July 7, 2025 • 41 mins
Have you ever felt you should be "further along" in your healing journey by now? That frustrating sense that despite all your efforts—the books, the therapy, the soul-searching—you're still dealing with the same wounds? This episode offers a profound reframing of what healing truly means and why it unfolds in its own sacred timing.
Healing isn't a straight line from pain to breakthrough. It's a spiral—a sacred spiral that honors the layered nature of trauma and the soul's wisdom. When we align with this truth, everything changes.
Drawing from both spiritual wisdom and trauma-informed approaches, Angela unpacks the six reasons why healing takes time and why that's actually perfect. She explains how trauma stores itself in layers throughout our nervous system, energy body, and even our ancestral lineage. As we gain more safety and capacity, deeper layers become visible—not because we're failing, but because we're ready.
The episode explores how our cultural obsession with timelines and measurable progress creates unnecessary pressure. Your soul isn't concerned with how quickly you heal—it cares about how deeply you embody each lesson. What if you're not behind at all? What if you're exactly where you need to be?
Through moving metaphors like the impatient gardener and the girl who thought she was late to the light, Angela reminds us that healing happens even when it's invisible. The most profound transformations often occur in stillness, in dreams, in the spaces between active work.
Experience a heart-centered activation to help you release the timeline of your mind and honor the pace of your soul. You'll receive a free guided meditation to support your journey whenever that perfectionist part fights against your natural healing rhythm. Stop rushing what needs to ripen—your wholeness is already here, unfolding in divine timing.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to Season 4 of the Undetected Narcissist
Podcast.
Your host, angela Meyer, ishere to bring you clarity if you
are stuck in confusion,self-doubt or feel lost, without
a sense of direction.
This podcast is extremelydifferent because Angela comes
from a place of wisdom,compassion and has been able to
forgive the unforgivable.
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She's a mental healthprofessional, trauma-informed
human consciousness guide andempowerment strategist.
She knows one can't truly healand recover when one is stuck in
hate, anger and fear.
One must rise above it, findmeaning, understanding,
compassion for oneself and thetoxic people within our lives.
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This season is aboutself-empowerment,
self-realizations andtransformation.
There is always a blog postsupporting this information, so
please visitundetectednarcissistcom so get
ready to learn about yourself,others and find a way to truly
live and thrive.
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Once again, enjoy the show.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Hello everyone and welcome back.
Just taking a deep breath,because this is going to be
another deep dive and I thinkyou guys are noticing that
pattern.
I dive really deep in thisseason.
So I'm going to be talkingabout.
Healing happens in layers.
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If you've ever thought why isn'tthis healing working or why am
I still dealing with this, youneed this information.
Have you ever felt like youshould be further along by now,
like you've read the books, donethe work, attended the webinars
and in-person classes, butyou're still hurting, still
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looping, still waiting?
Then this episode is for you.
Let me tell you something I hadto learn the hard way Healing
isn't something you achieve likea goal.
It's something you live through.
So let's flip the script onexpectations.
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What if the healing is workingnot just the way your mind
expects, but the way your soulintended?
This information is for everyhuman who's ever cried out why
is this taking so long?
In a world that prioritizesspeed over depth, convenience
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over connection, a quick fixover true healing, we've been
wired for immediacy, but thesoul oh the soul moves in
spirals, seasons and sacredtiming.
We need to remember how totrust that rhythm again.
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So today I was interviewed on apodcast and the topic of healing
arose.
People get so fixated on thesubject matter and expect
instant results.
There are too many falsebeliefs or expectations around
this subject matter that I couldfeel this episode in my bones.
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What I felt in my bones was thedeep wisdom of my soul and
remembering why it came here.
Therefore, I need to unpack it,because healing is not a
one-time event.
Before I do, I need to giveeveryone a warning, not a dire
warning, just an expected orunanticipated warning expected
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or unanticipated warning when wework on releasing the energetic
, invisible binds, core rootsand childhood memories.
I am issuing this warningbecause yesterday I connected
with a lovely woman I hadinterviewed on my other podcast,
master the Upper Rooms of HumanConsciousness, and we do trades
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and read one another.
Last week I received a hit forher when I posted the episode
how to Forgive the Unforgivable.
I knew she was in the process ofwriting her second book on
forgiveness and Divine Love toldme to send her an email and
suggest she check out thatepisode.
There was a missing link in herbook.
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The solution was to discoverthe why factor.
Well, she listened and did thework on two family members.
To her surprise, the why factorworked at such a profound level
that she fell ill.
She forgot about how it canfeel when we go through the
spiritual detox.
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Some of the symptoms can befeeling tired as their bodies
adjust to the release ofnegative energy, and others feel
energized.
In some cases, individuals mayexperience temporary flu-like
symptoms, such as their bodyreleasing toxins.
It's wild but true.
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Headaches can occur as a resultof the cleansing process,
especially in the initial stages.
Some individuals may feelirritable as they process and
release negative energies.
Some individuals may experiencemood swings as they adjust to
this new energy flow.
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Some individuals may experienceemotional release, such as
crying, as negative emotions arepurged from the system.
A sense of inner peace andmental clarity is often reported
as negative thoughts andenergies are cleared.
The experience of spiritualcleansing can vary from person
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to person.
If you are unsure about theprocess or experience intense
side effects, seek guidance froma spiritual healer or counselor
is recommended.
Why, although this woman is anexpert in the area of
forgiveness and her entirebusiness model revolves around
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forgiveness, we often forgetimportant details about why and
how healing happens in layers.
Because she fell ill, sheremoved some deep and heavy crap
, so when we forget, most peoplewill consult a doctor.
Therefore, she had her bloodtested, a scan because she has a
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history of breast cancer andsome other tests.
Everything was negative and shewas fine.
Then, an hour before talking tome for our trade, she got an
intuitive hit.
It was my fault, she wasfeeling like crap, so she had a
bone to pick with me and shecalled me quote a brat In a
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loving way.
But yes, she forgot about whatit feels like to experience this
spiritual detox.
I explained to her that shepulled out the roots, the last
entanglement, and hold.
Remember seeds blowing in thewind when we are a child and a
parent is toxic, alcoholic, cold, authoritarian, narcissistic,
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abusive in any aspect, such asverbal, physical, psychological,
spiritual or emotional.
We grab onto those seeds andwater them.
They grow roots and createquote dis-ease within the
physical and energetic layers.
