January 15, 2025 • 43 mins
In this episode, DDRL breaks girl code! New series exposing the secret world of women! How women think How women act How women do. You don’t want to miss these insider tips ! Stop being single and grab that word relationships by the balls ! Here’s how !!! @everyone #everyone #massfollowing
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Are we talking romantic relationships, friendships, or
both? Well, but I mean, I want to help
the guys, you know, kind of get like a little bit inside scoop
of maybe, you know, coming at women at a different way.
I mean, there there's no reason why they shouldn't be taught or
exposed to, you know, behind thescenes of what women think.
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You know, why we do things, why women cheat, why women want to
do this, why women ghost you. I mean, there's a whole world
out there that men could be aware of to help and women are
stubborn. We're stubborn, we're egoistic,
We're we got pride. We've got you know, we don't
want to like look insecure. We don't want to look like we're
not independent. You know, we have like this
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shell outside of us that we haveto maintain even with her broke
ass bitches. We will never admit that to a
guy, you know, and let him know like our vulnerabilities, you
know, there's just like, you know, we don't want to look like
we're weak. You know, we want to these days,
these generations coming up and all around us, they're all
different and they're all like their mindsets are different.
But at the end of the day, womenstill always like will stay the
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same when it comes to like our morals of our girl code.
You know, like, and I'm and I'm going to expose it.
I'm going to expose it. And you know what?
I don't give flying rats ass. Like I want to help and I want
to like be a person that can make a difference in in the
world, in the dating world, in this single light, in the
soulmate search. You know, all of that stuff.
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And, you know, even if I am still, and I'm in the same boat
too, I'm still, you know, not searching, but I'm not in a, you
know, didn't like, I'm not denying any sort of like running
into my soul mates, soul mates, plural, singular, you know, I
just I'm not against, you know, being in a relationship.
I just haven't like been spending a lot of time trying to
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be in one, if that makes any sense.
I just, I'm focusing on myself right now and my, you know, my
kids and we're older now, but like I'm focusing on my career,
my passions of what I wanted to do in my life, that in this
chapter of my life. And I don't know, maybe I'm, I'm
fucking it up and maybe I shouldbe focusing on, on a partners of
I don't know, I but I'm, I don'twant to like have this
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distraction of a relationship right now when I am giving
100,000% to my, my focus and my time and everything to the
podcast and I have been for overa year now.
So I mean, that's, that's my, that's my story and I'm sticking
to it. Bitch, right.
Kendall so there is there is a series that I wanted to now come
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out, you know, do and that's howthis all got started is because
I was like, you know what I'm going to like do it.
I'm going to go for a candle andI'm going to tell the world or
the guys, you know, what they need to do, what she's thinking,
what she's going to do, what youshould do next move.
You know, those are the tips that you know, you should know
because I not only, you know, not trying to like break girl
code that bad, you know, but I mean, literally I am.
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That's an oxymoron statement of myself, but I have a gift.
One of my gifts that I have is, you know, I'm very sensitive to
emotions and very sensitive to auras and extremely sensitive to
the psychology of a of a human being and their body language.
And you know, I can read people like you have no idea.
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Like I have this intuitionism gift in me that is so powerful
that it is annoying. Like it is so powerful that I
can't even turn it off. I mean, I hate the fact that I
am so in tune to everybody around me.
And the air, I mean, just the air you breathe, I can, I can
sense what it does to you. I mean, I can feel everything.
I could feel it. I could smell it.
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I could see it. I can hear it, you know, and I
am just like, sometimes I just want to shut it off.
I just want to shut it off and be like, yo, Dev, like, come on,
like, why do we got to like, youknow, over analyze everything
that this person's doing and saying right now?
Like, why do we got to like analyze that person?
And it's, it's like I don't wantto my body, my brain and my, my,
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my just meet my brain just automatically reads people like
it's kind of like a psychic medium ability, you know, that I
have. And it is a it's exhausting.
It's so exhausting because I cantell when somebody lying
instantly. I mean, I don't even have to
meet you over meet you in person.
And I can like tell if you're lying or telling the truth.
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It's such a powerful gift that Ihaven't, it's haven't met
anyone. I have met some people similar
to it, but I haven't been aroundanyone that has the similar gift
in a long time. And so therefore it is very
challenging for me to be around individuals of not of my level.
And so when you're not of my level and I'm around you, I pick
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up on so much stuff around me and that person that I, I just
like, I kind of ruined the wholeday.
I ruined the whole day because Ialready know what's going to
happen in the day. I already can feel it.
I mean, I can feel this, this gift.
I mean, not only can I say it and speak it and hear it and
know it, I can feel it. You know, it's a feeling that I
get and I have not been wrong with it at all.
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Like I'm 100% accurate on this. And so therefore I can, I can
sense when a guy, I mean instantly, when I meet someone
instantly. You don't even need to show me
like yourself in person. Just show me a picture of who,
of who you are. I don't need to smell you.
I don't need to touch you and I need nothing.
I could tell you instantly, tenuously, what our
compatibility will be. I mean, have I been wrong?
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I mean, on that note, maybe I maybe I've judged a couple
books, you know, the wrong way and there are covers the wrong
way. But majority of the time I could
confidently and scientifically and radically say I've been
accurate. And so I don't like to waste
time because I don't I don't have much time and I don't know
how to manage it anyway. So I mean, I guess I could be
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wasting time and not even fucking knowing about it anyway
because I suck at time management.
What I just don't want to waste my time if I go somewhere on a
date with somebody and I alreadylike, I won't even get to that
phase of going on a date with them because I will already know
that it's not a compatibility thing.
But I'm not a bitch either. I mean, I can be a bitch.
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Like, you know, we all, we all can be a little bitch sometimes.
But I am a nice person, you know, I don't like to be a
natural bitch. And so a lot of women out there,
a lot of vaginas, they are a natural bitch.
And so I'm not one of them, but like, like I said, it can be
one, but they, they basically, or I basically, you know, the
guy messages me or something andI try to respond back to as many
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people as I possibly can. And as humanly impossible as
that is, most of the time I feelguilty of it because I want to.
I don't like want to make a guy feel like he made an attempt to
contact me and I avoided it or like I totally ghosted him.
That's not the case. You know, it's just, I didn't
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see it and, you know, I just, I just didn't see it, you know,
And so, but then again, guys, you know, I don't want to.
There's two reasons. I don't want to respond
sometimes or I don't respond because I haven't seen it A and
then B, I want to respond because I want to give that guy
credit for, you know, if he thinks that I'm out of his
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league or something like that. He had the courage to make a
initiated like an attempt to contact me.
And that's kind of sometimes forintroverted especially and and
guys that have a little bit of insecurities, that's a big step
for them to do. You know, it takes a bold man,
you know, to come up to a girl or approach a girl that is, you
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know, he thinks is out of his league, you know, and, or
intimidating or you know, any ofthose, you know, you know,
features because I'm an attractive female and you know,
I'm independent. I'm spoken.
I mean, I speak, I'm very like well spoken when it comes to
like my opinions on things and I, I come across as
intimidating, you know, I'm veryalpha and you know, but I'm
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still a good person at the end of the day.
So I, you know, have had many, many, many guys tell me that I,
it took them a long, took them alot of courage to come up to me.
And I don't want to shatter thatfeeling of a, of a guy.
You know, I don't want to be thereason why a guy still remains,
you know, vulnerable to approach, you know, women, you
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know, where he may think that they're either his league, You
know, that's just a confidence thing, you know, like step it
up, dudes. I mean, like, if you think a
bitch is out of your league, younever know until you try, right?
So that's why I try to respond gone back to as many, you know,
the guys that, you know, approached me and stuff and
asked me if I'm single and, you know, ask me if I want to go to
a date and dinner and all that because I don't want I want them
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to be proud of like that. They grew some balls and they
like came up to me and approached me.
So that's, you know, reasoning on that on that Ave.
The other thing C is sometimes Idon't like to respond when I do
check those type of messages andstuff because I also it's like a
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it's like a double edged sword situation.
You also give the guy that's vulnerable or you know, a little
on the insecure introverted side.
I would say sorry. I'm having issues right now.
Our systems are experiencing heavy load.
Please try again later. OK, Kendall, you're fine.
So she has issues sometimes, so I don't.
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Sometimes when you respond back to a guy too, that is a little
bit on the vulnerable side, he takes that as like you saying
yes to his wedding proposal, youknow, he says, Oh my gosh, she
responded like holy Bach. Like she is my girl.
Like that's my girl. Like we are in it.
Like she responded back to me, Like they take a little like
note that I'll respond back as like an open door key, like a
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like a universal key that just turned for them.
And it said, Hey, Debbie responded to you.
That means she's in. We got her, you know, and that's
not the case. You know, I respond back because
I'm a social media whore. You know, I'm all over social
media and I love it, you know, selective whore.
So it's like my personality to talk to people.
I love talking to people. I love the talk.
