June 30, 2025 • 53 mins
Azar and Paul are back together again for a special episode! Paul explains why he thinks women are cooked after turning 30, Azar talks about catching her man cheating and they discuss one night stands! Pour up a drink and tune in to The Truth After Dark!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is your boy, Paul Anthony, the truth hears, and
I got something to say. I'm just tired of these
females who cooked after thirty. I'm gonna say it like
that cooked.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Okay, So you're personally attacking me, so I would like
to know I'm attacking you because I'm after thirty.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
So I'm cooked.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Yeah, I know I'm a hot commodity. Fight me if
you want to, because you don't know that I'm single.
I'm actually not available, Thank you very much.
Speaker 4 (00:36):
This is racing. Have had a one nice.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
Stand, I know, I tried. I was like, you should
go on with you have.
Speaker 4 (00:42):
Sex, and he was that aggressive. Yeah I'm good. No
no no no no no no no no.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
But it wasn't a coming from but it wasn't coming
from an aggressive.
Speaker 4 (00:52):
Stance to aggressive.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Okay, let me let me let me say my thing.
Do you feel like all men cheat?
Speaker 4 (01:00):
I'm like, I feel like, what's.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Give me off of the podcast? I've done. I've wrapped.
I had to wrap up this.
Speaker 4 (01:14):
Jesus getting crazy friends.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Yeah, we're friends, of course, we're friends with you, We're friends.
Were locked in.
Speaker 4 (01:44):
Your sister taken over the game.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
All right, everybody Welcome to Truth after Dark.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Do you think that men or women and are more toxic?
Speaker 2 (02:06):
Hello, everybody, welcome to another episode of the Truth after Dark.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
I am your host, zar Faara Day.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
This is your boy, Paul Anthony, the Truth Hears, and
I got something to say.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
What do you have to say, sir?
Speaker 1 (02:24):
I'm just tired of these females who cooked after thirty.
I'm gonna say it like that cooked.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Okay, So you're personally attacking me, so I would like
to know I'm attacking you because I'm after thirty.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
So I'm cooked?
Speaker 4 (02:40):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, crime.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Listen, dog, guys is over here, like your prime is
twenty five to thirty.
Speaker 4 (02:55):
Let's keep it a hundred.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
But let me say this. I hear exactly what you're saying.
I've heard it before. People have said it women age
like milkman and age like fine wine. I've heard it
a thousand times. Right for me, personally, I'm gonna say
this me. Maybe I am cooked, but you know what
I'm cooked, and it tastes delicious because I was not
giving what it needed to get when I was in
my twenties. I didn't know my body. I didn't know
(03:19):
what I wanted I didn't know what I liked. I
didn't know how to fuck, I didn't know how to suck.
I didn't know how to throw it back. Now I
could do all of those things plus more. I understand
who I am as a woman. My emotional maturity is here.
And at the end of the day, I know that
it feels like there's women who are jaded because they've
been with so many men.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Now they're cooked.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
I understand that perspective, but personally, for me, I feel
so into my bag as a thirty year old because.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
And then after thirty four thirty five, man, think about
this when I keep when I cook some food, all right,
it's cooked right now, I ate some, then it's leftovers.
Then I put in refrigerator. After so many days, you
got to throw it out. You know what I'm saying, Like,
(04:06):
how long do Thanksgiving food last? After Thanksgiving? How many
days were giving it?
Speaker 4 (04:11):
Three?
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Then you throw it out? So that means if you
cooked at thirty thirty five, we gotta throw it out.
But listen, I will say this. This is for the
man who's looking for in a relationship. This is for
a man who's looking for kids. You know what I'm
saying like I like cooked food, personally, I'm not. I
(04:39):
don't got time to season nothing like give it to
me already prepared.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
That's wrong, Matt.
Speaker 5 (04:45):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
I just feel like I'm good with cooked food.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
I feel like you know what, don't.
Speaker 4 (04:53):
Feel that way. Hey, listen, no, you you got to market.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
No, this is I'm gonna keep it so real with
you right now when I say this, I have no
lack of people who want me like. It's not given that.
So I don't feel it's not just it's not just sexually.
I don't care what no one says. It's not just yes,
people love me, adore me.
Speaker 4 (05:16):
My energy. Everybody want to be with a girl when
they see him.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
You can have that argument you want. I know I'm
a hot commodity. Fight me if you want to, because
you don't know that I'm single. I'm actually not available,
thank you very much.
Speaker 4 (05:35):
Because season one, season one you was you was acting funny.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
I might have been actually funny, but yeah, I'm not available.
And guess what I have at the end of the day.
Me personally, I don't feel like I've never operated from
a place of desperation.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
That's never been my story. That's never in my life.
Speaker 5 (05:55):
Yeah, I think you cooked.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
I'm cooked, and I will say I am. I'm like
more tired. I'm chill with you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (06:23):
But I'm a cool type of bride. I'm cool. Like
someone to be with me, they're lucky. I'm a vibe.
I'm cool, I'm chill.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
I know myself, I know what's up, I know what
I bring, I know how to I know how to
add value. I've never lacked any of those qualities or traits.
And that's why for me, it's like, no, I know
someone is lucky to be with me.
Speaker 4 (06:46):
Yeah WHOA.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
So anyways, because we're not doing all this, So this
is what I want to talk about. Father's Day has
recently passed, right, and I saw so many men online,
including lou you know, Williams, a few other people. They
posted like let's just cancel Father's Day and they're like,
we're dubved on Father's Day, Like you know what I'm saying,
(07:10):
And I just want to understand what is the thing
man feels so unappreciated.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
On this Father's Day situation.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
And I've been seeing so many men say that about
Father's Day.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
Okay, so what's what's what's your thoughts on that?
Speaker 4 (07:25):
Oh? Man, I just think like Father's Day ain't really
looked at. So you do.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
If you go on Google and you rank, like, where's
Father's Day rank amongst like, uh, just things we celebrate,
it's like twentieth on the list something like that, right,
and Mother's Day is ranked second behind Christmas Lord. So
it's just like, you know, you get your little hey
woll woo whoop, and you know, as men, we don't
(07:51):
really care at this point in our lives. We don't
even really like we accept it for what it is.
And you know, we we love of the fact that
we get acknowledged for that really quick second, and after
that it's just like, oh, it ain't really a big
deal like Mother's Day and Chris, you know what I'm saying,
It's really not a big deal because as men, we
(08:16):
are expected to just like, oh.
Speaker 4 (08:20):
You know, we're not looking for nothing. We've been so
like conditioned to not look for anything on that, so
anything is.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
A plus.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Because it's been like that as men, because we expected
to take the bullets, we expected to take the heat.
We expect it to be just like tough and like
we don't like like we we we we really just
a second thought. We expected to be just looked over.
Speaker 4 (08:57):
It is.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
But it's like like fathers, Like I didn't even know
Father's Day was coming up.
Speaker 4 (09:02):
I was like, oh, damn his Father's Day.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
And you know, like my dad, for instance, he barbecued
on Father's Day and I'm like damn, Like he's like,
I'm going to get the meet he's at cost my
dad seventy.
Speaker 4 (09:14):
I agree, I planned all the activities, but on Mother's Day,
it felt like they have to.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
Like you take them to dinner, you give him flowers,
you plan something for him and all that. Because I've
done that on Mother's Day. But nothing's ever planned. Stuff
is planning for the woman. Nothing hardly ever planned for
the exact man. It is still expected to do the
same things that he always doing, even.
Speaker 4 (09:39):
On his day.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Yeah, I felt that, Like when I my dad was
like I'm gonna barbecue, I'm like, damn, Dad.
Speaker 4 (09:44):
I was like somebody should be taking because like who's
going to barbecue? Like who's going to barbecue for him?
Because this is what he do exactly, Like can we
get you like damn.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
No, And I told him I would take him to
lunch and do this and he was like, no, I'll
just barbecue.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
And I'm like, well this I'm trying.
Speaker 4 (10:01):
So this is what we feel like who.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
Is really gonna try and put thought into it for
the man like because we really be a lot of
times putting thought into like something, because like it's easy
to buy something and for you to say, I'll take
you to lunch, but like what about make him breakfast,
Like that's something different, that means something more, make him
(10:31):
dinner or that means something different because it's easy, like
us as men and when you love a female, this
is what you know with love is about when you.
Speaker 4 (10:41):
Really put thought into something.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
Well, it's easy for me to buy you something, right,
but when I put some thought into something about who
you are and what you really like and I take
the time to make it into something. So for instance,
for example, like damn, I know she like to be
(11:07):
touched on her neck and rub the massage and she
liked these sens. She likes candles, and I really put time.
When you put time into something, it means more.
Speaker 4 (11:19):
Think about that because like I can buy you that,
don't take no time.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
I can you a birthday coming up? Well, mo, Mo,
I just bought her something last minute, but like when you.
Speaker 4 (11:30):
Really put the time in, you plan something.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
And you like, all right, I got this treasure hunt
I wrote, I wrote this car. I wrote a letter
that's been like old school values have really been thrown
out the window to where it make it look like love.
You have to buy love absolutely, you know what I'm saying.
Where it's like old school values is still dope to
(11:54):
me writing a letter Like how would you feel if
for your birthday I wrote you a letter her? You
are frown upon that this society like and I expressed
my heart and I expressed my feelings in it, like
you know, cause I ain't think about this like when
the last time somebody actually wrote a letter, we text,
(12:14):
but like he really sat down and wrote his feelings
boom bom boom, and he gave it to you, like
you know what, I want to give you this for
your brain. Girls a look and be like what is this?
I wanted this shit nail bag. I wanted some ear rings.
This is what you get me? Motherfucker might throw that
away and burn it first. I feel like like because.
Speaker 4 (12:33):
If somebody did that for me, I'll be like, damn
that like for a man, like because we don't expect
nothing anyway, so it don't matter for us. We don't
expect the girl to buy us nothing.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
We don't expect, but like the best gifts is something
I feel like, don't cost nothing, Like damn, she really thought,
Like you know, she was like, babe, you know, look,
I'm gonna make you some food. I'm gonna run your bath,
put some roses in it, like these candles rub you down. Man, Like, ooh,
(13:07):
that was lit. You know what I'm saying, Like that's
lit for a dude.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
It depends.
Speaker 4 (13:13):
That's lit for.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
I feel like it depends because I feel like it
depends on your values as a person, because there's men
like you may have money, you may be jaded on money,
but it's man that be like damn, she bought me
something with her own money, Like this is lit, Like
trust me. I've heard men say that it's different things
me personally.
Speaker 3 (13:30):
As a woman.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
I have a whole box in my crib of all
the letters anyone has ever written me, cards, letters, jail letters,
love letters. This I value cards, all my friends. Anyone
I've ever been with, gives me cards, written cards, because
I'm obsessed with cards. I think that that is the
sweetest thing anyone can ever give me. Right, But it's
(13:54):
thoughtful to me, and I like it and I appreciate
it because you know.
Speaker 4 (13:58):
When dude make you a meal that's different. It depends, though,
when a.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Dude touch on you in a way that you're comfortable
with and really know what you like and how to
touch you, that feel different.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
Let me say this, it depends, And let me tell
you why I say it depends, because there's different sets
of people. There is someone who cooks dinner every night
as a man, and you came over and he cooked,
and you.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
Got a plate.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
Listen, no, but listen to what I'm saying. There's a
man who cooks dinner every night. You came over, he
cooks for you, gotta plate. Someone might think, wow, this
man cooked for me and oversensationalize that and think it's
more than what it is.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
But this man cooks every day. Mind you.
Speaker 2 (14:43):
There's a man who has millions of dollars, so he
bought you a Chanel bag. You might think, wow, this
man bought me a bag. It means the world. But
he had his assistant, go buy something for you that
for him costs thirty dollars compared to the type of
money he has. Then there's a man who bought you
a Chanell bag and that was his last motherfucking dollar. Okay,
there's two. Listen, women have to be smarter because there
(15:05):
could be two men. This man right here gave me
ten thousand dollars. This man gave me five hundred. This
man has thirty million dollars. This man has eight hundred dollars.
He just gave me five of his eight. You have
to understand where your value is at and who you're
dealing with, because a lot of the times women will
get the man who gave him ten thousand and that
(15:25):
didn't mean shit to that man. But this man gave
me five hundred dollars out of his eight hundred.
Speaker 3 (15:32):
Who you think really got you?
Speaker 2 (15:33):
When you in a video game and you gotta pick
your partner, which person you're gonna pick? A lot of
women are picking the nigga who gave him ten racks.
But that's the problem. He ain't really fighting for you,
he ain't really rocking with you. I'm gonna pick the
man who gave me five hundred every time because you
only had eight, so you're really rocking with me.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
I'm trying to think. If I got eight, I get
you five. I gotta think what type of girl? I
gotta think, hold on.
Speaker 4 (16:02):
And I give you five?
Speaker 3 (16:04):
Are you really rocking with me?
Speaker 4 (16:05):
Hold on?
