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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is the Venus Cuckoldress podcast, a place to
learn all things cuckolding forthe curious, for the passionate
and for the sexually empoweredwoman who wants it all.
Let's go.
(00:32):
Welcome to the show.
I'm your host, venus.
Thanks so much for joining metoday.
I'm so excited for this.
I love these confessionsepisodes.
It's always a ton of fun and tome it's so fascinating to find
out what's going through yourkinky minds out there.
And if you want to send in yourown confession, you certainly
can.
You can just go to the shownotes for today's episode.
The link is there.
Or you can just go tovenuscuckledresscom.
(00:55):
Click on the tab that says thepodcast and you'll see a little
tab there where all you need todo is press a button and submit
your voice note.
That way, you have up to Ithink it's like five minutes to
record.
So you've got lots of time.
You can share your littleconfession and send it in that
way.
As for announcements, before wejump into the show I just have a
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Speaker 2 (04:07):
Hello Venus, long time listener, first time
comment.
I've been married for nearly 10years.
I am a bit poorly endowed Iguess I am under three inches
erect and have never been ableto make my wife come.
After the first six months ofbeing together we started going
to swinger clubs so my wifecould become properly satisfied
from other men she is also avery dominant woman and started
(04:29):
uh putting me in a chastitydevice too.
She didn't like the idea that Icould uh take care of myself
like whenever I wanted to andthought the chastity device was
best.
In the beginning we would go tothese places like once a month.
Then it increased to about oncea week.
I've always been submissive, andseeing her have orgasms, even
if it wasn't for me, is amazingto watch.
(04:50):
Over years, with the constantchastity device wearing it 24-7,
I suffer from rectaldysfunction, which really isn't
a big deal, since it neverreally did anything for her.
When I am unlocked and my ballsare free I can still come, but
it kind of just dribbles andpuddle on the floor from my
flaccid cock.
We met a black guy at theswingers club about six months
(05:13):
ago.
That is very dominant, like hedominates my wife too.
She's really turned on by hispresence and attitude like that.
And he also ridicules me too.
My wife finds it a major turnon hearing him uh ridicule me.
I don't mind at all, sinceeverything he says is uh true.
Anyways, he actually moved inwith us a few weeks ago and is
the boss of the house.
(05:34):
My wife and him will even uhsit at the table, sit on the
couch together like a marriedcouple, and have me kneel down
on the floor besides them.
Anyways, I uh thought I wouldshare uh, okay, where do I start
?
Speaker 1 (05:48):
it's uh.
My first reaction to hearingthis confession was is this true
?
Like, is this actual, for real?
Um, some of you might besurprised to hear that, but but
I feel like I have heard thisalmost exact same fantasy laid
(06:10):
out like that so many times overthe years.
So I'm like is this for real,or is this?
This sounds exactly like afantasy that I've heard so many
guys talk about.
So I'm just like I don't knowif this is real to the person
who sent this in.
If it's real, I'm sorry fordoubting you.
It's just that I I'm like, ifthis sounds like too good to be
(06:35):
true and in and when I say toogood, it's like I feel like
every submissive guy who listensto this is gonna be like oh my
god, that's Like.
Oh my God, that's the perfectlife.
Like you've got all the factorsin there.
Like you've been married for along time, you've got this
really small dick, the chastity,the erectile dysfunction
(06:55):
problems, the dribbling on thefloor, flaccid penis, the
dominant wife who enjoysridiculing you in front of the
bull and the bull ridiculing you.
And you met this black bull andand now he's you know, six
months later he's moved in andand he they're acting like the
married couple and this just allsounds like.
(07:18):
It just sounds like all ofthese pieces of a very common
kind of fantasy that I haveheard so many times.
So I'm like really doubtingwhether or not this is legit.
I would love to know what youguys think.
Join me in the community theQueens Quarters community to
talk about this one, because I'mlike I don't know.
(07:39):
I really I don't know.
I'm on the fence about this,whether or not it's genuine.
If it's not genuine, look, Iunderstand why this is so hot.
I get it.
This is the ultimate fantasy oflosing control but still being
able to be useful for your wife,and the erotic humiliation
(08:02):
being at like a 10 out of 10.
I get it.
It's super fucking hot.
I just I don't.
I don't know.
Don't take this as aninvitation to send fake shit in
for your confessions, guys.
But, like I said, if this islegit, good on you.
You're living the dream for alot of submissive cucks.
But yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Hey Venus, what is happening?
Um, just wanted to okay, soI'll start with a fake name.
It's richard, and I just wantedto say thank you very much for
all the content that you put outthere and all the work that you
put into that.
That's amazing and I wish therewere more people like you and
more content like that.
Uh also, uh, really appreciatethe, the appreciate the venue
that you provide for people toconfess you know, provide
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confessions and stories and soon.
I think that's excellent.
So my story we're going to haveto go back like back into my 20s
.
I'm 44 now and I had onerelationship for nine months
which was an unmitigated fuckingdisaster and thank God it was
only nine months.
And then I had another one forseven years, and let's call that
(09:10):
.
You know the woman that I hadthat relationship with.
Let's call her Amanda, it's nother name, but whatever.
So to preface the relationshipnumber one, I tried I've always
been kinky since my adolescentyears and I tried very hard to
gently bring up the topic ofkink and cuckolding with her.
It just never flew with her,which is fine to each their own.
(09:33):
We had promised each other thatwe were going to wait until
marriage for sex.
It seems laughable now, butyou're in your 20s and you think
you really love someone and youdo stupid things.
Anyway, as it turns out, I mean, we ended up being engaged for
a year and a half.
One of Amanda's friends endedup telling me that, hey, you
know, she's basically beenfucking people since the day you
(09:54):
guys started dating, which, youknow, if it had not been for
the lying, I would have thoughtwas really hot.
But I could not tolerate thelying.
I couldn't accept it, becauseyou know, there needs to be
trust and openness to arelationship in order for it to
work.
And I just said, okay, likethat, I can't deal with that.
So I mean, that was the end ofthat relationship, um, and any
(10:18):
semblance of confidence andesteem that I had.
I mean, I already had issueswith confidence and esteem and,
uh, you know, that relationshipbasically destroyed what was
left.
