December 15, 2025 • 20 mins
What happens when the very thing you’ve been working toward finally starts unfolding—and instead of confidence, you feel anxiety, resistance, and fear?
In this vulnerable solo episode, Jazzmyn pulls back the curtain on what it actually looks like to build capacity for more in real time. Not the polished version. Not the “I’ve already figured it out” version. The honest one.
We talk about:
- The anxiety that comes with expansion
- Why fear often shows up right before growth
- Letting resistance exist without letting it run your life
- Imposter syndrome, old messages, and who they really belong to
- The nervous system work required to receive what you’ve been asking for
- Trusting yourself after betrayal, burnout, or career pivots
- Why excitement and fear often feel the same in the body
This episode is for the person who knows they’re being called into a new season—more visibility, more responsibility, more alignment—but feels terrified they might drop the ball or lose it all.
You’re not failing.
You’re not broken.
You’re expanding.
Fear doesn’t mean stop. Sometimes it means you’re finally doing the thing.
If this episode resonates, reach out or share your thoughts at @healingwithjazzmyn. And as always—remember: visibility is the standard.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:03):
I want everyone to take a deep breath with me.
Because this one's gonna be apretty vulnerable one.
I am sitting with something onmy heart right now, in my mind,
and I'm filming it withoutallowing a lot of processing
time.
(00:23):
Because something that I admireso much about my guests is that
they have shown up, shared theirstory, shared their
vulnerability, and that issomething that I am building up
to.
And so I want to stay true to mybrand, my what like what I'm
(00:45):
building, and I also want toparticipate in that too.
I feel like it's only right.
We so often in the businessspace talk about building your
capacity for more, building yournervous system up to take on
(01:05):
more, to receive more.
And what we don't always talkabout is the anxiety that comes
with recognizing that you aretaking on more, that your time
is looking very different.
You don't necessarily not havethe capacity to take it on, but
(01:31):
you don't know what it lookslike to have this in your life,
and it feels really scary.
And that's honestly the placethat I am in right now.
Like as I'm talking to you aboutthis, I have this huge pit in my
chest.
I feel so anxious.
I've been feeling anxious forthe last couple of weeks for
(01:52):
multiple reasons, but I dobelieve that one of those
reasons is I am truly buildingmy capacity for more.
I've been seeing videos aboutthe double-edged sword that
comes with desiring work-lifebalance and how like to reach a
(02:13):
certain level of success.
There is no such thing aswork-life balance.
It's just leaning into thethings that you value and
recognizing there is a seasonthat is going to call for more
work, more commitment tobusiness opportunities, and
other times you have more of aseason where you're committed to
(02:36):
rest and resetting and growth.
I have been in that season.
Partially, I was forced intothat season of resetting,
realigning, needing to reallyslow down.
And as I've been in that slowerseason, the vision of what I
believe is meant to unfold isunfolding.
(03:00):
And I am being called to takeaction on those things.
I am being called to commit, tobuild, and to be very active in
the process of what I'mcreating.
Like we're no longer in thebrainstorming section of this
(03:21):
mission.
We are in, Jasmine.
You need to get off your ass.
You need to get up.
You're gonna be busier, you'reyou're gonna feel maxed out at
times, but it is time.
You are good, it's time to getup.
You can do it, you have thesupport, you have the
(03:42):
capability.
And I say that, and I honestlydon't believe that.
I and that's where like impostersyndrome comes in, is I why me?
Like I don't feel capable, I'mnot feeling super confident that
I can do it.
(04:04):
And then I remind myself thatthe same person that has gotten
me to this point is going tocarry me into every other season
of life, and that gets to be sogrounding and that gets to be so
healing, and I can feel sofreaking anxious that I'm going
(04:28):
to fuck it up.
That me in all my shenaniganssometimes, and my in a version
of myself that I sometimes seemyself in cannot hold it, does
not have the discipline, thewillpower to hold it, and
(04:48):
therefore it is going tocrumble, and I am going to be
devastated.