Speaker 1 (16:06):
Hold on though, I gotta figure this out, because this
is this is blowing me. They gotta If the five
is for a new heart, Okay, I get it. If
the five is for a new transplant, okay, cool.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
She got to get evicted. Baby Brandon is due today,
not tomorrow. She's stressed.
Speaker 4 (16:24):
If I give you five, I'm gonna get evicted.
Speaker 3 (16:26):
No, you already taint.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Like so I gotta think twice about hold on her
evicted or me a victor.
Speaker 5 (16:35):
I'm crying, stay with me?
Speaker 4 (16:41):
Nothing of the month?
Speaker 5 (16:42):
A five? Baby?
Speaker 4 (16:47):
You get one more month with me?
Speaker 3 (16:50):
No, you get, but you get my point.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
You gotta understand, No, you gotta understand where people are
operating from because a lot of women, they're gonna they're
gonna look at things from a skewed perspective. They're gonna
see things like oh wow, No, not though yes they are.
Speaker 4 (17:09):
Women don't see that. Women see what's in front of them.
Speaker 3 (17:14):
That's, oh, this.
Speaker 4 (17:14):
Makes me happy, but Chanelle bag makes me happy. This
bent lean bens makes me happy. No, you know that,
No you know this?
Speaker 3 (17:24):
No, no, no, what's exactly front?
Speaker 1 (17:28):
They see exactly what's in front of him, and they
happy for the temporary for the time being, and then
when the ship stopped coming.
Speaker 3 (17:36):
But that's my point, like, no.
Speaker 4 (17:37):
That ain't it. No, I haven't been in.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
That, but that's my I haven't been in that, and.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
I dealt with I'm like, oh this makes you like
I'm like, damn, oh, like getting you up.
Speaker 4 (17:49):
Make you happy? Like so me just like that don't
make you happy or all others up. Maybe you do,
but like them when you say that, that's if that
is going for me. And I had I was in that.
I was and I heard that. I was like that
was weak.
Speaker 3 (18:07):
But you don't understand that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 4 (18:09):
I mean, I don't never leave. I've never been a
guy that's led with money. I don't leave with cheese.
I don't lead with like you know, here goes shop
and here you go. He cast me like here and
go over there, go teck your friends.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
But casts me doing that like when you start leading
with that, expect a whore that to be what it's
gonna be. Yeah, I'm saying these cats getting mad when
you lead with that and you get with her and
y'all together, then y'all get married at kids, and then
she off you and then you wonder like, damn, I
was down for you, Like you.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
Leave with your wallet, you catch a prostitutor or a horror.
That's just the truth, because let me tell you that
there's no price you can put on me. I Am
not something you can purchase. It's not available for sale.
So at the end of the day, it's like a
lot of men leave with their wallet and then they
get in these marriages and then they're fucking pissed off
because they're like, oh my god, I'm with a whole Yeah,
what did you think you bought her?
Speaker 4 (19:03):
So if Jeff Bason coming to this is the stipulation right.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
Here, Jeff Bezos is not. I'm not dealing with Jeff Bak.
I don't deal with the whites like that's just me.
Speaker 3 (19:12):
I'm not dealing with Jeff.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
And the thing about me is I've turned down man,
I want to get baby. I came to him and
I said let's do.
Speaker 4 (19:24):
A business at the bars, Like, damn you find and
let me get you a house.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
No, we could do a business deal. Let's let's talk
about an investment.
Speaker 4 (19:34):
Come up to me and say, hey, I.
Speaker 3 (19:41):
Don't deal with it. Let me tell you something.
Speaker 2 (19:42):
The biggest thing about me is that people know about me.
All my friends know about me. I have been in
so many situations where I could have a man pay
for everything from my whole entire lifestyle, and I'd be
scared to hell.
Speaker 3 (19:55):
I've had it. But I loved him.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
It wasn't because of that, because of how we connected,
We bonded, we vibed like it was really I was
locked in like it wasn't about money.
Speaker 3 (20:05):
It just happened to Hey, he had money, but I'm like,
I'm I carry my weight.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
I'm not just a bum like waiting around for you
to take care of me, like I'm adding value to
your life.
Speaker 3 (20:15):
Like period. It's never that.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
And any man I've ever been with still wishes he
was with me till this day, no joke.
Speaker 3 (20:22):
So me, I add value.
Speaker 4 (20:25):
Relationship broke up.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
My last relationship broke up because you know, like I
will say, like he was cheated and stuff, but I
wouldn't say that that was the straw that broke the
camel's back. I think what it felt like is we
grew apart and I felt really disconnected, Like I didn't
feel like I enjoyed being around him, Like the connection,
the vibe wasn't there.
Speaker 3 (20:48):
Well, he had a really bad gambling thing, and so.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
His moves would be up and down and it would
just be like we'd go on trips and he was
checked out, you know, and I just felt I didn't
know that about him until we got.
Speaker 3 (20:58):
Into the relationship and I stuck it through.
Speaker 2 (21:01):
But you know, for a long time, I felt like, damn,
you know, I don't feel this connection. And I would
tell him I'll be like damn for four and a
half years.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
So you was like the connection was lost when you start,
and it took you four years to figure that out.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
No, I just stayed because I had hope, I really wanted.
I don't know, it's hard for me to leave somebody.
I be honest, Like, if I'm with you, it takes
a while for me to walk away, like it really does.
Like I will stay with someone until the wheels fall
off to the point where I'm just like, oh my God,
because I want it to work so bad. So for me,
it was like I stayed and I felt like, you know,
(21:41):
I wanted to work, and I would tell him, like,
what's therapy all that? I told him, Like, you know,
I feel like because I feel like the core of
any relationship is the friendship.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
If we can't kick.
Speaker 2 (21:50):
It and vibe and laugh and hit it, we go
on trips, we're just vibing, We're just having a good
time in each other's energy and presence. I think people
get so far away from that, and because tis a
chore to be with your partner, and it's like why
we should enjoy each other's company. We should want to
be around each other and we should be willing to
like understand we were friends first, and I think that's
what we lacked, is having that core friendship and not
(22:13):
and really being able to like.
Speaker 3 (22:14):
Talk to each other and be like, Yo, what did
he do as far.
Speaker 4 (22:17):
As what what? What was his occupation?
Speaker 3 (22:20):
He was a director?
Speaker 4 (22:23):
Oh? Yeah, yeah, yeah that I'll live together?
Speaker 3 (22:27):
Yeah we did.
Speaker 4 (22:28):
Yeah damn.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
So y'all y'all was together. So this is what I'm
trying to understand, Like, y'all live together? Director? How old
was you at the time.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
I probably was like twenty seven.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
Oh you wasn't cooked. Now I wasn't cooked, so you
wasn't cooked. He was ripe for the taking.
Speaker 3 (22:50):
I was right for the taking. He's older than me.
Speaker 4 (22:55):
That didn't get marrid of that kid, no.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
Because it just wasn't given that, Like, he just wasn't.
I mean I tried really hard.
Speaker 3 (23:02):
He tried.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
We both tried, like you know what therapy, like just
to reallyhip therapy.
Speaker 3 (23:09):
Yeah, we didn't. We tried. Therapy was just a relationship,
just a relationship.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
Because I would tell him I didn't want to be
with him, and he would be like, let's try therapy, let's.
Speaker 4 (23:16):
Work it out. But he had other homes.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
He cheated on me. Yeah, a few times I could
have looked fasted if you knew who it was. One
of the times I caught him, what you mean, like
I walked hold up, and.
Speaker 4 (23:33):
He was you pulled up? All right? Hold on, I'm
going to hear this. You pulled up where?
Speaker 3 (23:39):
So I'm young.
Speaker 2 (23:40):
This is crazy, but like I had an intuition. I
was like, I don't trust this nigga right now. I
could feel something.
Speaker 4 (23:45):
Okay, so you at home or where are you at
right now?
Speaker 3 (23:47):
I was at home.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
I was with my homegirl, one of my best friends.
We've been best friend twenty four years. She's my writer died,
so her and so I hit her up him like, girl,
I'm going through it like I don't know. I just
feel like it's a weird vibe.
Speaker 4 (24:00):
L A.
Speaker 3 (24:00):
We're in La. Okay, So we lived together. He had
an additional spot.
Speaker 4 (24:08):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (24:08):
So I'm like, okay, I'm pulling up to this spot.
Speaker 4 (24:11):
Apartment.
Speaker 5 (24:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (24:13):
So I'm like, I'm so where you at at the
crib where I lived together?
Speaker 3 (24:16):
Yeah, in the house. Yeah, So I pull up.
Speaker 4 (24:19):
So what city?
Speaker 2 (24:22):
Damn, I'm gonna tell everybody.
Speaker 4 (24:25):
Can we break it down.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
I'm not getting too details.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
We're in just where we live. We live in a
great area, you know what I'm saying. Yes, Okay, so
we're in We're in l A. I'm like, all right,
I'm gonna pull.
Speaker 4 (24:44):
Up to his spot, Nicholson Gardens, Paul.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
I'm gonna pull up to his spot. So I pulled
up my homegown spot in Hollywood.
Speaker 4 (24:52):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
So if he got another spot in Hollywood, so he
must be in Beverly. So he's sliding there so he
probably like fifteen minutes from the other spot.
Speaker 4 (25:00):
Okay, go ahead.
Speaker 3 (25:01):
So I pull up.
Speaker 4 (25:04):
And I'm like, all right, so is this an apartment
in our house?
Speaker 3 (25:08):
It's an apartment.
Speaker 4 (25:09):
So I got into the apartment.
Speaker 3 (25:11):
In the apartment, I'm not in the apartment outside.
Speaker 2 (25:13):
I'm outside the apartment with my homegirl, and I'm like, girl,
I'm running by this apartment, right.
Speaker 4 (25:18):
Are you calling them the answer?
Speaker 3 (25:20):
No, I'm not calling him right now.
Speaker 4 (25:21):
I just pulled up.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
I just had an intuition, I said, I'm brawing up.
So I pull up to the apartment. Right as I
pull up to the apartment, literally, I'm with my best
friend and she's like azaar, and I'm like what. She's like,
why did he just drive by with a bitch in
the car? I said, you're lying and she's like no,
(25:45):
I'm not lying.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
So I'm like, oh my god, I knew it right.
So I'm like, let me out the car. She's like no, no, no.
I was like, no, let me out the car. Stop
playing all right, step there, stop.
Speaker 4 (25:56):
There before you go.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
Okay, she said he just drive by, yeah, with a
girl in the car. And you're like believing that she
saw it?
Speaker 4 (26:06):
Yeah, I believe her, and you like, get me out
the car. But he already drove by.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
He drove by to turn around the park, right, So
while they're parking, they're walking out and I see them
walking up to the door.
Speaker 4 (26:17):
So they go into the apartment.
Speaker 3 (26:18):
Yeah, so they go up to the door. They walk in.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
Girl, yes, oh my god, and she's beautiful bomb. So
I'm like, let me I said, let me out the car,
and she was like, what are you gonna do? I said, nothing,
just let me out. Like so I got out the
car man, yes, like this is my man.
Speaker 3 (26:35):
I don't give a damn. But no one's talking.
Speaker 2 (26:37):
About letting out the car. So I go, I knock
on the door.
Speaker 4 (26:42):
But they just walking in.
Speaker 2 (26:44):
Yes, I don't care. I'm getting him while he settled
in the apartment because.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
You know, men like to make walked because people.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
Like say, no, I was just walking her like you don't,
I don't even.
Speaker 4 (26:52):
You just walk apartment. So okay, before we get back,
Before we.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
Get back, because I'm just thinking, he like, what kind
of apartment is this? You could just walk up to
the door. Yeah, it is, because if I would get
someone with the door man, he could just.
Speaker 4 (27:12):
Walk up to it.
Speaker 2 (27:12):
Was like one of those like was no, but it
was one of those like it was one of those
like outside like Spanish like things.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (27:21):
It's like condo. It's like a duplex type of thing.
Speaker 4 (27:24):
You could just walk in.
Speaker 2 (27:25):
Yeah, you can walk in Like so I'm like all right,
So I'm like all right, so I go like you
know how duplex are, Like, no, I don't, okay, I
walk up, I knock on the door, walk up.
Speaker 4 (27:38):
And knock on the door. Yes he got money, Yes.
Speaker 3 (27:42):
I walk up, I knock on the door.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
If you got money, why you can walk up to
the door, Like, oh, I can't since I have money,
you can't just walk up to my door.
Speaker 3 (27:53):
You're also you have money and you're a famous person.
Speaker 4 (27:57):
You can't just walk up to the door and be
like bo bo.
Speaker 2 (28:00):
You know that duplexes are like houses their townhomes. You
can walk up to the town home door. It's not
an apartment.
Speaker 4 (28:05):
I understand that because.
Speaker 3 (28:08):
Like that, so what else?
Speaker 1 (28:09):
They have nice ones on willship. But if I'm gonna
be doing all this, ain't no walking.
