January 20, 2025 • 47 mins
In this episode of BGC, Breaking Girl Code DDRL touches base on how to ask her a certain question that can literally change the whole relationship dynamic! This is a question that is easily thrown around daily and you probably never thunk it had such a powerful impact !
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show on the road. You're listening to DDRL, Debbie
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Diaz, The Sporting Live. So you know that saying that
people do they ask a question and you're supposed to answer it
like how's your day going? Well, I'm going to start a new
trend and maybe I'll be the onlyone doing it, but I'm now that
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Tik Toks by. Is everybody OK?
Are we having anybody with withdrawals?
Do we got withdrawals in the room?
Do we have anybody that's mentally unstable because of
TikTok being gone? OK, we're clear.
I heard some bitches crying about it from another group, but
you know we're OK, right? OK, Anyway, see, I care.
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And somebody asks you a question, like particular the
common one. How are you instead of always
just giving back an, an auto response that our brain just,
you know, knows how to respond to that question.
I'm good, I'm good usually ever even if you're having a bad day,
usually, you know, if you're nota narcissistic prick, you know,
you usually say I'm good, I'm good, you know, to avoid your
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dirty laundry being everywhere or you know, tension whore, all
that stuff. So or you just don't want to be
focused on 'cause you're pissy. So, but a typical person would
say back the word I'm good or phrase I'm good, I'm good.
Well, why don't you put an end to that?
If you need some therapy in yourlife, if you need to bent to get
some shit off your chest next time, anybody, I mean anybody,
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it could be a stranger from another country that you'd never
even heard of ask you that question.
Let him let it out, let it out, let it snow.
Whatever that song is, let it rain.
Let them know exactly how you feel.
Instead of saying I'm good and putting a Band-Aid on shit, take
the Band-Aid off and just let them go.
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Let the puppies out. Let them breathe.
You know they asked you a question, they should know going
in. Asking a question like that, you
can get a lowdown of an answer, but our brains are trained to
know that our response when we get that question is going to be
something simple and you just move on with your bad self.
Not anymore let's shake up some things let's I mean TikTok
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shaked up some things and so didcap cut, you know so let's go
ahead and shake up the phrase. How are you because I started it
today. I tried it out and I've done it
before you know, don't get me wrong.
I, I have loaded a load on some strangers before when they've
asked me that question and usually it's a very professional
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person that I load my business out to and I don't have any
regrets afterwards. I feel it's amazing to just go.
Sometimes women just like to vent 'cause we're emotional,
remember we're emotional. Men are more not emotional.
We like there are more actions. Women are not more actions,
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we're more emotional. That studies are proven.
So we like to just bitch and it's not, I hate using the word
bitch because we're not bitching, we're just releasing.
We're releasing an an ample amount of stress we hold inside
of us and we don't really want aresponse most of the time.
Most of the time we just want toknow there's a human body with
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ears that it's not deaf can hearus or they're reading our lips
either. We just want to be heard by a
stranger, by a something with, awith.
A pulse. That's all we care.
Because then we feel validation that somebody, it doesn't have
to be the person involved, just somebody, anybody who buddy,
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anybody said anybody, whatever can be a body next to your body
or near your body that hears youand your release and you're
bitching this, it's a vent session, hashtag vent.
So guys if you know I'm breakinggirl code.
BGC bitch A. Simplistic way to have a woman
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not be so dramatic and not be soangry and like hostile with the
situation that you're in or you know, short stemmed, all that
good stuff and she's having a bad day.
Things are not going her way. All that stuff.
Ask her how she's doing and let her vent.
Let her release all that stuff. You don't need to really listen.
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I mean, I shouldn't say that I should.
I should be teaching bad habits.I'm trying to teach good habits,
good habits, good habits. But I'm going to just let you
know how sometimes I think like a dude.
I really do. I just had this guy syndrome in
me. Not I mean, I don't have big
Dick like, you know, Ron Jeremy or nothing, but you know, I took
it well. Just kidding.
Let's joke people. Just joking, right?
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So if you don't know my personality by now, come on
down. I'm a little sarcastic on the,
you know, sassy side, so I'm notPG.
So this is. You know a way to it works.
It just benefits everything. You know how you could find a
multivitamin that handles all the shit that you need?
You know, the heart, the the, the skin, the hair, the nails,
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you know that the livers and allthat.
Well this is kind of one of those vitamins where you can
easily swallow it and shut your mouth and don't say a word while
she's venting and just let her get it all out.
Because if you interrupt her it'll a piss her off even more
and B it'll make her refocus herher story and maybe have to
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start all over or like elaboratestory.
The shit will take a lot longer if you interrupt her.
Just let her fly her magic benting wings and get it all off
her chest and then she will feela load better and then it's a
win win because she will take a mental note that you sat there
and you didn't say shit back. You didn't give her any attitude
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and you listened. You took those ear balls and you
listened. Even if you were pretending to
listen, you listened. You were a body that she cares
about that was near her when shewas in a moment where she's in
her feelings and needed to vent.And that's it.
The session's over that. See how easy that is?
Like she will be, actually. Probably give you a blowjob
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later. I mean, who knows that that is
that big of a deal that you justsit there and don't criticize
her. Don't you know, disagree with
her. That would be like the worst
thing you could do is criticize and disagree when she's trying
to unload a venting, you know, frustration out of her, out of
her lungs. That would be a whoa, you're an
idiot. Like you are just an idiot.
Don't do that. So.
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Just. Sit there and I know some of you
are chatty Cathy's and extroverts and it's hard for you
to just sit there and be quiet and take it in the ass.
But sometimes you got to do thatin life.
Sometimes you just got to be a team player and just shut the
fuck up and let somebody else feel better for the moment than
yourself and give your two centsbecause your $0.10 is free.
Or does it go the other way around?
I don't know. So it's really hard to find
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somebody that will sit there. I have a few selective people
that will do that. You know, let me vent and wait
for me to stop so I can let themgive their opinion on my
situation and they're very respectful and I feel a ton
better when I'm done. Otherwise if I don't have anyone
around me, I just talk to myselflike third party.
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Nothing wrong with that either. I mean split personality,
whatever you call it, it's talking to somebody even if you
think it's imaginary self of you.
Everybody talks to themselves. I mean, don't say you don't.
Because you do I sometimes I sometimes I hear a fan and I
swear to gosh I am not in Baker active mode ever.
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But I swear to gosh sometimes I feel like I hear the radio or
something through a fan. I know like Doo.
Doo Doo Doo Doo Doo Doo. Doo get some sleep of it.
But I do. I am partially deaf in my left
ear. So I only I'm like, I had that
thing called, Oh my gosh, just forgot the name of it.
That's it. This shit where your
equilibrium's off. That's what I have.
And Virgo, Virgo. I think it's yeah, I'm not on
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any medication for nothing. I just deal with it.
I didn't even know that that disease existed, that disorder
until I went to the doctor bitching about my, my hearing
again. And they're like, well, you have
Vertigo, you have dizziness, youget headaches easily and stuff
because you're unbalanced. I'm like, I know I'm unbalanced,
bitch. I hadn't been unbalanced for a
long time from the womb. But yes, that is a.
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Situation where I do I do sometimes sometimes not all the
time hear like a strong fan or one of those circle ones, not a
Tyson Dyson and all that gets you know, fancy ones, just the
old school ones that not too oldschool has a remote.
I will sometimes be in the bathroom and I'll be out getting
out of the shower and I'll hear I'll.
Think I'll hear voices? No, I don't think I hear voices.
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I think I hear the radio and I'mlooking around like I'm the only
one here. Like where the fuck is this
radio coming from? And who has a radio on?
Who listens to a radio in a house, you know, besides the car
or something? And I'll be looking around.
But I mean, now I know what it is.
But when I first was trying to figure out what it was, I was
like, what is that noise? And then I just, the noise kept
coming. Your stupid fan.
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And so I went near the fan. I'm like, Oh my gosh, am I
hearing shit from a fucking band?
And so I just kind of was put myself in check.
I was like, whoa, Debbie, like what's going on?
Did we sleep yesterday? Like are we on a are we on a
binge here? Are we trying to like, are you
in Tweaker town or something? Like what is going on with you?
So I, you know, put myself in check.
Maybe we need sleep. Maybe we need some vitamins,
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maybe we need some milk, something we need to go eat.
We need something. So yeah.
And then it wasn't until, like, weeks later, somebody else told
me a story similar to that wherethey said they heard they were
home alone and they got freaked out because of the lightning
storm or something. And then they heard the fan
going and making weird noises. And I'm like, holy shit.
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And then it triggered me to remember my little, you know,
moment of hearing voices. It's not really voices.
Radio. Like there's a difference
between radio and voices. There's a difference because
radio is mixed with music and then a voice is a voice.
This is multiple voices on radio.
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Wow. I know this is something that I
shouldn't talk about out loud, but I mean, sometimes it's.
Too late, so the cat is out of the bag.
People, Cats in the cradle, in the soup, it's alright.
So anyway the and I flatline a lot too, it's the ADHD thing.
And my brain is going million miles an hour and it doesn't
know when to stop and when it stops it just like doesn't know
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where to pick up from before andit takes a minute to recoup.
So I hear those voices some the radio noise in there when
sometimes and then I freak out thinking OK, someone else is
telling me a story. Watch you tell me a story.
