November 17, 2025 • 15 mins
Are you letting your phone, your playlists, and your media diet dictate your creative output? In the second part of our series, In part 2 of a 3 part series, host Jazzmyn dives deep into consumption—and how being intentional about what you let into your orbit is the non-negotiable step to maintaining your creative space.
From swapping true crime podcasts for inspiring pop music to trading self-help books for classic literature, this episode challenges the beige aesthetics and serious personas that are stifling fun and authenticity in the content space. More than just avoiding doom scrolling, Jazzmyn reveals how simply putting your phone down can lead to the most meaningful, influential, and content-worthy (but not-for-content) moments of your life. It’s time to stop chasing trends and start living, so you can show up as your authentic self.
In this episode, get your Permission Slip to:
- Consume More of What You Love: Stop censoring your influences and lean into the media, music, and conversations that genuinely spark joy and fun.
- Be a Human First, a Creator Second: Realize that not every moment needs to be content and that being present is the ultimate fuel for your creative process.
- Nurture Your Creative Space: Understand that creativity doesn't bloom from stagnant water; it requires thoughtful, intentional nourishment and fierce protection.
Want to learn how to turn your inner life into visible influence? Tune in and start setting a higher standard for your creative consumption.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:04):
Are you sitting with thousands of hours of B-roll
content and telling yourself,I'll start posting tomorrow?
Are you in your head worriedabout your friends and family
thinking you're cringe forchoosing to be visible?
Are you chasing trends insteadof building influence?
Welcome to the visibilitystandard where the visionaries
of today are changing the rolesof their industries and letting
(00:25):
their voice be heard.
I'm your host, Jasmine, and weare setting the standard.
Welcome back, everybody.
Today is the second part of athree-part series called The
Unseen Architecture, Visibility,Maintaining Your Creative Space.
Last week we talked aboutrelationships, and today we are
(00:48):
going to be talking aboutconsumption.
What you are consuming, howthoughtful you can be about your
consumption, and honestly,putting your fucking phone down
is one of the best things youcan do for your creativity.
I am someone that has gottenreally present with their
creativity and consumption overthe last, I would say, six
(01:10):
months.
I recognize everything that Iallowed into my creative orbit,
my mind, like my thoughts,ideas, was informing my
creativity and how I wouldcreate.
(01:40):
Consumption can also be the kindof music that you're listening
to, the TV shows that you'rewatching, the podcasts that
you're listening to.
For all of my true crime girlieswho love a good murder mystery,
how is that going for yourcreativity?
Is that really the energy youwant to be inviting into your
(02:04):
creativity?
I am clearly not a true crimegirly.
Like I don't enjoy that genre.
If it works for you, it worksfor you.
Does not work for me.
One piece of consumption that Igot really present with was the
music that I was listening to.
When I would walk my dog in themorning, I started choosing
(02:27):
artists that really inspired me.
I've said this before, but I ama huge fan of Lady Gaga.
I was a huge fan of the JustDance era, Fame Monster era.
And so I started walking,listening to her earlier albums.
And let me tell you, I felt moreenergized.
(02:48):
I felt more motivated.
I felt more excited because Ifelt the creativity buzzing in
the music.
I also really started listeningto early Britney Spears albums.
Not like her 90s, oops, I did itagain era, but I love I Wanna
Go.
Three, like the veryexperimental pop era.
(03:11):
I think that's why I am a reallybig pop girly.
I love Charlie XCX.
I love Chapel Roan, SabrinaCarpenter, because there is
something so fun about theirmusic.
And that is a key piece of whatI believe is missing in the
content space right now is fun.
(03:32):
We are all trying to show upvery serious, very put together.
Like we believe our ideal clientwants us to show up this prim
and polished way.
When a lot of people really justwant us to show up as ourselves,
I think that the artists that Ijust named, they do that really
(03:53):
well.
Granted, that is their publicprofessional persona that they
have chosen, but they arechoosing to incorporate fun.
They are choosing to incorporatecolor.
I think we have also gottenreally used to the beige
aesthetic, whether it's in ourhome, whether it's in like our
carousel design choice that wehave allowed for ourselves.
(04:19):
We we have taken fun out ofcreativity, but that's because
we are consuming so much andwhat we consume, we believe
other people want to see, andthat's what we put out there.
Even in the books that I read, Idon't like typically read a lot
of self-help books.
