Overcoming Comparison Fatigue—Your Lane is Sacred

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Ever been told to “pick a lane” when your life is clearly a whole highway? We go straight at comparison fatigue—the kind that hits multi-called women who are growing businesses, raising kids, and healing old wounds—without asking you to shrink your vision. Through raw storytelling, faith-grounded encouragement, and practical strategy, we reframe capacity as calling and replace shame with stewardship.

We unpack what comparison really steals: clarity, confidence, and the courage to take up space. Tammy shares a breaking-point moment when shrinking felt safer than shining, and the pivot that reframed six kids and multiple businesses as an assignment, not a liability. We ground the conversation in Ephesians 2:10 to dismantle the myth of one-size-fits-all success, then move into six concrete steps to get free: stop measuring your full story against someone else’s highlight chapter, audit inputs and influences, own your season out loud, champion multi-passionate women, return to your why for each calling, and permit evolution across seasons.

You’ll also get a set of spoken declarations designed to retrain your inner narrative and a powerful, restorative prayer for women carrying layered responsibilities. Along the way, we normalize imperfect systems, celebrate sustainable growth, and honor the truth that your home is a headquarters and your life is a legacy in motion. If you’ve felt “too much” in business rooms and “not enough” at the school pickup line, this conversation gives language, strategy, and courage to claim your lane.

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Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Welcome to Beyond the Comfort Zone, the podcast
where women in business refuseto play small.
I'm your host, Tammy Maynard,CEO Bestie, Visibility Coach,
and your go-to girl for faith,strategy, and big
disencouragement.
If you're a purpose-drivenwoman, mama, tired of hustling
in silence, and ready to getunmuted in business and life,

(00:22):
you're in the right place.
Every week, we'll get real aboutthe highs, the lows, and the
unseen struggles nobody talksabout.
You'll hear bold stories,mindset shifts, practical
strategies, and faith-filled peptalks to help you show up, speak
up, and build a business andlegacy God designs you for.
So grab your notebook, sis, andlet's turn fear into fuel

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because your comfort zone is notyour friend zone.
This is beyond the comfort zonewhere we help women go from
silent to theme.
Let's dive in.

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Because I know you're notdealing with casual comparison.
You're not just scrolling andfeeling a little meh about
someone else's curated feed.
Now, sis.
You're out here with multiplebusinesses, children.
Some of us have a marriage, acalling, and a past that already

(01:34):
tried to convince you that youwere not enough.
And still, you're fighting thewhispers that tell you you're
doing it wrong, you're fallingbehind, or you're too much and
not enough all at the same time.
Let's talk about comparisonfatigue for the woman who isn't

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just juggling.
She's building empires whileraising humans, while healing
old wounds, while trying tohonor God with it all.
This one's for you, sis.
The one who's been compared to,compared against, and who

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compares herself in ways thatmost people would never
understand.
Your lane isn't just sacred,it's a battlefield you're
sanctifying one brave step at atime.
So let's dig in.
Let's get free.
And let's remind you why Godchose you for this assignment.

(02:41):
How many times have you openedInstagram and saw a mom
entrepreneur with one businessand one child talking about
balance and felt both jealousand guilty for even feeling that
way?
Maybe you watched anotherbusiness owner celebrate a lunch
while you're trying to figureout which of your three projects

(03:02):
to prioritize this week, whilealso meal planning, managing
carpool, and showing up for yourmarriage.
Maybe you've seen someone'ssix-figure year post and
thought, but does she have sixkids, a boutique, a podcast, a
membership, and a healingjourney she's still walking

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through?
Maybe you felt judged by othermoms for working too much and
judged by business people fornot being focused enough because
you refuse to choose betweenyour children and your calling.
Or maybe you've even questionedif God really called you to do
any of this.

(03:44):
Or if you're just doing toomuch, being too ambitious, but
trying to prove somethingbecause of the little girl
inside of you who was alwaystold she wasn't enough.
Me too.
And here's what I need you toknow: comparison isn't just a
surface level struggle for womenlike us.
It's layered.
It's trauma meeting ambition.
It's motherhood meetingmarketplace.

(04:05):
It's healing wounds whilebuilding wealth.
It's managing the guilt ofwanting more while loving what
you already have.
Comparison for us isn't a badhabit.
It's a multi front war.
Here's what's really at stakefor us.
You start shrinking your visionto make others comfortable.