When I performed just oneprocess with my son and it
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extracted one of his roots, Iwas unaware that I had pulled
all that energy out of him andinto my body.
When I left the room I wasinformed by divine love that I
needed to purge now and I did.
It was scary and went outsidemy comfort zone.
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I know I had this abilitybecause I've pulled heartache
out of one person once and mychest ached for days.
I know I'm still learning whatI'm comfortable with extracting
from another person.
If you are curious about thatexperience, I created a bonus
material episode a few years agotitled the Empath's Gift
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Healing Trauma Through DivineConnection.
When love removes and heals thedeepest wounds, it's as if I'm
doing my mommy magic.
I decided to be brave and Ibroke all the rules to heal my
son.
So let's move on.
Example of how healing happensin layers.
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Healing happens in layers justlike weight loss.
When we hit a plateau.
We must be patient and allowthe body to adjust to the
changes before we can shed more.
We all know that diets do notwork or give lasting results.
That is why a lifestyle changemust be implemented or you can
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gain all the way back and gain afew extra pounds because you
got stuck in anger,discouragement, frustration,
disappointment and all thosehellish thought patterns and
negative emotions stuck in 3Dconsciousness.
So my intention today is toguide you away from the pressure
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of instant healing and into thesacred rhythm of soul level
transformation.
This episode is here to remindus that the soul is not in a
rush and the human timeline isnot to master.
But it's not the master, it'sthe container.
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Okay, healing unfolds in divinelayers, each one perfectly
timed for embodiment andintegration.
The soul heals in spirals, notstraight lines.
So I will unpack the sixreasons why it takes so long and
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why it's sacred.
Key message Healing is likepeeling an onion or descending
through the strata of the soul.
Each layer reveals a new depth,a new truth and often a new
wound, but also greaterwholeness.
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It's the art of layeredtransformation.
So here we go.
Six reasons healing can take solong.
Number one the illusion of thequick fix Some of you might be
like no, yes.
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Many arrive at healing afterpain has peaked.
They're desperate for relief,which can make the promise of
instant results seductive.
But emotional, generational andsoul level healing takes time,
gentleness and ongoingcommitment.
It reminds me of this metaphorstory of the girl who thought
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she was late to the light.
I want to share it now tosupport everyone today.
Metaphor story the girl whothought she was late to the
light.
There once was a soul who tookon human form, a girl born under
the twilight sky, wrapped instardust and silence.
She came with a mission encodedin her bones to awaken,
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remember and heal.
But as she grew, the worldwhispered deadlines into her
ears, such as you should havehealed by now, you're too old to
start over, or everyone else isahead of you.
She tried to keep up.
She tried to ascend quickly, tobe radiant, to prove she was
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evolving, but the faster she ran, the more lost she felt.
Until one night, under thevelvet sky, she cried out to the
stars I'm too late, aren't I?
I missed it.
The light, the purpose, thetiming.
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And from deep within the cosmicveil, solaraz spoke You're not
late, little one, you arearriving.
The stars shimmered as thevoice continued.
Do you know how long it takesfor our light to reach you.
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Do you know how long it takesfor our light to reach you?
The beams you see tonight begantheir journey millions of years
ago and yet here you are,receiving them, right on time.
Light is never late.
You are not late, dear one.
You are starlight unfolding,measured not in minutes, but in
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miracles.
The girl fell silent.
She looked up at the starsagain, this time not with
urgency, but with awe.
In that moment she could feelit, now that she was, that her
becoming wasn't delayed, it wasdivine.
She didn't miss the light, shewas the light.
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That is when she realized thatshe was still arriving, still
glowing, and everything wasstill perfectly timed.
We put a lot of pressure onourselves.
Have you ever stopped to thinkor question what if you aren't
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behind?
What if the light you carry isonly just now reaching the parts
of you ready to receive it?
I am here to tell you that youare not running out of time.
Time is unfolding through you.
If you've ever whispered to thestars, why is this taking so
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long?
If you've sat in the rubble ofyour healing wondering am I
still broken?
This episode is for you.
We live in a world thatworships instant results and
quick fixes.
But healing, the real kind, thesoul, deep kind healing is
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anything but instant.
It's not a straight line, it'sa spiral, a sacred spiral.
Today I want to walk with youinto the truth of your becoming,
because healing isn't aboutfixing what's broken.
It's about remembering what'swhole.
You're not behind and you'renot stuck.
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In fact, you're right on timein the eyes of your soul.
So, number two, the layerednature of trauma.
Trauma and conditioning doesn'tstore itself all at once.
It's embedded over years, evengenerations.
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That is why and how we cancarry and store up to seven
generations of trauma within ourbodies.
That is about 200 to 400 yearsago.
Think about it.
From 1825 to 1625, people'slives were complicated, so
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complicated, not easy.
Everyone was in survival modeand most people were stuck in 3D
human consciousness survivalmode and most people were stuck
in 3D human consciousness, stuckin fear, greed and suspicious
of another person's intentions.
The world looked bleak for some.
Many were surviving, notthriving in life.
Women were seen as property.
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In 1825, societal expectationsand legal limitations
significantly shaped women'slives, primarily centered around
the role of wives, mothers andhomemakers.
Women were expected to cook,clean, care for children and
perform general household chores.
Yet in 1625, the mindset wasmuch different.
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Women were expected to beobedient and subservient to men.
That was why, in all thoseblack and white photos, people
were not smiling.
There was nothing to smileabout.
I mean.
Talk about black and whitethinking.
Be thankful we do not live in asociety like that.
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Yet some women do, some doenjoy it and others do not.
At least we have more optionsand choices in 2025.
And it was even sociallyacceptable for husbands to abuse
their wives well into the 20thcentury.
Physically, the concept ofdomestic violence is a crime
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requiring intervention and datacollection on a societal scale.
Therefore, back then it was noteven developed.
Yet Again, count your blessings.
We live in better times.
So as we gain more safety,consciousness and capacity, new
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layers become visible.
Not because we're failing, butbecause we're ready.
We live in a world that nolonger wants war, but peace.
We have advanced so much as aspecies that we no longer need
to operate from 3D consciousnessperspective.
Not everything is black andwhite.
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There are areas of gray.
We can't agree to disagree andaccept everyone.
Why healing happens in layers islike peeling the layers of an
onion or unfolding a lotusflower, peeling the layers of an
onion or unfolding a lotusflower.
Even when an archaeologist theymust be patient with his brush,
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he must gently brush each layerby layer.
