August 21, 2025 • 47 mins
In this heartfelt episode, Jordan and Vanessa reflect on their son Oliver’s first day of kindergarten and the emotions it stirred. They explore how perspective shapes our experience of life events—whether we view them as loss of freedom or opportunities for growth—and share the powerful mantra, “This is great for now. Let’s see how it goes.”
They dive deep into the importance of having a clear vision as your North Star, guided by the emotional compass within. From creating their original “Life I Choose” document in West Texas with no clear means, to living out the dream years later on the beach with their family, they reveal how clarity, emotional alignment, and consistent micro-decisions create extraordinary results.
The conversation also unpacks the evolution from seeking passive income to building passion income, the role of creation versus consumption in fulfillment, and practical steps for anyone ready to design their own Life I Choose document—starting with the “Core Four” categories: body, money, relationships, and career.
Episode 13 is both an intimate family milestone story and a powerful guide to living intentionally, proving that extraordinary clarity and joy come not from circumstances, but from how we choose to perceive and create them.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Vibration Fit Podcast.
I'm Vanessa.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
And I'm Jordan, and today we had a kindergarten
drop-off.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
First one ever.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
First one ever.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
Our oldest child started kindergarten today.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Today.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Oliver.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Cash Buckingham is right now currently sitting in a
kindergarten classroom.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Yep, and we're going to learn all about his day in a
few hours, but until then, We'llbe shooting this podcast, yes,
so buckle in for the next 14hours.
Where we share all of ouremotions.
That was a joke.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
There's no way this will last that long.
Oh, my goodness but seriously,you know, it did bring up
thoughts and like emotionsbecause it's like, oh wow, this
is a big moment.
Right.
And I feel like a lot of times,whenever you have moments that
you know are coming, we have atendency sometimes to do these.
(00:59):
I would like this to happenbefore that monumental time,
kind of.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Yeah, these arbitrary timestamps of wanting to have
these certain goals accomplishedby.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Totally.
And so you start to think about, like, did I accomplish some of
those things that I intended toaccomplish by this timestamp,
kind of thing?
Right, and I was thinking as Iwas dropping him off that I
didn't have like a sadness,because I really do feel that
the first six years of his lifehad very present parents in it.
(01:36):
Yeah.
I mean virtually 24 seven.
We were there and around himand giving him love and
appreciation and focused on allthe little moments of him
becoming him.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Right, yeah, and it's .
It's funny, depending on yourperspective, like how you're
looking at it, it can eitherbring you pain or pleasure, or
pain or pleasure or pain orexcitement, depending on how you
look at your kid going intoschool.
So like at first.
And there may still be dayslike this where we look at the
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school system and we're like,all right, from this time to
this time he's going to be inschool Monday through Friday.
So part of us is like, oh man,that's like encroaching on our
freedom, like oh man, that'slike encroaching on our freedom,
like making this be our setschedule, right.
(02:33):
So whenever I started thinkingabout it that way and thinking
like, well, this is taking myson away from us and we're not
going to get to see him duringthese times, and now, like we
don't have that same freedomthat we had, where we could just
like go on a boat at noon or 10am and he didn't have anywhere
to be, like, now we have thisset schedule.
So, when I looked at it fromthat perspective, that of course
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, brought pain where it was likewell, maybe we're making the
wrong choice, maybe we shouldn'tbe doing this.
Right.
But then when you shift theperspective into Right, but then
when you shift the perspectiveinto well, if, say, for example,
you homeschool, so you thinkabout it from that perspective,
it's like, well, if I were tohomeschool, what would that
situation look like?
Well, now I'm giving updifferent like what are the best
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homeschooling programs?
Like, what help can I get tofacilitate some of the learning?
Because our kids don't alwayslisten to what we have to say.
They want to be the onesteaching us all the things.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Correct.
They teach us things.
We've been here slightly longerthan them, but I'm pretty sure
they've got it more figured out.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Exactly yeah, they want to be the ones like showing
us what they learned, tellingus what they learned, not us
teaching them and them notrelaying that information A
hundred percent.
So it's like by thinking aboutthe situation and I actually do
this a lot in life I let all ofthe situations kind of play
themselves out in my mind andactually like really imagine
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what those different situationswould feel like and what my life
would be like, waking up tothat kind of life every morning.
And it is funny because,depending on the perspective
that you're holding, it can alsolike there's freedom in both,
if that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Right.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
So, like the homeschooling scenario, if you
homeschool, then like you arefree to make your own schedule,
but you don't have the samefreedom for things like we're
doing right now, if that makessense.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Totally, and I think it brings up a really big point
in life of there's a tendency totry to line up all the
circumstances to automaticallyyield a positive feeling,
emotion.
Right.
So if I can just line up allthese circumstances in a
(05:01):
particular way and flip thefirst domino, then everything is
going to just go perfectly andI'm going to feel good right.
And no matter what scenarioyou're in, right, there's always
a choice of how you're going toperceive that scenario.
So we come to find that it'snot the circumstances that
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surround, but more yourperspective within the
circumstances that you'resurrounded by that actually
produces the emotional response,right.
Totally.
So, ultimately, a lot of thisplay back and forth of which
circumstance or set should Ichoose to be happy sort of
disappears whenever you realizethere's freedom in all of them.
(05:45):
Right.
And there's restriction in allof them, there's joy in all of
them and there's pain in all ofthem, depending on what my
perspective is.
Right, right.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Yeah, totally, and something that has really been
giving me a lot of relief isthis statement 's this is great
for now.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Let's see how it goes yeah, I love that one because
we.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
I feel like, as humans, we we tend to like
forecast things into the futurebased on what you're currently
experiencing today's weather andthe rest of your life's weather
will be yeah, I know exactlywhat you're talking about.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
When?
Speaker 1 (06:26):
in reality, nothing in the universe is stagnant.
Everything is changingconstantly.
So it's foolish to take yourcurrent circumstances and place
them in the future and say it'sgoing to be the exact same
scenario, the exact sameeverything.
And I'm going to feel the exactsame scenario, the exact same
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everything and I'm going to feelthe exact same way.
So I've really been living bythat mantra.
This is great for now.
Let's see how it goes.
I'm not going to make anypromises about how the next five
years, 10 years, even the nextyear is going to go.
Yeah.
Like I believe anything ispossible and I don't lock in.
Anything is absolute.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
Right, we really are more at choice in our life than
we feel like, and the morefreedom you build into your life
, the more choice you havewithin it.
And that actually kind ofbrings me to the idea that I
really wanted to capture insideof this podcast, which is how
did we get to a point that ourchild entered kindergarten and
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we really do feel like we werepresent for his first six years
of life?
I really don't feel like Imissed any of it.
I'm not looking at it with likeoh, there were so many things I
wanted to do with him before hewent into the kindergarten.
Oh, my gosh, like now that timeis gone and that opportunity
has passed and I have missed it.
You know I don't feel that wayat all, like I really feel like
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we were highly intentional andwe did so many, even more things
than I would have imagined,like we had so many amazing
experiences, so many travelingexperiences, so many taking him
to different places in the worldfor months at a time.
You, know, sometimes like wedid the deal for real.
And.
(08:15):
I was thinking what I wanted tocapture on that is how did that
happen, like, how was it that wereached a point where, wow,
he's entering kindergarten?
I'm really happy with how hewent about the first six years
of his life, right, you know?
Speaker 1 (08:32):
Yeah Well, first off, we had a clear vision of what
we wanted our life together andour life as a family to look
like, before we even hadchildren.
Absolutely and second off werelied heavily, and still do, on
our emotional guidance systemto lead the way.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Totally.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
To the unfolding of that path.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Yeah.
So if you look at it supersimply, if you've got clarity on
what you want your life to looklike and you've arrived at that
clarity, using the emotionalcompass within to say this is
what I think I want right now,it's what I think I want my life
to look like.
Let's feel it out.
(09:13):
How's that feel?
That definitely puts me abovethe green line whenever I go
into a virtual reality state,imagining that existence Rock on
.
That sounds cool to me.
And then, beyond just theinternal compass of what does
clarity look like, you also havethe decision compass of what
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decision to make in all thesegiven scenarios.
Because you actually have anorientation, like have you ever
seen a map that didn't have,like the North, south, east,
west symbols on it?
And it's like or maybe they werecut off, or maybe you couldn't
see them or sideways, orsideways and you're in a weird
place or you're in the middle ofa city, you're like I don't
know what's up down, left right.
(09:57):
You know sideways, right.
So if you have some sort of anorientation built in that it's
like that is north Right, thenyou can make decisions.
So if I'm trying to move fromthis point to that point and I
know that that is north of here,then I can continually adjust,
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continually pointing my waynorth, and if I have to go east
for a minute because that takesme to another road that takes me
north, then so be it.
If I have to go west for asecond to get to another road
that takes me north, that's howit is.
But at the end of the day, I'malways oriented myself back to
north.
Totally and.
I really feel like that's whathaving a clear vision for your
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life does is.
It gives you that north star tomake decisions around.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Right, that beacon of light.
I love thinking of it as thattoo.
We refer to it as a beacon oflight where that's like the
thing in the darkness that'sjust calling you and it's there
steadfast and you can clearlysee it whenever you line up with
it.
Absolutely.
But before we even had children,I remember in our initial
vision document so when we wouldsit down and we would mutually
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basically write down our goalsaround what we envisioned our
life looking like, like the mostsatiating version of our life
in our future.