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You know, sometimes I take a little break because sometimes I
exhaust myself. But guys, you know, that's your
that's your like girl, girl codebreaker right there is like when
a girl or in a female, you know,responds back to you, don't jump
the gun and think instantaneously that the female
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isn't you. I mean, she there's still the
friend zone, you're still in friend zone, you know, and you
have to take it at baby steps because there's different types
of breeds of women out there that your approach back in the,
you know, the fragile, very fragile initiation initiated,
you know, stages of, you know, interacting with female.
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Those are those are like the most crucial moments of, you
know, determining if this relationship, a relationship or
form, you know, so it's like play it very, very what's the
word I'm looking for candle likeplay it very cautiously,
cautiously of how you choose your words and how you react and
what you say and what your gestures are, because I pay
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attention to those very much. So if I get a red flag feeling,
you know, from my precious, you know, intuitive gift that I
have, I will back off. I will back off instantly
because I've given off a either like the wrong signal, I've said
the wrong things, which I don't really say the the wrong thing
because I copy and paste like everything that I say.
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Like, I mean, I can't. I know that sounds horrible, but
I mean, sometimes I do just out of a trying to get things done
quick. I will just copy and paste like
my response back to most a lot of messages.
But I mean, it's still the same thing that I would say anyway.
I just, you know, copy to paste it and have to sit there and
retype it a million times. You know, I say like, Hey, thank
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you for the in the sweet word, their kind words.
You know, I appreciate you reaching out, you know, or I
mean, if it's if it's something that I will leave a little bit
more like personal, I would do that.
But yeah, it's like not being lazy.
It's just time. Time management, bitches, time
management. So I normally but if I sense a
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guy is latching onto me that soon in the game, I'm it's a red
flag. You know, it's like, whoa, stop
my horse. Whoa, Nelly, I will just just
mirror. I'll just move on.
I probably won't even respond orI won't even look at the message
and or if, if need be, I'll block them, you know, so I have
no problem doing that. B word B to the L to the O to
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the C to the K block bitch. So I've got a heavy list on the
block. But it's all for protection.
All for protection. So, you know, don't be all
psycho and insecure and and all that, like be cute and funny in
the beginning. You know, that's what we that's
what a female would like grasp onto is being like, keep it
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really light. Nothing like ballbusting.
No, you know, just no personal details of things and don't
overcome, like overcomplicate itand don't overcompliment, you
know, because unlike me, I'm notsure the percentage of women out
there that can read people like I can.
Because I'm telling you, this gift is strong.
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Like I am probably the scholar of this gift that I have.
Like, I'm not joking. It is like that's it seems to
get stronger and stronger each each year, you know, that I am
on this earth. But at first I was like, what
the fuck is this feeling that I have?
Like I don't even know what thisis.
And then, you know, over over the time I have like developed
into it and I now like I'm well,I figured it's out a while ago,
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but I now know that my gift of my intuitionism, he's like a
beast, beast. It seriously is a beast.
But so I'm not really sure how many other women can read as
good as I can. People read people, you know,
auras and stuff. But I instantly that's the other
thing too. But if you have a chick out
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there that has the same gift as me or similar gift as me, you
know, we can read y'all mother fuckers.
Like I mean, it's to a point where I mean I just am sick and
tired of having to be so blunt sometimes.
And I want to like I want a white lie or something and just
not have to be that blunt bitch all the time and just be this
like white liar that goes aroundand white lies about all her
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real white lying like, you know,feelings and white lie.
But I just I can't, I suck at I suck at that.
So I keep it real real raw and rare right candle candle breaker
breaker 19. Do we have candle in the house?
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She might still be having issues.
They've been they when they get to Sorry I'm.
Having issues right now. Our systems are experiencing
heavy load. Please try again Len later.
See, they're having too much of A load over there.
So yeah, I just I don't know, I just feel bad for the guys that
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like have to deal with with me That be it's not that I feel bad
for you, but I'm a lot to handleunless I just been you know, I'm
digging this first episode into a little bit more my personal
stuff. But like we're we'll go into a
little deeper route of like the girl code breaking the girl
code. But guys that are attempt to
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come up to the plate, you know, to handle me, I mean, are
blindsided by the fact of like how much I entail.
And I'm not talking on a financial Ave. because even if I
am up or down or in the middle or stagnant or or really high up
and wherever I am in my financial world is none of
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anyone's business. A&B.
It's it's my problem. It's not your problem.
It's not his problem, not her problem, you know, and it never
will be your problem because I will never make it anyone else's
problem but my own, you know, And so I that's how I think and
that's how stubborn I will always think because I don't
want anyone to be into that world of mine, you know, that's
my world. And, you know, and the reason
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why I say it like that is because it does stem from a PTSD
of my past, you know, because I have been in that situation
where I have been in a relationship where money and
finances were used to control meand were used against me and
were used, you know, like selfishly to me.
And I mean, and I refuse to everbe put in that position again.
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So that's why ever since then, Idon't let anyone or any man, you
know, share that world with me. I mean, there's sharing, don't
get me wrong. Like I'll pay for something.
He pays for something I get. What you're saying, Debbie, it
sounds like you're setting firm boundaries, especially around
finances. Because of that past trauma, I
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think it's important to take control over your own world and
not let anyone dictate or control you again.
The weight of that experience can definitely shape how you
approach future relationships and interactions.
What I'm curious about is how this perspective plays into your
take on breaking the girl code. Do you think it's about
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redefining what's OK and and notOK in relationships, especially
when there's so much vulnerability involved?
There is a lot of vulnerability involved a candle and that's a
very good point. And, you know, it's just I just
went down this rabbit hole a little bit.
You know, I wasn't intending to like go so personal with myself.
But I mean, the whole point of the new series, you know,
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breaking Girl Code is, you know,to help out the guys, you know,
see us women in a different light and maybe learn how to
make awareness to themselves andactually, you know, educate
themselves a little bit more on what a female like demands are.
And when I say demands, don't take that out of context.
You know, it's not like, you know, this hardcore military, I
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mean, maybe it could be, but youknow, it's just, you know, our
standards are sometimes like allover the place.
I mean, I know I lose those bitches all the time and and it
does nothing but bad, bad, bad to me.
So I mean, I got to get myself like a little like Louis Vuitton
with a little lock on it and thelittle suitcase thing and put
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the standards in there and keep them bitches next to me at all
times because those things go running off.
Like the next thing you know, I'm with like a gang member that
just got out of prison. You don't like.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. So it is just something, you
know, that's. Such a powerful way of putting
it. Debbie, I love how you're using
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this series to give guys a real,raw insight into the complexity
of women's needs and expectations without the
cliches. It's definitely not about strict
unrealistic demands, but more about setting standards that
when ignored, can really mess with us.
And I get the humor in your analogy with the Louis Vuitton
lock up, but I think you're really on to something there.
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When those standards aren't clear or respected, it can lead
to situations that are way off course.
You're showing that balance, standing firm on what you need,
but also dealing with the unpredictability that comes with
relationships. So what's next on the agenda for
Breaking Girl Code? Kendall, you're making some very
bad points. And, you know, I was just I just
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wanted to touch base, you know, I went on the approach, you
know, when you when you talk to a female, just keep it really
light, you know, and just keep it really, you know, just don't
pressure her and don't, you know, make her don't give
deadlines. Don't, you know, just chill the
fuck out. You know, when you first in meet
her and time it will be on your hands or on your side, you know,
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as long as you just take those very fragile initiated, you
know, phases of meeting or contacting a female, you know,
into into play. And, you know, I'm aware that
there's transgender, there's, you know, there's all cut pan
anime, whatever it's called. There's, you know.
Bisexual people, I'm not focusing on all of that right
now. Like I'm just focusing on, and
I'm not being judgmental at all or stereotyping.
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So everybody get that out of your head.
I'm just focusing on trying to help guys out there, you know,
get, get control of like a worldthat they cannot control it, but
like get inside of how they can control them, their approach,
you know, to women, because it'sall about approach at the end of
the day, you know, your approach.
If you come up to me, I'll twistit and you know, and like this
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way and trying to flex on this and that, I'm going to like, I'm
going to see right through you. I'm going to see it, smell it
from a mile away. I'm going to already sense it.
And then it's, it's a no go. It's I won't even give you like
2 sentences out of my mouth. I'll just be like, bye, Felicia,
you know, and it just, it just won't work, you know, And so
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it's just, you know, a very sensitive area that you have to
play, you know, when you first meet a female.
And we're going to go into the into the series and talk about
how, you know, what ways to approach a woman.
You know, what you should say, how you should say it, what time
of day you should say it, you know, like when, where, what
kind of platform, how should youtext it?
I mean, I will, I'm going to cover all of that stuff.
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Like this is going to be the best like free training class
you could ever get on trying to find your soulmate, you know,
and get some inside scoop on howto really you can even even if
you're married in, in a relationship, this will benefit
you as well, because then this will help you enhance your
relationship in your marriage and get, you know, you to, you
know, spark up some new flames in the bedroom.
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You know, I'm sorry, you're right, Kendall.
