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What if I told you
that trauma doesn't exist, not
because pain isn't real, butbecause it was never meant to
define you?
A culture has convinced you towear your wounds like a name tag
.
We've built entire beliefsystems around pain and called
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it healing.
But what if I told you that inChrist, trauma doesn't just fade
but it doesn't exist at all,not because the pain, again,
wasn't real, but because it hasno power over you and who you
have become?
Let's break the lie, let's talk.
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I just want to walk inobedience.
What's going on everybody?
Welcome to another episode ofthe SoulFuel podcast, the pit
stop for your soul to be fueledfor your journey in life, as you
do it with Christ.
Listen, today is anotherfeather ruffler.
This is a topic that I believetruly needs to be talked about,
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because I hear a lot of peoplein church really claim this word
that you heard me talk about inthe introduction, which is
trauma, and let's just break thelie.
Let's go ahead and just breakthe lie and break free of the
label.
What is trauma for real?
The clinical definition fromAPA, trauma is an emotional
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response to a terrible event,and I want to give you the
statistics on this right.
70% of US adults haveexperienced a traumatic event.
According to Mental WellbeingCouncil, six percent have PTSD.
According to the NationalCenter for PTSD, ace study links
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trauma to chronic health issues.
Now what does that say?
Trauma is real as an event, butit's become misused as an
identity.
So many people have reallywrapped their mindset around the
things that have happened tothem, the things that it just
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seems that they can't get over.
But we know that we'reovercomers by the blood of the
lamb and the words of theirtestimony, and I just believe
that there are not a lot ofpeople who are really giving all
of their trauma, all of theirissues, all of their history to
Jesus.
But this is interesting I waslistening to a book.
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I was listening to a book and Ibelieve it's called the Courage
to Be Disliked and I'm gettingready to get there and I want to
pull something from that bookin just in just a second.
It's not the content from thebook, but it is a psychology, is
a school of psychology thatwe'll get to.
But I want to talk about howtrauma has literally become a
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label.
Culture has used it so much andif I'm always talking about
culture these days on the pod.
Then you got to know why.
Because there is thisridiculous amount of people who
speak to trauma, who are talkingabout trauma all over social
media.
So you hear trauma, trauma,trauma, trauma, trauma.
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Oh, that's my trauma, that's mytrauma.
Everybody blames their, theirbad character on trauma.
They blame the way that they uhuh move in relationships,
whether it be friendship, uh,intimate relationships or just
regular friendships.
They tend to love to pull upthat word trauma and use that as
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an excuse.
But trauma has become a label.
As we spoke to, we're talkingabout breaking free of the label
, but trauma has become a label.
It's not a wound to be healed,but it's something to wear.
It's almost as if it has becomea medallion.
It's almost as if it is apurple heart or a war wound,
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something that people love todress up and and and and put
tattoos around, right, peoplelove to have this mindset based
on their trauma, like trauma istheir foundation and not Jesus,
and that's a big difference.
If Jesus is not the foundationof your life, then, quite
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naturally, whatever has beenailing you, whatever has been a
big issue in your life, that'swhere you're going to build
everything off of and this isgoing to get real good in just a
second.
But here's the common issue withthe problem that culture has
made for trauma, and that isthat it creates a victim
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mentality.
It creates a victim mentality.
It creates nothing but a victimmentality.
There is an avoidance ofpersonal and spiritual
responsibility, and this iswhere you get your deliverance
ministries.
They thrive right here.
They thrive right here becausethey take away the personal
responsibility.
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They take away the spiritualresponsibility that you have to
get free, because I've talkedabout this many, many times and
James talks about this.
The book of James talks aboutthis and it says something like
this faith without works is dead.
If you're not doing anything tochange it, it's not going to
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change.
If you do a little bit of workand you're just limited to that
little bit of work and you don'tdo anything else or you feel
like you've done enough work onyourself, then eventually it's
only a matter of time beforethose same issues happen again
or start affecting you again.
Even with this problem of thetrauma culture, there is a
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constant revisiting withoutrestoration.
That's how you know there's nowork done, because you're going
to keep revisiting these moments.
The moment that watch thissomebody's going to always
trigger you because there is notrue healing going to always
trigger you because there is notrue healing.
People are only triggered whenthey have not been healed.