What that looked like to useven back then is exactly what
we're living now.
It's so trippy Like the phraseliving the dream.
We're literally living what weonce wrote down.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
As a dream.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
As a dream, like we're doing it Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
And when we wrote that stuff down initially, the
means were not there At all.
I mean like obviously we'vestepped into the means and great
things have all.
Yeah, I mean like obviouslywe've stepped into the means and
great things have happened.
Yeah.
But, when we were writing thatdown, it looked crazy, you know.
It was like how would you everachieve this?
Really Like, how would you makethis much money, how would you
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have this much freedom, howwould you be enjoying your day
like this, how would you live ina house like that, how would
you drive a car like this?
Speaker 1 (12:05):
How would you live in a house like that?
How would you drive a car likethat?
How would you live?
Near the beach.
Like what beach are you talkingabout?
Where in the world is thisbeach that you you're talking
about?
Like white, very soft sandybeaches and like beautiful,
crystal clear blue waters.
Like, where does that exist?
Where is that?
Speaker 2 (12:20):
Yeah, we were, we're in, like San Angelo, texas,
which is like West Texas, whichis like when you hear in the
Western movies, like the, the,like some bird in the distance,
and then a tumbleweed rollacross the road.
We literally had tumbleweedsthat would roll across the road.
(12:42):
You know what I mean.
It's like the dry dry no beach,no ocean, like, so, like we're
creating this on paper in themiddle of west texas at a time,
my mom living with your mom.
We had no house, no house nomoney yeah no path really that
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would take us there.
I mean, we always had like apath that seemed like the most
logical thing to do at the timeNext step.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
But what we were doing then is not what we were
doing now.
It wasn't even on the radar,Like Buckingham Enterprises Inc.
You know, wasn't even on theradar.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Yeah.
So how are those people so boldin believing that they could
live near a beach like withbeautiful pristine white sand
and beautiful clear blue water,and live in a house that was
close to that beach and have afamily with children that not
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only me or not only just you,but both of us could be around
all the time?
Yeah.
Like oh in our minivan.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Rolling that Honda Odyssey.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
Elite baby.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
Rolling down the street in my.
Honda.
It is so awesome, yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
Like we paid cash for that baby.
Absolutely.
Parked in our driveway.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
We sure did, and we just wrote him a check Paid off
our other car it was awesome.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
Two paid off cars in our beautiful home driveway
close to the beach.
Like being as free as a bird,like free to spend as much time
with our kids as we want.
Yeah, we want Like we.
I remember specifically puttingin the vision document that
like we're there for everyspecial moment.
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Yeah, and we have been.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Yeah, we've absolutely been there and we
preemptively struck in our mindto create that scenario, and we
built it on paper way in advance.
So this all kind of comes fullcircle to how did we arrive here
?
And that is how we arrived here.
What happened was we gainedclarity, using our emotional
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guidance system to feel our wayinto what would be an
emotionally satisfying life forus, at least from the limited
perspective of our consciousmind living the life that we
were living.
We really captured what we feltwas there for us and it turned
out it was there for us.
I truly believe that there's aportion of your consciousness
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that is chewing up all of yourlife experience and it
essentially knows what anemotionally satisfying life
would look like for you,especially in the dominant areas
, and I personally believe thatit vibrationally holds that
version of you in escrow, so tospeak.
But there's an active version ofyou.
(15:38):
So escrow is not even like thebest word, really, but there's
an active version of you at alevel of your consciousness that
is that person living that lifeRight.
And so, because that exists, Ibelieve that clarity is there
for me, even if I'm not livinganything close to that which, at
the time we weren't right.
I do believe that clarity isthere for me.
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So, because I believe thatclarity was there for me, I was
able to, with you, find it,identify it, bring it into form
in the form of a literaldocument, right, and then
ultimately get to make that theNorth Star, that then we could
make decisions, constantlyasking ourselves this one
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question Does this get me closerto or further away from the
life that I choose to live?
And we literally titled thedocument the Life I Choose right
and then the life we choose.
Speaker 1 (16:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
It was the life I choose until it was the life we
choose and I had to scrap mostof the life I choose because I
mean there was stuff that madeit in that we both mutually
wanted.
But once I found you I realizedthat a lot of the stuff that I
put in the life I choose wasactually put there because I
thought it was going to berequired to find you or to get
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you.
You know what I mean.
So I was like, well, all thisstuff that I thought was going
to be necessary to get her isnow unnecessary because I've now
found her, is now unnecessarybecause I've now found her.
And it was awesome because itleft like a massive amount of
space for us to build our ownlife together.
But it brought us to thatquestion over and over again,
and I think, ultimately, yourlife is a compilation of
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thousands upon thousands uponthousands of little micro
decisions that you're making dayin and day out.
And what's going to make thenext six years any different
from the next six months of yourlife?
The big question is what isyour North Star?
What does the life that youwould choose for yourself look
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like?
An emotionally satisfying,above the green line version of
you?
What does that life look like?
So that you can ask yourselfthat question thousands upon
thousands, upon thousands oftimes and, generally speaking,
always make an appropriateanswer.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
And it's because you're oriented Right and it's
because you're oriented Right,yeah, and this document that we
go back to over and over again,it's a living, breathing,
expanding, ever-changingdocument.
Absolutely.
So it grows with you.
It changes all the time whichis good.
That's how you want it.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Absolutely, and we were actually talking about this
earlier where, in the beginningof establishing something like
this, some people will hear thiscompelling story and they'll
say something along the lines ofhow would I write one of those?
How?
Did you go about doing that.
I've actually had friends inthe past ask me for a copy of
mine, you know, and just to beable to see like what's the
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header look like.
Like what are the.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
What are you writing this thing?
Yeah, what are you writing thisthing?
What are the?
Speaker 2 (18:48):
categories that you write under.
How do you do this?
Because a lot of people havenever had some sort of a
comprehensive look at what theywould like their life to look
like.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
I feel like a lot of people just go by the mantra one
day at a time.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Yeah, well, and I completely made this process up
for me.
I literally called it the lifeI choose.
I had never seen anything likeit.
I didn't read a book that toldme how to do it.
I didn't have some like map.
You know my alignment plan tothe life I choose.
You know I had nothing likethat to the life I choose.
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You know I had nothing likethat.
I just knew that every ounce ofmy being said, you need to
create a North star.
You need to orient yourself tosomething so that you can feel
good about making decisionstowards something.
Otherwise, you're just driftingon a boat and what I've just
found in life personally is thatif you don't establish a life I
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choose or a life we choose,you're going to wind up with the
life they choose.
Someone else is going to change, is going to choose you.
Aspects of your being for you.
Right your employment.
Yeah, they're going to keep youon staff.
They're going to ask you whatto do, and if you love what you
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do, awesome.
If you don't, but you nevercreate a North Star for yourself
to reorient, then you neverreally have anything to compare
that to.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
Yeah, and people will tell you how it is.
They'll tell you what's normaland how it should be.
Absolutely.
And I feel like we aredefinitely outliers just the
fact that we do a process likethis.
Totally, and that we want tobuild something like this.
Yeah, it's funny that you saidthat too.
Speaker 2 (20:35):
Because I think what happens to a lot of people is
they start living life andsometimes they don't feel jacked
about what they're doing,they're not pumped.
But then they start to kind oflook around and they start to
talk to other people and be like, hey, I've started in this
career Not as jacked as Ithought I would be about it, not
really as pumped about my dayto day as I thought I would be.
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What's that all about?
And then normal people saythat's everybody everywhere.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
You only have 30 more years, yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
I mean the thing is, why do you think they have
retirement plans?
Speaker 1 (21:11):
You know if you love what you did.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
You'd never want to get away from it.
You know it's like like so thenthey start to validate that.
That's just how that feelsright.
And they go oh okay, well, thisis normal, this is normal.
This is normal, this is normalis not the definition of awesome
.
You know what I'm saying?
Like just because, it's normalto not be jacked about what your
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day looks like does not meanthat you should allow yourself
to not be jacked about what yourday looks like.
Does not mean that you shouldallow yourself to not be jacked
about what your day looks likeyeah, like you're here living
this life.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
How do you want to live it?
How do you want to feelthroughout your day?
Absolutely throughout yourmonths, throughout your years,
like you don't want to look back30 years later and be like oh
man, I wasted away yeah, in thatoffice yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:59):
So for me, like maybe it was the personal development
I did whenever I was younger,but when I got like the this is
normal cue, I was like redalarms went off on my head.
It's like, oh well, I wanted tolive an extraordinary life, not
ordinary Ordinary.
Extraordinary means not ordinary.
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Extranormal Right Means notnormal.
So, like for me, those werelike alarm bells and I,
fortunately, as I was cominginto being me, had created this
orientation for myself to whereI had something to gauge it
against and I would be able tosay does this lead to there?
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And if it didn't, I made hugedecisions, what seemed like huge
decisions for other people,like completely abandoning a
career that I had gotten anengineering degree to do.
You know things like thatPeople just look at you like are
you insane?
Like this is crazy.
And it's like actually, myemotional guidance system is
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telling me that that's what mylife looks like.
Yeah.
And I that that is possible forme and I believe that to be
true, and my emotional guidancesystem's also like screaming at
the top of its lungs that thisis not that.
So I have to go there.
Right.
Right, and so I just feel sofortunate, honestly, to have
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created a process by which Icould gain clarity.