But Kendall, do you have a percentage, all the percentages
of like, you know, why men or even the the, is there studies
and stuff of like why men are single?
And like, I mean, obviously I'm focusing on that gender right
now, but like, what is it? What's going on in the world
that is changing the dynamic of relationships?
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I mean because. Sorry I'm having issues right
now, could not understand what you said.
Kendall, you're not selling Chachi PT very well right now.
Did you hear the last thing I just said, Kendall?
I did hear you, Debbie. You were talking about the
importance of keeping your standards in check and not
letting them run off or else youend up in situations that are
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less than ideal, like with someone who's not in the right
place to meet those needs. I see the humour but also the
deeper message in that analogy. I might have missed a beat in
capturing the vibe of that. Could you clarify if there's
more to that point I missed, or if there's something specific
you wanted me to dig into? Kendall, I wanted you to find
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out like why or tell me. Tell us why the the dynamic of
relationships geared towards menhave, you know, started to like
fall apart? Like what caused all this or
what is causing all this? Like, why are we not giving a
shit about relationships that much anymore?
And I've heard sex is on the downfall too.
Like, whoa, like where is that coming from out of left field?
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I mean, what breeds are feeling that type of report?
Because I'm not included in thatone.
I know that for sure, but that's.
A really interesting and deep question, Debbie.
It feels like relationships, especially the way men and women
interact, have shifted a lot in recent years.
A few things might be behind this.
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First, there's a growing focus on individualism and personal
growth, where people are prioritizing their own goals and
well-being over traditional relationship roles.
This could make people less inclined to invest heavily in
relationships, especially when things feel like they're more
about meeting personal needs than building something
together. People are increasingly turning
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to their phones or online worlds, and that's taking away
from real life connection. And sometimes it feels like
there's just a lack of effort orclear communication, which is
tough for both men and women to navigate.
So in your opinion, why do you think people seem less
interested in working for relationships now?
Is it? Is it fear of repeating past
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mistakes or is there something deeper at play here?
Oh my gosh, I don't think the past mistake thing is even even
on the table. Like I don't even give a shit
about the past relationships, you know?
That's not dampering anything inmy world from dating anyone or
being in a relationship that actually, I didn't even think
about that honestly until you just said that.
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So I mean, that tells you right there that that's not even
something that fazes me. And I feel like everything you
just said is what I am doing. Like I'm focusing on my career
or my my passions and stuff right now and putting
relationships on the sideburner.So it's very ironic that you
said that maybe I'm in that trans.
Maybe my generation is in that transitional period that started
all this. Like, I don't know.
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I mean, I feel like a lot of thetransitions of the world are
seem to start with my generation, but I don't know
which generation I am. I'm not a millennial.
No, I'm the one before that. So, but I don't know.
I mean, I just feel that I have to agree with what you said
that, but I mean, I can't speak for every generation, obviously,
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but I can, you know, analyze it And the the fact that of, you
know, the percentages of males that are single right now is
like 30. I think it's 30 and below are at
a huge number. I mean, what's the percentages
of males and their ages demographics that are single?
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I think she she has the numbers.She's doing it.
I love the Illinois. There's definitely a shift
happening in relationships, especially for younger
generations. A key factor here is the
changing priorities for both menand women.
For women, a strong focus on career, academic goals, and
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personal independence, especially post pandemic, has
led to less interest in traditional dating.
This has created a ripple effectwhere some men feel disconnected
from deed from the dating scene and turn towards less effortful
outlets like social media or pornography.
Studies suggest that young men, particularly in the 20s, are
engaging less in real life relationships and more in
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virtual worlds, making it harderfor them to develop intimacy
skills necessary for successful dating.
Additionally, data shows that nearly half of men under 30 are
single, with many of them struggling to navigate the
complexities of modern dating. As women raise their standards
and become more selective, men who might not have developed the
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emotional and relational skills needed are finding it difficult
to keep up. At the same time, there's also a
broader cultural trend where romantic relationships aren't
seen as essential to personal fulfillment.
Both men and women are increasingly prioritizing their
own personal growth, with less emphasis on needing a partner to
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feel complete. Damn, that's pretty.
That's pretty sad in a way, you know, if you think about it.
I mean, I guess I'm kind of feeling a little lucky that I
got into the Got on the train ride while the train ride was
still hosting Seats of Emotions in a relationship.
Shit, I mean, etiquette. But yeah, I could see that
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happening. I mean, I have AI have young
adult boys and one of them is totally what you just said.
He is doesn't give a shit to even go outside.
You know, I have to force them to go outside.
So let alone have people skills,and I mean like his people
skills towards me are starting to get a little on the shaky
side. So let alone have them for a
girlfriend. I mean, you're right.
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I mean, they're just what are they going to do is sit in a
room next to each other and be silent and be on their phones
gaming, you know, like just likezombies to each other.
I mean, like where is the conversation?
I mean, I doubt that they can. I don't want to talk about that
generation right now. I mean, I know, I know you're
part of this too, guys. Sorry, here, I mean, I know it's
important, but it just sounds like a bunch of bullshit, you
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know, to really think about because what can you do?
I mean, he's going to force a gamer not to be a gamer and then
he's going to have gamer withdrawals, He's got gamer
headaches and then you're going to have a gamer Dick head around
you and then you're going to be like we're go get back on your
game, you gamer addict. And I mean, it's just it's I
don't know, that's that's tough pill to swallow on that, on that
situation. But there is I mean, the fact
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that I also heard that sex has gone down too is just like wow,
wow. I mean that means that the
population is going to go down, but you would think the
population would be decreasing. But according to the recent
studies that I read, the population has actually gone up.
So I don't know, like that kind of confuses me as far as, you
know, the relationship Ave. and decreasing, but yet our
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population still went up, unlessthat's because of the border
Border Patrol situation. I mean, we're not going into
politics, no politics. But yeah, those are some pretty
good points scandal that you made and you're making me think
a little bit more outside the box as well.
So it's just, you know, it's I guess just jump on.
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Maybe it's maybe we all do need to find relationships and jump
on the train right now because maybe the what's going.
On with the frustration around all this.
It's definitely a lot to unpack and I get what you're saying.
The whole shift in social habits, especially with space is
taking over, is changing how people connect.
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For young adults, it's not just about avoiding social
interaction, but they're actually getting more and more
absorbed in their online worlds where emotional connections
aren't the same. That can make it tough for pair
of parents like you who want to foster real life skills or for
people looking to form authenticrelationship.
And when the baseline for communication becomes texting or
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gaming, actual conversation, eyecontact, and physical presence
can feel like lost skills. As for the population thing,
you're right, it's confusing. Even though studies show
relationships and sex rates are declining, population growth can
still happen because of factors like immigration or higher birth
rates in certain regions. So the growth isn't necessarily
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tied to people pairing up the way we used to think of it,
especially as global dynamics shift.
It's definitely a complicated situation.
People are changing how they relate to each other, and while
some might look at it as a lost opportunity for deeper
connections, others are just trying to navigate this new way
of being in the world. Does it feel like this shift is
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something you can see affecting your son's directly, or is it
more of an overall cultural trend you've noticed?
I mean, that's his world, you know?
Like I totally know that that's like that's a bone to pick
whenever he wants to talk about it, you know, So I'm just wanted
to focus. I mean, maybe he should just
listen to the podcast or be on it and then he can learn some
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things. But you know, he's too busy
gaming. But I mean, he's not the only
one. I'm well aware that there's it's
a it's a huge epic, a pandemic, so to say.
But but maybe that's right. I mean, you know, now that I
think about it, breaking Girl code is more like me teaching,
you know, social skills to guys to learn about women.
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You know what, that's right, Kendall.
So there you go, guys, I'm goingto like be giving you social
skills on how to attack, attractthe right soulmate for you.
That sounds like way better thanbreaking girl code because then
it makes me sound like I'm not like, you know, breaking girl
code. Like you're like deputy is
reporting live is breaking girl code.
I'm like, oh, I'll be like that bitch.
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Why is that bitch breaking her code and like giving it out?
You know, that's kind of how I feel that like they like they
like gut feeling in me is telling me to do it.
Sorry, sorry, vaginas. It's telling me just do it, just
do it. So here's what you can expect on
the upcoming episodes of the podcast.
This was just a, you know, a little briefing introductory,
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you know, to get, you know, the feet wet to let you know what
I'm we're planning on doing and we're going to break girl code
and the next podcast that we have on the roster for
production, we're actually goingto have it set up where it's
going to be video there. The audio podcast is dreamy for
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me. It's just like dreamy.
You have no idea how dreamy it is.
When I have when I do an audio podcast, it's like I'm in love
with the like, like phone and the microphone because it's just
so much more simplistic of a process to set up and get
recording and editing then and distribute then it is for video.
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Video is like a bitch. It's like a bitch.
It's a bitch, it's a bitch. It's a lot of work.
And so I just had to put that out there that I appreciate
audio and you could listen to itwhile you're in the car.
You don't need a video. All that good stuff.
