December 18, 2025 • 35 mins
What if the key to finding love and purpose after your children launch lies in changing the way you view your life? In this insightful episode, we sit down with Trisha Rose Stone—soulful guide, former optometrist, and creator of the New Lens Method. Trisha shares her inspiring journey, from moving to Boston as a single mom and building a thriving practice, to meeting her husband at 44 after years of inner work that transformed her perspective.
She discusses how true worthiness—rooted in self-acceptance rather than external measures like weight or resumes—creates an attractive energy, allowing aligned relationships and opportunities to come into your life. Trisha demonstrates how belief, embodiment, and release can work together to manifest what truly matters.
Highlights & Key Takeaways:
- Reframing motherhood as modelhood rather than martyrdom.
- How embodying worthiness opened her to love and a healthy partnership.
- Identifying mental blocks and rewriting your personal love story.
- Visualizing the specific relationship and life you desire.
Tricia Rose Stone Bio
Tricia Rose Stone is a former optometrist turned transformational life coach, podcast host, and founder of The New Lens Method™, a signature coaching framework that helps women reconnect with their truth, reclaim their power, and create soulful lives and relationships.
After building and selling two successful practices, Tricia pivoted to help women "see" in a new way—by shifting their internal lens. Through her podcast Her New Lens, her long-running blog Rose Colored Glasses, and her signature coaching programs, she guides clients through transitions in love, career, motherhood, and identity—with heart-led strategy and soul-aligned insight.
Tricia’s work blends spiritual wisdom, psychology, coaching tools, and personal storytelling to help women embody their worth, protect their peace, and lead from within.
Find Tricia Online: LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, Website
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SPEAKER_02 (00:00):
It's really hard in the beginning, I think, for
women to find love.
I was actually 44 when I met myhusband.
I believe that that happenedbecause I was I was in such an
exciting, high vibration.
Like I really do believe inenergy.
I feel like energy attracts likeenergy.
(00:21):
And at that moment that we met,I was in such a great place.
And that was a result of a lotof work that I had done on
myself.
SPEAKER_00 (00:32):
Welcome to this Empty Nest Life, the podcast
dedicated to helping you embracethis transformative season with
purpose, passion, and joy.
In each episode, we explorestories, strategies, and
insights to help turn your emptynest into an exciting new
chapter.
Whether you're redefining youridentity, pursuing new passions,
or finding peace in the pause,you're in the right place.
Here's your host, the empty nestcoach, Jay Ramsden.
SPEAKER_01 (00:54):
Hey there, my emptiness friends.
Do you ever feel like you need anew lease on life now that the
kids have launched?
Maybe all you need is just a newlens.
Today, I'm in studio with TrishaRose Stone, a soulful guide,
former optometrist, turned lifecoach, and creator of the new
lens method.
Her journey is a powerfultestament to resilience, and
(01:15):
after navigating heartbreak,motherhood, and a painful
divorce in her early 30s, sheembarked on a deep inner healing
journey.
Today, Trisha helps womenreframe the stories, see their
lives through a new, empoweringperspective, and guides them so
they can manifest the love,purpose, and fulfillment they
truly desire.
We're going to get into all ofthat now and more.
(01:37):
Trisha, welcome to thisemptiness life.
SPEAKER_02 (01:41):
Hi, Jay.
Thank you so much for having me.
SPEAKER_01 (01:44):
I I'm excited that you're here.
You bring well, I love that youcall it the new lens because you
do bring a new lens to life andhow it can kind of manifest
itself out there.
But I just I'm so curious aboutthe courage it took you to move
from New York to Boston as asingle mom.
That's I think that's soincredibly empowering.
(02:04):
How did you harness the innerstrength to make that leap?
And then let's get into yourstory.
SPEAKER_02 (02:09):
Oh, thank you.
You know, I think that thatexperience is foundational in
the work I'm doing now because II really think that the process
of of being able to reallyvisualize what I really wanted
and hold that vision no matterwhat obstacles I was going to
(02:32):
face.
It's like I knew in my heartwhen I was I was 38 when I
moved.
So I between the ages of 30 and38, I was living in the Syracuse
area to be near my familybecause my daughter was a
newborn when I was 30.
But I knew in my heart that Iwanted to live in a big city
that really always appealed tome, like an urban lifestyle.
(02:55):
And I just I was stubborn and Ijust said, I'm I'm going to do
this.
And I, it was truly this visionI had of what I wanted.
And I knew I would haveobstacles.
I knew there it wouldn't beperfect.
There would be adjustments withmy daughter changing schools.
There would be, you know, Ibought a practice, there's going
(03:16):
to be learning curves.
But I never once regretted it.
And it was actually in some wayseasier than I thought it would
be because I was so grounded inmy decision.
I wasn't like wondering, shouldI do this?
Should I, or having regrets,like when it would be a tough
day where my daughter was tryingto adjust to a new school, I
(03:38):
never let myself think, oh, Imade the wrong choice.
So it was, it was a reallyexciting time for me.
I knew that it was my path, likeI was certain.
So it was really actually kindof exciting and kind of, I know
we'll probably get into thislater, but kind of similar to
the emptiness phase.
(03:58):
It's like it's a the rightthing.
This was the right choice forme.
So that's what it was.
SPEAKER_01 (04:05):
But where did the vision come from?
Like you said, I was so destinedto be in this spot.
And then there's so much more toyour life after that.
But what where did that drivingvision come from?
SPEAKER_02 (04:16):
I feel like it comes from within.
I feel like it was somethinginside of me, and it would be
reinforced to me when I wouldsee it in my world.
If I would watch a movie about ayoung woman in her 30s living a
professional life in a big city,it would hit the nerve.
I was like, oh yeah.
It was reminded, I was remindedof it by things in my world.
(04:39):
Like I was, you know, visitingNew York or visiting Boston, and
I would have this really deepknowing that it was something
that I that was meant for me.
But I think it was the actualtruth of it was inside of me.
I just was reminded of it bymusic, by images, by
(04:59):
photographs, and then by beingin these other environments.
I just, it was, it wasdefinitely there.
And so I would just, I was opento the signs too.
Like when the sign would come tome, I'd say, I've got to really
see the sign.
This is telling me that I needto act on this.
SPEAKER_01 (05:18):
I love that.
I love that.
It when I think about kind ofyour journey, and I see it a lot
in my social feed, like a lot ofwomen struggle with the
challenges of being a single momand what that looks like.
And as the kids go on, andcertainly when they get into the
empty nesting stage, that's anissue.
But how did you how did youthrive and say and stay true to
(05:40):
yourself and that vision whileyou were raising your daughter
alone?
SPEAKER_02 (05:45):
I think it was I I think that I was it's like that
feeling of I knew that I wasfollowing my path.
And I wish I had a better reasonor explanation for for
listeners, but it was actuallyjust knowing yourself.
(06:10):
I knew this.
And I actually at the time I didhave a lot of support in terms
of therapy.
And um, I have a therapist, Ihad a therapist I still have
that she's also a coach.
She has a lot of coachingtechnique in her work with me.
And I was working on myself alot.
I was going to, I was workingwith her, I was doing my
daughter would go away for thesummer to be with her dad.
(06:31):
I would go to workshops andretreats.
I went to Krapalu.
I was really I'm always supercurious and a seeker.
So I was looking and I it wasn'thard to find.
And and I had the support too,to through that work that I did,
to know that that was also theright choice for my daughter.
(06:54):
And that's a big one.
