February 5, 2025 • 17 mins
Caught in the whirlwind of parental conflict, a child's emotional safety hangs in the balance. Reflecting on a viral video that captures the heart-wrenching scene of a young boy torn between his feuding parents, I dive into the responsibilities we hold as guardians to shield our children from such chaos. This episode brings to light the grave impact these disputes can have on a child's development, highlighting the necessity for a stable, supportive foundation no matter the personal disagreements between adults. Through heartfelt reflections, I aim to raise awareness on how preventing children from bearing the brunt of adult conflicts can stave off emotional turmoil and long-lasting damage.
On a different note, we explore the modern conundrum of living life through a smartphone lens versus truly connecting with our children. Drawing from personal anecdotes, I share my strategy for balancing the urge to document every moment for social media with the need to be present with my kids. It's a delicate dance between capturing memories and fostering authentic interactions, and our children teach us invaluable lessons on being present in the moment. This episode encourages mindfulness in our digital habits, urging parents to prioritize genuine connections with their children over the allure of digital distractions.
We discuss:
- The emotional toll of using kids as pawns in parental conflicts
- Why documenting everything for social media is harmfuf
- How to balance capturing family memories without missing the moment
- The importance of being a stable, present parent
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, everyone, welcome to the show.
Hope you're having a good day,having a good week.
Hope 2025 is off to a goodstart.
We're already, through Januaryinto February, got a good
episode for you today.
Hopefully, let's go ahead andjump on in.
So today what I wanted to talkabout was actually something
that I saw on social media, avideo that I saw.
In it, it brought up a lot ofthings for me, a lot of feelings
(00:22):
, and kind of made me angry,upset, and so I just wanted to
take this time to hash throughit and then kind of work through
a little bit of a bigger issuethat I see within society that
this video sparked within me orthat I saw within this video.
So first I'm just going to kindof describe what the video is,
what happened, and then go intokind of some of the deeper
(00:42):
meanings that I see within ithappen, and then go into kind of
some of the deeper meaningsthat I see within it.
But anyways, this video I sawwas on some like dad advocacy
Instagram page, something likethat, and I think that the it
was a mom hauling away a kid,probably seven, eight years old,
and the kid was just crying,bawling his head off and the dad
(01:07):
was following, filming theincident and essentially saying
let me take my son.
And the mom was likenon-responsive, just pulling the
kid along and the kid is cryingand obviously you can tell that
the mom and dad are just goingthrough some absolute shit
probably divorced or goingthrough a divorce, whatever it
is.
But this kid the look on hisface was just absolute horror,
despair, all of those shittyemotions that come along with
(01:29):
the fact that your parents can'tcontrol themselves.
Essentially, they're actinglike fucking idiots.
That being said, when I waswatching the video, this page
was projecting it like the dadwas in the right.
He was fighting for his son andtrying to get his son to be
with him and being a good dad.
And when I looked at the video,when I watched it, I was just
(01:50):
like both of these parents arecompletely in the wrong.
Both parents are acting likecomplete fools, complete idiots.
And the fact that it's beingvideotaped and this kid is just
being projected over theinternet for thousands of people
to see, maybe even millions ofpeople to see, it's just
absolutely disgusting to me.
It was terrible.
I didn't like seeing it.
(02:11):
It made me absolutely pissedoff and wanted to just go in
there and fucking bitch slapboth parents and be like what
the fuck are you doing?
Now I kind of get the sentimentthat they were going for in
terms of like, hey, this is afather who wants to be with his
son.
Like, hey, this is a father whowants to be with his son, this
is a father who wants to be inhis kid's life, which is not
completely different from whatit's been in the past.
But in the past, if there'stypically a parent who's not
(02:35):
around or not in the picture,it's typically the dad who's
able to just kind of pick up andbe like peace, I'm out.
And they were showing like thisdad, hey, I want to be with my
kid, I want to be present withmy son, I want him with me.
But when I was watching it,especially the fact that he was
videotaping all of this I don'tknow all of the circumstances
(02:57):
that go in this.
Maybe there's some sort oflegal issue that's going on here
and he's trying to collectevidence, but whatever it is,
the fact that this wasvideotaped and he's sitting
there holding his phone, chasingdown his kid, his kid's crying
it's just absolute chaos and inputting myself in the kid's
shoes.
