March 1, 2025 • 26 mins
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What happens when a husband discovers he's powerfully turned on by his wife's infidelities? Can he steer her down the cuckolding road and have his deepest fantasies come true?
Or is the relationship doomed to fail from inadequate communication, broken trust, and unresolved infidelity?
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
This is the Venus Cuckoldress podcast, a place to
learn all things cuckolding forthe curious, for the passionate
and for the sexually empoweredwoman who wants it all.
Let's go.
(00:30):
Hello everyone, I'm your host,venus.
Thanks for joining me today.
Today we're going to talk aboutcheaters Yep, cheaters.
I know I talk about moderncuckolding as more of a journey
that you go on together.
It's consensual.
There's no cheating.
This is about sharingexperiences and love together
and all that good stuff.
(00:50):
Okay, but I am aware thatoccasionally, desires around
cuckolding are born within atraumatic experience where one
person cheats.
I've heard it before and Iprobably will continue to hear
about this happening.
Now, today's confession isgoing to talk about just that
(01:11):
and I'm going to talk a littlebit about whether or not this
can actually work.
It's a fascinating subject andI'm sure you're going to come
away with it with some newinsight, maybe some questions,
and if you want to join in onthe conversation around cheating
and cuckolding, you can jointhe Queens Quarters community.
(01:34):
That's where we talk about allthings cuckolding and you can
get free, limited access.
Just look for the link.
The link is in the show notesfor today's episode.
Just look for the link.
The link is in the show notesfor today's episode, and if you
want to submit your ownconfession, question or comment
for the show, you can go tovenuscuckledresscom, click on
the podcast and there'll be alink there for you to.
(01:55):
Just all you have to do ispress a button and you've got up
to five minutes to record andit might use it for the show.
All right, before we jump intothe show today, I just want to
say that I did go live onInstagram recently and I have
officially launched my newestproject called Venus Eclipse
Events.
It's going to be beautifulvenues for cuckolding
(02:18):
interracial cuckoldingexperiences and it's going to be
amazing.
So if you want to learn more,get on the list.
You can go tovenuscuckledresscom the link is
there or you can go tovenuseclipsecom to learn a
little bit more information andget on the list for these events
(02:39):
.
You can also find the link inthe show notes for today's
episode.
That's it for announcements.
Now let the link in the shownotes for today's episode.
That's it for announcements.
Now let's jump into the show.
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Speaker 2 (04:32):
I guess I just wanted to confess that I really want
my wife to cuckold me.
So I think about two years intoour marriage she cheated on me
for several months.
Cheated on me for severalmonths and after finding out,
(04:57):
like I was just so turned on.
The idea of her um sucking thisguy's dick, you know, taking
his cock, like um, just the ideaof her cheating on me turned me
on so much.
And then I found out I had tokind of be um, just, you know,
obviously outraged.
I was hurt because she, youknow, emotionally, but like I,
(05:20):
was so turned on and then wedidn't really do therapy or
anything, so we just tried tosweep it under the rug.
All this time I was like gettingsuper into chastity and jerking
off to um sissy porn and um,then she cheated on me again, um
(05:46):
, this guy, for a couple months,um met him at hotels, fucked
him several times, sucked hisdick she never, never gives me
oral, but she sucked him off,fucked him a bunch of times, and
so finally, like it came outand I was just I was so fucking
(06:08):
turned on, but I was againreally hurt and so we've still
been together and then, like inthe past year I finally opened
up that like at the time I wasmostly hurt emotionally, but now
, like I've I've admitted thatlike at the time I was super
turned on.
Like whenever she admitted thatshe fucked him I was just like,
(06:30):
oh my God, I want, I want to beinside you.
So bad, like it made me wanther to like deny me pleasure is
the idea that another guy got tofuck her and was inside her
pussy and you know she suckedhis, sucked his dick.
Even just confessing this nowturns me on and at the time I
(06:56):
just really wanted to reclaimher.
So she didn't really get thatat first.
But now we've started gettingmore into chastity play and
sometimes she locks me up andI've kind of confessed that the
idea of reclaiming her turns meon and so she's kind of started
(07:16):
using that jokingly every oncein a while as dirty talk.
But yeah, I feel kind of likewe're moving in that direction.
She didn't like the chastity atfirst.