Because I think there was a lotof pushback in my family.
And in I think in in the world,people push back and say, why
would you, a single mom, leaveyour family when you have a
daughter and you know who'sclose to that family?
But I felt like I had teachersand people in my life that were
(07:15):
telling me something else.
They were saying, it's the mostimportant thing is that you are
really living fully.
And because your daughter isgoing to look to you as how she
should live.
And you you really don't want tobecome a martyr or sacrifice
everything if you don't have to,because that's what she'll do.
(07:35):
You know, it's just kind of likelooking more as at motherhood as
like modeling.
Like, I need to model what Iwould what I would want for her.
And if if I was her, if I if shewas in that situation, I would
want her to live her dream.
I would want her to pushforward.
And so it was just a differentrole modeling that I think my
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mother's generation had.
That it was okay, it was okayfor me to do that.
And I was sensible.
I waited until she was oldenough and my I didn't go
somewhere.
I went some to a location myparents could visit all the
time.
But it's it was a lot of thosefactors that came together.
And I so I had this likesupportive environment.
(08:18):
And uh yeah, so I just I justthat was that.
SPEAKER_01 (08:24):
That was that.
I love how you were like, Idon't I I I wish I had a better
answer for the audience, butthen you like nailed it in
motherhood is modelhood.
SPEAKER_02 (08:33):
But you know, that type of thinking was a newer, I
think a newer way of thinking.
I think that the older way ofthinking is motherhood is
sacrifice, period.
And you no longer have your owndreams, you no longer have your
own vision for life.
Like it's gone, you give it up.
(08:55):
And I think that thankfully thenewer energy and the new
messaging we're getting is no,it's not that.
SPEAKER_01 (09:02):
You could have it's a blend, right?
You can have both dreams foryour kids and help them achieve
it while having dreams foryourself and help yourself
achieve it.
SPEAKER_02 (09:10):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (09:11):
I think that's the best of both worlds.
And oftentimes I think peoplethink they have to give up
everything for their kids.
And we do for a time, obviously.
It's all-encompassing to be aparent.
And even more so for a mom.
I get that.
And so as you kind of look atthat life journey, what a
testament it is, and what a giftfor your for your daughter to be
(09:33):
able to see right what'spossible.
And I think that's I talk aboutthat a lot in empty nesting is
be an example of what'spossible.
SPEAKER_02 (09:41):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (09:42):
Yeah, no.
You're literally living it.
SPEAKER_02 (09:46):
Thank you.
Thank you.
Yeah, I am, I don't think aboutit enough, honestly, but I am
very proud of that time period.
You know, you look at like this,I look at it for me as there's
chapters and Taylor Swift haseras.
But that was a real that's achapter I'm really proud of.
Is that chapter when I was hadyou know living living in the
(10:10):
city, out of practice, moved mydaughter, no family, nothing, no
support systems, just did it.
And I and it worked.
It worked out really well.
SPEAKER_01 (10:19):
How long did you spend in Boston?
I know you ended up gettingremarried.
How long did you spend inBoston?
Tell me a little bit about thatjourney.
What did that look like?
And then obviously you found apartner, a wonderful partner
after 14 years of being signal.
Let's get into that a little bittoo.
SPEAKER_02 (10:34):
Yeah, I moved to Boston in 20, in the in January
of 2011, and I lived there until20.
I met my husband in 2017, andthen in 2018 I moved, but we've
always kept our home therebecause it's easier for us.
(10:55):
We have four daughters now.
I have three stepdaughters, andwe need a home base.
So Boston's our home base.
But I I had a really adventuroustime, I'd say in Boston.
It's because I was running abusiness, I was learning
constantly how to do that, howto manage, how to have run, you
know, manage a team.
(11:17):
And then also personally, likehow I had to just make being a
single mom, dating, friends,just bringing it all together,
having the right setup for mydaughter with child care, with
being with her, doing a lot of alot with her, a lot of little
weekend trips, knowing it looksso good for those little day
(11:37):
trips.
So it was a really action-packedtime, I would say.
And my daughter is extremelyextroverted, social, so it's
constantly kids around and lotsof sports.
So it was it was such a reallyspecial time.
SPEAKER_01 (11:53):
How old is your daughter now?
SPEAKER_02 (11:55):
She's 23.
SPEAKER_01 (11:56):
23.
Okay.
So you are you are empty nestingto a certain degree.
Oh, definitely.
Yeah, I don't know if the if thebonus kids are you know still
home with you or if they'reempty nesting as well.
SPEAKER_02 (12:08):
Yeah, I was like, they're they're yeah, they're
they're actually older.
SPEAKER_01 (12:12):
Okay, so your daughter's the youngest.
Right.
Well, so as you look at thattime in life now, right?
You spent a lot of time inBoston, kind of getting life
going and figuring it out.
How did you, some people may bewondering, like, how did she,
how did Trisha manifest love andattract a new relationship after
all that time?
It wasn't it well, you know, itwas probably in your 30s, and
(12:34):
but I know people all along thespectrum, 40s, 50s, 60s.
They're all wanting to know if Idon't have a partner, is it
right for me to find somebodynew?
And if I do, how do I go aboutit?
SPEAKER_02 (12:44):
It's so funny you asked me that because I feel
like I've had so many thingsthat I've loved to talk about
with people I meet, like at adinner party or an event.
And the one question I get overand over is that question.
And I think that is such a hottopic because it's really hard
(13:05):
in the beginning.
I think there for women to findlove.
I was actually 45, 44 when I metmy husband.
I believe that that happenedbecause I was I was in such an
exciting, high vibration.
Like I really do believe inenergy.
I feel like energy attracts likeenergy.
(13:28):
And at that moment that we met,I was in such a great place.
And that was a result of a lotof work that I had done on
myself and really justforgiving, saying, forgiving
myself, forgiving others, reallydoing the work.
And I also was involved in areally beautiful philanthropic
(13:51):
project in Boston.
I was working with Boston PublicSchools and providing free eye
exams and eyeglasses tounderprivileged youth.
And it was just an extremelyrewarding time for me.
And that's, and I wasn'tthinking about, oh, I want to
meet someone.
It was like I was focused on mylife is so good.
(14:14):
I remember waking up feeling sograteful for the work I was
doing, the friends I was, peopleI was meeting, the friends I was
making, the seeing my daughter,you know, doing her thing.
And I was just feeling thisreally kind of like a richness
that I hadn't always felt.
Because of course, there weretimes where I was single for so
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long, and I had a lot ofchallenges in that area.
That's been my biggest area ofchallenge, and that's why that's
the area I focus my coaching onis women who have a hard time
meeting a really nice guy orlike a nice partner because
they're they have insecuritiesand they feel in some way not
worthy of that.
And so that is my area of Ilove, I love working with women
(15:01):
in the area because that's whereI was.
And I, from my experience, itwas really about me just working
through it and starting to feelso good about myself at that
moment in time.
That's where I was, and that'swhen he came.
We were it, we're out.
I was out with a friend, and hehappened to be in Boston.
(15:21):
He's he was living in Seattle,he had two daughters at Boston
College.
He came into Boston for aweekend and we met in a bar.
It's that was it.
That was it.
We got engaged later, literally.
SPEAKER_01 (15:37):
Wow, wow.
You know, it's it's interesting,right?
So I want to go back if you weretalking about, oh, I had this
vision.
I wanted to be like in a bigcity, and I wanted to do this,
and I wanted to was finding loveagain after divorce like part of
that vision, or was it justhappenstance that came later?