And back to the circle I wastrying to come into there, which
is people ask how do you goabout doing this Right?
Can I get a copy of yourdocument?
Things like that?
Well, I would say, first off,just as a likeness.
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You're not instantly alwaysamazing at creating this hyper
clarity around the life youchoose to live.
You know, you don't always justsit down and write out 23 pages
of your existence.
That's just perfect.
Sometimes you get a downloadlike that, but a lot of times
what it starts with is like whatis like a big fuzzy target, so
think like a low resolutionpicture.
You can sort of see it in thesky and you can be like, yeah,
that's kind of a target, like Isee the red rings kind of, but
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it's fuzzy, low resolution,right.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
Yeah, Kind of like a.
Wouldn't it be cool if?
Speaker 2 (24:25):
Right, exactly, but you start to just give yourself
permission to go general, begeneral around.
You know, I'd like to havefreedom.
I'd like to have time freedom.
I'd like to have enough moneyto do the things I want to do
and pay my bills.
You know what I?
Mean.
I'd like to have time with mykids, time with my family.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
I'd like to have the freedom to travel.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
I'd like to have the freedom to travel and, like you
know, you allow yourself to havethese sort of general things.
And then what starts to happenis that target starts to fill in
with clarity, because nowyou're starting to get into sort
of vibrational harmony withthat target.
And what happens is, as you getinto vibrational harmony with
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this general target, claritystarts to come in.
You start to get downloads ofwell, this is what that really
looks like, and then you startto see the resolution light up.
You start to see the ringstighten up right the focus, yeah
it starts to focus in and it'slike, oh wow, that looks really
good.
And as long as it's compelling,then you start to receive more
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clarity.
It starts to get sharper andsharper and sharper, until you
can finally look at the targetin the sky and you see this
high-resolution image of atarget with a bullseye baby.
Like that's a bullseye Boom.
You know, and it's like when youget that, I like literally get
chill bumps thinking about itbecause, like, once you have
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that bullseye and you'recommitted to being in
vibrational harmony with that inyour own mind and then making
decisions towards the bullseyeright, that's when the universe
can really wrap itself aroundyour vibration and your focus
and really start to line thingsup for you that move you closer
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and closer to the bullseye.
And when you commit to thebullseye it's, you know, if
you've ever played darts, youknow it's kind of fun.
If you've ever played a game,that you have gone around the
board and maybe you've satisfiedall the remaining pieces of the
game and you're on the finalthrows right when you're trying
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to get this.
One last thing, because I usedto play a game I think it was
called cricket but essentiallyyou would hit different places
on the dartboard and ultimatelyyou had to hit the bullseye to
complete the game Right.
And there's this cool satisfyingfeeling of you 've already
satisfied everything else.
Now I'm going for the bullseye.
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There's no other focus, there'sno other target, there's
nothing else out there, there'snothing to distract me.
I'm throwing it one thing andone thing only, and that's the
bullseye of that target rightwhen you can get into that space
and you give yourselfpermission to seek your own
bullseye to get laser focused onthat and just throw every dart
you've got at that thing, thenyou just start to pick up this
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momentum and this energy and youdon't have to ask yourself
where can I get more caffeine towake up in the morning, like
that's when you really like,start to feel jacked and do the
deal.
So anyway, I just um yeah, Ijust feel like that's sort of
the process and then we can talka little bit more about maybe a
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recommendation for someone whohas no form of a document like
this.
But you know, I just wanted toclearly state that like
expecting yourself to sit downand write everything out in
perfect clarity the first timeyou try in like 30 minutes is
not how it works.
Speaker 1 (27:54):
Right, yeah, and it's not so much about planning
every single thing along the way.
It's about getting excitedabout those big targets like you
were talking about, and thenletting the universe surprise
and delight you along the waytotally so I think some people
get it confused with feelinglike they need to have all of
life figured out totally butthat would be so lame, like if
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we came into this life and ourlife was like a movie that we
had already seen.
Wouldn't that be so ridiculous?
Speaker 2 (28:25):
Or a rollercoaster you haven't ridden.
Yeah, it's like.
No, I don't want it to looklike that, like all pre-paved,
pre-planned.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
Right, no, I want to be excited about the surprises
that come up Like.
I want to experience the funand the vigor and all of these
crazy things that came into mylife that I didn't even see
coming, like the people, thecircumstances, the events that
brought me to those incredibletargets that I was the conscious
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creator of, because I statedthem and then they happened.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (29:04):
So like the fun is on the journey on the way to those
targets.
And the same thing applies thatI said earlier like this is
like, this is really great.
Let's see how it goes.
Totally.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
And there were a lot of.
This is great for now.
Let's see how it goes on ourjourney.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
Right.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
That matched our current document at the time.
Right.
Right and that was super cooljust saying, hey, this is right
now in harmony with where wewant to be and where we want to
go.
Like, let's do this for now andsee how it goes.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
Yeah, like this feels really good right now.
Speaker 2 (29:40):
This feels really good right now.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
Let's see how it works out.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
And then if that for some reason stops feeling very
good or you've kind of milkedthe emotional juice out of that
experience a lot of times, it'sjust because it's time to move
on to another version ofyourself or a new.
There's something newpotentially in that area.
Right a new.
There's something newpotentially in that area.
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And right, I have a reallygreat friend that I was having a
conversation with on this theother day and we were talking
about the trains in japan and Iwas basically saying you know,
there's this one massive trainthat takes you super fast
between these big cities injapan.
It's called the shinkansen, andone of them will take you from
Osaka to Tokyo in like threehours.
(30:24):
You know what I mean.
Yeah.
But generally speaking, you livein an apartment over here in
Shinsaibashi or someplace in.
Osaka.
And there's generally a set oftrains that take you to the
Shinkansen.
You don't usually just walk outyour door that take you to the
Shinkansen.
You don't usually just walk outyour door and you're on the
Shinkansen.
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Those are highly desirableapartments there, but we weren't
living in that one.
So you generally have to go,like the red train will take you
to this station, where you geton the green train and that will
take you to this station andtake you to the blue train.
The blue train will take you tothis station and that station,
when you walk over here, iswhere the Shinkansen is.
So sometimes you can see theseperiods of your life and it can
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sort of feel like wow, that wasa really big period of my life.
Maybe it was an occupation thatyou had at the time, or maybe
it was a relationship that youhad at the time.
Or maybe it was a relationshipthat you had at the time, or
maybe it was a education paththat you had at the time,
whatever it was.
And you can see it kind ofcoming to the station and start
to feel that it's time to getoff the train and sometimes
(31:35):
people like latch on, like no,no, that's that's who I am.
I am the, that's what I do,that's that's what I've always
done.
I can't exit.
Speaker 1 (31:43):
If not that, then what?
Speaker 2 (31:44):
If not that, then what?
And sometimes you just have tolook at it and be like dude,
that was the red train andyou're going to have to get off
the red train to get on thegreen train that takes you to
the blue train.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
To get on the green train that takes you to the blue
train To get the more.
Speaker 2 (31:58):
That takes you to the Shinkansen, where you haul ass,
you know, from Osaka to Tokyo.
And so, like I feel, like we'vealso done that along the way
gotten comfortable with gettingoff the red train, getting onto
another train, based on how itfelt at the time and how it
oriented us to our visiondocument.
Speaker 1 (32:17):
Yeah, like our targets have changed
dramatically since we firststarted these life.
We choose documents Like onethat really sticks out is
initially for the money category, specifically we and career.
We were so focused on passiveincome.
So back then everything was howdo we make passive income?
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Because we wanted the freedomand we were on the right track,
totally on the right track.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
We thought that's what would produce freedom.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
Right.
We thought that's what wouldproduce freedom, and not just
freedom, but like satiatingfreedom.
So once we had achieved thesethree freedoms, we had achieved
time freedom, location freedomand financial freedom.
So once we had achieved thesethree freedoms we had achieved
time freedom, location freedomand financial freedom we
actually were experiencing a lotof freedom in our lives.
There was this pull for a wholenew type of income, which was
(33:10):
passion income.
Right.
And back then, when we were sofocused on passive income, what
we were excited about was theexact right thing that allowed
us to grow into the people thathad the skills to be able to
jump onto the next train to goto our passion income A hundred
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percent.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
Like I feel like it wasn't passive income that led
to the life that we wanted tolive, it was active income that
was fun to materialize, Right.
So, like you said, there weresort of like this well, we need
to make passive income.
And then that was kind of atthe point whenever I had never
(33:57):
really made very much real money, you know.
And then we stepped into likemaking decent money, like good
money.
And then it was very activeincome.
We were doing a lot, working alot focused on things moving
things forward, adding value toreal people and making active
income.
And it was like dude, I don'tneed passive income.
(34:19):
Because I thought I neededpassive income because
previously the active incomethat I was making was not fun or
satiating, and it was very muchattached to time for dollars.
Correct.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
And in our document, like wanting a family, that you
spend the majority of your timewith them while they grow up.
Speaker 2 (34:36):
that isn't congruent 100%, spend the majority of your
time with them while they growup.
That isn't congruent A hundredpercent.
So like I feel like that.
And then sometimes people fallinto that trap vibrationally
where they feel like, oh, I needpassive income because making
active income sucks.
Right.
It's like no making activeincome.
The way you've made activeincome sucks.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
Right, but there are much better ways that you could
thoroughly enjoy with yourpersonality and who you are and
the skills that you bring to theworld, and the value Absolutely
.