Then now she's like prettyturned on by the idea of being
in control of my dick and so,yeah, um see where it goes first
(07:41):
of all, I want to say thank youto this guy for calling in and
leaving his confession.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
This is a topic I've been wanting to talk about for a
long time because over the manyyears that I've been talking
about cuckolding, talking tocouples and learning about this
lifestyle, I have heard thisoften, where the cuckold thing
stems from or was born from anepisode of cheating, where she
(08:07):
cheated on him and he was, oddlyenough, turned on by it.
And the story that I usuallyhear is you know, I had a
girlfriend in college and shecheated on me and I was really
upset and we broke up and itdidn't work out.
But afterwards I was reallyturned on by it and that's kind
of how I figured out.
I knew that I was into thiskind of thing.
(08:29):
I hear that often, andsometimes I do hear about
instances like this where it'scheating within a marriage, and
it does get me wondering canthis actually work or is this
doomed to fail?
And so I'm going to talk alittle bit about this confession
(08:50):
, this story about him and hiswife and she cheated and they
didn't do any therapy, upsetwith her and being emotionally
devastated by what had happeneduntil he finally sort of told
(09:12):
her a little bit about how hewas feeling and now he wants her
to full on cuck him.
And there's some problems, Isee, about this story there's
lots of things I don't know andI should just say that straight
off the bat.
I don't know why she cheated.
He didn't say in the confessionwhy she cheated or if she gave
(09:34):
any reason as to why she cheated.
Maybe she wasn't happy in hermarriage.
Maybe she just is really notgood at monogamy and she's
cheated with every guy thatshe's ever been with and it's
been a real struggle for her tonot cheat.
I don't know.
I don't have the answers tothat question.
I also don't know how she feltabout cheating.
(09:55):
Did she feel guilty?
Did she feel awful?
Did she feel like she fucked upher marriage?
Did she, you know, have allsorts of shame around that?
Did she, you know, I feel likeit was the worst thing that she
could have done and that she wasa terrible wife for it?
Or did she just kind of rolloff her back?
She'd be like you know whathappened.
I'm sorry, all of those things.
(10:17):
I don't know the answer to thatquestion.
I also don't know if sheunderstands why he's turned on
by this.
So he finally admitted to herthat this was a big turn on to
him, but he didn't mention what,how.
You know what she thought.
He just said she didn't reallyunderstand it, but she did.
(10:39):
He didn't say whether, you know, this was something that she
was just curious to learn moreabout or if she was just like,
oh fuck, no, or that's weird,that's gross, I don't understand
it.
So I don't have all of theanswers.
So, having you know, in talkingabout this story, just know
that I wish I had moreinformation, but I don't.
(11:00):
I'm just going to go off what Iknow.
There are some big issues aboutthis story, some that stand out
so much and I'm sure for some ofyou guys listening too, you'll
pick up on it as well.
But for me there's like some ofthe things that really stand
out are that he, when he decidedthat this was something that
(11:21):
really turned him on and heloved thinking about it, he dove
straight into the kink and BDSMworld with chastity he was, you
know, went straight into thefull sexual denial fantasy, the
you know, the benders on sissyporn and chastity porn and stuff
(11:44):
like that, and just basically,like he himself by himself went
straight into that without her,without her knowledge or her
participation.
He just, for quite some time,it sounds like, went there and
that was what he indulged in.
I'm assuming because this wassomething that he was too scared
(12:09):
to bring up with his wifesaying you know, this is what
really turns me on.
And so he just like dovestraight into that.
So it went from like probablylike vanilla marriage to wanting
and desiring and fantasy,fantasizing about a really kinky
, level 10, cuckolding, sexualdenial marriage, and he just
(12:31):
like went straight for it.
And she's just like I feel badfor her Because she's probably
just sitting there by herself atlevel one where he's all at
level 23.
And she's just kind of liketrying to figure out what's
going on and not getting a lotof information from him and just
(12:55):
trying to.
I'm assuming that's why she'sjust joking about the
reclamation sex in Dirty Talk,because she's probably just
trying to feel like how thingsare landing with you.
So she's just left there at thestarting line when you've
already finished the race, andthat can't be a good place for
(13:19):
you both to start this journeyfrom if you are already at level
23 and she's still, you know,not even knowing where she is in
the race.
Um, also, I will say where thefuck is the communication?
Where is it?
The sharing of vulnerabilities,the sharing of mutual sharing
(13:42):
of fantasies and desires?