SPEAKER_02 (15:55):
Definitely.
I I had the vision and I Ireally wanted that, but I
learned that over time that Ijust couldn't force that.
I had to really not force that,I had to allow that because I
(16:16):
tried different things, youknow, I had to just allow it to
happen.
And that's that's what happened.
I eventually was able to be inthe vibration, and then it came
in.
So it was it, but it definitelywas something I really wanted.
SPEAKER_01 (16:34):
Okay.
So for people who are listening,for women who kind of maybe feel
stuck right now or a little bitoverlelled overwhelmed in either
their lives or theirrelationships, of like they're
seeking love or not, like howhow do they go about even
tapping into their own power tocreate the change?
Like you had a very clearvision, but if for somebody who
doesn't feel that way right now,what's the first step?
SPEAKER_02 (16:56):
The first step is to recognize what is the story
they're telling themselves aboutlove and start to see it, like
really see it, because it's it'sreally impacting their
experiences when they're out inthe world, when they're in
environments where there arepotential people to date, it's
affecting everything.
(17:17):
So, what is their like I say,like what is the lens they're
looking through when it comes tolove?
And there's so many differentways to see that is do they feel
lovable?
Do they feel deeply worthy?
Those are the biggest uh thingsthat need to be addressed
because it's a magnet.
(17:38):
A woman who feels w worthy is amagnet for that.
It's it's amazing.
And people, I find that in my uhexperience with clients, but
also just in my experiencesocially in different
environments, it's not whatpeople think.
Like in my this is just myopinion, but it's like people
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think if I, you know, lose thisamount of weight, or if I get
this amount of this career, orif I have this type of clothing
or this kind of lifestyle, I'llattract it.
It's not that.
It's if in my heart, like I knowI'm truly worthy, I am a magnet
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for that the right person.
I don't have to, I mean, I haveto take care of myself because
that falls into the same bucket.
But it's not that, it's thatemotional feeling because I I've
lived it and I see it in womenwho I know.
And it's it's so build to get tothat place, every single woman
(18:42):
can get there.
It's because everyone is worthy.
It's just working through what'sblocking them, what is blocking
them from seeing their worth,and that can be that can be
addressed.
And then you start to see abrand new ultimately it's a
process.
I look at it as like a nut, andyou do the work and you go
through the beliefs and yourelease that, and all of a
(19:03):
sudden you're like, wow, Iactually really am worthy.
That's not what I thought wasn'teven true.
Like I thought it wasn't worthy,and it's not true.
SPEAKER_01 (19:12):
Yeah, it's like that's not true at all.
But if for somebody who doesn'tbelieve it's true, like I would
imagine helping them visualizewhat that looks like for them is
part of the work that you do.
So tell me a little bit of aboutthat.
SPEAKER_02 (19:26):
Yeah, that would be the so that's like the second
step.
The first step is acknowledgingwhat's blocking them.
So look being like looking at itclearly, saying, okay, I
definitely have some blocks.
And then the second step is yes,going deep into your really like
deepest, biggest dreams of whatyou want and letting yourself
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feeling safe to just reallydream it all out.
Like, what do you really want?
And don't make any shortcuts.
Put it out there fully andexplore, and then start to
imagine what it would look likeif I was in this relationship.
How would I feel?
What would that version ofmyself?
How would she respond to thesethings?
How would she behave in thissetting?
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What does her weekend look like?
How does her partner treat her?
Like how what kind of things dothey do together?
And you start to kind ofvisualize this whole thing.
And that that gives the strengthto it.
That gives the momentum to it.
So those two things worktogether in attracting.
SPEAKER_01 (20:29):
I love that.
And I know that some peopleoften say, well, oh, I have to
see it to believe it, but you'reactually getting them to believe
it to see it.
SPEAKER_02 (20:38):
Yes.
That's the truth.
That's the that's the Wayne Dyerquote, too.
I love that quote.
It's you have to believe it tosee it because that's like the
secret to everything.
It's like you have to believeit, and then it happens.
Not the other way.
And it's possible to really liftup your feelings about yourself,
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the way you see yourself throughthe process.
And it you can.
And then ultimately you get it.
You get what you deserve.
SPEAKER_01 (22:15):
I love that.
You get what you deserve.
That's that's such a strongstatement.
But I would imagine it is.
You get what you deserve, not ina bad way.
Sometimes we say, Oh, well, thatperson got what they deserve,
but it's I get what I deserve.
SPEAKER_02 (22:28):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (22:29):
But so many people, yeah, but so many people feel
unworthy.
You talked about that before, ofwhat they deserve.
SPEAKER_02 (22:37):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (22:37):
Oh, I don't deserve that.
Even now, like even oh, peoplewill say, Oh, you know, I love
being a mom or I love being adad.
It was great.
Now the kids are gone, but Ifeel guilty, or I feel like I'm
not worthy of actually goingafter what I deserve now that
I've done my job as a parent.
SPEAKER_02 (22:56):
Exactly.
Exactly.
It's really true.
I'm sure it comes up in allthese chapters, but it's it's
just that isn't not true thatever that you are worthy.
That is just you are worthy.
So it's just a matter of reallygetting it here and then getting
it here.
And you get it here, and thisshines through in your
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behaviors, your action, yourenergy, and then it's a magnet.
SPEAKER_01 (23:22):
Yeah, you gotta believe it in your heart and
your head.
SPEAKER_02 (23:25):
Both, yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (23:27):
Absolutely.
You I know you're a big believerin kind of helping women, you
you work specifically withwomen, finding their north star
and kind of aligning with theirhighest purpose.
And I know a lot of moms arelike, well, being a mom was my
purpose.
And now I don't know what mypurpose is anymore.
So that creates like this aperiod of transition and
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uncertainty for them.
How do you help those women findtheir north star?
SPEAKER_02 (23:53):
That's a great question.
My teacher I trained with isMartha Beck, and she has a lot
of great information.
So I would recommend anyonewho's listening and is in that
state to look into her and read,check out her books because she
really writes about this.
But she describes how when we gothrough change, she compares it
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to the change that happens witha caterpillar turning into a
butterfly.
And when the caterpillar it goesinto the cocoon and it dissolves
into this blob, and it's butwhat's really interesting, it's
it's it's totally in a differentshape, but it's alive.
But then it it can then whathappens is it becomes something
(24:39):
new and then it bursts its waythrough the cocoon and then it
becomes a butterfly.
And it's the same thing we gothrough as humans.
We go through that cycle.
And when you start somethingbrand new or there's a radical
shift in your life, like yourkids are going off to college,
or your your day-to-day life asa mom is so different.
(24:59):
Be patient with yourself and letyourself change, let the change
happen.
And oh with time, and usuallyit's just in the beginning, just
really kind of sitting with it.
And then over time, though,little clues will come in and
you'll begin to be inspired, andsomething new will come that you
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didn't imagine, but it's allpart of your path.
It's just another, anotherlayer, like we said, another
chapter is coming.
And it can take time for somewomen to adjust to that and to
welcome a brand new start.
And for some women, it might bequick, it might be easier.
Every single one of us isdifferent, but it really is a
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new beginning for the mother,just like it's a new beginning
for the child going off tocollege.
It's the same, it's a brand newthing.
It's a new cycle.
And when we live really fully,we go through many, many cycles.
Like that's that's what we'resupposed to do.
That's what Martha says.
So we we're constantly growing.
