June 16, 2025 • 43 mins
Have you ever wondered why forgiving someone who deeply wounded you feels almost impossible—even when you know it's supposed to be "for you, not them"? In this transformative episode, Angela Meyer tackles the challenging spiritual terrain of forgiving the unforgivable with wisdom born from personal experience.
Drawing from her 20+ years in mental health and her own journey of healing from profound trauma, Angela shares why true forgiveness requires divine strength, not just human willpower. Through the powerful metaphor of a stream becoming clogged with the debris of resentment and pain, she illustrates how unforgiveness creates energetic blockages that eventually manifest as stagnation in our lives and even physical illness.
The heart of this episode unveils Angela's nine insights for approaching seemingly unforgivable situations, including the understanding that true forgiveness happens through the soul, not the mind. Her innovative forgiveness technique incorporates what she calls "the why factor"—addressing the deeper reasons behind our pain stories and finding compassion for those who hurt us by recognizing their own wounded childhoods.
Most powerfully, Angela reveals how to know when you've truly forgiven: when you think of the person who hurt you and feel neutral rather than triggered, when their actions no longer define your story, and when you've reclaimed your energy from the past. Through the moving teaching story of "The Woman and the Snake," she leaves listeners with a profound truth—the unforgivable act may never be made right, but your soul doesn't need their apology to be free.
Ready to release old wounds and reclaim your energy? Visit undetectednarcissist.com for the accompanying blog post and free meditation to support your forgiveness journey. Remember: forgiveness isn't a gift you give to the person who hurt you; it's a gift you give to the soul you're becoming.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Welcome to Season 4 of the Undetected Narcissist
Podcast.
Your host, angela Meyer, ishere to bring you clarity if you
are stuck in confusion,self-doubt or feel lost, without
a sense of direction.
This podcast is extremelydifferent because Angela comes
from a place of wisdom,compassion and has been able to
forgive the unforgivable.
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She's a mental healthprofessional, trauma-informed
human consciousness guide andempowerment strategist.
She knows one can't truly healand recover when one is stuck in
hate, anger and fear.
One must rise above it, findmeaning, understanding,
compassion for oneself and thetoxic people within our lives.
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This season is aboutself-empowerment,
self-realizations andtransformation.
There is always a blog postsupporting this information, so
please visitundetectednarcissistcom so get
ready to learn about yourself,others and find a way to truly
live and thrive.
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Once again, enjoy the show.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Hello everyone and welcome back to the Undetected
Narcissist.
I want everyone to buckle intoday because this is a hot
topic how to forgive theunforgivable.
So one day a friend waschatting and forgiveness came up
.
We both agreed that forgivenessand being able to forgive the
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unforgivable is almost the mostchallenging steps in mastering
one's human consciousness.
We all have heard thatforgiveness is not for the other
person but for you.
So why should that be so hard?
If it's a gift you're giving toyourself?
I believe it's our pride andego there can be a part of us
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that wants them to suffer and goto hell.
Yet in my 20 plus years in themental health field and all that
I have learned, I know in myheart and soul that finding a
way to forgive the unforgivableis essential.
And in fact, two books stoodout to me reminding me of the
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why the true power Power ofWater by Mr Emoto, and the
Secret Language of Our Body byMrs Siegel.
Our thoughts and emotions haveso much power and energy.
If our thoughts and feelingscan turn water into either toxic
or healing properties, what canour thoughts and emotions do
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for us?
I mean, after all, we areenergetic beings who are having
a human experience, not viceversa.
Our spirit or soul is unbiased,yet the ego is biased.
The ego wants to judge andneeds proof of why one should
not forgive.
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The spirit and soul do not,because they recognize and
understand from a spiritualperspective that this person who
deeply wounded you is yourteacher for you in this lifetime
.
That is why I say certainpeople who are no longer in my
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life were my greatest teachers.
After all, jesus tried to teachus this truth when he was on
the cross.
He had to find forgivenessbecause it would free his soul
and the sins of others.
So let me explain myperspective.
I have learned that karmastarts to unravel on an
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energetic level when we trulyforgive the unforgivable,
because now the karmic energycan move and then what they did
to you can now teach them alesson.
Now it sounds weird, but yeah,it can.
It can teach them a lesson.
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So I want you to imagine astream that flows with ease and
grace.
The water is clear, clean andvibrantly alive.
Then someone hurts you deeply.
You get stuck in anger,resentment, bitterness, sadness,
guilt or shame.
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All those negative thoughtpatterns and emotions turn into
sticks, branches, stones andboulders.
Eventually it can become a damor a wall to keep the positive
emotions or thought patternsfrom entering, for you will
second-guess yourself andothers' motives, afraid to love
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again and live a life of truehappiness.
Because you question is it evenpossible?
And over time the water becomesstagnant, cloudy, sluggish and
stops moving.
Stagnant, cloudy, sluggish andstops moving.
That is why we must cultivatethe courage to remove the rocks
and branches from our stream oflife.
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Each rock and branch representsa memory of pain, trauma,
rejection, abandonment and shamestored within the body's
chakras and energy field.
Nobody can do the work for usby ourselves.
We cannot call a yard cleaningservice.
I mean, I wish we could, but wecan't, and that is why the last
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rule for being human says theanswers lie inside you.
Lie inside you.
We all have unique stories andmemories of pain, heartache,
regret, errors of judgment and alist of negative emotions
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trapped within us.
I have forgiven theunforgivable, but many people
stay stuck in pain andresentment which festers like a
disease.
People stay stuck in pain andresentment which festers like a
disease.
I had to do this process, youwill learn today, with a long
list of people which included me.
So I asked my friend how couldI help people understand and
realize that they musteventually learn to forgive the
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unforgivable or it willultimately destroy them with
health issues.
Her response was profound.
She realized that I touched onone of the deepest spiritual
truths and healing frontiers ofthe human journey forgiving the
unforgivable, the kind thatrequires divine strength, not
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just human will.
So today we will explore thissacred terrain, not to bypass
the pain, but to alchemize it.
And when I say alchemize, Imean to raise your vibration out
of 3D and into 4D by shiftingyour thought patterns and
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emotions.
On the blog post there's achart of what I mean, and these
two charts are for free atMaster, the Upper Rooms of Human
Consciousness.
So here are the nine insightswhy we all must learn to forgive
the unforgivable.
Number one begin with the truth.
Why we all must learn toforgive the unforgivable.
Number one begin with the truth.
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Some things are unforgivable tothe human self.
We must honor this first.
Some violations are too painful, too violating, too
soul-shattering to forgivethrough logic, politeness or
willpower.
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The key is you don't forgivewith the mind, you forgive
through the soul.
Saying, quote this hurts beyondmeasure.
Hurts beyond measure You're nottrying to spiritualize it away
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is the first step towards truetransmutation.
Now I need to explain thistruth, which might sound like
woo-woo to some people.
And some people believe in pastlife regression.
Other people don't.