Speaker 3 (28:14):
Up to the door, but it is.
Speaker 2 (28:18):
Ahead Like Jesus, I walk up to the door, I
knock on the door.
Speaker 3 (28:22):
I'm like, hello, what's up, and he's like.
Speaker 4 (28:26):
He answered, yes, he saw you through the people. No,
I moved and then I knocked and he answered the door.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
Yes, dumb. So then I I'm like, he's dumb as hell.
So then a guy, yes, I've only been with black man.
Speaker 4 (28:39):
So they just want to make the details so the
people can take the picture.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
The people have heard this story because every time I've
told you this story before. So I get so I
opened the door, you, I mean, he opens the door.
Speaker 4 (28:50):
I'm sorry, and he's like crazy.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
He looks at me like dumbfounded. And he's like and
I'm like, what's up? And he's like what did you're here?
Speaker 4 (29:01):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (29:01):
And I'm like, who's in.
Speaker 4 (29:02):
The apartment, man, this is my sister, my auntie.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
No, so mind you.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
The girl's nervous as hell, right, so she's sitting there
so scared or whatever. So I'm like, I don't have
no problem with the girl. The girl did nothing wrong.
The girl is living her best life. The girl has
no in tire, like, she's not it's not her issue, right,
So I'm like, what are you doing?
Speaker 1 (29:26):
Bro?
Speaker 4 (29:27):
And he's oh, this is my extra year. She's going
through some ship. She needs some money.
Speaker 5 (29:31):
She came.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
I was like, man, I know you're going through everything. Hey,
this is bizarre. Hey listen, this is wootie woo hey,
she is going through some ship. This is my girl
right here, bizarre. Hey, you know what, man, this is
my girl. Look all right, listen. How much did you
need here? I know we went through some things bizarre.
Speaker 4 (29:52):
This is not like this here take this. You gotta
get out here.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
My girl here now all right, boom you're out of here.
Speaker 4 (29:59):
Boom listen. So he didn't know the situation.
Speaker 2 (30:02):
See look he acted those stupid So then I was like,
I'm like, dude, what is going on? And he was like,
oh what, Like this is my old girl whatever? Right,
So I'm like, this is your home mind what wait?
Speaker 3 (30:16):
This is what killed me.
Speaker 2 (30:17):
They have food to go, They just went to eat.
And then now you're coming for a nightcap at the crib.
Speaker 4 (30:22):
Where did he tell you he was doing that night?
Speaker 3 (30:26):
I can't remember?
Speaker 4 (30:27):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (30:27):
So then I'm this is so many years ago, five, six,
seven years.
Speaker 3 (30:31):
Ago, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
So I'm like, okay, whatever. So I'm like this is crazy.
So he literally comes outside and me and him are
just going at it. I'm like, I can't believe you
would do this is hurt so bad, like and he's like,
it's not nothing. He's out there with me for two hours.
The lady is still in the house sitting there. Girl,
what black and what black?
Speaker 3 (30:55):
Full black from La South.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
Central sound like yeah he is, but he he's he
wears glasses.
Speaker 3 (31:06):
Are we're done with this story.
Speaker 1 (31:10):
He had no rebuttal because like I grew up in
Oakland out of the mood of South Central.
Speaker 4 (31:15):
Was like he ain't had no rebuttal.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
It's gotta be a rebuttal to say this is listen,
he ain't give you no nothing.
Speaker 2 (31:23):
He did, he say, he tried to say he was nervous,
but he tried to say, like this is my home girl.
Speaker 3 (31:28):
I don't fuck with her at.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
All, Like this is not like that sitting on the
couch and why is the girl still in the cows
Like I'm so confused. So the girl, I guess, got scared,
so she called her gay.
Speaker 3 (31:40):
Homeboy to come up there and get.
Speaker 2 (31:42):
Her and like walk her out the house or whatever
because she thought I was gonna fight, and I'm like, girl,
I'm not gonna fire. And I was like, girl, y'all
look cute together. Y'all should fuck around like for real.
I was like, I think y'all are a cute couples.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
Yeah, okay, so now you called him and y'all outside
two hours talking. She in the house when the gay
friend come walk them out?
Speaker 4 (32:03):
Okay? So now with that.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
Meanwhile, my best friend is in the car the whole time.
She's such a real one. She sat in the car
waited the whole time hours.
Speaker 3 (32:14):
I think, So this is five, six, seven years. Why
won't we record this?
Speaker 2 (32:19):
I'm not a recording ask get out of my business.
I don't want people in my business, first of all,
and anyone's recording me. That's when really I hate when
people record. Do not start recording me because I promise.
Speaker 3 (32:30):
So anyway I would have.
Speaker 1 (32:31):
Started recording what it would have broke everything. It would
have made everything awkward. So then that would have been
like what would you say? Look, yeah, you got a herd?
Look get out? Hey, you gotta get out?
Speaker 4 (32:45):
What?
Speaker 5 (32:47):
Hey? What?
Speaker 4 (32:48):
I started recording stuff? Hey? Look look how everybody get required?
Speaker 5 (32:55):
I would have got out of this.
Speaker 4 (32:56):
I record, Hey, what are you doing here? Listen? Listen
my girl here?
Speaker 3 (33:00):
Now like this is and he was he was like,
this is my girl.
Speaker 4 (33:04):
Would have changed the game.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
And so I'm like, girl whatever and mind you. So
this is the thing about the girl. The girl is
like a cracking girl.
Speaker 4 (33:12):
So I be seeing her like, look like.
Speaker 2 (33:15):
She was really pretty. She probably like an eight seven eight. Yeah,
she was cute, and so.
Speaker 4 (33:22):
He downgraded damn.
Speaker 3 (33:25):
So like that though I can't. So anyways, they went
to that's crazy. The point is I cooked, remember, So
this is the point.
Speaker 2 (33:40):
So so anyways, the long story short is, yes, I
say I got back with him.
Speaker 3 (33:47):
The thing about me is sometimes unfortunately for me.
Speaker 4 (33:50):
Like so then y'all stayed for how long after that situation?
Speaker 3 (33:54):
A few more years?
Speaker 4 (33:55):
So what made y'all break?
Speaker 2 (33:58):
The draw for the breakup was nothing specific. It was
just a build up of.
Speaker 3 (34:03):
Like, you know, of everything and just me just being.
Speaker 2 (34:05):
Like you know what, I can't Yeah, I can't do
this shit no more. But I will say this, I
probably would have looked past more things if we had
a bond and a connection and I felt like I
really wanted to be with him, Like the problem was
is like I don't want to be with you for real,
Like I just don't feel like we have that like
we're taking trips, we're going here, we're going there, and
I just don't feel like we're vibing, Like we're not
(34:28):
having a good time in each other's company period point blank.
I just feel that, and I feel like, you know,
you have your own shit going on where you're distracted.
I personally am just not feeling it anymore, and I
just want to move.
Speaker 3 (34:41):
On at this point, and I feel like breakup.
Speaker 2 (34:44):
Yeah, it was tough for a few months, you know
what I'm saying. I did have a situation after that,
you know, not fast, but it was like six months later.
I had something for like ten months or like seven
months with somebody.
Speaker 4 (35:01):
And that was it was.
Speaker 2 (35:04):
Somebody that we were like dating and stuff like, and
I was it wasn't more sexual.
Speaker 3 (35:09):
I loved him a lot.
Speaker 4 (35:11):
I did, and but I'm not.
Speaker 3 (35:15):
I don't love a lot of people.
Speaker 2 (35:16):
I only loved, honestly, in my entire life, I only loved.
Speaker 3 (35:22):
Probably two people.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
Know.
Speaker 3 (35:27):
I tried one time when I lived in Atlanta.
Speaker 2 (35:30):
I was just moved to Atlanta and I was living
there for a while and I met this guy. He
was attractive, and I was like, Wow, I haven't had
sex and I don't have sex.
Speaker 3 (35:38):
With just anybody.
Speaker 2 (35:39):
I've always fall in love when I have sex, so
any man I've had sex with has been like my man.
But I was like, I want to just fuck around.
So I was like, I'm gonna try. So I was
hit talk to this guy and I was like, you
should come over, and he was so excited.
Speaker 3 (35:54):
I was like, you should come over.
Speaker 4 (35:54):
We have sex and he was like.
Speaker 3 (35:58):
No, no, no, no, no no no no.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
But it wasn't the front coming from But it wasn't
coming from an aggressive.
Speaker 4 (36:04):
Stance to aggressive okay, let me let.
Speaker 3 (36:07):
Me, let me say my thing. I'm good okay.
Speaker 2 (36:13):
So anyways, I'm only like twenty two, right, So I
was like, you should come over.
Speaker 3 (36:17):
I was like, I haven't had sex in.
Speaker 4 (36:18):
A long time. I just met that night.
Speaker 2 (36:19):
No, no, no, no, no, we had like talked for like
a few weeks or something.
Speaker 4 (36:22):
That's not a one night stand. Do you understand what?
Speaker 3 (36:25):
No, it is because.
Speaker 4 (36:26):
One night stand you just met?
Speaker 3 (36:28):
Oh no, I never did that. Okay, No, I never
had that, like you. I didn't know. I thought you
met like a one night sex or something.
Speaker 4 (36:38):
I don't know the one night standard. You just met
that night.
Speaker 3 (36:41):
Who does that does that? Who's doing that? You don't
even know this person?
Speaker 4 (36:46):
Are you serious right now? Are you living on earth?
Speaker 3 (36:52):
I do have a homegirl. I'm gonna be honest.
Speaker 2 (36:54):
I have a homegirl, right And she always tells me
that she loves a good one night there and she
and I'm like, why do you love him one night stand?
And she's like, because I don't want to fuck a
man that I'm consistently fucking and he's not like doing nothing,
like we're not in a relationship or he's not like
doing things, and we're like, like doing things for me yourself.
Like if I'm not if I'm fucking someone and it's
(37:16):
not going to be that, then it just needs to
be one night hitter.
Speaker 4 (37:18):
So you never met a guy that night that you
met and had a one nice stand.
Speaker 1 (37:24):
Unfortunately, first night you met him, it was like a
connection and you guys were just.
Speaker 3 (37:28):
Making out and you never seen him again.
Speaker 4 (37:32):
You never had sex with him again.
Speaker 3 (37:34):
No, I never had that situation, like you know that happens, right, Yes,
you make it.
Speaker 2 (37:40):
Seem like I just don't know nothing, clearly, not from her,
I am, because you didn't know what a one nice stand.
Speaker 3 (37:47):
I knew taking them for.
Speaker 4 (37:49):
Two weeks and then we were going to have a
one night It's not a one nice Stan.
Speaker 2 (37:54):
I don't like how you're making me feel on this podcasting. No,
because you're coming for me, like that's what I'm okay,
And I knew that, and I was just wrong, Like yeah,
I knew that.
Speaker 4 (38:08):
It's not you know each other for two weeks, Okay.
Speaker 1 (38:10):
It's like, so you must have had in your mind, oh,
I want to have sex with you and then I'm
never going to talk to you again.
Speaker 3 (38:16):
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (38:17):
I was gonna say, let's do it where we don't
really know each other.
Speaker 1 (38:21):
Like a one night stand is you have sex and
you don't know if you're going to talk to him again.
Speaker 4 (38:25):
You just don't you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (38:29):
I never had that. Have you had a one night stand?
Speaker 4 (38:32):
Yes, I've had one night like I was.
Speaker 1 (38:36):
Because I was traveling. Like it was just like you know,
I had intentions of.
Speaker 2 (38:41):
Talking when the woman was hitting you up. You never
replied because that's usually how it goes for man.
Speaker 4 (38:46):
It wasn't that.
Speaker 1 (38:47):
It was just like we just probably never got back
together again, like I've never just like.
Speaker 4 (38:55):
Just like oh we you know, and then not talked again.
It was like it just didn't work out.
Speaker 3 (39:00):
Do you feel like all men cheat?
Speaker 4 (39:03):
I'm like, I feel like, what's cheating?
Speaker 3 (39:12):
Give me off of the podcast I've done. I've wrapt crazy.
Speaker 4 (39:18):
Because because you know what cheating is.
Speaker 2 (39:20):
We went through a whole thing with Carlos Miller about cheating,
what it was, what it went, what it felt. Don't
come up on here when I asked you that question,
you talk about what's cheating?
Speaker 4 (39:30):
Well, I'm faithful in all of my relationships.
Speaker 5 (39:38):
I'm off of here.
Speaker 1 (39:39):
I love it, and it's probably to a point what
that drove it to something else?
Speaker 3 (39:47):
Like so you were you cheating?
Speaker 4 (39:51):
All right?
Speaker 2 (39:52):
So yes, it's on a bride?
Speaker 3 (39:59):
Yes or no? Have you ever been in a relationship
that you never cheated? Yes or no? Please? That's it.
Speaker 5 (40:07):
You.
