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I wrote this section many years ago when I first started out in business, as I was learning established strategies and was putting into action the things I was discovering whilst researching and writing The Omniscience Principle.
Every guru I studied had THE answer and would preach something along the line of:
Goal setting will become your number one skill. Once you have mastered goal setting, everything else will follow.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey everyone, welcome back.
Today we're going to do a deepdive into well achieving goals.
Pretty universal topic rightTotally.
It kind of flips the script onthat whole.
Set smart goals advice.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Yeah, how so.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
What's more about understanding the psychology of
goals like even the negativestuff.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Oh, interesting.
So like the mental andemotional side of things,
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
It's almost like think of it as a gamer's guide
to leveling up in life.
I thought that was a prettycool way to look at it.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Definitely unique.
I'm curious to hear more aboutthis health warning the source
gives about goal setting, notthe usual pep talk you expect,
huh.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Right, it's like hold on.
There might be some downsidesto all this goal chasing.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
So what are some of these potential downsides?
Does it get into specifics?
Speaker 1 (00:43):
It does.
It talks about how all thatpressure to achieve can actually
backfire like, trigger anxietyor even lead to feeling
depressed if we don't hit themark.
And it's not just like asurface level mention.
It goes into the science of howour bodies react.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Ah, so it's getting into those physiological
responses.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Totally Like how cortisol, the stress hormone,
goes through the roof when weexperience failure and that can
actually feel like physical pain.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
I've definitely felt that like a gut punch.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Right, and the source even mentions this study about.
Get this football kickers Aftermissing a kick, they actually
perceive the goal posts as beingfurther away.
Isn't that wild?
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Whoa, that's messed up Right as being further away.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Isn't that wild Whoa?
That's messed up Right Like ourbrains are playing tricks on us
, making the challenge seem evenbigger after a setback.
I've totally been there, Likewhen I set some super ambitious
goal and then I hit a snag andyou just want to give up.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Makes sense.
So how does the source suggestwe deal with that?
Speaker 1 (01:40):
That's where the whole vision thing comes in.
It uses this analogy ofdecorating a room while
blindfolded, thinking you'redoing great, but then you take
the blindfold off and it's adisaster.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Uh-huh, yeah, that's a good way to put it.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
The point is, without a clear vision, setting goals
can be kind of like that Just abunch of random efforts that
don't really add up to much.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
I've been there, jumping from project to project,
feeling lost.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Me too.
But here's what I foundinteresting the source doesn't
just stop at have a vision, itactually lays out 12 specific
steps for achieving any goal 12steps, so it's like a framework
or a process.
Exactly, and these steps aren'tabout setting specific goals
like run a marathon or learnItalian or whatever.
It's more about how youapproach any goal.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
So it's like a universal system for goal
achievement.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Yeah, that's a good way to put it.
For example, let's say you'reunhappy at your job, right, and
you want to quit.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
In there.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Right the source.
Cautions against just likestorming into your boss's office
tomorrow and yelling I quit.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
Huh, tempting, but probably not the best strategy
Right but probably not the beststrategy Right.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
instead, it's about being strategic, planning your
exit, maybe learning some newskills, doing some networking,
so you're not just jumping intothe void.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
So even something as emotional as quitting a job
needs a plan, according to thissource.
I like that.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Me too.
It's about having a clear path,even when it feels scary.
But okay, we've got vision anda step-by-step plan, but what
about the actual doing the?
Speaker 2 (03:08):
That's the million dollar question.
Right, we can have the bestplans in the world, but without
that drive, that fuel to keep usgoing, it's all kind of
pointless.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Exactly, and this is where the source brings in this
super interesting concept calledprogression and reward, and it
all ties back to that gameranalogy we were talking about.
Think about those games thatkeep you hooked for hours.
What is it about them thatmakes them so compelling?
It's got to be that feeling ofaccomplishment, right like
you're constantly leveling up,unlocking new abilities exactly,
(03:38):
and the source argues that wecan actually tap into that same
addictive cycle in real lifewait.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
So you're saying we can make real life goals as
addictive as video games.