But since I'm a hypnotherapistand trained in past life
regression, I've discovered thatmany people will have an
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imprint upon their soul which isimpacting their current life.
One woman was about abandonmentand for another it was like
feeling like she didn't belongin this family.
Each one and their most recentpast life experienced something
traumatic and did not findclosure.
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Some might consider it karma,but I think it is information
that can be transmuted andtransformed.
When I have worked with thesoul and the soul's guide to
transmute and transform theinformation and energy that is
trapped and imprinted upon aperson's soul, there is always a
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deep spiritual reverence andjoy from being set free.
The soul is thankful, and so isthe person in this lifetime.
The soul is thankful and so isthe person in this lifetime.
So if this is woo-woo stuff cancreate miracles in a person's
life, then so be it.
Who am I to judge?
Number two forgiveness isn'tcondoning.
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It's releasing the bond.
People often resist forgivenessbecause they think it means
saying what happened was okay,giving the person a pass,
letting them back in.
But true forgiveness is notabout them, it's about you.
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Remember the stream of life.
You can declare I no longerallow your actions to poison my
system.
I choose liberation.
Forgiveness is an act ofenergetic sovereignty.
Number three unforgiveness is aspiritual parasite.
Resentment and hatred feed onyour life force.
They live in the cells.
Over time they can lead tonervous system deregulation,
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chronic inflammation, immunesuppression, digestive issues,
depression, anxiety andspiritual stagnation.
When the soul knows it's timeto evolve, but the heart is
still shackled in old pain, thebody becomes the battleground.
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Forgiveness isn't weakness,it's cellular reclamation.
You're claiming everything backBack to health, back to
vitality, back to wellness.
So again, remember your streamof life.
Eventually, the rocks andbranches do create dis-ease
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within the physical body.
Four you don't forgive for them.
You forgive for your futureself.
You forgive so your heartdoesn't calcify.
You forgive so you can receivelove again.
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You forgive so your gifts canflow freely.
Remember these wise words quoteIf I stay stuck in what was,
I'll never become what I'm hereto be Pretty deep words.
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I need to pause here beforemoving on to number five.
If you have Netflix, there's aseries called Black Mirror,
season seven, eulogy.
In it we see a lonely man whoused technology to revisit his
past with a former girlfriend.
It's a love story full ofheartache and regrets.
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This episode dives into thecomplexities of grief, memory
and the impact of past choiceson one's present.
It also explores how technologycan be used to connect with the
deceased and find closure.
Yet here is my point.
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This man spent decades alone,stuck in sadness, anger,
confusion and bitterness.
He spent maybe 30 years in aprison cage.
He built within his mind, heartand soul.
You will realize that all ofthat could have been prevented
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when you watch it.
Realize that all of that couldhave been prevented when you
watch it.
He could have had a beautifullife full of love, joy,
happiness and satisfaction.
Instead, his angry ego wouldnot let go of the pain, even
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when he had a letter he hadnever read from his former
girlfriend asking forforgiveness.
I highly recommend everyonewatching this episode.
It can be incrediblyeye-opening.
Again, he had a choice.
We all do.
Number five the soul has a viewthe human cannot see.
When people say, how could thishappen to me?
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It validates.
I mean it's validated, it does.
It's crazy, but it does.
It validates it.
But from a soul's vantage point, even the most devastating
experiences can become cruciblefor awakening.
You don't have to believe thepain was meant to be, but you
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can choose to believe it won'tbe wasted.
Therefore, forgiveness becomesthe bridge between victimhood
and spiritual mastery.
Try to discover the lesson orlessons within your painful
stories.
Find out if those painfulmemories made you a better
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person.
Are you sharing what youlearned with your children,
clients and or the world?
Our stories do not have todefine us.
We are here on earth to learnlessons.
That's what life is all about.
I mean, when I realize thatthose life experiences made us
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better people and taught usresilience, self-worth and
self-compassion.
We can shift our perspectiveout of victimhood and into
spiritual mastery by masteringour levels of human
consciousness from 3D into 4D.
And if you look at me, you takemy example.
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If you read my book, I hadhorrible experience.
Horrible things happened to me.
I mean, you can consider thepeople in that book monsters.
They really were.
But I now share this wisdomwith you and anyone who listens
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to this podcast.
I'm here to bring clarity, hereto get you unstuck, so I'm
using it.
In a way.
I took myself out of victimhoodand into supporting everyone
for the whole of humanity.
Number six invite the forcegreater than you into the
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process.
When the pain is too big, don'tcarry it alone.
Call in something bigger, suchas your Higher Self, god or
Source, divine Love, divineHealing Intelligence, a Saint or
Deity, spiritual guides, angelsor even a specific angel, the
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Earth or the universe itself SayI don't know how to forgive,
but I'm willing.
Take this from my heart andtransform it into light.
Even just the willingnessbegins the healing process.
Remember you don't need tofinish the journey in one breath
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.
This is not a race and therecan be many layers of pain.
So be kind and gentle withyourself.
Seven make space for the rageand grief.
Many can't forgive because theyhaven't fully felt the impact.
Many can't forgive because theyhaven't fully felt the impact.
Forgiveness doesn't meanskipping over the anger,
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betrayal or loss.
Let the emotions rise.
Here are some tools to helprelease the trapped energy from
within and, trust me, I've donethese myself.
1.
Scream.
Scream into a pillow on ahillside or alone in a room.
Screaming at the top of yourlungs can be so healing and
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rewarding and it can freak somepeople out.
Okay, a little humor there.
Two write and be as harsh andcruel as possible.
Get out what you have beenholding onto inside.
You do not have to give theletter to anyone.
You can burn it up after or ripit into tiny pieces, but just
get it out.
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Number three cry.
Oh boy, if I cried.
Many people are taught thatcrying is a weakness.
Crying is essential because itreleases emotions bottled up
inside.
So have a good cry.
Four rage.
Some people feel greatsatisfaction after breaking
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things or punching a pillow.
I once got my son an inflatablebopper and punching bag.
It helped him release his ragewhen he came back home.
Then, at the bottom of the pain, you'll find space.
This space is essential becausetrue forgiveness cannot happen
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when you're full of anger,betrayal or loss.
True forgiveness only occursafter the soul has grieved what
it deserves but never received.
So think of it as yourself.
As you're emptying your vessel.
First, you're getting all thattrapped up energy out and it
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feels great.
When you do Eight create aritual of release.
When you do Eight create aritual of release.
Sometimes the symbolic actmakes the energetic shift real
to the body.
Here is an example Write theirname and the pain on paper.
Two, speak your truth aloud.
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Three, burn the paper safelyand say quote I set myself free.
You no longer get to live in me.
Repeat as needed until theenergy shifts.
And lastly, number nineforgiveness is a process, not a
one-time event.
You may forgive in layers, apiece at a time, and that's okay
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.
There is a process.
Phase one is to identify it andphase two is how to release
what no longer serves you.