We're the same, we're never thesame two days in a row.
(26:07):
So it's just growing andembracing that and accepting
this is gonna be a new chapterfor me.
And being open to whatever it isthat kind of sparks your
interest and letting givingyourself permission to explore
and then to evolve and change.
SPEAKER_01 (26:26):
Yeah, that I'll tie this in.
Like, like my very first coach,Valerie Burton.
So that's who I kind of studiedunder for my certification.
And she says, What you what wego through, we grow through.
And that's how we kind of expandand keep growing and evolving as
humans.
You did that.
You like your journey as onethat you seems like you're
(26:47):
constantly doing that.
You you said you had a visionfor what you wanted, obviously,
a vision for Boston and maybelater and finding love again.
Um, but I I think you believe inkind of manifesting superpowers.
And so I'm just curious kind ofwhat yours are, and then tell us
a little bit perhaps howlisteners can kind of tap into
their own and move closer to thelife they envision.
SPEAKER_02 (27:09):
Manifesting powers, I would say the manifesting is
it's it's coming from yoursubconscious.
So it's it's it's really, reallyworking with your beliefs and
embodying them.
(27:31):
So first it's knowing thatwhatever that belief is.
If it's the belief is I want tofind love, you have a desire, I
want to find love.
Then you believe it, you startto work with it until again, we
like we said earlier, it startsto sink in and you start to
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really think I am worthy ofthis.
Then you're already like you're80, 90% of the way there.
And then the final step tomanifesting for me is embodying,
so in your day-to-day life,really embodying that life that
you want, even though it's notthere yet.
So it's sort of like having thatfeeling of excitement on a
(28:15):
Friday, even if you're not withthat person you want to be with,
and just by yourself havingtaking yourself on a date, or
you know, wearing a like you'regoing, like you're going out on
a date and get dressed up and dosomething.
Like keep yourself feelingexcitement, keep the energy up.
And then when you bring it outinto the world, you have to let
(28:36):
go, you have to allow it to comein.
So it's manifestation for me iswhat feeling do I want to have?
What am I looking at?
What do I want?
But I have to release some of ittoo.
Because sometimes people try tocontrol the outcome too much,
and that's not how manifestationworks.
And my experience, it's I'mputting it out there, what I
(29:00):
want, I'm embodying it to mybest ability, but I'm gonna let
go and see what comes in.
Because for me, I used to say,Oh, I really want to meet a guy
from Boston.
I really would love to meetsomeone who has family here, who
has, you know, deep roots here,because I didn't.
And right before I met myhusband, I and I was in this
really high state, I said, I'mgonna let it go.
(29:22):
I'm putting it out there what Iwant.
I know basically I know what itis, I know the feelings.
I'm embodying this highestvibration of myself I can, but
I'm going to let it go.
And sure enough, I met this guywho's from Seattle, and it
worked out perfectly.
I mean, it was the right guy.
So if I if I had been toocontrolling of that, I would
(29:44):
have never been open to thisguy.
And so it's there's a piece ofit that's trusting, it's putting
the energy and wanting it andreally bringing and then letting
it go.
It's that that combination ofthe two is the secret sauce.
SPEAKER_01 (30:00):
Yeah, it's almost like going back to the story of
the caterpillar and thebutterfly.
Like when you see a butterfly,if you hold on it too tightly,
you're gonna damage it, asopposed to just like enjoying
its beauty and just putting itback out into the world.
SPEAKER_02 (30:13):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (30:13):
And I love that kind of parallel to your story and
how you see, oh, I'm gonna, thisis what I believe, it's what I
want for my life, but I'm notgonna control it so much that I
can't let go of it and just putit out there for the universe or
karma or whatever to kind ofhelp me get where I want to be.
SPEAKER_02 (30:32):
Yeah.
Yeah, because you believe youhave there's a belief in
manifesting that there is aco-creator, there is a
co-creator.
You're not alone.
You're it's like you're wantingit, but you're believing in some
other power, greaterintelligence, in my opinion,
kind of along there too.
You're not completely alone inthe process, but you are you you
(30:56):
do have to trust that.
unknown (30:58):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (30:59):
Throughout your your journey, Tricia Rhodes, what was
like one of the most definingmoments for you?
SPEAKER_02 (31:10):
I would say the night I met my husband was one
of them because it was the itwas one of the most clear
examples I've had of a true wow,this is happening.
This is it was like because Ibelieved I got the proof.
(31:30):
I knew it was gonna I knewsomething was gonna happen, but
when it really happened the wayit the way it happened, I
thought, oh my god, this is amagical world we live in.
Like things are always happeningfor me.
Like I it was a a deeprealization.
The other one I had is with mypractice, the way I found my
practice in Boston, it was itwas just kismet.
(31:54):
When things like that happen,it's it's so it's so incredible
to you have the proof that oh mygosh, I everything I've been
thinking about wanting, itreally was trying to get to me
too.
It was trying to get like it wasthis and it was when the when
the timing was right, ithappened.
SPEAKER_01 (32:15):
Yeah, we hear people talk about that all the time,
right?
And and it's like, oh, when thetime's right, this happened for
me.
And I love that you use thephrase it happened for me and
not to you.
You talk about that on the showall the time.
It's so important to look atthings that happen in your life
as something that happens foryou, both good and bad.
SPEAKER_04 (32:32):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (32:32):
And so I am curious, as you kind of go through your
journey here and life continuesto unfold, like, what's one wish
you have for your future self?
SPEAKER_03 (32:45):
I wish that I will be I will live with more grace.
Just more grace and more peace.
SPEAKER_01 (33:01):
Grace and peace.
I love that.
So good combination.
Now we're just gonna let it goand put it out there, and it'll
come to you.
So I love how that works.
SPEAKER_02 (33:10):
Thank you.
unknown (33:11):
Thank you.
SPEAKER_01 (33:12):
I I before I let you go, Trisha, I like I really
appreciate you sharing yourjourney and how you help people.
And before I let you go, what'sone thing you've learned about
yourself through your journey?
SPEAKER_03 (33:23):
I've learned that I've learned that I I can trust
I'm not alone.
SPEAKER_02 (33:34):
Even at times when I felt really alone as a single
mom, I wasn't really alone.
I I can let go and trust.
And that's made my myexperience, that's something I
had to learn, but I I learnedthat.
SPEAKER_03 (33:53):
And so I feel that was probably the good the the
biggest lesson for me.
SPEAKER_01 (34:05):
To learn to trust.
SPEAKER_02 (34:06):
Yeah, to learn to trust, and I did trust and with
I think that trust propelled mein the decisions in the life
that I I was able to havebecause I had faith and trust,
and it wasn't always there, butit developed, and that's been a
huge thing for me to moveforward in always.
SPEAKER_01 (34:28):
So learn to trust, I would imagine, your vision, your
gut, your belief.
SPEAKER_02 (34:34):
And trust in a larger picture, and that I'm not
you're I'm never alone.
Even if I'm a single mom, I'mnever alone.
There's always support aroundme.
And that is huge, I think, tofeel when lights throw curve
balls.
SPEAKER_01 (34:51):
Yeah.
There's a difference betweenfeeling lonely and being alone.
SPEAKER_02 (34:56):
Yeah, exactly.
Exactly.
Don't be afraid because you'renever really alone.
There's so much support, there'sso much around you, you just
can't see it all the time.
SPEAKER_01 (35:06):
Yeah.
Again, you have to open youreyes to what's possible.