Another way of looking at it islike slow ice thawing, not
breaking it with a hammer.
You know this truth, my friend.
You're not broken because youstill feel pain.
You're brave because you keepshowing up to meet it.
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Each layer only reveals itselfonce the last one is integrated.
That is why we need to giveourselves grace and patience.
Healing is not a race.
Trauma is stored in both thenervous system and the energy
body.
Therefore, a slow release keepsus safe.
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Trauma is stored in layersemotionally, physically,
spiritually and ancestral.
As we gain more safety andcapacity, deeper layers become
visible.
Healing too much, too fast canoverwhelm the nervous system.
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Therefore, pacing is protectionand let's not forget those
walls we build to protectourselves.
We want to stop building walls,but doorways right.
It reminds me of the image ofan iceberg floating in the ocean
.
We only see the top of it,which is 10% of the size of the
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entire iceberg iceberg.
90% of what remains below thewater is waiting for us to dive
a little deeper each time untilwe finally heal from the
traumatic event.
For example, I was discussingthe concept of the iceberg with
my son.
I said when you first came home, after I lost custody of you
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for eight months, you were fullof rage, sadness and you hated
your father.
You wanted to kill him and youbegan to binge eat to stuff down
those painful emotions.
When you can examine the firstlayer, it was so frozen, solid
and challenging to chip away andlet those painful memories melt
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away.
When your body and nervoussystem adjusted, you were able
to look at those painfulmemories with new eyes and a
different perspective.
It was less intense, but thefire and rage and hate was still
there inside of you.
It took time, as if each timeyou faced the iceberg you
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chipped away that top layer,allowing the water to adjust and
pull the remaining iceberg upto the water's surface, ready
whenever you are to excavatemore.
Right now you are in a placewhere you have compassion,
forgiveness, wisdom,understanding and still love for
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your Father rather than hate.
It has taken us years to gethere, but I am so proud of you
for not giving up on yourselfand life.
You will be a great inspirationto the world once you have
entirely healed yourself at sucha young age.
Then he said this you arecorrect.
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I prayed for God to turn meinto a flower so I could grow,
and he gave me rain.
Wow, I sat in awe of my17-year-old son.
I could have not said it better.
Healing the inner child andfragmented parts.
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When I have done inner childwork or parts therapy with
clients, there are times whenthose wounded parts of them are
on the fence.
We can have several wounded,fragmented parts of ourself
stuck in protection mode sincewe were still in diapers.
They do not know that we areadults and, just like our walls,
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they are still working in thebackground of our subconscious
mind.
It has taken some clients 10,20, 30 times to finally
integrate all those woundedparts into their main
personality.
When those parts are finallyhealed and integrated, the
person feels fantastic.
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They view the world through adifferent lens.
Life is no longer bleak,hopeless or scary, longer bleak,
hopeless or scary.
So number three healing is aspiral, not a straight line.
I know this is not what peoplewant to hear, but you can return
to the same wound years later,but at a deeper level of
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awareness.
What looks like quoteregression is actually a spiral
staircase.
Each descent is a deeperintegration.
Remember the iceberg you mayreturn to the same wound more
than once, but you're not thesame person each time you meet
it, and this is a good thing.
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There is no shame in revisitingold wounds.
I always tell my clients thatyou have healed when you revisit
that wound and there are nomore tears, regrets, sadness or
grief.
That is your proof.
Therefore, revisiting oldwounds is not revisiting an old
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pain set in failure.
It is a deeper integration.
For example, grief, abandonmentand betrayal all have many
emotional threads and timelines.
It reminds me of anothermetaphor story and I promise
this will be the last one thestory of the impatient gardener.
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There once was a gardener wholonged for a beautiful garden,
lush with color, filled withlife and fragrance and peace.
One day she finally planted theseeds seeds of forgiveness,
love and healing.
At first the gardener was fullof hope.
She watered the soil withintention, sat in the sun and
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visualized the blooms.
But after a few days she grewrestless.
She returned to the garden andsaid why aren't you growing?
So she dug into the soil tryingto see the roots.
But the roots were shy andtender, still finding their way
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in the dark.
A few more days passed, stillno sign of growth.
So the gardener pulled the soilapart, trying to hurry the
process with her hands, thinkingmaybe I did it wrong, maybe I
need to fix it or force it.
But the more she interfered,the more it disrupted the sacred
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, unseen work that only timecould nurture.
Eventually, exhausted, thegardener dropped to her knees
and wept.
I just want to see the flowers.
She softly whispered as tearsrolled down her cheeks and the
earth, gentle and ancient,finally spoke.
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Beloved flowers are not proofthat the seed is working.
The roots are.
What you cannot see is stillbecoming.
Your only job is to trust thedark and let life do what life
knows how to do.
So the gardener surrendered.
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She stopped digging and startedlistening.
She began to love the soil asit was and one morning, when she
had nearly forgotten to look,tiny green shoots broke through
the earth, carrying the promisethat everything had been working
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all along.
So this metaphor is a gentlereminder to all of us Healing is
happening, even if you can'tsee it yet.
Don't dig up what you plantedin faith just because the bloom
takes time.
Okay, it's got to take time.
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So, therefore, the spiraljourney revisits the same theme
at deeper levels.
What looks like a setback isusually a soul check-in.
Are you ready to hold thiswound with more love?
That might be what exactly yoursoul is asking you.
Can you hold this wound withmore love?
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So stop thinking that you arespinning your wheels, getting
nowhere.
Stop thinking that you arespinning your wheels getting
nowhere.
You're not going in circles,you're spiraling upward.
It reminds me of this quote,and I do not know who said it.
But here we go.
I used to think I was backwhere I started, until I
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realized I was meeting the samewound with a wiser heart.
Another way to think of thisconcept is a spiral staircase,
or a snake shedding its skin, oreven the moon cycles.
Linear healing, the myth most ofus were sold.
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Linear healing says if I dothis once, it should be over.
If I've forgiven them, Ishouldn't feel anger again.
If I've already done therapy,why is this still coming up?
Healing should be a straightline from pain Break through
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peace.
This is why linear thinking isthe product of the ego and
cultural conditioning.
It loves checklists, timelinesand completion.
It seeks control.
It's terrified of repetitionbecause it confuses repetition
with failure.
But the soul doesn't work thisway, neither does nature grief
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or love.
Spiral healing is the soul'spattern of evolution.
Spiral healing understands thatyou return to the same wound
more than once, but with neweyes, a softer heart and deeper.