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Hmm, that's good.
Right there, I think that'sgood, that's good.
People are only triggered whenthey have not been healed.
And I've heard many people say,uh, that's triggering, that's
triggering.
Uh, no, that that that trigger.
I was triggered, I wastriggered.
Why are you triggered If youhealed?
Why are you so triggered?
Why do you result to beingoffended?
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And I heard somebody say this,which is so true and I'm going
to use it right here, and hesaid that if you're easily
offended, you are easilycontrolled.
And it's true Because you willconstantly keep revisiting the
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trauma restoration if you arenot healed, if you do not put
aside and lay aside the victimidentity, the victim mentality,
if you do not lay aside takingon the responsibility of getting
free.
Here's that part from the bookthat I was telling you about.
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There was a school of thoughtof psychology titled the
Adlerian psychology.
And here's the interestingthing when I was listening to
this book, I froze so hard on it.
I believe I was listening to itwhile I was in the shower and
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it just really, it really mademe think and it really pushed me
back into Scripture, because itwas closely related to
Scripture.
But we know that psychology ismore science and not at all
really spiritual.
But watch this the Adlerianpsychology, or the Adlerian
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psychology says that we are notshaped by trauma itself, but by
the meaning we assign to it.
We are not listen to that.
We are not shaped by traumaitself, but by the meaning we
assign to it.
So it's my, it's always on meabout how I think, of how my
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mama treated me, how, like, what, what, what, what it?
What did my parents divorce dofor me?
What did it do to me?
Well, for, if I can, of course,I can speak on it.
For me, it freed me from seeingmy dad being be abused verbally
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, mentally and physically.
Not that he's a punk, becausehe wasn't, but he was.
He was a man of God.
He a man of God and he neverput his hands on my mom, but my
mom put her hands on him and Iwitnessed this, and so for me,
the divorce, in my eyes, was agreat thing.
Now there are other children,we'll get to it, but I'm going
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to go ahead and say it.
There are other children, whowho experienced their parents
divorce and are completelyshattered, who experienced their
parents divorce and arecompletely shattered.
But for me it was great.
It was great because my dad waswell off.
You know, it was better.
It was better for for forpeople to split them, for
somebody to end up dead.
But the point in this, at Lyrianthought, is that it's not the
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event, it's the interpretation.
It's not the event, y' event,it's the interpretation.
It's not the event, y'all, it'sthe interpretation.
How do you interpret a divorce?
That was I just gave y'all myinterpretation of it.
Right, my interpretation wasthis, this and that was going on
.
This led to that and then thishappened and all of a a sudden,
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I'm, I'm being split between twohomes and I'm traveling.
I'm, I'm going, I want to livewith my dad, but I'm going to
see my mom uh, based on courtorders and what she wants and
I'm going back and forth, right,but I got used to that and it
was kind of cool.
I kind of liked being able toleave my dad's crib and go be
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with my mom in orlando, florida,and and vice versa.
Then I wanted to go back homebecause I could only be there
for a certain amount of time.
But this is a quote from AlfredAdler.
He says we are not determinedby our experiences.
We are not determined by ourexperiences, but the meaning we
give them.
This makes this is so richy'all.
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Two people can experience thesame trauma and respond
differently, based on belief andgoals.
Watch this.
This aligns so much withscripture.
How?
Because proverbs 23 and 7 saysas a man thinks in his heart, so
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is he.
If that's what you think youare, if that's what you believe,
if that is your goal, to kindof live up to what you believe,
then that's all you will ever be.
Oh, come on, I'm trying to free.
I'm trying to free somebody.
I'm trying to free somebodywho's listening to this.
And we know what Romans 12 and2 says Be not conformed to this
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world, but be transformed by therenewing of your mind.
Can I borrow just that one lineBe transformed by the renewing
of your mind.
Then go back to Proverbs 23 and7.
As you think in your heart, soare you.
That's what you are, but youcan only be what you have
renewed your mind to be.
So there's a bridge betweenthis Adlerian psychology theory
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and this scripture.
And what is that?
Psychology, when it's honest,often echoes what God already
revealed.
It just continues to repeatwhat God had already revealed.
You are not what happened to you.
You are what Christ hasredeemed you to be.
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And there are a couple ofscriptures I want to throw at
you real quick Isaiah 53 and 5,.