SPEAKER_02 (35:10):
Yeah, exactly.
SPEAKER_01 (35:11):
Yeah.
Trisha Rose, thank you so muchfor being on this emptiness life
and sharing a little bit of yourstory and your journey and how
you work with people.
I hope, folks that arelistening, wherever you may be,
at home in the car, on a walk,that you can kind of see that
there is possibility.
If you're feeling stuck, you'renot always stuck.
There's there is something onthe other side of it.
(35:32):
So I appreciate you sharing yourstory.
SPEAKER_02 (35:34):
Well, thank you so much for having me, Jay.
It's been so great talking withyou.
SPEAKER_00 (35:38):
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It's really hard in the beginning, I think, for
women to find love.
I was actually 44 when I met myhusband.
I believe that that happenedbecause I was I was in such an
exciting, high vibration.
Like I really do believe inenergy.
I feel like energy attracts likeenergy.
(00:21):
And at that moment that we met,I was in such a great place.
And that was a result of a lotof work that I had done on
myself.
SPEAKER_00 (00:32):
Welcome to this Empty Nest Life, the podcast
dedicated to helping you embracethis transformative season with
purpose, passion, and joy.
In each episode, we explorestories, strategies, and
insights to help turn your emptynest into an exciting new
chapter.
Whether you're redefining youridentity, pursuing new passions,
or finding peace in the pause,you're in the right place.
Here's your host, the empty nestcoach, Jay Ramsden.
SPEAKER_01 (00:54):
Hey there, my emptiness friends.
Do you ever feel like you need anew lease on life now that the
kids have launched?
Maybe all you need is just a newlens.
Today, I'm in studio with TrishaRose Stone, a soulful guide,
former optometrist, turned lifecoach, and creator of the new
lens method.
Her journey is a powerfultestament to resilience, and
(01:15):
after navigating heartbreak,motherhood, and a painful
divorce in her early 30s, sheembarked on a deep inner healing
journey.
Today, Trisha helps womenreframe the stories, see their
lives through a new, empoweringperspective, and guides them so
they can manifest the love,purpose, and fulfillment they
truly desire.
We're going to get into all ofthat now and more.
(01:37):
Trisha, welcome to thisemptiness life.
SPEAKER_02 (01:41):
Hi, Jay.
Thank you so much for having me.
SPEAKER_01 (01:44):
I I'm excited that you're here.
You bring well, I love that youcall it the new lens because you
do bring a new lens to life andhow it can kind of manifest
itself out there.
But I just I'm so curious aboutthe courage it took you to move
from New York to Boston as asingle mom.
That's I think that's soincredibly empowering.
(02:04):
How did you harness the innerstrength to make that leap?
And then let's get into yourstory.
SPEAKER_02 (02:09):
Oh, thank you.
You know, I think that thatexperience is foundational in
the work I'm doing now because II really think that the process
of of being able to reallyvisualize what I really wanted
and hold that vision no matterwhat obstacles I was going to
(02:32):
face.
It's like I knew in my heartwhen I was I was 38 when I
moved.
So I between the ages of 30 and38, I was living in the Syracuse
area to be near my familybecause my daughter was a
newborn when I was 30.
But I knew in my heart that Iwanted to live in a big city
that really always appealed tome, like an urban lifestyle.
(02:55):
And I just I was stubborn and Ijust said, I'm I'm going to do
this.
And I, it was truly this visionI had of what I wanted.
And I knew I would haveobstacles.
I knew there it wouldn't beperfect.
There would be adjustments withmy daughter changing schools.
There would be, you know, Ibought a practice, there's going
(03:16):
to be learning curves.
But I never once regretted it.
And it was actually in some wayseasier than I thought it would
be because I was so grounded inmy decision.
I wasn't like wondering, shouldI do this?
Should I, or having regrets,like when it would be a tough
day where my daughter was tryingto adjust to a new school, I
(03:38):
never let myself think, oh, Imade the wrong choice.
So it was, it was a reallyexciting time for me.
I knew that it was my path, likeI was certain.
So it was really actually kindof exciting and kind of, I know
we'll probably get into thislater, but kind of similar to
the emptiness phase.
(03:58):
It's like it's a the rightthing.
This was the right choice forme.
So that's what it was.
SPEAKER_01 (04:05):
But where did the vision come from?
Like you said, I was so destinedto be in this spot.
And then there's so much more toyour life after that.
But what where did that drivingvision come from?
SPEAKER_02 (04:16):
I feel like it comes from within.
I feel like it was somethinginside of me, and it would be
reinforced to me when I wouldsee it in my world.
If I would watch a movie about ayoung woman in her 30s living a
professional life in a big city,it would hit the nerve.
I was like, oh yeah.
It was reminded, I was remindedof it by things in my world.
(04:39):
Like I was, you know, visitingNew York or visiting Boston, and
I would have this really deepknowing that it was something
that I that was meant for me.
But I think it was the actualtruth of it was inside of me.
I just was reminded of it bymusic, by images, by
(04:59):
photographs, and then by beingin these other environments.
I just, it was, it wasdefinitely there.
And so I would just, I was opento the signs too.
Like when the sign would come tome, I'd say, I've got to really
see the sign.
This is telling me that I needto act on this.
SPEAKER_01 (05:18):
I love that.
I love that.
It when I think about kind ofyour journey, and I see it a lot
in my social feed, like a lot ofwomen struggle with the
challenges of being a single momand what that looks like.
And as the kids go on, andcertainly when they get into the
empty nesting stage, that's anissue.
But how did you how did youthrive and say and stay true to
(05:40):
yourself and that vision whileyou were raising your daughter
alone?
SPEAKER_02 (05:45):
I think it was I I think that I was it's like that
feeling of I knew that I wasfollowing my path.
And I wish I had a better reasonor explanation for for
listeners, but it was actuallyjust knowing yourself.
(06:10):
I knew this.
And I actually at the time I didhave a lot of support in terms
of therapy.
And um, I have a therapist, Ihad a therapist I still have
that she's also a coach.
She has a lot of coachingtechnique in her work with me.
And I was working on myself alot.
I was going to, I was workingwith her, I was doing my
daughter would go away for thesummer to be with her dad.
(06:31):
I would go to workshops andretreats.
I went to Krapalu.
I was really I'm always supercurious and a seeker.
So I was looking and I it wasn'thard to find.
And and I had the support too,to through that work that I did,
to know that that was also theright choice for my daughter.
(06:54):
And that's a big one.
Because I think there was a lotof pushback in my family.
And in I think in in the world,people push back and say, why
would you, a single mom, leaveyour family when you have a
daughter and you know who'sclose to that family?
But I felt like I had teachersand people in my life that were
(07:15):
telling me something else.
They were saying, it's the mostimportant thing is that you are
really living fully.
And because your daughter isgoing to look to you as how she
should live.
And you you really don't want tobecome a martyr or sacrifice
everything if you don't have to,because that's what she'll do.
(07:35):
You know, it's just kind of likelooking more as at motherhood as
like modeling.
Like, I need to model what Iwould what I would want for her.
And if if I was her, if I if shewas in that situation, I would
want her to live her dream.
I would want her to pushforward.
And so it was just a differentrole modeling that I think my
(07:56):
mother's generation had.
That it was okay, it was okayfor me to do that.
And I was sensible.
I waited until she was oldenough and my I didn't go
somewhere.
I went some to a location myparents could visit all the
time.
But it's it was a lot of thosefactors that came together.