How does that work?
Speaker 1 (03:48):
by strategically building in rewards as we
progress towards our goals.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Okay, I'm intrigued.
So it's not just about the bigend goal, but also about
enjoying the process andcelebrating those little
milestones along the way.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Exactly, and the source even shares this anecdote
about a mountain bike rideAfter clearing this super
challenging section of trail.
The author describes feelingthis rush of endorphins almost
like a natural high.
It's that feeling of I did itthat we can actually use to fuel
our motivation.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
So it's like hacking our own reward system using
those feel-good chemicals to ouradvantage.
Pretty clever.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
Right, but how do we actually apply this progression
and reward system to our ownlives, like?
What does that look like inpractice?
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Well, the source suggests treating each step in
that 12-step plan we talkedabout as a level in a game, and
each time we conquer a level wereward ourselves.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
Okay, I'm starting to get the picture.
So if my goal is, let's say, towrite a novel and I finish a
chapter, I could reward myselfwith a fancy coffee or a movie
night something I enjoy.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Exactly.
It's about linking pleasure tothose accomplishments, no matter
how small.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
I like that, make it feel good.
So you want to keep going.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
And the more you experience that positive
reinforcement, the more yourbrain starts to crave it, making
you more likely to keep pushingtowards those goals.
You're literally training yourbrain to see goal achievement as
something positive andrewarding instead of stressful.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
This started to sound less like a chore and more like
well, a game.
I like where this is going.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Me too.
But here's an interesting twistthis source isn't just about
racing towards the finish line.
It also emphasizes theimportance of like enjoying the
present moment, even whileyou're striving towards those
big goals.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
So it's not just about the destination, it's
about enjoying the journeyitself.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Exactly.
The source even suggestscarrying a reminder of your
goals and the rewards you'veassociated with them.
It's like stay focused on whereyou want to go, but also savor
each step along the way.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
That's such a good point.
We get so caught up in chasingthe next big thing that we
forget to appreciate where weare right now.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
It's easy to fall into that trap, but what if this
whole goal setting thing isn'tjust about achieving external
things, but also aboutcultivating a more fulfilling
life overall?
Speaker 1 (06:02):
That's deep, and it makes me think about how this
source actually expands thisprogression and reward concept
beyond just material goals.
It talks about applying it toemotional well-being too.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Really, give me an example.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Like ending an unhappy relationship.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Oh wow, I wouldn't have thought to apply
goal-setting principles tosomething like that.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Right, but it makes sense if you're in a situation
that's not serving you anymore.
Having a plan for moving on,breaking it down into steps and
even having something positiveto look forward to on the other
side can make that transition somuch smoother.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Powerful stuff.
It's like this source is givingus a framework for tackling any
challenge and actually findingsome joy in the process.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Totally so.
Think about it.
What are those goals you'vebeen working towards, big or
small?
How can you bring in thisvision-driven, reward-based
approach to make those journeysmore enjoyable and, ultimately,
more successful?
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Great question, but hold on, we're not done yet.
This source has one moremind-blowing concept that I'm
dying to unpack their take onfailure and trust me, it's not
what you'd expect.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
Ooh, cliffhanger.
All right, listeners, staytuned, because we're about to
get into some seriouslythought-provoking stuff.
Okay, so we've covered a lot ofground already Vision, breaking
down goals, even building inrewards but let's be honest,
things don't always go asplanned.
What about those times when we,you know, we stumble, when we
(07:25):
don't quite hit the mark?
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Right Failure, the big F word.
Most people try to avoid it atall costs, but this source, it
actually embraces failure likeit's a necessary part of winning
.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
Whoa, hold on.
Isn't that kind ofcounterintuitive?
Like we're constantly told,failure is not an option and all
that.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Yeah, it definitely challenges that whole mindset.
The author even tells thisstory about attempting a super
difficult mountain bike drop offlike a really gnarly one, and
he goes for it totally wipes out.