I'm at first immediately I'm like, bitch, you need you need
some sleep. You need to go the crazy house.
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You need to do something. You need to get on go see a
doctor. You are a hot mess.
You're hearing shit. You know, that's a little on the
correct side. And I think I got to go home.
But then it triggered me, like Isaid, to remember my my
situation. And I was like, you know what?
I'm not alone and I just totallyflatlined.
I wasn't even sure where I was going with the story.
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I know I should write down my shit.
I have a pen and notepad near meat all times to remember like my
stuff because this memory and dementia and ADHD shit all time
results guys start to scare me alittle bit because it happened
so quick. I think it's part of excitement
mixed with a little bit of anxiety that I have going on
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when when I'm performing or whenI'm speaking engagements.
I get a little like a little kidin the candy store.
I get a little excited and like get a little chub.
PIP thing syndrome, if you can relate to that better men.
And so my brain skips a few beats or something like that in
there. It's like, you know what, let's
just go hopscotch and and then every time it hopscotch is in
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the land somewhere, I remember something.
I don't know what's around that was just off the wall, but let's
just regroup and start a little bit fresh here.
But when somebody asks you, I was bitching about the women
thing, but when somebody asks you how you are, like I said in
the beginning, try this, Just try it.
Try, try and let it be therapeutic for you, a
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therapeutic approach for when you're asked.
Don't just sit there and do white lie and say everything's
good, everything's fine. When you know you need to talk
to someone but you don't have any friends, you have no one to
talk to you, but you just had a stranger ask you how are you?
So you know what? Next time anybody out there is
thinking about asking someone, how are you?
You know, just remember, you asked a loaded question and
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somebody is going to take you upon that one these days.
And you're not going to get thatlittle old.
I'm fine. Oh, everything's great.
Everything's good. Oh, splendid, splendid,
excellent, excellent, beautiful day in the neighborhood.
Thanks for asking. Yes, you know, let's stop all
that little bullshit. Let's really tell people what's
going on. So I was on LinkedIn today
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catching up on some emails from August, like no joke, no pun.
And I was behind a. Lot.
In that, in that little platformand thanks to TikTok, you know,
and I'm just kidding. I was anti TikTok anyway because
they banned me a long time ago for talking about my own boobs.
Like my own boobs. I was drunk one night.
I brought a redneck hot tub intomy dining room into the house
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because I didn't want to get bitup mosquitoes and I had some
friends over. They helped me and I filled that
bitch up. I literally moved the dining
room table all the way and I wason a mission.
I was on a mission because I wanted to be in that redneck hot
tub. It's like a like a three foot
kiddie pool from Walmart typing and I wanted to.
I was determined to go in this bitch.
By the end of the night, I was already like a bottle and a half
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of champagne in so I was feelinggood.
I was in that Bob's builder construction mode and not really
thinking about the outcome of the my projects.
And so I, you know, totally brought that pool in and I
decided to fill it up with AI, took a hose from outside and I.
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Plugged it into the OR, screwed it into the washer and dryer
room and ran the hot water from that area all the way into the
dining room. Because at first I was using the
kitchen sink and I was, you know, Buck, I was like using one
of those silver, those silver bowls, you know, the sub big
giant solid bowls that have different sizes.
I was. Using that bitch to fill this.
And I was getting nowhere anytime fast.
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My back started hurting. I'm like this is starting to
make this is not working. This is making me lose my buzz.
And then I just put two and two together and make a holy shit.
Like I can just run the hose from the washer.
So that's what I did. And I didn't even think about
how to how I was going to get the water out of there at all.
I'm not going to elaborate and that story.
We'll talk about that another day.
But I ended up I mission accomplished.
I got it done. I was in the hot tub and I, you
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know, I popped open another bottle at this point and I had
my bathing suit on. I had a bikini on and I was
feeling good, you know, don't get me wrong.
And I went on TikTok live like, look, this is what hard work
does people, you know, everybody's like, is that thing
inside your house? Yes, it's on tile.
We're fine. So I said somebody said
something about my boobs or something and then I got
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defensive and I responded back about, you know, defending my
boobs and boom, I got banned forlife on there.
And it would just took, I didn'teven say tit.
I didn't swear nothing. I mean I may have swore or
something. Oh, who knows.
So yeah, take that back. But I got banned from that day
and that was probably 2 year, 2 1/2 years ago or something like
that. And I was psyched, so perturbed
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over that situation because I was building my TikTok
clientele, fans and all subscribers up pretty, pretty
solid. And live is kind of a part of
the package deal with TikTok. You gotta, if you're trying to
be a content creator and social media influencer and growing
your, your brand, you need to golive.
You, you're kind of kind of stuck if you don't have live
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because you need a little bit more engagement with your
audience. And I got that taken away from
me. So I was.
Like, you know what? I'm just gonna, I'm just going
to like let this be and move on.There's other platforms out
there. This isn't the end of the world.
You know, that's how I think in negative situations.
I always think of a positive. So I tried to appealing it a
bunch of times and they're like,Nope, sorry, bitch.
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You are out though. But then, you know, lately in
the past year and all that, there is just raunched ass and
tits all over TikTok that is notbanned.
And then I mean, there's this one that she was live and she's
laying on her bed with a cute little like cheerleading
looking, you know, a jersey shirt has her hair in like
pigtails. And then she's not really
showing anything, but she moves the camera a little bit.
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And then next thing you know, you see her ass with the thong
on like a string thong, you know, peeking out from behind
her on her bed. And she does she get banned?
Nope, she's still on there. I mean, there's countless
stories I could tell about what is exposed on that platform.
That is totally, totally, whollyunacceptable for anybody's eyes
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on a child friendly app, family friendly app, so to say.
So I don't even know how a verbal word that I said unless
the criteria are just got a bunch of haters out there.
Haters gonna hate hate. Maybe I didn't have my hater
buggers on that night. That's probably what the problem
was. So I bet, I mean, maybe if they
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didn't have they had stricter roles back then and they must
have fired someone who handled all their roles and then they
had a new person come in the position and that person's like,
you know what, let's just, you know, let people show tits and
ass all day long, OK, Long as you just hit the button that
says made for 18 and older, you know, let's just do that because
you know, it's OK. It's just skin.
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Let's just do it. And even if they talk about it
verbally, just let them go. So maybe I was too.
It was too soon in the game of TikTok Live to be in the, you
know, relaxed mode of Tiktok Live.
So I was in the strict mode where they had you said the word
the and you got violated violation.
So. That's what it is.
So I you know that since that band, I got kind of butt hurt
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over that too. And I know I'm going off the
topic here. I got kind of butt hurt and I I
was. Like, you know what I'm not
doing lives on anything. They want to ban me on that, but
I'm not going to do any lives. But I no, I didn't think like
that. I just didn't.
I don't know. I just didn't feel the audience
like what I present is on a on alive on social media is more of
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a tick tock savvy type of. Presentation, I would say,
because each platform has your demographics of who you, you
know, cater to who your followers are and your
subscribers. So Facebook.
You know, I can't say what I sayand all that on Facebook because
Facebook is filled with a lot ofI'm not putting anybody in
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categories, but it is an, an older mature platform.
It is not so trashy as the otherones.
And I mean some of the group chats are, I'll tell you that
there's some shit going down andsome of those and it's just a
more mature audience, I would say.
So I don't feel like being mature all the time when I talk
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and I don't feel like, I don't feel like talking about resumes
and all that shit. You know, I'm like live, I want
to talk. I want to cut up on tell about
my day. All the shenanigans happen and
all that fuckery that happens and all this.
Make it funny and comedy, you know, Or sell some shit, some
auction stuff. You know, whatever I mean.
That's what I like to do. And then Instagram, I haven't
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100% bonded with Instagram. I'm working on it.
We are it's a slow building relationship.
I'm getting there. I do post often on there, but
you know, Instagram and I we're getting there.
But Instagram lives would be more of a between Facebook and
TikTok. It's kind of both mix those two
together. So you got a kind of got a wild
blend, but it's more of people you know personally in your
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circles are on that one and then.
So you can be a little bit more raunchy on Instagram, on IG and
then TikTok was, you know, ballsto the walls.
You know, Sky's the limit, you could do whatever on there and
you know, obviously not talk about your boobs.
You know, I'm like, but that didn't really have any criteria
to it at all. It was just like open free for
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all, whatever you want to say dosell, you know anything on
there, anything goes. So and then we have, you know,
all the other platforms. LinkedIn is obviously
professional and we have. YouTube and I'm building up my
YouTube channel. Debbie is praying live.
How do you dot dot dot? It's a tutorial slash pot.
My podcast is on there too. And it's just a it's a growing
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thing. I think I'm over. 2000
subscribers on that one. I think I'm doing pretty good on
that one. So that one is.
You know, working progress. I just bonded me and YouTube
like we hit it off finally afterall these year, decade, a year,
a decade, We we met a decade agoand then we kind of grew
distant. He YouTube went overseas and I
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went a different location. And so we we met up with each
other again recently and we rebuilt our relationship and now
we're growing and we're and we're thriving.
We're thriving. Yes, we got a good thing going
on. It's just baby steps with that
one. So there's thread, there's X
Twitter, you know what everyone call it.
There's all these other like sister wannabe platforms that
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are are holding on, holding on to climbing that ladder.
I use them, but I don't really I'm not active in a lot of them.
