August 26, 2025 • 25 mins
What happens when the "rules" of spirit communication clash with authenticity? This episode dives into the fascinating tension between established mediumship guidelines and the raw, unfiltered nature of genuine spirit connections.
When my mentee asked about respecting "the rules of mediumship" on social media, I initially laughed it off. Yet just days later, I found myself bristling at an email outlining strict guidelines for a demonstration I'd volunteered for. This contradiction forced me to examine what truly constitutes ethical practice when communicating with those who have crossed over.
The established protocols many mediums follow—avoid negativity, don't overemphasize how someone passed, maintain professional boundaries—serve important purposes, especially for developing practitioners. But there's a fine line between upholding standards and imposing constraints that sanitize readings and diminish their healing potential. When spirits communicate through colorful language or references to intimate moments, these seemingly "inappropriate" details often provide the most powerful validation and emotional release for their loved ones.
Rather than adhering to rigid rules, I propose approaching mediumship with an ethical framework similar to the Hippocratic Oath—emphasizing service, integrity, and the sacred trust involved in bridging worlds. The most ethical approach may be trusting that spirits themselves know best how to communicate with their loved ones in ways that provide both evidence and healing. Listen as I share my "Mediumship Oath" and invite you to consider what truly matters when facilitating connections between worlds.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello there, welcome back to Empower your Soul.
I want to talk today about therules of mediumship.
This one is a little bit of ahot button topic for me and then
, while I was considering how totalk about this in the podcast,
spirit like always, gave melike a giant smackdown and
(00:20):
really made me think differentlyabout the rules of mediumship.
So this was all spawned by mymentee asking me a question in a
group class that we had thatshe essentially wanted to post
more on social media, but shewants to be respectful of the
rules of mediumship.
So she asked me how do I sharemore about mediumship on social
media and how does she make surethat she's respecting the
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practice in doing so?
And this was actually like areally good question.
I have to be honest with you.
She comes from a place of highintegrity and so she's
showcasing that even even askingthis question before sharing
things on social media.
So that speaks volumes to mymentee and her integrity and how
she respects this work.
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Knowing all of this about her,my instinct and response was to
laugh, give a little chuckle andhighlight to her there are no
rules in this work.
Now it is interesting, right,that that was my first reaction
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because of who was asking thequestion, but I can't tell you
that on a true and so let's getinto that.
Because literally the next day Ivolunteered to participate in a
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free demonstration for a womanthat I have worked with, trained
with, for a few years now.
I highly respect her, I knowshe again has respect for the
work, very high integrity aswell, and so she asked me to
participate in this freedemonstration.
I graciously agreed On a Sundayafternoon.
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I'm not going to go therebecause it's my, my, my weekend
times are gold everybody Like,just so you all know, if you
don't hear from me, if I don'trespond to emails, respond to
social media on the weekends, Ihave deemed that spirit-free
zone because I need that mentalbreak.
So the fact that I signed upfor this on the weekend, I think
, speaks volumes to how much Irespect this woman, because if
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anyone else asked I would havesaid no immediately.
So before this week, before afew days before this event, she
sends all of the mediums thatare participating there are six
of us, I believe Not just anemail about the logistics, what
to expect, what's the timing,who's going in the right order,
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but she also sends us a list ofexpectations for the mediums,
essentially rules that we needto follow for this event.
Now let me give you my initialresponse.
Before I even read the email, Iread like the first few
sentences and it was a giant eyeroll moment.
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I was, to be honest with you,pissed off and livid Like I.
Honest with you, pissed off andlivid Like I, my ego came in
hot and heavy Because, if youknow me at all, if you've worked
with me at all, the number onething that people tell me and
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compliment me on is my integrityin the work, my integrity.
And so that came in and feltlike a blindside super rude
thing to say, because if youhave to say it, that means
there's a problem, right.
And so it was just reallyinteresting to me that my first
reaction was to be so offendedand so upset at this email
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essentially stating the rules ofthe demonstration.
Now I had to get my ego in check.
I had to use a few of the toolsfrom our Sacred Roots program,
the Nervous System Rebalancingprogram, and I had to, like,
step away, take a deep breath,calm my energy and realize that
this is not about me, becauseI'm sure, like every other sign
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or ridiculous email.
