a different syndern.
Speaker 2 (33:13):
The black woman is the most underappreciated.
Speaker 1 (33:16):
Yeah, on the planet Earth, and you see more than
black men.
Speaker 2 (33:21):
I think we're the most appreciated, really, Yeah, because you
gotta understand when we go like we we bigger, were stronger,
we more athletic than all the races. Right our DNA
is the strongest out of all the races. You know.
We put you mix black with anything, it's gonna turn
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you know. And then so like when we go overseas,
we exotic.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
You love saying that.
Speaker 2 (33:50):
We think about all the places I go because look,
I go to China, I go to Australia. They looking like,
oh oh point they tall, like they just you know
what I'm saying, We look like we dinosaurs be people
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look at us walking down the street like look, you know,
it's crazy. You know, you go to Greece, you go
to you go to Italy, you go to Australia, you
go to China, you go to these different places and
you're the only one you in the club and you're
the only one in there, like yeah.
Speaker 3 (34:24):
But being fetishized and being appreciated are two different things.
People fetishize Black men ooh, you're tall, you're skin like,
you're you're being fetishized. That's a whole thing that white
people are different.
Speaker 2 (34:36):
No, it's not the same thing.
Speaker 1 (34:38):
It's definitely not. It's nowhere to hear the same thing.
Speaker 3 (34:41):
They don't appreciate you, and they don't give a damn
about if you live or die. They fetishize the fact
that you're tall, you're black, you look a certain way,
and it's exciting to them. It's like they're at a museum.
That's what they used to do in slavery days. They
used to make black people fight each other and they
can watch it.
Speaker 1 (34:57):
That's what they bring.
Speaker 3 (34:58):
No, no, no, because the point is is are fetishized.
That's being fetishized we're talking about. But you said, but this.
Speaker 2 (35:04):
Is what's blowing me.
Speaker 3 (35:06):
Okay, you told me earlier that black men are not
appreciated by their by nobody. You literally said that, So
now I'm confused at what the switches. So now you
guys are the most appreciated man in the world because.
Speaker 2 (35:19):
You have said that the world is a big place.
Speaker 1 (35:22):
I said by women, I said by the people. Are
black men? Do they feel appreciated? Do they feel like?
Speaker 2 (35:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (35:29):
Because you've said on this podcast a million times that
black men are not appreciated, that women don't make men
feel good, appreciated for things they do for you, you never
said that. You can check that this is Please Darnell,
You're gonna have to please say that and put it
in this clip.
Speaker 1 (35:49):
Please.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
You said that, Uh it has something to do like
why Like I never said we are unappreciated by everybody,
appreciated by certain groups.
Speaker 1 (36:02):
And one of those groups.
Speaker 2 (36:08):
Cops. Uh all right, you know politicians m hm. And
but when we talk about when we just start digging
into like the city and and the people everything, you know,
it's just it's levels to this. We appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (36:27):
Okay, I cannot so you changed your mind.
Speaker 2 (36:30):
Maybe, like all right, so look, I just want to
make sure I'm saying on an overall bigger scale, but.
Speaker 1 (36:36):
Getting it off of the bigger scale.
Speaker 2 (36:37):
And we appreciated like around the world.
Speaker 3 (36:40):
But I'm not asking about that, which about from just women?
Are we talk about relationships? I'm not talking about the world.
I'm saying, do black men feel appreciated in their relationships
with women and feel like they can you know, get
that power from a woman like I feel good about
doing this, I feel great, Like this man is suing
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the girl for all these gifts and all of this stuff.
Like did you feel unappreciated? What what is the reason?
And I hear a lot of men say that they're
not appreciated, they're not cared for, they're not asked.
Speaker 1 (37:14):
Are you doing okay? How are you feeling? What's going on?
Speaker 3 (37:17):
I appreciate you, I love you, and You've said this
a lot of times, so now I'm just confused about
what the switch up.
Speaker 1 (37:24):
And that's good.
Speaker 2 (37:26):
Now I'm switching it up because I've traveled a lot
and I've seen it.
Speaker 1 (37:31):
It's just traveled a lot since like a month ago.
He said.
Speaker 2 (37:35):
It's just not local appreciation. It's just like appreciation around
the world.
Speaker 1 (37:39):
So you're saying, for since a couple of months, you've
been able to travel the.
Speaker 3 (37:42):
World, and now you feel like, see what do you
appreciation post?
Speaker 1 (37:49):
Appreciation? Like what do you see on Instagram?
Speaker 2 (37:51):
Just appreciation post?
Speaker 1 (37:53):
And what is that?
Speaker 2 (37:53):
I'm just people around the world.
Speaker 1 (37:55):
It's just like black man, we love you.
