September 8, 2025 • 58 mins
We are back with another fire episode of Truth After Dark! We discuss some current topics such as DDG’s comment on dating, Cam Newton saying men need space, keeping the spark in long-term relationships, the life of a side-piece, & so much more! Put the kids to sleep, light a candle, and tune in to The Truth After Dark!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
For I was too eighty period.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
So whatever, be loud and be proud.
Speaker 3 (00:05):
Sure didn't let it go, Let it go, let it
go and hold on and.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Then they go, I'm sick of it?
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Did you sweat a lot? No rock with this man?
Side piece? Money is up.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
They say that the side pieces get the trips, the bags,
the ship, the money, and they don't have to do
nothing except come through high sex. Would you let you
complain about your wife and keep it pushing?
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Chili cheese dog, she's good chili cheese Glizzy. A guy
can't take you off from some chili cheese Glizzy like
the first date. He can't take you for a glisy.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
I don't like we're gonna talk about this on Katrich.
(01:16):
This is the taking over the game, all right? Everybody,
Welcome to Truth after Dark?
Speaker 1 (01:28):
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I am your host, az Our Faara Day. We have them.
(01:50):
Think you have the road? Why are you ready for
action tonight?
Speaker 2 (01:54):
I'm tired?
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Okay, I see you.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
So shiell me. I just learned what that was?
Speaker 1 (02:01):
What was it?
Speaker 2 (02:04):
What is that?
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Joey crying.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
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Speaker 1 (02:12):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
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Speaker 2 (02:30):
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Let's get it.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Okay. So I'm gonna start out with just a few
things that's been in the media recently that's been going viral,
just to get your opinion on it. So you know,
DDG has his dating show Are You My Ball? Which
to me, I just don't understand that. Okay, that's I
(02:55):
guess that's what the kids saying. I'm an older lady.
So but basically, he like, he has this viral thing
about him saying dating a woman is supposed to be costly,
and he believes you shouldn't date if you can't afford it.
What are your thoughts on that?
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Ooh you can't, man, that's true. It is costly.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Yeah, I'm a roll with DDG on this one, like
for real, because when you single, you less worried about
your partner and doing things for them and making sure
they happy because doing things with them cost money. You
can let's go to dinner cost money, Uber cost money,
Let's have a drink cost money.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
I mean it just kind of it adds up. Yeah,
for sure.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
So if you ain't got it, then you better think
twice or you got to think about the level of
the girl you're dealing with. Like I said, go back
to dealing with six word about all that jazz, you
know what I'm saying, just saying it ain't gonna be
all up for the You gotta take me here, I
gotta you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Do I look like I eat here?
Speaker 3 (04:07):
And nah? You need to deal with ones that ain't
on that, you know what I'm saying. So it all
you gotta date within.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
The look of the girl. You say, Okay, that's my budget.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
You gotta look at her. You gotta be real with
you that you gotta look at a girl and be like, oh,
she's gonna cost But then you look at her like, Okay,
I can I can afford that, like.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
For real, But it does make like not everyone can afford.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
You gotta look at that look like you gotta look
at the You gotta look at yourself in the mirror.
You gotta see how you dress, kind of car you drop,
see where you live in and be like, all right,
I gotta I gotta date within my means And you
can see that by looking at that girl, like I can.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
I can work with that. I can. You go but
a step below that and say I can uplift that.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
You know what I'm saying, I'm screaming, Okay, I could
honestly say that I agree with you. I don't have
any like rebuttal because that is the truth, honestly. Okay.
So another thing that's going viral, This is my last one,
but Cam Newton, he has a viral clip. Everyone is
going crazy over it for whatever reason. But he said
that men want space from like their girl, but they
(05:30):
want space with the girl being there just don't talk.
But I just want to know that you're there and
I want to be able to see you, but I
don't want you to talk to me. But when he
said that, men have a hard time communicating that, and
he believes that a lot of men agree with that,
where it's like I just don't want to be bothered,
but I also want to see you and lay eyes
on you, but like just.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
Leave me alone to Yeah, I can understand what you're
talking about, like you're actually in the house.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
But like over there.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Yeah, like I'll tell you.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
I think I gotta understand and what he's saying, because
I think I felt that way before. And I think
sometimes when we around a significant other, it's hard for
us to really focus, like on what we really need
to get done sometimes and sometimes we need like that
(06:19):
peace and quiet just to think. It ain't even nothing
against the girl, but we sometimes just need to be
able to think because I think when you around your
significant other, you kind of always catering to her needs
and her feelings while she's around. But then the second
she leaves, men really get more stuff done, I believe,
because you're thinking about what you.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Need to get done.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
All right, let me organize this, let me take care
of this, let me make this phone call, let me
go You know what I'm saying, So I kind of
understand what he's saying, because it's like you could be
thinking and then your significant other or say something that'll
throw your thought off, like hey, let's go here or something,
and you're like, damn, I forgot what I was thinking,
Like I understand what he was saying with that, like
he wants you presently here, but not here sometimes so
(07:00):
we can think because we our best ideas come sometime
when we just can sit there quiet room, nobody right
there to say anything to disrupt it, and really think
about what.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
We need to get done.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
But it seems like what you guys are saying is
a little conflicting because what he's saying is like he
doesn't want the girl to leave. He wants to be
able to still look at her, but he just wants
her to shut up and like just but don't leave,
because he said once you leave, then I'm thinking, like,
well where is she? Da da da da. He's like
I have more peace if I know you're there, but
you just leave me alone.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
Yeah, you could just be in another room, okay, Like, yeah,
you know you're there, you upstairs, or you over there
in the backyard or right he's somewhere. I know you there,
but let me go over here and kind of like but.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Man, I guess the big thing in why's went viral
is because men are saying like how do you communicate
that to a woman.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
You know, like what I said, you say, hey no,
you know what that is tough to communicate to you like,
hey no, but look like a god in his situation.
You know, he gonna have a nice crib to where
he can go into another room, like I'm gonna go
on my office. Let me just get some time to
(08:16):
myself real quick.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
And this what about men? Like a lot of people,
it's going viral about men not in a situation Like
what do you suggest on how you would communicate?
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Because me as a oh, men tell women I need
some space.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Okay, you tell a woman you need space.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
But then they take it as like.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
That's gonna take a woman. She might spiral. Yeah, that's
what I'm saying. Like you, it's hard because it's like
if you tell a woman I need space and she's like,
oh my god, I do something wrong. You don't love me?
Do you not want to be with me anymore? I
would say that you could just be honest and just
be like, hey, I need to get some stuff done today,
you know, like I want you here, but maybe you
(08:54):
know you could do your own thing because I.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Need I can't be distracted, or you just start an argument.
You no what you do is don't be toxic fall
No you start an argument.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
No, why do you have to start to argument? Be
mature and communicate properly and just say, hey, look, that's.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
The best way to get the quietness you need.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
You're toxic as hell.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
No, I don't do that. I'm just saying.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
I'm saying for people who can't go into another room
or a backyardist.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
The advice you're giving them instead of just being a
mature adult in communicating and saying, hey, listen, listen, babe.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
I know you know, you know it's easy these days
because all you got to say, I'm dealing with some
mental health, Like I just need some time.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
I can't.
Speaker 3 (09:38):
I'm just I'm depressed. Can I just like I just
I just need some just I need some me time.
I'm depressed right now. I'm going through it. The homie
just passed or something.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
It can't it ain't gonna be no lie. But like
we I feel like we do go to that a lot, uh,
you know, when we don't need to, even though people
go through stuff, but like people are just throw it
out there, like you know, I'm just sad and depressed,
and that's a way to kind of get some like space,
like truthfully, because like when somebody go to that, you're like, damn,
(10:12):
let me just chill.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Let me kind of like yeah, but it's as you know,
because it's like then you're kind of pushing someone away
because then in my mind, if someone says that to
me and I'm like, okay, well you're you don't want
me to be there for you right now, so I
can't support you as your girl, Like now I'm just
gonna like okay, like do you you know that's kind
(10:35):
of like putting a gap in the relationship because you're
distancing yourself without just being honest, because it could really
just be like I need one day to get my
life just like I'll holler at you tomorrow. I love you.
We're good. Like I feel like, man go to an extreme,
and when you go to an extreme, you start to
because create a wedge in the relationship and it starts
to create distance between your partner when in reality, you
(10:57):
could just keep it a mean listen, I needed to
I have so much shit to do. I need to
get it together. I'm gonna holler at you tomorrow. I
love you.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
We're good.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
Don't overthink it. It's nothing. I just need to get
my thoughts just how you explained it, how you're like.
It's sometimes as a man, your thoughts is just better
when you're alone, you're not distracted. Explain that to your girl.
That's so much better. And I think that the problem
is is that's how we start to create these wedges
and these things in our relationship because we don't want
to just communicate clearly. And I know why men are
(11:27):
afraid to do that because the reaction sometimes is fucked
up from a woman. So it's like, I'm not incentiveized,
you know, I don't want to do it. Gonna trip
and then I gotta deal with this, you know what
I mean.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
That's why it be sometimes easier to lie. I get that,
you know what I'm saying, Like, then how are you
supposed to tell your girl?
Speaker 3 (11:45):
Because a girl, y'all are so emotional you just feel like, Oh,
he don't want to go through it with me, So
now that's gonna create something. Oh he depressed, Well why
can't I be there for you?
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Or you need a day? Well I can't be there
and help you through your day? Y'all always gonna go
to that to where if you tell that to a man,
he's gonna be like, all right, I get it, you
know what I'm saying. I get it.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
But women can't take that because that y'all. Y'all are
like more emotional and more attachment, like to one little thing,
you know, with that.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
But I think that if there's a way though, like
because I think that for someone who's level headed, I
can't speak for all women, but for a woman who's
mature and level headed, I think she can handle like, hey,
I get distracted easily. I need to get a lot
of shit done today.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
I need to lock in, so the feelings get hurt.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Now if that not with that, I don't think that
is a feelings hurt situation. I think that's more like
I said, someone level headed can understand that how you
put it, I understand that clearly. If a man was
to tell me that, I would be like, oh, for show,
like I feel.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
That, and then like you're gonna go at y'all girls,
Oh you said you don't want me. Now I'm over
here drinking do my Oh you don't want to be
around me? And then that's always gonna tell into something.
It's always always do because I've done that before. I've
been in relationships. I've done that. Then it always turned
into something else. Oh well you didn't want to be
with me, Well, well you needed some space. It turned
(13:13):
into like damn, she couldn't even understand like us.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
One day.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
We've been together like fifty five straight days, like one day,
but one day it's just like any Just like any relationship,
one mistake, It don't matter how much good you do,
one mistake and then it gets tricky. So one little
space move is everything tricky?
Speaker 1 (13:30):
That's not true, but I do know that that does
happen a lot, though. But I'm speaking of people who
are level headed and mature. I think you're speaking.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
Of aliens because certainly not not.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
You don't think there's no women the world not.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
It's gonna take like I said, it's gonna go back
to like older older women. Yeah, older okay, yeah, well
like nobody you know, older, meaning like more so like
in your fifties, like you know what I'm saying, like
late forties, Like when you're under that, it's like, man,
you're gonna have to do some real massaging and like
(14:10):
really buttering up to really get that point across.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
I mean I understand why men do lie about things,
because I do understand that dealing with it and avoiding
it is better. But it's like, don't you think that
that starts to create little issues within the relationship versus
just keeping it a.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Bean, Like it's gonna create either way, so you might
as well just grow with you might create, create it
and deal with it now, get the piece and then
deal with it later. Deal with the dysfunction later, that's wild.
Deal with the war later, Okay, whatever.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
So today I want to talk about something because you
said something interesting when we were on another podcast, and
I'm going to just elaborate on it a little bit.
You said that after seven years the relationship is a rap.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
Well, I feel like this, if you could get through
that threshold of the seventh year, you could go a
long way. But like when it gets around that six
seven eight years, that's when the true test of a
relationship really come through if you ain't broken off before then,
Because if you can push through, then you're probably gonna
(15:23):
be at together another seven eight years. And but like
that's six seven years. I feel like, you know, I'd
have been in a couple of relationships like that, and
that's when it was just like kind of like.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
A strain around those years. And you know what, I
happened to look up a statistic actually because I didn't
I didn't know what it really was. I was like
going off of my experience, and so I looked this
up and it said right here, it said with half
a marriage is lasting as long or more. Let's say, say,
(15:55):
all right, here we go.