You say something probablyhappened at some point which
prompted this email to go out toeverybody so that no one was
excluded from the disclaimer inthe rules.
And so I knew to swallow mypride and I knew that there was
probably a reason at some point.
There was probably a reason atsome point.
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There was probably a mediumthat she didn't enjoy maybe
having in this demonstrationthat didn't follow the sacred
rules of working with spirit,and so she had to send this out.
So I swallowed my pride and Ifinally read it, and it was just
really interesting to read herrules in terms of mediumship
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demonstration, because when Ithink of rules I think of ethics
, but she truly, and she's notalone in this, so I don't this
isn't just about this individualperson because I think that
this was very representative ofwhat a lot of mediums think are
the rules of mediumship.
So I'm going to kind of skimthrough her email really quick
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and give you some of the rulesthat she gave in this a
demonstration.
So she's let me see.
So so, first off, because it isa demonstration with multiple
mediums, she does indicate nopiggybacking, so essentially,
like if someone was in front ofme going before me my job.
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I don't want to pick up on thespirit that just came before me,
that's, I wouldn't say that's arule, but I would say that's
not, that's probably not ethicaland it's probably a little
snarky to the medium that comes.
A rule, but I would say that'sprobably not ethical and it's
probably a little snarky to themedium that comes before us.
So I do agree with this one andit does happen and I have seen
it happen, and I personallypiggybacked before, did not take
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over, do another reading, but Isaid, hey, you know, I followed
up with what somebody didbefore me and I was like, oh my
gosh, they knitted blankets,right, because I could see that
the grandmother that theprevious medium was just reading
literally put a blanket aroundmy shoulders because I was cold.
So I wanted to give that and Imoved on to the next spirit.
But but piggybacking is a realthing and that can hurt the
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integrity of the medium thatcomes before you if you do a
better job than they do.
So, needless to say, I cancompletely understand that one.
That one makes sense to me.
But then she indicates that wework with integrity.
If I agree with this one kind ofkind of not Um, it is she she
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follows up with.
If the spirit communicator Ihope she doesn't listen to this
and gets pissed at me.
Everybody, I'm so sorry.
If it's you, please know thatthis is more educational.
I know you'll appreciate that.
She indicates that if you'veread that sitter before and if
you've read that spirit before,that you say so.
You state it in front of theaudience, which I think is okay.
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All right, I mean you.
I don't know if I agree withthat one personally, but I like
that.
She says if this happens, sheexpects spirit to give us new
evidence, and I do.
I completely agree with thatand I think that's why I'm
hesitating there.
So she has that one in therewhich is interesting.
And then she indicates that weavoid negativity, we avoid foul
language, we don't overemphasizehow the spirit passed, we don't
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provide any details that willbe offensive.
We use common sense, we useethics, we focus on facts, we
focus on essence and we aremindful of people's feelings and
boundaries.
We are careful of the words wechoose and we state facts.
We state I know, I feel, Isense, and we don't say I guess.
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I think she also says to makesure that the sitters are saying
yes, no, I don't know, maybe toevery single response.
I'll keep going, there's more.
We don't go psychic, let me seewhat else is there.
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If we go psychic, we state it,we need to stay in the
mediumship vibration, we need tocheck with our recipients after
each statement for validation.
And then she says you know allof this information already.
What is really interesting is Ithink I know all of this.
I'm aware Nothing that she saidis too much for me.
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I guess I'll say it that way,but I don't know if I've ever
really put to words all of thedifferent rules, requirements,
expectations of mediumship.
Because me personally, I trustspirit inherently and I've told
you this in other podcastepisodes too.
I trust that spirit is 100%going to bring through the right
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evidence for the right person.
They're going to avoid topicsthat don't need to be discussed
in a public forum.
They won't cover topics thatwill be controversial, upsetting
, and so it's just reallyinteresting to me, because I
think what she states as therules of the medium I don't know
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this is maybe me being a total,me being a Nicole it's going to
be a new phrase.
It's not being Karen, it'sbeing a Nicole on here, being a
Nicole, and saying I don't takethose requirements, I give them
to spirit, like I literally takethem and I throw them over the
spiritual wall and I say you'reresponsible for that.
You are responsible for makingsure I'm not bringing on topics
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that are unethical, I'm notsaying things that upset people,
I'm not using language thatupsets people.