And I so I had this likesupportive environment.
(08:18):
And uh yeah, so I just I justthat was that.
SPEAKER_01 (08:24):
That was that.
I love how you were like, Idon't I I I wish I had a better
answer for the audience, butthen you like nailed it in
motherhood is modelhood.
SPEAKER_02 (08:33):
But you know, that type of thinking was a newer, I
think a newer way of thinking.
I think that the older way ofthinking is motherhood is
sacrifice, period.
And you no longer have your owndreams, you no longer have your
own vision for life.
Like it's gone, you give it up.
(08:55):
And I think that thankfully thenewer energy and the new
messaging we're getting is no,it's not that.
SPEAKER_01 (09:02):
You could have it's a blend, right?
You can have both dreams foryour kids and help them achieve
it while having dreams foryourself and help yourself
achieve it.
SPEAKER_02 (09:10):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (09:11):
I think that's the best of both worlds.
And oftentimes I think peoplethink they have to give up
everything for their kids.
And we do for a time, obviously.
It's all-encompassing to be aparent.
And even more so for a mom.
I get that.
And so as you kind of look atthat life journey, what a
testament it is, and what a giftfor your for your daughter to be
(09:33):
able to see right what'spossible.
And I think that's I talk aboutthat a lot in empty nesting is
be an example of what'spossible.
SPEAKER_02 (09:41):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (09:42):
Yeah, no.
You're literally living it.
SPEAKER_02 (09:46):
Thank you.
Thank you.
Yeah, I am, I don't think aboutit enough, honestly, but I am
very proud of that time period.
You know, you look at like this,I look at it for me as there's
chapters and Taylor Swift haseras.
But that was a real that's achapter I'm really proud of.
Is that chapter when I was hadyou know living living in the
(10:10):
city, out of practice, moved mydaughter, no family, nothing, no
support systems, just did it.
And I and it worked.
It worked out really well.
SPEAKER_01 (10:19):
How long did you spend in Boston?
I know you ended up gettingremarried.
How long did you spend inBoston?
Tell me a little bit about thatjourney.
What did that look like?
And then obviously you found apartner, a wonderful partner
after 14 years of being signal.
Let's get into that a little bittoo.
SPEAKER_02 (10:34):
Yeah, I moved to Boston in 20, in the in January
of 2011, and I lived there until20.
I met my husband in 2017, andthen in 2018 I moved, but we've
always kept our home therebecause it's easier for us.
(10:55):
We have four daughters now.
I have three stepdaughters, andwe need a home base.
So Boston's our home base.
But I I had a really adventuroustime, I'd say in Boston.
It's because I was running abusiness, I was learning
constantly how to do that, howto manage, how to have run, you
know, manage a team.
(11:17):
And then also personally, likehow I had to just make being a
single mom, dating, friends,just bringing it all together,
having the right setup for mydaughter with child care, with
being with her, doing a lot of alot with her, a lot of little
weekend trips, knowing it looksso good for those little day
(11:37):
trips.
So it was a really action-packedtime, I would say.
And my daughter is extremelyextroverted, social, so it's
constantly kids around and lotsof sports.
So it was it was such a reallyspecial time.
SPEAKER_01 (11:53):
How old is your daughter now?
SPEAKER_02 (11:55):
She's 23.
SPEAKER_01 (11:56):
23.
Okay.
So you are you are empty nestingto a certain degree.
Oh, definitely.
Yeah, I don't know if the if thebonus kids are you know still
home with you or if they'reempty nesting as well.
SPEAKER_02 (12:08):
Yeah, I was like, they're they're yeah, they're
they're actually older.
SPEAKER_01 (12:12):
Okay, so your daughter's the youngest.
Right.
Well, so as you look at thattime in life now, right?
You spent a lot of time inBoston, kind of getting life
going and figuring it out.
How did you, some people may bewondering, like, how did she,
how did Trisha manifest love andattract a new relationship after
all that time?
It wasn't it well, you know, itwas probably in your 30s, and
(12:34):
but I know people all along thespectrum, 40s, 50s, 60s.
They're all wanting to know if Idon't have a partner, is it
right for me to find somebodynew?
And if I do, how do I go aboutit?
SPEAKER_02 (12:44):
It's so funny you asked me that because I feel
like I've had so many thingsthat I've loved to talk about
with people I meet, like at adinner party or an event.
And the one question I get overand over is that question.
And I think that is such a hottopic because it's really hard
(13:05):
in the beginning.
I think there for women to findlove.
I was actually 45, 44 when I metmy husband.
I believe that that happenedbecause I was I was in such an
exciting, high vibration.
Like I really do believe inenergy.
I feel like energy attracts likeenergy.
(13:28):
And at that moment that we met,I was in such a great place.
And that was a result of a lotof work that I had done on
myself and really justforgiving, saying, forgiving
myself, forgiving others, reallydoing the work.
And I also was involved in areally beautiful philanthropic
(13:51):
project in Boston.
I was working with Boston PublicSchools and providing free eye
exams and eyeglasses tounderprivileged youth.
And it was just an extremelyrewarding time for me.
And that's, and I wasn'tthinking about, oh, I want to
meet someone.
It was like I was focused on mylife is so good.
(14:14):
I remember waking up feeling sograteful for the work I was
doing, the friends I was, peopleI was meeting, the friends I was
making, the seeing my daughter,you know, doing her thing.
And I was just feeling thisreally kind of like a richness
that I hadn't always felt.
Because of course, there weretimes where I was single for so
(14:36):
long, and I had a lot ofchallenges in that area.
That's been my biggest area ofchallenge, and that's why that's
the area I focus my coaching onis women who have a hard time
meeting a really nice guy orlike a nice partner because
they're they have insecuritiesand they feel in some way not
worthy of that.
And so that is my area of Ilove, I love working with women
(15:01):
in the area because that's whereI was.
And I, from my experience, itwas really about me just working
through it and starting to feelso good about myself at that
moment in time.
That's where I was, and that'swhen he came.
We were it, we're out.
I was out with a friend, and hehappened to be in Boston.
(15:21):
He's he was living in Seattle,he had two daughters at Boston
College.
He came into Boston for aweekend and we met in a bar.
It's that was it.
That was it.
We got engaged later, literally.
SPEAKER_01 (15:37):
Wow, wow.
You know, it's it's interesting,right?
So I want to go back if you weretalking about, oh, I had this
vision.
I wanted to be like in a bigcity, and I wanted to do this,
and I wanted to was finding loveagain after divorce like part of
that vision, or was it justhappenstance that came later?
SPEAKER_02 (15:55):
Definitely.
I I had the vision and I Ireally wanted that, but I
learned that over time that Ijust couldn't force that.
I had to really not force that,I had to allow that because I
(16:16):
tried different things, youknow, I had to just allow it to
happen.
And that's that's what happened.
I eventually was able to be inthe vibration, and then it came
in.
So it was it, but it definitelywas something I really wanted.
SPEAKER_01 (16:34):
Okay.
So for people who are listening,for women who kind of maybe feel
stuck right now or a little bitoverlelled overwhelmed in either
their lives or theirrelationships, of like they're
seeking love or not, like howhow do they go about even
tapping into their own power tocreate the change?
Like you had a very clearvision, but if for somebody who
doesn't feel that way right now,what's the first step?
SPEAKER_02 (16:56):
The first step is to recognize what is the story
they're telling themselves aboutlove and start to see it, like
really see it, because it's it'sreally impacting their
experiences when they're out inthe world, when they're in
environments where there arepotential people to date, it's
affecting everything.