Speaker 3 (40:08):
Yes, I never cheated in my relationships except once.
Speaker 4 (40:11):
Cheated in none of my relationship.
Speaker 3 (40:13):
You're lying.
Speaker 2 (40:14):
You've been on this pod saying about how you cheated
in all of your relationships.
Speaker 3 (40:18):
Stop lying to these people, Paul, You're all.
Speaker 1 (40:22):
Are so listening, all right, so listen to this. I
don't want to I've never cheated. When I was mentally
checked in.
Speaker 3 (40:33):
That was not the question. The question is not were
you mentally checked in and you cheated?
Speaker 1 (40:39):
We both were mentally checked out, but technically we lived together, but.
Speaker 3 (40:44):
You were together in a relationship.
Speaker 4 (40:45):
We technically lived together or were together, and it was.
Speaker 2 (40:49):
An open relationship and you guys discussed that open So
you cheated?
Speaker 4 (40:53):
No, no, no, listen, listen, listen. There's a thing to this.
Speaker 3 (40:57):
There's a three to this.
Speaker 4 (41:00):
When things what's cheating?
Speaker 2 (41:06):
I'm done because you know what we went through this part.
Speaker 4 (41:12):
Cheating is talking.
Speaker 1 (41:13):
To another girl, period is cheating. Sharing your feelings with
another girl is cheating. Having sex is cheating?
Speaker 4 (41:20):
Right?
Speaker 3 (41:20):
I think cheating is doing anything that Cheating is doing
anything that you wouldn't.
Speaker 4 (41:26):
Feel not even having sex with somebody.
Speaker 2 (41:30):
I know there's an emotional cheating emotional affairs. Yes, So
let me say this. Cheating is doing something that you
would not want your partners to know that you were doing.
Speaker 3 (41:39):
Whatever that is.
Speaker 2 (41:39):
If you're doing it and you know your partner, no,
you don't want them to know that, you need to
hide it.
Speaker 1 (41:45):
All right, So I guess the bigger question is too
mm hmmm, Mike, was I cheated on?
Speaker 3 (41:55):
We're not asking about that, right, now, why not.
Speaker 4 (41:58):
Why a man can't deal with cheating?
Speaker 3 (42:00):
You've said you were cheated on me?
Speaker 4 (42:01):
For why everything got to be against the man? Why
it's not against like everything is always against the man.
Speaker 2 (42:08):
It's always you're such a victim.
Speaker 4 (42:11):
It's no no, because we always are the victim.
Speaker 3 (42:16):
So you guys are always no.
Speaker 1 (42:17):
No, no, no no, We're not always the victim. We're
always the one who is the narcissist, who is the
the the gas lighter, gas lighter, all of this, But like,
how about let's start talking about having conversations about what
causes men to do that. Let's have these conversations and
(42:38):
then when the men have these conversations to the women
and they don't listen, let's let's.
Speaker 4 (42:46):
Let's talk about it, like why do women cheat? Do
women cheat?
Speaker 5 (42:51):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (42:52):
All the time I say this.
Speaker 1 (42:54):
I've been cheated on one of my relationships. Everyone, y'all
you know what it is about men. We don't do
the investigations.
Speaker 3 (43:03):
Like y'all exactly. I say this all the time, so.
Speaker 4 (43:06):
It's easier for y'all.
Speaker 2 (43:07):
I say, women cheat. I know a lot of women,
would you, But I know a lot of one who
don't cheat? And for me, personally, I feel like if
I get to the point where I'm cheating, that means
that I'm so beyond checked out. Because if I'm in
a relationship with a man, I be so locked in.
So if I have to go to the place where
I have to cheat, then I need to leave the relationship.
Speaker 4 (43:23):
So that's what this is a question.
Speaker 3 (43:27):
Of course, it.
Speaker 1 (43:28):
Is if cheating for a man is different from cheating
for a woman.
Speaker 3 (43:36):
Yes, it's way worse when a woman cheats.
Speaker 4 (43:38):
So like a man.
Speaker 1 (43:41):
Can still be in love with that person that never
want to lead that person.
Speaker 3 (43:46):
And she yes, I agree.
Speaker 4 (43:48):
Whereas if a woman cheats.
Speaker 3 (43:50):
She's checked out so far, Yeah, she's over.
Speaker 4 (43:53):
It's over, I think.
Speaker 3 (43:55):
So now, I think for most of the time we've
talked about this.
Speaker 1 (43:58):
Because for the most part, when we look at the
boy in America and the man never leaves.
Speaker 4 (44:05):
The woman, yeah, it's usually the woman, Like the woman always.
Speaker 2 (44:08):
Leaves, but the man does things to make the woman leave.
Speaker 1 (44:13):
But the woman does things to make the man leave,
but the man don't leave. You understand, the man just
don't leave.
Speaker 2 (44:21):
But that's the man don't leave, but the man don't leave,
but he do everything, But he does everything else but leave.
He cheats, he lies, he breaks your trust, he dogs
you out, he does everything.
Speaker 1 (44:33):
But but it goes on on both sides, y'all both
doing the same thing. The man still won't leave, but
the women will.
Speaker 3 (44:40):
Okay, and I do know that. And at the end
of the woman will.
Speaker 4 (44:44):
The man can put up with way more than women can.
Speaker 3 (44:47):
That's so untrue. What the man. Men can die, ready
to kill themselves. If a woman can.
Speaker 1 (44:57):
Put up with way more than women, if the man
don't leave, and the percentage of say the man don't leave,
why can't the man deal with more than a woman can?
Speaker 2 (45:05):
Because I think that women are doing less, or at
least getting caught less, getting caught less.
Speaker 4 (45:10):
Not doing less.
Speaker 3 (45:11):
They might be getting doing less because because it's a known.
Speaker 2 (45:15):
Fact that if a man gets cheated on, his heart
isn't his asshole. But when a woman can get back
with a man, still love him, still old baby. But
a man once she cheats, he switches, something switches in
his mind. He's gone, he's gone.
Speaker 3 (45:30):
I wouldn't even want to cheat on a man in.
Speaker 1 (45:35):
That say this and this is for you, and this
is a hard reality. And maybe a lot of women
don't want to hear this. But I know a man.
I'm not gonna say I know a man. I know
in my lifetime I've known man that says I have
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a situation that's keeping my other situation together. You said,
without her, my marriage wouldn't be what it is because
for the simple fact that my marriage, I'm miserable my
marriage and she's cool that I can come home cool.
Speaker 3 (46:18):
So why not just leave your marriage for the girl
that's cool?
Speaker 4 (46:21):
Because this is a good this is this is what works.
Speaker 1 (46:25):
So you feel like I don't put words in my mouth,
I don't tell me what I feel like.
Speaker 4 (46:31):
I'm asking you, didn't.
Speaker 3 (46:35):
I said, so do you feel like, like, what do
you mean?
Speaker 4 (46:38):
I'm asking you a question being that's out here? Like, man,
my wife don't give me sex no more. But that's
my side.
Speaker 1 (46:46):
He's giving me sex, so I don't need that from her,
but she gives me all these other qualities. But I'm
gonna I love what she gives these qualities from my wife.
Speaker 3 (46:56):
So I'm gonna say this. So let me say this.
Speaker 2 (46:58):
If I, as a wife, am not giving my man
sex anymore, absolutely, I would be like he should definitely
be getting sex for something.
Speaker 4 (47:04):
Well, is marriage based relationships based on sex.
Speaker 3 (47:08):
You like to say where they are it really is,
I don't. I don't think so.
Speaker 2 (47:13):
I think I can build a strong relationship that's not
revolving around sex.
Speaker 1 (47:18):
But hey, I mean, when you cooked, you can bring
you you can.
Speaker 2 (47:23):
This podcast episode, you have treated me badly, and I'm
not your friend anymore.
Speaker 3 (47:27):
So I know I'm not because you're routed like.
Speaker 4 (47:31):
Girls are after thirty are cooked. I don't know how
you are.
Speaker 3 (47:35):
You do know how I am, Paul, and you know
I'm over thirty.
Speaker 4 (47:39):
You don't look at Paul.
Speaker 3 (47:43):
Give me out this episode. So honestly, don't, don't. Don't, don't,
don't don't.
Speaker 4 (47:50):
This is turning into a great episode.
Speaker 3 (47:53):
I'm glad you're.
Speaker 2 (47:56):
I'm glad you're enjoying yourself here because me personally, I.
Speaker 4 (48:00):
Think this is the episode you should pull your wig.
Speaker 2 (48:04):
You know, sure, everybody, I don't have a wig on, Paul.
You listen, you think that I have them glued on edges.
Speaker 4 (48:12):
I don't. These are That's what's going on right now.
Speaker 3 (48:17):
This is not glued on. This is my hair. Paul.
Speaker 1 (48:21):
All right, I'm gonna get you out of behind the scenes,
so make sure y'all tune into what is that O
Marion or what what? What's the other thing they gotta
pay for to see the real the Patriot.
Speaker 4 (48:46):
We're gonna show y'all something.
Speaker 3 (48:49):
Crazy.
Speaker 2 (48:52):
Let me say this before we wrap up. This is
crazy the way you've dogged me out of this episode.
You said I was cooking, said the wig go.
Speaker 4 (48:59):
On like I didn't say you. I said women.
Speaker 2 (49:02):
You said, am I gonna pull back my wig to
show these I.
Speaker 4 (49:07):
Mean the Patreon, y'all shoul join our patreon you can
see the real Nah, but you.
Speaker 3 (49:13):
Dope, No, I'm done with you.
Speaker 2 (49:16):
Honestly, I feel like at the end of the day,
me personally, if I don't have a connection or a
bomb with somebody, and I feel like other people should
feel the same way. If you don't feel like this
is your friend first, and y'all could rock, and y'all
could talk, and y'all could like really resolve conflict together
and really be able to communicate with each other, then
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it's not gonna work because at the end of the day,
things are going to get tough.
Speaker 3 (49:42):
In a relationship.
Speaker 2 (49:42):
And if I can't go back to the brass tacks
of just like you really my homie first, and I
could really be like damn, okay, where do we fuck
up at? Like it's us against the problem, not us
versus each other. And I think that's a lot of
the stance that people take. They get into they have
a problem, and they create a versus me and you,
when in reality it should be me and you versus
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this problem. Like we are in battle together, we are
a team. We are supposed to fight this problem, like.
Speaker 3 (50:11):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (50:12):
And I always say, if you want of them game
boy characters and you got to pick your partner, if
it ain't that one, then you really with the wrong person,
because I want to make sure that my partner is
someone that I know we can fight that problem with together.
Speaker 3 (50:25):
And that's just the moral of the story.
Speaker 2 (50:26):
All the cheating, all the other shit, all the little
things that be going on, it's workable if you can
actually just talk shit out and nip it.
Speaker 3 (50:37):
In the bud.
Speaker 2 (50:38):
Yeah, be friends and nip it in the bud before
it becomes an issue. Because a lot of the time
we let things fester and there's things that bother us.
That's why if I'm a relationship, I ask my partner,
is there something that I've done that bothers you haven't
told me about, because I want to know that, because
then if you're letting that fester up and I don't know,
because a lot of the times will be in a
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relationship and there's things partner does that bothers us and
they have no idea. They think they're just like cool, chilling,
and it's like, not baby, when you do that, that
irritates the funk out of me.
Speaker 3 (51:09):
I didn't even know that. It's a simple fix.
Speaker 2 (51:11):
I could stop doing that tonight, like, but you never
told me that, so I didn't know it was a problem.
Speaker 3 (51:16):
And that's how a lot of things end up building up,
building up, building up, building up, and then you're like, damn,
I don't even like you no more. You're a weirdo.
We're friends, Yeah, we're friends. Of course we're friends with you.
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We're friends. Were locked in.
Speaker 2 (51:42):
At the end of the day. The day is gonna end.
The episode was cool. You was talking a lot of shit.
I don't love it, but I respect it.
Speaker 3 (51:52):
And make sure y'all tune into the omarions. Make sure
that you guys are the pature.
Speaker 2 (51:58):
I'll make sure you guys are subscribe locked in all that,
we got more episodes, more gas coming.
Speaker 1 (52:04):
Man. I appreciate you. I appreciate that your respect our
opinion or not. But sometimes I say things that I feel,
and I say things that I feel, and I say
things that I really feel.
Speaker 2 (52:19):
Yeah, okay, tell me what you.
Speaker 4 (52:23):
Listen, let me tell y'all something. Truth.
Speaker 1 (52:28):
That's my nickname, right, so like, and you know there's
so many things the truth her right, and then this
is my one saying truth sounds like heye when people
hate the truth? You know, man did with that?
Speaker 3 (52:47):
Okay, I heard that. Well, thank you guys so much.
Speaker 1 (53:10):
This is the taking over the game, all right, everybody,
welcome to Truth after Dark.