I use Zapier, that app that helps you send out.
It helps you be an administrative assistant, kind
of an AI white way where it helps you delegate your tasks
and your your items that you need to do that take away from
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doing what you really want to doand get done like you're like
for me, content creating it takes away helps me be able to
handle like emails And well, I use Zapier for and at first
Zapier is a little dangerous. So watch out for it.
I use it for posting for post for me, you know, and I tell it
what to do. I give it a code and all, I give
it all the tools and it learns how like how you want to do it.
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And then you post when you want it posted and all that good
stuff and then boom, it takes care of that, you know, task for
you so you don't have to and youcan not worry about it and boom,
you can move on. So I use that to do a lot of
automation for some of the stuffthat I post.
I mean, people are like, Oh my gosh, you're like up at like
2:00 in the morning, like every day.
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I'm like, no bitch, I have well,sometimes I am, I am a night
owl. No bitch.
I have a service app doing that for me.
It's a called automation. You know, it posts my stuff that
I give it. So it took.
It takes a while to learn all this shit.
Trust me, I'm still learning it.It over stimulates me and
sometimes I just want to like just pop my head off and go
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floating in the sky. But I have to really process
shit after a while 'cause I would just like taxes or Oh my
gosh. I'm doing my first like W twos
employee stuff this year and it is.
Driving me nuts. And I'm a tax like queen.
I love taxes. So like this, I'm parking up
some trees this year. But it's OK.
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It's OK, people, it's OK. You should challenge yourself
often. You should challenge yourself
like you should challenge yourself in relationships by
learning the vaginas in a different intimate level than
you normally do from outside thebox.
Come inside the box and learn the vaginas in a different way.
So Breaking Girl Code is all about learning new ways to come
and approach the vaginas. So I was on LinkedIn, as I was
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saying, and I was catching up onmy, my messages, my emails.
And you know, there's people arenice on LinkedIn.
I know it's like professional, you know, platform where you're
supposed to be networking in a professional way, obviously, but
it is so refreshing to go from like my DMS and my messages are
so different from LinkedIn. When I go to like Instagram and
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all the and Facebook, it's nightand day.
I can go. It's like I run away from the
other platform sometimes and I run over to LinkedIn and I'm
like, Oh my gosh, I'm safe here.I'm safe here.
No one can harm me over here. That's what I feel like
sometimes that I go there. It's you don't you don't have to
expect any like negativity coming in at from you at all in
any angles, because the people there know how to approach you.
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They know how to talk to you in a professional, classy way, and
they know how to say a negative thing in a in a positive
negative like thing. You know, there's no, there's
none of this. Yo, bitch, you're shit and he is
chat. You know, there's none of that
riff raff. You know on there's all the
other like you always like I have your shield up on all the
other platforms. You got to have your shield up
and you got to be ready to go towar because somebody is going to
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like throw a sword at you or some shit.
But on LinkedIn, no Linkedins over there.
You can, you can walk in that bitch with no shoes on and just
take, let your hair down and flow and just relax, you know?
So I should visit it more often.I think I will.
So somebody asked me on there. I ran one of the emails that I
had a randomly just picked one because there was like a million
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Indians in there. Holy shit.
And when you're a podcaster, it's the Indians like to just
bombard you on Snapchat and on LinkedIn.
I swear in India, that's I thinkthat's the only platform they're
allowed to use over there is Snapchat and and and LinkedIn
because they are like Bo leaded leaders of the pack and those
two platforms. And they know when you're
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online, when you're sleeping, when you're eating, when you're
a lot of showering, you're shitting, dummy.
Those motherfuckers know when you are breathing.
They will and they've come in ina posse like they don't travel
alone. They're like million of them.
And when you're a podcaster, allof a sudden everybody in India
is all of a sudden a promoter for podcasters.
If they want your business, no, I can't even I can't even
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refresh my, my screen without having, you know, 50 million new
emails from somebody over in India.
I'm thinking in my head, man, I'm on, I'm on line right now at
2:00 in the afternoon. Isn't it their bedtime over
there? Isn't it 2:00 AM?
It's pretty sad when I sometimessegue my, my timeframes of these
platforms when I go online to know when India is sleeping.
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I'm not joking. It's for real, for real.
And they, I mean, they're the best salespeople that for real.
They, they are persistent, they are educated, they're
articulate, they're intelligent.And did I say persistent?
If you don't answer that by one of their, on one of their
profiles, they're going to create another one, bitch.
And they're not going to cap it you.
They're just creating another one because they need to
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constantly get your attention tofocus on their service that they
all provide the same thing. So in between all the all of
India, I found, you know, some other emails in there and one of
them just said, Hey, Debbie, howare you?
Hope all is well. Question mark.
And I wanted to answer that. Oh, everything's fine,
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everything's good. It's good.
And I was, I was thinking, why, why should this person ask me a
direct question? And I know I've been asked that
a trillion times in my life so far.
And I'm sure you have too. But this, this is going to be
something different I do. I'm going to actually make a
difference in my life today and in my attitude and in my
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frustrations. And I'm going to make a
difference in this dude's world too, because I'm going to throw
him a curveball and give him an answer that he totally was not
expecting. Sometimes in life you have to
throw some curveballs. If you're constantly getting
them thrown at you, it's time you put on a mint and a glove
and throw that bitch back at somebody else.
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So it's my turn to play pitcher and I'm up at the up at the
whatever it's called, the Dome thing, the mound.
I'm up at the mound and I'm getting my left hand ready to
pitch my softball. Like, you know, total lesbo
style with short hair. Just kidding.
I did play softball and I am left-handed, but I throw a ball
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right-handed. It's arm predictorious and we am
predictorious. I don't know.
There's some words I can't say. Like and acid, amphetamine.
So it's supercalifragilistic. I know, I know.
Yeah. So I'm getting looks.
So yeah, I wanted to throw the. What'd you say?
Oh, Kendall is coming out. Yeah.
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So I you got to throw the curveballs back.
So I decided to just let it, letit flow, let it snow, let it
flow in snow, let it glow. And I wrote this dude a book.
I mean, it's OK to send the books not in text message.
This was an e-mail, so this was I was able to elaborate my
feelings with a little bit more verbs and adjectives and nouns
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and make continuously long sentences, make them longer with
commas and all that, and make sure my punctuation was correct
because I don't talk text most of the time.
I type it with my phalanges. Yes, I use my phalanges so I was
and I'm very anal about my grammar even though sometimes
I'm not like bipolar with that really really bad.
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I am on point sometimes with allmy grammar but then sometimes I
don't give a fuck and today was like 5050.
I gave a fuck a little bit and then I didn't.
So I would misspell a couple words and it wouldn't auto
correct. So I just moved on with my bad
self, but I would go back if I missed a comma or, you know,
some sort of punctuation thing. So that was your English class
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one O 1. So I let him know exactly how I
felt in that moment and the relief I felt from answering
that question honestly, instead of just band aiding it and
saying oh good and moving on. I gave it a lot of different,
you know things here. So a lot of a shift happened in
here. Not shit.
A shift happened here where I answered a question, a basic
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question of, you know, everybodygreeting a basic reading answer
or question. And I answered it in a personal
way in a on a professional platform to a stranger that I
never met before in my entire life.
And the response I got back fromsending that, which was quick
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too, was phenomenal. It was, and I've done this
before too, and I've had the same effect on it.
It people will remember you and trust you and want to open up to
you, do business with you, do everything with you when you
actually open up back to them where they're least expecting
it. And that's the same thing in
relationships too. You know, we all walk around
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with our guard high up and you know, our Berlin Wall is up,
bitch, it's back. And we, we want it to come down.
But we are so stubborn that it, we're keeping it up there, but
we'll let it come down inch by inch.
But sometimes it's OK to let a foot go down and let the puppies
breathe and show some vulnerability, you know?
Like show a real side of you that is not ever really exposed.
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Show that you're human. Show that you make make
mistakes. Show that you are not always
this trippy person all the time.You do have bad days, but you're
not a bitch or a cunt about it. You just have a bad day and you
just need to bent and move on. And that's exactly how I felt
today when I answered this guy'squestion and granted, he sent me
this e-mail like back in August and I'm just now responding back
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to it. But, and he responded back
within like 2 minutes of me sending it.
And I told him, you know how I was feeling with my podcast.
I, you know, I kept it on a professional level of the topic.
I focused on that, you know, my entrepreneurist and you know
that type of thing because it isLinkedIn.
I wasn't going to tell him like,oh, you know, my ass hurts
today. I was itching it, you know,
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nothing like that. I told how I know my my podcast
has grown from 3000 listeners episode to over 30,000 in the
past few months and we added three episodes a week.
I know I gave him some of my analytics and I told him where I
was frustrated with with the like went through a bad
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financial situation. I'm still recovering from that
there. You know, I elaborated on some
personal notes. That not.
It's not of anybody's business. But you know what, I felt great
unloading that information to somebody else and I wasn't I
wasn't expecting an answer back and I wasn't expecting advice
back. I just and I followed it up with
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I I hope you're doing well. I hope you're doing as well or,
or having an exciting. I said something at the end
where I, you know, didn't leave it based the endnote, leave it
in it in my ballpark. I left it in his ballpark so
that I could just move on with my day and not worry have worry
about having to respond back to another e-mail.