But instead of getting alldiscouraged he gets back up,
dusts himself off and tries tofigure out what went wrong so
it's like, instead of seeing itas a defeat, it's more like,
okay, what can I learn from this?
(08:02):
Exactly.
Failure becomes this feedbackloop, helping you course correct
.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
I like that.
So it's not about avoidingthose jumps on the trail of life
, it's about learning how toclear them, even if we crash a
few times along the way.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Couldn't have said it better myself.
And the source actually takesthis analogy even further with
this idea of a racetrack.
Imagine a track that's justthis smooth straight line, kind
of boring right.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Yeah, not very exciting.
Where's the challenge?
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Exactly.
But that's not how real lifeworks, the real path to success.
It's filled with twists, turnsand, yes, those obstacles, those
failures were bound toencounter.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
So it's not about trying to avoid the obstacles
altogether.
It's about learning how tonavigate them, becoming a better
driver.
So to week.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Exactly, and it's those challenges that actually
make it interesting, make itworth doing.
And here's a radical thought.
The source suggests thatconsistently failing might just
mean you're pushing your limits.
You're still in the game.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
OK, I got to admit this is kind of blowing my mind.
So instead of fearing failure,we can actually reframe it as a
stepping stone to success.
I mean, I can't tell you howmany times I've held back from
doing something because I wasafraid of messing up.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Right, but this source is basically saying go
for it, Even if you stumble.
The important thing is to keepmoving forward.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
That's powerful and it actually connects back to
that look up philosophy we weretalking about earlier.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Right.
It's not just about how we viewfailure.
It's also about where we chooseto focus our attention.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
So give me an example .
How does this source illustratethat connection?
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Well, there's this one about the author's wife, who
teaches horseback riding.
She's noticed that riders whofixate on the jump itself
they're more likely to falter,but those who keep their eyes on
where they want to land on theother side of the obstacle, they
tend to succeed.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
It's like they're visualizing the win and that
focus helps them get there.
It's kind of like those opticalillusions where if you stare at
the center you miss themovement happening in the
periphery.
If we're too focused on theobstacle, we might miss the
bigger picture.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Exactly.
And there's another greatexample about rut fever in
mountain biking.
If you're riding and you fixateon that rut in the trail,
you're pretty much guaranteed tofall into it.
But if you look ahead to whereyou want to go, you're way more
likely to stay upright.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Wow, so our minds can literally influence our reality
.
Yeah, if we dwell on thenegative, we're more likely to
stumble, but if we keep our eyeson the prize, we're better
equipped to handle thosechallenges.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
And to really drive this point home, the source uses
this analogy of a Maori fishhook.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
A fish hook.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Yeah, it's pretty brilliant.
You see, you can't catch a fishif your hook isn't in the water
.
You have to be willing to takeaction, even if there's a chance
of getting snagged or coming upempty.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
So it's a reminder that we can't just sit on the
sidelines and wait for things tohappen.
We have to be activeparticipants in our own lives,
even if it means the possibilityof failure.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
And maybe, just maybe , that possibility of failure is
what makes it all worthwhile.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
Okay, so we've talked about a lot vision, those 12
steps and even reframing failure, but how do we actually put
this progression and rewardthing into practice?
It sounds great in theory, butI'm still kind of fuzzy on the
how-to.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Well, think of it like those video games you know,
the ones that keep you glued tothe screen for hours.
It's that addictive cycle ofachievement we're trying to tap
into.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
Right, but in real life we don't get those fancy
experience points or level upevery five minutes.
So how do we make it work?
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Remember those 12 steps we talked about.
Think of each step as a levelin your own personal game of
life, and each time you beat alevel you get a reward.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
So instead of getting overwhelmed by the big picture,
we break it down into smallerchunks and then we celebrate
those wins along the way.
I like that.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Exactly, and those rewards.
They don't have to be anythingcrazy.
It could be as simple as takinga long bath, buying that book
you've been wanting, or justhaving a night where you
completely veg out and watch TV.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
The point is to make it feel good, right?
So you actually want to keepgoing.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
Exactly, and the more you experience that reward, the
more your brain starts to craveit.