Like that, I think part of it,that anxiety is the
responsibility too.
I love creating.
I uh working with clients isstarting to evolve for me as
(05:09):
well.
It is growing, podcasting isgrowing, my inbox is growing,
and I am immensely grateful, andso I really try to be thoughtful
about the language that I use,the how I think about how I
manifest because I do manifestpretty quickly.
(05:31):
I've learned that, I am learningthat, and so I like to be really
conscientious in what I'mspeaking out into the world.
And I want to be supertransparent because I imagine
there are a lot of you that arealso in this space where you're
like, oh my gosh, the thing thatI've always been working towards
(05:52):
is growing, it's evolving, it'sshifting in a way that I didn't
expect it to shift.
And I don't know if I can do it.
I don't know if I have thecapacity to take this on.
I recognize the anxiety that'scoming up for me right now is
also partially resistance.
It is the anxiety that's goingto keep me safe.
(06:14):
It's the anxiety that's saying,you know what, Jasmine, you're
safe with where you are rightnow.
No need to expand, no need toevolve.
You're okay here.
That resistance gets to exist.
I get to acknowledge it.
And I don't have to let it holdme back.
(06:35):
I also am recognizing like oldmessages are starting to
circulate in my brain.
Like, who are you to thinkyou're so ambitious?
Who are you to want more?
Who are you to think this ispossible for you, especially
right now?
You're so young, this, that, andthe other.
(06:56):
So many messages that have beenbrought out in old circumstances
are are starting to flood mybrain.
And so I really have to bethoughtful about okay, what is
happening right now for me andwhat is coming up that is old,
that has held me back, that hasleft me in a state of
(07:17):
resistance.
Like allowing myself to bringall of that into the forefront
is so important.
It's terrifying, honestly.
I have built my career up untilmaybe this point, and maybe I
(07:40):
think about six months ago, Ihave built my career in a state
of one foot out the door becauseI have experienced a lot of
hurt, a lot of betrayal inbecoming a therapist
specifically.
(08:02):
But in my career trajectory,people that I thought would be
in my corner up now are notthere.
I've had to learn a lot oflessons early that I do believe
are the lessons that I needed tolearn so I could get to this
point.
It doesn't make it hurt anyless, but I do believe that is
(08:23):
the truth.
And so now to be in a spacewhere I am allowing my body,
myself, to settle in isterrifying.
Allowing myself to be planted inmy mission, in what I'm growing,
(08:45):
and to invite people into thatprocess to allow myself to
evolve in the process withouthaving a backup plan, to be
trusting other people that theywill have my best interest at
(09:06):
heart when I share, when Idisclose, is really terrifying
because I could lose thattomorrow.
At least that is an old lessonthat I have learned is that I
could lose that tomorrow.
(09:26):
And so part of rounding myselfin the present and the present
mission that I am building isrecognizing I have learned the
lessons.
The people who were not meant tostay in my life are not in my
(09:47):
life anymore.
The bridges that needed to beburned so that I could get to
this point have been burned.
There's no need to bring themup.
And I am in a space right nowwhere I am collaborating and
being supported by reallyreliable people, and yet I still
(10:12):
have this anxiety of I can't doit.
I still have the anxiety thatall of this will change tomorrow
and not in a good way.
And I put all my eggs in thisbasket.
And I think that's really validfor people who have shifted in
(10:38):
their careers, who have hadreally life-changing experiences
happen, whether that's divorce,whether that's the loss of a
family member or a reallyimportant person in your life,
or being laid off.
There are so many moments wherewe think this is stable and this
(10:59):
is forever, and then it isn't.
And then we have to pivot.
I am grateful that I gave myselfthe space and the permission to
process how a lot of thosethings have impacted me.
Mostly for the most part, andgiven myself the grace and space
(11:25):
to slow down in my work.
And there's still a part of methat's afraid I can't do it.