Each time a wound resurfaces,it's not repeating, it's
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revealing a new layer ready forintegration.
The spiral doesn't loop back inshame, it spirals upward in
wisdom.
Visualize this You're walkingup a staircase in a lighthouse.
One may pass the same windowrepeatedly, but you're on a
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higher floor.
Each time you see more of thelandscape.
In fact you are rising, even ifthe scenery looks familiar.
Number four the soul's journeyinside a human body.
Now, some people might thinkthis is woo-woo stuff, but I
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hope this information willdispel all that.
Your soul came here knowing thehuman experience would feel
slow, could be and would bemessy, in fact even emotional.
But it also knew this is wherethe most profound healing can
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happen.
Healing isn't just for thehuman, it's for the soul's
evolution.
The soul uses human time framesto integrate ancient pain,
karmic cycles and soul contracts.
The body is the soul's mirrorand container.
So healing must work throughboth.
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Your soul didn't come here tobypass pain, it came to
alchemize it into wisdom.
It came to alchemize it intowisdom.
The body is slow on purposebecause it's a container for the
infinite.
The soul chooses to healthrough density because density
brings death.
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The soul does not rush, itwaits until the heart is soft
enough to receive what the mindcannot yet comprehend.
Remember in the blog post andepisode Grace Through Acceptance
, about the river.
Just imagine right now a largeriver flowing through a narrow
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canyon, steady, powerful andshaped by time.
We are all shaped by time andits journey.
Number five the soul has nodeadline.
I want to remove and releasethe urgency, pressure and shame,
surrounded by healing timeline.
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The mind loves goals.
The soul lives in seasons.
Divine timing is not punishment, it's orchestration.
Comparison is the ego's way oftrying to control a soul level
process.
Let's reframe this limitingbelief or concept.
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You're not behind, you'rebecoming A metaphor, for looking
at it is to imagine seedsunderground.
We set conditions for the seedsto bloom and we know we cannot
do this when the weather outsidedisplays a different reality.
I mean, let's be honest, youdon't plant seeds in the winter.
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Just because you can't seegrowth doesn't mean it isn't
happening.
And let's think about the mooncycles.
The moon never hurries throughher phases.
Each one is sacred, completeand right on time.
And let's talk about galactictime.
Stars take millions of years toform, but no one doubts their
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beauty.
The human obsession is with time.
We, as humans, are taught frombirth to remember life by time.
How fast can you walk, talk,walk, talk, succeed.
By what age should you marry,heal, have children and find
your purpose?
If you're still struggling at30, 40, 50, there must be
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something wrong with you.
Those are just all horrible,horrible.
I have to pause.
This conditioning createsinternal pressure, a haunting
sense that we're late, behind,failing.
But that pressure isn't comingfrom the soul.
It's coming from the ego, themind and the inherited belief
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systems of a time-obsessed world.
That is why the illusion ofbeing late or behind causes so
much unnecessary pain and grief.
It's like automatically settingourselves up for failure and
disappointment.
The truth is there is nouniversal timeline for healing.
There is no universal timelinefor healing, love, purpose or
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awakening.
Your journey is yours alone.
You're not behind, you arebecoming.
Even the detours are part ofthe design.
When you stop comparing yourjourney to others, you remember
who you truly are.
I invite you to say this outloud I am not late, I am on soul
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time.
There is no rush where love isinvolved.
The fruit ripens when it'sready, and so do I.
My soul doesn't measure success.
It remembers wholeness, feel.
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That that's truth.
The soul is timeless by nature.
The soul doesn't count days.
It measures experience bygrowth, love, resonance and
remembrance.
The soul says what's the rush?
You are eternal.
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It's not about how fast youheal, it's about how deeply you
embody.
Even if it takes lifetimes,that's okay, I'm here for all of
it.
Can you sense or feel thewisdom, love, patience and
compassion your soul has for you?
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Struggling is this humancontainer.
This human container.
When we slow down to the rhythmof the soul, we enter divine
timing, where things unfold notby force but by readiness,
frequency and grace.
Think of a caterpillar.
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The caterpillar is never lateto become the butterfly.
You've never seen a flowerscold itself for blooming late
or a caterpillar panic, becauseit's not a butterfly yet.
That panic only exists in thehuman mind.
The soul trusts the process,because the soul is the process.
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Why this healing matters iswhen you believe you're behind
you rush what needs to ripen.
You judge others for grievingtoo long.
We feel ashamed for needingmore time, rest, space and
support.
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But when we trust.
There's no deadline.
We soften, we listen to ourbodies instead of bullying it.
We let ourselves unfold insteadof trying to achieve healing
like a trophy Number six, aloving reframe.
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What if it's already working?
Since this is the last topic, Iwant to anchor in hope, trust
and the unseen process andprogress some listeners are
already making.
Healing always doesn't look likepeace.
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It sometimes looks like rage,grief, fatigue.
I know it sounds crazy, butit's true.
Let's give you an example.
I thought I had releasedentirely a specific trauma
memory, which I removed from myblog post because I didn't want
to make this episode so long.
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Yet, when I was making the bedwith my husband, I broke down in
tears.
What hurt me the most was theintentional act of cruelty and
contempt towards me.
Hurt people, hurt people, evenkind and caring people like me,
why they get a sick satisfactionof making another person suffer
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.
So my tears were a gentlereminder that I still have
another layer to work on withinmyself.
Maybe that is why I felt thistopic deep inside my bones,
calling me back home to free mysoul.
Therefore, what we feel isproof we're alive, open and
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becoming.
The shift often happens silently, in dreams, stillness and in
breath.
Your soul whispers softly.
You are healing every time youchoose softness over shame,
stillness over urgency, presenceover performance.
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If your healing is an instant,it doesn't mean you're doing it
wrong.
It means your soul is doing itright.
Remember this truth.
You are healing, even if it'sinvisible, the unseen healing
that happens in rest, grief, joyand in integration.
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So I wanted to do a ClosingHeart Center activation.
I know this is a deep conceptand I do go deep.
There is a part of me thatlikes to be transparent, raw and
real, and that is why I touchon subjects people don't talk
about and need to talk about.
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Therefore, before you move on,I want to activate this truth
within your heart and soul.
Place your hand over your heart, close your eyes, if you can,
and whisper to yourself like youare speaking to the most
ancient part of you.
I honor the pace of my soul Inmy own way.
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I release the timeline of mymind.