You're literally rewiring yourbrain to see goal achievement as
something positive andenjoyable, not something to
stress over.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
So no more white knuckling it through those to-do
lists Sign me up.
But what about when things gettough?
Because, let's be real, thereare going to be times when we
hit a snag, when we don't quitemake it.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
That's where that whole reframing of failure comes
in.
Remember, it's not about beingperfect, it's about learning
from those stumbles and usingthem to course correct.
The source uses this analogy ofa mountain bike trail, you know
, with all those jumps andobstacles.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Yeah, I can picture it.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
So, instead of trying to avoid those jumps, we got to
learn to jump over them.
And yeah, we might crash a fewtimes, but each time we get back
up we're a little bit stronger,a little bit more skilled.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
I like that Falling down is part of the process.
Speaker 2 (12:53):
It is, and that's where that merry fish hook
analogy comes full circle.
You got to be willing to putyour hook in the water, even if
it means risking getting snagged.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
So basically, if you're not even playing the game
, you can't win.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Exactly, and with this system, we can actually
turn those setbacks into wins.
You know, learn from them,adjust our approach and keep
moving forward.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
That's a pretty empowering way to look at it.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Right and remember.
It's not just about pushingthrough.
It's about enjoying the ride,celebrating those small wins,
being kind to ourselves when westumble and, most importantly,
keeping our eyes on the prize.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
I love that Look up.
Keep moving forward and don'tforget to enjoy the journey.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
That's what it's all about.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
This has been such a thought-provoking deep dive.
Yeah, really makes you rethinkthe whole goal-setting thing.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
Definitely challenges the status quo.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
So, to wrap things up , let's leave our listeners with
a little challenge what's onesmall step you can take today
towards a goal you've beenworking on, and what little
reward can you give yourself fortaking that step?
Remember, even the smallestactions can create huge momentum
.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
It all starts with that first step.
Speaker 1 (14:00):
Until next time, keep exploring, keep learning and
keep looking up.
Hey everyone, welcome back.
Today we're going to do a deepdive into well achieving goals.
Pretty universal topic rightTotally.
It kind of flips the script onthat whole.
Set smart goals advice.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Yeah, how so.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
What's more about understanding the psychology of
goals like even the negativestuff.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Oh, interesting.
So like the mental andemotional side of things,
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
It's almost like think of it as a gamer's guide
to leveling up in life.
I thought that was a prettycool way to look at it.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Definitely unique.
I'm curious to hear more aboutthis health warning the source
gives about goal setting, notthe usual pep talk you expect,
huh.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Right, it's like hold on.
There might be some downsidesto all this goal chasing.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
So what are some of these potential downsides?
Does it get into specifics?
Speaker 1 (00:43):
It does.
It talks about how all thatpressure to achieve can actually
backfire like, trigger anxietyor even lead to feeling
depressed if we don't hit themark.
And it's not just like asurface level mention.
It goes into the science of howour bodies react.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Ah, so it's getting into those physiological
responses.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Totally Like how cortisol, the stress hormone,
goes through the roof when weexperience failure and that can
actually feel like physical pain.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
I've definitely felt that like a gut punch.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Right, and the source even mentions this study about.
Get this football kickers Aftermissing a kick, they actually
perceive the goal posts as beingfurther away.
Isn't that wild?
Speaker 2 (01:23):
Whoa, that's messed up Right as being further away.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
Isn't that wild Whoa?
That's messed up Right Like ourbrains are playing tricks on us
, making the challenge seem evenbigger after a setback.
I've totally been there, Likewhen I set some super ambitious
goal and then I hit a snag andyou just want to give up.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Makes sense.
So how does the source suggestwe deal with that?
Speaker 1 (01:40):
That's where the whole vision thing comes in.
It uses this analogy ofdecorating a room while
blindfolded, thinking you'redoing great, but then you take
the blindfold off and it's adisaster.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Uh-huh, yeah, that's a good way to put it.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
The point is, without a clear vision, setting goals
can be kind of like that Just abunch of random efforts that
don't really add up to much.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
I've been there, jumping from project to project,
feeling lost.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Me too.