Speaker 2 (37:57):
You don't have to say that. I mean, I'm obviously
that's what I am. We don't have to say.
Speaker 1 (38:02):
But I'm saying, what do you see? Like I'm asking
so I can.
Speaker 2 (38:06):
Know pure creature of God, you are just we love
your skin.
Speaker 3 (38:15):
You're me mass Like I'm trying to have a serious conversation,
but you're not getting serious. So anyways, you you had
a whole nother viewpoint, and I'm just I really want
to have this clipped in because you had a whole
nother viewpoint multiple times. So I'm just really shocked that
now you're saying black men are the most appreciated by women.
Speaker 2 (38:38):
Women because you made a specific by women.
Speaker 3 (38:41):
Know you've said specifically by women is who black men
are not appreciated.
Speaker 2 (38:45):
I never said that, okay, man, Like you said, it's
like the lady gets so juiced to what he's doing
all the time. It turned into entitlement. Damn that part,
and they get unappreciated it. And it's just like like
like women, y'all, like every now and then could just
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be like, damn, I appreciate you once a month. You
know how much of a man that just as a
man as us as a man who provide and as
a leader, who do who do who? Just like I
want to make sure your life is happy. Just to
hear those words, you ain't got to cut clean. If
you just said, damn man, you know when I'm proud
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of you out that right there, That'll make a nigga
feel like he's ten ft tall. Puld that clip up.
Speaker 1 (39:35):
I check that, Okay, I will all right. I cannot
wait for that. So now, what what happens when you're wrong?
Speaker 2 (39:43):
Well, we'll talk about it.
Speaker 5 (39:46):
Right.
Speaker 1 (39:47):
That sounds good because I got to.
Speaker 2 (39:48):
See what kind of context I put it in. You know,
a man said something, you know, I must have been slipping.
Are black women appreciated by men?
Speaker 1 (40:01):
Our black women appreciated by man?
Speaker 4 (40:06):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (40:06):
I mean I don't know.
Speaker 3 (40:08):
I feel like nowadays, I think that other races, like
how you do a lot, are more put on a pedestal.
And I see that a lot, especially from you, And
so I feel like, you know, black women do kind
of feel disrespected and they feel underappreciated a lot of
the time. Yes, because all I see on the internet
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is black men downing black women every day.
Speaker 1 (40:34):
In our comments, it's way more men.
Speaker 3 (40:37):
I would assume when I started this journey that it
would be women hating on women. Every bad negative comment
about me is mainly from a man.
Speaker 1 (40:46):
I rarely see a woman comment negative.
Speaker 3 (40:48):
And I didn't know men were so catty like that
and so quick to want to put a black woman
down like she's trash, she's this's that she's like the
most horrible things you can think of.
Speaker 1 (40:59):
And I'm like, who raised y'all?
Speaker 3 (41:01):
Because I come from a generation and my dad and
how I was taught, Like, I never see my dad
talk down on a woman like that. Even if he
can't outstand this motherfucker, he's not gonna sit in my
face and pillow talk about another woman or bring her down.
He probably did it behind in his own room, like
this bitch, you know, but it.
Speaker 1 (41:18):
Was never that.
Speaker 3 (41:19):
And I feel like black women, all I see on
the internet is how white women are better, American non
American women are better, this and that are better, better
or better, And it's like, have your preference, but don't
bring us down while you're doing it. If you want
to be with a woman that's not American or not white,
do that, but stop referencing it to a black woman.
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Because when black women get with white men, they're not
talking about black men are trash. They're just loving and
living their life with this white man, period. And it's like,
you don't have to sit here and down the other
race because you don't want.
Speaker 1 (41:57):
To fuck with them. You don't have to do that.
At the end of the day.
Speaker 3 (42:00):
If you want to mess with a white woman and
an Asian woman, and this woman go.
Speaker 1 (42:04):
Do that and leave us out of the conversation, period,
point blank.
Speaker 3 (42:08):
And I think that that's what the women are frustrated about.
And if we have an opinion on this, we're aggressive.
See she has too much of an opinion.
Speaker 1 (42:16):
That's why they don't like it. That's because you talk. Okay, Well,
this is.
Speaker 2 (42:20):
The thing too. And the reason why black women get
so much hate is because how we on our TV
shows across these platforms, how people look at us. So
when you start looking, they look at us like an
ignorant group of people. And especially like when you look
across the platforms and you start looking at the real
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housewives of whatever, and we glorify the shaking that ass,
We glorify the fighting, we glorify the talking about each other.
I'm talking about like black women, we like we we
we glorify.
Speaker 1 (42:59):
You know that white women.
Speaker 2 (43:01):
Are off the chain to you know that white.