Each time you choose to releasethe hook, you reclaim more of
your spirit.
That is why I say forgivenessis like a snake shedding its
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skin.
We shed the old that no longerserves us and we welcome our new
form.
Be gentle, the wound will stillwhisper again someday and
you'll be prepared.
Just respond, quote yes, Iremember, and I still choose
peace.
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Do what works for you to findforgiveness, because every time
you get triggered it is a timeto go within and remove the bee
sting lodged within Now the goodstuff.
Lodged within Now the goodstuff.
I want to share my technique forforgiving the unforgivable,
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that's right which I created formyself by combining various
methods.
It is worked like magic.
Every single time In the past Ihave spoken about the power of
hono pono ono.
At first, when I learned aboutthis technique, it confused me.
It made no sense to me.
How can just saying I'm sorryor please forgive me help?
Plus, why would I say I loveyou to someone who destroyed my
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life?
I knew deep inside thatsomething was missing, because
it did not make sense to me, andif it did not make sense to me,
I would have given up.
Then I added a twist that mademore sense.
I discovered what was missingfrom this four-part recipe the
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why factor.
The why factor is essentialbecause it ties into our pain
stories.
Why do I need to say I'm sorryand why do I need to ask for my
forgiveness?
It seems backward, yet the wayI do, it makes sense to me and I
hope it will make sense to you.
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So let me give you an exampleof what I mean.
Here's the four part recipe I'msorry, please forgive me, I
love you, Thank you.
So let me give you an exampleof what I mean.
Here's the four-part recipe I'msorry, please forgive me, I
love you, thank you.
This forced me to dive deepinto my soul to discover the why
factor.
Since we create narcissisticpeople, we need to learn how
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they are made, and I haveexplained how in previous blog
posts and podcast episodes.
The narcissists are toxicpeople and our lives were once
children.
In my mind, all children areinnocent.
Yes, narcissism can be passeddown from generation to
generation, but that explainsthe generational trauma being
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passed down.
Generational trauma can bestored in our DNA for up to
seven generations and it's notthe child's fault that this
generational trauma is beingpassed down.
Therefore, I can havecompassion and mercy.
That is why I have used picturesof some of my family members
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when they were children tosupport me in the forgiveness
process.
On the blog post there's apicture of my father and he is
so darn cute and I think of whathis life could have been if he
was treated differently, becauseif I looked at a picture of him
as an adult right now, ugh, itwould be so hard for me to
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forgive.
But this picture of him as acute, smiling boy in his Howdy
Doody outfit is so darn cute.
So here's how I did it Because.
So why is the missingingredients?
And I do not do any of thiswith the person before me or
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over the phone.
Make that crystal clear.
I either use a picture of themas a child or a picture of us
when we were generally happytogether and smiling.
And if you don't have a picture, I imagine them before me in my
mind.
And if you don't have a picture, I imagine them before me in my
mind.
So here is a sample of what Iwould say coming from my heart
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and not my wounded ego towardsmy father.
I am sorry that I did not turnout to be the daughter you
imagined I would be.
Please forgive me for notmeeting your expectations.
Please forgive me for notmeeting your expectations.
I am sorry that my defiantnature made you love me less.
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I wanted unconditional love,but I realized that was
impossible, so please forgive mefor disappointing you.
I chose to choose me firstinstead of trying to please
someone who could never be fullysatisfied with my attempts.
I'm sorry your parents made youthink and believe that you were
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a mistake for being born male.
I know they wanted a girl andyou were born a boy, but that
still hurts you deeply and I amsorry for that truth.
Please forgive me for notunderstanding how this truth
deeply wounded you growing up.
I am sorry that strong andempowered women became a threat
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to you.
I refuse to dim my light toappease you, so please forgive
me if my authentic self made youfeel threatened.
I am sorry.
You felt the need to control me.
It only pushed me away and mademe realize the importance of
having healthy boundaries withyou.
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So please forgive me for makingyou mad when I enforced my
boundaries and stood my ground.
I love you because you have beenmy greatest teacher in learning
the importance of unconditionallove.
I thought all parents shouldgive and show their children
unconditional love, but you werenever given unconditional love
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or taught it.
Realizing this fact made iteasier for me to forgive you.
I love you because you are achild of God.
We all are.
I realize if I hold on tohatred towards you, then it will
negatively impact my life invarious areas.
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So forgiveness is essential forthe evolution of my soul, not
yours.
I love you because I havesomething you have desperately
wanted your entire life and willnever have as long as you are
stuck in anger and resentmenttowards me.
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You pray twice daily and Goddoes not speak to you like he
talks to me.
Therefore, your devoted faithin God made me realize it's not
about religion but arelationship.
So I love you and thank you forhelping me understand that my
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relationship with our creatorwas more critical than your
religious views about me.
I love you because I am doingamazing things for humanity.
I am changing the world oneperson at a time.
So thank you for bringing meinto this world to serve.
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I love you because you taughtme not to parent the way you
parented me.
I have a beautiful relationshipwith my children and without
your harsh parenting style, Imight have parented the way you
did by accident.
So thank you for making me anawesome parent.
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After I say what I needed to besaid and feel complete, I move
on to the next step.
This is when I take all thepainful memories I can recall in
that moment and bless andforgive them all.
I forgive myself for holding onto these painful memories for
so many years.
I visualize placing all thememories into a pink sack.
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Then I forgive and bless allthe energy around and within the
pink sack.
Next, I need to forgive myself,using the same method.
Here are some of the things Iwould have said to myself.
I am sorry that your childhoodwas so painful.
You did not deserve to betreated with such contempt,
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abuse and heartache.
Please forgive me for notprotecting you and seeking help
sooner.
I am sorry that we expected tobe loved unconditionally by our
parents.
As an adult, I realize ourparents never received
unconditional love in theirentire lives, and this is the
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sad truth.
Every child deserves to beloved unconditionally.
The problem is that when it isnot given or modeled to them,
they will parent the same waythey were parented.
This understanding gave mecompassion towards them and
allowed me to forgive.
So please forgive me for havingunrealistic expectations.
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I am sorry.
We felt not good enough,unworthy and broken inside.
We did the very best we couldwith the tools and information
available.
All those thoughts and beliefswe had about ourselves were
false.
Everyone is good enough, worthyand can become whole again.
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I know this is possible.
So please forgive me for havingthese limiting beliefs about us
or anyone.
I love you because you areprecious, unique, resilient,
brave and inspiring part of me.
Life has been our mostexcellent teacher.
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Our parents were part of thatfoundation.
Thank you for helping mebelieve in myself and refuse to
accept defeat or to allowanother person to dim our light.
I love you for standing yourground, refusing to settle for
less and educating yourself onvarious topics that help us heal
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.
I know it was not easy and youfelt like the black sheep in the
family, and that's okay.
In fact, that was perfect.
It taught us to believe inourselves and not allow our
father to manipulate, guilt,trip or blame, shift us into
submission.