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You start thinking maybe Ishould just focus on one thing
so people can take me seriously.
Maybe I'm being selfish tryingto build while my kids are still
young.
You start apologizing for yourambition.
Downplaying your wins, yourgoals, your income targets.
Just because society told youthat a good mom doesn't want

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empire, she wants balance.
You internalize the chaos asfailure.
Your house isn't Pinterestperfect, your systems aren't
seamless, your content isn'tpolished, and instead of seeing
it as real life, you see it asevidence that you're not
measuring up.

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You carry invisible shame.
Shame for wanting financialfreedom.
Shame for needing help.
Shame for not being the stay athome, homeschool, sourdough
bacon version of motherhood.
Shame for being too much inevery space you enter.

(05:33):
You measure your healing againstother people's highlight reels.
You've done the therapy, thejournaling, the faith work, but
when you see someone who looksconfident, you wonder if you'll
ever really be free from thegirl who was bullied, the woman
who doubted herself, the versionof you that still whispers, who
do you think you are?

(05:55):
Sis, let me tell you something.
God doesn't call the qualified,he qualifies the called.
And he didn't give you thiscapacity, this vision, this
fire, these children, thesebusinesses just to watch you
suffocate on the comparison.

(06:17):
Comparison nearly stole mymulti-calling assignment.
There was a season when I wasdrowning in comparison, and it
wasn't the Instagram kind.
It was the deep, suffocatingkind.
I'd see mom with fewer kidstalking about how hard it was.
And I'd think, then what doesthat make me?
Crazy?
Incapable?

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I'd see business coaches withone streamlined offer while I
was building a membership, aboutique, a podcast, a coaching
program, and communities.
And I'd wondered if I wasscattered, unfocused, or just
trying to do too much to prove Iwas worthy.
I'd hear women talk about theirhealing journey, past tense,

(07:00):
while I was still activelyworking through triggers, still
rebuilding confidence daily,still fighting the lives that
bullying planted in me as achild.
And sis, I started to shrink.
I started apologizing for mydreams.
I stopped posting about certainwins because I didn't want
people to think I was too muchor not focused.

(07:22):
I even thought about shuttingdown parts of my business just
to look more put together.
You know what broke me free?
A moment of clarity that said,Tammy, stop trying to fit into a
lane God didn't build for you.

(07:43):
Your multiple businesses,anointed.
Your six kids, a crown, not acomplication.
Your healing journey is a partof your authority.
Your ambition is God given.
God didn't say Tammy peak one.

(08:06):
He said, Tammy, I gave you thecapacity for all of it.
Now trust me to sustain you init.
Since I need you to hear this.
Nobody else is stewarding yourexact assignment.
Nobody else has your children'snames written on their heart,

(08:29):
your specific business visionsdownloaded in their spirit, your
story of rising from beingbullied to becoming a CEO, your
capacity to carrying multiplecallings and make it work, your
unique blend of faith,motherhood, entrepreneurship,
healing, and boldness.
Your journey is not too much.

(08:52):
It's multifaceted by design.
Let's look at scripture.
For we are God's handiwork,created in Christ Jesus to do
good works, which God preparedin advance for us to do.
Look in Ephesians chapter 2,verse 10.

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Handiwork, not mass produced,not cookie cutter, not one size
fits all.
God created you specifically forthe life you're living, the
businesses, the babies, thebreadth of it all.
You're not doing too much, sis.
You're doing what you were builtfor.

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Now let's look into how to breakfree from multi-level
comparison.
Here are practical steps for thewoman carrying it all.
I want to make this actionable,sis, because you don't have time
for the fluff.
Let's look at step one.
Stop comparing your full storyto their highlight chapter.

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That mom with one kid and onebusiness, celebrate her.
Stop using her capacity as themeasuring stick for yours.
God gave you more because hetrusts you with more.
Step two, audit your fees andyour inner circle.
Mute the accounts that make youquestion your calling.

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Distance yourself from people,even well-meaning friends or
family who subtly make you feellike you need to choose between
motherhood and ambition.
Step three, own your season outloud.
Stop apologizing.
Stop saying, I know I'm all overthe place.
Start saying I'm buildingmultiple streams of impact and

(10:43):
I'm doing it on purpose.
Step four, celebrate othermulti-passionate women.
They're your tribe.
Find the women who are alsodoing too much and cheer loudly
for them.
The more you normalize yourlane, the less you'll question
it.
Step five, return to your whyfor each calling.