I'm not using language thatupsets people, and so it's just
really.
I really liked it because Ithink, at the beginning of my
journey, this list, honestly,would have been very, very
helpful, because you are stillworking on a very deep
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connection with spirit, you arestill taking and interpreting
and probably maybe putting someof your own words to what you're
saying, and so a lot of thisstuff, I think is very relevant
in terms of the rules and let mephrase it, because it's not
rules these are best practicesfrom spirit, and so I really,
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even though I'm kind of likegetting very critical on this
list, I do think it's a verygood list and baseline and best
practice.
However, I also see rules as alittle bit controlling, and let
me let me again let me rephrasewhat I mean by that controlling,
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and let me again let merephrase what I mean by that.
My initial reaction is to sayit feels very controlling, it
feels very masculine, it feelsvery black and white, because I
think there are some basicthings that we need to or ways
we need to address or bring inour spirit communicator, to be
very respectful, but at the sametime I don't want to inhibit a
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medium's ability to bring intheir personality in this
session, like allow spirit toshowcase who they were, because
if she says no foul language andI'm bringing in some of my like
, let's just give my departedfamily members.
They swear like sailors, okay,and that is evidence, okay.
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And so I think there's thisdifference of respecting the
work versus staying true to theessence of the medium, of the
spirit, and I will go toe to toewith anybody who thinks that we
should avoid foul language inthis work.
And obviously, if you don'tlike it, you're not listening.
So I know you're all cool withit because I swear like a sailor
on here too, because I thinkthere are some things that maybe
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aren't rules or best practices,but it's more, oh, it's more
Puritan, based right In our like.
We need to be pure, we can'tswear, we can't talk about sex,
we can't talk about affairs,right, and like I'll tell you
what I have.
I have spirits that come throughthat are very dirty.
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Everybody, like they talk aboutsex, right, they talk about how
much they love somebody'sthighs right, like they do,
because these are souls, and ifwe're talking to spouses,
significant others that havepassed, like they do, they talk
about it.
I don't ask, but honestly, whenit does happen which doesn't
happen very often because it isthe medium and very
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uncomfortable when things likethat come through, I'll be
totally honestly, honest withall of you.
But when they do come through,there is a component of
significant evidence with thatthat my client always says oh,
my God, yes, like I'm prettysure I told a client I was like
he's talking about how amazingyour ass is right now, and so my
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client was like, yeah, that'sdefinitely him Right.
And so I think there is theserules that are in place for a
reason, I think to hold themedium accountable to the
highest integrity and ethics ofthe work, and I would agree that
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that is very important.
But I will not sacrifice ordumb down the spirit connection
because somebody believes thatit's uncomfortable or that it is
not what we should talk about,it's not polite, because I think
those are two very differentthings, because we're taking a
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very personal connection betweenour sitters and the spirit, a
very personal connection, and weare the conduit to deliver that
very personal connection.
And life is not always sunshineand rainbows.
Life is not PG or PG-13.
And a lot of the biggestevidence comes from the things
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that people don't know and thosetend to be rated R everybody.
So, although I do agree withbecause my amazing friend who
hosts this event, because it'sher reputation on the line,
because she doesn't know who'scoming, there was six mediums
and I think 60 other people thatwere on the line that day,
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because the volume of people whoI'm going to say could be
offended, I understand it and Idon't think I would talk or say
certain things in that forumanyway, and I would trust that
Spirit would not come throughtalking about you know, you know
the goods that somebody hasright, because that's not, it's
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not the time or the placeOne-on-one.
Sure, great, and so I.
It is really interesting to mebecause I think there are some
rules to this work, but I don'tlike to spell out a lot of the
specifics because I think thatthere's different rules for
different situations and Ihonestly don't agree with the
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sitter always responding withyes, no, I don't know, maybe
because I feel like you're thereagain for the human connection,
the human to soul connection,and so by making your sitter
respond with yes, no, I don'tknow, maybe you're taking the
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emotion out of these readingsand like to be fair, don't feed
the medium.
Like I don't, don't tell memore, don't don't give me more
than I've given.
You Like just validate whatI've said.
Or if you want to tell thestory about what I've said,
that's great.