I would be like what the fuckis going on?
(03:19):
The two people that I rely onto be stable forces in my life
are going at each other'sthroats, taking videos of each
other saying nasty stuff, usingme as a weapon.
It would be so dysregulatingand so terrible that I mean, if
that kid grows up and doesn'thave any issues, that's a huge
(03:41):
achievement.
But I'm sure that there aregoing to be lingering effects
that come along with this and tome, both parents are in the
wrong on this one.
Our jobs as parents, regardlessof what we're going through in
life or regardless of what'sgoing on between the parents, is
to put, as I said before, astable front, a stable
(04:01):
foundation for our kids to grow,to learn to live, all of that
stuff.
We need to be that stablefoundation for them.
And if we let our relationshipwith our spouse, or if we can't
stay in that relationship,luckily for me, I'll be the
first to admit it.
Luckily I have a goodrelationship with my wife.
(04:23):
We are as stable as you couldpotentially be, at least in my
opinion.
Obviously we fight, obviouslywe bicker and we argue in front
of the kids and stuff like that,but never anything crazy.
Never any cursing or yelling orscreaming or anything to this
extent.
(04:43):
But even if we were in asituation where we weren't in
the best spot, or even if we gottheoretically got to a point
where we were going to be goingthrough a divorce, I just
couldn't imagine having thatmuch vitriol and that much anger
and allowing my emotions totake over so much to where I get
in like a screaming match withmy kid in public, with people
(05:04):
around trying to pull them back,pulling my video camera out,
videotaping it, saying nastystuff.
I just couldn't imagine myselfdoing that or my wife doing it
and it's not a good.
It's not a good thing for ourkids to do that.
We need to be that stability.
We need to be that rock for ourkids and make sure that we are
(05:27):
putting on.
It's not like a front.
It's not like you have to justsit there and hold everything in
and not let them see youremotion.
But to a certain extent you needto keep your shit together for
your kids' sake.
They're not old enough to don'thold onto your shit, right?
That's for you to take care of.
You need to be the one to takecare of your own emotional
(05:48):
dysregulation, your ownrelationships, all of that stuff
.
That's your responsibility.
You need to take care of that,not your kid.
Don't put it on your kid'splate.
Don't dump that off on them.
It's not their responsibility.
They shouldn't be carrying it.
They shouldn't.
You know.
They can know that you haveissues, that you have mental
health issues or that you'restruggling with something, or
(06:09):
that it's not always like you'reSuperman, but at the end of the
day, they shouldn't be the onesthat are trying to help you
move forward with your life.
They shouldn't be the onescarrying that and they shouldn't
have to have that baggage intheir life.
We have a responsibility to ourkids, not only for their
physical safety but theiremotional safety as well, and
part of that is providing thatsafe, stable environment for
(06:31):
them to live in and to not haveto worry about their parents
being off their fucking rockeror yelling or screaming or
getting in fights or using thekids as weapons against the
other parent, especially in anenvironment where maybe the
parents don't get along orthey're going through a divorce.
Weaponizing your children is a,in my opinion, just an
(06:53):
absolutely disgusting act andnot something that I that I
stand for.
Not that I've seen it in inreal life.
Right, I've seen it on socialmedia, but it's definitely not
something that should be done,and and I know from experience
that when children are used asweapons man, it's devastating
not only to the other parent butalso to the kid.
And then to pull your cameraout on top of all of this,
(07:15):
that's kind of.
The other thing I wanted to getto was.
It seems like everyone has topull their fucking camera out
for anything that ever happens.
We're in the society now that'slike a TikTok gotcha moment type
of culture, where we'reconstantly pulling our phones
out and recording everything,thinking that that's going to
(07:36):
somehow protect us or insulateus, or that we might record
something that's going to goviral and then we'll be able to
utilize that to either makemoney or fuck someone over.
I don't know what it is, but itseems like we live life through
the lens of our camera phones.
Now it happened in this videowith this kid with his mom.
The dad videotaped this wholeencounter in public kids
(08:01):
screaming.
That's on the internet now foreveryone to talk about, and then
, of course, everyone's gonnahave fucking comments and you've
got both sides of the aislesplus the trolls.
People are going to be like, ohyeah, the mom's justified the
dad's piece of shit.
And you've also got people whoare like, oh, kids deserves it.