And, to make matters even worse,while Amanda and I were dating,
I was actually talking to um,another young woman who was
totally into kink into me, um,and would have done everything
that I wanted to try and a lotmore.
I mean, she was into the partyscene and everything, and of
(10:41):
course, I mean I completelyignored her, because what else
would you do?
So I mean she moved on, um, andthen for about.
I mean here I was at 30, uh, avirgin still, and I didn't date,
like I mean, I went on a coupledates but I basically didn't
date after that, um, and Ipromised myself through all of
this that any partner I had inthe future would have to be into
(11:03):
kink and cuckolding um, andthere's a minor reason for that,
which is, you know, like I, Iknow I'm not going to satisfy my
partner.
I mean, like when dudes saythat they're into sph and they
say, oh, I've got a small dick,like most of them don't.
But I mean I fucking do.
Like my boner will fit insidean empty toilet roll paper tube
with room to spare, and that'sall I have to say about that,
(11:25):
which is fine.
You know, whatever it's life,um, I'm still really, really
good at fucking oral and uh, sothat's great, um.
That being said, the majorreason is I never, never, never
want to stand in the way of uhor be an obstacle to my partner,
uh, or my future partner, um,enjoying themselves and
(11:45):
exploring themselves.
So make a long story short uh,that young woman that I was
talking to.
She found me on Facebook whichmakes me feel really old, like
Facebook, but whatever, shefound me on Facebook and, as it
turns out, um, she actuallydivorced her man child about two
years ago and she's still likevery much into the party scene
and and and cuckolding and kinkand all that other stuff and
(12:06):
we've been talking well Ishouldn't say we've been talking
, we've been well.
We started talking about threemonths ago and we've been dating
for two months and this veryweekend is basically the first
time the whole cuckolding thingis going to happen, because
she's going on a date and to aparty with her dom and I got to
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buy her outfit for the date andher outfit for the party, which
is an amazing like leather pvc Iknow, I think it's leather
harness which is sexy as fuck.
Anyway, I just wanted to saylike I am happier than I've ever
been, like seriously happierthan a pig in in mud or pig and
shit, I don't I don't evenremember what that expression is
, but just like I love the factthat a you know, I have this
partner and I love her and sheand she loves me.
I mean, that much is evident.
Um, you know we can get alongswimmingly and she's going to be
(12:51):
out there and she's going tolook fantastic and you know she
feels good about herself becauseshe gets to go out and have fun
with her dom and go to a partyand have fun with people, look
amazing.
And she still and that justmakes me so happy Cock holding
is amazing.
I don't understand why peoplepoo-poo it as much as they do.
(13:13):
Open up people Try.
Anyway, thank you Reallyappreciate it.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
There's this one part oh my God, you guys, I died
laughing.
Every time I listen to this, Idie laughing.
There's one part where he'stalking about SPH and he's like,
yeah, well, you know how someguys say that they've got a
small dick, but they don't.
Well, I fucking do.
I just laughed so hard.
(13:45):
It's just something about theway he said it.
Something about the way he saidit.
Oh my god, it was so hilarious.
Anyway, that was like the bestpart of that whole confession.
But I I love the story.
I absolutely love this storybecause it goes to show, like,
fuck, sexual compatibility is soimportant and finding a partner
(14:10):
who's open-minded to your, whatyour kinks and fantasies and
desires are, and you beingopen-minded to theirs, is, like,
honestly, so fucking important.
Um, I wanted to ask though okay, so the girlfriend who that was
the fiance and you guys had nothad sex because you wanted to
(14:30):
wait till marriage, but yet youfound out she was out fucking
everybody the whole time youguys were dating.
Um, I wonder if she knew thatyou had a small dick.
Like that's kind of what wentthrough my mind.
I'm like I wonder if she sheknows what she's getting into if
she marries you, and so she'sjust out getting lots of dick.
(14:52):
I don't know what do you thinkit just made me think I'm like,
oh, maybe that's why I'm notcondoning it.
I think it's fucking shitty.
She went out and cheated likethat, like it's bullshit, and
you do the right thing byleaving no-transcript.
(15:38):
Confession was sent in a littlewhile ago, so you have since
had your weekend of fun whereyour girlfriend was going out
with her dom and I love the factthat you got to pick out her
outfit.
This is such a cuck thing likeI would say, like other than
maybe clean up and watching.
(15:59):
I think that a cucks likebiggest desire from like almost
across the board, number onebiggest desire that cucks have
is to pick out your sexy outfitLike this is cucks are just
fucking so eager to do that.
It's like a big.
(16:22):
It's a big thing even for me,even though I'm not in a
relationship like.
I've had so many guys over theyears contact me and they're
like, oh, can I buy you somelingerie for your bowl?
So when you go see your bowlyou can wear this lingerie that
I'm going to buy you?
And at first it was kind ofnovel and I was like, oh yeah,
that'd be kind of cool, that'dbe fun.
But then you realize this isnot really like a gift for me.
This is more of a gift for him.
(16:44):
Like this is to fulfill hislittle fantasy, his cuck fantasy
.
And then I just end up with solike a closet, fucking full of
lingerie that you're like okay,I don't have any clothes to wear
like out to grocery shoppingtoday, but I have a shit ton of
lingerie.
And all you ladies listening, Iknow you probably had the same
(17:04):
thing over the years too havingthese guys ask you, uh, if they
could buy you lingerie.
It's such a thing.
Anyway, the outfit soundedreally sexy that you bought for
her, so I would love to be ableto see a picture of that.
But anyway, it's probably notgoing to happen, but anyway I
would love to check it out.
Also, definitely happy that yousaid that you're really good at
(17:26):
oral.
I think you know every guyshould have oral skills that are
like amazing.
You should eat pussy like achampion, but especially for
cucks, and especially for cuckswho are not well endowed like
you really need to make up forthat.
And I fucking, I'm such apillow princess, I know for
(17:48):
those of you who've listened tothe show for a long time.
You know I love to just layback and get my pussy eaten like
forever.
So definitely a must inboyfriend material.
So good on you for that.
I really hope that things workout for you and your girlfriend.