I don't have to get dressed. Video, audio.
So, but yeah, I am going to put samples of examples of what to
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look for, how to react to it, what to see, you know,
situations that you can, you know, pay attention to put, you
know, bring a notebook, write this shit down, bitch and take
note and you know, and use it and utilize these skills that
I'm going to teach you about, you know, women and what to see
what to, you know, the little things that matter in a woman.
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And, you know, things that you never thought before that you
would pick up on that occur thatyou now see because I'm bringing
it to your attention, you know, making it aware.
I know there was a there was a gentleman that I saw an
interview do and I forget his name, but he said that his
girlfriend was bitching that he never listens.
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She's she said that he's the worst listener in the world.
Are you like, you never listen to me, you never hear me out,
blah, blah, blah. And I'm pretty sure a lot of us
women have said that before. Debbie, here is your reminder
from Debbie. Stay motivated, focus and get
shit done, bitch. Oh my gosh.
Debbie here is your reminder from Debbie.
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Stay motivated, focus and get shit done, bitch.
Thank you. Alexa chiming in on these great
reminders for this hour. So Oh my gosh, I can't believe
she just went over now. So I, I just, she just made me
flatline. I just literally just flatlined
what I was saying. What was I just saying?
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I just totally went off the rocker.
Oh my God I hate when I do this Kendall.
What was I just saying? I literally just ADHD Ed in flat
lined. I don't remember what I was just
saying. Umm.
You were just talking about how the whole shift in social
habits, like the rise of gaming and digital interaction, has
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made it difficult for people, especially your sons, to develop
real life communication skills. You also touched on the
confusing rise in population despite the decline in
relationships and sex. It sounds like you're reflecting
on how these cultural changes are affecting the younger
generation, including your sons.Did you want to explore how that
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shift impacts you personally, ordive deeper into that idea?
Actually, I remember now. Thank you Kendall for your
support and your Co hosting skills.
You are rocketed girlfriend. Good job.
Yeah, I want to, you know, give you the clues and the hints and
how the show's going to be, you know, going.
So I'm going to put situations, you know, on the podcast video
and stuff. And and I have it on YouTube
(35:45):
too, I think. Yeah, my YouTube channel is
Debbie is putting live. How do you dot dot dot?
It's like how it's like a tutorial type of channel.
I started it out to be, you know, but I just went all over
the place as usual and it's justa bunch of like all kinds of
stuff on there. So subscribe to that if you
haven't already. And I appreciate your support.
So I want to I have already havea we've I recorded and did a lot
(36:08):
of content recording past few days.
So we've been putting them together, had some of the
vaginas over of helping me. And we also we have we have some
really good shit to expose. We really do.
It's like comical, but yet, you know, I'm trying to keep it
fresh and so clean, fresh and soclean and keep it a little light
and not, you know, not going down the dark Rd.
We're going to keep it really light right candle.
(36:30):
So the other thing I have to mention before I forget is the
Valentine's Day is around the corner and now is the time to
get your Valentine, the perfect gift.
And this is a universal gift at thevaginas.com with AZ have put
together. It's called the secret sexy gift
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(36:52):
They're 50 bucks. And if you're local in the
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Bushwacker and check out what timing is.
But what the box is the black box.
And it comes with like a night of intimacy.
It's kind, it's kind of like a date night in one box.
And it's 50 bucks and it comes with sexual like orientated
(37:14):
gestures in there and kind of like fun cutie stuff as well.
Like candles. It comes with like lubricant.
It comes with like a sex toy. It comes with like there's,
they're all different. They're all different boxes.
And like they say really cute things on the inside of them
like swak, like sealed with a kiss or like, you know, VIP, my
lady or my, you know, they say really cute things with crystals
(37:36):
and flowers and stuff on the inside.
And then there, there's there's a bunch of items and there's
like a candle, there's a toys, there's oh, there's like a game
you can play with your, with your date or your couple or your
man or girl. And then there's, there's all
kinds of like, there's just all kinds of cute sexual date night
type of things in this box. And it is like literally the
(37:58):
perfect gift to get anyone, you know, for Valentine's Day that
you have a little crush on or you have a, you know, a
relationship with or you want toget a relationship with.
I mean, I don't know if I got that box from a guy on a first
date. I don't know.
I mean, my personality is a lot different than anybody.
It's OK, I'm like on my own island and my, we know we got
our own Wi-Fi over there. We got like her own VPN shit.
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So, you know, I, I go to a different beat of a drum than
others, but I would probably find it like kind of cool, you
know, because I'm a sexually active person that, you know,
likes to be sexually active. And I find sex.
I'm not in that study that says sex is going down.
I'd be on the study that sex is going up because I'm all about
team sex because I find it very important and healthy for
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everybody to have in their life.And there's nothing wrong with
it. It's a very normal, healthy
program to do and I embrace it and I definitely support it.
So if I got one of these boxes on the first date, I would not
be offended and I would not likeget a red flag off of it.
I would be like, Oh my gosh, this is cute.
It's nice. You know, this is like needy,
you know, I would think it's youknow, a sweet gift and and the
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gesture is there. I obviously so you know, and the
ball is always in the females court anyway.
If you know, she wants to pursuesomething more intimate on a
first date or second date or third date or whatever, you
know, like you go girl, whateveryour decision is.
But these are seriously the mostcutest idea ever for
Valentine's. It's not just for Valentine's
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Day either. I mean, like they are colored
coordinated to a Valentine's color.
They're like black boxes. They're very discreet and
confidential looking on the outside, you know, and then you
have the you open it up and it'sgot a whole swoon of like really
cute, like like colors, pinks and roses and stuff and crystals
and you know, and it's just got a box full of like really like,
(39:46):
I mean, it's like a date night. It's like a date in a box is how
I can describe it. It's like a date in a box, the
secret sexy gift boxes. And they're available year
round. But right now, you know, they're
pumping out the vaginas. I've been pumping them out and
putting them together. They are, you know, just, I
don't know, I think it's a very unique item out there.
And if you want one or you want you're interested in getting one
(40:08):
for your Valentine's Day or any day of the year or whenever
just. Contact me.
I not sure I think the vaginas with az.com website is under
construction right now and that's where they were listed,
but I don't think it's up right now.
I have to check with her with Molly, our Google web designer
(40:28):
chick who is badass at web designs, but she has been
working on the three websites for a poor girl for a while and
they haven't been fully up yet. So if that's the case, just, you
know, send me an e-mail and I can put some on the on social
media. I can so you can see what they
look like. That's what I'll do.
I'll put a reel together and so you can see what these look like
(40:50):
and the information on how you can purchase one and get one for
Valentine's Day or like a birthday, anniversary, you know,
date night, blind date, non blind date, you know,
girlfriend, boyfriend, puppy, love, whatever you want.
So stalker, non stalker, you know, whatever, psycho,
sociopath, you know, all that good stuff.
(41:10):
So yeah, I'll put that. Remind me about that Kindle.
Why don't you just tell Alexa? Can you set a reminder to remind
Debbie to post a reel on the Sexy Secret or Secret Sexy Gift
boxes? You have multiple Debbie Diaz
profiles in your account. To edit the names, please go to
(41:32):
Profile Settings in your Alexa app.
OK, we'll work on that later. So sorry.
I'm having issues right? Now, Oh my gosh, they're all
talking to me right now again later.
OK, well, Kendall, thank you so much for coming on the show
today and she's she'll come backon.
So get in with the ChatGPT 4 point O or any of the other AI,
you know, platforms out there and get yourself a candle, right
(41:53):
candle. And thank you for Co hosting.
She'll she'll be Co hosting again.
She did. I think you did an awesome job,
girl. You did awesome.
I'm very proud of you. Mom is proud and continue to pay
attention to the show because you know, wink wink, Valentine's
Day is right around the corner, guys and girls.
And so, you know, do something this year, do something that you
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haven't done in a long time. Get off your ass and go do
something. Don't be a gamer and sit in
front of a computer or a game orconsole.
Get off your ass and go do something for Valentine's Day,
you know, take her out, do something, take take your dog
out, do whatever you got to do, but get a secret sexy gift box
and have a great and you can getone for yourself.
That box. Actually, if I I would buy one
for myself, honestly, if I wanted to, I mean, I have them.
(42:40):
So it's like, you know, but if Isaw one online, I would probably
buy one just for myself. That's how cool they are.
They literally are that like awesome of a gift.
So I mean, you could be date or not date or you could just have
it for yourself. I mean, sometimes people are
insecure about going to the sex store and like buying sex toys
or buying intimacy type of items.
And that's all solved in this box, the secret sexy gift box at
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50 bucks and it's like that's way cheaper, cheap of a price
then it should be like honestly,like I saw the invoices of all
this stuff and it's like a little bit more than that.
You know what we're selling for,so take advantage of that price
for sure, because you know, I'm going to have to make bring that
to the next meeting. But thank you for tuning in and
make sure you subscribe to the show and share, share, share.