Speaker 3 (43:03):
Women do that too, though not us Jersey Shore, the
housewives of like Pontiac or the other housewives of Beverly
Hills as white women.
Speaker 1 (43:12):
It's not Black women on that at all.
Speaker 3 (43:15):
So I'm letting you know there's a lot of housewives
that are not the one you know is basketball wives.
Speaker 1 (43:21):
I'm talking about the real Housewives of Beverly Hills.
Speaker 3 (43:25):
Is all white women throwing drinks at each other, cursing
each other out. But guess what, it is not as
bad because they're white, right. It's not as aggressive, it's
not as ghetto, it is not as raunchy because they're
white women doing it. Black women are always held to
a way higher standard. We always have to prove why
we deserve to have a seat at the table. We
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always have to prove that we deserve to be here,
no matter. We always have to be way more classier
than you. A white girl can come in here half naked,
and I can come in here with a little titty showing,
and guess what, I'm a whore. Like it's always going
to be this compared, and I think that Black women
are tired of being compared. Do I agree with you
that culturally black people are doing too much shaking ass
(44:07):
and this and that.
Speaker 1 (44:08):
Yes, I don't think you're wrong.
Speaker 3 (44:09):
Like Zeus Network and Jocelyn's Cabernet and all of that
stuff is out of line.
Speaker 2 (44:14):
It's the thing where you're American culture. Yeah, you're being
more watched than anybody. Like when you think about culture
in America, who sets the trends, who sets the tone
for how we dress, how we look, how we act,
how we run, how we play sports. It's us.
Speaker 1 (44:35):
Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 2 (44:36):
So we're already up here as far as eyeballs watching us.
So then people around the world are going to assume,
just like from watching us on every microscope and every
camera and every national platform, that's how we are. But
we don't do us no favors by by having putting
more shows out there like the Cosby's or or just
(44:58):
like a classy Housewives of this show. No, we want
the drama and we feed off the drama because that's
where the money is. Now. It's about clout, It's about
who can make the most noise, who who could get
the most attention, And we become attention worse for the money.
It's just but if that's the only way that black
(45:19):
women can make money, and I'm not saying that that
is the only way, but like when they're throwing dollars
at black women being ignorant to one another, it feeds
into it. Yeah, and that's what people see. I agree
with that, and now that's our perception of one another,
and that's why we're looked at as a race, and
that's how Black wom are looked at for that perception
(45:42):
of being ignorant and men not wanting them from other
races because of that. But it's entertaining.
Speaker 1 (45:49):
But I will say.
Speaker 3 (45:50):
That I see a lot of women with these other
races now, and I've seen a lot of it recently,
and I'm like, Okay, these other races are messing with
these women and these Black women and Black women are
going to these other races and they're feeling like appreciated
or whatever the case may be. Is what I have
seen from a lot of people these days. So I
do see that there's a shift. And I was actually
(46:11):
just thinking about it the other day. I'm like, look,
if you're happy somewhere else and you want to be
with a different race, do that. I don't think there's
any problem with that. I'm a biracial product of a
biracial parents, so I can't even hate on that at
the end of the day. But I think the bigger
problem is with this platform, we have to make sure
that we're creating unity more than separation. Like, what are
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the things how can we problem solve this? What are
the things that we can do to close the gap
between black men and black women? How can we be
more united at the end of the day, you know,
And I think that that's really really important, and I
think that's something that we should focus on more because
every day on the Internet, all you see is why
this person is, why women don't love? What are the
(46:54):
solutions we see?
Speaker 1 (46:56):
Everyone is very problem based out of all of our.
Speaker 2 (47:00):
Our role models, our top women, Like yeah, in this generation, yeah,
Like who are our popular top women? And what do
they talk about?
Speaker 1 (47:11):
Michelle Obama? She has a podcast?
Speaker 2 (47:13):
No, no, this generation don't relate to her. She's older.
They're not. They're not following Michelle Obama. Maybe an older
generation is. They're following sexy red Cardi B. They're following
uh are what are Golorilla? They're following Meggan the Stallion.
(47:34):
What do they talk about? Shaking a ass, popping that pea?
Dressing like this and our kids are watching this?
Speaker 1 (47:42):
Yeah, I agree with you, Like who.
Speaker 2 (47:45):
Is who is the face? Who is the face for
this generation? Those are the faces that the kids look
up to they turn on the TV. This is what
they think. They don't have to turn on the TV
no more. We're going to our phone and now this
is what we got on twenty four hours a day
to look at this. Oh damn that was We just
saw Cardi right there, We just saw Megan, We just
saw sexy Oh she said this. We can't be hypocrites
(48:05):
to this dog. We can't be because this is what's
being prec this is what's getting fed to us.
Speaker 1 (48:11):
But where's the hypocrisy coming in?