I had no idea that he was avulnerable narcissist, so thank
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you for teaching me to stand myground and set healthy
boundaries.
Thank you for teaching me touse my words to heal and empower
myself instead of destroyingour father with words of hatred
and anger.
I love you because we are doingamazing things in mental health
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and helping many peopleworldwide.
We took the high road insteadof the low road, so thank you
for being such a kind,compassionate, genuine and
nurturing soul.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Now I forgive all the energyaround myself that was stuck in
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anger, disappointment,resentment, sadness and
heartache and I place it allinto the pink sack.
I see and feel myself pullingout of me all the trapped
negative emotions and thoughtpatterns about the subject of my
father.
When I feel complete, I tie aribbon around the sack to
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symbolize I am done.
This is when I have a chat withour creator, and it would go
something like this God anddivine love.
I have been holding on to thesepainful memories and emotions
for too long.
I must release them and handthem to you for purification and
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renewal.
I know this healing is for meand maybe, just maybe, it might
release something in the otherperson as well.
Please take this pink sac andset my soul free.
Thank you for giving me thisopportunity to heal myself.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
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Then I imagine the pink sackfloating up hands coming down
from the heavens above andtaking it In my heart.
I feel gratitude andappreciation.
Signs of proof you haveforgiven the unforgivable.
Signs of proof you haveforgiven the unforgivable.
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One of the best ways we getproof that the forgiveness work
is complete is by examining howwe view and feel about the
person we forgave.
I learned that when I thinkabout a specific person again,
there is no longer an emotionalcharge.
I view them as just a person,period.
They are not above me or belowme.
My wounded pain story no longerhas any purpose or meaning.
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It was just an experience and amemory from the past.
I will no longer feel the needto share my story with others or
even recall it.
All the painful energy has beendrained from those memories of
the past.
It is not like I am numb butneutral.
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It feels like all the puppetstrings have been cut and the
wounds no longer need a band-aidbecause it is healed.
They mean nothing to me.
When I see them face to face oronline, the anger and resentful
feelings I had towards themhave vanished.
All the power and control theyhad over me is gone.
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Therefore, I finally evictedthem from my heart, mind and
soul.
It is incredibly liberating andfreeing.
They mean nothing and arenothing, because now they are
just a person, no longer themonster that destroyed your life
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and did their best to crippleyou forever.
However, they lost the battleand you won in the end.
For example, you view the personas no longer being vulnerable
manipulating mom, narcissistic,walking on eggshells dad,
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manipulating brother, two-faced,gossip sister, satan, your boss
, your crazy ex, psycho, ex BFF,evil co worker.
All those precious labels westuck on those unforgivable
humans vanish.
I know so sorry.
Now they're just dad, mom, exor an old boss.
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Boss, I mean, it can seem likesome of the fun gets sucked out
of it too, because now we nolonger feel the need to even
make fun of them and their crazybehaviors.
I know that's the sad part andI shouldn't be laughing, but I
am.
It feels so great.
But either way, I feel blessedthat these people no longer have
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any power or control over me.
All the tears have dried up,painful memories neutralized and
I can see them for who theytruly are.
My teachers in this lifetimehave allowed me to dive deep
into profound forgiveness formyself and my life.
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Moving forward.
I'm no longer stuck in the pastor clinging to what could have
been or should have been, oreven wanting justice.
There is just pure freedom andself-empowerment.
Final truth to share withothers.
Forgiveness is not a gift yougive to the person who hurt you.
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It's a gift you give to thesoul you're becoming.
If you don't forgive, the painwill become your identity.
If you do forgive, the painbecomes your wisdom, just like
mine.
So I must share a metaphorteaching story with everyone
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before we end.
Stories are how the soulremembers truth.
Here's a teaching story thatcarries the frequency of deep
release and inner sovereignty.
There are moments in life whenthe pain cuts so deep and it
seems impossible to forgiveBetrayal, abuse, abandonment.
These aren't light wounds,they're soul level impacts and
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many states shackled to them foryears, even decades, believing
that forgiveness would somehowmean what happened was okay.
But what if forgiveness isn'tabout them at all?
Here's a teaching story theWoman and the Snake.
A woman once lived in a quietvillage nestled by a great
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mountain.
One spring she was bitten by avenomous snake while walking
through the woods.
It struck her ankle, left itspoison and slithered away.
The villagers helped her asbest they could, but the venom
remained in her body.
It didn't kill her, but itchanged her.
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Her left her leg stiffened, herbreath grew shallow.
Over time her heart becameheavy and her dreams dimmed.
Every day she cursed the snake.
She spoke of it to anyone who'dlisten.
In fact, she relived the moment.
It bit her.
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Again and again.
She even walked the forest pathdaily, scanning the underbrush,
watching, waiting just in caseit returned.
Years passed.
She aged early, her laughterfaded, her body ached in ways no
healer could mend.
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One day an old traveler came tothe village Seeing her pain.
He asked her gently why do yousuffer?
So she told him of the snake,of the venom, of the injustice,
of how the snake neverapologized and never came back
to right the wrong.
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The traveler listened with deepcompassion.
Then he said quote the snakeonly bit you once, but you've
been letting it bite you everyday since she froze.
Forgiveness, he said, is howyou pull the fang out, not for
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the snake's sake, but so thepoison doesn't own you anymore.
The woman wept, not because ofthe snake, but because she
realized she had been carryingthe wound longer than she needed
.
That night she lit a firebeneath the mountain, she took
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off the bandage and she had wornthat bandage for years and for
the first time she did not lookfor the snake, she looked for
her soul and she walked limpedbut lighter.
The moral of the story is theunforgivable act may never be
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made right, but your souldoesn't need their apology to be
free.
You forgive because you decidewhen the right time is for you
to stop drinking the poison.
You forgive to walk themountain again without being
prepared or waiting andexpecting danger around every
corner.
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Here's a reflection on pullingout the fang.
The snake in this story isn'tjust a reptile.
It's the person who hurt you,the betrayal that broke you, the
system that failed you and thevenom.
That's what we carry long afterthe moment has passed
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Resentment, grief, fear,bitterness.
The woman was bitten once, butshe kept the poison alive by
revisiting it daily.
That's what unforgiveness does.
The body carries theunforgiveness.
The body keeps score and thesoul keeps the echo.
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Unforgiveness becomes chronictension, anxiety, exhaustion and
even illness.
We think we're staying safe byholding on to the story, but in
truth, we're staying stuck.
Therefore, forgiveness is notto erase it.
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Forgiveness is an energeticdetox.
This information is a call toawaken you.
If you still carry venom thatdoesn't belong to you, you have
the right to lay it down.
You don't need the apology.
You don't need them to change.
You need yourself to be whole,sovereign and free.
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You forgive not to absolve thesnake, but to walk again beneath
the mountain of your ownbecoming, because we always have
a choice which path to walk thepath of misery or strength and
wisdom.