Or stop being a little bitch,stop crying.
You don't know what the fuckpeople are going to say on
(08:21):
social media.
Social media is just completelyout there and I understand that
.
I'm doing a podcast right nowand I also put posts out there
and I also have my opinion andprobably say some unchanged shit
once in a while.
But I typically try not to goon and attack people just for
the sole purpose of attackingthem or being a little bitch or
troll.
But I've also seen in othermoments not in stuff like this
(08:43):
the phone is pulled out and thecamera is pulled out in a lot of
other areas where parentsshould be parents, where they
shouldn't just be recording shit.
You know their kid is pullingout a bunch of their parents'
clothes and like, oh, my kid isconstantly doing this.
I got such a mess to pick up.
It's like, dude, just put yourphone down and stop your kid
from pulling shit out.
Or the ones that are.
(09:05):
Even worse is when it'ssomething dangerous, like the
kid is going towards an openoven or they pull the knife out
of the drawer and they're like,oh my gosh, my kid is like out
of control, or they just this iswhat they do.
It's like no, put your phonedown and go be a fucking parent,
go take care of it.
Go tell your kid no, keep themsafe.
Don tell your kid no, keep themsafe.
(09:29):
Don't try to catch some fuckingviral moment that you could
post on your Instagram or yoursocial media.
It's just absolutely terribleand I get super pissed off about
it, because the people whoultimately suffer from this type
of behavior are the kids.
What happens if you don't getto them in time because you're
trying to fucking record them?
Right, maybe they grab a knifeand they don't cut themselves,
but what if they do?
Or what if they fucking touch ahot oven or any of those things
(09:54):
?
And, on top of that, likethey're learning that if they do
these things that are notnecessarily safe or right, and
mom and dad just pull out theirphone and think it's funny,
they're going to keep on doingthat shit and it's going to have
a huge negative impact whenthey get older.
Anyways, those are just mythoughts on some of this.
This is a shorter episode thisweek just because I've been very
(10:17):
busy with a lot of other thingsand haven't had the time to sit
down and plan stuff out, but Ijust had these thoughts on the
gotcha moments the parents thatdrag their kids into their own
fucking emotional bullshit andthe parents who are constantly
pulling their phone out andliving in this social media
driven world that we all arekind of a part of.
(10:39):
Now I'm a part of thatecosystem.
I'm on Instagram, obviously.
I saw this video.
That's what prompted thisentire conversation is the fact
that I saw this video.
That's what prompted thisentire conversation.
Is the fact that I saw thisvideo and I had an emotional
reaction to it, and I guess I'msomeone who will pull my camera
out when my kids are doingsomething cute or when my kids
are doing whatever it is right.
(10:59):
I like to take pictures or likelittle videos when I can, so
that way I have it in the future.
It's not to post on socialmedia, it's not for likes, it's
not for any of that shit.
It's for me, for my family, forthe kids when they're a little
bit older, so I can show themthis stuff, but I've never had
it where they've been doingsomething dangerous or not doing
something right, like you know,going around and throwing shit
(11:22):
out all over the place orfucking banging their head on
the side of the wall or cussingor whatever, throwing a temper
tantrum right.
I never record that kind ofstuff because when it comes to
that kind of stuff, I need toset down my phone and be a
parent, sit down, talk to them,explain to them, be a parent and
then move forward.
(11:43):
I I don't like the fact thatsometimes I live some of the
events in my life through myphone.
It's really kind of a catch-22for me, because I do enjoy
having photos and videos that Icould look back on, but at the
same time like when my kids areopening Christmas presents or
when my kids are doing Easter orwhatever it is like I'd much
(12:05):
rather just watch them throughmy own eyes and be in the moment
with them and help them openpresents or find Easter eggs,
instead of like holding my phoneand following them around.
And so now how I get around,that is, I do a couple minutes
of video, a couple minutes oflike photos and stuff like that,
and then the phone goes away.
I get to put it away, bepresent and be there for the
(12:27):
remainder of the time.
And is it perfect?
No, I would love it if I couldspend the entire time just
present with them, but I alsothink that it would be really
nice for them to be able to lookback and see these home videos,
see these photos, and we areblessed by the fact that we have
these little, you know, perfectvideo cameras and cameras that
(12:49):
we have with us constantly.
It's really, you know, it's acatch 22.