I have never been a hugeself-help girly.
(04:42):
The book that I'm reading rightnow is House of Mirth by Edith
Wharton.
If you have not heard about it,that makes sense.
I learned about it in one of myEnglish classes in undergrad
because I was an English major.
I believe it was in like myAmerican literature one course,
and this was 1800s literature,1900s.
(05:06):
But there is something soenamoring when books were
written without the possibilityof a visual, without the
possibility of a TV show or amovie.
The writing is curated where youare like immersed in the story.
(05:27):
And so I've really been enjoyingit as my escape reading.
I'm I'm trying to get back intolike Kate Chopin, Flannery
O'Connor, a lot of the earlyliterature that I learned about.
I don't know.
It feels the most influentialwithout being the most
influential.
(05:48):
And I don't really know how todescribe that.
I know that literature wascreated for a very specific
time, but it's not writing thatyou see anymore simply because
dialects have evolved, languagehas evolved, what people choose
to read has evolved and howpeople write.
(06:08):
But there is something sobeautiful about immersing myself
in like early Americanliterature.
I really enjoy it.
Even the TV shows that I watch.
I just finished Downton Abbey.
Something about not beingpresent with the modern world
really sparked like creativity.
(06:37):
That is a personal choicebecause I love to cook.
Also, it is another way for meto stimulate my creative process
as a creator who makes apodcast, who makes short form
content, and who loves to cook.
Cooking is like the naturalextension of my creativity.
(07:03):
What I'm basically trying to sayis through all of these avenues,
we think about social media alot, but we don't think about
the other ways that we can beinfluenced by our creativity,
the books that we read, thepodcasts we consume, the music
that we listen to, theconversations that we have.
(07:24):
And so as you are thinking aboutbeing intentional, about your
creativity, about maintainingthat creative space, it's in
everything.
I'm not saying you can't havethose comfort shows.
Like, I also love reality TV.
(07:44):
Does it spark creativity?
No.
Are we expected to be constantlybeing in a space where we are
cultivating our creativitythrough media?
No.
But I will ask the question (07:56):
how dedicated to maintaining your
creative bubble are you?
How dedicated are you to yourpurpose?
How dedicated are you tocreating the content that feels
aligned to truly show upauthentically?
Based on those questions, willdetermine how thoughtful you are
(08:21):
willing to be in yourconsumption.
And part of thoughtfulconsumption is knowing when to
put your fucking phone down.
Some of my most influentialexperiences have been because I
put my phone down.
A few years ago, I went to thebeach.
I was crashing out hard.
(08:45):
And I went and stayed at one ofthose really quirky hotels.
It was right by the water.
It was really cheap.
At that point, I didn't care.
I just wanted to be by thewater.
It was one of those places whereyou like can pay to take a
shower there.
And it was not like a fancy likefob or even like a key card.
(09:06):
Like I use traditional key andlock.
That's what we're talking aboutright now.
But this place had stackedparking, and so someone could
park beside you, someone couldpark behind you.
It was going to be really toughto get out.
So when I was checking out, Iliterally got stuck in my
(09:29):
parking spot for maybe an hour.
So a woman that was staying inthe same hotel with me was also
like really struggling.
So she came downstairs, sat withme, I told her I was waiting on
my parking spot, and we justtalked.
She let me know what was goingon in her life.
She spilled information aboutsome challenges she was having
(09:53):
with parenting and how she feelsas a parent.
And she recognized like thesadness that was in my eyes.
She recognized I was just reallystruggling.
And she said to me, You don'tknow how good your life is going
to get on the other side.
(10:13):
And I have sat with those wordssix years giving that presence
to her, to us, and not being onmy phone, not having my
headphones in, and having thisvery organic conversation with
the complete stranger.
I didn't really get her name.
(10:35):
We didn't get exchange numbers.
Like there was no expectation tostay in contact, but for this
one moment, this one divinemoment, I was able to share in
presence with this person andreally support one another.
And that is the beauty of notbeing behind your fucking phone
(10:57):
all the time.
Like part of creating is puttingyourself out there, is putting
yourself in experiences.
Everything doesn't have to becontent.
Granted, when I did this, it wasmaybe when content, like content
wasn't on my radar, but even nowI would not have thought to
(11:20):
create content based on thatmoment or feel the need to
create a content-worthy moment.
We're so worried about gettingthis viral moment that we
stopped living.