I'm so thrilled and so happyfor you that you found somebody.
(18:09):
This person's come back intoyour life and seems to check off
all of the boxes for you, andthat just makes me so fucking
happy.
So I hope that your storyprovides some inspiration to
everyone else out there to makesure that you put sexual
compatibility as a top prioritywhen you are looking to date
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somebody.
It can be really difficult, itcan be really hard, but it is so
important.
It absolutely is the differencebetween whether or not you live
a life that's fulfilled or not.
So yeah, that's my thoughts onthat.
Speaker 4 (18:48):
I'm a 52-year-old male who was diagnosed with
bladder cancer three years agoand I've always been kind of the
control in the relationship,and now I'm not able to have
that control.
I'm not with anybody and I'mseeking a future partner, and so
(19:10):
I know that I'm going to haveto give that part of life to
somebody and I'm trying tofigure out how to seek that out.
So this is my kind of aconfession that I'm seeking to
become a cuckold.
This is kind of scary for meand I don't really know where to
(19:31):
go from here.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
This confession made me kind of sad, but also I'm
very proud of this person tosend in this confession, because
that must have taken a lot ofbravery to do that.
And just to say those words outloud.
That and just to you know, saythose words out loud.
(19:53):
You know, it's one thing tohave cuckolding desires because
it's hot and it's thrilling andexciting and it's just such a
big turn on.
But it's another thing to befaced with the idea of becoming
a cuckold in a relationshipbecause of a physical illness or
injury.
That means that you can't havePIV sex in a like quote unquote
(20:14):
normal way in a vanillarelationship.
And so I think it's reallyamazing that you're thinking
along the lines of how do Istill make sure that my partner
is sexually fulfilled and thatbeing with other men as far as
PIV sex goes.
But, as we all know, piv sex isjust such a small part of your
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sex, fucking life, or should be.
It should be such a small partof it.
There should be so much sexualintimacy in other ways, shapes
and forms.
I remember listening to the Sexand Psychology podcast when he
talked about outer course, and Iwas fucking fascinated by this
because I was like, oh my God,mind blown.
(20:55):
Why is outer course not like amore normalized thing, like I
would like to just have someexperiences that were only outer
course and just like work withthat, and it almost like forces
you to become creative, forcesyou to be curious about the
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other person's body and theirmind, and so, anyway, I digress,
but I think it's really greatthat you're thinking about the
cuckold relationship as a formof, you know, satisfying your
partner sexually or assuringthat she has the opportunity to
be satisfied sexually by otherguys.
So thank you for that.
I can imagine that where you'reat as far as like, okay, I'm
(21:43):
gonna, I want this and this iswhat I have to do now.
And how do I go about doing it?
As many of you guys know, Ihave been single for a long time
and I did have a partner.
He passed away.
This was several years ago andafter that I was like you know
what?
I'm going to try and find acock boyfriend again and see how
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this goes, and it has been sucha shit show.
It's really fucking difficultfor many reasons, but this is
why I created Venus Connections.
It's for singles who are lookingfor a loving, cuckolding
relationship.
You know it's so funny.
Actually, there's so manypeople who just assume that
Venus Connections is aboutconnecting bulls and couples.
(22:28):
Right, because, like,cuckolding is really a privilege
within couples.
It's a couple's privilege, thiskind of relationship.
And so to think about singlepeople is kind of like outside
of the realm of like normalcywhen you're thinking about
cuckolding.
So people are surprised thatit's not for couples and bulls
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and I'm like, actually no, it'sfor us singles who are looking
for somebody so that we can havethis kind of relationship that
so many of you couples have outthere, which is fucking amazing
and incredible and beautiful,and so looking for that is
challenging.
Now, when I first started VenusConnections, my biggest thing
was like, okay, are there anysingle women out there who are
(23:12):
actually looking for this kindof relationship?
Because until then I had notmet any.
Like I was, I was like alone.
I'm like I don't think thatthere's other women.
I think I maybe came across oneor two women on FetLife maybe,
and that was it, and I was likeI don't think these women exist.
And that has been by far thebiggest challenge.
(23:35):
And you'll see that online andin cuckolding forums like black
to white or Reddit or you knowall of these places Twitter and
everything like that where it'scouples, bulls and single dudes.
There are pretty much no singlewomen out there online in these
cuckolding spaces, and so ifyou're a single guy, don't
(23:57):
bother wasting your time lookingfor women there, even on
FetLife, because you're just notgoing to find them.
But there are a lot of fakesand flakes and blackmailers and
really shady scammers out therepretending to be women, single
women.
So unfortunately, you have tonavigate through that bullshit.
But there are very, very fewsingle women and I have been
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over the years many, many timesthinking why is this?
Do they just not know about it?
Are they not interested at all?
They know, but they're notinterested.
I've really mulled it over inmy mind so for so long now.
Like what's the deal with women?
Why don't we see more womensigning up for this kind of
(24:42):
relationship?
This seems like amazing.
You get, you can have your cake, you can eat it too.
You get you some incrediblefucking partner and live this
amazing life where you canexplore your sexuality together.
Like, oh my god, it's why, why,why didn't we not see this more
?
And I think I figured it out?
Um, and for a lot of you guys.
(25:03):
Uh, listening, you're probablynot gonna like what I have to
say about this.
Uh, because you're probablypart of the problem.
So this is the thing For somany years now, we've heard
about open relationships andpolyamory and swinging and that
kind of thing.
Right, that's not new.
(25:23):
Those themes you'll hear in popculture, like mainstream,
everywhere, on TV, in the moviesand on dating apps regular
dating apps Tinder, bumble,match, whatever the fuck dating
app that you're on.
You'll see a lot of thislanguage.
Oh, I'm an open relationship, Iam partnered and we, you know,
(25:43):
date separately or we areswingers or whatever, like you
will see this everywhere.
But what you will not see iscuckolding.
Um, and and it's why not?
It's just a one-sided openrelationship, that's all it
really is.
You don't have to get into thekink stuff.
(26:03):
Like you could just keep it atthat, right, but you don't even
see that.
And it's because of this likedebilitating shame that comes
along with the word cuckold,this negative stigma Guys don't
want to put that on theirprofile.