And then I got this back and forth shit that I don't do kind
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of like that ping pong thing. I don't do that.
I'm like a one or two emailer person.
And then I just goodbye. I move on with my day because
there's no need to. It's just emails, just, you
know, a couple responses and that's it.
But. So he responded back with four
letters, like 4 letters, he said.
I understand. And then he said, wait.
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He said, I understand, I don't know, maybe it's more letters,
He said I understand. And then he said I as well.
And that's all he said. Keep it simple, sister.
The kiss role. That's what that's a great
response because that's the kindof response I like to have.
I don't want those novels, but like I wrote.
So I was like, what does he I aswell?
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What does that mean? What does he what is he agreeing
that I'm? Like what did he agree with in
my e-mail? So I was kind of confused about
that and I didn't feel like breaking it down and dissecting
it. So I just said back to him
quickly without wasting time. What are you talking about,
question mark? And I haven't read the follow up
message since. So my iPad died on me right in
(34:37):
the middle of that. So I just found that as a way to
move on with something else on my day on my list.
But I mean, I felt great about unloading my problems and issues
and and fears and frustrations and all that onto a man that
didn't expect it. But he asked me the question.
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So you know when you ask a female how is she doing and she
looks all bitchy and all that, don't engage in with her in a
hostile way back to her. Don't engage in her in
aggressive way. Even though you are this alpha,
you know type of personality andyou dominate and all that stuff,
who gives a shit you know. Would you rather have a pleasant
Sunday you know and let things just be happy and chirpy and
(35:21):
have a nice dinner and on movie?Or do you want to fight all day
and be pissy, bitchy and angry and hating life?
Which one would you choose? You probably want to choose the
shut the fuck up and let her vent mode.
That's the one that think the majority rules here.
So put your Eagle pride all that's to the side and just zip
(35:41):
the lips and let a vagina talk, Bitch.
Shout, scream, punch into a pillow, whatever she needs to
do. Just don't say anything back
unless you're prompted to, unless she says what do you
think? What do you?
And don't give her any negative response.
You don't give her your real opinion.
You know this is an area where you could just white lie under
(36:02):
the carpet type of thing. You don't really even have the
white light just make numb like noises.
Like like just tell her I don't know.
I don't know. But I agree with you.
I agree with you, babe. I agree with you, babe.
I don't really know how to answer that question for you,
but I have to say, whatever you do decide to do, I've got your
back. I'm here for you on your team.
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You know, something like that iswhat you need to say back.
If you're prompted a question, you know, she could be in the
middle, just stops and asks you a question just to see if you're
paying attention. You know, the quiz ones should
be like, Oh my gosh, this is what happened to me.
And are you listening to me? And you're like, yeah, I'm
listening to you. What did you just say?
What did I just say? Then you said that your sister
(36:47):
like, like ripped your extensions out and and then
she's it puts her in checks like, oh shit, he is listening.
So maybe you'll get one of thoselittle pop quiz, you know,
quizzes every once in a while because you got to be careful
guys, when you are playing the old.
I'm listening to her, but I'm not in zone out mode because we
are not dumb. Remember, we think with our
emotions. We're not, you know this.
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Actions speak louder than words and the we are the words speak
louder than actions mode. So we are going to
psychologically fuck with you back if you are not paying
attention when we actually allowyou to be present when we are in
that mode and we want to vent and get it off our chest.
That's a vulnerable time for a female.
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It's a vulnerable time for her to show that vulnerability, show
that insecurity, especially to our man, especially if you're
new with each other. And she's got to let it go,
'cause there's a lot of bitches out there that are bitches until
they get that shit off their chest and there's nothing you
can stop them or no way you can change it until they get that
shit off their chest. I know a vagina that will hold
(37:50):
that face and that Karen look all damn day and it just ruins
the whole day. It ruins the whole day because
her aura is nothing but, you know, pissy.
It's pissy and everybody around it can see it, smell it, breathe
it, you know, and it just, it's selfish too.
It's like, bitch, get that shit off your chest and let's all
have a good day. But you know, they, they're
stubborn and they just don't, you know, let it let it get off.
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So I mean, I have flipped out onthese types before and have put
them in their place. And then I just walked away from
the situation because I choose my battles.
Everybody can choose their battles.
And I choose in my life not to be around environments of
negativity and hostileness and and aggression.
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And I don't want to be around itbecause a, it triggers me.
I have an anger management type of blood in me and I have had a
bunch of runs in the the old pokey with domestic shit under
my belt from fighting, you know physically fighting.
So I try to lots of anger management classes Co ordered
under my belt. But, you know, I learned what
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triggers me and I the feeling ofwhat triggers me, and I learned
to stay away from that, avoid it, dodge it, or, and change my
approach on a lot of things. So I've calmed down a lot.
This this raging tiger has calmed down over the years, Yes,
but she's still feisty. Bitch.
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He would only know. I mean, like, I'm a challenge
today. Try dating me.
Yeah. You guys all want anything.
I'm going to date. I'm telling you, You got to know
what you're signing up for. You got to read the fine print.
Silver. Lining.
So that's a huge lesson to be learned today.
I mean, there's a lot to practice here.
There's a lot to think about, there's a lot to process because
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this is just shit that I don't think a lot of women want you to
know about because we don't wantto be vulnerable to you.
We don't want you to. And don't ever use this against
us too. Guys, you ever take this type of
advice and use it against the vagina?
Off with the said, off with the said literally you were cut off.
You're going to be cut off and she will remember this and hold
(40:02):
a grudge against you forever. So you cannot take vulnerable
information on a vagina and use it against her.
It's just you're, you're a pieceof shit.
If you do that. You literally are a piece of
shit. And I'm going to make sure.
That vagina knows that there's outlets to let us all know that
you did that to her. So we all keep tracking our
little books, you know, and we do keep track.
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Trust us. I mean, those are some things
that you just don't do. I mean, learn to be a mature
person in life. And if you can't handle mature
woman that just needs to, you know, vent and therapeutically
feel better about her, her mindset then.
I don't know what to tell you. Like you're not my cup of tea to
mentor so you're just putting yourself out there to destroy
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women and make our lives even more hectic than they are.
Then your your goals and your your outlook on life is pretty
shitty and you need to attitude adjustment.
Literally. And that's not my job or place
to do so. Go find a real therapist.
Licensed therapist. Like seriously, I mean, you
can't control everybody's personality.
I would hope that every day theymake a difference and just smile
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and, and make someone else smileand brighten their day.
I mean, just takes one person tohelp another person, you know?
And we keep all paying it forward and helping each other.
We can make this world a better place regardless who's the
president, regardless if TikTok is around, regardless if you're
single or you're old and you're single and you don't have anyone
to wipe your ass when you're in the senior home, who cares?
(41:31):
You know, everything will be allright.
It's just how you look in your view and your perspective on the
situation. So I mean, these are things that
I I just sometimes meditate on that if I think back, and I'm
sure you maybe have said this before too, if I only knew what
(41:52):
I knew now back then. But then if you even knew what
you knew now back then, you probably would still be making
the same decisions anyway. Because who listens to anyones
advice when you're younger and Dumber and full come young dumb
full come here you come. So you got to make your end.
Plus you you makes you. If you listen to everybody
else's advice when you're super young, you can listen to it and
(42:14):
help it guide you on your decision making.
But if you don't make any mistakes and learn on your own
what to do and what not to do incertain situations in life,
you're never really going to have a hardcore learning of a
rock bottom situation. You know?
You're just going to still put aBand-Aid on it and then keep
floating into your life making more.
Maybe the situations will get bigger and bigger and drastic
(42:36):
ones that what could have been prevented.
You feel me? Because I know I'm a stubborn
bitch. I'm super stubborn.
I'm an alpha. I'm like very like independent.
I, you know, I'm very intellectual.
So I can't stand stupid people. So and I will tell them they're
stupid. I can't help it.
It's just I can't help it. So I'm, I am very fun, though.
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I'm funny, bubbly, and I put myself on a platter right now.
Yes, I am, but I'm also letting you know my flaws.
You know, there's a lot of flawsand who wants to always admit
those? It takes a lot for somebody to
even admit that what I just did.But there's no shame in my game.
You know, I am built from every mistake I've made real rod and
mirror. And I want to help other people
get outside their shell and see people and see the opposite sex
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or, you know, or the same sex orwhatever you want and, you know,
in a different view, like come at a different approach.
That's all I ask. Come at a different approach.
So I hope you enjoyed today's podcast.
I did. It was very therapeutic for me
as well. And this is the second time I
recorded a podcast today becauseMary Bushwacker and I were
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recording middle of the night during the podcast and I and my
dumbass never hit the record button or I hit the record
button and I accidentally undid the record button.
Who knows, who knows, who knows what I did, but I went 56
minutes recording and it was good shit too.
And I didn't have anything to show for it.
You know, when you record a podcast, it's not like it's
(44:02):
scripted. It's not scripted at all.
So it's no natural naturalness coming out of this bitch, you
know, and so you can't just redoa podcast.
There's there's a lot of energy that was put into it that, you
know, you got to refresh the brain, you got to refresh your
saliva. I can't go back and talk about
the same shit that I was just talking about an hour ago and
then like have the same expressions with it.
(44:22):
I got to move on to another topic.
Move on, Sally, move on. Move on.
But am I crying about it? No, no, I just moved on and I
did it again after I took a little break for real.