So here are my closing thoughtsabout how to forgive the
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unforgivable.
So ask yourself these questionswho is your snake?
What poison are you stillcarrying?
Are you willing to attempt toforgive the unforgivable?
If the answer is yes, then justfor today, be willing to pull
out the fang.
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That willingness alone beginsthe healing.
Therefore, in this blog postabout how to forgive the
unforgivable and on this podcast, I'm giving a free meditation
process to support releasing thefang.
Of course, the theme isforgiveness, emotional detox and
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energetic sovereignty.
The tone is gentle,compassionate and soul deep.
So be gentle, kind, patientwith yourself.
It's not a race.
It is a slow and steady processof peeling away the layers that
are blocking you from your truepotential and happiness and
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love and light.
Angela Meyer slash Keri Logan.
Have a great day, bye.
Welcome to Season 4 of the Undetected Narcissist
Podcast.
Your host, angela Meyer, ishere to bring you clarity if you
are stuck in confusion,self-doubt or feel lost, without
a sense of direction.
This podcast is extremelydifferent because Angela comes
from a place of wisdom,compassion and has been able to
forgive the unforgivable.
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She's a mental healthprofessional, trauma-informed
human consciousness guide andempowerment strategist.
She knows one can't truly healand recover when one is stuck in
hate, anger and fear.
One must rise above it, findmeaning, understanding,
compassion for oneself and thetoxic people within our lives.
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This season is aboutself-empowerment,
self-realizations andtransformation.
There is always a blog postsupporting this information, so
please visitundetectednarcissistcom so get
ready to learn about yourself,others and find a way to truly
live and thrive.
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Once again, enjoy the show.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Hello everyone and welcome back to the Undetected
Narcissist.
I want everyone to buckle intoday because this is a hot
topic how to forgive theunforgivable.
So one day a friend waschatting and forgiveness came up
.
We both agreed that forgivenessand being able to forgive the
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unforgivable is almost the mostchallenging steps in mastering
one's human consciousness.
We all have heard thatforgiveness is not for the other
person but for you.
So why should that be so hard?
If it's a gift you're giving toyourself?
I believe it's our pride andego there can be a part of us
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that wants them to suffer and goto hell.
Yet in my 20 plus years in themental health field and all that
I have learned, I know in myheart and soul that finding a
way to forgive the unforgivableis essential.
And in fact, two books stoodout to me reminding me of the
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why the true power Power ofWater by Mr Emoto, and the
Secret Language of Our Body byMrs Siegel.
Our thoughts and emotions haveso much power and energy.
If our thoughts and feelingscan turn water into either toxic
or healing properties, what canour thoughts and emotions do
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for us?
I mean, after all, we areenergetic beings who are having
a human experience, not viceversa.
Our spirit or soul is unbiased,yet the ego is biased.
The ego wants to judge andneeds proof of why one should
not forgive.
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The spirit and soul do not,because they recognize and
understand from a spiritualperspective that this person who
deeply wounded you is yourteacher for you in this lifetime
.
That is why I say certainpeople who are no longer in my
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life were my greatest teachers.
After all, jesus tried to teachus this truth when he was on
the cross.
He had to find forgivenessbecause it would free his soul
and the sins of others.
So let me explain myperspective.
I have learned that karmastarts to unravel on an
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energetic level when we trulyforgive the unforgivable,
because now the karmic energycan move and then what they did
to you can now teach them alesson.
Now it sounds weird, but yeah,it can.
It can teach them a lesson.
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So I want you to imagine astream that flows with ease and
grace.
The water is clear, clean andvibrantly alive.
Then someone hurts you deeply.
You get stuck in anger,resentment, bitterness, sadness,
guilt or shame.
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All those negative thoughtpatterns and emotions turn into
sticks, branches, stones andboulders.
Eventually it can become a damor a wall to keep the positive
emotions or thought patternsfrom entering, for you will
second-guess yourself andothers' motives, afraid to love
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again and live a life of truehappiness.
Because you question is it evenpossible?
And over time the water becomesstagnant, cloudy, sluggish and
stops moving.
Stagnant, cloudy, sluggish andstops moving.
That is why we must cultivatethe courage to remove the rocks
and branches from our stream oflife.
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Each rock and branch representsa memory of pain, trauma,
rejection, abandonment and shamestored within the body's
chakras and energy field.
Nobody can do the work for usby ourselves.
We cannot call a yard cleaningservice.
I mean, I wish we could, but wecan't, and that is why the last
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rule for being human says theanswers lie inside you.
Lie inside you.
We all have unique stories andmemories of pain, heartache,
regret, errors of judgment and alist of negative emotions
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trapped within us.
I have forgiven theunforgivable, but many people
stay stuck in pain andresentment which festers like a
disease.
People stay stuck in pain andresentment which festers like a
disease.
I had to do this process, youwill learn today, with a long
list of people which included me.
So I asked my friend how couldI help people understand and
realize that they musteventually learn to forgive the
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unforgivable or it willultimately destroy them with
health issues.
Her response was profound.
She realized that I touched onone of the deepest spiritual
truths and healing frontiers ofthe human journey forgiving the
unforgivable, the kind thatrequires divine strength, not
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just human will.
So today we will explore thissacred terrain, not to bypass
the pain, but to alchemize it.
And when I say alchemize, Imean to raise your vibration out
of 3D and into 4D by shiftingyour thought patterns and
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emotions.
On the blog post there's achart of what I mean, and these
two charts are for free atMaster, the Upper Rooms of Human
Consciousness.
So here are the nine insightswhy we all must learn to forgive
the unforgivable.
Number one begin with the truth.
Why we all must learn toforgive the unforgivable.
Number one begin with the truth.
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Some things are unforgivable tothe human self.
We must honor this first.
Some violations are too painful, too violating, too
soul-shattering to forgivethrough logic, politeness or
willpower.
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The key is you don't forgivewith the mind, you forgive
through the soul.
Saying, quote this hurts beyondmeasure.
Hurts beyond measure You're nottrying to spiritualize it away
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is the first step towards truetransmutation.
Now I need to explain thistruth, which might sound like
woo-woo to some people.
And some people believe in pastlife regression.
Other people don't.
But since I'm a hypnotherapistand trained in past life
regression, I've discovered thatmany people will have an
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imprint upon their soul which isimpacting their current life.
One woman was about abandonmentand for another it was like
feeling like she didn't belongin this family.
Each one and their most recentpast life experienced something
traumatic and did not findclosure.
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Some might consider it karma,but I think it is information
that can be transmuted andtransformed.
When I have worked with thesoul and the soul's guide to
transmute and transform theinformation and energy that is
trapped and imprinted upon aperson's soul, there is always a
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deep spiritual reverence andjoy from being set free.
The soul is thankful, and so isthe person in this lifetime.
The soul is thankful and so isthe person in this lifetime.
So if this is woo-woo stuff cancreate miracles in a person's
life, then so be it.
Who am I to judge?