They're like fuck, no, that's.
I do not want anybody to knowthat.
That's what I'm into, becausethey'll think I'm weak, pathetic
, loser, blah, blah, blah.
Okay, really scared of beingouted.
(26:25):
Okay, I get that, but it's nothelpful because women don't know
that there is this kind ofone-sided, open relationship
that's available.
They don't see that.
And I will tell you what.
I went this week.
I went on to the field app forthe first time, I think, in
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about five years years.
I haven't been on a dating appin so fucking long and I've
heard nothing but like shit inthe news about people men and
women both completely gettingsick and tired of dating apps
and I'm like it can't be thatbad.
It can't be that bad.
So I went on to field, okay,and I have was very specific in
(27:11):
my in my profile about what Iwas looking for and regarding
cuckolding and FLR, and it wasoverwhelming.
Let me tell you, it wasoverwhelming to have over 1100
likes in less than like 24 hours.
It was just.
The number of notifications isinsane.
(27:33):
Okay, let me tell you that,like, that's overwhelming to the
point where you just want toclose it and just be like well,
that's not going to work.
Like, that's too much.
But going through the guys'profiles, okay, this is Field,
which is like a kink-friendly,alternative kind of dating app
(27:53):
app.
Okay, so it's not like it'svanilla.
These are people who should beopen-minded, kink, friendly,
blah, blah, blah.
Okay, there was, I think, outof I don't know how many
hundreds of profiles that Ilooked at, there was only one or
two that mentioned anything todo with cuckolding or one-sided
(28:13):
open relationship, hot wifing oranything like that.
That's it.
And yet I had likes from 1100guys.
So 1100 guys liked my profileand what it said Hopefully they
read it probably not, but anywayand yet didn't want to put
anything on their profile aboutkink or about cuckolding I'm
(28:34):
talking about.
So I was just like this is youguys are part of the problem.
If you're not willing to put itout there that this kind of
relationship exists, women arenot going to even fucking know.
So you're going to have to putyour big boy fucking pants on
and stop acting like a littlebitch and put it on your profile
.
But don't be a dumbass, don'tput it on your profile like an
(28:57):
idiot.
Okay, don't be like.
Oh, I want you to fuck otherdudes and I'm really into.
I want to be your cuckold bitchand blah, blah, like.
Just do not do that.
All you have to do and this isreally important, the wording is
important here.
All you have to do is put I'mlooking for a one-sided, open
relationship where you get tohave extra fun and we both love
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it that way.
That's all you need to say, andyou don't need to talk about
anything weird.
You know, no st, no stigmatizedwords included, like just put
that in there and then you couldsay ask me more about it, I'd
love to have a conversation.
And there you go.
Okay, but until you guys startputting that out there on your
(29:45):
profiles, then this shit is justgonna keep on being such
garbage where there's hardly anywomen interested in wanting to
date a guy who wants this kindof relationship.
Okay, so just put it out there,put it on your profile.
I don't care if you fuckinghave an anonymous profile or if
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you don't want to attach a photoof yourself with it, then just
at least put a photo of half ofwhat your look, your face looks
like, so she could sort of telland then just do that.
But you have to be able to dothat.
So for this guy who sent inthis confession, it is a scary
place to start trying to figureout how to find a relationship
(30:27):
like this.
Focus on building a relationshipwith somebody first, okay,
determine if you're in VenusConnections you don't need to
even talk about cuckolding,because I match people according
to that first, so that you canthen have conversations only
about whether or not youactually like this person.
And then, but if you're on avanilla regular dating app, then
(30:52):
you just need to figure out isthis person open-minded to this
dynamic?
If they are great, drop thatconversation, shelve it for
later and just focus on buildinga relationship.
If she is curious aboutquestions, then by all means
answer those questions, but donot focus on getting so so wound
(31:15):
up in fantasy talk that itderails the relationship
building part.
And when you're talking tosingle women about this kind of
relationship, focus about thisbeing an empowering relationship
for her, this being about, youknow, her sexual exploration
journey with the two of youtogether, and if you focus on
(31:38):
that, about the, you know thisis really a privilege that
you're giving as a gift to herand in return, she's giving you
the gift of being involved insome way.
If you focus on that and lessso on, just I want, I want, I
want, I want you to do this, Iwant you to do that, I want to
see this, I want to see that.
I want this to happen.
I want that to happen.
(31:59):
If you just fucking don'tbother with that shit and just
focus on this being about herand a privilege for her, you
will definitely have moresuccess.
Trust me, you will.
Okay, that's my little spiel.
I wish you the best of luck.
I really hope it goes well foryou.
(32:20):
It's definitely going to be achallenge, but it is possible,
because I did match one couplein the Venus Connections program
who got married last year eventhough they, you know, had to
date long distance initiallybefore they could move in
together, and now they're livinga happy life, flr, cuckolding
marriage together.
(32:40):
It is possible.
You just have to probablyexpand your search radius to
outside of the city that youlive in, perhaps even
internationally.
That was great advice that DanSavage gave me years ago when I
asked him about finding apartner who was serious about
wanting a cuckoldingrelationship.
He said you have to expand yourradius.
(33:01):
You're probably not going tofind this person in your city.
You're going to have to startlooking everywhere, opening up
yourself to opportunities toconnect with people who want the
same thing.
And I was like, yep, you'reright about that.
It sucks.
Long distance is hard, butyou're right about that.
Thanks for joining me today.
Make sure you go tovenuscuckledresscom.
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My handle is at CuckoldressV.
That's it for today.
We'll see you next time.
Bye.
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Welcome to the show.
I'm your host, venus.
Thanks so much for joining metoday.
I'm so excited for this.
I love these confessionsepisodes.
It's always a ton of fun and tome it's so fascinating to find
out what's going through yourkinky minds out there.
And if you want to send in yourown confession, you certainly
can.
You can just go to the shownotes for today's episode.
The link is there.
Or you can just go tovenuscuckledresscom.
(00:55):
Click on the tab that says thepodcast and you'll see a little
tab there where all you need todo is press a button and submit
your voice note.
That way, you have up to Ithink it's like five minutes to
record.