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Diaz, The Sporting Live. So you know that saying that
people do they ask a question and you're supposed to answer it
like how's your day going? Well, I'm going to start a new
trend and maybe I'll be the onlyone doing it, but I'm now that
(01:10):
Tik Toks by. Is everybody OK?
Are we having anybody with withdrawals?
Do we got withdrawals in the room?
Do we have anybody that's mentally unstable because of
TikTok being gone? OK, we're clear.
I heard some bitches crying about it from another group, but
you know we're OK, right? OK, Anyway, see, I care.
(01:30):
And somebody asks you a question, like particular the
common one. How are you instead of always
just giving back an, an auto response that our brain just,
you know, knows how to respond to that question.
I'm good, I'm good usually ever even if you're having a bad day,
usually, you know, if you're nota narcissistic prick, you know,
you usually say I'm good, I'm good, you know, to avoid your
(01:52):
dirty laundry being everywhere or you know, tension whore, all
that stuff. So or you just don't want to be
focused on 'cause you're pissy. So, but a typical person would
say back the word I'm good or phrase I'm good, I'm good.
Well, why don't you put an end to that?
If you need some therapy in yourlife, if you need to bent to get
some shit off your chest next time, anybody, I mean anybody,
(02:12):
it could be a stranger from another country that you'd never
even heard of ask you that question.
Let him let it out, let it out, let it snow.
Whatever that song is, let it rain.
Let them know exactly how you feel.
Instead of saying I'm good and putting a Band-Aid on shit, take
the Band-Aid off and just let them go.
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Let the puppies out. Let them breathe.
You know they asked you a question, they should know going
in. Asking a question like that, you
can get a lowdown of an answer, but our brains are trained to
know that our response when we get that question is going to be
something simple and you just move on with your bad self.
Not anymore let's shake up some things let's I mean TikTok
(02:57):
shaked up some things and so didcap cut, you know so let's go
ahead and shake up the phrase. How are you because I started it
today. I tried it out and I've done it
before you know, don't get me wrong.
I, I have loaded a load on some strangers before when they've
asked me that question and usually it's a very professional
(03:17):
person that I load my business out to and I don't have any
regrets afterwards. I feel it's amazing to just go.
Sometimes women just like to vent 'cause we're emotional,
remember we're emotional. Men are more not emotional.
We like there are more actions. Women are not more actions,
(03:38):
we're more emotional. That studies are proven.
So we like to just bitch and it's not, I hate using the word
bitch because we're not bitching, we're just releasing.
We're releasing an an ample amount of stress we hold inside
of us and we don't really want aresponse most of the time.
Most of the time we just want toknow there's a human body with
(03:59):
ears that it's not deaf can hearus or they're reading our lips
either. We just want to be heard by a
stranger, by a something with, awith.
A pulse. That's all we care.
Because then we feel validation that somebody, it doesn't have
to be the person involved, just somebody, anybody who buddy,
(04:19):
anybody said anybody, whatever can be a body next to your body
or near your body that hears youand your release and you're
bitching this, it's a vent session, hashtag vent.
So guys if you know I'm breakinggirl code.
BGC bitch A. Simplistic way to have a woman
(04:44):
not be so dramatic and not be soangry and like hostile with the
situation that you're in or you know, short stemmed, all that
good stuff and she's having a bad day.
Things are not going her way. All that stuff.
Ask her how she's doing and let her vent.
Let her release all that stuff. You don't need to really listen.
(05:05):
I mean, I shouldn't say that I should.
I should be teaching bad habits.I'm trying to teach good habits,
good habits, good habits. But I'm going to just let you
know how sometimes I think like a dude.
I really do. I just had this guy syndrome in
me. Not I mean, I don't have big
Dick like, you know, Ron Jeremy or nothing, but you know, I took
it well. Just kidding.
Let's joke people. Just joking, right?
(05:25):
So if you don't know my personality by now, come on
down. I'm a little sarcastic on the,
you know, sassy side, so I'm notPG.
So this is. You know a way to it works.
It just benefits everything. You know how you could find a
multivitamin that handles all the shit that you need?
You know, the heart, the the, the skin, the hair, the nails,
(05:46):
you know that the livers and allthat.
Well this is kind of one of those vitamins where you can
easily swallow it and shut your mouth and don't say a word while
she's venting and just let her get it all out.
Because if you interrupt her it'll a piss her off even more
and B it'll make her refocus herher story and maybe have to
(06:09):
start all over or like elaboratestory.
The shit will take a lot longer if you interrupt her.
Just let her fly her magic benting wings and get it all off
her chest and then she will feela load better and then it's a
win win because she will take a mental note that you sat there
and you didn't say shit back. You didn't give her any attitude
(06:31):
and you listened. You took those ear balls and you
listened. Even if you were pretending to
listen, you listened. You were a body that she cares
about that was near her when shewas in a moment where she's in
her feelings and needed to vent.And that's it.
The session's over that. See how easy that is?
Like she will be, actually. Probably give you a blowjob
(06:52):
later. I mean, who knows that that is
that big of a deal that you justsit there and don't criticize
her. Don't you know, disagree with
her. That would be like the worst
thing you could do is criticize and disagree when she's trying
to unload a venting, you know, frustration out of her, out of
her lungs. That would be a whoa, you're an
idiot. Like you are just an idiot.
Don't do that. So.
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Just. Sit there and I know some of you
are chatty Cathy's and extroverts and it's hard for you
to just sit there and be quiet and take it in the ass.
But sometimes you got to do thatin life.
Sometimes you just got to be a team player and just shut the
fuck up and let somebody else feel better for the moment than
yourself and give your two centsbecause your $0.10 is free.
Or does it go the other way around?
I don't know. So it's really hard to find
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somebody that will sit there. I have a few selective people
that will do that. You know, let me vent and wait
for me to stop so I can let themgive their opinion on my
situation and they're very respectful and I feel a ton
better when I'm done. Otherwise if I don't have anyone
around me, I just talk to myselflike third party.
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Nothing wrong with that either. I mean split personality,
whatever you call it, it's talking to somebody even if you
think it's imaginary self of you.
Everybody talks to themselves. I mean, don't say you don't.
Because you do I sometimes I sometimes I hear a fan and I
swear to gosh I am not in Baker active mode ever.
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But I swear to gosh sometimes I feel like I hear the radio or
something through a fan. I know like Doo.
Doo Doo Doo Doo Doo Doo. Doo get some sleep of it.
But I do. I am partially deaf in my left
ear. So I only I'm like, I had that
thing called, Oh my gosh, just forgot the name of it.
That's it. This shit where your
equilibrium's off. That's what I have.
And Virgo, Virgo. I think it's yeah, I'm not on
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any medication for nothing. I just deal with it.
I didn't even know that that disease existed, that disorder
until I went to the doctor bitching about my, my hearing
again. And they're like, well, you have
Vertigo, you have dizziness, youget headaches easily and stuff
because you're unbalanced. I'm like, I know I'm unbalanced,
bitch. I hadn't been unbalanced for a
long time from the womb. But yes, that is a.
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Situation where I do I do sometimes sometimes not all the
time hear like a strong fan or one of those circle ones, not a
Tyson Dyson and all that gets you know, fancy ones, just the
old school ones that not too oldschool has a remote.
I will sometimes be in the bathroom and I'll be out getting
out of the shower and I'll hear I'll.
Think I'll hear voices? No, I don't think I hear voices.
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I think I hear the radio and I'mlooking around like I'm the only
one here. Like where the fuck is this
radio coming from? And who has a radio on?
Who listens to a radio in a house, you know, besides the car
or something? And I'll be looking around.
But I mean, now I know what it is.
But when I first was trying to figure out what it was, I was
like, what is that noise? And then I just, the noise kept
coming. Your stupid fan.
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And so I went near the fan. I'm like, Oh my gosh, am I
hearing shit from a fucking band?
And so I just kind of was put myself in check.
I was like, whoa, Debbie, like what's going on?
Did we sleep yesterday? Like are we on a are we on a
binge here? Are we trying to like, are you
in Tweaker town or something? Like what is going on with you?
So I, you know, put myself in check.
Maybe we need sleep. Maybe we need some vitamins,
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maybe we need some milk, something we need to go eat.
We need something. So yeah.
And then it wasn't until, like, weeks later, somebody else told
me a story similar to that wherethey said they heard they were
home alone and they got freaked out because of the lightning
storm or something. And then they heard the fan
going and making weird noises. And I'm like, holy shit.
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And then it triggered me to remember my little, you know,
moment of hearing voices. It's not really voices.
Radio. Like there's a difference
between radio and voices. There's a difference because
radio is mixed with music and then a voice is a voice.
This is multiple voices on radio.
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Wow. I know this is something that I
shouldn't talk about out loud, but I mean, sometimes it's.
Too late, so the cat is out of the bag.
People, Cats in the cradle, in the soup, it's alright.
So anyway the and I flatline a lot too, it's the ADHD thing.
And my brain is going million miles an hour and it doesn't
know when to stop and when it stops it just like doesn't know
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where to pick up from before andit takes a minute to recoup.
So I hear those voices some the radio noise in there when
sometimes and then I freak out thinking OK, someone else is
telling me a story. Watch you tell me a story.
I'm at first immediately I'm like, bitch, you need you need
some sleep. You need to go the crazy house.