I trust the spiral.
I am in, even if it looks likeI'm circling back.
I am rising, for I amremembering and I am healing the
layers of light and I amalready whole.
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Yes, I trust the spiral and Ihonor the layers.
I am whole, breathe that in,let it land.
Let your soul know you arelistening now and that is more
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than enough.
Since this is such a deep andtroubling subject matter that
many of us struggle with, I wantto give everyone a gift.
Yep, I have created a guidedmeditation called I Trust the
Spiral, a soul meditation fordivine timing and deep healing.
Listen as often as you like andwhen you feel it calling to you
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, because that perfectionist,that perfectionist part of you
is fighting against your healingjourney.
So until next time, and loveand light.
Kerry logan, angela meyer, bye.
Welcome to Season 4 of the Undetected Narcissist
Podcast.
Your host, angela Meyer, ishere to bring you clarity if you
are stuck in confusion,self-doubt or feel lost, without
a sense of direction.
This podcast is extremelydifferent because Angela comes
from a place of wisdom,compassion and has been able to
forgive the unforgivable.
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She's a mental healthprofessional, trauma-informed
human consciousness guide andempowerment strategist.
She knows one can't truly healand recover when one is stuck in
hate, anger and fear.
One must rise above it, findmeaning, understanding,
compassion for oneself and thetoxic people within our lives.
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self-realizations andtransformation.
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Once again, enjoy the show.
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Hello everyone and welcome back.
Just taking a deep breath,because this is going to be
another deep dive and I thinkyou guys are noticing that
pattern.
I dive really deep in thisseason.
So I'm going to be talkingabout.
Healing happens in layers.
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If you've ever thought why isn'tthis healing working or why am
I still dealing with this, youneed this information.
Have you ever felt like youshould be further along by now,
like you've read the books, donethe work, attended the webinars
and in-person classes, butyou're still hurting, still
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looping, still waiting?
Then this episode is for you.
Let me tell you something I hadto learn the hard way Healing
isn't something you achieve likea goal.
It's something you live through.
So let's flip the script onexpectations.
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What if the healing is workingnot just the way your mind
expects, but the way your soulintended?
This information is for everyhuman who's ever cried out why
is this taking so long?
In a world that prioritizesspeed over depth, convenience
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over connection, a quick fixover true healing, we've been
wired for immediacy, but thesoul oh the soul moves in
spirals, seasons and sacredtiming.
We need to remember how totrust that rhythm again.
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So today I was interviewed on apodcast and the topic of healing
arose.
People get so fixated on thesubject matter and expect
instant results.
There are too many falsebeliefs or expectations around
this subject matter that I couldfeel this episode in my bones.
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What I felt in my bones was thedeep wisdom of my soul and
remembering why it came here.
Therefore, I need to unpack it,because healing is not a
one-time event.
Before I do, I need to giveeveryone a warning, not a dire
warning, just an expected orunanticipated warning expected
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or unanticipated warning when wework on releasing the energetic
, invisible binds, core rootsand childhood memories.
I am issuing this warningbecause yesterday I connected
with a lovely woman I hadinterviewed on my other podcast,
master the Upper Rooms of HumanConsciousness, and we do trades
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and read one another.
Last week I received a hit forher when I posted the episode
how to Forgive the Unforgivable.
I knew she was in the process ofwriting her second book on
forgiveness and Divine Love toldme to send her an email and
suggest she check out thatepisode.
There was a missing link in herbook.
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The solution was to discoverthe why factor.
Well, she listened and did thework on two family members.
To her surprise, the why factorworked at such a profound level
that she fell ill.
She forgot about how it canfeel when we go through the
spiritual detox.
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Some of the symptoms can befeeling tired as their bodies
adjust to the release ofnegative energy, and others feel
energized.
In some cases, individuals mayexperience temporary flu-like
symptoms, such as their bodyreleasing toxins.
It's wild but true.
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Headaches can occur as a resultof the cleansing process,
especially in the initial stages.
Some individuals may feelirritable as they process and
release negative energies.
Some individuals may experiencemood swings as they adjust to
this new energy flow.
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Some individuals may experienceemotional release, such as
crying, as negative emotions arepurged from the system.
A sense of inner peace andmental clarity is often reported
as negative thoughts andenergies are cleared.
The experience of spiritualcleansing can vary from person
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to person.
If you are unsure about theprocess or experience intense
side effects, seek guidance froma spiritual healer or counselor
is recommended.
Why, although this woman is anexpert in the area of
forgiveness and her entirebusiness model revolves around
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forgiveness, we often forgetimportant details about why and
how healing happens in layers.
Because she fell ill, sheremoved some deep and heavy crap
, so when we forget, most peoplewill consult a doctor.
Therefore, she had her bloodtested, a scan because she has a
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history of breast cancer andsome other tests.
Everything was negative and shewas fine.
Then, an hour before talking tome for our trade, she got an
intuitive hit.
It was my fault, she wasfeeling like crap, so she had a
bone to pick with me and shecalled me quote a brat In a
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loving way.
But yes, she forgot about whatit feels like to experience this
spiritual detox.
I explained to her that shepulled out the roots, the last
entanglement, and hold.
Remember seeds blowing in thewind when we are a child and a
parent is toxic, alcoholic, cold, authoritarian, narcissistic,
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abusive in any aspect, such asverbal, physical, psychological,
spiritual or emotional.
We grab onto those seeds andwater them.
They grow roots and createquote dis-ease within the
physical and energetic layers.
When I performed just oneprocess with my son and it
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extracted one of his roots, Iwas unaware that I had pulled
all that energy out of him andinto my body.
When I left the room I wasinformed by divine love that I
needed to purge now and I did.
It was scary and went outsidemy comfort zone.
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I know I had this abilitybecause I've pulled heartache
out of one person once and mychest ached for days.
I know I'm still learning whatI'm comfortable with extracting
from another person.
If you are curious about thatexperience, I created a bonus
material episode a few years agotitled the Empath's Gift
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Healing Trauma Through DivineConnection.
When love removes and heals thedeepest wounds, it's as if I'm
doing my mommy magic.
I decided to be brave and Ibroke all the rules to heal my
son.
So let's move on.
Example of how healing happensin layers.
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Healing happens in layers justlike weight loss.
When we hit a plateau.
We must be patient and allowthe body to adjust to the
changes before we can shed more.
We all know that diets do notwork or give lasting results.