There's some awesomeopportunities by having that,
but if you let it take over andyou start to live your life
through those lenses and youdon't use your own eyes or, you
know, be present in the moment,there's going to be big
consequences for that, and I'malready starting to notice that,
(13:09):
and I'm sure that as my kidsget older, they're going to
notice it more too.
I definitely have them say mom,dad, put your phone down.
Put your phone down, let's uh,let's play, let's do this.
So that was more so like thebigger cultural shift that I've
seen.
But, yeah, a little bit of adifferent episode.
(13:30):
No parenting advice in there,except for me just sitting here
and telling you put the phonedown, be a fucking parent.
I'm sure you already are Ifyou're listening to this podcast
, that obviously means thatyou're an amazing parent and
super mindful and you alreadyknow all of the answers, because
you listen to me tell you eachweek what the answers are.
(13:50):
But yeah, just something to bemindful of and to kind of think
about.
And I don't know how we changesociety.
I don't know how we change thewhole gotcha moment or the whole
.
Everything has to be on videoand I'm going to post it on
social media.
I'm going to post it on YouTube, trying to get likes, trying to
monetize everything or hopingthat you're the next big thing,
(14:12):
based off of just some randomthing.
It's almost like spontaneity isdying because of how society is
progressing forward, how webecome this gotcha film,
everything type of culture.
We're losing the in the momentand actual spontaneous things
(14:34):
that always pop up in our lives.
And it's like once you turn thecamera on, it's different.
I mean, my son's really good atit.
Maybe my son's got the answerto it the two-year-old.
Whenever he does somethingthat's like super cute or funny
or hilarious, as soon as we pullthe camera out, he stops doing
it.
Every time he does somethingthat's funny or hilarious, as
soon as we pull the camera out.
He stops doing it Every time hedoes something that's funny or
that we want to like catch oncamera for later in his life.
He just stops doing it, walkstowards us and tries to look at
(14:58):
the camera.
So maybe that's the answer isthat kids just need to stop
doing the shit that they dowhile we're recording and teach
us parents a little lesson interms of being present.
But that's going to be it forthis week's episode.
Like I said, a little bit of adifferent episode, not going to
be a super long one.
Let me know your thoughts.
Let me know if you have anyopinions on just the way that we
(15:21):
live within the cameras now,while how we record everything
and how we live our livesthrough the lens of our phone as
opposed to living it in themoment with the people that
we're with.
You may be different.
Maybe you're not like me, maybeyou haven't been wrapped up in
social media.
Everyone's completely different.
I'm just saying that I'venoticed this a lot within my
life with the people that I'mwith and some of the other
(15:43):
parents that I've been around.
So that's going to be it.
Hope you enjoyed the episode.
I hope everyone has a fantasticrest of the week.
Have a good weekend and I'llsee y'all next week.
All right, everyone, welcome to the show.
Hope you're having a good day,having a good week.
Hope 2025 is off to a goodstart.
We're already, through Januaryinto February, got a good
episode for you today.
Hopefully, let's go ahead andjump on in.
So today what I wanted to talkabout was actually something
that I saw on social media, avideo that I saw.
In it, it brought up a lot ofthings for me, a lot of feelings
(00:22):
, and kind of made me angry,upset, and so I just wanted to
take this time to hash throughit and then kind of work through
a little bit of a bigger issuethat I see within society that
this video sparked within me orthat I saw within this video.
So first I'm just going to kindof describe what the video is,
what happened, and then go intokind of some of the deeper
(00:42):
meanings that I see within ithappen, and then go into kind of
some of the deeper meaningsthat I see within it.
But anyways, this video I sawwas on some like dad advocacy
Instagram page, something likethat, and I think that the it
was a mom hauling away a kid,probably seven, eight years old,
and the kid was just crying,bawling his head off and the dad
(01:07):
was following, filming theincident and essentially saying
let me take my son.
And the mom was likenon-responsive, just pulling the
kid along and the kid is cryingand obviously you can tell that
the mom and dad are just goingthrough some absolute shit
probably divorced or goingthrough a divorce, whatever it
is.
But this kid the look on hisface was just absolute horror,
despair, all of those shittyemotions that come along with
(01:29):
the fact that your parents can'tcontrol themselves.
Essentially, they're actinglike fucking idiots.