So you've got lots of time.
You can share your littleconfession and send it in that
way.
As for announcements, before wejump into the show I just have a
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The first one is, if youhaven't heard already, I have
this little community called theQueens Quarters Community.
It's a ton of fun and it's opento anybody who wants free,
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You just sign up and get accessto the community and that's
where you can join conversations, you can meet new friends, you
can join the discussions onvarious topics like interracial,
(01:39):
flr, cuckolding, dating, allthat sort of stuff, flr,
cuckolding, dating, all thatsort of stuff.
It's really fun and it's agreat group of people.
So if you want, you can justcheck out the show notes for
today's episode the link is inthere or just go to
venuscuckledresscom.
And the last announcement ismany of you do know I have a
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It's for single men and singlewomen who are looking for a
loving, cuckolding relationshipand or FLR relationship and
right now there is a specialfall promotion going on where
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Speaker 2 (04:07):
Hello Venus, long time listener, first time
comment.
I've been married for nearly 10years.
I am a bit poorly endowed Iguess I am under three inches
erect and have never been ableto make my wife come.
After the first six months ofbeing together we started going
to swinger clubs so my wifecould become properly satisfied
from other men she is also avery dominant woman and started
(04:29):
uh putting me in a chastitydevice too.
She didn't like the idea that Icould uh take care of myself
like whenever I wanted to andthought the chastity device was
best.
In the beginning we would go tothese places like once a month.
Then it increased to about oncea week.
I've always been submissive, andseeing her have orgasms, even
if it wasn't for me, is amazingto watch.
(04:50):
Over years, with the constantchastity device wearing it 24-7,
I suffer from rectaldysfunction, which really isn't
a big deal, since it neverreally did anything for her.
When I am unlocked and my ballsare free I can still come, but
it kind of just dribbles andpuddle on the floor from my
flaccid cock.
We met a black guy at theswingers club about six months
(05:13):
ago.
That is very dominant, like hedominates my wife too.
She's really turned on by hispresence and attitude like that.
And he also ridicules me too.
My wife finds it a major turnon hearing him uh ridicule me.
I don't mind at all, sinceeverything he says is uh true.
Anyways, he actually moved inwith us a few weeks ago and is
the boss of the house.
(05:34):
My wife and him will even uhsit at the table, sit on the
couch together like a marriedcouple, and have me kneel down
on the floor besides them.
Anyways, I uh thought I wouldshare uh, okay, where do I start
?
Speaker 1 (05:48):
it's uh.
My first reaction to hearingthis confession was is this true
?
Like, is this actual, for real?
Um, some of you might besurprised to hear that, but but
I feel like I have heard thisalmost exact same fantasy laid
(06:10):
out like that so many times overthe years.
So I'm like is this for real,or is this?
This sounds exactly like afantasy that I've heard so many
guys talk about.
So I'm just like I don't knowif this is real to the person
who sent this in.
If it's real, I'm sorry fordoubting you.
It's just that I I'm like, ifthis sounds like too good to be
(06:35):
true and in and when I say toogood, it's like I feel like
every submissive guy who listensto this is gonna be like oh my
god, that's Like.
Oh my God, that's the perfectlife.
Like you've got all the factorsin there.
Like you've been married for along time, you've got this
really small dick, the chastity,the erectile dysfunction
(06:55):
problems, the dribbling on thefloor, flaccid penis, the
dominant wife who enjoysridiculing you in front of the
bull and the bull ridiculing you.
And you met this black bull andand now he's you know, six
months later he's moved in andand he they're acting like the
married couple and this just allsounds like.
(07:18):
It just sounds like all ofthese pieces of a very common
kind of fantasy that I haveheard so many times.
So I'm like really doubtingwhether or not this is legit.
I would love to know what youguys think.
Join me in the community theQueens Quarters community to
talk about this one, because I'mlike I don't know.
(07:39):
I really I don't know.
I'm on the fence about this,whether or not it's genuine.
If it's not genuine, look, Iunderstand why this is so hot.
I get it.
This is the ultimate fantasy oflosing control but still being
able to be useful for your wife,and the erotic humiliation
(08:02):
being at like a 10 out of 10.
I get it.
It's super fucking hot.
I just I don't.
I don't know.
Don't take this as aninvitation to send fake shit in
for your confessions, guys.
But, like I said, if this islegit, good on you.
You're living the dream for alot of submissive cucks.
But yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Hey Venus, what is happening?
Um, just wanted to okay, soI'll start with a fake name.
It's richard, and I just wantedto say thank you very much for
all the content that you put outthere and all the work that you
put into that.
That's amazing and I wish therewere more people like you and
more content like that.
Uh also, uh, really appreciatethe, the appreciate the venue
that you provide for people toconfess you know, provide
(08:48):
confessions and stories and soon.
I think that's excellent.
So my story we're going to haveto go back like back into my 20s
.
I'm 44 now and I had onerelationship for nine months
which was an unmitigated fuckingdisaster and thank God it was
only nine months.
And then I had another one forseven years, and let's call that
(09:10):
.
You know the woman that I hadthat relationship with.
Let's call her Amanda, it's nother name, but whatever.
So to preface the relationshipnumber one, I tried I've always
been kinky since my adolescentyears and I tried very hard to
gently bring up the topic ofkink and cuckolding with her.
It just never flew with her,which is fine to each their own.
(09:33):
We had promised each other thatwe were going to wait until
marriage for sex.
It seems laughable now, butyou're in your 20s and you think
you really love someone and youdo stupid things.
Anyway, as it turns out, I mean, we ended up being engaged for
a year and a half.
One of Amanda's friends endedup telling me that, hey, you
know, she's basically beenfucking people since the day you
(09:54):
guys started dating, which, youknow, if it had not been for
the lying, I would have thoughtwas really hot.
But I could not tolerate thelying.
I couldn't accept it, becauseyou know, there needs to be
trust and openness to arelationship in order for it to
work.
And I just said, okay, likethat, I can't deal with that.
So I mean, that was the end ofthat relationship, um, and any
(10:18):
semblance of confidence andesteem that I had.