Speaker 3 (15:57):
However, the average LEMP of a first marriag that ends
and divorce is closer to eight years.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
And this is a statistic that.
Speaker 3 (16:05):
I'm raising from AI on the online, and I was like, damn,
that's around at the time, you know. And then it
goes and say marrying later in life could be associated
with longer lasting marriages, which I said, That's why I
(16:25):
feel like marriages is for like old people.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
I don't think they mean old.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
They could later in life. What is later in life?
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Life could be later in life, not like young. I
think that people who marry when they're in their twenties
or something later are still growing.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
But later in life is the back end, the back nine.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
I think later in life you should ask what do
you mean later in life.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
Is later in life mid forties?
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Right? I agree with that. I think later in life
has been forties. Like my dad, he was married twice
before my mom, and he married my mom when he
was like forty six and had me and my sister
and they're married still, you know what I mean. But
he had two marriages prior to that, so I don't
know what that is.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
Move around like he used to. So he's like, let
me settle in.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
See, and I don't want that. I don't want that.
I don't I don't want I don't want that. And
my dad does don't shake and grooves, No, he could
shake a bake still right now? That man be kidding it? Okay,
I feel like this is got a man. Y'all knowpe
sit down, like I realized that with man it no
matter what age. That's why I guess women get cooked
and men get cracking because men continue to crack off
(17:30):
no matter the age. I never seen nothing like it
in my life.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
But anyway, he's seen your whole life.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
Men age like fine, one, like what you mean? Like,
I don't know how women age. I just know we
get better.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
Which is cool because that just means I'm spoiled, baby.
So my whole thing is this spoil yeah. That My
whole thing is that, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
We're spoiled like gifts and stuff.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
Spoiled like life abundance.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
All right, So.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
That's what I want to say. I feel like I've
never been in a relationship longer than seven years, so
I have no idea of what that's like. I think
for me, I reevaluate after two years though, everything like
if it's a job, I noticed that about me, if
it's a job, if it's a relationship, if it's anything.
And it's funny because there's this thing that people do.
I don't know if you've ever heard about this, but
(18:22):
it's like contractual marriages where you reevaluate the marriage every
two years and you have to go up for like
a reevaluation and see people do this and see like
we still want to be married yes or no, like
and people put this in like an agreement or whatever.
(18:42):
And I'm not even mad at that.
Speaker 3 (18:44):
What's the number on sex and relationship to what after
that number? You just feel like, damn, it ain't really
popping no more. Wait, like how many times like think
about this, Like how important is sex and relationship on
the scale of one to ten of importance?
Speaker 1 (19:07):
I would say, like maybe seven. All right, what is
your answer?
Speaker 2 (19:15):
I mean, I think it's around eight nine. Okay, yeah,
you know, but I'm.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
Just saying, like, after seven years of sex with the
same person, is that like burnt out? Is it burnt out? Yeah,
That's what I'm saying. But like, and that's why I
go back to this. If you want the longevity, it's
like it's the passion you really feel about a person.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
But does that passion die down though too after that
many years? Like, because I get it, Like, are you
over a person after that many years?
Speaker 3 (19:47):
No, you gotta keep finding ways to kind of have fun.
You gotta keep finding ways to be moromandic. You gotta
keep finding new ways of intimacy. You know, you got
to keep surprising them. And you know, it gotta be
different stuff every year. You know, you can't have the
expectations of that to be having it every weekend. But
it's like, all right, this year, I'm gonna go to
this next year. Once you get all you're together so long.
(20:11):
You know what I'm saying, you gotta have like different
approaches now. Yeah, Like I feel like, damn, you know,
I'm gonna start getting in the gym. All right, I'm
gonna start wearing sexy lingerie. All right, I'm gonna start,
you know, walking around the house but naked or something.
I'm gonna just be doing cooking eggs, you know, like
you gotta do something.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
You gotta keep a man on his toes. Though my
sister always taught me that, like her and her has
been married for so many years and he's still be
blowing her line, calling me, where's your sister, like just
thirsty for her. And it's like, I feel like women
specifically get extremely comfortable in relationships and we let ourselves go.
And it's like true, why, like you know, men do
(20:48):
it too, though men do it too, but women do
it a lot. And I think that for women it's visual.
It's a visual thing and men are visual and it
could be like because they had kids, or it could
be like they say happy weight or whatever it is.
But I even have done that before, and I feel
like as a woman, boy.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
Didn't you you showed you showed the let it go.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
She said, I did that before. That was happyweight, gay,
it's comfortable. That was crazy.
Speaker 1 (21:22):
That was not happy way, that was very situation.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
Said, I even did that.
Speaker 1 (21:27):
Okay, that's that what I was talking about.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
But that's extreme. What you did. You got Hella comfortable.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
It wasn't about that. I told you what. I was
so fucking you up every time now.
Speaker 2 (21:40):
Said you said I even did that, I gave I wasn't.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
Talking about that, but yeah, I did do that in
that situation too. Wasn't because it wasn't a happy way.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
You just let go? Boy, did you?
Speaker 1 (21:54):
You are so trifling.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
I'm just saying, so trifle and hold on any more?
Speaker 1 (22:07):
Then I'm sick of it. Anyways, I think that as women,
we do let ourselves go in relationship.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
You gotta call your situation something different.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
I'm not talking about that, Paul.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
All right, all right, what you talking about?
Speaker 1 (22:27):
You know what? I'm done with that portion of the conversation.
Now this is my next question. Because you could not
get over the to eighty.
Speaker 3 (22:35):
I didn't even say nothing. I didn't say nothing. In
the last couple of episodes you brought it up.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
Now you been feeling to say it.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
I haven't.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
Okay, I can't tell every comment. Someone's like Paul wanted
to say to eighty whatever I was to eighty, period,
So whatever.
Speaker 2 (22:52):
Be loud and be proud. WHOA did you sweat? A
lot no.
Speaker 1 (23:02):
Rock with this man. No, I actually did it. You
know what, This is what I will say. I feel
like big people even now, and this is going to
sound really mean, But I was big so I could
say this, like I could look at a big person
be like, is there hygiene right? Like are you getting
under all the items? But I did not me specifically,
(23:23):
I've always had incredible hygiene. I didn't know. I've always
smelled amazing. And I didn't have a whole bunch of
roles I had to lift. I didn't have that type
of body shape. My body was not that type of shape.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
I agree, it's a different type, different levels to that, yeah,
different levels her like that.
Speaker 1 (23:44):
It's different levels of rolls and stuff. And I didn't
have like roles like I always had, Like I had
a big but huge legs, big arms, but I didn't
have like all these things I had to lift up. Okay,
So at the end of the day, my hygiene was
on point.
Speaker 3 (24:00):
At the same time, looking like big Mama, I was
just saying, you didn't you have big Mama. That's not big.
So you listen, ain't no more big Mama's no more.
That's all that's old school. You know your grandma we
call grandma big Mama.
Speaker 2 (24:13):
You had that grandma good by subject board. All right,
what we're talking about, let's get it. Let's get it.
Speaker 1 (24:26):
The next question I have is do you believe that
you can get everything from one person, meaning your partner? Like,
is it realistic to want your partner to fulfill or
check certain boxes for you?
Speaker 2 (24:41):
Say that one more time? Can your partner give you everything? No,
your partner.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
Everything, That's not what I'm asking. Do you think that
it's realistic for your partner for you to expect your
partner to check certain boxes for you?
Speaker 2 (24:54):
Like?
Speaker 1 (24:54):
Can I get everything that I'm looking for romantically from
this one person?
Speaker 2 (24:59):
Well, if I'm a.
Speaker 3 (25:00):
Make a lady, my wife or my girl, she gonna
check a lot of the boxes that I'm looking for,
and you know, everything else is a bonus for me.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
I feel like, you know.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
One of the boxes that you have.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
Uh for me? You know, I feel like mental stimulation
it is important.
Speaker 1 (25:22):
Like the non negotiable boxes that have to be checked.
Speaker 3 (25:27):
I just think I can't talk to no dummy like
dog like just everything is just like like you just
don't get it, Like have you ever talked to a
guy or a girl that just like just dumb, yes,
like they don't even know left from right. And it's like, damn,
because that's what I'm saying, you know, from a first conversation, like.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
She she, she's dumb.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
You know, I'm gonna take it for what it is,
you know, but like mental stimulation, you know, I never
to hold conversations and m hm, you know, it's just
it's just, uh, what you asked me about my boxes,
some of my other boxes. It's just like I gotta
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feel like you know, when I'm around you, I'm very
like relaxed. I'm not into like I have to impress you.
I have to like manage your feelings every second. Like
you know what I'm saying. When you around somebody that
you got to manage their feelings. It's just like it's
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just like it's not comfortable being around them all the time.
You constantly you can't even just sit there and have
a quiet moment. And just like you know, when you
can sit in the room with somebody and just not
say nothing and then but y'all cool, you're not being
having to entertain every second. And I don't know what
kind of box or what do you put on that
box to check it. But that's just something. I mean obviously,
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you know, I gotta be attracted to you. I mean
that's that's I feel like that's basic. And then uh,
after that, I just you gonna tell me what type
of person you are really, you know, I understand, like
if you're a good person, good hearted, you know you're
gonna really be able to feel that from somebody you
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not all like.
Speaker 2 (27:15):
How should I say? It's just I don't like bougie.
I don't like.
Speaker 3 (27:22):
Materialistic, I don't like I don't like the world we
live in today where everything is just kind of like
smoking mirrors, like your Instagram, I don't I don't like
your like for me, you can't be on Instagram every
day taking flicks, showing every day, just every day, just constant.
And that's that's like for me. I'm good. Yeah, you know,
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I'm gonna treat you at an arms distance. But like
for me to like be with somebody, you know, it's
it's it can't seem artificial. I need authenticity, and that's
what I'm looking for. Somebody like authentic down the earth,
you know, not caught up in the really things, because
the worldly things come and go somebody I feel comfortable,
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like just trusting, like it's hard to trust me, you
know what I'm saying. It's just hard to trust, like damn,
and that can take years, it can take months, I
don't know, but like you know it, you know it.
It's just hard to come by.
Speaker 1 (28:25):
Yeah, it takes a minute. I feel like those are good.
I think for me, some things that are like non
negotiateboard things that I care about in a relationship or
what I look for is I agree with the mental simulation.
I feel like if I can't connect with you on
a mental level, then that's not gonna work for me.
I think that comes first before everything. Obviously, attraction is
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first because you have to have that initial attraction, but
mental is huge for me. Someone who is God fearing
because God is in the center of my life, so
I have to be with some one who also believes
in God. I love someone who's family oriented, like I'm
very into like families and kicking in and barbecues and
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chilling like that's my thing. And I feel like I
want someone that also loves that because it's like that's
how we connect. And then you know, I feel like
someone who's Genny Winen has a pure heart that's really
big for me. And I don't like someone who's just
I don't know. There's like I don't like selfish people
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or mean people who are mean to like servers and
waiters and staff and help people like once I see that,
I'm cool, Like I can't fuck with that.
Speaker 3 (29:40):
Yeah, that stuff all sound good, but then when it
comes down to it, y'all be like, if he ain't
a certain height making this much money, if he ain't
doing this, that's what it really going down too. But
females or do women to say women?
Speaker 1 (29:55):
Which one?
Speaker 2 (29:56):
Because it's more like, and I said time and time again,
is what for? Is what for?
Speaker 3 (30:05):
I feel like for women, it's what you can do
for them more.
Speaker 2 (30:10):
So than a man.
Speaker 3 (30:12):
Like I've said this and it's been said millions of times,
like when a man loves a woman, he genuinely loves
that woman for the most part. If he's out with you,
holding your hand, taking you some places, he really really
like you. Some women just like the situation and will
deal with the situation because a man is successful. Because
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a man can do all these things, he could be busted,
he could be you know what I'm saying but they like, oh,
you know, he can do this for me, girl, And
that's a that's a that's a flex for a girl
in front of their friends, and that's what girls look for.
And it's just like those type of things don't last long.
So like that's why I'd be saying cats with money
and good looking in and you know, feel like they
(30:59):
can get them a nice looking limb. But women, but
they gonna be a lot of us on how the
high maintenance come with them, A lot of them because
they've been treated and because of the social media era
we're in too, because most of those nine tens that
we consider visually, they get quarterby you think you own them,
they get in quarter by millions every day. Every day
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they look at like like like they're looking at millions
of comments all this. They getting validated every day. So
the one day you don't show up, somebody is. And
so that's why I'd be like, man.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
Well listen that we live in a transactional relationship era,
and I think that's really how we're living. So I
can agree with one hundred percent of what you said.