Speaker 2 (35:02):
And then now we've got passion income on the table,
which is not only is it activeincome, but we are doing things
that really light us up andthey're really a part of our
life calling in a way.
Speaker 1 (35:19):
Right, right.
Speaker 2 (35:19):
Like, just just like we feel like this massive energy
toward this.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
You know these new projects and things and I love
what that quote.
You said that Mark Cuban saidyou would know it better.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
Yeah, he basically said something about we were
born to create.
Yeah, he basically saidsomething about we were born to
create.
So the reason people getdepressed sometimes is because
all they're doing is consuming.
So like if you're born tocreate and all you're doing is
consuming.
Speaker 1 (35:47):
There's a greater calling inside.
Speaker 2 (35:49):
Yeah, absolutely so.
Ultimately, I think that kindof happens sometimes where
people are trying to consumetheir way into happiness, right,
kind of happens sometimes wherepeople are trying to consume
their way into happiness.
Right.
And there is no amount ofconsumption that will fill the
void of creation, right, wow so.
Speaker 1 (36:06):
So profound.
Speaker 2 (36:07):
So profound that should be like a tattoo.
Yeah, tattoo that one on.
There is no amount ofconsumption that will fill the
void of creation.
Speaker 1 (36:18):
I love it.
So if you've never doneanything like this before, if
you've never thought about whatyou would want your life to look
like, and you're a total newbieat all of this, we want to go
over how you could go aboutdoing this, and we're actually
building this at Vibration Fit.
So if this is right up youralley, then you will love
(36:40):
everything that we're going torelease this year Absolutely.
But if you're a total newbie andyou want to get started on this
track of creating the life Ichoose, we would recommend
starting with four categories.
Speaker 2 (36:53):
We call them the core four.
Speaker 1 (36:54):
The core.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
four the core four, and it's just you know, if you
can nail these, your life'sgoing to be pretty awesome.
Speaker 1 (37:03):
Exactly, and the four are so the four are body, money
, relationships and career.
So if you want to take a pieceof paper and draw a vertical
line and a horizontal line andmake four boxes and write those
four things in one box rightBody or health, the next box
(37:28):
right Money, the third one rightRelationships and the fourth
one right Career, career andthen just allow yourself
unabridged to write everything,that would be cool if you were
experiencing it in your life.
So just allow everything to flowout onto that paper.
(37:49):
That would be cool if you wereexperiencing it.
And if you're not a pen topaper type person, typing it is
awesome too.
You can just get into adocument and start just put
those four categories up andthen start typing everything
that comes out.
That feels exciting.
Speaker 2 (38:08):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (38:09):
And at first it may feel like I don't know what I
want as far as a career.
I have no idea what kind ofcareer would light me up that
vibe.
Speaker 2 (38:18):
you're going to have a big fat blank piece of paper
staring back at you.
But so what's the bridgestatement?
I've seen you use this a lotand I've actually adopted it but
there's like a bridge statementthat you use.
Speaker 1 (38:41):
Yeah, so I've actually come a long way from
not knowing anything that Iwanted and feeling totally lost
to really just like trustingthat there is a lot more to life
that's ready for me.
And the bridge statement that Iuse to get from not having any
clue to feeling like wow, thereare some things out there that
would be super exciting is Iwant to know what I want.
Totally.
So I just state to the universeI want to know what I want.
Speaker 2 (39:05):
There's a massive difference vibrationally between
that feeling of disempowermentwhich is I don't know what I
want.
And how am I ever going to getto a satiating, above the green
line life experience if I can'teven just find clarity on what I
want?
There's a massive vibrationaldifference between that and I
(39:26):
want to know what I want,because now you're at least
giving yourself permission toallow that information, yeah to
allow the universe to populatethings in your mind, right.
And then if you take that onestep further, which is, I
believe there's a portion of myconsciousness deep within that
(39:46):
has already taken all of myrequests and become a version of
me that has clarity on this,right, then you can start to
give yourself permission tobelieve in that clarity, right?
So then, whenever you say Iwant to know what I want, and I
believe there is clarity at someportion of my consciousness,
(40:09):
and now choose to allow yourselfin this moment, to begin to
receive that clarity, now you'remore in a positive expectation
state of mind where it says, hey, I want to know what I want, I
believe there is clarity outthere for me, and now I'm
(40:30):
expecting it to come in becauseI'm just inviting it in right,
then you'll start to see thattarget start to form in the sky.
Like I said, low resolution atfirst, but call that general win
a win.
Right If you can just generallystart to say, like you know what
, I'd really like to have somemore freedom around my schedule,
if that's on your list.
(40:52):
I really like to have a spousethat allows me to be me right.
Speaker 1 (40:58):
I really like to have a spouse that allows me to be
me right.
I really like to have a bodythat allows me to do these
things, like go hiking with mydog or chase after my children
or climb a mountain, whatever itis.
Speaker 2 (41:10):
I'd like to have more than enough money to pay my
bills and do the things I wantto do.
Those sound kind of simple andthey sound kind of obvious,
right, but what that does is itopens the floodgates to
possibility and future clarity.
Additional clarity, becauseonce you get into vibrational
harmony with those things, thenadditional clarity will start to
(41:34):
fill in.
Well, what does that look like?
And one thing that I've justpersonally found there are all
these exercises in the worldthat basically say we're gonna
teach you how to get to your.
Why the reason that you reallywanna do things?
We'll tell you your why yeahwe'll just go ahead and tell you
what it is Like.
The basis of life is freedom.
So I've seen all theseexercises where they'll tell you
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, like if you ask yourself whyseven times, then you get down
to the real root.
I want financial independence.
Why do you want financialindependence, Jordan?
Well, because I want my kids tohave a great life.
Speaker 1 (42:12):
Why do you want your kids to have a great life,
Jordan Over the course of thenext 500 questions we'll get to
the bottom of this Exactly andlike people go through these
exercises and some people havedecided it's okay to like stop
at seven you know, and whateveryou arrive on there is deep
enough that it will be drivingand motivating to you.
Speaker 2 (42:30):
But the basis of life is freedom.
So most of the time, whatyou'll find for the reason why
you want your body to be acertain way, or you want your
money to be a certain way, oryou want your relationship to be
a certain way, or you want yourcareer, work, business
environment to be a certain way,is because, at some level, the
basis of life is freedom.
You want to feel free to makechoices about how you live your
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life choices about how you liveyour life.
Speaker 1 (43:00):
You want to be free to experience yourself in this
life.
Experience the way that youchoose.
Speaker 2 (43:04):
Exactly, absolutely.
So if you know that the basisof life is freedom, then
ultimately you know what you'rekind of shooting for in these
areas.
That gives you a little hint oflike the type of life that you
would design in the fourcategories, like just what makes
you feel free to think about inthe moment.
And if you can get there andyou can start to hone that in,
(43:27):
then you'll have the initialbeginnings of a life compass
that will take you to more thanyou could really even imagine at
this moment.
Speaker 1 (43:38):
And then one step further past, I want to know
what I want.
After having all of themanifestational evidence over
the past decade, I've graduatedto this other phrase, which is I
know exactly what I want.
Or sometimes I say I knowexactly what to do.
Speaker 2 (43:58):
Right.
Speaker 1 (44:00):
And I use those constantly.
Every time something comes upin the business, or as a parent
or in a relationship, I just goback to that default and the
answers always come right there,I know exactly what I want.
Speaker 2 (44:15):
That is a hundred percent congruent with my idea
of there's a portion of myconsciousness that has already
chewed this up for me and knowswith clarity what I want.
So, like yours is actually moreeloquent and simple.
I know exactly what I want andif you take that like deep, then
(44:36):
I exactly what I wantessentially can mean a portion
of my consciousness does haveclarity on this.
Right, I like yours better.
I know exactly what I wantbecause now I can say that yeah
and like, if somebody's like, oh, do you?
I'm like, yeah, well, I mean,there's a portion of my
consciousness that has clarityon what I want.
So I do believe thatfundamentally.
(44:57):
Right.
Speaker 1 (44:58):
I know exactly what I want and whatever you do, that
yeah, and I believe that theexact right people,
circumstances, events are goingto flow forth and allow it to be
now.
Speaker 2 (45:10):
Exactly so.
If you can get there, thenyou're in vibrational harmony
with it and you'll start to feelthe clarity come in and you'll
be able to capture it.
And I think that's one thingthat we've done well is when
those moments of clarity wereborn within us and they actually
got to the point that they werea manifested idea, manifested
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thought inside of our head.
We captured it and we put it onpaper and that's why we have not
just one, but many, many, manyversions of the Life we Choose
document is because, as wecaptured new clarity, we would
update it and essentially put atimestamp on it, and we can go
back for years and be like, oh,look at that version of us.
Speaker 1 (45:55):
And you know weren't they cute.
Speaker 2 (45:56):
Look what they were trying to do back then.
Look at the life that they hadimagined for themselves yeah
versus now and it's so fun andsatisfying to look back at that.
So, with all of our startingkindergarten today, I really do
feel proud that we did thisprocess and we did line up with
it and we did have a north starand we did have a life we choose
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in place so that we could lookback from this moment and feel
like you know what we really didit we did it.
Speaker 1 (46:24):
We did it consciously , created our reality over and
over and over and we didn't takegood enough for good enough,
like whenever we got to pointswhere we were like you know what
I feel like I could let in evenmore passion, I could let in
even more joy or even more fun.