And, like I said, I don't haveall the information from this
caller, but I do know that in amarriage, you should be open and
honest about all of yourdeepest, darkest desires, your
fears, your joys, youreverything.
I mean, if you are notcompletely open with this person
(14:05):
who you're married to, thatcan't be a good place to be in
your marriage.
I just I don't understand howyou could be married with
somebody and them not understandanything about you because you
don't share that with them.
That seems so weird to me.
It feels like that's a marriagethat's not really on a solid
(14:25):
footing.
You want her to cuck you but atthe same time, what does she
want?
I didn't hear anything in there, anything in that voice note
from this caller about what itis that she wants or what she
has said that she wants.
All I heard was a lot of verygraphic and detailed.
(14:48):
I get it.
I get it.
It turns you on.
You've watched a lot of pornsince then.
You've got it all in your mindabout what you want and you want
her to do.
That was very clear.
What you want and how you wanther to do.
It is very, very clear.
But I don't think, or didn'tcertainly didn't seem, that you
were taking into accountanything that she wants and what
(15:13):
she wants from you or what shewants for her desires.
So I think I really did feellike I was like, oh shit, like
this really does feel like thisis all about him and what he
wants and what will ultimatelybenefit him and his orgasms, and
not necessarily anything abouther or hers.
(15:34):
Cuckolding obviously and I'vetalked about this over the years
it should be an open, honest,consenting experience by
everyone.
It should be beneficial for youand your relationship, not just
for you, but for yourrelationship.
It should be a positive thing.
(15:55):
It should be a great thing thatyou guys experience Something
that brings you closer together,something that brings you to
that next level love of trustand connection.
That's what cuckolding shouldbe.
That should be a journey thatyou go on together.
How do you go from a traumaticevent or events that nearly
(16:17):
obliterated your marriage?
How do you go from that toconsensual cuckolding without
having done any therapy or workon your marriage first.
I don't understand how this ispossible.
Like, is your marriage doomedto fail?
(16:39):
How can you go from somethingso devastating and potentially
lethal for your marriage to a180 of we're going to just do
this because my dick reallywants it.
I really want this fuckingthing.
How do you do that?
How do you do that and it stillbe healthy and happy and
(17:03):
beneficial for your relationship?
How do you make that happenwithout it imploding or
exploding in your fucking face?
Like, I just don't know.
Cuckolding relationships aredifficult to navigate as it is.
When you're starting from thesame level together and have the
same vision and the same ideaand the same everything together
(17:23):
.
It's still hard with all ofthat.
It's very difficult to navigateall of the things that come
along.
But cuckolding demands thingsthat come along, but cuckolding
demands I hope you all arelistening to this cuckolding
(17:47):
demands varsity levelcommunication, not just basic
communication, but varsity levelcommunication and openness
together.
It demands that it absolutelyrequires next level trust.
How do you do that if youhaven't worked on the trust that
was shattered before?
Are you just playing with firenow?
(18:07):
Are you really going to burnyour marriage down doing this?
Burn your marriage down doingthis?
How do you continue if youdon't have that trust?
How do you continue if youdon't have that openness and
that high level of communicationtogether?
How can you make that work?
And that's what I've question.
I have put out there toeverybody before, like I hear
(18:30):
about couples where it did startwith cheating and that it did
work out and that they you know,they survived that blow to
their marriage and they wereable to make things work out
between them.
But I would be willing to betthat all of those couples put in
a hell of a lot of work work onthemselves and work on their
(18:51):
relationship in order to be ableto do that.
How do you just turn this thingtogether?
I just don't understand howthis caller thinks that this is
going to work out well if theyhaven't done that work together.
So what should he do?
There are, despite everything Ijust said, I don't know that
(19:15):
your marriage is doomed to fail,but I think, if you don't make
some really big changes, thatyou are really in danger.
You're endangering yourmarriage by seeking to do this
right now.
There are several things that Iwould recommend that you do.
Number one go to akink-friendly therapist together
(19:35):
and separately, and you shouldhave done that a long time ago,
but you absolutely should do itnow.
I know that's a boner killer,it's not part of your fantasy
that you've been wanking off tofor the last few years, but that
is a necessity right now.
Go to therapy, get akink-friendly therapist, one who
(19:56):
you can be open and honest toand understand the dynamic that
you're talking about, thatyou're thinking about.
Do the work on yourself, do thework on your marriage.