Number two forgiveness isn'tcondoning.
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It's releasing the bond.
People often resist forgivenessbecause they think it means
saying what happened was okay,giving the person a pass,
letting them back in.
But true forgiveness is notabout them, it's about you.
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Remember the stream of life.
You can declare I no longerallow your actions to poison my
system.
I choose liberation.
Forgiveness is an act ofenergetic sovereignty.
Number three unforgiveness is aspiritual parasite.
Resentment and hatred feed onyour life force.
They live in the cells.
Over time they can lead tonervous system deregulation,
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chronic inflammation, immunesuppression, digestive issues,
depression, anxiety andspiritual stagnation.
When the soul knows it's timeto evolve, but the heart is
still shackled in old pain, thebody becomes the battleground.
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Forgiveness isn't weakness,it's cellular reclamation.
You're claiming everything backBack to health, back to
vitality, back to wellness.
So again, remember your streamof life.
Eventually, the rocks andbranches do create dis-ease
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within the physical body.
Four you don't forgive for them.
You forgive for your futureself.
You forgive so your heartdoesn't calcify.
You forgive so you can receivelove again.
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You forgive so your gifts canflow freely.
Remember these wise words quoteIf I stay stuck in what was,
I'll never become what I'm hereto be Pretty deep words.
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I need to pause here beforemoving on to number five.
If you have Netflix, there's aseries called Black Mirror,
season seven, eulogy.
In it we see a lonely man whoused technology to revisit his
past with a former girlfriend.
It's a love story full ofheartache and regrets.
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This episode dives into thecomplexities of grief, memory
and the impact of past choiceson one's present.
It also explores how technologycan be used to connect with the
deceased and find closure.
Yet here is my point.
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This man spent decades alone,stuck in sadness, anger,
confusion and bitterness.
He spent maybe 30 years in aprison cage.
He built within his mind, heartand soul.
You will realize that all ofthat could have been prevented
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when you watch it.
Realize that all of that couldhave been prevented when you
watch it.
He could have had a beautifullife full of love, joy,
happiness and satisfaction.
Instead, his angry ego wouldnot let go of the pain, even
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when he had a letter he hadnever read from his former
girlfriend asking forforgiveness.
I highly recommend everyonewatching this episode.
It can be incrediblyeye-opening.
Again, he had a choice.
We all do.
Number five the soul has a viewthe human cannot see.
When people say, how could thishappen to me?
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It validates.
I mean it's validated, it does.
It's crazy, but it does.
It validates it.
But from a soul's vantage point, even the most devastating
experiences can become cruciblefor awakening.
You don't have to believe thepain was meant to be, but you
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can choose to believe it won'tbe wasted.
Therefore, forgiveness becomesthe bridge between victimhood
and spiritual mastery.
Try to discover the lesson orlessons within your painful
stories.
Find out if those painfulmemories made you a better
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person.
Are you sharing what youlearned with your children,
clients and or the world?
Our stories do not have todefine us.
We are here on earth to learnlessons.
That's what life is all about.
I mean, when I realize thatthose life experiences made us
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better people and taught usresilience, self-worth and
self-compassion.
We can shift our perspectiveout of victimhood and into
spiritual mastery by masteringour levels of human
consciousness from 3D into 4D.
And if you look at me, you takemy example.
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If you read my book, I hadhorrible experience.
Horrible things happened to me.
I mean, you can consider thepeople in that book monsters.
They really were.
But I now share this wisdomwith you and anyone who listens
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to this podcast.
I'm here to bring clarity, hereto get you unstuck, so I'm
using it.
In a way.
I took myself out of victimhoodand into supporting everyone
for the whole of humanity.
Number six invite the forcegreater than you into the
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process.
When the pain is too big, don'tcarry it alone.
Call in something bigger, suchas your Higher Self, god or
Source, divine Love, divineHealing Intelligence, a Saint or
Deity, spiritual guides, angelsor even a specific angel, the
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Earth or the universe itself SayI don't know how to forgive,
but I'm willing.
Take this from my heart andtransform it into light.
Even just the willingnessbegins the healing process.
Remember you don't need tofinish the journey in one breath
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.
This is not a race and therecan be many layers of pain.
So be kind and gentle withyourself.
Seven make space for the rageand grief.
Many can't forgive because theyhaven't fully felt the impact.
Many can't forgive because theyhaven't fully felt the impact.
Forgiveness doesn't meanskipping over the anger,
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betrayal or loss.
Let the emotions rise.
Here are some tools to helprelease the trapped energy from
within and, trust me, I've donethese myself.
1.
Scream.
Scream into a pillow on ahillside or alone in a room.
Screaming at the top of yourlungs can be so healing and
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rewarding and it can freak somepeople out.
Okay, a little humor there.
Two write and be as harsh andcruel as possible.
Get out what you have beenholding onto inside.
You do not have to give theletter to anyone.
You can burn it up after or ripit into tiny pieces, but just
get it out.
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Number three cry.
Oh boy, if I cried.
Many people are taught thatcrying is a weakness.
Crying is essential because itreleases emotions bottled up
inside.
So have a good cry.
Four rage.
Some people feel greatsatisfaction after breaking
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things or punching a pillow.
I once got my son an inflatablebopper and punching bag.
It helped him release his ragewhen he came back home.
Then, at the bottom of the pain, you'll find space.
This space is essential becausetrue forgiveness cannot happen
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when you're full of anger,betrayal or loss.
True forgiveness only occursafter the soul has grieved what
it deserves but never received.
So think of it as yourself.
As you're emptying your vessel.
First, you're getting all thattrapped up energy out and it
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feels great.
When you do Eight create aritual of release.
When you do Eight create aritual of release.
Sometimes the symbolic actmakes the energetic shift real
to the body.
Here is an example Write theirname and the pain on paper.
Two, speak your truth aloud.
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Three, burn the paper safelyand say quote I set myself free.
You no longer get to live in me.
Repeat as needed until theenergy shifts.
And lastly, number nineforgiveness is a process, not a
one-time event.
You may forgive in layers, apiece at a time, and that's okay
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.
There is a process.
Phase one is to identify it andphase two is how to release
what no longer serves you.
Each time you choose to releasethe hook, you reclaim more of
your spirit.
That is why I say forgivenessis like a snake shedding its
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skin.
We shed the old that no longerserves us and we welcome our new
form.
Be gentle, the wound will stillwhisper again someday and
you'll be prepared.
Just respond, quote yes, Iremember, and I still choose
peace.
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Do what works for you to findforgiveness, because every time
you get triggered it is a timeto go within and remove the bee
sting lodged within Now the goodstuff.
Lodged within Now the goodstuff.
I want to share my technique forforgiving the unforgivable,
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that's right which I created formyself by combining various
methods.
It is worked like magic.
Every single time In the past Ihave spoken about the power of
hono pono ono.
At first, when I learned aboutthis technique, it confused me.
It made no sense to me.