Speaker 3 (53:23):
Do you think that men or women are more toxic
This is your boy, Paul Anthony, the truth hears, and
I got something to say. I'm just tired of these
females who cooked after thirty. I'm gonna say it like
that cooked.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Okay, So you're personally attacking me, so I would like
to know I'm attacking you because I'm after thirty.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
So I'm cooked.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Yeah, I know I'm a hot commodity. Fight me if
you want to, because you don't know that I'm single.
I'm actually not available, Thank you very much.
Speaker 4 (00:36):
This is racing. Have had a one nice.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
Stand, I know, I tried. I was like, you should
go on with you have.
Speaker 4 (00:42):
Sex, and he was that aggressive. Yeah I'm good. No
no no no no no no no no.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
But it wasn't a coming from but it wasn't coming
from an aggressive.
Speaker 4 (00:52):
Stance to aggressive.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
Okay, let me let me let me say my thing.
Do you feel like all men cheat?
Speaker 4 (01:00):
I'm like, I feel like, what's.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Give me off of the podcast? I've done. I've wrapped.
I had to wrap up this.
Speaker 4 (01:14):
Jesus getting crazy friends.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Yeah, we're friends, of course, we're friends with you, We're friends.
Were locked in.
Speaker 4 (01:44):
Your sister taken over the game.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
All right, everybody Welcome to Truth after Dark.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Do you think that men or women and are more toxic?
Speaker 2 (02:06):
Hello, everybody, welcome to another episode of the Truth after Dark.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
I am your host, zar Faara Day.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
This is your boy, Paul Anthony, the Truth Hears, and
I got something to say.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
What do you have to say, sir?
Speaker 1 (02:24):
I'm just tired of these females who cooked after thirty.
I'm gonna say it like that cooked.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Okay, So you're personally attacking me, so I would like
to know I'm attacking you because I'm after thirty.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
So I'm cooked?
Speaker 4 (02:40):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, crime.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Listen, dog, guys is over here, like your prime is
twenty five to thirty.
Speaker 4 (02:55):
Let's keep it a hundred.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
But let me say this. I hear exactly what you're saying.
I've heard it before. People have said it women age
like milkman and age like fine wine. I've heard it
a thousand times. Right for me, personally, I'm gonna say
this me. Maybe I am cooked, but you know what
I'm cooked, and it tastes delicious because I was not
giving what it needed to get when I was in
my twenties. I didn't know my body. I didn't know
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what I wanted I didn't know what I liked. I
didn't know how to fuck, I didn't know how to suck.
I didn't know how to throw it back. Now I
could do all of those things plus more. I understand
who I am as a woman. My emotional maturity is here.
And at the end of the day, I know that
it feels like there's women who are jaded because they've
been with so many men.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Now they're cooked.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
I understand that perspective, but personally, for me, I feel
so into my bag as a thirty year old because.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
And then after thirty four thirty five, man, think about
this when I keep when I cook some food, all right,
it's cooked right now, I ate some, then it's leftovers.
Then I put in refrigerator. After so many days, you
got to throw it out. You know what I'm saying, Like,
(04:06):
how long do Thanksgiving food last? After Thanksgiving? How many
days were giving it?
Speaker 4 (04:11):
Three?
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Then you throw it out? So that means if you
cooked at thirty thirty five, we gotta throw it out.
But listen, I will say this. This is for the
man who's looking for in a relationship. This is for
a man who's looking for kids. You know what I'm
saying like I like cooked food, personally, I'm not. I
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don't got time to season nothing like give it to
me already prepared.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
That's wrong, Matt.
Speaker 5 (04:45):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
I just feel like I'm good with cooked food.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
I feel like you know what, don't.
Speaker 4 (04:53):
Feel that way. Hey, listen, no, you you got to market.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
No, this is I'm gonna keep it so real with
you right now when I say this, I have no
lack of people who want me like. It's not given that.
So I don't feel it's not just it's not just sexually.
I don't care what no one says. It's not just yes,
people love me, adore me.
Speaker 4 (05:16):
My energy. Everybody want to be with a girl when
they see him.
Speaker 3 (05:20):
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
You can have that argument you want. I know I'm
a hot commodity. Fight me if you want to, because
you don't know that I'm single. I'm actually not available,
thank you very much.
Speaker 4 (05:35):
Because season one, season one you was you was acting funny.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
I might have been actually funny, but yeah, I'm not available.
And guess what I have at the end of the day.
Me personally, I don't feel like I've never operated from
a place of desperation.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
That's never been my story. That's never in my life.
Speaker 5 (05:55):
Yeah, I think you cooked.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
I'm cooked, and I will say I am. I'm like
more tired. I'm chill with you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (06:23):
But I'm a cool type of bride. I'm cool. Like
someone to be with me, they're lucky. I'm a vibe.
I'm cool, I'm chill.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
I know myself, I know what's up, I know what
I bring, I know how to I know how to
add value. I've never lacked any of those qualities or traits.
And that's why for me, it's like, no, I know
someone is lucky to be with me.
Speaker 4 (06:46):
Yeah WHOA.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
So anyways, because we're not doing all this, So this
is what I want to talk about. Father's Day has
recently passed, right, and I saw so many men online,
including lou you know, Williams, a few other people. They
posted like let's just cancel Father's Day and they're like,
we're dubved on Father's Day, Like you know what I'm saying,
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And I just want to understand what is the thing
man feels so unappreciated.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
On this Father's Day situation.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
And I've been seeing so many men say that about
Father's Day.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
Okay, so what's what's what's your thoughts on that?
Speaker 4 (07:25):
Oh? Man, I just think like Father's Day ain't really
looked at. So you do.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
If you go on Google and you rank, like, where's
Father's Day rank amongst like, uh, just things we celebrate,
it's like twentieth on the list something like that, right,
and Mother's Day is ranked second behind Christmas Lord. So
it's just like, you know, you get your little hey
woll woo whoop, and you know, as men, we don't
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really care at this point in our lives. We don't
even really like we accept it for what it is.
And you know, we we love of the fact that
we get acknowledged for that really quick second, and after
that it's just like, oh, it ain't really a big
deal like Mother's Day and Chris, you know what I'm saying,
It's really not a big deal because as men, we
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are expected to just like, oh.
Speaker 4 (08:20):
You know, we're not looking for nothing. We've been so
like conditioned to not look for anything on that, so
anything is.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
A plus.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Because it's been like that as men, because we expected
to take the bullets, we expected to take the heat.
We expect it to be just like tough and like
we don't like like we we we we really just
a second thought. We expected to be just looked over.
Speaker 4 (08:57):
It is.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
But it's like like fathers, Like I didn't even know
Father's Day was coming up.
Speaker 4 (09:02):
I was like, oh, damn his Father's Day.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
And you know, like my dad, for instance, he barbecued
on Father's Day and I'm like damn, Like he's like,
I'm going to get the meet he's at cost my
dad seventy.
Speaker 4 (09:14):
I agree, I planned all the activities, but on Mother's Day,
it felt like they have to.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
Like you take them to dinner, you give him flowers,
you plan something for him and all that. Because I've
done that on Mother's Day. But nothing's ever planned. Stuff
is planning for the woman. Nothing hardly ever planned for
the exact man. It is still expected to do the
same things that he always doing, even.
Speaker 4 (09:39):
On his day.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
Yeah, I felt that, Like when I my dad was
like I'm gonna barbecue, I'm like, damn, Dad.
Speaker 4 (09:44):
I was like somebody should be taking because like who's
going to barbecue? Like who's going to barbecue for him?
Because this is what he do exactly, Like can we
get you like damn.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
No, And I told him I would take him to
lunch and do this and he was like, no, I'll
just barbecue.
Speaker 3 (09:58):
And I'm like, well this I'm trying.
Speaker 4 (10:01):
So this is what we feel like who.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
Is really gonna try and put thought into it for
the man like because we really be a lot of
times putting thought into like something, because like it's easy
to buy something and for you to say, I'll take
you to lunch, but like what about make him breakfast,
Like that's something different, that means something more, make him
(10:31):
dinner or that means something different because it's easy, like
us as men and when you love a female, this
is what you know with love is about when you.
Speaker 4 (10:41):
Really put thought into something.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
Well, it's easy for me to buy you something, right,
but when I put some thought into something about who
you are and what you really like and I take
the time to make it into something. So for instance,
for example, like damn, I know she like to be
(11:07):
touched on her neck and rub the massage and she
liked these sens. She likes candles, and I really put time.
When you put time into something, it means more.
Speaker 4 (11:19):
Think about that because like I can buy you that,
don't take no time.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
I can you a birthday coming up? Well, mo, Mo,
I just bought her something last minute, but like when you.
Speaker 4 (11:30):
Really put the time in, you plan something.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
And you like, all right, I got this treasure hunt
I wrote, I wrote this car. I wrote a letter
that's been like old school values have really been thrown
out the window to where it make it look like love.
You have to buy love absolutely, you know what I'm saying.
Where it's like old school values is still dope to
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me writing a letter Like how would you feel if
for your birthday I wrote you a letter her? You
are frown upon that this society like and I expressed
my heart and I expressed my feelings in it, like
you know, cause I ain't think about this like when
the last time somebody actually wrote a letter, we text,
(12:14):
but like he really sat down and wrote his feelings
boom bom boom, and he gave it to you, like
you know what, I want to give you this for
your brain. Girls a look and be like what is this?
I wanted this shit nail bag. I wanted some ear rings.
This is what you get me? Motherfucker might throw that
away and burn it first. I feel like like because.
Speaker 4 (12:33):
If somebody did that for me, I'll be like, damn
that like for a man, like because we don't expect
nothing anyway, so it don't matter for us. We don't
expect the girl to buy us nothing.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
We don't expect, but like the best gifts is something
I feel like, don't cost nothing, Like damn, she really thought,
Like you know, she was like, babe, you know, look,
I'm gonna make you some food. I'm gonna run your bath,
put some roses in it, like these candles rub you down. Man, Like, ooh,
(13:07):
that was lit. You know what I'm saying, Like that's
lit for a dude.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
It depends.
Speaker 4 (13:13):
That's lit for.
Speaker 2 (13:14):
I feel like it depends because I feel like it
depends on your values as a person, because there's men
like you may have money, you may be jaded on money,
but it's man that be like damn, she bought me
something with her own money, Like this is lit, Like
trust me. I've heard men say that it's different things
me personally.
Speaker 3 (13:30):
As a woman.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
I have a whole box in my crib of all
the letters anyone has ever written me, cards, letters, jail letters,
love letters. This I value cards, all my friends. Anyone
I've ever been with, gives me cards, written cards, because
I'm obsessed with cards. I think that that is the
sweetest thing anyone can ever give me. Right, But it's
(13:54):
thoughtful to me, and I like it and I appreciate
it because you know.
Speaker 4 (13:58):
When dude make you a meal that's different. It depends, though,
when a.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
Dude touch on you in a way that you're comfortable
with and really know what you like and how to
touch you, that feel different.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
Let me say this, it depends, And let me tell
you why I say it depends, because there's different sets
of people. There is someone who cooks dinner every night
as a man, and you came over and he cooked,
and you.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
Got a plate.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
Listen, no, but listen to what I'm saying. There's a
man who cooks dinner every night. You came over, he
cooks for you, gotta plate. Someone might think, wow, this
man cooked for me and oversensationalize that and think it's
more than what it is.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
But this man cooks every day. Mind you.
Speaker 2 (14:43):
There's a man who has millions of dollars, so he
bought you a Chanel bag. You might think, wow, this
man bought me a bag. It means the world. But
he had his assistant, go buy something for you that
for him costs thirty dollars compared to the type of
money he has. Then there's a man who bought you
a Chanell bag and that was his last motherfucking dollar. Okay,
there's two. Listen, women have to be smarter because there
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could be two men. This man right here gave me
ten thousand dollars. This man gave me five hundred. This
man has thirty million dollars. This man has eight hundred dollars.
He just gave me five of his eight. You have
to understand where your value is at and who you're
dealing with, because a lot of the times women will
get the man who gave him ten thousand and that
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didn't mean shit to that man. But this man gave
me five hundred dollars out of his eight hundred.
Speaker 3 (15:32):
Who you think really got you?
Speaker 2 (15:33):
When you in a video game and you gotta pick
your partner, which person you're gonna pick? A lot of
women are picking the nigga who gave him ten racks.
But that's the problem. He ain't really fighting for you,
he ain't really rocking with you. I'm gonna pick the
man who gave me five hundred every time because you
only had eight, so you're really rocking with me.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
I'm trying to think. If I got eight, I get
you five. I gotta think what type of girl? I
gotta think, hold on.
Speaker 4 (16:02):
And I give you five?
Speaker 3 (16:04):
Are you really rocking with me?
Speaker 4 (16:05):
Hold on?
Speaker 1 (16:06):
Hold on though, I gotta figure this out, because this
is this is blowing me. They gotta If the five
is for a new heart, Okay, I get it. If
the five is for a new transplant, okay, cool.
Speaker 2 (16:19):
She got to get evicted. Baby Brandon is due today,
not tomorrow. She's stressed.