I love that because you arereminiscing, you're connecting
when you think of these positiveexperiences, moments, and
you're validating them andyou're reminiscing with me about
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them.
That actually raises thevibration and makes the reading
so much better.
And the reading is for I know Isay it's for the spirit all the
time.
It's for the client too andit's for healing, and so a lot
of sitters need to be seen, needto be validated, need to be
heard because they've gonethrough traumatic events.
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And so, no, I don't agree witha lot of the rules because I
think, in the face of trauma, alot of stuff goes out the window
.
A lot of what we think arepolite things go out the window
because grief is raw, right.
Grief is a literal takedown ofyour entire body, your mind,
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your emotions, your hormones,like your whole body, responds
to grief and what the dumbingdown does is keeps it in the
mind.
And I want a whole body healingexperience for my clients.
So let's cry, let's bring outthe emotions, let's sob, let's
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relieve the tension that existseverywhere in your body by
bringing through the connection,the words, the phrases, the
emotions that are going to bemost healing for you.
And so I understand inherentlythis is my problem as a Libra is
I can see all sides, I canunderstand why my friend would
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send this out and I canunderstand why a lot of mediums
professionals would follow theserules, and hopefully you will
understand why I break thoserules after listening to me
today.
But, that being said, I'm notgoing to end it there, because
the spiritual slap that alwayshappens to me with my team is,
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as I'm writing down my notes,thinking about the rules of
mediumship and processing thisemail, about being pissed off
about it, about understandingher perspective, understanding
that you know she likes, she'sinherently somebody who likes
rules anyway.
So I'm to be honest, I'm notvery surprised.
And again, not her.
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There's a lot, a lot, a lot ofmediums that are like this.
What I heard when I was about toshut down my notes and move on
to the next podcast idea is Iheard the Hippocratic Oath and
that made me go huh.
And so what I ended up doingwas Googling the Hippocratic
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Oath that doctors take, right,and it was really interesting
because I want to take this ideaof the Hippocratic Oath and I
want to put it into a mediumshipperspective.
So I hope you don't mind, Ilike a little bit of chat.
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Gpt this channeled my team forthis a little bit too, and I
said could we rewrite theHippocratic Oath to be all about
mediumship and what I think arenot necessarily the rules but
the ethics of this work are notnecessarily the rules but the
ethics of this work.
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And so here you go, here is ourmediumship oath.
Everybody, I swear by the GreatSpirit, by the guides and
guardians who walk with me, bythe ancestors and the sacred
keepers of truth, and I take towitness all that is seen and
unseen that I will keep thisoath and covenant to the best of
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my ability and judgment.
I will honor with reverencethose who have taught me this
sacred art, provided they walkwith integrity, uphold high
moral conduct and serve withoutarrogance.
That one might be tough for me.
Everybody Just kidding, justkidding.
I will share what I havelearned with those who feel
called to work and walk on thispath, provided they are ready in
spirit and pure in intent.
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I will serve spirit to the bestof my ability and will not take
my access to the spirit worldlightly.
I will welcome only those whocome in truth and love and I
will honor the trust placed inme to carry these messages with
clarity and integrity.
I will hold my work inreverence, remembering always
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that I am but a bridge betweenworlds and that my role is to
serve the highest good.
I will never twist the messagesof spirit for vanity, gain or
power, nor will I offer falsecounsel to please the ears of
the living.
I will speak only of what istrue as I receive it, resisting
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the temptation to embellish foreffect.
I will recognize that each timeI work with spirit there is
something for me to learn and Iwill carry those lessons forward
.
I will maintain confidentialityand privacy where it is
appropriate to do so,safeguarding the sacred trust
between myself, spirit and thoseI serve.
I will strive to keep my ownspirit, mind and body in harmony
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, tending to my well-being sothat I may be a clear and
faithful vessel.
I will seek counsel andcontinuous growth, cleansing my
ego and sharpening mydiscernment that I may hear
truly and deliver withcompassion.
In moments of recognition, Iwill remember that the honor
belongs to spirit and not myself.
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May those I serve find healing,clarity and peace, and may our
time together honor both theliving and the departed.
Should I fulfill this oath andnot transgress it, may the
blessings of spirit and the joyof right work be mine, honored
in this life and remembered inthe next.