But here's what I foundinteresting the source doesn't
just stop at have a vision, itactually lays out 12 specific
steps for achieving any goal 12steps, so it's like a framework
or a process.
Exactly, and these steps aren'tabout setting specific goals
like run a marathon or learnItalian or whatever.
It's more about how youapproach any goal.
Speaker 2 (02:25):
So it's like a universal system for goal
achievement.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Yeah, that's a good way to put it.
For example, let's say you'reunhappy at your job, right, and
you want to quit.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
In there.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Right the source.
Cautions against just likestorming into your boss's office
tomorrow and yelling I quit.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
Huh, tempting, but probably not the best strategy
Right but probably not the beststrategy Right.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
instead, it's about being strategic, planning your
exit, maybe learning some newskills, doing some networking,
so you're not just jumping intothe void.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
So even something as emotional as quitting a job
needs a plan, according to thissource.
I like that.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Me too.
It's about having a clear path,even when it feels scary.
But okay, we've got vision anda step-by-step plan, but what
about the actual doing the?
Speaker 2 (03:08):
That's the million dollar question.
Right, we can have the bestplans in the world, but without
that drive, that fuel to keep usgoing, it's all kind of
pointless.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Exactly, and this is where the source brings in this
super interesting concept calledprogression and reward, and it
all ties back to that gameranalogy we were talking about.
Think about those games thatkeep you hooked for hours.
What is it about them thatmakes them so compelling?
It's got to be that feeling ofaccomplishment, right like
you're constantly leveling up,unlocking new abilities exactly,
(03:38):
and the source argues that wecan actually tap into that same
addictive cycle in real lifewait.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
So you're saying we can make real life goals as
addictive as video games.
How does that work?
Speaker 1 (03:48):
by strategically building in rewards as we
progress towards our goals.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Okay, I'm intrigued.
So it's not just about the bigend goal, but also about
enjoying the process andcelebrating those little
milestones along the way.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Exactly, and the source even shares this anecdote
about a mountain bike rideAfter clearing this super
challenging section of trail.
The author describes feelingthis rush of endorphins almost
like a natural high.
It's that feeling of I did itthat we can actually use to fuel
our motivation.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
So it's like hacking our own reward system using
those feel-good chemicals to ouradvantage.
Pretty clever.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
Right, but how do we actually apply this progression
and reward system to our ownlives, like?
What does that look like inpractice?
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Well, the source suggests treating each step in
that 12-step plan we talkedabout as a level in a game, and
each time we conquer a level wereward ourselves.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
Okay, I'm starting to get the picture.
So if my goal is, let's say, towrite a novel and I finish a
chapter, I could reward myselfwith a fancy coffee or a movie
night something I enjoy.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Exactly.
It's about linking pleasure tothose accomplishments, no matter
how small.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
I like that, make it feel good.
So you want to keep going.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
And the more you experience that positive
reinforcement, the more yourbrain starts to crave it, making
you more likely to keep pushingtowards those goals.
You're literally training yourbrain to see goal achievement as
something positive andrewarding instead of stressful.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
This started to sound less like a chore and more like
well, a game.
I like where this is going.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Me too.
But here's an interesting twistthis source isn't just about
racing towards the finish line.
It also emphasizes theimportance of like enjoying the
present moment, even whileyou're striving towards those
big goals.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
So it's not just about the destination, it's
about enjoying the journeyitself.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Exactly.
The source even suggestscarrying a reminder of your
goals and the rewards you'veassociated with them.
It's like stay focused on whereyou want to go, but also savor
each step along the way.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
That's such a good point.
We get so caught up in chasingthe next big thing that we
forget to appreciate where weare right now.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
It's easy to fall into that trap, but what if this
whole goal setting thing isn'tjust about achieving external
things, but also aboutcultivating a more fulfilling
life overall?