That is why a lifestyle changemust be implemented or you can
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gain all the way back and gain afew extra pounds because you
got stuck in anger,discouragement, frustration,
disappointment and all thosehellish thought patterns and
negative emotions stuck in 3Dconsciousness.
So my intention today is toguide you away from the pressure
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of instant healing and into thesacred rhythm of soul level
transformation.
This episode is here to remindus that the soul is not in a
rush and the human timeline isnot to master.
But it's not the master, it'sthe container.
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Okay, healing unfolds in divinelayers, each one perfectly
timed for embodiment andintegration.
The soul heals in spirals, notstraight lines.
So I will unpack the sixreasons why it takes so long and
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why it's sacred.
Key message Healing is likepeeling an onion or descending
through the strata of the soul.
Each layer reveals a new depth,a new truth and often a new
wound, but also greaterwholeness.
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It's the art of layeredtransformation.
So here we go.
Six reasons healing can take solong.
Number one the illusion of thequick fix Some of you might be
like no, yes.
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Many arrive at healing afterpain has peaked.
They're desperate for relief,which can make the promise of
instant results seductive.
But emotional, generational andsoul level healing takes time,
gentleness and ongoingcommitment.
It reminds me of this metaphorstory of the girl who thought
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she was late to the light.
I want to share it now tosupport everyone today.
Metaphor story the girl whothought she was late to the
light.
There once was a soul who tookon human form, a girl born under
the twilight sky, wrapped instardust and silence.
She came with a mission encodedin her bones to awaken,
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remember and heal.
But as she grew, the worldwhispered deadlines into her
ears, such as you should havehealed by now, you're too old to
start over, or everyone else isahead of you.
She tried to keep up.
She tried to ascend quickly, tobe radiant, to prove she was
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evolving, but the faster she ran, the more lost she felt.
Until one night, under thevelvet sky, she cried out to the
stars I'm too late, aren't I?
I missed it.
The light, the purpose, thetiming.
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And from deep within the cosmicveil, solaraz spoke You're not
late, little one, you arearriving.
The stars shimmered as thevoice continued.
Do you know how long it takesfor our light to reach you.
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Do you know how long it takesfor our light to reach you?
The beams you see tonight begantheir journey millions of years
ago and yet here you are,receiving them, right on time.
Light is never late.
You are not late, dear one.
You are starlight unfolding,measured not in minutes, but in
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miracles.
The girl fell silent.
She looked up at the starsagain, this time not with
urgency, but with awe.
In that moment she could feelit, now that she was, that her
becoming wasn't delayed, it wasdivine.
She didn't miss the light, shewas the light.
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That is when she realized thatshe was still arriving, still
glowing, and everything wasstill perfectly timed.
We put a lot of pressure onourselves.
Have you ever stopped to thinkor question what if you aren't
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behind?
What if the light you carry isonly just now reaching the parts
of you ready to receive it?
I am here to tell you that youare not running out of time.
Time is unfolding through you.
If you've ever whispered to thestars, why is this taking so
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long?
If you've sat in the rubble ofyour healing wondering am I
still broken?
This episode is for you.
We live in a world thatworships instant results and
quick fixes.
But healing, the real kind, thesoul, deep kind healing is
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anything but instant.
It's not a straight line, it'sa spiral, a sacred spiral.
Today I want to walk with youinto the truth of your becoming,
because healing isn't aboutfixing what's broken.
It's about remembering what'swhole.
You're not behind and you'renot stuck.
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In fact, you're right on timein the eyes of your soul.
So, number two, the layerednature of trauma.
Trauma and conditioning doesn'tstore itself all at once.
It's embedded over years, evengenerations.
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That is why and how we cancarry and store up to seven
generations of trauma within ourbodies.
That is about 200 to 400 yearsago.
Think about it.
From 1825 to 1625, people'slives were complicated, so
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complicated, not easy.
Everyone was in survival modeand most people were stuck in 3D
human consciousness survivalmode and most people were stuck
in 3D human consciousness, stuckin fear, greed and suspicious
of another person's intentions.
The world looked bleak for some.
Many were surviving, notthriving in life.
Women were seen as property.
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In 1825, societal expectationsand legal limitations
significantly shaped women'slives, primarily centered around
the role of wives, mothers andhomemakers.
Women were expected to cook,clean, care for children and
perform general household chores.
Yet in 1625, the mindset wasmuch different.
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Women were expected to beobedient and subservient to men.
That was why, in all thoseblack and white photos, people
were not smiling.
There was nothing to smileabout.
I mean.
Talk about black and whitethinking.
Be thankful we do not live in asociety like that.
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Yet some women do, some doenjoy it and others do not.
At least we have more optionsand choices in 2025.
And it was even sociallyacceptable for husbands to abuse
their wives well into the 20thcentury.
Physically, the concept ofdomestic violence is a crime
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requiring intervention and datacollection on a societal scale.
Therefore, back then it was noteven developed.
Yet Again, count your blessings.
We live in better times.
So as we gain more safety,consciousness and capacity, new
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layers become visible.
Not because we're failing, butbecause we're ready.
We live in a world that nolonger wants war, but peace.
We have advanced so much as aspecies that we no longer need
to operate from 3D consciousnessperspective.
Not everything is black andwhite.
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There are areas of gray.
We can't agree to disagree andaccept everyone.
Why healing happens in layers islike peeling the layers of an
onion or unfolding a lotusflower, peeling the layers of an
onion or unfolding a lotusflower.
Even when an archaeologist theymust be patient with his brush,
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he must gently brush each layerby layer.
Another way of looking at it islike slow ice thawing, not
breaking it with a hammer.
You know this truth, my friend.
You're not broken because youstill feel pain.
You're brave because you keepshowing up to meet it.
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Each layer only reveals itselfonce the last one is integrated.
That is why we need to giveourselves grace and patience.
Healing is not a race.
Trauma is stored in both thenervous system and the energy
body.
Therefore, a slow release keepsus safe.
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Trauma is stored in layersemotionally, physically,
spiritually and ancestral.
As we gain more safety andcapacity, deeper layers become
visible.
Healing too much, too fast canoverwhelm the nervous system.
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Therefore, pacing is protectionand let's not forget those
walls we build to protectourselves.
We want to stop building walls,but doorways right.
It reminds me of the image ofan iceberg floating in the ocean
.
We only see the top of it,which is 10% of the size of the
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entire iceberg iceberg.
90% of what remains below thewater is waiting for us to dive
a little deeper each time untilwe finally heal from the
traumatic event.