Speaker 4 (16:24):
If I give you five, I'm gonna get evicted.
Speaker 3 (16:26):
No, you already taint.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
Like so I gotta think twice about hold on her
evicted or me a victor.
Speaker 5 (16:35):
I'm crying, stay with me?
Speaker 4 (16:41):
Nothing of the month?
Speaker 5 (16:42):
A five? Baby?
Speaker 4 (16:47):
You get one more month with me?
Speaker 3 (16:50):
No, you get, but you get my point.
Speaker 2 (16:55):
You gotta understand, No, you gotta understand where people are
operating from because a lot of women, they're gonna they're
gonna look at things from a skewed perspective. They're gonna
see things like oh wow, No, not though yes they are.
Speaker 4 (17:09):
Women don't see that. Women see what's in front of them.
Speaker 3 (17:14):
That's, oh, this.
Speaker 4 (17:14):
Makes me happy, but Chanelle bag makes me happy. This
bent lean bens makes me happy. No, you know that,
No you know this?
Speaker 3 (17:24):
No, no, no, what's exactly front?
Speaker 1 (17:28):
They see exactly what's in front of him, and they
happy for the temporary for the time being, and then
when the ship stopped coming.
Speaker 3 (17:36):
But that's my point, like, no.
Speaker 4 (17:37):
That ain't it. No, I haven't been in.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
That, but that's my I haven't been in that, and.
Speaker 1 (17:42):
I dealt with I'm like, oh this makes you like
I'm like, damn, oh, like getting you up.
Speaker 4 (17:49):
Make you happy? Like so me just like that don't
make you happy or all others up. Maybe you do,
but like them when you say that, that's if that
is going for me. And I had I was in that.
I was and I heard that. I was like that
was weak.
Speaker 3 (18:07):
But you don't understand that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 4 (18:09):
I mean, I don't never leave. I've never been a
guy that's led with money. I don't leave with cheese.
I don't lead with like you know, here goes shop
and here you go. He cast me like here and
go over there, go teck your friends.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
But casts me doing that like when you start leading
with that, expect a whore that to be what it's
gonna be. Yeah, I'm saying these cats getting mad when
you lead with that and you get with her and
y'all together, then y'all get married at kids, and then
she off you and then you wonder like, damn, I
was down for you, Like you.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
Leave with your wallet, you catch a prostitutor or a horror.
That's just the truth, because let me tell you that
there's no price you can put on me. I Am
not something you can purchase. It's not available for sale.
So at the end of the day, it's like a
lot of men leave with their wallet and then they
get in these marriages and then they're fucking pissed off
because they're like, oh my god, I'm with a whole Yeah,
what did you think you bought her?
Speaker 4 (19:03):
So if Jeff Bason coming to this is the stipulation right.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
Here, Jeff Bezos is not. I'm not dealing with Jeff Bak.
I don't deal with the whites like that's just me.
Speaker 3 (19:12):
I'm not dealing with Jeff.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
And the thing about me is I've turned down man,
I want to get baby. I came to him and
I said let's do.
Speaker 4 (19:24):
A business at the bars, Like, damn you find and
let me get you a house.
Speaker 3 (19:29):
No, we could do a business deal. Let's let's talk
about an investment.
Speaker 4 (19:34):
Come up to me and say, hey, I.
Speaker 3 (19:41):
Don't deal with it. Let me tell you something.
Speaker 2 (19:42):
The biggest thing about me is that people know about me.
All my friends know about me. I have been in
so many situations where I could have a man pay
for everything from my whole entire lifestyle, and I'd be
scared to hell.
Speaker 3 (19:55):
I've had it. But I loved him.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
It wasn't because of that, because of how we connected,
We bonded, we vibed like it was really I was
locked in like it wasn't about money.
Speaker 3 (20:05):
It just happened to Hey, he had money, but I'm like,
I'm I carry my weight.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
I'm not just a bum like waiting around for you
to take care of me, like I'm adding value to
your life.
Speaker 3 (20:15):
Like period. It's never that.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
And any man I've ever been with still wishes he
was with me till this day, no joke.
Speaker 3 (20:22):
So me, I add value.
Speaker 4 (20:25):
Relationship broke up.
Speaker 2 (20:26):
My last relationship broke up because you know, like I
will say, like he was cheated and stuff, but I
wouldn't say that that was the straw that broke the
camel's back. I think what it felt like is we
grew apart and I felt really disconnected, Like I didn't
feel like I enjoyed being around him, Like the connection,
the vibe wasn't there.
Speaker 3 (20:48):
Well, he had a really bad gambling thing, and so.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
His moves would be up and down and it would
just be like we'd go on trips and he was
checked out, you know, and I just felt I didn't
know that about him until we got.
Speaker 3 (20:58):
Into the relationship and I stuck it through.
Speaker 2 (21:01):
But you know, for a long time, I felt like, damn,
you know, I don't feel this connection. And I would
tell him I'll be like damn for four and a
half years.
Speaker 1 (21:14):
So you was like the connection was lost when you start,
and it took you four years to figure that out.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
No, I just stayed because I had hope, I really wanted.
I don't know, it's hard for me to leave somebody.
I be honest, Like, if I'm with you, it takes
a while for me to walk away, like it really does.
Like I will stay with someone until the wheels fall
off to the point where I'm just like, oh my God,
because I want it to work so bad. So for me,
it was like I stayed and I felt like, you know,
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I wanted to work, and I would tell him, like,
what's therapy all that? I told him, Like, you know,
I feel like because I feel like the core of
any relationship is the friendship.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
If we can't kick.
Speaker 2 (21:50):
It and vibe and laugh and hit it, we go
on trips, we're just vibing, We're just having a good
time in each other's energy and presence. I think people
get so far away from that, and because tis a
chore to be with your partner, and it's like why
we should enjoy each other's company. We should want to
be around each other and we should be willing to
like understand we were friends first, and I think that's
what we lacked, is having that core friendship and not
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and really being able to like.
Speaker 3 (22:14):
Talk to each other and be like, Yo, what did
he do as far.
Speaker 4 (22:17):
As what what? What was his occupation?
Speaker 3 (22:20):
He was a director?
Speaker 4 (22:23):
Oh? Yeah, yeah, yeah that I'll live together?
Speaker 3 (22:27):
Yeah we did.
Speaker 4 (22:28):
Yeah damn.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
So y'all y'all was together. So this is what I'm
trying to understand, Like, y'all live together? Director? How old
was you at the time.
Speaker 2 (22:39):
I probably was like twenty seven.
Speaker 1 (22:43):
Oh you wasn't cooked. Now I wasn't cooked, so you
wasn't cooked. He was ripe for the taking.
Speaker 3 (22:50):
I was right for the taking. He's older than me.
Speaker 4 (22:55):
That didn't get marrid of that kid, no.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
Because it just wasn't given that, Like, he just wasn't.
I mean I tried really hard.
Speaker 3 (23:02):
He tried.
Speaker 2 (23:03):
We both tried, like you know what therapy, like just
to reallyhip therapy.
Speaker 3 (23:09):
Yeah, we didn't. We tried. Therapy was just a relationship,
just a relationship.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
Because I would tell him I didn't want to be
with him, and he would be like, let's try therapy, let's.
Speaker 4 (23:16):
Work it out. But he had other homes.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
He cheated on me. Yeah, a few times I could
have looked fasted if you knew who it was. One
of the times I caught him, what you mean, like
I walked hold up, and.
Speaker 4 (23:33):
He was you pulled up? All right? Hold on, I'm
going to hear this. You pulled up where?
Speaker 3 (23:39):
So I'm young.
Speaker 2 (23:40):
This is crazy, but like I had an intuition. I
was like, I don't trust this nigga right now. I
could feel something.
Speaker 4 (23:45):
Okay, so you at home or where are you at
right now?
Speaker 3 (23:47):
I was at home.
Speaker 2 (23:48):
I was with my homegirl, one of my best friends.
We've been best friend twenty four years. She's my writer died,
so her and so I hit her up him like, girl,
I'm going through it like I don't know. I just
feel like it's a weird vibe.
Speaker 4 (24:00):
L A.
Speaker 3 (24:00):
We're in La. Okay, So we lived together. He had
an additional spot.
Speaker 4 (24:08):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (24:08):
So I'm like, okay, I'm pulling up to this spot.
Speaker 4 (24:11):
Apartment.
Speaker 5 (24:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (24:13):
So I'm like, I'm so where you at at the
crib where I lived together?
Speaker 3 (24:16):
Yeah, in the house. Yeah, So I pull up.
Speaker 4 (24:19):
So what city?
Speaker 2 (24:22):
Damn, I'm gonna tell everybody.
Speaker 4 (24:25):
Can we break it down.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
I'm not getting too details.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
We're in just where we live. We live in a
great area, you know what I'm saying. Yes, Okay, so
we're in We're in l A. I'm like, all right,
I'm gonna pull.
Speaker 4 (24:44):
Up to his spot, Nicholson Gardens, Paul.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
I'm gonna pull up to his spot. So I pulled
up my homegown spot in Hollywood.
Speaker 4 (24:52):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
So if he got another spot in Hollywood, so he
must be in Beverly. So he's sliding there so he
probably like fifteen minutes from the other spot.
Speaker 4 (25:00):
Okay, go ahead.
Speaker 3 (25:01):
So I pull up.
Speaker 4 (25:04):
And I'm like, all right, so is this an apartment
in our house?
Speaker 3 (25:08):
It's an apartment.
Speaker 4 (25:09):
So I got into the apartment.
Speaker 3 (25:11):
In the apartment, I'm not in the apartment outside.
Speaker 2 (25:13):
I'm outside the apartment with my homegirl, and I'm like, girl,
I'm running by this apartment, right.
Speaker 4 (25:18):
Are you calling them the answer?
Speaker 3 (25:20):
No, I'm not calling him right now.
Speaker 4 (25:21):
I just pulled up.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
I just had an intuition, I said, I'm brawing up.
So I pull up to the apartment. Right as I
pull up to the apartment, literally, I'm with my best
friend and she's like azaar, and I'm like what. She's like,
why did he just drive by with a bitch in
the car? I said, you're lying and she's like no,
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I'm not lying.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
So I'm like, oh my god, I knew it right.
So I'm like, let me out the car. She's like no, no, no.
I was like, no, let me out the car. Stop
playing all right, step there, stop.
Speaker 4 (25:56):
There before you go.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
Okay, she said he just drive by, yeah, with a
girl in the car. And you're like believing that she
saw it?
Speaker 4 (26:06):
Yeah, I believe her, and you like, get me out
the car. But he already drove by.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
He drove by to turn around the park, right, So
while they're parking, they're walking out and I see them
walking up to the door.
Speaker 4 (26:17):
So they go into the apartment.
Speaker 3 (26:18):
Yeah, so they go up to the door. They walk in.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
Girl, yes, oh my god, and she's beautiful bomb. So
I'm like, let me I said, let me out the car,
and she was like, what are you gonna do? I said, nothing,
just let me out. Like so I got out the
car man, yes, like this is my man.
Speaker 3 (26:35):
I don't give a damn. But no one's talking.
Speaker 2 (26:37):
About letting out the car. So I go, I knock
on the door.
Speaker 4 (26:42):
But they just walking in.
Speaker 2 (26:44):
Yes, I don't care. I'm getting him while he settled
in the apartment because.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
You know, men like to make walked because people.
Speaker 2 (26:49):
Like say, no, I was just walking her like you don't,
I don't even.
Speaker 4 (26:52):
You just walk apartment. So okay, before we get back,
Before we.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
Get back, because I'm just thinking, he like, what kind
of apartment is this? You could just walk up to
the door. Yeah, it is, because if I would get
someone with the door man, he could just.
Speaker 4 (27:12):
Walk up to it.
Speaker 2 (27:12):
Was like one of those like was no, but it
was one of those like it was one of those
like outside like Spanish like things.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (27:21):
It's like condo. It's like a duplex type of thing.
Speaker 4 (27:24):
You could just walk in.
Speaker 2 (27:25):
Yeah, you can walk in Like so I'm like all right,
So I'm like all right, so I go like you
know how duplex are, Like, no, I don't, okay, I
walk up, I knock on the door, walk up.
Speaker 4 (27:38):
And knock on the door. Yes he got money, Yes.
Speaker 3 (27:42):
I walk up, I knock on the door.
Speaker 1 (27:45):
If you got money, why you can walk up to
the door, Like, oh, I can't since I have money,
you can't just walk up to my door.
Speaker 3 (27:53):
You're also you have money and you're a famous person.
Speaker 4 (27:57):
You can't just walk up to the door and be
like bo bo.
Speaker 2 (28:00):
You know that duplexes are like houses their townhomes. You
can walk up to the town home door. It's not
an apartment.
Speaker 4 (28:05):
I understand that because.
Speaker 3 (28:08):
Like that, so what else?
Speaker 1 (28:09):
They have nice ones on willship. But if I'm gonna
be doing all this, ain't no walking.