I mean, I already had issueswith confidence and esteem and,
uh, you know, that relationshipbasically destroyed what was
left.
And, to make matters even worse,while Amanda and I were dating,
I was actually talking to um,another young woman who was
totally into kink into me, um,and would have done everything
that I wanted to try and a lotmore.
I mean, she was into the partyscene and everything, and of
(10:41):
course, I mean I completelyignored her, because what else
would you do?
So I mean she moved on, um, andthen for about.
I mean here I was at 30, uh, avirgin still, and I didn't date,
like I mean, I went on a coupledates but I basically didn't
date after that, um, and Ipromised myself through all of
this that any partner I had inthe future would have to be into
(11:03):
kink and cuckolding um, andthere's a minor reason for that,
which is, you know, like I, Iknow I'm not going to satisfy my
partner.
I mean, like when dudes saythat they're into sph and they
say, oh, I've got a small dick,like most of them don't.
But I mean I fucking do.
Like my boner will fit insidean empty toilet roll paper tube
with room to spare, and that'sall I have to say about that,
(11:25):
which is fine.
You know, whatever it's life,um, I'm still really, really
good at fucking oral and uh, sothat's great, um.
That being said, the majorreason is I never, never, never
want to stand in the way of uhor be an obstacle to my partner,
uh, or my future partner, um,enjoying themselves and
(11:45):
exploring themselves.
So make a long story short uh,that young woman that I was
talking to.
She found me on Facebook whichmakes me feel really old, like
Facebook, but whatever, shefound me on Facebook and, as it
turns out, um, she actuallydivorced her man child about two
years ago and she's still likevery much into the party scene
and and and cuckolding and kinkand all that other stuff and
(12:06):
we've been talking well Ishouldn't say we've been talking
, we've been well.
We started talking about threemonths ago and we've been dating
for two months and this veryweekend is basically the first
time the whole cuckolding thingis going to happen, because
she's going on a date and to aparty with her dom and I got to
(12:30):
buy her outfit for the date andher outfit for the party, which
is an amazing like leather pvc Iknow, I think it's leather
harness which is sexy as fuck.
Anyway, I just wanted to saylike I am happier than I've ever
been, like seriously happierthan a pig in in mud or pig and
shit, I don't I don't evenremember what that expression is
, but just like I love the factthat a you know, I have this
partner and I love her and sheand she loves me.
I mean, that much is evident.
Um, you know we can get alongswimmingly and she's going to be
(12:51):
out there and she's going tolook fantastic and you know she
feels good about herself becauseshe gets to go out and have fun
with her dom and go to a partyand have fun with people, look
amazing.
And she still and that justmakes me so happy Cock holding
is amazing.
I don't understand why peoplepoo-poo it as much as they do.
(13:13):
Open up people Try.
Anyway, thank you Reallyappreciate it.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
There's this one part oh my God, you guys, I died
laughing.
Every time I listen to this, Idie laughing.
There's one part where he'stalking about SPH and he's like,
yeah, well, you know how someguys say that they've got a
small dick, but they don't.
Well, I fucking do.
I just laughed so hard.
(13:45):
It's just something about theway he said it.
Something about the way he saidit.
Oh my god, it was so hilarious.
Anyway, that was like the bestpart of that whole confession.
But I I love the story.
I absolutely love this storybecause it goes to show, like,
fuck, sexual compatibility is soimportant and finding a partner
(14:10):
who's open-minded to your, whatyour kinks and fantasies and
desires are, and you beingopen-minded to theirs, is, like,
honestly, so fucking important.
Um, I wanted to ask though okay, so the girlfriend who that was
the fiance and you guys had nothad sex because you wanted to
(14:30):
wait till marriage, but yet youfound out she was out fucking
everybody the whole time youguys were dating.
Um, I wonder if she knew thatyou had a small dick.
Like that's kind of what wentthrough my mind.
I'm like I wonder if she sheknows what she's getting into if
she marries you, and so she'sjust out getting lots of dick.
(14:52):
I don't know what do you thinkit just made me think I'm like,
oh, maybe that's why I'm notcondoning it.
I think it's fucking shitty.
She went out and cheated likethat, like it's bullshit, and
you do the right thing byleaving no-transcript.
(15:38):
Confession was sent in a littlewhile ago, so you have since
had your weekend of fun whereyour girlfriend was going out
with her dom and I love the factthat you got to pick out her
outfit.
This is such a cuck thing likeI would say, like other than
maybe clean up and watching.
(15:59):
I think that a cucks likebiggest desire from like almost
across the board, number onebiggest desire that cucks have
is to pick out your sexy outfitLike this is cucks are just
fucking so eager to do that.
It's like a big.
(16:22):
It's a big thing even for me,even though I'm not in a
relationship like.
I've had so many guys over theyears contact me and they're
like, oh, can I buy you somelingerie for your bowl?
So when you go see your bowlyou can wear this lingerie that
I'm going to buy you?
And at first it was kind ofnovel and I was like, oh yeah,
that'd be kind of cool, that'dbe fun.
But then you realize this isnot really like a gift for me.
This is more of a gift for him.
(16:44):
Like this is to fulfill hislittle fantasy, his cuck fantasy
.
And then I just end up with solike a closet, fucking full of
lingerie that you're like okay,I don't have any clothes to wear
like out to grocery shoppingtoday, but I have a shit ton of
lingerie.
And all you ladies listening, Iknow you probably had the same
(17:04):
thing over the years too havingthese guys ask you, uh, if they
could buy you lingerie.
It's such a thing.
Anyway, the outfit soundedreally sexy that you bought for
her, so I would love to be ableto see a picture of that.
But anyway, it's probably notgoing to happen, but anyway I
would love to check it out.
Also, definitely happy that yousaid that you're really good at
(17:26):
oral.
I think you know every guyshould have oral skills that are
like amazing.
You should eat pussy like achampion, but especially for
cucks, and especially for cuckswho are not well endowed like
you really need to make up forthat.
And I fucking, I'm such apillow princess, I know for
(17:48):
those of you who've listened tothe show for a long time.
You know I love to just layback and get my pussy eaten like
forever.
So definitely a must inboyfriend material.
So good on you for that.