(43:24):
Sharing is caring and we appreciate all your support.
And the deputy is reporting livefeaturing the Vaginas podcast.
And have yourself a great day and peace out bitches.
Umm sorry I'm having issues right now, could not understand
what you said.
Are we talking romantic relationships, friendships, or
both? Well, but I mean, I want to help
the guys, you know, kind of get like a little bit inside scoop
of maybe, you know, coming at women at a different way.
I mean, there there's no reason why they shouldn't be taught or
exposed to, you know, behind thescenes of what women think.
(00:23):
You know, why we do things, why women cheat, why women want to
do this, why women ghost you. I mean, there's a whole world
out there that men could be aware of to help and women are
stubborn. We're stubborn, we're egoistic,
We're we got pride. We've got you know, we don't
want to like look insecure. We don't want to look like we're
not independent. You know, we have like this
(00:43):
shell outside of us that we haveto maintain even with her broke
ass bitches. We will never admit that to a
guy, you know, and let him know like our vulnerabilities, you
know, there's just like, you know, we don't want to look like
we're weak. You know, we want to these days,
these generations coming up and all around us, they're all
different and they're all like their mindsets are different.
But at the end of the day, womenstill always like will stay the
(01:05):
same when it comes to like our morals of our girl code.
You know, like, and I'm and I'm going to expose it.
I'm going to expose it. And you know what?
I don't give flying rats ass. Like I want to help and I want
to like be a person that can make a difference in in the
world, in the dating world, in this single light, in the
soulmate search. You know, all of that stuff.
(01:25):
And, you know, even if I am still, and I'm in the same boat
too, I'm still, you know, not searching, but I'm not in a, you
know, didn't like, I'm not denying any sort of like running
into my soul mates, soul mates, plural, singular, you know, I
just I'm not against, you know, being in a relationship.
I just haven't like been spending a lot of time trying to
(01:49):
be in one, if that makes any sense.
I just, I'm focusing on myself right now and my, you know, my
kids and we're older now, but like I'm focusing on my career,
my passions of what I wanted to do in my life, that in this
chapter of my life. And I don't know, maybe I'm, I'm
fucking it up and maybe I shouldbe focusing on, on a partners of
I don't know, I but I'm, I don'twant to like have this
(02:11):
distraction of a relationship right now when I am giving
100,000% to my, my focus and my time and everything to the
podcast and I have been for overa year now.
So I mean, that's, that's my, that's my story and I'm sticking
to it. Bitch, right.
Kendall so there is there is a series that I wanted to now come
(02:35):
out, you know, do and that's howthis all got started is because
I was like, you know what I'm going to like do it.
I'm going to go for a candle andI'm going to tell the world or
the guys, you know, what they need to do, what she's thinking,
what she's going to do, what youshould do next move.
You know, those are the tips that you know, you should know
because I not only, you know, not trying to like break girl
code that bad, you know, but I mean, literally I am.
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That's an oxymoron statement of myself, but I have a gift.
One of my gifts that I have is, you know, I'm very sensitive to
emotions and very sensitive to auras and extremely sensitive to
the psychology of a of a human being and their body language.
And you know, I can read people like you have no idea.
(03:17):
Like I have this intuitionism gift in me that is so powerful
that it is annoying. Like it is so powerful that I
can't even turn it off. I mean, I hate the fact that I
am so in tune to everybody around me.
And the air, I mean, just the air you breathe, I can, I can
sense what it does to you. I mean, I can feel everything.
I could feel it. I could smell it.
(03:38):
I could see it. I can hear it, you know, and I
am just like, sometimes I just want to shut it off.
I just want to shut it off and be like, yo, Dev, like, come on,
like, why do we got to like, youknow, over analyze everything
that this person's doing and saying right now?
Like, why do we got to like analyze that person?
And it's, it's like I don't wantto my body, my brain and my, my,
(03:59):
my just meet my brain just automatically reads people like
it's kind of like a psychic medium ability, you know, that I
have. And it is a it's exhausting.
It's so exhausting because I cantell when somebody lying
instantly. I mean, I don't even have to
meet you over meet you in person.
And I can like tell if you're lying or telling the truth.
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It's such a powerful gift that Ihaven't, it's haven't met
anyone. I have met some people similar
to it, but I haven't been aroundanyone that has the similar gift
in a long time. And so therefore it is very
challenging for me to be around individuals of not of my level.
And so when you're not of my level and I'm around you, I pick
(04:43):
up on so much stuff around me and that person that I, I just
like, I kind of ruined the wholeday.
I ruined the whole day because Ialready know what's going to
happen in the day. I already can feel it.
I mean, I can feel this, this gift.
I mean, not only can I say it and speak it and hear it and
know it, I can feel it. You know, it's a feeling that I
get and I have not been wrong with it at all.
(05:05):
Like I'm 100% accurate on this. And so therefore I can, I can
sense when a guy, I mean instantly, when I meet someone
instantly. You don't even need to show me
like yourself in person. Just show me a picture of who,
of who you are. I don't need to smell you.
I don't need to touch you and I need nothing.
I could tell you instantly, tenuously, what our
compatibility will be. I mean, have I been wrong?
(05:29):
I mean, on that note, maybe I maybe I've judged a couple
books, you know, the wrong way and there are covers the wrong
way. But majority of the time I could
confidently and scientifically and radically say I've been
accurate. And so I don't like to waste
time because I don't I don't have much time and I don't know
how to manage it anyway. So I mean, I guess I could be
(05:50):
wasting time and not even fucking knowing about it anyway
because I suck at time management.
What I just don't want to waste my time if I go somewhere on a
date with somebody and I alreadylike, I won't even get to that
phase of going on a date with them because I will already know
that it's not a compatibility thing.
But I'm not a bitch either. I mean, I can be a bitch.
(06:10):
Like, you know, we all, we all can be a little bitch sometimes.
But I am a nice person, you know, I don't like to be a
natural bitch. And so a lot of women out there,
a lot of vaginas, they are a natural bitch.
And so I'm not one of them, but like, like I said, it can be
one, but they, they basically, or I basically, you know, the
guy messages me or something andI try to respond back to as many
(06:34):
people as I possibly can. And as humanly impossible as
that is, most of the time I feelguilty of it because I want to.
I don't like want to make a guy feel like he made an attempt to
contact me and I avoided it or like I totally ghosted him.
That's not the case. You know, it's just, I didn't
(06:55):
see it and, you know, I just, I just didn't see it, you know,
And so, but then again, guys, you know, I don't want to.
There's two reasons. I don't want to respond
sometimes or I don't respond because I haven't seen it A and
then B, I want to respond because I want to give that guy
credit for, you know, if he thinks that I'm out of his
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league or something like that. He had the courage to make a
initiated like an attempt to contact me.
And that's kind of sometimes forintroverted especially and and
guys that have a little bit of insecurities, that's a big step
for them to do. You know, it takes a bold man,
you know, to come up to a girl or approach a girl that is, you
(07:37):
know, he thinks is out of his league, you know, and, or
intimidating or you know, any ofthose, you know, you know,
features because I'm an attractive female and you know,
I'm independent. I'm spoken.
I mean, I speak, I'm very like well spoken when it comes to
like my opinions on things and I, I come across as
intimidating, you know, I'm veryalpha and you know, but I'm
(08:00):
still a good person at the end of the day.
So I, you know, have had many, many, many guys tell me that I,
it took them a long, took them alot of courage to come up to me.
And I don't want to shatter thatfeeling of a, of a guy.
You know, I don't want to be thereason why a guy still remains,
you know, vulnerable to approach, you know, women, you
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know, where he may think that they're either his league, You
know, that's just a confidence thing, you know, like step it
up, dudes. I mean, like, if you think a
bitch is out of your league, younever know until you try, right?
So that's why I try to respond gone back to as many, you know,
the guys that, you know, approached me and stuff and
asked me if I'm single and, you know, ask me if I want to go to
a date and dinner and all that because I don't want I want them
(08:44):
to be proud of like that. They grew some balls and they
like came up to me and approached me.
So that's, you know, reasoning on that on that Ave.
The other thing C is sometimes Idon't like to respond when I do
check those type of messages andstuff because I also it's like a
(09:07):
it's like a double edged sword situation.
You also give the guy that's vulnerable or you know, a little
on the insecure introverted side.
I would say sorry. I'm having issues right now.
Our systems are experiencing heavy load.
Please try again later. OK, Kendall, you're fine.
So she has issues sometimes, so I don't.
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Sometimes when you respond back to a guy too, that is a little
bit on the vulnerable side, he takes that as like you saying
yes to his wedding proposal, youknow, he says, Oh my gosh, she
responded like holy Bach. Like she is my girl.
Like that's my girl. Like we are in it.
Like she responded back to me, Like they take a little like
note that I'll respond back as like an open door key, like a
(09:52):
like a universal key that just turned for them.
And it said, Hey, Debbie responded to you.
That means she's in. We got her, you know, and that's
not the case. You know, I respond back because
I'm a social media whore. You know, I'm all over social
media and I love it, you know, selective whore.