That being said, when I waswatching the video, this page
was projecting it like the dadwas in the right.
He was fighting for his son andtrying to get his son to be
with him and being a good dad.
And when I looked at the video,when I watched it, I was just
(01:50):
like both of these parents arecompletely in the wrong.
Both parents are acting likecomplete fools, complete idiots.
And the fact that it's beingvideotaped and this kid is just
being projected over theinternet for thousands of people
to see, maybe even millions ofpeople to see, it's just
absolutely disgusting to me.
It was terrible.
I didn't like seeing it.
(02:11):
It made me absolutely pissedoff and wanted to just go in
there and fucking bitch slapboth parents and be like what
the fuck are you doing?
Now I kind of get the sentimentthat they were going for in
terms of like, hey, this is afather who wants to be with his
son.
Like, hey, this is a father whowants to be with his son, this
is a father who wants to be inhis kid's life, which is not
completely different from whatit's been in the past.
But in the past, if there'stypically a parent who's not
(02:35):
around or not in the picture,it's typically the dad who's
able to just kind of pick up andbe like peace, I'm out.
And they were showing like thisdad, hey, I want to be with my
kid, I want to be present withmy son, I want him with me.
But when I was watching it,especially the fact that he was
videotaping all of this I don'tknow all of the circumstances
(02:57):
that go in this.
Maybe there's some sort oflegal issue that's going on here
and he's trying to collectevidence, but whatever it is,
the fact that this wasvideotaped and he's sitting
there holding his phone, chasingdown his kid, his kid's crying
it's just absolute chaos and inputting myself in the kid's
shoes.
I would be like what the fuckis going on?
(03:19):
The two people that I rely onto be stable forces in my life
are going at each other'sthroats, taking videos of each
other saying nasty stuff, usingme as a weapon.
It would be so dysregulatingand so terrible that I mean, if
that kid grows up and doesn'thave any issues, that's a huge
(03:41):
achievement.
But I'm sure that there aregoing to be lingering effects
that come along with this and tome, both parents are in the
wrong on this one.
Our jobs as parents, regardlessof what we're going through in
life or regardless of what'sgoing on between the parents, is
to put, as I said before, astable front, a stable
(04:01):
foundation for our kids to grow,to learn to live, all of that
stuff.
We need to be that stablefoundation for them.
And if we let our relationshipwith our spouse, or if we can't
stay in that relationship,luckily for me, I'll be the
first to admit it.
Luckily I have a goodrelationship with my wife.
(04:23):
We are as stable as you couldpotentially be, at least in my
opinion.
Obviously we fight, obviouslywe bicker and we argue in front
of the kids and stuff like that,but never anything crazy.
Never any cursing or yelling orscreaming or anything to this
extent.
(04:43):
But even if we were in asituation where we weren't in
the best spot, or even if we gottheoretically got to a point
where we were going to be goingthrough a divorce, I just
couldn't imagine having thatmuch vitriol and that much anger
and allowing my emotions totake over so much to where I get
in like a screaming match withmy kid in public, with people
(05:04):
around trying to pull them back,pulling my video camera out,
videotaping it, saying nastystuff.
I just couldn't imagine myselfdoing that or my wife doing it
and it's not a good.
It's not a good thing for ourkids to do that.
We need to be that stability.
We need to be that rock for ourkids and make sure that we are
(05:27):
putting on.
It's not like a front.
It's not like you have to justsit there and hold everything in
and not let them see youremotion.
But to a certain extent you needto keep your shit together for
your kids' sake.
They're not old enough to don'thold onto your shit, right?
That's for you to take care of.
You need to be the one to takecare of your own emotional
(05:48):
dysregulation, your ownrelationships, all of that stuff
.
That's your responsibility.
You need to take care of that,not your kid.
Don't put it on your kid'splate.
Don't dump that off on them.
It's not their responsibility.
They shouldn't be carrying it.
They shouldn't.
You know.
They can know that you haveissues, that you have mental
health issues or that you'restruggling with something, or
(06:09):
that it's not always like you'reSuperman, but at the end of the
day, they shouldn't be the onesthat are trying to help you
move forward with your life.
They shouldn't be the onescarrying that and they shouldn't
have to have that baggage intheir life.