And I can also say that it takes a two
to tango baby, because them women only can think and
move like that because men enable that behavior. And there
are men that are okay with paying for a woman
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on their arm. There are men that are okay with
doing that. And that's why women are able to live
a certain lifestyle and they expect certain things because they
are actually getting that. They are actually being with men
who are okay with buying their love. There is a
lot of men that are like, look, I'm cool with that.
I made money so I can be with this type
of woman who has the surgeries and looks a certain way,
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and be on Instagram models and this, and that. I
came to this level so I can buy a woman.
If she don't really love me, that's cool. We're using
each other. I'm using her to have me on my arm,
and she using me. We are in a transactional relationship era.
People are transactional with each other. Nothing is genuine and
real because everything is about what we can do for
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each other. A man feels like if I come around
here with this broad who all these men want, and
she looks a certain way, I'm cracking. And she feels
like I come with this man. He could look however
he looked, but he got money he's taking care of me.
I could care less for the man. But at the
same time, we again, we use in each other, period
point blank, so we cannot do one without the other.
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The women and are posting them pictures because baby, they
are prey, and y'all are catching the bait every time.
That's just the fact of the matter. So I agree
with you one hundred percent, but I agree that it
goes both ways. Men are doing the same shit and
they're acquiring the money so they can get those women,
and they're okay with that, and they're okay with not
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having real relationships.
Speaker 3 (33:21):
So in saying that, you made a great point about that,
which is very true. So me speaking to the men
moving forward, it's gonna cost us more in the long run,
you know what I'm saying, whether it be with a
kid or a marriage, that is a divorce. So men,
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if you're out here, especially you successful men, and you're
dating these pretty girls, use it for what it is
and keep it there. Don't take it no further. If
it's a transactional, keep it that. Don't get regnant, right,
don't get married, and then once the fleeing wear off,
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move on because it's gonna cost you a lot more
in the long run, trying to floss, trying to maintain
it when it really ain't what you thought it was.
So get in and get out. That's all I'm gonna say.
That's the advice I'm giving. Get in and get out.
But you gotta know when it's time to move, you
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know what I'm saying. We seeing these cats get into
these situations and it causes for a lifetime of pain
and hell from these girls. And so you know, if
that's gonna be my one advice to the guys, that's
you know, doing it big and and out here popping. Listen,
exposure y'all on TV. She look good on the red carpet. Yeah,
(34:51):
don't take it no further than that. Kids, marriage, it
ain't gonna end like you want to end like you
wanted to.
Speaker 2 (35:00):
Remember that.
Speaker 3 (35:00):
It's too many examples of this out there. So I
got one thing to say, Hey, you got to know
how to You know, this is not these are theseus leases,
These is not on this is not this is not
to own.
Speaker 1 (35:12):
And if you're confused about who is into transactional relationships,
stop leading with your wallet and start leading with your heart,
and you'll quickly remove all the people that are not
really genuine about you.
Speaker 3 (35:22):
But the thing is how how how are we leading?
But how do you leave with your heart?
Speaker 2 (35:27):
When you pull up in the bent lead and I'm
looking fly, I got my chain on, I'm not that's just.
Speaker 1 (35:33):
That's me, Like, I'm not talking about you.
Speaker 2 (35:36):
Oh no, I'm not talking about me either.
Speaker 3 (35:38):
I'm talking about the guy that's doing that, that's not
leading with his money. He's just like, man, I'm successful.
I'm balling out here. I ain't over here walking up
to her, be like, hey, let me take you shopping.
This is what I'm talking about.
Speaker 2 (35:49):
I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (35:50):
He already walking in looking a certain way. They're like, oh,
that's woof the woop. They coming at him.
Speaker 1 (35:56):
Right, But listen to what I'm saying. What I'm saying though,
when they come at you, how you interact and proceed
with them is up to you. If you want to say, okay, baby,
come here, let me take you shopping. Oh you need
this for.
Speaker 2 (36:09):
Your hair, your nails cast on? Need to say, they
could come on, let's go, right.
Speaker 1 (36:14):
So that's my point. So if you're not giving the
girl any money, then it's not a transactional relationship. You're
not doing nothing for her, right, so she might really
be fucking with you for you. That's my point. If
you're not doing anything for the girl financially and she's
still rocking with you, that she might really like you, period,
point blank. Yeah. Your look, your vibe, your attraction, your
success may have got her. But what I'm saying is
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once you get her and she's around you and she's
begging you and you're giving her money every day, that's
how you decipher if she's really rocking with you. That's
all I'm saying. People meet somebody in one day and
now they're doing this and doing that and doing that,
and then they're leading with their wallet. Oh baby, you
want me to do this for you. I don't even
know you. I'm known you for two days, and you
already pay their their body sex. So that I'm not
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leaving nobody out of the equation. Like I said, men
leave with their wallet a lot. I know a lot
of men that even will appropate, Oh let me do
this for you, Let me do that before I even
met you. And a lot of women lead with sex.
They're gonna be half naked on the internet. That's the
that's the bait. Okay, they're the prey. The men are
catching the bait.
Speaker 2 (37:21):
Man. That's just what it is.
Speaker 3 (37:24):
Side Piece money is up. I was just thinking about that,
like side piece money because like you like with the
inner like see like if early you know, eighties, nineties
whatever you was coming up like my error, like gods
could have another girl, it'd be tougher to find out.
(37:45):
Now you gotta pay so much to keep them quiet
because of the text and the d M your your
girl or I'll DM your wife. Run that like that's okay.
Here now that money because you gotta be like, hey,
(38:05):
I got this flake blackmail going on.
Speaker 1 (38:07):
No. Women have been saying on the Internet and stuff
that they enjoy being side pieces. They don't have to
deal with the drama, be married to a man, deal
with a man every day, be around the man, do
any of those things. They just are the side piece.
They get all the trips. They say that the side
pieces get the trips, the bags, the ship, the money,
and they don't have to do nothing except come through,
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have sex with you, let you complain about your wife,
and keep it pushing. That's what the people are saying.
Speaker 2 (38:33):
You got to do something don't say you go to do.
Speaker 1 (38:35):
You're having sex. You're sex. It's a sexual thing for
a side pieces. No, it's sex. I'm saying that's.
Speaker 2 (38:44):
What you said.
Speaker 1 (38:45):
No, I never had.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
How do you know?
Speaker 1 (38:48):
Because I know people who've been side pieces. I'm not.
I'm not living under So what else does the side
pieces doing?
Speaker 2 (38:56):
You tell me it's a lot?
Speaker 1 (38:58):
What is it.
Speaker 2 (39:03):
We're gonna talk about this?
Speaker 1 (39:07):
Tell us, well, if you're a side piece, let us go.
Speaker 2 (39:12):
I don't know. I gotta, I gotta, I gotta ask
ask your friend.
Speaker 1 (39:18):
I told you about the other thing. But yeah, I
just feel like at the end of the day, and
this is another thing though. What I want to say
is that anybody, we live in an era too where
anyone can be pretty. People don't even look how they
look anymore. All the women look exactly the like. You
can get surgeries, you can get the same body. It's
copy and paste, copy and paste, copy and paste. Stop
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taking real ones for granted looks, Come and go. Anyone
can look pretty. You probably have a baby with a motherfucker,
and that baby looks so different. Go look at the
people's baby pictures, Go look at their child hood photos.
Because a lot of these women don't even look how
they look, and they're bad. They're beautiful, but they are manufactured.
And that's just the world we live in right now.
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So the pretty can listen, I could buy pretty. I'm
not the prettiest girl in the world. I know that
if I wanted to be, though, I bet you I could.
I bet you I can make a few tweaks and
I could be the baddest bitch in America. But guess what,
at the end of the day, looks can only get
you so far in life. You gotta really, really, really
tap in with people who fuck with you. You gotta stop
taking real ones for granted, because God is not making
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those like.
Speaker 2 (40:23):
That no more.
Speaker 3 (40:24):
I come from the era of shake what your mama
gave you, right, this is.
Speaker 2 (40:30):
The error of shake what the doctor gave you. The game.
Speaker 1 (40:43):
I get it, I get it. Listen. We live in
a world where the women are like, I get this
body done, I acquire this. I can get a man
that can pay for my lifestyle. All I gotta do
is pay for these surgeries real quick, and now I
can get a man that's going to pay for my lifestyle. Now,
some of you bitches that are still working little jobs
and stuff at McDonald's with bbl's. You you're not doing
it right, baby, But at the end of the day,
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what I will say is, you know what I mean,
you're just not But what I will say is that's
what the that's the game. Right now, I could do
da And like I said, I'm baked for it. Man.
Now I got the body. The ass is done, the asses,
the faces, perfect, lips is plumped, the boobs is sitting
right like. It just is what it is. That's how
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it is. And honestly, kudos to the women who do that.
Speaker 2 (41:28):
You know what I mean, I don't just really feeling
like I ain't feeling I'm not feeling these lift the
cover half your face.
Speaker 1 (41:39):
And the duck lips.
Speaker 2 (41:43):
I mean I'm talking about they go crazy, though.
Speaker 1 (41:45):
They go crazy. They see how they look. I'm like,
do y'all not see yourself? Then?
Speaker 2 (41:50):
I don't like the super long eyelashes.
Speaker 3 (41:52):
It look like if you blink fast enough you'll start
flying away away Like damn, I'm trying to think, do
these girls look in the mirror before they walk out
the house, like, because sometimes that look ridiculous And I'm like, damn,
at what part is that like some girls be having
so much of the eyelashes on they could barely see.
Speaker 2 (42:10):
They be looking looking like or like.
Speaker 1 (42:14):
This long like do y'all wipe y'all ass because this
is crazy, Like I don't even know what's going on.
I'll be seeing this long now smoking a roach like girls,
get the fun off and get some like class about yourself.
I feel like we just these I just can't. We
live in a in an era now where people just
looking but I can't.
Speaker 3 (42:34):
It ain't even like it. I can't even say it's
a mess and you like what you like and like,
you know, it ain't even a mess to me. It's
just that there's a reason that girls do this, you know.
I ain't not like it, but there's a market for it. Yeah,
so it may not be in my market, you know.
So I'm not mad at those girls who had a
list that look like this or the or the eyelashes.
Speaker 2 (42:57):
That's that's you. You. You are putting yourself together to
be great for your market.
Speaker 3 (43:05):
I don't know what men of men, but no, there's
a market to men that's liking that you stay in there.
Speaker 1 (43:11):
There was a marketing man. Yeah, it was a market, baby,
there's a market for everything.
Speaker 3 (43:16):
Yeah, I can't get mad at that just because you're
not in my market, you know, I can't.
Speaker 1 (43:22):
Get exactly I get that. But I do want people
to stop having like surgery blindness because they go so
hard and get into these surgeries and then it's like,
whooh girl, you look crazy or whatever. I've seen that
so many times and it's like, again, there's so many
people who are beautiful that are like getting caught up
in the hype and messing with their body and their
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face when it's like you already look amazing. But like
I said, kudos to the people who want to do that.
I'm not judging you, and I'm not mad at it, right.
Speaker 2 (43:51):
Right, So what we got what we got? Man. Man,
We went in on that, we were on that, but.
Speaker 1 (43:58):
Yeah, anyways, so we kind of got away from what
we were talking about. Yeah, I know, and we always do.
But that's okay anyway. So I would say, if there
are certain things in a relationship where you feel like
this is not working, like.
Speaker 2 (44:15):
What's the question.
Speaker 1 (44:20):
The question is can someone in a relationship give you
all of the things that you're looking for? And if
they don't, should you be moving on?
Speaker 2 (44:30):
Well, how did we get into the relationship. I'm gonna
learn all that.
Speaker 1 (44:34):
Prior to the relationship. But what if there is things
that you felt as if it takes time, you know
what I mean, Like, you don't get to see all
of that in the dating phase.
Speaker 3 (44:44):
Man, let me tell you something, in a dating phase,
you're gonna learn everything about your woman when y'all make
that commitment.
Speaker 2 (44:50):
Ain't nothing changing.
Speaker 3 (44:51):
So don't think you're gonna change them and do all
this other stuff to make them do something that they
used to doing.
Speaker 2 (44:58):
They gonna do less of it, that's all they gonna do.