Speaker 1 (06:02):
That's deep, and it makes me think about how this
source actually expands thisprogression and reward concept
beyond just material goals.
It talks about applying it toemotional well-being too.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Really, give me an example.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
Like ending an unhappy relationship.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Oh wow, I wouldn't have thought to apply
goal-setting principles tosomething like that.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
Right, but it makes sense if you're in a situation
that's not serving you anymore.
Having a plan for moving on,breaking it down into steps and
even having something positiveto look forward to on the other
side can make that transition somuch smoother.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Powerful stuff.
It's like this source is givingus a framework for tackling any
challenge and actually findingsome joy in the process.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Totally so.
Think about it.
What are those goals you'vebeen working towards, big or
small?
How can you bring in thisvision-driven, reward-based
approach to make those journeysmore enjoyable and, ultimately,
more successful?
Speaker 2 (06:55):
Great question, but hold on, we're not done yet.
This source has one moremind-blowing concept that I'm
dying to unpack their take onfailure and trust me, it's not
what you'd expect.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
Ooh, cliffhanger.
All right, listeners, staytuned, because we're about to
get into some seriouslythought-provoking stuff.
Okay, so we've covered a lot ofground already Vision, breaking
down goals, even building inrewards but let's be honest,
things don't always go asplanned.
What about those times when we,you know, we stumble, when we
(07:25):
don't quite hit the mark?
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Right Failure, the big F word.
Most people try to avoid it atall costs, but this source, it
actually embraces failure likeit's a necessary part of winning
.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
Whoa, hold on.
Isn't that kind ofcounterintuitive?
Like we're constantly told,failure is not an option and all
that.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Yeah, it definitely challenges that whole mindset.
The author even tells thisstory about attempting a super
difficult mountain bike drop offlike a really gnarly one, and
he goes for it totally wipes out.
But instead of getting alldiscouraged he gets back up,
dusts himself off and tries tofigure out what went wrong so
it's like, instead of seeing itas a defeat, it's more like,
okay, what can I learn from this?
(08:02):
Exactly.
Failure becomes this feedbackloop, helping you course correct
.
Speaker 1 (08:08):
I like that.
So it's not about avoidingthose jumps on the trail of life
, it's about learning how toclear them, even if we crash a
few times along the way.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
Couldn't have said it better myself.
And the source actually takesthis analogy even further with
this idea of a racetrack.
Imagine a track that's justthis smooth straight line, kind
of boring right.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Yeah, not very exciting.
Where's the challenge?
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Exactly.
But that's not how real lifeworks, the real path to success.
It's filled with twists, turnsand, yes, those obstacles, those
failures were bound toencounter.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
So it's not about trying to avoid the obstacles
altogether.
It's about learning how tonavigate them, becoming a better
driver.
So to week.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
Exactly, and it's those challenges that actually
make it interesting, make itworth doing.
And here's a radical thought.
The source suggests thatconsistently failing might just
mean you're pushing your limits.
You're still in the game.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
OK, I got to admit this is kind of blowing my mind.
So instead of fearing failure,we can actually reframe it as a
stepping stone to success.
I mean, I can't tell you howmany times I've held back from
doing something because I wasafraid of messing up.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
Right, but this source is basically saying go
for it, Even if you stumble.
The important thing is to keepmoving forward.
Speaker 1 (09:20):
That's powerful and it actually connects back to
that look up philosophy we weretalking about earlier.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Right.
It's not just about how we viewfailure.
It's also about where we chooseto focus our attention.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
So give me an example .
How does this source illustratethat connection?
Speaker 2 (09:35):
Well, there's this one about the author's wife, who
teaches horseback riding.
She's noticed that riders whofixate on the jump itself
they're more likely to falter,but those who keep their eyes on
where they want to land on theother side of the obstacle, they
tend to succeed.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
It's like they're visualizing the win and that
focus helps them get there.
It's kind of like those opticalillusions where if you stare at
the center you miss themovement happening in the
periphery.
If we're too focused on theobstacle, we might miss the
bigger picture.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Exactly.
And there's another greatexample about rut fever in
mountain biking.