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You need to do something. You need to get on go see a
doctor. You are a hot mess.
You're hearing shit. You know, that's a little on the
correct side. And I think I got to go home.
But then it triggered me, like Isaid, to remember my my
situation. And I was like, you know what?
I'm not alone and I just totallyflatlined.
I wasn't even sure where I was going with the story.
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I know I should write down my shit.
I have a pen and notepad near meat all times to remember like my
stuff because this memory and dementia and ADHD shit all time
results guys start to scare me alittle bit because it happened
so quick. I think it's part of excitement
mixed with a little bit of anxiety that I have going on
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when when I'm performing or whenI'm speaking engagements.
I get a little like a little kidin the candy store.
I get a little excited and like get a little chub.
PIP thing syndrome, if you can relate to that better men.
And so my brain skips a few beats or something like that in
there. It's like, you know what, let's
just go hopscotch and and then every time it hopscotch is in
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the land somewhere, I remember something.
I don't know what's around that was just off the wall, but let's
just regroup and start a little bit fresh here.
But when somebody asks you, I was bitching about the women
thing, but when somebody asks you how you are, like I said in
the beginning, try this, Just try it.
Try, try and let it be therapeutic for you, a
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therapeutic approach for when you're asked.
Don't just sit there and do white lie and say everything's
good, everything's fine. When you know you need to talk
to someone but you don't have any friends, you have no one to
talk to you, but you just had a stranger ask you how are you?
So you know what? Next time anybody out there is
thinking about asking someone, how are you?
You know, just remember, you asked a loaded question and
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somebody is going to take you upon that one these days.
And you're not going to get thatlittle old.
I'm fine. Oh, everything's great.
Everything's good. Oh, splendid, splendid,
excellent, excellent, beautiful day in the neighborhood.
Thanks for asking. Yes, you know, let's stop all
that little bullshit. Let's really tell people what's
going on. So I was on LinkedIn today
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catching up on some emails from August, like no joke, no pun.
And I was behind a. Lot.
In that, in that little platformand thanks to TikTok, you know,
and I'm just kidding. I was anti TikTok anyway because
they banned me a long time ago for talking about my own boobs.
Like my own boobs. I was drunk one night.
I brought a redneck hot tub intomy dining room into the house
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because I didn't want to get bitup mosquitoes and I had some
friends over. They helped me and I filled that
bitch up. I literally moved the dining
room table all the way and I wason a mission.
I was on a mission because I wanted to be in that redneck hot
tub. It's like a like a three foot
kiddie pool from Walmart typing and I wanted to.
I was determined to go in this bitch.
By the end of the night, I was already like a bottle and a half
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of champagne in so I was feelinggood.
I was in that Bob's builder construction mode and not really
thinking about the outcome of the my projects.
And so I, you know, totally brought that pool in and I
decided to fill it up with AI, took a hose from outside and I.
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Plugged it into the OR, screwed it into the washer and dryer
room and ran the hot water from that area all the way into the
dining room. Because at first I was using the
kitchen sink and I was, you know, Buck, I was like using one
of those silver, those silver bowls, you know, the sub big
giant solid bowls that have different sizes.
I was. Using that bitch to fill this.
And I was getting nowhere anytime fast.
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My back started hurting. I'm like this is starting to
make this is not working. This is making me lose my buzz.
And then I just put two and two together and make a holy shit.
Like I can just run the hose from the washer.
So that's what I did. And I didn't even think about
how to how I was going to get the water out of there at all.
I'm not going to elaborate and that story.
We'll talk about that another day.
But I ended up I mission accomplished.
I got it done. I was in the hot tub and I, you
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know, I popped open another bottle at this point and I had
my bathing suit on. I had a bikini on and I was
feeling good, you know, don't get me wrong.
And I went on TikTok live like, look, this is what hard work
does people, you know, everybody's like, is that thing
inside your house? Yes, it's on tile.
We're fine. So I said somebody said
something about my boobs or something and then I got
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defensive and I responded back about, you know, defending my
boobs and boom, I got banned forlife on there.
And it would just took, I didn'teven say tit.
I didn't swear nothing. I mean I may have swore or
something. Oh, who knows.
So yeah, take that back. But I got banned from that day
and that was probably 2 year, 2 1/2 years ago or something like
that. And I was psyched, so perturbed
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over that situation because I was building my TikTok
clientele, fans and all subscribers up pretty, pretty
solid. And live is kind of a part of
the package deal with TikTok. You gotta, if you're trying to
be a content creator and social media influencer and growing
your, your brand, you need to golive.
You, you're kind of kind of stuck if you don't have live
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because you need a little bit more engagement with your
audience. And I got that taken away from
me. So I was.
Like, you know what? I'm just gonna, I'm just going
to like let this be and move on.There's other platforms out
there. This isn't the end of the world.
You know, that's how I think in negative situations.
I always think of a positive. So I tried to appealing it a
bunch of times and they're like,Nope, sorry, bitch.
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You are out though. But then, you know, lately in
the past year and all that, there is just raunched ass and
tits all over TikTok that is notbanned.
And then I mean, there's this one that she was live and she's
laying on her bed with a cute little like cheerleading
looking, you know, a jersey shirt has her hair in like
pigtails. And then she's not really
showing anything, but she moves the camera a little bit.
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And then next thing you know, you see her ass with the thong
on like a string thong, you know, peeking out from behind
her on her bed. And she does she get banned?
Nope, she's still on there. I mean, there's countless
stories I could tell about what is exposed on that platform.
That is totally, totally, whollyunacceptable for anybody's eyes
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on a child friendly app, family friendly app, so to say.
So I don't even know how a verbal word that I said unless
the criteria are just got a bunch of haters out there.
Haters gonna hate hate. Maybe I didn't have my hater
buggers on that night. That's probably what the problem
was. So I bet, I mean, maybe if they
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didn't have they had stricter roles back then and they must
have fired someone who handled all their roles and then they
had a new person come in the position and that person's like,
you know what, let's just, you know, let people show tits and
ass all day long, OK, Long as you just hit the button that
says made for 18 and older, you know, let's just do that because
you know, it's OK. It's just skin.
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Let's just do it. And even if they talk about it
verbally, just let them go. So maybe I was too.
It was too soon in the game of TikTok Live to be in the, you
know, relaxed mode of Tiktok Live.
So I was in the strict mode where they had you said the word
the and you got violated violation.
So. That's what it is.
So I you know that since that band, I got kind of butt hurt
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over that too. And I know I'm going off the
topic here. I got kind of butt hurt and I I
was. Like, you know what I'm not
doing lives on anything. They want to ban me on that, but
I'm not going to do any lives. But I no, I didn't think like
that. I just didn't.
I don't know. I just didn't feel the audience
like what I present is on a on alive on social media is more of
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a tick tock savvy type of. Presentation, I would say,
because each platform has your demographics of who you, you
know, cater to who your followers are and your
subscribers. So Facebook.
You know, I can't say what I sayand all that on Facebook because
Facebook is filled with a lot ofI'm not putting anybody in
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categories, but it is an, an older mature platform.
It is not so trashy as the otherones.
And I mean some of the group chats are, I'll tell you that
there's some shit going down andsome of those and it's just a
more mature audience, I would say.
So I don't feel like being mature all the time when I talk
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and I don't feel like, I don't feel like talking about resumes
and all that shit. You know, I'm like live, I want
to talk. I want to cut up on tell about
my day. All the shenanigans happen and
all that fuckery that happens and all this.
Make it funny and comedy, you know, Or sell some shit, some
auction stuff. You know, whatever I mean.
That's what I like to do. And then Instagram, I haven't
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100% bonded with Instagram. I'm working on it.
We are it's a slow building relationship.
I'm getting there. I do post often on there, but
you know, Instagram and I we're getting there.
But Instagram lives would be more of a between Facebook and
TikTok. It's kind of both mix those two
together. So you got a kind of got a wild
blend, but it's more of people you know personally in your
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circles are on that one and then.
So you can be a little bit more raunchy on Instagram, on IG and
then TikTok was, you know, ballsto the walls.
You know, Sky's the limit, you could do whatever on there and
you know, obviously not talk about your boobs.
You know, I'm like, but that didn't really have any criteria
to it at all. It was just like open free for
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all, whatever you want to say dosell, you know anything on
there, anything goes. So and then we have, you know,
all the other platforms. LinkedIn is obviously
professional and we have. YouTube and I'm building up my
YouTube channel. Debbie is praying live.
How do you dot dot dot? It's a tutorial slash pot.
My podcast is on there too. And it's just a it's a growing
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thing. I think I'm over. 2000
subscribers on that one. I think I'm doing pretty good on
that one. So that one is.
You know, working progress. I just bonded me and YouTube
like we hit it off finally afterall these year, decade, a year,
a decade, We we met a decade agoand then we kind of grew
distant. He YouTube went overseas and I
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went a different location. And so we we met up with each
other again recently and we rebuilt our relationship and now
we're growing and we're and we're thriving.
We're thriving. Yes, we got a good thing going
on. It's just baby steps with that
one. So there's thread, there's X
Twitter, you know what everyone call it.
There's all these other like sister wannabe platforms that
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are are holding on, holding on to climbing that ladder.
I use them, but I don't really I'm not active in a lot of them.
I use Zapier, that app that helps you send out.