Speaker 3 (45:00):
The older, the longer y'all together, and the more y'all
spend time together, And if y'all get married, it's gonna
be less of it whatever you was getting at the beginning.
Speaker 2 (45:09):
So if you ready for that and you realize that you.
Speaker 3 (45:15):
Can't change somebody into molding into what you want, and
you content with that, then all right, you ready. But
if you're not, there's no need to no need to
get into the relationship.
Speaker 1 (45:27):
Okay, straight up, Well, we're gonna answer some questions from
the fans.
Speaker 2 (45:34):
Let's talk talk to one I've been doing lately, fans.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
Man, So here's one. When is intentionally This is kind
of what we talked about. Actually, when is in intentionality
towards growth, meaning being uncomfortable prioritize over stagnation to keep
the peace. That's kind of basically what we talked about, Like,
(45:58):
when do you be intentional about saying like I want
to have this conversation because I want us to grow
versus you know what, I'm not even gonna talk because
I'm just gonna keep the peace.
Speaker 2 (46:11):
I mean, I think it's like, man, it's a fine line.
Speaker 1 (46:14):
Man, like we we put I e. When do you
address the root cause versus just pacifying?
Speaker 3 (46:22):
It's gotta come from the female because y'all are more
willing to have the tough conversations than the man, because we.
Speaker 2 (46:32):
Are gonna lie to save y'all feelings.
Speaker 3 (46:36):
Where if you address it, we'll address it, you know,
depending on what, like cause you'll find out and be
like why are you to say that?
Speaker 2 (46:43):
Well, I just you know, and it could.
Speaker 3 (46:45):
Be the littlest thing, you know what I'm saying, like that,
I'm going to the grocery store. Well, wey, I went
over here, smoked some weed with the homies real quick,
came back it's like, why you didn't tell me? I
was like, man, I didn't want to argue with you
because I know you don't like me smoking weed, like
you know what I'm saying, Like stuff like that can
turn to an art argument, and you know, we just
rather lie than just getting to argue over something little though,
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And I understand if it's a bigger situation.
Speaker 1 (47:10):
Do you know how those little things start to they
start to breed it, like the distrust in the relationship
to where let's say you were like, I'm just going
over here this movie not only lie because of this,
but I found out you were lying, and then I
find out you were lying again, and it's like, well, damn,
is this a liar? And are you?
Speaker 3 (47:28):
But I was thinking of it. I was thinking of
the short term satisfaction. I was thinking of the like
if I tell her that this is what I'm gonna do,
then we're gonna argue right here, whereas.
Speaker 2 (47:37):
I could just go do it, come back and then argue.
Speaker 1 (47:42):
Don't ask for permission, ask for forgiveness.
Speaker 2 (47:45):
And then ask for forgiveness.
Speaker 1 (47:47):
That's that's the advice you want to give these people advice.
That's the advice you want to give them is to
just ask for forgiveness.
Speaker 2 (47:54):
Man, Listen, Jody said it best. We lie because we love.
Speaker 1 (47:57):
You, Lord.
Speaker 2 (47:59):
Telling the truth truth like you, I'll tell you the truth.
Speaker 1 (48:08):
Is the sickest.
Speaker 2 (48:10):
I'm just saying, Jody said it.
Speaker 1 (48:11):
Best, all right, moving on, I feel like, man, I'm
gonna say from a woman's perspective, I know it's really
hard as a man to just tell the truth to
a woman because we were very reactive and we could
be like, damn, I don't even want to what it is.
But I think that if you're dealing with someone where
you know she can handle it, or maybe she's like
level headed enough to understand where you're coming from and
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she's your friend to you can holler at someone for
real and be like, look, this is what it is,
like let's let's talk it out, period. Because those little things,
it just starts to build up after time. I'd rather
address it at the root cause and keep it pushing.
There's so many things I didn't communicate about in relationships
that ended up being way bigger than it needed to be.
Speaker 2 (48:55):
When it could have been a quick nip in the
butt situation too. I'm just talking about the little.
Speaker 1 (48:59):
Bit, but I'm just saying it.
Speaker 2 (49:01):
Bigger situations you got to you gotta hit head on.
Speaker 1 (49:04):
But little things can build up throughout time. Every little
decision you make makes a huge big one. They add up,
so it's like, why not just nip it in this
little ship. If we just nip that in the bud,
we could be straight. Okay, this is another one. What
are some good ideas for first dates? If you're middle
class and you don't want to spend a lot of money?
Speaker 2 (49:26):
Well, who's middle class? The girl or the guy?
Speaker 1 (49:28):
The guy?
Speaker 3 (49:31):
What are some good ideas for our first date? And
you want to be cheap?
Speaker 1 (49:36):
Yeah, if you're middle class, you don't have a lot
of money to spend. So it's not like you're gonna
take the girl out to wherever.
Speaker 3 (49:43):
Man I would say, like something like a carnival or something.
Speaker 1 (49:50):
Car expect.
Speaker 3 (49:53):
But you can walk around, get some ice cream or
some you could go over there, play some games, you know,
win a little Teddy Bear or something like that. Because
looking and I'm just looking like, man, I'm just really
trying to get to know you. I'm just want to
talk to you really, you know, I didn't want to
like just kind of like over impress you on around
the first day, because I know you get that all
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the time.
Speaker 2 (50:14):
Man.
Speaker 3 (50:14):
It was really about walking around holding your hand, you know,
being a kid again today When the last time you've
been to a fair without kids, Think about that, when
the last time you've been to affair. So I was like,
I just wanted to just take it back and you know,
do something a little different, you know. So, I mean,
I think that'd be cool that ain't affair, ain't really
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expensive or something like, you know, maybe go to the beach,
get you a blanket, get your little radio, sit on
the sand and chop it up.
Speaker 1 (50:46):
I was singing, like a cute picnic, you know, like
to add a nice park over the beach, walk on
the beach type of vibes. Do it activity Like Black.
Speaker 2 (50:55):
People don't really do picnics.
Speaker 3 (50:59):
That one on one, Like, hey, let's go with a
basket and a cover and just sit on it on
the park.
Speaker 2 (51:04):
Yeah, that's so cartoonish.
Speaker 3 (51:09):
You gonna go to the beach watch the sun said,
we could do something like that.
Speaker 2 (51:13):
That'll be dope.
Speaker 1 (51:13):
Some people like the park. It depends on who you're
talking to. Because I love being connected with nature and
grounded and there's a lot of beautiful parks, and like
I've been to a gorgeous park, and like it was
something I never thought I wanted to do with. Someone
introduced me to that and I was on a day
and it was really a wonderful time. Like I had
such a good time and it just it connected me
with my inner child again. It made me feel like,
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oh my god, like I feel really ground.
Speaker 2 (51:36):
You gotta make sure it's a five or six, then
nine and ten ain't going for that. This is real.
Speaker 3 (51:43):
Taking her to the fair. They ain't going for that.
Get you a nice five or six, take her to
the fair, take her to the beach.
Speaker 2 (51:48):
You're good. So chili cheese dog, she's good. Chili cheese
glizzy good, some fries good.
Speaker 1 (52:07):
But yeah, I definitely liked the picnic when I went,
so yeah, I had a good time. And then also too.
Speaker 3 (52:16):
Like a guy can't take you off from some chili
cheese glizzy, like my first date, not.
Speaker 2 (52:21):
Eating a g he can't take you.
Speaker 1 (52:24):
I don't eat like that's crazy chili cheese.
Speaker 2 (52:29):
That was chili cheese.
Speaker 1 (52:30):
I'm not eating that, Like that's why I don't eat
that by myself eating that, the chili cheese crazy on it.
Speaker 2 (52:38):
I'm gonna try that.
Speaker 1 (52:40):
You should let me know how it goes. I think
that another thing is damn an art museum, like go
to a gallery, a museum, one of these like pop ups,
balloon like I did that before too, like the balloon
Kim or he took you, he took me to the
I ain't doing all that all right, I don't understand
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or like, I mean, I'm just I'm just ar I mean,
that's that's not me.
Speaker 3 (53:10):
The art, I mean, art is cool, I guess, but
I ain't walking through no museum or art. That's kind
of boring. It ain't nothing romantic about it because I
can't even explain. We're gonna have him explain, and then
we're walking.
Speaker 1 (53:22):
Around like it depends on who you're with, because there's
a lot of women who like art. There's something that don't.
It depends on who you're with. Understand that your person,
you know.
Speaker 3 (53:30):
I mean, that's the uppity girls though that ain't gonna
be no five sixes. They ain't gonna be therebody, what's
this that's not true? I'm gonna take them. I would
have took them to the Tupac Museum, the Tupac Museum.
Speaker 1 (53:41):
Yeah nothing, I did go to that.
Speaker 2 (53:44):
Yeah, that would have been popping.
Speaker 1 (53:46):
Nothing about art has to do with your looks, it.
Speaker 2 (53:51):
Does at all.
Speaker 1 (53:52):
No, it doesn't like that sounds.
Speaker 3 (53:54):
It has to do with where you come from culturally
or where what you've experienced with your looks. Well it
has it does have nothing that you looks, but it's
where you come from kind of culturally and what you've
kind of been through and what you've seen. And like
most people who all hang out with they we ain't
going to no art museum.
Speaker 1 (54:12):
Well I like the art museum. So it depends on
what girl you're talking to, what I grew up around,
and what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (54:18):
Okay, we go, we go, watch, we go downtown. Watch
this building that spray painted up, Look at that street art.
Speaker 2 (54:24):
I'll do that.
Speaker 1 (54:25):
Yeah, there's different type of art street artists. Cool, there's
a beautiful different.
Speaker 3 (54:32):
Like they got this alley in Australia with street art
that it's like a tourist destination that's dope.
Speaker 1 (54:37):
To Yeah, there's a lot of dope art artists and
like funky stuff and like different museums and different things
that women do love and it opens their eyes culturally,
even if they don't know that anyways.
Speaker 2 (54:49):
Moving on, Moving on.
Speaker 1 (54:50):
Next question, last question, When is the right time to
ask a person to be with you?
Speaker 3 (54:55):
Only, oh man, at the end of Love Island, when
you're trying to make that hundred thousands after two weeks. Nah,
now damn, when it is the right I don't know
if there is a right moment, Like you can date
for like years and still not asked. I think it's
got to be a feeling. I mean you could kind
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of like sometimes you can date and get stuck into
the day and mode and it's not even dating. It's
just casual, like you know, maybe they too y'all too
busy or something, or I don't know if there's really
a right time, Like there's no time frame on it,
you know, it just I can live.
Speaker 2 (55:36):
Think about this.
Speaker 3 (55:37):
If I live in one state and you live in
another state and we see each other once a month,
like I'm not sure if that's enough to be like, hey,
you should be my girl, because I think at that
point it's like we gotta live together for you to
be my girl, because I don't really know you like that.
We just kind of hang out, and we like hanging
out with each other, like it's just like I kind
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of got to move you in at some point or
were just gonna kind of stay stuck in that zone
right there until you know. So, I don't know what
the timeframe really is on that unless y'all live in
the same city and y'all out every day or every
other day every weekend.
Speaker 2 (56:14):
It depends on the time y'all spend together.
Speaker 1 (56:17):
Yeah, yeah, I guess it depends. But I guess you
just do it when the time feels natural and feels
right for you. And if the person is into you
and it's it's flowing, then there'shouldn't be an issue there. Yeah,
that's all I can say. Well, I appreciate you guys
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Speaker 2 (56:46):
First important I go off what they do, he asked.
Speaker 1 (56:49):
His friend, and he's gonna give us the tea and.
Speaker 3 (56:51):
We'll let you know how Bizarre likes her glizzies what
with chili and cheese onions with the musk.
Speaker 1 (57:00):
What are you talking about?
Speaker 2 (57:02):
How you.
Speaker 1 (57:04):
Why do you keep talking about.
Speaker 2 (57:05):
Me eating gzzies Because that's the first day that the fair.
You got to have a glizzy.
Speaker 1 (57:09):
I'm not going to eat a glzzy on the fair.
Speaker 2 (57:14):
All right, there you go. Don't take her to the
fair on the first date.
Speaker 1 (57:18):
Like, stop trying to put that glazzy on me. I
don't like that. That's weird, like disrespectful this boy like what?
All right, good night, Thank you guys for tuning in.