There is a part of me that isterrified of failure as I
(11:52):
continue to put myself outthere.
There is a part of me that isterrified that it won't work out
the way that I want to.
And in that fear, in thatanxiety, there's a lot of
(12:13):
excitement.
There is so much possibilitythat is in front of me.
And as we say, nervousness andexcitement can a lot of times
feel the same.
And it's a witnessing growth onmy end that I recognize that I
(12:38):
also feel really excited, that Ialso feel really hopeful, that I
also feel 80% confident inwhat's happening and what is
evolving.
And I'm still letting that fearexist.
I am letting that part of methat is scared exist without
(13:04):
taking over, without completelyhijacking my nervous system,
without completely hijacking mybelief in myself and my mission
and the work that I'm growingtowards.
And I'm letting that space bethere.
I never believed that fear isthere for no reason.
(13:28):
It's a protector, it is there tokeep us safe.
And I am hearing it, I amheeding its word, but I am not
going to give it the power thatI would give it in the past.
Because I have a lot of reallyexciting things happening, and I
(13:52):
want to stay really present withthose.
I also feel immense gratitudefor where I am right now.
And social media can create acomparison trap that even I fall
into.
As much as I preach, stay inyour own lane, as much as I
(14:13):
preach, there isn't another youout there.
All of those things are true.
And I am saying those thingsbecause I also have to remind
myself those things.
I have to remind myself that Iam going at the right pace, that
everything that is meant for mewill find me, is finding me.
(14:35):
And that doesn't change where Ican look on social media and be
like, oh man, but that's where Iwant to be.
That's what I'm working towards.
That's the thing, that's thegoal.
And I imagine a lot of us canfeel that way.
So if you are finding yourselfin a season where you feel the
(14:59):
tide shifting to a space ofaction, to a space of really
needing to get yourself in gear,if you're feeling like 2026 is
the year, is your year, whereyou start to see all the puzzle
pieces go together, you start tosee the magic happen, the fruit
(15:22):
of your labor really start totransform.
I want to remind you, I'm soproud of you.
I want you to be so proud ofyourself.
And I want you to remind and Iwant to remind you that that
fear, anxiety that you'resitting with, that you're
(15:42):
feeling is also valid.
It does not need to hijack theentire system.
It gets to be a part of you thatyou make friends with, that you
comfort, that you remind issafe, is not in the
circumstances that you once werein, and that you're moving
(16:06):
forward and you're choosing tomove forward.
You're choosing to grow, you'rechoosing to evolve, you are
choosing to continue trustingpeople, collaborating with
people because you know that iswhat you want from your work.
(16:28):
I would say the last three yearshave been a real lesson in
understanding the kind ofrelationships that I want to
have in my life.
Again, I have been burned by myown graduate faculty, um, my
family, people that I thoughtwere friends, and it is taking a
(16:58):
lot of work, a lot of quietwork, and some healing out loud,
and the ability to continueshowing up consistently that has
reminded me that I am strongenough.
And then if I have made itthrough everything that life has
(17:22):
put in my way, that has put itin front of me, then there is no
question that I am capable ofmoving forward, building my
capacity of receiving andallowing myself the space to
(17:45):
accept what is evolving andunfolding.
I made a thread a couple daysago, and it was basically like
never allow people to talk youout of wanting more.
Never allow people to decidethat you are too much, that you
(18:09):
are too ambitious, that what youwant is unrealistic.
They're not trying, and you are.
Continue trusting yourself, yourvoice, what has been placed on
(18:32):
your heart, and identify what isdiscernment and intuition, and
what is your anxiety trying toprotect you rather than hold you
back, anxiety as a hindrance.
What is the anxiety that iscoming up for you trying to
protect you from?
(18:56):
Let me know if this episoderesonates with you.
Let me know if anything aboutthis episode or my show has
landed.
I would love to hear yourthoughts at Healing with
Jasmine.
I'm so excited for my guestepisode this week.