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Should I fail at this oath, maymy connection between myself
and my spirit grow dim until Ireturn to the path in humility
and truth.
How's that everybody?
Truth, how's that everybody?
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I think that covers all thebases of what I think are the
right things to do, the bestpractices and the ethics of
mediumship.
I don't have any other words tosay, so I'm going to end it
here.
There is my mediumship oath.
Enjoy everybody, take care.
Hello there, welcome back to Empower your Soul.
I want to talk today about therules of mediumship.
This one is a little bit of ahot button topic for me and then
, while I was considering how totalk about this in the podcast,
spirit like always, gave melike a giant smackdown and
(00:20):
really made me think differentlyabout the rules of mediumship.
So this was all spawned by mymentee asking me a question in a
group class that we had thatshe essentially wanted to post
more on social media, but shewants to be respectful of the
rules of mediumship.
So she asked me how do I sharemore about mediumship on social
media and how does she make surethat she's respecting the
(00:43):
practice in doing so?
And this was actually like areally good question.
I have to be honest with you.
She comes from a place of highintegrity and so she's
showcasing that even even askingthis question before sharing
things on social media.
So that speaks volumes to mymentee and her integrity and how
she respects this work.
(01:03):
Knowing all of this about her,my instinct and response was to
laugh, give a little chuckle andhighlight to her there are no
rules in this work.
Now it is interesting, right,that that was my first reaction
(01:23):
because of who was asking thequestion, but I can't tell you
that on a true and so let's getinto that.
Because literally the next day Ivolunteered to participate in a
(01:51):
free demonstration for a womanthat I have worked with, trained
with, for a few years now.
I highly respect her, I knowshe again has respect for the
work, very high integrity aswell, and so she asked me to
participate in this freedemonstration.
I graciously agreed On a Sundayafternoon.
(02:11):
I'm not going to go therebecause it's my, my, my weekend
times are gold everybody Like,just so you all know, if you
don't hear from me, if I don'trespond to emails, respond to
social media on the weekends, Ihave deemed that spirit-free
zone because I need that mentalbreak.
So the fact that I signed upfor this on the weekend, I think
, speaks volumes to how much Irespect this woman, because if
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anyone else asked I would havesaid no immediately.
So before this week, before afew days before this event, she
sends all of the mediums thatare participating there are six
of us, I believe Not just anemail about the logistics, what
to expect, what's the timing,who's going in the right order,
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but she also sends us a list ofexpectations for the mediums,
essentially rules that we needto follow for this event.
Now let me give you my initialresponse.
Before I even read the email, Iread like the first few
sentences and it was a giant eyeroll moment.
(03:17):
I was, to be honest with you,pissed off and livid Like I.
Honest with you, pissed off andlivid Like I, my ego came in
hot and heavy Because, if youknow me at all, if you've worked
with me at all, the number onething that people tell me and
(03:38):
compliment me on is my integrityin the work, my integrity.
And so that came in and feltlike a blindside super rude
thing to say, because if youhave to say it, that means
there's a problem, right.
And so it was just reallyinteresting to me that my first
reaction was to be so offendedand so upset at this email
(04:02):
essentially stating the rules ofthe demonstration.
Now I had to get my ego in check.
I had to use a few of the toolsfrom our Sacred Roots program,
the Nervous System Rebalancingprogram, and I had to, like,
step away, take a deep breath,calm my energy and realize that
this is not about me, becauseI'm sure, like every other sign
(04:24):
or ridiculous email.
You say something probablyhappened at some point which
prompted this email to go out toeverybody so that no one was
excluded from the disclaimer inthe rules.
And so I knew to swallow mypride and I knew that there was
probably a reason at some point.
There was probably a reason atsome point.
(04:45):
There was probably a mediumthat she didn't enjoy maybe
having in this demonstrationthat didn't follow the sacred
rules of working with spirit,and so she had to send this out.
So I swallowed my pride and Ifinally read it, and it was just
really interesting to read herrules in terms of mediumship
(05:05):
demonstration, because when Ithink of rules I think of ethics
, but she truly, and she's notalone in this, so I don't this
isn't just about this individualperson because I think that
this was very representative ofwhat a lot of mediums think are
the rules of mediumship.
So I'm going to kind of skimthrough her email really quick
(05:27):
and give you some of the rulesthat she gave in this a
demonstration.
