Controlling Lust and Desire - An Honest Conversation with My Husband

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Lust is one of the most powerful, misunderstood, and quietly destructive forces in modern relationships—and it’s time we talked about it.

In this raw, honest, and grace-filled episode, Dylan and I open up about our personal experiences with lust and desire—how it shows up differently for men and women, how we’ve learned to bring it into the light, and how it’s challenged us both in our marriage and in our walk with God.

We get vulnerable about temptation, porn, modesty, Instagram algorithms, emotional lust, and the importance of spiritual intimacy, self-control, and covenant. Whether you're single, dating, or married, this is a conversation we all need to have more often.

🔥 We believe this episode will help you feel less shame and more equipped with truth, connection, and tools to fight back.

📖 Rooted in biblical wisdom (Galatians 5:22-23, 1 Corinthians 10:13, Proverbs 25:28), we also share what’s helped us build a marriage grounded in honesty, safety, and grace—without pretending perfection.

👫 If you’re struggling with lust in any form, you’re not alone. There’s a better way—and it begins with bringing it to the light.

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📖 Video Chapters:
00:00–02:29 – Why We Need to Talk About Lust in Relationships
02:30–06:19 – Lust vs. Desire: Understanding the Difference
06:20–11:04 – How Lust Shows Up Differently for Men and Women
11:05–15:57 – Emotional Lust, Temptation & Instagram Algorithms
15:58–20:44 – The Truth About Modesty, Triggers, and Boundaries
20:45–26:30 – What Happens When Lust Isn’t Addressed
26:31–31:18 – Fighting Lust with the Fruit of the Spirit
31:19–36:40 – Dylan's Battle with Lust and Accountability
36:41–42:05 – Danna’s Perspective on Safety, Intimacy & Shame
42:06–48:44 – Walking in the Light and Building a Lust-Free Marriage
48:45–52:22 – How to Start Healing & Talk to Your Partner About Lust
52:23–54:59 – Final Encouragement to Anyone Battling Lust

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