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Ask yourself, why did I startthis business?
Why am I mothering thesechildren?
Why am I walking this healingjourney publicly?
When you reconnect with purpose,comparison loses its grip.
And step number six, giveyourself permission to evolve.
Some seasons you'll focus moreon one business.

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Some seasons you'll pour intoyour kids.
Some seasons you'll need to restand heal.
None of that is failure.
All of it is stewardship.
And here comes your big sis peptalk.
Sis, listen to me.

(11:52):
You are not too much, you arenot scattered, you are not
behind, you are not failingbecause your life doesn't look
like hers.
You are a woman carryingmultiple callings, and that is a
gift, not a burden.
Stop waiting for permission totake up space.
Stop shrieking your visionbecause people can't comprehend
it.
Stop questioning whether Godreally called you to all of

(12:16):
this.
He did.
And he's not confused about yourcapacity, your multiple
businesses, seeds of legacy,sis.
Your children, walkingtestimonies, your healing, your
authority, your faith, yourfoundation.
You don't need to do less.
You need to stop apologizing fordoing what God assigned you to
do.

(12:40):
Say these with me, sis, outloud, with your whole chest.
I am not too much.
I am exactly who God created meto be.
My multiple callings are notchaos, they're divine design.
I do not have to choose betweenbeing a great mother and a

(13:00):
successful entrepreneur.
I can be both.
My healing journey does notdisqualify me.
It deepens my authority.
Comparison has no hold on me.
I celebrate others whilehonoring my own lane.
I am not behind.
I am building an empire onefaithful step at a time.

(13:25):
I want to pray for you, sis,because oftentimes we don't pray
for one another as much as weshould.
So if you'll allow me to, Iwould like to extend a healing
prayer for the woman who iscarrying it all.
Father God, today I lift upevery single woman listening who

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is carrying multiple callings,multiple children, multiple
businesses, and multiple burdensthat the world doesn't see.
Lord, you see the momentrepreneur who feels like
she's failing at both, toodistracted for her kids, too
unavailable for her business.
You see the woman rebuildingconfidence while building a

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brand, still healing from woundswhile leading others into
freedom.
You see the wife trying to showup for her marriage while
managing a full plate that herspouse doesn't always
understand.
You see the woman of faith wholoves you deeply but wrestles
with guilt of wanting financialabundance, influence, and
impact.

(14:29):
God, I pray right now that youbreak every lie that says she's
doing too much.
Silence every voice, internaland external, that tells her the
shrink, to choose, to apologizefor her ambition.
Lord, remind her that you don'tgive capacity without calling.
If you trusted her with multiplebusinesses, multiple children,

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and a multidimensionalassignment, then you will
sustain her in it.
God heal the parts of her thatstill carry the weight of being
bullied, overlooked, or told shewasn't enough.
Let her know that her past doesnot disqualify her.
It prepared her.

(15:12):
Break the spirit of comparisonoff of her life.
Let her stop measuring her fullstory against other women's
single chapters.
Let her celebrate their winswithout diminishing her own.
Restore her confidence in herunique lane.
Remind her that she is notscattered.

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She is multi-gifted.
She is not behind.
She is building on yourtimeline.
Let her walk in holy boldness,knowing that every calling she
carries is backed by your grace,your strength, and your purpose.
And Lord, surround her withsisterhood, women who

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understand, who celebrate, whochampion her instead of
competing with her.
We declare she is enough.
She is anointed.
She is exactly where you wanther.
In the mighty, powerful, chainbreaking name of Jesus.
Amen.

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And if you need a circle ofsisters who get it, who
understand the weight, thevision, the faith, and the fire,
come join us in the UnmutedSisterhood on Facebook.
Remember, sis, you're not toomuch.
You're a multi-calling womanwalking in her divine
assignment.
Stay in your lane, sis.

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Run your race and shine in everydimension God gave you.

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Remember, your comfort zone isnot your friend zone.
Break free, be bold, and keepshowing up.
This is Tammy Maynard, andyou've been listening to Beyond
the Comfort Zone, where we turnfear into fuel and dreams into
reality.
I believe in you, and I hope youdo too.

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See you next time, sis.