Speaker 2 (57:32):
Thank you. Peace is taking over the game, all right, everybody,
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Speaker 1 (58:04):
Do you think that men or women are more toxic
For I was too eighty period.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
So whatever, be loud and be proud.
Speaker 3 (00:05):
Sure didn't let it go, Let it go, let it
go and hold on and.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Then they go, I'm sick of it?
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Did you sweat a lot? No rock with this man?
Side piece? Money is up.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
They say that the side pieces get the trips, the bags,
the ship, the money, and they don't have to do
nothing except come through high sex. Would you let you
complain about your wife and keep it pushing?
Speaker 3 (00:40):
Chili cheese dog, she's good chili cheese Glizzy. A guy
can't take you off from some chili cheese Glizzy like
the first date. He can't take you for a glisy.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
I don't like we're gonna talk about this on Katrich.
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Speaker 1 (02:35):
Okay. So I'm gonna start out with just a few
things that's been in the media recently that's been going viral,
just to get your opinion on it. So you know,
DDG has his dating show Are You My Ball? Which
to me, I just don't understand that. Okay, that's I
(02:55):
guess that's what the kids saying. I'm an older lady.
So but basically, he like, he has this viral thing
about him saying dating a woman is supposed to be costly,
and he believes you shouldn't date if you can't afford it.
What are your thoughts on that?
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Ooh you can't, man, that's true. It is costly.
Speaker 3 (03:18):
Yeah, I'm a roll with DDG on this one, like
for real, because when you single, you less worried about
your partner and doing things for them and making sure
they happy because doing things with them cost money. You
can let's go to dinner cost money, Uber cost money,
Let's have a drink cost money.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
I mean it just kind of it adds up. Yeah,
for sure.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
So if you ain't got it, then you better think
twice or you got to think about the level of
the girl you're dealing with. Like I said, go back
to dealing with six word about all that jazz, you
know what I'm saying, just saying it ain't gonna be
all up for the You gotta take me here, I
gotta you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Do I look like I eat here?
Speaker 3 (04:07):
And nah? You need to deal with ones that ain't
on that, you know what I'm saying. So it all
you gotta date within.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
The look of the girl. You say, Okay, that's my budget.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
You gotta look at her. You gotta be real with
you that you gotta look at a girl and be like, oh,
she's gonna cost But then you look at her like, Okay,
I can I can afford that, like.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
For real, But it does make like not everyone can afford.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
You gotta look at that look like you gotta look
at the You gotta look at yourself in the mirror.
You gotta see how you dress, kind of car you drop,
see where you live in and be like, all right,
I gotta I gotta date within my means And you
can see that by looking at that girl, like I can.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
I can work with that. I can. You go but
a step below that and say I can uplift that.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
You know what I'm saying, I'm screaming, Okay, I could
honestly say that I agree with you. I don't have
any like rebuttal because that is the truth, honestly. Okay.
So another thing that's going viral, This is my last one,
but Cam Newton, he has a viral clip. Everyone is
going crazy over it for whatever reason. But he said
that men want space from like their girl, but they
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want space with the girl being there just don't talk.
But I just want to know that you're there and
I want to be able to see you, but I
don't want you to talk to me. But when he
said that, men have a hard time communicating that, and
he believes that a lot of men agree with that,
where it's like I just don't want to be bothered,
but I also want to see you and lay eyes
on you, but like just.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
Leave me alone to Yeah, I can understand what you're
talking about, like you're actually in the house.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
But like over there.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Yeah, like I'll tell you.
Speaker 3 (05:59):
I think I gotta understand and what he's saying, because
I think I felt that way before. And I think
sometimes when we around a significant other, it's hard for
us to really focus, like on what we really need
to get done sometimes and sometimes we need like that
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peace and quiet just to think. It ain't even nothing
against the girl, but we sometimes just need to be
able to think because I think when you around your
significant other, you kind of always catering to her needs
and her feelings while she's around. But then the second
she leaves, men really get more stuff done, I believe,
because you're thinking about what you.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Need to get done.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
All right, let me organize this, let me take care
of this, let me make this phone call, let me
go You know what I'm saying, So I kind of
understand what he's saying, because it's like you could be
thinking and then your significant other or say something that'll
throw your thought off, like hey, let's go here or something,
and you're like, damn, I forgot what I was thinking,
Like I understand what he was saying with that, like
he wants you presently here, but not here sometimes so
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we can think because we our best ideas come sometime
when we just can sit there quiet room, nobody right
there to say anything to disrupt it, and really think
about what.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
We need to get done.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
But it seems like what you guys are saying is
a little conflicting because what he's saying is like he
doesn't want the girl to leave. He wants to be
able to still look at her, but he just wants
her to shut up and like just but don't leave,
because he said once you leave, then I'm thinking, like,
well where is she? Da da da da. He's like
I have more peace if I know you're there, but
you just leave me alone.
Speaker 3 (07:37):
Yeah, you could just be in another room, okay, Like, yeah,
you know you're there, you upstairs, or you over there
in the backyard or right he's somewhere. I know you there,
but let me go over here and kind of like but.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Man, I guess the big thing in why's went viral
is because men are saying like how do you communicate
that to a woman.
Speaker 3 (07:56):
You know, like what I said, you say, hey no,
you know what that is tough to communicate to you like,
hey no, but look like a god in his situation.
You know, he gonna have a nice crib to where
he can go into another room, like I'm gonna go
on my office. Let me just get some time to
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myself real quick.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
And this what about men? Like a lot of people,
it's going viral about men not in a situation Like
what do you suggest on how you would communicate?
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Because me as a oh, men tell women I need
some space.
Speaker 1 (08:29):
Okay, you tell a woman you need space.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
But then they take it as like.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
That's gonna take a woman. She might spiral. Yeah, that's
what I'm saying. Like you, it's hard because it's like
if you tell a woman I need space and she's like,
oh my god, I do something wrong. You don't love me?
Do you not want to be with me anymore? I
would say that you could just be honest and just
be like, hey, I need to get some stuff done today,
you know, like I want you here, but maybe you
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know you could do your own thing because I.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Need I can't be distracted, or you just start an argument.
You no what you do is don't be toxic fall
No you start an argument.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
No, why do you have to start to argument? Be
mature and communicate properly and just say, hey, look, that's.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
The best way to get the quietness you need.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
You're toxic as hell.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
No, I don't do that. I'm just saying.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
I'm saying for people who can't go into another room
or a backyardist.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
The advice you're giving them instead of just being a
mature adult in communicating and saying, hey, listen, listen, babe.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
I know you know, you know it's easy these days
because all you got to say, I'm dealing with some
mental health, Like I just need some time.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
I can't.
Speaker 3 (09:38):
I'm just I'm depressed. Can I just like I just
I just need some just I need some me time.
I'm depressed right now. I'm going through it. The homie
just passed or something.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (09:50):
It can't it ain't gonna be no lie. But like
we I feel like we do go to that a lot, uh,
you know, when we don't need to, even though people
go through stuff, but like people are just throw it
out there, like you know, I'm just sad and depressed,
and that's a way to kind of get some like space,
like truthfully, because like when somebody go to that, you're like, damn,
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let me just chill.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Let me kind of like yeah, but it's as you know,
because it's like then you're kind of pushing someone away
because then in my mind, if someone says that to
me and I'm like, okay, well you're you don't want
me to be there for you right now, so I
can't support you as your girl, Like now I'm just
gonna like okay, like do you you know that's kind
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of like putting a gap in the relationship because you're
distancing yourself without just being honest, because it could really
just be like I need one day to get my
life just like I'll holler at you tomorrow. I love you.
We're good. Like I feel like, man go to an extreme,
and when you go to an extreme, you start to
because create a wedge in the relationship and it starts
to create distance between your partner when in reality, you
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could just keep it a mean listen, I needed to
I have so much shit to do. I need to
get it together. I'm gonna holler at you tomorrow. I
love you.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
We're good.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
Don't overthink it. It's nothing. I just need to get
my thoughts just how you explained it, how you're like.
It's sometimes as a man, your thoughts is just better
when you're alone, you're not distracted. Explain that to your girl.
That's so much better. And I think that the problem
is is that's how we start to create these wedges
and these things in our relationship because we don't want
to just communicate clearly. And I know why men are
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afraid to do that because the reaction sometimes is fucked
up from a woman. So it's like, I'm not incentiveized,
you know, I don't want to do it. Gonna trip
and then I gotta deal with this, you know what
I mean.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
That's why it be sometimes easier to lie. I get that,
you know what I'm saying, Like, then how are you
supposed to tell your girl?
Speaker 3 (11:45):
Because a girl, y'all are so emotional you just feel like, Oh,
he don't want to go through it with me, So
now that's gonna create something. Oh he depressed, Well why
can't I be there for you?
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Or you need a day? Well I can't be there
and help you through your day? Y'all always gonna go
to that to where if you tell that to a man,
he's gonna be like, all right, I get it, you
know what I'm saying. I get it.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
But women can't take that because that y'all. Y'all are
like more emotional and more attachment, like to one little thing,
you know, with that.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
But I think that if there's a way though, like
because I think that for someone who's level headed, I
can't speak for all women, but for a woman who's
mature and level headed, I think she can handle like, hey,
I get distracted easily. I need to get a lot
of shit done today.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
I need to lock in, so the feelings get hurt.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Now if that not with that, I don't think that
is a feelings hurt situation. I think that's more like
I said, someone level headed can understand that how you
put it, I understand that clearly. If a man was
to tell me that, I would be like, oh, for show,
like I feel.
Speaker 3 (12:50):
That, and then like you're gonna go at y'all girls,
Oh you said you don't want me. Now I'm over
here drinking do my Oh you don't want to be
around me? And then that's always gonna tell into something.
It's always always do because I've done that before. I've
been in relationships. I've done that. Then it always turned
into something else. Oh well you didn't want to be
with me, Well, well you needed some space. It turned
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into like damn, she couldn't even understand like us.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
One day.
Speaker 3 (13:16):
We've been together like fifty five straight days, like one day,
but one day it's just like any Just like any relationship,
one mistake, It don't matter how much good you do,
one mistake and then it gets tricky. So one little
space move is everything tricky?
Speaker 1 (13:30):
That's not true, but I do know that that does
happen a lot, though. But I'm speaking of people who
are level headed and mature. I think you're speaking.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
Of aliens because certainly not not.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
You don't think there's no women the world not.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
It's gonna take like I said, it's gonna go back
to like older older women. Yeah, older okay, yeah, well
like nobody you know, older, meaning like more so like
in your fifties, like you know what I'm saying, like
late forties, Like when you're under that, it's like, man,
you're gonna have to do some real massaging and like
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really buttering up to really get that point across.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
I mean I understand why men do lie about things,
because I do understand that dealing with it and avoiding
it is better. But it's like, don't you think that
that starts to create little issues within the relationship versus
just keeping it a.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
Bean, Like it's gonna create either way, so you might
as well just grow with you might create, create it
and deal with it now, get the piece and then
deal with it later. Deal with the dysfunction later, that's wild.
Deal with the war later, Okay, whatever.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
So today I want to talk about something because you
said something interesting when we were on another podcast, and
I'm going to just elaborate on it a little bit.
You said that after seven years the relationship is a rap.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
Well, I feel like this, if you could get through
that threshold of the seventh year, you could go a
long way. But like when it gets around that six
seven eight years, that's when the true test of a
relationship really come through if you ain't broken off before then,
Because if you can push through, then you're probably gonna
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be at together another seven eight years. And but like
that's six seven years. I feel like, you know, I'd
have been in a couple of relationships like that, and
that's when it was just like kind of like.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
A strain around those years. And you know what, I
happened to look up a statistic actually because I didn't
I didn't know what it really was. I was like
going off of my experience, and so I looked this
up and it said right here, it said with half
a marriage is lasting as long or more. Let's say, say,
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all right, here we go.
Speaker 3 (15:57):
However, the average LEMP of a first marriag that ends
and divorce is closer to eight years.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
And this is a statistic that.
Speaker 3 (16:05):
I'm raising from AI on the online, and I was like, damn,
that's around at the time, you know. And then it
goes and say marrying later in life could be associated
with longer lasting marriages, which I said, That's why I
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feel like marriages is for like old people.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
I don't think they mean old.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
They could later in life. What is later in life?
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Life could be later in life, not like young. I
think that people who marry when they're in their twenties
or something later are still growing.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
But later in life is the back end, the back nine.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
I think later in life you should ask what do
you mean later in life.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
Is later in life mid forties?