So it's like my personality to talk to people.
I love talking to people. I love the talk.
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You know, sometimes I take a little break because sometimes I
exhaust myself. But guys, you know, that's your
that's your like girl, girl codebreaker right there is like when
a girl or in a female, you know,responds back to you, don't jump
the gun and think instantaneously that the female
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isn't you. I mean, she there's still the
friend zone, you're still in friend zone, you know, and you
have to take it at baby steps because there's different types
of breeds of women out there that your approach back in the,
you know, the fragile, very fragile initiation initiated,
you know, stages of, you know, interacting with female.
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Those are those are like the most crucial moments of, you
know, determining if this relationship, a relationship or
form, you know, so it's like play it very, very what's the
word I'm looking for candle likeplay it very cautiously,
cautiously of how you choose your words and how you react and
what you say and what your gestures are, because I pay
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attention to those very much. So if I get a red flag feeling,
you know, from my precious, you know, intuitive gift that I
have, I will back off. I will back off instantly
because I've given off a either like the wrong signal, I've said
the wrong things, which I don't really say the the wrong thing
because I copy and paste like everything that I say.
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Like, I mean, I can't. I know that sounds horrible, but
I mean, sometimes I do just out of a trying to get things done
quick. I will just copy and paste like
my response back to most a lot of messages.
But I mean, it's still the same thing that I would say anyway.
I just, you know, copy to paste it and have to sit there and
retype it a million times. You know, I say like, Hey, thank
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you for the in the sweet word, their kind words.
You know, I appreciate you reaching out, you know, or I
mean, if it's if it's something that I will leave a little bit
more like personal, I would do that.
But yeah, it's like not being lazy.
It's just time. Time management, bitches, time
management. So I normally but if I sense a
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guy is latching onto me that soon in the game, I'm it's a red
flag. You know, it's like, whoa, stop
my horse. Whoa, Nelly, I will just just
mirror. I'll just move on.
I probably won't even respond orI won't even look at the message
and or if, if need be, I'll block them, you know, so I have
no problem doing that. B word B to the L to the O to
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the C to the K block bitch. So I've got a heavy list on the
block. But it's all for protection.
All for protection. So, you know, don't be all
psycho and insecure and and all that, like be cute and funny in
the beginning. You know, that's what we that's
what a female would like grasp onto is being like, keep it
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really light. Nothing like ballbusting.
No, you know, just no personal details of things and don't
overcome, like overcomplicate itand don't overcompliment, you
know, because unlike me, I'm notsure the percentage of women out
there that can read people like I can.
Because I'm telling you, this gift is strong.
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Like I am probably the scholar of this gift that I have.
Like, I'm not joking. It is like that's it seems to
get stronger and stronger each each year, you know, that I am
on this earth. But at first I was like, what
the fuck is this feeling that I have?
Like I don't even know what thisis.
And then, you know, over over the time I have like developed
into it and I now like I'm well,I figured it's out a while ago,
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but I now know that my gift of my intuitionism, he's like a
beast, beast. It seriously is a beast.
But so I'm not really sure how many other women can read as
good as I can. People read people, you know,
auras and stuff. But I instantly that's the other
thing too. But if you have a chick out
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there that has the same gift as me or similar gift as me, you
know, we can read y'all mother fuckers.
Like I mean, it's to a point where I mean I just am sick and
tired of having to be so blunt sometimes.
And I want to like I want a white lie or something and just
not have to be that blunt bitch all the time and just be this
like white liar that goes aroundand white lies about all her
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real white lying like, you know,feelings and white lie.
But I just I can't, I suck at I suck at that.
So I keep it real real raw and rare right candle candle breaker
breaker 19. Do we have candle in the house?
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So yeah, I just I don't know, I just feel bad for the guys that
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like have to deal with with me That be it's not that I feel bad
for you, but I'm a lot to handleunless I just been you know, I'm
digging this first episode into a little bit more my personal
stuff. But like we're we'll go into a
little deeper route of like the girl code breaking the girl
code. But guys that are attempt to
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come up to the plate, you know, to handle me, I mean, are
blindsided by the fact of like how much I entail.
And I'm not talking on a financial Ave. because even if I
am up or down or in the middle or stagnant or or really high up
and wherever I am in my financial world is none of
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anyone's business. A&B.
It's it's my problem. It's not your problem.
It's not his problem, not her problem, you know, and it never
will be your problem because I will never make it anyone else's
problem but my own, you know, And so I that's how I think and
that's how stubborn I will always think because I don't
want anyone to be into that world of mine, you know, that's
my world. And, you know, and the reason
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why I say it like that is because it does stem from a PTSD
of my past, you know, because I have been in that situation
where I have been in a relationship where money and
finances were used to control meand were used against me and
were used, you know, like selfishly to me.
And I mean, and I refuse to everbe put in that position again.
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So that's why ever since then, Idon't let anyone or any man, you
know, share that world with me. I mean, there's sharing, don't
get me wrong. Like I'll pay for something.
He pays for something I get. What you're saying, Debbie, it
sounds like you're setting firm boundaries, especially around
finances. Because of that past trauma, I
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think it's important to take control over your own world and
not let anyone dictate or control you again.
The weight of that experience can definitely shape how you
approach future relationships and interactions.
What I'm curious about is how this perspective plays into your
take on breaking the girl code. Do you think it's about
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redefining what's OK and and notOK in relationships, especially
when there's so much vulnerability involved?
There is a lot of vulnerability involved a candle and that's a
very good point. And, you know, it's just I just
went down this rabbit hole a little bit.
You know, I wasn't intending to like go so personal with myself.
But I mean, the whole point of the new series, you know,
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breaking Girl Code is, you know,to help out the guys, you know,
see us women in a different light and maybe learn how to
make awareness to themselves andactually, you know, educate
themselves a little bit more on what a female like demands are.
And when I say demands, don't take that out of context.
You know, it's not like, you know, this hardcore military, I
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mean, maybe it could be, but youknow, it's just, you know, our
standards are sometimes like allover the place.
I mean, I know I lose those bitches all the time and and it
does nothing but bad, bad, bad to me.
So I mean, I got to get myself like a little like Louis Vuitton
with a little lock on it and thelittle suitcase thing and put
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the standards in there and keep them bitches next to me at all
times because those things go running off.
Like the next thing you know, I'm with like a gang member that
just got out of prison. You don't like.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. So it is just something, you
know, that's. Such a powerful way of putting
it. Debbie, I love how you're using
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this series to give guys a real,raw insight into the complexity
of women's needs and expectations without the
cliches. It's definitely not about strict
unrealistic demands, but more about setting standards that
when ignored, can really mess with us.
And I get the humor in your analogy with the Louis Vuitton
lock up, but I think you're really on to something there.
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When those standards aren't clear or respected, it can lead
to situations that are way off course.
You're showing that balance, standing firm on what you need,
but also dealing with the unpredictability that comes with
relationships. So what's next on the agenda for
Breaking Girl Code? Kendall, you're making some very
bad points. And, you know, I was just I just
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wanted to touch base, you know, I went on the approach, you
know, when you when you talk to a female, just keep it really
light, you know, and just keep it really, you know, just don't
pressure her and don't, you know, make her don't give
deadlines. Don't, you know, just chill the
fuck out. You know, when you first in meet
her and time it will be on your hands or on your side, you know,
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as long as you just take those very fragile initiated, you
know, phases of meeting or contacting a female, you know,
into into play. And, you know, I'm aware that
there's transgender, there's, you know, there's all cut pan
anime, whatever it's called. There's, you know.
Bisexual people, I'm not focusing on all of that right
now. Like I'm just focusing on, and
I'm not being judgmental at all or stereotyping.
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So everybody get that out of your head.
I'm just focusing on trying to help guys out there, you know,
get, get control of like a worldthat they cannot control it, but
like get inside of how they can control them, their approach,
you know, to women, because it'sall about approach at the end of
the day, you know, your approach.
If you come up to me, I'll twistit and you know, and like this
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way and trying to flex on this and that, I'm going to like, I'm
going to see right through you. I'm going to see it, smell it
from a mile away. I'm going to already sense it.
And then it's, it's a no go. It's I won't even give you like
2 sentences out of my mouth. I'll just be like, bye, Felicia,
you know, and it just, it just won't work, you know, And so
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it's just, you know, a very sensitive area that you have to
play, you know, when you first meet a female.
And we're going to go into the into the series and talk about
how, you know, what ways to approach a woman.
You know, what you should say, how you should say it, what time
of day you should say it, you know, like when, where, what
kind of platform, how should youtext it?
I mean, I will, I'm going to cover all of that stuff.
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Like this is going to be the best like free training class
you could ever get on trying to find your soulmate, you know,
and get some inside scoop on howto really you can even even if
you're married in, in a relationship, this will benefit
you as well, because then this will help you enhance your
relationship in your marriage and get, you know, you to, you
know, spark up some new flames in the bedroom.