So she's let me see.
So so, first off, because it isa demonstration with multiple
mediums, she does indicate nopiggybacking, so essentially,
like if someone was in front ofme going before me my job.
(05:50):
I don't want to pick up on thespirit that just came before me,
that's, I wouldn't say that's arule, but I would say that's
not, that's probably not ethicaland it's probably a little
snarky to the medium that comes.
A rule, but I would say that'sprobably not ethical and it's
probably a little snarky to themedium that comes before us.
So I do agree with this one andit does happen and I have seen
it happen, and I personallypiggybacked before, did not take
(06:10):
over, do another reading, but Isaid, hey, you know, I followed
up with what somebody didbefore me and I was like, oh my
gosh, they knitted blankets,right, because I could see that
the grandmother that theprevious medium was just reading
literally put a blanket aroundmy shoulders because I was cold.
So I wanted to give that and Imoved on to the next spirit.
But but piggybacking is a realthing and that can hurt the
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integrity of the medium thatcomes before you if you do a
better job than they do.
So, needless to say, I cancompletely understand that one.
That one makes sense to me.
But then she indicates that wework with integrity.
If I agree with this one kind ofkind of not Um, it is she she
(06:56):
follows up with.
If the spirit communicator Ihope she doesn't listen to this
and gets pissed at me.
Everybody, I'm so sorry.
If it's you, please know thatthis is more educational.
I know you'll appreciate that.
She indicates that if you'veread that sitter before and if
you've read that spirit before,that you say so.
You state it in front of theaudience, which I think is okay.
(07:18):
All right, I mean you.
I don't know if I agree withthat one personally, but I like
that.
She says if this happens, sheexpects spirit to give us new
evidence, and I do.
I completely agree with thatand I think that's why I'm
hesitating there.
So she has that one in therewhich is interesting.
And then she indicates that weavoid negativity, we avoid foul
language, we don't overemphasizehow the spirit passed, we don't
(07:44):
provide any details that willbe offensive.
We use common sense, we useethics, we focus on facts, we
focus on essence and we aremindful of people's feelings and
boundaries.
We are careful of the words wechoose and we state facts.
We state I know, I feel, Isense, and we don't say I guess.
(08:07):
I think she also says to makesure that the sitters are saying
yes, no, I don't know, maybe toevery single response.
I'll keep going, there's more.
We don't go psychic, let me seewhat else is there.
(08:34):
If we go psychic, we state it,we need to stay in the
mediumship vibration, we need tocheck with our recipients after
each statement for validation.
And then she says you know allof this information already.
What is really interesting is Ithink I know all of this.
I'm aware Nothing that she saidis too much for me.
(08:59):
I guess I'll say it that way,but I don't know if I've ever
really put to words all of thedifferent rules, requirements,
expectations of mediumship.
Because me personally, I trustspirit inherently and I've told
you this in other podcastepisodes too.
I trust that spirit is 100%going to bring through the right
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evidence for the right person.
They're going to avoid topicsthat don't need to be discussed
in a public forum.
They won't cover topics thatwill be controversial, upsetting
, and so it's just reallyinteresting to me, because I
think what she states as therules of the medium I don't know
(09:47):
this is maybe me being a total,me being a Nicole it's going to
be a new phrase.
It's not being Karen, it'sbeing a Nicole on here, being a
Nicole, and saying I don't takethose requirements, I give them
to spirit, like I literally takethem and I throw them over the
spiritual wall and I say you'reresponsible for that.
You are responsible for makingsure I'm not bringing on topics
(10:10):
that are unethical, I'm notsaying things that upset people,
I'm not using language thatupsets people.
I'm not using language thatupsets people, and so it's just
really.
I really liked it because Ithink, at the beginning of my
journey, this list, honestly,would have been very, very
helpful, because you are stillworking on a very deep
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connection with spirit, you arestill taking and interpreting
and probably maybe putting someof your own words to what you're
saying, and so a lot of thisstuff, I think is very relevant
in terms of the rules and let mephrase it, because it's not
rules these are best practicesfrom spirit, and so I really,
(10:55):
even though I'm kind of likegetting very critical on this
list, I do think it's a verygood list and baseline and best
practice.