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Right? I agree with that. I think later in life
has been forties. Like my dad, he was married twice
before my mom, and he married my mom when he
was like forty six and had me and my sister
and they're married still, you know what I mean. But
he had two marriages prior to that, so I don't
know what that is.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
Move around like he used to. So he's like, let
me settle in.
Speaker 1 (17:07):
See, and I don't want that. I don't want that.
I don't I don't want I don't want that. And
my dad does don't shake and grooves, No, he could
shake a bake still right now? That man be kidding it? Okay,
I feel like this is got a man. Y'all knowpe
sit down, like I realized that with man it no
matter what age. That's why I guess women get cooked
and men get cracking because men continue to crack off
(17:30):
no matter the age. I never seen nothing like it
in my life.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
But anyway, he's seen your whole life.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
Men age like fine, one, like what you mean? Like,
I don't know how women age. I just know we
get better.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
Which is cool because that just means I'm spoiled, baby.
So my whole thing is this spoil yeah. That My
whole thing is that, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
We're spoiled like gifts and stuff.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
Spoiled like life abundance.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
All right, So.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
That's what I want to say. I feel like I've
never been in a relationship longer than seven years, so
I have no idea of what that's like. I think
for me, I reevaluate after two years though, everything like
if it's a job, I noticed that about me, if
it's a job, if it's a relationship, if it's anything.
And it's funny because there's this thing that people do.
I don't know if you've ever heard about this, but
(18:22):
it's like contractual marriages where you reevaluate the marriage every
two years and you have to go up for like
a reevaluation and see people do this and see like
we still want to be married yes or no, like
and people put this in like an agreement or whatever.
(18:42):
And I'm not even mad at that.
Speaker 3 (18:44):
What's the number on sex and relationship to what after
that number? You just feel like, damn, it ain't really
popping no more. Wait, like how many times like think
about this, Like how important is sex and relationship on
the scale of one to ten of importance?
Speaker 1 (19:07):
I would say, like maybe seven. All right, what is
your answer?
Speaker 2 (19:15):
I mean, I think it's around eight nine. Okay, yeah,
you know, but I'm.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
Just saying, like, after seven years of sex with the
same person, is that like burnt out? Is it burnt out? Yeah,
That's what I'm saying. But like, and that's why I
go back to this. If you want the longevity, it's
like it's the passion you really feel about a person.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
But does that passion die down though too after that
many years? Like, because I get it, Like, are you
over a person after that many years?
Speaker 3 (19:47):
No, you gotta keep finding ways to kind of have fun.
You gotta keep finding ways to be moromandic. You gotta
keep finding new ways of intimacy. You know, you got
to keep surprising them. And you know, it gotta be
different stuff every year. You know, you can't have the
expectations of that to be having it every weekend. But
it's like, all right, this year, I'm gonna go to
this next year. Once you get all you're together so long.
(20:11):
You know what I'm saying, you gotta have like different
approaches now. Yeah, Like I feel like, damn, you know,
I'm gonna start getting in the gym. All right, I'm
gonna start wearing sexy lingerie. All right, I'm gonna start,
you know, walking around the house but naked or something.
I'm gonna just be doing cooking eggs, you know, like
you gotta do something.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
You gotta keep a man on his toes. Though my
sister always taught me that, like her and her has
been married for so many years and he's still be
blowing her line, calling me, where's your sister, like just
thirsty for her. And it's like, I feel like women
specifically get extremely comfortable in relationships and we let ourselves go.
And it's like true, why, like you know, men do
(20:48):
it too, though men do it too, but women do
it a lot. And I think that for women it's visual.
It's a visual thing and men are visual and it
could be like because they had kids, or it could
be like they say happy weight or whatever it is.
But I even have done that before, and I feel
like as a woman, boy.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
Didn't you you showed you showed the let it go.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
She said, I did that before. That was happyweight, gay,
it's comfortable. That was crazy.
Speaker 1 (21:22):
That was not happy way, that was very situation.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
Said, I even did that.
Speaker 1 (21:27):
Okay, that's that what I was talking about.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
But that's extreme. What you did. You got Hella comfortable.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
It wasn't about that. I told you what. I was
so fucking you up every time now.
Speaker 2 (21:40):
Said you said I even did that, I gave I wasn't.
Speaker 1 (21:43):
Talking about that, but yeah, I did do that in
that situation too. Wasn't because it wasn't a happy way.
Speaker 2 (21:49):
You just let go? Boy, did you?
Speaker 1 (21:54):
You are so trifling.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
I'm just saying, so trifle and hold on any more?
Speaker 1 (22:07):
Then I'm sick of it. Anyways, I think that as women,
we do let ourselves go in relationship.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
You gotta call your situation something different.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
I'm not talking about that, Paul.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
All right, all right, what you talking about?
Speaker 1 (22:27):
You know what? I'm done with that portion of the conversation.
Now this is my next question. Because you could not
get over the to eighty.
Speaker 3 (22:35):
I didn't even say nothing. I didn't say nothing. In
the last couple of episodes you brought it up.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
Now you been feeling to say it.
Speaker 2 (22:42):
I haven't.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
Okay, I can't tell every comment. Someone's like Paul wanted
to say to eighty whatever I was to eighty, period,
So whatever.
Speaker 2 (22:52):
Be loud and be proud. WHOA did you sweat? A
lot no.
Speaker 1 (23:02):
Rock with this man. No, I actually did it. You
know what, This is what I will say. I feel
like big people even now, and this is going to
sound really mean, But I was big so I could
say this, like I could look at a big person
be like, is there hygiene right? Like are you getting
under all the items? But I did not me specifically,
(23:23):
I've always had incredible hygiene. I didn't know. I've always
smelled amazing. And I didn't have a whole bunch of
roles I had to lift. I didn't have that type
of body shape. My body was not that type of shape.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
I agree, it's a different type, different levels to that, yeah,
different levels her like that.
Speaker 1 (23:44):
It's different levels of rolls and stuff. And I didn't
have like roles like I always had, Like I had
a big but huge legs, big arms, but I didn't
have like all these things I had to lift up. Okay,
So at the end of the day, my hygiene was
on point.
Speaker 3 (24:00):
At the same time, looking like big Mama, I was
just saying, you didn't you have big Mama. That's not big.
So you listen, ain't no more big Mama's no more.
That's all that's old school. You know your grandma we
call grandma big Mama.
Speaker 2 (24:13):
You had that grandma good by subject board. All right,
what we're talking about, let's get it. Let's get it.
Speaker 1 (24:26):
The next question I have is do you believe that
you can get everything from one person, meaning your partner? Like,
is it realistic to want your partner to fulfill or
check certain boxes for you?
Speaker 2 (24:41):
Say that one more time? Can your partner give you everything? No,
your partner.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
Everything, That's not what I'm asking. Do you think that
it's realistic for your partner for you to expect your
partner to check certain boxes for you?
Speaker 2 (24:54):
Like?
Speaker 1 (24:54):
Can I get everything that I'm looking for romantically from
this one person?
Speaker 2 (24:59):
Well, if I'm a.
Speaker 3 (25:00):
Make a lady, my wife or my girl, she gonna
check a lot of the boxes that I'm looking for,
and you know, everything else is a bonus for me.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
I feel like, you know.
Speaker 1 (25:12):
One of the boxes that you have.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
Uh for me? You know, I feel like mental stimulation
it is important.
Speaker 1 (25:22):
Like the non negotiable boxes that have to be checked.
Speaker 3 (25:27):
I just think I can't talk to no dummy like
dog like just everything is just like like you just
don't get it, Like have you ever talked to a
guy or a girl that just like just dumb, yes,
like they don't even know left from right. And it's like, damn,
because that's what I'm saying, you know, from a first conversation, like.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
She she, she's dumb.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
You know, I'm gonna take it for what it is,
you know, but like mental stimulation, you know, I never
to hold conversations and m hm, you know, it's just
it's just, uh, what you asked me about my boxes,
some of my other boxes. It's just like I gotta
(26:09):
feel like you know, when I'm around you, I'm very
like relaxed. I'm not into like I have to impress you.
I have to like manage your feelings every second. Like
you know what I'm saying. When you around somebody that
you got to manage their feelings. It's just like it's
(26:30):
just like it's not comfortable being around them all the time.
You constantly you can't even just sit there and have
a quiet moment. And just like you know, when you
can sit in the room with somebody and just not
say nothing and then but y'all cool, you're not being
having to entertain every second. And I don't know what
kind of box or what do you put on that
box to check it. But that's just something. I mean obviously,
(26:52):
you know, I gotta be attracted to you. I mean
that's that's I feel like that's basic. And then uh,
after that, I just you gonna tell me what type
of person you are really, you know, I understand, like
if you're a good person, good hearted, you know you're
gonna really be able to feel that from somebody you
(27:12):
not all like.
Speaker 2 (27:15):
How should I say? It's just I don't like bougie.
I don't like.
Speaker 3 (27:22):
Materialistic, I don't like I don't like the world we
live in today where everything is just kind of like
smoking mirrors, like your Instagram, I don't I don't like
your like for me, you can't be on Instagram every
day taking flicks, showing every day, just every day, just constant.
And that's that's like for me. I'm good. Yeah, you know,
(27:45):
I'm gonna treat you at an arms distance. But like
for me to like be with somebody, you know, it's
it's it can't seem artificial. I need authenticity, and that's
what I'm looking for. Somebody like authentic down the earth,
you know, not caught up in the really things, because
the worldly things come and go somebody I feel comfortable,
(28:08):
like just trusting, like it's hard to trust me, you
know what I'm saying. It's just hard to trust, like damn,
and that can take years, it can take months, I
don't know, but like you know it, you know it.
It's just hard to come by.
Speaker 1 (28:25):
Yeah, it takes a minute. I feel like those are good.
I think for me, some things that are like non
negotiateboard things that I care about in a relationship or
what I look for is I agree with the mental simulation.
I feel like if I can't connect with you on
a mental level, then that's not gonna work for me.
I think that comes first before everything. Obviously, attraction is
(28:48):
first because you have to have that initial attraction, but
mental is huge for me. Someone who is God fearing
because God is in the center of my life, so
I have to be with some one who also believes
in God. I love someone who's family oriented, like I'm
very into like families and kicking in and barbecues and
(29:10):
chilling like that's my thing. And I feel like I
want someone that also loves that because it's like that's
how we connect. And then you know, I feel like
someone who's Genny Winen has a pure heart that's really
big for me. And I don't like someone who's just
I don't know. There's like I don't like selfish people
(29:31):
or mean people who are mean to like servers and
waiters and staff and help people like once I see that,
I'm cool, Like I can't fuck with that.
Speaker 3 (29:40):
Yeah, that stuff all sound good, but then when it
comes down to it, y'all be like, if he ain't
a certain height making this much money, if he ain't
doing this, that's what it really going down too. But
females or do women to say women?
Speaker 1 (29:55):
Which one?
Speaker 2 (29:56):
Because it's more like, and I said time and time again,
is what for? Is what for?
Speaker 3 (30:05):
I feel like for women, it's what you can do
for them more.
Speaker 2 (30:10):
So than a man.
Speaker 3 (30:12):
Like I've said this and it's been said millions of times,
like when a man loves a woman, he genuinely loves
that woman for the most part. If he's out with you,
holding your hand, taking you some places, he really really
like you. Some women just like the situation and will
deal with the situation because a man is successful. Because
(30:35):
a man can do all these things, he could be busted,
he could be you know what I'm saying but they like, oh,
you know, he can do this for me, girl, And
that's a that's a that's a flex for a girl
in front of their friends, and that's what girls look for.
And it's just like those type of things don't last long.
So like that's why I'd be saying cats with money
and good looking in and you know, feel like they
(30:59):
can get them a nice looking limb. But women, but
they gonna be a lot of us on how the
high maintenance come with them, A lot of them because
they've been treated and because of the social media era
we're in too, because most of those nine tens that
we consider visually, they get quarterby you think you own them,
they get in quarter by millions every day. Every day
(31:20):
they look at like like like they're looking at millions
of comments all this. They getting validated every day. So
the one day you don't show up, somebody is. And
so that's why I'd be like, man.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
Well listen that we live in a transactional relationship era,
and I think that's really how we're living. So I
can agree with one hundred percent of what you said.