I really hope that things workout for you and your girlfriend.
I'm so thrilled and so happyfor you that you found somebody.
(18:09):
This person's come back intoyour life and seems to check off
all of the boxes for you, andthat just makes me so fucking
happy.
So I hope that your storyprovides some inspiration to
everyone else out there to makesure that you put sexual
compatibility as a top prioritywhen you are looking to date
(18:31):
somebody.
It can be really difficult, itcan be really hard, but it is so
important.
It absolutely is the differencebetween whether or not you live
a life that's fulfilled or not.
So yeah, that's my thoughts onthat.
Speaker 4 (18:48):
I'm a 52-year-old male who was diagnosed with
bladder cancer three years agoand I've always been kind of the
control in the relationship,and now I'm not able to have
that control.
I'm not with anybody and I'mseeking a future partner, and so
(19:10):
I know that I'm going to haveto give that part of life to
somebody and I'm trying tofigure out how to seek that out.
So this is my kind of aconfession that I'm seeking to
become a cuckold.
This is kind of scary for meand I don't really know where to
(19:31):
go from here.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
This confession made me kind of sad, but also I'm
very proud of this person tosend in this confession, because
that must have taken a lot ofbravery to do that.
And just to say those words outloud.
That and just to you know, saythose words out loud.
(19:53):
You know, it's one thing tohave cuckolding desires because
it's hot and it's thrilling andexciting and it's just such a
big turn on.
But it's another thing to befaced with the idea of becoming
a cuckold in a relationshipbecause of a physical illness or
injury.
That means that you can't havePIV sex in a like quote unquote
(20:14):
normal way in a vanillarelationship.
And so I think it's reallyamazing that you're thinking
along the lines of how do Istill make sure that my partner
is sexually fulfilled and thatbeing with other men as far as
PIV sex goes.
But, as we all know, piv sex isjust such a small part of your
(20:34):
sex, fucking life, or should be.
It should be such a small partof it.
There should be so much sexualintimacy in other ways, shapes
and forms.
I remember listening to the Sexand Psychology podcast when he
talked about outer course, and Iwas fucking fascinated by this
because I was like, oh my God,mind blown.
(20:55):
Why is outer course not like amore normalized thing, like I
would like to just have someexperiences that were only outer
course and just like work withthat, and it almost like forces
you to become creative, forcesyou to be curious about the
(21:16):
other person's body and theirmind, and so, anyway, I digress,
but I think it's really greatthat you're thinking about the
cuckold relationship as a formof, you know, satisfying your
partner sexually or assuringthat she has the opportunity to
be satisfied sexually by otherguys.
So thank you for that.
I can imagine that where you'reat as far as like, okay, I'm
(21:43):
gonna, I want this and this iswhat I have to do now.
And how do I go about doing it?
As many of you guys know, Ihave been single for a long time
and I did have a partner.
He passed away.
This was several years ago andafter that I was like you know
what?
I'm going to try and find acock boyfriend again and see how
(22:07):
this goes, and it has been sucha shit show.
It's really fucking difficultfor many reasons, but this is
why I created Venus Connections.
It's for singles who are lookingfor a loving, cuckolding
relationship.
You know it's so funny.
Actually, there's so manypeople who just assume that
Venus Connections is aboutconnecting bulls and couples.
(22:28):
Right, because, like,cuckolding is really a privilege
within couples.
It's a couple's privilege, thiskind of relationship.
And so to think about singlepeople is kind of like outside
of the realm of like normalcywhen you're thinking about
cuckolding.
So people are surprised thatit's not for couples and bulls
(22:49):
and I'm like, actually no, it'sfor us singles who are looking
for somebody so that we can havethis kind of relationship that
so many of you couples have outthere, which is fucking amazing
and incredible and beautiful,and so looking for that is
challenging.
Now, when I first started VenusConnections, my biggest thing
was like, okay, are there anysingle women out there who are
(23:12):
actually looking for this kindof relationship?
Because until then I had notmet any.
Like I was, I was like alone.
I'm like I don't think thatthere's other women.
I think I maybe came across oneor two women on FetLife maybe,
and that was it, and I was likeI don't think these women exist.
And that has been by far thebiggest challenge.
(23:35):
And you'll see that online andin cuckolding forums like black
to white or Reddit or you knowall of these places Twitter and
everything like that where it'scouples, bulls and single dudes.
There are pretty much no singlewomen out there online in these
cuckolding spaces, and so ifyou're a single guy, don't
(23:57):
bother wasting your time lookingfor women there, even on
FetLife, because you're just notgoing to find them.
But there are a lot of fakesand flakes and blackmailers and
really shady scammers out therepretending to be women, single
women.
So unfortunately, you have tonavigate through that bullshit.
But there are very, very fewsingle women and I have been
(24:20):
over the years many, many timesthinking why is this?
Do they just not know about it?
Are they not interested at all?
They know, but they're notinterested.
I've really mulled it over inmy mind so for so long now.
Like what's the deal with women?
Why don't we see more womensigning up for this kind of
(24:42):
relationship?
This seems like amazing.
You get, you can have your cake, you can eat it too.
You get you some incrediblefucking partner and live this
amazing life where you canexplore your sexuality together.
Like, oh my god, it's why, why,why didn't we not see this more
?
And I think I figured it out?
Um, and for a lot of you guys.
(25:03):
Uh, listening, you're probablynot gonna like what I have to
say about this.
Uh, because you're probablypart of the problem.
So this is the thing For somany years now, we've heard
about open relationships andpolyamory and swinging and that
kind of thing.
Right, that's not new.
(25:23):
Those themes you'll hear in popculture, like mainstream,
everywhere, on TV, in the moviesand on dating apps regular
dating apps Tinder, bumble,match, whatever the fuck dating
app that you're on.
You'll see a lot of thislanguage.
Oh, I'm an open relationship, Iam partnered and we, you know,
(25:43):
date separately or we areswingers or whatever, like you
will see this everywhere.
But what you will not see iscuckolding.
Um, and and it's why not?
It's just a one-sided openrelationship, that's all it
really is.
You don't have to get into thekink stuff.
(26:03):
Like you could just keep it atthat, right, but you don't even
see that.