However, I also see rules as alittle bit controlling, and let
me let me again let me rephrasewhat I mean by that controlling,
(11:20):
and let me again let merephrase what I mean by that.
My initial reaction is to sayit feels very controlling, it
feels very masculine, it feelsvery black and white, because I
think there are some basicthings that we need to or ways
we need to address or bring inour spirit communicator, to be
very respectful, but at the sametime I don't want to inhibit a
(11:40):
medium's ability to bring intheir personality in this
session, like allow spirit toshowcase who they were, because
if she says no foul language andI'm bringing in some of my like
, let's just give my departedfamily members.
They swear like sailors, okay,and that is evidence, okay.
(12:04):
And so I think there's thisdifference of respecting the
work versus staying true to theessence of the medium, of the
spirit, and I will go toe to toewith anybody who thinks that we
should avoid foul language inthis work.
And obviously, if you don'tlike it, you're not listening.
So I know you're all cool withit because I swear like a sailor
on here too, because I thinkthere are some things that maybe
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aren't rules or best practices,but it's more, oh, it's more
Puritan, based right In our like.
We need to be pure, we can'tswear, we can't talk about sex,
we can't talk about affairs,right, and like I'll tell you
what I have.
I have spirits that come throughthat are very dirty.
(12:50):
Everybody, like they talk aboutsex, right, they talk about how
much they love somebody'sthighs right, like they do,
because these are souls, and ifwe're talking to spouses,
significant others that havepassed, like they do, they talk
about it.
I don't ask, but honestly, whenit does happen which doesn't
happen very often because it isthe medium and very
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uncomfortable when things likethat come through, I'll be
totally honestly, honest withall of you.
But when they do come through,there is a component of
significant evidence with thatthat my client always says oh,
my God, yes, like I'm prettysure I told a client I was like
he's talking about how amazingyour ass is right now, and so my
(13:37):
client was like, yeah, that'sdefinitely him Right.
And so I think there is theserules that are in place for a
reason, I think to hold themedium accountable to the
highest integrity and ethics ofthe work, and I would agree that
(14:02):
that is very important.
But I will not sacrifice ordumb down the spirit connection
because somebody believes thatit's uncomfortable or that it is
not what we should talk about,it's not polite, because I think
those are two very differentthings, because we're taking a
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very personal connection betweenour sitters and the spirit, a
very personal connection, and weare the conduit to deliver that
very personal connection.
And life is not always sunshineand rainbows.
Life is not PG or PG-13.
And a lot of the biggestevidence comes from the things
(14:50):
that people don't know and thosetend to be rated R everybody.
So, although I do agree withbecause my amazing friend who
hosts this event, because it'sher reputation on the line,
because she doesn't know who'scoming, there was six mediums
and I think 60 other people thatwere on the line that day,
(15:12):
because the volume of people whoI'm going to say could be
offended, I understand it and Idon't think I would talk or say
certain things in that forumanyway, and I would trust that
Spirit would not come throughtalking about you know, you know
the goods that somebody hasright, because that's not, it's
(15:33):
not the time or the placeOne-on-one.
Sure, great, and so I.
It is really interesting to mebecause I think there are some
rules to this work, but I don'tlike to spell out a lot of the
specifics because I think thatthere's different rules for
different situations and Ihonestly don't agree with the
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sitter always responding withyes, no, I don't know, maybe
because I feel like you're thereagain for the human connection,
the human to soul connection,and so by making your sitter
respond with yes, no, I don'tknow, maybe you're taking the
(16:17):
emotion out of these readingsand like to be fair, don't feed
the medium.
Like I don't, don't tell memore, don't don't give me more
than I've given.
You Like just validate whatI've said.
Or if you want to tell thestory about what I've said,
that's great.
I love that because you arereminiscing, you're connecting
when you think of these positiveexperiences, moments, and
you're validating them andyou're reminiscing with me about
(16:39):
them.
That actually raises thevibration and makes the reading
so much better.
And the reading is for I know Isay it's for the spirit all the
time.
It's for the client too andit's for healing, and so a lot
of sitters need to be seen, needto be validated, need to be
heard because they've gonethrough traumatic events.
(17:03):
And so, no, I don't agree witha lot of the rules because I
think, in the face of trauma, alot of stuff goes out the window
.