And I can also say that it takes a two
to tango baby, because them women only can think and
move like that because men enable that behavior. And there
are men that are okay with paying for a woman
(31:53):
on their arm. There are men that are okay with
doing that. And that's why women are able to live
a certain lifestyle and they expect certain things because they
are actually getting that. They are actually being with men
who are okay with buying their love. There is a
lot of men that are like, look, I'm cool with that.
I made money so I can be with this type
of woman who has the surgeries and looks a certain way,
(32:15):
and be on Instagram models and this, and that. I
came to this level so I can buy a woman.
If she don't really love me, that's cool. We're using
each other. I'm using her to have me on my arm,
and she using me. We are in a transactional relationship era.
People are transactional with each other. Nothing is genuine and
real because everything is about what we can do for
(32:36):
each other. A man feels like if I come around
here with this broad who all these men want, and
she looks a certain way, I'm cracking. And she feels
like I come with this man. He could look however
he looked, but he got money he's taking care of me.
I could care less for the man. But at the
same time, we again, we use in each other, period
point blank, so we cannot do one without the other.
(32:59):
The women and are posting them pictures because baby, they
are prey, and y'all are catching the bait every time.
That's just the fact of the matter. So I agree
with you one hundred percent, but I agree that it
goes both ways. Men are doing the same shit and
they're acquiring the money so they can get those women,
and they're okay with that, and they're okay with not
(33:20):
having real relationships.
Speaker 3 (33:21):
So in saying that, you made a great point about that,
which is very true. So me speaking to the men
moving forward, it's gonna cost us more in the long run,
you know what I'm saying, whether it be with a
kid or a marriage, that is a divorce. So men,
(33:41):
if you're out here, especially you successful men, and you're
dating these pretty girls, use it for what it is
and keep it there. Don't take it no further. If
it's a transactional, keep it that. Don't get regnant, right,
don't get married, and then once the fleeing wear off,
(34:05):
move on because it's gonna cost you a lot more
in the long run, trying to floss, trying to maintain
it when it really ain't what you thought it was.
So get in and get out. That's all I'm gonna say.
That's the advice I'm giving. Get in and get out.
But you gotta know when it's time to move, you
(34:26):
know what I'm saying. We seeing these cats get into
these situations and it causes for a lifetime of pain
and hell from these girls. And so you know, if
that's gonna be my one advice to the guys, that's
you know, doing it big and and out here popping. Listen,
exposure y'all on TV. She look good on the red carpet. Yeah,
(34:51):
don't take it no further than that. Kids, marriage, it
ain't gonna end like you want to end like you
wanted to.
Speaker 2 (35:00):
Remember that.
Speaker 3 (35:00):
It's too many examples of this out there. So I
got one thing to say, Hey, you got to know
how to You know, this is not these are theseus leases,
These is not on this is not this is not
to own.
Speaker 1 (35:12):
And if you're confused about who is into transactional relationships,
stop leading with your wallet and start leading with your heart,
and you'll quickly remove all the people that are not
really genuine about you.
Speaker 3 (35:22):
But the thing is how how how are we leading?
But how do you leave with your heart?
Speaker 2 (35:27):
When you pull up in the bent lead and I'm
looking fly, I got my chain on, I'm not that's just.
Speaker 1 (35:33):
That's me, Like, I'm not talking about you.
Speaker 2 (35:36):
Oh no, I'm not talking about me either.
Speaker 3 (35:38):
I'm talking about the guy that's doing that, that's not
leading with his money. He's just like, man, I'm successful.
I'm balling out here. I ain't over here walking up
to her, be like, hey, let me take you shopping.
This is what I'm talking about.
Speaker 2 (35:49):
I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (35:50):
He already walking in looking a certain way. They're like, oh,
that's woof the woop. They coming at him.
Speaker 1 (35:56):
Right, But listen to what I'm saying. What I'm saying though,
when they come at you, how you interact and proceed
with them is up to you. If you want to say, okay, baby,
come here, let me take you shopping. Oh you need
this for.
Speaker 2 (36:09):
Your hair, your nails cast on? Need to say, they
could come on, let's go, right.
Speaker 1 (36:14):
So that's my point. So if you're not giving the
girl any money, then it's not a transactional relationship. You're
not doing nothing for her, right, so she might really
be fucking with you for you. That's my point. If
you're not doing anything for the girl financially and she's
still rocking with you, that she might really like you, period,
point blank. Yeah. Your look, your vibe, your attraction, your
success may have got her. But what I'm saying is
(36:36):
once you get her and she's around you and she's
begging you and you're giving her money every day, that's
how you decipher if she's really rocking with you. That's
all I'm saying. People meet somebody in one day and
now they're doing this and doing that and doing that,
and then they're leading with their wallet. Oh baby, you
want me to do this for you. I don't even
know you. I'm known you for two days, and you
already pay their their body sex. So that I'm not
(37:01):
leaving nobody out of the equation. Like I said, men
leave with their wallet a lot. I know a lot
of men that even will appropate, Oh let me do
this for you, Let me do that before I even
met you. And a lot of women lead with sex.
They're gonna be half naked on the internet. That's the
that's the bait. Okay, they're the prey. The men are
catching the bait.
Speaker 2 (37:21):
Man. That's just what it is.
Speaker 3 (37:24):
Side Piece money is up. I was just thinking about that,
like side piece money because like you like with the
inner like see like if early you know, eighties, nineties
whatever you was coming up like my error, like gods
could have another girl, it'd be tougher to find out.
(37:45):
Now you gotta pay so much to keep them quiet
because of the text and the d M your your
girl or I'll DM your wife. Run that like that's okay.
Here now that money because you gotta be like, hey,
(38:05):
I got this flake blackmail going on.
Speaker 1 (38:07):
No. Women have been saying on the Internet and stuff
that they enjoy being side pieces. They don't have to
deal with the drama, be married to a man, deal
with a man every day, be around the man, do
any of those things. They just are the side piece.
They get all the trips. They say that the side
pieces get the trips, the bags, the ship, the money,
and they don't have to do nothing except come through,
(38:29):
have sex with you, let you complain about your wife,
and keep it pushing. That's what the people are saying.
Speaker 2 (38:33):
You got to do something don't say you go to do.
Speaker 1 (38:35):
You're having sex. You're sex. It's a sexual thing for
a side pieces. No, it's sex. I'm saying that's.
Speaker 2 (38:44):
What you said.
Speaker 1 (38:45):
No, I never had.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
How do you know?
Speaker 1 (38:48):
Because I know people who've been side pieces. I'm not.
I'm not living under So what else does the side
pieces doing?
Speaker 2 (38:56):
You tell me it's a lot?
Speaker 1 (38:58):
What is it.
Speaker 2 (39:03):
We're gonna talk about this?
Speaker 1 (39:07):
Tell us, well, if you're a side piece, let us go.
Speaker 2 (39:12):
I don't know. I gotta, I gotta, I gotta ask
ask your friend.
Speaker 1 (39:18):
I told you about the other thing. But yeah, I
just feel like at the end of the day, and
this is another thing though. What I want to say
is that anybody, we live in an era too where
anyone can be pretty. People don't even look how they
look anymore. All the women look exactly the like. You
can get surgeries, you can get the same body. It's
copy and paste, copy and paste, copy and paste. Stop
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taking real ones for granted looks, Come and go. Anyone
can look pretty. You probably have a baby with a motherfucker,
and that baby looks so different. Go look at the
people's baby pictures, Go look at their child hood photos.
Because a lot of these women don't even look how
they look, and they're bad. They're beautiful, but they are manufactured.
And that's just the world we live in right now.
(40:01):
So the pretty can listen, I could buy pretty. I'm
not the prettiest girl in the world. I know that
if I wanted to be, though, I bet you I could.
I bet you I can make a few tweaks and
I could be the baddest bitch in America. But guess what,
at the end of the day, looks can only get
you so far in life. You gotta really, really, really
tap in with people who fuck with you. You gotta stop
taking real ones for granted, because God is not making
(40:23):
those like.
Speaker 2 (40:23):
That no more.
Speaker 3 (40:24):
I come from the era of shake what your mama
gave you, right, this is.
Speaker 2 (40:30):
The error of shake what the doctor gave you. The game.
Speaker 1 (40:43):
I get it, I get it. Listen. We live in
a world where the women are like, I get this
body done, I acquire this. I can get a man
that can pay for my lifestyle. All I gotta do
is pay for these surgeries real quick, and now I
can get a man that's going to pay for my lifestyle. Now,
some of you bitches that are still working little jobs
and stuff at McDonald's with bbl's. You you're not doing
it right, baby, But at the end of the day,
(41:03):
what I will say is, you know what I mean,
you're just not But what I will say is that's
what the that's the game. Right now, I could do
da And like I said, I'm baked for it. Man.
Now I got the body. The ass is done, the asses,
the faces, perfect, lips is plumped, the boobs is sitting
right like. It just is what it is. That's how
(41:25):
it is. And honestly, kudos to the women who do that.
Speaker 2 (41:28):
You know what I mean, I don't just really feeling
like I ain't feeling I'm not feeling these lift the
cover half your face.
Speaker 1 (41:39):
And the duck lips.
Speaker 2 (41:43):
I mean I'm talking about they go crazy, though.
Speaker 1 (41:45):
They go crazy. They see how they look. I'm like,
do y'all not see yourself? Then?
Speaker 2 (41:50):
I don't like the super long eyelashes.
Speaker 3 (41:52):
It look like if you blink fast enough you'll start
flying away away Like damn, I'm trying to think, do
these girls look in the mirror before they walk out
the house, like, because sometimes that look ridiculous And I'm like, damn,
at what part is that like some girls be having
so much of the eyelashes on they could barely see.
Speaker 2 (42:10):
They be looking looking like or like.
Speaker 1 (42:14):
This long like do y'all wipe y'all ass because this
is crazy, Like I don't even know what's going on.
I'll be seeing this long now smoking a roach like girls,
get the fun off and get some like class about yourself.
I feel like we just these I just can't. We
live in a in an era now where people just
looking but I can't.
Speaker 3 (42:34):
It ain't even like it. I can't even say it's
a mess and you like what you like and like,
you know, it ain't even a mess to me. It's
just that there's a reason that girls do this, you know.
I ain't not like it, but there's a market for it. Yeah,
so it may not be in my market, you know.
So I'm not mad at those girls who had a
list that look like this or the or the eyelashes.
Speaker 2 (42:57):
That's that's you. You. You are putting yourself together to
be great for your market.
Speaker 3 (43:05):
I don't know what men of men, but no, there's
a market to men that's liking that you stay in there.
Speaker 1 (43:11):
There was a marketing man. Yeah, it was a market, baby,
there's a market for everything.
Speaker 3 (43:16):
Yeah, I can't get mad at that just because you're
not in my market, you know, I can't.
Speaker 1 (43:22):
Get exactly I get that. But I do want people
to stop having like surgery blindness because they go so
hard and get into these surgeries and then it's like,
whooh girl, you look crazy or whatever. I've seen that
so many times and it's like, again, there's so many
people who are beautiful that are like getting caught up
in the hype and messing with their body and their
(43:43):
face when it's like you already look amazing. But like
I said, kudos to the people who want to do that.
I'm not judging you, and I'm not mad at it, right.
Speaker 2 (43:51):
Right, So what we got what we got? Man. Man,
We went in on that, we were on that, but.
Speaker 1 (43:58):
Yeah, anyways, so we kind of got away from what
we were talking about. Yeah, I know, and we always do.
But that's okay anyway. So I would say, if there
are certain things in a relationship where you feel like
this is not working, like.
Speaker 2 (44:15):
What's the question.
Speaker 1 (44:20):
The question is can someone in a relationship give you
all of the things that you're looking for? And if
they don't, should you be moving on?
Speaker 2 (44:30):
Well, how did we get into the relationship. I'm gonna
learn all that.
Speaker 1 (44:34):
Prior to the relationship. But what if there is things
that you felt as if it takes time, you know
what I mean, Like, you don't get to see all
of that in the dating phase.
Speaker 3 (44:44):
Man, let me tell you something, in a dating phase,
you're gonna learn everything about your woman when y'all make
that commitment.
Speaker 2 (44:50):
Ain't nothing changing.
Speaker 3 (44:51):
So don't think you're gonna change them and do all
this other stuff to make them do something that they
used to doing.
Speaker 2 (44:58):
They gonna do less of it, that's all they gonna do.
Speaker 3 (45:00):
The older, the longer y'all together, and the more y'all
spend time together, And if y'all get married, it's gonna
be less of it whatever you was getting at the beginning.