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You know, I'm sorry, you're right, Kendall.
But Kendall, do you have a percentage, all the percentages
of like, you know, why men or even the the, is there studies
and stuff of like why men are single?
And like, I mean, obviously I'm focusing on that gender right
now, but like, what is it? What's going on in the world
that is changing the dynamic of relationships?
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I mean because. Sorry I'm having issues right
now, could not understand what you said.
Kendall, you're not selling Chachi PT very well right now.
Did you hear the last thing I just said, Kendall?
I did hear you, Debbie. You were talking about the
importance of keeping your standards in check and not
letting them run off or else youend up in situations that are
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less than ideal, like with someone who's not in the right
place to meet those needs. I see the humour but also the
deeper message in that analogy. I might have missed a beat in
capturing the vibe of that. Could you clarify if there's
more to that point I missed, or if there's something specific
you wanted me to dig into? Kendall, I wanted you to find
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out like why or tell me. Tell us why the the dynamic of
relationships geared towards menhave, you know, started to like
fall apart? Like what caused all this or
what is causing all this? Like, why are we not giving a
shit about relationships that much anymore?
And I've heard sex is on the downfall too.
Like, whoa, like where is that coming from out of left field?
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I mean, what breeds are feeling that type of report?
Because I'm not included in thatone.
I know that for sure, but that's.
A really interesting and deep question, Debbie.
It feels like relationships, especially the way men and women
interact, have shifted a lot in recent years.
A few things might be behind this.
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First, there's a growing focus on individualism and personal
growth, where people are prioritizing their own goals and
well-being over traditional relationship roles.
This could make people less inclined to invest heavily in
relationships, especially when things feel like they're more
about meeting personal needs than building something
together. People are increasingly turning
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to their phones or online worlds, and that's taking away
from real life connection. And sometimes it feels like
there's just a lack of effort orclear communication, which is
tough for both men and women to navigate.
So in your opinion, why do you think people seem less
interested in working for relationships now?
Is it? Is it fear of repeating past
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mistakes or is there something deeper at play here?
Oh my gosh, I don't think the past mistake thing is even even
on the table. Like I don't even give a shit
about the past relationships, you know?
That's not dampering anything inmy world from dating anyone or
being in a relationship that actually, I didn't even think
about that honestly until you just said that.
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So I mean, that tells you right there that that's not even
something that fazes me. And I feel like everything you
just said is what I am doing. Like I'm focusing on my career
or my my passions and stuff right now and putting
relationships on the sideburner.So it's very ironic that you
said that maybe I'm in that trans.
Maybe my generation is in that transitional period that started
all this. Like, I don't know.
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I mean, I feel like a lot of thetransitions of the world are
seem to start with my generation, but I don't know
which generation I am. I'm not a millennial.
No, I'm the one before that. So, but I don't know.
I mean, I just feel that I have to agree with what you said
that, but I mean, I can't speak for every generation, obviously,
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but I can, you know, analyze it And the the fact that of, you
know, the percentages of males that are single right now is
like 30. I think it's 30 and below are at
a huge number. I mean, what's the percentages
of males and their ages demographics that are single?
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I think she she has the numbers.She's doing it.
I love the Illinois. There's definitely a shift
happening in relationships, especially for younger
generations. A key factor here is the
changing priorities for both menand women.
For women, a strong focus on career, academic goals, and
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personal independence, especially post pandemic, has
led to less interest in traditional dating.
This has created a ripple effectwhere some men feel disconnected
from deed from the dating scene and turn towards less effortful
outlets like social media or pornography.
Studies suggest that young men, particularly in the 20s, are
engaging less in real life relationships and more in
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virtual worlds, making it harderfor them to develop intimacy
skills necessary for successful dating.
Additionally, data shows that nearly half of men under 30 are
single, with many of them struggling to navigate the
complexities of modern dating. As women raise their standards
and become more selective, men who might not have developed the
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emotional and relational skills needed are finding it difficult
to keep up. At the same time, there's also a
broader cultural trend where romantic relationships aren't
seen as essential to personal fulfillment.
Both men and women are increasingly prioritizing their
own personal growth, with less emphasis on needing a partner to
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feel complete. Damn, that's pretty.
That's pretty sad in a way, you know, if you think about it.
I mean, I guess I'm kind of feeling a little lucky that I
got into the Got on the train ride while the train ride was
still hosting Seats of Emotions in a relationship.
Shit, I mean, etiquette. But yeah, I could see that
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happening. I mean, I have AI have young
adult boys and one of them is totally what you just said.
He is doesn't give a shit to even go outside.
You know, I have to force them to go outside.
So let alone have people skills,and I mean like his people
skills towards me are starting to get a little on the shaky
side. So let alone have them for a
girlfriend. I mean, you're right.
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I mean, they're just what are they going to do is sit in a
room next to each other and be silent and be on their phones
gaming, you know, like just likezombies to each other.
I mean, like where is the conversation?
I mean, I doubt that they can. I don't want to talk about that
generation right now. I mean, I know, I know you're
part of this too, guys. Sorry, here, I mean, I know it's
important, but it just sounds like a bunch of bullshit, you
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know, to really think about because what can you do?
I mean, he's going to force a gamer not to be a gamer and then
he's going to have gamer withdrawals, He's got gamer
headaches and then you're going to have a gamer Dick head around
you and then you're going to be like we're go get back on your
game, you gamer addict. And I mean, it's just it's I
don't know, that's that's tough pill to swallow on that, on that
situation. But there is I mean, the fact
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that I also heard that sex has gone down too is just like wow,
wow. I mean that means that the
population is going to go down, but you would think the
population would be decreasing. But according to the recent
studies that I read, the population has actually gone up.
So I don't know, like that kind of confuses me as far as, you
know, the relationship Ave. and decreasing, but yet our
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population still went up, unlessthat's because of the border
Border Patrol situation. I mean, we're not going into
politics, no politics. But yeah, those are some pretty
good points scandal that you made and you're making me think
a little bit more outside the box as well.
So it's just, you know, it's I guess just jump on.
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Maybe it's maybe we all do need to find relationships and jump
on the train right now because maybe the what's going.
On with the frustration around all this.
It's definitely a lot to unpack and I get what you're saying.
The whole shift in social habits, especially with space is
taking over, is changing how people connect.
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For young adults, it's not just about avoiding social
interaction, but they're actually getting more and more
absorbed in their online worlds where emotional connections
aren't the same. That can make it tough for pair
of parents like you who want to foster real life skills or for
people looking to form authenticrelationship.
And when the baseline for communication becomes texting or
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gaming, actual conversation, eyecontact, and physical presence
can feel like lost skills. As for the population thing,
you're right, it's confusing. Even though studies show
relationships and sex rates are declining, population growth can
still happen because of factors like immigration or higher birth
rates in certain regions. So the growth isn't necessarily
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tied to people pairing up the way we used to think of it,
especially as global dynamics shift.
It's definitely a complicated situation.
People are changing how they relate to each other, and while
some might look at it as a lost opportunity for deeper
connections, others are just trying to navigate this new way
of being in the world. Does it feel like this shift is
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something you can see affecting your son's directly, or is it
more of an overall cultural trend you've noticed?
I mean, that's his world, you know?
Like I totally know that that's like that's a bone to pick
whenever he wants to talk about it, you know, So I'm just wanted
to focus. I mean, maybe he should just
listen to the podcast or be on it and then he can learn some
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things. But you know, he's too busy
gaming. But I mean, he's not the only
one. I'm well aware that there's it's
a it's a huge epic, a pandemic, so to say.
But but maybe that's right. I mean, you know, now that I
think about it, breaking Girl code is more like me teaching,
you know, social skills to guys to learn about women.
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You know what, that's right, Kendall.
So there you go, guys, I'm goingto like be giving you social
skills on how to attack, attractthe right soulmate for you.
That sounds like way better thanbreaking girl code because then
it makes me sound like I'm not like, you know, breaking girl
code. Like you're like deputy is
reporting live is breaking girl code.
I'm like, oh, I'll be like that bitch.
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Why is that bitch breaking her code and like giving it out?
You know, that's kind of how I feel that like they like they
like gut feeling in me is telling me to do it.
Sorry, sorry, vaginas. It's telling me just do it, just
do it. So here's what you can expect on
the upcoming episodes of the podcast.
This was just a, you know, a little briefing introductory,
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you know, to get, you know, the feet wet to let you know what
I'm we're planning on doing and we're going to break girl code
and the next podcast that we have on the roster for
production, we're actually goingto have it set up where it's
going to be video there. The audio podcast is dreamy for
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me. It's just like dreamy.
You have no idea how dreamy it is.
When I have when I do an audio podcast, it's like I'm in love
with the like, like phone and the microphone because it's just
so much more simplistic of a process to set up and get
recording and editing then and distribute then it is for video.
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Video is like a bitch. It's like a bitch.
It's a bitch, it's a bitch. It's a lot of work.
And so I just had to put that out there that I appreciate
audio and you could listen to itwhile you're in the car.
