The Well Done Life

In this week’s episode, Pamela opens her heart about what it truly means to choose yourself — even when that choice goes against expectations. Inspired by her story featured in Tara Jefferson’s upcoming book Bloom How You Must, this episode is about reclaiming your peace, rewriting the rules of self-worth, and learning to bloom unapologetically in your own time and way.

Pamela shares how choosing herself first became the foundation ...

Have you ever made a big decision in the middle of pain, anger, or fear — only to regret it later? In this week’s episode of The Well Done Life, we’re unpacking why it’s so important to pause before we act, especially in temporary spaces of distress.

This episode is a companion to “Creating Spaces We Didn’t Have.” Because yes, you can build safe spaces — but you can’t thrive there if your heart is still closed, carrying shame, or re...

In this episode, we reflect on what it means to create the spaces we didn’t have growing up. Many of us are building homes filled with nurture, safety, and love—breaking cycles of fear, silence, and “walking on eggshells.”

But creating space doesn’t stop at our front door. God calls us to extend that same care and wisdom into our communities, especially for the younger generation navigating without guidance. Together, let’s exp...

Trust Yourself is about finding the courage to say the hard part out loud. This episode continues the journey from “Dying to Self: Releasing the Ego My Childhood Built” and dives into what it means to battle fear and triggers with vulnerability.

We’ll talk about the moment you realize the people who love you, love you in spite of you — not because you’re perfect, but because you’re real. Through surrender and openness, we discover t...

A lot can truly change in a year. In this episode, I reflect on The Reset Experience—an event I hosted last year for women to reset in four pillars: mental health, physical health, financial health, and building community. While I didn’t host the event this year, I’ve come to see that pause not as a denial, but as a divine delay.

Join me as I share the lessons, wins, and pivots that this year has brought, and why I now feel confiden...

Sometimes all you need is a moment to pause, breathe, and reset. In this short bonus episode, I’ll guide you through affirmations across the four pillars of The Reset Experience: mental health, physical health, financial health, and building community.

Take a few minutes to ground yourself, speak life over your journey, and realign with peace and purpose. Whether you’re starting your day, taking a mid-week pause, or winding dow...

I thought I was healed. But the truth? Fear was still running my life — hiding under the mask of confidence, control, and pride.

In this episode, I open up about the moment I realized my childhood trauma didn’t just leave scars — it built an ego that I thought was protecting me… but was actually holding me back.

This isn’t about arriving at the finish line. I’m still in the process of dying to the version of me my childhood created —...

In this episode, we’re talking about what it really means to live. So many of us have been stuck in survival mode — showing up for everyone else, but forgetting to show up for ourselves. But life is short, and God didn’t place us here to just get by. He called us to live abundantly.

We’re unpacking the difference between existing and living, honoring our grief without shrinking, shedding the weight of others’ expectations,...

At the start of the year, I was fired up—ready to bring back Reset, my women’s empowerment event, and move full speed ahead. But less than 60 days in, I felt a holy pause. This would not be the year to push through. This would be the year to listen—to my body, my spirit, and my reality.



In this intimate episode, I share the quiet revelation that changed my plans, and the sacred unfolding that followed. From unexp...

In this episode, we’re peeling back the layers of perfection and performance to remind you of one simple truth: There’s no blueprint. No matter what Instagram looks like, no matter what the vision board said, and no matter how detailed the 5-year plan once was — life happens.

We talk about the reality that most people are just out here trying to make it day by day. Behind every curated photo, there’s someone navigating gri...

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What if the love you’ve been waiting for doesn’t show up the way you imagined? What if it comes later than you expected, with more layers, more truth, and more growth than you planned for?

In this episode, we talk about the sacred tension between love and timing — and how real love often arrives with curves. Not the perfect package. Not at the “right” time. But still good, still God-sent, and still worth t...

Why does it feel like everyone is unraveling in public? From social media to pulpits, politics to group chats, it seems like people are saying things that used to stay hidden — sometimes out of boldness, but often out of unhealed pain.

In this episode, we dive into the cultural and spiritual reasons behind this “crashing out” — when internal struggles spill out in public ways. Is it honesty or harm? Freedom or unresol...

In this deeply personal episode, I share the recent passing of my Godmother—a woman whose charm, boldness, and heart for others left an undeniable imprint on my life.


She wasn’t blood, but she was family. And that truth reminds us of something sacred: not all family is blood. Sometimes, God places people in our lives to love us, raise us, and walk beside us when we need it most.


This episode is a love le...

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Some things you were never meant to carry forever. In this episode, we'll talk about how "falling down the stairs" reminded me of the emotional, spiritual, and physical toll of holding on too long.

We’ll explore why it's important for you to release, and the real cost of refusing to release what God has already called you to let go. From anxiety and identity distortion to stres...

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the topic of judgment—not just how we judge others, but how that judgment can be rooted in our own unhealed trauma. What happens when we speak too soon, assume too much, or react from old wounds instead of present truth?

We explore the power of staying silent and letting things unfold without trying to control them with our assumptions. Sometimes, silence isn’t avoidance—it’s wisdom. And somet...

In this episode, we explore the power of saying no—not from fear, but from deep alignment with what feels right for you. For many of us, “no” has been framed as defiance or rejection. But what if your “no” is actually a sacred return to yourself?

We’ll talk about why saying no is hard, how to release guilt, and what it means to honor your peace without apology. You’ll also hear reflections on spiritual boundaries, intuitive wisdom, ...

Think you have to have it all together to be blessed?

Think again.

In today’s episode, we’re talking about how God’s favor still finds you—even when you doubt, fall short, or feel unworthy.

Real talk:

• Doubting yourself? Normal.

• Doubting God? Also normal.

• Being disqualified? Not even possible when you’re His.

You’ll learn how to stop letting guilt and doubt block what’s already yours, and why knowing who you are in God chan...

Happy Resurrection Sunday! I'm so excited to share this episode about "Rising Faith". In this episode, we explore what it means to have rising faith—the kind that endures pain, silence, and waiting. Inspired by the resurrection of Jesus, this conversation speaks especially for those navigating heavy seasons. If you’re in you're in a season, this episode reminds you: Your season is still coming—and you will rise.

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 Sis, you don’t have to be at 100% to be loved.

You don’t have to perform to belong.

You can show up soft, quiet, tired — and still be held.

In a world that asks women, especially Black women to give everything and rest nothing, it takes courage to protect your peace and stay connected.

On this week’s episode, we’re talking about what it means to build true sisterhood without losing yourself in the process.

Because real community honors...