Learn the skills from thetherapist that you need to be
more open and honest about yourdesires.
That's important.
You cannot be married tosomebody and shield them from
(20:21):
your deepest desires.
That's not healthy.
That's not good.
It's not healthy for you to beso closeted about your desires
like that.
Let's normalize relationshipswhere we are open and honest and
our partner is curious to learnand accepting and nonjudgmental
, and you are accepting andnonjudgmental and curious to
(20:43):
learn about their desires aswell.
Let's normalize that for achange.
Also, I want you to read thebook Tell Me what you Want.
It's written by Dr Justin LayMiller.
It's called Tell Me what youWant the Science of Sexual
Desire and how it Can HelpImprove your Sex Life.
In the end of the book there isa chapter on how to approach
(21:06):
your partner with your desires.
So helpful, lots of great tipsand advice in there.
I'll put the link to the bookin the show description notes
for today's episode.
Then you need to take a breakfrom the porn and wank sessions
that you've been doing.
I would say wait at least sixmonths, maybe even a year,
(21:28):
before you dive into that again.
And this time, this time,you're going to fix your
marriage.
That's what you're going towork on for the next little
while You're going to fix yourmarriage.
You're going to make sure thatyou guys are in the best space
possible before you even beginto think about cuckolding and
going down that road, and thenmaybe then you can start over.
(21:52):
And this time, maybe then youcan start over.
And this time you need to puther in the driver's seat.
You need to let her figure outwhich path to go down for you
both.
You're both going to go on thatjourney together, but you're
going to be doing it together inthe same space and time.
She's going to decide whatthings look like, how they sound
(22:14):
when it happens.
All of that.
You put her in the driver'sseat and she will be comfortable
, she will be happy and she willenjoy the process.
Make it less about you and moreabout her.
Make it less about you and moreabout her.
(22:35):
That's going to be it fortoday's episode.
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(23:18):
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All right, that's it fortoday's show, you guys.
We'll see you next time.
Bye.
This is the Venus Cuckoldress podcast, a place to
learn all things cuckolding forthe curious, for the passionate
and for the sexually empoweredwoman who wants it all.
Let's go.
(00:30):
Hello everyone, I'm your host,venus.
Thanks for joining me today.
Today we're going to talk aboutcheaters Yep, cheaters.
I know I talk about moderncuckolding as more of a journey
that you go on together.
It's consensual.
There's no cheating.
This is about sharingexperiences and love together
and all that good stuff.
(00:50):
Okay, but I am aware thatoccasionally, desires around
cuckolding are born within atraumatic experience where one
person cheats.
I've heard it before and Iprobably will continue to hear
about this happening.
Now, today's confession isgoing to talk about just that
(01:11):
and I'm going to talk a littlebit about whether or not this
can actually work.
It's a fascinating subject andI'm sure you're going to come
away with it with some newinsight, maybe some questions,
and if you want to join in onthe conversation around cheating
and cuckolding, you can jointhe Queens Quarters community.
(01:34):
That's where we talk about allthings cuckolding and you can
get free, limited access.
Just look for the link.
The link is in the show notesfor today's episode.
Just look for the link.
The link is in the show notesfor today's episode, and if you
want to submit your ownconfession, question or comment
for the show, you can go tovenuscuckledresscom, click on
the podcast and there'll be alink there for you to.
(01:55):
Just all you have to do ispress a button and you've got up
to five minutes to record andit might use it for the show.
All right, before we jump intothe show today, I just want to
say that I did go live onInstagram recently and I have
officially launched my newestproject called Venus Eclipse
Events.
It's going to be beautifulvenues for cuckolding
(02:18):
interracial cuckoldingexperiences and it's going to be
amazing.
So if you want to learn more,get on the list.
You can go tovenuscuckledresscom the link is
there or you can go tovenuseclipsecom to learn a
little bit more information andget on the list for these events
(02:39):
.
You can also find the link inthe show notes for today's
episode.
That's it for announcements.
Now let the link in the shownotes for today's episode.
That's it for announcements.
Now let's jump into the show.
After this quick message fromJoy Mode, I know all of you
listening to this show reallywant to have better sex.
Of course, the issue is thatover-the-counter erection pills
(03:02):
contain unregulated chemicals Ew.
They suggest unsafe doses andinclude the risk of several
other health problems.
That's why I've partnered withmy friends over at Joy Mode.