How can just saying I'm sorryor please forgive me help?
Plus, why would I say I loveyou to someone who destroyed my
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life?
I knew deep inside thatsomething was missing, because
it did not make sense to me, andif it did not make sense to me,
I would have given up.
Then I added a twist that mademore sense.
I discovered what was missingfrom this four-part recipe the
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why factor.
The why factor is essentialbecause it ties into our pain
stories.
Why do I need to say I'm sorryand why do I need to ask for my
forgiveness?
It seems backward, yet the wayI do, it makes sense to me and I
hope it will make sense to you.
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So let me give you an exampleof what I mean.
Here's the four part recipe I'msorry, please forgive me, I
love you, Thank you.
So let me give you an exampleof what I mean.
Here's the four-part recipe I'msorry, please forgive me, I
love you, thank you.
This forced me to dive deepinto my soul to discover the why
factor.
Since we create narcissisticpeople, we need to learn how
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they are made, and I haveexplained how in previous blog
posts and podcast episodes.
The narcissists are toxicpeople and our lives were once
children.
In my mind, all children areinnocent.
Yes, narcissism can be passeddown from generation to
generation, but that explainsthe generational trauma being
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passed down.
Generational trauma can bestored in our DNA for up to
seven generations and it's notthe child's fault that this
generational trauma is beingpassed down.
Therefore, I can havecompassion and mercy.
That is why I have used picturesof some of my family members
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when they were children tosupport me in the forgiveness
process.
On the blog post there's apicture of my father and he is
so darn cute and I think of whathis life could have been if he
was treated differently, becauseif I looked at a picture of him
as an adult right now, ugh, itwould be so hard for me to
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forgive.
But this picture of him as acute, smiling boy in his Howdy
Doody outfit is so darn cute.
So here's how I did it Because.
So why is the missingingredients?
And I do not do any of thiswith the person before me or
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over the phone.
Make that crystal clear.
I either use a picture of themas a child or a picture of us
when we were generally happytogether and smiling.
And if you don't have a picture, I imagine them before me in my
mind.
And if you don't have a picture, I imagine them before me in my
mind.
So here is a sample of what Iwould say coming from my heart
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and not my wounded ego towardsmy father.
I am sorry that I did not turnout to be the daughter you
imagined I would be.
Please forgive me for notmeeting your expectations.
Please forgive me for notmeeting your expectations.
I am sorry that my defiantnature made you love me less.
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I wanted unconditional love,but I realized that was
impossible, so please forgive mefor disappointing you.
I chose to choose me firstinstead of trying to please
someone who could never be fullysatisfied with my attempts.
I'm sorry your parents made youthink and believe that you were
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a mistake for being born male.
I know they wanted a girl andyou were born a boy, but that
still hurts you deeply and I amsorry for that truth.
Please forgive me for notunderstanding how this truth
deeply wounded you growing up.
I am sorry that strong andempowered women became a threat
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to you.
I refuse to dim my light toappease you, so please forgive
me if my authentic self made youfeel threatened.
I am sorry.
You felt the need to control me.
It only pushed me away and mademe realize the importance of
having healthy boundaries withyou.
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So please forgive me for makingyou mad when I enforced my
boundaries and stood my ground.
I love you because you have beenmy greatest teacher in learning
the importance of unconditionallove.
I thought all parents shouldgive and show their children
unconditional love, but you werenever given unconditional love
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or taught it.
Realizing this fact made iteasier for me to forgive you.
I love you because you are achild of God.
We all are.
I realize if I hold on tohatred towards you, then it will
negatively impact my life invarious areas.
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So forgiveness is essential forthe evolution of my soul, not
yours.
I love you because I havesomething you have desperately
wanted your entire life and willnever have as long as you are
stuck in anger and resentmenttowards me.
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You pray twice daily and Goddoes not speak to you like he
talks to me.
Therefore, your devoted faithin God made me realize it's not
about religion but arelationship.
So I love you and thank you forhelping me understand that my
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relationship with our creatorwas more critical than your
religious views about me.
I love you because I am doingamazing things for humanity.
I am changing the world oneperson at a time.
So thank you for bringing meinto this world to serve.
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I love you because you taughtme not to parent the way you
parented me.
I have a beautiful relationshipwith my children and without
your harsh parenting style, Imight have parented the way you
did by accident.
So thank you for making me anawesome parent.
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After I say what I needed to besaid and feel complete, I move
on to the next step.
This is when I take all thepainful memories I can recall in
that moment and bless andforgive them all.
I forgive myself for holding onto these painful memories for
so many years.
I visualize placing all thememories into a pink sack.
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Then I forgive and bless allthe energy around and within the
pink sack.
Next, I need to forgive myself,using the same method.
Here are some of the things Iwould have said to myself.
I am sorry that your childhoodwas so painful.
You did not deserve to betreated with such contempt,
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abuse and heartache.
Please forgive me for notprotecting you and seeking help
sooner.
I am sorry that we expected tobe loved unconditionally by our
parents.
As an adult, I realize ourparents never received
unconditional love in theirentire lives, and this is the
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sad truth.
Every child deserves to beloved unconditionally.
The problem is that when it isnot given or modeled to them,
they will parent the same waythey were parented.
This understanding gave mecompassion towards them and
allowed me to forgive.
So please forgive me for havingunrealistic expectations.
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I am sorry.
We felt not good enough,unworthy and broken inside.
We did the very best we couldwith the tools and information
available.
All those thoughts and beliefswe had about ourselves were
false.
Everyone is good enough, worthyand can become whole again.
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I know this is possible.
So please forgive me for havingthese limiting beliefs about us
or anyone.
I love you because you areprecious, unique, resilient,
brave and inspiring part of me.
Life has been our mostexcellent teacher.
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Our parents were part of thatfoundation.
Thank you for helping mebelieve in myself and refuse to
accept defeat or to allowanother person to dim our light.
I love you for standing yourground, refusing to settle for
less and educating yourself onvarious topics that help us heal
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.
I know it was not easy and youfelt like the black sheep in the
family, and that's okay.
In fact, that was perfect.
It taught us to believe inourselves and not allow our
father to manipulate, guilt,trip or blame, shift us into
submission.
I had no idea that he was avulnerable narcissist, so thank
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you for teaching me to stand myground and set healthy
boundaries.
Thank you for teaching me touse my words to heal and empower
myself instead of destroyingour father with words of hatred
and anger.
I love you because we are doingamazing things in mental health
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and helping many peopleworldwide.
We took the high road insteadof the low road, so thank you
for being such a kind,compassionate, genuine and
nurturing soul.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Now I forgive all the energyaround myself that was stuck in
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anger, disappointment,resentment, sadness and
heartache and I place it allinto the pink sack.
I see and feel myself pullingout of me all the trapped
negative emotions and thoughtpatterns about the subject of my
father.
When I feel complete, I tie aribbon around the sack to
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symbolize I am done.
This is when I have a chat withour creator, and it would go
something like this God anddivine love.