Speaker 2 (48:13):
Like the hypocrisy is coming into.
Speaker 3 (48:16):
Like because those are not my role models. So where
is the hypocrisy.
Speaker 2 (48:21):
The hypocrisy is Black women want to be treated a
certain way, but act a certain way.
Speaker 3 (48:28):
You can't generalize a whole group of women. Those are influences, yeah,
but you can't generalize a whole group of women, not
all women, not all.
Speaker 1 (48:39):
Yeah, exactly. So there is a group.
Speaker 2 (48:41):
Where do I go to see that group? Where's that
group at?
Speaker 1 (48:45):
Where are you at? Because change where you're at and
you'll see that.
Speaker 2 (48:48):
Group that group. Where can I get a group of
black women in one place? Uh? That's like not being
on some like crazy shit like on some like sexy
Red Megan Stallion, Like I.
Speaker 3 (49:04):
Don't go out and just see groups of women looking
like making the stallion and that.
Speaker 2 (49:08):
Yeah, that's what I see. Is you go to any
high school, any public school.
Speaker 1 (49:11):
So high schools now, I don't know that, go to.
Speaker 2 (49:13):
The public schools, you go there, you go to the
because I go to high.
Speaker 1 (49:17):
School games, right, I don't know about saying.
Speaker 2 (49:19):
So I'm seeing the youth. Yeah, I'm seeing what they own.
Speaker 1 (49:21):
Yeah, I can't say it.
Speaker 2 (49:22):
And I'm like, damn, ain't nobody dressing regular no more?
Speaker 1 (49:26):
Yeah, I can see it.
Speaker 3 (49:27):
Damn I can't speak to the youth because I really
am not involved or englfed in that.
Speaker 2 (49:32):
So, I mean, you know, that's what I see. Yeah,
that's unfortunate that it is, but that's culture we live in.
Speaker 3 (49:40):
Yeah, I get it. At the end of the day.
I mean, listen, you can't change the world. You can
only change what you do and what you surround yourself
with and what kind of role model you decide you
want to be for these kids and what you decide
to listen to every day, you know what I mean.
So I think those things are really important and I think,
like I said, you know, if you could just be
(50:05):
better for yourself and it can help some other people,
That's all you.
Speaker 1 (50:08):
Could do, because it is bad right now.
Speaker 3 (50:10):
We're in a crazy space, and I think that both
black women and black men have contributed to that.
Speaker 2 (50:18):
I'm trying to think, what race you think least contributes
to society.
Speaker 4 (50:25):
I don't think I want to.
Speaker 1 (50:29):
I'm not going to answer that. I'm scared.
Speaker 2 (50:34):
Race least contributes to society.
Speaker 1 (50:39):
Or what race is? Just like ducked off? Is that's
a better way to put it.
Speaker 2 (50:44):
Like not all that you just never hear about, hardy,
that just be like somewhere in like middle of Europe
somewhere that you just don't even know about.
Speaker 3 (50:54):
They gotta they just like Polish people from Poland certain
races thing.
Speaker 1 (51:03):
No, but let me just say this.
Speaker 3 (51:04):
I was in Switzerland, right and I was at a
dinner for the chef or whatever, and we had like
a chef dinner and there was this guy. He was
from Switzerland and he had like an accent and he
didn't speak a lot of English. This man, he was
a white like whatever whatever races in Switzerland.
Speaker 1 (51:25):
He's that and he has like blonde hair and he
is over there quoting black culture like videos. He's like
bang bang bang, so yeah, bitch, like and it was
blowing me. I was like, I'll never forget this because I'm.
Speaker 2 (51:39):
Like, you got a way you just said he was
quoting black culture bang bang bang.
Speaker 3 (51:45):
Yeah no, because it's a video where it's like it's
this guy he's like, bang bang bang, I'm in the hood,
I'm in the ghetto.
Speaker 1 (51:52):
Yeah No. It was just a viral video that was
on the internet and he was just like bang bang
bang and stuff that and he was quoting that and
then he was like, bitch, please, like just say it
all this like black slang.
Speaker 3 (52:04):
And it was crazy because I'm like, why do you
know this? And I'll never forget that. No, But that's
the point it made me realize I'm in Switzerland. I
was either in Germany or yeah, one of those places,
because I went to like five places in a week.
Speaker 1 (52:23):
But that was crazy to me and I couldn't believe it.
Speaker 3 (52:26):
So, yeah, I do understand how much influence that black
culture does have. And I think right now, we're just
lost and we're just all over the place. And I
feel bad for young girls that feel like they have
to live up to that and have these bodies and
have this and be perfect and all.
Speaker 1 (52:42):
Of that stuff. But yeah, so anyways, thank you guys
for tuning in.
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