We stopped being present in ourlives because we're so focused
on filming, and that's reallyremoving us from our creativity.
(11:42):
Now, yes, there are creators,and there's a way that you can
document your day-to-day, butyou also have to give yourself
permission to just live yourlife.
Recently, I was feeling reallyburnt out with work, and I was
really confused because I wasdoing things that I was
enjoying.
(12:03):
I was taking quote unquote timefor myself.
I realized I needed to take moreopportunities to get the fuck
out of my house.
I needed to be out in the world,living my life, being present,
going to the park, going to getmy nails done, something that
(12:23):
would offer something differentthan being in front of my
screen.
I realized that me sitting in myhouse, being so enamored with
what was going on on thecomputer, constantly sitting and
waiting for emails was taking meaway from my creative orbit.
When we think about consumption,it is not just consuming less of
(12:48):
what we don't like, it isconsuming more of what we do,
consuming the real world,allowing ourselves to experience
and be present the kind of musicthat we like, the kind of
podcasts that we like, the kindof books that we're reading,
allowing very human emotions tomove what we choose to create.
(13:12):
When we become so present andlocked in on our creative
process, there is really nothingthat can stop us.
Yes, we might have that cringefear or the fear that, oh, this
is really stepping outside of myniche, or how are other
professionals and my field gonnalook at this?
(13:32):
It doesn't matter.
It doesn't matter what theythink.
You are looking for your idealclient, you are looking for your
ideal people, and your idealpeople are going to value your
authenticity more than anything.
As we are rounding out the year,I want you to really sit down
(13:53):
and think about how consumptionis impacting your creativity and
how you can be more intentionalabout it going forward.
Getting clear about the creativespace that you want to be in and
adding the things that add tothat and taking the way the
things that don't are going tobe really valuable.
(14:16):
Even as I'm sitting down havingthis conversation right now, I'm
thinking about different waysthat I can continue to nurture
my creative space.
Your creative space is somethingthat needs to be nurtured, it is
not something that comesnaturally, and it's not
something that will bloom fromstagnance.
(14:39):
It is something that needs to benurtured and catered to and
protected.
It's a pretty short one today,but that's what I've got for
you.
When we think about consumption,it's not just about avoiding the
doom scrolling, it's not justabout blocking creators that
elicit negative feelings.
It's uh creating more space forcreators that make you feel
(15:05):
good, creating more space inyour life for the things that
absolutely make you feel good,and leaning into that and being
more present with that, andgiving yourself permission to
constantly be immersed with thatand not needing to waver.
We'll love to hear your thoughtson this.
You can find me at Healing withJasmine on all major socials.
(15:28):
It's also my website handle.
If anyone looking for atherapist or different ways to
work with me, you can find me athealingwithjasmine.com.
Otherwise, I'll see you Fridayand thanks for tuning in.
Are you sitting with thousands of hours of B-roll
content and telling yourself,I'll start posting tomorrow?
Are you in your head worriedabout your friends and family
thinking you're cringe forchoosing to be visible?
Are you chasing trends insteadof building influence?
Welcome to the visibilitystandard where the visionaries
of today are changing the rolesof their industries and letting
(00:25):
their voice be heard.
I'm your host, Jasmine, and weare setting the standard.
Welcome back, everybody.
Today is the second part of athree-part series called The
Unseen Architecture, Visibility,Maintaining Your Creative Space.
Last week we talked aboutrelationships, and today we are
(00:48):
going to be talking aboutconsumption.
What you are consuming, howthoughtful you can be about your
consumption, and honestly,putting your fucking phone down
is one of the best things youcan do for your creativity.
I am someone that has gottenreally present with their
creativity and consumption overthe last, I would say, six
(01:10):
months.
I recognize everything that Iallowed into my creative orbit,
my mind, like my thoughts,ideas, was informing my
creativity and how I wouldcreate.
(01:40):
Consumption can also be the kindof music that you're listening
to, the TV shows that you'rewatching, the podcasts that
you're listening to.
For all of my true crime girlieswho love a good murder mystery,
how is that going for yourcreativity?
Is that really the energy youwant to be inviting into your
(02:04):
creativity?
I am clearly not a true crimegirly.
Like I don't enjoy that genre.
If it works for you, it worksfor you.
Does not work for me.
One piece of consumption that Igot really present with was the
music that I was listening to.