It is closing out the year 2025.
(19:19):
We're talking New Year'saspirations with Jennifer
Kaufman-Walker.
You all loved her in our firstepisode together, and I'm so
excited to begin unfolding ourcontent together, mission
together, and really allowingthat space and relationship to
(19:43):
evolve.
It has been such a gift for mein this year.
And I love that you all love ourcontent so much and want to see
more, and I promise.
you we will definitely bedelivering on that.
And yeah, I'll catch you all onFriday.
(20:07):
Reach out and remember thatvisibility is the standard.
I want everyone to take a deep breath with me.
Because this one's gonna be apretty vulnerable one.
I am sitting with something onmy heart right now, in my mind,
and I'm filming it withoutallowing a lot of processing
time.
(00:23):
Because something that I admireso much about my guests is that
they have shown up, shared theirstory, shared their
vulnerability, and that issomething that I am building up
to.
And so I want to stay true to mybrand, my what like what I'm
(00:45):
building, and I also want toparticipate in that too.
I feel like it's only right.
We so often in the businessspace talk about building your
capacity for more, building yournervous system up to take on
(01:05):
more, to receive more.
And what we don't always talkabout is the anxiety that comes
with recognizing that you aretaking on more, that your time
is looking very different.
You don't necessarily not havethe capacity to take it on, but
(01:31):
you don't know what it lookslike to have this in your life,
and it feels really scary.
And that's honestly the placethat I am in right now.
Like as I'm talking to you aboutthis, I have this huge pit in my
chest.
I feel so anxious.
I've been feeling anxious forthe last couple of weeks for
(01:52):
multiple reasons, but I dobelieve that one of those
reasons is I am truly buildingmy capacity for more.
I've been seeing videos aboutthe double-edged sword that
comes with desiring work-lifebalance and how like to reach a
(02:13):
certain level of success.
There is no such thing aswork-life balance.
It's just leaning into thethings that you value and
recognizing there is a seasonthat is going to call for more
work, more commitment tobusiness opportunities, and
other times you have more of aseason where you're committed to
(02:36):
rest and resetting and growth.
I have been in that season.
Partially, I was forced intothat season of resetting,
realigning, needing to reallyslow down.
And as I've been in that slowerseason, the vision of what I
believe is meant to unfold isunfolding.
(03:00):
And I am being called to takeaction on those things.
I am being called to commit, tobuild, and to be very active in
the process of what I'mcreating.
Like we're no longer in thebrainstorming section of this
(03:21):
mission.
We are in, Jasmine.
You need to get off your ass.
You need to get up.
You're gonna be busier, you'reyou're gonna feel maxed out at
times, but it is time.
You are good, it's time to getup.
You can do it, you have thesupport, you have the
(03:42):
capability.
And I say that, and I honestlydon't believe that.
I and that's where like impostersyndrome comes in, is I why me?
Like I don't feel capable, I'mnot feeling super confident that
I can do it.
(04:04):
And then I remind myself thatthe same person that has gotten
me to this point is going tocarry me into every other season
of life, and that gets to be sogrounding and that gets to be so
healing, and I can feel sofreaking anxious that I'm going
(04:28):
to fuck it up.
That me in all my shenaniganssometimes, and my in a version
of myself that I sometimes seemyself in cannot hold it, does
not have the discipline, thewillpower to hold it, and
(04:48):
therefore it is going tocrumble, and I am going to be
devastated.
Like that, I think part of it,that anxiety is the
responsibility too.
I love creating.
I uh working with clients isstarting to evolve for me as
(05:09):
well.
It is growing, podcasting isgrowing, my inbox is growing,
and I am immensely grateful, andso I really try to be thoughtful
about the language that I use,the how I think about how I
manifest because I do manifestpretty quickly.
(05:31):
I've learned that, I am learningthat, and so I like to be really
conscientious in what I'mspeaking out into the world.