Speaker 3 (28:14):
Up to the door, but it is.
Speaker 2 (28:18):
Ahead Like Jesus, I walk up to the door, I
knock on the door.
Speaker 3 (28:22):
I'm like, hello, what's up, and he's like.
Speaker 4 (28:26):
He answered, yes, he saw you through the people. No,
I moved and then I knocked and he answered the door.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
Yes, dumb. So then I I'm like, he's dumb as hell.
So then a guy, yes, I've only been with black man.
Speaker 4 (28:39):
So they just want to make the details so the
people can take the picture.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
The people have heard this story because every time I've
told you this story before. So I get so I
opened the door, you, I mean, he opens the door.
Speaker 4 (28:50):
I'm sorry, and he's like crazy.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
He looks at me like dumbfounded. And he's like and
I'm like, what's up? And he's like what did you're here?
Speaker 4 (29:01):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (29:01):
And I'm like, who's in.
Speaker 4 (29:02):
The apartment, man, this is my sister, my auntie.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
No, so mind you.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
The girl's nervous as hell, right, so she's sitting there
so scared or whatever. So I'm like, I don't have
no problem with the girl. The girl did nothing wrong.
The girl is living her best life. The girl has
no in tire, like, she's not it's not her issue, right,
So I'm like, what are you doing?
Speaker 1 (29:26):
Bro?
Speaker 4 (29:27):
And he's oh, this is my extra year. She's going
through some ship. She needs some money.
Speaker 5 (29:31):
She came.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
I was like, man, I know you're going through everything. Hey,
this is bizarre. Hey listen, this is wootie woo hey,
she is going through some ship. This is my girl
right here, bizarre. Hey, you know what, man, this is
my girl. Look all right, listen. How much did you
need here? I know we went through some things bizarre.
Speaker 4 (29:52):
This is not like this here take this. You gotta
get out here.
Speaker 1 (29:55):
My girl here now all right, boom you're out of here.
Speaker 4 (29:59):
Boom listen. So he didn't know the situation.
Speaker 2 (30:02):
See look he acted those stupid So then I was like,
I'm like, dude, what is going on? And he was like,
oh what, Like this is my old girl whatever? Right,
So I'm like, this is your home mind what wait?
Speaker 3 (30:16):
This is what killed me.
Speaker 2 (30:17):
They have food to go, They just went to eat.
And then now you're coming for a nightcap at the crib.
Speaker 4 (30:22):
Where did he tell you he was doing that night?
Speaker 3 (30:26):
I can't remember?
Speaker 4 (30:27):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (30:27):
So then I'm this is so many years ago, five, six,
seven years.
Speaker 3 (30:31):
Ago, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
So I'm like, okay, whatever. So I'm like this is crazy.
So he literally comes outside and me and him are
just going at it. I'm like, I can't believe you
would do this is hurt so bad, like and he's like,
it's not nothing. He's out there with me for two hours.
The lady is still in the house sitting there. Girl,
what black and what black?
Speaker 3 (30:55):
Full black from La South.
Speaker 2 (30:57):
Central sound like yeah he is, but he he's he
wears glasses.
Speaker 3 (31:06):
Are we're done with this story.
Speaker 1 (31:10):
He had no rebuttal because like I grew up in
Oakland out of the mood of South Central.
Speaker 4 (31:15):
Was like he ain't had no rebuttal.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
It's gotta be a rebuttal to say this is listen,
he ain't give you no nothing.
Speaker 2 (31:23):
He did, he say, he tried to say he was nervous,
but he tried to say, like this is my home girl.
Speaker 3 (31:28):
I don't fuck with her at.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
All, Like this is not like that sitting on the
couch and why is the girl still in the cows
Like I'm so confused. So the girl, I guess, got scared,
so she called her gay.
Speaker 3 (31:40):
Homeboy to come up there and get.
Speaker 2 (31:42):
Her and like walk her out the house or whatever
because she thought I was gonna fight, and I'm like, girl,
I'm not gonna fire. And I was like, girl, y'all
look cute together. Y'all should fuck around like for real.
I was like, I think y'all are a cute couples.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
Yeah, okay, so now you called him and y'all outside
two hours talking. She in the house when the gay
friend come walk them out?
Speaker 4 (32:03):
Okay? So now with that.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
Meanwhile, my best friend is in the car the whole time.
She's such a real one. She sat in the car
waited the whole time hours.
Speaker 3 (32:14):
I think, So this is five, six, seven years. Why
won't we record this?
Speaker 2 (32:19):
I'm not a recording ask get out of my business.
I don't want people in my business, first of all,
and anyone's recording me. That's when really I hate when
people record. Do not start recording me because I promise.
Speaker 3 (32:30):
So anyway I would have.
Speaker 1 (32:31):
Started recording what it would have broke everything. It would
have made everything awkward. So then that would have been
like what would you say? Look, yeah, you got a herd?
Look get out? Hey, you gotta get out?
Speaker 4 (32:45):
What?
Speaker 5 (32:47):
Hey? What?
Speaker 4 (32:48):
I started recording stuff? Hey? Look look how everybody get required?
Speaker 5 (32:55):
I would have got out of this.
Speaker 4 (32:56):
I record, Hey, what are you doing here? Listen? Listen
my girl here?
Speaker 3 (33:00):
Now like this is and he was he was like,
this is my girl.
Speaker 4 (33:04):
Would have changed the game.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
And so I'm like, girl whatever and mind you. So
this is the thing about the girl. The girl is
like a cracking girl.
Speaker 4 (33:12):
So I be seeing her like, look like.
Speaker 2 (33:15):
She was really pretty. She probably like an eight seven eight. Yeah,
she was cute, and so.
Speaker 4 (33:22):
He downgraded damn.
Speaker 3 (33:25):
So like that though I can't. So anyways, they went
to that's crazy. The point is I cooked, remember, So
this is the point.
Speaker 2 (33:40):
So so anyways, the long story short is, yes, I
say I got back with him.
Speaker 3 (33:47):
The thing about me is sometimes unfortunately for me.
Speaker 4 (33:50):
Like so then y'all stayed for how long after that situation?
Speaker 3 (33:54):
A few more years?
Speaker 4 (33:55):
So what made y'all break?
Speaker 2 (33:58):
The draw for the breakup was nothing specific. It was
just a build up of.
Speaker 3 (34:03):
Like, you know, of everything and just me just being.
Speaker 2 (34:05):
Like you know what, I can't Yeah, I can't do
this shit no more. But I will say this, I
probably would have looked past more things if we had
a bond and a connection and I felt like I
really wanted to be with him, Like the problem was
is like I don't want to be with you for real,
Like I just don't feel like we have that like
we're taking trips, we're going here, we're going there, and
I just don't feel like we're vibing, Like we're not
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having a good time in each other's company period point blank.
I just feel that, and I feel like, you know,
you have your own shit going on where you're distracted.
I personally am just not feeling it anymore, and I
just want to move.
Speaker 3 (34:41):
On at this point, and I feel like breakup.
Speaker 2 (34:44):
Yeah, it was tough for a few months, you know
what I'm saying. I did have a situation after that,
you know, not fast, but it was like six months later.
I had something for like ten months or like seven
months with somebody.
Speaker 4 (35:01):
And that was it was.
Speaker 2 (35:04):
Somebody that we were like dating and stuff like, and
I was it wasn't more sexual.
Speaker 3 (35:09):
I loved him a lot.
Speaker 4 (35:11):
I did, and but I'm not.
Speaker 3 (35:15):
I don't love a lot of people.
Speaker 2 (35:16):
I only loved, honestly, in my entire life, I only loved.
Speaker 3 (35:22):
Probably two people.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
Know.
Speaker 3 (35:27):
I tried one time when I lived in Atlanta.
Speaker 2 (35:30):
I was just moved to Atlanta and I was living
there for a while and I met this guy. He
was attractive, and I was like, Wow, I haven't had
sex and I don't have sex.
Speaker 3 (35:38):
With just anybody.
Speaker 2 (35:39):
I've always fall in love when I have sex, so
any man I've had sex with has been like my man.
But I was like, I want to just fuck around.
So I was like, I'm gonna try. So I was
hit talk to this guy and I was like, you
should come over, and he was so excited.
Speaker 3 (35:54):
I was like, you should come over.
Speaker 4 (35:54):
We have sex and he was like.
Speaker 3 (35:58):
No, no, no, no, no no no no.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
But it wasn't the front coming from But it wasn't
coming from an aggressive.
Speaker 4 (36:04):
Stance to aggressive okay, let me let.
Speaker 3 (36:07):
Me, let me say my thing. I'm good okay.
Speaker 2 (36:13):
So anyways, I'm only like twenty two, right, So I
was like, you should come over.
Speaker 3 (36:17):
I was like, I haven't had sex in.
Speaker 4 (36:18):
A long time. I just met that night.
Speaker 2 (36:19):
No, no, no, no, no, we had like talked for like
a few weeks or something.
Speaker 4 (36:22):
That's not a one night stand. Do you understand what?
Speaker 3 (36:25):
No, it is because.
Speaker 4 (36:26):
One night stand you just met?
Speaker 3 (36:28):
Oh no, I never did that. Okay, No, I never
had that, like you. I didn't know. I thought you
met like a one night sex or something.
Speaker 4 (36:38):
I don't know the one night standard. You just met
that night.
Speaker 3 (36:41):
Who does that does that? Who's doing that? You don't
even know this person?
Speaker 4 (36:46):
Are you serious right now? Are you living on earth?
Speaker 3 (36:52):
I do have a homegirl. I'm gonna be honest.
Speaker 2 (36:54):
I have a homegirl, right And she always tells me
that she loves a good one night there and she
and I'm like, why do you love him one night stand?
And she's like, because I don't want to fuck a
man that I'm consistently fucking and he's not like doing nothing,
like we're not in a relationship or he's not like
doing things, and we're like, like doing things for me yourself.
Like if I'm not if I'm fucking someone and it's
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not going to be that, then it just needs to
be one night hitter.
Speaker 4 (37:18):
So you never met a guy that night that you
met and had a one nice stand.
Speaker 1 (37:24):
Unfortunately, first night you met him, it was like a
connection and you guys were just.
Speaker 3 (37:28):
Making out and you never seen him again.
Speaker 4 (37:32):
You never had sex with him again.
Speaker 3 (37:34):
No, I never had that situation, like you know that happens, right, Yes,
you make it.
Speaker 2 (37:40):
Seem like I just don't know nothing, clearly, not from her,
I am, because you didn't know what a one nice stand.
Speaker 3 (37:47):
I knew taking them for.
Speaker 4 (37:49):
Two weeks and then we were going to have a
one night It's not a one nice Stan.
Speaker 2 (37:54):
I don't like how you're making me feel on this podcasting. No,
because you're coming for me, like that's what I'm okay,
And I knew that, and I was just wrong, Like yeah,
I knew that.
Speaker 4 (38:08):
It's not you know each other for two weeks, Okay.
Speaker 1 (38:10):
It's like, so you must have had in your mind, oh,
I want to have sex with you and then I'm
never going to talk to you again.
Speaker 3 (38:16):
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (38:17):
I was gonna say, let's do it where we don't
really know each other.
Speaker 1 (38:21):
Like a one night stand is you have sex and
you don't know if you're going to talk to him again.
Speaker 4 (38:25):
You just don't you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (38:29):
I never had that. Have you had a one night stand?
Speaker 4 (38:32):
Yes, I've had one night like I was.
Speaker 1 (38:36):
Because I was traveling. Like it was just like you know,
I had intentions of.
Speaker 2 (38:41):
Talking when the woman was hitting you up. You never
replied because that's usually how it goes for man.
Speaker 4 (38:46):
It wasn't that.
Speaker 1 (38:47):
It was just like we just probably never got back
together again, like I've never just like.
Speaker 4 (38:55):
Just like oh we you know, and then not talked again.
It was like it just didn't work out.
Speaker 3 (39:00):
Do you feel like all men cheat?
Speaker 4 (39:03):
I'm like, I feel like, what's cheating?
Speaker 3 (39:12):
Give me off of the podcast I've done. I've wrapt crazy.
Speaker 4 (39:18):
Because because you know what cheating is.
Speaker 2 (39:20):
We went through a whole thing with Carlos Miller about cheating,
what it was, what it went, what it felt. Don't
come up on here when I asked you that question,
you talk about what's cheating?
Speaker 4 (39:30):
Well, I'm faithful in all of my relationships.
Speaker 5 (39:38):
I'm off of here.
Speaker 1 (39:39):
I love it, and it's probably to a point what
that drove it to something else?
Speaker 3 (39:47):
Like so you were you cheating?
Speaker 4 (39:51):
All right?
Speaker 2 (39:52):
So yes, it's on a bride?
Speaker 3 (39:59):
Yes or no? Have you ever been in a relationship
that you never cheated? Yes or no? Please? That's it.
Speaker 5 (40:07):
You.