Whether you're looking to spiceup your intimate moments or
increase your confidence in thebedroom and I know you are Joy
Mode makes all natural,science-backed supplements
(03:24):
dedicated to helping men performbetter across their core
functions.
Their trademark product, theSexual Performance Booster, is
every man's solution forincreased blood flow, firmness,
stamina and performance.
It's like a pre-workout, butfor sex.
All ingredients have beenassessed in peer-reviewed
(03:45):
journals and all ingredientshave been studied and researched
in humans.
That's important.
It comes in a palm-sized packet, like your favorite electrolyte
powder.
Simply mix it with six to eightounces of water 45 minutes
before sexual activity and justwatch the magic unfold.
Sexual activity and just watchthe magic unfold.
Redefine your intimacy and goto tryjoymodecom for 20% off
(04:09):
with the code VENUS.
That's 20% off and freeshipping with the code VENUS at
tryjoymodecom.
Ingredients with integritythat's Joy Mode.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
I guess I just wanted to confess that I really want
my wife to cuckold me.
So I think about two years intoour marriage she cheated on me
for several months.
Cheated on me for severalmonths and after finding out,
(04:57):
like I was just so turned on.
The idea of her um sucking thisguy's dick, you know, taking
his cock, like um, just the ideaof her cheating on me turned me
on so much.
And then I found out I had tokind of be um, just, you know,
obviously outraged.
I was hurt because she, youknow, emotionally, but like I,
(05:20):
was so turned on and then wedidn't really do therapy or
anything, so we just tried tosweep it under the rug.
All this time I was like gettingsuper into chastity and jerking
off to um sissy porn and um,then she cheated on me again, um
(05:46):
, this guy, for a couple months,um met him at hotels, fucked
him several times, sucked hisdick she never, never gives me
oral, but she sucked him off,fucked him a bunch of times, and
so finally, like it came outand I was just I was so fucking
(06:08):
turned on, but I was againreally hurt and so we've still
been together and then, like inthe past year I finally opened
up that like at the time I wasmostly hurt emotionally, but now
, like I've I've admitted thatlike at the time I was super
turned on.
Like whenever she admitted thatshe fucked him I was just like,
(06:30):
oh my God, I want, I want to beinside you.
So bad, like it made me wanther to like deny me pleasure is
the idea that another guy got tofuck her and was inside her
pussy and you know she suckedhis, sucked his dick.
Even just confessing this nowturns me on and at the time I
(06:56):
just really wanted to reclaimher.
So she didn't really get thatat first.
But now we've started gettingmore into chastity play and
sometimes she locks me up andI've kind of confessed that the
idea of reclaiming her turns meon and so she's kind of started
(07:16):
using that jokingly every oncein a while as dirty talk.
But yeah, I feel kind of likewe're moving in that direction.
She didn't like the chastity atfirst.
Then now she's like prettyturned on by the idea of being
in control of my dick and so,yeah, um see where it goes first
(07:41):
of all, I want to say thank youto this guy for calling in and
leaving his confession.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
This is a topic I've been wanting to talk about for a
long time because over the manyyears that I've been talking
about cuckolding, talking tocouples and learning about this
lifestyle, I have heard thisoften, where the cuckold thing
stems from or was born from anepisode of cheating, where she
(08:07):
cheated on him and he was, oddlyenough, turned on by it.
And the story that I usuallyhear is you know, I had a
girlfriend in college and shecheated on me and I was really
upset and we broke up and itdidn't work out.
But afterwards I was reallyturned on by it and that's kind
of how I figured out.
I knew that I was into thiskind of thing.
(08:29):
I hear that often, andsometimes I do hear about
instances like this where it'scheating within a marriage, and
it does get me wondering canthis actually work or is this
doomed to fail?
And so I'm going to talk alittle bit about this confession
(08:50):
, this story about him and hiswife and she cheated and they
didn't do any therapy, upsetwith her and being emotionally
devastated by what had happeneduntil he finally sort of told
(09:12):
her a little bit about how hewas feeling and now he wants her
to full on cuck him.
And there's some problems, Isee, about this story there's
lots of things I don't know andI should just say that straight
off the bat.
I don't know why she cheated.
He didn't say in the confessionwhy she cheated or if she gave
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any reason as to why she cheated.
Maybe she wasn't happy in hermarriage.
Maybe she just is really notgood at monogamy and she's
cheated with every guy thatshe's ever been with and it's
been a real struggle for her tonot cheat.