And I want to be supertransparent because I imagine
there are a lot of you that arealso in this space where you're
like, oh my gosh, the thing thatI've always been working towards
(05:52):
is growing, it's evolving, it'sshifting in a way that I didn't
expect it to shift.
And I don't know if I can do it.
I don't know if I have thecapacity to take this on.
I recognize the anxiety that'scoming up for me right now is
also partially resistance.
It is the anxiety that's goingto keep me safe.
(06:14):
It's the anxiety that's saying,you know what, Jasmine, you're
safe with where you are rightnow.
No need to expand, no need toevolve.
You're okay here.
That resistance gets to exist.
I get to acknowledge it.
And I don't have to let it holdme back.
(06:35):
I also am recognizing like oldmessages are starting to
circulate in my brain.
Like, who are you to thinkyou're so ambitious?
Who are you to want more?
Who are you to think this ispossible for you, especially
right now?
You're so young, this, that, andthe other.
(06:56):
So many messages that have beenbrought out in old circumstances
are are starting to flood mybrain.
And so I really have to bethoughtful about okay, what is
happening right now for me andwhat is coming up that is old,
that has held me back, that hasleft me in a state of
(07:17):
resistance.
Like allowing myself to bringall of that into the forefront
is so important.
It's terrifying, honestly.
I have built my career up untilmaybe this point, and maybe I
(07:40):
think about six months ago, Ihave built my career in a state
of one foot out the door becauseI have experienced a lot of
hurt, a lot of betrayal inbecoming a therapist
specifically.
(08:02):
But in my career trajectory,people that I thought would be
in my corner up now are notthere.
I've had to learn a lot oflessons early that I do believe
are the lessons that I needed tolearn so I could get to this
point.
It doesn't make it hurt anyless, but I do believe that is
(08:23):
the truth.
And so now to be in a spacewhere I am allowing my body,
myself, to settle in isterrifying.
Allowing myself to be planted inmy mission, in what I'm growing,
(08:45):
and to invite people into thatprocess to allow myself to
evolve in the process withouthaving a backup plan, to be
trusting other people that theywill have my best interest at
(09:06):
heart when I share, when Idisclose, is really terrifying
because I could lose thattomorrow.
At least that is an old lessonthat I have learned is that I
could lose that tomorrow.
(09:26):
And so part of rounding myselfin the present and the present
mission that I am building isrecognizing I have learned the
lessons.
The people who were not meant tostay in my life are not in my
(09:47):
life anymore.
The bridges that needed to beburned so that I could get to
this point have been burned.
There's no need to bring themup.
And I am in a space right nowwhere I am collaborating and
being supported by reallyreliable people, and yet I still
(10:12):
have this anxiety of I can't doit.
I still have the anxiety thatall of this will change tomorrow
and not in a good way.
And I put all my eggs in thisbasket.
And I think that's really validfor people who have shifted in
(10:38):
their careers, who have hadreally life-changing experiences
happen, whether that's divorce,whether that's the loss of a
family member or a reallyimportant person in your life,
or being laid off.
There are so many moments wherewe think this is stable and this
(10:59):
is forever, and then it isn't.
And then we have to pivot.
I am grateful that I gave myselfthe space and the permission to
process how a lot of thosethings have impacted me.
Mostly for the most part, andgiven myself the grace and space
(11:25):
to slow down in my work.
And there's still a part of methat's afraid I can't do it.
There is a part of me that isterrified of failure as I
(11:52):
continue to put myself outthere.
There is a part of me that isterrified that it won't work out
the way that I want to.
And in that fear, in thatanxiety, there's a lot of
(12:13):
excitement.
There is so much possibilitythat is in front of me.
And as we say, nervousness andexcitement can a lot of times
feel the same.
And it's a witnessing growth onmy end that I recognize that I
(12:38):
also feel really excited, that Ialso feel really hopeful, that I
also feel 80% confident inwhat's happening and what is
evolving.
And I'm still letting that fearexist.