For example, I was discussingthe concept of the iceberg with
my son.
I said when you first came home, after I lost custody of you
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for eight months, you were fullof rage, sadness and you hated
your father.
You wanted to kill him and youbegan to binge eat to stuff down
those painful emotions.
When you can examine the firstlayer, it was so frozen, solid
and challenging to chip away andlet those painful memories melt
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away.
When your body and nervoussystem adjusted, you were able
to look at those painfulmemories with new eyes and a
different perspective.
It was less intense, but thefire and rage and hate was still
there inside of you.
It took time, as if each timeyou faced the iceberg you
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chipped away that top layer,allowing the water to adjust and
pull the remaining iceberg upto the water's surface, ready
whenever you are to excavatemore.
Right now you are in a placewhere you have compassion,
forgiveness, wisdom,understanding and still love for
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your Father rather than hate.
It has taken us years to gethere, but I am so proud of you
for not giving up on yourselfand life.
You will be a great inspirationto the world once you have
entirely healed yourself at sucha young age.
Then he said this you arecorrect.
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I prayed for God to turn meinto a flower so I could grow,
and he gave me rain.
Wow, I sat in awe of my17-year-old son.
I could have not said it better.
Healing the inner child andfragmented parts.
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When I have done inner childwork or parts therapy with
clients, there are times whenthose wounded parts of them are
on the fence.
We can have several wounded,fragmented parts of ourself
stuck in protection mode sincewe were still in diapers.
They do not know that we areadults and, just like our walls,
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they are still working in thebackground of our subconscious
mind.
It has taken some clients 10,20, 30 times to finally
integrate all those woundedparts into their main
personality.
When those parts are finallyhealed and integrated, the
person feels fantastic.
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They view the world through adifferent lens.
Life is no longer bleak,hopeless or scary, longer bleak,
hopeless or scary.
So number three healing is aspiral, not a straight line.
I know this is not what peoplewant to hear, but you can return
to the same wound years later,but at a deeper level of
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awareness.
What looks like quoteregression is actually a spiral
staircase.
Each descent is a deeperintegration.
Remember the iceberg you mayreturn to the same wound more
than once, but you're not thesame person each time you meet
it, and this is a good thing.
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There is no shame in revisitingold wounds.
I always tell my clients thatyou have healed when you revisit
that wound and there are nomore tears, regrets, sadness or
grief.
That is your proof.
Therefore, revisiting oldwounds is not revisiting an old
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pain set in failure.
It is a deeper integration.
For example, grief, abandonmentand betrayal all have many
emotional threads and timelines.
It reminds me of anothermetaphor story and I promise
this will be the last one thestory of the impatient gardener.
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There once was a gardener wholonged for a beautiful garden,
lush with color, filled withlife and fragrance and peace.
One day she finally planted theseeds seeds of forgiveness,
love and healing.
At first the gardener was fullof hope.
She watered the soil withintention, sat in the sun and
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visualized the blooms.
But after a few days she grewrestless.
She returned to the garden andsaid why aren't you growing?
So she dug into the soil tryingto see the roots.
But the roots were shy andtender, still finding their way
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in the dark.
A few more days passed, stillno sign of growth.
So the gardener pulled the soilapart, trying to hurry the
process with her hands, thinkingmaybe I did it wrong, maybe I
need to fix it or force it.
But the more she interfered,the more it disrupted the sacred
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, unseen work that only timecould nurture.
Eventually, exhausted, thegardener dropped to her knees
and wept.
I just want to see the flowers.
She softly whispered as tearsrolled down her cheeks and the
earth, gentle and ancient,finally spoke.
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Beloved flowers are not proofthat the seed is working.
The roots are.
What you cannot see is stillbecoming.
Your only job is to trust thedark and let life do what life
knows how to do.
So the gardener surrendered.
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She stopped digging and startedlistening.
She began to love the soil asit was and one morning, when she
had nearly forgotten to look,tiny green shoots broke through
the earth, carrying the promisethat everything had been working
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all along.
So this metaphor is a gentlereminder to all of us Healing is
happening, even if you can'tsee it yet.
Don't dig up what you plantedin faith just because the bloom
takes time.
Okay, it's got to take time.
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So, therefore, the spiraljourney revisits the same theme
at deeper levels.
What looks like a setback isusually a soul check-in.
Are you ready to hold thiswound with more love?
That might be what exactly yoursoul is asking you.
Can you hold this wound withmore love?
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So stop thinking that you arespinning your wheels, getting
nowhere.
Stop thinking that you arespinning your wheels getting
nowhere.
You're not going in circles,you're spiraling upward.
It reminds me of this quote,and I do not know who said it.
But here we go.
I used to think I was backwhere I started, until I
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realized I was meeting the samewound with a wiser heart.
Another way to think of thisconcept is a spiral staircase,
or a snake shedding its skin, oreven the moon cycles.
Linear healing, the myth most ofus were sold.
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Linear healing says if I dothis once, it should be over.
If I've forgiven them, Ishouldn't feel anger again.
If I've already done therapy,why is this still coming up?
Healing should be a straightline from pain Break through
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peace.
This is why linear thinking isthe product of the ego and
cultural conditioning.
It loves checklists, timelinesand completion.
It seeks control.
It's terrified of repetitionbecause it confuses repetition
with failure.
But the soul doesn't work thisway, neither does nature grief
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or love.
Spiral healing is the soul'spattern of evolution.
Spiral healing understands thatyou return to the same wound
more than once, but with neweyes, a softer heart and deeper.
Each time a wound resurfaces,it's not repeating, it's
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revealing a new layer ready forintegration.
The spiral doesn't loop back inshame, it spirals upward in
wisdom.
Visualize this You're walkingup a staircase in a lighthouse.
One may pass the same windowrepeatedly, but you're on a
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higher floor.
Each time you see more of thelandscape.
In fact you are rising, even ifthe scenery looks familiar.
Number four the soul's journeyinside a human body.
Now, some people might thinkthis is woo-woo stuff, but I
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hope this information willdispel all that.
Your soul came here knowing thehuman experience would feel
slow, could be and would bemessy, in fact even emotional.
But it also knew this is wherethe most profound healing can
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happen.
Healing isn't just for thehuman, it's for the soul's
evolution.
The soul uses human time framesto integrate ancient pain,
karmic cycles and soul contracts.
The body is the soul's mirrorand container.
So healing must work throughboth.