We did.
Speaker 2 (46:40):
Yeah, absolutely.
And all those little momentsthat we decided it would be cool
if we did this before he was inkindergarten.
I feel like we did.
Speaker 1 (46:50):
We did, we've done it , we've totally done it.
Speaker 2 (46:53):
Totally so with that.
Speaker 1 (47:07):
So with that, we'd love to send love and light to
all.
Welcome to the Vibration Fit Podcast.
I'm Vanessa.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
And I'm Jordan, and today we had a kindergarten
drop-off.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
First one ever.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
First one ever.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
Our oldest child started kindergarten today.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Today.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Oliver.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Cash Buckingham is right now currently sitting in a
kindergarten classroom.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Yep, and we're going to learn all about his day in a
few hours, but until then, We'llbe shooting this podcast, yes,
so buckle in for the next 14hours.
Where we share all of ouremotions.
That was a joke.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
There's no way this will last that long.
Oh, my goodness but seriously,you know, it did bring up
thoughts and like emotionsbecause it's like, oh wow, this
is a big moment.
Right.
And I feel like a lot of times,whenever you have moments that
you know are coming, we have atendency sometimes to do these.
(00:59):
I would like this to happenbefore that monumental time,
kind of.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Yeah, these arbitrary timestamps of wanting to have
these certain goals accomplishedby.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Totally.
And so you start to think about, like, did I accomplish some of
those things that I intended toaccomplish by this timestamp,
kind of thing?
Right, and I was thinking as Iwas dropping him off that I
didn't have like a sadness,because I really do feel that
the first six years of his lifehad very present parents in it.
(01:36):
Yeah.
I mean virtually 24 seven.
We were there and around himand giving him love and
appreciation and focused on allthe little moments of him
becoming him.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Right, yeah, and it's .
It's funny, depending on yourperspective, like how you're
looking at it, it can eitherbring you pain or pleasure, or
pain or pleasure or pain orexcitement, depending on how you
look at your kid going intoschool.
So like at first.
And there may still be dayslike this where we look at the
(02:12):
school system and we're like,all right, from this time to
this time he's going to be inschool Monday through Friday.
So part of us is like, oh man,that's like encroaching on our
freedom, like oh man, that'slike encroaching on our freedom,
like making this be our setschedule, right.
(02:33):
So whenever I started thinkingabout it that way and thinking
like, well, this is taking myson away from us and we're not
going to get to see him duringthese times, and now, like we
don't have that same freedomthat we had, where we could just
like go on a boat at noon or 10am and he didn't have anywhere
to be, like, now we have thisset schedule.
So, when I looked at it fromthat perspective, that of course
(02:54):
, brought pain where it was likewell, maybe we're making the
wrong choice, maybe we shouldn'tbe doing this.
Right.
But then when you shift theperspective into Right, but then
when you shift the perspectiveinto well, if, say, for example,
you homeschool, so you thinkabout it from that perspective,
it's like, well, if I were tohomeschool, what would that
situation look like?
Well, now I'm giving updifferent like what are the best
(03:22):
homeschooling programs?
Like, what help can I get tofacilitate some of the learning?
Because our kids don't alwayslisten to what we have to say.
They want to be the onesteaching us all the things.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Correct.
They teach us things.
We've been here slightly longerthan them, but I'm pretty sure
they've got it more figured out.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Exactly yeah, they want to be the ones like showing
us what they learned, tellingus what they learned, not us
teaching them and them notrelaying that information A
hundred percent.
So it's like by thinking aboutthe situation and I actually do
this a lot in life I let all ofthe situations kind of play
themselves out in my mind andactually like really imagine
(04:07):
what those different situationswould feel like and what my life
would be like, waking up tothat kind of life every morning.
And it is funny because,depending on the perspective
that you're holding, it can alsolike there's freedom in both,
if that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Right.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
So, like the homeschooling scenario, if you
homeschool, then like you arefree to make your own schedule,
but you don't have the samefreedom for things like we're
doing right now, if that makessense.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
Totally, and I think it brings up a really big point
in life of there's a tendency totry to line up all the
circumstances to automaticallyyield a positive feeling,
emotion.
Right.
So if I can just line up allthese circumstances in a
(05:01):
particular way and flip thefirst domino, then everything is
going to just go perfectly andI'm going to feel good right.
And no matter what scenarioyou're in, right, there's always
a choice of how you're going toperceive that scenario.
So we come to find that it'snot the circumstances that
(05:23):
surround, but more yourperspective within the
circumstances that you'resurrounded by that actually
produces the emotional response,right.
Totally.
So, ultimately, a lot of thisplay back and forth of which
circumstance or set should Ichoose to be happy sort of
disappears whenever you realizethere's freedom in all of them.
(05:45):
Right.
And there's restriction in allof them, there's joy in all of
them and there's pain in all ofthem, depending on what my
perspective is.
Right, right.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Yeah, totally, and something that has really been
giving me a lot of relief isthis statement 's this is great
for now.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Let's see how it goes yeah, I love that one because
we.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
I feel like, as humans, we we tend to like
forecast things into the futurebased on what you're currently
experiencing today's weather andthe rest of your life's weather
will be yeah, I know exactlywhat you're talking about.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
When?
Speaker 1 (06:26):
in reality, nothing in the universe is stagnant.
Everything is changingconstantly.
So it's foolish to take yourcurrent circumstances and place
them in the future and say it'sgoing to be the exact same
scenario, the exact sameeverything.
And I'm going to feel the exactsame scenario, the exact same
(06:47):
everything and I'm going to feelthe exact same way.
So I've really been living bythat mantra.
This is great for now.
Let's see how it goes.
I'm not going to make anypromises about how the next five
years, 10 years, even the nextyear is going to go.
Yeah.
Like I believe anything ispossible and I don't lock in.
Anything is absolute.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
Right, we really are more at choice in our life than
we feel like, and the morefreedom you build into your life
, the more choice you havewithin it.
And that actually kind ofbrings me to the idea that I
really wanted to capture insideof this podcast, which is how
did we get to a point that ourchild entered kindergarten and
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we really do feel like we werepresent for his first six years
of life?
I really don't feel like Imissed any of it.
I'm not looking at it with likeoh, there were so many things I
wanted to do with him before hewent into the kindergarten.
Oh, my gosh, like now that timeis gone and that opportunity
has passed and I have missed it.
You know I don't feel that wayat all, like I really feel like
(07:54):
we were highly intentional andwe did so many, even more things
than I would have imagined,like we had so many amazing
experiences, so many travelingexperiences, so many taking him
to different places in the worldfor months at a time.
You, know, sometimes like wedid the deal for real.
And.
(08:15):
I was thinking what I wanted tocapture on that is how did that
happen, like, how was it that wereached a point where, wow,
he's entering kindergarten?
I'm really happy with how hewent about the first six years
of his life, right, you know?
Speaker 1 (08:32):
Yeah Well, first off, we had a clear vision of what
we wanted our life together andour life as a family to look
like, before we even hadchildren.
Absolutely and second off werelied heavily, and still do, on
our emotional guidance systemto lead the way.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Totally.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
To the unfolding of that path.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
Yeah.
So if you look at it supersimply, if you've got clarity on
what you want your life to looklike and you've arrived at that
clarity, using the emotionalcompass within to say this is
what I think I want right now,it's what I think I want my life
to look like.
Let's feel it out.
(09:13):
How's that feel?
That definitely puts me abovethe green line whenever I go
into a virtual reality state,imagining that existence Rock on
.
That sounds cool to me.
And then, beyond just theinternal compass of what does
clarity look like, you also havethe decision compass of what
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decision to make in all thesegiven scenarios.
Because you actually have anorientation, like have you ever
seen a map that didn't have,like the North, south, east,
west symbols on it?
And it's like or maybe they werecut off, or maybe you couldn't
see them or sideways, orsideways and you're in a weird
place or you're in the middle ofa city, you're like I don't
know what's up down, left right.
(09:57):
You know sideways, right.
So if you have some sort of anorientation built in that it's
like that is north Right, thenyou can make decisions.
So if I'm trying to move fromthis point to that point and I
know that that is north of here,then I can continually adjust,
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continually pointing my waynorth, and if I have to go east
for a minute because that takesme to another road that takes me
north, then so be it.
If I have to go west for asecond to get to another road
that takes me north, that's howit is.
But at the end of the day, I'malways oriented myself back to
north.
Totally and.
I really feel like that's whathaving a clear vision for your
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life does is.
It gives you that north star tomake decisions around.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Right, that beacon of light.
I love thinking of it as thattoo.
We refer to it as a beacon oflight where that's like the
thing in the darkness that'sjust calling you and it's there
steadfast and you can clearlysee it whenever you line up with
it.
Absolutely.
But before we even had children,I remember in our initial
vision document so when we wouldsit down and we would mutually
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basically write down our goalsaround what we envisioned our
life looking like, like the mostsatiating version of our life
in our future.
What that looked like to useven back then is exactly what
we're living now.
It's so trippy Like the phraseliving the dream.
We're literally living what weonce wrote down.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
As a dream.
Speaker 1 (11:32):
As a dream, like we're doing it Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
And when we wrote that stuff down initially, the
means were not there At all.
I mean like obviously we'vestepped into the means and great
things have all.
Yeah, I mean like obviouslywe've stepped into the means and
great things have happened.
Yeah.
