MOTIVATIONAL MOMENT: Love yourself! ❤

You can't hate yourself into being someone that you love. In today's motivational moment, a replay from earlier in the year, Sam Wood reminds us of the importance of showing ourselves a little love. 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
I'm Sam Wood, and this is your motivational moment for
this week, how to rewire those negative thoughts and finally
give yourself some love. So this has been something that
the importance and in fact the concern around it has
become far far more important in the last few years

(00:23):
as I've really dived in deep with some people, and
many of these people have had huge success from a
physical perspective over that journey, over their journeys, and many
of them are very hard on themselves and not satisfied,
not content, not necessarily happy. And the reason is they

(00:46):
set their goals, they reach their goals, they set their
new goal, they reach their new goal, but there is
never or very rarely moments of little celebrating those little
wins or being proud of themselves or having any kind
of self love or self acceptance. So I was thinking

(01:07):
before I did this sure moment, like, where does this
negative self talk or this inability to really give ourself
any self love come from? And that's a big part
of growing up. You know, it's an insult that person
loves themselves, is what you say to someone who's sort
of got tickets on themselves as a bit of a diket,
But it's interesting how that message kind of gets put

(01:28):
in our head at a really young age. And then
there's the marketing world where everyone's trying to always sell
us something because it's all about improving ourselves and changing ourselves,
and it's effectively the message is you're not good enough
the way you are. To be proud of yourself or
to say good things about yourself is really hard in

(01:48):
this world. So there's obviously a number of environmental factors
that impact the way we talk to ourselves. So let's
have a little look at what actually happens when we
talk to it. So we have sixty thousand thoughts per day,
and then ninety five percent of these sorts are repeated,
So we are just having the continual negative thoughts over

(02:10):
and over and over and over again until we either
believe them or we feel like we can't escape them,
or we feel like we're haunted by them, whatever it
might be. And if you're not combating that with any
positive thoughts or things that you're proud of, there is
no balance there. I mean, if you're looking at yourself

(02:32):
in the mirror and you're telling yourself day in day
out how you hate yourself, or you're continually just focusing
on the things you don't like. You never actually acknowledge
the things that you're proud of. You never acknowledge the
parts of your body, or the parts of your personality,
or the parts of your life that you are happy with,
that you are grateful for and that you do like.
You are just going to be living in this perpetually

(02:55):
negative environment in which no matter what you seem to
be doing, you're never going to be satisfied. You're never
going to be happy. So let's try and flip this
on its head and look at this as the positive
we have. The average person has sixty thousand thoughts per day.
The good news is they're on repeat. So if we

(03:17):
can turn those positive thoughts onto repeat instead of those
negative thoughts onto repeat, and we're having that many thoughts
per day, imagine how quickly the worm will turn as
we start to say nice things to ourself over and
over and over again. And it doesn't need to be
big things. It might be I look good in these jeans.
It might be I'm proud of myself because I didn't

(03:39):
have any chocolate today. It might be I'm a good mum,
I'm a good friend, I'm a good boss, I'm a
good work colleague, whatever, whatever is unique and personal to
your circumstance. Change the script, flip the script, start talking
nicely to yourself. Put that button on repeat, and I
promise you it'll make a difference. So today I'm going

(04:10):
to give you a really simple piece of homework. Every
day for the next seven days, you need to wake
up and you need to look at yourself in the
mirror and you need to say just one thing positive
to yourself. It can be a physical thing. It can
be my family thing, it can be my job thing,
it can be my brain thing. Whatever you want it

(04:31):
to be. It can be completely personal to you. But
you need to wake up every morning for the next
seven days to stare at yourself in the mirror and
say one nice thing to yourself to start your day.
And that's all I want you to do for now.