It helps you be an administrative assistant, kind
of an AI white way where it helps you delegate your tasks
and your your items that you need to do that take away from
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doing what you really want to doand get done like you're like
for me, content creating it takes away helps me be able to
handle like emails And well, I use Zapier for and at first
Zapier is a little dangerous. So watch out for it.
I use it for posting for post for me, you know, and I tell it
what to do. I give it a code and all, I give
it all the tools and it learns how like how you want to do it.
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And then you post when you want it posted and all that good
stuff and then boom, it takes care of that, you know, task for
you so you don't have to and youcan not worry about it and boom,
you can move on. So I use that to do a lot of
automation for some of the stuffthat I post.
I mean, people are like, Oh my gosh, you're like up at like
2:00 in the morning, like every day.
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I'm like, no bitch, I have well,sometimes I am, I am a night
owl. No bitch.
I have a service app doing that for me.
It's a called automation. You know, it posts my stuff that
I give it. So it took.
It takes a while to learn all this shit.
Trust me, I'm still learning it.It over stimulates me and
sometimes I just want to like just pop my head off and go
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floating in the sky. But I have to really process
shit after a while 'cause I would just like taxes or Oh my
gosh. I'm doing my first like W twos
employee stuff this year and it is.
Driving me nuts. And I'm a tax like queen.
I love taxes. So like this, I'm parking up
some trees this year. But it's OK.
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It's OK, people, it's OK. You should challenge yourself
often. You should challenge yourself
like you should challenge yourself in relationships by
learning the vaginas in a different intimate level than
you normally do from outside thebox.
Come inside the box and learn the vaginas in a different way.
So Breaking Girl Code is all about learning new ways to come
and approach the vaginas. So I was on LinkedIn, as I was
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saying, and I was catching up onmy, my messages, my emails.
And you know, there's people arenice on LinkedIn.
I know it's like professional, you know, platform where you're
supposed to be networking in a professional way, obviously, but
it is so refreshing to go from like my DMS and my messages are
so different from LinkedIn. When I go to like Instagram and
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all the and Facebook, it's nightand day.
I can go. It's like I run away from the
other platform sometimes and I run over to LinkedIn and I'm
like, Oh my gosh, I'm safe here.I'm safe here.
No one can harm me over here. That's what I feel like
sometimes that I go there. It's you don't you don't have to
expect any like negativity coming in at from you at all in
any angles, because the people there know how to approach you.
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They know how to talk to you in a professional, classy way, and
they know how to say a negative thing in a in a positive
negative like thing. You know, there's no, there's
none of this. Yo, bitch, you're shit and he is
chat. You know, there's none of that
riff raff. You know on there's all the
other like you always like I have your shield up on all the
other platforms. You got to have your shield up
and you got to be ready to go towar because somebody is going to
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like throw a sword at you or some shit.
But on LinkedIn, no Linkedins over there.
You can, you can walk in that bitch with no shoes on and just
take, let your hair down and flow and just relax, you know?
So I should visit it more often.I think I will.
So somebody asked me on there. I ran one of the emails that I
had a randomly just picked one because there was like a million
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Indians in there. Holy shit.
And when you're a podcaster, it's the Indians like to just
bombard you on Snapchat and on LinkedIn.
I swear in India, that's I thinkthat's the only platform they're
allowed to use over there is Snapchat and and and LinkedIn
because they are like Bo leaded leaders of the pack and those
two platforms. And they know when you're
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online, when you're sleeping, when you're eating, when you're
a lot of showering, you're shitting, dummy.
Those motherfuckers know when you are breathing.
They will and they've come in ina posse like they don't travel
alone. They're like million of them.
And when you're a podcaster, allof a sudden everybody in India
is all of a sudden a promoter for podcasters.
If they want your business, no, I can't even I can't even
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refresh my, my screen without having, you know, 50 million new
emails from somebody over in India.
I'm thinking in my head, man, I'm on, I'm on line right now at
2:00 in the afternoon. Isn't it their bedtime over
there? Isn't it 2:00 AM?
It's pretty sad when I sometimessegue my, my timeframes of these
platforms when I go online to know when India is sleeping.
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I'm not joking. It's for real, for real.
And they, I mean, they're the best salespeople that for real.
They, they are persistent, they are educated, they're
articulate, they're intelligent.And did I say persistent?
If you don't answer that by one of their, on one of their
profiles, they're going to create another one, bitch.
And they're not going to cap it you.
They're just creating another one because they need to
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constantly get your attention tofocus on their service that they
all provide the same thing. So in between all the all of
India, I found, you know, some other emails in there and one of
them just said, Hey, Debbie, howare you?
Hope all is well. Question mark.
And I wanted to answer that. Oh, everything's fine,
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everything's good. It's good.
And I was, I was thinking, why, why should this person ask me a
direct question? And I know I've been asked that
a trillion times in my life so far.
And I'm sure you have too. But this, this is going to be
something different I do. I'm going to actually make a
difference in my life today and in my attitude and in my
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frustrations. And I'm going to make a
difference in this dude's world too, because I'm going to throw
him a curveball and give him an answer that he totally was not
expecting. Sometimes in life you have to
throw some curveballs. If you're constantly getting
them thrown at you, it's time you put on a mint and a glove
and throw that bitch back at somebody else.
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So it's my turn to play pitcher and I'm up at the up at the
whatever it's called, the Dome thing, the mound.
I'm up at the mound and I'm getting my left hand ready to
pitch my softball. Like, you know, total lesbo
style with short hair. Just kidding.
I did play softball and I am left-handed, but I throw a ball
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right-handed. It's arm predictorious and we am
predictorious. I don't know.
There's some words I can't say. Like and acid, amphetamine.
So it's supercalifragilistic. I know, I know.
Yeah. So I'm getting looks.
So yeah, I wanted to throw the. What'd you say?
Oh, Kendall is coming out. Yeah.
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So I you got to throw the curveballs back.
So I decided to just let it, letit flow, let it snow, let it
flow in snow, let it glow. And I wrote this dude a book.
I mean, it's OK to send the books not in text message.
This was an e-mail, so this was I was able to elaborate my
feelings with a little bit more verbs and adjectives and nouns
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and make continuously long sentences, make them longer with
commas and all that, and make sure my punctuation was correct
because I don't talk text most of the time.
I type it with my phalanges. Yes, I use my phalanges so I was
and I'm very anal about my grammar even though sometimes
I'm not like bipolar with that really really bad.
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I am on point sometimes with allmy grammar but then sometimes I
don't give a fuck and today was like 5050.
I gave a fuck a little bit and then I didn't.
So I would misspell a couple words and it wouldn't auto
correct. So I just moved on with my bad
self, but I would go back if I missed a comma or, you know,
some sort of punctuation thing. So that was your English class
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one O 1. So I let him know exactly how I
felt in that moment and the relief I felt from answering
that question honestly, instead of just band aiding it and
saying oh good and moving on. I gave it a lot of different,
you know things here. So a lot of a shift happened in
here. Not shit.
A shift happened here where I answered a question, a basic
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question of, you know, everybodygreeting a basic reading answer
or question. And I answered it in a personal
way in a on a professional platform to a stranger that I
never met before in my entire life.
And the response I got back fromsending that, which was quick
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too, was phenomenal. It was, and I've done this
before too, and I've had the same effect on it.
It people will remember you and trust you and want to open up to
you, do business with you, do everything with you when you
actually open up back to them where they're least expecting
it. And that's the same thing in
relationships too. You know, we all walk around
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with our guard high up and you know, our Berlin Wall is up,
bitch, it's back. And we, we want it to come down.
But we are so stubborn that it, we're keeping it up there, but
we'll let it come down inch by inch.
But sometimes it's OK to let a foot go down and let the puppies
breathe and show some vulnerability, you know?
Like show a real side of you that is not ever really exposed.
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Show that you're human. Show that you make make
mistakes. Show that you are not always
this trippy person all the time.You do have bad days, but you're
not a bitch or a cunt about it. You just have a bad day and you
just need to bent and move on. And that's exactly how I felt
today when I answered this guy'squestion and granted, he sent me
this e-mail like back in August and I'm just now responding back
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to it. But, and he responded back
within like 2 minutes of me sending it.
And I told him, you know how I was feeling with my podcast.
I, you know, I kept it on a professional level of the topic.
I focused on that, you know, my entrepreneurist and you know
that type of thing because it isLinkedIn.
I wasn't going to tell him like,oh, you know, my ass hurts
today. I was itching it, you know,
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nothing like that. I told how I know my my podcast
has grown from 3000 listeners episode to over 30,000 in the
past few months and we added three episodes a week.
I know I gave him some of my analytics and I told him where I
was frustrated with with the like went through a bad
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financial situation. I'm still recovering from that
there. You know, I elaborated on some
personal notes. That not.
It's not of anybody's business. But you know what, I felt great
unloading that information to somebody else and I wasn't I
wasn't expecting an answer back and I wasn't expecting advice
back. I just and I followed it up with
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I I hope you're doing well. I hope you're doing as well or,
or having an exciting. I said something at the end
where I, you know, didn't leave it based the endnote, leave it
in it in my ballpark. I left it in his ballpark so
that I could just move on with my day and not worry have worry
about having to respond back to another e-mail.
And then I got this back and forth shit that I don't do kind
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of like that ping pong thing. I don't do that.
I'm like a one or two emailer person.