I don't know.
I don't have the answers tothat question.
I also don't know how she feltabout cheating.
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Did she feel guilty?
Did she feel awful?
Did she feel like she fucked upher marriage?
Did she, you know, have allsorts of shame around that?
Did she, you know, I feel likeit was the worst thing that she
could have done and that she wasa terrible wife for it?
Or did she just kind of rolloff her back?
She'd be like you know whathappened.
I'm sorry, all of those things.
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I don't know the answer to thatquestion.
I also don't know if sheunderstands why he's turned on
by this.
So he finally admitted to herthat this was a big turn on to
him, but he didn't mention what,how.
You know what she thought.
He just said she didn't reallyunderstand it, but she did.
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He didn't say whether, you know, this was something that she
was just curious to learn moreabout or if she was just like,
oh fuck, no, or that's weird,that's gross, I don't understand
it.
So I don't have all of theanswers.
So, having you know, in talkingabout this story, just know
that I wish I had moreinformation, but I don't.
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I'm just going to go off what Iknow.
There are some big issues aboutthis story, some that stand out
so much and I'm sure for some ofyou guys listening too, you'll
pick up on it as well.
But for me there's like some ofthe things that really stand
out are that he, when he decidedthat this was something that
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really turned him on and heloved thinking about it, he dove
straight into the kink and BDSMworld with chastity he was, you
know, went straight into thefull sexual denial fantasy, the
you know, the benders on sissyporn and chastity porn and stuff
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like that, and just basically,like he himself by himself went
straight into that without her,without her knowledge or her
participation.
He just, for quite some time,it sounds like, went there and
that was what he indulged in.
I'm assuming because this wassomething that he was too scared
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to bring up with his wifesaying you know, this is what
really turns me on.
And so he just like dovestraight into that.
So it went from like probablylike vanilla marriage to wanting
and desiring and fantasy,fantasizing about a really kinky
, level 10, cuckolding, sexualdenial marriage, and he just
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like went straight for it.
And she's just like I feel badfor her Because she's probably
just sitting there by herself atlevel one where he's all at
level 23.
And she's just kind of liketrying to figure out what's
going on and not getting a lotof information from him and just
(12:55):
trying to.
I'm assuming that's why she'sjust joking about the
reclamation sex in Dirty Talk,because she's probably just
trying to feel like how thingsare landing with you.
So she's just left there at thestarting line when you've
already finished the race, andthat can't be a good place for
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you both to start this journeyfrom if you are already at level
23 and she's still, you know,not even knowing where she is in
the race.
Um, also, I will say where thefuck is the communication?
Where is it?
The sharing of vulnerabilities,the sharing of mutual sharing
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of fantasies and desires?
And, like I said, I don't haveall the information from this
caller, but I do know that in amarriage, you should be open and
honest about all of yourdeepest, darkest desires, your
fears, your joys, youreverything.
I mean, if you are notcompletely open with this person
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who you're married to, thatcan't be a good place to be in
your marriage.
I just I don't understand howyou could be married with
somebody and them not understandanything about you because you
don't share that with them.
That seems so weird to me.
It feels like that's a marriagethat's not really on a solid
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footing.
You want her to cuck you but atthe same time, what does she
want?
I didn't hear anything in there, anything in that voice note
from this caller about what itis that she wants or what she
has said that she wants.
All I heard was a lot of verygraphic and detailed.
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I get it.
I get it.
It turns you on.
You've watched a lot of pornsince then.
You've got it all in your mindabout what you want and you want
her to do.
That was very clear.
What you want and how you wanther to do.
It is very, very clear.
But I don't think, or didn'tcertainly didn't seem, that you
were taking into accountanything that she wants and what
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she wants from you or what shewants for her desires.
So I think I really did feellike I was like, oh shit, like
this really does feel like thisis all about him and what he
wants and what will ultimatelybenefit him and his orgasms, and
not necessarily anything abouther or hers.
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Cuckolding obviously and I'vetalked about this over the years
it should be an open, honest,consenting experience by
everyone.
It should be beneficial for youand your relationship, not just
for you, but for yourrelationship.
It should be a positive thing.
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It should be a great thing thatyou guys experience Something
that brings you closer together,something that brings you to
that next level love of trustand connection.
That's what cuckolding shouldbe.
That should be a journey thatyou go on together.