If you're riding and you fixateon that rut in the trail,
you're pretty much guaranteed tofall into it.
But if you look ahead to whereyou want to go, you're way more
likely to stay upright.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Wow, so our minds can literally influence our reality
.
Yeah, if we dwell on thenegative, we're more likely to
stumble, but if we keep our eyeson the prize, we're better
equipped to handle thosechallenges.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
And to really drive this point home, the source uses
this analogy of a Maori fishhook.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
A fish hook.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Yeah, it's pretty brilliant.
You see, you can't catch a fishif your hook isn't in the water
.
You have to be willing to takeaction, even if there's a chance
of getting snagged or coming upempty.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
So it's a reminder that we can't just sit on the
sidelines and wait for things tohappen.
We have to be activeparticipants in our own lives,
even if it means the possibilityof failure.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
And maybe, just maybe , that possibility of failure is
what makes it all worthwhile.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
Okay, so we've talked about a lot vision, those 12
steps and even reframing failure, but how do we actually put
this progression and rewardthing into practice?
It sounds great in theory, butI'm still kind of fuzzy on the
how-to.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Well, think of it like those video games you know,
the ones that keep you glued tothe screen for hours.
It's that addictive cycle ofachievement we're trying to tap
into.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
Right, but in real life we don't get those fancy
experience points or level upevery five minutes.
So how do we make it work?
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Remember those 12 steps we talked about.
Think of each step as a levelin your own personal game of
life, and each time you beat alevel you get a reward.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
So instead of getting overwhelmed by the big picture,
we break it down into smallerchunks and then we celebrate
those wins along the way.
I like that.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Exactly, and those rewards.
They don't have to be anythingcrazy.
It could be as simple as takinga long bath, buying that book
you've been wanting, or justhaving a night where you
completely veg out and watch TV.
Speaker 1 (11:58):
The point is to make it feel good, right?
So you actually want to keepgoing.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
Exactly, and the more you experience that reward, the
more your brain starts to craveit.
You're literally rewiring yourbrain to see goal achievement as
something positive andenjoyable, not something to
stress over.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
So no more white knuckling it through those to-do
lists Sign me up.
But what about when things gettough?
Because, let's be real, thereare going to be times when we
hit a snag, when we don't quitemake it.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
That's where that whole reframing of failure comes
in.
Remember, it's not about beingperfect, it's about learning
from those stumbles and usingthem to course correct.
The source uses this analogy ofa mountain bike trail, you know
, with all those jumps andobstacles.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Yeah, I can picture it.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
So, instead of trying to avoid those jumps, we got to
learn to jump over them.
And yeah, we might crash a fewtimes, but each time we get back
up we're a little bit stronger,a little bit more skilled.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
I like that Falling down is part of the process.
Speaker 2 (12:53):
It is, and that's where that merry fish hook
analogy comes full circle.
You got to be willing to putyour hook in the water, even if
it means risking getting snagged.
Speaker 1 (13:02):
So basically, if you're not even playing the game
, you can't win.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
Exactly, and with this system, we can actually
turn those setbacks into wins.
You know, learn from them,adjust our approach and keep
moving forward.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
That's a pretty empowering way to look at it.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
Right and remember.
It's not just about pushingthrough.
It's about enjoying the ride,celebrating those small wins,
being kind to ourselves when westumble and, most importantly,
keeping our eyes on the prize.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
I love that Look up.
Keep moving forward and don'tforget to enjoy the journey.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
That's what it's all about.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
This has been such a thought-provoking deep dive.
Yeah, really makes you rethinkthe whole goal-setting thing.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
Definitely challenges the status quo.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
So, to wrap things up , let's leave our listeners with
a little challenge what's onesmall step you can take today
towards a goal you've beenworking on, and what little
reward can you give yourself fortaking that step?
Remember, even the smallestactions can create huge momentum
.
Speaker 2 (13:58):
It all starts with that first step.
Speaker 1 (14:00):
Until next time, keep exploring, keep learning and
keep looking up.
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