Speaker 2 (45:09):
So if you ready for that and you realize that you.
Speaker 3 (45:15):
Can't change somebody into molding into what you want, and
you content with that, then all right, you ready. But
if you're not, there's no need to no need to
get into the relationship.
Speaker 1 (45:27):
Okay, straight up, Well, we're gonna answer some questions from
the fans.
Speaker 2 (45:34):
Let's talk talk to one I've been doing lately, fans.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
Man, So here's one. When is intentionally This is kind
of what we talked about. Actually, when is in intentionality
towards growth, meaning being uncomfortable prioritize over stagnation to keep
the peace. That's kind of basically what we talked about, Like,
(45:58):
when do you be intentional about saying like I want
to have this conversation because I want us to grow
versus you know what, I'm not even gonna talk because
I'm just gonna keep the peace.
Speaker 2 (46:11):
I mean, I think it's like, man, it's a fine line.
Speaker 1 (46:14):
Man, like we we put I e. When do you
address the root cause versus just pacifying?
Speaker 3 (46:22):
It's gotta come from the female because y'all are more
willing to have the tough conversations than the man, because we.
Speaker 2 (46:32):
Are gonna lie to save y'all feelings.
Speaker 3 (46:36):
Where if you address it, we'll address it, you know,
depending on what, like cause you'll find out and be
like why are you to say that?
Speaker 2 (46:43):
Well, I just you know, and it could.
Speaker 3 (46:45):
Be the littlest thing, you know what I'm saying, like that,
I'm going to the grocery store. Well, wey, I went
over here, smoked some weed with the homies real quick,
came back it's like, why you didn't tell me? I
was like, man, I didn't want to argue with you
because I know you don't like me smoking weed, like
you know what I'm saying, Like stuff like that can
turn to an art argument, and you know, we just
rather lie than just getting to argue over something little though,
(47:08):
And I understand if it's a bigger situation.
Speaker 1 (47:10):
Do you know how those little things start to they
start to breed it, like the distrust in the relationship
to where let's say you were like, I'm just going
over here this movie not only lie because of this,
but I found out you were lying, and then I
find out you were lying again, and it's like, well, damn,
is this a liar? And are you?
Speaker 3 (47:28):
But I was thinking of it. I was thinking of
the short term satisfaction. I was thinking of the like
if I tell her that this is what I'm gonna do,
then we're gonna argue right here, whereas.
Speaker 2 (47:37):
I could just go do it, come back and then argue.
Speaker 1 (47:42):
Don't ask for permission, ask for forgiveness.
Speaker 2 (47:45):
And then ask for forgiveness.
Speaker 1 (47:47):
That's that's the advice you want to give these people advice.
That's the advice you want to give them is to
just ask for forgiveness.
Speaker 2 (47:54):
Man, Listen, Jody said it best. We lie because we love.
Speaker 1 (47:57):
You, Lord.
Speaker 2 (47:59):
Telling the truth truth like you, I'll tell you the truth.
Speaker 1 (48:08):
Is the sickest.
Speaker 2 (48:10):
I'm just saying, Jody said it.
Speaker 1 (48:11):
Best, all right, moving on, I feel like, man, I'm
gonna say from a woman's perspective, I know it's really
hard as a man to just tell the truth to
a woman because we were very reactive and we could
be like, damn, I don't even want to what it is.
But I think that if you're dealing with someone where
you know she can handle it, or maybe she's like
level headed enough to understand where you're coming from and
(48:33):
she's your friend to you can holler at someone for
real and be like, look, this is what it is,
like let's let's talk it out, period. Because those little things,
it just starts to build up after time. I'd rather
address it at the root cause and keep it pushing.
There's so many things I didn't communicate about in relationships
that ended up being way bigger than it needed to be.
Speaker 2 (48:55):
When it could have been a quick nip in the
butt situation too. I'm just talking about the little.
Speaker 1 (48:59):
Bit, but I'm just saying it.
Speaker 2 (49:01):
Bigger situations you got to you gotta hit head on.
Speaker 1 (49:04):
But little things can build up throughout time. Every little
decision you make makes a huge big one. They add up,
so it's like, why not just nip it in this
little ship. If we just nip that in the bud,
we could be straight. Okay, this is another one. What
are some good ideas for first dates? If you're middle
class and you don't want to spend a lot of money?
Speaker 2 (49:26):
Well, who's middle class? The girl or the guy?
Speaker 1 (49:28):
The guy?
Speaker 3 (49:31):
What are some good ideas for our first date? And
you want to be cheap?
Speaker 1 (49:36):
Yeah, if you're middle class, you don't have a lot
of money to spend. So it's not like you're gonna
take the girl out to wherever.
Speaker 3 (49:43):
Man I would say, like something like a carnival or something.
Speaker 1 (49:50):
Car expect.
Speaker 3 (49:53):
But you can walk around, get some ice cream or
some you could go over there, play some games, you know,
win a little Teddy Bear or something like that. Because
looking and I'm just looking like, man, I'm just really
trying to get to know you. I'm just want to
talk to you really, you know, I didn't want to
like just kind of like over impress you on around
the first day, because I know you get that all
(50:14):
the time.
Speaker 2 (50:14):
Man.
Speaker 3 (50:14):
It was really about walking around holding your hand, you know,
being a kid again today When the last time you've
been to a fair without kids, Think about that, when
the last time you've been to affair. So I was like,
I just wanted to just take it back and you know,
do something a little different, you know. So, I mean,
I think that'd be cool that ain't affair, ain't really
(50:35):
expensive or something like, you know, maybe go to the beach,
get you a blanket, get your little radio, sit on
the sand and chop it up.
Speaker 1 (50:46):
I was singing, like a cute picnic, you know, like
to add a nice park over the beach, walk on
the beach type of vibes. Do it activity Like Black.
Speaker 2 (50:55):
People don't really do picnics.
Speaker 3 (50:59):
That one on one, Like, hey, let's go with a
basket and a cover and just sit on it on
the park.
Speaker 2 (51:04):
Yeah, that's so cartoonish.
Speaker 3 (51:09):
You gonna go to the beach watch the sun said,
we could do something like that.
Speaker 2 (51:13):
That'll be dope.
Speaker 1 (51:13):
Some people like the park. It depends on who you're
talking to. Because I love being connected with nature and
grounded and there's a lot of beautiful parks, and like
I've been to a gorgeous park, and like it was
something I never thought I wanted to do with. Someone
introduced me to that and I was on a day
and it was really a wonderful time. Like I had
such a good time and it just it connected me
with my inner child again. It made me feel like,
(51:33):
oh my god, like I feel really ground.
Speaker 2 (51:36):
You gotta make sure it's a five or six, then
nine and ten ain't going for that. This is real.
Speaker 3 (51:43):
Taking her to the fair. They ain't going for that.
Get you a nice five or six, take her to
the fair, take her to the beach.
Speaker 2 (51:48):
You're good. So chili cheese dog, she's good. Chili cheese
glizzy good, some fries good.
Speaker 1 (52:07):
But yeah, I definitely liked the picnic when I went,
so yeah, I had a good time. And then also too.
Speaker 3 (52:16):
Like a guy can't take you off from some chili
cheese glizzy, like my first date, not.
Speaker 2 (52:21):
Eating a g he can't take you.
Speaker 1 (52:24):
I don't eat like that's crazy chili cheese.
Speaker 2 (52:29):
That was chili cheese.
Speaker 1 (52:30):
I'm not eating that, Like that's why I don't eat
that by myself eating that, the chili cheese crazy on it.
Speaker 2 (52:38):
I'm gonna try that.
Speaker 1 (52:40):
You should let me know how it goes. I think
that another thing is damn an art museum, like go
to a gallery, a museum, one of these like pop ups,
balloon like I did that before too, like the balloon
Kim or he took you, he took me to the
I ain't doing all that all right, I don't understand
(53:03):
or like, I mean, I'm just I'm just ar I mean,
that's that's not me.
Speaker 3 (53:10):
The art, I mean, art is cool, I guess, but
I ain't walking through no museum or art. That's kind
of boring. It ain't nothing romantic about it because I
can't even explain. We're gonna have him explain, and then
we're walking.
Speaker 1 (53:22):
Around like it depends on who you're with, because there's
a lot of women who like art. There's something that don't.
It depends on who you're with. Understand that your person,
you know.
Speaker 3 (53:30):
I mean, that's the uppity girls though that ain't gonna
be no five sixes. They ain't gonna be therebody, what's
this that's not true? I'm gonna take them. I would
have took them to the Tupac Museum, the Tupac Museum.
Speaker 1 (53:41):
Yeah nothing, I did go to that.
Speaker 2 (53:44):
Yeah, that would have been popping.
Speaker 1 (53:46):
Nothing about art has to do with your looks, it.
Speaker 2 (53:51):
Does at all.
Speaker 1 (53:52):
No, it doesn't like that sounds.
Speaker 3 (53:54):
It has to do with where you come from culturally
or where what you've experienced with your looks. Well it
has it does have nothing that you looks, but it's
where you come from kind of culturally and what you've
kind of been through and what you've seen. And like
most people who all hang out with they we ain't
going to no art museum.
Speaker 1 (54:12):
Well I like the art museum. So it depends on
what girl you're talking to, what I grew up around,
and what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (54:18):
Okay, we go, we go, watch, we go downtown. Watch
this building that spray painted up, Look at that street art.
Speaker 2 (54:24):
I'll do that.
Speaker 1 (54:25):
Yeah, there's different type of art street artists. Cool, there's
a beautiful different.
Speaker 3 (54:32):
Like they got this alley in Australia with street art
that it's like a tourist destination that's dope.
Speaker 1 (54:37):
To Yeah, there's a lot of dope art artists and
like funky stuff and like different museums and different things
that women do love and it opens their eyes culturally,
even if they don't know that anyways.
Speaker 2 (54:49):
Moving on, Moving on.
Speaker 1 (54:50):
Next question, last question, When is the right time to
ask a person to be with you?
Speaker 3 (54:55):
Only, oh man, at the end of Love Island, when
you're trying to make that hundred thousands after two weeks. Nah,
now damn, when it is the right I don't know
if there is a right moment, Like you can date
for like years and still not asked. I think it's
got to be a feeling. I mean you could kind
(55:18):
of like sometimes you can date and get stuck into
the day and mode and it's not even dating. It's
just casual, like you know, maybe they too y'all too
busy or something, or I don't know if there's really
a right time, Like there's no time frame on it,
you know, it just I can live.
Speaker 2 (55:36):
Think about this.
Speaker 3 (55:37):
If I live in one state and you live in
another state and we see each other once a month,
like I'm not sure if that's enough to be like, hey,
you should be my girl, because I think at that
point it's like we gotta live together for you to
be my girl, because I don't really know you like that.
We just kind of hang out, and we like hanging
out with each other, like it's just like I kind
(55:58):
of got to move you in at some point or
were just gonna kind of stay stuck in that zone
right there until you know. So, I don't know what
the timeframe really is on that unless y'all live in
the same city and y'all out every day or every
other day every weekend.
Speaker 2 (56:14):
It depends on the time y'all spend together.
Speaker 1 (56:17):
Yeah, yeah, I guess it depends. But I guess you
just do it when the time feels natural and feels
right for you. And if the person is into you
and it's it's flowing, then there'shouldn't be an issue there. Yeah,
that's all I can say. Well, I appreciate you guys
for tuning into another episode. Make sure you guys are
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Speaker 2 (56:46):
First important I go off what they do, he asked.
Speaker 1 (56:49):
His friend, and he's gonna give us the tea and.
Speaker 3 (56:51):
We'll let you know how Bizarre likes her glizzies what
with chili and cheese onions with the musk.
Speaker 1 (57:00):
What are you talking about?
Speaker 2 (57:02):
How you.
Speaker 1 (57:04):
Why do you keep talking about.
Speaker 2 (57:05):
Me eating gzzies Because that's the first day that the fair.
You got to have a glizzy.
Speaker 1 (57:09):
I'm not going to eat a glzzy on the fair.
Speaker 2 (57:14):
All right, there you go. Don't take her to the
fair on the first date.
Speaker 1 (57:18):
Like, stop trying to put that glazzy on me. I
don't like that. That's weird, like disrespectful this boy like what?
All right, good night, Thank you guys for tuning in.
Speaker 2 (57:32):
Thank you. Peace is taking over the game, all right, everybody,
(58:01):
welcome to Truth after Dark.
Speaker 1 (58:04):
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