We have a responsibility to ourkids, not only for their
physical safety but theiremotional safety as well, and
part of that is providing thatsafe, stable environment for
(06:31):
them to live in and to not haveto worry about their parents
being off their fucking rockeror yelling or screaming or
getting in fights or using thekids as weapons against the
other parent, especially in anenvironment where maybe the
parents don't get along orthey're going through a divorce.
Weaponizing your children is a,in my opinion, just an
(06:53):
absolutely disgusting act andnot something that I that I
stand for.
Not that I've seen it in inreal life.
Right, I've seen it on socialmedia, but it's definitely not
something that should be done,and and I know from experience
that when children are used asweapons man, it's devastating
not only to the other parent butalso to the kid.
And then to pull your cameraout on top of all of this,
(07:15):
that's kind of.
The other thing I wanted to getto was.
It seems like everyone has topull their fucking camera out
for anything that ever happens.
We're in the society now that'slike a TikTok gotcha moment type
of culture, where we'reconstantly pulling our phones
out and recording everything,thinking that that's going to
(07:36):
somehow protect us or insulateus, or that we might record
something that's going to goviral and then we'll be able to
utilize that to either makemoney or fuck someone over.
I don't know what it is, but itseems like we live life through
the lens of our camera phones.
Now it happened in this videowith this kid with his mom.
The dad videotaped this wholeencounter in public kids
(08:01):
screaming.
That's on the internet now foreveryone to talk about, and then
, of course, everyone's gonnahave fucking comments and you've
got both sides of the aislesplus the trolls.
People are going to be like, ohyeah, the mom's justified the
dad's piece of shit.
And you've also got people whoare like, oh, kids deserves it.
Or stop being a little bitch,stop crying.
You don't know what the fuckpeople are going to say on
(08:21):
social media.
Social media is just completelyout there and I understand that
.
I'm doing a podcast right nowand I also put posts out there
and I also have my opinion andprobably say some unchanged shit
once in a while.
But I typically try not to goon and attack people just for
the sole purpose of attackingthem or being a little bitch or
troll.
But I've also seen in othermoments not in stuff like this
(08:43):
the phone is pulled out and thecamera is pulled out in a lot of
other areas where parentsshould be parents, where they
shouldn't just be recording shit.
You know their kid is pullingout a bunch of their parents'
clothes and like, oh, my kid isconstantly doing this.
I got such a mess to pick up.
It's like, dude, just put yourphone down and stop your kid
from pulling shit out.
Or the ones that are.
(09:05):
Even worse is when it'ssomething dangerous, like the
kid is going towards an openoven or they pull the knife out
of the drawer and they're like,oh my gosh, my kid is like out
of control, or they just this iswhat they do.
It's like no, put your phonedown and go be a fucking parent,
go take care of it.
Go tell your kid no, keep themsafe.
Don tell your kid no, keep themsafe.
(09:29):
Don't try to catch some fuckingviral moment that you could
post on your Instagram or yoursocial media.
It's just absolutely terribleand I get super pissed off about
it, because the people whoultimately suffer from this type
of behavior are the kids.
What happens if you don't getto them in time because you're
trying to fucking record them?
Right, maybe they grab a knifeand they don't cut themselves,
but what if they do?
Or what if they fucking touch ahot oven or any of those things
(09:54):
?
And, on top of that, likethey're learning that if they do
these things that are notnecessarily safe or right, and
mom and dad just pull out theirphone and think it's funny,
they're going to keep on doingthat shit and it's going to have
a huge negative impact whenthey get older.
Anyways, those are just mythoughts on some of this.
This is a shorter episode thisweek just because I've been very
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busy with a lot of other thingsand haven't had the time to sit
down and plan stuff out, but Ijust had these thoughts on the
gotcha moments the parents thatdrag their kids into their own
fucking emotional bullshit andthe parents who are constantly
pulling their phone out andliving in this social media
driven world that we all arekind of a part of.
(10:39):
Now I'm a part of thatecosystem.
I'm on Instagram, obviously.
I saw this video.
That's what prompted thisentire conversation is the fact
that I saw this video.
That's what prompted thisentire conversation.
Is the fact that I saw thisvideo and I had an emotional
reaction to it, and I guess I'msomeone who will pull my camera
out when my kids are doingsomething cute or when my kids
are doing whatever it is right.
(10:59):
I like to take pictures or likelittle videos when I can, so
that way I have it in the future.