(17:17):
So, what is their like I say,like what is the lens they're
looking through when it comes tolove?
And there's so many differentways to see that is do they feel
lovable?
Do they feel deeply worthy?
Those are the biggest uh thingsthat need to be addressed
because it's a magnet.
(17:38):
A woman who feels w worthy is amagnet for that.
It's it's amazing.
And people, I find that in my uhexperience with clients, but
also just in my experiencesocially in different
environments, it's not whatpeople think.
Like in my this is just myopinion, but it's like people
(17:59):
think if I, you know, lose thisamount of weight, or if I get
this amount of this career, orif I have this type of clothing
or this kind of lifestyle, I'llattract it.
It's not that.
It's if in my heart, like I knowI'm truly worthy, I am a magnet
(18:19):
for that the right person.
I don't have to, I mean, I haveto take care of myself because
that falls into the same bucket.
But it's not that, it's thatemotional feeling because I I've
lived it and I see it in womenwho I know.
And it's it's so build to get tothat place, every single woman
(18:42):
can get there.
It's because everyone is worthy.
It's just working through what'sblocking them, what is blocking
them from seeing their worth,and that can be that can be
addressed.
And then you start to see abrand new ultimately it's a
process.
I look at it as like a nut, andyou do the work and you go
through the beliefs and yourelease that, and all of a
(19:03):
sudden you're like, wow, Iactually really am worthy.
That's not what I thought wasn'teven true.
Like I thought it wasn't worthy,and it's not true.
SPEAKER_01 (19:12):
Yeah, it's like that's not true at all.
But if for somebody who doesn'tbelieve it's true, like I would
imagine helping them visualizewhat that looks like for them is
part of the work that you do.
So tell me a little bit of aboutthat.
SPEAKER_02 (19:26):
Yeah, that would be the so that's like the second
step.
The first step is acknowledgingwhat's blocking them.
So look being like looking at itclearly, saying, okay, I
definitely have some blocks.
And then the second step is yes,going deep into your really like
deepest, biggest dreams of whatyou want and letting yourself
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feeling safe to just reallydream it all out.
Like, what do you really want?
And don't make any shortcuts.
Put it out there fully andexplore, and then start to
imagine what it would look likeif I was in this relationship.
How would I feel?
What would that version ofmyself?
How would she respond to thesethings?
How would she behave in thissetting?
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What does her weekend look like?
How does her partner treat her?
Like how what kind of things dothey do together?
And you start to kind ofvisualize this whole thing.
And that that gives the strengthto it.
That gives the momentum to it.
So those two things worktogether in attracting.
SPEAKER_01 (20:29):
I love that.
And I know that some peopleoften say, well, oh, I have to
see it to believe it, but you'reactually getting them to believe
it to see it.
SPEAKER_02 (20:38):
Yes.
That's the truth.
That's the that's the Wayne Dyerquote, too.
I love that quote.
It's you have to believe it tosee it because that's like the
secret to everything.
It's like you have to believeit, and then it happens.
Not the other way.
And it's possible to really liftup your feelings about yourself,
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the way you see yourself throughthe process.
And it you can.
And then ultimately you get it.
You get what you deserve.
SPEAKER_01 (22:15):
I love that.
You get what you deserve.
That's that's such a strongstatement.
But I would imagine it is.
You get what you deserve, not ina bad way.
Sometimes we say, Oh, well, thatperson got what they deserve,
but it's I get what I deserve.
SPEAKER_02 (22:28):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (22:29):
But so many people, yeah, but so many people feel
unworthy.
You talked about that before, ofwhat they deserve.
SPEAKER_02 (22:37):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (22:37):
Oh, I don't deserve that.
Even now, like even oh, peoplewill say, Oh, you know, I love
being a mom or I love being adad.
It was great.
Now the kids are gone, but Ifeel guilty, or I feel like I'm
not worthy of actually goingafter what I deserve now that
I've done my job as a parent.
SPEAKER_02 (22:56):
Exactly.
Exactly.
It's really true.
I'm sure it comes up in allthese chapters, but it's it's
just that isn't not true thatever that you are worthy.
That is just you are worthy.
So it's just a matter of reallygetting it here and then getting
it here.
And you get it here, and thisshines through in your
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behaviors, your action, yourenergy, and then it's a magnet.
SPEAKER_01 (23:22):
Yeah, you gotta believe it in your heart and
your head.
SPEAKER_02 (23:25):
Both, yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (23:27):
Absolutely.
You I know you're a big believerin kind of helping women, you
you work specifically withwomen, finding their north star
and kind of aligning with theirhighest purpose.
And I know a lot of moms arelike, well, being a mom was my
purpose.
And now I don't know what mypurpose is anymore.
So that creates like this aperiod of transition and
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uncertainty for them.
How do you help those women findtheir north star?
SPEAKER_02 (23:53):
That's a great question.
My teacher I trained with isMartha Beck, and she has a lot
of great information.
So I would recommend anyonewho's listening and is in that
state to look into her and read,check out her books because she
really writes about this.
But she describes how when we gothrough change, she compares it
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to the change that happens witha caterpillar turning into a
butterfly.
And when the caterpillar it goesinto the cocoon and it dissolves
into this blob, and it's butwhat's really interesting, it's
it's it's totally in a differentshape, but it's alive.
But then it it can then whathappens is it becomes something
(24:39):
new and then it bursts its waythrough the cocoon and then it
becomes a butterfly.
And it's the same thing we gothrough as humans.
We go through that cycle.
And when you start somethingbrand new or there's a radical
shift in your life, like yourkids are going off to college,
or your your day-to-day life asa mom is so different.
(24:59):
Be patient with yourself and letyourself change, let the change
happen.
And oh with time, and usuallyit's just in the beginning, just
really kind of sitting with it.
And then over time, though,little clues will come in and
you'll begin to be inspired, andsomething new will come that you
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didn't imagine, but it's allpart of your path.
It's just another, anotherlayer, like we said, another
chapter is coming.
And it can take time for somewomen to adjust to that and to
welcome a brand new start.
And for some women, it might bequick, it might be easier.
Every single one of us isdifferent, but it really is a
(25:44):
new beginning for the mother,just like it's a new beginning
for the child going off tocollege.
It's the same, it's a brand newthing.
It's a new cycle.
And when we live really fully,we go through many, many cycles.
Like that's that's what we'resupposed to do.
That's what Martha says.
So we we're constantly growing.
We're the same, we're never thesame two days in a row.
(26:07):
So it's just growing andembracing that and accepting
this is gonna be a new chapterfor me.
And being open to whatever it isthat kind of sparks your
interest and letting givingyourself permission to explore
and then to evolve and change.
SPEAKER_01 (26:26):
Yeah, that I'll tie this in.
Like, like my very first coach,Valerie Burton.
So that's who I kind of studiedunder for my certification.
And she says, What you what wego through, we grow through.
And that's how we kind of expandand keep growing and evolving as
humans.
You did that.
You like your journey as onethat you seems like you're
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constantly doing that.
You you said you had a visionfor what you wanted, obviously,
a vision for Boston and maybelater and finding love again.
Um, but I I think you believe inkind of manifesting superpowers.
And so I'm just curious kind ofwhat yours are, and then tell us
a little bit perhaps howlisteners can kind of tap into
their own and move closer to thelife they envision.