But, when we were writing thatdown, it looked crazy, you know.
It was like how would you everachieve this?
Really Like, how would you makethis much money, how would you
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have this much freedom, howwould you be enjoying your day
like this, how would you live ina house like that, how would
you drive a car like this?
Speaker 1 (12:05):
How would you live in a house like that?
How would you drive a car likethat?
How would you live?
Near the beach.
Like what beach are you talkingabout?
Where in the world is thisbeach that you you're talking
about?
Like white, very soft sandybeaches and like beautiful,
crystal clear blue waters.
Like, where does that exist?
Where is that?
Speaker 2 (12:20):
Yeah, we were, we're in, like San Angelo, texas,
which is like West Texas, whichis like when you hear in the
Western movies, like the, the,like some bird in the distance,
and then a tumbleweed rollacross the road.
We literally had tumbleweedsthat would roll across the road.
(12:42):
You know what I mean.
It's like the dry dry no beach,no ocean, like, so, like we're
creating this on paper in themiddle of west texas at a time,
my mom living with your mom.
We had no house, no house nomoney yeah no path really that
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would take us there.
I mean, we always had like apath that seemed like the most
logical thing to do at the timeNext step.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
But what we were doing then is not what we were
doing now.
It wasn't even on the radar,Like Buckingham Enterprises Inc.
You know, wasn't even on theradar.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Yeah.
So how are those people so boldin believing that they could
live near a beach like withbeautiful pristine white sand
and beautiful clear blue water,and live in a house that was
close to that beach and have afamily with children that not
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only me or not only just you,but both of us could be around
all the time?
Yeah.
Like oh in our minivan.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Rolling that Honda Odyssey.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
Elite baby.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
Rolling down the street in my.
Honda.
It is so awesome, yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
Like we paid cash for that baby.
Absolutely.
Parked in our driveway.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
We sure did, and we just wrote him a check Paid off
our other car it was awesome.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
Two paid off cars in our beautiful home driveway
close to the beach.
Like being as free as a bird,like free to spend as much time
with our kids as we want.
Yeah, we want Like we.
I remember specifically puttingin the vision document that
like we're there for everyspecial moment.
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Yeah, and we have been.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Yeah, we've absolutely been there and we
preemptively struck in our mindto create that scenario, and we
built it on paper way in advance.
So this all kind of comes fullcircle to how did we arrive here
?
And that is how we arrived here.
What happened was we gainedclarity, using our emotional
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guidance system to feel our wayinto what would be an
emotionally satisfying life forus, at least from the limited
perspective of our consciousmind living the life that we
were living.
We really captured what we feltwas there for us and it turned
out it was there for us.
I truly believe that there's aportion of your consciousness
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that is chewing up all of yourlife experience and it
essentially knows what anemotionally satisfying life
would look like for you,especially in the dominant areas
, and I personally believe thatit vibrationally holds that
version of you in escrow, so tospeak.
But there's an active version ofyou.
(15:38):
So escrow is not even like thebest word, really, but there's
an active version of you at alevel of your consciousness that
is that person living that lifeRight.
And so, because that exists, Ibelieve that clarity is there
for me, even if I'm not livinganything close to that which, at
the time we weren't right.
I do believe that clarity isthere for me.
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So, because I believe thatclarity was there for me, I was
able to, with you, find it,identify it, bring it into form
in the form of a literaldocument, right, and then
ultimately get to make that theNorth Star, that then we could
make decisions, constantlyasking ourselves this one
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question Does this get me closerto or further away from the
life that I choose to live?
And we literally titled thedocument the Life I Choose right
and then the life we choose.
Speaker 1 (16:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
It was the life I choose until it was the life we
choose and I had to scrap mostof the life I choose because I
mean there was stuff that madeit in that we both mutually
wanted.
But once I found you I realizedthat a lot of the stuff that I
put in the life I choose wasactually put there because I
thought it was going to berequired to find you or to get
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you.
You know what I mean.
So I was like, well, all thisstuff that I thought was going
to be necessary to get her isnow unnecessary because I've now
found her, is now unnecessarybecause I've now found her.
And it was awesome because itleft like a massive amount of
space for us to build our ownlife together.
But it brought us to thatquestion over and over again,
and I think, ultimately, yourlife is a compilation of
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thousands upon thousands uponthousands of little micro
decisions that you're making dayin and day out.
And what's going to make thenext six years any different
from the next six months of yourlife?
The big question is what isyour North Star?
What does the life that youwould choose for yourself look
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like?
An emotionally satisfying,above the green line version of
you?
What does that life look like?
So that you can ask yourselfthat question thousands upon
thousands, upon thousands oftimes and, generally speaking,
always make an appropriateanswer.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
And it's because you're oriented Right and it's
because you're oriented Right,yeah, and this document that we
go back to over and over again,it's a living, breathing,
expanding, ever-changingdocument.
Absolutely.
So it grows with you.
It changes all the time whichis good.
That's how you want it.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Absolutely, and we were actually talking about this
earlier where, in the beginningof establishing something like
this, some people will hear thiscompelling story and they'll
say something along the lines ofhow would I write one of those?
How?
Did you go about doing that.
I've actually had friends inthe past ask me for a copy of
mine, you know, and just to beable to see like what's the
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header look like.
Like what are the.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
What are you writing this thing?
Yeah, what are you writing thisthing?
What are the?
Speaker 2 (18:48):
categories that you write under.
How do you do this?
Because a lot of people havenever had some sort of a
comprehensive look at what theywould like their life to look
like.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
I feel like a lot of people just go by the mantra one
day at a time.
Speaker 2 (19:04):
Yeah, well, and I completely made this process up
for me.
I literally called it the lifeI choose.
I had never seen anything likeit.
I didn't read a book that toldme how to do it.
I didn't have some like map.
You know my alignment plan tothe life I choose.
You know I had nothing likethat to the life I choose.
(19:25):
You know I had nothing likethat.
I just knew that every ounce ofmy being said, you need to
create a North star.
You need to orient yourself tosomething so that you can feel
good about making decisionstowards something.
Otherwise, you're just driftingon a boat and what I've just
found in life personally is thatif you don't establish a life I
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choose or a life we choose,you're going to wind up with the
life they choose.
Someone else is going to change, is going to choose you.
Aspects of your being for you.
Right your employment.
Yeah, they're going to keep youon staff.
They're going to ask you whatto do, and if you love what you
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do, awesome.
If you don't, but you nevercreate a North Star for yourself
to reorient, then you neverreally have anything to compare
that to.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
Yeah, and people will tell you how it is.
They'll tell you what's normaland how it should be.
Absolutely.
And I feel like we aredefinitely outliers just the
fact that we do a process likethis.
Totally, and that we want tobuild something like this.
Yeah, it's funny that you saidthat too.
Speaker 2 (20:35):
Because I think what happens to a lot of people is
they start living life andsometimes they don't feel jacked
about what they're doing,they're not pumped.
But then they start to kind oflook around and they start to
talk to other people and be like, hey, I've started in this
career Not as jacked as Ithought I would be about it, not
really as pumped about my dayto day as I thought I would be.
(20:57):
What's that all about?
And then normal people saythat's everybody everywhere.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
You only have 30 more years, yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
I mean the thing is, why do you think they have
retirement plans?
Speaker 1 (21:11):
You know if you love what you did.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
You'd never want to get away from it.
You know it's like like so thenthey start to validate that.
That's just how that feelsright.
And they go oh okay, well, thisis normal, this is normal.
This is normal, this is normalis not the definition of awesome
.
You know what I'm saying?
Like just because, it's normalto not be jacked about what your
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day looks like does not meanthat you should allow yourself
to not be jacked about what yourday looks like.
Does not mean that you shouldallow yourself to not be jacked
about what your day looks likeyeah, like you're here living
this life.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
How do you want to live it?
How do you want to feelthroughout your day?
Absolutely throughout yourmonths, throughout your years,
like you don't want to look back30 years later and be like oh
man, I wasted away yeah, in thatoffice yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:59):
So for me, like maybe it was the personal development
I did whenever I was younger,but when I got like the this is
normal cue, I was like redalarms went off on my head.
It's like, oh well, I wanted tolive an extraordinary life, not
ordinary Ordinary.
Extraordinary means not ordinary.
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Extranormal Right Means notnormal.
So, like for me, those werelike alarm bells and I,
fortunately, as I was cominginto being me, had created this
orientation for myself to whereI had something to gauge it
against and I would be able tosay does this lead to there?
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And if it didn't, I made hugedecisions, what seemed like huge
decisions for other people,like completely abandoning a
career that I had gotten anengineering degree to do.
You know things like thatPeople just look at you like are
you insane?
Like this is crazy.
And it's like actually, myemotional guidance system is
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telling me that that's what mylife looks like.
Yeah.
And I that that is possible forme and I believe that to be
true, and my emotional guidancesystem's also like screaming at
the top of its lungs that thisis not that.
So I have to go there.
Right.
Right, and so I just feel sofortunate, honestly, to have
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created a process by which Icould gain clarity.
And back to the circle I wastrying to come into there, which
is people ask how do you goabout doing this Right?
Can I get a copy of yourdocument?
Things like that?
Well, I would say, first off,just as a likeness.
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You're not instantly alwaysamazing at creating this hyper
clarity around the life youchoose to live.
You know, you don't always justsit down and write out 23 pages
of your existence.
That's just perfect.