I am letting that part of methat is scared exist without
(13:04):
taking over, without completelyhijacking my nervous system,
without completely hijacking mybelief in myself and my mission
and the work that I'm growingtowards.
And I'm letting that space bethere.
I never believed that fear isthere for no reason.
(13:28):
It's a protector, it is there tokeep us safe.
And I am hearing it, I amheeding its word, but I am not
going to give it the power thatI would give it in the past.
Because I have a lot of reallyexciting things happening, and I
(13:52):
want to stay really present withthose.
I also feel immense gratitudefor where I am right now.
And social media can create acomparison trap that even I fall
into.
As much as I preach, stay inyour own lane, as much as I
(14:13):
preach, there isn't another youout there.
All of those things are true.
And I am saying those thingsbecause I also have to remind
myself those things.
I have to remind myself that Iam going at the right pace, that
everything that is meant for mewill find me, is finding me.
(14:35):
And that doesn't change where Ican look on social media and be
like, oh man, but that's where Iwant to be.
That's what I'm working towards.
That's the thing, that's thegoal.
And I imagine a lot of us canfeel that way.
So if you are finding yourselfin a season where you feel the
(14:59):
tide shifting to a space ofaction, to a space of really
needing to get yourself in gear,if you're feeling like 2026 is
the year, is your year, whereyou start to see all the puzzle
pieces go together, you start tosee the magic happen, the fruit
(15:22):
of your labor really start totransform.
I want to remind you, I'm soproud of you.
I want you to be so proud ofyourself.
And I want you to remind and Iwant to remind you that that
fear, anxiety that you'resitting with, that you're
(15:42):
feeling is also valid.
It does not need to hijack theentire system.
It gets to be a part of you thatyou make friends with, that you
comfort, that you remind issafe, is not in the
circumstances that you once werein, and that you're moving
(16:06):
forward and you're choosing tomove forward.
You're choosing to grow, you'rechoosing to evolve, you are
choosing to continue trustingpeople, collaborating with
people because you know that iswhat you want from your work.
(16:28):
I would say the last three yearshave been a real lesson in
understanding the kind ofrelationships that I want to
have in my life.
Again, I have been burned by myown graduate faculty, um, my
family, people that I thoughtwere friends, and it is taking a
(16:58):
lot of work, a lot of quietwork, and some healing out loud,
and the ability to continueshowing up consistently that has
reminded me that I am strongenough.
And then if I have made itthrough everything that life has
(17:22):
put in my way, that has put itin front of me, then there is no
question that I am capable ofmoving forward, building my
capacity of receiving andallowing myself the space to
(17:45):
accept what is evolving andunfolding.
I made a thread a couple daysago, and it was basically like
never allow people to talk youout of wanting more.
Never allow people to decidethat you are too much, that you
(18:09):
are too ambitious, that what youwant is unrealistic.
They're not trying, and you are.
Continue trusting yourself, yourvoice, what has been placed on
(18:32):
your heart, and identify what isdiscernment and intuition, and
what is your anxiety trying toprotect you rather than hold you
back, anxiety as a hindrance.
What is the anxiety that iscoming up for you trying to
protect you from?
(18:56):
Let me know if this episoderesonates with you.
Let me know if anything aboutthis episode or my show has
landed.
I would love to hear yourthoughts at Healing with
Jasmine.
I'm so excited for my guestepisode this week.
It is closing out the year 2025.
(19:19):
We're talking New Year'saspirations with Jennifer
Kaufman-Walker.
You all loved her in our firstepisode together, and I'm so
excited to begin unfolding ourcontent together, mission
together, and really allowingthat space and relationship to
(19:43):
evolve.
It has been such a gift for mein this year.
And I love that you all love ourcontent so much and want to see
more, and I promise.
you we will definitely bedelivering on that.
And yeah, I'll catch you all onFriday.
(20:07):
Reach out and remember thatvisibility is the standard.
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