I have been holding on to thesepainful memories and emotions
for too long.
I must release them and handthem to you for purification and
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renewal.
I know this healing is for meand maybe, just maybe, it might
release something in the otherperson as well.
Please take this pink sac andset my soul free.
Thank you for giving me thisopportunity to heal myself.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
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Then I imagine the pink sackfloating up hands coming down
from the heavens above andtaking it In my heart.
I feel gratitude andappreciation.
Signs of proof you haveforgiven the unforgivable.
Signs of proof you haveforgiven the unforgivable.
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One of the best ways we getproof that the forgiveness work
is complete is by examining howwe view and feel about the
person we forgave.
I learned that when I thinkabout a specific person again,
there is no longer an emotionalcharge.
I view them as just a person,period.
They are not above me or belowme.
My wounded pain story no longerhas any purpose or meaning.
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It was just an experience and amemory from the past.
I will no longer feel the needto share my story with others or
even recall it.
All the painful energy has beendrained from those memories of
the past.
It is not like I am numb butneutral.
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It feels like all the puppetstrings have been cut and the
wounds no longer need a band-aidbecause it is healed.
They mean nothing to me.
When I see them face to face oronline, the anger and resentful
feelings I had towards themhave vanished.
All the power and control theyhad over me is gone.
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Therefore, I finally evictedthem from my heart, mind and
soul.
It is incredibly liberating andfreeing.
They mean nothing and arenothing, because now they are
just a person, no longer themonster that destroyed your life
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and did their best to crippleyou forever.
However, they lost the battleand you won in the end.
For example, you view the personas no longer being vulnerable
manipulating mom, narcissistic,walking on eggshells dad,
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manipulating brother, two-faced,gossip sister, satan, your boss
, your crazy ex, psycho, ex BFF,evil co worker.
All those precious labels westuck on those unforgivable
humans vanish.
I know so sorry.
Now they're just dad, mom, exor an old boss.
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Boss, I mean, it can seem likesome of the fun gets sucked out
of it too, because now we nolonger feel the need to even
make fun of them and their crazybehaviors.
I know that's the sad part andI shouldn't be laughing, but I
am.
It feels so great.
But either way, I feel blessedthat these people no longer have
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any power or control over me.
All the tears have dried up,painful memories neutralized and
I can see them for who theytruly are.
My teachers in this lifetimehave allowed me to dive deep
into profound forgiveness formyself and my life.
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Moving forward.
I'm no longer stuck in the pastor clinging to what could have
been or should have been, oreven wanting justice.
There is just pure freedom andself-empowerment.
Final truth to share withothers.
Forgiveness is not a gift yougive to the person who hurt you.
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It's a gift you give to thesoul you're becoming.
If you don't forgive, the painwill become your identity.
If you do forgive, the painbecomes your wisdom, just like
mine.
So I must share a metaphorteaching story with everyone
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before we end.
Stories are how the soulremembers truth.
Here's a teaching story thatcarries the frequency of deep
release and inner sovereignty.
There are moments in life whenthe pain cuts so deep and it
seems impossible to forgiveBetrayal, abuse, abandonment.
These aren't light wounds,they're soul level impacts and
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many states shackled to them foryears, even decades, believing
that forgiveness would somehowmean what happened was okay.
But what if forgiveness isn'tabout them at all?
Here's a teaching story theWoman and the Snake.
A woman once lived in a quietvillage nestled by a great
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mountain.
One spring she was bitten by avenomous snake while walking
through the woods.
It struck her ankle, left itspoison and slithered away.
The villagers helped her asbest they could, but the venom
remained in her body.
It didn't kill her, but itchanged her.
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Her left her leg stiffened, herbreath grew shallow.
Over time her heart becameheavy and her dreams dimmed.
Every day she cursed the snake.
She spoke of it to anyone who'dlisten.
In fact, she relived the moment.
It bit her.
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Again and again.
She even walked the forest pathdaily, scanning the underbrush,
watching, waiting just in caseit returned.
Years passed.
She aged early, her laughterfaded, her body ached in ways no
healer could mend.
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One day an old traveler came tothe village Seeing her pain.
He asked her gently why do yousuffer?
So she told him of the snake,of the venom, of the injustice,
of how the snake neverapologized and never came back
to right the wrong.
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The traveler listened with deepcompassion.
Then he said quote the snakeonly bit you once, but you've
been letting it bite you everyday since she froze.
Forgiveness, he said, is howyou pull the fang out, not for
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the snake's sake, but so thepoison doesn't own you anymore.
The woman wept, not because ofthe snake, but because she
realized she had been carryingthe wound longer than she needed
.
That night she lit a firebeneath the mountain, she took
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off the bandage and she had wornthat bandage for years and for
the first time she did not lookfor the snake, she looked for
her soul and she walked limpedbut lighter.
The moral of the story is theunforgivable act may never be
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made right, but your souldoesn't need their apology to be
free.
You forgive because you decidewhen the right time is for you
to stop drinking the poison.
You forgive to walk themountain again without being
prepared or waiting andexpecting danger around every
corner.
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Here's a reflection on pullingout the fang.
The snake in this story isn'tjust a reptile.
It's the person who hurt you,the betrayal that broke you, the
system that failed you and thevenom.
That's what we carry long afterthe moment has passed
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Resentment, grief, fear,bitterness.
The woman was bitten once, butshe kept the poison alive by
revisiting it daily.
That's what unforgiveness does.
The body carries theunforgiveness.
The body keeps score and thesoul keeps the echo.
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Unforgiveness becomes chronictension, anxiety, exhaustion and
even illness.
We think we're staying safe byholding on to the story, but in
truth, we're staying stuck.
Therefore, forgiveness is notto erase it.
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Forgiveness is an energeticdetox.
This information is a call toawaken you.
If you still carry venom thatdoesn't belong to you, you have
the right to lay it down.
You don't need the apology.
You don't need them to change.
You need yourself to be whole,sovereign and free.
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You forgive not to absolve thesnake, but to walk again beneath
the mountain of your ownbecoming, because we always have
a choice which path to walk thepath of misery or strength and
wisdom.
So here are my closing thoughtsabout how to forgive the
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unforgivable.
So ask yourself these questionswho is your snake?
What poison are you stillcarrying?
Are you willing to attempt toforgive the unforgivable?
If the answer is yes, then justfor today, be willing to pull
out the fang.
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That willingness alone beginsthe healing.
Therefore, in this blog postabout how to forgive the
unforgivable and on this podcast, I'm giving a free meditation
process to support releasing thefang.
Of course, the theme isforgiveness, emotional detox and
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energetic sovereignty.
The tone is gentle,compassionate and soul deep.
So be gentle, kind, patientwith yourself.
It's not a race.
It is a slow and steady processof peeling away the layers that
are blocking you from your truepotential and happiness and
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love and light.
Angela Meyer slash Keri Logan.
Have a great day, bye.
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