By his scourging we are healed.
By his stripes we are healed.
Jehovah Rapha means to restore,make whole.
That is the God that we serve.
Jehovah Jireh, our provider.
He has provided restoration, hehas provided wholeness for us.
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Second Corinthians, chapter 5,verse 17.
You are a new creature and allthings are passed away.
You are a new creature, not atraumatized one.
You're new.
The old, you might have beentraumatized and paralyzed, but
you are in christ and andclearly I'm talking to believers
right now you are new.
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None of the stuff that happenedto you can define you, except
what you allow it to define.
Romans 8 and 37.
For we are more than conquerors.
Hypernikau.
Hypernikau Now, I'm probablybutchering that, that's the
Greek word right For more thanconquerors.
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To prevail mightily.
To prevail mightily.
You prevail mightily.
Why?
Because you are a new creature.
Why Because through his stripes, by his scourging, we are
healed.
And watch this A lot of peopletake Isaiah 53 and 5 and say, oh
, that means my body is healed.
No, no, no, no, no, no, thatmeans your mind and your soul is
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healed.
That's what he was beat for,that's what he died for, so our
souls could be free, not ourflesh, because this flesh is
going to die.
Many things happen to the flesh.
We can walk outside, trip andscrape your knee Ouch, that's
imperfection, right there, boom.
And then we want to say, oh, byhis stripes I'm healed.
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No, it ain't talking about that.
It's talking about your soul.
That's why you're more than aconqueror.
Jesus asked the lame man thatwas sitting by the pool of
Bethesda for 38 long years.
He says do you want to behealed?
And that's the question thatI'm asking you in this episode
Do you want to be healed?
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Because if you want to behealed, you will do what it
takes.
You will rid yourself of thevictim mentality and do what it
takes.
Philippians, chapter 3, verse13 and 14.
Just to sum that up, it saysPaul is pressing forward despite
severe suffering.
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If paul is enduring like actualphysical suffering, but yet
he's not allowing that to definewho he is, because he was once
a persecutor of christ.
He was an instigator of gettingChristians killed, but now he
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is finding joy in prison Becauseit is for the sake of Jesus
Christ, our Lord.
And here's what I want to leaveyou with.
Here's what I want to leave youwith.
Satan is the one that is full oftrauma.
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He lives in trauma.
This is why drama comes fromthe trauma.
The only being that is trulytraumatized is Satan.
He acts from the pain of hisown rebellion and loss.
He wants his spot back, but itain't happening.
It's not happening.
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He wants to reproduce thatdysfunction in you by anchoring
your identity and connecting itto your pain.
He's trying to find all thepain points pain.
He's trying to find all thepain points.
He's one heck of a seller.
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He's trying to sell you onflesh and and and uh, elementary
principles of the world andways that you shouldn't.
He's trying to sell you on theprogramming of the world than
jesus, because he's stuck thereand he wants you in a permanent,
consistent place of dysfunction.
But Jesus broke the pattern.
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Jesus broke the pattern.
He broke the pattern on thecross.
So you are not what happened toyou.
You are not what happened to you.
You are not what happened toyou.
You are what's been healed, andtrauma very well, for you
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believer, who I'm talking to?
And for the person who is not abeliever, you can apply this
same thing, but it really onlyworks if you're in Jesus, if you
have Jesus in your life.
So I'm inviting you, I'minviting you and I'm challenging
you to, even as you write areview or leave a comment on
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this episode if you don't knowJesus say I want to be saved.
Just say I want to be saved andwe'll get with you.
Somebody in the community willget with you, because this is
really, this is true therapy,and Adlerian psychology speaks.
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This Speaks to the flesh andtells you that, hey, it's
possible to flip how you'reinterpreting this, but I want
you to understand that traumadoes not exist, not in the
eternal identity that Jesus gaveus.
So what are you going to decideto do?
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You're going to change it up.
You're going to change the wayyou think, are you going to
allow your mind to be renewed,because you're more than a
conqueror.
I hope that you grabbed as muchas you could out of this.
Listen to it over and over andover again.
Get this in your spirit.
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All right, listen, I really dolove y'all and I want you to win
.
Whoever's listening to you thestranger.
I want you to win.
The Lord wants you to win andit's possible.
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I just want to walk inobedience.