When I would walk my dog in themorning, I started choosing
(02:27):
artists that really inspired me.
I've said this before, but I ama huge fan of Lady Gaga.
I was a huge fan of the JustDance era, Fame Monster era.
And so I started walking,listening to her earlier albums.
And let me tell you, I felt moreenergized.
(02:48):
I felt more motivated.
I felt more excited because Ifelt the creativity buzzing in
the music.
I also really started listeningto early Britney Spears albums.
Not like her 90s, oops, I did itagain era, but I love I Wanna
Go.
Three, like the veryexperimental pop era.
(03:11):
I think that's why I am a reallybig pop girly.
I love Charlie XCX.
I love Chapel Roan, SabrinaCarpenter, because there is
something so fun about theirmusic.
And that is a key piece of whatI believe is missing in the
content space right now is fun.
(03:32):
We are all trying to show upvery serious, very put together.
Like we believe our ideal clientwants us to show up this prim
and polished way.
When a lot of people really justwant us to show up as ourselves,
I think that the artists that Ijust named, they do that really
(03:53):
well.
Granted, that is their publicprofessional persona that they
have chosen, but they arechoosing to incorporate fun.
They are choosing to incorporatecolor.
I think we have also gottenreally used to the beige
aesthetic, whether it's in ourhome, whether it's in like our
carousel design choice that wehave allowed for ourselves.
(04:19):
We we have taken fun out ofcreativity, but that's because
we are consuming so much andwhat we consume, we believe
other people want to see, andthat's what we put out there.
Even in the books that I read, Idon't like typically read a lot
of self-help books.
I have never been a hugeself-help girly.
(04:42):
The book that I'm reading rightnow is House of Mirth by Edith
Wharton.
If you have not heard about it,that makes sense.
I learned about it in one of myEnglish classes in undergrad
because I was an English major.
I believe it was in like myAmerican literature one course,
and this was 1800s literature,1900s.
(05:06):
But there is something soenamoring when books were
written without the possibilityof a visual, without the
possibility of a TV show or amovie.
The writing is curated where youare like immersed in the story.
(05:27):
And so I've really been enjoyingit as my escape reading.
I'm I'm trying to get back intolike Kate Chopin, Flannery
O'Connor, a lot of the earlyliterature that I learned about.
I don't know.
It feels the most influentialwithout being the most
influential.
(05:48):
And I don't really know how todescribe that.
I know that literature wascreated for a very specific
time, but it's not writing thatyou see anymore simply because
dialects have evolved, languagehas evolved, what people choose
to read has evolved and howpeople write.
(06:08):
But there is something sobeautiful about immersing myself
in like early Americanliterature.
I really enjoy it.
Even the TV shows that I watch.
I just finished Downton Abbey.
Something about not beingpresent with the modern world
really sparked like creativity.
(06:37):
That is a personal choicebecause I love to cook.
Also, it is another way for meto stimulate my creative process
as a creator who makes apodcast, who makes short form
content, and who loves to cook.
Cooking is like the naturalextension of my creativity.
(07:03):
What I'm basically trying to sayis through all of these avenues,
we think about social media alot, but we don't think about
the other ways that we can beinfluenced by our creativity,
the books that we read, thepodcasts we consume, the music
that we listen to, theconversations that we have.
(07:24):
And so as you are thinking aboutbeing intentional, about your
creativity, about maintainingthat creative space, it's in
everything.
I'm not saying you can't havethose comfort shows.
Like, I also love reality TV.
(07:44):
Does it spark creativity?
No.
Are we expected to be constantlybeing in a space where we are
cultivating our creativitythrough media?
No.
But I will ask the question (07:56):
how dedicated to maintaining your
creative bubble are you?
How dedicated are you to yourpurpose?
How dedicated are you tocreating the content that feels
aligned to truly show upauthentically?
Based on those questions, willdetermine how thoughtful you are
(08:21):
willing to be in yourconsumption.
And part of thoughtfulconsumption is knowing when to
put your fucking phone down.
Some of my most influentialexperiences have been because I
put my phone down.
A few years ago, I went to thebeach.
I was crashing out hard.
(08:45):
And I went and stayed at one ofthose really quirky hotels.
It was right by the water.
It was really cheap.
At that point, I didn't care.
I just wanted to be by thewater.
It was one of those places whereyou like can pay to take a
shower there.
And it was not like a fancy likefob or even like a key card.