And then I just goodbye. I move on with my day because
there's no need to. It's just emails, just, you
know, a couple responses and that's it.
But. So he responded back with four
letters, like 4 letters, he said.
I understand. And then he said, wait.
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He said, I understand, I don't know, maybe it's more letters,
He said I understand. And then he said I as well.
And that's all he said. Keep it simple, sister.
The kiss role. That's what that's a great
response because that's the kindof response I like to have.
I don't want those novels, but like I wrote.
So I was like, what does he I aswell?
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What does that mean? What does he what is he agreeing
that I'm? Like what did he agree with in
my e-mail? So I was kind of confused about
that and I didn't feel like breaking it down and dissecting
it. So I just said back to him
quickly without wasting time. What are you talking about,
question mark? And I haven't read the follow up
message since. So my iPad died on me right in
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the middle of that. So I just found that as a way to
move on with something else on my day on my list.
But I mean, I felt great about unloading my problems and issues
and and fears and frustrations and all that onto a man that
didn't expect it. But he asked me the question.
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So you know when you ask a female how is she doing and she
looks all bitchy and all that, don't engage in with her in a
hostile way back to her. Don't engage in her in
aggressive way. Even though you are this alpha,
you know type of personality andyou dominate and all that stuff,
who gives a shit you know. Would you rather have a pleasant
Sunday you know and let things just be happy and chirpy and
(35:21):
have a nice dinner and on movie?Or do you want to fight all day
and be pissy, bitchy and angry and hating life?
Which one would you choose? You probably want to choose the
shut the fuck up and let her vent mode.
That's the one that think the majority rules here.
So put your Eagle pride all that's to the side and just zip
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the lips and let a vagina talk, Bitch.
Shout, scream, punch into a pillow, whatever she needs to
do. Just don't say anything back
unless you're prompted to, unless she says what do you
think? What do you?
And don't give her any negative response.
You don't give her your real opinion.
You know this is an area where you could just white lie under
(36:02):
the carpet type of thing. You don't really even have the
white light just make numb like noises.
Like like just tell her I don't know.
I don't know. But I agree with you.
I agree with you, babe. I agree with you, babe.
I don't really know how to answer that question for you,
but I have to say, whatever you do decide to do, I've got your
back. I'm here for you on your team.
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You know, something like that iswhat you need to say back.
If you're prompted a question, you know, she could be in the
middle, just stops and asks you a question just to see if you're
paying attention. You know, the quiz ones should
be like, Oh my gosh, this is what happened to me.
And are you listening to me? And you're like, yeah, I'm
listening to you. What did you just say?
What did I just say? Then you said that your sister
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like, like ripped your extensions out and and then
she's it puts her in checks like, oh shit, he is listening.
So maybe you'll get one of thoselittle pop quiz, you know,
quizzes every once in a while because you got to be careful
guys, when you are playing the old.
I'm listening to her, but I'm not in zone out mode because we
are not dumb. Remember, we think with our
emotions. We're not, you know this.
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Actions speak louder than words and the we are the words speak
louder than actions mode. So we are going to
psychologically fuck with you back if you are not paying
attention when we actually allowyou to be present when we are in
that mode and we want to vent and get it off our chest.
That's a vulnerable time for a female.
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It's a vulnerable time for her to show that vulnerability, show
that insecurity, especially to our man, especially if you're
new with each other. And she's got to let it go,
'cause there's a lot of bitches out there that are bitches until
they get that shit off their chest and there's nothing you
can stop them or no way you can change it until they get that
shit off their chest. I know a vagina that will hold
(37:50):
that face and that Karen look all damn day and it just ruins
the whole day. It ruins the whole day because
her aura is nothing but, you know, pissy.
It's pissy and everybody around it can see it, smell it, breathe
it, you know, and it just, it's selfish too.
It's like, bitch, get that shit off your chest and let's all
have a good day. But you know, they, they're
stubborn and they just don't, you know, let it let it get off.
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So I mean, I have flipped out onthese types before and have put
them in their place. And then I just walked away from
the situation because I choose my battles.
Everybody can choose their battles.
And I choose in my life not to be around environments of
negativity and hostileness and and aggression.
(38:34):
And I don't want to be around itbecause a, it triggers me.
I have an anger management type of blood in me and I have had a
bunch of runs in the the old pokey with domestic shit under
my belt from fighting, you know physically fighting.
So I try to lots of anger management classes Co ordered
under my belt. But, you know, I learned what
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triggers me and I the feeling ofwhat triggers me, and I learned
to stay away from that, avoid it, dodge it, or, and change my
approach on a lot of things. So I've calmed down a lot.
This this raging tiger has calmed down over the years, Yes,
but she's still feisty. Bitch.
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He would only know. I mean, like, I'm a challenge
today. Try dating me.
Yeah. You guys all want anything.
I'm going to date. I'm telling you, You got to know
what you're signing up for. You got to read the fine print.
Silver. Lining.
So that's a huge lesson to be learned today.
I mean, there's a lot to practice here.
There's a lot to think about, there's a lot to process because
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this is just shit that I don't think a lot of women want you to
know about because we don't wantto be vulnerable to you.
We don't want you to. And don't ever use this against
us too. Guys, you ever take this type of
advice and use it against the vagina?
Off with the said, off with the said literally you were cut off.
You're going to be cut off and she will remember this and hold
(40:02):
a grudge against you forever. So you cannot take vulnerable
information on a vagina and use it against her.
It's just you're, you're a pieceof shit.
If you do that. You literally are a piece of
shit. And I'm going to make sure.
That vagina knows that there's outlets to let us all know that
you did that to her. So we all keep tracking our
little books, you know, and we do keep track.
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Trust us. I mean, those are some things
that you just don't do. I mean, learn to be a mature
person in life. And if you can't handle mature
woman that just needs to, you know, vent and therapeutically
feel better about her, her mindset then.
I don't know what to tell you. Like you're not my cup of tea to
mentor so you're just putting yourself out there to destroy
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women and make our lives even more hectic than they are.
Then your your goals and your your outlook on life is pretty
shitty and you need to attitude adjustment.
Literally. And that's not my job or place
to do so. Go find a real therapist.
Licensed therapist. Like seriously, I mean, you
can't control everybody's personality.
I would hope that every day theymake a difference and just smile
(41:08):
and, and make someone else smileand brighten their day.
I mean, just takes one person tohelp another person, you know?
And we keep all paying it forward and helping each other.
We can make this world a better place regardless who's the
president, regardless if TikTok is around, regardless if you're
single or you're old and you're single and you don't have anyone
to wipe your ass when you're in the senior home, who cares?
(41:31):
You know, everything will be allright.
It's just how you look in your view and your perspective on the
situation. So I mean, these are things that
I I just sometimes meditate on that if I think back, and I'm
sure you maybe have said this before too, if I only knew what
(41:52):
I knew now back then. But then if you even knew what
you knew now back then, you probably would still be making
the same decisions anyway. Because who listens to anyones
advice when you're younger and Dumber and full come young dumb
full come here you come. So you got to make your end.
Plus you you makes you. If you listen to everybody
else's advice when you're super young, you can listen to it and
(42:14):
help it guide you on your decision making.
But if you don't make any mistakes and learn on your own
what to do and what not to do incertain situations in life,
you're never really going to have a hardcore learning of a
rock bottom situation. You know?
You're just going to still put aBand-Aid on it and then keep
floating into your life making more.
Maybe the situations will get bigger and bigger and drastic
(42:36):
ones that what could have been prevented.
You feel me? Because I know I'm a stubborn
bitch. I'm super stubborn.
I'm an alpha. I'm like very like independent.
I, you know, I'm very intellectual.
So I can't stand stupid people. So and I will tell them they're
stupid. I can't help it.
It's just I can't help it. So I'm, I am very fun, though.
(42:56):
I'm funny, bubbly, and I put myself on a platter right now.
Yes, I am, but I'm also letting you know my flaws.
You know, there's a lot of flawsand who wants to always admit
those? It takes a lot for somebody to
even admit that what I just did.But there's no shame in my game.
You know, I am built from every mistake I've made real rod and
mirror. And I want to help other people
get outside their shell and see people and see the opposite sex
(43:21):
or, you know, or the same sex orwhatever you want and, you know,
in a different view, like come at a different approach.
That's all I ask. Come at a different approach.
So I hope you enjoyed today's podcast.
I did. It was very therapeutic for me
as well. And this is the second time I
recorded a podcast today becauseMary Bushwacker and I were
(43:41):
recording middle of the night during the podcast and I and my
dumbass never hit the record button or I hit the record
button and I accidentally undid the record button.
Who knows, who knows, who knows what I did, but I went 56
minutes recording and it was good shit too.
And I didn't have anything to show for it.
You know, when you record a podcast, it's not like it's
(44:02):
scripted. It's not scripted at all.
So it's no natural naturalness coming out of this bitch, you
know, and so you can't just redoa podcast.
There's there's a lot of energy that was put into it that, you
know, you got to refresh the brain, you got to refresh your
saliva. I can't go back and talk about
the same shit that I was just talking about an hour ago and
then like have the same expressions with it.
(44:22):
I got to move on to another topic.
Move on, Sally, move on. Move on.
But am I crying about it? No, no, I just moved on and I
did it again after I took a little break for real.
So thank you for tuning in and thank you for all your support
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