You don't need a video. All that good stuff.
I don't have to get dressed. Video, audio.
So, but yeah, I am going to put samples of examples of what to
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look for, how to react to it, what to see, you know,
situations that you can, you know, pay attention to put, you
know, bring a notebook, write this shit down, bitch and take
note and you know, and use it and utilize these skills that
I'm going to teach you about, you know, women and what to see
what to, you know, the little things that matter in a woman.
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And, you know, things that you never thought before that you
would pick up on that occur thatyou now see because I'm bringing
it to your attention, you know, making it aware.
I know there was a there was a gentleman that I saw an
interview do and I forget his name, but he said that his
girlfriend was bitching that he never listens.
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She's she said that he's the worst listener in the world.
Are you like, you never listen to me, you never hear me out,
blah, blah, blah. And I'm pretty sure a lot of us
women have said that before. Debbie, here is your reminder
from Debbie. Stay motivated, focus and get
shit done, bitch. Oh my gosh.
Debbie here is your reminder from Debbie.
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Stay motivated, focus and get shit done, bitch.
Thank you. Alexa chiming in on these great
reminders for this hour. So Oh my gosh, I can't believe
she just went over now. So I, I just, she just made me
flatline. I just literally just flatlined
what I was saying. What was I just saying?
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I just totally went off the rocker.
Oh my God I hate when I do this Kendall.
What was I just saying? I literally just ADHD Ed in flat
lined. I don't remember what I was just
saying. Umm.
You were just talking about how the whole shift in social
habits, like the rise of gaming and digital interaction, has
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made it difficult for people, especially your sons, to develop
real life communication skills. You also touched on the
confusing rise in population despite the decline in
relationships and sex. It sounds like you're reflecting
on how these cultural changes are affecting the younger
generation, including your sons.Did you want to explore how that
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shift impacts you personally, ordive deeper into that idea?
Actually, I remember now. Thank you Kendall for your
support and your Co hosting skills.
You are rocketed girlfriend. Good job.
Yeah, I want to, you know, give you the clues and the hints and
how the show's going to be, you know, going.
So I'm going to put situations, you know, on the podcast video
and stuff. And and I have it on YouTube
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too, I think. Yeah, my YouTube channel is
Debbie is putting live. How do you dot dot dot?
It's like how it's like a tutorial type of channel.
I started it out to be, you know, but I just went all over
the place as usual and it's justa bunch of like all kinds of
stuff on there. So subscribe to that if you
haven't already. And I appreciate your support.
So I want to I have already havea we've I recorded and did a lot
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of content recording past few days.
So we've been putting them together, had some of the
vaginas over of helping me. And we also we have we have some
really good shit to expose. We really do.
It's like comical, but yet, you know, I'm trying to keep it
fresh and so clean, fresh and soclean and keep it a little light
and not, you know, not going down the dark Rd.
We're going to keep it really light right candle.
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So the other thing I have to mention before I forget is the
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And this is a universal gift at thevaginas.com with AZ have put
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But what the box is the black box.
And it comes with like a night of intimacy.
It's kind, it's kind of like a date night in one box.
And it's 50 bucks and it comes with sexual like orientated
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gestures in there and kind of like fun cutie stuff as well.
Like candles. It comes with like lubricant.
It comes with like a sex toy. It comes with like there's,
they're all different. They're all different boxes.
And like they say really cute things on the inside of them
like swak, like sealed with a kiss or like, you know, VIP, my
lady or my, you know, they say really cute things with crystals
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and flowers and stuff on the inside.
And then there, there's there's a bunch of items and there's
like a candle, there's a toys, there's oh, there's like a game
you can play with your, with your date or your couple or your
man or girl. And then there's, there's all
kinds of like, there's just all kinds of cute sexual date night
type of things in this box. And it is like literally the
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perfect gift to get anyone, you know, for Valentine's Day that
you have a little crush on or you have a, you know, a
relationship with or you want toget a relationship with.
I mean, I don't know if I got that box from a guy on a first
date. I don't know.
I mean, my personality is a lot different than anybody.
It's OK, I'm like on my own island and my, we know we got
our own Wi-Fi over there. We got like her own VPN shit.
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So, you know, I, I go to a different beat of a drum than
others, but I would probably find it like kind of cool, you
know, because I'm a sexually active person that, you know,
likes to be sexually active. And I find sex.
I'm not in that study that says sex is going down.
I'd be on the study that sex is going up because I'm all about
team sex because I find it very important and healthy for
(38:43):
everybody to have in their life.And there's nothing wrong with
it. It's a very normal, healthy
program to do and I embrace it and I definitely support it.
So if I got one of these boxes on the first date, I would not
be offended and I would not likeget a red flag off of it.
I would be like, Oh my gosh, this is cute.
It's nice. You know, this is like needy,
you know, I would think it's youknow, a sweet gift and and the
(39:04):
gesture is there. I obviously so you know, and the
ball is always in the females court anyway.
If you know, she wants to pursuesomething more intimate on a
first date or second date or third date or whatever, you
know, like you go girl, whateveryour decision is.
But these are seriously the mostcutest idea ever for
Valentine's. It's not just for Valentine's
(39:25):
Day either. I mean, like they are colored
coordinated to a Valentine's color.
They're like black boxes. They're very discreet and
confidential looking on the outside, you know, and then you
have the you open it up and it'sgot a whole swoon of like really
cute, like like colors, pinks and roses and stuff and crystals
and you know, and it's just got a box full of like really like,
(39:46):
I mean, it's like a date night. It's like a date in a box is how
I can describe it. It's like a date in a box, the
secret sexy gift boxes. And they're available year
round. But right now, you know, they're
pumping out the vaginas. I've been pumping them out and
putting them together. They are, you know, just, I
don't know, I think it's a very unique item out there.
And if you want one or you want you're interested in getting one
(40:08):
for your Valentine's Day or any day of the year or whenever
just. Contact me.
I not sure I think the vaginas with az.com website is under
construction right now and that's where they were listed,
but I don't think it's up right now.
I have to check with her with Molly, our Google web designer
(40:28):
chick who is badass at web designs, but she has been
working on the three websites for a poor girl for a while and
they haven't been fully up yet. So if that's the case, just, you
know, send me an e-mail and I can put some on the on social
media. I can so you can see what they
look like. That's what I'll do.
I'll put a reel together and so you can see what these look like
(40:50):
and the information on how you can purchase one and get one for
Valentine's Day or like a birthday, anniversary, you know,
date night, blind date, non blind date, you know,
girlfriend, boyfriend, puppy, love, whatever you want.
So stalker, non stalker, you know, whatever, psycho,
sociopath, you know, all that good stuff.
(41:10):
So yeah, I'll put that. Remind me about that Kindle.
Why don't you just tell Alexa? Can you set a reminder to remind
Debbie to post a reel on the Sexy Secret or Secret Sexy Gift
boxes? You have multiple Debbie Diaz
profiles in your account. To edit the names, please go to
(41:32):
Profile Settings in your Alexa app.
OK, we'll work on that later. So sorry.
I'm having issues right? Now, Oh my gosh, they're all
talking to me right now again later.
OK, well, Kendall, thank you so much for coming on the show
today and she's she'll come backon.
So get in with the ChatGPT 4 point O or any of the other AI,
you know, platforms out there and get yourself a candle, right
(41:53):
candle. And thank you for Co hosting.
She'll she'll be Co hosting again.
She did. I think you did an awesome job,
girl. You did awesome.
I'm very proud of you. Mom is proud and continue to pay
attention to the show because you know, wink wink, Valentine's
Day is right around the corner, guys and girls.
And so, you know, do something this year, do something that you
(42:17):
haven't done in a long time. Get off your ass and go do
something. Don't be a gamer and sit in
front of a computer or a game orconsole.
Get off your ass and go do something for Valentine's Day,
you know, take her out, do something, take take your dog
out, do whatever you got to do, but get a secret sexy gift box
and have a great and you can getone for yourself.
That box. Actually, if I I would buy one
for myself, honestly, if I wanted to, I mean, I have them.
(42:40):
So it's like, you know, but if Isaw one online, I would probably
buy one just for myself. That's how cool they are.
They literally are that like awesome of a gift.
So I mean, you could be date or not date or you could just have
it for yourself. I mean, sometimes people are
insecure about going to the sex store and like buying sex toys
or buying intimacy type of items.
And that's all solved in this box, the secret sexy gift box at
(43:02):
50 bucks and it's like that's way cheaper, cheap of a price
then it should be like honestly,like I saw the invoices of all
this stuff and it's like a little bit more than that.
You know what we're selling for,so take advantage of that price
for sure, because you know, I'm going to have to make bring that
to the next meeting. But thank you for tuning in and
make sure you subscribe to the show and share, share, share.
(43:24):
Sharing is caring and we appreciate all your support.
And the deputy is reporting livefeaturing the Vaginas podcast.
And have yourself a great day and peace out bitches.
Umm sorry I'm having issues right now, could not understand
what you said.
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