Sometimes you get a downloadlike that, but a lot of times
what it starts with is like whatis like a big fuzzy target, so
think like a low resolutionpicture.
You can sort of see it in thesky and you can be like, yeah,
that's kind of a target, like Isee the red rings kind of, but
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it's fuzzy, low resolution,right.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
Yeah, Kind of like a.
Wouldn't it be cool if?
Speaker 2 (24:25):
Right, exactly, but you start to just give yourself
permission to go general, begeneral around.
You know, I'd like to havefreedom.
I'd like to have time freedom.
I'd like to have enough moneyto do the things I want to do
and pay my bills.
You know what I?
Mean.
I'd like to have time with mykids, time with my family.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
I'd like to have the freedom to travel.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
I'd like to have the freedom to travel and, like you
know, you allow yourself to havethese sort of general things.
And then what starts to happenis that target starts to fill in
with clarity, because nowyou're starting to get into sort
of vibrational harmony withthat target.
And what happens is, as you getinto vibrational harmony with
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this general target, claritystarts to come in.
You start to get downloads ofwell, this is what that really
looks like, and then you startto see the resolution light up.
You start to see the ringstighten up right the focus, yeah
it starts to focus in and it'slike, oh wow, that looks really
good.
And as long as it's compelling,then you start to receive more
(25:32):
clarity.
It starts to get sharper andsharper and sharper, until you
can finally look at the targetin the sky and you see this
high-resolution image of atarget with a bullseye baby.
Like that's a bullseye Boom.
You know, and it's like when youget that, I like literally get
chill bumps thinking about itbecause, like, once you have
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that bullseye and you'recommitted to being in
vibrational harmony with that inyour own mind and then making
decisions towards the bullseyeright, that's when the universe
can really wrap itself aroundyour vibration and your focus
and really start to line thingsup for you that move you closer
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and closer to the bullseye.
And when you commit to thebullseye it's, you know, if
you've ever played darts, youknow it's kind of fun.
If you've ever played a game,that you have gone around the
board and maybe you've satisfiedall the remaining pieces of the
game and you're on the finalthrows right when you're trying
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to get this.
One last thing, because I usedto play a game I think it was
called cricket but essentiallyyou would hit different places
on the dartboard and ultimatelyyou had to hit the bullseye to
complete the game Right.
And there's this cool satisfyingfeeling of you 've already
satisfied everything else.
Now I'm going for the bullseye.
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There's no other focus, there'sno other target, there's
nothing else out there, there'snothing to distract me.
I'm throwing it one thing andone thing only, and that's the
bullseye of that target rightwhen you can get into that space
and you give yourselfpermission to seek your own
bullseye to get laser focused onthat and just throw every dart
you've got at that thing, thenyou just start to pick up this
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momentum and this energy and youdon't have to ask yourself
where can I get more caffeine towake up in the morning, like
that's when you really like,start to feel jacked and do the
deal.
So anyway, I just um yeah, Ijust feel like that's sort of
the process and then we can talka little bit more about maybe a
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recommendation for someone whohas no form of a document like
this.
But you know, I just wanted toclearly state that like
expecting yourself to sit downand write everything out in
perfect clarity the first timeyou try in like 30 minutes is
not how it works.
Speaker 1 (27:54):
Right, yeah, and it's not so much about planning
every single thing along the way.
It's about getting excitedabout those big targets like you
were talking about, and thenletting the universe surprise
and delight you along the waytotally so I think some people
get it confused with feelinglike they need to have all of
life figured out totally butthat would be so lame, like if
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we came into this life and ourlife was like a movie that we
had already seen.
Wouldn't that be so ridiculous?
Speaker 2 (28:25):
Or a rollercoaster you haven't ridden.
Yeah, it's like.
No, I don't want it to looklike that, like all pre-paved,
pre-planned.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
Right, no, I want to be excited about the surprises
that come up Like.
I want to experience the funand the vigor and all of these
crazy things that came into mylife that I didn't even see
coming, like the people, thecircumstances, the events that
brought me to those incredibletargets that I was the conscious
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creator of, because I statedthem and then they happened.
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (29:04):
So like the fun is on the journey on the way to those
targets.
And the same thing applies thatI said earlier like this is
like, this is really great.
Let's see how it goes.
Totally.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
And there were a lot of.
This is great for now.
Let's see how it goes on ourjourney.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
Right.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
That matched our current document at the time.
Right.
Right and that was super cooljust saying, hey, this is right
now in harmony with where wewant to be and where we want to
go.
Like, let's do this for now andsee how it goes.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
Yeah, like this feels really good right now.
Speaker 2 (29:40):
This feels really good right now.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
Let's see how it works out.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
And then if that for some reason stops feeling very
good or you've kind of milkedthe emotional juice out of that
experience a lot of times, it'sjust because it's time to move
on to another version ofyourself or a new.
There's something newpotentially in that area.
Right a new.
There's something newpotentially in that area.
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And right, I have a reallygreat friend that I was having a
conversation with on this theother day and we were talking
about the trains in japan and Iwas basically saying you know,
there's this one massive trainthat takes you super fast
between these big cities injapan.
It's called the shinkansen, andone of them will take you from
Osaka to Tokyo in like threehours.
(30:24):
You know what I mean.
Yeah.
But generally speaking, you livein an apartment over here in
Shinsaibashi or someplace in.
Osaka.
And there's generally a set oftrains that take you to the
Shinkansen.
You don't usually just walk outyour door that take you to the
Shinkansen.
You don't usually just walk outyour door and you're on the
Shinkansen.
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Those are highly desirableapartments there, but we weren't
living in that one.
So you generally have to go,like the red train will take you
to this station, where you geton the green train and that will
take you to this station andtake you to the blue train.
The blue train will take you tothis station and that station,
when you walk over here, iswhere the Shinkansen is.
So sometimes you can see theseperiods of your life and it can
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sort of feel like wow, that wasa really big period of my life.
Maybe it was an occupation thatyou had at the time, or maybe
it was a relationship that youhad at the time.
Or maybe it was a relationshipthat you had at the time, or
maybe it was a education paththat you had at the time,
whatever it was.
And you can see it kind ofcoming to the station and start
to feel that it's time to getoff the train and sometimes
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people like latch on, like no,no, that's that's who I am.
I am the, that's what I do,that's that's what I've always
done.
I can't exit.
Speaker 1 (31:43):
If not that, then what?
Speaker 2 (31:44):
If not that, then what?
And sometimes you just have tolook at it and be like dude,
that was the red train andyou're going to have to get off
the red train to get on thegreen train that takes you to
the blue train.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
To get on the green train that takes you to the blue
train To get the more.
Speaker 2 (31:58):
That takes you to the Shinkansen, where you haul ass,
you know, from Osaka to Tokyo.
And so, like I feel, like we'vealso done that along the way
gotten comfortable with gettingoff the red train, getting onto
another train, based on how itfelt at the time and how it
oriented us to our visiondocument.
Speaker 1 (32:17):
Yeah, like our targets have changed
dramatically since we firststarted these life.
We choose documents Like onethat really sticks out is
initially for the money category, specifically we and career.
We were so focused on passiveincome.
So back then everything was howdo we make passive income?
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Because we wanted the freedomand we were on the right track,
totally on the right track.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
We thought that's what would produce freedom.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
Right.
We thought that's what wouldproduce freedom, and not just
freedom, but like satiatingfreedom.
So once we had achieved thesethree freedoms, we had achieved
time freedom, location freedomand financial freedom.
So once we had achieved thesethree freedoms we had achieved
time freedom, location freedomand financial freedom we
actually were experiencing a lotof freedom in our lives.
There was this pull for a wholenew type of income, which was
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passion income.
Right.
And back then, when we were sofocused on passive income, what
we were excited about was theexact right thing that allowed
us to grow into the people thathad the skills to be able to
jump onto the next train to goto our passion income A hundred
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percent.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
Like I feel like it wasn't passive income that led
to the life that we wanted tolive, it was active income that
was fun to materialize, Right.
So, like you said, there weresort of like this well, we need
to make passive income.
And then that was kind of atthe point whenever I had never
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really made very much real money, you know.
And then we stepped into likemaking decent money, like good
money.
And then it was very activeincome.
We were doing a lot, working alot focused on things moving
things forward, adding value toreal people and making active
income.
And it was like dude, I don'tneed passive income.
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Because I thought I neededpassive income because
previously the active incomethat I was making was not fun or
satiating, and it was very muchattached to time for dollars.
Correct.
Speaker 1 (34:30):
And in our document, like wanting a family, that you
spend the majority of your timewith them while they grow up.
Speaker 2 (34:36):
that isn't congruent 100%, spend the majority of your
time with them while they growup.
That isn't congruent A hundredpercent.
So like I feel like that.
And then sometimes people fallinto that trap vibrationally
where they feel like, oh, I needpassive income because making
active income sucks.
Right.
It's like no making activeincome.
The way you've made activeincome sucks.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
Right, but there are much better ways that you could
thoroughly enjoy with yourpersonality and who you are and
the skills that you bring to theworld, and the value Absolutely
.
Speaker 2 (35:02):
And then now we've got passion income on the table,
which is not only is it activeincome, but we are doing things
that really light us up andthey're really a part of our
life calling in a way.
Speaker 1 (35:19):
Right, right.
Speaker 2 (35:19):
Like, just just like we feel like this massive energy
toward this.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
You know these new projects and things and I love
what that quote.