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Your soul didn't come here tobypass pain, it came to
alchemize it into wisdom.
It came to alchemize it intowisdom.
The body is slow on purposebecause it's a container for the
infinite.
The soul chooses to healthrough density because density
brings death.
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The soul does not rush, itwaits until the heart is soft
enough to receive what the mindcannot yet comprehend.
Remember in the blog post andepisode Grace Through Acceptance
, about the river.
Just imagine right now a largeriver flowing through a narrow
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canyon, steady, powerful andshaped by time.
We are all shaped by time andits journey.
Number five the soul has nodeadline.
I want to remove and releasethe urgency, pressure and shame,
surrounded by healing timeline.
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The mind loves goals.
The soul lives in seasons.
Divine timing is not punishment, it's orchestration.
Comparison is the ego's way oftrying to control a soul level
process.
Let's reframe this limitingbelief or concept.
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You're not behind, you'rebecoming A metaphor, for looking
at it is to imagine seedsunderground.
We set conditions for the seedsto bloom and we know we cannot
do this when the weather outsidedisplays a different reality.
I mean, let's be honest, youdon't plant seeds in the winter.
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Just because you can't seegrowth doesn't mean it isn't
happening.
And let's think about the mooncycles.
The moon never hurries throughher phases.
Each one is sacred, completeand right on time.
And let's talk about galactictime.
Stars take millions of years toform, but no one doubts their
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beauty.
The human obsession is with time.
We, as humans, are taught frombirth to remember life by time.
How fast can you walk, talk,walk, talk, succeed.
By what age should you marry,heal, have children and find
your purpose?
If you're still struggling at30, 40, 50, there must be
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something wrong with you.
Those are just all horrible,horrible.
I have to pause.
This conditioning createsinternal pressure, a haunting
sense that we're late, behind,failing.
But that pressure isn't comingfrom the soul.
It's coming from the ego, themind and the inherited belief
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systems of a time-obsessed world.
That is why the illusion ofbeing late or behind causes so
much unnecessary pain and grief.
It's like automatically settingourselves up for failure and
disappointment.
The truth is there is nouniversal timeline for healing.
There is no universal timelinefor healing, love, purpose or
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awakening.
Your journey is yours alone.
You're not behind, you arebecoming.
Even the detours are part ofthe design.
When you stop comparing yourjourney to others, you remember
who you truly are.
I invite you to say this outloud I am not late, I am on soul
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time.
There is no rush where love isinvolved.
The fruit ripens when it'sready, and so do I.
My soul doesn't measure success.
It remembers wholeness, feel.
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That that's truth.
The soul is timeless by nature.
The soul doesn't count days.
It measures experience bygrowth, love, resonance and
remembrance.
The soul says what's the rush?
You are eternal.
(35:16):
It's not about how fast youheal, it's about how deeply you
embody.
Even if it takes lifetimes,that's okay, I'm here for all of
it.
Can you sense or feel thewisdom, love, patience and
compassion your soul has for you?
(35:38):
Struggling is this humancontainer.
This human container.
When we slow down to the rhythmof the soul, we enter divine
timing, where things unfold notby force but by readiness,
frequency and grace.
Think of a caterpillar.
(36:01):
The caterpillar is never lateto become the butterfly.
You've never seen a flowerscold itself for blooming late
or a caterpillar panic, becauseit's not a butterfly yet.
That panic only exists in thehuman mind.
The soul trusts the process,because the soul is the process.
(36:25):
Why this healing matters iswhen you believe you're behind
you rush what needs to ripen.
You judge others for grievingtoo long.
We feel ashamed for needingmore time, rest, space and
support.
(36:45):
But when we trust.
There's no deadline.
We soften, we listen to ourbodies instead of bullying it.
We let ourselves unfold insteadof trying to achieve healing
like a trophy Number six, aloving reframe.
(37:05):
What if it's already working?
Since this is the last topic, Iwant to anchor in hope, trust
and the unseen process andprogress some listeners are
already making.
Healing always doesn't look likepeace.
(37:27):
It sometimes looks like rage,grief, fatigue.
I know it sounds crazy, butit's true.
Let's give you an example.
I thought I had releasedentirely a specific trauma
memory, which I removed from myblog post because I didn't want
to make this episode so long.
(37:48):
Yet, when I was making the bedwith my husband, I broke down in
tears.
What hurt me the most was theintentional act of cruelty and
contempt towards me.
Hurt people, hurt people, evenkind and caring people like me,
why they get a sick satisfactionof making another person suffer
(38:09):
.
So my tears were a gentlereminder that I still have
another layer to work on withinmyself.
Maybe that is why I felt thistopic deep inside my bones,
calling me back home to free mysoul.
Therefore, what we feel isproof we're alive, open and
(38:30):
becoming.
The shift often happens silently, in dreams, stillness and in
breath.
Your soul whispers softly.
You are healing every time youchoose softness over shame,
stillness over urgency, presenceover performance.
(38:51):
If your healing is an instant,it doesn't mean you're doing it
wrong.
It means your soul is doing itright.
Remember this truth.
You are healing, even if it'sinvisible, the unseen healing
that happens in rest, grief, joyand in integration.
(39:12):
So I wanted to do a ClosingHeart Center activation.
I know this is a deep conceptand I do go deep.
There is a part of me thatlikes to be transparent, raw and
real, and that is why I touchon subjects people don't talk
about and need to talk about.
(39:33):
Therefore, before you move on,I want to activate this truth
within your heart and soul.
Place your hand over your heart, close your eyes, if you can,
and whisper to yourself like youare speaking to the most
ancient part of you.
I honor the pace of my soul Inmy own way.
(39:57):
I release the timeline of mymind.
I trust the spiral.
I am in, even if it looks likeI'm circling back.
I am rising, for I amremembering and I am healing the
layers of light and I amalready whole.
(40:20):
Yes, I trust the spiral and Ihonor the layers.
I am whole, breathe that in,let it land.
Let your soul know you arelistening now and that is more
(40:41):
than enough.
Since this is such a deep andtroubling subject matter that
many of us struggle with, I wantto give everyone a gift.
Yep, I have created a guidedmeditation called I Trust the
Spiral, a soul meditation fordivine timing and deep healing.
Listen as often as you like andwhen you feel it calling to you
(41:04):
, because that perfectionist,that perfectionist part of you
is fighting against your healingjourney.
So until next time, and loveand light.
Kerry logan, angela meyer, bye.
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