A lot of what we think arepolite things go out the window
because grief is raw, right.
Grief is a literal takedown ofyour entire body, your mind,
(17:25):
your emotions, your hormones,like your whole body, responds
to grief and what the dumbingdown does is keeps it in the
mind.
And I want a whole body healingexperience for my clients.
So let's cry, let's bring outthe emotions, let's sob, let's
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relieve the tension that existseverywhere in your body by
bringing through the connection,the words, the phrases, the
emotions that are going to bemost healing for you.
And so I understand inherentlythis is my problem as a Libra is
I can see all sides, I canunderstand why my friend would
(18:10):
send this out and I canunderstand why a lot of mediums
professionals would follow theserules, and hopefully you will
understand why I break thoserules after listening to me
today.
But, that being said, I'm notgoing to end it there, because
the spiritual slap that alwayshappens to me with my team is,
(18:32):
as I'm writing down my notes,thinking about the rules of
mediumship and processing thisemail, about being pissed off
about it, about understandingher perspective, understanding
that you know she likes, she'sinherently somebody who likes
rules anyway.
So I'm to be honest, I'm notvery surprised.
And again, not her.
(18:53):
There's a lot, a lot, a lot ofmediums that are like this.
What I heard when I was about toshut down my notes and move on
to the next podcast idea is Iheard the Hippocratic Oath and
that made me go huh.
And so what I ended up doingwas Googling the Hippocratic
(19:16):
Oath that doctors take, right,and it was really interesting
because I want to take this ideaof the Hippocratic Oath and I
want to put it into a mediumshipperspective.
So I hope you don't mind, Ilike a little bit of chat.
(19:36):
Gpt this channeled my team forthis a little bit too, and I
said could we rewrite theHippocratic Oath to be all about
mediumship and what I think arenot necessarily the rules but
the ethics of this work are notnecessarily the rules but the
ethics of this work.
(19:57):
And so here you go, here is ourmediumship oath.
Everybody, I swear by the GreatSpirit, by the guides and
guardians who walk with me, bythe ancestors and the sacred
keepers of truth, and I take towitness all that is seen and
unseen that I will keep thisoath and covenant to the best of
(20:25):
my ability and judgment.
I will honor with reverencethose who have taught me this
sacred art, provided they walkwith integrity, uphold high
moral conduct and serve withoutarrogance.
That one might be tough for me.
Everybody Just kidding, justkidding.
I will share what I havelearned with those who feel
called to work and walk on thispath, provided they are ready in
spirit and pure in intent.
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I will serve spirit to the bestof my ability and will not take
my access to the spirit worldlightly.
I will welcome only those whocome in truth and love and I
will honor the trust placed inme to carry these messages with
clarity and integrity.
I will hold my work inreverence, remembering always
(21:10):
that I am but a bridge betweenworlds and that my role is to
serve the highest good.
I will never twist the messagesof spirit for vanity, gain or
power, nor will I offer falsecounsel to please the ears of
the living.
I will speak only of what istrue as I receive it, resisting
(21:31):
the temptation to embellish foreffect.
I will recognize that each timeI work with spirit there is
something for me to learn and Iwill carry those lessons forward
.
I will maintain confidentialityand privacy where it is
appropriate to do so,safeguarding the sacred trust
between myself, spirit and thoseI serve.
I will strive to keep my ownspirit, mind and body in harmony
(21:56):
, tending to my well-being sothat I may be a clear and
faithful vessel.
I will seek counsel andcontinuous growth, cleansing my
ego and sharpening mydiscernment that I may hear
truly and deliver withcompassion.
In moments of recognition, Iwill remember that the honor
belongs to spirit and not myself.
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May those I serve find healing,clarity and peace, and may our
time together honor both theliving and the departed.
Should I fulfill this oath andnot transgress it, may the
blessings of spirit and the joyof right work be mine, honored
in this life and remembered inthe next.
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Should I fail at this oath, maymy connection between myself
and my spirit grow dim until Ireturn to the path in humility
and truth.
How's that everybody?
Truth, how's that everybody?
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I think that covers all thebases of what I think are the
right things to do, the bestpractices and the ethics of
mediumship.
I don't have any other words tosay, so I'm going to end it
here.
There is my mediumship oath.
Enjoy everybody, take care.
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