You said that Mark Cuban saidyou would know it better.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
Yeah, he basically said something about we were
born to create.
Yeah, he basically saidsomething about we were born to
create.
So the reason people getdepressed sometimes is because
all they're doing is consuming.
So like if you're born tocreate and all you're doing is
consuming.
Speaker 1 (35:47):
There's a greater calling inside.
Speaker 2 (35:49):
Yeah, absolutely so.
Ultimately, I think that kindof happens sometimes where
people are trying to consumetheir way into happiness, right,
kind of happens sometimes wherepeople are trying to consume
their way into happiness.
Right.
And there is no amount ofconsumption that will fill the
void of creation, right, wow so.
Speaker 1 (36:06):
So profound.
Speaker 2 (36:07):
So profound that should be like a tattoo.
Yeah, tattoo that one on.
There is no amount ofconsumption that will fill the
void of creation.
Speaker 1 (36:18):
I love it.
So if you've never doneanything like this before, if
you've never thought about whatyou would want your life to look
like, and you're a total newbieat all of this, we want to go
over how you could go aboutdoing this, and we're actually
building this at Vibration Fit.
So if this is right up youralley, then you will love
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everything that we're going torelease this year Absolutely.
But if you're a total newbie andyou want to get started on this
track of creating the life Ichoose, we would recommend
starting with four categories.
Speaker 2 (36:53):
We call them the core four.
Speaker 1 (36:54):
The core.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
four the core four, and it's just you know, if you
can nail these, your life'sgoing to be pretty awesome.
Speaker 1 (37:03):
Exactly, and the four are so the four are body, money
, relationships and career.
So if you want to take a pieceof paper and draw a vertical
line and a horizontal line andmake four boxes and write those
four things in one box rightBody or health, the next box
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right Money, the third one rightRelationships and the fourth
one right Career, career andthen just allow yourself
unabridged to write everything,that would be cool if you were
experiencing it in your life.
So just allow everything to flowout onto that paper.
(37:49):
That would be cool if you wereexperiencing it.
And if you're not a pen topaper type person, typing it is
awesome too.
You can just get into adocument and start just put
those four categories up andthen start typing everything
that comes out.
That feels exciting.
Speaker 2 (38:08):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (38:09):
And at first it may feel like I don't know what I
want as far as a career.
I have no idea what kind ofcareer would light me up that
vibe.
Speaker 2 (38:18):
you're going to have a big fat blank piece of paper
staring back at you.
But so what's the bridgestatement?
I've seen you use this a lotand I've actually adopted it but
there's like a bridge statementthat you use.
Speaker 1 (38:41):
Yeah, so I've actually come a long way from
not knowing anything that Iwanted and feeling totally lost
to really just like trustingthat there is a lot more to life
that's ready for me.
And the bridge statement that Iuse to get from not having any
clue to feeling like wow, thereare some things out there that
would be super exciting is Iwant to know what I want.
Totally.
So I just state to the universeI want to know what I want.
Speaker 2 (39:05):
There's a massive difference vibrationally between
that feeling of disempowermentwhich is I don't know what I
want.
And how am I ever going to getto a satiating, above the green
line life experience if I can'teven just find clarity on what I
want?
There's a massive vibrationaldifference between that and I
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want to know what I want,because now you're at least
giving yourself permission toallow that information, yeah to
allow the universe to populatethings in your mind, right.
And then if you take that onestep further, which is, I
believe there's a portion of myconsciousness deep within that
(39:46):
has already taken all of myrequests and become a version of
me that has clarity on this,right, then you can start to
give yourself permission tobelieve in that clarity, right?
So then, whenever you say Iwant to know what I want, and I
believe there is clarity at someportion of my consciousness,
(40:09):
and now choose to allow yourselfin this moment, to begin to
receive that clarity, now you'remore in a positive expectation
state of mind where it says, hey, I want to know what I want, I
believe there is clarity outthere for me, and now I'm
(40:30):
expecting it to come in becauseI'm just inviting it in right,
then you'll start to see thattarget start to form in the sky.
Like I said, low resolution atfirst, but call that general win
a win.
Right If you can just generallystart to say, like you know what
, I'd really like to have somemore freedom around my schedule,
if that's on your list.
(40:52):
I really like to have a spousethat allows me to be me right.
Speaker 1 (40:58):
I really like to have a spouse that allows me to be
me right.
I really like to have a bodythat allows me to do these
things, like go hiking with mydog or chase after my children
or climb a mountain, whatever itis.
Speaker 2 (41:10):
I'd like to have more than enough money to pay my
bills and do the things I wantto do.
Those sound kind of simple andthey sound kind of obvious,
right, but what that does is itopens the floodgates to
possibility and future clarity.
Additional clarity, becauseonce you get into vibrational
harmony with those things, thenadditional clarity will start to
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fill in.
Well, what does that look like?
And one thing that I've justpersonally found there are all
these exercises in the worldthat basically say we're gonna
teach you how to get to your.
Why the reason that you reallywanna do things?
We'll tell you your why yeahwe'll just go ahead and tell you
what it is Like.
The basis of life is freedom.
So I've seen all theseexercises where they'll tell you
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, like if you ask yourself whyseven times, then you get down
to the real root.
I want financial independence.
Why do you want financialindependence, Jordan?
Well, because I want my kids tohave a great life.
Speaker 1 (42:12):
Why do you want your kids to have a great life,
Jordan Over the course of thenext 500 questions we'll get to
the bottom of this Exactly andlike people go through these
exercises and some people havedecided it's okay to like stop
at seven you know, and whateveryou arrive on there is deep
enough that it will be drivingand motivating to you.
Speaker 2 (42:30):
But the basis of life is freedom.
So most of the time, whatyou'll find for the reason why
you want your body to be acertain way, or you want your
money to be a certain way, oryou want your relationship to be
a certain way, or you want yourcareer, work, business
environment to be a certain way,is because, at some level, the
basis of life is freedom.
You want to feel free to makechoices about how you live your
(42:55):
life choices about how you liveyour life.
Speaker 1 (43:00):
You want to be free to experience yourself in this
life.
Experience the way that youchoose.
Speaker 2 (43:04):
Exactly, absolutely.
So if you know that the basisof life is freedom, then
ultimately you know what you'rekind of shooting for in these
areas.
That gives you a little hint oflike the type of life that you
would design in the fourcategories, like just what makes
you feel free to think about inthe moment.
And if you can get there andyou can start to hone that in,
(43:27):
then you'll have the initialbeginnings of a life compass
that will take you to more thanyou could really even imagine at
this moment.
Speaker 1 (43:38):
And then one step further past, I want to know
what I want.
After having all of themanifestational evidence over
the past decade, I've graduatedto this other phrase, which is I
know exactly what I want.
Or sometimes I say I knowexactly what to do.
Speaker 2 (43:58):
Right.
Speaker 1 (44:00):
And I use those constantly.
Every time something comes upin the business, or as a parent
or in a relationship, I just goback to that default and the
answers always come right there,I know exactly what I want.
Speaker 2 (44:15):
That is a hundred percent congruent with my idea
of there's a portion of myconsciousness that has already
chewed this up for me and knowswith clarity what I want.
So, like yours is actually moreeloquent and simple.
I know exactly what I want andif you take that like deep, then
(44:36):
I exactly what I wantessentially can mean a portion
of my consciousness does haveclarity on this.
Right, I like yours better.
I know exactly what I wantbecause now I can say that yeah
and like, if somebody's like, oh, do you?
I'm like, yeah, well, I mean,there's a portion of my
consciousness that has clarityon what I want.
So I do believe thatfundamentally.
(44:57):
Right.
Speaker 1 (44:58):
I know exactly what I want and whatever you do, that
yeah, and I believe that theexact right people,
circumstances, events are goingto flow forth and allow it to be
now.
Speaker 2 (45:10):
Exactly so.
If you can get there, thenyou're in vibrational harmony
with it and you'll start to feelthe clarity come in and you'll
be able to capture it.
And I think that's one thingthat we've done well is when
those moments of clarity wereborn within us and they actually
got to the point that they werea manifested idea, manifested
(45:31):
thought inside of our head.
We captured it and we put it onpaper and that's why we have not
just one, but many, many, manyversions of the Life we Choose
document is because, as wecaptured new clarity, we would
update it and essentially put atimestamp on it, and we can go
back for years and be like, oh,look at that version of us.
Speaker 1 (45:55):
And you know weren't they cute.
Speaker 2 (45:56):
Look what they were trying to do back then.
Look at the life that they hadimagined for themselves yeah
versus now and it's so fun andsatisfying to look back at that.
So, with all of our startingkindergarten today, I really do
feel proud that we did thisprocess and we did line up with
it and we did have a north starand we did have a life we choose
(46:16):
in place so that we could lookback from this moment and feel
like you know what we really didit we did it.
Speaker 1 (46:24):
We did it consciously , created our reality over and
over and over and we didn't takegood enough for good enough,
like whenever we got to pointswhere we were like you know what
I feel like I could let in evenmore passion, I could let in
even more joy or even more fun.
We did.
Speaker 2 (46:40):
Yeah, absolutely.
And all those little momentsthat we decided it would be cool
if we did this before he was inkindergarten.
I feel like we did.
Speaker 1 (46:50):
We did, we've done it , we've totally done it.
Speaker 2 (46:53):
Totally so with that.
Speaker 1 (47:07):
So with that, we'd love to send love and light to
all.
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