SPEAKER_02 (27:09):
Manifesting powers, I would say the manifesting is
it's it's coming from yoursubconscious.
So it's it's it's really, reallyworking with your beliefs and
embodying them.
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So first it's knowing thatwhatever that belief is.
If it's the belief is I want tofind love, you have a desire, I
want to find love.
Then you believe it, you startto work with it until again, we
like we said earlier, it startsto sink in and you start to
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really think I am worthy ofthis.
Then you're already like you're80, 90% of the way there.
And then the final step tomanifesting for me is embodying,
so in your day-to-day life,really embodying that life that
you want, even though it's notthere yet.
So it's sort of like having thatfeeling of excitement on a
(28:15):
Friday, even if you're not withthat person you want to be with,
and just by yourself havingtaking yourself on a date, or
you know, wearing a like you'regoing, like you're going out on
a date and get dressed up and dosomething.
Like keep yourself feelingexcitement, keep the energy up.
And then when you bring it outinto the world, you have to let
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go, you have to allow it to comein.
So it's manifestation for me iswhat feeling do I want to have?
What am I looking at?
What do I want?
But I have to release some of ittoo.
Because sometimes people try tocontrol the outcome too much,
and that's not how manifestationworks.
And my experience, it's I'mputting it out there, what I
(29:00):
want, I'm embodying it to mybest ability, but I'm gonna let
go and see what comes in.
Because for me, I used to say,Oh, I really want to meet a guy
from Boston.
I really would love to meetsomeone who has family here, who
has, you know, deep roots here,because I didn't.
And right before I met myhusband, I and I was in this
really high state, I said, I'mgonna let it go.
(29:22):
I'm putting it out there what Iwant.
I know basically I know what itis, I know the feelings.
I'm embodying this highestvibration of myself I can, but
I'm going to let it go.
And sure enough, I met this guywho's from Seattle, and it
worked out perfectly.
I mean, it was the right guy.
So if I if I had been toocontrolling of that, I would
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have never been open to thisguy.
And so it's there's a piece ofit that's trusting, it's putting
the energy and wanting it andreally bringing and then letting
it go.
It's that that combination ofthe two is the secret sauce.
SPEAKER_01 (30:00):
Yeah, it's almost like going back to the story of
the caterpillar and thebutterfly.
Like when you see a butterfly,if you hold on it too tightly,
you're gonna damage it, asopposed to just like enjoying
its beauty and just putting itback out into the world.
SPEAKER_02 (30:13):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (30:13):
And I love that kind of parallel to your story and
how you see, oh, I'm gonna, thisis what I believe, it's what I
want for my life, but I'm notgonna control it so much that I
can't let go of it and just putit out there for the universe or
karma or whatever to kind ofhelp me get where I want to be.
SPEAKER_02 (30:32):
Yeah.
Yeah, because you believe youhave there's a belief in
manifesting that there is aco-creator, there is a
co-creator.
You're not alone.
You're it's like you're wantingit, but you're believing in some
other power, greaterintelligence, in my opinion,
kind of along there too.
You're not completely alone inthe process, but you are you you
(30:56):
do have to trust that.
unknown (30:58):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (30:59):
Throughout your your journey, Tricia Rhodes, what was
like one of the most definingmoments for you?
SPEAKER_02 (31:10):
I would say the night I met my husband was one
of them because it was the itwas one of the most clear
examples I've had of a true wow,this is happening.
This is it was like because Ibelieved I got the proof.
(31:30):
I knew it was gonna I knewsomething was gonna happen, but
when it really happened the wayit the way it happened, I
thought, oh my god, this is amagical world we live in.
Like things are always happeningfor me.
Like I it was a a deeprealization.
The other one I had is with mypractice, the way I found my
practice in Boston, it was itwas just kismet.
(31:54):
When things like that happen,it's it's so it's so incredible
to you have the proof that oh mygosh, I everything I've been
thinking about wanting, itreally was trying to get to me
too.
It was trying to get like it wasthis and it was when the when
the timing was right, ithappened.
SPEAKER_01 (32:15):
Yeah, we hear people talk about that all the time,
right?
And and it's like, oh, when thetime's right, this happened for
me.
And I love that you use thephrase it happened for me and
not to you.
You talk about that on the showall the time.
It's so important to look atthings that happen in your life
as something that happens foryou, both good and bad.
SPEAKER_04 (32:32):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (32:32):
And so I am curious, as you kind of go through your
journey here and life continuesto unfold, like, what's one wish
you have for your future self?
SPEAKER_03 (32:45):
I wish that I will be I will live with more grace.
Just more grace and more peace.
SPEAKER_01 (33:01):
Grace and peace.
I love that.
So good combination.
Now we're just gonna let it goand put it out there, and it'll
come to you.
So I love how that works.
SPEAKER_02 (33:10):
Thank you.
unknown (33:11):
Thank you.
SPEAKER_01 (33:12):
I I before I let you go, Trisha, I like I really
appreciate you sharing yourjourney and how you help people.
And before I let you go, what'sone thing you've learned about
yourself through your journey?
SPEAKER_03 (33:23):
I've learned that I've learned that I I can trust
I'm not alone.
SPEAKER_02 (33:34):
Even at times when I felt really alone as a single
mom, I wasn't really alone.
I I can let go and trust.
And that's made my myexperience, that's something I
had to learn, but I I learnedthat.
SPEAKER_03 (33:53):
And so I feel that was probably the good the the
biggest lesson for me.
SPEAKER_01 (34:05):
To learn to trust.
SPEAKER_02 (34:06):
Yeah, to learn to trust, and I did trust and with
I think that trust propelled mein the decisions in the life
that I I was able to havebecause I had faith and trust,
and it wasn't always there, butit developed, and that's been a
huge thing for me to moveforward in always.
SPEAKER_01 (34:28):
So learn to trust, I would imagine, your vision, your
gut, your belief.
SPEAKER_02 (34:34):
And trust in a larger picture, and that I'm not
you're I'm never alone.
Even if I'm a single mom, I'mnever alone.
There's always support aroundme.
And that is huge, I think, tofeel when lights throw curve
balls.
SPEAKER_01 (34:51):
Yeah.
There's a difference betweenfeeling lonely and being alone.
SPEAKER_02 (34:56):
Yeah, exactly.
Exactly.
Don't be afraid because you'renever really alone.
There's so much support, there'sso much around you, you just
can't see it all the time.
SPEAKER_01 (35:06):
Yeah.
Again, you have to open youreyes to what's possible.
SPEAKER_02 (35:10):
Yeah, exactly.
SPEAKER_01 (35:11):
Yeah.
Trisha Rose, thank you so muchfor being on this emptiness life
and sharing a little bit of yourstory and your journey and how
you work with people.
I hope, folks that arelistening, wherever you may be,
at home in the car, on a walk,that you can kind of see that
there is possibility.
If you're feeling stuck, you'renot always stuck.
There's there is something onthe other side of it.
(35:32):
So I appreciate you sharing yourstory.
SPEAKER_02 (35:34):
Well, thank you so much for having me, Jay.
It's been so great talking withyou.
SPEAKER_00 (35:38):
Thank you for listening to this Emptiness
Life.
Remember, this chapter isn't anending, it's an invitation to
redefine, rediscover, andreignite your life.
If today's episode sparkssomething in you, don't forget
to take that first step andvisit this empty nestlife.com
and click work with me to getthe conversation started.
Until next time, keep your heartopen, your mind curious, and
your spirit shining.
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