(09:06):
Like I use traditional key andlock.
That's what we're talking aboutright now.
But this place had stackedparking, and so someone could
park beside you, someone couldpark behind you.
It was going to be really toughto get out.
So when I was checking out, Iliterally got stuck in my
(09:29):
parking spot for maybe an hour.
So a woman that was staying inthe same hotel with me was also
like really struggling.
So she came downstairs, sat withme, I told her I was waiting on
my parking spot, and we justtalked.
She let me know what was goingon in her life.
She spilled information aboutsome challenges she was having
(09:53):
with parenting and how she feelsas a parent.
And she recognized like thesadness that was in my eyes.
She recognized I was just reallystruggling.
And she said to me, You don'tknow how good your life is going
to get on the other side.
(10:13):
And I have sat with those wordssix years giving that presence
to her, to us, and not being onmy phone, not having my
headphones in, and having thisvery organic conversation with
the complete stranger.
I didn't really get her name.
(10:35):
We didn't get exchange numbers.
Like there was no expectation tostay in contact, but for this
one moment, this one divinemoment, I was able to share in
presence with this person andreally support one another.
And that is the beauty of notbeing behind your fucking phone
(10:57):
all the time.
Like part of creating is puttingyourself out there, is putting
yourself in experiences.
Everything doesn't have to becontent.
Granted, when I did this, it wasmaybe when content, like content
wasn't on my radar, but even nowI would not have thought to
(11:20):
create content based on thatmoment or feel the need to
create a content-worthy moment.
We're so worried about gettingthis viral moment that we
stopped living.
We stopped being present in ourlives because we're so focused
on filming, and that's reallyremoving us from our creativity.
(11:42):
Now, yes, there are creators,and there's a way that you can
document your day-to-day, butyou also have to give yourself
permission to just live yourlife.
Recently, I was feeling reallyburnt out with work, and I was
really confused because I wasdoing things that I was
enjoying.
(12:03):
I was taking quote unquote timefor myself.
I realized I needed to take moreopportunities to get the fuck
out of my house.
I needed to be out in the world,living my life, being present,
going to the park, going to getmy nails done, something that
(12:23):
would offer something differentthan being in front of my
screen.
I realized that me sitting in myhouse, being so enamored with
what was going on on thecomputer, constantly sitting and
waiting for emails was taking meaway from my creative orbit.
When we think about consumption,it is not just consuming less of
(12:48):
what we don't like, it isconsuming more of what we do,
consuming the real world,allowing ourselves to experience
and be present the kind of musicthat we like, the kind of
podcasts that we like, the kindof books that we're reading,
allowing very human emotions tomove what we choose to create.
(13:12):
When we become so present andlocked in on our creative
process, there is really nothingthat can stop us.
Yes, we might have that cringefear or the fear that, oh, this
is really stepping outside of myniche, or how are other
professionals and my field gonnalook at this?
(13:32):
It doesn't matter.
It doesn't matter what theythink.
You are looking for your idealclient, you are looking for your
ideal people, and your idealpeople are going to value your
authenticity more than anything.
As we are rounding out the year,I want you to really sit down
(13:53):
and think about how consumptionis impacting your creativity and
how you can be more intentionalabout it going forward.
Getting clear about the creativespace that you want to be in and
adding the things that add tothat and taking the way the
things that don't are going tobe really valuable.
(14:16):
Even as I'm sitting down havingthis conversation right now, I'm
thinking about different waysthat I can continue to nurture
my creative space.
Your creative space is somethingthat needs to be nurtured, it is
not something that comesnaturally, and it's not
something that will bloom fromstagnance.
(14:39):
It is something that needs to benurtured and catered to and
protected.
It's a pretty short one today,but that's what I've got for
you.
When we think about consumption,it's not just about avoiding the
doom scrolling, it's not justabout blocking creators that
elicit negative feelings.
It's uh creating more space forcreators that make you feel
(15:05):
good, creating more space inyour life for the things that
absolutely make you feel good,and leaning into that and being
more present with that, andgiving yourself permission to
constantly be immersed with thatand not needing to waver.
We'll love to hear your thoughtson this.
You can find me at Healing withJasmine on all major socials.
(15:28):
It's also my website handle.
If anyone looking for atherapist or different ways to
work with me, you can find me athealingwithjasmine.com.
Otherwise, I'll see you Fridayand thanks for tuning in.
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