And it's because of this likedebilitating shame that comes
along with the word cuckold,this negative stigma Guys don't
want to put that on theirprofile.
They're like fuck, no, that's.
I do not want anybody to knowthat.
That's what I'm into, becausethey'll think I'm weak, pathetic
, loser, blah, blah, blah.
Okay, really scared of beingouted.
(26:25):
Okay, I get that, but it's nothelpful because women don't know
that there is this kind ofone-sided, open relationship
that's available.
They don't see that.
And I will tell you what.
I went this week.
I went on to the field app forthe first time, I think, in
(26:47):
about five years years.
I haven't been on a dating appin so fucking long and I've
heard nothing but like shit inthe news about people men and
women both completely gettingsick and tired of dating apps
and I'm like it can't be thatbad.
It can't be that bad.
So I went on to field, okay,and I have was very specific in
(27:11):
my in my profile about what Iwas looking for and regarding
cuckolding and FLR, and it wasoverwhelming.
Let me tell you, it wasoverwhelming to have over 1100
likes in less than like 24 hours.
It was just.
The number of notifications isinsane.
(27:33):
Okay, let me tell you that,like, that's overwhelming to the
point where you just want toclose it and just be like well,
that's not going to work.
Like, that's too much.
But going through the guys'profiles, okay, this is Field,
which is like a kink-friendly,alternative kind of dating app
(27:53):
app.
Okay, so it's not like it'svanilla.
These are people who should beopen-minded, kink, friendly,
blah, blah, blah.
Okay, there was, I think, outof I don't know how many
hundreds of profiles that Ilooked at, there was only one or
two that mentioned anything todo with cuckolding or one-sided
(28:13):
open relationship, hot wifing oranything like that.
That's it.
And yet I had likes from 1100guys.
So 1100 guys liked my profileand what it said Hopefully they
read it probably not, but anywayand yet didn't want to put
anything on their profile aboutkink or about cuckolding I'm
(28:34):
talking about.
So I was just like this is youguys are part of the problem.
If you're not willing to put itout there that this kind of
relationship exists, women arenot going to even fucking know.
So you're going to have to putyour big boy fucking pants on
and stop acting like a littlebitch and put it on your profile
.
But don't be a dumbass, don'tput it on your profile like an
(28:57):
idiot.
Okay, don't be like.
Oh, I want you to fuck otherdudes and I'm really into.
I want to be your cuckold bitchand blah, blah, like.
Just do not do that.
All you have to do and this isreally important, the wording is
important here.
All you have to do is put I'mlooking for a one-sided, open
relationship where you get tohave extra fun and we both love
(29:22):
it that way.
That's all you need to say, andyou don't need to talk about
anything weird.
You know, no st, no stigmatizedwords included, like just put
that in there and then you couldsay ask me more about it, I'd
love to have a conversation.
And there you go.
Okay, but until you guys startputting that out there on your
(29:45):
profiles, then this shit is justgonna keep on being such
garbage where there's hardly anywomen interested in wanting to
date a guy who wants this kindof relationship.
Okay, so just put it out there,put it on your profile.
I don't care if you fuckinghave an anonymous profile or if
(30:05):
you don't want to attach a photoof yourself with it, then just
at least put a photo of half ofwhat your look, your face looks
like, so she could sort of telland then just do that.
But you have to be able to dothat.
So for this guy who sent inthis confession, it is a scary
place to start trying to figureout how to find a relationship
(30:27):
like this.
Focus on building a relationshipwith somebody first, okay,
determine if you're in VenusConnections you don't need to
even talk about cuckolding,because I match people according
to that first, so that you canthen have conversations only
about whether or not youactually like this person.
And then, but if you're on avanilla regular dating app, then
(30:52):
you just need to figure out isthis person open-minded to this
dynamic?
If they are great, drop thatconversation, shelve it for
later and just focus on buildinga relationship.
If she is curious aboutquestions, then by all means
answer those questions, but donot focus on getting so so wound
(31:15):
up in fantasy talk that itderails the relationship
building part.
And when you're talking tosingle women about this kind of
relationship, focus about thisbeing an empowering relationship
for her, this being about, youknow, her sexual exploration
journey with the two of youtogether, and if you focus on
(31:38):
that, about the, you know thisis really a privilege that
you're giving as a gift to herand in return, she's giving you
the gift of being involved insome way.
If you focus on that and lessso on, just I want, I want, I
want, I want you to do this, Iwant you to do that, I want to
see this, I want to see that.
I want this to happen.
I want that to happen.
(31:59):
If you just fucking don'tbother with that shit and just
focus on this being about herand a privilege for her, you
will definitely have moresuccess.
Trust me, you will.
Okay, that's my little spiel.
I wish you the best of luck.
I really hope it goes well foryou.
(32:20):
It's definitely going to be achallenge, but it is possible,
because I did match one couplein the Venus Connections program
who got married last year eventhough they, you know, had to
date long distance initiallybefore they could move in
together, and now they're livinga happy life, flr, cuckolding
marriage together.
(32:40):
It is possible.
You just have to probablyexpand your search radius to
outside of the city that youlive in, perhaps even
internationally.
That was great advice that DanSavage gave me years ago when I
asked him about finding apartner who was serious about
wanting a cuckoldingrelationship.
He said you have to expand yourradius.
(33:01):
You're probably not going tofind this person in your city.
You're going to have to startlooking everywhere, opening up
yourself to opportunities toconnect with people who want the
same thing.
And I was like, yep, you'reright about that.
It sucks.
Long distance is hard, butyou're right about that.
Thanks for joining me today.
Make sure you go tovenuscuckledresscom.
(33:22):
That's where you can book aprivate chat with me, you can
check out any cuckolding eventsthat might be happening, and you
can even ask a question for theshow, as well as, of course,
join the Queens Quarters fanclub and get all the benefits
for that.
You can also follow me onInstagram, the Venus Cuckoldris
podcast.
I haven't been banned there.
Well, I have, but not recently.
(33:44):
You can also follow me onTwitter, or whatever the fuck
you want to call it.
My handle is at CuckoldressV.
That's it for today.
We'll see you next time.
Bye.
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