It's not to post on socialmedia, it's not for likes, it's
not for any of that shit.
It's for me, for my family, forthe kids when they're a little
bit older, so I can show themthis stuff, but I've never had
it where they've been doingsomething dangerous or not doing
something right, like you know,going around and throwing shit
(11:22):
out all over the place orfucking banging their head on
the side of the wall or cussingor whatever, throwing a temper
tantrum right.
I never record that kind ofstuff because when it comes to
that kind of stuff, I need toset down my phone and be a
parent, sit down, talk to them,explain to them, be a parent and
then move forward.
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I I don't like the fact thatsometimes I live some of the
events in my life through myphone.
It's really kind of a catch-22for me, because I do enjoy
having photos and videos that Icould look back on, but at the
same time like when my kids areopening Christmas presents or
when my kids are doing Easter orwhatever it is like I'd much
(12:05):
rather just watch them throughmy own eyes and be in the moment
with them and help them openpresents or find Easter eggs,
instead of like holding my phoneand following them around.
And so now how I get around,that is, I do a couple minutes
of video, a couple minutes oflike photos and stuff like that,
and then the phone goes away.
I get to put it away, bepresent and be there for the
(12:27):
remainder of the time.
And is it perfect?
No, I would love it if I couldspend the entire time just
present with them, but I alsothink that it would be really
nice for them to be able to lookback and see these home videos,
see these photos, and we areblessed by the fact that we have
these little, you know, perfectvideo cameras and cameras that
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we have with us constantly.
It's really, you know, it's acatch 22.
There's some awesomeopportunities by having that,
but if you let it take over andyou start to live your life
through those lenses and youdon't use your own eyes or, you
know, be present in the moment,there's going to be big
consequences for that, and I'malready starting to notice that,
(13:09):
and I'm sure that as my kidsget older, they're going to
notice it more too.
I definitely have them say mom,dad, put your phone down.
Put your phone down, let's uh,let's play, let's do this.
So that was more so like thebigger cultural shift that I've
seen.
But, yeah, a little bit of adifferent episode.
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No parenting advice in there,except for me just sitting here
and telling you put the phonedown, be a fucking parent.
I'm sure you already are Ifyou're listening to this podcast
, that obviously means thatyou're an amazing parent and
super mindful and you alreadyknow all of the answers, because
you listen to me tell you eachweek what the answers are.
(13:50):
But yeah, just something to bemindful of and to kind of think
about.
And I don't know how we changesociety.
I don't know how we change thewhole gotcha moment or the whole
.
Everything has to be on videoand I'm going to post it on
social media.
I'm going to post it on YouTube, trying to get likes, trying to
monetize everything or hopingthat you're the next big thing,
(14:12):
based off of just some randomthing.
It's almost like spontaneity isdying because of how society is
progressing forward, how webecome this gotcha film,
everything type of culture.
We're losing the in the momentand actual spontaneous things
(14:34):
that always pop up in our lives.
And it's like once you turn thecamera on, it's different.
I mean, my son's really good atit.
Maybe my son's got the answerto it the two-year-old.
Whenever he does somethingthat's like super cute or funny
or hilarious, as soon as we pullthe camera out, he stops doing
it.
Every time he does somethingthat's funny or hilarious, as
soon as we pull the camera out.
He stops doing it Every time hedoes something that's funny or
that we want to like catch oncamera for later in his life.
He just stops doing it, walkstowards us and tries to look at
(14:58):
the camera.
So maybe that's the answer isthat kids just need to stop
doing the shit that they dowhile we're recording and teach
us parents a little lesson interms of being present.
But that's going to be it forthis week's episode.
Like I said, a little bit of adifferent episode, not going to
be a super long one.
Let me know your thoughts.
Let me know if you have anyopinions on just the way that we
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live within the cameras now,while how we record everything
and how we live our livesthrough the lens of our phone as
opposed to living it in themoment with the people that
we're with.
You may be different.
Maybe you're not like me, maybeyou haven't been wrapped up in
social media.
Everyone's completely different.
I'm just saying that I'venoticed this a lot within my
life with the people that I'mwith and some of the other
(15:43):
parents that I've been around.
So that's going to be it.
Hope you enjoyed the episode.
I hope everyone has a fantasticrest of the week.
Have a good weekend and I'llsee y'all next week.
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