Speaker 3 (40:08):
Yes, I never cheated in my relationships except once.
Speaker 4 (40:11):
Cheated in none of my relationship.
Speaker 3 (40:13):
You're lying.
Speaker 2 (40:14):
You've been on this pod saying about how you cheated
in all of your relationships.
Speaker 3 (40:18):
Stop lying to these people, Paul, You're all.
Speaker 1 (40:22):
Are so listening, all right, so listen to this. I
don't want to I've never cheated. When I was mentally
checked in.
Speaker 3 (40:33):
That was not the question. The question is not were
you mentally checked in and you cheated?
Speaker 1 (40:39):
We both were mentally checked out, but technically we lived together, but.
Speaker 3 (40:44):
You were together in a relationship.
Speaker 4 (40:45):
We technically lived together or were together, and it was.
Speaker 2 (40:49):
An open relationship and you guys discussed that open So
you cheated?
Speaker 4 (40:53):
No, no, no, listen, listen, listen. There's a thing to this.
Speaker 3 (40:57):
There's a three to this.
Speaker 4 (41:00):
When things what's cheating?
Speaker 2 (41:06):
I'm done because you know what we went through this part.
Speaker 4 (41:12):
Cheating is talking.
Speaker 1 (41:13):
To another girl, period is cheating. Sharing your feelings with
another girl is cheating. Having sex is cheating?
Speaker 4 (41:20):
Right?
Speaker 3 (41:20):
I think cheating is doing anything that Cheating is doing
anything that you wouldn't.
Speaker 4 (41:26):
Feel not even having sex with somebody.
Speaker 2 (41:30):
I know there's an emotional cheating emotional affairs. Yes, So
let me say this. Cheating is doing something that you
would not want your partners to know that you were doing.
Speaker 3 (41:39):
Whatever that is.
Speaker 2 (41:39):
If you're doing it and you know your partner, no,
you don't want them to know that, you need to
hide it.
Speaker 1 (41:45):
All right, So I guess the bigger question is too
mm hmmm, Mike, was I cheated on?
Speaker 3 (41:55):
We're not asking about that, right, now, why not.
Speaker 4 (41:58):
Why a man can't deal with cheating?
Speaker 3 (42:00):
You've said you were cheated on me?
Speaker 4 (42:01):
For why everything got to be against the man? Why
it's not against like everything is always against the man.
Speaker 2 (42:08):
It's always you're such a victim.
Speaker 4 (42:11):
It's no no, because we always are the victim.
Speaker 3 (42:16):
So you guys are always no.
Speaker 1 (42:17):
No, no, no no, We're not always the victim. We're
always the one who is the narcissist, who is the
the the gas lighter, gas lighter, all of this, But like,
how about let's start talking about having conversations about what
causes men to do that. Let's have these conversations and
(42:38):
then when the men have these conversations to the women
and they don't listen, let's let's.
Speaker 4 (42:46):
Let's talk about it, like why do women cheat? Do
women cheat?
Speaker 5 (42:51):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (42:52):
All the time I say this.
Speaker 1 (42:54):
I've been cheated on one of my relationships. Everyone, y'all
you know what it is about men. We don't do
the investigations.
Speaker 3 (43:03):
Like y'all exactly. I say this all the time, so.
Speaker 4 (43:06):
It's easier for y'all.
Speaker 2 (43:07):
I say, women cheat. I know a lot of women,
would you, But I know a lot of one who
don't cheat? And for me, personally, I feel like if
I get to the point where I'm cheating, that means
that I'm so beyond checked out. Because if I'm in
a relationship with a man, I be so locked in.
So if I have to go to the place where
I have to cheat, then I need to leave the relationship.
Speaker 4 (43:23):
So that's what this is a question.
Speaker 3 (43:27):
Of course, it.
Speaker 1 (43:28):
Is if cheating for a man is different from cheating
for a woman.
Speaker 3 (43:36):
Yes, it's way worse when a woman cheats.
Speaker 4 (43:38):
So like a man.
Speaker 1 (43:41):
Can still be in love with that person that never
want to lead that person.
Speaker 3 (43:46):
And she yes, I agree.
Speaker 4 (43:48):
Whereas if a woman cheats.
Speaker 3 (43:50):
She's checked out so far, Yeah, she's over.
Speaker 4 (43:53):
It's over, I think.
Speaker 3 (43:55):
So now, I think for most of the time we've
talked about this.
Speaker 1 (43:58):
Because for the most part, when we look at the
boy in America and the man never leaves.
Speaker 4 (44:05):
The woman, yeah, it's usually the woman, Like the woman always.
Speaker 2 (44:08):
Leaves, but the man does things to make the woman leave.
Speaker 1 (44:13):
But the woman does things to make the man leave,
but the man don't leave. You understand, the man just
don't leave.
Speaker 2 (44:21):
But that's the man don't leave, but the man don't leave,
but he do everything, But he does everything else but leave.
He cheats, he lies, he breaks your trust, he dogs
you out, he does everything.
Speaker 1 (44:33):
But but it goes on on both sides, y'all both
doing the same thing. The man still won't leave, but
the women will.
Speaker 3 (44:40):
Okay, and I do know that. And at the end
of the woman will.
Speaker 4 (44:44):
The man can put up with way more than women can.
Speaker 3 (44:47):
That's so untrue. What the man. Men can die, ready
to kill themselves. If a woman can.
Speaker 1 (44:57):
Put up with way more than women, if the man
don't leave, and the percentage of say the man don't leave,
why can't the man deal with more than a woman can?
Speaker 2 (45:05):
Because I think that women are doing less, or at
least getting caught less, getting caught less.
Speaker 4 (45:10):
Not doing less.
Speaker 3 (45:11):
They might be getting doing less because because it's a known.
Speaker 2 (45:15):
Fact that if a man gets cheated on, his heart
isn't his asshole. But when a woman can get back
with a man, still love him, still old baby. But
a man once she cheats, he switches, something switches in
his mind. He's gone, he's gone.
Speaker 3 (45:30):
I wouldn't even want to cheat on a man in.
Speaker 1 (45:35):
That say this and this is for you, and this
is a hard reality. And maybe a lot of women
don't want to hear this. But I know a man.
I'm not gonna say I know a man. I know
in my lifetime I've known man that says I have
(45:59):
a situation that's keeping my other situation together. You said,
without her, my marriage wouldn't be what it is because
for the simple fact that my marriage, I'm miserable my
marriage and she's cool that I can come home cool.
Speaker 3 (46:18):
So why not just leave your marriage for the girl
that's cool?
Speaker 4 (46:21):
Because this is a good this is this is what works.
Speaker 1 (46:25):
So you feel like I don't put words in my mouth,
I don't tell me what I feel like.
Speaker 4 (46:31):
I'm asking you, didn't.
Speaker 3 (46:35):
I said, so do you feel like, like, what do
you mean?
Speaker 4 (46:38):
I'm asking you a question being that's out here? Like, man,
my wife don't give me sex no more. But that's
my side.
Speaker 1 (46:46):
He's giving me sex, so I don't need that from her,
but she gives me all these other qualities. But I'm
gonna I love what she gives these qualities from my wife.
Speaker 3 (46:56):
So I'm gonna say this. So let me say this.
Speaker 2 (46:58):
If I, as a wife, am not giving my man
sex anymore, absolutely, I would be like he should definitely
be getting sex for something.
Speaker 4 (47:04):
Well, is marriage based relationships based on sex.
Speaker 3 (47:08):
You like to say where they are it really is,
I don't. I don't think so.
Speaker 2 (47:13):
I think I can build a strong relationship that's not
revolving around sex.
Speaker 1 (47:18):
But hey, I mean, when you cooked, you can bring
you you can.
Speaker 2 (47:23):
This podcast episode, you have treated me badly, and I'm
not your friend anymore.
Speaker 3 (47:27):
So I know I'm not because you're routed like.
Speaker 4 (47:31):
Girls are after thirty are cooked. I don't know how
you are.
Speaker 3 (47:35):
You do know how I am, Paul, and you know
I'm over thirty.
Speaker 4 (47:39):
You don't look at Paul.
Speaker 3 (47:43):
Give me out this episode. So honestly, don't, don't. Don't, don't,
don't don't.
Speaker 4 (47:50):
This is turning into a great episode.
Speaker 3 (47:53):
I'm glad you're.
Speaker 2 (47:56):
I'm glad you're enjoying yourself here because me personally, I.
Speaker 4 (48:00):
Think this is the episode you should pull your wig.
Speaker 2 (48:04):
You know, sure, everybody, I don't have a wig on, Paul.
You listen, you think that I have them glued on edges.
Speaker 4 (48:12):
I don't. These are That's what's going on right now.
Speaker 3 (48:17):
This is not glued on. This is my hair. Paul.
Speaker 1 (48:21):
All right, I'm gonna get you out of behind the scenes,
so make sure y'all tune into what is that O
Marion or what what? What's the other thing they gotta
pay for to see the real the Patriot.
Speaker 4 (48:46):
We're gonna show y'all something.
Speaker 3 (48:49):
Crazy.
Speaker 2 (48:52):
Let me say this before we wrap up. This is
crazy the way you've dogged me out of this episode.
You said I was cooking, said the wig go.
Speaker 4 (48:59):
On like I didn't say you. I said women.
Speaker 2 (49:02):
You said, am I gonna pull back my wig to
show these I.
Speaker 4 (49:07):
Mean the Patreon, y'all shoul join our patreon you can
see the real Nah, but you.
Speaker 3 (49:13):
Dope, No, I'm done with you.
Speaker 2 (49:16):
Honestly, I feel like at the end of the day,
me personally, if I don't have a connection or a
bomb with somebody, and I feel like other people should
feel the same way. If you don't feel like this
is your friend first, and y'all could rock, and y'all
could talk, and y'all could like really resolve conflict together
and really be able to communicate with each other, then
(49:38):
it's not gonna work because at the end of the day,
things are going to get tough.
Speaker 3 (49:42):
In a relationship.
Speaker 2 (49:42):
And if I can't go back to the brass tacks
of just like you really my homie first, and I
could really be like damn, okay, where do we fuck
up at? Like it's us against the problem, not us
versus each other. And I think that's a lot of
the stance that people take. They get into they have
a problem, and they create a versus me and you,
when in reality it should be me and you versus
(50:04):
this problem. Like we are in battle together, we are
a team. We are supposed to fight this problem, like.
Speaker 3 (50:11):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (50:12):
And I always say, if you want of them game
boy characters and you got to pick your partner, if
it ain't that one, then you really with the wrong person,
because I want to make sure that my partner is
someone that I know we can fight that problem with together.
Speaker 3 (50:25):
And that's just the moral of the story.
Speaker 2 (50:26):
All the cheating, all the other shit, all the little
things that be going on, it's workable if you can
actually just talk shit out and nip it.
Speaker 3 (50:37):
In the bud.
Speaker 2 (50:38):
Yeah, be friends and nip it in the bud before
it becomes an issue. Because a lot of the time
we let things fester and there's things that bother us.
That's why if I'm a relationship, I ask my partner,
is there something that I've done that bothers you haven't
told me about, because I want to know that, because
then if you're letting that fester up and I don't know,
because a lot of the times will be in a
(50:58):
relationship and there's things partner does that bothers us and
they have no idea. They think they're just like cool, chilling,
and it's like, not baby, when you do that, that
irritates the funk out of me.
Speaker 3 (51:09):
I didn't even know that. It's a simple fix.
Speaker 2 (51:11):
I could stop doing that tonight, like, but you never
told me that, so I didn't know it was a problem.
Speaker 3 (51:16):
And that's how a lot of things end up building up,
building up, building up, building up, and then you're like, damn,
I don't even like you no more. You're a weirdo.
We're friends, Yeah, we're friends. Of course we're friends with you.
(51:37):
We're friends. Were locked in.
Speaker 2 (51:42):
At the end of the day. The day is gonna end.
The episode was cool. You was talking a lot of shit.
I don't love it, but I respect it.
Speaker 3 (51:52):
And make sure y'all tune into the omarions. Make sure
that you guys are the pature.
Speaker 2 (51:58):
I'll make sure you guys are subscribe locked in all that,
we got more episodes, more gas coming.
Speaker 1 (52:04):
Man. I appreciate you. I appreciate that your respect our
opinion or not. But sometimes I say things that I feel,
and I say things that I feel, and I say
things that I really feel.
Speaker 2 (52:19):
Yeah, okay, tell me what you.
Speaker 4 (52:23):
Listen, let me tell y'all something. Truth.
Speaker 1 (52:28):
That's my nickname, right, so like, and you know there's
so many things the truth her right, and then this
is my one saying truth sounds like heye when people
hate the truth? You know, man did with that?
Speaker 3 (52:47):
Okay, I heard that. Well, thank you guys so much.
Speaker 1 (53:10):
This is the taking over the game, all right, everybody,
welcome to Truth after Dark.
Speaker 3 (53:23):
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