How do you go from a traumaticevent or events that nearly
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obliterated your marriage?
How do you go from that toconsensual cuckolding without
having done any therapy or workon your marriage first.
I don't understand how this ispossible.
Like, is your marriage doomedto fail?
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How can you go from somethingso devastating and potentially
lethal for your marriage to a180 of we're going to just do
this because my dick reallywants it.
I really want this fuckingthing.
How do you do that?
How do you do that and it stillbe healthy and happy and
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beneficial for your relationship?
How do you make that happenwithout it imploding or
exploding in your fucking face?
Like, I just don't know.
Cuckolding relationships aredifficult to navigate as it is.
When you're starting from thesame level together and have the
same vision and the same ideaand the same everything together
(17:23):
.
It's still hard with all ofthat.
It's very difficult to navigateall of the things that come
along.
But cuckolding demands thingsthat come along, but cuckolding
demands I hope you all arelistening to this cuckolding
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demands varsity levelcommunication, not just basic
communication, but varsity levelcommunication and openness
together.
It demands that it absolutelyrequires next level trust.
How do you do that if youhaven't worked on the trust that
was shattered before?
Are you just playing with firenow?
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Are you really going to burnyour marriage down doing this?
Burn your marriage down doingthis?
How do you continue if youdon't have that trust?
How do you continue if youdon't have that openness and
that high level of communicationtogether?
How can you make that work?
And that's what I've question.
I have put out there toeverybody before, like I hear
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about couples where it did startwith cheating and that it did
work out and that they you know,they survived that blow to
their marriage and they wereable to make things work out
between them.
But I would be willing to betthat all of those couples put in
a hell of a lot of work work onthemselves and work on their
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relationship in order to be ableto do that.
How do you just turn this thingtogether?
I just don't understand howthis caller thinks that this is
going to work out well if theyhaven't done that work together.
So what should he do?
There are, despite everything Ijust said, I don't know that
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your marriage is doomed to fail,but I think, if you don't make
some really big changes, thatyou are really in danger.
You're endangering yourmarriage by seeking to do this
right now.
There are several things that Iwould recommend that you do.
Number one go to akink-friendly therapist together
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and separately, and you shouldhave done that a long time ago,
but you absolutely should do itnow.
I know that's a boner killer,it's not part of your fantasy
that you've been wanking off tofor the last few years, but that
is a necessity right now.
Go to therapy, get akink-friendly therapist, one who
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you can be open and honest toand understand the dynamic that
you're talking about, thatyou're thinking about.
Do the work on yourself, do thework on your marriage.
Learn the skills from thetherapist that you need to be
more open and honest about yourdesires.
That's important.
You cannot be married tosomebody and shield them from
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your deepest desires.
That's not healthy.
That's not good.
It's not healthy for you to beso closeted about your desires
like that.
Let's normalize relationshipswhere we are open and honest and
our partner is curious to learnand accepting and nonjudgmental
, and you are accepting andnonjudgmental and curious to
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learn about their desires aswell.
Let's normalize that for achange.
Also, I want you to read thebook Tell Me what you Want.
It's written by Dr Justin LayMiller.
It's called Tell Me what youWant the Science of Sexual
Desire and how it Can HelpImprove your Sex Life.
In the end of the book there isa chapter on how to approach
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your partner with your desires.
So helpful, lots of great tipsand advice in there.
I'll put the link to the bookin the show description notes
for today's episode.
Then you need to take a breakfrom the porn and wank sessions
that you've been doing.
I would say wait at least sixmonths, maybe even a year,
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before you dive into that again.
And this time, this time,you're going to fix your
marriage.
That's what you're going towork on for the next little
while You're going to fix yourmarriage.
You're going to make sure thatyou guys are in the best space
possible before you even beginto think about cuckolding and
going down that road, and thenmaybe then you can start over.
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And this time, maybe then youcan start over.
And this time you need to puther in the driver's seat.
You need to let her figure outwhich path to go down for you
both.
You're both going to go on thatjourney together, but you're
going to be doing it together inthe same space and time.
She's going to decide whatthings look like, how they sound
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when it happens.
All of that.
You put her in the driver'sseat and she will be comfortable
, she will be happy and she willenjoy the process.
Make it less about you and moreabout her.
Make it less about you and moreabout her.
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That's going to be it fortoday's episode.
Thank you so much for joining me.
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We'll see you next time.
Bye.
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